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"Silence in Person is something"
this is painfully accurate.
right!
I have to say that in a long distance relationship you learn how to express your feelings beyond your body language. And it benefits in the following: you learn to highlight substantial things of your daily routine, which also contributes to your outlook, as you begin to notice and cherish every moment of YOUR life. I haven't seen my significant one for 8 months, but we've never had such confidence (& passion :)))) in and for each other as right now, which also makes us both very confident in our choices (aka both growing to be better people). We've had silence when together, and now a hundred words is not enough to describe how great my cup of tea in the garden is. It's just damn wonderful how one person can make you feel in so many different ways, and collaterally helps you explore and develop your personality as well.
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That's true
That guy in the red made me almost cry...he sounded so numb and depressed...
+Poop McStuffins Yes, he was telling the truth. LDR sucks. Not as if everyone is going to war!!!
+Sheshagiri Pai he's now in a relationship with gabby, who also works at buzzfeed!!
+Iris Yu how do you know?
+Deborah Chen you can see them in a lot of videos together, like couples revealing pet peeves about each other :)
+Iris Yu I know this is late, but she no longer works at Buzzfeed.
I lost it when that girl said "waiting months before you can hug them again". *tears*
same.
thats too legit :(
been in a LDR since February ... he lives in Texas and I'm in California, still going strong. but unfortunately haven't met him yet..
Someone is cutting onions at 4:30 am
I dated long distance for 7 years. We would only see each other about a month each year. It was hard. But we never ran out of things to talk about. Even though it was not an ordinary romance, it was beutiful and deep. We each got to grow, and develop our own identities outside of each other, and we were able to connect on a deeper level. We are now married, and we enjoy seeing each other everyday. It is wonderful. So I would say, It was totally worth it.
+launicaiza I'm happy to see long distance work out! This is a rare story! Good for you guys!
wow glad to hear about a successful long distance realationship :')
Im in the same situation, we can only see each other for a few weeks a year which is terrible and we live 8500 Miles away from each other but im willing to wait as long as i have to
That makes me so happy! I've been in a long distance relationship for about a year and a half now. I had no idea he existed and I met him and completely fell in love with him I've seen him twice ever since that day and I actually saw him a week ago and planning on seeing him once again this weekend. We plan on getting married and we have spoken about it since day one so I hope we can be successful like you. Glad everything worked out
izaizaiza I've read this sentence as to why people still do this such inhuman thing as LDR and it really gets to me ,because that person could be the one you if you miss once and then you'll miss for your lifetime. We don't know , so we have to try.
Did LDR (1,200 miles) for 3 years and we're getting married in 4 months. Worth it.
Miles Coleman congrats on your marriage ! :)
Congratulations!
Miles Coleman congrats on your marriage! Always glad to hear when LDRs workout for the best its inspiring! :)
Thanks everybody! It wasn't easy! Just focus on your hobbies and whatnot and don't base your lives solely on them and your relationship will be just fine.
Miles Coleman good for you, I've been thinking of breaking this LDR lately. I mean she's great but I realized I need physical communication, not sex, but just to see her, you know what I mean anyway congrats, bruh.
Keith's girlfriend is such a lucky woman. He is one of the very few guys who seem to be genuinely, straightforwardly, in almost all situations nice guy. I find that extremely attractive. I know most women go ga ga over Eugene, but I will pick Keith any time, in any situation. He is such an amazingly kind hearted person, and that's hella hot!
Maia Waive yeah , he's so cute ,and I don't know how to say it but there is something special about him
Maia Waive Amen to that! Keith has always been my favorite. He just seems like a genuinely amazing dude.
Maia Waive those guys aren't that rare they just don't typically get a lot of attention. They're around but low-key in the dating scene.
+Matthew Johnson Well y'know... Someone has to tell them that teenage females are always going for the trouble maker because it's more exciting for them.
That can ruin a certain period of time for them, but when they'll get to their 20ies, they'll start to shine in their (womans) eyes.
８-Ｂ-Ａ-Ｂ So true! When I was younger I also liked the bad boy rebel type but now that I'm in my 20s, I know better.
I personally think the worst part is when everyone around you views it as.. not credible. Tell you how its "not a real relationship".
That doesn't make me have issues. In hat way would it? I do not let it effect how I feel, but it sucks to have close friends and family view it that way.
Well and the fact is.. I had viewed long distance relationships as stupid and doomed to fail until I was in the situation. It is something that is really hard to imagine. Differences is.. I only had those thoughts in my head. I never brought people down for it. But people bring me down for my choice.
+Kathleen Dandridge It hurts when strangers assume that we cheat on each other! Neither of us would ever do that
Brian Servino I understand that completely. The best thing in mine is that we are both gamers, so we join in teamspeak with a bunch of people who tend to get it. I have two real life friends in there now, who didn't understand iit, and now they do since they have met him and game together all the time. My best friend is in there, who I met in game and then met in person over a year ago. So it makes it easier now:D
Kathleen Dandridge Well you sure are lucky. My gf is just..ugh..hard to deal with ever since. I hope for the best of your relationship. Mine isn't really working out, but of course others deserve to get what they want from their relationships.
I wouldn't know how to have a long distance relationship, I can't even get a relationship at my school.
Bro take your time natural is better than rushed
Your time will come.
It's hard in my school there not allot of girls my type
xxander skyes HOLY SHIT YOU BMTH SO DO I hdkbfjbajfaafvg
I just don't really want to get into a relationship at my school. Personally it's a lot of drama and if you aren't strong, your mind will start to question wether it worth keeping. Trust is a major part but I have trust issues so it's really hard for me.
I cried when he said "silence in person is something" because that's so true, his point is so true 😢😩
Emma Henry i dont get it can you explain it? thankuou
The guy in the red shirt. His face is blank, his voice devoid of any emotions, but still he was the only person who impacted me the most in this video.
I have been in a long distance relationship for just an year, but when my boyfriend told me to break up since this relation had no future( religion differences and distance being a major reason) , I just became like this guy. Numb, quiet, expression-less.
Post breakup we still talk but it has become such a formal talk that I can't help but cry remembering how close we were at a particular point of time, and where it has bought us today. I spend time doing everything else except thinking about him, still cry in the end for losing him and not being able to stop him when he walked out.
What hurts me is the fact is that probably I didn't love him enough so that he could think of having a future with me, despite the obstacles. He might would have given up on me but I won't, ever. He was the first guy I had fallen for.
All I do now is just stare at his pictures till my eyes blur. Probably that's how it was meant to be.
Can I ask what kind of religious differences?
I am a Hindu, he is not.
breaking up over religious differences is stupid. you honestly shouldn't feel that bad.
Shikha Dubey Something kinda similar happened to me once =( maybe stop talking to him...? I know that all that ever brought me was pain and suffering and problems for years...=( I'm so sorry that happened...(_ _) I hope time heals you somewhat (although it may never go completely away). I'll pray you have a better future
bobtheflyingdonkey I know I am sounding pathetic, it was just, I wasn't prepared for this. Well, still thank you for encouraging me to move on :)
I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the past three years. He's in the United State Airforce and is constantly traveling. I am stuck back home trying to get my nursing degree. It really is hard, not going to lie. There were a lot of fights and tears but it really is worth it when I get to see him after a whole year or six months of deployment. When you finally get to see each other again, you forget you were ever apart. Facetime and Skype is what holds us together. Its good just to see each other. We leave it on and just do our own thing. Its fine when we're not constantly talking, what couple actually talks 24/7. If you love someone enough, distance doesn't really matter.
I feel ya. I used to date a Marine and I totally understand that feeling. It's so worth it in the end. I don't date anyone in the military anymore but I totally understand what you mean. Good luck!!!!
Thanks for his service.
THIS is what they should have put in the video
omg you guys are adorbale in the picture :)!
Hey, I know how you feel. LDR to my bf in New Zealand, going for almost two years. Flights are expensive, can't see often. Stay strong!
Long distance isn't easy...but it's very doable and worth it when you truly care about them..it's especially rewarding when you see eachother and get to finally be in eachother's arms. How they fail is mainly when a person 'gives up' and they drift away.
+Maria Salazar I was away for school, and we'd always count down the days until we saw each other. The reunions are always amazing.
Sheri Kwong Awww, best wishes to you both :)
+Maria Salazar ugh I won't be able to meet them for like at least 5 years bc school...
Christina Yao I see..well just keep communicating, and I know between those 5 years both of you have breaks and will be able to make time to see one another. Just try that?
+Maria Salazar yeah I really hope thing work out thanks ^~^
It hurts not being able to hold someone...
when u want to.
i know how that feels
Especially when they're hurting and all you can do is talk to them.
Let me join in.... yes I understand you so well! When I just want to hold him, I keep talking and complain and cry and..., he gets tired of me complaining.... and then we end with a salty good night. :/ I just wanted to hold him :(
Jennifer Strong ‼️
Damn! I wanna give that dude with the red shirt a bro hug and maybe even a macho bro cry together.
Top comment and no reply for 3 years.... CHANGED
My and my boyfriend were long distance for 2 years before we moved in together and now we've been together for 7 years and we have a beautiful
Daughter together ☺️ long distance isn't for everyone but it worked for us
I'm in a long distance relationship. I've seen her 3 times now and we Skype everyday. I can honestly say if you both fight for it and believe then you'll make it. Never give up on what you want and what you love ♡
same here. i'm in a LDR as well and we Skype every single day for hours and hours and hours (lol). It's really hard sometimes because we miss each other and because sometimes you need to be in each other's presence to fix things and such but it's really worth it. I couldn't be happier with my decision
I cried my eyes out when we dropped her off at the airport earlier this month. Hardest thing I've ever done.
Raven Deville god bless u
My parents had a long distance relation ship, and it worked out since they know have 3 kids and have been married for almost 25 years.
Oh yeah what countries?
Me and my boyfriend fall asleep while Skyping. So we can wake together. :)
when you're single af but watching relationship videos
+StayUpReading same omg
Yep!
holler!
Hi
Rudjard Balsicas Hello there!
That guy in the Red Collared shirt, is depressing. Even his face is depressing.
He's so hot tho so that kinda makes up for his depressing vibe
But what he said was spot on!
"You run out of things to say on the phone."
That's real talk. If you don't see someone for weeks or even months, talking over the phone is gonna stop being satisfying after a while.
i related to him so much tho
***** I agree, he's sooooo cute.
Don't make fun of Omer asik and his face
The one about silent calls is uncomfortably true. That's happened many times with me and my girlfriend. There are many causes for it
1) Anyone will get sick and tired of just sitting and talking one on one with the same person at regular intervals. Don't get me wrong, we have great Skype calls too (our record is 9 hours!!) and make an effort to make things fun and talk about everything under the sun. But sometimes you do run out of stuff to say or you are both living regular days and don't have much new stuff to bring up. That silence or lack of energy can escalate into a problem where you both think the relationship has run its course...
2) ...but that is only because you are calling and talking to 2D videos of each other and not sharing life with each other. There is no physical connection. No comfortable everyday silences that normal couples regularly share. No everyday things to do together which involve little to no talking. No comforting support that a partner should be able to provide. You need to remember that it is not your relationship that is weird and distant at times, it is the scenario. Being distant from each other physically can and will make you feel distant emotionally now and then. You have to live life for yourself and not rely on the other person because they can't be there (which is a positive in my book). Emotional distance is one of the hardest parts of being in a long distant relationship and I assume what leads to most break ups.
3) Many times you will not be in the same mood or don't have the free time. Maybe she really wants to chat for hours on Skype and I don't. Vice versa. Sometimes we both match up and are happy and excited to talk on and on with one another but sometimes one of us isn't. It's difficult to keep any conversation going if one person is tired or grumpy or not in the mood (a big time difference ie. 8 hours, can exacerbate this). One way conversations do not last very long. It's best to just acknowledge this and tell each other it's not personal. Try again another day and in the meantime send each other little messages and videos and things you find funny or interesting to show they are always on your mind.
In the end I always like to remind myself that a huge portion of relationships wouldn't stand a chance under this kind of pressure and if we can make it work for as long as we have, we have something special. And when we do meet up in person we appreciate it SOOOOO much more than others. And it makes you mature and understand the real issues a relationship can face and laugh at all the little crap some couples argue over.
TIPS- watch a TV show together. While video chatting if possible. It gives you something to do without talking non stop, it lets you bond and enjoy each others company in peace and it gives you something to get obsessed with together.- have topics in mind before you call so if there is a silence you have a few things to steer the conversation towards.- never stop sending messages, pics, silly things, words of affection and real physical cards, letters and gifts to one another. Always give each other a reason to think you are special and worth waiting on.- MAKE SURE IT IS GOING SOMEWHERE! You might be fine just chatting for a few months but sooner or later the question will creep into your minds and if there is no clear plan or date for how and when you will get together it will cause major problems. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with no future.
I'm watching this for the 3rd time and the guy in the red shirt always gets to me
+9cowbell9 Must have been really difficult :( long distance relationships are hard to being with, a long distance breakup would be so much worse. It's interesting to see his misfortune mixed with the happiness of some of the others. It makes me really value the quality and longevity of my long distance relationship.
+rcwhite18 yep me too. Good luck.
+9cowbell9 His name is Garrett. He's great but yeah me too
I met my husband online when we were teenagers and spent the first 4 years of our relationship over 1000 miles apart. Aside from the pains they discussed in the video I also had this feeling of intense shame about how no one in my immediate area cared enough for me to love me and I had to find someone half way across the country. It still haunts me sometimes even after 2 years of marriage and over 8 years of being together.
Well look at it this way, people who are worth it are like gems , rare and very hard to come by so if anything you should feel proud you found a decent guy worth having :)
You are very sweet. Thank you for your sentiments.
Omar Elgendi perfect words!
Don't feel bad about not finding someone nearby, it's like a lottery. The chances of finding someone perfect close by is actually really tiny, so it's so much more realistic to "expand your search field". Even more so if you live in more sparsely populated areas. Finding someone online means that you find each other through common interests (most of the time at least), so it's actually only logical that you'd end up finding your match online!
run outta words? Please. that's why you broke up. I'm in a long distance relationship for 5 years now. And it's been two years since we met. we have never NEVER run outta words... LDR is all about communicating with your partner. I'm waiting for 9 more months... then I'll see her...
exactly, the truth! my boyfriend and I never run out of words sometimes its quiet for few mins and we just enjoy hearing eachother breath and then we find something else to talk about we talk 2/4 hours a day and never get tired of talking because we love eachother. 9 months before I see him, flying to the US from europe
Leni Mikaelson all the best... Stay strong... 💖
Solly
thank you same to you :)
Agreed, we've known eachother for over a year and there is never any awkward silences. If you "run out of words" that just means the chemistry wasn't ever that strong to begin with, we always find something to talk about. Sometimes we literally just sit there talking about how much we love eachother, how happy we make eachother and what our lives will be like when we finally move in together. Seeing him in 4 months and i can't wait ❤️
Renée S wish the best for you guys... 🤗✌
They are right about the communication aspect of a long distance relationship. I literally run out of things to say on the phone.
fr dude its always but when u call him/her that changes a little bit tbh
FaceTime and playing games together on the phone is what helps me and my girlfriend
mIchaela burton my girlfriend and I watch TV together while on video chat.
send small videos saying something like you miss them. video chat while you're cooking, walking in the park, shopping.
send her memes ;)
My boyfriend lives in Wales, while I'm currently in Maryland. I think the worst part about it all is that my mother and my sister think that long distance relationships are "stupid", that they aren't real and they never work out. The two years that we have spent together is pretty much hidden from our families because of their disapproval. It's not like it really matters as we are adults ourselves, but I wish I could tell them without them being judgmental about it. I want people to know about us.
It's hard enough being separate from someone in the same continent as you, but seeing as he is across the ocean it can be more difficult. We have yet to meet face to face because of the costs, but I think we're finally getting closer to meeting each other after saving up for so long. I can't express how refreshing that feeling is.
Being in a long distance relationships requires a lot of trust, time and effort. It's more challenging than any of the real relationships I have had. However, I have never been so happy with someone before. True love can accomplish anything.
Did it work out?
my girlfriend lives 6000 miles away and we facetime everyday. We don't always talk the entire time, sometimes its just nice to have her on the other side of the phone. Just being with eachother. We get to meet in 219 days and shes moving to england for good in sept 2017 . Never give up
all the best girl ❤
Annette Liu 💗 thank u
nvm
I'm currently in a long distance relationship. He lives in Singapore and I live in Tennessee. There are 9,766 miles between us, but we are very strong. We built this on hope, love, and trust. And that's really all you can do...
long distance 6 years, living together for 8 months
did ya'll meet often?
Ms. Njeri it depended...like once we met every weekend for a month and once we spent 6 months apart
+Ely Saiyan Oh my goodness how did you survive the 6 month...do you have an article or a video?
Ms. Njeri it was really hard, but also I was in college so my mind was sometimes overwelmed by it. Sadly, I don't have a video or something, but I'm planning on making one soon for my upcoming channel. It took a lot of patience and trust, but all the relationship was like that!
+Ely Saiyan can't wait. already your fan!! really need your tips before January.
Me and my girlfriend basically live on Skype together like we do our own thing but Skype is still on kind of thing? So I could be playing videos games and she could be reading a book and Skype is still on and it's not much but it's us and you can still feel that connection. We fall asleep on Skype and wake up on Skype, next to eachother just like a normal relationship. Obviously it's not 24/7 and we do out own things as well but I like the fact that we can sit in silence on a Skype call for hours on end. And, at the end of all of it we still get that feeling of excitement every time we get to meet
my girlfriend and I do this too. to be fair, it is kinda nice. It makes me feel like I am there with her
Yeah me and my girlfriend FaceTime all the time.... I know FaceTime is weird for some long distance couples but I really recommend you do so... Without FaceTime our relationship could've ended a long time ago
my boyfriend and I always have the phone on as well we dont care if others think its weird we just enjoy eachothers company that way :) We sometimes also watch movies together and sometimes fall asleep when on the phone xD
Wow this is a really good idea
ffsvilhena thats exactly how me and my boyfriend are a lot he'll be playing on is compuyer ill be playing my playstation and we can still talk we fall asleep on skype every night as well
long distance is the strongest kind of relationship its real true love I am almost 1 year with my bf and we havent given up hes 8 hrs ahead too and its worth it
+ivanna true :P
Same mine is only 7 hours away.
+Impressive Potato mine is too! I'm in Sweden and she's in Australia
+ivanna It's not necessarily the strongest nor the realest truest love. It'll just test you in different ways than you'd experience in geographically closer relationships.
What about trust? Trust must be so much more difficult.
the thing tho is, you two have to really be in love for long distance to work, and my girlfriend is my fucking soulmate. and there's no doubt in my mind about it. i am glad we met online because it forced us to have conversation and get to know each other, as opposed to ending up in a relationship that is purely physical.
Noni Park so true with me and my bf! we live in different countries he came to see me in NYC and I'm going to London in Aug for 2 months! this was refreshing to see...
wow. different countries? my gf and i just live in different states, and sometimes it just seems sooo far. and that is so awesome about getting to stay with him for two months. i actually just came back from florida tuesday after visiting my girlfriend for just 9 days. i wish i could drop everything and be with her for two months. i miss her already, but i know there'll be a day where we can be together for good. good luck to you and your boyfriend :3
thank you :) you too
+Noni Park Jennifer is not the only one. I just started an LDR me in the USA and her in Canada
Ian Hall good luck :3
Is _is_ important to know when your partner has eaten good potatoes.
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^Bad Potatoes
Potatoes Oh, sorry if I offended you :'(
妈켓祥 ShokoFlow First person to reply "...." to me is my immediate bitch.
***** You're eager arntcha.
I relate a lot with what the guy with the red shirt said. Sometimes it's frustrating.
fr dude
He broke my heart at 1:50 :(
his body language showed his pain...
+jill ian his jaw clenched ugh no ;-;
Long distance for college. We just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. We dated 2 years in high school and now we have several more years of college. It sucks a lot. He's 1,700 miles away and we only see each other for a few weeks on winter and summer break. It's all worth it though. I can't wait to be with him forever
"Silence in person means something." That got to me. :/
The hardest part is leaving them and knowing you have to live two separate life's but still maintain a bond is hard....
All that tension building up over all those months being apart The sex in a long distance relationship must be INCREDIBLE
incredibly quick*
In a long distance relation, sex is not that important, personally I like cuddling more (yeah call me gay if you want, my girlfriend loved cuddling... and the 12 other girls with crushes on mr wanted it too .-.)
Long distance relationships...constantly thinking the other is cheating if they are not already
forreal,,,
this is why you build up trust with each other
To Aflac and light king all because you trust your significant other doesn't stop them from cheating. They're human beings who will come across temptations especially if he/she goes away to college. They can very well find someone to take your place. Now I agree they should control themselves but things happen unfortunately. Don't be naive all because you think they will not do something doesn't mean they will stay faithful
No dumbass I'm saying don't be gullible thinking your partner is perfect
Why do people assume because you are farer apart you are less trustworthy?!
i have been in a long distance relationship for 8 years, and now we are married. need advises? let me know... im here
Josiphia Rizado How did you do it for so long? I'm headed to grad school in Chicago for a 5 year program and my girlfriend will be here in LA, but ill still be here during the winter breaks and summer breaks. But how did you stay strong for so long? And what steps would you take to reassure your significant other that you were always in the relationship 110%?
You didn’t even reply🤦🏽♂️🤦🏼♂️💀
Yes
So glad I have come across this video. The guy with the red shirt was spot on the feelings you have when being in a long distance relationship. I am only 17 and I get judged and put down by a lot of people because I am currently in a long distance relationship. I met my boyfriend in high school, and we were really good friends before anything else. He ended up leaving after his senior year was over. He is two years older than me. He enlisted in the Army, which was great for him, ya know, he was starting his future and he was gonna do great things. We were only together for 4 months before he had to go off to basic. We wrote letters back and forth, telling each other how much we missed each other and all that other lovey dovey crap I never thought I'd be the one to say. Well after basic was over for him, I got to see him, for two days. Really great two days must I add. But those two days went by in a blink of an eye and he was gone again. But this time, he was able to have his phone, so that was a plus. But after a while, you run out of things to say. Long conversations turn into 5 minute conversations and you just start to feel sad. There are gonna be times we won't talk as planned, and you'll be mad at first but you begin to get used to it, and just go with it. There will be times he/she goes out with the guys or girls and parties, and even though you trust that person, you wish you could be there anyway. It really sucks, and takes a really strong couple to make it. Me and him have been together for one year and a couple months now, and we get into plenty of fights every so often but it's expected. In the end, I hope, and I know it will be worth it.
We tried to make light of the situation on our version of Long Distance Relationship Struggles XD
I'm in a long distance relationship with my bias . He just doesn't know we're dating yet
same gurl, same...
eccenterika i feel u
Im cheating with my bias
I've been doing long distance for three years now and we still have two years to go because I'm at university thousands of kilometres away. We see each other in the holidays, and what I can say I've learnt is the the two most important things are trust and communication. Love is important too, but trust and communication, whether it be Skype, phone calls, whatsapp, steam (a gaming platform) or all of them together, will make sure that your happiness always comes first and that you get through it together. Long distance makes you treasure your time together in away that I don't think people who haven't tried it understand, which is cool, but at the same time I feel like we've been in the "honeymoon phase" of our relationship the for all four of the years we've been together because we're always so excited to just be together. I haven't had the opportunity to know everyday life with him yet, which could be a risk for some people, but I think we'll be okay :) So yeah, I was just writing this message for any people entering into long distance or battling with it, just to let you know that trust and communication are everything.
I'm currently in a long-distance pseudo-relationship with a girl that I am head-over-heels in love with that does not feel the same way about me, even though we've been the closest of friends for years. And it's not that she doesn't want to take it further, but there's so much baggage and stress in her life, she just can't right now. Someday we may very well have a chance, it's just not today. But I don't mind the distance, and I don't mind waiting, because I could not imagine my life without her in it. I'm a romantic, I revel in the pain and sorrow of separation and the exquisite joy of being reunited. And I have yet to meet another woman about whom I can say the same thing. So until I do, my heart will stay 2000 miles away.
I could not stop saying "yup!" The whole time I was watching this, me and my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship for three years, he was in conneticut and I was in utah , it was very very hard , we would fall asleep on the phone with each other every night ( you should've seen the phone bill!! Lol ) and then in 2013 he finally came down to see me but had to go back , I remember balling the whole drive home from his hotel, then almost a year later he was able to come back and we've been together ever sense and are now engaged and looking for an apartment together :) long distance is possible .
It really does suck. I never really wonder if it's worth it. I am just in fear if he decides to let go of me. What's hard for me is not being able to express myself through the phone or on a text the way I could in person. He can't see my expressions to know how I meant to write what I said. A phone call makes that a bit better, but it's still not the same. They can't see you... It's already hard enough as it is to express your feelings to others in person; to the point they'll understand. Imagine through a phone... that's all you really have...
I'm never going to give him up though, even though this sucks for me. I understand his feelings and desires. I get it. I want him to be happy. Even though I only see him mostly 3times a month, it doesn't matter. I want this work.
You're doing fine, I think that holding the hopes and not giving up is the key. But I guess the only thing is, if the person really loves you, he will make efforts to make it as well. No doubts.
Thanks guys for responding to my comment. I'm sorry you're socially awkward. I use to be that way too... It gets better if you make an effort to change it. I am sure you'll done fine.
And thank you he does love me, that's for sure... I am thankful for both comments. :)
I've been in a LDR for 1 year and 11 months right now, we both skype whenever possible and even if we're both silent, as shown in the video we're on camera to the other so the other knows they're there. We do activities like watching movies together over skype or playing games, you can talk but there's more activities to do online!
George Florensia That's awesome! I don't skype with my bf we only talk to each other on the phone or text. Most people think that's dumb that we don't do that. We did that 2months after he left and we skyped, and we had a pretty good time, We rather look forward to seeing each other in person. Plus we are both too busy and he has a crappy webcam.
***** Thanks Sophie I will be positive for as long as he as far from me. :)
Lol. At least you're in the same country. Try having an inter-continental relationship. Or even one with someone from a neighbouring country. The distance, the time difference & the price of flight tickets will kill you and your dreams.
Well we are in same country 😂
yes omg, time differences are especially annoying, but we make it work
and you don't know how long you have to wait for the Visa
i feel this, my partner lives in ireland, and i in the united states. it sucks, but someday we'll see each other.
My parents had a long distance relation ship, for 3 years. They met at a party when my dad was on holiday in Australia.
Denmark (Europe, Scandinavia) and Australia.
But me and my two brothers are proof that long distance relationships works out, since they're still together now 27 years later.
I feel this. My boyfriend and I are about 3 hours away from each other, and even though that may not seem like a long way, money makes it hard to get to see one another. Both of us are like the pillars holding our families up fiscally, and since we're both in college, we're broke af & then we have this added responsibility. It's hard... I can't see myself with anyone else, but eventually, it does peter out... "how was your day?" "it was fine, yours?" "mine was good too" & then silence. That's the hardest part. And he doesn't have a laptop or a smartphone, which makes it even worse. :/
"Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great." Currently etched in my heart, for we are a couple thousand miles apart.
I was in an extremely difficult and heart-breaking on-off long-distance relationship for almost 4 years, and we met for the first time a week ago. It was worth every minute of both immense pain and joy. In my opinion, the main struggle both people have to work for is remaining as understanding as possible and remembering that you're both hurting and missing each other. The wait is definitely worth it.
the scariest thing is telling your family and friends that finally met someone and connected easily and perfectly but come out saying that they live in another state and to have them judging you saying "wow that's a waste of time" "this is a big city where you can find someone that is closer to you" "how can you fall in love with someone you've never met" like I want him and I've fallen in love with him and he maybe a thousand miles away from me but I don't care it's just like any other relationship but only a few miles apart.
yeah that sucks..
The dude in the red checked shirt, man... that was so real.
I can relate to this so much. The upside to long distance relationships is they make you really aware of how precious love is and makes you appreciate actually being with the other person more.
This is really touching. I was in a long distance relationship for 5 years from across the Atlantic! It was so worth it, we've been happily married for 4 years. The struggle brought us closer together and made us grateful for our time together. Hang in there you LDRs out there. If it's meant to be it will be worth it and you'll be richer for the experience 😊
''waiting for months to hug that special one'' really echoed really loud in my head .. one of the very worst feelings when you run out of things to say and u have to try extra extra hard to keep her interested :/ after all it was worth it and am proud that she was mine for 2 long beautiful years
Thank you buzzfeed for making something that shows the struggles of long distance relationships while proving it's not all bad.
It will be almost 2 years in my long distance relationship. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done, everyday he is the only person I want to see. I'm moving to where he is in august. It's good to have an end in sight. Males things 10× easier
I've been in a long distance relationship for a while now and even though there are nights where you think "I wish this person was here with me", there are still skype calls/facetimes where you both really prove to each other how much you want it. And, waking up still on the call with them is cute (in my opinion).
I've been in a long distant relationship for many years now. We never run out of things to talk about, we both love to ramble about random things and go off on different tangents in our conversations all the time. And when there is a silence, it's always a comfortable and peaceful one. Not in anyway awkward or weird. We both just feel comfortable enough with each other that silence doesn't bother us, even over the phone. I think that's when you know you've found the right person.
This is a great representation of LDRs. I'm currently in one and have been for almost two years, the closest my boyfriend's been to me is an hour and the farthest is six (he's moved about three times since we started dating). It's hard because I'm still in college and he's already graduated and living in apartments but I can't leave the area of my school and he can't leave the area of his work. Thank you for this video, being told that LDRs aren't going to work and that they're not worth it has gotten so old. To me, it's totally worth it and I've never been happier than I am with my boyfriend.
If both parties can stay committed until they can meet in person then I can definitely see an LDR working out. However, if either of the parties rushes it and doesn't wanna stay faithful then it will not work. Long distance requires lots of commitment, time, and work for both ends. Pleasing someone sexually over the internet can be very hard if that person has extensive sexual needs. But if they don't then it's easier. I was in many LDRs and I'm currently in one now. It's hard but hopefully worth it in the end....
I am in a LDR for over 5 years now, and we are planning to live together next year. It is obviously worth it. Talking from morning til night, never getting bored, and always feeling love.
I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. Now we attend the same college and are getting married in June 2016. It was definitely difficult at times but we saw each other for a weekend about every 2-3 months which helped a lot. Frequent texting and calling helps considerably as well; I cannot imagine dating someone long distance before communication was so easy.
I was in a long distance relationship for almost two years and it was the first time I felt actual feelings for someone. It was definitely a beautiful experience and even though we didn't get to meet I don't regret it. He taught me so many things about life and about love. I just now hope we maybe meet in a future coincidentally
I meet my boyfriend a year ago and we started a relationship three months ago, i'm sure that he is the love of my life. I miss him, but we speak every day and spend time together watching movies on Skype or just talking about our interest. Technology is the best when you have a long distance relationship that really cares and worth. I'm so happy to be the life partner with my best friend and i will never change that. It sucks when you love the person so much and you miss how he smell, how sound his voice or just see his eyes saying you I love you. I live in Mexico and he lives in LA...I wish I can have a super power and fly to see him. Work hard is the only solution to become you dreams true, he show me that.
I'm in a long distance relationship as well. Making time and communicating is so huge. And you definitely have to tell something about your day. In my opinion, it's harder to be in long distance relationship then to have one with someone who lives down the street. But if you can make it, then it really is worth all the efforts:
I am dating a girl from France at the moment and i am From Slovenia. We met on the internet on September and met in real life on December , it was heaven on earth but after she left its only then when i realised how much i loved this woman and how badly i need to see her , i feel like i am suffocating every day. Gonna meet her again on April , still a long time to go but i wouldn't want to be with anybody else , the wait is worth it .
I was in a long distance relationship for 1.5 years. Now we live an hour apart and we're getting married. We see each other every two weeks. So yeah if it's meant to be it isn't that hard.
That's exactly how my long distance relationship went! Well, except the marriage part but we're just too young so maybe in a few years :)
Congrats btw!
A long distance relationship had to be one of the hardest things I've ever done.
It sucks how close someone is (when you're on Skype), but so far away at the same time.
I now know that the long distance relationship was good for us, because it taught us to really value the time we have together, when other couples would just take it for granted.
While people were spending money on shopping and other things we were saving up to buy a plane ticket to see each other. We agreed that we'd never be more than 4 months apart (and we had a hard time getting the money).
No one thought we would make it (people were actually betting on our break up!), but with love, loyalty and A LOT of effort we made it through and we've been together for 3 years and counting..
That really sucked, but not only have I made a best friend for life, we have also brought to each other an immeasurable amount of happiness that we didn't think was possible.
My advice to whoever is on a long distance relationship is: 1. don't give up on each other; 2. have really good friends (who will understand what your relationship means to you and won't tell you to quit and find someone new. and most of all will stand by your side); 3. save money to see each other; 4. talk EVERY DAY (more than 3 times a day, if possible. Me and my bf would sleep with FaceTime/skype on, so we wouldn't lose that intimacy - cheesy, I know..); 5. try to always have a date set to see your loved one (it helps to countdown as opposed to not knowing when you'll see each other again); 6. be LOYAL (because although it's long distance, it's still a relationship. So every rule of a "normal" relationship applies).
I hope you make it through and find happiness and love.
I just got out of a long distance relationship.. We of course met online when I was 16, and when he was 18. We tried so hard to stay strong through it all. He lived about 750 miles away and I remember right after I turned 17 (4 months after dating), I flew down to stay a week with him in his dorm. Then, 2 months after that, my family and I made the drive down to go meet him. Man, the best memories I had with that kid...
I asked him out on June 21st, of 2014. Which yes, would be one year as of tomorrow. I have been so caught up in the emotions and memories of it lately, it's just that things change so quickly. The flashbacks I have of us two video chatting, sleeping together on camera, sneaking my phone out in class to text him, and of all the times we went out together during my visit, make everything so much harder because only 2 weeks ago, he told me that for the past 3 months, he was cheating on me.
With him about to turn 19, and me going onto 18 here in September, I've never felt more of a distance from him.. A person who I loved so much, who I spent so much time & money on to visit, and who I did everything for - did this to me in return.... I was even going to attend college down there in 2016, for him.
So all in all, LDR's are very great, and never take for granted the connection you have with somebody - no matter how far away they are. Just know what you're getting yourself into.
we keep the phone on for the whole day just listening to what the other is doing on a daily basis. it really does help with the feeling of being connected to each other. when theres silence we sing random songs together
Am in long distance relationship ....
And I miss my boyfriend
We haven't meet
I wish I could be with him
❤️😭
+Shamma Alkaabi same
awhh how long have you and him been together? (and same for me)
I am too :)
SAME GUURL
same
I may be 13 and people will say "Oh you're wasting your time with this person! You're too young to know what love is!" well in your opinion I "didn't find love". I met my boyfriend in Gettysburg when our families were on vacation and we loved each other when we layed eyes on each other. We live 9 hours away from each other and we are in pain because we miss each other so much. next month will be our 1 year anniversary and I am forever greatful
Aww thats so cute, people that say you are too young to love are silly!
I'm in a long distance relationship with the most amazing person. It's true, it's not easy. Trust is harder to build, as is sharing the important events in each other's life. There have been moments when we needed but couldn't even see each other. But the effort we've put into the relationship has made it stronger. The days we spend together are the happiest of the year. We have shared beautiful, unique moments together. There have been problems, like any other couple would have them, but there hasn't been a moment when I thought "is it worth it?", because it is. He makes my heart rush, he makes me smile, he's the one who cuddles me when I cry. Every week away is worth the few hours with him.
I've been in a ldr for almost a year now and we don't run out of things to talk about. When your partner becomes your best friend you can never get bored of that person. Waiting and counting down the days to see them again is probably one of the most bittersweet feelings in the world. And it's only worth it if you make it worthwhile.
Hi I'm a thief and I'm here to steal your heart
I don't want no harm, here just take it ! ♡
*"and all your money too"*
SHIT.
Can't take something I don't have mahahaha
I don't have one
i'm in long distance relationship where my bf and i haven't met yet...
My best friend is the same ☺️
avtually i meant he does not exist...
+Bailey Guntzler relatable
+Kinjal Palande same. Aug is the time we actually meet. im flying 13000km to meet him
Darth KittenKat
good luck..
Long distance is so hard, and I literally skype with my partners everyday, and when you don't have the luxury of even holding their hand for months on end, you really treasure those few days you can. The days you can curl up against them on the bed, or kiss them, or sit in silence on the couch and watch a movie. Or even just cook them dinner while the other gets the computers ready for a raid night. It's hard, and some days it feels like a useless struggle, but if you can get past the lows, the relationship is stronger. Or at least, that's how mine is. Yes, there are arguments (it's two women dating a third, after all), but aren't there fights in any relationship? It's hard, but for me, it's so worth it.
+evilkittygurl love it!
still in a long distance relationship..been almost 9years! my bf & I have known each other for a bit more than 10years...you can say we grew up together, even though we live MILES apart..he lives in the UK, I lived in US and I've been living in Indonesia since 6years ago..we met on an online game :) we both make plans to finally be together next fall! It's truly worth it if you have the patience (both of you), trust & love each other...and really willing to make the effort! "Effort" can be big or little things -- skyping, texting, calling, sending letters, sending each other silly video links and even visiting! We'd have to both agree that we've gone to love each other even more even after all these years :) Any relationship is worth it when you really love each other and make the time and effort! Even when long distance does suck. and lots of hurdles come by--we both need each other to go through it :)
My husband and i when we were dating were long distance for about a year. We skyped every night, not cause we felt obligated but because we are best friends and we were both going through hard times and nothing was better than just "being together". I didn't care what people said because in the end all our communication helped our relationship and we couldn't be as physical so we knew it was real cause we didn't get bored just cause we couldn't physically be together. It was so worth the wait.
just because you break up doesn't mean it's not worth it :)
+missoptimus on point!
this video has a really creepy undertone. anyone else feel that?
i think the music "helps" xD i mean, most of them ended their long distance relationship.. it was kinda sad
it's suppose to feel depressing. cause really, it kinda is. being in an LDR really sucks and you have to be able to commit and sacrifice a lot of your time and effort just to be with someone you love who is miles away from you. you can't hug, kiss, go on dates, or do any of that but talk... and that's it.
Fluffy288 i know how it feels, i'm in one :) ^_^
fr801 aw im in one too. stay strong!
Fluffy288 awww thank you ^_^ you too ;D
my boyfriend and i have been best friends for 2 years. we've been friends for almost 5. and i can't see him physically for about two years, but i wake up every day thinking "im another day closer to being with him" and i get super excited.
+Dharma Schofield that's a really good way of looking at it :) hope you guys get to meet!
This is so true. I'm in a long distance relationship for about 2 years (practically 3 years) with my bf and we are still together because we love each other. I hear from so many people telling me that it's a fetish - which is not, at least for me - and asking me if it's worth being with him that lives in another country. Sooo many questions and people judging me because of how I share my life with someone else is constant, but what matters is that the couple will know if they want to be with their partner for sure or not.
Congrats for this video! I'm so happy for those who are able to go through their days in a long distance relationship and those who ended up living together. It's hard, but the couple will figure things out to do when their in that situation.
A tip: Find something in common between both of you so you wont have any "silent moments" - extremely awkward, been there -, could be a book, watch series together, video games, watch videos, talk about the news or talk more about yourself and discover new things about the other person... The list if brief, but it works :D
I went into a online LDR last summer with this guy that lived oceans away. When he told me he liked me back, it was such a joyous thing. The first few months went great, even though all of my friend and classmates made fun of it and told me it wasn't real. I don't blame them for not understanding, but throughout the whole thing, I only had a few friends support me. Neither of us had had a boyfriend or a girlfriend before then, so relationships was a new thing for us. My brother had told me that he went though the whole online LDR thing for a few months, and that it was fun. That gave me some hope. This guy had made me so happy for so long, we Skyped together, played video games together, and we even bought each other games online. He was the first guy to admit they liked me, and for months on end, he made me feel special, and even boosted my self-esteem a lot. School got busy, and I had less and less time to spend for him, and at first he understood. We got farther and farther, and I stopped saying "I love you" even when he told me it first. It's not that I liked another person, it's just that we stopped spending time with each other, and the connection started to fade. About a week before I broke it off with him, he told me that he liked one of my best friends. My friends knew how much of an emotional burden he was on me, and she was smarter than to get into an LDR with him. Knowing that she chatted with him, and never letting me see the messaged that they sent to each other, lowered the trust I had for her. Once he told me that I kind of had non platonic feelings for my friend, I just gave up, right then and there. I broke it off with him after our 6 months of Skyping. Everyone told me it was good for me, and that now I can look for a "real" boyfriend. It felt fine at first, but slowing as the days passed, I started to feel lonely. The year had really been lots of new experiences for me, and I still can't decide whether or not I regret going into that long distance relationship with him. I have my regrets, but I also have good memories from that too. The sinking feeling of the whole "I'm not good enough" came back when he said he liked my friend over me. I don't think about him much anymore, so I really don't know what I took away from the whole experience. I know he loved me for quite a while too, and I guess realizing that still makes me smile, knowing that some person loved me who who I am.
He's in the Netherlands and I'm in California. We've met already and he'll be here for Christmas and New Year's!!! It's tough but so, so worth it if you love them.
oh that is so precious, I'm (girl) from the netherlands as well and my boyfriend is from the US, mississipi :) I'll be in the US next year summer to be with him on his birthday
Aww the girl with pink top looked so emotional... as if she was still in love and was about to cry
The hardest part is not being able to be there when they're hurt or going through something. I'm not there to protect her from everything that can hurt her, and it's hard.
I'm in a long distance relationship. But I'm glad we are able to talk about anything. And it's never a dull moment. I haven't met him yet... And it's been about 10 months we've been together, I love him so much . Long distance relationships they do work. Just don't give up on each other ever. It can be hard but just remember that it will all be worth when you finally see that special person. I can't wait to meet him ..
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I'm in Sweden, my boyfriend in New Zealand. That's 18000kms and 11 hours between each other. We've been together for three years this fall, and I honesty believe that once you love someone there is no question or doubt. Making an effort and showing appreciation is key. We write letters to each other, phone calls, Skype dates, Facebook chat. Making your partner a part of your daily life, when they just happen to be on the other side of the world. I love you Joey.
I'm in a long distance relationship and it sucks not being able to hold him or play with his hair. But when we see each other, it's like Christmas everyday and we're each other's gifts. I love him. Our goal is to get married, meanwhile we have a boarder between us but that's not going to stop us.
was in a long distance relationship, for almost two yrs got engaged, moved back to my home state (which is his also) an got married in 2011 and have to kids under 4.
some of these are bullshit. You don't love someone if you cant stay on the phone for 3h with them. you dont even see the time passing if you're in love. And silence is never uncomfortable. Its still comforting knowing they're there spending time with you even if not physically. LDR can be hard but like the beatles once said "all you need is love"
I actually have to agree with you. Silence on the phone isn't "nothing", the other person is as close as you can have them right now! You can hear them breathing, living, you could say something small, random, and they'd be there to hear it and reply.
some people don't express their love via language. And then 3h is a lot. When our long-distance relationship began(500 km, see each other every weekend though, might not qualify), we began to talk for at least 3 hours, now its down to between 2 h and 30 min, depending on our days...dont judge. some people arent talkers...
I am currently in a long distance relationship. We had been going out for about 7 months before I moved and I was so scared to tell her. It was the worst day of my life. Almost 2 years later we are still going strong and I get to see her once a month.
Every thing you do to keep in touch helps. I talk to her every night. As it is my parents restrict my ability to talk to her, but they don't seem to realize that she is the only thing that makes things better for me. Ask yourself "is it worth it"? Think about what its like when you have a conversation with that person. How they make you feel. The way they smile at you. Those times when you know they love you with all of their heart because that's what makes it worth it. Being with someone who makes life fun, who turns your frown upside down. Someone you know will be with you through the hardships and not just the good times. I am currently a junior in Highschool and we plan to move in together after we graduate. (I'm going to be a senior in 2 months).
This hit a chord. I had a long distance relationship for a year and a half and I loved him so much, it just didn't work out because it was the fact we were never together. I just became "I love you", then silence over the phone. Not actually being together, growing together. Exactly what they said.
Doing a LDR is hard, but it's not that hard. If you're with someone that you truly want to be with and it's mutual. The only hard part about being apart should be that you're not physically with each other. Skype is a great tool. I'm in a LDR right now. We talk everyday over skype. We also text each other in the mornings. It doesn't feel like work, we both want to talk to each other and we never run out of things to talk about.
That's the thing. You should want to be able to chat with your significant other, if you don't, then you should ask yourself, why am I in a relationship with this person? Don't waste each others time, if you're not gonna attempt to keep the relationship going.
Long distance love is simply not for everyone.
The guy in red is so on point. 0:50
I am currently in a long distance relationship, we've been dating for one year. Met as freshman, but he had to stay home after that year...and we live on opposite sides of the country. Right now I'm actually in Europe with a 9 hour time difference...and I will not say it's easy. There are days where I have no motivation, where I cry because he's not there to help me, motivate me, make me feel better. The first time I saw him after separating I actually cried for a long time in his arms as he held me...because I hadn't realized how much I'd missed him for those few months... However I do know that he loves me, and we try to Skype every night. I love him so much and that is the only thing keeping us together. We visit during the breaks, and we know that once we graduate, we will get married and finally be together like we used to be. Until that day, we'll have to bear the separation with the knowledge that it makes the reunion that much sweeter...
This actually made me cry a bit, it's so relatable. Our time zones are so off and we're so busy it's always hard to find time to talk... And every day I think of things I want to tell him but then when we talk it's just silence! And I have not had a single friend nor family member support me. Before I moved to Australia for these 10 months a friend of mine even went so far as to tell my boyfriend that I was not the type of person who could keep this up. It's so hard when everything in life is working against you and though when I get back we will only have been physically dating for a few months I just know that if this works out... It was all worth it.