"You don't need to be single in order to work on yourself." It's not that. Imagine being this happy, without another person (a partner) validating you. His attention makes you happy, when you don't have his attention, you're sad and lonely. I wish you'd work on yourself to the point you'd be content by yourself, without the need of a partner's validation. 🤷♀️
I agree- she’s so desperate for the attention of men, that she refuses to truly work on herself! The only person she is “fooling” is herself! Is so sad to watch her; her happiness is completely dependent on the approval of a man- it’s a cycle; she’ll be crying and depressed again, because he will leave her again...just a matter of time! He, too, must have issues as well, to have taken her back so damn quickly!! A relationship doomed for success!!! Girl- you need serious help...an instant relationship will NOT fix you!!!!!
Nah but when you say this you're "attacking" and you're just being mean. Even though this has been said several times 12 different ways to Sunday. Ru Paul has a whole song about it but yea you can't tell people that or its rude or whatever
You were right when you said you shouldn’t be in a relationship right now. You are nowhere near ready and it will end badly again. I am not wishing this for you at all, but the truth is you just aren’t ready.
This doesn’t come from a place of hate, but it is criticism , and I know you don’t handle criticism well. Girl, you’ve only been with him for what? A couple of months? And you took the break up really bad. You’re not putting in the “work” you think you are. I suggest you create distance and boundaries. You have to learn to control your emotions and love yourself first. Being in a relationship or just talking to an ex can be very emotional and you can/will spiral again. You don’t need him the way you think you do.
She's like a relationship addict . She can't (yet) think of that kind of stuff rationally . Like why she has to be with him or be alone a long time ? Why? She only knew him a few months and she is attached to him like they been together for years. More rational would be her saying she is going to pause dating for a few months until she is better emotionally and realize their will be guys available to date then.
@@DbleP111 She said they've been in contact since the breakup. She spiraled off the medication and things were rocky in the time she was getting back on it. It's not too much of a surprise that they'd start having normal conversations about what happened now that that element is worked out.
Genuine question, if you are monogamous, and your ex was posting on subreddits that are for swingers and hookups, including during the time you were together, how does that work? If you say you can only be in monogamous relationships, (which is valid because I'm the same way) how are you okay with that? If you were so paranoid about A cheating. How is this okay? I'm genuinely trying to understand. Please keep up with therapy and workbooks 💜 Also I'm from Wisconsin and Door County is a popular vacation spot. They are known for their wines too. And a cranberry festival I think. If you liked Michigan, you'll love Wisconsin in the fall. And there are cheese stores everywhere!
@@lakab2 I think you're right, but Cindy said the relationship was almost 4 months, so I don't know the exact timeline. Either way, you'd think she'd have a problem with this because of how paranoid she was about A cheating. Even looking at another woman. So even if they weren't exclusive, it still seems incompatible with her. I've been in an exclusive relationship for a couple of years, but back when I was on the dating apps, if anyone said they were poly, or looking for something open, I knew to just keep swiping. Because while I don't judge my poly friends, it's not for me personally. That's why I'm confused.
It’s absolutely bizarre how the near-crying voice we’ve heard throughout the last several vlogs is GONE and seemingly all because of contact with an ex/ the hope of rekindling a relationship. It all feels very performative.
also not necessarily trying to nitpick, but that previous vlog where you showed the completely empty po box..i just feel like a lot of people would've just cut out the parts mentioning going to check the po box and also the part checking the po box and finding nothing bc well.. there's nothing LMAO but instead she keeps it in, and now she's got a ton of gifts that she's excitedly opening like a kid on christmas. I'm just saying, I'd for sure not even include the po box in any part of the vlog knowing I checked and there was nothing bc what's the point..except for if you're trying to hint at wanting more shit to come through your po box ;)
He's not even boyfriend material. The wish to be with him comes from unhealthy BPD habits. He's not worth it, this relationship isn't worth holding onto.
You said the same thing about not looking for anyone else and being single for a really long time after Andrew as well. You will NOT remain single, you think you NEED a relationship, you NEED a man, and you go crazy if you dont have one. This guy is not for you, and you know that, youre way too jealous and i think he has your number. I felt sorry for him before, but now, i think he knows exactly what youre about, and how to take advantage of it. Remember, narcissists love borderlines, this wont end well..then it wont end well again...then again..then again...yes Cindy, youre doing an amazing job, youre coming along nicely..youre an amazing example of what NOT to do as a person with bpd when you actually want to get better.
@BeautyQueen2023X I don't believe Cindy is a narcissist, i do think she has narcissistic traits..and if you read that and think I was taking up for her, I don't know what to tell ya!😅
I don't know if I'd take that leap. Yeah there's people that will take advantage of your weaknesses and get upset with you when you make progress. But from the sounds of things, they were really getting serious about each other and things just got messy. Sometimes you take risks with recovery (like changing/going off of certain meds in this case) and it doesn't pan out, but I think when people see that you are trying it does make a difference.
@@SDjilliaRE first of all, she has NO business being in a relationship whilst trying to better, especially when you barely have any time or effort in at all. Cindy is attempting to give the illusion of wanting to get better, but she doesn't, it's all for his benefit. He is a total narcissist, have you seen the way he speaks to people? This man thinks he is IT..Cindy inevitably went off, she did her borderline thing, and she will continue to. I thought maaayybbeee he was smart, maybe he would realize when you're with an untreated borderline, you will get the behavior, then apologies, then the behavior, then apologies, it won't end. She used the excuse of not having her meds, meds? For bpd? No. She can argue mood stabilizers work, but its very little if at all, no magic pill changes your personality, brain chemistry, yes, not your personality. She has other overlapping issues, you can tell, so if the med works at all, it's because it's helping that other issue, not her bpd. He is either a) really naive and he believes sHe WaS oFf HeR mEdIcAtIoN and that's what caused her to act out, so he's giving her another shot (will not help, trust me, the behavior will ALWAYS come back) or b) this is his way of taking advantage because he knows she chases and he gets off on it. He will split with her very easily now because he likes the control he has when he does it and he knows she will beg him back and be willing to do almost anything. I was in therapy for YEARS for my bpd, not a virtual appt sometimes and a workbook every now and again when I want to create the illusion that I want to get better. I did this same thing, many many times. You get desperate and say you'll do anything, you want them to think you're doing all of the right things and wanting the help, you talk about them like they're the best thing ever, you put them on a pedestal, they can do no wrong. I cant count how many times I did this. If I had a guess, I'd say he has already suggesting the swinging thing to her, it could've been what caused the blowup, who knows, but if he hasn't suggested, he will, and she will prob say yes because of the fear of him leaving again. If it did ever get that far..trust me, if you've never seen a borderline meltdown, sit back and observe. This is the issue with relationships whilst getting therapy and trying to get better. It simply doesn't work. She knows it but she thinks she can't function without a man around, she needs the constant attention.
@@liveandletlive7152the website that’s forbidden found what is allegedly limbz account because they posted in the Cindy part of the forbidden site and then upon being found out they deleted most of their post history but a lot of it lined up with what we know about limbz. One of the frequent subs was Arkansas swingers. This has lead people to believe he is polyamorous. I’m 50/50 on weathe the account is him I also don’t know how I feel about all the posts being saved and reuploaded on the sub
@@liveandletlive7152there are screenshots of him posting in nsfw subreddits, like r/arkansasswingers, r/arkansashotwives, and r/arkansas_nsfw, including during the time they were together.
honestly can’t tell anymore who’s a fan and who’s a “hater” in the comments anymore. encouraging her to do better is one thing, encouraging her bad behavior is another.
at the end of the day, this is a grown adult and no one needs to be parenting strangers online As long as its two consenting adults with good intentions, it doesn't matter.
I understand you are concerned, but this comment sounds condescending imo and you know it's not true, majority of haters don't use weird manipulation tactics because there is a chance the hated person will turn out unhappy, mostly it's just kindergarten pettiness. What is bad behavior and why?
I'm gonna have to agree with some above replies. As viewers we are not her caretaker or her parent, and we are not responsible for bad decisions she makes. One, she has and will make decisions she wants regardless of what we think. And what bad behavior is being encouraged here? She's been working on her BPD books. She's on her meds again which going off of them seems to be the cause of some of that bad behavior. Listen I simply don't care if her ex gives her another chance. It's HIS decision not ours. If she and her ex both made the decision mutually to see each other again, if Limbs is okay with it then I don't see a problem. And just because she is seeing him again doesn't mean she's giving up everything. I think she knows she needs to work on herself and get better by this point.
cindy, the next time you film in public, please consider blurring out the people in the background, just for the sake of their privacy. of course, do so if possible, i know it takes more time and effort to blur things and people out.
Cindy i dont even know you but ive been watching your vlogs and ive grown a heart for you. I hate to be this kind of person but as much as it hurts to be alone (relationship wise) that’s exactly what you need. Nobody u put urself in a relationship with is going to be with you long if you dont make yourself better cindy, your just going to keep going into the same rabbit hole of emotions and heartache.
My dear..... you do not need a relationship at this time.... sorry honey. I always speak truth...first off its only been two weeks....you do you though....i could tell before you mentioned him that you had spoke way before you just mentioned it....keep telling yourself...all this stuff... you need to learn to be by yourself...period...good luck love...😊❤
It doesn't sound like she's abandoning it. But hyperfocusing on recovery has its ups and downs. She has more time to do it which is great, but it gets overwhelming so fast that you need to take breaks and walk away from it periodically. No harm at all going out and being social in between. The workbooks even mention putting your attention into how others are doing when you're too overwhelmed with your own emotions. Plus, recovery is not on a time limit and once you hit rock bottom, it's very hard to go back to how things were before. So I think things are fine.
@@SDjilliaRE yep. I have BPD and in my case it overlaps with OCD and a couple other conditions. I’ll be 64 tomorrow and I do wish Cindy well. I was suggesting balance as it seems yesterday’s update you can see how depressed she was and 24 hours later she’s beaming. That’s a bit alarming. I’m rooting for her. Just concerned.
One week ago...Goes to the post office depressed af only to find no viewer mail on top of her already shitty mood. Today's vlog...Hits the jackpot with viewer mail! Well played, girl. Well played. 😂 Then admits he's back. Hope none of that viewer mail was from supporters who were happy to see you work on yourself without a man. ✌
How did you come up with that from her being happy to see her friends whom are male and female? She's also not even dating her ex yet, just talking thing's out. Imagine you ruining something you didn't mean to, regardless of what it is and feeling terrible about it, then something turns around and there's a glimmer of hope thing's could go back to normal. YOU'D OBVIOUSLY BE HAPPY! Don't even fucking act like I'm stupid and say you've never done or said anything that messed something up.
Truly, I wish nothing but the best for you. But getting back with him :( I just see so much growth when you're single! And it seems that you make so many more good, healthy choices when you arent with anyone. I am so bummed out by this for some reason :( I am still looking forward to your healing though!
I can see how severely you change when a man enters your life, its so weird, you start fighting with yourself like your saying it to us but you sound like your saying it to yourself really, you seem so stable and then all of a sudden no we dont need to do the routine anymore no i dont need my workbook i need my mental health back, but you didn’t have ur mental health before the routines and workbooks cindy, you are back on the slope and you will fall off it because if he quit you that quickly before itll be even quicker next time! Make sure its love and not that u are just bored or looking for validation. Protect your heart. I wish you luck
@@DavidNelson-et3hewtf? We don't live in a dictatorship where critical opinions are not allowed. She herself puts her life out there and people are allowed to have - in this case valid - and critical opinions. Y'all live in a sugar coated candy world where noone is ever allowed to say something negative or critical. Got bad news for you: this is real life and when you put yourself out there you gotta live with the fact that people will voice their own opinions.
Oh Cindy most of us want you to be happy we do most of us are long time viewers before any of your vlogs. I wish you could be this happy without having a man provide it to you. I know people in my life who have run this same race, gone through the same cycle. I’ll tell you this. A man will never make you happy long term. As you know you wear your feelings on your sleeve and it’s easy to see when limbz doesn’t text you back or something upsets you. I hope that you can heal from your past and learn that living this way of only being happy with the attention of a man short term is not worth it. I hope you continue to work on yourself.
Why do see a partner as someone who who supports you? You need to be the one who supports you. You can't rely on someone else for your foundation . you have to create that for yourself. Ever hear the saying Guys are just desserts?
And friends and family. It's her BPD issue- she has to have a favorite person to validate her worth as a person.... and her boyfriend or husband is her favorite person. She feels empty without the constant validation from a favorite person
I love how you’re ignoring every single comment stating that seeing your ex is a bad idea lol. Girl, you know they’re not wrong. You throw every bit of “progress” out the window when you decide to depend on others for happiness. It’s sad, and it’s sad that you’re calling everyone who’s concerned about it a “hater”. He may not be toxic but you definitely still are, even if you don’t mean to be, and this isn’t going to end well because you refuse to put in any work or effort into improving yourself once you’re getting make attention.
So you think her reading a shit tonne of patronising comments is going to help her? The comment section here would send anyone into a spiral. Like stop.
@@giatasha2181 well her relying on men for happiness and throwing out every bit of progress she makes certainly isn’t going to help either. Some of y’all are enablers.
@@s1eepymommaaa no one knows this person. It’s just videos on TH-cam. Short videos. It is a person you don’t actually know who you are forming a somewhat negative parasocial relationship with by becoming overly invested. You are not a therapist and you make generalities such as ‘every bit of progress’. I actually think serial offers of pseudo psychoanalysis in comment sections is more worrying than the thing itself that you are giving pseudo advice on. But hey ho.
Delete your ex. I'm unsubscribing. I also have BPD, but I've never seen someone use it as such a crutch as you. What is your "hard life"? Tell me. Please.
😆😆barely been 2 weeks, Cindy is already doing much much much better and getting back with the ex, finding all the arguments to support her point yet again. I'm all for the tea that is to come in a little while 😁
Yeah, he has been on before but that does not mean sometime he would like to enjoy not being focus on, and also, changing his mind about it... that's totally normal.
Two things re the ex: just because you blame yourself for the breakup, you may not be seeing him clearly. I’d be sure to talk about this with your therapist. You might be emotionally flailing since you have trouble being emotionally stable alone.
Cindy, I just honestly hope you stop posting one day. Not because I dislike you, but just because this doesn't seem all that helpful. You read the comments I'm pretty sure- and they suck. One side enables you too much, the other side demonizes you too much. Bleh.
You've mentioned watching and doing the work with Crappy Childhood Fairy, so I am just really hoping you take her advice to heart. You shouldn't be in a relationship right now, but not because you may abuse or hurt your partner (which could still be the case), but because you need to learn how to defend and protect yourself. You're vulnerable to being manipulated and pushed around right now because of exactly everything you have been talking about and showing us. You do not like yourself; you feel unworthy, etc, etc. This opens you up to being preyed upon, and I am fearful that Limbz is doing this to you... but you're too close/into it to be able to see it... Or you're repeating your self-hate, self-sabotaging behaviors. I'm sorry, I really do hope you are able to genuinely work on yourself, but I don't think it's going to be on TH-cam... Maybe I am not seeing your life and situation for all the nuance that exists when the camera isn't filming, but for my own sanity, I am stepping away... I feel like I am watching you slowly kill yourself, and I can't do it. Good luck to you, really, Cindy... You've encouraged me to take more action in my own life, so I appreciate that.
And now all her fans calling people crazy for speculating that her ex was in the vlog from the garden visit are going to act like they weren’t gaslighting
tip regarding reading with a short attention span! i have ADHD so i struggle with that a lot. i found that listening to the audiobook and reading it on paper at the same time helps keep me engaged. buying audiobooks one by one can be quite expensive, but i have a Scribd subscription. they have a lot of audiobooks, ebooks, podcasts, articles, etc and it's unlimited listening/reading. it has changed my life, i've been reading 20-40 books a year for the last couple of years
you can always tell when things are smooth sailing with limbz again when cindy puts on this horrendous bro humour-ish personality that she's clearly mirroring from him, because that's what happens when you have no sense of self. When they were over, she was the most empty shell of a human being, when that switches to this hype, cracking jokes, talking with these weird voice patterns you know she's talking to him again bc that's clearly how HE is. The difference is night and day, and not just because she was sad and depressed and now she's happy. It's because she doesn't know how to be a person if it's not mimicking the person closest to her
Well I'm a "fan" of Cindy. I think what you wrote is a little harsh...but not entirely untrue. She's actually talked about this with BPD. It is a symptom of it and she has talked about not having a sense of "true self" her BPD is very trauma and neglect related. From a young age she learned to mimic who ever she was near to get some type of attention or affection.
I see a lot of myself in your behavior at times. You know, deep down, at the end of the day, that this person is not right for you. He saw your darkness and he abandoned you. And he will do it again. Trust me, please, learn to be okay with being by yourself or you will continue to live in fear.
I honestly LOVE the fact that you get excited for everything and genuinely seem to appreciate everything you get! Even the smaller or simple items, I think that says a lot about a person! 🥰
I love that too. I think it’s awesome that people get her gifts because it doesn’t look like she has a very supportive family that help her in any way. Very sad!
@leahzescape I think her sister is supportive!! But she has 6 (I think 🤔) kids, and lives a few hours away, so I think it's hard for them to see each other ☹️
@@kyleyG if I could send gifts I would. Even though my life isn’t that successful or as much as I’d like, I still believe in being happy for others who are and helping because in the end that’s all that really matters. We all share this world we should all support each other, none of us are getting out alive lol sounds so dramatic but it’s true
Why do you only hang out with B when you’re at a low and need someone? It seems like you cut him out when you’re doing well and don’t work to maintain your friendship unless you’re in a hard season.
She literally explained he had covid & goes out of town a lot for his work. He also has a wife & his own life, as well. Maybe ask Cindy to borrow a cold cloth from the freezer & chill out. 😎
I mean, B has his own family to take care of. It's probably hard for them to go out of their way to see each other. But also he's been around when they were both happy as well. That doesn't mean she is cutting him out on purpose when she is happy. If I remember correctly she mentioned she and her ex-boyfriend met B while they were together so... Also they're adults and he has a family so it's always hard to see friends for that reason. I haven't seen a few of my friends in person since high school for this very same reason. Doesn't mean we don't care about each other though.
I love that your getting out more and interacting with friends! It’s so important to balance healing with doing things that bring you joy. I hope you and limbs take things slow but you’re a grown woman and you know what’s best for you! ❤
You knew we knew and you lied to us. Said it was an old vlog. That’s called gaslighting. Hence why a lot of ppl think you have NPD. It’s the lie, Cindy. Yeah you’ve got work to do. Good luck to Limbs.
❤ sending you love and happiness, Cindy! I love watching your vlogs. I have been struggling with my mental health alot this year, and watching you work on and live with BPD has helped me alot! Just know that there are people out here who you've touched and are important too! Hope you have a great weekend! ❤
Enjoy your time growing. Breathe. Stop repeating the past. Beathe Go to nature and find your true self. Breathe Do not let Men drag back to where you came. Breathe. Men are for your future love. Breathe Cindy and enjoy you. Kia Kaha. NZ❤
Did yall not listen to the first part of the video? She literally said she had already done her morning routine and that it was now 9am(her shower makeup, journal, coffe, and her walk) Also she explained several times just a few days ago that she does the workbooks on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. But she is taking Wednesdays off and putting either Tuesday or Thursday (I cant remeber) because she has therapy on Wednesdays. So because yall have comprehension problems, that makes Cindy a lier and manipulative? Odd. Do you just hate watch for drama and not actually watch her vlogs or what?
still watching (only about halfway through) but I just want to say - I'm so proud of you! some people might be finding fault with you talking to your ex again, but honestly, you're both adults. _you're_ still committed to continuing your growth & healing, & _he_ already knows what he's getting into with dating someone who's working on recovering from bpd, so personally I think if you're both open & honest going in, I honestly wish you nothing but the best! 💝 also, heck YES to rediscovering your hobbies & also making space for them alongside your healing & growth! I've also been going through my own personal things (trying to focus all my energy on just keeping going every day, working on content, & keeping our house going now that I'm responsible for it) so I've just completely pushed aside everything that I previously enjoyed purely just because all of my energy's just been going towards "surviving" & battling my own mind...but it really is so important to still make time for those hobbies & things that make you _feel alive_ so you have a _reason_ for feeling like you need to keep going every day & have stuff to enjoy & look forward to! (totally using this comment to remind myself of that too!) 😅
For anyone that wants to know what you need to be as partner for a BPD person (and this comes from a therapist): -Draw boundaries -Love them unconditionaly -Be calm when they rage (don't pull up with their shit) For PBD persons: -When people choose to tell you they love you (or more like when they show you consistently they are doing right by you), choose to believe them. You dont need to test them, you just need to believe them. -Therapies
I found doing pomodor timed sprints helps to keep me focused. Maybe could try a similar thing, like 30 mins reading and a 15 or 10 min break. Hope it helps :)
You’ve just started to be serious about your treatment. I don’t think anyone thinks you have to be alone to heal it’s more about healing for a while on your own so you know you can go through distress on your own and that you can handle the ups and down. Get some practice w your new skills before you make it sound like you are ready to move forward w limbs. You can enjoy what you enjoy wo a boyfriend to distract you. I wish you the best but please stop rushing it will pay off in the end.
Hello Cindy, perfect timing, I’m settling in to bed, getting cozy as it’s cold… and there was your friendly face 😊 Love the format mix up. Also love the regular format… all content is appreciated. You’re acing Vlogtober! 🤗
PS of course it’s easier to be positive and happy after seeing your ex again. That’s very natural and anyone would be. That’s not something you to be ashamed of so ignore the haters! Embrace the happiness with no guilt or regrets!
This is your life Cindy don't let these internet know it all's shame you.. sometimes people are put in your path, then taken away, and then put back again for a purpose,, it got you to truly work on yourself. You realized just how destructive you can be and you are working hard to change it,, you don't deserve to be unhappy to make anyone especially your haters happy. Now you are learning some skills and you can work hard to show yourself you can handle situations before they get out of hand.. you deserve to be happy an no one has a right to say differently and if they do? so what, they don't live your life,, keep moving forward
Have you ever stained your hair with henna, Cindy? I like the way it fortifies your hair whilst adding colour, plus it's all natural. It coats the shaft of the hair strands (rather than lifting the cuticle to reach the cortex like permanent chemical hair colour) so it can be very strengthening if you have fine or brittle hair and makes your hair feel thicker and more voluminous. I like how it adds shine to hair without making it look greasy like using oils or conditioners on their own can be. It can be a little bit drying immediately after the staining but that's easily remedied with jojoba or avocado seed oil. If you want to cut down the coppery tones that henna normally gives, you can add amla powder to give an ashier, more coffee brown than copper brown. Amla is another great, all-natural hair mask you can do that will condition the hair and the scalp without causing build up like some conditioners tend to do. When you mentioned the root spray to make your hair look thicker, it sort of jogged my memory since I just stained my hair last week and I thought it might be something you're interested in researching about since you prefer to use natural skincare/beauty products.
Fr like you don't get old until you're 65 lol. 40 is middle-aged. Imagine looking back at these vlogs when you're actually old and hearing yourself say that 😭. I'm 21 y/o, enjoy your youth people
I’m glad you came forward about “limbz” lol and I understand why you wanted to keep it private. it’s crazy that people expect you to never want/need some privacy about some things just because you vlog…
@@dinealone0 No, but the things she decides to share, she needs to not lie about lmao. Because at this point idk how anyone believes a word she says. She doesn’t have to go into detail about anything, she chooses to, but she also chooses to lie about everything she decides to share 😂
Don’t allow bpd ruin the relationship with your bf again if you get back with him. Pause if you feel a trigger and walk away before you escalate the situation.
YAY! I'm glad the highlighters got there. As soon as you said you needed a highlighter I went looking for something foresty as I have some neutral ones myself (but not those ones). Anyways I hope they help and that everything turns out with Limbz such that everyone is happy and healthy, whatever that looks like. As someone who has been through lots of therapy it's not always true that we need to love ourselves before we can love someone else. I believe you when you say you're doing this for you, I can feel it in your voice that you're done with feeling so much instability and pain. I'm proud of you for sticking with your self-care and healing!
The internet has this amazing ability to make us feel close to people we don't know and never will 😅. No one can possibly know another person completely even if you spend your whole life with them,and some people think they know everything about you from videos and lives? 😅 wtf. I like to watch you because I love vlogs,I love to watch other peoples lives when they display it willingly and because its entertaining. I'll NEVER assume I know you OR give you unsolicited opinions about what YOU should do about your personal life. You do you Cindy. Man,some people are really weird. I bet if they could control every aspect of your life to fit what they think is right they would. I'm glad you're seeing him again. He seems to have a lot of respect for himself (can only speculate...) and he takes no shit so yeah 😂 Loving the vlogtober so far 🥰😘
Im totally getting that BPD card deck, that is awesome. I got rhe workbook you recommended and its been a LOT but very eye opening And i wanna say the wavyness your hair has in this video is very pretty !
Hey Cindy, im glad you had a great weekend. You put way too much pressure on yourself. Youve been working so hard on yourself and ex can see that as well. Good im glad its bringing you joy. Hed be realising what a beautiful soul and person and just what hes been missing xxxx We all want you to be happy 😊
We all work on ourselves and while we do so we learn what works and doesn't work for us. It's always a process. Cindy stay true to yourself and your goal and good things will follow. Thanks for sharing your journey with us ☺
do you use prescription retinol or tretinoin? i wish you could talk about that and how you started using it. i have some and over the counter retinol. i want to start using it again but its hard getting past the break out and irritation phase to start it again. like you could talk about your skincare routine. what cleanser do you use while using tretinoin?
YES!!! 🎉I am so happy to see this title and especially to hear you are back in touch with “Limbs”❤ also happy for the other update like seeing “B”. I am of the belief you can definitely work on yourself and still have a healthy relationship. I think having someone you care about while you work on yourself is a positive thing if the person is right for you and you continue to apply what you learned about yourself and BPD BUT you should NOT try to be perfect either. I’m %100 rooting for you! I have been working on myself for years and I find I often need weeks to absorb some of the deeper or more triggering topics. Some things require more work for different people and some topics you might breeze through could be harder for others. So do your therapy and BPD work slow and steady when you feel less emotional energy. You’re doing very well Cindy! Virtual pat on the back and hugs! Xoxo❤
Happy you are choosing you. You are aware that you still need to work on yourself. So just keep that up. Sometimes and this is speaking from experience, you need someone that cares, someone that understands and someone willing to work with you. It took being scared to lose someone I loved to wake up and make some changes with me. More power to you Cindy! You're right this is your life and you get to choose happiness. You're being realistic with about it so even if it doesn't work out of course you'll be sad but look how far you came thus far. ❤
You are so loved. Your gifts are straight from the soul of your friends. Isn't that a wonderful thing? The precious little girl in you is so delighted. You're healing by leaps and bounds.
I love percolators. They get the coffee especially hot. So its nice when you add your creamer and your coffee is still hot. Glad to see you looking strong and content.
Good for you Ci dy and you can still work on the best version of yourself, and limbs can help as he can encourage you as he'll see the progress. You go girl.. Merry meet from Scotland 🤗💙🧙
"You don't need to be single in order to work on yourself." It's not that. Imagine being this happy, without another person (a partner) validating you. His attention makes you happy, when you don't have his attention, you're sad and lonely. I wish you'd work on yourself to the point you'd be content by yourself, without the need of a partner's validation. 🤷♀️
I agree- she’s so desperate for the attention of men, that she refuses to truly work on herself! The only person she is “fooling” is herself! Is so sad to watch her; her happiness is completely dependent on the approval of a man- it’s a cycle; she’ll be crying and depressed again, because he will leave her again...just a matter of time! He, too, must have issues as well, to have taken her back so damn quickly!! A relationship doomed for success!!! Girl- you need serious help...an instant relationship will NOT fix you!!!!!
Nah but when you say this you're "attacking" and you're just being mean. Even though this has been said several times 12 different ways to Sunday. Ru Paul has a whole song about it but yea you can't tell people that or its rude or whatever
@@UsernameUnkwn21 thanks for replying on a 4 MONTH OLD COMMENT. You're weird for that.
You were right when you said you shouldn’t be in a relationship right now. You are nowhere near ready and it will end badly again. I am not wishing this for you at all, but the truth is you just aren’t ready.
@@UsernameUnkwn21Well it was obvious to everyone except for her! I hope she learns to be ok on her own for awhile - for real this time.
This doesn’t come from a place of hate, but it is criticism , and I know you don’t handle criticism well. Girl, you’ve only been with him for what? A couple of months? And you took the break up really bad. You’re not putting in the “work” you think you are. I suggest you create distance and boundaries. You have to learn to control your emotions and love yourself first. Being in a relationship or just talking to an ex can be very emotional and you can/will spiral again. You don’t need him the way you think you do.
She's like a relationship addict . She can't (yet) think of that kind of stuff rationally . Like why she has to be with him or be alone a long time ? Why? She only knew him a few months and she is attached to him like they been together for years. More rational would be her saying she is going to pause dating for a few months until she is better emotionally and realize their will be guys available to date then.
@@DbleP111 She said they've been in contact since the breakup. She spiraled off the medication and things were rocky in the time she was getting back on it. It's not too much of a surprise that they'd start having normal conversations about what happened now that that element is worked out.
Here we go again.
Is this a remake of the movie Groundhog Day? Seems like it.
And the cycle continues
Genuine question, if you are monogamous, and your ex was posting on subreddits that are for swingers and hookups, including during the time you were together, how does that work? If you say you can only be in monogamous relationships, (which is valid because I'm the same way) how are you okay with that? If you were so paranoid about A cheating. How is this okay?
I'm genuinely trying to understand. Please keep up with therapy and workbooks 💜
Also I'm from Wisconsin and Door County is a popular vacation spot. They are known for their wines too. And a cranberry festival I think. If you liked Michigan, you'll love Wisconsin in the fall. And there are cheese stores everywhere!
She was in denial and had very low self esteem unfortunately
Can confirm! as a Wisconsinite from Appleton 🧀 🍻 🏈
Didn't Limbz make those posts in June? I don't think they got serious until July/August.
@@lakab2 I think you're right, but Cindy said the relationship was almost 4 months, so I don't know the exact timeline. Either way, you'd think she'd have a problem with this because of how paranoid she was about A cheating. Even looking at another woman. So even if they weren't exclusive, it still seems incompatible with her.
I've been in an exclusive relationship for a couple of years, but back when I was on the dating apps, if anyone said they were poly, or looking for something open, I knew to just keep swiping. Because while I don't judge my poly friends, it's not for me personally. That's why I'm confused.
where does this come from? Did she mention he was poly and I missed it? Confused
It’s absolutely bizarre how the near-crying voice we’ve heard throughout the last several vlogs is GONE and seemingly all because of contact with an ex/ the hope of rekindling a relationship. It all feels very performative.
That’s bc the “shaky voice” is fake lol. People only do it for sympathy.
im noticing a pattern, shes only happy when she has a partner / is talking to an ex. this observation is coming from a place of love
It's a very Manic difference, there's no middle ground. Just WAY up or WAY down, never know which one you're gunna get. Idk...
@@moniqueluther5814Mania is not one of the nine criteria for the diagnosis of BPD. Also note that exhileration does not qualify as mania.
@@moniqueluther5814stop diagnosing from small snippets of videos you see.
Spicy hot cup, that is a very common trait of BPD.
@@brittanyb5942 ty for letting me know im not very educated on bpd
also not necessarily trying to nitpick, but that previous vlog where you showed the completely empty po box..i just feel like a lot of people would've just cut out the parts mentioning going to check the po box and also the part checking the po box and finding nothing bc well.. there's nothing LMAO but instead she keeps it in, and now she's got a ton of gifts that she's excitedly opening like a kid on christmas. I'm just saying, I'd for sure not even include the po box in any part of the vlog knowing I checked and there was nothing bc what's the point..except for if you're trying to hint at wanting more shit to come through your po box ;)
lol trust..that is beyond nitpicking ...
@@craftyfoodie-3333 you're riding so hard for a woman who wouldn't give 2 shits about if u lived or died
He's not even boyfriend material. The wish to be with him comes from unhealthy BPD habits. He's not worth it, this relationship isn't worth holding onto.
Not that I think she should be in a relationship but I mean he hasn't had any red flags that I've seen?? He seems pretty normal and average honestly
You said the same thing about not looking for anyone else and being single for a really long time after Andrew as well. You will NOT remain single, you think you NEED a relationship, you NEED a man, and you go crazy if you dont have one. This guy is not for you, and you know that, youre way too jealous and i think he has your number. I felt sorry for him before, but now, i think he knows exactly what youre about, and how to take advantage of it. Remember, narcissists love borderlines, this wont end well..then it wont end well again...then again..then again...yes Cindy, youre doing an amazing job, youre coming along nicely..youre an amazing example of what NOT to do as a person with bpd when you actually want to get better.
@BeautyQueen2023X I don't believe Cindy is a narcissist, i do think she has narcissistic traits..and if you read that and think I was taking up for her, I don't know what to tell ya!😅
@BeautyQueen2023X if you don't think he is, then you don't know what I know, the man is a narcissist
I don't know if I'd take that leap. Yeah there's people that will take advantage of your weaknesses and get upset with you when you make progress. But from the sounds of things, they were really getting serious about each other and things just got messy. Sometimes you take risks with recovery (like changing/going off of certain meds in this case) and it doesn't pan out, but I think when people see that you are trying it does make a difference.
@@SDjilliaRE first of all, she has NO business being in a relationship whilst trying to better, especially when you barely have any time or effort in at all. Cindy is attempting to give the illusion of wanting to get better, but she doesn't, it's all for his benefit. He is a total narcissist, have you seen the way he speaks to people? This man thinks he is IT..Cindy inevitably went off, she did her borderline thing, and she will continue to. I thought maaayybbeee he was smart, maybe he would realize when you're with an untreated borderline, you will get the behavior, then apologies, then the behavior, then apologies, it won't end. She used the excuse of not having her meds, meds? For bpd? No. She can argue mood stabilizers work, but its very little if at all, no magic pill changes your personality, brain chemistry, yes, not your personality. She has other overlapping issues, you can tell, so if the med works at all, it's because it's helping that other issue, not her bpd. He is either a) really naive and he believes sHe WaS oFf HeR mEdIcAtIoN and that's what caused her to act out, so he's giving her another shot (will not help, trust me, the behavior will ALWAYS come back) or b) this is his way of taking advantage because he knows she chases and he gets off on it. He will split with her very easily now because he likes the control he has when he does it and he knows she will beg him back and be willing to do almost anything.
I was in therapy for YEARS for my bpd, not a virtual appt sometimes and a workbook every now and again when I want to create the illusion that I want to get better.
I did this same thing, many many times. You get desperate and say you'll do anything, you want them to think you're doing all of the right things and wanting the help, you talk about them like they're the best thing ever, you put them on a pedestal, they can do no wrong. I cant count how many times I did this. If I had a guess, I'd say he has already suggesting the swinging thing to her, it could've been what caused the blowup, who knows, but if he hasn't suggested, he will, and she will prob say yes because of the fear of him leaving again. If it did ever get that far..trust me, if you've never seen a borderline meltdown, sit back and observe.
This is the issue with relationships whilst getting therapy and trying to get better. It simply doesn't work. She knows it but she thinks she can't function without a man around, she needs the constant attention.
You said he knew his worth and I said kuddos to that! Now i don't know anymore.
clinging to someone who doesn’t even meet your non -negotiable/ (monogamy) good luck girlie
Can you explain..I'm not sure what's up😂
@@liveandletlive7152the website that’s forbidden found what is allegedly limbz account because they posted in the Cindy part of the forbidden site and then upon being found out they deleted most of their post history but a lot of it lined up with what we know about limbz. One of the frequent subs was Arkansas swingers. This has lead people to believe he is polyamorous. I’m 50/50 on weathe the account is him I also don’t know how I feel about all the posts being saved and reuploaded on the sub
@@liveandletlive7152 same here the heck did I miss?
@@liveandletlive7152elbows was posting on swingers/hook up forums during the relationship? Or was posting before seeing Cindy. The timeline is blurry.
@@liveandletlive7152there are screenshots of him posting in nsfw subreddits, like r/arkansasswingers, r/arkansashotwives, and r/arkansas_nsfw, including during the time they were together.
honestly can’t tell anymore who’s a fan and who’s a “hater” in the comments anymore. encouraging her to do better is one thing, encouraging her bad behavior is another.
Exactly. I have been a long time viewer and only wish her the best but imo getting back together with this guy is a major regress.
at the end of the day, this is a grown adult and no one needs to be parenting strangers online
As long as its two consenting adults with good intentions, it doesn't matter.
I think most are neither 'fans' nor 'haters.'
I understand you are concerned, but this comment sounds condescending imo and you know it's not true, majority of haters don't use weird manipulation tactics because there is a chance the hated person will turn out unhappy, mostly it's just kindergarten pettiness. What is bad behavior and why?
I'm gonna have to agree with some above replies. As viewers we are not her caretaker or her parent, and we are not responsible for bad decisions she makes. One, she has and will make decisions she wants regardless of what we think. And what bad behavior is being encouraged here? She's been working on her BPD books. She's on her meds again which going off of them seems to be the cause of some of that bad behavior.
Listen I simply don't care if her ex gives her another chance. It's HIS decision not ours. If she and her ex both made the decision mutually to see each other again, if Limbs is okay with it then I don't see a problem. And just because she is seeing him again doesn't mean she's giving up everything. I think she knows she needs to work on herself and get better by this point.
cindy, the next time you film in public, please consider blurring out the people in the background, just for the sake of their privacy. of course, do so if possible, i know it takes more time and effort to blur things and people out.
There are no expectation of privacy in public places. I get your point, but legally she can film whatever the eye can see in public places.
@@liset4081 that's why i said "please" and "consider" you silly one
@@CarolinaBr1 Not everyone knows that, so I felt it was important to clarify that legally there is no need.
@@liset4081 the fuck xd
Cindy i dont even know you but ive been watching your vlogs and ive grown a heart for you. I hate to be this kind of person but as much as it hurts to be alone (relationship wise) that’s exactly what you need. Nobody u put urself in a relationship with is going to be with you long if you dont make yourself better cindy, your just going to keep going into the same rabbit hole of emotions and heartache.
My dear..... you do not need a relationship at this time.... sorry honey. I always speak truth...first off its only been two weeks....you do you though....i could tell before you mentioned him that you had spoke way before you just mentioned it....keep telling yourself...all this stuff... you need to learn to be by yourself...period...good luck love...😊❤
They don’t have to be mutually exclusive. You can work your workbooks and see friends.
It’s not either or. Do both.
It doesn't sound like she's abandoning it. But hyperfocusing on recovery has its ups and downs. She has more time to do it which is great, but it gets overwhelming so fast that you need to take breaks and walk away from it periodically. No harm at all going out and being social in between. The workbooks even mention putting your attention into how others are doing when you're too overwhelmed with your own emotions. Plus, recovery is not on a time limit and once you hit rock bottom, it's very hard to go back to how things were before. So I think things are fine.
@@SDjilliaRE yep. I have BPD and in my case it overlaps with OCD and a couple other conditions. I’ll be 64 tomorrow and I do wish Cindy well. I was suggesting balance as it seems yesterday’s update you can see how depressed she was and 24 hours later she’s beaming. That’s a bit alarming.
I’m rooting for her.
Just concerned.
One week ago...Goes to the post office depressed af only to find no viewer mail on top of her already shitty mood. Today's vlog...Hits the jackpot with viewer mail! Well played, girl. Well played. 😂 Then admits he's back. Hope none of that viewer mail was from supporters who were happy to see you work on yourself without a man. ✌
Lol yup. Everything she does is by design. She's not stupid. She knows what to do to rake in those gifts and donations, yall!
She’s openly admitted to manipulating the audience, but I’m not sure she was expecting people to call her out when she was doing it in the future
It's really sad that you're only happy when receiving male attention.
How did you come up with that from her being happy to see her friends whom are male and female? She's also not even dating her ex yet, just talking thing's out. Imagine you ruining something you didn't mean to, regardless of what it is and feeling terrible about it, then something turns around and there's a glimmer of hope thing's could go back to normal. YOU'D OBVIOUSLY BE HAPPY! Don't even fucking act like I'm stupid and say you've never done or said anything that messed something up.
Truly, I wish nothing but the best for you. But getting back with him :(
I just see so much growth when you're single! And it seems that you make so many more good, healthy choices when you arent with anyone.
I am so bummed out by this for some reason :( I am still looking forward to your healing though!
I can see how severely you change when a man enters your life, its so weird, you start fighting with yourself like your saying it to us but you sound like your saying it to yourself really, you seem so stable and then all of a sudden no we dont need to do the routine anymore no i dont need my workbook i need my mental health back, but you didn’t have ur mental health before the routines and workbooks cindy, you are back on the slope and you will fall off it because if he quit you that quickly before itll be even quicker next time! Make sure its love and not that u are just bored or looking for validation. Protect your heart. I wish you luck
Notice how she only feels better when she sees her ex... I'm just hoping you are actually getting better for yourself and no one else
I think everyone does better when their loved and with someone they love. Just watch and enjoy or turn off your negative comments
@@DavidNelson-et3hei am allowed to voice my opinion...
@@DavidNelson-et3hewtf? We don't live in a dictatorship where critical opinions are not allowed. She herself puts her life out there and people are allowed to have - in this case valid - and critical opinions. Y'all live in a sugar coated candy world where noone is ever allowed to say something negative or critical. Got bad news for you: this is real life and when you put yourself out there you gotta live with the fact that people will voice their own opinions.
Expected it but …. Still doesn’t seem like the best idea. Oh well. Your life and it is what it is
Youve said most of this before already and now youre here saying it again . 😕 good luck girl
Oh Cindy most of us want you to be happy we do most of us are long time viewers before any of your vlogs. I wish you could be this happy without having a man provide it to you. I know people in my life who have run this same race, gone through the same cycle. I’ll tell you this. A man will never make you happy long term. As you know you wear your feelings on your sleeve and it’s easy to see when limbz doesn’t text you back or something upsets you. I hope that you can heal from your past and learn that living this way of only being happy with the attention of a man short term is not worth it. I hope you continue to work on yourself.
Why do see a partner as someone who who supports you? You need to be the one who supports you. You can't rely on someone else for your foundation . you have to create that for yourself. Ever hear the saying Guys are just desserts?
And friends and family. It's her BPD issue- she has to have a favorite person to validate her worth as a person.... and her boyfriend or husband is her favorite person. She feels empty without the constant validation from a favorite person
She'll get there eventually, but it takes time. You have to have the right breakthroughs in order to truly rely on yourself.
I love how you’re ignoring every single comment stating that seeing your ex is a bad idea lol. Girl, you know they’re not wrong. You throw every bit of “progress” out the window when you decide to depend on others for happiness. It’s sad, and it’s sad that you’re calling everyone who’s concerned about it a “hater”. He may not be toxic but you definitely still are, even if you don’t mean to be, and this isn’t going to end well because you refuse to put in any work or effort into improving yourself once you’re getting make attention.
So you think her reading a shit tonne of patronising comments is going to help her? The comment section here would send anyone into a spiral. Like stop.
Why would she respond to asinine comments? Good on her for not engaging with people who are here just to create drama.
@@taryngeissler8797 the people concerned about her behavior pattern aren’t here to cause drama lol. She does enough of that on her own.
@@giatasha2181 well her relying on men for happiness and throwing out every bit of progress she makes certainly isn’t going to help either. Some of y’all are enablers.
@@s1eepymommaaa no one knows this person. It’s just videos on TH-cam. Short videos. It is a person you don’t actually know who you are forming a somewhat negative parasocial relationship with by becoming overly invested. You are not a therapist and you make generalities such as ‘every bit of progress’. I actually think serial offers of pseudo psychoanalysis in comment sections is more worrying than the thing itself that you are giving pseudo advice on. But hey ho.
Delete your ex. I'm unsubscribing. I also have BPD, but I've never seen someone use it as such a crutch as you. What is your "hard life"? Tell me. Please.
BPD is her entire personality
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😆😆barely been 2 weeks, Cindy is already doing much much much better and getting back with the ex, finding all the arguments to support her point yet again. I'm all for the tea that is to come in a little while 😁
It’s a miracle she healed herself enough for a relationship so quickly, huh?
I get why B doesn’t want to be on camera, people are insane!!!
Its good hes trying to protect himself because people on the internet can be so damn cruel and find everything wrong with you out of context. :(
He's been on before, not a lot, but he has
@@yumyum7080he stopped wanting to be on her vlogs because of things people have said about him.
Yeah, he has been on before but that does not mean sometime he would like to enjoy not being focus on, and also, changing his mind about it... that's totally normal.
Of course it isn’t B.
Two things re the ex: just because you blame yourself for the breakup, you may not be seeing him clearly. I’d be sure to talk about this with your therapist. You might be emotionally flailing since you have trouble being emotionally stable alone.
ah… I hope this guy really is a good one and not playing games… 😰
Hoping for you to be happy. Just remember to never stop working on yourself no matter how happy you begin to feel in life 💜
Cindy, I just honestly hope you stop posting one day. Not because I dislike you, but just because this doesn't seem all that helpful. You read the comments I'm pretty sure- and they suck. One side enables you too much, the other side demonizes you too much.
Bleh.
lookin a lil like the crazy ex gf meme in the thumb there cindy
You've mentioned watching and doing the work with Crappy Childhood Fairy, so I am just really hoping you take her advice to heart. You shouldn't be in a relationship right now, but not because you may abuse or hurt your partner (which could still be the case), but because you need to learn how to defend and protect yourself.
You're vulnerable to being manipulated and pushed around right now because of exactly everything you have been talking about and showing us. You do not like yourself; you feel unworthy, etc, etc. This opens you up to being preyed upon, and I am fearful that Limbz is doing this to you... but you're too close/into it to be able to see it... Or you're repeating your self-hate, self-sabotaging behaviors.
I'm sorry, I really do hope you are able to genuinely work on yourself, but I don't think it's going to be on TH-cam... Maybe I am not seeing your life and situation for all the nuance that exists when the camera isn't filming, but for my own sanity, I am stepping away... I feel like I am watching you slowly kill yourself, and I can't do it.
Good luck to you, really, Cindy... You've encouraged me to take more action in my own life, so I appreciate that.
And now all her fans calling people crazy for speculating that her ex was in the vlog from the garden visit are going to act like they weren’t gaslighting
wait when
Nobody has done that.
@@albin2232 I definitely saw people saying it was crazy to make that assumption “just” from the shadow behind her
It’s not that serious really. Spend some time in the garden hun.
tip regarding reading with a short attention span! i have ADHD so i struggle with that a lot. i found that listening to the audiobook and reading it on paper at the same time helps keep me engaged. buying audiobooks one by one can be quite expensive, but i have a Scribd subscription. they have a lot of audiobooks, ebooks, podcasts, articles, etc and it's unlimited listening/reading. it has changed my life, i've been reading 20-40 books a year for the last couple of years
What a great idea!
I have ADHD and have run into the issue of getting distracted when I read. Going to try this to get back into it!
@@inedibledunnock good luck! i hope it helps!
you can always tell when things are smooth sailing with limbz again when cindy puts on this horrendous bro humour-ish personality that she's clearly mirroring from him, because that's what happens when you have no sense of self. When they were over, she was the most empty shell of a human being, when that switches to this hype, cracking jokes, talking with these weird voice patterns you know she's talking to him again bc that's clearly how HE is. The difference is night and day, and not just because she was sad and depressed and now she's happy. It's because she doesn't know how to be a person if it's not mimicking the person closest to her
And this affects your life how? Maybe stop watching her if she bothers you this much?
I'm not sure the extent of that, but she has talked about that as a symptom of BPD. Having the workbooks handy should help navigate it.
Well I'm a "fan" of Cindy. I think what you wrote is a little harsh...but not entirely untrue. She's actually talked about this with BPD. It is a symptom of it and she has talked about not having a sense of "true self" her BPD is very trauma and neglect related. From a young age she learned to mimic who ever she was near to get some type of attention or affection.
Who’s limbz ?
I see a lot of myself in your behavior at times. You know, deep down, at the end of the day, that this person is not right for you. He saw your darkness and he abandoned you. And he will do it again. Trust me, please, learn to be okay with being by yourself or you will continue to live in fear.
Here we go again 😂
I honestly LOVE the fact that you get excited for everything and genuinely seem to appreciate everything you get! Even the smaller or simple items, I think that says a lot about a person! 🥰
I love that too. I think it’s awesome that people get her gifts because it doesn’t look like she has a very supportive family that help her in any way. Very sad!
@leahzescape I think her sister is supportive!! But she has 6 (I think 🤔) kids, and lives a few hours away, so I think it's hard for them to see each other ☹️
@@kyleyG if I could send gifts I would. Even though my life isn’t that successful or as much as I’d like, I still believe in being happy for others who are and helping because in the end that’s all that really matters. We all share this world we should all support each other, none of us are getting out alive lol sounds so dramatic but it’s true
Cindy please don’t stop journaling or doing your workbooks!
I won’t! Don’t worry!
Why do you only hang out with B when you’re at a low and need someone? It seems like you cut him out when you’re doing well and don’t work to maintain your friendship unless you’re in a hard season.
absolutely
Because she is selfish! Hopefully one day B will figure out that he’s only therapy for her and not a true friend 🤷♀️
She literally explained he had covid & goes out of town a lot for his work. He also has a wife & his own life, as well. Maybe ask Cindy to borrow a cold cloth from the freezer & chill out. 😎
@@prickhead you haven’t been here long enough to see the pattern. Come back when you’re better versed in the Cindy lore 🫶🏼
I mean, B has his own family to take care of. It's probably hard for them to go out of their way to see each other. But also he's been around when they were both happy as well. That doesn't mean she is cutting him out on purpose when she is happy. If I remember correctly she mentioned she and her ex-boyfriend met B while they were together so... Also they're adults and he has a family so it's always hard to see friends for that reason. I haven't seen a few of my friends in person since high school for this very same reason. Doesn't mean we don't care about each other though.
Shout out to Olya (sp?) for always supplying the pups with necessities ❤
I love that your getting out more and interacting with friends! It’s so important to balance healing with doing things that bring you joy. I hope you and limbs take things slow but you’re a grown woman and you know what’s best for you! ❤
Noooooooo
Please keep doing the colour and insense of the day segment. I love that bit 😩😩
Same
You knew we knew and you lied to us. Said it was an old vlog. That’s called gaslighting. Hence why a lot of ppl think you have NPD. It’s the lie, Cindy. Yeah you’ve got work to do. Good luck to Limbs.
My birthday was yesterday Friday the 13th and I turned 31😯 Sending positive vibes to you this weekend Cindy🖤😘
Happy birthday!!
@@LifePlusCindyThank you🖤
happy birthday 🥳
Happy birthday!! Enjoy your 30’s. They will go fast but they will be good ones 🫶🏻
Hey birthday neighbour, mine is today! :D Happy belated birthday!
❤ sending you love and happiness, Cindy! I love watching your vlogs. I have been struggling with my mental health alot this year, and watching you work on and live with BPD has helped me alot! Just know that there are people out here who you've touched and are important too!
Hope you have a great weekend! ❤
Enjoy your time growing.
Breathe.
Stop repeating the past.
Beathe
Go to nature and find your true self.
Breathe
Do not let Men drag back to where you came.
Breathe.
Men are for your future love.
Breathe Cindy and enjoy you.
Kia Kaha.
NZ❤
Did you skip the workbooks today
@@dotty1220how u get manipulated by someone you don’t know 😭
She needs to start journaling and doing her workbooks again!
Did yall not listen to the first part of the video? She literally said she had already done her morning routine and that it was now 9am(her shower makeup, journal, coffe, and her walk)
Also she explained several times just a few days ago that she does the workbooks on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. But she is taking Wednesdays off and putting either Tuesday or Thursday (I cant remeber) because she has therapy on Wednesdays.
So because yall have comprehension problems, that makes Cindy a lier and manipulative? Odd.
Do you just hate watch for drama and not actually watch her vlogs or what?
still watching (only about halfway through) but I just want to say - I'm so proud of you! some people might be finding fault with you talking to your ex again, but honestly, you're both adults. _you're_ still committed to continuing your growth & healing, & _he_ already knows what he's getting into with dating someone who's working on recovering from bpd, so personally I think if you're both open & honest going in, I honestly wish you nothing but the best! 💝
also, heck YES to rediscovering your hobbies & also making space for them alongside your healing & growth! I've also been going through my own personal things (trying to focus all my energy on just keeping going every day, working on content, & keeping our house going now that I'm responsible for it) so I've just completely pushed aside everything that I previously enjoyed purely just because all of my energy's just been going towards "surviving" & battling my own mind...but it really is so important to still make time for those hobbies & things that make you _feel alive_ so you have a _reason_ for feeling like you need to keep going every day & have stuff to enjoy & look forward to! (totally using this comment to remind myself of that too!) 😅
For anyone that wants to know what you need to be as partner for a BPD person (and this comes from a therapist):
-Draw boundaries
-Love them unconditionaly
-Be calm when they rage (don't pull up with their shit)
For PBD persons:
-When people choose to tell you they love you (or more like when they show you consistently they are doing right by you), choose to believe them. You dont need to test them, you just need to believe them.
-Therapies
I found doing pomodor timed sprints helps to keep me focused. Maybe could try a similar thing, like 30 mins reading and a 15 or 10 min break. Hope it helps :)
So glad you're seeing friends again! There's always a glow about you when you have an active social life!
You’ve just started to be serious about your treatment. I don’t think anyone thinks you have to be alone to heal it’s more about healing for a while on your own so you know you can go through distress on your own and that you can handle the ups and down. Get some practice w your new skills before you make it sound like you are ready to move forward w limbs. You can enjoy what you enjoy wo a boyfriend to distract you. I wish you the best but please stop rushing it will pay off in the end.
Did you reach out to limbs or did he reach out to you after the breakup?
The fact that we didn’t hear about the ex until after the 10 min mark. A monetization queen for real! 😂
Thumbnail kinda looks like Jim Carrey. "Alrighty then!"
Hello Cindy, perfect timing, I’m settling in to bed, getting cozy as it’s cold… and there was your friendly face 😊
Love the format mix up. Also love the regular format… all content is appreciated.
You’re acing Vlogtober! 🤗
Thank you!
B is usually very chatty and happy to be on camera, interesting! 🤔
Until everyone attacked him for making silly jokes that were in no way insensitive or racist in a Mexican restaurant.
tbf he probs is mortified
I don't blame him for not wanting to be on camera.
I don't believe for a minute that's B.....
B’s wife does not like Cindy constantly relying on him for support. I think he is torn about it.
PS of course it’s easier to be positive and happy after seeing your ex again. That’s very natural and anyone would be. That’s not something you to be ashamed of so ignore the haters! Embrace the happiness with no guilt or regrets!
My husband just up and bought a percolator, something I had not even seen since I was a kid. Those things make a smooooth cup of coffee.
My grandmother had a little one it was cute! I'm considering getting one!!
This is your life Cindy don't let these internet know it all's shame you.. sometimes people are put in your path, then taken away, and then put back again for a purpose,, it got you to truly work on yourself. You realized just how destructive you can be and you are working hard to change it,, you don't deserve to be unhappy to make anyone especially your haters happy. Now you are learning some skills and you can work hard to show yourself you can handle situations before they get out of hand.. you deserve to be happy an no one has a right to say differently and if they do? so what, they don't live your life,, keep moving forward
i feel like i have the opposite problem to her; i can't stand to be with anyone. she can't stand to be without anyone lol
Have you ever stained your hair with henna, Cindy? I like the way it fortifies your hair whilst adding colour, plus it's all natural. It coats the shaft of the hair strands (rather than lifting the cuticle to reach the cortex like permanent chemical hair colour) so it can be very strengthening if you have fine or brittle hair and makes your hair feel thicker and more voluminous. I like how it adds shine to hair without making it look greasy like using oils or conditioners on their own can be. It can be a little bit drying immediately after the staining but that's easily remedied with jojoba or avocado seed oil.
If you want to cut down the coppery tones that henna normally gives, you can add amla powder to give an ashier, more coffee brown than copper brown. Amla is another great, all-natural hair mask you can do that will condition the hair and the scalp without causing build up like some conditioners tend to do.
When you mentioned the root spray to make your hair look thicker, it sort of jogged my memory since I just stained my hair last week and I thought it might be something you're interested in researching about since you prefer to use natural skincare/beauty products.
Hey, 40 is not old. My brother is also 40. I may be 24 but I don't think 40 is old. Lol.
Fr like you don't get old until you're 65 lol. 40 is middle-aged. Imagine looking back at these vlogs when you're actually old and hearing yourself say that 😭. I'm 21 y/o, enjoy your youth people
I’m glad you came forward about “limbz” lol and I understand why you wanted to keep it private. it’s crazy that people expect you to never want/need some privacy about some things just because you vlog…
It’s not because she vlogs lol, it’s because she overshares but lies to her entire audience while oversharing.
@@s1eepymommaaaso you expect her to keep “over sharing”? but also not because it’s over sharing?
@@dinealone0 No, but the things she decides to share, she needs to not lie about lmao. Because at this point idk how anyone believes a word she says. She doesn’t have to go into detail about anything, she chooses to, but she also chooses to lie about everything she decides to share 😂
I love seeing the incense of the day 😢
Sorry! I’ll still do it from time to time. :)
Be free ,life's short....
I’ve been watching your old vlogs today, waiting for today’s vlog!😃
You do you, Cindy - most important, 'cause it will be you and only you that you'll be living with your whole life through! 🌷XXX🌷
I would LOVE if you got to a point where you recommend books in your vlogs. I'm a sucker for booktube and reading vlogs. 😂❤
Don’t allow bpd ruin the relationship with your bf again if you get back with him. Pause if you feel a trigger and walk away before you escalate the situation.
Not sure but the flowering plant looks like queen annes lace
YAY! I'm glad the highlighters got there. As soon as you said you needed a highlighter I went looking for something foresty as I have some neutral ones myself (but not those ones). Anyways I hope they help and that everything turns out with Limbz such that everyone is happy and healthy, whatever that looks like. As someone who has been through lots of therapy it's not always true that we need to love ourselves before we can love someone else. I believe you when you say you're doing this for you, I can feel it in your voice that you're done with feeling so much instability and pain. I'm proud of you for sticking with your self-care and healing!
The internet has this amazing ability to make us feel close to people we don't know and never will 😅. No one can possibly know another person completely even if you spend your whole life with them,and some people think they know everything about you from videos and lives? 😅 wtf. I like to watch you because I love vlogs,I love to watch other peoples lives when they display it willingly and because its entertaining. I'll NEVER assume I know you OR give you unsolicited opinions about what YOU should do about your personal life. You do you Cindy.
Man,some people are really weird. I bet if they could control every aspect of your life to fit what they think is right they would.
I'm glad you're seeing him again. He seems to have a lot of respect for himself (can only speculate...) and he takes no shit so yeah 😂
Loving the vlogtober so far
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Wow that's way too level headed of you! This is not the place for it!😂😂
Im totally getting that BPD card deck, that is awesome. I got rhe workbook you recommended and its been a LOT but very eye opening
And i wanna say the wavyness your hair has in this video is very pretty !
Hey Cindy, im glad you had a great weekend. You put way too much pressure on yourself. Youve been working so hard on yourself and ex can see that as well. Good im glad its bringing you joy. Hed be realising what a beautiful soul and person and just what hes been missing xxxx
We all want you to be happy 😊
Keep on taking care of yourself! Maybe there's other activities you can do that gets you out of the house more regularly too.
I’m happy you’re surrounding yourself with good people- just don’t slip back Cindy. You’re working hard on yourself… I believe in you.
We all work on ourselves and while we do so we learn what works and doesn't work for us. It's always a process. Cindy stay true to yourself and your goal and good things will follow. Thanks for sharing your journey with us ☺
do you use prescription retinol or tretinoin? i wish you could talk about that and how you started using it. i have some and over the counter retinol. i want to start using it again but its hard getting past the break out and irritation phase to start it again. like you could talk about your skincare routine. what cleanser do you use while using tretinoin?
What's the difference between over the counter and prescription retinol?
If I Remember right she use Cerave retinol. But I am not 100% sure.
My parents had a percolator in the 70's that made the most soothing noise while it brewed...
YES!!! 🎉I am so happy to see this title and especially to hear you are back in touch with “Limbs”❤ also happy for the other update like seeing “B”. I am of the belief you can definitely work on yourself and still have a healthy relationship. I think having someone you care about while you work on yourself is a positive thing if the person is right for you and you continue to apply what you learned about yourself and BPD BUT you should NOT try to be perfect either. I’m %100 rooting for you! I have been working on myself for years and I find I often need weeks to absorb some of the deeper or more triggering topics. Some things require more work for different people and some topics you might breeze through could be harder for others. So do your therapy and BPD work slow and steady when you feel less emotional energy. You’re doing very well Cindy! Virtual pat on the back and hugs! Xoxo❤
Thank you!!
Happy you are choosing you. You are aware that you still need to work on yourself. So just keep that up. Sometimes and this is speaking from experience, you need someone that cares, someone that understands and someone willing to work with you. It took being scared to lose someone I loved to wake up and make some changes with me. More power to you Cindy! You're right this is your life and you get to choose happiness. You're being realistic with about it so even if it doesn't work out of course you'll be sad but look how far you came thus far. ❤
Proud of you Cindy and the work youve been putting in! Glad to see you making plans with friends😊
Thank you so much!!
You are so loved. Your gifts are straight from the soul of your friends. Isn't that a wonderful thing? The precious little girl in you is so delighted. You're healing by leaps and bounds.
I think the red tree may be a mulberry tree, we have them at my parents’ house and they are poisonous.
I was born on Friday the 13th too ❤...way back in 1969 lol
Pretty sure those vines with red berries are Night shade and yes poisonous. Night shade is in the family with Poison Ivy and Poison oak
Creepy AF
It says a lot about him to give you another chance. Let that sink in. He won’t again..
Or he's just a bum with no self-respect.
He's playing her.
@@ahhhhh5849 I guess we'll see how this plays out.
My husband was also born on Friday the 13, January of 1978
Where did you get the blanket on the couch at 13:26? I love it!!
Walmart.
Okay but can you tell us where the tunic and leggings came from? I LOOOVE the Halloween themed ones lol.
They came from Amazon, but that’s all I know!
I love percolators. They get the coffee especially hot. So its nice when you add your creamer and your coffee is still hot. Glad to see you looking strong and content.
Good for you Ci dy and you can still work on the best version of yourself, and limbs can help as he can encourage you as he'll see the progress. You go girl.. Merry meet from Scotland 🤗💙🧙
I don't get it why more people don't think like us❤