I am learning to recognize when I am having that urge to lash out, and catch myself before I snap. Like Anna was talking about, realizing I need some time to "cool off" and regulate myself before going forward with the conversation. Accepting that I do have emotional health limitations, and it's not always possible for me to have healthy, regulated responses at all times. It's ok to take a break, and come back to it later when I feel more level-headed (not in a trigger response).
Have you ever cried out of anger? Like, people around you see you cry non stop and think you're a little flower for crying but you're actually raging inside? I really want to control my anger because it always comes out in weird ways. I don't want to be cold or mean, but i also don't wanna cry and raise my voice like someone who can't control their emotions. I just want to feel grounded in myself.
I do sometimes cry when I'm angry. Especially when I'm in a situation that doesn't allow for discussion of feelings, like at work or a social engagement. My anger feels overwhelming at those times, because I feel it so intensely but I know it's not an appropriate time/place to talk about it.
@christinelamb1167 100% At work i was called "to soft for this job" because i cried once, but honestly i was crying so i wouldn't chop someone's head off instead
You explain things so well. I can't tell you how many times I reacted inappropriately in my life. My career and relationships have suffered as a result. I am now 69 and retired, so no more fear of crying or reacting angrily at work. I know I would have been more successful had my emotions and responses been better regulated.
As someone else here said, it can creep up and it creeped up today. I was yelling at my roommate and I didn't even realize I was. It was because I had trouble with a website and I was really yelling about something and I could tell he was upset. I had to apologize. How in the world do I stop? I'm just thinking out loud; that was not a question. Thank you for this video I needed it today.
God forgive me for all my lashing out. Redeem me from such an awful habit that I learned and observed over and over. Help me overcome and grow 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you ✝️🙌🏻
I just had this happen to me for three days. Tuesday through Thursday. I was advocating for pets I was caring for for these days and things happened that were unexpected. I on many occasions was a little cra cra not getting the answers and help I was asking for. I flipped them out, I was storming out the door, I was yelling or intense with the dog owner wanting the dogs to have better care because I felt they deserved that. I went out of my body and lost my mind. It was not good since I became afraid of myself doing something I regret. I am proud of myself for standing up for what is right. I need to learn how to calm down. I felt more frustrated that I am not being heard or the help.
I feel if my colleage would just say out aloud "stop yourself!" i could balance back immediately. I asked her to say that to me when I lash out, but she said, she doesn't want to do that.. 😶
It can creep up. Lashing out is regrettable. Snapping at your breaking point. Pay attention to your emotional health limitations.
I am learning to recognize when I am having that urge to lash out, and catch myself before I snap. Like Anna was talking about, realizing I need some time to "cool off" and regulate myself before going forward with the conversation. Accepting that I do have emotional health limitations, and it's not always possible for me to have healthy, regulated responses at all times. It's ok to take a break, and come back to it later when I feel more level-headed (not in a trigger response).
Have you ever cried out of anger?
Like, people around you see you cry non stop and think you're a little flower for crying but you're actually raging inside?
I really want to control my anger because it always comes out in weird ways. I don't want to be cold or mean, but i also don't wanna cry and raise my voice like someone who can't control their emotions.
I just want to feel grounded in myself.
I do sometimes cry when I'm angry. Especially when I'm in a situation that doesn't allow for discussion of feelings, like at work or a social engagement. My anger feels overwhelming at those times, because I feel it so intensely but I know it's not an appropriate time/place to talk about it.
Yes I have.
I cry when I'm angry or frustrated.
@christinelamb1167 100%
At work i was called "to soft for this job" because i cried once, but honestly i was crying so i wouldn't chop someone's head off instead
You explain things so well. I can't tell you how many times I reacted inappropriately in my life. My career and relationships have suffered as a result. I am now 69 and retired, so no more fear of crying or reacting angrily at work. I know I would have been more successful had my emotions and responses been better regulated.
I do it. It's a friendship ender 😢
It's difficult bc learnt to be like this to defend myself 😢
As someone else here said, it can creep up and it creeped up today. I was yelling at my roommate and I didn't even realize I was. It was because I had trouble with a website and I was really yelling about something and I could tell he was upset. I had to apologize. How in the world do I stop? I'm just thinking out loud; that was not a question. Thank you for this video I needed it today.
God forgive me for all my lashing out. Redeem me from such an awful habit that I learned and observed over and over. Help me overcome and grow 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you ✝️🙌🏻
I just had this happen to me for three days. Tuesday through Thursday. I was advocating for pets I was caring for for these days and things happened that were unexpected. I on many occasions was a little cra cra not getting the answers and help I was asking for. I flipped them out, I was storming out the door, I was yelling or intense with the dog owner wanting the dogs to have better care because I felt they deserved that. I went out of my body and lost my mind. It was not good since I became afraid of myself doing something I regret. I am proud of myself for standing up for what is right. I need to learn how to calm down. I felt more frustrated that I am not being heard or the help.
Thanks Anna for your support!
Thank you so much for this advice. Got to learn to wait to react. I struggle w cptsd. Anxiety. And low spectrum narc.
Christine Albright
THANK YOU 💖!...
Thank you very much Anna
I remember this video. I've learned a lot from it ) :)
Things are tough still, but I'm so proud of myself for all the progress I made.
Every. Single. Syllable of this. Thank you! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I feel if my colleage would just say out aloud "stop yourself!" i could balance back immediately. I asked her to say that to me when I lash out, but she said, she doesn't want to do that.. 😶
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