I need you as my therapist. Lol, I worry too much about being unemployed forever and not finding a good career and being depressed and ending up on social security for ever. I need this
I have the same fears but I remind myself that I cannot control the future and now I do everything I can to educate myself and learn new skills so that I will find a good job. I also say to myself that almost everone have a job so why I wouldn’t have one too? Good luck 💕
@@maj3732 wow...I have the exact same compulsive worry, you have my empathy. I've done some research, and my experience seems to be consistent with a form of OCD called real event OCD, or moral scrupulosity OCD. I'm looking into exposure and response prevention therapy.
@ jun10rf3 Everyone has potential and something to offer !!😊 Be patient, especially with yourself, gently turning your attention away from worry to focus on your strengths, explore your passions and skills...and opportunities (eg volunteer work experience?) will open up for you, leading into an occupation you love. There are incredible people all around just like this Amazing lady here doing therapy in a nutshell ☺ Rooting for you !! Youve already taken the most important step...reaching out for support !! Best of luck 🤗
Its always the overthinking that is the problem, 99% of the time the situation isnt as bad as i make it to be. I had an interview few days ago, the build up was FAR worst than the situation itself, the stress caused stomach and sleep problems, and the only things i was focusing on is the worst scenarious. I hope i can learn to control this more, cause ive been like this my whole life. I hope everyones have a nice week and stops this useless and ruining thinking :)
@@soniamartell9220 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
i often miss my childhood and realize how much ive changed and how much will happen in the future, i become fixated on the thought of my mom passing way because we're all getting older... this anxiety controls me everyday. but im trying my best, for myself, for my family and for my future. thank you for uploading these videos, im taking every little step i can
Honey Pop I think about my mom passing away every day, multiple times a day. She is 74 and has a host of health issues. I am obsessed with these thoughts and also I think about death constantly. I have a therapist and try so hard to beat this. I am crying as I type this because I’d give anything to stop grieving and feeling sad and anxious all the time. My mom is still here and I’m so lucky. Many people have lost parents and mine are still here. I wish you the best!!!
@@kellydeily4593 I know it is difficult to think about our loved ones passing but try to cherish everyday with her and take it day by day. Sending you love and light! Mothers are a truly a gift.
Totally with you on this. I’m currently going through an obsessive thinking phase, crying all the time and missing the past. My mum and dad are still alive but are 80. I constantly worry about them, my kids and grandchildren. Horrendous
My anxiety and depression has crushed my ability to remember, think clearly, and conversate with those I love as well as anyone in general. This causes imense fear of any future.
This was such an answered prayer. Struggling with intense health anxiety and fear of a bad diagnosis (cancer, aneurysm, blood clot, covid, etc) and the spiraling has been hard to avoid. Going to try this technique when my mind starts going there.
My testimony here, I turned to god I'm not letting go. He has taken the fear and anxiety away. He says Fear not 365 times in the bible. He gets us he loves us. Just seek him and he will bring you to the truth and give you peace
I'm late, but I am going through the same things. Guess what? Being constantly worried messes up your immune system. It happened to me. And I got sick, not Covid. So I'd advise you to try to put the effort from worrying into taking care of your mind and body.
I feel the same way all the time. Fighting off panic all morning now. It felt good when you said he was also sick to his stomach because that's what I'm feeling.
Tossed and turned staying up at night worrying about my future career, student loans, my relationship, and other things and this video was a huge help! I really appreciate you and you’re positive message, especially the different between helpful worry and unhelpful worry. Great video
I'm more at peace with my own mortality and those of my loved ones who are still here, but I am constantly worried about what is going to happen with my country and the world. I feel so sorry for the people and animals who suffer every day and I am anxious about what freedom we still have that it will be taken from us. I was raised in a totalitarian country. I try to tackle these fears with meditation, prayer, practicing love and compassion, but it keeps coming back.
@@dherman0001 or by crazy wingers, either, huh, mr. individual, as lately they seem a lot angrier, and wave guns around at their (unarmed) fellow citizens like crazy people
I don't even understand how this video feels so helpful for me Maybe it's your calm voice and the step by step explanation Truly an amazing helpful video that made me cry Great work 👏
Meditation helps so much with this. It either allows you to interrupt all this self-talk and if that doesn't work, it allows you to be far more accepting of it =)
@@pratikkabade Most of the time the breath, but there are a good 40 classical objects that help you stay present. It's best to choose the one your mind most easily sticks to
Allah ordered us to pray 5 times a day. Just like prophet Jesus did. But since non muslims don't know about praying they missing this important step out, their bodies feel like they need something and you start to fill these spots with yoga or meditation. It's scientifically proofen that praying like your creator has ordered you to do is a great benefit for your body. May Allah guide you. Your creator knows his creation the best. And he doesn't need your prayer, but you need it.
Hi Emma! I just want to acknowledge the fact that you make an excellent job with helping people and making this world a better place. Your channel has been a huge help for me both in my private life but also professionally. And this deep dive into different psychologic methods is so valuable since it isn't taught in school, and yet our quality of life can often depend on us knowing these things. I wish you much love, happiness and joy in your life! Thank you so much for being awesome!
@@TherapyinaNutshell I imagine myself doing or saying the things that I need to do to win the situation and then I feel kinda good but my mind plays imagery that makes me feel helpless twice as much, sometimes I feel good most times I don't. I try to convince myself of good things but most times I fail.
@@bricktea3645 its good you can see how mind plays imagery ...it shows great awareness. When we're growing up, we aren't always shown or taught not to believe every thought that pops into mind but thankfully wonderful people like Therapy in a Nutshell and things like mindfullness are now available to us online so you (being on this site) are definitely on the right track! Rooting for you 👍
This is how I’ve been feeling at 18. All of sudden, I’m suffering from constantly thinking about the end of the world of what will happen to the universe, life after death? Will the world go extinct even before then? How will society be in a few years? Will I accomplish all I wanted to do? Am I wasting my time? It literally makes me cry and panic that I just wish I didn’t exist to experience this reality. It’s really tough.
Inhale I am not this body exhale I am not this mind, nothing to worry in this world, remember self awareness, where you come from, from little Spasms our parents had their pleasure them we were born, nothing belong to us including our body, today your breathing give thanks to God, watch gurus video he is an old man with a lot of wisdom, live free life whatever will happen it's not on your control, if you can control it's fine, be safe
I’m the exact same way and i just want the worry’s to go away so i can be happy again 😭people always ask me why I’m not happy and smiling but they just don’t understand I’m constantly worrying about bad stuff and it makes it so hard to be happy thinking about everything that will happen one day 😞if u ever need someone to talk to I’m here for you.
The comment section is filled with such positivity and people helping each other, relating to each other. Makes me feel so seen to read these comments! Thank you
I am sooo worried about the future that it makes me sick to my stomach. This upcoming school year I have some particularly big challenges coming up- and I still havent yet rested up well from the past two years of pandemic teaching.
Love this! The guided imagery example reminds me of a time in grade 10 when I had a simple chemistry class. Picture this: Its the first day and I'm running a little late because of my bus. I get a seat on the far right side of the room, directly in front of the teacher's desk. I'm a little bit nervous because I don't have a lot of friends in the class, but I'm excited because chemistry is one of my favourite subjects. Once class gets settled, the first thing my teacher does is do an activity where we basically say everything we know about chemistry (a class brain-dump kinda thing). Everybody's shouting out random terms and stuff, the teacher is surprised on how much people know, and I'm just sitting there feeling this deep pit of despair open in my gut as I realize that I don't know any of this. I leave that class feeling horrible. But later that day I realize something - I love chemistry. Not only that, but my teacher was one of the nicest people I've ever met and I loved being in her class. So I made a promise to work incredibly hard and put in the work needed to do good. First thing being downloading the periodic table song on my phone to listen to on the bus. Whenever she gave worksheets I would do them several times for practice, and I went over my notes religiously. Over time I developed a passion for learning chemistry and ended the semester with the highest grade. I am now finishing my first year of the IB program (grade 11), and am taking Chemistry Higher Level and loving it! This showed me that even though at first things might seem impossible, if you take the time to work as hard as you know you can and find a passion for your work, you can do anything. Kudos if you've read this far and I hope this inspires you!
Anyone here because of worrying about the future cost of living in the US? Owning a home? Retirement? Health care? What I got out of this video is that I should solve each cost of living issue one by one and explore the options, rather than just say “there’s no hope” and give up trying. It’s overwhelming to do that though, so I don’t think that’s going to work for me that easily. I could ruminate for days about this kind of stuff. This video is more for specific anxiety producing situations maybe. 🤔
@@EB-gt1pq I watch him, thanks. I just wondered if anyone else sees the future the way I do. It looks really bad based on everything I know. And that stresses me because I’m pretty certain it’s going to be economically awful. Like ten years from now I think we are going to be living in a whole different society. And that’s scary. Even with Dave Ramsay’s good advice. I wish I’d found him sooner!
I had so much stress this year. I made myself go into fear that it made me sick and I suffered for months. I need to practice living in the moment because I was just making up the worst scenarios in my head instead of being in the present
Charlotte, @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
In the world of addiction recovery, we call this "living in the wreckage of the future". Simply put, "worry" is the absence of a "spiritual condition".
I want to make my brain return to the worry free happy days of my childhood. Even watching this video, I had random thoughts of worry. I will watch it again and again and let it sink in. Many times when I meditate I will end up daydreaming about my childhood. That helps, but when I open my eyes, it's back to my "reality ". Thank you for posting this video. Much appreciated!
Thank you for your comment. I am 77 years old and working. I work in activities in an assisted living facility. Well almost everyday we return to memories. But l so enjoy extemporaneously building on the stories. I know little about you. But you can write memories down. Maybe volunteer with seniors who love hearing stories.
@@dimlighty l believe in knowing the importance of the moral truth to life Thomas Aquinas would state a premise. Then cite what others determined to be true. He would defend what truth he was defending...Called critical thinking. I might suggest rather than advise, search critical thinking. Discipling my mind assists to redirect my worrying.
Hello, I am from Kazakhstan and wanna express my gratitude for your really helpful videos. For years I have been strugling with my anxiety and found solution in your videos. Wish you succcess on your work❤❤
So helpful how you distinguished between productive worry and negative worry. I’m learning how to reduce fearful and paralyzing thoughts that keep me from new and wonderful opportunities. This type of content encourages me to believe that I can realize those irrational thoughts are not the truth and not based on anything real. Thank you!
I’ve been stressing out for the past few weeks about my parents and all the horrible things that could happen to them, and no matter how much I tried, the anxieties always came back. But after watching this video, I think I’m going to have a better time dealing with these intrusive thoughts.
I’ve been stressing out and worrying to much about remembering stuff I just want to remember everything me and my friends did. I can’t even enjoy anything cause of how big I’m worrying and now I’m worrying about 4 things I can’t even.. :(
I’ve started worrying too much when I met somebody and then I want to like remember them but then I forgot then I started worrying a lil bit then my worry growed and growed I just want help…
that first example is... word for word my situation right now. I'm sick to my stomach every morning, waking up way too early, tired, All my worries are on repeat and are obsessive.
Such a helpful video, I lost track how many times I paused to write down essential notes. I just can’t seem to shift these panic attacks at the moment, Emma is genuinely a guardian angel, and I’m not even religious. Rest assured I will be putting these steps through there paces. If anyone else is suffering Please don’t give, work on be positive, Emma’s videos are relentless - an example to us all. Good luck 😊
I worry about my adult children and their futures way too much, at the expense of my own mental health. I would like to change this, it's so exhausting and anxiety provoking,.. The adrenaline., the worry neuropathways.....This video is really helpful, thank you 🙂
I am terrified of a possible future outcome that I can’t control. I’m making donations and doing some volunteer work to help the situation, and coming up with a plan B for my personal future. It helps but the fear is overwhelming at times. I know I’m not alone but that only helps a little.
I am currently a college freshman and dealing with my anxiety has made me terrified to go back to campus even though i was there in the fall. I keep having constant breakdowns about failing classes and being too anxious, literally had one right before watching this video. so thank you for describing exactly how i feel in the first minute lol
Erin, If possible do some public speaking courses. Avoid comparing with others. @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I've just watched till 1:32 and let me tell you, that young man she is talking about is literally me! I'm in high school currently, will graduate next year and I'm so panicked at the thought of moving out of my hometown, away from my parents. I'm so worried about if I'll be able to make anything good out of life, if I'll be able to find a well paid job after college, I'm even worried about to what to study at college. After watching: Thank you for this video. I'll try to do as you say, I feel a bit better now.
After three pages of notes from this one video, I feel more confident that my current direction is indeed a good one...now armed with a lot more specific skills to use to alleviate my juggernaut of constant fear/worry/anxiety/depression. Thank you.
I'm incredibly worried about going back to uni! So this was a great video. Some people might think it's trivial, but i feel my whole future is pivoting on my degree. The idea that I can choose to imagine something nice happening is revelatory. So often, I deny myself those positive thoughts about the future to avoid disappointing myself.
@@Twalzz Hello :) I went back! I had my final exams and i finished my degree, now I'm so so proud of myself for sticking at it. I still have anxiety but yes it is nice to imagine a positive future.
Fear dictates every action I do some days. Anxiety about the future can be so overwhelming that it makes me just want to run away or hide under a desk and hope nothing finds me. Thanks Emma. I'm using your content (in conjunction with reconnecting with my support network) to strive towards real positive changes in my life.
Woman! You are amazing! I so appreciate these helpful posts. I tried some of your suggestions for stopping worry at bedtime (from another one of your posts) and it has been helping me. When I start to worry, when I should be sleeping, I tell my brain. Not now brain! This is my sleep time. We will deal with those worries tomorrow, during the daytime. For some reason, this works for me!! Relief. It’s wonderful to be able to get good sleep again. Thank you for all you do.
You are godsend Ms.Mcadam. My quality of life has improved considerably over the past few weeks since i stumbled upon one of your videos recommended by youtube. You have been my go to person since then to deal with problems when I'm unable to on my own. Im glad that one day in the past you decided to open a youtube channel. Despite never having met you, I feel very calm and secure when I hear you speak. Thank you ❤️🙏.
So very very helpful! I get caught in chronic worry and I’m trying so hard to get out of that pattern. With God’s help and doing the things that Emma suggests I am hopeful to get through this ♥️🙏🙌
Thank you Emma! As a momma to a medical special needs kid and 4 other typical kids I have an exhaustive amount of constant worry playing in my head. I truly appreciate the videos you make, the techniques you share and the way you present them with such honesty and positivity. I have found I AM becoming, as you say, "better at feeling" after years of pushing down my feelings it seems I am beginning to see the light.
Wow i just tried this and its like a balm for my mind. Just writing out a worry and imagining it going well in a balanced and measured way has made me feel so much calmer. I know it will take time to sink in and i will need to read it alot to take effect but it feels like a powerful tool. Thank you for sharing. Im looking forward to trying this with other things that worry me
I’m always finding myself worrying about the future. My biggest fear is how I’m going to be treated by people and whether I should speak up or stay silent when I get negative comments being thrown at me lol! I feel a lot better when I try and talk about it with a family member or a friend.
@@victoryperseverance2755 Forget others. Take care of your life. Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am going to this ASAP! I want to apply for a job I am probably not qualified for. And the anxiety is eating me ALIVE. I have not slept in 2 days. Is horrible. But I am going to this. I'll get back to y'all with the results in by Feb, review for applications starts at the end of this month. Wish me luck!
@@faith_over_fear8896 I didn't apply. But I quit smoking cold turkey and literally stopped biting my nails. I dropped every goal I had this year and I resigned myself to my okay low paying job. I am in no mental shape to go after the big things I dream of now. I need to love myself, allow myself time to heal, and then try it again this time without anxiety.
@@alexandraalmanzar570 allow yourself time to heal is the best thing you can do! i hope you can find the strenght and energy to go after your dreams! Blessings 🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@victoriaporsiempreThank you so much Victoria, I appreciate your message. What ended up happening is that I got the job, but did not take it. I realized anything that gives you anxiety (the negative kind) is not you. So I stayed where I felt comfortable and in less than a month a dream position opened up, and I applied for it and got it! :) I wish you all the best too! You seem like a very positive person! Stay strong and go after what makes you feel you!
As always, Emma is a blessing. Her wonderfully warm demeanor and skill as a therapist always cheer me. Today I used the "who can I serve" when I was feeling down about foot pain. Focusing on helping others always kicks away the clouds for me.
I was literally on dying mode with my panic attack at work and I came across this video and it calmed me right down. Thank you so much you are a lifesaver!!!!
Thank you so much Today was literally a worrying day for me, and I couldn't calm my body and anxiety down since i got up from the bed, but at the end of the day by watching this video i learned how to prioritize and be worried less that was really useful. I really appreciate it ...❤
My mental health has been shattered and my future destroyed due to being bullied for 6 months and then terminated from a senior role for not participating in the experimental cv treatment that was forced on people across the globe. Had to sell our home. The trauma has been overwhelming, and anxiety about the future and grief over the loss is never ending. Mental health support in Australia is very lacking, especially for those that wanted to make their own medical choices. Few psychologists are addressing the trauma that many have faced due to the impact of unscientific and inhumane government responses
You are very soothing. You have a way of refocusing my mind. Sometimes if I can distract my mind the anxiety subsides. I have excessive worry ESPECIALLY in the morning. I've literally started worrying 3 hours before I have to get up for work. More commonly, though, I'm awake and worrying an hour before. I have a very 'what if' brain. "Will I get fired?" "Will I get upset and quit?" "Will today be a bad day?" It's like a jail inside my head. Anxiety lies to us. I hate it.
Jody, How are you now? . In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations when taking a walk, before sleep, in college, at work, in the kitchen, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Oh my God Ms. Emma you’re on your way to 1 million subscribers!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Found your channel May last year and thought you deserved more subs. I’m so happy your channel is where it is now. Please continue doing what you do. You’re helping a lot of people. God bless you! 💛💛💛
As someone whose mind shuts down at the sound of certain words, thank you for using therapy words at a minimum (growth, positive thinking, etc). I don't know why those words mess with my mind so much, but that's why I'm glad there's multiple ways to say the same thing!
Your videos are always timely and super helpful for me. I tested positive for covid Monday and my mental health has been an absolute wreck ever since, especially since I already have a diagnosed anxiety disorder before this. The what-if anxiety has been worse than the physical symptoms so far 😩 My anxieties are less concrete than the ones in this video, but I am coming away from this with some good strategies for how I can work through this still. You're very much appreciated, thank you for the wonderful videos!
I got the worst anxiety ever after the pandemic when driving. When all was closed nobody on road and I didn’t have any worries. I don’t like driving much for long distances anyhow but after lockdown I didn’t drive for about a year but about ten trips. Not every day. So I’ve tried to schedule a drive every week but it’s difficult getting back into the routine of going out, it helps to practice. Like she says. Just keep at it folks!
Thanks for the video. I am starting a new job and feeling a lot of anxiety and these exercises are helpful. I have tended to react to anxiety by avoiding everything and distracting as much as possible, but more and more I am learning about the things I can control and how I can proceed with things I need to do even though I am feeling anxious. Your videos have been super helpful with this.
I wish I'd discovered your channel sooner. I've been depressed my whole life, and for the first time in many years I feel a little hope. Thanks so much Emma, you're doing God's work
I love your video! I have recently been telling myself when I am anxious that it is okay to take risks, and to try things new. I often worry about things not turning out perfect, but intentionally taking opportunities and making opportunities to take safe risks helps my brain to understand that it doesn't need to know the outcome of something before I commit to it. It is okay to take risks.
Thank you so much sweetheart!! Made a letter to God telling him thank you for everything, and I wanted to start panicking in between thoughts, I felt like I had 2 brains, the worry one and the thankful one. I had to overpower the inner weak voice, will write a letter to my holy spirit and then maybe make my parents one (: thank you so much! My palms aren't sweaty anymore, thankful for TH-cam existing
Thank goodness for you and your generous nature Emma! You have no idea ... well, maybe you do lol ... how much you are helping me and others recognize, accept and work through our complicated anxieties. Thank you so, so much!! 💚
For my whole life I have been terrified of doctors and any kind of medical tests because I fear a terrible diagnosis. So I don't get the tests, and if I do, (rarely) I am a total nervous wreck, crippled by fear. Now I'm 69 years old and my family doctor wants me to get all these tests. I am not stupid, I know it's best to catch something early and how disgusted I will be if I am sidelined by bad health because I didn't get tests earlier.. Please, please, please help. I love your channel, you are so helpful to so many people. I had a therapist for many years and she helped me over some road bumps but about this she couldn't help. She said I should think of my bady as a car and I need to go for tune ups. This did not help. She didn't ( I don't see her anymore) understand just understand how intense my fear is. I do not have a support system, my only child died suddenly 9 years ago and my best friend passed last year. My sister says I should make more friends because she has her life to live. I have other friends, they say to go for the tests. That don't help. Anyone coming with me doesn't help because I feel riddled in panic and intense fear anyway.. Please try to help me, I don't want to live with regret of my inactivity causing me to be sicker than if I caught a disease earlier. Every test including a simple blood test is agony for me to get the results. Please try to help me.
Something I've long noticed about worry, being a worrier myself, is that the experience and feelings of worrying are WORSE than if the dreaded event happens in reality. There is something sickening about worrying worse than even real life bad events. Kind of like the real event hits, and you deal with it ... you have reality on your side in a sense. But if you are only worrying and imagining the negative event, you don't have reality on your side and there is nothing you can do. What do you think?
This ties in so well with a quote from a stoicism philosopher that I read recently that says, "There are more things in life likely to frighten us than to crush us. We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality."
Great advice. Sorry to hear about the loss of your nephew. I lost my brother to suicide and I wish he could have focused on his current positives in life. There are so many people willing to help. I’m grateful for this video today.
I send hugs to you- sorry for the loss of your dear brother. I lost someone dear to me and it’s very painful. That love never goes away, it’s always in your ❤️
You can never worry about the past. You can only worry about the future. We regret the past. Resent the past. Feel guilty or ashamed of our past. Its not worry that you are experiencing. Do more inner exploration and find out more about your emotions and which ones are connected to the right titles of explanation to help you categorise emotion with experience. Good luck
your channel are the first one i subscribed back then regarding mental health, and it was right, your videos is still the most helpful and useful between all of them.... thanks Emma!!!
These videos are perfect. I been in therapy for years, recently left. I know what's wrong and what to do to change but I could use refreshers I can rewatch and BOOM found your channel. Its a marathon guys but we all got this
Thank you so much. For the whole duration, I almost forgot that I am watching a video, it was as if you were talking to me in person, giving me advice and helping me out. God bless you.
Emma you rule!!! These year as many people, many things (I will call them bad things but I see them now as the biggest teachings of my life) happened to me at the same time, one after the other, so I got into a big stress burnout situation. Your videos have helped me a lot in these difficult process, I love your positive attitude and how you explain things in a really easy to understand and approachable way. Thank you very much!!!
Helpful and I know how our mental awareness makes us knowledgeable and empowers us but makes our necessary changes unavoidable. Stay humble and don't give control to your ego/fear
Interesting video ❤. My two cents: for returning ideas that pop up in the mind with which you cannot do anything, I feel that a more useful path is learning to accept the thought is there (don't fight mind with mind), and learning to not take it seriously and then redirecting your attention on something more useful such as your body or breath).
What would you call being worried about having the same day again and again. Like there isn’t much to look forward to. No sense of unpredictability, no sense of fulfilment ? Just constantly worrying about how everyday is gonna be the same, no factor of surprise , and that brings you fear and a queasy feeling.
Thank you queen... hearing you break things down almost sounds silly to me sometimes how simple it can be to live a better life through very simple but extremely helpful techniques... Ive felt lost and not myself for the longest time... extremely disconnected but you are helping me get back to living. Thank you for posting, I’m eternally grateful ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. I saw a therapist today and my worry went crazy. I felt like I was losing my mind. It’s late now so I will sleep on this and try these practices in the morning. ♥️🇨🇦
You have no idea how much your videos make me understand myself. It’s amazing how much someone can help over the phone. The things you do for all of us is amazing. You help me so much I feel like I can just come to view your videos for a peace of mind. I’m so grateful.
You must've been tracking my search engine terms. I've been an expat in Japan for 5 years and am constantly worried about going back home, finding a job, caring for my family, not having enough skills, etc. It's been picking up speed lately and it's dumb how the worry is so ingrained. 😔
Thank you for this! Thinking in terms of productive worrying vs spiraling worry really puts it into perspective for me. When I’m spiraling I will try and recognize that I’m not dealing with an imminent threat and utilize your steps. ❤️
Thank you so much , I’ve been worrying about any and everything for as long as I can remember and I just accepted it , I thought, “well when this is done I won’t worry anymore “ and it just went on and on with me constantly finding a new thing to worry about . I feel like the things you mentioned in this video will help me gain control of what I’m putting my energy and focus into instead of it being aimed towards the future all the time .
I have had therapist in the past but never came close to Emma. She is fabulous. So glad I found her. I've been watching videos for a few hours. Wow .....look forward to watching and working with her. Thanks Emma
@@TherapyinaNutshell Given the pandemic my teen’s social anxiety has worsened (it was diagnosed just months before the pandemic lockdown)..can you do a video for teen social anxiety as I think teens in high school really need it right now.
I wish my worries about the future involved getting lost on Campus or failing my classes.... can we have another video talking about the same subject but involving some real life, hardcore motives that make real people freeze in their tracks, like getting old and having no career, no retirement funds, no security net ..etc?
agree - lightweight examples can add to some people's anxiety. Yes - we can extrapolate, but still would help to have more serious concerns addressed. Also not assuming that we can just all turn to a "support network" !
I have been married for 34 years. The political climate has affected my closest relationships and my husband is a person I no longer know. My business closed in April. I am now getting divorced and starting a new career. I am a bundle of anxiety! I would like to hear something about how this past few years has affected people. I am in a new world, on my own with a 13 year old. Starting a new life, I don't want, at 54.
Just Me. Exactly These ridiculously insignificant examples like the one she mentions here are only irritating. People are facing real, frightening scenarios like the ones you mentioned and even worse, and all she could use was some teenager's typical teenage stuff.
@@juliebabbitt7211 your pop-psych cliche isn't working, can't you see? Your pop-psych crud is even worse than the teenager example she brought up in the vid. Try your pop-psych questions on someone who lost their livelihood last year, or whose family fell apart, or who are dealing with abuse and crushed life. Moron.
My worries don’t involve things that I necessarily have control over, so that’s where the anxiety mounts to it’s greatest. You can’t just get through it with a map because real life issues that are gigantic need to be solved by money or relying on help from others which not everyone has access to. Stress, anxiety and worry involving huge life issues at mid life are so different than a student’s worries. Like one comment mentioned, political climate, marriage, retirement, career, friendships etc are enough to make people end their lives. This needs to be addressed because deep breathing isn’t enough
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I need you as my therapist. Lol, I worry too much about being unemployed forever and not finding a good career and being depressed and ending up on social security for ever. I need this
Well shit living on social security doesn’t sound that bad
I have the same fears but I remind myself that I cannot control the future and now I do everything I can to educate myself and learn new skills so that I will find a good job. I also say to myself that almost everone have a job so why I wouldn’t have one too?
Good luck 💕
@@maj3732 wow...I have the exact same compulsive worry, you have my empathy. I've done some research, and my experience seems to be consistent with a form of OCD called real event OCD, or moral scrupulosity OCD. I'm looking into exposure and response prevention therapy.
@ jun10rf3
Everyone has potential and something to offer !!😊 Be patient, especially with yourself, gently turning your attention away from worry to focus on your strengths, explore your passions and skills...and opportunities (eg volunteer work experience?) will open up for you, leading into an occupation you love. There are incredible people all around just like this Amazing lady here doing therapy in a nutshell ☺ Rooting for you !! Youve already taken the most important step...reaching out for support !! Best of luck 🤗
@@craven5328 thanks for sharing! Good luck 💕
Its always the overthinking that is the problem, 99% of the time the situation isnt as bad as i make it to be. I had an interview few days ago, the build up was FAR worst than the situation itself, the stress caused stomach and sleep problems, and the only things i was focusing on is the worst scenarious. I hope i can learn to control this more, cause ive been like this my whole life. I hope everyones have a nice week and stops this useless and ruining thinking :)
Same. But my stomach problems Come from poot diet and anxiety also .
97% OF WHAT WE WORRY ABOUT NEVER HAPPENS.
💯 truth
I spent some time writing down my worries every day and nothing was as bad as I’d feared but this didn’t seem to stop me.
“Overthinking” - such a trendy word for an age-old well-known problem. It’s not a disease, folks
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
❤❤❤
Amen
I hope I can keep this in mind😢
I worry about my future sooo much. It's exhausting..
Same for me
I can relate as well!
You need Jesus Christ that is the only way. Read the gospels and you will find Him.
@@soniamartell9220 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Same
i often miss my childhood and realize how much ive changed and how much will happen in the future, i become fixated on the thought of my mom passing way because we're all getting older...
this anxiety controls me everyday. but im trying my best, for myself, for my family and for my future. thank you for uploading these videos, im taking every little step i can
Honey Pop I think about my mom passing away every day, multiple times a day. She is 74 and has a host of health issues. I am obsessed with these thoughts and also I think about death constantly. I have a therapist and try so hard to beat this. I am crying as I type this because I’d give anything to stop grieving and feeling sad and anxious all the time. My mom is still here and I’m so lucky. Many people have lost parents and mine are still here. I wish you the best!!!
@@kellydeily4593 I know it is difficult to think about our loved ones passing but try to cherish everyday with her and take it day by day. Sending you love and light! Mothers are a truly a gift.
@sage thank you for the encouragement!!
Totally with you on this. I’m currently going through an obsessive thinking phase, crying all the time and missing the past. My mum and dad are still alive but are 80. I constantly worry about them, my kids and grandchildren. Horrendous
I thought I was the only one who spends all this time worrying about my parents passing. Thank you for your honesty!
My anxiety and depression has crushed my ability to remember, think clearly, and conversate with those I love as well as anyone in general. This causes imense fear of any future.
This was such an answered prayer. Struggling with intense health anxiety and fear of a bad diagnosis (cancer, aneurysm, blood clot, covid, etc) and the spiraling has been hard to avoid. Going to try this technique when my mind starts going there.
with you also!
Me too
My testimony here, I turned to god I'm not letting go. He has taken the fear and anxiety away. He says Fear not 365 times in the bible. He gets us he loves us. Just seek him and he will bring you to the truth and give you peace
th-cam.com/video/zgVREThAV1A/w-d-xo.html ❤️🕊
I'm late, but I am going through the same things. Guess what? Being constantly worried messes up your immune system. It happened to me. And I got sick, not Covid. So I'd advise you to try to put the effort from worrying into taking care of your mind and body.
I feel the same way all the time. Fighting off panic all morning now. It felt good when you said he was also sick to his stomach because that's what I'm feeling.
The greatest resource is resourcefulness. Don’t worry about being worried. Obstacles are there for a reason.
Tossed and turned staying up at night worrying about my future career, student loans, my relationship, and other things and this video was a huge help! I really appreciate you and you’re positive message, especially the different between helpful worry and unhelpful worry. Great video
I was just panicking about my future and opened TH-cam and saw this ❤️. Thanks so much for your videos Emma, they really give me hope.
I'm more at peace with my own mortality and those of my loved ones who are still here, but I am constantly worried about what is going to happen with my country and the world. I feel so sorry for the people and animals who suffer every day and I am anxious about what freedom we still have that it will be taken from us. I was raised in a totalitarian country. I try to tackle these fears with meditation, prayer, practicing love and compassion, but it keeps coming back.
Coming from a totalitarian country, I understand how anxious you must be of the leftist takeover of societal narratives.
@@dherman0001 or by crazy wingers, either, huh, mr. individual, as lately they seem a lot angrier, and wave guns around at their (unarmed) fellow citizens like crazy people
@@jimspencer4413 Yes, the Antifa and BLM leftists are violent groups. Shame they get a pass from the media.
@@dherman0001 I’m not gonna argue with you. I don’t watch fox, & have a different view of political risk.
@@jimspencer4413 You have a right to be wrong.
I don't even understand how this video feels so helpful for me
Maybe it's your calm voice and the step by step explanation
Truly an amazing helpful video that made me cry
Great work 👏
Meditation helps so much with this. It either allows you to interrupt all this self-talk and if that doesn't work, it allows you to be far more accepting of it =)
@@pratikkabade Most of the time the breath, but there are a good 40 classical objects that help you stay present. It's best to choose the one your mind most easily sticks to
@@pratikkabade I use the breath and the feeling of a smile when more concentrated!
It ALL started falling apart for me on 3/19/2020 when I lost my job. My life has been in a downward Spiral ever since. Just terrible I say.
Allah ordered us to pray 5 times a day. Just like prophet Jesus did. But since non muslims don't know about praying they missing this important step out, their bodies feel like they need something and you start to fill these spots with yoga or meditation. It's scientifically proofen that praying like your creator has ordered you to do is a great benefit for your body. May Allah guide you. Your creator knows his creation the best. And he doesn't need your prayer, but you need it.
@@gulsguls8488 non Muslims pray too just fyi. Best to you and yours.
Hi Emma!
I just want to acknowledge the fact that you make an excellent job with helping people and making this world a better place. Your channel has been a huge help for me both in my private life but also professionally. And this deep dive into different psychologic methods is so valuable since it isn't taught in school, and yet our quality of life can often depend on us knowing these things.
I wish you much love, happiness and joy in your life!
Thank you so much for being awesome!
Thank you! Let’s make the world a better place together! It sounds corny but I really mean it!
@@TherapyinaNutshell Maybe it sounds corny, but it's true! I'm on board with that!
@@TherapyinaNutshell I imagine myself doing or saying the things that I need to do to win the situation and then I feel kinda good but my mind plays imagery that makes me feel helpless twice as much, sometimes I feel good most times I don't.
I try to convince myself of good things but most times I fail.
@@bricktea3645 its good you can see how mind plays imagery ...it shows great awareness. When we're growing up, we aren't always shown or taught not to believe every thought that pops into mind but thankfully wonderful people like Therapy in a Nutshell and things like mindfullness are now available to us online so you (being on this site) are definitely on the right track! Rooting for you 👍
@@ruth6833 thanks
Never thought of my obsessive worrying as a habit 🤯 thank you so much for this video 💜
A very addictive one!
This is how I’ve been feeling at 18. All of sudden, I’m suffering from constantly thinking about the end of the world of what will happen to the universe, life after death? Will the world go extinct even before then? How will society be in a few years? Will I accomplish all I wanted to do? Am I wasting my time? It literally makes me cry and panic that I just wish I didn’t exist to experience this reality. It’s really tough.
Inhale I am not this body exhale I am not this mind, nothing to worry in this world, remember self awareness, where you come from, from little Spasms our parents had their pleasure them we were born, nothing belong to us including our body, today your breathing give thanks to God, watch gurus video he is an old man with a lot of wisdom, live free life whatever will happen it's not on your control, if you can control it's fine, be safe
I’m the exact same way and i just want the worry’s to go away so i can be happy again 😭people always ask me why I’m not happy and smiling but they just don’t understand I’m constantly worrying about bad stuff and it makes it so hard to be happy thinking about everything that will happen one day 😞if u ever need someone to talk to I’m here for you.
@@mohamedadan9854thank you this helped me a little😌
The comment section is filled with such positivity and people helping each other, relating to each other. Makes me feel so seen to read these comments! Thank you
Such an important topic. Understanding that some things are out of our control (and that’s ok), is the first step.
I am sooo worried about the future that it makes me sick to my stomach. This upcoming school year I have some particularly big challenges coming up- and I still havent yet rested up well from the past two years of pandemic teaching.
Love this! The guided imagery example reminds me of a time in grade 10 when I had a simple chemistry class. Picture this:
Its the first day and I'm running a little late because of my bus. I get a seat on the far right side of the room, directly in front of the teacher's desk. I'm a little bit nervous because I don't have a lot of friends in the class, but I'm excited because chemistry is one of my favourite subjects. Once class gets settled, the first thing my teacher does is do an activity where we basically say everything we know about chemistry (a class brain-dump kinda thing). Everybody's shouting out random terms and stuff, the teacher is surprised on how much people know, and I'm just sitting there feeling this deep pit of despair open in my gut as I realize that I don't know any of this. I leave that class feeling horrible. But later that day I realize something - I love chemistry. Not only that, but my teacher was one of the nicest people I've ever met and I loved being in her class. So I made a promise to work incredibly hard and put in the work needed to do good. First thing being downloading the periodic table song on my phone to listen to on the bus. Whenever she gave worksheets I would do them several times for practice, and I went over my notes religiously. Over time I developed a passion for learning chemistry and ended the semester with the highest grade. I am now finishing my first year of the IB program (grade 11), and am taking Chemistry Higher Level and loving it!
This showed me that even though at first things might seem impossible, if you take the time to work as hard as you know you can and find a passion for your work, you can do anything.
Kudos if you've read this far and I hope this inspires you!
Anyone here because of worrying about the future cost of living in the US? Owning a home? Retirement? Health care? What I got out of this video is that I should solve each cost of living issue one by one and explore the options, rather than just say “there’s no hope” and give up trying. It’s overwhelming to do that though, so I don’t think that’s going to work for me that easily. I could ruminate for days about this kind of stuff. This video is more for specific anxiety producing situations maybe. 🤔
Dave Ramsey… look him up on how to budget
@@EB-gt1pq I watch him, thanks. I just wondered if anyone else sees the future the way I do. It looks really bad based on everything I know. And that stresses me because I’m pretty certain it’s going to be economically awful. Like ten years from now I think we are going to be living in a whole different society. And that’s scary. Even with Dave Ramsay’s good advice. I wish I’d found him sooner!
I had so much stress this year. I made myself go into fear that it made me sick and I suffered for months. I need to practice living in the moment because I was just making up the worst scenarios in my head instead of being in the present
Charlotte, @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
In the world of addiction recovery, we call this "living in the wreckage of the future". Simply put, "worry" is the absence of a "spiritual condition".
I want to make my brain return to the worry free happy days of my childhood. Even watching this video, I had random thoughts of worry. I will watch it again and again and let it sink in. Many times when I meditate I will end up daydreaming about my childhood. That helps, but when I open my eyes, it's back to my "reality ". Thank you for posting this video. Much appreciated!
Thank you for your comment.
I am 77 years old and working. I work in activities in an assisted living facility. Well almost everyday we return to memories.
But l so enjoy extemporaneously building on the stories.
I know little about you. But you can write memories down. Maybe volunteer with seniors who love hearing stories.
@@karenglenn2329 A 78 year old person! I'm just 16 now. What is the ultimate life advice you would give to me?
@@dimlighty always seek the truth.
I learned this from Thomas Aquinas.
@@karenglenn2329 In what sense do you mean 'always seek the truth'? Does that mean always do what is right?
@@dimlighty l believe in knowing the importance of the moral truth to life
Thomas Aquinas would state a premise. Then cite what others determined to be true.
He would defend what truth he was defending...Called critical thinking. I might suggest rather than advise, search critical thinking. Discipling my mind assists to redirect my worrying.
Hello, I am from Kazakhstan and wanna express my gratitude for your really helpful videos. For years I have been strugling with my anxiety and found solution in your videos. Wish you succcess on your work❤❤
So helpful how you distinguished between productive worry and negative worry. I’m learning how to reduce fearful and paralyzing thoughts that keep me from new and wonderful opportunities. This type of content encourages me to believe that I can realize those irrational thoughts are not the truth and not based on anything real. Thank you!
My thoughts are so crippling, I wish I could find a way to look at them differently
I’ve been stressing out for the past few weeks about my parents and all the horrible things that could happen to them, and no matter how much I tried, the anxieties always came back. But after watching this video, I think I’m going to have a better time dealing with these intrusive thoughts.
I’ve been stressing out and worrying to much about remembering stuff I just want to remember everything me and my friends did. I can’t even enjoy anything cause of how big I’m worrying and now I’m worrying about 4 things I can’t even.. :(
I mostly got my worries from being addicted to youtube or playing with my besties or something.😢
I’ve started worrying too much when I met somebody and then I want to like remember them but then I forgot then I started worrying a lil bit then my worry growed and growed I just want help…
Hi Emma, keep up the great content! :)
I second this!!!! THANK YOU
Hi psych2Go :3
That's some showdown.
Hey i know u
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that first example is... word for word my situation right now. I'm sick to my stomach every morning, waking up way too early, tired, All my worries are on repeat and are obsessive.
Such a helpful video, I lost track how many times I paused to write down essential notes. I just can’t seem to shift these panic attacks at the moment, Emma is genuinely a guardian angel, and I’m not even religious. Rest assured I will be putting these steps through there paces. If anyone else is suffering Please don’t give, work on be positive, Emma’s videos are relentless - an example to us all. Good luck 😊
I worry about my adult children and their futures way too much, at the expense of my own mental health. I would like to change this, it's so exhausting and anxiety provoking,.. The adrenaline., the worry neuropathways.....This video is really helpful, thank you 🙂
Do a video for those of us who ruminate on past errors and what we perceive as negative experiences. Please
Thank you for this. My husband is terminally ill and I worry about our future all the time. This will be a big help.
Great video..but this is helpful if you have normal worries..I have obsessive scary what if worries.
I am terrified of a possible future outcome that I can’t control. I’m making donations and doing some volunteer work to help the situation, and coming up with a plan B for my personal future. It helps but the fear is overwhelming at times. I know I’m not alone but that only helps a little.
I am currently a college freshman and dealing with my anxiety has made me terrified to go back to campus even though i was there in the fall. I keep having constant breakdowns about failing classes and being too anxious, literally had one right before watching this video. so thank you for describing exactly how i feel in the first minute lol
Erin, If possible do some public speaking courses. Avoid comparing with others. @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Just started watching, it is always great to see someone who truly values their purpose
I've just watched till 1:32 and let me tell you, that young man she is talking about is literally me! I'm in high school currently, will graduate next year and I'm so panicked at the thought of moving out of my hometown, away from my parents. I'm so worried about if I'll be able to make anything good out of life, if I'll be able to find a well paid job after college, I'm even worried about to what to study at college.
After watching: Thank you for this video. I'll try to do as you say, I feel a bit better now.
After three pages of notes from this one video, I feel more confident that my current direction is indeed a good one...now armed with a lot more specific skills to use to alleviate my juggernaut of constant fear/worry/anxiety/depression. Thank you.
I'm incredibly worried about going back to uni! So this was a great video. Some people might think it's trivial, but i feel my whole future is pivoting on my degree.
The idea that I can choose to imagine something nice happening is revelatory. So often, I deny myself those positive thoughts about the future to avoid disappointing myself.
Same here! How are you doing now?
@@Twalzz Hello :) I went back! I had my final exams and i finished my degree, now I'm so so proud of myself for sticking at it. I still have anxiety but yes it is nice to imagine a positive future.
Fear dictates every action I do some days. Anxiety about the future can be so overwhelming that it makes me just want to run away or hide under a desk and hope nothing finds me.
Thanks Emma. I'm using your content (in conjunction with reconnecting with my support network) to strive towards real positive changes in my life.
Woman! You are amazing! I so appreciate these helpful posts. I tried some of your suggestions for stopping worry at bedtime (from another one of your posts) and it has been helping me. When I start to worry, when I should be sleeping, I tell my brain. Not now brain! This is my sleep time. We will deal with those worries tomorrow, during the daytime. For some reason, this works for me!! Relief. It’s wonderful to be able to get good sleep again. Thank you for all you do.
I send you gratitude for helping so many souls who are in this overthinking cycle. Thank You so much.
You are godsend Ms.Mcadam. My quality of life has improved considerably over the past few weeks since i stumbled upon one of your videos recommended by youtube. You have been my go to person since then to deal with problems when I'm unable to on my own. Im glad that one day in the past you decided to open a youtube channel. Despite never having met you, I feel very calm and secure when I hear you speak. Thank you ❤️🙏.
yes, im also thankfull for this chanel 🙏🏼
my psychiatrist once said.... you are a intelligent human being. you are able to handle a situation that occurs.
So very very helpful! I get caught in chronic worry and I’m trying so hard to get out of that pattern. With God’s help and doing the things that Emma suggests I am hopeful to get through this ♥️🙏🙌
Thank you Emma! As a momma to a medical special needs kid and 4 other typical kids I have an exhaustive amount of constant worry playing in my head. I truly appreciate the videos you make, the techniques you share and the way you present them with such honesty and positivity. I have found I AM becoming, as you say, "better at feeling" after years of pushing down my feelings it seems I am beginning to see the light.
Wow i just tried this and its like a balm for my mind. Just writing out a worry and imagining it going well in a balanced and measured way has made me feel so much calmer. I know it will take time to sink in and i will need to read it alot to take effect but it feels like a powerful tool. Thank you for sharing. Im looking forward to trying this with other things that worry me
Thank you for this video. My worrying was caused a lot of trauma in my family. Looming divorce. Worry. Worry. Worry. Worry….
I’m always finding myself worrying about the future.
My biggest fear is how I’m going to be treated by people and whether I should speak up or stay silent when I get negative comments being thrown at me lol!
I feel a lot better when I try and talk about it with a family member or a friend.
same here . I fear what would people would say/react if i make a mistake . can't help but to get anxious whenever thinking about it .
@@victoryperseverance2755 Forget others. Take care of your life. Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thank you so much.This really help because there's a bunch of stuff on youtube about the future of the space and i'm scared thank you
I am going to this ASAP! I want to apply for a job I am probably not qualified for. And the anxiety is eating me ALIVE. I have not slept in 2 days. Is horrible. But I am going to this. I'll get back to y'all with the results in by Feb, review for applications starts at the end of this month.
Wish me luck!
How did it go?
@@faith_over_fear8896 I didn't apply. But I quit smoking cold turkey and literally stopped biting my nails. I dropped every goal I had this year and I resigned myself to my okay low paying job. I am in no mental shape to go after the big things I dream of now. I need to love myself, allow myself time to heal, and then try it again this time without anxiety.
@@alexandraalmanzar570 allow yourself time to heal is the best thing you can do! i hope you can find the strenght and energy to go after your dreams!
Blessings 🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@victoriaporsiempreThank you so much Victoria, I appreciate your message. What ended up happening is that I got the job, but did not take it. I realized anything that gives you anxiety (the negative kind) is not you. So I stayed where I felt comfortable and in less than a month a dream position opened up, and I applied for it and got it! :)
I wish you all the best too! You seem like a very positive person! Stay strong and go after what makes you feel you!
As always, Emma is a blessing. Her wonderfully warm demeanor and skill as a therapist always cheer me. Today I used the "who can I serve" when I was feeling down about foot pain. Focusing on helping others always kicks away the clouds for me.
0:48 you just literally explained what I'm going through!
I was literally on dying mode with my panic attack at work and I came across this video and it calmed me right down. Thank you so much you are a lifesaver!!!!
I was freezed.
I read the title too fast and I thought it said stop worrying about the furniture - and I was like wow that’s very niche
Thank you so much
Today was literally a worrying day for me, and I couldn't calm my body and anxiety down since i got up from the bed, but at the end of the day by watching this video i learned how to prioritize and be worried less that was really useful.
I really appreciate it ...❤
My mental health has been shattered and my future destroyed due to being bullied for 6 months and then terminated from a senior role for not participating in the experimental cv treatment that was forced on people across the globe. Had to sell our home. The trauma has been overwhelming, and anxiety about the future and grief over the loss is never ending.
Mental health support in Australia is very lacking, especially for those that wanted to make their own medical choices. Few psychologists are addressing the trauma that many have faced due to the impact of unscientific and inhumane government responses
Hope you are doing better. Same thing happened to me.
So sorry this happened to you. I hope you’re well.
You are very soothing. You have a way of refocusing my mind. Sometimes if I can distract my mind the anxiety subsides. I have excessive worry ESPECIALLY in the morning. I've literally started worrying 3 hours before I have to get up for work. More commonly, though, I'm awake and worrying an hour before. I have a very 'what if' brain. "Will I get fired?" "Will I get upset and quit?" "Will today be a bad day?" It's like a jail inside my head. Anxiety lies to us. I hate it.
Jody, How are you now? . In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations when taking a walk, before sleep, in college, at work, in the kitchen, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Oh my God Ms. Emma you’re on your way to 1 million subscribers!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Found your channel May last year and thought you deserved more subs. I’m so happy your channel is where it is now. Please continue doing what you do. You’re helping a lot of people. God bless you! 💛💛💛
I love your profile pic!
@@ellasmith1822 thank you!!! Aot is coming back!!! 😁
As someone whose mind shuts down at the sound of certain words, thank you for using therapy words at a minimum (growth, positive thinking, etc).
I don't know why those words mess with my mind so much, but that's why I'm glad there's multiple ways to say the same thing!
Your videos are always timely and super helpful for me. I tested positive for covid Monday and my mental health has been an absolute wreck ever since, especially since I already have a diagnosed anxiety disorder before this. The what-if anxiety has been worse than the physical symptoms so far 😩 My anxieties are less concrete than the ones in this video, but I am coming away from this with some good strategies for how I can work through this still. You're very much appreciated, thank you for the wonderful videos!
I got the worst anxiety ever after the pandemic when driving. When all was closed nobody on road and I didn’t have any worries. I don’t like driving much for long distances anyhow but after lockdown I didn’t drive for about a year but about ten trips. Not every day. So I’ve tried to schedule a drive every week but it’s difficult getting back into the routine of going out, it helps to practice. Like she says. Just keep at it folks!
Thanks for the video. I am starting a new job and feeling a lot of anxiety and these exercises are helpful. I have tended to react to anxiety by avoiding everything and distracting as much as possible, but more and more I am learning about the things I can control and how I can proceed with things I need to do even though I am feeling anxious. Your videos have been super helpful with this.
I wish I'd discovered your channel sooner. I've been depressed my whole life, and for the first time in many years I feel a little hope. Thanks so much Emma, you're doing God's work
I love your video! I have recently been telling myself when I am anxious that it is okay to take risks, and to try things new. I often worry about things not turning out perfect, but intentionally taking opportunities and making opportunities to take safe risks helps my brain to understand that it doesn't need to know the outcome of something before I commit to it. It is okay to take risks.
Thank you so much sweetheart!! Made a letter to God telling him thank you for everything, and I wanted to start panicking in between thoughts, I felt like I had 2 brains, the worry one and the thankful one. I had to overpower the inner weak voice, will write a letter to my holy spirit and then maybe make my parents one (: thank you so much! My palms aren't sweaty anymore, thankful for TH-cam existing
Thank goodness for you and your generous nature Emma! You have no idea ... well, maybe you do lol ... how much you are helping me and others recognize, accept and work through our complicated anxieties. Thank you so, so much!! 💚
For my whole life I have been terrified of doctors and any kind of medical tests because I fear a terrible diagnosis. So I don't get the tests, and if I do, (rarely) I am a total nervous wreck, crippled by fear. Now I'm 69 years old and my family doctor wants me to get all these tests. I am not stupid, I know it's best to catch something early and how disgusted I will be if I am sidelined by bad health because I didn't get tests earlier.. Please, please, please help. I love your channel, you are so helpful to so many people. I had a therapist for many years and she helped me over some road bumps but about this she couldn't help. She said I should think of my bady as a car and I need to go for tune ups. This did not help. She didn't ( I don't see her anymore) understand just understand how intense my fear is. I do not have a support system, my only child died suddenly 9 years ago and my best friend passed last year. My sister says I should make more friends because she has her life to live. I have other friends, they say to go for the tests. That don't help. Anyone coming with me doesn't help because I feel riddled in panic and intense fear anyway.. Please try to help me, I don't want to live with regret of my inactivity causing me to be sicker than if I caught a disease earlier. Every test including a simple blood test is agony for me to get the results. Please try to help me.
Something I've long noticed about worry, being a worrier myself, is that the experience and feelings of worrying are WORSE than if the dreaded event happens in reality. There is something sickening about worrying worse than even real life bad events. Kind of like the real event hits, and you deal with it ... you have reality on your side in a sense. But if you are only worrying and imagining the negative event, you don't have reality on your side and there is nothing you can do. What do you think?
This ties in so well with a quote from a stoicism philosopher that I read recently that says, "There are more things in life likely to frighten us than to crush us. We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality."
V well put. I know what you mean
YES! The imagining is always far worse than the actual event! It's like Y2K, usually a non-event!
Try to bring yourself to the present time
you are an angel. I don't know which god sent you, but you absolutely are. 🛐
Great advice. Sorry to hear about the loss of your nephew. I lost my brother to suicide and I wish he could have focused on his current positives in life. There are so many people willing to help. I’m grateful for this video today.
I send hugs to you- sorry for the loss of your dear brother. I lost someone dear to me and it’s very painful. That love never goes away, it’s always in your ❤️
Emma you are helping so many people... You have supported me indirectly during a dark time I cant thank you enough x
I worry wayyyyy more about the past and that's even more useless because YOU CAN'T CHANGE THAT!! 😔😔😭
I was once like that but I realized: that was exactly what I wanted years ago. Now I wont repeat it. So no regrets.
Try EMDR
You can never worry about the past. You can only worry about the future. We regret the past. Resent the past. Feel guilty or ashamed of our past. Its not worry that you are experiencing. Do more inner exploration and find out more about your emotions and which ones are connected to the right titles of explanation to help you categorise emotion with experience. Good luck
@@MrTrollbaby thank you!
that is depression, i hope you can find some help
your channel are the first one i subscribed back then regarding mental health, and it was right, your videos is still the most helpful and useful between all of them....
thanks Emma!!!
These videos are perfect. I been in therapy for years, recently left. I know what's wrong and what to do to change but I could use refreshers I can rewatch and BOOM found your channel. Its a marathon guys but we all got this
Thank you so much.
For the whole duration, I almost forgot that I am watching a video, it was as if you were talking to me in person, giving me advice and helping me out. God bless you.
Emma you rule!!! These year as many people, many things (I will call them bad things but I see them now as the biggest teachings of my life) happened to me at the same time, one after the other, so I got into a big stress burnout situation. Your videos have helped me a lot in these difficult process, I love your positive attitude and how you explain things in a really easy to understand and approachable way. Thank you very much!!!
Thanks Sebastian!
I was anxious and completely overwhelmed just trying to understand everything she was saying.
I always procrastinate on taking decisions because it makes me anxious about future.
Helpful and I know how our mental awareness makes us knowledgeable and empowers us but makes our necessary changes unavoidable. Stay humble and don't give control to your ego/fear
Interesting video ❤. My two cents: for returning ideas that pop up in the mind with which you cannot do anything, I feel that a more useful path is learning to accept the thought is there (don't fight mind with mind), and learning to not take it seriously and then redirecting your attention on something more useful such as your body or breath).
What would you call being worried about having the same day again and again. Like there isn’t much to look forward to. No sense of unpredictability, no sense of fulfilment ? Just constantly worrying about how everyday is gonna be the same, no factor of surprise , and that brings you fear and a queasy feeling.
Thank you queen... hearing you break things down almost sounds silly to me sometimes how simple it can be to live a better life through very simple but extremely helpful techniques... Ive felt lost and not myself for the longest time... extremely disconnected but you are helping me get back to living. Thank you for posting, I’m eternally grateful ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. I saw a therapist today and my worry went crazy. I felt like I was losing my mind. It’s late now so I will sleep on this and try these practices in the morning. ♥️🇨🇦
God is everything, or God is nothing...what will we decide? If God is everything, then give your worries to God. All the best to you Lori.
So useful to have practical instruction on how to manage anxiety and delivered in a positive and constructive way. 👍🏻
You have no idea how much your videos make me understand myself. It’s amazing how much someone can help over the phone. The things you do for all of us is amazing. You help me so much I feel like I can just come to view your videos for a peace of mind. I’m so grateful.
It's definitely taxing on the mind and body. If overthinking was a paid job, so many of us would be wealthy.
You must've been tracking my search engine terms. I've been an expat in Japan for 5 years and am constantly worried about going back home, finding a job, caring for my family, not having enough skills, etc. It's been picking up speed lately and it's dumb how the worry is so ingrained. 😔
Thank you for this! Thinking in terms of productive worrying vs spiraling worry really puts it into perspective for me. When I’m spiraling I will try and recognize that I’m not dealing with an imminent threat and utilize your steps. ❤️
Awesome Mindy!
Thank you so much , I’ve been worrying about any and everything for as long as I can remember and I just accepted it , I thought, “well when this is done I won’t worry anymore “ and it just went on and on with me constantly finding a new thing to worry about . I feel like the things you mentioned in this video will help me gain control of what I’m putting my energy and focus into instead of it being aimed towards the future all the time .
I felt the same before this video. I hope you feel better now.
This is the main thing I do lately, so thanks for posting this
I have had therapist in the past but never came close to Emma. She is fabulous. So glad I found her. I've been watching videos for a few hours. Wow .....look forward to watching and working with her. Thanks Emma
Such a good video. I've seen a few therapists but it's always just talk talk talk. I wish they'd give more practical tools like this.
I totally agree!
@@TherapyinaNutshell are you on betterhelp!!
@@TherapyinaNutshell Given the pandemic my teen’s social anxiety has worsened (it was diagnosed just months before the pandemic lockdown)..can you do a video for teen social anxiety as I think teens in high school really need it right now.
I love this! I’m not sure how this works when another person is causing you to worry.
I wish my worries about the future involved getting lost on Campus or failing my classes.... can we have another video talking about the same subject but involving some real life, hardcore motives that make real people freeze in their tracks, like getting old and having no career, no retirement funds, no security net ..etc?
agree - lightweight examples can add to some people's anxiety. Yes - we can extrapolate, but still would help to have more serious concerns addressed. Also not assuming that we can just all turn to a "support network" !
I have been married for 34 years. The political climate has affected my closest relationships and my husband is a person I no longer know. My business closed in April. I am now getting divorced and starting a new career. I am a bundle of anxiety! I would like to hear something about how this past few years has affected people. I am in a new world, on my own with a 13 year old. Starting a new life, I don't want, at 54.
Just Me. Exactly These ridiculously insignificant examples like the one she mentions here are only irritating. People are facing real, frightening scenarios like the ones you mentioned and even worse, and all she could use was some teenager's typical teenage stuff.
@@juliebabbitt7211 your pop-psych cliche isn't working, can't you see? Your pop-psych crud is even worse than the teenager example she brought up in the vid. Try your pop-psych questions on someone who lost their livelihood last year, or whose family fell apart, or who are dealing with abuse and crushed life. Moron.
My worries don’t involve things that I necessarily have control over, so that’s where the anxiety mounts to it’s greatest. You can’t just get through it with a map because real life issues that are gigantic need to be solved by money or relying on help from others which not everyone has access to. Stress, anxiety and worry involving huge life issues at mid life are so different than a student’s worries. Like one comment mentioned, political climate, marriage, retirement, career, friendships etc are enough to make people end their lives. This needs to be addressed because deep breathing isn’t enough
just watching your videos and feeling your positive vibe helps a lot. From now on I will use this for my social anxiety let's see what happens
Exactly what I needed right now. Thinking of starting new buisness an worring about failing it and letting down my curret job and boss 😕
You are such a wealth of wisdom and truth (which sets us free)! Thank you!