How to Stop Worrying About the Future
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ม.ค. 2021
- A little worry is okay, but compulsive worry makes us feel sick and freeze up. In this video you’re going to learn what to do when your brain just won’t shut up with all the worries about what’s going to happen in the future. I’m going to teach you one antidote for when you’re stuck ruminating on your fears, and I’ll teach you why you should never worry in your head.
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I worry about my future sooo much. It's exhausting..
Same for me
I can relate as well!
You need Jesus Christ that is the only way. Read the gospels and you will find Him.
@@soniamartell9220 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Same
I need you as my therapist. Lol, I worry too much about being unemployed forever and not finding a good career and being depressed and ending up on social security for ever. I need this
Well shit living on social security doesn’t sound that bad
I have the same fears but I remind myself that I cannot control the future and now I do everything I can to educate myself and learn new skills so that I will find a good job. I also say to myself that almost everone have a job so why I wouldn’t have one too?
Good luck 💕
@@maj3732 wow...I have the exact same compulsive worry, you have my empathy. I've done some research, and my experience seems to be consistent with a form of OCD called real event OCD, or moral scrupulosity OCD. I'm looking into exposure and response prevention therapy.
@ jun10rf3
Everyone has potential and something to offer !!😊 Be patient, especially with yourself, gently turning your attention away from worry to focus on your strengths, explore your passions and skills...and opportunities (eg volunteer work experience?) will open up for you, leading into an occupation you love. There are incredible people all around just like this Amazing lady here doing therapy in a nutshell ☺ Rooting for you !! Youve already taken the most important step...reaching out for support !! Best of luck 🤗
@@craven5328 thanks for sharing! Good luck 💕
Its always the overthinking that is the problem, 99% of the time the situation isnt as bad as i make it to be. I had an interview few days ago, the build up was FAR worst than the situation itself, the stress caused stomach and sleep problems, and the only things i was focusing on is the worst scenarious. I hope i can learn to control this more, cause ive been like this my whole life. I hope everyones have a nice week and stops this useless and ruining thinking :)
Same. But my stomach problems Come from poot diet and anxiety also .
97% OF WHAT WE WORRY ABOUT NEVER HAPPENS.
💯 truth
I spent some time writing down my worries every day and nothing was as bad as I’d feared but this didn’t seem to stop me.
“Overthinking” - such a trendy word for an age-old well-known problem. It’s not a disease, folks
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i often miss my childhood and realize how much ive changed and how much will happen in the future, i become fixated on the thought of my mom passing way because we're all getting older...
this anxiety controls me everyday. but im trying my best, for myself, for my family and for my future. thank you for uploading these videos, im taking every little step i can
Honey Pop I think about my mom passing away every day, multiple times a day. She is 74 and has a host of health issues. I am obsessed with these thoughts and also I think about death constantly. I have a therapist and try so hard to beat this. I am crying as I type this because I’d give anything to stop grieving and feeling sad and anxious all the time. My mom is still here and I’m so lucky. Many people have lost parents and mine are still here. I wish you the best!!!
@@kellydeily4593 I know it is difficult to think about our loved ones passing but try to cherish everyday with her and take it day by day. Sending you love and light! Mothers are a truly a gift.
@sage thank you for the encouragement!!
Totally with you on this. I’m currently going through an obsessive thinking phase, crying all the time and missing the past. My mum and dad are still alive but are 80. I constantly worry about them, my kids and grandchildren. Horrendous
I thought I was the only one who spends all this time worrying about my parents passing. Thank you for your honesty!
I feel the same way all the time. Fighting off panic all morning now. It felt good when you said he was also sick to his stomach because that's what I'm feeling.
Hi Emma, keep up the great content! :)
I second this!!!! THANK YOU
Hi psych2Go :3
That's some showdown.
Hey i know u
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My mental health has been shattered and my future destroyed due to being bullied for 6 months and then terminated from a senior role for not participating in the experimental cv treatment that was forced on people across the globe. Had to sell our home. The trauma has been overwhelming, and anxiety about the future and grief over the loss is never ending.
Mental health support in Australia is very lacking, especially for those that wanted to make their own medical choices. Few psychologists are addressing the trauma that many have faced due to the impact of unscientific and inhumane government responses
This was such an answered prayer. Struggling with intense health anxiety and fear of a bad diagnosis (cancer, aneurysm, blood clot, covid, etc) and the spiraling has been hard to avoid. Going to try this technique when my mind starts going there.
with you also!
Me too
My testimony here, I turned to god I'm not letting go. He has taken the fear and anxiety away. He says Fear not 365 times in the bible. He gets us he loves us. Just seek him and he will bring you to the truth and give you peace
th-cam.com/video/zgVREThAV1A/w-d-xo.html ❤️🕊
I'm late, but I am going through the same things. Guess what? Being constantly worried messes up your immune system. It happened to me. And I got sick, not Covid. So I'd advise you to try to put the effort from worrying into taking care of your mind and body.
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Tossed and turned staying up at night worrying about my future career, student loans, my relationship, and other things and this video was a huge help! I really appreciate you and you’re positive message, especially the different between helpful worry and unhelpful worry. Great video
The greatest resource is resourcefulness. Don’t worry about being worried. Obstacles are there for a reason.
I don't even understand how this video feels so helpful for me
Maybe it's your calm voice and the step by step explanation
Truly an amazing helpful video that made me cry
Great work 👏
I wish my worries about the future involved getting lost on Campus or failing my classes.... can we have another video talking about the same subject but involving some real life, hardcore motives that make real people freeze in their tracks, like getting old and having no career, no retirement funds, no security net ..etc?
agree - lightweight examples can add to some people's anxiety. Yes - we can extrapolate, but still would help to have more serious concerns addressed. Also not assuming that we can just all turn to a "support network" !
I have been married for 34 years. The political climate has affected my closest relationships and my husband is a person I no longer know. My business closed in April. I am now getting divorced and starting a new career. I am a bundle of anxiety! I would like to hear something about how this past few years has affected people. I am in a new world, on my own with a 13 year old. Starting a new life, I don't want, at 54.
Just Me. Exactly These ridiculously insignificant examples like the one she mentions here are only irritating. People are facing real, frightening scenarios like the ones you mentioned and even worse, and all she could use was some teenager's typical teenage stuff.
@@juliebabbitt7211 your pop-psych cliche isn't working, can't you see? Your pop-psych crud is even worse than the teenager example she brought up in the vid. Try your pop-psych questions on someone who lost their livelihood last year, or whose family fell apart, or who are dealing with abuse and crushed life. Moron.
My worries don’t involve things that I necessarily have control over, so that’s where the anxiety mounts to it’s greatest. You can’t just get through it with a map because real life issues that are gigantic need to be solved by money or relying on help from others which not everyone has access to. Stress, anxiety and worry involving huge life issues at mid life are so different than a student’s worries. Like one comment mentioned, political climate, marriage, retirement, career, friendships etc are enough to make people end their lives. This needs to be addressed because deep breathing isn’t enough
My anxiety and depression has crushed my ability to remember, think clearly, and conversate with those I love as well as anyone in general. This causes imense fear of any future.
I worry wayyyyy more about the past and that's even more useless because YOU CAN'T CHANGE THAT!! 😔😔😭
I was once like that but I realized: that was exactly what I wanted years ago. Now I wont repeat it. So no regrets.
Try EMDR
You can never worry about the past. You can only worry about the future. We regret the past. Resent the past. Feel guilty or ashamed of our past. Its not worry that you are experiencing. Do more inner exploration and find out more about your emotions and which ones are connected to the right titles of explanation to help you categorise emotion with experience. Good luck
@@MrTrollbaby thank you!
that is depression, i hope you can find some help
I was just panicking about my future and opened TH-cam and saw this ❤️. Thanks so much for your videos Emma, they really give me hope.
I'm more at peace with my own mortality and those of my loved ones who are still here, but I am constantly worried about what is going to happen with my country and the world. I feel so sorry for the people and animals who suffer every day and I am anxious about what freedom we still have that it will be taken from us. I was raised in a totalitarian country. I try to tackle these fears with meditation, prayer, practicing love and compassion, but it keeps coming back.
Coming from a totalitarian country, I understand how anxious you must be of the leftist takeover of societal narratives.
@@dherman0001 or by crazy wingers, either, huh, mr. individual, as lately they seem a lot angrier, and wave guns around at their (unarmed) fellow citizens like crazy people
@@jimspencer4413 Yes, the Antifa and BLM leftists are violent groups. Shame they get a pass from the media.
@@dherman0001 I’m not gonna argue with you. I don’t watch fox, & have a different view of political risk.
@@jimspencer4413 You have a right to be wrong.
Hi Emma!
I just want to acknowledge the fact that you make an excellent job with helping people and making this world a better place. Your channel has been a huge help for me both in my private life but also professionally. And this deep dive into different psychologic methods is so valuable since it isn't taught in school, and yet our quality of life can often depend on us knowing these things.
I wish you much love, happiness and joy in your life!
Thank you so much for being awesome!
Thank you! Let’s make the world a better place together! It sounds corny but I really mean it!
@@TherapyinaNutshell Maybe it sounds corny, but it's true! I'm on board with that!
@@TherapyinaNutshell I imagine myself doing or saying the things that I need to do to win the situation and then I feel kinda good but my mind plays imagery that makes me feel helpless twice as much, sometimes I feel good most times I don't.
I try to convince myself of good things but most times I fail.
@@bricktea3645 its good you can see how mind plays imagery ...it shows great awareness. When we're growing up, we aren't always shown or taught not to believe every thought that pops into mind but thankfully wonderful people like Therapy in a Nutshell and things like mindfullness are now available to us online so you (being on this site) are definitely on the right track! Rooting for you 👍
@@ruth6833 thanks
Never thought of my obsessive worrying as a habit 🤯 thank you so much for this video 💜
A very addictive one!
Meditation helps so much with this. It either allows you to interrupt all this self-talk and if that doesn't work, it allows you to be far more accepting of it =)
@@pratikkabade Most of the time the breath, but there are a good 40 classical objects that help you stay present. It's best to choose the one your mind most easily sticks to
@@pratikkabade I use the breath and the feeling of a smile when more concentrated!
It ALL started falling apart for me on 3/19/2020 when I lost my job. My life has been in a downward Spiral ever since. Just terrible I say.
Allah ordered us to pray 5 times a day. Just like prophet Jesus did. But since non muslims don't know about praying they missing this important step out, their bodies feel like they need something and you start to fill these spots with yoga or meditation. It's scientifically proofen that praying like your creator has ordered you to do is a great benefit for your body. May Allah guide you. Your creator knows his creation the best. And he doesn't need your prayer, but you need it.
@@gulsguls8488 non Muslims pray too just fyi. Best to you and yours.
I am sooo worried about the future that it makes me sick to my stomach. This upcoming school year I have some particularly big challenges coming up- and I still havent yet rested up well from the past two years of pandemic teaching.
Something I've long noticed about worry, being a worrier myself, is that the experience and feelings of worrying are WORSE than if the dreaded event happens in reality. There is something sickening about worrying worse than even real life bad events. Kind of like the real event hits, and you deal with it ... you have reality on your side in a sense. But if you are only worrying and imagining the negative event, you don't have reality on your side and there is nothing you can do. What do you think?
This ties in so well with a quote from a stoicism philosopher that I read recently that says, "There are more things in life likely to frighten us than to crush us. We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality."
V well put. I know what you mean
YES! The imagining is always far worse than the actual event! It's like Y2K, usually a non-event!
Try to bring yourself to the present time
Love this! The guided imagery example reminds me of a time in grade 10 when I had a simple chemistry class. Picture this:
Its the first day and I'm running a little late because of my bus. I get a seat on the far right side of the room, directly in front of the teacher's desk. I'm a little bit nervous because I don't have a lot of friends in the class, but I'm excited because chemistry is one of my favourite subjects. Once class gets settled, the first thing my teacher does is do an activity where we basically say everything we know about chemistry (a class brain-dump kinda thing). Everybody's shouting out random terms and stuff, the teacher is surprised on how much people know, and I'm just sitting there feeling this deep pit of despair open in my gut as I realize that I don't know any of this. I leave that class feeling horrible. But later that day I realize something - I love chemistry. Not only that, but my teacher was one of the nicest people I've ever met and I loved being in her class. So I made a promise to work incredibly hard and put in the work needed to do good. First thing being downloading the periodic table song on my phone to listen to on the bus. Whenever she gave worksheets I would do them several times for practice, and I went over my notes religiously. Over time I developed a passion for learning chemistry and ended the semester with the highest grade. I am now finishing my first year of the IB program (grade 11), and am taking Chemistry Higher Level and loving it!
This showed me that even though at first things might seem impossible, if you take the time to work as hard as you know you can and find a passion for your work, you can do anything.
Kudos if you've read this far and I hope this inspires you!
Such an important topic. Understanding that some things are out of our control (and that’s ok), is the first step.
When caring for your parents this is not so easy.. You worry if you have a future. :)
Dont forget to" put yhe oxygen mask on you first." Take some respite time or you can do damage to your own health and who will that help . Good luck. Been there.
Had the same thing with me but i learnt how to cope with it after becoming an adult..... It really can be super exhausting
Thank you so much.This really help because there's a bunch of stuff on youtube about the future of the space and i'm scared thank you
So helpful how you distinguished between productive worry and negative worry. I’m learning how to reduce fearful and paralyzing thoughts that keep me from new and wonderful opportunities. This type of content encourages me to believe that I can realize those irrational thoughts are not the truth and not based on anything real. Thank you!
My thoughts are so crippling, I wish I could find a way to look at them differently
Just started watching, it is always great to see someone who truly values their purpose
Hi Emma! This is exactly what I need and it made me feel like I was having a 1-1 therapy session with you. You are such a blessing! Thanks for your generosity in sharing these kinds of contents online. Now I need to start utilizing this technique for my health anxiety.
Emma you have been such a blessing. How incredibly kind of you to offer these amazing videos for free. Bless you❤️🙏
I send you gratitude for helping so many souls who are in this overthinking cycle. Thank You so much.
You really are amazing at breaking things down. So glad I found your channel 💕
I always procrastinate on taking decisions because it makes me anxious about future.
Emma you are helping so many people... You have supported me indirectly during a dark time I cant thank you enough x
Thank you for making this video! I was searching for videos like this because I'm worrying a lot about my future, even though im only 18 years old. Thank you for this because I now have an idea on how to work on my worries when it strucks once again. Please keep on posting videos like this because a lot of people really need to hear this, especially right now that we are in a global pandemic. Love lots
Woman! You are amazing! I so appreciate these helpful posts. I tried some of your suggestions for stopping worry at bedtime (from another one of your posts) and it has been helping me. When I start to worry, when I should be sleeping, I tell my brain. Not now brain! This is my sleep time. We will deal with those worries tomorrow, during the daytime. For some reason, this works for me!! Relief. It’s wonderful to be able to get good sleep again. Thank you for all you do.
Hi Emma! Your videos have been so helpful! I struggle with anxiety daily, but your videos are amazing. Your voice alone calms my nerves. I appreciate you making these videos to help everyone during these trying times!
You have no idea how much your videos make me understand myself. It’s amazing how much someone can help over the phone. The things you do for all of us is amazing. You help me so much I feel like I can just come to view your videos for a peace of mind. I’m so grateful.
Such a helpful video, I lost track how many times I paused to write down essential notes. I just can’t seem to shift these panic attacks at the moment, Emma is genuinely a guardian angel, and I’m not even religious. Rest assured I will be putting these steps through there paces. If anyone else is suffering Please don’t give, work on be positive, Emma’s videos are relentless - an example to us all. Good luck 😊
I love your video! I have recently been telling myself when I am anxious that it is okay to take risks, and to try things new. I often worry about things not turning out perfect, but intentionally taking opportunities and making opportunities to take safe risks helps my brain to understand that it doesn't need to know the outcome of something before I commit to it. It is okay to take risks.
Wow i just tried this and its like a balm for my mind. Just writing out a worry and imagining it going well in a balanced and measured way has made me feel so much calmer. I know it will take time to sink in and i will need to read it alot to take effect but it feels like a powerful tool. Thank you for sharing. Im looking forward to trying this with other things that worry me
your channel are the first one i subscribed back then regarding mental health, and it was right, your videos is still the most helpful and useful between all of them....
thanks Emma!!!
Wow I am so happy I came across your channel! I have struggled with my mental health for a long time, especially anxiety, and this video was just what I needed to get over my anxiety about midterms ❤️ I also really love your vibe, so friendly and sincere
Your videos are always timely and super helpful for me. I tested positive for covid Monday and my mental health has been an absolute wreck ever since, especially since I already have a diagnosed anxiety disorder before this. The what-if anxiety has been worse than the physical symptoms so far 😩 My anxieties are less concrete than the ones in this video, but I am coming away from this with some good strategies for how I can work through this still. You're very much appreciated, thank you for the wonderful videos!
The part where she explained about someone worrying about college reminds me of myself, so I'm now a freshman in college, at first I was excited and pretty sure I wanted to go to college but once college started I felt so burned out that it gave me these fears and worries that what if I fail on like the classes or assignments, what if I sometimes don't meet some of the expectations of others, what I disappoint someone, what if I'm not real world material, that got me to the point where I wanted to drop out so I talked to my mom, my therapists, and my teachers about dropping out but they encouraged me to continue because I've been doing so well, so I decided to continue plus I'm in this college program that a 2 year program which means I only get to be in college for 2 years or I could come back for more years after that so before I know it I'm already done with college so just looking at the bright side of that helps decrease my worries and fears.
Thank you Emma! As a momma to a medical special needs kid and 4 other typical kids I have an exhaustive amount of constant worry playing in my head. I truly appreciate the videos you make, the techniques you share and the way you present them with such honesty and positivity. I have found I AM becoming, as you say, "better at feeling" after years of pushing down my feelings it seems I am beginning to see the light.
As always, Emma is a blessing. Her wonderfully warm demeanor and skill as a therapist always cheer me. Today I used the "who can I serve" when I was feeling down about foot pain. Focusing on helping others always kicks away the clouds for me.
I had so much stress this year. I made myself go into fear that it made me sick and I suffered for months. I need to practice living in the moment because I was just making up the worst scenarios in my head instead of being in the present
Charlotte, @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thank goodness for you and your generous nature Emma! You have no idea ... well, maybe you do lol ... how much you are helping me and others recognize, accept and work through our complicated anxieties. Thank you so, so much!! 💚
Fear dictates every action I do some days. Anxiety about the future can be so overwhelming that it makes me just want to run away or hide under a desk and hope nothing finds me.
Thanks Emma. I'm using your content (in conjunction with reconnecting with my support network) to strive towards real positive changes in my life.
Thanks for the video. I am starting a new job and feeling a lot of anxiety and these exercises are helpful. I have tended to react to anxiety by avoiding everything and distracting as much as possible, but more and more I am learning about the things I can control and how I can proceed with things I need to do even though I am feeling anxious. Your videos have been super helpful with this.
I am currently a college freshman and dealing with my anxiety has made me terrified to go back to campus even though i was there in the fall. I keep having constant breakdowns about failing classes and being too anxious, literally had one right before watching this video. so thank you for describing exactly how i feel in the first minute lol
Erin, If possible do some public speaking courses. Avoid comparing with others. @Jay Byrd Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
These videos are perfect. I been in therapy for years, recently left. I know what's wrong and what to do to change but I could use refreshers I can rewatch and BOOM found your channel. Its a marathon guys but we all got this
Thank you for this. My husband is terminally ill and I worry about our future all the time. This will be a big help.
Thanks Emma, what a brilliant and practical video. I immediately thought of one worry to work on. The work you do is priceless.
You are godsend Ms.Mcadam. My quality of life has improved considerably over the past few weeks since i stumbled upon one of your videos recommended by youtube. You have been my go to person since then to deal with problems when I'm unable to on my own. Im glad that one day in the past you decided to open a youtube channel. Despite never having met you, I feel very calm and secure when I hear you speak. Thank you ❤️🙏.
yes, im also thankfull for this chanel 🙏🏼
This is the main thing I do lately, so thanks for posting this
Your videos are a gift to us all who are seeking help and sensible caringness to tackle our personal problems. Much appreciated 🙏
Thank you for this. I am so grateful for your videos. The positive imagery before the event is something I am going to put into practice today. You are such an amazing resource.
So very very helpful! I get caught in chronic worry and I’m trying so hard to get out of that pattern. With God’s help and doing the things that Emma suggests I am hopeful to get through this ♥️🙏🙌
Could you make a video about how to deal with a hyperactive mind? Sometimes I find myself thinking about too many things at once, like I'm trying to work from home and I end up thinking about some personal problem, distraction with my phone, etc.
Wow, sounds exactly like me! Hopefully she'll make a video.
Hi! I would highly recommend you trying mindfulness meditation! It’s one of the best practices scientifically proven to reduce anxiety in so many ways. It’s helped me to stay present and learning to recognize when my mind is going fast than the moment present. Good luck 🍀!
just watching your videos and feeling your positive vibe helps a lot. From now on I will use this for my social anxiety let's see what happens
Lol I came here for the content, but ended up learning both on how to easing worrying and new English phrases, love how articulated you are, keep up the great content!
Thanks for setting up this channel Emma! I have a therapist who helps me through mental health - but it's hard to keep track of all the information I'm given. This channel has helped me remember things I've been taught - thank you again :)
Emma you rule!!! These year as many people, many things (I will call them bad things but I see them now as the biggest teachings of my life) happened to me at the same time, one after the other, so I got into a big stress burnout situation. Your videos have helped me a lot in these difficult process, I love your positive attitude and how you explain things in a really easy to understand and approachable way. Thank you very much!!!
Thanks Sebastian!
This is the best channel I have found. Thank you. You have helped me a lot.
You are such a wealth of wisdom and truth (which sets us free)! Thank you!
Thank you for this! Thinking in terms of productive worrying vs spiraling worry really puts it into perspective for me. When I’m spiraling I will try and recognize that I’m not dealing with an imminent threat and utilize your steps. ❤️
Awesome Mindy!
Such a good video. I've seen a few therapists but it's always just talk talk talk. I wish they'd give more practical tools like this.
I totally agree!
@@TherapyinaNutshell are you on betterhelp!!
@@TherapyinaNutshell Given the pandemic my teen’s social anxiety has worsened (it was diagnosed just months before the pandemic lockdown)..can you do a video for teen social anxiety as I think teens in high school really need it right now.
Thank you for making these videos! They’re so practical & encouraging!
Thanks Emma for all your amazing content. So helpful, a real diamond!
Oh my God Ms. Emma you’re on your way to 1 million subscribers!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Found your channel May last year and thought you deserved more subs. I’m so happy your channel is where it is now. Please continue doing what you do. You’re helping a lot of people. God bless you! 💛💛💛
I love your profile pic!
@@ellasmith1822 thank you!!! Aot is coming back!!! 😁
So useful to have practical instruction on how to manage anxiety and delivered in a positive and constructive way. 👍🏻
Emma, you are wonderful. I hesitate to say you have a gift because I am sure you have worked really hard to be amazing. This was wonderful for me.
Thank you so much.
For the whole duration, I almost forgot that I am watching a video, it was as if you were talking to me in person, giving me advice and helping me out. God bless you.
Great video..but this is helpful if you have normal worries..I have obsessive scary what if worries.
I’ve just realised that every single thing I’ve ever worried about has never happened 🤔😂
Thank you so much , I’ve been worrying about any and everything for as long as I can remember and I just accepted it , I thought, “well when this is done I won’t worry anymore “ and it just went on and on with me constantly finding a new thing to worry about . I feel like the things you mentioned in this video will help me gain control of what I’m putting my energy and focus into instead of it being aimed towards the future all the time .
I felt the same before this video. I hope you feel better now.
I love the way you explian everything! Thank you!
Thank you so much! I have health anxiety which has become worse with the pandemic. This gives me some hope to look at things optimistically with the writing down and visualization. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm incredibly worried about going back to uni! So this was a great video. Some people might think it's trivial, but i feel my whole future is pivoting on my degree.
The idea that I can choose to imagine something nice happening is revelatory. So often, I deny myself those positive thoughts about the future to avoid disappointing myself.
Same here! How are you doing now?
@@Twalzz Hello :) I went back! I had my final exams and i finished my degree, now I'm so so proud of myself for sticking at it. I still have anxiety but yes it is nice to imagine a positive future.
Great video Emma! Thank you so much for this!
You are an amazing instructor! Thank you for your work!
Thank you queen... hearing you break things down almost sounds silly to me sometimes how simple it can be to live a better life through very simple but extremely helpful techniques... Ive felt lost and not myself for the longest time... extremely disconnected but you are helping me get back to living. Thank you for posting, I’m eternally grateful ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Do a video for those of us who ruminate on past errors and what we perceive as negative experiences. Please
You are truly amazing. Been watching you for a while now, it has been incredibly helpful! You do make this world a better place! I’ve seen a lot of videos from different people but nothing like this. This is practical, hands on material that is super helpful.
Wow, thank you!
Thank you so much for your videos. You’re incredibly helpful 🙏🏼💛
0:48 you just literally explained what I'm going through!
I’m always finding myself worrying about the future.
My biggest fear is how I’m going to be treated by people and whether I should speak up or stay silent when I get negative comments being thrown at me lol!
I feel a lot better when I try and talk about it with a family member or a friend.
same here . I fear what would people would say/react if i make a mistake . can't help but to get anxious whenever thinking about it .
@@victoryperseverance2755 Forget others. Take care of your life. Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated poor gut health affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thank you so much for your videos!!! I can not be more grateful 🙏
Hello, I am from Kazakhstan and wanna express my gratitude for your really helpful videos. For years I have been strugling with my anxiety and found solution in your videos. Wish you succcess on your work❤❤
I read the title too fast and I thought it said stop worrying about the furniture - and I was like wow that’s very niche
I want to make my brain return to the worry free happy days of my childhood. Even watching this video, I had random thoughts of worry. I will watch it again and again and let it sink in. Many times when I meditate I will end up daydreaming about my childhood. That helps, but when I open my eyes, it's back to my "reality ". Thank you for posting this video. Much appreciated!
Thank you for your comment.
I am 77 years old and working. I work in activities in an assisted living facility. Well almost everyday we return to memories.
But l so enjoy extemporaneously building on the stories.
I know little about you. But you can write memories down. Maybe volunteer with seniors who love hearing stories.
@@karenglenn2329 A 78 year old person! I'm just 16 now. What is the ultimate life advice you would give to me?
@@dimlighty always seek the truth.
I learned this from Thomas Aquinas.
@@karenglenn2329 In what sense do you mean 'always seek the truth'? Does that mean always do what is right?
@@dimlighty l believe in knowing the importance of the moral truth to life
Thomas Aquinas would state a premise. Then cite what others determined to be true.
He would defend what truth he was defending...Called critical thinking. I might suggest rather than advise, search critical thinking. Discipling my mind assists to redirect my worrying.
Thank you so much for posting these high quality videos. Your videos make intuitive sense and as someone with anxiety and who can’t afford therapy - learning about all these techniques really do help and I have only been listening to you for 3 days!
Thanks ash!
I have had therapist in the past but never came close to Emma. She is fabulous. So glad I found her. I've been watching videos for a few hours. Wow .....look forward to watching and working with her. Thanks Emma
Hi Emma
Happy 2021
Thank you , thank you for helping me and lot people.
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Happy 2021 to you too!
Exactly what I needed right now. Thinking of starting new buisness an worring about failing it and letting down my curret job and boss 😕
Thank you for making these videos! They are helpful and I appreciate this content!
Love this video. So helpful. I spend so much time worrying about being left or abandoned by my partner that it sucks the joy our of me and the relationship as a whole. I want to put this method to use