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No one really understands or knows who we are until we door slam them. We are so kind and giving and will do anything to help people. We give so many chances to those who continue to take advantage of us. Once we’ve had enough though, that’s it. It’s over. Usually, it’s only then that people realize who we truly were. Too little too late.
You hit it right on the head there. INFJs are known for giving people multiple chances, but once that it's betrayed - it's done. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
I wonder what people think of INFJ when we are "not at our best" or nearing a door slam. Everyone loves a helper, but what happens when the help button gets broken temporarily
That's a very interesting question. I just might have to take a look into that 🤔 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Lol “temporarily” … when the door gets slammed sometimes it gets welded shut and the next time I see someone will be at their funeral to make sure they’re really dead. lol 😂☠️
The thing is, when we're not at our best, we make sure no one sees it because we don't want to cause them problems. When the door slam occurs, it's already far beyond not being at our best, it's the critical point and there is no going back. When this point is reached it's over forever.
When I stopped worrying and wondering what other people thought about me, I matured and became much more comfortable with myself, maybe for the first time realizing my true potential.
Gen X INFJ here. Gen X grew up around people. No computers, no internet, no cell phones, no home video game system (we had to go to an arcade somewhere or inside a market or outdoor fast food place in the city to play video games where other kids were playing too), our TV stations went off the air from midnight to 6am. It was too boring to stay at home, so we gathered with our neighborhood kids everyday and had fun playing with each other outdoors or playing board games like Monopoly to pass the time. In other words, Gen X INFJs had a lot of reality testing being around other people, we were more sociable. I think we are less socially awkward because of it. I couldn't resonate with the socially awkwardness part. Sure I can be quiet and observant, but if somethings funny...I laugh with the group, if someone is serious, I take them seriously, I go with the flow of a group, but most importantly, I am very comfortable in my own skin when I am quiet. When I am a lone, my mind isn't chaotic, I am tending to the garden in my mind, working out issues, but mostly just wandering around in my inner world. It's contradictory to say that INFJs have a high emotional intelligence then on the other hand suggesting our minds and emotions are chaotic and out of touch. High emotional intelligence means we are highly attuned to our emotions and to those around us, and we make great counselors...even to ourselves. INFJs are idealists...so we default in having a positive attitude about the present and about the future.
Exactly this. Actually a lot of people are fooled and think I'm very open about stuf. But the thing is, only when I dealed with it for myself. Only my closest friends know about the rest. I seem extraverted but am very guarded about what I'll show in new groups.
Fellow INFJ Gen X er here. I thought the video was very accurate. (except that I haven’t been 20 like the models for a while LOL). I’m less socially awkward as i age and become more comfortable with myself. I laughed when I it came to “people view INFJ”s are calm, but inwardly they’re not” I’m continually shocked when people comment on my calm demeanour, because it really doesn’t feel that way inside!!
Yeah I am definitely what they mean when they say the extroverted introvert or ambivert. Some of my friends would probably assume I am an extrovert because of how I am around them. It is in large groups that I get more introverted and maybe that is because of how we grew up and had to be more sociable. People definitely have more ways to isolate and live in a way where they can avoid doing things they aren't good at doing. I do think we were forced to go with the flow more than today's generations and that might have made us learn to deal with things differently. I hated it at the time but maybe it was a good thing after all. It would be interesting to see a study done on that.
As an INFJ, here are my thoughts: 7. We are perceived as socially awkward is because we don't like small talks while at the same time, we are people pleaser...we also usually need to think a lot before we answer things, that's why we usually do better in writings... 6. We are not direct because we are sensitive to others' feelings...it is also hard for us to describe what we are feelings...in our thoughts, it is so clear, yet it just difficult to put it into words. Just like how you're asked to explain a painting. 5. Some may see us as intelligent because we like to explore many interests and topics since our minds are always busy and we need to humour it by always being creative. 4. Yes, we love to please others, that's why we're being kind and helpful, but at the same time we also observe you for your weaknesses...just in case you fcked us over. 3. Absolutely agree. Our observation skill helps us to see patterns and predict the future. That's why people think INFJ have very good intuition. 2. Yes, people see us as calm characters. But it's a constant battle in our mind. 1. We are easy to get along with according to people yet according to us, no one understand us.
I can't do small talk. I can analyse stuff or give an intellectual opinion. But even this babbling in the shop or in a bank that they do to engage customers socially is a curveball for me and I struggle to react swiftly. I tend to overthink it and try to be both polite and super witty and it doesn't work. For me, it's just a pointless waste of energy.
@KIMBA you're absolutely right. More times than not, it's always projection. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Awww ... ❤️ My mom makes fun of me, says I'm too stuck up that I walk like a peacock 🦚 I'm not stuck up though so it hurt my feelings, a lot. But peacocks are so lovely! So maybe in a way it's a compliment?
OMG.. yes!! I have a massive blind spot on how others see me. (INFJ male) I'm always baffled when I get heartfelt comments toward myself. Especially from other men. Even years after highschool, when reminiscing with old friends, I was told that I was very well liked by all social groups.. girls had crushes on me (I had no idea! Lol) Male friends back in school and even coworkers today tell me the same thing when I move/ change jobs.. "I wish you were my dad" And this is from men that aren't openly affectionate.. or what some would call "bros" (in the derogatory sense). I wish it was something I was better at "seeing". I figure people see me as weird but kind 🤷♂️ with age I just kinda stopped thinking about it (comfortable with who I am.. don't give too much thought anymore about what others think of me, I'm my own worst critic lol)
How can the Myers Briggs personality test be so accurate. I have had three people come to me on the verge of suicide. One person was just a neighbour across the road. No I never judge because I see these people as in very deep emotional pain. Family members two have told me they have thought about suicide. I have done the door slam. The explanation for it is 100% accurate. Yes I can enter a room full of people and pick up immediately underlying vibes, good and not good. I can tell I someone is lying to me immediately. And so on. I cried when I read the description of this personality because I began to understand, ‘me’. Right back to childhood. I understand so many things, hundreds of little things I see, hear or pick up on. I used to think I was being fanciful and just fooling myself I had powers I didn’t really have. It’s like a curtain has been opened and I have been set free.
I swear people can smell "I am hear to listen to you." on me!....No matter who the stranger is, they have told me things that people normally don't tell anyone but their best friends, spouses etc...I literally am sitting there thinking "Why as re you telling me this/that?"...The things I know about people can ruin their relationships....But I'd never do such a thing because I too want a person to spill my guts to....I have that person, but even I wouldn't tell people the types of things people have told me....It's just crazy!
@Jacob Fortes thank you so much for sharing! That is such a common story for INFJs, for sure - and I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
It happened to me again a few days ago. Complete strangers comes to me to tell me so many things about themselves ... I have never understood WHY this happens. I was just working on my computer!?! Then bang, I had a new friend who was sharing his/her personnal life with me in great details... How can people smell it from that far away?!?
Most people think that I'm weak or I'm not aware of what's going on. Best example was few months ago when the new guy at work came to me and started explaining things to me about the job and I was like : I've been here for the past 5 years :) People perceive me as quiet and shy because I sit in the canteen on my own. I'm not :)
I love that I'm underestimated, & no one is ever prepared for how I will respond. They believe I'm an impulsive degenerate, & have no idea how very controlled I am. I'm seen as a clown who's never serious, but that's just where I idle so no one is aware of the fact that I'm perceiving everything.
Chaotic mind is the truth, imagine bein sick n avin body aches all over with a song stuck in ya head on an endless loop why thinkin "STOP STOP STOP!!" oof
From age 5, I've recognized that I'm completely different from pretty much everyone else. Had the test said that I was not the "rarest personalty type," I would have known it was wrong.
I have had the weirdest things happen to me as an INFJ- strangers come up to me and ask for help, usually in the grocery store or department stores. I've had elderly people ask me for medical help, advice ,or rides to their doctors, saying that they know I can help them better than their family members!? One senior stopped me to tell me his story about being in Aschwitz as a nazi war prisoner, he even showed me his tattooed number on his wrist! He said he stopped to tell me this because he knew I would listen to him and understand!! This happens to me every day! Thanks for the video and listening to my stories! Love and peace. KR
Everybody tells me EVERYTHING - including their sex lives! There are images in my head I can never unsee. 😬 I can feel used. People only want to hang out with me when they have a problem, then ignore me when they want to have fun because I’m boring.
I noticed I m high tolerant and usually very easy going and don’t mind others have their ways. Once it’s too much, I d disappear from their lives. I m sure ppl would find me weird because I show no warning signs
Number 3, if I don't like an environment, I don't shut off. I start calling out the behavior. I've done this at work, and nothing breaks down a horrid environment better than calling out horrid behavior. I have a lot of fun doing it, probably shouldn't be fun. But when I can walk around fully confident just by myself and tell groups of people exactly what I don't like about their behavior or how they treat people, and their reaction is to avoid eye contact with me; I don't care about your feelings at that point. In my mind you don't care about my feelings either, so we're at a level playing field. It's fun to call it out, but it also makes me cold and careless, when all I really wanted was to be nice to people. I've been a loner my whole life so having no one supporting me doesn't phase me, what hurts is when people are reluctant to talk to me when I'm interested in their story. Because I can feel them shutting off the connection, they perceive me as a careless person and the attentive stare I have doesn't help comfort them. After awhile though people tend to let their guard down little by little, and I'm finally able to connect. It's an extreme way to handle things I guess? But if the INFJ's intensity is a shared characteristic, our extremes go far beyond what others see in public. A mild outburst from me is apparently overwhelming to others.
@@bobbyhamiltoniii4578 That extremity you mention is very real for me too. Exactly the same on the outburst, I don’t think anyone could truly handle a truly real moment of anger. One of my biggest annoyance is that I hardly ever find that emotional connection. Nobody seems to understand just how deep that rabbit hole goes.
Thank you for this video, I really needed it cause sometimes I have a heard time reading how ppl see me and I always assume its something negetive but this has helped me realize that its not all bad that ppl thing about us INFj
You're very welcome! I'm glad my video was able to shed some light on your journey 😁 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Hearing a complete stranger describe your quirks is so funny! Also, watching the video with ongoing scenarios of groups of people is kind of triggering..... Listening to complete strangers problems is a very common scenario :(
@heather thank you for taking the time to watch and leave a comment 😁 👍🏻 I appreciate your insights into the scenarios of groups of people, and I'll try to be a bit more mindful of that!
My sin was believing that deep down everyone was like me, could see and know what I do and was in sincere pursuit of Human to the depth I was. I Am moving on to a new sin I guess.
This is so accurate! 😭 I just found out this month that I'm an INFJ. I took the test twice and was surprised to know. I saw some videos regarding it and it was really accurate.
I've had people I used to go to high school with tell me that I was intimidating or a b*tch. I just laughed & told them I was just quiet because I wanted to fly under the radar. It hurts my heart that people thought I was unapproachable because I literally hung out with a variety of personalities. I was so awkward in my own skin, & didn't want anyone else to feel like that. I'm a bleeding heart, but hide it better now. Still, strangers will tell me their life stories that even their family doesn't know, & I'm awed by the fact that I am the person they felt was a safe harbor. My kids were always surprised that I'd never met the person before, & how they were so comfortable with me.
I had become accustomed to people I don't know opening up to me by the time I was in highschool. Even at a young age, adults were doing that. It still happens. I've had that with customers and all I wanted to do was get the product out so I wouldn't get in trouble. Customer service became counseling sessions.
When I tell people I don’t want to hurt them they take it as if I’m a manipulator. It’s really that I’m not going to burden others. I’m also very forthright, passionate and deep. I don’t want to hurt someone regardless of intention, it happens due to misunderstandings. I’m also not willing to sacrifice my own needs above others. I did that for far too long. 🎉❤😊
I have never felt socially awkward. In fact I have not problem introducing myself to someone in a social gathering. When it comes to my intelligence, well I just said to my sister that I have intellectual curiosity, which is not a mystery by any means. Yes, strangers have open up to me more than once!.
I AM socially awkward. No surprise there. I used to care, but as I've gotten older, I am mature enough to not even care. I am me and that's enough for me. I've got one best friend and a couple of close friends and that's all I need.
Success for All Day... Thanks again bro... Even though I dont "care" about how other people think of me... But being my INFJ-A self... I do "care" about how their brain operates when it comes to someone like myself or how they would perceive someone that is lowkey socially awkward lol
@Adrian Belgrave You're always welcome! Understood that you don't necessarily care what others think, without a doubt 😁 just offering a glimpse into things you might not if thought of! I hope you are doing well and, as always, I really appreciate your support by watching and leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Thank you so much for all of your videos. As always you are spot on. It's really funny My kids are older now but when they were younger and people would just randomly start talking to me in the grocery store and telling me their life story My children would say.. Mom do you know that person?? I would say no but everybody I meet is a potential friend and as I like to know people I'm always willing to listen and help.. Sometimes people just need someone to talk to.. I may not share but people always share with me and I give them my sometimes too honest opinion because I deal with facts🤷
INFJ on steroids. As a overly active child growing up I went into “I don’t want to be part of this crowd”. This made me appear as a rebel to peers and they followed me as a child and later in my late teens. I was drafted and hated the air force and was almost kicked out of my training (hate structure the army imposes or dominance by rank concept). Started out in field service where I excelled after a while since you work on your own and don’t expect empathy from customers (and deal with it better than peers). After 3 years of field service I worked at small company of 60 people for almost 7 years. I grew into a very complex profession in those 7 years. I made it on the list of people that must never leave the company. However I did leave (was responsible for every major project or solve any major problem, that was becoming a major drag down) and started my own company. Have my own company for 23 years now and many repeat customers. If I know, or if someone teaches me a company specific skill, I can pass on that skill to almost anybody and at any level. I can work with a CTO, with Engineers and with an shift Operator. I inform project managers on how I am organizing the project (they lay back). I will Organise the people around me that I need to succeed for the company. Managers abuse my x-ray if someone should stay on or leave the company (this bothers me, however my accuracy is painfully high). Working from home in a senior position my team lead contacted me after 6 months for the first time this year. They treat me like the Duracell rabbit and expect me to go and go and we’ll you get the idea.
For me, others really don’t want me to be more direct. If I remove the sugar coating, my words are biting & more to the point than many would like. After that, my guilt over hurting someone with those words would be overwhelming.
Ok, ok, exactly, also like many of the comments acknowledge. But so what!! I’m sick of of always fitting in to social scenarios that I know and feel very well I don’t really fit in. But somehow, no matter how different the circumstances, I somehow cope. It’s like, being simultaneously open and shut off. I’m gradually learning to just accept how I am.
Being a female INFJ in a male body, makes the social awkwardness and fear of judgement a million times worse. I have the same hyper-awareness every INFJ has about how awkward I come across to other people, how much I stand out in a crowd, and how different I am... and on top of that, people are expecting me to be male and follow male gender roles too. So I'm too scared to correct people when they treat me as a man or use male pronouns, even though it hurts me deeply. I can never speak up for myself because I'm afraid of conflict, judgement, or making things awkward. How can I be myself without feeling like I'm being judged even more..? If I had the right body, maybe I'd still be an introvert, but I'd at least have the confidence to become my true self.
I’m a safe person to talk to I’ve noticed it several times. I always believed it was bc I keep confidence. I always let people know, if they unknowingly open up share something personal with me, that I keep what they’ve said in confidence unless otherwise specified.
9:20. People have always come up to me and started talking as if they'd known me for a very long time, disclosing confidences, airing grudges and griefs. If that's just the vibe I give off as an INFJ, then ok. Nice to hear an explanation of it. Thanks.
This pod cast is a bit different from others. I was classified by a neighbor who is a Psychologist, and asked if I would do a number of test. I asked why , and he said He noticed I was not the norm. When I shoveled I would shovel more than others doing part of theirs as well to get the car out. or the front part of theirs. I would put neighbors trash carts in place, after still few days later others had not done so, but found time to Gab on their phone, while sipping wine. He'd see me doing art work. He said the test results said I was A Bona Fide INFJ. I did not know the acronym, and he explained it. I told him I am DYSLEXIC. and not good in math, spelling, or speaking of myself. I can listen to conversations, be very observant of everything going on, but most friends have had far more $$$$ money and grew tired of me making excuses to bow out to go to a dinner. ,, Curious do INFJ. personality form often from CHILDHOOD TRAMA? I also notice, many POLICE when they speak of possible People they Profiled , as a possible suspect , will speak of awkwardness when in a group, shy, some what a loaner, intelligent , Which someone said SOUNDS LIKE AN INFJ personality. This is what I heard when they were looking for the Bomber that took out I think day care, But went after the Security Guard at the Olympic Ceremony. Which he became so distraught for being accused of such an act, and committed suicide , And same PROFILE when they were looking for the person who killed the 4 college student. Perhaps they have the right person. or not, he did not admit it. Another thing people were talking about is HOW INFJ's paw their friend, and later that all talk about it as being CREEPY< Weird. so this can be A BIG TURN OFF FOR those who are Known as INFJ's I am me, Maybe or maybe not, but life has not ever been sweet , like in many of the so called POD CAST ON INFJ's looking SO PRETTY, dressed like they wear designer clothes, and came out of a beauty salon.
In pretty well every setting and for as long as I can remember, there was always someone in the mix that radiated envy. Sometimes it was mild and harmless, the medium level ones I just ‘door slammed’ (now I know what to call it!) but for the more intense ones, most times it eventually caused me so much distress i usually I had to confront with as much strategic design and force I could with what strength I had left… then walk away and go into a season on hibernation. But dealing with envy intensely focused on me has been my most taxing battles in life…
Yes I find myself dealing with envious and jealous people all of the time. I don't really understand why exactly. I am a capable person and calm so I think with some people it is that they hate that I am so comfortable in my own skin and confident. I almost wonder if they do it to try to make you uncomfortable and to try to wreck your confidence so they can be the dominant personality. They tend to be insecure controlling types who need all attention on them or they feel the need to attack the person who is threatening their control of the situation or group dynamics. My best friends younger brother is one who used to really do this a lot as we got older. He tried to play friends to me openly but he always tried to throw shade onto me and make me out to be flawed somehow. I normally just blew it off and even laughed about it at times too. Behind my back he was just making stuff up that when I finally found out about it I was pretty irritated. It wasn't even close to being based in truth but I think he did it to minimize my influence and make others favor him over me. I just stopped dealing with him except on a business level where I had to. He was someone who was used to people worshipping him and doing everything they can to accommodate him or make him feel the center of attention and I always wondered if it is the fact I am always authentic and genuine and even sigma like that bothered him. Others seem to have similar qualities and motives so I began to see it was them and not anything I do in particular other than be true to myself.
Thought I’d join a classic car club as I have a classic car. Gave them a ring and was told to “come along and see if you like it “ and I thought “ oh no I don’t fancy that at all “. Unfortunately it put me off altogether and never went.
One question I have, as an INFJ textbook personality. Has anyone noticed that socially, yes people are very comfortable with us, and I am learning counceling because of this, but the reverse side of this is, that we intimidate our others on the same prophesional level we are on. How have you gotten around this? Or can we?
That was a great video! I like it. That was so true it made me feel uncomfortable... But that is usually the sign the information is usefull for some growth.
Oh heck yes. This has been a source of frustration for me for as long as I can remember. I have a near psychic ability to discern other people's thoughts, motives, and intentions...except when I factor into the equation. Then I'm blind as a bat.
To your question: ohhh yeah, it happens a lot, for that same reason I tend to avoid asking: How are you? unless I feel the need to... Many years ago, a woman said to me that I had a beautiful white aura, I did not understand that time what she said, but, I am starting to do it since learning about myself. Be true, Regards Franz
@@SuccessForBreakfast , for some reason I got used to many things in my life without noticing them , for this, I really appreciate your videos because it make realize so many things about ourselves, so thank you for your work Best regards Franz
You're so very welcome. That's why I created this channel - to help others navigate their way in their own journey. I really appreciate comments like this, and I am so glad that my videos are really helping you in your path. Thank you so very much.
The last one is real lol. I kept being amazed by how much personal detail an uber driver could let out when I was in the car. It's a shame that they don't need espionages these day😂I guess most other people aren't emotionally dumb at all and could tell who's really listening and being kind.
As an INFJ, I realize that I am sort of an oasis for people which I am honored. However…. I get overwhelmed but clingy people or people that feel that they can come in my whenever they want. An entitlement
others say a lot of rude crap that they don't remember and that you do they need to tell you who you are or the ground shakes beneath them... your quietness is taken as a voluntary venting board
I was confused as I went to my new work and very soon one of my new colleques started telling me the whole story of his life with very difficult issues included.
Am pretty sure I am an INFJ, male, and a rare subtype, and many times since I have been a teen I have been sought for counseling and teaching, and now it's time to leave here, and pursue that. Perhaps, even though I don't join them, I should start a religion of logic and science. No, not Scientology, or even scientism, but actual logic- and math-based science. Kids should learn this, and they can, before making a whole bunch of conclusions about "history".
@Anthony Orlow being a teacher and counselor is certainly a sign that you probably are an INFJ. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Intelligence should not be consider a threat but a learning education advancement , not a judgmental comparison due to lack on knowledge from their insecurities , It’s a comparison foolish judgmental mind game, only a view will accept you, whiles others will ghost you. To know the absolute truth , takes strong effort and responsibility , And this is what people are afraid of, To them , ignorant is bliss, It leaves them less accountable , with no responsibilities , Correct me if I’m wrong, just my opinion or observation
What I always feels others look at us as INFJ is they can make use of us all the time. In life I do get many people of these kind. That's my sad part.😢
I laughed when it came to the calm comment. Glad people can see me as calm but if they could see what goes on in my head they'd be halfway done driving me to therapy.
I love to help, but please respect that we may not know everything everything. We are not licenced therapists. I love to give good advice, but remember I am not going to do the work for unless I trust you.
Yes, I am often surprised by how people will tell me so much. I am not sure how much is overt vs I pull it out bc I read them quickly. Either way, often with acquaintances, they will divulge a lot then avoid me later. I am left confused as I sort of thought that meant we were bonded. But I wonder if actually they decide afterwards they don’t want to be vulnerable anymore?
Ok so, I have seen that they say that infjs don't get angry so much. But idk, I'm a Virgo INFJ and i seem to get angry or aggressive time to time, on the other hand i am and love to be at peace most of the time
Am I not an INFJ if I only have a short span of attention? Or, if I quickly hate humanity if I heard anything bad from someone's mouth? Or, if I always symphatize, give benefit of the doubt, even if they did wrong 🥲 Or, if I don't follow the trends. AND IF I DO, it's mostly way behind normal people's time. Or, if I'm always curious about my true identity and whole being, I always wonder how am I so easy to think about dying sometimes, at the same time, I also wanted to live my life to the fullest first. I know, it's just my mood that constantly changes. Or, if I'm a magnet of famous/popular people. Plus, I make friends easily but, they think I'm dumb and stupid and funny then when I'm home, my Mom always say that I'm such a demon 😭. That, why my sister is kind and such while compare to me, I'm a loser haha Plus, I'm always at home and does not want to move a finger. (Introvert yeah) But I do argue with my Mom when she crosses a line. And in the end, i win by her silence. Not proud of it tho. She's still my mother. Ok, let's go on, Am I not an INFJ if I don't take serious in studying but I do get my way into a certain subject that I hate to pass? Or, if when I get serious in studying, I make very clear and simple explanation that others struggles to do. Like, very precise so they immediately get my point and bonus the part where, I also help people to think a new idea. So in the end, we made a great plan 😆 Or, if do get nervous in reporting to the point that I almost seem like a rapper, I'm also able to make them laugh and engage to the topic and listen to me until the end. They said I did a good job. But I know how I did it. I remember the parts I have missed to explain because it was too long for them to catch up to me. Am i not an INFJ if I make intimidating presence for some who don't know me well? But then for my loyal friends, my presence is like a potato 🥲 they even described me as childish. They said I talk things strangely, and do things unexpectedly. Their humor also is very different from mine, so it's kinda exhausting to interact with them sometimes 🤣 Or, if my facial expressions are so stiff that I had to pretend that i'm this and that 😆 Or, if i stay up late because my head is full of imaginations and thoughts Or if, I have a systematic way of living like, my routine in life is in order. Repetitive! Or, if I am more comfortable to write message than talking it through. Or, **sigh** I don't know anymore. Can anyone tell me? I don't wanna go to psychiatrists 🥺
@Inie Beer wow - thank you so much for sharing. From what you're saying, it definitely sounds like you're an introverted intuitive dominant type, whether that's an INFJ or INTJ (both extremely rare) only a test can really tell that. But what you've described sounds like many, many stories out there for both of those personality types. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to share. 🙌🏻
@@SuccessForBreakfast Thank you for your reply. I just recently found out about this MBTI types, I didn't take interest before but now I'm curious what could I possibly be 😆
can you still be an infj if you don't like helping people. I just feel like I can't truly help others without helping myself first. My mom tells me, you have so much potential to help others find God and learn about who he truly is, but you don't do anything. And I tell her, I can barely even handle my own stuff, and how I feel about the world, how an I suppose to make a solid or strong impact. She responds saying well what happens if you never figure your stuff out, I told her well I guess people will go without my wisdom.
Ok but I do have problems with my family, they just don't understand it and they don't want to understand. It's real struggle, especialy in Balkan countries where people are just to uneducated
Prajnanam brahma ( rigveda word ) prajnanam means intelligence brahma means god ,so god is intelligence ( or knowledge ) , I am INFJ A from this old culture
Some see us as gullible Your kindness as a weakness Then i do the door slam and look like the a*shole Back of my head i know i shouldn't be People pleaseing im coming off as im trying to hard And people will take advantage
I'm not easy to get along with if your one o them 500+ gender type o ppl, in fact at that point I'm probably the embodiment of evil personified, to them at least lol
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No one really understands or knows who we are until we door slam them. We are so kind and giving and will do anything to help people. We give so many chances to those who continue to take advantage of us. Once we’ve had enough though, that’s it. It’s over. Usually, it’s only then that people realize who we truly were. Too little too late.
You hit it right on the head there. INFJs are known for giving people multiple chances, but once that it's betrayed - it's done. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Good point. Folks mistake kindness for weakness. Then when we had enough and let them know, is when they see the dark of us….
Your comment is very enlightening you have said that well
I couldn't agree with you more
Bingo.
I wonder what people think of INFJ when we are "not at our best" or nearing a door slam. Everyone loves a helper, but what happens when the help button gets broken temporarily
That's a very interesting question. I just might have to take a look into that 🤔 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Good question... We also have bad days, indeed.
Lol “temporarily” … when the door gets slammed sometimes it gets welded shut and the next time I see someone will be at their funeral to make sure they’re really dead. lol 😂☠️
The thing is, when we're not at our best, we make sure no one sees it because we don't want to cause them problems. When the door slam occurs, it's already far beyond not being at our best, it's the critical point and there is no going back. When this point is reached it's over forever.
Aye!!! If you broke the button idgaf what you think or feel about it or me🤭😎
When I stopped worrying and wondering what other people thought about me, I matured and became much more comfortable with myself, maybe for the first time realizing my true potential.
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Right on!!!
What is your true potential? I'd really like to know for some mysterious reason who knows😂😅😊
Gen X INFJ here.
Gen X grew up around people. No computers, no internet, no cell phones, no home video game system (we had to go to an arcade somewhere or inside a market or outdoor fast food place in the city to play video games where other kids were playing too), our TV stations went off the air from midnight to 6am. It was too boring to stay at home, so we gathered with our neighborhood kids everyday and had fun playing with each other outdoors or playing board games like Monopoly to pass the time.
In other words, Gen X INFJs had a lot of reality testing being around other people, we were more sociable.
I think we are less socially awkward because of it.
I couldn't resonate with the socially awkwardness part. Sure I can be quiet and observant, but if somethings funny...I laugh with the group, if someone is serious, I take them seriously, I go with the flow of a group, but most importantly, I am very comfortable in my own skin when I am quiet.
When I am a lone, my mind isn't chaotic, I am tending to the garden in my mind, working out issues, but mostly just wandering around in my inner world. It's contradictory to say that INFJs have a high emotional intelligence then on the other hand suggesting our minds and emotions are chaotic and out of touch. High emotional intelligence means we are highly attuned to our emotions and to those around us, and we make great counselors...even to ourselves.
INFJs are idealists...so we default in having a positive attitude about the present and about the future.
Haha neighborhood capture the flag and rumble fumble was the best. God bless the 80s lol
Exactly this. Actually a lot of people are fooled and think I'm very open about stuf. But the thing is, only when I dealed with it for myself. Only my closest friends know about the rest. I seem extraverted but am very guarded about what I'll show in new groups.
It would be great to have videos from an older infj- 40 years or older
Fellow INFJ Gen X er here. I thought the video was very accurate. (except that I haven’t been 20 like the models for a while LOL). I’m less socially awkward as i age and become more comfortable with myself. I laughed when I it came to “people view INFJ”s are calm, but inwardly they’re not” I’m continually shocked when people comment on my calm demeanour, because it really doesn’t feel that way inside!!
Yeah I am definitely what they mean when they say the extroverted introvert or ambivert. Some of my friends would probably assume I am an extrovert because of how I am around them. It is in large groups that I get more introverted and maybe that is because of how we grew up and had to be more sociable. People definitely have more ways to isolate and live in a way where they can avoid doing things they aren't good at doing. I do think we were forced to go with the flow more than today's generations and that might have made us learn to deal with things differently. I hated it at the time but maybe it was a good thing after all. It would be interesting to see a study done on that.
As an INFJ, here are my thoughts:
7. We are perceived as socially awkward is because we don't like small talks while at the same time, we are people pleaser...we also usually need to think a lot before we answer things, that's why we usually do better in writings...
6. We are not direct because we are sensitive to others' feelings...it is also hard for us to describe what we are feelings...in our thoughts, it is so clear, yet it just difficult to put it into words. Just like how you're asked to explain a painting.
5. Some may see us as intelligent because we like to explore many interests and topics since our minds are always busy and we need to humour it by always being creative.
4. Yes, we love to please others, that's why we're being kind and helpful, but at the same time we also observe you for your weaknesses...just in case you fcked us over.
3. Absolutely agree. Our observation skill helps us to see patterns and predict the future. That's why people think INFJ have very good intuition.
2. Yes, people see us as calm characters. But it's a constant battle in our mind.
1. We are easy to get along with according to people yet according to us, no one understand us.
Well put.
I love how u put no.4 its so on point😎
I can't do small talk. I can analyse stuff or give an intellectual opinion. But even this babbling in the shop or in a bank that they do to engage customers socially is a curveball for me and I struggle to react swiftly. I tend to overthink it and try to be both polite and super witty and it doesn't work. For me, it's just a pointless waste of energy.
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People can also see an INFJ as arrogant, but more times than not that person is projecting.
@KIMBA you're absolutely right. More times than not, it's always projection. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Awww ... ❤️
My mom makes fun of me, says I'm too stuck up that I walk like a peacock 🦚 I'm not stuck up though so it hurt my feelings, a lot. But peacocks are so lovely! So maybe in a way it's a compliment?
OMG.. yes!! I have a massive blind spot on how others see me. (INFJ male)
I'm always baffled when I get heartfelt comments toward myself. Especially from other men.
Even years after highschool, when reminiscing with old friends, I was told that I was very well liked by all social groups.. girls had crushes on me (I had no idea! Lol)
Male friends back in school and even coworkers today tell me the same thing when I move/ change jobs..
"I wish you were my dad"
And this is from men that aren't openly affectionate.. or what some would call "bros" (in the derogatory sense).
I wish it was something I was better at "seeing".
I figure people see me as weird but kind 🤷♂️ with age I just kinda stopped thinking about it (comfortable with who I am.. don't give too much thought anymore about what others think of me, I'm my own worst critic lol)
How can the Myers Briggs personality test be so accurate. I have had three people come to me on the verge of suicide. One person was just a neighbour across the road. No I never judge because I see these people as in very deep emotional pain. Family members two have told me they have thought about suicide. I have done the door slam. The explanation for it is 100% accurate. Yes I can enter a room full of people and pick up immediately underlying vibes, good and not good. I can tell I someone is lying to me immediately. And so on. I cried when I read the description of this personality because I began to understand, ‘me’. Right back to childhood. I understand so many things, hundreds of little things I see, hear or pick up on. I used to think I was being fanciful and just fooling myself I had powers I didn’t really have. It’s like a curtain has been opened and I have been set free.
yup.
hiya friend
Yes ! An opening curtain. Extraordinary!
Like pieces of a puzzle finally coming together and, bit by bit, starting to make sense of our bigger picture. Congrats on your breakthrough!
Me too! It felt so good to finally feel understood.
I swear people can smell "I am hear to listen to you." on me!....No matter who the stranger is, they have told me things that people normally don't tell anyone but their best friends, spouses etc...I literally am sitting there thinking "Why as re you telling me this/that?"...The things I know about people can ruin their relationships....But I'd never do such a thing because I too want a person to spill my guts to....I have that person, but even I wouldn't tell people the types of things people have told me....It's just crazy!
@Jacob Fortes thank you so much for sharing! That is such a common story for INFJs, for sure - and I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
It happened to me again a few days ago. Complete strangers comes to me to tell me so many things about themselves
... I have never understood WHY this happens. I was just working on my computer!?! Then bang, I had a new friend who was sharing his/her personnal life with me in great details... How can people smell it from that far away?!?
Holy cow. I've aalso had complete strangers unload their lives on me. Sometimes I was just a sympathetic ear, sometimes I offered advice.
Me too 😂
Just too many times
The funniest one was a girl chatting with me about her love life for 4 hours and then asking me to delete the chat 😂
Having worked in customer service, I've always been amazed at the personal details so many people told me! It's good I can keep secrets very well!
Most people think that I'm weak or I'm not aware of what's going on. Best example was few months ago when the new guy at work came to me and started explaining things to me about the job and I was like : I've been here for the past 5 years :) People perceive me as quiet and shy because I sit in the canteen on my own. I'm not :)
I love that I'm underestimated, & no one is ever prepared for how I will respond. They believe I'm an impulsive degenerate, & have no idea how very controlled I am. I'm seen as a clown who's never serious, but that's just where I idle so no one is aware of the fact that I'm perceiving everything.
Chaotic mind is the truth, imagine bein sick n avin body aches all over with a song stuck in ya head on an endless loop why thinkin "STOP STOP STOP!!" oof
From age 5, I've recognized that I'm completely different from pretty much everyone else. Had the test said that I was not the "rarest personalty type," I would have known it was wrong.
@Uncle Tony that's a very common story for INFJs, for sure. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
I have had the weirdest things happen to me as an INFJ- strangers come up to me and ask for help, usually in the grocery store or department stores. I've had elderly people ask me for medical help, advice ,or rides to their doctors, saying that they know I can help them better than their family members!? One senior stopped me to tell me his story about being in Aschwitz as a nazi war prisoner, he even showed me his tattooed number on his wrist! He said he stopped to tell me this because he knew I would listen to him and understand!! This happens to me every day! Thanks for the video and listening to my stories! Love and peace. KR
Everybody tells me EVERYTHING - including their sex lives! There are images in my head I can never unsee. 😬 I can feel used. People only want to hang out with me when they have a problem, then ignore me when they want to have fun because I’m boring.
I noticed I m high tolerant and usually very easy going and don’t mind others have their ways. Once it’s too much, I d disappear from their lives. I m sure ppl would find me weird because I show no warning signs
Number 3, if I don't like an environment, I don't shut off.
I start calling out the behavior.
I've done this at work, and nothing breaks down a horrid environment better than calling out horrid behavior.
I have a lot of fun doing it, probably shouldn't be fun.
But when I can walk around fully confident just by myself and tell groups of people exactly what I don't like about their behavior or how they treat people, and their reaction is to avoid eye contact with me;
I don't care about your feelings at that point.
In my mind you don't care about my feelings either, so we're at a level playing field.
It's fun to call it out, but it also makes me cold and careless, when all I really wanted was to be nice to people.
I've been a loner my whole life so having no one supporting me doesn't phase me, what hurts is when people are reluctant to talk to me when I'm interested in their story. Because I can feel them shutting off the connection, they perceive me as a careless person and the attentive stare I have doesn't help comfort them.
After awhile though people tend to let their guard down little by little, and I'm finally able to connect.
It's an extreme way to handle things I guess?
But if the INFJ's intensity is a shared characteristic, our extremes go far beyond what others see in public.
A mild outburst from me is apparently overwhelming to others.
@@bobbyhamiltoniii4578 That extremity you mention is very real for me too.
Exactly the same on the outburst, I don’t think anyone could truly handle a truly real moment of anger.
One of my biggest annoyance is that I hardly ever find that emotional connection. Nobody seems to understand just how deep that rabbit hole goes.
Thank you for this video, I really needed it cause sometimes I have a heard time reading how ppl see me and I always assume its something negetive but this has helped me realize that its not all bad that ppl thing about us INFj
You're very welcome! I'm glad my video was able to shed some light on your journey 😁 I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Hearing a complete stranger describe your quirks is so funny!
Also, watching the video with ongoing scenarios of groups of people is kind of triggering.....
Listening to complete strangers problems is a very common scenario :(
@heather thank you for taking the time to watch and leave a comment 😁 👍🏻 I appreciate your insights into the scenarios of groups of people, and I'll try to be a bit more mindful of that!
My sin was believing that deep down everyone was like me, could see and know what I do and was in sincere pursuit of Human to the depth I was.
I Am moving on to a new sin I guess.
This is so accurate! 😭 I just found out this month that I'm an INFJ. I took the test twice and was surprised to know. I saw some videos regarding it and it was really accurate.
And it's so interesting. These videos confirm what we INFJ's already know about ourselves
I've had people I used to go to high school with tell me that I was intimidating or a b*tch. I just laughed & told them I was just quiet because I wanted to fly under the radar. It hurts my heart that people thought I was unapproachable because I literally hung out with a variety of personalities. I was so awkward in my own skin, & didn't want anyone else to feel like that. I'm a bleeding heart, but hide it better now. Still, strangers will tell me their life stories that even their family doesn't know, & I'm awed by the fact that I am the person they felt was a safe harbor. My kids were always surprised that I'd never met the person before, & how they were so comfortable with me.
I had become accustomed to people I don't know opening up to me by the time I was in highschool. Even at a young age, adults were doing that.
It still happens. I've had that with customers and all I wanted to do was get the product out so I wouldn't get in trouble. Customer service became counseling sessions.
When I tell people I don’t want to hurt them they take it as if I’m a manipulator. It’s really that I’m not going to burden others. I’m also very forthright, passionate and deep. I don’t want to hurt someone regardless of intention, it happens due to misunderstandings. I’m also not willing to sacrifice my own needs above others. I did that for far too long. 🎉❤😊
I have never felt socially awkward. In fact I have not problem introducing myself to someone in a social gathering. When it comes to my intelligence, well I just said to my sister that I have intellectual curiosity, which is not a mystery by any means.
Yes, strangers have open up to me more than once!.
I AM socially awkward. No surprise there. I used to care, but as I've gotten older, I am mature enough to not even care. I am me and that's enough for me. I've got one best friend and a couple of close friends and that's all I need.
Accurate & truthful discussion about INFJ traits & perceptions of such traits by others.
@Mart Cichocki I really appreciate that. And thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Success for All Day... Thanks again bro... Even though I dont "care" about how other people think of me... But being my INFJ-A self... I do "care" about how their brain operates when it comes to someone like myself or how they would perceive someone that is lowkey socially awkward lol
@Adrian Belgrave You're always welcome! Understood that you don't necessarily care what others think, without a doubt 😁 just offering a glimpse into things you might not if thought of! I hope you are doing well and, as always, I really appreciate your support by watching and leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
Thank you so much for all of your videos. As always you are spot on. It's really funny My kids are older now but when they were younger and people would just randomly start talking to me in the grocery store and telling me their life story My children would say.. Mom do you know that person?? I would say no but everybody I meet is a potential friend and as I like to know people I'm always willing to listen and help.. Sometimes people just need someone to talk to.. I may not share but people always share with me and I give them my sometimes too honest opinion because I deal with facts🤷
INFJ on steroids. As a overly active child growing up I went into “I don’t want to be part of this crowd”. This made me appear as a rebel to peers and they followed me as a child and later in my late teens. I was drafted and hated the air force and was almost kicked out of my training (hate structure the army imposes or dominance by rank concept). Started out in field service where I excelled after a while since you work on your own and don’t expect empathy from customers (and deal with it better than peers). After 3 years of field service I worked at small company of 60 people for almost 7 years. I grew into a very complex profession in those 7 years. I made it on the list of people that must never leave the company. However I did leave (was responsible for every major project or solve any major problem, that was becoming a major drag down) and started my own company. Have my own company for 23 years now and many repeat customers. If I know, or if someone teaches me a company specific skill, I can pass on that skill to almost anybody and at any level. I can work with a CTO, with Engineers and with an shift Operator. I inform project managers on how I am organizing the project (they lay back). I will Organise the people around me that I need to succeed for the company. Managers abuse my x-ray if someone should stay on or leave the company (this bothers me, however my accuracy is painfully high). Working from home in a senior position my team lead contacted me after 6 months for the first time this year. They treat me like the Duracell rabbit and expect me to go and go and we’ll you get the idea.
This is one of the most accurate videos on my personality type I have watched so far. Thank you for sharing this information.
Yes! I used to be confused when strangers open up to me but I get accustom to it now.
For me, others really don’t want me to be more direct. If I remove the sugar coating, my words are biting & more to the point than many would like. After that, my guilt over hurting someone with those words would be overwhelming.
INFJ here: helpful video! Especially the part with "showing emotions"... ❤
It's so true. I can make a lot of people open up and talk about their life story from one meeting without any effort.
I've had people tell me that they felt like they have known me for years after a brief time.
i have all of that. in addition, i'm also easily get along with babies, dogs, and some cats
I know this voice. There is another good therapist channel who talks about childhood trauma and attachment styles. Wonder if it's the same guy. 🤷♂️😏
Ok, ok, exactly, also like many of the comments acknowledge. But so what!! I’m sick of of always fitting in to social scenarios that I know and feel very well I don’t really fit in. But somehow, no matter how different the circumstances, I somehow cope. It’s like, being simultaneously open and shut off. I’m gradually learning to just accept how I am.
Being a female INFJ in a male body, makes the social awkwardness and fear of judgement a million times worse. I have the same hyper-awareness every INFJ has about how awkward I come across to other people, how much I stand out in a crowd, and how different I am... and on top of that, people are expecting me to be male and follow male gender roles too. So I'm too scared to correct people when they treat me as a man or use male pronouns, even though it hurts me deeply. I can never speak up for myself because I'm afraid of conflict, judgement, or making things awkward. How can I be myself without feeling like I'm being judged even more..? If I had the right body, maybe I'd still be an introvert, but I'd at least have the confidence to become my true self.
I’m a safe person to talk to I’ve noticed it several times. I always believed it was bc I keep confidence. I always let people know, if they unknowingly open up share something personal with me, that I keep what they’ve said in confidence unless otherwise specified.
9:20. People have always come up to me and started talking as if they'd known me for a very long time, disclosing confidences, airing grudges and griefs. If that's just the vibe I give off as an INFJ, then ok. Nice to hear an explanation of it. Thanks.
This pod cast is a bit different from others. I was classified by a neighbor who is a Psychologist, and asked if I would do a number of test. I asked why , and he said He noticed I was not the norm. When I shoveled I would shovel more than others doing part of theirs as well to get the car out. or the front part of theirs. I would put neighbors trash carts in place, after still few days later others had not done so, but found time to Gab on their phone, while sipping wine. He'd see me doing art work. He said the test results said I was A Bona Fide INFJ. I did not know the acronym, and he explained it. I told him I am DYSLEXIC. and not good in math, spelling, or speaking of myself. I can listen to conversations, be very observant of everything going on, but most friends have had far more $$$$ money and grew tired of me making excuses to bow out to go to a dinner. ,, Curious do INFJ. personality form often from CHILDHOOD TRAMA? I also notice, many POLICE when they speak of possible People they Profiled , as a possible suspect , will speak of awkwardness when in a group, shy, some what a loaner, intelligent , Which someone said SOUNDS LIKE AN INFJ personality. This is what I heard when they were looking for the Bomber that took out I think day care, But went after the Security Guard at the Olympic Ceremony. Which he became so distraught for being accused of such an act, and committed suicide , And same PROFILE when they were looking for the person who killed the 4 college student. Perhaps they have the right person. or not, he did not admit it. Another thing people were talking about is HOW INFJ's paw their friend, and later that all talk about it as being CREEPY< Weird. so this can be A BIG TURN OFF FOR those who are Known as INFJ's I am me, Maybe or maybe not, but life has not ever been sweet , like in many of the so called POD CAST ON INFJ's looking SO PRETTY, dressed like they wear designer clothes, and came out of a beauty salon.
I get the "be more direct" or "stop being so nice" all of the time.
In pretty well every setting and for as long as I can remember, there was always someone in the mix that radiated envy. Sometimes it was mild and harmless, the medium level ones I just ‘door slammed’ (now I know what to call it!) but for the more intense ones, most times it eventually caused me so much distress i usually I had to confront with as much strategic design and force I could with what strength I had left… then walk away and go into a season on hibernation.
But dealing with envy intensely focused on me has been my most taxing battles in life…
Yes I find myself dealing with envious and jealous people all of the time. I don't really understand why exactly. I am a capable person and calm so I think with some people it is that they hate that I am so comfortable in my own skin and confident. I almost wonder if they do it to try to make you uncomfortable and to try to wreck your confidence so they can be the dominant personality.
They tend to be insecure controlling types who need all attention on them or they feel the need to attack the person who is threatening their control of the situation or group dynamics. My best friends younger brother is one who used to really do this a lot as we got older. He tried to play friends to me openly but he always tried to throw shade onto me and make me out to be flawed somehow. I normally just blew it off and even laughed about it at times too. Behind my back he was just making stuff up that when I finally found out about it I was pretty irritated. It wasn't even close to being based in truth but I think he did it to minimize my influence and make others favor him over me. I just stopped dealing with him except on a business level where I had to. He was someone who was used to people worshipping him and doing everything they can to accommodate him or make him feel the center of attention and I always wondered if it is the fact I am always authentic and genuine and even sigma like that bothered him. Others seem to have similar qualities and motives so I began to see it was them and not anything I do in particular other than be true to myself.
Yup, socially awkward but easy to get along with… INFJ are such a paradox
Only took a minute to get a screw tube notification.
Well, they need to get on it, then! 🤣
@Mary C. Dunford 😁
Thought I’d join a classic car club as I have a classic car. Gave them a ring and was told to “come along and see if you like it “ and I thought “ oh no I don’t fancy that at all “. Unfortunately it put me off altogether and never went.
found out that im an infj an hour ago and now im hooked to these videos
Holy shit!!! Why am i learning this just now??
As an INFJ, I always feel socially awkward... and nothing is going to change that fact, no matter how much time goes by. :)
I have being judged heavily until it is now threatening my life. Everything that you say in this video matched up to my personality.
It's true. New friends open up to me real fast, faster than me. And I thought I was just following Dale Carnegie's advice - to be interested in them.
One question I have, as an INFJ textbook personality. Has anyone noticed that socially, yes people are very comfortable with us, and I am learning counceling because of this, but the reverse side of this is, that we intimidate our others on the same prophesional level we are on. How have you gotten around this? Or can we?
Still trying to figure that out. Happens to me also...
That was a great video! I like it. That was so true it made me feel uncomfortable... But that is usually the sign the information is usefull for some growth.
Yes stranger's open to me and I'm like ok just tell me everything I guess while I share very little about myself.
Oh heck yes. This has been a source of frustration for me for as long as I can remember. I have a near psychic ability to discern other people's thoughts, motives, and intentions...except when I factor into the equation. Then I'm blind as a bat.
To your question: ohhh yeah, it happens a lot, for that same reason I tend to avoid asking: How are you? unless I feel the need to...
Many years ago, a woman said to me that I had a beautiful white aura, I did not understand that time what she said, but, I am starting to do it since learning about myself.
Be true, Regards
Franz
Yeah, I bet it does, and what amazing thing for someone to tell you!
@@SuccessForBreakfast , for some reason I got used to many things in my life without noticing them , for this, I really appreciate your videos because it make realize so many things about ourselves, so thank you for your work
Best regards
Franz
You're so very welcome. That's why I created this channel - to help others navigate their way in their own journey. I really appreciate comments like this, and I am so glad that my videos are really helping you in your path. Thank you so very much.
Spot on, FJMA 😊
The last one is real lol. I kept being amazed by how much personal detail an uber driver could let out when I was in the car. It's a shame that they don't need espionages these day😂I guess most other people aren't emotionally dumb at all and could tell who's really listening and being kind.
yeah every single one describes me lol :P but you have to mention our weird and often dark sense of humor
As an INFJ, I realize that I am sort of an oasis for people which I am honored. However…. I get overwhelmed but clingy people or people that feel that they can come in my whenever they want. An entitlement
others say a lot of rude crap that they don't remember and that you do
they need to tell you who you are or the ground shakes beneath them...
your quietness is taken as a voluntary venting board
combining mind and heart is what i do
I know a little of everything, but not enough of a lot.😂
I've got no problem bein as direct as a planet killin asteroid lol
@infj-t guy 🤣🤣
I was confused as I went to my new work and very soon one of my new colleques started telling me the whole story of his life with very difficult issues included.
Am pretty sure I am an INFJ, male, and a rare subtype, and many times since I have been a teen I have been sought for counseling and teaching, and now it's time to leave here, and pursue that. Perhaps, even though I don't join them, I should start a religion of logic and science. No, not Scientology, or even scientism, but actual logic- and math-based science. Kids should learn this, and they can, before making a whole bunch of conclusions about "history".
@Anthony Orlow being a teacher and counselor is certainly a sign that you probably are an INFJ. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂
My SE is a BIG blind spot. That's why I can never find anything
@Phillip McKinnon that's is a very common thread for INFJs, for sure. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment and for watching 👍🏻
Intelligence should not be consider a threat but a learning education advancement , not a judgmental comparison due to lack on knowledge from their insecurities , It’s a comparison foolish judgmental mind game, only a view will accept you, whiles others will ghost you.
To know the absolute truth , takes strong effort and responsibility , And this is what people are afraid of, To them , ignorant is bliss, It leaves
them less accountable , with no responsibilities , Correct me if I’m wrong, just my opinion or observation
What I always feels others look at us as INFJ is they can make use of us all the time. In life I do get many people of these kind. That's my sad part.😢
Speaking of learning did y'all know a black hole is formed from a core collapse?
@infj-t guy I did know that! But thank you for dropping some interesting knowledge here - I really appreciate it 🙂 👍🏻
It's immaterial to me as I prefer to hang out on the otherside of the event horizon; the side that doesn't wish to consume the very core of my being.
@T S 🤔🤔
I laughed when it came to the calm comment. Glad people can see me as calm but if they could see what goes on in my head they'd be halfway done driving me to therapy.
I love to help, but please respect that we may not know everything everything. We are not licenced therapists. I love to give good advice, but remember I am not going to do the work for unless I trust you.
Yes, I am often surprised by how people will tell me so much. I am not sure how much is overt vs I pull it out bc I read them quickly. Either way, often with acquaintances, they will divulge a lot then avoid me later. I am left confused as I sort of thought that meant we were bonded. But I wonder if actually they decide afterwards they don’t want to be vulnerable anymore?
When you peak in the phase two maturity scene, it's a rarefied atmosphere. That's when it's 50 in and 50 back, you can have lots of fun. 😂😊
Ok so, I have seen that they say that infjs don't get angry so much. But idk, I'm a Virgo INFJ and i seem to get angry or aggressive time to time, on the other hand i am and love to be at peace most of the time
Yes I'm a comfortable place for other people, then they want to kill me when I'm not there. Because I can't be.
Am I not an INFJ if I only have a short span of attention?
Or, if I quickly hate humanity if I heard anything bad from someone's mouth?
Or, if I always symphatize, give benefit of the doubt, even if they did wrong 🥲
Or, if I don't follow the trends. AND IF I DO, it's mostly way behind normal people's time.
Or, if I'm always curious about my true identity and whole being, I always wonder how am I so easy to think about dying sometimes, at the same time, I also wanted to live my life to the fullest first.
I know, it's just my mood that constantly changes.
Or, if I'm a magnet of famous/popular people. Plus, I make friends easily but, they think I'm dumb and stupid and funny then when I'm home, my Mom always say that I'm such a demon 😭. That, why my sister is kind and such while compare to me, I'm a loser haha
Plus, I'm always at home and does not want to move a finger. (Introvert yeah)
But I do argue with my Mom when she crosses a line. And in the end, i win by her silence. Not proud of it tho. She's still my mother.
Ok, let's go on,
Am I not an INFJ if I don't take serious in studying but I do get my way into a certain subject that I hate to pass?
Or, if when I get serious in studying, I make very clear and simple explanation that others struggles to do. Like, very precise so they immediately get my point and bonus the part where, I also help people to think a new idea. So in the end, we made a great plan 😆
Or, if do get nervous in reporting to the point that I almost seem like a rapper, I'm also able to make them laugh and engage to the topic and listen to me until the end. They said I did a good job. But I know how I did it. I remember the parts I have missed to explain because it was too long for them to catch up to me.
Am i not an INFJ if I make intimidating presence for some who don't know me well? But then for my loyal friends, my presence is like a potato 🥲 they even described me as childish. They said I talk things strangely, and do things unexpectedly. Their humor also is very different from mine, so it's kinda exhausting to interact with them sometimes 🤣
Or, if my facial expressions are so stiff that I had to pretend that i'm this and that 😆
Or, if i stay up late because my head is full of imaginations and thoughts
Or if, I have a systematic way of living like, my routine in life is in order. Repetitive!
Or, if I am more comfortable to write message than talking it through.
Or, **sigh** I don't know anymore. Can anyone tell me? I don't wanna go to psychiatrists 🥺
@Inie Beer wow - thank you so much for sharing. From what you're saying, it definitely sounds like you're an introverted intuitive dominant type, whether that's an INFJ or INTJ (both extremely rare) only a test can really tell that. But what you've described sounds like many, many stories out there for both of those personality types. Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to share. 🙌🏻
@@SuccessForBreakfast Thank you for your reply. I just recently found out about this MBTI types, I didn't take interest before but now I'm curious what could I possibly be 😆
Great video.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment and for watching 👍🏻 🙂
Not put off a’tall…
@Lori Ellen good! Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment 😁 👍🏻
Thank you for this
Waoh..jus waoh!!!
Very interesting video...
I notice that people ,sooner or later seem scared of me.. Don't really get why , since i'am the nicest person, i assure you😇
We notice everything.
After watching videos like this, people think INFJs are always young and good looking.
can you still be an infj if you don't like helping people. I just feel like I can't truly help others without helping myself first. My mom tells me, you have so much potential to help others find God and learn about who he truly is, but you don't do anything. And I tell her, I can barely even handle my own stuff, and how I feel about the world, how an I suppose to make a solid or strong impact. She responds saying well what happens if you never figure your stuff out, I told her well I guess people will go without my wisdom.
I am getting close to 70
Ok but I do have problems with my family, they just don't understand it and they don't want to understand. It's real struggle, especialy in Balkan countries where people are just to uneducated
Self righteous
Well excuse me for existing.
🤣🤣🤣 ffs
To understand who runs clown world, youtube, Call Me Kinfolk. The Ice Spice Gematria Breakdown.
Prajnanam brahma ( rigveda word ) prajnanam means intelligence brahma means god ,so god is intelligence ( or knowledge ) , I am INFJ A from this old culture
That was very interesting. Thank you so much for that!
We have Fe as second function so we know very well how others perceive us. Wtf dude
Some see us as
gullible
Your kindness as a weakness
Then i do the door slam and look like the a*shole
Back of my head i know i shouldn't be
People pleaseing im coming off as im trying to hard
And people will take advantage
I prefer plants!
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They don’t 🤷♂️
@hugh mc nicholl that's so very true! 💯 thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment 🙌🏻
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I'm not easy to get along with if your one o them 500+ gender type o ppl, in fact at that point I'm probably the embodiment of evil personified, to them at least lol