That's very black & white, all-or-nothing thinking. If you don't/can't trust any of your co-workers, either you are new, or you need to gtfo. What do you do if there is ONE person who legitimately and damagingly betrays your trust? Why does that reflect badly on you? If the person is artificial & therefore likable, they thrive while manipulating you? Fun times.
No. Don’t trust co-worker nor managers. Keep your personal business private. They will use your information against you if they need to make you the villains; especially if their necks are on the line. It is a business and co-workers are not your friends.
Yes and you best pray or whatever the Bullying Criminal Harassment Clique at work does not Hack your cell phone, your pc computer or even your work computuer via VPN.
Same here! I work in an organization where there is this family feel because people work there for decades. I was very private until certain coworkers were overly friendly to me during a very hard time. They ended up proving themselves to be frenemies. Don't fall for the concern! It's fake
Watching this video now at work, as I deal with toxic, underhanded coworkers...you know the type: they will smile in your face and claim you can trust them, as they go running to snitch on you a few minutes later? Yeah. I don't trust anyone at my job, particularly in the department I work in! Trying to escape now as I job hunt. All while tolerating toxic, fake coworkers, and a manager that shows blatant favoritism, racism, and lies in your face. Trying to transfer internally, as my issue is within the department, not company itself, but if that's not an option, I WILL find options outside the facility. You know it's a bad sign when they talk about each other behind their backs, yet smile in that same person's face when they're around. Meaning you KNOW as soon as you leave the room, they're talking about you as well. I no longer confide in anyone: I keep things very simple and work related. Do my job and go home. Am I happy? NO. Absolutely not. But I'm trying to stay sane, calm, and focused until something better comes along. I used to think I could play the "office politics" game and ride it out? But sometimes you have to know when to walk away from a bad situation.
Toxic coworkers are another level, and yours have shown you that they are not trustworthy (and immature). Hold those boundaries, especially with you personal life. Set an internal boundary that you don't care what they think it speculate about you. You'll never please them and they are not capable of bonding with others unless it's through misery. This will help you survive until you're out of it 💜
@@JenniferBrick Exactly! Thank you for your words of wisdom Jennifer! Every since I found your channel, I've been binge-watching so many relevant videos that have helped my situation and work towards improving my professional career. Your videos are part of the reason I realized I was working in a toxic environment and how I realized it was time for me to do something- Please keep up the great work! You really are helping some of us more than you realize :)
Hell to the No. I don't trust my colleagues. I deal with colleagues for business purposes only. If I need to vent about work related issues I vent to friends/ associates that are external outside the company.
Noup. My thing is never eeeever trust your coworkers. Someday you'll leave this work and you regret ever telling people your secrets or feelings. Anyway, as always, great video!
I used to work for a small company. One day I had to go to another city with my supervisor and he started to talk about how he would cheat on his girlfriend and other stuff. I could have used that to destroy his life, but never did. He was planning popping the question. Since we rented a car to go to that city, he would play the same song over and over again. I was tired and the trip took 10 hours. I said to one of the new guys about how sick I was of listening to the supervisor's playlist and he told everybody. I felt so betrayed. Later I learned that they would talk behind my back and was fired months later. Said supervisor would brag about how he had the power to fire anybody for no reason. Never thought I would be next. Never ever share info with your co-workers.
I’ve learned not to trust because it gets you in trouble. I don’t owe my coworkers my trust. I treat them with respect and keep my opinions to myself and make sure there are no interruptions in the job that is expected….but trust, nope
they wont trust me, so they wont tell me theoir personal stuff ? good. my colleagues are my profesional relationships. in general, I dont want them to know anything about my personal life, my health, where I was on vacation, etc. if that is stopping them to work with me, I wont work with them.
The thing is people are so nice to you when they need something. I’ve done so much for multiple people at the office since they’ve been WFH and after a year when I saw them in the office again no one barley acknowledged me or even said hello. Really rude
Well do not trust your co workers at least until you feel you can trust them. Be neutral with your co workers at first, then wait until your co workers SHOW you that you can trust them. Never discuss your Financial situation with co workers. First, it is none of their business. Second, if you tell co workers that you have numerous bills to pay and it's a struggle for you to make payments, that could be used against you. Your new co workers might start to think they can dump on you in terms of workload because of your debt situation.
Excellent points, Pablo! Starting with a baseline of professional trust, sometimes it will build. But having boundaries and not discussion personal, and especially financial matters, is a good idea.
@@heatherstacy2976 And if they ask questions on this subject of your Debt level, either ignore the questions, OR LIE about your Financial situation. Tell them you're doing alright financially even of that isn't true.
Trust is a touchy subject. I know you're mostly speaking of office environments, so I gotta say more blue collar places are far less toxic. Yes overall everyone only looks put for themselves but the physical danger aspect you wind up looking out for each other a ton more. Yes we raz each other constantly but we'll only stab each other face to face. I tried office work it was so dang toxic.
It really depends on the person but that takes time to figure out. You can trust certain people as a casual friend but some things even friends shouldn’t know.
I do agree some level is needed, but I will never teach people anything that I've come up with. I had to train a trainer and did that, she then took my work and presented it as her own and took the credit for it
@@JenniferBrick might I have the title of it? As I see it the action is bad. My manager being a coward and not addressing it with the other manager is at least as bad
I can't trust anybody... My Co workers are always back stabbing (and they are the laziest but the boss favs) and my boss is never at fault... And micromanaging to the max
Trust is something that should be earned. Trusting anyone blindly isn't wise. You know people based on their consistent actions. I also think it's possible to like someone but know they're not to be trusted with certain things because you've seen that person in various situations.
I built a strong relationship with some on my immediate team. Recently I took a big step back from every member on my team due to being within close proxy to an overstepping colleague who thinks she is my boss. I have had 4 people reach out to me of their own volition and ask if everything is ok and have brought up they miss my happy welcoming personality. These 4 people opened up about also having issues with the same co worker and have been actually feeling the same way. Having professional boundaries can make you build some great professional relationships with colleagues and can earn you valuable respect when it comes time to need for change
@@JenniferBrick trusting people will make you vulnerable...that’s where the smoke and Mirrors comes in..you portray trust but you never in reality give it..give and people will take.advantage.especially if it increases their salary or gets them better working conditions..
@@JenniferBrick you'll wait til you get stitched up twice by a co worker ,then you'll say to yourself... I think I'll stop being a chump now..and start looking after myself..which is what your co workers do.. Why should you expect to trust people just because you work with them?..its like trusting the first person you meet in the street...absolutely dumb..now if they've put their life on the line for you..thats another matter... go right ahead and trust them...theyre worth the risk...
@@JenniferBrick some people never achieve success at work....they are just used as fodder for company profit..wage slaves/ dispensibles./ sweat shop working...low low wages...unsocial hours. disrespected...intimidated.laughed at..berated.
There is one co-worker I absolutely do not trust. When we have had disagreements, he immediately goes to the boss who agrees with him (they are friends) and I am labelled 'agressive' (I am female and it related to a reply to his email) and he was labelled 'to the point'. As the only female in the office of 9, this coworker tries to treat me like his PA and when I push back on it I get called 'agressive'. How the hell do I deal with this? Everyone else I get on with because we all do our job role - if there are any issues we work to resolve it. I have respect for those colleagues (they are not my 'friends') because we all respect boundaries and know what is expected. This co-worker, does not. And he always gets the back of my boss.
I told a co worker how I was feeling one day, during the conversation I asked her to keep it to herself; she went and discussed it with my manger which then turned into a whole other thing. She then came back and said she was trying to help…. Which was super annoying because there was no help of the sort because my manager took it badly. So what did I do???? I exposed what she did to the office so people knew not to trust her, using myself as the example.
I take it on a person by person basis. Some you can trust implicitly, some are outright snakes. I give them 3 months. If they show they’re worth the effort then yeah, we can be friends.
The thing is Jennifer my problem at work is being too trusting/open/kind (ENFP personality type) and being really hurt if a manager or co-worker throws me under the bus so now I’m learning to be less open and to keep my private life private or pick and choose who I open to at work. I work in the Australian public service (very busy department) government departments are full on and great but people can definately throw you under the bus in meetings or play the “office politics” games to get promoted… it’s a very interesting place to work lol!! Very hierachal too so you have to make sure you don’t upset the higher levels or you get in big trouble with performance management etc etc… I’m still new to the public service! Also can you give us tips or me on how to survive on a non ongoing contract at work and to try to stay sane lol!! Cos during your full time contract jobs you have an end date and have to search for other ongoing/permanent jobs which can be so stressful! I much prefer ongoing/permanent jobs over contract jobs/non ongoing etc!! More job stability:)
Bosses and superiors constantly and consistently cannot be trusted, because they have their own agendas that they do not want to share or ever will reveal because many of their policies and tactics are never employee friendly. Always CYA in every situation you can because the company already has pre-employee processes and situation where they can attempt to manipulate personnel before you ever step into the doors of the business.
One funny thing yet something that's always been there is : Why are we all so eager for the clock to struck 5 and get home??!!!... Coz we can't wait to get our "masks" Off and kick back, unwind at home and be our REAL Selves😂😂maybe kinda silly I know but guys have you ever wondered about this??!!! ... I know right??!!! 😄
Generally speaking, if I keep contact outside of work yes. Otherwise, most likely no. At least in my current company, I have been burned personally and professionally being too trusting . compounded by a manager who will not stick up for me or hold the wrongdoers accountable
😢😢 I'm too easy to be friends but to find out that they talk about me smh and they act like nothing happened and still they talk about u or treat you differently with others 😮😮😮
It really depends on the coworkers. I met one of my best friends at my current company. Granted we’re no longer co-workers (same company different departments), we talk and hang out all of the time.
As long as we can work and get things done, then I am fine. No more interaction, no small talk. Let’s just be strangers when the project is finished. I have no interest in investing my trust or feelings into work.
I learned this the hardway. It's my first full time job (and atm, I'm a a 2 months old new employee) and I already got thrown under the bus by a coworker and my boss that I actually trusted. Now I'm just waiting for my 1 year mark and I'm thinking to change job after a year
@@JenniferBrick I'm someone who didn't trust their manager from the start, though I tried my best to keep my personal thoughts on the down low. I'm sure, like you mentioned, that it was picked up on and wound up making things worse. I'm not longer with that company (left on my own terms) and have recently been recruited by a previous manager for a higher tier position at different facility. So, it all worked out.
the right way to answer the question is: "i trust my coworkers to be who they are" LMFAOO 🤣 that way you are telling the truth without hurting anyone's feelings on the surface. the truth is, trusting your coworkers is like getting your miranda rights read to you...anything you say can and will be used against you!
To answer the question before watching the video. No do not trust them. If there are certain co-workers you’re cool with Great but still keep boundaries. And do not date on the job. (Plz Jen can you do a video on office romances because they do happen.) me personally if I really like someone I wait till the job is over or until one of us leaves until I follow them on social media and further their friendship
So I started this new job/career... Was hired with out a degree in this field . But I do have experience. Now I have jealous people talking about me. And over heard then talking about training me incorrectly. Or sometimes X will give me a task and leave a part out and then say I didn't do it? Most of the time I catch it. But sometimes I don't.. help
I work in a veterinary hospital if a coworker told me a secret and asked me not to tell anyone I would keep it a secret as long as it was not hurting an animal
it helps to have allies but its a completive environment people are going to mostly look out for number 1 what I find to be baffling is when you protective of ideas etc they get their nose out of joint
Realistically people are inherently very judgemental and do gossip your trying to be positive in this video but I don't think it's realistic but as you said you should be able to trust your coworkers enough to do there job and I wouldn't trust them any more than that because people can be fake.
I believe most humans are good. Flawed, but good. At work professional trust is important - especially because lack of trust ends up hurting you and the opportunities you get.
Well I am feeling the same. You can not trust anyone here they are making you feel miserable. They just want to make sure that you are miserable and wants to see you depressed.
My co work i know for about 6 month now ask me go church with her she ask me what i do for weekend all time i ask her nothing going church is harm less right
I think I am trustworthy, but I certainly wouldn't share any personal information with co-workers, and I have little respect for those coworkers that do. By definition, that behavior is unprofessional. I also worked with co-workers that, when they feel too comfortable, result in disrespecting boundaries.
I know that my coworkers aren't trustworthy. I know that I shouldn't tell them anything about my plans but I can't help but talk to people I'm working next to forty hours a week and things slip. I'll just keep looking for a better job I guess.
Not everyone will weaponize it. You can also consider what you don't mind people talking about (ex: superficial things you did at the weekend), versus detailed personal info (ex: troubles with your partner)
@@JenniferBrick Yes I try to keep it light and meaningless. There's this one guy who jumps to conclusions with no real information. I took a day off and he jumped to the conclusion that I was leaving. If I try to explain then I'm letting personal information out. I've never been good at brushing people off. I've never been good at any sort of office politics.
Left a toxic workplace to another one, most cant be trusted, ill never give someone that chance again, just be professional and thats it, talk kindly even when they are rude, document and report to HR if that dont work just leave till you find a workplace thats puttable, every workplace will have at least one person, the whole we are like a little family is a lie, a dysfunctional one yes
What should we do when co workers puts their share of work load to us.. despite helping them and showing them the road map about a particular task multiple times.
May i trust my female coworker with hugs almost every day? For example, one i knew, she enjoys our hugs. Same with me. I told her that i have a girlfriend. I didn't always have to let her slide with the hugs. What i don't want, is for a boss to meet with us both and talk with us. Then there's drama. When it comes to work, I'm there to clock in, get my money, and go home!
The subtitles are not lining up with the audio... would be helpful if it was. Will try to listen to the video without subs but chances are that i miss things then 😅
Ha no when working as a tech handler in a mobile phone and broadband services it was a kill or be killed environment I can tell you. Like out of the USSR employees would actively spy on others and report to management I know because it happened to me when I had to deal with another co workers fuck ups on a few occasions saying I caused the problem even though I did not originate the start of the call profile which is electronically recorded. I had other nut jobs go out of their ways to make my team members I had coached look bad when they followed procedure correctly. I was able to play their game against them once they did not like that I started reporting everything against them and one time I had set them up to see if they’d take the bait in which they did. Telling you is be careful watch yourself do your job well and don’t get fooled by kindness of others because behind kindness is nastiness.
No need to trust coworkers. They behave like children and haven't mentally graduated from high school. Trust is built when they show character and morals, it's not charity work.
Hell you can’t even trust your pastor, barley people you go to church with. They tell the pastor everything. Even the principal and teacher does if they know your pastor
4:08 .. I often find it difficult to keep my mouth shut when the situation arises to say something. Something i should learn. For example I'm trying to switch job at the moment. Something the general advice about is to keep it to yourself until the deal is sealed. Meanwhile i told everyone in the team about it............ And this is just something i might hurt myself with (so far it didn't though, my colleagues are very understanding about it). But if someone tells me something private in confidence, and they hurt me, then i have no problem spreading out that confidential private information about them.
Do you trust your coworkers? What level of trust do you have for them?
One bad experience. Nope. And Never again. Your coworkers are not your friends or family.x
Ehmmmm....I'll plead the 5th🤭
That's very black & white, all-or-nothing thinking. If you don't/can't trust any of your co-workers, either you are new, or you need to gtfo. What do you do if there is ONE person who legitimately and damagingly betrays your trust? Why does that reflect badly on you? If the person is artificial & therefore likable, they thrive while manipulating you? Fun times.
I have seen many times where co workers seem to be on your side, then suddenly decide to ditch you and talk behind your back
No. Trust must be earned.
No. Don’t trust co-worker nor managers. Keep your personal business private. They will use your information against you if they need to make you the villains; especially if their necks are on the line. It is a business and co-workers are not your friends.
Yes and you best pray or whatever the Bullying Criminal Harassment Clique at work does not Hack your cell phone, your pc computer or even your work computuer via VPN.
jeez, who hurt you
@@apidas It is life experience and from studying human behavior. If you ever get to a state where you are valuable, what I say would make sense.
@@b1crusade384 it is to your advantage they trust you all the while making sure you never trust them
Sad but true
I have learned the hard way, unfortunately more than once, that you can never trust your co-workers.
yeah, preach!
Same here! I work in an organization where there is this family feel because people work there for decades. I was very private until certain coworkers were overly friendly to me during a very hard time. They ended up proving themselves to be frenemies. Don't fall for the concern! It's fake
Me too
Finally learned today that it's a very bad idea to trust co-workers. Never again.
Love many, trust few, and always paddle your own canoe.
Lol I like that!
Never trust your co-workers. Sorry, it's a workplace. Save your issues for your therapists or friends. I never share anything personal.
I'm with you, Scott.
@@JenniferBrick thanks, your channel is great
Exactly it will all backfire on you
Nope. 29 years of working, I keep it to the work script. I meet my metrics, document them and move on. I don't need a work "family".
Watching this video now at work, as I deal with toxic, underhanded coworkers...you know the type: they will smile in your face and claim you can trust them, as they go running to snitch on you a few minutes later? Yeah.
I don't trust anyone at my job, particularly in the department I work in!
Trying to escape now as I job hunt. All while tolerating toxic, fake coworkers, and a manager that shows blatant favoritism, racism, and lies in your face. Trying to transfer internally, as my issue is within the department, not company itself, but if that's not an option, I WILL find options outside the facility.
You know it's a bad sign when they talk about each other behind their backs, yet smile in that same person's face when they're around. Meaning you KNOW as soon as you leave the room, they're talking about you as well.
I no longer confide in anyone: I keep things very simple and work related. Do my job and go home. Am I happy? NO. Absolutely not. But I'm trying to stay sane, calm, and focused until something better comes along.
I used to think I could play the "office politics" game and ride it out? But sometimes you have to know when to walk away from a bad situation.
Toxic coworkers are another level, and yours have shown you that they are not trustworthy (and immature).
Hold those boundaries, especially with you personal life. Set an internal boundary that you don't care what they think it speculate about you. You'll never please them and they are not capable of bonding with others unless it's through misery. This will help you survive until you're out of it 💜
@@JenniferBrick Exactly! Thank you for your words of wisdom Jennifer!
Every since I found your channel, I've been binge-watching so many relevant videos that have helped my situation and work towards improving my professional career. Your videos are part of the reason I realized I was working in a toxic environment and how I realized it was time for me to do something-
Please keep up the great work! You really are helping some of us more than you realize :)
@@amyjohnson2720 you described MY own current situation exactly!
@@okoala62 Oh gosh. If it's as bad as mine is, I feel bad for you; I really do.
Hopefully you can escape and find a better job soon!!!
Toxic co workers are probably in every company imaginable
Summary: Make your money and go home.
Nothing wrong with keeping your personal life personal!
I also believe this
Hell to the No. I don't trust my colleagues. I deal with colleagues for business purposes only. If I need to vent about work related issues I vent to friends/ associates that are external outside the company.
Noup. My thing is never eeeever trust your coworkers. Someday you'll leave this work and you regret ever telling people your secrets or feelings. Anyway, as always, great video!
You absolutely do not need to entrust your coworkers with your personal life. But trust them as much as possible with the work stuff!
@@JenniferBrick Yup. We have trust only work stuff. Great analysis :)
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts!
I agree 100%!!!
I used to work for a small company. One day I had to go to another city with my supervisor and he started to talk about how he would cheat on his girlfriend and other stuff. I could have used that to destroy his life, but never did. He was planning popping the question. Since we rented a car to go to that city, he would play the same song over and over again. I was tired and the trip took 10 hours. I said to one of the new guys about how sick I was of listening to the supervisor's playlist and he told everybody. I felt so betrayed. Later I learned that they would talk behind my back and was fired months later. Said supervisor would brag about how he had the power to fire anybody for no reason. Never thought I would be next. Never ever share info with your co-workers.
Sorry you had that experience..just shows you how people can be are vile. Best to keep observations to ourselves xx
@@user-of9bx1uk3u That's right. Even if you seem to get along, you never know when people decide to use your words against you.
Exactly or with your boss or anyone in the work force
I’ve learned not to trust because it gets you in trouble. I don’t owe my coworkers my trust. I treat them with respect and keep my opinions to myself and make sure there are no interruptions in the job that is expected….but trust, nope
they wont trust me, so they wont tell me theoir personal stuff ? good. my colleagues are my profesional relationships. in general, I dont want them to know anything about my personal life, my health, where I was on vacation, etc. if that is stopping them to work with me, I wont work with them.
Differentiating person vs professional trust is important, and it's good you're solid on your boundaries.
The thing is people are so nice to you when they need something. I’ve done so much for multiple people at the office since they’ve been WFH and after a year when I saw them in the office again no one barley acknowledged me or even said hello. Really rude
Even more fun when HR all work from home and pretend to know what it's like showing up for work as usual during a pandemic.
Well do not trust your co workers at least until you feel you can trust them. Be neutral with your co workers at first, then wait until your co workers SHOW you that you can trust them. Never discuss your Financial situation with co workers. First, it is none of their business. Second, if you tell co workers that you have numerous bills to pay and it's a struggle for you to make payments, that could be used against you. Your new co workers might start to think they can dump on you in terms of workload because of your debt situation.
Excellent points, Pablo! Starting with a baseline of professional trust, sometimes it will build. But having boundaries and not discussion personal, and especially financial matters, is a good idea.
Bosses will do this shit too. It's disgusting.
@@heatherstacy2976 And if they ask questions on this subject of your Debt level, either ignore the questions, OR LIE about your Financial situation. Tell them you're doing alright financially even of that isn't true.
The co workers could take advantage and ask for more hours at your expense
Be careful who you talk to at work.. Be professional and silent
Team leader was talking money from our team and left. Most of the team were his freinds. Find it hard to trust anyone now.
Trust is a touchy subject.
I know you're mostly speaking of office environments, so I gotta say more blue collar places are far less toxic.
Yes overall everyone only looks put for themselves but the physical danger aspect you wind up looking out for each other a ton more.
Yes we raz each other constantly but we'll only stab each other face to face. I tried office work it was so dang toxic.
I wish that were always true.
It really depends on the person but that takes time to figure out. You can trust certain people as a casual friend but some things even friends shouldn’t know.
I agree with you, Lia. Each individual is different, therefore the level of trust we have/develop will be unique.
I do agree some level is needed, but I will never teach people anything that I've come up with. I had to train a trainer and did that, she then took my work and presented it as her own and took the credit for it
That is so frustrating! I just released a video about credit snatchers too.
@@JenniferBrick might I have the title of it?
As I see it the action is bad. My manager being a coward and not addressing it with the other manager is at least as bad
I can't trust anybody... My Co workers are always back stabbing (and they are the laziest but the boss favs) and my boss is never at fault... And micromanaging to the max
Trust is something that should be earned. Trusting anyone blindly isn't wise. You know people based on their consistent actions. I also think it's possible to like someone but know they're not to be trusted with certain things because you've seen that person in various situations.
I built a strong relationship with some on my immediate team. Recently I took a big step back from every member on my team due to being within close proxy to an overstepping colleague who thinks she is my boss.
I have had 4 people reach out to me of their own volition and ask if everything is ok and have brought up they miss my happy welcoming personality. These 4 people opened up about also having issues with the same co worker and have been actually feeling the same way.
Having professional boundaries can make you build some great professional relationships with colleagues and can earn you valuable respect when it comes time to need for change
No you can't trust co workers....their job is more important than you..
It's always smoke and mirrors...
Having zero trust will often earn zero trust. This isn't a good foundation for success at work. Appropriate trust levels are important!
@@JenniferBrick trusting people will make you vulnerable...that’s where the smoke and Mirrors comes in..you portray trust but you never in reality give it..give and people will take.advantage.especially if it increases their salary or gets them better working conditions..
You work with somebody and it’s easy to mistake that for real friendship...don’t get fooled...
You just work with them ...
@@JenniferBrick you'll wait til you get stitched up twice by a co worker ,then you'll say to yourself...
I think I'll stop being a chump now..and start looking after myself..which is what your co workers do..
Why should you expect to trust people just because you work with them?..its like trusting the first person you meet in the street...absolutely dumb..now if they've put their life on the line for you..thats another matter... go right ahead and trust them...theyre worth the risk...
@@JenniferBrick some people never achieve success at work....they are just used as fodder for company profit..wage slaves/ dispensibles./ sweat shop working...low low wages...unsocial hours.
disrespected...intimidated.laughed at..berated.
There is one co-worker I absolutely do not trust. When we have had disagreements, he immediately goes to the boss who agrees with him (they are friends) and I am labelled 'agressive' (I am female and it related to a reply to his email) and he was labelled 'to the point'. As the only female in the office of 9, this coworker tries to treat me like his PA and when I push back on it I get called 'agressive'. How the hell do I deal with this? Everyone else I get on with because we all do our job role - if there are any issues we work to resolve it. I have respect for those colleagues (they are not my 'friends') because we all respect boundaries and know what is expected. This co-worker, does not. And he always gets the back of my boss.
Trust is really a two way street. Great video!
Totally agree with you, and thank you!
I told a co worker how I was feeling one day, during the conversation I asked her to keep it to herself; she went and discussed it with my manger which then turned into a whole other thing. She then came back and said she was trying to help…. Which was super annoying because there was no help of the sort because my manager took it badly. So what did I do???? I exposed what she did to the office so people knew not to trust her, using myself as the example.
I take it on a person by person basis. Some you can trust implicitly, some are outright snakes. I give them 3 months. If they show they’re worth the effort then yeah, we can be friends.
Trust grows over time for many! Great point!
The thing is Jennifer my problem at work is being too trusting/open/kind (ENFP personality type) and being really hurt if a manager or co-worker throws me under the bus so now I’m learning to be less open and to keep my private life private or pick and choose who I open to at work. I work in the Australian public service (very busy department) government departments are full on and great but people can definately throw you under the bus in meetings or play the “office politics” games to get promoted… it’s a very interesting place to work lol!! Very hierachal too so you have to make sure you don’t upset the higher levels or you get in big trouble with performance management etc etc… I’m still new to the public service! Also can you give us tips or me on how to survive on a non ongoing contract at work and to try to stay sane lol!! Cos during your full time contract jobs you have an end date and have to search for other ongoing/permanent jobs which can be so stressful! I much prefer ongoing/permanent jobs over contract jobs/non ongoing etc!! More job stability:)
I default to high trust too, I think differentiating personal vs professional trust is important to have guidelines.
Bosses and superiors constantly and consistently cannot be trusted, because they have their own agendas that they do not want to share or ever will reveal because many of their policies and tactics are never employee friendly. Always CYA in every situation you can because the company already has pre-employee processes and situation where they can attempt to manipulate personnel before you ever step into the doors of the business.
One funny thing yet something that's always been there is : Why are we all so eager for the clock to struck 5 and get home??!!!... Coz we can't wait to get our "masks" Off and kick back, unwind at home and be our REAL Selves😂😂maybe kinda silly I know but guys have you ever wondered about this??!!! ... I know right??!!! 😄
You’re right
Generally speaking, if I keep contact outside of work yes. Otherwise, most likely no.
At least in my current company, I have been burned personally and professionally being too trusting
. compounded by a manager who will not stick up for me or hold the wrongdoers accountable
😢😢 I'm too easy to be friends but to find out that they talk about me smh and they act like nothing happened and still they talk about u or treat you differently with others 😮😮😮
It really depends on the coworkers. I met one of my best friends at my current company. Granted we’re no longer co-workers (same company different departments), we talk and hang out all of the time.
As long as we can work and get things done, then I am fine. No more interaction, no small talk. Let’s just be strangers when the project is finished. I have no interest in investing my trust or feelings into work.
I learned this the hardway. It's my first full time job (and atm, I'm a a 2 months old new employee) and I already got thrown under the bus by a coworker and my boss that I actually trusted.
Now I'm just waiting for my 1 year mark and I'm thinking to change job after a year
I recently emailed you my toxic job story and this video actually touched on a few questions I had about my particular scenario.
I've been reading through the emails, and trust is a big theme for most people who have been in a toxic job!
@@JenniferBrick I'm someone who didn't trust their manager from the start, though I tried my best to keep my personal thoughts on the down low. I'm sure, like you mentioned, that it was picked up on and wound up making things worse. I'm not longer with that company (left on my own terms) and have recently been recruited by a previous manager for a higher tier position at different facility. So, it all worked out.
the right way to answer the question is: "i trust my coworkers to be who they are" LMFAOO 🤣
that way you are telling the truth without hurting anyone's feelings on the surface.
the truth is, trusting your coworkers is like getting your miranda rights read to you...anything you say can and will be used against you!
To answer the question before watching the video. No do not trust them. If there are certain co-workers you’re cool with Great but still keep boundaries. And do not date on the job. (Plz Jen can you do a video on office romances because they do happen.) me personally if I really like someone I wait till the job is over or until one of us leaves until I follow them on social media and further their friendship
If you have a very controlling narcissistic management team, then you will have their symbiotic flying monkeys.
So I started this new job/career...
Was hired with out a degree in this field . But I do have experience.
Now I have jealous people talking about me. And over heard then talking about training me incorrectly. Or sometimes X will give me a task and leave a part out and then say I didn't do it? Most of the time I catch it. But sometimes I don't.. help
Good question to ask oneself about being trustworthy. It starts with yourself
So true!
I sometimes like people that i don't trust.
I work in a veterinary hospital if a coworker told me a secret and asked me not to tell anyone I would keep it a secret as long as it was not hurting an animal
This is such an important question!!!.
No, I've learned the hard way many times over.
Your videos are changing my life!!!
100% dont trust any of them.
In many jobs coworkers do not depend on another to "do their job" and it should not be a concern for a worker
it helps to have allies but its a completive environment people are going to mostly look out for number 1 what I find to be baffling is when you protective of ideas etc
they get their nose out of joint
Absolutely not!
Finding an appropriate trust level is important! Doesn't mean it needs to be personal, but professional trust is ideal!
Realistically people are inherently very judgemental and do gossip your trying to be positive in this video but I don't think it's realistic but as you said you should be able to trust your coworkers enough to do there job and I wouldn't trust them any more than that because people can be fake.
I believe most humans are good. Flawed, but good. At work professional trust is important - especially because lack of trust ends up hurting you and the opportunities you get.
@@JenniferBrick nah....most humans are not good. Probablt your definition of "good" is not mine lol
Yes! Absolutely! As far as you can throw them. 😆
I always use this saying, but I always wondered how it came about. We shouldn't be throwing humans around lol
@@JenniferBrick lol
You live and learn! I won’t be friends with coworkers nothing personal again
Well I am feeling the same.
You can not trust anyone here they are making you feel miserable. They just want to make sure that you are miserable and wants to see you depressed.
My co work i know for about 6 month now ask me go church with her she ask me what i do for weekend all time i ask her nothing going church is harm less right
Can you trust your co-workers? No. Fuck no. Once you tell them something, it spreads like wild fire.
DTA. Don’t Trust Anyone.
You can trust them..once they, or yourself, are no longer co workers
I think I am trustworthy, but I certainly wouldn't share any personal information with co-workers, and I have little respect for those coworkers that do. By definition, that behavior is unprofessional. I also worked with co-workers that, when they feel too comfortable, result in disrespecting boundaries.
No, everyone is out for themselves.
No no and no..
if I have something to say . I go directly to them in a professional way .
No , instead I’m lying to all of them all the time to manipulate them lol
I know that my coworkers aren't trustworthy. I know that I shouldn't tell them anything about my plans but I can't help but talk to people I'm working next to forty hours a week and things slip. I'll just keep looking for a better job I guess.
Not everyone will weaponize it. You can also consider what you don't mind people talking about (ex: superficial things you did at the weekend), versus detailed personal info (ex: troubles with your partner)
@@JenniferBrick Yes I try to keep it light and meaningless. There's this one guy who jumps to conclusions with no real information. I took a day off and he jumped to the conclusion that I was leaving. If I try to explain then I'm letting personal information out. I've never been good at brushing people off. I've never been good at any sort of office politics.
Left a toxic workplace to another one, most cant be trusted, ill never give someone that chance again, just be professional and thats it, talk kindly even when they are rude, document and report to HR if that dont work just leave till you find a workplace thats puttable, every workplace will have at least one person, the whole we are like a little family is a lie, a dysfunctional one yes
Not usually, unless your absolutely sure they are on your side
No, learned this the hard way.
I have family members I don't trust so trusting co workers is definitely NO
What should we do when co workers puts their share of work load to us.. despite helping them and showing them the road map about a particular task multiple times.
I have a few videos on that. Go to my difficult coworker playlist!
@@JenniferBrick thanks will definitely watch it.
May i trust my female coworker with hugs almost every day? For example, one i knew, she enjoys our hugs. Same with me. I told her that i have a girlfriend. I didn't always have to let her slide with the hugs. What i don't want, is for a boss to meet with us both and talk with us. Then there's drama. When it comes to work, I'm there to clock in, get my money, and go home!
Only time will tell if you can trust your coworkers.
no.
The subtitles are not lining up with the audio... would be helpful if it was. Will try to listen to the video without subs but chances are that i miss things then 😅
Z.E.R.O. TRUST AT WORK. ZERO.
I had given an interview & 10 days later i send an follow-up mail, i got a reply to it saying "HR will reach you" what does it mean??
Ha no when working as a tech handler in a mobile phone and broadband services it was a kill or be killed environment I can tell you. Like out of the USSR employees would actively spy on others and report to management I know because it happened to me when I had to deal with another co workers fuck ups on a few occasions saying I caused the problem even though I did not originate the start of the call profile which is electronically recorded. I had other nut jobs go out of their ways to make my team members I had coached look bad when they followed procedure correctly. I was able to play their game against them once they did not like that I started reporting everything against them and one time I had set them up to see if they’d take the bait in which they did. Telling you is be careful watch yourself do your job well and don’t get fooled by kindness of others because behind kindness is nastiness.
Nope ya can't! Heck you can't even trust your family members or so called friends! What makes you think 🤔 you can trust your co-workers?
NO!
No! They will throw you under the bus quick.
No!
No need to trust coworkers. They behave like children and haven't mentally graduated from high school. Trust is built when they show character and morals, it's not charity work.
Hell you can’t even trust your pastor, barley people you go to church with. They tell the pastor everything. Even the principal and teacher does if they know your pastor
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🌏✝️ Be professional and stay out of work drama
I'm so tired of how my job is doing me
Nah not really only maybe trust 1 or 2
I think aiming to have professional trust is important. Personal trust... that is rarer!
I would honor it!!
Trust no one.
Answer: Hell nooo!!!
I trust them with simple things..or useless info about me. Chicken or pizza
No you can’t trust your co-workers, your boss or anyone
You forgot coworkers who straight up lie! We softies get real thrown around off that shit.
Who knew you hated the Instagram 😂?
Lol do much. Things feel too filtered there, and you know I'm not filtered 🤣
Hellllllllllllllll NO ! Money has no friends !
No...just no.
4:08 .. I often find it difficult to keep my mouth shut when the situation arises to say something. Something i should learn. For example I'm trying to switch job at the moment. Something the general advice about is to keep it to yourself until the deal is sealed. Meanwhile i told everyone in the team about it............ And this is just something i might hurt myself with (so far it didn't though, my colleagues are very understanding about it). But if someone tells me something private in confidence, and they hurt me, then i have no problem spreading out that confidential private information about them.
Nobody can trust you.
NO , especially the overly fake nice ones that talk too much 👎🏾 nope
@0:40 ALSO is stealing my heart (sexily)
NOPE you can't!
I don trust them
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