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"The key to healing is taking away the shame" Well said
psychedseer the key to depression is anime (at least it made me happier)
I feel like this is true for almost every mental illness, not even just eating disorders. like, i went in a pretty big downward spiral for a while, and then I just sort of...got out of it after getting a lot of help but not really even changing anything about my life. People would ask me what i did to get better, and looking back i think the only thing was I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed and embarrassed. I stopped apologizing for my feelings and instead would just tell people about them. i still have a long way to go, but taking away the shame really stopped me from destroying myself
The key is acceptance bc it’s taking away the shame and Love at the same time
the hardest part of having any type depression or mental illness, is staying silent for so long because bothering other people with your problems is so much worse than suffering through it alone.
hnnah ayee. My biggest problem even with being diagnosed is bottling up my feelings. I try so hard not to feel anything and focus on their problems because I got into the habit of thinking "I don't want to burden anyone. Because they wont really get it" I'm learning.... that doing that hurts me more then being missunderstood
I thought I was the only one.....
And when you do you still feel guilty about even bothering them with your problems and it just goes full circle each time
It's the biggest reason why most people live with it for so long. I'm going on 6 years now with depression and only got help a couple of weeks ago. All because I met a girl that saw I wasn't alright and even though she didn't know me that well yet, she still helped me. She is now one of the only reasons I'm still fighting for a future.
I always has mixed feelings talking about my bipolar disorder (mainly depressive periods). Most of my friends and family know about it now and I tried to explain it, but it's hard. I feel guilty to bother them and I know they can't understand if they don't have this experience. You can't translate feelings into the words. The only person who truly understand is my mum, because she has the same disorder, but I don't want her to worry about me, so I'm usually silent.
"you have such a good life, how can you be depressed?"
The first thing my mum said to me when I was diagnosed with depression.
That's something I bet my mum can say and thats the only reason I haven't confronted to anyone.
I was told "why are you depressed you own a house?"
This is how everyone acts around me
My mom said that to me tooa and after that I was cutting my hand immediately cause I felt so much pain.
mine did too
All of these girls are survivors, I have depression and anxiety and people dont think it’s not a big deal, but it is.
Anxiety and depression are huge things. Don't let negative people make you doubt your diagnosis.you have to accept it before you can claw your way out to the light.no cure but can be managed,it's hit n miss at times, just hang in there and be honest regarding how you feel.find and stay with a trusted dr. Who can help you navigate the turbulent waters of pharma. Feeling better doesn't happen overnight,just don't give up,believe in hope,dismiss negative persons, reach out for help
There is always hope. Reach out time and again until you find it
Me too.
I feel so down all the time that it actually gets frustrating.
I didn't used to be like this. I used to be much more fun to be around but now I just pretend.
Pretend all day long that I'm fine because I know no one will understand.
What even hurts the most is people stigmatizing against it. I remember an aunt of mine even asked me "What's the matter with you?" which was barely helpful.
I have anxiety and depression as well and it sucks I wish it never existed.
The first time I tried to explain my anxiety to somebody other than my husband, I received the response "Well it's not cancer. You're not dying."
No, it's not cancer and no, I'm not dying. But I am not okay. And you are the reason I no longer talk about this.
Dingle Technically, you are dying - we are all dying. We're born dying. Haha, sorry for being pedantic, I wish you the best and hope you overcome your anxiety. It sucks.
This is very true! I'll tell them that next time :)
:)
SAME! Except I got "well it's not like you've got schizophrenia" .. 😑
Julia Bergdoll I feel you girl :)
Im a doctor.. and im so embarassed that some doctors are so rude.. and they dont understand.. i would never do that to one of my patients
Im glad you are a doctor- just based on this I can tell you are a good doctor
I believe that you are a good doctor.. just because you have Eteeweetee in your profile pic🙌🏻
I have bipolar and a psychiatrist tried to convince me that I was just a normal teenage girl and that there was nothing wrong with me and that I just need to go home, get some sleep, lose some weight. He told me that exercise would work wonders but it hasn’t. I was medicated on Lovan for a little while but I told them it wasn’t working at all and they said that maybe medication wasn’t the right route for me and that I need to take care of it in a natural way when I was already doing that. I’m now medicated and going to therapy to try and manage it.
My neurologist had referred for me to see a therapist because of my MS and my depression I was so let down after my first session. I never went back and still haven't been able to find someone who understands MS and depression.
I would doubt that you are a doctor cuz ur on buzzfeed
if someone doesn't believe when i mention my anxiety disorder, or when i had clinical depression, i tell them how lucky they are that they've never been in a position to.
Well i told someone about my anxiety and depression and they said i was a liar and began bullying me
they never believe me ether, because I am outgoing and happy, and funny. But they never look into the details.. isn’t it weird I never have ever talked to ANYONE who I have not known for 2 years.
They think there is only one type of anxiety.😂😐 what idiots,
Dark Pink Falcon don't tell anyone that
eyes. why?
I had a psychiatrist tell me "you don't look like you have anxiety." She made me feel like I was wasting her time.
Not even professionals take mental illness seriously - and it's leading to people killing themselves. We need to do better.
Dana Gricken as I am reading this I feel hopeless and why do I even exist lol that sums up my whole life lol so what now god please just take me away lol
Ah yeah same but he said that I was exaggerating
There’s so much hype in FB about going to professionals about mental health but when you go to a psychiatrist they just dismiss you
Botchers. That's what they are. Had to face them plenty of times.
Just like how are you supposed to look like?
me during a crying meltdown: what if the neurotypicals are right and i can control my thoughts and i am Faking It right at this very moment
s a m e!!! i think everyone does that to a certain extent
Same :(
I always think that my mind is just making up everything wrong with me..
AJ Burbank Right! I do that too. Im so scared that I'm just making things up for attention or something, which is stupid but yea
No they are ignorant
Can buzzfeed make a part 2 of this but with men included? I feel like guys out here with eating disorders and other stuff need to know that it's a real thing for them too and that they're not alone
I second this motion
psychedseer I third this motion
I fourth this motion
I fifth this motion
im not a man but i agree, men go through stuff like that too....
This video made me tear up! I've lived with mental illness for 10+ years and have hit many highs and lows. Hearing other peoples struggles just hurts my soul because I know how hard it can be and how never ending it can feel. Just ride the lows and live for the ups, because the ups will come.
Molly Burke Hey Molly! I love you! You’re an awesome influencer. No, I’m not blind, but I have been trying to recover through ED. You make me feel like I can get through anything. Thank you, genuinely.
Your comment needs more likes, ppl need to realize you're a very special person in this TH-cam community. You deserve more😊
Love you molly i hope you see my reply😳😍🙂
I was kind of confused reading this as your blind then I realized XD
Wow thx for the insight Molly Burke!!!!!!!!
I’m currently in the hospital battling bipolar, anxiety, EDNOS, and ADHD and watching this made me feel less alone
You're not alone...
ednos sucks :( i feel you, stay strong and know that you can do this
Anna L non specified eating disorder
Honest question, what is EDNOS? I feel like I’ve heard it I just don’t remember what it is? And no you aren’t alone. I have bipolar, ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression. You got this. You can do this
Sophie Boertjes eating disorder not otherwise specified. Basically if someone has an eating disorder that doesn’t match all the criteria for a specific one.
As someone who struggled/struggles with an eating disorder, it's comforting to know that I'm not alone.
Megan Hodes I hope you get better. I can't relate to your situation, but just know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you don't need to change.
You never walk alone
Victoria Diaz bts reference 💕
Yeah
You're going to be ok, and I believe that you can get through this☺
"My boyfriend sat me down and said, 'you don't have to talk to me, but you have to talk to someone.' Later, that boyfriend became my husband"
Me: AWWWW
We should all be that lucky to have someone that smart and insightful in our lives.
+Kristen I'm still waiting for mine :')
I may have started crying at that moment
No one believes me either. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
I believe in you! Let's fight together. :)
I believe you.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you suffer from?
mysticismlover I believe you ❤️! I do know I have anxiety and mild depression. Whenever I tell my mom or even one of my best freinds, they haven't believed me... my mom said it's "your being a drama llama!"... oh well enough about me :), Let's get through this together!
I believe you.
What hurts the most is being called crazy and being told to just get over it. This made me cry.
I consider myself crazy but being told to get over it made it worse
dylan wall Exactly
You're not crazy, you'll get through it in a good way, don't give up please, sorry you're going through this😊
I hope karma triggers and they can get a taste of it themselves. Then hear what they have to say.
People toss that word around like it's nothing. Only I can call myself crazy (or occasionally family or other "crazies", in good spirit)
I have depression But I'm sick of telling people I'm depressed because they never understand ....
Heidi Galdamez i feel you,girl...I have Depression and bipolar disorder.When i tell my family,they wont believe me at all...All they say is 'I have lots of stress more than you so you shouldnt say you have depression' the thing is they don't know what is depression and bipolar disorder is..They take it lightly...Right now,im just being in my room almost all the time and just come down to eat and give my cats food.that all...This sickness is not something they just take lightly.It worst and can lead yourself to bad thing 😔 They think they understand but actually they not....💔
Me too...
Same....
Heidi Galdamez same..
Misxzhaylelxx94v same here 😣
"Some people might not believe you, but I believe you," - Sheridan.
That was it. That was the point where I broke down crying my eyes out.
Tinkili it was really touching
Smol Bean the moment she said that I burst into tears
Smol Bean I needed to hear that so bad.
Smol Bea
One time I told my dad that I was overwhelmed and about to have a panic attack because he was yelling at me, he told me to get over it. When he left I broke down into tears. Everyone deserves to be heard, you are important no matter what.
My mom would screamed at me "So it is my fault?! I've never done right with you, it is all my fault" then she proceed to cry loudly. Then I felt guilty for having panic attacks and asking for a break.
I wish to time-travel I’m so sorry
I wish to time-travel never feel guilty about having a panic attack. It's not your fault.
c 8 hey so i dont know much about your story, but I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. though i truly hope that isnt the case and that was just a low point for him and he's changed since then!
I wish to time-travel I already said this to c 8 but i definitely feel the need to say this to you even more so: I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. like, im no doctor, but my parents are very narcissistic with their abuse and this sounds a lot like something my N mother has said to me before.
After I was diagnosed with ADHD, my own dad denied it. He said it was an excuse to not hold still and ignore the things around me. Denying it WON'T. MAKE. IT. GO. AWAY.
I feel that 💔
I am sorry. Both of my sons have ADHD, I know how difficult that things can be.
2 people before told me you don’t have ADHD that was so annoying especially since one of them has ADHD and told me I don’t have it as if I’m faking it
It feels good too know someone else has a similar problem and you're not alone...
unicorn sparkle yep.
Yes a lot of people seem to have mental illness.
unicorn sparkle i
Metal health has been a struggle in my life since I first attempted suicide at age 12. I literally had a doctor tell me "you should just stop cutting yourself," and "you're too young to have mental illness." It was so invalidating and hurtful, and now I'm 16 years old and finally getting the care I need. Give things time, recovery isn't an event, it's a process.
Beth CK so wise for 16. Ultimately your struggle makes you a more compassionate person.... which makes you cool. I appreciate "recovery is a process not an event", good one.
Beth CK that's so relatable. I'm 12 and have had anxiety, depression and seasonal affective disorder all of my life and I heard that type of stuff all the time. I just try to remember that mental health doesn't discriminate and anyone can be a victim of it.
Beth CK this comment was comforting for me as I am 11 and I've attempted suicide many times. I felt like I wanted to die every day and no one understood. I'm glad someone understands my mental illness . It also annoys me when people say can't depression just go?? Like the heck it can't just go when you have depression you have depression. You can't help it
It sucks, I’m 13 and have attempted almost three times and every time I try to talk to anyone they avoid it, and compare my situation to others and call me selfish for being in that mental state. Nobody does anything until it’s too late, they don’t care until it is. Like your surrounded by people, but your so alone and nobody wants to deal with you. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to this stuff, people need to get their head around it.
Beth CK I feel as if the comments are a safe place. I'm 13 and in the past year, I've attempted suicide just about six times. All failing and hurting and damaging me all the while. My parents are to ignorant and stuck up to realise their "perfect" baby isn't so perfect. I barely trust anyone. Life seems pointless and like I should be somewhere else. I feel obligated to keep my bloodline going. Both my parents know that im bisexual, I mostly like females so I feel as if I cant keep my family going. Even with all of this, before the first attempt, I had done no self harm. Untill people noticed the scar on the back of my neck (failed suicide. Rope burn turned into a scar) and thats when I knew I needed help. Hurting myself feels so right. But it still hurts. I cant take life anymore and I know I have no purpose. I thank you for letting me ruin your day with my sad life. I'm truly sorry.
The pain in Sheridan's voice was palpable & made my cry. I'm so glad she's being heard now & getting the help she deserves.
Kimberly G. I started crying when she talked. It's a mirror of me
Gracie ... I hope you're getting help and understanding now too! {{hugs}}
No one believes me about my anxiety and depression...and whenever I go into the school nurses office they just tell me I’m faking my stomach aches and head aches. I go to the nurse 5 times a month and whenever I go they still refuse to call my parents.
I believe you honey! I have Schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. I can relate to how hard it is. Remember you have the power to seek help. I know what it feels like to be powerless and scared. Tell your parents yourself. Easier said then done, but YOU can do it. If they don’t help, find someone who will. Believe me, there is always someone. Everything will be okay 👌🏽 ❤️
Have you told your parents about their refusal to send you home? If so, what is their response? As a parent I would want to be consulted. My daughter and I would discuss a plan for how to handle these days, etc. I hope you have parents who would advocate for what you NEED.
I know this comment is kinda old, but I had the same problem in high school. I know it’s tough, but don’t give up. Push and push and fight until you get the help that you want/need. You are your biggest advocate. I didn’t keep pushing, I just started to bottle it up and keep it to myself, which was a huge mistake and I regret it to this day, because now my anxiety and depression are ten times worse, and I’m having to learn healthy coping mechanisms and work through years of problems at 23. I know that fighting for treatment is super hard when it comes to mental illness. People from the outside looking in don’t see anything physically wrong, but they have no idea what’s going on mentally. Just know that even if the school nurse, or your friends, or your family doesn’t believe you, so many other people do. So many other people know it’s real, and so many people care about you. There are a ton of free resources that you can use. There are hotlines and online websites that can set you up with an online counselor. Or there’s a chaplain or a priest or a pastor. Even if you aren’t religious, they’re more than happy to help. If ever I’m having a hard time, I go to my ships chaplain instead of the psychiatrist, because I know they care and want to help me, and others like me.
life hack sue the school! (jk hope its gotten better i dont have either but ive seen both in others and it's definitely real)
Charlotte Marie go to the counseler not the nurse
Ive been trying to tell my parents for so long that I think somethings up. After doing my research I have many symptoms of Anxiety, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder. My mom is just now starting to help me find ways to contol it and my doctor already reccomended I see a therapist. Im so happy to know that some people understand.
For me after my brother was diagnosed with ADHD, I noticed I shared a lot of the things he had and being that siblings were more likely to have it I told my parents and finally after a few months I was diagnosed
I have Bipolar (cyclomania specifically) disorder, anxiety is just part of that if you have it. I can see some symptoms of ADHD resembling the disorder too. In a high phase i get jittery, my thoughts buzz around so fast I end of walking around in circles because Im so restless. I cant stop moving. I also talk a lot and fast, and cant focus on one things for longer than ten seconds. In a low, I will cry for 5 hours straight, my body will get so anxious ill physically shake. Which then becomes painful because my muscles are so tense. And every problem on my brain is unbelievable impossible to deal with. I cant eat, or even speak sometimes.
I say all this with the hope that if any of this sounds like you, you're not alone. It is a terrible issue but it gets better and you can manage it. Learn your cycle, when your feeling down tell someone you trust right away, that you are having a bad day. And most importantly do what you need for yourself. If you need to lay in bed and cry all day, do it because forcing yourself to pretend you are okay for others isn't going to make you okay.
I hope your therapist visit goes well and you can begin to heal. :)
I have ADHD and can tell you it has nothing to do with Anxiety, or bipolar disorder.... Or at least for me
Nubpai I wasnt saying that it did, Im just saying thats how it is for me. Anxiety came first and then I started showing adhd symptoms, and then bipolar. Whatever the case, thats my life right now and it kinda sucks
Your Everyday Walrus Friend thats how it is for me! im usually a straight A student but its become harder and harder for me to achieve that. my focus is out of whack and i have to ask my teachers to constantly re explain even after they just did. Im 13 and ive just been doing research and looking on websites and reading books to see if thats what it is or if theres anything i can do. background noise does help me focus a bit, so i usually think of songs in my head if my teacher doesnt allow music (or even ask the teacher to play music that will keep you focused but wont disrupt the entire class or something)
People don't understand my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and people just think everyone has OCD, no they don't.
Just because you like a clean room doesn't mean you're OCD. Being OCD could be needing to wash your hands every 10 minutes to the point where you scrub off your skin on a daily basis...
TheFluffFactor Exactly. It runs in my family and we all have different types. I personally get horrible intrusive thoughts and I have to do things or I get anxiety attacks.
Bambi Kun I was diagnosed with the more mental aspect like you talked about where you have impulsive thoughts
Yeah, I used to take the term OCD with a grain of salt because people used it so loosely. Then I made a friend who had been diagnosed with OCD and my entire view on the illness changed. One example of its manifestation within him is he must have bottles being drunken from placed on their side because if not he believes everyone around him will start choking. OCD is not a need to keep things tidy it is a legitament issue that should be recognised.
spectical speckle Yeah, so it annoys me when people throw around the term OCD like it's nothing. I hope your friend is well!
This video made me feel less alone
Sofia Kokkino same! 😊
You aren't alone, don't ever believe that. You matter a lot.
me too !
"the key to healing is taking away the shame" ✊🏼
I just got out of my therapy session for struggling with severe anxiety and depression and all I have to say is please understand that people have issues even if they smile when they speak to you or everything seems alright, you don't know what people are going through. When it comes to mental illnesses, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean it's not there.
Have u gotten better? Im bearly starting therapy for anxiety
Bushra Islam Thanks for posting this. I am one of the people who completely change their face to look fine, when in reality I'm breaking inside. Your comment was encouraging.
Vanessa Aguilar I know you didn't ask me, but I've been in therapy for about a month (for a depressive disorder and GAD). It has helped me a lot so far. It helps me to be able to tell someone about all my problems without worrying about if they'll judge me or tell someone else. A good therapist will not breach that trust. Also, if you're open to it, I'd consider taking medication along with therapy. A lot of people claim it doesn't help, but several of my friends have gotten a lot better because meds give them that extra boost and stability they needed. It really depends on the person.
Vanessa Aguilar I've been in therapy for 8 months now, and i have to say that in the beginning it was exhausting and it took such a big mental toll on me to have to open myself and express myself and actually acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that I was having. Even after all these months I'm still struggling with myself and have just gotten a breakthrough into the things that may have triggered certain breakdowns but i have had so much improvement because of these sessions. I'm so thankful for therapy and I'm really hopeful that it'll help you too😊
For me, being told "are you doing it for attention or what?" hurt worse than actually going through depression. Like why would I, someone who hates attention, go that far for negative attention...
Pippi la Peach I’m the exact same, I’m not diagnosed but I’m very sure I have it, I have told a few people but people say “I don’t believe you” and it hurts.
Imogen-mahni Hayward yeah. I'm sorry you have to go through that as well :(
Pippi la Peach yeah, no need to feel sorry for me though, but it’s very kind that you do so thank you. You worry about you’re own problems:) oh btw I’m subscribing!
Imogen-mahni Hayward alright haha & thank you.
Subscribing to me? :o
Pippi la Peach no problem, great someone understands! I was diagnosed with anxiety and stuff and people don’t believe me on that either :o and thank you for thanking me (wow, I really am another person when I comment!)
I suffer from OCD, Dermatillomania, Depression and social anxiety. I broke down when I heard the words " I believe you" at the end. I wish I could hear that from someone in my life... just one person.
I believe you.
I BELIEVE YOU
I believe you, I have OCD and social anxiety, and I feel like I have some sort of depression but I don’t wan’t to self diagnose myself with depression. It’s exhausting to have to live with and I know how you feel.♥️
Castiel believes you.
My depression has been laughed at, and I'm tired now. I lay awke till 3 a.m., and cry only when I'm alone, because I'm sick of making my family miserable. I don't have many friends, and those I do have never dealt with this, or felt so deep in the darkness that you stop wanting to find the light.
It'll be okay. Everything will be alright.
Don't try to solve their problem for them. If they have Depression, don't tell them it's getting old or that they should just get some fresh air or that it'll pass as if it never happened. Motivate them, tell them they really do mean something to you, love them. If they have Anxiety, don't push them, don't tell them to man up or that they're overreacting.Sit with them, wait for them to calm down at their own pace and reassure them. If they have Anorexia, don't tell them to just eat some food. Help them get help from experts, tell them they're beautiful just the way they are and that they don't need to change. Be there by their side. Encourage them. Change you're perspective. Have some empathy and look at it from their stand point. Don't try to solve their problem for them.
That is beautiful
you're a one of a kind person....I started crying because of this,I am really small and my friends think I have anorexia,witch I think I don't,maybe I eat a little bit less then everyone but I eat how much I can.My friends ALWAYS say eat more your small,does your mom feed you...And its so heart breaking to me...I cryied a couple of times because of that,and noone is there for me to help....
Elisabeth Mason thank you alot! those few words makes me feel so much better🙂
Elisabeth Mason so nice to hear that your doing good and want to help people!
Your friends are just worried about you. Don't get me wrong, their approach in telling you is all wrong but don't misjudge their intentions. As long as you are taking care of yourself mentally and physically what they say won't matter. You are beautiful and you don't need to change.
I've been trying to get help for 19 years. They keep telling me its just anxiety but I KNOW its more. And my depression is so bad, I can barely function.
Carrie Lopez at least that's all you have and people know about it
Arycath that is not all I have, that's what I'm saying. I truly believe I have something called Pure O. Its a form of OCD. It has been most of my life in torment and now, 2 out of my 4 kids are showing signs of OCD and getting help but my own doctors and therapists won't listen to ME.
Index exactly, thank you.
Keep trying! You'll get there, stand your ground and fight for what you know is right. I believe in you! Hugs from a stranger :)
Pienepon I feel like crying seeing this. I often wonder about the state of the world but to see kind strangers as yourself, makes me have more faith. Thank you and hugs right back!
My anxiety got so bad that I started to get scared of falling asleep in fear of the unconsciousness
same
Wow. I'm the complete opposite. I'm so afraid of people in everyday life that I welcome going to sleep and just being away from them and meeting fictional characters in my dreams.
This recently started happening to me. Now I have sleep paralysis...
Mine is getting better overtime since I get really tired from school and when I come home I just pass out.
Jane Hervilla I have really bad anxiety, but I love to sleep.
When I told a person I trusted about my ED, she secretly told my mom (which I see in a positive way nowadays but back then I hated her for it)... whatever my mom was like "oh she just wants attention, it's puberty" and never confronted me or anything... so 5 years later I'm even a lot deeper into my ED, fighting so hard against it but I'm still in the beginning of recovery and my mom is like "if I only knew about it, you never told me, you lied to me, etc." 🙄
My friends also went behind my back, telling the school guidance counselor, who called my dad. He immediately believed her and started making sure I was eating breakfast. It helped for awhile, but it didn't stop the voice in my head. I still didn't have good coping skills.
I needed therapy, and when I finally started going to a counselor at uni when I was 18, things actually started to sustainably improve. When I stopped, tho, things took awhile to get bad again, but they did, and now I don't have the insurance to afford therapy, except that I might be able to go to low-cost therapy, but... I'm so anxious about finding an abusive therapist. Or one who refuses to listen. Or care. I've had such good luck with the past 3, I feel like a bad one is due.
There are definitely people who care and want to help, and if they're easier to find for you, Yay! If not, keep looking, even online.
Kati Morton is a youtuber who is a licensed therapist who specializes in ED. Please check out her videos. They've helped me recognize when I'm getting bad, again, and help me to climb out. It's easier when someone is helping you climb out, tho, so if you have someone you trust who is willing to help you stay accountable to recovery, let them. Please.
That is terrible.I'm sorry.I am here for you
My best friend who I trusted with my life told my mom that I wasn’t eating at school and was cutting. Now my life if completely messed up. I really hope your doing ok!
i have mishophonia, a brain disorder that makes me extremely mad about small sounds like chewing, breathing, typing on you phone and that sorts of stuff. When me and my family sat around our diner table to eat, i would always have a war inside my head if i should storm to bedroom or just cry. My parents didnt belive me when i said i couldnt sleep with her inthe same room because of her breathing. So i always cried myself to sleep.
i just want to say that mishophonia is a real brain condision, people who have it where born that way and should be respected more!
girlyperson one i heard there was someone who learned to live with it normaly,she took therapy classes and meditatet dayily. but sadly shes the only one.. yet
kajsa van der ploeg noises drive me insane but what u have is crazy I feel sorry for ya
kajsa van der ploeg I have it too and hate it
*misophonia and I have it too, I’ve been diagnosed and manage it much better than I could 5 years ago. Just takes time
kajsa van der ploeg stop self diagnosing
I have anxiety and depression but people are always like “but your so happy and loud all the time!” “You always have a smile on your face” and then the people who actually see me for who I am ask me when I’m looking sully or quiter than usual but instead they say “don’t worry, it’s a phase you will get through this.” Nope.
So true!
Same! Everyone thinks I’m an extrovert, friendly, and outgoing etc. But I’m not because it is a complete act. I am an introvert, prefer to be alone, etc. It took me such a long time to realize I needed help.
Me too. I was voted "Always happy" as a superlative in my senior year book. It makes it really hard to talk about my anxiety and depression. I really wish that there wasn't such a stigma around mental illness making it "taboo" to talk about this and making it hard for so many people as well as myself to let their guard down and just drop the act. I myself am trying to be more vocal about my own struggles in hopes that it can become somewhat of a "social norm." I wish the best for you and hope you know that you're not alone :)
They see the smile but they don't see what's behind it ore what's on the other time.......
I have it too. I have a extremely high diagnosis of anxiety and depression though.... I have a high problem of my suicidal behaviours.
I am a boy andI had anerexia nervosa for over a year but I had to come to my senses and look at what I was doing to my self and realize that I don't need to be skinny so I started to get over my insecurities and love myself
Dream _er I had anorexia too and I'm still recovering but it's always nice to see someone made it to that other side and I'm glad you found your way to where you are now ☺️
Great job I'm proud of you :) keep up the good work. I had anorexia too, so I know how hard it can be
You're beautiful as you are. Good for you!
Thank you for the support guys it means alot
토마토 I don’t know how old you are but just imagine that you will look back on days like this and realize how pointless it was to do things like have insecurities and care about what others think
I really want to hug all of them so bad
This is why it’s important to be honest about having anxiety and depression. So many people are quietly suffering because in the larger society those issues are brushed off and minimized. Sometimes my friends think I’m being dramatic when I say what really gives me anxiety and they make jokes about it but it’s literally the truth. I’ve be able to help people understand it more by being very honest and open though and I refuse to let anyone dismiss it because by me being open I want to make others feel more comfortable being open about it to.
Some people don't want to talk about their mental illnesses because whether you think so or not, people tend to look at them different...
They are not your friends
Yeah I grew up with really bad anxiety and I have took loads of tests saying that I have really bad anxiety and its hard man
020ctmarie I am quietly suffering
I want to hug all of them 😢❤️
I feel like the common misconception people have with mental illnesses (esp. depression) is that they expect you to be sad 24/7 which is not the case at all. You can be happy, laugh, have fun when you're at school/work or around friends & family but have an emotional breakdown when you're alone. That's what I hate the most about manic depression (bipolar disorder), some days I can be really okay and happy but then it gets really bad out of nowhere. It's tough but knowing you are not alone and people around the world are being strong too is so comforting, really.
edit: I am aware that manic depression is bipolar disorder. It means having extreme mood swings. During the depressive episodes of bipolar disorder, a person may experience a severe form of depression that is similar to major depression.
I actually had a discussion about this just today. I was talking with two people diagnosed with depression (at least that is what they claim and I will believe them) and they were saying what's the use of during Happy my argument was to spread positivity and they tried to argue you can't with depression. You very much can just because it is hard does not make it impossible. You can be positive with depression don't let it take over you're going to have to fight it. Try to be positive challenge yourself to be positive. It is possible. (Sorry had to get that off my chest)
yes I'm exactly that way I suffer with depression an anxiety myself when I'm working or with my bf I'm happy an I'm fine but the min I'm alone I break down but the mistake I made was becoming dependant on others so that's what I'm working on presently I'm trying not to be too dependant on my bf cause as of lately he's taking my illness as a joke by fuel it.😞
Mica yeah! Uhg I hate it so much! I think it makes it harder for other people to understand that I'm actually depressed, especially since I (with help of meds because I wouldn't even make it though school without them) am able to put up a mask. I can pretend.
China Berry I think I'm slowly falling into a similar situation...
Mica true everyone thinks that , I am depressed sad and crying one night happy the next week
"when people say the it's your fault, you're doing it to yourself, you're not." I have bulimia nervosa and nobody knows about it and I'm kind of dying inside myself.
Nobody believes me when i say I have anxiety and I never say I have depression cause I know people would treat me completely different
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The thing is that if you saw me I dont look like I have anything wrong with my mental state but dont judge a book by its cover
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I am so sorry you have to deal with people not believing you. I also have anxiety/panic disorder and depression. It's so hard to talk to people who don't understand. I am here if you ever need to talk.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl yeah I understand... my family says things so hurtful and offensive about depression I can barely even talk about it.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl i know how you feel, i have depression and i try to put on a shield and hide it because i don't want others to know and judge. And for the longest time i would be scared to tell my parents because i thought they would be mad
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl and if i talked to my dad he would just tell me to bottle it up. And ive had thoughts of hurting myself but i dont want to tell my family because i dont want to be treated differently, i just want to be "normal"
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I know what youre going through. No one believes me when i tell them i have anxiety.
This video honestly was so comforting to watch,
A while back I got into an car crash and shortly after some guys threatened to beat me up bc I'm gay and even though at first I didnt notice it doing anything to me, now I'm honestly a mess. I went out to get help and got diagnosed with depression, eating disorder, anxiety, panic disorder and PTSD. I got anti depressents which aren't doing a lot at the moment. The only thing I do is lay in bed, nap and watch some netflix and I see my friends going out to party's, living their life's and I know I'm a burden so thats why I just stopped asking if I could come along and also because I just can't get out of the house anymore without freaking out over a little thing and I'm honestly starting to feel lonelier and more isolated by day. So thank you so much for showing me I'm not alone
Max you're not alone, hope you get help and the comfort you need
If you find that there's no significant improvement with the medication you're on, check with your Dr and see if you need to up your dose or if there is an alternative anti-depressant. Anti-depressants work differently for different people, there's not a "one pill fits all" solution with depression and either a higher dosage or different medication may lead to a big improvement for you. Peace and Love xxx
Sometimes your behaviour reinforces depression e.g. if you never leave your bed, it's just making your mindset worse. I know how hard it is to leave the house without worrying a ton but I want you to help yourself and work really hard to get better because it is incredibly unhealthy for your mind and not to mention your body. (Speaking from personal experience btw).
check out Dr David Burn's book "Feeling Good", I hope it can help you
I'm happy that you know your not alone xxx everyone cares about you x never give up on your life even if you have depression etc your life is worth living even if your gay nobody can stop how you feel and trust me if nobody else believes in you I will xx
I have anxiety and I don't think people realise how bad it actually is, I suffer from panic attacks and my anxiety just takes over me x💓
Stay strong ;)
Don't let it get to you.
NB thank you
It's nothing ;) I hope you get better.
Isobel Christine I'm sure a lot of people here can agree and relate. I hope you continue to attract understanding and kind people. Most people stay ignorant because of fear. All the best. BTW I found a book called anxiety free its a 90 day program it has journals etc to track your triggers . All the best
Isobel Christine also after years of suffering from anxiety I decided to see it as a gift, I have compassion and understanding. I felt alone and isolated most of my life . Now im in my 40's there are more resources available:) People with anxiety usually have a lot of sensitivity and awareness. :)
I was sexually assaulted 4 years ago and I was blamed for it not the person who did it. I was depressed since then I self harmed a lot I struggled with an eating disorder.i also hung out with the wrong crowd of people during my middle school years and then my freshman and sophomore year of high school I felt like I needed to be someone different and I still hung out with the like cool people that were still bad though and I was pressured into a couple of bad things that I regret. I am bi and I don’t have any friends that I can trust in completely everything. But now I have gotten closer to god I know that he likes me for me and made me like this I now have defeated my eating disorder and I don’t self harm anymore I still have rough patches in my life. And I still don’t have any friends to rely on but I’m fine with it and i am now a better person now i only mildly struggle with anxiety. I have become my better self and I’m proud of it. ❤️ (sorry for the rant.)
You do not have to apologize for sharing your story. You are fighting and you are winning. Keep your chin up, little warrior. 😊
You are lovely and loved. I empathise with you and understand your pain. Love to you 🤗🤗🤗🤗
You should watch Devin's assault story on Buzzfeed's TH-cam channel. I think that will help you a lot. You are not alone.
Never apologise. Ever.
Its ok we are all here for you.
Your a girl..... Like me I'm a girl..we get blamed for being touched..
"What were you wearing" ?
"Did you drink that night"?
"You asked for it"
im sorry for you..
People in my grade joke about OCD. If something is slightly out of place people will say "OH NO!!! I HAVE TERRIBLE OCD!!" And stuff like that and it's really annoying
It'sCalledHeych People at my school make jokes about crippling depression and autism.
I'm quite OCD. I joke about it and my depression too, but it's never not to point I joke about it like it's really nothing.
I have extreme anxiety and depression. People will say things like "I understand I get anxious before tests" or "I understand I get sad too". Really they don't get it.
Kyle D same at my school but my school makes fun about diabetes and cancer and it makes me so sad that I have to go with idiots every single day
I have severe ocd it is not an adjective
I have Social anxiety, and people never believe me. they always say that I'm probably just shy
the blue cat what is social anxiety sry idk what it it
dana wright social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.
noa nidam stop self diagnosing
noa nidam Me too and I really hate how people act like it’s nothing
Same, people think that's just because I'm a teenager and shy
I have social anxiety and my parents don't believe me. They think I'm overreacting. I'm just "shy" or "introverted". It's emotionally draining when my mom laughs if I bring it up. I crinkle into this shrivelled raisin and die a little inside. My dad yells at me and makes me cry in public when I can't order my own food. My mom pushes me to talk to her about my problems and I just can't do it. Because I know they wouldn't care, or let alone believe me
Scott Delgado
Same.
And we can't even go to therapy because we think we'll be judged anyway and feel stupid about what we're feeling. I've had so many problems at school because of it. I would either freeze on the spot and have a panic attack or run without thinking twice. It controls me whether I want it or not and it's so frustrating and scary. I blame myself pretty often for not being able to act and be like the other people.
It’s okay it’s not your fault... I’m here
Finally. I'm not alone
For me my parents always said what I was feeling was normal but I didn't feel normal. I'd get so nervous about something sometimes a month in advance and I'd make myself sick over it both physically and mentally. And going out in public places is difficult when I'm not with someone I know. For me talking to a therapist really helped. It was constantly bad and I didn't want to get out of bed and I was constantly "sleeping" even though I woke up every 30 minutes to an hour. Therapy helped way more than drugs because they understand it's not your fault and you aren't too young to be this stressed or you life isn't too perfect to be feeling this way. They don't judge because they actually know instead of someone who doesn't understand at all. I've had anxiety for most of my life but until I was almost 17 I was not actually diagnosed because regular doctors didn't understand and told me I was fine or too young.
I struggle with social anxiety in particular.. and the pressure that you put on yourself or what you think others are putting on you is unbearable sometimes. I would use things like making my friends laugh or do something good for them to make them smile, was my way of telling myself that I was good enough, that this was normal. I continued to do this everyday and even categorize the good days and bad days based on how much I made them laugh or smile... this on going cycle went on for years, and I’m getting better with dealing with it to this day but still have those oppressing thoughts. For anyone who suffers from social anxiety, anxiety in general, or just any type of mental illness, just keep fighting! People who don’t suffer don’t understand the fact that your brain is fighting you and pushing you down... just keep fighting cause the worst is behind you!!
I have depression and anxiety too 😯 but i try to be strong 💪
:( yea I do too.
mochi pie be strong, we think there is no one like us ....
Bt look around 😖
And be strong
U r so strong
Stay strong! There's a whole world out there that understands you and cares for you! I acknowledge the problems people go through but I will never judge them for it. Hugs from a random stranger!
How long ago were you diagnosed? Do you think you've gotten better since then?
We can do this together. We can be strong together. 💜💜💜
Nobody believes me when I say I have depression or anxiety, because I'm so happy most of the time. I only cover it up because I hate having to answer the questions people ask, and they don't know what depression and anxiety feel like.
I’ve had doctors, psychiatrists, and therapists who didn’t believe in my mental illness. It’s awful.
Same. It's a horrible system and I honestly believe that those therapists are just taking the easy road.
I am a very friendly, well-mannered, well articulate person.
When I told them nicely what's wrong with me, they said "You're fine, what's your problem, you don't seem ill"
When I couldn't bear it anymore and freaked out about their lack of help, I got told "You're so hyper, you don't want help and you don't want to work with us."
My last inpatient experience was the most traumatic event of my life. I will never again do this to myself...
System K I have Crohn's disease, and my mom and I waited months to get into a specialist to find out what was wrong with me (before we found out I had Crohn's) and when we got there it took all my effort to get there, he told me it was just my bipolar depression and my anxiety. I cried all the way home, my mom and I knew that something was wrong with me, that I was sick. Luckily my pediatrician knew I wasn't well and persisted to help us find out what was wrong so we could treat it.
It's sad when people around don't believe you, but when therapists and phychiatrists don't believe you I think it's worse.
They all believed me but they thought I was too "unstable" to get better. When your mental illness is so terrible that people give up on you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It's crazy, right? I mean, it's their job, especially psychiatrists and therapists to know these things!!
I struggled with eating disorder, anxiety, depression and PTSD for most of my life and wasn’t even aware or didn’t start getting treatment until the past two years, partially due to my family’s culture and the stigma surrounding mental health that it took me a long time to get the help I needed. Symptoms have decreased a lot and in a better place than I was before, but still have a lot to recover from but I’m committed. Thanks for making this video, videos like this are helpful
I struggle with depression, I have recently gotten an appointment to therapy, and now they're assigning me to medicine. People thought that I was faking my illness and even my parents thought that I was doing this for attention. And now my parents realize that I need help, and so far...nothing is really working right now.
_Fuwa_ Skele just... be careful with the meds. It’s really not good for you and will cause you to have a lack of feelings. At least from my experience, don’t feel like it’s your only help, exercise has been proven to be the best help for depression.
keep working on it, I used meds and it took me a while to find what worked but I promise youll get through it! 💜💜
_Fuwa_ Skele I believe in u!
I struggle with depression also. Some advise is to hang out with your friends or loved ones to get your mind off it. That's the reason I'm on TH-cam right now. Try to meditate. One thing I have done is I go inside a room with no noise and a candle in the middle of the room labeled "positive energy" then stay in that room and relax yourself and think about any thing your would like as long as its not sad thoughts and just think about that for about 15 minutes or more. When you stand up, don't start just eating pizza or ice cream or whatever. You can take a nap, or do yoga, or meditate. No eating junk food or watching T.V. I want you to relax and if you have time, repeat these steps if your parent ask "WHY? Why?" (like all parents) just say that you were really serious about depression and this is how you stop it. If you want therapy for free, my Grandma's a therapist and she can give you an appointment over TH-cam for free at any day at around 4:30. Don't take the medicine that much. Try to be vegan, (that's going to help with the depression and have you to stop taking the medication) if school is pressuring you, (or your failing classes like me)Repeat after me: I will ace my classes I WILL get straight A's. Once you see this comment, your probably still in depression, so what I want you to do is tell me whats bothering you and I WILL make you kill your depression.
And remember this: Mind first, body second (damn, that was deep!)
That means that the sooner you are done with depression, you body will follow and you will start to be a lot healthier and happier. Follow my directions and you will have success in your direction forever.
I hope you see this comment and you will flip the switch inside you brain from sad to happy to extra happy! I hope you now have a wonderful day! :)
Alexianna Puric My meds are working so far! I feel better than before! Thanks for the advice, I'll make sure to try what you said!
i generally come off as a happy and content person and this leads to no one believing that i have bad social and performance anxiety.
Reagan Labiak same
I understand to, I try to act Happy on the outside around people or I'm gonna make them feel bad, even though on the inside I feel like I'm just gonna burst out crying.
I think a really difficult part about recovering from anorexia is that a lot of us are reluctant to seek recovery because of the crippling fear of gaining weight.
I used to be eighty pounds. I’ve gained forty. I’m eating, so people think it’s okay now. But I feel like my eating disorder has never been worse.
Just remember you are beautiful, and when you feel ready for it, recovery is always an option. (i'm trying to recover myself) The voice is wrong.
If you can you should go see a therapist; if you can't because you're not supported by your family or because it's hard in your area or because it's too expensive try watching videos on youtube with people overcoming your same issue, it might help you even just a little bit. eating again and gaining weight it's a start but until you realize that food is your fuel and not your enemy you will probably keep having problems with eating. also, working out while eating as healthy and clean as you can might help a bit. please stay strong!
I remember in school I was depressed and suicidal. I couldn't sleep at night and I tried to kill myself many times. I wrote a suicide note that my Mom found while I was at school and when I came home she said I was overreacting and I was grounded. I remember at school this one girl was dumped and she kept saying 'This is what people with depression must feel like'' and I got so mad I yelled at her and got punished. My Mom's boyfriend said I wasn't a real man for expressing my emotions. He was on a call one day and said how he was 'Really Depressed'' and I just laughed and cried. Just goes to show that you shouldn't compare yourself to people with a real mental illness.
People with mental illnesses rarely express them healthfully. My dad was massively depressed and suicidal, but he waited until he was nearly 50 before going to therapy, going to a psychiatrist. He also invalidated me when I tried coming to him with my mental illness issues, so I get how awful it can feel, but please refrain from saying that someone cannot be mentally unwell because they've told you the same. Your mom's BF may well be depressed, like my dad, and handling it shittily.
If you have access to apps, I recommend guided meditations and _Wysa,_ which is like texting a therapist. Even tho I know it's a bot, it's very well-programmed, and it has helped me through anxiety attacks and plain ol' bad days.
Your mom also handled things awfully. That was her chance to put you in therapy, and she failed you. A lot of parents seem to fail in that regard, looking at this comments section. Find a guidance counselor, or if you're not in k-12 anymore, there might be low-cost therapists near you, if apps won't do it.
Remember, comparing "yourself to people with a real mental illness" isn't very helpful. Everyone experiences it differently. My dad was angry and abusive with his depression, and I was withdrawn, then rebellious, then withdrawn again, hiding in my homework mountain and workaholism. Mom is withdrawn and cries. Everyone is different, and while they were unacceptable in dealing with your depression, you *do not* need to follow their example. Start with being patient with yourself. That's what's helped me.
Maybe write in a journal. If your mom (or anyone else whom you should be able to trust) violates your privacy, write in an online journal that's password-protected. Putting your feelings into written word is cathartic and can help you chronicle patterns.
I have panic disorder and this video made me feel not alone 💜
Medicore MeL trust me when I say your not alone. We’ve got this!!! 💪🏼🙏🏻🙌🏼😽👼🏻
I have panic disorder too, among other things. You are definitely not alone! Stay strong! 💪💕
You wont be alone, I have panic disorder as well
Maybe I am not by you, but I get whats happening.
You are not
Aww that’s so great!😭 I don’t think I have that but I struggle with a bunch of other stuff so I know how important it is that be shown that your not alone💜
Can we just say he seems like the best boyfriend ever
I’ve been having an extremely tough night and this is exactly what I needed. Thank you to everyone who shared their story. I’m struggling with depression, endometriosis, anxiety and panic disorder at the moment and seeing people open up about their mental illnesses and acknowledging how real it actually is makes me feel like I can get through this. I am in tears right now because seeing videos like these is incredible. I hope anyone struggling in any way shape or form with mental illness knows that there are people who are here for you and believe you and will fight for you. Much love ❤️
jxmie c prayers for you
Got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Was told by my mother that I was just looking for attention and being a drama queen. Several years of therapy and a move later, I no longer talk to my mom and I’m getting the help I actually need.
Wow I just love it when buzzfeed makes such awareness creating videos like these..
I overheard a conversation once. A classmate was talking to another about a person who had panic attacks. She said: “ She told me she couldn’t go because she was having a panic attack and then I told her that she can move her legs so she is just overreacting and want attention.”
In that moment my eyes were in tears. The fact that shocked me was that she was proud of herself like her answer to that person was the best and everybody should take her example.
As a person who suffers from social anxiety i was scared to speak up. I have regularly panic attacks and I know how hard it is to deal with them...i don’t want to imagine what that person felt when she heard that she “want attention “ and is “overreacting”.
I really wish a had the courage to say something...
Mary Y I've heard these conversations in hospitals from nurses and doctors. Sometimes they aren't even qualified to any kind of legal standard.
Ironically, just like in school, you're encouraged to find logical ways of dealing with these situations. Sadly, the structure can't always fix itself so you have to tell it about the structure. This can mean more abuse, or a full reversal.
Mary Y mate as a fellow social anxiety disorder sufferer I wouldn’t have sat by and hear that exchange. I may have trouble in more places then others that’s just how it works with “SAD” but I can certainly speak my mind when needed.
that's why i just keep my illnesses to myself, just because no one will believe me, the only people that know about it are my closest friends and my family.
Astrellious see a therapist.
I second that^ after 7 years im bearly seeing one & it has gotten worse i wish i would've seen somehow sooner
I already see enough doctors as it is, I dont need to add a therapist onto the pile, plus a therapist wouldn't do anything for me
+Astrellious I see how you can think that they won't do anything for you or tell you anything that you don't already know because I used to think the same things before I started going to therapy and I can tell you now, I was so wrong, finding my therapist basically saved me - don't dismiss it yet!
Astrellious you can't know for sure whether a therapist will help you or not. Chances are, they will
"I seemed fine but I know I DIDN'T feel it " this hits hard 😭😭
I have bad anxiety as a 13 year old. I told my mom about my breakdowns at school about simple things like science labs. She told me that "you don't need pills just because You think you need to control everything". Slowly, but surely, I am learning to control my panic attacks. Anxiety is a very real disorder. I am sleep deprived always. Don't ever tell people it's not real.
Audrey Reiter the fact that you mentioned having breakdowns over a science lab is so real to me. I’m 13 right now, and I’ll freak out over simple everyday things (even like a choice of 2 restaurants or something) and even though it’s something that should come so easily it just seems to overwhelm you.
I have had people say the same thing to me. I've had anxiety since I was seven, I'm thirteen now, I don't know if that's what caused it though. But when I try to explain it people don't understand or they do the thing where they say, "Oh, I know what you mean, but I think I have that too because.." and it's made me want to scream that they don't understand how hard it is. Some people have things so easy for them that it almost hurts to see it. But because if the experiences I've had I try to be more insightful and accepting. It hurts to see people go through things like that and not be able to get help or reach out, because I know how it feels.
im happy u got better
I'm 14 and I live in Africa, where most mental health issues are said to be caused by black magic or demons and It really feels Like there is no hope for me and I feel really lost. I attempted Suicide a few months ago, my mom found me In my room and she bean splashing me with holy water, I didn't get medical help, or help from a therapist, not even an are you okay from my family, I was simply Just blown off. And It really hurts when you feel alone and like no one understands, Its hopeless. And there's nowhere I can get help here. I'm basically stuck.
But this video made me feel like I wasn't so alone
Thank you.
I am sorry you experienced all of this. One good thing is that you have access to the internet... Try to find scholarly articles and medical societies/support groups to guide you. You are stronger than you know and if you stay alive you can help not only yourself, but others like you who struggle. We need people like you to start educating the society at large. Bless you on this difficult and long journey.
Fairly Antisøcial
hey I’m Nigerian and same thing happened to me and even my parents didn’t believe me, they told me it was the work of the devil so I just stopped telling them about it. Attempted suicide multiple but all failed. when I got to the US I was quickly checked into an asylum after my first college year when I spoke to my advisors at school and they called the police and in two days I was taken from school to emergency unit to mental asylum . I got diagnosed with Anxiety disorder PTSD depression and OCD and being in college at 15/16 was no help either. I had a gun to finish the job but i told people who will understand just days before I was to commit the act and they got me the help I needed. Just know that you’re definitely not alone and i would definitely be able to talk with you if you want to.😘 you’ll be fine I promise you.
This videos are incredible please make them with men next. i really want to hear a story about a man that has suffered from eating disorders and maybe not beleived I trust you will present it well BuzzFeed
Eating disorders in men isnt really talked about but it definitely needs to be so I agree
it didn't even occur to me but it would have been nice to have a couple of guys in this video, even if not necessarily about eating disorders but any other mental health struggles. Hopefully there is a counterpart video coming out, because I imagine in a lot of situations, as a man, there is even more of a stigma of getting help because they feel like a failure for giving up.
I remember telling 2 mental health professionals that I saw regularly and my mom that I thought I was autistic and none of them believed me. I was incredibly discouraged. A year later I finally decided it was time to try finding someone who would actually listen to me. I found someone who specializes in adult autism online, made an appointment, and got diagnosed 3 months ago. Never stop fighting for yourself! You deserve to be heard.
Awww, I would so much like to hug Devin (and other lovely ladies too!). I also had a depression and an eating disorder ad the result. Weighted 44 kg and couldn't eat a single thing, I just had zero appetite. I had to literally make a conscious effort not to die, because my body was telling me it doesn't want to live. And no, not many people understand, especially in certain societies. I then realised I have had a depression developing for a while, but my concerns were dismissed because "this is just a phase", "it's normal for a teenager", "just don't be sad, what's your problem", "you're a poser" etc. No, it doesn't work this way. If you are feeling bad, don't be ashamed and seek for help until you find it! You deserve a better life!
I'm so sorry. I never had an eating disorder. So I can't really relate but I am truly sorry you had to wake up everyday and face this.
Книжная Booka Hello, I have anorexia as well, I understand how hard it is, and I understand where you're coming from. People say we do it on purpose, we do it because of self shame. I hope you get better- I send all my look and prayers to you! X
Thank you so much for your support! I am now long recovered from depression and eating disorder, however the memories of that experience will always remain. I wish you to get better too, you have all our support! It is a hard work, but recovery and harmony are closer than disorders want us to think!
Thank you so much for your support!
Книжная Booka omg this is so relatable! I️ have general anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, ocd, depression, an eating disorder, and insomnia. People (especially my mom) tell me that it’s just hormones and all teenagers have it. It’s rly rly annoying
They are amazing, praying for a male version of this
Huge thanks to these girls for talking about their illnesses. I know for many people it is the hardest thing to come out with it. Even harder is accepting it. But it is the first huge step in the right direction.
I have Insomnia & Depression. I have lived with this for 2 years, And I just got therapy. I was scared about telling people about my Depression. I get better each session and I just started getting better. But the stress and social anxiety sticks with me, Causing me Insomnia. For anyone going through this,
*I AM HERE FOR YOU*
Thank you buzzfeed for this video.
Love you Devin 😘
this makes me feel bad for my friend. but even her mom says she says she does things for attention and her life is better than most. she was even told by doctors that her daughter was a pathological liar. ion kno who to believe
The World Of Sai wow. How sad.
The World Of Sai it's a difficult situation but she's your friend and you gotta be there for her. There is no way that you could come out the bad person and doctors aren't always right. Make sure she knows that she can trust you and you're there but also that you can't be her only support and that you can't take all the weight. Support her in finding help from someone that believes her and if she refuses to them maybe you should question her motives. If she turns out toxic, then do what's best for you and leave her but right now be the person that cares and believes
Her mum is probably lying about the doctors. Why would her mum tell you about that? Sounds like she's the toxic one in this situation.
If that’s the case she still needs therapy... not traits that’ll not always be good to have
Believe her. Because even if she’s lying, she obviously believes it herself. And she needs somebody on her side.
I didn't know I had an eating disorder until a month ago. I'm fat ya know? I weigh over 200 lbs. I cut out food for the past two years I ate 800 calories or less a day. I kept gaining weight so I would eat less.
5 months ago. My hair started falling out. I went to the doctor said it was my thyroid. It was vitamins. Another doctor said I must be pulling my hair out myself and lying.
When my coworker at my new job noticed me avoiding the food she would bring in she asked me why. I lied and said I was allergic.
About three weeks of that she shut off my computer and pulled me into the conference room.
She was a personal trainer. She saw the signs. She asked me what I ate during the day and when I told her I apologized. I thought it was too much. Its disgusting to admit that you eat anything when you're fat. Let alone 800 calories worth.
She told my boss. My boss asked me to go to the campus nutritionist. I started keeping a food diary. She checked it. A week in I was diagnosed with Anorexia. But I'm fat so I didn't think it was a bad thing.
25 days ago I collapsed. I was having a really bad body image day. I hadn't eaten. I was at the gym. Going hard. Things got blurry I ignired it. I chugged my water. I got dizzy. I pushed through.
I thought I was only dizzy because I was fat and wasnt breathing right.
I blacked out.
I denied an ambulance ride because I knew I couldn't afford it.
I sat in the locker room for a few moment's before driving myself home.
I called my coworker.
She and I have made a food plan.
I get sick when I eat now. Half a cup of yogurt feels like 20 tons in my stomach. But after 23 days.
My hair is falling out less in clumps. More in strands. I'm up to almost 1500 calories a day.
Most of that is peanut butter. Its a start.
But all of this could have been handled earlier if doctors had noticed the signs of my ED as an ED and not as anything else.
I'm sorry you went through that and I'm glad you're getting help! I was developing an ED, but my sister started making meals for me and I don't like to waste food so I ate it all
I'm so proud of you. I'm going through a similar situation and I don't know you but it takes a lot or strength and power to talk about this and be open. I'm glad you're doing better 💖
I’ve been struggling with mental illness since I was 13. 10 years of my life has been devoted to this struggle. Up until I was a senior in college (2 years ago) my parents did not believe me. I had been initially diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety. But things got so much worse in my second year of college. As a senior I was taking antidepressants, and they made everything worse. I ended up in the hospital twice due to breakdowns and suicidal ideations within 8 months. The second time I was in the hospital I was pushed into an outpatient program and finally had a real diagnosis.
I’ve been living with a bipolar disorder diagnosis for 2 and a half years now. And I’m finally exactly where I’ve always wanted to be. Reaching out and getting help can really change your life. And don’t ever brush friends, or family off when they’re trying to help. They might not understand, but they’re doing the best they can.
I have depression, anxiety, and panic attacks
Kasidy Cates me too + anorexia
Kasidy Cates Awe, same.
Doubt it because this is the internet and you look 13 at the most.
(Kill me)
Christie Valda Why would you say that? Even if she was lying it'd not your place to state that. What if she does have all those, what if she's getting worse? I know many people who aren't even 13 that have anorexia, depression, and etc. So I believe her, no one should care if your right.
It kills me to hear Sheridan explain how her college counseling center didn't help her. My college counseling center was the place that got a psychiatrist to see me and diagnose me with depression and got me on antidepressants. I literally would not be here to watch this video without them.
I have social anxiety and generalised anxiety. My mum gave me a psychologist and a psychiatrist, I was put on meds but I just couldn’t bring myself to go to school. I’d have panic attacks every morning when we reached school and my mother would just scream at me saying that I wasn’t trying enough and that I’m just giving up but she doesn’t understand that when I’m there I can’t stand how my anxiety makes me feel, it’s like being trapped in a bubble and all the fresh air is going away, suffocating me.
I have exactly the same problem and I understand what you feel. People always say that I am not trying hard and sometimes they think I am just being spoiled and lazy. And that makes me feel that I am really the person what they say, it makes me hate myself. I don't know how you handle this situation but if you want to talk please contact
MschrRvn same here .. I was bullied all the way to basically my eleventh grade year .
Which is this year.. I tried suicide twice .. I started cutting and hated my life so much from the pressure of my family falling apart ,and I messed up on something in class and got laughed up feeling the pressure of eyes on you and getting laughed at it hurts .. And then no one knows what's going in and you feel .. Like an outcast .. A failure
What are panic attacks like? I just wondering because I don’t have anxiety and I don’t really understand it.
Erica Roberts they fell like you can't breathe , your heart rate is pulsing and you feel singled out like all eyes are on you and that breathe of air is trapped
Raven gallows ^^ they can differ slightly depending on the cause as well, so instead of the feeling of eyes, it can be crushing fear (paranoia), the feeling of having too many expectations/ wanting to run away, etc
I have paranoid personality disorder and my best friends sometimes jokes on it and it feel so bad that I can't even express myself 😭
@lonertype thanks alot 😭😘 i will try my best to overcome it
Be your own friend. You don’t need someone like that during this journey! Hope you’re doing well.
As a woman who has PMDD, I have to say that this is totally accurate. Before medication, I spent just a bit over two weeks every month hating life, and shifting between violent rages, to hysterical sobbing, to complete exhaustion and then over again. It's not as simple as mood swings, it is a layered and frankly scary cycle.
What is PMDD
Anna Smith is that what I'm going through?
I also have pmdd and it's awful. I feel like there are two totally different versions of myself and when I'm in the "bad stage" I just spend all my time wishing I could feel like me again. The dread of it coming back after you feel better is also so hard to live with.
Essie. A pre menstrual dysmorphic disorder
I agree. Forget trying to have any type of relationship either. I would hit such a low it was scary. I love when she said do not listen to your mind when it tells you you are a loser. You are not a loser!
I'm bipolar. I've been diagnosed since I was 15, and I'm almost 20 now. Right before I was diagnosed, family and people didn't believe me before the police arrested me for ''suicidal behavior'', because I was about to jump off a bridge. People associated bipolar with ''being really ecstatic and then depressed for a few days'', but I would literally scream and cry whenever I was manic. Although I've passed that ''people don't believe me'', I'm still glad.
Emina Bekric this might sound insensitive or rude, but i mean it to no offense...
I am thinking about writing about a person with bipolar.....do you think i should? And if you do, do you have any tips?
Nore Puts that's not rude or insensitive, don't worry. You're just asking for her opinion since they are bipolar. And you want to make sure that it would be okay, and asking for their opinion on it
Im bipolar too! It feels like any normal human would feel. But it isnt.
Talia Roberts thank you, that makes me a lot more comfortable with asking these questions^^
One of the weirdest thing though, is not believing yourself. I knew in my heart that throwing up after most meals is bulimia, that writing down each calorie you take in is not healthy, and that I was technically underweight, but I didn't believe myself because I would think "I'm not skinny enough to have an eating disorder." Looking back at my recovery now, I think its so crazy how a mental disorder can distort your perception of yourself so much.
aem You seem to have a very grounded idea of eating disorders.
@@CocaineDragonyeah, i knew to an extent that my behavior added up with my grounded idea of eating disorders, but having a mental disorder clouds your reason
aem how can a person know they’re clearly unhealthy yet continue the obvious self destructive behaviour.
@@thinkingofaname6233 it becomes a coping mechanism and an addictiom
aem what does? Throwing up after every meal? Knowing your starving your body to death? Sorry but all people like you should be committed at the first warning signs.
I remember last year when I ate 300 calories or less a day and I can confirm that the difference in my mental state was staggering- I couldn’t concentrate on anything and I felt numb. It was horrific yet my life seemed to be running smoother than ever before, the starvation almost masked the depression and anxiety I have battled for so long. I felt so weak and frail- my parents would continually make comments on my eating habits and how boney my shoulders were, as Christmas approached I began to stop logging my calories as much but I gained weight quickly, it truly is terrible how this mentality can take such a toll on your body and mind, and although I’m certainly far from recovered I hope you can reach out and gain the help you need
This made me feel so much less alone.
Same!
"That is your fault, you're doing this to yourself" "You're just hormonal" "You're a quitter" and I could quote the whole video.... I thought I was the only one hearing these! Thank you for making this video!
Elizanna "But it's in your head, just stop thinking about it" - actual quote about my bipolar type 2 from my best friend
I have extreme anxiety, it’s the worst.
When I was 9 years old, every single day going to school, I would have an anxiety attack. People would never believe me. I was shaking and breathing heavily. Sometimes the teachers had to drag me in to school because I just refused to go in. People usually described me as bubbly and humorous, but during school I just had my head on my desk. I never knew what to do in lessons because I wasn’t listening. It was as if I completely blacked out. By the time I got home, I sat down, crying. I still have anxiety attacks and they make me feel as if I want to crawl up in the corner of the room in a ball and die. So one day, my mum sat me down and said to me “why are you crying everyday when you go to school?” I said back to her that I was nervous, she asked why, and I said “I don’t know”
What my anxiety did to me made me stronger as a person. I went on a school trip, and I wanted to go on a ride, and I did. I said to myself “you can do this” and I did. The fear of doing things and getting anxiety attacks, was what was giving me anxiety.
If you have anxiety, all I can say is to believe in yourself, and just not be scared at all.
I am very thankful for my family, friends, and teachers who pulled me through this horrible time.
Still do this day, I do have anxiety and still have anxiety attacks, but they aren’t half as bad, and I know what to do about them.
Stay strong everyone. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Awww stay strong 💪
- Loz “beliiieve In yoselffffff and you can do it” yeah I’d have punched you as soon as u got those 3 words out.
Same xx
My mom doesn’t believe I have a problem either. When she found out I had been self harming, she brushed it off and told me that I was attention seeking. She said I had absolutely no reason to be feeling like this, making it seem like it was wrong. A while later she said I’d speak with someone, but I never end up actually seeing anyone. My friends don’t take it very seriously either, they usually just keep quiet. I have had many suicidal thoughts but I haven’t ever attempted.
it’s sad to see people who judge people by their flaws, and don’t see their beauty
I have clinical depression and I just started to enjoy doing things last month. I also have anxiety. I didn't realize that I was having panic attacks. I thought it was normal.
Haha, for real, it's weird when you realize that it isn't something that happens to everyone.
I dont know whats wrong with me.
I dont know what to do.
Everytime i'm like, something is wrong with me, it feels like i am a bad person for beeing so 'dramatic'.
I just realized that i probably had alot of panic attacks already. I thought how can I cry about thinks everyone else seems to be able to do just fine.
About half a year ago my brother said, while we were eating, depressions and stuff are an illusion and all the people are doing it for attention. I was so shocked. How can he seriously believe that?
My mother once said the way i am now is like im having depression and i almost starting crying.
I always knew i had to talk to someone about it and it was really hard when i first did. I think she didnt believe me. All of them everyone i've once told they dont get it.
What should i do. Its been so hard that i had extreme panic attacks about just going to school. Or doing a presentation.
And now i've graduated. A year ago. And i'm sitting around. I dont want to find something. I dont want to feel that way ever again. But i have to. Even so i just cant. How will i ever have a Future like this. Running away from problems. Because im afraid of them.
How does anyone get through this?
I have anxiety and one thing that drives my mind crazy is when people say its all in your head. No it is not in my head, i cant control it its something that just shows up when it wants to.
Finding someone who can understand and help you is the most important thing to help you get through it
My mother was the first person to suspect that I have depression and PTSD along with my severe anxiety/panic. Now that I have a therapist saying, "Yes you have depression, and 99.9% of having PTSD", my mother does not believe when I'm struggling.
I am an 11 year old with a lot of mental health issues and since most of my family understand , i cant realate but i hope that people realise that mental heath is no joke , it is a very serious matter and we need to take it seriously.
Hello Ginger you’re insanely beautiful
I’m 13 and relate very much
And there are always people who say, "it's just hormones, it'll go away." They're dismissing the fact that, even if it *is* -just- a hormonal imbalance, it's still affecting you, it can still ruin your life and development, it's still something that requires help.
I started to have ED/SH habits and major depression and (probably) social anxiety at age 10, when puberty hit me like a hurricane. I want to cry for my younger self, because if I had gotten into therapy THEN AND THERE (and found a good match--not everyone is going to be good for you), I may not have had to put up with an abusive home, I may not have taken the bullying as hard as I did, and I may have stopped my destructive behaviors before they came back with a vengeance at ages 17 and 19 and 23. Things were almost okay at 13 and 14, but I was living with my mom, who cared and listened and didn't judge. She even had some helpful tips, like breathing exercises.
I'm 24 and a half, now, and I can tell you that *it can get better,* it will probably be hard, and you will be fighting yourself for a long time. The best weapons are patience, kindness, and consistency.
Mental illness is like an abuser, one who lives inside your head and never leaves, even if they may shut up for awhile. I understand, and I believe you.
Therapy, and for awhile, medication, were amazing for me, and I think they could work for you, too. If you have access to apps, _Wysa_ is a free app that can be like therapy. It has resources, and it helps you improve your self-talk. I also recommend exercising (moderately) and drinking enough water. Meditation has been amazing, too, and there are many free guided meditation resources, even here on youtube.
Also, I recommend checking out Kati Morton's youtube channel--she has loads of videos on nearly every disorder under the sun, usually topical, tho with ED/SH, she specializes.
TL;DR
You are not alone. There are resources and people who *want* to help you, have even gone through what you're experiencing.
definitely.
lot of people think that if u have a mental ilness ur crazy for sure but no ! i am psychotic and beating depression and anxiety but u know, i can go to school, i have friends, i have a life, so ur mental ilness does NOT define who u are ! stay strong guys, yall can make it 😛💕💪🏼
edit : i did not diagnose myself guys, i am curently in therapy, taking medication and follow by a psychiatrist (also sorry for my english i usually talk french)
She's so true, depression enters your life when everything is just perfect..its horrible I'm going through depression right now..