the hardest part of having any type depression or mental illness, is staying silent for so long because bothering other people with your problems is so much worse than suffering through it alone.
hnnah ayee. My biggest problem even with being diagnosed is bottling up my feelings. I try so hard not to feel anything and focus on their problems because I got into the habit of thinking "I don't want to burden anyone. Because they wont really get it" I'm learning.... that doing that hurts me more then being missunderstood
It's the biggest reason why most people live with it for so long. I'm going on 6 years now with depression and only got help a couple of weeks ago. All because I met a girl that saw I wasn't alright and even though she didn't know me that well yet, she still helped me. She is now one of the only reasons I'm still fighting for a future.
I always has mixed feelings talking about my bipolar disorder (mainly depressive periods). Most of my friends and family know about it now and I tried to explain it, but it's hard. I feel guilty to bother them and I know they can't understand if they don't have this experience. You can't translate feelings into the words. The only person who truly understand is my mum, because she has the same disorder, but I don't want her to worry about me, so I'm usually silent.
I feel like this is true for almost every mental illness, not even just eating disorders. like, i went in a pretty big downward spiral for a while, and then I just sort of...got out of it after getting a lot of help but not really even changing anything about my life. People would ask me what i did to get better, and looking back i think the only thing was I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed and embarrassed. I stopped apologizing for my feelings and instead would just tell people about them. i still have a long way to go, but taking away the shame really stopped me from destroying myself
Anxiety and depression are huge things. Don't let negative people make you doubt your diagnosis.you have to accept it before you can claw your way out to the light.no cure but can be managed,it's hit n miss at times, just hang in there and be honest regarding how you feel.find and stay with a trusted dr. Who can help you navigate the turbulent waters of pharma. Feeling better doesn't happen overnight,just don't give up,believe in hope,dismiss negative persons, reach out for help
Me too. I feel so down all the time that it actually gets frustrating. I didn't used to be like this. I used to be much more fun to be around but now I just pretend. Pretend all day long that I'm fine because I know no one will understand.
What even hurts the most is people stigmatizing against it. I remember an aunt of mine even asked me "What's the matter with you?" which was barely helpful.
The first time I tried to explain my anxiety to somebody other than my husband, I received the response "Well it's not cancer. You're not dying." No, it's not cancer and no, I'm not dying. But I am not okay. And you are the reason I no longer talk about this.
Dingle Technically, you are dying - we are all dying. We're born dying. Haha, sorry for being pedantic, I wish you the best and hope you overcome your anxiety. It sucks.
Can buzzfeed make a part 2 of this but with men included? I feel like guys out here with eating disorders and other stuff need to know that it's a real thing for them too and that they're not alone
I had a psychiatrist tell me "you don't look like you have anxiety." She made me feel like I was wasting her time. Not even professionals take mental illness seriously - and it's leading to people killing themselves. We need to do better.
Dana Gricken as I am reading this I feel hopeless and why do I even exist lol that sums up my whole life lol so what now god please just take me away lol
Honest question, what is EDNOS? I feel like I’ve heard it I just don’t remember what it is? And no you aren’t alone. I have bipolar, ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression. You got this. You can do this
Sophie Boertjes eating disorder not otherwise specified. Basically if someone has an eating disorder that doesn’t match all the criteria for a specific one.
"My boyfriend sat me down and said, 'you don't have to talk to me, but you have to talk to someone.' Later, that boyfriend became my husband" Me: AWWWW
if someone doesn't believe when i mention my anxiety disorder, or when i had clinical depression, i tell them how lucky they are that they've never been in a position to.
they never believe me ether, because I am outgoing and happy, and funny. But they never look into the details.. isn’t it weird I never have ever talked to ANYONE who I have not known for 2 years.
This video made me tear up! I've lived with mental illness for 10+ years and have hit many highs and lows. Hearing other peoples struggles just hurts my soul because I know how hard it can be and how never ending it can feel. Just ride the lows and live for the ups, because the ups will come.
Molly Burke Hey Molly! I love you! You’re an awesome influencer. No, I’m not blind, but I have been trying to recover through ED. You make me feel like I can get through anything. Thank you, genuinely.
Megan Hodes I hope you get better. I can't relate to your situation, but just know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you don't need to change.
No one believes me about my anxiety and depression...and whenever I go into the school nurses office they just tell me I’m faking my stomach aches and head aches. I go to the nurse 5 times a month and whenever I go they still refuse to call my parents.
I believe you honey! I have Schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. I can relate to how hard it is. Remember you have the power to seek help. I know what it feels like to be powerless and scared. Tell your parents yourself. Easier said then done, but YOU can do it. If they don’t help, find someone who will. Believe me, there is always someone. Everything will be okay 👌🏽 ❤️
Have you told your parents about their refusal to send you home? If so, what is their response? As a parent I would want to be consulted. My daughter and I would discuss a plan for how to handle these days, etc. I hope you have parents who would advocate for what you NEED.
I know this comment is kinda old, but I had the same problem in high school. I know it’s tough, but don’t give up. Push and push and fight until you get the help that you want/need. You are your biggest advocate. I didn’t keep pushing, I just started to bottle it up and keep it to myself, which was a huge mistake and I regret it to this day, because now my anxiety and depression are ten times worse, and I’m having to learn healthy coping mechanisms and work through years of problems at 23. I know that fighting for treatment is super hard when it comes to mental illness. People from the outside looking in don’t see anything physically wrong, but they have no idea what’s going on mentally. Just know that even if the school nurse, or your friends, or your family doesn’t believe you, so many other people do. So many other people know it’s real, and so many people care about you. There are a ton of free resources that you can use. There are hotlines and online websites that can set you up with an online counselor. Or there’s a chaplain or a priest or a pastor. Even if you aren’t religious, they’re more than happy to help. If ever I’m having a hard time, I go to my ships chaplain instead of the psychiatrist, because I know they care and want to help me, and others like me.
I have bipolar and a psychiatrist tried to convince me that I was just a normal teenage girl and that there was nothing wrong with me and that I just need to go home, get some sleep, lose some weight. He told me that exercise would work wonders but it hasn’t. I was medicated on Lovan for a little while but I told them it wasn’t working at all and they said that maybe medication wasn’t the right route for me and that I need to take care of it in a natural way when I was already doing that. I’m now medicated and going to therapy to try and manage it.
My neurologist had referred for me to see a therapist because of my MS and my depression I was so let down after my first session. I never went back and still haven't been able to find someone who understands MS and depression.
One time I told my dad that I was overwhelmed and about to have a panic attack because he was yelling at me, he told me to get over it. When he left I broke down into tears. Everyone deserves to be heard, you are important no matter what.
My mom would screamed at me "So it is my fault?! I've never done right with you, it is all my fault" then she proceed to cry loudly. Then I felt guilty for having panic attacks and asking for a break.
c 8 hey so i dont know much about your story, but I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. though i truly hope that isnt the case and that was just a low point for him and he's changed since then!
I wish to time-travel I already said this to c 8 but i definitely feel the need to say this to you even more so: I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. like, im no doctor, but my parents are very narcissistic with their abuse and this sounds a lot like something my N mother has said to me before.
mysticismlover I believe you ❤️! I do know I have anxiety and mild depression. Whenever I tell my mom or even one of my best freinds, they haven't believed me... my mom said it's "your being a drama llama!"... oh well enough about me :), Let's get through this together!
i have mishophonia, a brain disorder that makes me extremely mad about small sounds like chewing, breathing, typing on you phone and that sorts of stuff. When me and my family sat around our diner table to eat, i would always have a war inside my head if i should storm to bedroom or just cry. My parents didnt belive me when i said i couldnt sleep with her inthe same room because of her breathing. So i always cried myself to sleep. i just want to say that mishophonia is a real brain condision, people who have it where born that way and should be respected more!
girlyperson one i heard there was someone who learned to live with it normaly,she took therapy classes and meditatet dayily. but sadly shes the only one.. yet
Heidi Galdamez i feel you,girl...I have Depression and bipolar disorder.When i tell my family,they wont believe me at all...All they say is 'I have lots of stress more than you so you shouldnt say you have depression' the thing is they don't know what is depression and bipolar disorder is..They take it lightly...Right now,im just being in my room almost all the time and just come down to eat and give my cats food.that all...This sickness is not something they just take lightly.It worst and can lead yourself to bad thing 😔 They think they understand but actually they not....💔
After I was diagnosed with ADHD, my own dad denied it. He said it was an excuse to not hold still and ignore the things around me. Denying it WON'T. MAKE. IT. GO. AWAY.
I feel like the common misconception people have with mental illnesses (esp. depression) is that they expect you to be sad 24/7 which is not the case at all. You can be happy, laugh, have fun when you're at school/work or around friends & family but have an emotional breakdown when you're alone. That's what I hate the most about manic depression (bipolar disorder), some days I can be really okay and happy but then it gets really bad out of nowhere. It's tough but knowing you are not alone and people around the world are being strong too is so comforting, really. edit: I am aware that manic depression is bipolar disorder. It means having extreme mood swings. During the depressive episodes of bipolar disorder, a person may experience a severe form of depression that is similar to major depression.
I actually had a discussion about this just today. I was talking with two people diagnosed with depression (at least that is what they claim and I will believe them) and they were saying what's the use of during Happy my argument was to spread positivity and they tried to argue you can't with depression. You very much can just because it is hard does not make it impossible. You can be positive with depression don't let it take over you're going to have to fight it. Try to be positive challenge yourself to be positive. It is possible. (Sorry had to get that off my chest)
yes I'm exactly that way I suffer with depression an anxiety myself when I'm working or with my bf I'm happy an I'm fine but the min I'm alone I break down but the mistake I made was becoming dependant on others so that's what I'm working on presently I'm trying not to be too dependant on my bf cause as of lately he's taking my illness as a joke by fuel it.😞
Mica yeah! Uhg I hate it so much! I think it makes it harder for other people to understand that I'm actually depressed, especially since I (with help of meds because I wouldn't even make it though school without them) am able to put up a mask. I can pretend.
I have anxiety and depression but people are always like “but your so happy and loud all the time!” “You always have a smile on your face” and then the people who actually see me for who I am ask me when I’m looking sully or quiter than usual but instead they say “don’t worry, it’s a phase you will get through this.” Nope.
Same! Everyone thinks I’m an extrovert, friendly, and outgoing etc. But I’m not because it is a complete act. I am an introvert, prefer to be alone, etc. It took me such a long time to realize I needed help.
Me too. I was voted "Always happy" as a superlative in my senior year book. It makes it really hard to talk about my anxiety and depression. I really wish that there wasn't such a stigma around mental illness making it "taboo" to talk about this and making it hard for so many people as well as myself to let their guard down and just drop the act. I myself am trying to be more vocal about my own struggles in hopes that it can become somewhat of a "social norm." I wish the best for you and hope you know that you're not alone :)
This video honestly was so comforting to watch, A while back I got into an car crash and shortly after some guys threatened to beat me up bc I'm gay and even though at first I didnt notice it doing anything to me, now I'm honestly a mess. I went out to get help and got diagnosed with depression, eating disorder, anxiety, panic disorder and PTSD. I got anti depressents which aren't doing a lot at the moment. The only thing I do is lay in bed, nap and watch some netflix and I see my friends going out to party's, living their life's and I know I'm a burden so thats why I just stopped asking if I could come along and also because I just can't get out of the house anymore without freaking out over a little thing and I'm honestly starting to feel lonelier and more isolated by day. So thank you so much for showing me I'm not alone
If you find that there's no significant improvement with the medication you're on, check with your Dr and see if you need to up your dose or if there is an alternative anti-depressant. Anti-depressants work differently for different people, there's not a "one pill fits all" solution with depression and either a higher dosage or different medication may lead to a big improvement for you. Peace and Love xxx
Sometimes your behaviour reinforces depression e.g. if you never leave your bed, it's just making your mindset worse. I know how hard it is to leave the house without worrying a ton but I want you to help yourself and work really hard to get better because it is incredibly unhealthy for your mind and not to mention your body. (Speaking from personal experience btw).
I'm happy that you know your not alone xxx everyone cares about you x never give up on your life even if you have depression etc your life is worth living even if your gay nobody can stop how you feel and trust me if nobody else believes in you I will xx
When I told a person I trusted about my ED, she secretly told my mom (which I see in a positive way nowadays but back then I hated her for it)... whatever my mom was like "oh she just wants attention, it's puberty" and never confronted me or anything... so 5 years later I'm even a lot deeper into my ED, fighting so hard against it but I'm still in the beginning of recovery and my mom is like "if I only knew about it, you never told me, you lied to me, etc." 🙄
My friends also went behind my back, telling the school guidance counselor, who called my dad. He immediately believed her and started making sure I was eating breakfast. It helped for awhile, but it didn't stop the voice in my head. I still didn't have good coping skills. I needed therapy, and when I finally started going to a counselor at uni when I was 18, things actually started to sustainably improve. When I stopped, tho, things took awhile to get bad again, but they did, and now I don't have the insurance to afford therapy, except that I might be able to go to low-cost therapy, but... I'm so anxious about finding an abusive therapist. Or one who refuses to listen. Or care. I've had such good luck with the past 3, I feel like a bad one is due. There are definitely people who care and want to help, and if they're easier to find for you, Yay! If not, keep looking, even online. Kati Morton is a youtuber who is a licensed therapist who specializes in ED. Please check out her videos. They've helped me recognize when I'm getting bad, again, and help me to climb out. It's easier when someone is helping you climb out, tho, so if you have someone you trust who is willing to help you stay accountable to recovery, let them. Please.
My best friend who I trusted with my life told my mom that I wasn’t eating at school and was cutting. Now my life if completely messed up. I really hope your doing ok!
Metal health has been a struggle in my life since I first attempted suicide at age 12. I literally had a doctor tell me "you should just stop cutting yourself," and "you're too young to have mental illness." It was so invalidating and hurtful, and now I'm 16 years old and finally getting the care I need. Give things time, recovery isn't an event, it's a process.
Beth CK so wise for 16. Ultimately your struggle makes you a more compassionate person.... which makes you cool. I appreciate "recovery is a process not an event", good one.
Beth CK that's so relatable. I'm 12 and have had anxiety, depression and seasonal affective disorder all of my life and I heard that type of stuff all the time. I just try to remember that mental health doesn't discriminate and anyone can be a victim of it.
Beth CK this comment was comforting for me as I am 11 and I've attempted suicide many times. I felt like I wanted to die every day and no one understood. I'm glad someone understands my mental illness . It also annoys me when people say can't depression just go?? Like the heck it can't just go when you have depression you have depression. You can't help it
It sucks, I’m 13 and have attempted almost three times and every time I try to talk to anyone they avoid it, and compare my situation to others and call me selfish for being in that mental state. Nobody does anything until it’s too late, they don’t care until it is. Like your surrounded by people, but your so alone and nobody wants to deal with you. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to this stuff, people need to get their head around it.
Beth CK I feel as if the comments are a safe place. I'm 13 and in the past year, I've attempted suicide just about six times. All failing and hurting and damaging me all the while. My parents are to ignorant and stuck up to realise their "perfect" baby isn't so perfect. I barely trust anyone. Life seems pointless and like I should be somewhere else. I feel obligated to keep my bloodline going. Both my parents know that im bisexual, I mostly like females so I feel as if I cant keep my family going. Even with all of this, before the first attempt, I had done no self harm. Untill people noticed the scar on the back of my neck (failed suicide. Rope burn turned into a scar) and thats when I knew I needed help. Hurting myself feels so right. But it still hurts. I cant take life anymore and I know I have no purpose. I thank you for letting me ruin your day with my sad life. I'm truly sorry.
This is why it’s important to be honest about having anxiety and depression. So many people are quietly suffering because in the larger society those issues are brushed off and minimized. Sometimes my friends think I’m being dramatic when I say what really gives me anxiety and they make jokes about it but it’s literally the truth. I’ve be able to help people understand it more by being very honest and open though and I refuse to let anyone dismiss it because by me being open I want to make others feel more comfortable being open about it to.
For me, being told "are you doing it for attention or what?" hurt worse than actually going through depression. Like why would I, someone who hates attention, go that far for negative attention...
Pippi la Peach I’m the exact same, I’m not diagnosed but I’m very sure I have it, I have told a few people but people say “I don’t believe you” and it hurts.
Pippi la Peach yeah, no need to feel sorry for me though, but it’s very kind that you do so thank you. You worry about you’re own problems:) oh btw I’m subscribing!
Pippi la Peach no problem, great someone understands! I was diagnosed with anxiety and stuff and people don’t believe me on that either :o and thank you for thanking me (wow, I really am another person when I comment!)
I was sexually assaulted 4 years ago and I was blamed for it not the person who did it. I was depressed since then I self harmed a lot I struggled with an eating disorder.i also hung out with the wrong crowd of people during my middle school years and then my freshman and sophomore year of high school I felt like I needed to be someone different and I still hung out with the like cool people that were still bad though and I was pressured into a couple of bad things that I regret. I am bi and I don’t have any friends that I can trust in completely everything. But now I have gotten closer to god I know that he likes me for me and made me like this I now have defeated my eating disorder and I don’t self harm anymore I still have rough patches in my life. And I still don’t have any friends to rely on but I’m fine with it and i am now a better person now i only mildly struggle with anxiety. I have become my better self and I’m proud of it. ❤️ (sorry for the rant.)
Your a girl..... Like me I'm a girl..we get blamed for being touched.. "What were you wearing" ? "Did you drink that night"? "You asked for it" im sorry for you..
Ive been trying to tell my parents for so long that I think somethings up. After doing my research I have many symptoms of Anxiety, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder. My mom is just now starting to help me find ways to contol it and my doctor already reccomended I see a therapist. Im so happy to know that some people understand.
For me after my brother was diagnosed with ADHD, I noticed I shared a lot of the things he had and being that siblings were more likely to have it I told my parents and finally after a few months I was diagnosed
I have Bipolar (cyclomania specifically) disorder, anxiety is just part of that if you have it. I can see some symptoms of ADHD resembling the disorder too. In a high phase i get jittery, my thoughts buzz around so fast I end of walking around in circles because Im so restless. I cant stop moving. I also talk a lot and fast, and cant focus on one things for longer than ten seconds. In a low, I will cry for 5 hours straight, my body will get so anxious ill physically shake. Which then becomes painful because my muscles are so tense. And every problem on my brain is unbelievable impossible to deal with. I cant eat, or even speak sometimes. I say all this with the hope that if any of this sounds like you, you're not alone. It is a terrible issue but it gets better and you can manage it. Learn your cycle, when your feeling down tell someone you trust right away, that you are having a bad day. And most importantly do what you need for yourself. If you need to lay in bed and cry all day, do it because forcing yourself to pretend you are okay for others isn't going to make you okay. I hope your therapist visit goes well and you can begin to heal. :)
Nubpai I wasnt saying that it did, Im just saying thats how it is for me. Anxiety came first and then I started showing adhd symptoms, and then bipolar. Whatever the case, thats my life right now and it kinda sucks
Your Everyday Walrus Friend thats how it is for me! im usually a straight A student but its become harder and harder for me to achieve that. my focus is out of whack and i have to ask my teachers to constantly re explain even after they just did. Im 13 and ive just been doing research and looking on websites and reading books to see if thats what it is or if theres anything i can do. background noise does help me focus a bit, so i usually think of songs in my head if my teacher doesnt allow music (or even ask the teacher to play music that will keep you focused but wont disrupt the entire class or something)
I struggle with depression, I have recently gotten an appointment to therapy, and now they're assigning me to medicine. People thought that I was faking my illness and even my parents thought that I was doing this for attention. And now my parents realize that I need help, and so far...nothing is really working right now.
_Fuwa_ Skele just... be careful with the meds. It’s really not good for you and will cause you to have a lack of feelings. At least from my experience, don’t feel like it’s your only help, exercise has been proven to be the best help for depression.
I struggle with depression also. Some advise is to hang out with your friends or loved ones to get your mind off it. That's the reason I'm on TH-cam right now. Try to meditate. One thing I have done is I go inside a room with no noise and a candle in the middle of the room labeled "positive energy" then stay in that room and relax yourself and think about any thing your would like as long as its not sad thoughts and just think about that for about 15 minutes or more. When you stand up, don't start just eating pizza or ice cream or whatever. You can take a nap, or do yoga, or meditate. No eating junk food or watching T.V. I want you to relax and if you have time, repeat these steps if your parent ask "WHY? Why?" (like all parents) just say that you were really serious about depression and this is how you stop it. If you want therapy for free, my Grandma's a therapist and she can give you an appointment over TH-cam for free at any day at around 4:30. Don't take the medicine that much. Try to be vegan, (that's going to help with the depression and have you to stop taking the medication) if school is pressuring you, (or your failing classes like me)Repeat after me: I will ace my classes I WILL get straight A's. Once you see this comment, your probably still in depression, so what I want you to do is tell me whats bothering you and I WILL make you kill your depression. And remember this: Mind first, body second (damn, that was deep!) That means that the sooner you are done with depression, you body will follow and you will start to be a lot healthier and happier. Follow my directions and you will have success in your direction forever. I hope you see this comment and you will flip the switch inside you brain from sad to happy to extra happy! I hope you now have a wonderful day! :)
People in my grade joke about OCD. If something is slightly out of place people will say "OH NO!!! I HAVE TERRIBLE OCD!!" And stuff like that and it's really annoying
I have extreme anxiety and depression. People will say things like "I understand I get anxious before tests" or "I understand I get sad too". Really they don't get it.
My depression has been laughed at, and I'm tired now. I lay awke till 3 a.m., and cry only when I'm alone, because I'm sick of making my family miserable. I don't have many friends, and those I do have never dealt with this, or felt so deep in the darkness that you stop wanting to find the light.
dana wright social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.
I struggle with social anxiety in particular.. and the pressure that you put on yourself or what you think others are putting on you is unbearable sometimes. I would use things like making my friends laugh or do something good for them to make them smile, was my way of telling myself that I was good enough, that this was normal. I continued to do this everyday and even categorize the good days and bad days based on how much I made them laugh or smile... this on going cycle went on for years, and I’m getting better with dealing with it to this day but still have those oppressing thoughts. For anyone who suffers from social anxiety, anxiety in general, or just any type of mental illness, just keep fighting! People who don’t suffer don’t understand the fact that your brain is fighting you and pushing you down... just keep fighting cause the worst is behind you!!
I just got out of my therapy session for struggling with severe anxiety and depression and all I have to say is please understand that people have issues even if they smile when they speak to you or everything seems alright, you don't know what people are going through. When it comes to mental illnesses, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean it's not there.
Bushra Islam Thanks for posting this. I am one of the people who completely change their face to look fine, when in reality I'm breaking inside. Your comment was encouraging.
Vanessa Aguilar I know you didn't ask me, but I've been in therapy for about a month (for a depressive disorder and GAD). It has helped me a lot so far. It helps me to be able to tell someone about all my problems without worrying about if they'll judge me or tell someone else. A good therapist will not breach that trust. Also, if you're open to it, I'd consider taking medication along with therapy. A lot of people claim it doesn't help, but several of my friends have gotten a lot better because meds give them that extra boost and stability they needed. It really depends on the person.
Vanessa Aguilar I've been in therapy for 8 months now, and i have to say that in the beginning it was exhausting and it took such a big mental toll on me to have to open myself and express myself and actually acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that I was having. Even after all these months I'm still struggling with myself and have just gotten a breakthrough into the things that may have triggered certain breakdowns but i have had so much improvement because of these sessions. I'm so thankful for therapy and I'm really hopeful that it'll help you too😊
Isobel Christine I'm sure a lot of people here can agree and relate. I hope you continue to attract understanding and kind people. Most people stay ignorant because of fear. All the best. BTW I found a book called anxiety free its a 90 day program it has journals etc to track your triggers . All the best
Isobel Christine also after years of suffering from anxiety I decided to see it as a gift, I have compassion and understanding. I felt alone and isolated most of my life . Now im in my 40's there are more resources available:) People with anxiety usually have a lot of sensitivity and awareness. :)
Aww that’s so great!😭 I don’t think I have that but I struggle with a bunch of other stuff so I know how important it is that be shown that your not alone💜
"when people say the it's your fault, you're doing it to yourself, you're not." I have bulimia nervosa and nobody knows about it and I'm kind of dying inside myself.
Don't try to solve their problem for them. If they have Depression, don't tell them it's getting old or that they should just get some fresh air or that it'll pass as if it never happened. Motivate them, tell them they really do mean something to you, love them. If they have Anxiety, don't push them, don't tell them to man up or that they're overreacting.Sit with them, wait for them to calm down at their own pace and reassure them. If they have Anorexia, don't tell them to just eat some food. Help them get help from experts, tell them they're beautiful just the way they are and that they don't need to change. Be there by their side. Encourage them. Change you're perspective. Have some empathy and look at it from their stand point. Don't try to solve their problem for them.
you're a one of a kind person....I started crying because of this,I am really small and my friends think I have anorexia,witch I think I don't,maybe I eat a little bit less then everyone but I eat how much I can.My friends ALWAYS say eat more your small,does your mom feed you...And its so heart breaking to me...I cryied a couple of times because of that,and noone is there for me to help....
Your friends are just worried about you. Don't get me wrong, their approach in telling you is all wrong but don't misjudge their intentions. As long as you are taking care of yourself mentally and physically what they say won't matter. You are beautiful and you don't need to change.
Awww, I would so much like to hug Devin (and other lovely ladies too!). I also had a depression and an eating disorder ad the result. Weighted 44 kg and couldn't eat a single thing, I just had zero appetite. I had to literally make a conscious effort not to die, because my body was telling me it doesn't want to live. And no, not many people understand, especially in certain societies. I then realised I have had a depression developing for a while, but my concerns were dismissed because "this is just a phase", "it's normal for a teenager", "just don't be sad, what's your problem", "you're a poser" etc. No, it doesn't work this way. If you are feeling bad, don't be ashamed and seek for help until you find it! You deserve a better life!
Книжная Booka Hello, I have anorexia as well, I understand how hard it is, and I understand where you're coming from. People say we do it on purpose, we do it because of self shame. I hope you get better- I send all my look and prayers to you! X
Thank you so much for your support! I am now long recovered from depression and eating disorder, however the memories of that experience will always remain. I wish you to get better too, you have all our support! It is a hard work, but recovery and harmony are closer than disorders want us to think!
Книжная Booka omg this is so relatable! I️ have general anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, ocd, depression, an eating disorder, and insomnia. People (especially my mom) tell me that it’s just hormones and all teenagers have it. It’s rly rly annoying
I overheard a conversation once. A classmate was talking to another about a person who had panic attacks. She said: “ She told me she couldn’t go because she was having a panic attack and then I told her that she can move her legs so she is just overreacting and want attention.” In that moment my eyes were in tears. The fact that shocked me was that she was proud of herself like her answer to that person was the best and everybody should take her example. As a person who suffers from social anxiety i was scared to speak up. I have regularly panic attacks and I know how hard it is to deal with them...i don’t want to imagine what that person felt when she heard that she “want attention “ and is “overreacting”. I really wish a had the courage to say something...
Mary Y I've heard these conversations in hospitals from nurses and doctors. Sometimes they aren't even qualified to any kind of legal standard. Ironically, just like in school, you're encouraged to find logical ways of dealing with these situations. Sadly, the structure can't always fix itself so you have to tell it about the structure. This can mean more abuse, or a full reversal.
Mary Y mate as a fellow social anxiety disorder sufferer I wouldn’t have sat by and hear that exchange. I may have trouble in more places then others that’s just how it works with “SAD” but I can certainly speak my mind when needed.
Christie Valda Why would you say that? Even if she was lying it'd not your place to state that. What if she does have all those, what if she's getting worse? I know many people who aren't even 13 that have anorexia, depression, and etc. So I believe her, no one should care if your right.
I'm 14 and I live in Africa, where most mental health issues are said to be caused by black magic or demons and It really feels Like there is no hope for me and I feel really lost. I attempted Suicide a few months ago, my mom found me In my room and she bean splashing me with holy water, I didn't get medical help, or help from a therapist, not even an are you okay from my family, I was simply Just blown off. And It really hurts when you feel alone and like no one understands, Its hopeless. And there's nowhere I can get help here. I'm basically stuck. But this video made me feel like I wasn't so alone Thank you.
I am sorry you experienced all of this. One good thing is that you have access to the internet... Try to find scholarly articles and medical societies/support groups to guide you. You are stronger than you know and if you stay alive you can help not only yourself, but others like you who struggle. We need people like you to start educating the society at large. Bless you on this difficult and long journey.
Fairly Antisøcial hey I’m Nigerian and same thing happened to me and even my parents didn’t believe me, they told me it was the work of the devil so I just stopped telling them about it. Attempted suicide multiple but all failed. when I got to the US I was quickly checked into an asylum after my first college year when I spoke to my advisors at school and they called the police and in two days I was taken from school to emergency unit to mental asylum . I got diagnosed with Anxiety disorder PTSD depression and OCD and being in college at 15/16 was no help either. I had a gun to finish the job but i told people who will understand just days before I was to commit the act and they got me the help I needed. Just know that you’re definitely not alone and i would definitely be able to talk with you if you want to.😘 you’ll be fine I promise you.
I'm bipolar. I've been diagnosed since I was 15, and I'm almost 20 now. Right before I was diagnosed, family and people didn't believe me before the police arrested me for ''suicidal behavior'', because I was about to jump off a bridge. People associated bipolar with ''being really ecstatic and then depressed for a few days'', but I would literally scream and cry whenever I was manic. Although I've passed that ''people don't believe me'', I'm still glad.
Emina Bekric this might sound insensitive or rude, but i mean it to no offense... I am thinking about writing about a person with bipolar.....do you think i should? And if you do, do you have any tips?
Nore Puts that's not rude or insensitive, don't worry. You're just asking for her opinion since they are bipolar. And you want to make sure that it would be okay, and asking for their opinion on it
I remember in school I was depressed and suicidal. I couldn't sleep at night and I tried to kill myself many times. I wrote a suicide note that my Mom found while I was at school and when I came home she said I was overreacting and I was grounded. I remember at school this one girl was dumped and she kept saying 'This is what people with depression must feel like'' and I got so mad I yelled at her and got punished. My Mom's boyfriend said I wasn't a real man for expressing my emotions. He was on a call one day and said how he was 'Really Depressed'' and I just laughed and cried. Just goes to show that you shouldn't compare yourself to people with a real mental illness.
People with mental illnesses rarely express them healthfully. My dad was massively depressed and suicidal, but he waited until he was nearly 50 before going to therapy, going to a psychiatrist. He also invalidated me when I tried coming to him with my mental illness issues, so I get how awful it can feel, but please refrain from saying that someone cannot be mentally unwell because they've told you the same. Your mom's BF may well be depressed, like my dad, and handling it shittily. If you have access to apps, I recommend guided meditations and _Wysa,_ which is like texting a therapist. Even tho I know it's a bot, it's very well-programmed, and it has helped me through anxiety attacks and plain ol' bad days. Your mom also handled things awfully. That was her chance to put you in therapy, and she failed you. A lot of parents seem to fail in that regard, looking at this comments section. Find a guidance counselor, or if you're not in k-12 anymore, there might be low-cost therapists near you, if apps won't do it. Remember, comparing "yourself to people with a real mental illness" isn't very helpful. Everyone experiences it differently. My dad was angry and abusive with his depression, and I was withdrawn, then rebellious, then withdrawn again, hiding in my homework mountain and workaholism. Mom is withdrawn and cries. Everyone is different, and while they were unacceptable in dealing with your depression, you *do not* need to follow their example. Start with being patient with yourself. That's what's helped me. Maybe write in a journal. If your mom (or anyone else whom you should be able to trust) violates your privacy, write in an online journal that's password-protected. Putting your feelings into written word is cathartic and can help you chronicle patterns.
Just because you like a clean room doesn't mean you're OCD. Being OCD could be needing to wash your hands every 10 minutes to the point where you scrub off your skin on a daily basis...
TheFluffFactor Exactly. It runs in my family and we all have different types. I personally get horrible intrusive thoughts and I have to do things or I get anxiety attacks.
Yeah, I used to take the term OCD with a grain of salt because people used it so loosely. Then I made a friend who had been diagnosed with OCD and my entire view on the illness changed. One example of its manifestation within him is he must have bottles being drunken from placed on their side because if not he believes everyone around him will start choking. OCD is not a need to keep things tidy it is a legitament issue that should be recognised.
I have social anxiety and generalised anxiety. My mum gave me a psychologist and a psychiatrist, I was put on meds but I just couldn’t bring myself to go to school. I’d have panic attacks every morning when we reached school and my mother would just scream at me saying that I wasn’t trying enough and that I’m just giving up but she doesn’t understand that when I’m there I can’t stand how my anxiety makes me feel, it’s like being trapped in a bubble and all the fresh air is going away, suffocating me.
I have exactly the same problem and I understand what you feel. People always say that I am not trying hard and sometimes they think I am just being spoiled and lazy. And that makes me feel that I am really the person what they say, it makes me hate myself. I don't know how you handle this situation but if you want to talk please contact
MschrRvn same here .. I was bullied all the way to basically my eleventh grade year . Which is this year.. I tried suicide twice .. I started cutting and hated my life so much from the pressure of my family falling apart ,and I messed up on something in class and got laughed up feeling the pressure of eyes on you and getting laughed at it hurts .. And then no one knows what's going in and you feel .. Like an outcast .. A failure
Erica Roberts they fell like you can't breathe , your heart rate is pulsing and you feel singled out like all eyes are on you and that breathe of air is trapped
Raven gallows ^^ they can differ slightly depending on the cause as well, so instead of the feeling of eyes, it can be crushing fear (paranoia), the feeling of having too many expectations/ wanting to run away, etc
I have social anxiety and my parents don't believe me. They think I'm overreacting. I'm just "shy" or "introverted". It's emotionally draining when my mom laughs if I bring it up. I crinkle into this shrivelled raisin and die a little inside. My dad yells at me and makes me cry in public when I can't order my own food. My mom pushes me to talk to her about my problems and I just can't do it. Because I know they wouldn't care, or let alone believe me
And we can't even go to therapy because we think we'll be judged anyway and feel stupid about what we're feeling. I've had so many problems at school because of it. I would either freeze on the spot and have a panic attack or run without thinking twice. It controls me whether I want it or not and it's so frustrating and scary. I blame myself pretty often for not being able to act and be like the other people.
For me my parents always said what I was feeling was normal but I didn't feel normal. I'd get so nervous about something sometimes a month in advance and I'd make myself sick over it both physically and mentally. And going out in public places is difficult when I'm not with someone I know. For me talking to a therapist really helped. It was constantly bad and I didn't want to get out of bed and I was constantly "sleeping" even though I woke up every 30 minutes to an hour. Therapy helped way more than drugs because they understand it's not your fault and you aren't too young to be this stressed or you life isn't too perfect to be feeling this way. They don't judge because they actually know instead of someone who doesn't understand at all. I've had anxiety for most of my life but until I was almost 17 I was not actually diagnosed because regular doctors didn't understand and told me I was fine or too young.
I struggled with eating disorder, anxiety, depression and PTSD for most of my life and wasn’t even aware or didn’t start getting treatment until the past two years, partially due to my family’s culture and the stigma surrounding mental health that it took me a long time to get the help I needed. Symptoms have decreased a lot and in a better place than I was before, but still have a lot to recover from but I’m committed. Thanks for making this video, videos like this are helpful
Nobody believes me when I say I have depression or anxiety, because I'm so happy most of the time. I only cover it up because I hate having to answer the questions people ask, and they don't know what depression and anxiety feel like.
I suffer from OCD, Dermatillomania, Depression and social anxiety. I broke down when I heard the words " I believe you" at the end. I wish I could hear that from someone in my life... just one person.
I believe you, I have OCD and social anxiety, and I feel like I have some sort of depression but I don’t wan’t to self diagnose myself with depression. It’s exhausting to have to live with and I know how you feel.♥️
I have bad anxiety as a 13 year old. I told my mom about my breakdowns at school about simple things like science labs. She told me that "you don't need pills just because You think you need to control everything". Slowly, but surely, I am learning to control my panic attacks. Anxiety is a very real disorder. I am sleep deprived always. Don't ever tell people it's not real.
Audrey Reiter the fact that you mentioned having breakdowns over a science lab is so real to me. I’m 13 right now, and I’ll freak out over simple everyday things (even like a choice of 2 restaurants or something) and even though it’s something that should come so easily it just seems to overwhelm you.
I have had people say the same thing to me. I've had anxiety since I was seven, I'm thirteen now, I don't know if that's what caused it though. But when I try to explain it people don't understand or they do the thing where they say, "Oh, I know what you mean, but I think I have that too because.." and it's made me want to scream that they don't understand how hard it is. Some people have things so easy for them that it almost hurts to see it. But because if the experiences I've had I try to be more insightful and accepting. It hurts to see people go through things like that and not be able to get help or reach out, because I know how it feels.
I’ve been struggling with mental illness since I was 13. 10 years of my life has been devoted to this struggle. Up until I was a senior in college (2 years ago) my parents did not believe me. I had been initially diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety. But things got so much worse in my second year of college. As a senior I was taking antidepressants, and they made everything worse. I ended up in the hospital twice due to breakdowns and suicidal ideations within 8 months. The second time I was in the hospital I was pushed into an outpatient program and finally had a real diagnosis. I’ve been living with a bipolar disorder diagnosis for 2 and a half years now. And I’m finally exactly where I’ve always wanted to be. Reaching out and getting help can really change your life. And don’t ever brush friends, or family off when they’re trying to help. They might not understand, but they’re doing the best they can.
Wow. I'm the complete opposite. I'm so afraid of people in everyday life that I welcome going to sleep and just being away from them and meeting fictional characters in my dreams.
One of the weirdest thing though, is not believing yourself. I knew in my heart that throwing up after most meals is bulimia, that writing down each calorie you take in is not healthy, and that I was technically underweight, but I didn't believe myself because I would think "I'm not skinny enough to have an eating disorder." Looking back at my recovery now, I think its so crazy how a mental disorder can distort your perception of yourself so much.
@@CocaineDragonyeah, i knew to an extent that my behavior added up with my grounded idea of eating disorders, but having a mental disorder clouds your reason
aem what does? Throwing up after every meal? Knowing your starving your body to death? Sorry but all people like you should be committed at the first warning signs.
Nobody believes me when i say I have anxiety and I never say I have depression cause I know people would treat me completely different EDIT The thing is that if you saw me I dont look like I have anything wrong with my mental state but dont judge a book by its cover
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I am so sorry you have to deal with people not believing you. I also have anxiety/panic disorder and depression. It's so hard to talk to people who don't understand. I am here if you ever need to talk.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl i know how you feel, i have depression and i try to put on a shield and hide it because i don't want others to know and judge. And for the longest time i would be scared to tell my parents because i thought they would be mad
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl and if i talked to my dad he would just tell me to bottle it up. And ive had thoughts of hurting myself but i dont want to tell my family because i dont want to be treated differently, i just want to be "normal"
I remember last year when I ate 300 calories or less a day and I can confirm that the difference in my mental state was staggering- I couldn’t concentrate on anything and I felt numb. It was horrific yet my life seemed to be running smoother than ever before, the starvation almost masked the depression and anxiety I have battled for so long. I felt so weak and frail- my parents would continually make comments on my eating habits and how boney my shoulders were, as Christmas approached I began to stop logging my calories as much but I gained weight quickly, it truly is terrible how this mentality can take such a toll on your body and mind, and although I’m certainly far from recovered I hope you can reach out and gain the help you need
I have extreme anxiety, it’s the worst. When I was 9 years old, every single day going to school, I would have an anxiety attack. People would never believe me. I was shaking and breathing heavily. Sometimes the teachers had to drag me in to school because I just refused to go in. People usually described me as bubbly and humorous, but during school I just had my head on my desk. I never knew what to do in lessons because I wasn’t listening. It was as if I completely blacked out. By the time I got home, I sat down, crying. I still have anxiety attacks and they make me feel as if I want to crawl up in the corner of the room in a ball and die. So one day, my mum sat me down and said to me “why are you crying everyday when you go to school?” I said back to her that I was nervous, she asked why, and I said “I don’t know” What my anxiety did to me made me stronger as a person. I went on a school trip, and I wanted to go on a ride, and I did. I said to myself “you can do this” and I did. The fear of doing things and getting anxiety attacks, was what was giving me anxiety. If you have anxiety, all I can say is to believe in yourself, and just not be scared at all. I am very thankful for my family, friends, and teachers who pulled me through this horrible time. Still do this day, I do have anxiety and still have anxiety attacks, but they aren’t half as bad, and I know what to do about them. Stay strong everyone. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I am a boy andI had anerexia nervosa for over a year but I had to come to my senses and look at what I was doing to my self and realize that I don't need to be skinny so I started to get over my insecurities and love myself
Dream _er I had anorexia too and I'm still recovering but it's always nice to see someone made it to that other side and I'm glad you found your way to where you are now ☺️
토마토 I don’t know how old you are but just imagine that you will look back on days like this and realize how pointless it was to do things like have insecurities and care about what others think
I didn't know I had an eating disorder until a month ago. I'm fat ya know? I weigh over 200 lbs. I cut out food for the past two years I ate 800 calories or less a day. I kept gaining weight so I would eat less. 5 months ago. My hair started falling out. I went to the doctor said it was my thyroid. It was vitamins. Another doctor said I must be pulling my hair out myself and lying. When my coworker at my new job noticed me avoiding the food she would bring in she asked me why. I lied and said I was allergic. About three weeks of that she shut off my computer and pulled me into the conference room. She was a personal trainer. She saw the signs. She asked me what I ate during the day and when I told her I apologized. I thought it was too much. Its disgusting to admit that you eat anything when you're fat. Let alone 800 calories worth. She told my boss. My boss asked me to go to the campus nutritionist. I started keeping a food diary. She checked it. A week in I was diagnosed with Anorexia. But I'm fat so I didn't think it was a bad thing. 25 days ago I collapsed. I was having a really bad body image day. I hadn't eaten. I was at the gym. Going hard. Things got blurry I ignired it. I chugged my water. I got dizzy. I pushed through. I thought I was only dizzy because I was fat and wasnt breathing right. I blacked out. I denied an ambulance ride because I knew I couldn't afford it. I sat in the locker room for a few moment's before driving myself home. I called my coworker. She and I have made a food plan. I get sick when I eat now. Half a cup of yogurt feels like 20 tons in my stomach. But after 23 days. My hair is falling out less in clumps. More in strands. I'm up to almost 1500 calories a day. Most of that is peanut butter. Its a start. But all of this could have been handled earlier if doctors had noticed the signs of my ED as an ED and not as anything else.
I'm sorry you went through that and I'm glad you're getting help! I was developing an ED, but my sister started making meals for me and I don't like to waste food so I ate it all
I'm so proud of you. I'm going through a similar situation and I don't know you but it takes a lot or strength and power to talk about this and be open. I'm glad you're doing better 💖
Got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Was told by my mother that I was just looking for attention and being a drama queen. Several years of therapy and a move later, I no longer talk to my mom and I’m getting the help I actually need.
I have social anxiety and I've heard some gems such as: "Chill with your social anxiety!" "If you didn't want to come, you could have just said so!" And, from a stranger: "You know that's not real, right? Big deal, you don't like talking to people!"
I hate those types of people, they're always the ones who act like they know whether you have a certain mental illness or not and treat it like it's nothing.
I also have social anxiety but I am to scared to tell my family that I want to see a therapist or psychiatrist to identify my illness because I know they will think I am overreacting or just being silly even though I KNOW in MY HEART that I have social anxiety because of my attacks.
I've been trying to get help for 19 years. They keep telling me its just anxiety but I KNOW its more. And my depression is so bad, I can barely function.
Arycath that is not all I have, that's what I'm saying. I truly believe I have something called Pure O. Its a form of OCD. It has been most of my life in torment and now, 2 out of my 4 kids are showing signs of OCD and getting help but my own doctors and therapists won't listen to ME.
Pienepon I feel like crying seeing this. I often wonder about the state of the world but to see kind strangers as yourself, makes me have more faith. Thank you and hugs right back!
having struggled with anorexia that quite literally put me on my death bed, this was so touching and whoever the blonde girl is, thank you. you are an inspiration. & you are beautiful.
I've struggled with mental health problems pretty much my entire life. Panic attacks, eating disorders, severe mood swings, dysphoria... They put me on Prozac when i was 13. It didn't help. When I was about 16, i started to suspect i might be bipolar. My symptoms matched a lot better with Bipolar Disorder than they did with Major Depressive Disorder, my diagnosis at the time. When i brought it up with my psychiatrist, she completely blew me off. She made me feel stupid for even thinking it. I figured, she's the professional, if she says i don't have it, then i don't have it. I continued with the antidepressants. I continued feeling agitated and out of control. I continued feeling completely insane. Then when i was 21, I was diagnosed with type 2 bipolar disorder. I'm on a mood stabilizer now, which helps a lot. I wish my doctor had listened to me back in high school. I still struggle sometimes, but now I'm on the right treatment plan. Thank you for making this video.
As a woman who has PMDD, I have to say that this is totally accurate. Before medication, I spent just a bit over two weeks every month hating life, and shifting between violent rages, to hysterical sobbing, to complete exhaustion and then over again. It's not as simple as mood swings, it is a layered and frankly scary cycle.
I also have pmdd and it's awful. I feel like there are two totally different versions of myself and when I'm in the "bad stage" I just spend all my time wishing I could feel like me again. The dread of it coming back after you feel better is also so hard to live with.
I agree. Forget trying to have any type of relationship either. I would hit such a low it was scary. I love when she said do not listen to your mind when it tells you you are a loser. You are not a loser!
I have Insomnia & Depression. I have lived with this for 2 years, And I just got therapy. I was scared about telling people about my Depression. I get better each session and I just started getting better. But the stress and social anxiety sticks with me, Causing me Insomnia. For anyone going through this, *I AM HERE FOR YOU*
This will so many, young and not so young, women. I lost most of my family and my friends when they decided all I wanted was attention. I could work if I wanted to. Or the one I loved the most "It's all in your head". A mantra of mine and ill share with you " If you ever find yourself down again, there is always an upside".
The “it’s all in your head” drives me insane. I also have a gi disease but since only one study can show it most doctors don’t believe it, especially if you don’t follow the symptoms to a T.
Yes I had a similar experience, I don’t have much in life due to this illness, such as any outside experience, relationships etc it even stops me eating to a great extent. But I won’t let it beat me.
I suffer from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome and I was miss diagnosed with acid reflex for the first 6 years of my life because the doctors said I was faking it but no one understands how hard it is to live with this disorder because at one moment you could be fine and the next you'll be screaming in pain because you feel like knifes are stabbing at your stomach. I am 13 years old and I have lived with this disorder for 13 years and I've almost wanted to end my life until I got a new doctor in 2013 and he has been amazing sense then and he's helped me cope with stress and how to distract myself from this. I am glad I am still alive and that I have good friends that love me and I'm glad that I have two friends that have disorders and know exactly what I'm going threw, my friend Akaysha suffers with depression and she came to school the other day with a jacket on and I asked " why are you wearing a jacket?" And she pulled me into the bathroom and pulled up one of her sleeves and there were cut marks on her arm, she thought I was gonna be mad at her but I just gave her a hug and told her that I wasn't mad at her. My other friend Brook suffers with anxiety and when she is upset she always comes to me for help because she knows that I can help her get threw it.
Rhiannon Griego weird, I'm 13 and was also diagnosed with acid reflux, can't even imagine what that whole situation must've been like though. Stay strong x
My mom doesn’t believe I have a problem either. When she found out I had been self harming, she brushed it off and told me that I was attention seeking. She said I had absolutely no reason to be feeling like this, making it seem like it was wrong. A while later she said I’d speak with someone, but I never end up actually seeing anyone. My friends don’t take it very seriously either, they usually just keep quiet. I have had many suicidal thoughts but I haven’t ever attempted.
last year, i broke down at school & i had to go to the counselors. it was something my parents said, & my mom still tells me those things. i’ve told the counselor how i felt & all these things that i hate myself & that i want to die & it was a big deal for like 3 days but my parents never took it seriously bc they don’t get it. the counselor recommended therapy & my dad said i didn’t need it bc i have all the happiness in the world & all my friends think that i’m just crazy & weird for feeling this way but really i’m just extremely unhappy & i hate myself so much & i want to die & this has been going on for 4 damn years & i’ve been trying to get help but i don’t know how bc no one will help me & now every time i talk about this i don’t feel sad anymore i just feel empty bc i’m so used to the feeling & oh my god
stephanie I'm sorry you go through that. I'm lucky enough to have a dad that understands my mental health issues. If you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me. My wattpad is AmePsychoFOB if you ever want to talk.
I havent gone through as much as you but i understand , keep trying, and if it dosent work pop down into the comment sections of videos like these and you have found a community of people who understand .
I feel you. I honestly don't know if I have depression and anxiety. I sometimes feel crappy and want to die. Go online and do these tests that say whether or not you have depression. Your parents are abusive. Use online therapy. I am trying to help you out. Ps I am not being rude to you at all.
Therapy. Tell your counselor and friends that you need help finding a therapist. If someone says "it's all in your head," you can say, "Yeah, imagine if all throughout your head, with every thought, you just wanted to hurt yourself. Isn't the brain, aside from the heart and lungs, the most important organ to have working properly?" It's real, and to quote Amy Poehler, "you will someday feel at least 51% okay" if you are able to get professional help and be kind to yourself. You are loved and valuable, even though it doesn't feel that way.
You will be ok and depression is difficult to get through but you will always be you, and there is another side eventually. You are NOT crazy or weird for being ill, and those who believe it are 100% mistaken. If you can find more positive and understanding people to surround yourself with then please do, if not just know that I understand depression and I had similar issues to you and I know how horrible and overwhelming it is, and I know you wish it never developed. Lots of love xxx
When thinking about mental illness (or any illness really) we have to remember that the brain and body are not disconnected. Mental illnesses have many physical components (and vice versa for physical illnesses) because the brain and spinal chord are what control the rest of body, like how depression can cause fatigue or anxiety can cause increased heart rate. The brain and everything that happens within it is still a physical, and real, and no less important than the rest of your body.
In my bio class we did a lab involving heart rate. My rhr was 125 but then after the first part of the lab it went down to 92. I was labeled an anomaly but running and exercise are coping mechanisms for me and calm me down before my heart rate goes into exercise mode.
I am an 11 year old with a lot of mental health issues and since most of my family understand , i cant realate but i hope that people realise that mental heath is no joke , it is a very serious matter and we need to take it seriously.
And there are always people who say, "it's just hormones, it'll go away." They're dismissing the fact that, even if it *is* -just- a hormonal imbalance, it's still affecting you, it can still ruin your life and development, it's still something that requires help. I started to have ED/SH habits and major depression and (probably) social anxiety at age 10, when puberty hit me like a hurricane. I want to cry for my younger self, because if I had gotten into therapy THEN AND THERE (and found a good match--not everyone is going to be good for you), I may not have had to put up with an abusive home, I may not have taken the bullying as hard as I did, and I may have stopped my destructive behaviors before they came back with a vengeance at ages 17 and 19 and 23. Things were almost okay at 13 and 14, but I was living with my mom, who cared and listened and didn't judge. She even had some helpful tips, like breathing exercises. I'm 24 and a half, now, and I can tell you that *it can get better,* it will probably be hard, and you will be fighting yourself for a long time. The best weapons are patience, kindness, and consistency. Mental illness is like an abuser, one who lives inside your head and never leaves, even if they may shut up for awhile. I understand, and I believe you. Therapy, and for awhile, medication, were amazing for me, and I think they could work for you, too. If you have access to apps, _Wysa_ is a free app that can be like therapy. It has resources, and it helps you improve your self-talk. I also recommend exercising (moderately) and drinking enough water. Meditation has been amazing, too, and there are many free guided meditation resources, even here on youtube. Also, I recommend checking out Kati Morton's youtube channel--she has loads of videos on nearly every disorder under the sun, usually topical, tho with ED/SH, she specializes. TL;DR You are not alone. There are resources and people who *want* to help you, have even gone through what you're experiencing.
I have anxiety,depression and anger issues. People don’t believe me. I told someone then they talked behind my back and said “If someone really had depression they wouldn’t go telling everyone.” Well I hope they realize that I didn’t go to the hospital for a week and one day for nothing. Edit: Also I’ve gotta add that the fact that my mom has arthritis, a port going into her heart, OCD, anxiety, and has had over 5 surgeries. My Older sister has ulcerative colitis, OCD and anxiety, and my second oldest sister has Crohn’s disease and depression. That puts my brother and I at a very high risk for those diseases as well. My brother has ADHD and anger issues. My dad has a hernia that he can’t pay to get fixed at the moment because we are already paying so much for medication, doctors appointments, and surgeries. I try to appreciate what I’ve got in life but it’s hard when my parents barely have any money because of all the things we pay for, and because of how unfortunate my families health is.
Nikkiyya Cooper - Evans you have become best friends with people whose names aren’t even known to you? How even? Besides, everyone has issues and maybe this persons issue is lying to people on TH-cam comments who are suckers, like you.
And now, if you are done reasoning with an idiotic genius who is going through their awkward phase( hence my extremely flawed logic) then have at it, after all, I’m only an emotionally detached 13 year old in the midst of my parents’ raging divorce, but hey, if that’s not what makes psychotic sociopaths, then what does?
Time to throw my story Into the ring. So for years I tried to tell people, friends, family and professionals alike, that there was something wrong with me because I was slowly losing the ability to handle life. I hated everything, I found no joy in things I used to. And most importantly I hated myself. No one tried to actually help me until I attempted to commit suicide this past summer. Now suddenly some people care. I was so pissed off when my mom and aunt told me that I should have told them how much pain it was in. I am getting a bit of help now but there are people who still don't believe me like my dad. I tried to explain to him that I'm not ready to go back to work yet but he just tells me that I am physically able to work so I should be fine.
Found myself in a similar situation although I didn't fall so far. I'm lucky that my family are very supportive. I'm so thankful you survived, and I know you'll get stronger 💚 for me, focusing on myself is what's made my journey easier. I don't tell friends or family about the little things I do to make things better unless it comes up. And I don't take their opinions to heart. Médiation saved me. People snigger when I say that, but it doesn't change the fact I was having daily panic attacks and that I'm not anymore. Youre not alone, and your journey is yours alone. You can do this, and you will 👊👊👊
I have dissociative identity disorder due to several traumatic experiences I couldn't cope with. there have been so many people who think I'm delusional, including my mother. my first therapist wanted to integrate my alters and I didn't want that because they are like my family, they protect me, they're always there. now I'm 18, functioning normally with my alters still here, we set time aside for them, and I'm proud to prove the people in the mental health profession that think integration is the only cure.
sinhalite i agree with not intagrating the alters cause they are definitely family, with my condition it is similar to Dissociative except if the situation is so dire it requires qualities from all 5 alters they will become a collective where they are all "awake" at the same time. But rarely there has been a situation that extreme. I'm just gonna finish up with: Keep on going!
I’ve been having an extremely tough night and this is exactly what I needed. Thank you to everyone who shared their story. I’m struggling with depression, endometriosis, anxiety and panic disorder at the moment and seeing people open up about their mental illnesses and acknowledging how real it actually is makes me feel like I can get through this. I am in tears right now because seeing videos like these is incredible. I hope anyone struggling in any way shape or form with mental illness knows that there are people who are here for you and believe you and will fight for you. Much love ❤️
"try to reach out" well unless ur a teen with anxiety and depression but gets dismissed as some hormones and stress... then i guess ur on ur own for now
many people do dismiss teens, but there is still help out there. Even if it's joining an online support group, talking to a school counselor, talking to a teacher, talking to a family member or friend. It can be really hard, but things will change, and that change can come quicker if you're able to find help
@@yaboi8383 They are actually not rare at all. Teenage is one of the times when mental illness is most often developed for people. I don't remember the actual percentages but they are pretty high. Like 15% or something will get a mental illness.
I remember telling 2 mental health professionals that I saw regularly and my mom that I thought I was autistic and none of them believed me. I was incredibly discouraged. A year later I finally decided it was time to try finding someone who would actually listen to me. I found someone who specializes in adult autism online, made an appointment, and got diagnosed 3 months ago. Never stop fighting for yourself! You deserve to be heard.
Huge thanks to these girls for talking about their illnesses. I know for many people it is the hardest thing to come out with it. Even harder is accepting it. But it is the first huge step in the right direction.
I struggle with depression anxiety and ADHD and everyday i feel like I'm crazy a lot of shame and a lot of fatigue. Im always paranoid and self diagnosing searching things on the internet witch didn't help at all and um my boyfriend told me that i had these problems for attention and I'm stupid and that i was crazy and um i wanted to be like this to get friends. So all because of my problems i have no friends people at stores look at me like I'm crazy or they are scared of me. Im never social people know me for being sad all the time and i can never explain how i feel. I can never control my anger my family has mental illnesses but i feel like they don't understand because they say the things normal people would say like Oh its ok it'll get better. i just feel horrible everyday and for some reason the only place i feel happy is in the hospital because everyone is so nice and i can talk about my problems normally there and no body judges. if you people think I'm doing it for attention on here no I'm not i just want to get it all out on here.
Hey hun, I honestly think you should talk to a school nurse (if you’re in school) I’m from the UK but the school nurses here tend to also help with mental health along side with anything physical. She/he can then hopefully refer you to someone who can help you. If not, I recommend a councillor who you can talk about your problems to (who can also refer you to any other people who can help if necessary). Trust me, it’s nice to be able to get a lot of crap off your chest and to be given some advice about what to do with any problems as well as having someone to support you. You might feel conscious about the councillor judging you or the school nurse, but just let it all out because it’s honestly worth it in the end and their job is to help you at the end of the day by not judging you. I know that you probably feel fed up, down and depressed but it’s going to be OK. If you find the right people you can get help and learn how to cope which will then eventually lead you to feel better. You’re not seeking for attention you’re really just crying out for help. Hang in there- it gets better over time ❣️
Ari Love you know what can help? Try having a diary!! That helped me alot causr I would always write down what I feel and that feeling of explosion actually helped me a lot...Also try reading a book about self improvment, that can alter the way you see things. You will eventually start having happy thoughts about yourself. And last, if your friends think you qre fake and you are doing this for attention just stop being their friend/lover. Stay away from toxic people or people that judge you and nake you feel bad. Really just stay away. Try finding more positive people to spend your time!! That is what I did and it worked and I hope I can help you that way. Either way, try to stay positive and calm baby girl. Be grateful for what you have and appreciate your beautiful and unique self!!
Ari Love I also have adhd and depression and really bad anxiety and I get annoyed and angry easily and pills helps a lot and I’m 14 and 5’4 and 85 pounds
all of you are so brave to share your stories like this. I would not even begin to say anything about what was happening to me. I applaud you and I admire you guy's persistence in your journeys'. you all are an inspiration.
This just helped me realize that I'm not alone with my PMDD disorder. It has caused me to loose so many good people and now i know I'm not alone. 🗣️❤🙏 THANK YOU!
I have anxiety and one thing that drives my mind crazy is when people say its all in your head. No it is not in my head, i cant control it its something that just shows up when it wants to.
People don't believe me when i tell them that i have depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and i'm also struggling with eating disorders. Sometimes when i have a meltdown in school i cry, and my so called "friends" laugh, thinking that i'm faking it for attention. They often say "It's not a big deal don't be such a crybaby" "Why do you want to get attention by doing that?". I've been struggling with it since i was 7, and recently it has become much much worse. You probably don't care about it but thanks if you read it all.
ʟᴏᴏᴋ,ɪ'ᴍ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴅ sʜᴇᴇᴘ ɪɴ ᴄʜɪɴᴀ I feel you. Kids always say that mental illness isn't a thing, but then what do I have? I have depression and anxiety, and at first, kids thought that I was doing it for attention. Karma is my very best friend.
(I'm not good at interacting with anyone already and I am about to have my friday night breakdown so please appreciate this following mess I'll try to gather) Those people are not real friends I'd rather call them 'classmates with whom you can have conversations on a regular basis'. I don't know your situation so I strongly advise to 'get a real friend' you know the kind of who have grown out of their teen-psychopathy, has sympathy and is mature enough to discuss deeper stuff. And I don't know if you've tried or not but writing to facebook pages or such (I know, cliché) And another TRUE cliché is that you are beautiful, inside-out, you are enough and just an amazing human being and I hope that you will get better because you deserve it. (Also I'm not fluent in english so my apology if I messed up something)
Are you from China?( it’s okay I’m not racist or anything it’s just your name...hahahah) Because if you are, I want to tell you that I know how hard it is for a person IN CHINA to let somebody believe that they have a serious mental illness
I think a really difficult part about recovering from anorexia is that a lot of us are reluctant to seek recovery because of the crippling fear of gaining weight. I used to be eighty pounds. I’ve gained forty. I’m eating, so people think it’s okay now. But I feel like my eating disorder has never been worse.
If you can you should go see a therapist; if you can't because you're not supported by your family or because it's hard in your area or because it's too expensive try watching videos on youtube with people overcoming your same issue, it might help you even just a little bit. eating again and gaining weight it's a start but until you realize that food is your fuel and not your enemy you will probably keep having problems with eating. also, working out while eating as healthy and clean as you can might help a bit. please stay strong!
In Know what it feels like, I have OCD, and Mild hints of ADHD, ADD and other things, sometimes I do the randomest things in class, because of my OCD. I wont go into detail of them, its personal. But I remember when my "friend' leaked it out to the school. I was called names like, "attention seeker" and "fake". My heart shattered into smaller pieces everytime I heard that. Rumors went arounds our school, and somehow spread to the next town over. I just stopped trying, and gave up a little on life. Kids would make of me, and do things with my OCD just to see me do it. I suffered a lot at that time and I still suffer from those disorders, and from those people. Just so you know, your situation will get better. :)
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the hardest part of having any type depression or mental illness, is staying silent for so long because bothering other people with your problems is so much worse than suffering through it alone.
hnnah ayee. My biggest problem even with being diagnosed is bottling up my feelings. I try so hard not to feel anything and focus on their problems because I got into the habit of thinking "I don't want to burden anyone. Because they wont really get it" I'm learning.... that doing that hurts me more then being missunderstood
I thought I was the only one.....
And when you do you still feel guilty about even bothering them with your problems and it just goes full circle each time
It's the biggest reason why most people live with it for so long. I'm going on 6 years now with depression and only got help a couple of weeks ago. All because I met a girl that saw I wasn't alright and even though she didn't know me that well yet, she still helped me. She is now one of the only reasons I'm still fighting for a future.
I always has mixed feelings talking about my bipolar disorder (mainly depressive periods). Most of my friends and family know about it now and I tried to explain it, but it's hard. I feel guilty to bother them and I know they can't understand if they don't have this experience. You can't translate feelings into the words. The only person who truly understand is my mum, because she has the same disorder, but I don't want her to worry about me, so I'm usually silent.
"you have such a good life, how can you be depressed?"
The first thing my mum said to me when I was diagnosed with depression.
That's something I bet my mum can say and thats the only reason I haven't confronted to anyone.
I was told "why are you depressed you own a house?"
This is how everyone acts around me
My mom said that to me tooa and after that I was cutting my hand immediately cause I felt so much pain.
mine did too
"The key to healing is taking away the shame" Well said
psychedseer the key to depression is anime (at least it made me happier)
I feel like this is true for almost every mental illness, not even just eating disorders. like, i went in a pretty big downward spiral for a while, and then I just sort of...got out of it after getting a lot of help but not really even changing anything about my life. People would ask me what i did to get better, and looking back i think the only thing was I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed and embarrassed. I stopped apologizing for my feelings and instead would just tell people about them. i still have a long way to go, but taking away the shame really stopped me from destroying myself
The key is acceptance bc it’s taking away the shame and Love at the same time
All of these girls are survivors, I have depression and anxiety and people dont think it’s not a big deal, but it is.
Anxiety and depression are huge things. Don't let negative people make you doubt your diagnosis.you have to accept it before you can claw your way out to the light.no cure but can be managed,it's hit n miss at times, just hang in there and be honest regarding how you feel.find and stay with a trusted dr. Who can help you navigate the turbulent waters of pharma. Feeling better doesn't happen overnight,just don't give up,believe in hope,dismiss negative persons, reach out for help
There is always hope. Reach out time and again until you find it
Me too.
I feel so down all the time that it actually gets frustrating.
I didn't used to be like this. I used to be much more fun to be around but now I just pretend.
Pretend all day long that I'm fine because I know no one will understand.
What even hurts the most is people stigmatizing against it. I remember an aunt of mine even asked me "What's the matter with you?" which was barely helpful.
I have anxiety and depression as well and it sucks I wish it never existed.
The first time I tried to explain my anxiety to somebody other than my husband, I received the response "Well it's not cancer. You're not dying."
No, it's not cancer and no, I'm not dying. But I am not okay. And you are the reason I no longer talk about this.
Dingle Technically, you are dying - we are all dying. We're born dying. Haha, sorry for being pedantic, I wish you the best and hope you overcome your anxiety. It sucks.
This is very true! I'll tell them that next time :)
:)
SAME! Except I got "well it's not like you've got schizophrenia" .. 😑
Julia Bergdoll I feel you girl :)
Can buzzfeed make a part 2 of this but with men included? I feel like guys out here with eating disorders and other stuff need to know that it's a real thing for them too and that they're not alone
I second this motion
psychedseer I third this motion
I fourth this motion
I fifth this motion
im not a man but i agree, men go through stuff like that too....
I had a psychiatrist tell me "you don't look like you have anxiety." She made me feel like I was wasting her time.
Not even professionals take mental illness seriously - and it's leading to people killing themselves. We need to do better.
Dana Gricken as I am reading this I feel hopeless and why do I even exist lol that sums up my whole life lol so what now god please just take me away lol
Ah yeah same but he said that I was exaggerating
There’s so much hype in FB about going to professionals about mental health but when you go to a psychiatrist they just dismiss you
Botchers. That's what they are. Had to face them plenty of times.
Just like how are you supposed to look like?
I’m currently in the hospital battling bipolar, anxiety, EDNOS, and ADHD and watching this made me feel less alone
You're not alone...
ednos sucks :( i feel you, stay strong and know that you can do this
Anna L non specified eating disorder
Honest question, what is EDNOS? I feel like I’ve heard it I just don’t remember what it is? And no you aren’t alone. I have bipolar, ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression. You got this. You can do this
Sophie Boertjes eating disorder not otherwise specified. Basically if someone has an eating disorder that doesn’t match all the criteria for a specific one.
"My boyfriend sat me down and said, 'you don't have to talk to me, but you have to talk to someone.' Later, that boyfriend became my husband"
Me: AWWWW
We should all be that lucky to have someone that smart and insightful in our lives.
+Kristen I'm still waiting for mine :')
I may have started crying at that moment
"Some people might not believe you, but I believe you," - Sheridan.
That was it. That was the point where I broke down crying my eyes out.
Tinkili it was really touching
Smol Bean the moment she said that I burst into tears
Smol Bean I needed to hear that so bad.
Smol Bea
if someone doesn't believe when i mention my anxiety disorder, or when i had clinical depression, i tell them how lucky they are that they've never been in a position to.
Well i told someone about my anxiety and depression and they said i was a liar and began bullying me
they never believe me ether, because I am outgoing and happy, and funny. But they never look into the details.. isn’t it weird I never have ever talked to ANYONE who I have not known for 2 years.
They think there is only one type of anxiety.😂😐 what idiots,
Dark Pink Falcon don't tell anyone that
eyes. why?
This video made me tear up! I've lived with mental illness for 10+ years and have hit many highs and lows. Hearing other peoples struggles just hurts my soul because I know how hard it can be and how never ending it can feel. Just ride the lows and live for the ups, because the ups will come.
Molly Burke Hey Molly! I love you! You’re an awesome influencer. No, I’m not blind, but I have been trying to recover through ED. You make me feel like I can get through anything. Thank you, genuinely.
Your comment needs more likes, ppl need to realize you're a very special person in this TH-cam community. You deserve more😊
Love you molly i hope you see my reply😳😍🙂
I was kind of confused reading this as your blind then I realized XD
Wow thx for the insight Molly Burke!!!!!!!!
What hurts the most is being called crazy and being told to just get over it. This made me cry.
I consider myself crazy but being told to get over it made it worse
dylan wall Exactly
You're not crazy, you'll get through it in a good way, don't give up please, sorry you're going through this😊
I hope karma triggers and they can get a taste of it themselves. Then hear what they have to say.
People toss that word around like it's nothing. Only I can call myself crazy (or occasionally family or other "crazies", in good spirit)
me during a crying meltdown: what if the neurotypicals are right and i can control my thoughts and i am Faking It right at this very moment
s a m e!!! i think everyone does that to a certain extent
Same :(
I always think that my mind is just making up everything wrong with me..
AJ Burbank Right! I do that too. Im so scared that I'm just making things up for attention or something, which is stupid but yea
No they are ignorant
As someone who struggled/struggles with an eating disorder, it's comforting to know that I'm not alone.
Megan Hodes I hope you get better. I can't relate to your situation, but just know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you don't need to change.
You never walk alone
Victoria Diaz bts reference 💕
Yeah
You're going to be ok, and I believe that you can get through this☺
No one believes me about my anxiety and depression...and whenever I go into the school nurses office they just tell me I’m faking my stomach aches and head aches. I go to the nurse 5 times a month and whenever I go they still refuse to call my parents.
I believe you honey! I have Schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. I can relate to how hard it is. Remember you have the power to seek help. I know what it feels like to be powerless and scared. Tell your parents yourself. Easier said then done, but YOU can do it. If they don’t help, find someone who will. Believe me, there is always someone. Everything will be okay 👌🏽 ❤️
Have you told your parents about their refusal to send you home? If so, what is their response? As a parent I would want to be consulted. My daughter and I would discuss a plan for how to handle these days, etc. I hope you have parents who would advocate for what you NEED.
I know this comment is kinda old, but I had the same problem in high school. I know it’s tough, but don’t give up. Push and push and fight until you get the help that you want/need. You are your biggest advocate. I didn’t keep pushing, I just started to bottle it up and keep it to myself, which was a huge mistake and I regret it to this day, because now my anxiety and depression are ten times worse, and I’m having to learn healthy coping mechanisms and work through years of problems at 23. I know that fighting for treatment is super hard when it comes to mental illness. People from the outside looking in don’t see anything physically wrong, but they have no idea what’s going on mentally. Just know that even if the school nurse, or your friends, or your family doesn’t believe you, so many other people do. So many other people know it’s real, and so many people care about you. There are a ton of free resources that you can use. There are hotlines and online websites that can set you up with an online counselor. Or there’s a chaplain or a priest or a pastor. Even if you aren’t religious, they’re more than happy to help. If ever I’m having a hard time, I go to my ships chaplain instead of the psychiatrist, because I know they care and want to help me, and others like me.
life hack sue the school! (jk hope its gotten better i dont have either but ive seen both in others and it's definitely real)
Charlotte Marie go to the counseler not the nurse
Im a doctor.. and im so embarassed that some doctors are so rude.. and they dont understand.. i would never do that to one of my patients
Im glad you are a doctor- just based on this I can tell you are a good doctor
I believe that you are a good doctor.. just because you have Eteeweetee in your profile pic🙌🏻
I have bipolar and a psychiatrist tried to convince me that I was just a normal teenage girl and that there was nothing wrong with me and that I just need to go home, get some sleep, lose some weight. He told me that exercise would work wonders but it hasn’t. I was medicated on Lovan for a little while but I told them it wasn’t working at all and they said that maybe medication wasn’t the right route for me and that I need to take care of it in a natural way when I was already doing that. I’m now medicated and going to therapy to try and manage it.
My neurologist had referred for me to see a therapist because of my MS and my depression I was so let down after my first session. I never went back and still haven't been able to find someone who understands MS and depression.
I would doubt that you are a doctor cuz ur on buzzfeed
One time I told my dad that I was overwhelmed and about to have a panic attack because he was yelling at me, he told me to get over it. When he left I broke down into tears. Everyone deserves to be heard, you are important no matter what.
My mom would screamed at me "So it is my fault?! I've never done right with you, it is all my fault" then she proceed to cry loudly. Then I felt guilty for having panic attacks and asking for a break.
I wish to time-travel I’m so sorry
I wish to time-travel never feel guilty about having a panic attack. It's not your fault.
c 8 hey so i dont know much about your story, but I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. though i truly hope that isnt the case and that was just a low point for him and he's changed since then!
I wish to time-travel I already said this to c 8 but i definitely feel the need to say this to you even more so: I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. like, im no doctor, but my parents are very narcissistic with their abuse and this sounds a lot like something my N mother has said to me before.
No one believes me either. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
I believe in you! Let's fight together. :)
I believe you.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you suffer from?
mysticismlover I believe you ❤️! I do know I have anxiety and mild depression. Whenever I tell my mom or even one of my best freinds, they haven't believed me... my mom said it's "your being a drama llama!"... oh well enough about me :), Let's get through this together!
I believe you.
"the key to healing is taking away the shame" ✊🏼
i have mishophonia, a brain disorder that makes me extremely mad about small sounds like chewing, breathing, typing on you phone and that sorts of stuff. When me and my family sat around our diner table to eat, i would always have a war inside my head if i should storm to bedroom or just cry. My parents didnt belive me when i said i couldnt sleep with her inthe same room because of her breathing. So i always cried myself to sleep.
i just want to say that mishophonia is a real brain condision, people who have it where born that way and should be respected more!
girlyperson one i heard there was someone who learned to live with it normaly,she took therapy classes and meditatet dayily. but sadly shes the only one.. yet
kajsa van der ploeg noises drive me insane but what u have is crazy I feel sorry for ya
kajsa van der ploeg I have it too and hate it
*misophonia and I have it too, I’ve been diagnosed and manage it much better than I could 5 years ago. Just takes time
kajsa van der ploeg stop self diagnosing
The pain in Sheridan's voice was palpable & made my cry. I'm so glad she's being heard now & getting the help she deserves.
Kimberly G. I started crying when she talked. It's a mirror of me
Gracie ... I hope you're getting help and understanding now too! {{hugs}}
I have depression But I'm sick of telling people I'm depressed because they never understand ....
Heidi Galdamez i feel you,girl...I have Depression and bipolar disorder.When i tell my family,they wont believe me at all...All they say is 'I have lots of stress more than you so you shouldnt say you have depression' the thing is they don't know what is depression and bipolar disorder is..They take it lightly...Right now,im just being in my room almost all the time and just come down to eat and give my cats food.that all...This sickness is not something they just take lightly.It worst and can lead yourself to bad thing 😔 They think they understand but actually they not....💔
Me too...
Same....
Heidi Galdamez same..
Misxzhaylelxx94v same here 😣
After I was diagnosed with ADHD, my own dad denied it. He said it was an excuse to not hold still and ignore the things around me. Denying it WON'T. MAKE. IT. GO. AWAY.
I feel that 💔
I am sorry. Both of my sons have ADHD, I know how difficult that things can be.
2 people before told me you don’t have ADHD that was so annoying especially since one of them has ADHD and told me I don’t have it as if I’m faking it
I feel like the common misconception people have with mental illnesses (esp. depression) is that they expect you to be sad 24/7 which is not the case at all. You can be happy, laugh, have fun when you're at school/work or around friends & family but have an emotional breakdown when you're alone. That's what I hate the most about manic depression (bipolar disorder), some days I can be really okay and happy but then it gets really bad out of nowhere. It's tough but knowing you are not alone and people around the world are being strong too is so comforting, really.
edit: I am aware that manic depression is bipolar disorder. It means having extreme mood swings. During the depressive episodes of bipolar disorder, a person may experience a severe form of depression that is similar to major depression.
I actually had a discussion about this just today. I was talking with two people diagnosed with depression (at least that is what they claim and I will believe them) and they were saying what's the use of during Happy my argument was to spread positivity and they tried to argue you can't with depression. You very much can just because it is hard does not make it impossible. You can be positive with depression don't let it take over you're going to have to fight it. Try to be positive challenge yourself to be positive. It is possible. (Sorry had to get that off my chest)
yes I'm exactly that way I suffer with depression an anxiety myself when I'm working or with my bf I'm happy an I'm fine but the min I'm alone I break down but the mistake I made was becoming dependant on others so that's what I'm working on presently I'm trying not to be too dependant on my bf cause as of lately he's taking my illness as a joke by fuel it.😞
Mica yeah! Uhg I hate it so much! I think it makes it harder for other people to understand that I'm actually depressed, especially since I (with help of meds because I wouldn't even make it though school without them) am able to put up a mask. I can pretend.
China Berry I think I'm slowly falling into a similar situation...
Mica true everyone thinks that , I am depressed sad and crying one night happy the next week
I have anxiety and depression but people are always like “but your so happy and loud all the time!” “You always have a smile on your face” and then the people who actually see me for who I am ask me when I’m looking sully or quiter than usual but instead they say “don’t worry, it’s a phase you will get through this.” Nope.
So true!
Same! Everyone thinks I’m an extrovert, friendly, and outgoing etc. But I’m not because it is a complete act. I am an introvert, prefer to be alone, etc. It took me such a long time to realize I needed help.
Me too. I was voted "Always happy" as a superlative in my senior year book. It makes it really hard to talk about my anxiety and depression. I really wish that there wasn't such a stigma around mental illness making it "taboo" to talk about this and making it hard for so many people as well as myself to let their guard down and just drop the act. I myself am trying to be more vocal about my own struggles in hopes that it can become somewhat of a "social norm." I wish the best for you and hope you know that you're not alone :)
They see the smile but they don't see what's behind it ore what's on the other time.......
I have it too. I have a extremely high diagnosis of anxiety and depression though.... I have a high problem of my suicidal behaviours.
This video honestly was so comforting to watch,
A while back I got into an car crash and shortly after some guys threatened to beat me up bc I'm gay and even though at first I didnt notice it doing anything to me, now I'm honestly a mess. I went out to get help and got diagnosed with depression, eating disorder, anxiety, panic disorder and PTSD. I got anti depressents which aren't doing a lot at the moment. The only thing I do is lay in bed, nap and watch some netflix and I see my friends going out to party's, living their life's and I know I'm a burden so thats why I just stopped asking if I could come along and also because I just can't get out of the house anymore without freaking out over a little thing and I'm honestly starting to feel lonelier and more isolated by day. So thank you so much for showing me I'm not alone
Max you're not alone, hope you get help and the comfort you need
If you find that there's no significant improvement with the medication you're on, check with your Dr and see if you need to up your dose or if there is an alternative anti-depressant. Anti-depressants work differently for different people, there's not a "one pill fits all" solution with depression and either a higher dosage or different medication may lead to a big improvement for you. Peace and Love xxx
Sometimes your behaviour reinforces depression e.g. if you never leave your bed, it's just making your mindset worse. I know how hard it is to leave the house without worrying a ton but I want you to help yourself and work really hard to get better because it is incredibly unhealthy for your mind and not to mention your body. (Speaking from personal experience btw).
check out Dr David Burn's book "Feeling Good", I hope it can help you
I'm happy that you know your not alone xxx everyone cares about you x never give up on your life even if you have depression etc your life is worth living even if your gay nobody can stop how you feel and trust me if nobody else believes in you I will xx
When I told a person I trusted about my ED, she secretly told my mom (which I see in a positive way nowadays but back then I hated her for it)... whatever my mom was like "oh she just wants attention, it's puberty" and never confronted me or anything... so 5 years later I'm even a lot deeper into my ED, fighting so hard against it but I'm still in the beginning of recovery and my mom is like "if I only knew about it, you never told me, you lied to me, etc." 🙄
My friends also went behind my back, telling the school guidance counselor, who called my dad. He immediately believed her and started making sure I was eating breakfast. It helped for awhile, but it didn't stop the voice in my head. I still didn't have good coping skills.
I needed therapy, and when I finally started going to a counselor at uni when I was 18, things actually started to sustainably improve. When I stopped, tho, things took awhile to get bad again, but they did, and now I don't have the insurance to afford therapy, except that I might be able to go to low-cost therapy, but... I'm so anxious about finding an abusive therapist. Or one who refuses to listen. Or care. I've had such good luck with the past 3, I feel like a bad one is due.
There are definitely people who care and want to help, and if they're easier to find for you, Yay! If not, keep looking, even online.
Kati Morton is a youtuber who is a licensed therapist who specializes in ED. Please check out her videos. They've helped me recognize when I'm getting bad, again, and help me to climb out. It's easier when someone is helping you climb out, tho, so if you have someone you trust who is willing to help you stay accountable to recovery, let them. Please.
That is terrible.I'm sorry.I am here for you
My best friend who I trusted with my life told my mom that I wasn’t eating at school and was cutting. Now my life if completely messed up. I really hope your doing ok!
Metal health has been a struggle in my life since I first attempted suicide at age 12. I literally had a doctor tell me "you should just stop cutting yourself," and "you're too young to have mental illness." It was so invalidating and hurtful, and now I'm 16 years old and finally getting the care I need. Give things time, recovery isn't an event, it's a process.
Beth CK so wise for 16. Ultimately your struggle makes you a more compassionate person.... which makes you cool. I appreciate "recovery is a process not an event", good one.
Beth CK that's so relatable. I'm 12 and have had anxiety, depression and seasonal affective disorder all of my life and I heard that type of stuff all the time. I just try to remember that mental health doesn't discriminate and anyone can be a victim of it.
Beth CK this comment was comforting for me as I am 11 and I've attempted suicide many times. I felt like I wanted to die every day and no one understood. I'm glad someone understands my mental illness . It also annoys me when people say can't depression just go?? Like the heck it can't just go when you have depression you have depression. You can't help it
It sucks, I’m 13 and have attempted almost three times and every time I try to talk to anyone they avoid it, and compare my situation to others and call me selfish for being in that mental state. Nobody does anything until it’s too late, they don’t care until it is. Like your surrounded by people, but your so alone and nobody wants to deal with you. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to this stuff, people need to get their head around it.
Beth CK I feel as if the comments are a safe place. I'm 13 and in the past year, I've attempted suicide just about six times. All failing and hurting and damaging me all the while. My parents are to ignorant and stuck up to realise their "perfect" baby isn't so perfect. I barely trust anyone. Life seems pointless and like I should be somewhere else. I feel obligated to keep my bloodline going. Both my parents know that im bisexual, I mostly like females so I feel as if I cant keep my family going. Even with all of this, before the first attempt, I had done no self harm. Untill people noticed the scar on the back of my neck (failed suicide. Rope burn turned into a scar) and thats when I knew I needed help. Hurting myself feels so right. But it still hurts. I cant take life anymore and I know I have no purpose. I thank you for letting me ruin your day with my sad life. I'm truly sorry.
This is why it’s important to be honest about having anxiety and depression. So many people are quietly suffering because in the larger society those issues are brushed off and minimized. Sometimes my friends think I’m being dramatic when I say what really gives me anxiety and they make jokes about it but it’s literally the truth. I’ve be able to help people understand it more by being very honest and open though and I refuse to let anyone dismiss it because by me being open I want to make others feel more comfortable being open about it to.
Some people don't want to talk about their mental illnesses because whether you think so or not, people tend to look at them different...
They are not your friends
Yeah I grew up with really bad anxiety and I have took loads of tests saying that I have really bad anxiety and its hard man
020ctmarie I am quietly suffering
For me, being told "are you doing it for attention or what?" hurt worse than actually going through depression. Like why would I, someone who hates attention, go that far for negative attention...
Pippi la Peach I’m the exact same, I’m not diagnosed but I’m very sure I have it, I have told a few people but people say “I don’t believe you” and it hurts.
Imogen-mahni Hayward yeah. I'm sorry you have to go through that as well :(
Pippi la Peach yeah, no need to feel sorry for me though, but it’s very kind that you do so thank you. You worry about you’re own problems:) oh btw I’m subscribing!
Imogen-mahni Hayward alright haha & thank you.
Subscribing to me? :o
Pippi la Peach no problem, great someone understands! I was diagnosed with anxiety and stuff and people don’t believe me on that either :o and thank you for thanking me (wow, I really am another person when I comment!)
I was sexually assaulted 4 years ago and I was blamed for it not the person who did it. I was depressed since then I self harmed a lot I struggled with an eating disorder.i also hung out with the wrong crowd of people during my middle school years and then my freshman and sophomore year of high school I felt like I needed to be someone different and I still hung out with the like cool people that were still bad though and I was pressured into a couple of bad things that I regret. I am bi and I don’t have any friends that I can trust in completely everything. But now I have gotten closer to god I know that he likes me for me and made me like this I now have defeated my eating disorder and I don’t self harm anymore I still have rough patches in my life. And I still don’t have any friends to rely on but I’m fine with it and i am now a better person now i only mildly struggle with anxiety. I have become my better self and I’m proud of it. ❤️ (sorry for the rant.)
You do not have to apologize for sharing your story. You are fighting and you are winning. Keep your chin up, little warrior. 😊
You are lovely and loved. I empathise with you and understand your pain. Love to you 🤗🤗🤗🤗
You should watch Devin's assault story on Buzzfeed's TH-cam channel. I think that will help you a lot. You are not alone.
Never apologise. Ever.
Its ok we are all here for you.
Your a girl..... Like me I'm a girl..we get blamed for being touched..
"What were you wearing" ?
"Did you drink that night"?
"You asked for it"
im sorry for you..
Ive been trying to tell my parents for so long that I think somethings up. After doing my research I have many symptoms of Anxiety, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder. My mom is just now starting to help me find ways to contol it and my doctor already reccomended I see a therapist. Im so happy to know that some people understand.
For me after my brother was diagnosed with ADHD, I noticed I shared a lot of the things he had and being that siblings were more likely to have it I told my parents and finally after a few months I was diagnosed
I have Bipolar (cyclomania specifically) disorder, anxiety is just part of that if you have it. I can see some symptoms of ADHD resembling the disorder too. In a high phase i get jittery, my thoughts buzz around so fast I end of walking around in circles because Im so restless. I cant stop moving. I also talk a lot and fast, and cant focus on one things for longer than ten seconds. In a low, I will cry for 5 hours straight, my body will get so anxious ill physically shake. Which then becomes painful because my muscles are so tense. And every problem on my brain is unbelievable impossible to deal with. I cant eat, or even speak sometimes.
I say all this with the hope that if any of this sounds like you, you're not alone. It is a terrible issue but it gets better and you can manage it. Learn your cycle, when your feeling down tell someone you trust right away, that you are having a bad day. And most importantly do what you need for yourself. If you need to lay in bed and cry all day, do it because forcing yourself to pretend you are okay for others isn't going to make you okay.
I hope your therapist visit goes well and you can begin to heal. :)
I have ADHD and can tell you it has nothing to do with Anxiety, or bipolar disorder.... Or at least for me
Nubpai I wasnt saying that it did, Im just saying thats how it is for me. Anxiety came first and then I started showing adhd symptoms, and then bipolar. Whatever the case, thats my life right now and it kinda sucks
Your Everyday Walrus Friend thats how it is for me! im usually a straight A student but its become harder and harder for me to achieve that. my focus is out of whack and i have to ask my teachers to constantly re explain even after they just did. Im 13 and ive just been doing research and looking on websites and reading books to see if thats what it is or if theres anything i can do. background noise does help me focus a bit, so i usually think of songs in my head if my teacher doesnt allow music (or even ask the teacher to play music that will keep you focused but wont disrupt the entire class or something)
I struggle with depression, I have recently gotten an appointment to therapy, and now they're assigning me to medicine. People thought that I was faking my illness and even my parents thought that I was doing this for attention. And now my parents realize that I need help, and so far...nothing is really working right now.
_Fuwa_ Skele just... be careful with the meds. It’s really not good for you and will cause you to have a lack of feelings. At least from my experience, don’t feel like it’s your only help, exercise has been proven to be the best help for depression.
keep working on it, I used meds and it took me a while to find what worked but I promise youll get through it! 💜💜
_Fuwa_ Skele I believe in u!
I struggle with depression also. Some advise is to hang out with your friends or loved ones to get your mind off it. That's the reason I'm on TH-cam right now. Try to meditate. One thing I have done is I go inside a room with no noise and a candle in the middle of the room labeled "positive energy" then stay in that room and relax yourself and think about any thing your would like as long as its not sad thoughts and just think about that for about 15 minutes or more. When you stand up, don't start just eating pizza or ice cream or whatever. You can take a nap, or do yoga, or meditate. No eating junk food or watching T.V. I want you to relax and if you have time, repeat these steps if your parent ask "WHY? Why?" (like all parents) just say that you were really serious about depression and this is how you stop it. If you want therapy for free, my Grandma's a therapist and she can give you an appointment over TH-cam for free at any day at around 4:30. Don't take the medicine that much. Try to be vegan, (that's going to help with the depression and have you to stop taking the medication) if school is pressuring you, (or your failing classes like me)Repeat after me: I will ace my classes I WILL get straight A's. Once you see this comment, your probably still in depression, so what I want you to do is tell me whats bothering you and I WILL make you kill your depression.
And remember this: Mind first, body second (damn, that was deep!)
That means that the sooner you are done with depression, you body will follow and you will start to be a lot healthier and happier. Follow my directions and you will have success in your direction forever.
I hope you see this comment and you will flip the switch inside you brain from sad to happy to extra happy! I hope you now have a wonderful day! :)
Alexianna Puric My meds are working so far! I feel better than before! Thanks for the advice, I'll make sure to try what you said!
People in my grade joke about OCD. If something is slightly out of place people will say "OH NO!!! I HAVE TERRIBLE OCD!!" And stuff like that and it's really annoying
It'sCalledHeych People at my school make jokes about crippling depression and autism.
I'm quite OCD. I joke about it and my depression too, but it's never not to point I joke about it like it's really nothing.
I have extreme anxiety and depression. People will say things like "I understand I get anxious before tests" or "I understand I get sad too". Really they don't get it.
Kyle D same at my school but my school makes fun about diabetes and cancer and it makes me so sad that I have to go with idiots every single day
I have severe ocd it is not an adjective
My depression has been laughed at, and I'm tired now. I lay awke till 3 a.m., and cry only when I'm alone, because I'm sick of making my family miserable. I don't have many friends, and those I do have never dealt with this, or felt so deep in the darkness that you stop wanting to find the light.
It'll be okay. Everything will be alright.
It feels good too know someone else has a similar problem and you're not alone...
unicorn sparkle yep.
Yes a lot of people seem to have mental illness.
unicorn sparkle i
This video made me feel less alone
Sofia Kokkino same! 😊
You aren't alone, don't ever believe that. You matter a lot.
me too !
I have Social anxiety, and people never believe me. they always say that I'm probably just shy
the blue cat what is social anxiety sry idk what it it
dana wright social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.
noa nidam stop self diagnosing
noa nidam Me too and I really hate how people act like it’s nothing
Same, people think that's just because I'm a teenager and shy
I struggle with social anxiety in particular.. and the pressure that you put on yourself or what you think others are putting on you is unbearable sometimes. I would use things like making my friends laugh or do something good for them to make them smile, was my way of telling myself that I was good enough, that this was normal. I continued to do this everyday and even categorize the good days and bad days based on how much I made them laugh or smile... this on going cycle went on for years, and I’m getting better with dealing with it to this day but still have those oppressing thoughts. For anyone who suffers from social anxiety, anxiety in general, or just any type of mental illness, just keep fighting! People who don’t suffer don’t understand the fact that your brain is fighting you and pushing you down... just keep fighting cause the worst is behind you!!
I just got out of my therapy session for struggling with severe anxiety and depression and all I have to say is please understand that people have issues even if they smile when they speak to you or everything seems alright, you don't know what people are going through. When it comes to mental illnesses, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean it's not there.
Have u gotten better? Im bearly starting therapy for anxiety
Bushra Islam Thanks for posting this. I am one of the people who completely change their face to look fine, when in reality I'm breaking inside. Your comment was encouraging.
Vanessa Aguilar I know you didn't ask me, but I've been in therapy for about a month (for a depressive disorder and GAD). It has helped me a lot so far. It helps me to be able to tell someone about all my problems without worrying about if they'll judge me or tell someone else. A good therapist will not breach that trust. Also, if you're open to it, I'd consider taking medication along with therapy. A lot of people claim it doesn't help, but several of my friends have gotten a lot better because meds give them that extra boost and stability they needed. It really depends on the person.
Vanessa Aguilar I've been in therapy for 8 months now, and i have to say that in the beginning it was exhausting and it took such a big mental toll on me to have to open myself and express myself and actually acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that I was having. Even after all these months I'm still struggling with myself and have just gotten a breakthrough into the things that may have triggered certain breakdowns but i have had so much improvement because of these sessions. I'm so thankful for therapy and I'm really hopeful that it'll help you too😊
I have anxiety and I don't think people realise how bad it actually is, I suffer from panic attacks and my anxiety just takes over me x💓
Stay strong ;)
Don't let it get to you.
NB thank you
It's nothing ;) I hope you get better.
Isobel Christine I'm sure a lot of people here can agree and relate. I hope you continue to attract understanding and kind people. Most people stay ignorant because of fear. All the best. BTW I found a book called anxiety free its a 90 day program it has journals etc to track your triggers . All the best
Isobel Christine also after years of suffering from anxiety I decided to see it as a gift, I have compassion and understanding. I felt alone and isolated most of my life . Now im in my 40's there are more resources available:) People with anxiety usually have a lot of sensitivity and awareness. :)
I have panic disorder and this video made me feel not alone 💜
Medicore MeL trust me when I say your not alone. We’ve got this!!! 💪🏼🙏🏻🙌🏼😽👼🏻
I have panic disorder too, among other things. You are definitely not alone! Stay strong! 💪💕
You wont be alone, I have panic disorder as well
Maybe I am not by you, but I get whats happening.
You are not
Aww that’s so great!😭 I don’t think I have that but I struggle with a bunch of other stuff so I know how important it is that be shown that your not alone💜
"when people say the it's your fault, you're doing it to yourself, you're not." I have bulimia nervosa and nobody knows about it and I'm kind of dying inside myself.
Don't try to solve their problem for them. If they have Depression, don't tell them it's getting old or that they should just get some fresh air or that it'll pass as if it never happened. Motivate them, tell them they really do mean something to you, love them. If they have Anxiety, don't push them, don't tell them to man up or that they're overreacting.Sit with them, wait for them to calm down at their own pace and reassure them. If they have Anorexia, don't tell them to just eat some food. Help them get help from experts, tell them they're beautiful just the way they are and that they don't need to change. Be there by their side. Encourage them. Change you're perspective. Have some empathy and look at it from their stand point. Don't try to solve their problem for them.
That is beautiful
you're a one of a kind person....I started crying because of this,I am really small and my friends think I have anorexia,witch I think I don't,maybe I eat a little bit less then everyone but I eat how much I can.My friends ALWAYS say eat more your small,does your mom feed you...And its so heart breaking to me...I cryied a couple of times because of that,and noone is there for me to help....
Elisabeth Mason thank you alot! those few words makes me feel so much better🙂
Elisabeth Mason so nice to hear that your doing good and want to help people!
Your friends are just worried about you. Don't get me wrong, their approach in telling you is all wrong but don't misjudge their intentions. As long as you are taking care of yourself mentally and physically what they say won't matter. You are beautiful and you don't need to change.
Awww, I would so much like to hug Devin (and other lovely ladies too!). I also had a depression and an eating disorder ad the result. Weighted 44 kg and couldn't eat a single thing, I just had zero appetite. I had to literally make a conscious effort not to die, because my body was telling me it doesn't want to live. And no, not many people understand, especially in certain societies. I then realised I have had a depression developing for a while, but my concerns were dismissed because "this is just a phase", "it's normal for a teenager", "just don't be sad, what's your problem", "you're a poser" etc. No, it doesn't work this way. If you are feeling bad, don't be ashamed and seek for help until you find it! You deserve a better life!
I'm so sorry. I never had an eating disorder. So I can't really relate but I am truly sorry you had to wake up everyday and face this.
Книжная Booka Hello, I have anorexia as well, I understand how hard it is, and I understand where you're coming from. People say we do it on purpose, we do it because of self shame. I hope you get better- I send all my look and prayers to you! X
Thank you so much for your support! I am now long recovered from depression and eating disorder, however the memories of that experience will always remain. I wish you to get better too, you have all our support! It is a hard work, but recovery and harmony are closer than disorders want us to think!
Thank you so much for your support!
Книжная Booka omg this is so relatable! I️ have general anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder, ocd, depression, an eating disorder, and insomnia. People (especially my mom) tell me that it’s just hormones and all teenagers have it. It’s rly rly annoying
I overheard a conversation once. A classmate was talking to another about a person who had panic attacks. She said: “ She told me she couldn’t go because she was having a panic attack and then I told her that she can move her legs so she is just overreacting and want attention.”
In that moment my eyes were in tears. The fact that shocked me was that she was proud of herself like her answer to that person was the best and everybody should take her example.
As a person who suffers from social anxiety i was scared to speak up. I have regularly panic attacks and I know how hard it is to deal with them...i don’t want to imagine what that person felt when she heard that she “want attention “ and is “overreacting”.
I really wish a had the courage to say something...
Mary Y I've heard these conversations in hospitals from nurses and doctors. Sometimes they aren't even qualified to any kind of legal standard.
Ironically, just like in school, you're encouraged to find logical ways of dealing with these situations. Sadly, the structure can't always fix itself so you have to tell it about the structure. This can mean more abuse, or a full reversal.
Mary Y mate as a fellow social anxiety disorder sufferer I wouldn’t have sat by and hear that exchange. I may have trouble in more places then others that’s just how it works with “SAD” but I can certainly speak my mind when needed.
I really want to hug all of them so bad
I have depression, anxiety, and panic attacks
Kasidy Cates me too + anorexia
Kasidy Cates Awe, same.
Doubt it because this is the internet and you look 13 at the most.
(Kill me)
Christie Valda Why would you say that? Even if she was lying it'd not your place to state that. What if she does have all those, what if she's getting worse? I know many people who aren't even 13 that have anorexia, depression, and etc. So I believe her, no one should care if your right.
I'm 14 and I live in Africa, where most mental health issues are said to be caused by black magic or demons and It really feels Like there is no hope for me and I feel really lost. I attempted Suicide a few months ago, my mom found me In my room and she bean splashing me with holy water, I didn't get medical help, or help from a therapist, not even an are you okay from my family, I was simply Just blown off. And It really hurts when you feel alone and like no one understands, Its hopeless. And there's nowhere I can get help here. I'm basically stuck.
But this video made me feel like I wasn't so alone
Thank you.
I am sorry you experienced all of this. One good thing is that you have access to the internet... Try to find scholarly articles and medical societies/support groups to guide you. You are stronger than you know and if you stay alive you can help not only yourself, but others like you who struggle. We need people like you to start educating the society at large. Bless you on this difficult and long journey.
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hey I’m Nigerian and same thing happened to me and even my parents didn’t believe me, they told me it was the work of the devil so I just stopped telling them about it. Attempted suicide multiple but all failed. when I got to the US I was quickly checked into an asylum after my first college year when I spoke to my advisors at school and they called the police and in two days I was taken from school to emergency unit to mental asylum . I got diagnosed with Anxiety disorder PTSD depression and OCD and being in college at 15/16 was no help either. I had a gun to finish the job but i told people who will understand just days before I was to commit the act and they got me the help I needed. Just know that you’re definitely not alone and i would definitely be able to talk with you if you want to.😘 you’ll be fine I promise you.
I'm bipolar. I've been diagnosed since I was 15, and I'm almost 20 now. Right before I was diagnosed, family and people didn't believe me before the police arrested me for ''suicidal behavior'', because I was about to jump off a bridge. People associated bipolar with ''being really ecstatic and then depressed for a few days'', but I would literally scream and cry whenever I was manic. Although I've passed that ''people don't believe me'', I'm still glad.
Emina Bekric this might sound insensitive or rude, but i mean it to no offense...
I am thinking about writing about a person with bipolar.....do you think i should? And if you do, do you have any tips?
Nore Puts that's not rude or insensitive, don't worry. You're just asking for her opinion since they are bipolar. And you want to make sure that it would be okay, and asking for their opinion on it
Im bipolar too! It feels like any normal human would feel. But it isnt.
Talia Roberts thank you, that makes me a lot more comfortable with asking these questions^^
I remember in school I was depressed and suicidal. I couldn't sleep at night and I tried to kill myself many times. I wrote a suicide note that my Mom found while I was at school and when I came home she said I was overreacting and I was grounded. I remember at school this one girl was dumped and she kept saying 'This is what people with depression must feel like'' and I got so mad I yelled at her and got punished. My Mom's boyfriend said I wasn't a real man for expressing my emotions. He was on a call one day and said how he was 'Really Depressed'' and I just laughed and cried. Just goes to show that you shouldn't compare yourself to people with a real mental illness.
People with mental illnesses rarely express them healthfully. My dad was massively depressed and suicidal, but he waited until he was nearly 50 before going to therapy, going to a psychiatrist. He also invalidated me when I tried coming to him with my mental illness issues, so I get how awful it can feel, but please refrain from saying that someone cannot be mentally unwell because they've told you the same. Your mom's BF may well be depressed, like my dad, and handling it shittily.
If you have access to apps, I recommend guided meditations and _Wysa,_ which is like texting a therapist. Even tho I know it's a bot, it's very well-programmed, and it has helped me through anxiety attacks and plain ol' bad days.
Your mom also handled things awfully. That was her chance to put you in therapy, and she failed you. A lot of parents seem to fail in that regard, looking at this comments section. Find a guidance counselor, or if you're not in k-12 anymore, there might be low-cost therapists near you, if apps won't do it.
Remember, comparing "yourself to people with a real mental illness" isn't very helpful. Everyone experiences it differently. My dad was angry and abusive with his depression, and I was withdrawn, then rebellious, then withdrawn again, hiding in my homework mountain and workaholism. Mom is withdrawn and cries. Everyone is different, and while they were unacceptable in dealing with your depression, you *do not* need to follow their example. Start with being patient with yourself. That's what's helped me.
Maybe write in a journal. If your mom (or anyone else whom you should be able to trust) violates your privacy, write in an online journal that's password-protected. Putting your feelings into written word is cathartic and can help you chronicle patterns.
People don't understand my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and people just think everyone has OCD, no they don't.
Just because you like a clean room doesn't mean you're OCD. Being OCD could be needing to wash your hands every 10 minutes to the point where you scrub off your skin on a daily basis...
TheFluffFactor Exactly. It runs in my family and we all have different types. I personally get horrible intrusive thoughts and I have to do things or I get anxiety attacks.
Bambi Kun I was diagnosed with the more mental aspect like you talked about where you have impulsive thoughts
Yeah, I used to take the term OCD with a grain of salt because people used it so loosely. Then I made a friend who had been diagnosed with OCD and my entire view on the illness changed. One example of its manifestation within him is he must have bottles being drunken from placed on their side because if not he believes everyone around him will start choking. OCD is not a need to keep things tidy it is a legitament issue that should be recognised.
spectical speckle Yeah, so it annoys me when people throw around the term OCD like it's nothing. I hope your friend is well!
I have social anxiety and generalised anxiety. My mum gave me a psychologist and a psychiatrist, I was put on meds but I just couldn’t bring myself to go to school. I’d have panic attacks every morning when we reached school and my mother would just scream at me saying that I wasn’t trying enough and that I’m just giving up but she doesn’t understand that when I’m there I can’t stand how my anxiety makes me feel, it’s like being trapped in a bubble and all the fresh air is going away, suffocating me.
I have exactly the same problem and I understand what you feel. People always say that I am not trying hard and sometimes they think I am just being spoiled and lazy. And that makes me feel that I am really the person what they say, it makes me hate myself. I don't know how you handle this situation but if you want to talk please contact
MschrRvn same here .. I was bullied all the way to basically my eleventh grade year .
Which is this year.. I tried suicide twice .. I started cutting and hated my life so much from the pressure of my family falling apart ,and I messed up on something in class and got laughed up feeling the pressure of eyes on you and getting laughed at it hurts .. And then no one knows what's going in and you feel .. Like an outcast .. A failure
What are panic attacks like? I just wondering because I don’t have anxiety and I don’t really understand it.
Erica Roberts they fell like you can't breathe , your heart rate is pulsing and you feel singled out like all eyes are on you and that breathe of air is trapped
Raven gallows ^^ they can differ slightly depending on the cause as well, so instead of the feeling of eyes, it can be crushing fear (paranoia), the feeling of having too many expectations/ wanting to run away, etc
I have social anxiety and my parents don't believe me. They think I'm overreacting. I'm just "shy" or "introverted". It's emotionally draining when my mom laughs if I bring it up. I crinkle into this shrivelled raisin and die a little inside. My dad yells at me and makes me cry in public when I can't order my own food. My mom pushes me to talk to her about my problems and I just can't do it. Because I know they wouldn't care, or let alone believe me
Scott Delgado
Same.
And we can't even go to therapy because we think we'll be judged anyway and feel stupid about what we're feeling. I've had so many problems at school because of it. I would either freeze on the spot and have a panic attack or run without thinking twice. It controls me whether I want it or not and it's so frustrating and scary. I blame myself pretty often for not being able to act and be like the other people.
It’s okay it’s not your fault... I’m here
Finally. I'm not alone
For me my parents always said what I was feeling was normal but I didn't feel normal. I'd get so nervous about something sometimes a month in advance and I'd make myself sick over it both physically and mentally. And going out in public places is difficult when I'm not with someone I know. For me talking to a therapist really helped. It was constantly bad and I didn't want to get out of bed and I was constantly "sleeping" even though I woke up every 30 minutes to an hour. Therapy helped way more than drugs because they understand it's not your fault and you aren't too young to be this stressed or you life isn't too perfect to be feeling this way. They don't judge because they actually know instead of someone who doesn't understand at all. I've had anxiety for most of my life but until I was almost 17 I was not actually diagnosed because regular doctors didn't understand and told me I was fine or too young.
I struggled with eating disorder, anxiety, depression and PTSD for most of my life and wasn’t even aware or didn’t start getting treatment until the past two years, partially due to my family’s culture and the stigma surrounding mental health that it took me a long time to get the help I needed. Symptoms have decreased a lot and in a better place than I was before, but still have a lot to recover from but I’m committed. Thanks for making this video, videos like this are helpful
Nobody believes me when I say I have depression or anxiety, because I'm so happy most of the time. I only cover it up because I hate having to answer the questions people ask, and they don't know what depression and anxiety feel like.
I suffer from OCD, Dermatillomania, Depression and social anxiety. I broke down when I heard the words " I believe you" at the end. I wish I could hear that from someone in my life... just one person.
I believe you.
I BELIEVE YOU
I believe you, I have OCD and social anxiety, and I feel like I have some sort of depression but I don’t wan’t to self diagnose myself with depression. It’s exhausting to have to live with and I know how you feel.♥️
Castiel believes you.
I have bad anxiety as a 13 year old. I told my mom about my breakdowns at school about simple things like science labs. She told me that "you don't need pills just because You think you need to control everything". Slowly, but surely, I am learning to control my panic attacks. Anxiety is a very real disorder. I am sleep deprived always. Don't ever tell people it's not real.
Audrey Reiter the fact that you mentioned having breakdowns over a science lab is so real to me. I’m 13 right now, and I’ll freak out over simple everyday things (even like a choice of 2 restaurants or something) and even though it’s something that should come so easily it just seems to overwhelm you.
I have had people say the same thing to me. I've had anxiety since I was seven, I'm thirteen now, I don't know if that's what caused it though. But when I try to explain it people don't understand or they do the thing where they say, "Oh, I know what you mean, but I think I have that too because.." and it's made me want to scream that they don't understand how hard it is. Some people have things so easy for them that it almost hurts to see it. But because if the experiences I've had I try to be more insightful and accepting. It hurts to see people go through things like that and not be able to get help or reach out, because I know how it feels.
im happy u got better
I’ve been struggling with mental illness since I was 13. 10 years of my life has been devoted to this struggle. Up until I was a senior in college (2 years ago) my parents did not believe me. I had been initially diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety. But things got so much worse in my second year of college. As a senior I was taking antidepressants, and they made everything worse. I ended up in the hospital twice due to breakdowns and suicidal ideations within 8 months. The second time I was in the hospital I was pushed into an outpatient program and finally had a real diagnosis.
I’ve been living with a bipolar disorder diagnosis for 2 and a half years now. And I’m finally exactly where I’ve always wanted to be. Reaching out and getting help can really change your life. And don’t ever brush friends, or family off when they’re trying to help. They might not understand, but they’re doing the best they can.
My anxiety got so bad that I started to get scared of falling asleep in fear of the unconsciousness
same
Wow. I'm the complete opposite. I'm so afraid of people in everyday life that I welcome going to sleep and just being away from them and meeting fictional characters in my dreams.
This recently started happening to me. Now I have sleep paralysis...
Mine is getting better overtime since I get really tired from school and when I come home I just pass out.
Jane Hervilla I have really bad anxiety, but I love to sleep.
One of the weirdest thing though, is not believing yourself. I knew in my heart that throwing up after most meals is bulimia, that writing down each calorie you take in is not healthy, and that I was technically underweight, but I didn't believe myself because I would think "I'm not skinny enough to have an eating disorder." Looking back at my recovery now, I think its so crazy how a mental disorder can distort your perception of yourself so much.
aem You seem to have a very grounded idea of eating disorders.
@@CocaineDragonyeah, i knew to an extent that my behavior added up with my grounded idea of eating disorders, but having a mental disorder clouds your reason
aem how can a person know they’re clearly unhealthy yet continue the obvious self destructive behaviour.
@@thinkingofaname6233 it becomes a coping mechanism and an addictiom
aem what does? Throwing up after every meal? Knowing your starving your body to death? Sorry but all people like you should be committed at the first warning signs.
Nobody believes me when i say I have anxiety and I never say I have depression cause I know people would treat me completely different
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The thing is that if you saw me I dont look like I have anything wrong with my mental state but dont judge a book by its cover
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I am so sorry you have to deal with people not believing you. I also have anxiety/panic disorder and depression. It's so hard to talk to people who don't understand. I am here if you ever need to talk.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl yeah I understand... my family says things so hurtful and offensive about depression I can barely even talk about it.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl i know how you feel, i have depression and i try to put on a shield and hide it because i don't want others to know and judge. And for the longest time i would be scared to tell my parents because i thought they would be mad
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl and if i talked to my dad he would just tell me to bottle it up. And ive had thoughts of hurting myself but i dont want to tell my family because i dont want to be treated differently, i just want to be "normal"
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I know what youre going through. No one believes me when i tell them i have anxiety.
I remember last year when I ate 300 calories or less a day and I can confirm that the difference in my mental state was staggering- I couldn’t concentrate on anything and I felt numb. It was horrific yet my life seemed to be running smoother than ever before, the starvation almost masked the depression and anxiety I have battled for so long. I felt so weak and frail- my parents would continually make comments on my eating habits and how boney my shoulders were, as Christmas approached I began to stop logging my calories as much but I gained weight quickly, it truly is terrible how this mentality can take such a toll on your body and mind, and although I’m certainly far from recovered I hope you can reach out and gain the help you need
I have extreme anxiety, it’s the worst.
When I was 9 years old, every single day going to school, I would have an anxiety attack. People would never believe me. I was shaking and breathing heavily. Sometimes the teachers had to drag me in to school because I just refused to go in. People usually described me as bubbly and humorous, but during school I just had my head on my desk. I never knew what to do in lessons because I wasn’t listening. It was as if I completely blacked out. By the time I got home, I sat down, crying. I still have anxiety attacks and they make me feel as if I want to crawl up in the corner of the room in a ball and die. So one day, my mum sat me down and said to me “why are you crying everyday when you go to school?” I said back to her that I was nervous, she asked why, and I said “I don’t know”
What my anxiety did to me made me stronger as a person. I went on a school trip, and I wanted to go on a ride, and I did. I said to myself “you can do this” and I did. The fear of doing things and getting anxiety attacks, was what was giving me anxiety.
If you have anxiety, all I can say is to believe in yourself, and just not be scared at all.
I am very thankful for my family, friends, and teachers who pulled me through this horrible time.
Still do this day, I do have anxiety and still have anxiety attacks, but they aren’t half as bad, and I know what to do about them.
Stay strong everyone. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Awww stay strong 💪
- Loz “beliiieve In yoselffffff and you can do it” yeah I’d have punched you as soon as u got those 3 words out.
Same xx
I am a boy andI had anerexia nervosa for over a year but I had to come to my senses and look at what I was doing to my self and realize that I don't need to be skinny so I started to get over my insecurities and love myself
Dream _er I had anorexia too and I'm still recovering but it's always nice to see someone made it to that other side and I'm glad you found your way to where you are now ☺️
Great job I'm proud of you :) keep up the good work. I had anorexia too, so I know how hard it can be
You're beautiful as you are. Good for you!
Thank you for the support guys it means alot
토마토 I don’t know how old you are but just imagine that you will look back on days like this and realize how pointless it was to do things like have insecurities and care about what others think
I didn't know I had an eating disorder until a month ago. I'm fat ya know? I weigh over 200 lbs. I cut out food for the past two years I ate 800 calories or less a day. I kept gaining weight so I would eat less.
5 months ago. My hair started falling out. I went to the doctor said it was my thyroid. It was vitamins. Another doctor said I must be pulling my hair out myself and lying.
When my coworker at my new job noticed me avoiding the food she would bring in she asked me why. I lied and said I was allergic.
About three weeks of that she shut off my computer and pulled me into the conference room.
She was a personal trainer. She saw the signs. She asked me what I ate during the day and when I told her I apologized. I thought it was too much. Its disgusting to admit that you eat anything when you're fat. Let alone 800 calories worth.
She told my boss. My boss asked me to go to the campus nutritionist. I started keeping a food diary. She checked it. A week in I was diagnosed with Anorexia. But I'm fat so I didn't think it was a bad thing.
25 days ago I collapsed. I was having a really bad body image day. I hadn't eaten. I was at the gym. Going hard. Things got blurry I ignired it. I chugged my water. I got dizzy. I pushed through.
I thought I was only dizzy because I was fat and wasnt breathing right.
I blacked out.
I denied an ambulance ride because I knew I couldn't afford it.
I sat in the locker room for a few moment's before driving myself home.
I called my coworker.
She and I have made a food plan.
I get sick when I eat now. Half a cup of yogurt feels like 20 tons in my stomach. But after 23 days.
My hair is falling out less in clumps. More in strands. I'm up to almost 1500 calories a day.
Most of that is peanut butter. Its a start.
But all of this could have been handled earlier if doctors had noticed the signs of my ED as an ED and not as anything else.
I'm sorry you went through that and I'm glad you're getting help! I was developing an ED, but my sister started making meals for me and I don't like to waste food so I ate it all
I'm so proud of you. I'm going through a similar situation and I don't know you but it takes a lot or strength and power to talk about this and be open. I'm glad you're doing better 💖
Got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Was told by my mother that I was just looking for attention and being a drama queen. Several years of therapy and a move later, I no longer talk to my mom and I’m getting the help I actually need.
I have social anxiety and I've heard some gems such as:
"Chill with your social anxiety!"
"If you didn't want to come, you could have just said so!"
And, from a stranger:
"You know that's not real, right? Big deal, you don't like talking to people!"
I hate those types of people, they're always the ones who act like they know whether you have a certain mental illness or not and treat it like it's nothing.
"chill with your social anxiety" yea. not saying that that's exactly what i'm trynna do but you do you
I also have social anxiety but I am to scared to tell my family that I want to see a therapist or psychiatrist to identify my illness because I know they will think I am overreacting or just being silly even though I KNOW in MY HEART that I have social anxiety because of my attacks.
I’m only twelve but I have social anxiety. I desperately want to see a psychiatrist but my parents would never believe. They’d think it’s a joke.
That last one-
**Deep Breath**
*SO MUCH INTERNAL SCREAMING*
I've been trying to get help for 19 years. They keep telling me its just anxiety but I KNOW its more. And my depression is so bad, I can barely function.
Carrie Lopez at least that's all you have and people know about it
Arycath that is not all I have, that's what I'm saying. I truly believe I have something called Pure O. Its a form of OCD. It has been most of my life in torment and now, 2 out of my 4 kids are showing signs of OCD and getting help but my own doctors and therapists won't listen to ME.
Index exactly, thank you.
Keep trying! You'll get there, stand your ground and fight for what you know is right. I believe in you! Hugs from a stranger :)
Pienepon I feel like crying seeing this. I often wonder about the state of the world but to see kind strangers as yourself, makes me have more faith. Thank you and hugs right back!
having struggled with anorexia that quite literally put me on my death bed, this was so touching and whoever the blonde girl is, thank you. you are an inspiration. & you are beautiful.
Hannah Graham her name is Devin and u can find her on ladylike
It’s Cho Chang, y’all.
She's so true, depression enters your life when everything is just perfect..its horrible I'm going through depression right now..
I want to hug all of them 😢❤️
I've struggled with mental health problems pretty much my entire life. Panic attacks, eating disorders, severe mood swings, dysphoria... They put me on Prozac when i was 13. It didn't help. When I was about 16, i started to suspect i might be bipolar. My symptoms matched a lot better with Bipolar Disorder than they did with Major Depressive Disorder, my diagnosis at the time. When i brought it up with my psychiatrist, she completely blew me off. She made me feel stupid for even thinking it. I figured, she's the professional, if she says i don't have it, then i don't have it. I continued with the antidepressants. I continued feeling agitated and out of control. I continued feeling completely insane. Then when i was 21, I was diagnosed with type 2 bipolar disorder. I'm on a mood stabilizer now, which helps a lot. I wish my doctor had listened to me back in high school. I still struggle sometimes, but now I'm on the right treatment plan. Thank you for making this video.
As a woman who has PMDD, I have to say that this is totally accurate. Before medication, I spent just a bit over two weeks every month hating life, and shifting between violent rages, to hysterical sobbing, to complete exhaustion and then over again. It's not as simple as mood swings, it is a layered and frankly scary cycle.
What is PMDD
Anna Smith is that what I'm going through?
I also have pmdd and it's awful. I feel like there are two totally different versions of myself and when I'm in the "bad stage" I just spend all my time wishing I could feel like me again. The dread of it coming back after you feel better is also so hard to live with.
Essie. A pre menstrual dysmorphic disorder
I agree. Forget trying to have any type of relationship either. I would hit such a low it was scary. I love when she said do not listen to your mind when it tells you you are a loser. You are not a loser!
I have Insomnia & Depression. I have lived with this for 2 years, And I just got therapy. I was scared about telling people about my Depression. I get better each session and I just started getting better. But the stress and social anxiety sticks with me, Causing me Insomnia. For anyone going through this,
*I AM HERE FOR YOU*
This will so many, young and not so young, women. I lost most of my family and my friends when they decided all I wanted was attention. I could work if I wanted to. Or the one I loved the most "It's all in your head". A mantra of mine and ill share with you " If you ever find yourself down again, there is always an upside".
Michele Nakamura once you reach rock bottom their is no way left to go but up💖
The “it’s all in your head” drives me insane. I also have a gi disease but since only one study can show it most doctors don’t believe it, especially if you don’t follow the symptoms to a T.
Yes I had a similar experience, I don’t have much in life due to this illness, such as any outside experience, relationships etc it even stops me eating to a great extent. But I won’t let it beat me.
Michele Nakamura "it's all in your head" yeah that's kinda what happens when you have a MENTAL ILLNESS... AN ILLNESS... OF THE BRAIN...
Can we just say he seems like the best boyfriend ever
I suffer from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome and I was miss diagnosed with acid reflex for the first 6 years of my life because the doctors said I was faking it but no one understands how hard it is to live with this disorder because at one moment you could be fine and the next you'll be screaming in pain because you feel like knifes are stabbing at your stomach. I am 13 years old and I have lived with this disorder for 13 years and I've almost wanted to end my life until I got a new doctor in 2013 and he has been amazing sense then and he's helped me cope with stress and how to distract myself from this. I am glad I am still alive and that I have good friends that love me and I'm glad that I have two friends that have disorders and know exactly what I'm going threw, my friend Akaysha suffers with depression and she came to school the other day with a jacket on and I asked " why are you wearing a jacket?" And she pulled me into the bathroom and pulled up one of her sleeves and there were cut marks on her arm, she thought I was gonna be mad at her but I just gave her a hug and told her that I wasn't mad at her. My other friend Brook suffers with anxiety and when she is upset she always comes to me for help because she knows that I can help her get threw it.
Rhiannon Griego weird, I'm 13 and was also diagnosed with acid reflux, can't even imagine what that whole situation must've been like though. Stay strong x
My mom doesn’t believe I have a problem either. When she found out I had been self harming, she brushed it off and told me that I was attention seeking. She said I had absolutely no reason to be feeling like this, making it seem like it was wrong. A while later she said I’d speak with someone, but I never end up actually seeing anyone. My friends don’t take it very seriously either, they usually just keep quiet. I have had many suicidal thoughts but I haven’t ever attempted.
last year, i broke down at school & i had to go to the counselors. it was something my parents said, & my mom still tells me those things. i’ve told the counselor how i felt & all these things that i hate myself & that i want to die & it was a big deal for like 3 days but my parents never took it seriously bc they don’t get it. the counselor recommended therapy & my dad said i didn’t need it bc i have all the happiness in the world & all my friends think that i’m just crazy & weird for feeling this way but really i’m just extremely unhappy & i hate myself so much & i want to die & this has been going on for 4 damn years & i’ve been trying to get help but i don’t know how bc no one will help me & now every time i talk about this i don’t feel sad anymore i just feel empty bc i’m so used to the feeling & oh my god
stephanie I'm sorry you go through that. I'm lucky enough to have a dad that understands my mental health issues. If you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me. My wattpad is AmePsychoFOB if you ever want to talk.
I havent gone through as much as you but i understand , keep trying, and if it dosent work pop down into the comment sections of videos like these and you have found a community of people who understand .
I feel you. I honestly don't know if I have depression and anxiety. I sometimes feel crappy and want to die. Go online and do these tests that say whether or not you have depression. Your parents are abusive. Use online therapy. I am trying to help you out.
Ps I am not being rude to you at all.
Therapy. Tell your counselor and friends that you need help finding a therapist. If someone says "it's all in your head," you can say, "Yeah, imagine if all throughout your head, with every thought, you just wanted to hurt yourself. Isn't the brain, aside from the heart and lungs, the most important organ to have working properly?" It's real, and to quote Amy Poehler, "you will someday feel at least 51% okay" if you are able to get professional help and be kind to yourself. You are loved and valuable, even though it doesn't feel that way.
You will be ok and depression is difficult to get through but you will always be you, and there is another side eventually. You are NOT crazy or weird for being ill, and those who believe it are 100% mistaken. If you can find more positive and understanding people to surround yourself with then please do, if not just know that I understand depression and I had similar issues to you and I know how horrible and overwhelming it is, and I know you wish it never developed. Lots of love xxx
When thinking about mental illness (or any illness really) we have to remember that the brain and body are not disconnected. Mental illnesses have many physical components (and vice versa for physical illnesses) because the brain and spinal chord are what control the rest of body, like how depression can cause fatigue or anxiety can cause increased heart rate. The brain and everything that happens within it is still a physical, and real, and no less important than the rest of your body.
Hi
In my bio class we did a lab involving heart rate. My rhr was 125 but then after the first part of the lab it went down to 92. I was labeled an anomaly but running and exercise are coping mechanisms for me and calm me down before my heart rate goes into exercise mode.
I am an 11 year old with a lot of mental health issues and since most of my family understand , i cant realate but i hope that people realise that mental heath is no joke , it is a very serious matter and we need to take it seriously.
Hello Ginger you’re insanely beautiful
I’m 13 and relate very much
And there are always people who say, "it's just hormones, it'll go away." They're dismissing the fact that, even if it *is* -just- a hormonal imbalance, it's still affecting you, it can still ruin your life and development, it's still something that requires help.
I started to have ED/SH habits and major depression and (probably) social anxiety at age 10, when puberty hit me like a hurricane. I want to cry for my younger self, because if I had gotten into therapy THEN AND THERE (and found a good match--not everyone is going to be good for you), I may not have had to put up with an abusive home, I may not have taken the bullying as hard as I did, and I may have stopped my destructive behaviors before they came back with a vengeance at ages 17 and 19 and 23. Things were almost okay at 13 and 14, but I was living with my mom, who cared and listened and didn't judge. She even had some helpful tips, like breathing exercises.
I'm 24 and a half, now, and I can tell you that *it can get better,* it will probably be hard, and you will be fighting yourself for a long time. The best weapons are patience, kindness, and consistency.
Mental illness is like an abuser, one who lives inside your head and never leaves, even if they may shut up for awhile. I understand, and I believe you.
Therapy, and for awhile, medication, were amazing for me, and I think they could work for you, too. If you have access to apps, _Wysa_ is a free app that can be like therapy. It has resources, and it helps you improve your self-talk. I also recommend exercising (moderately) and drinking enough water. Meditation has been amazing, too, and there are many free guided meditation resources, even here on youtube.
Also, I recommend checking out Kati Morton's youtube channel--she has loads of videos on nearly every disorder under the sun, usually topical, tho with ED/SH, she specializes.
TL;DR
You are not alone. There are resources and people who *want* to help you, have even gone through what you're experiencing.
definitely.
Finding someone who can understand and help you is the most important thing to help you get through it
I have anxiety,depression and anger issues. People don’t believe me. I told someone then they talked behind my back and said “If someone really had depression they wouldn’t go telling everyone.” Well I hope they realize that I didn’t go to the hospital for a week and one day for nothing.
Edit: Also I’ve gotta add that the fact that my mom has arthritis, a port going into her heart, OCD, anxiety, and has had over 5 surgeries. My Older sister has ulcerative colitis, OCD and anxiety, and my second oldest sister has Crohn’s disease and depression. That puts my brother and I at a very high risk for those diseases as well. My brother has ADHD and anger issues. My dad has a hernia that he can’t pay to get fixed at the moment because we are already paying so much for medication, doctors appointments, and surgeries. I try to appreciate what I’ve got in life but it’s hard when my parents barely have any money because of all the things we pay for, and because of how unfortunate my families health is.
Urpupdixie I think you are my personality twin. I also have depression, anxiety and anger issues. Wow! But the same exact thing happens to me.
Wow, poor you turning to TH-cam for sympathy
Nikkiyya Cooper - Evans TH-cam comments is not the place to reach out for help considering you are anonymous
Nikkiyya Cooper - Evans you have become best friends with people whose names aren’t even known to you? How even? Besides, everyone has issues and maybe this persons issue is lying to people on TH-cam comments who are suckers, like you.
And now, if you are done reasoning with an idiotic genius who is going through their awkward phase( hence my extremely flawed logic) then have at it, after all, I’m only an emotionally detached 13 year old in the midst of my parents’ raging divorce, but hey, if that’s not what makes psychotic sociopaths, then what does?
Time to throw my story Into the ring.
So for years I tried to tell people, friends, family and professionals alike, that there was something wrong with me because I was slowly losing the ability to handle life. I hated everything, I found no joy in things I used to. And most importantly I hated myself. No one tried to actually help me until I attempted to commit suicide this past summer. Now suddenly some people care. I was so pissed off when my mom and aunt told me that I should have told them how much pain it was in. I am getting a bit of help now but there are people who still don't believe me like my dad. I tried to explain to him that I'm not ready to go back to work yet but he just tells me that I am physically able to work so I should be fine.
Found myself in a similar situation although I didn't fall so far. I'm lucky that my family are very supportive. I'm so thankful you survived, and I know you'll get stronger 💚 for me, focusing on myself is what's made my journey easier. I don't tell friends or family about the little things I do to make things better unless it comes up. And I don't take their opinions to heart. Médiation saved me. People snigger when I say that, but it doesn't change the fact I was having daily panic attacks and that I'm not anymore. Youre not alone, and your journey is yours alone. You can do this, and you will 👊👊👊
You can get through this! I’m here for you I don’t know you but I’m here
I have dissociative identity disorder due to several traumatic experiences I couldn't cope with. there have been so many people who think I'm delusional, including my mother. my first therapist wanted to integrate my alters and I didn't want that because they are like my family, they protect me, they're always there. now I'm 18, functioning normally with my alters still here, we set time aside for them, and I'm proud to prove the people in the mental health profession that think integration is the only cure.
sinhalite i agree with not intagrating the alters cause they are definitely family, with my condition it is similar to Dissociative except if the situation is so dire it requires qualities from all 5 alters they will become a collective where they are all "awake" at the same time. But rarely there has been a situation that extreme. I'm just gonna finish up with: Keep on going!
I hope both of your systems are doing well!
I have DID too, and long story short, existing is very hard for me.
Lyra Evergreen crazy club.
"I seemed fine but I know I DIDN'T feel it " this hits hard 😭😭
I’ve been having an extremely tough night and this is exactly what I needed. Thank you to everyone who shared their story. I’m struggling with depression, endometriosis, anxiety and panic disorder at the moment and seeing people open up about their mental illnesses and acknowledging how real it actually is makes me feel like I can get through this. I am in tears right now because seeing videos like these is incredible. I hope anyone struggling in any way shape or form with mental illness knows that there are people who are here for you and believe you and will fight for you. Much love ❤️
jxmie c prayers for you
"try to reach out" well unless ur a teen with anxiety and depression but gets dismissed as some hormones and stress... then i guess ur on ur own for now
many people do dismiss teens, but there is still help out there. Even if it's joining an online support group, talking to a school counselor, talking to a teacher, talking to a family member or friend. It can be really hard, but things will change, and that change can come quicker if you're able to find help
Playa Loop mentally ill teenagers are rare, it’s usually hormones
For real though my mom said i only have anxiety because of hormones
@@yaboi8383 They are actually not rare at all. Teenage is one of the times when mental illness is most often developed for people. I don't remember the actual percentages but they are pretty high. Like 15% or something will get a mental illness.
Playa Loop
OH MY GOSH.... YAASS. Thank you!!
it’s sad to see people who judge people by their flaws, and don’t see their beauty
I remember telling 2 mental health professionals that I saw regularly and my mom that I thought I was autistic and none of them believed me. I was incredibly discouraged. A year later I finally decided it was time to try finding someone who would actually listen to me. I found someone who specializes in adult autism online, made an appointment, and got diagnosed 3 months ago. Never stop fighting for yourself! You deserve to be heard.
Huge thanks to these girls for talking about their illnesses. I know for many people it is the hardest thing to come out with it. Even harder is accepting it. But it is the first huge step in the right direction.
I struggle with depression anxiety and ADHD and everyday i feel like I'm crazy a lot of shame and a lot of fatigue. Im always paranoid and self diagnosing searching things on the internet witch didn't help at all and um my boyfriend told me that i had these problems for attention and I'm stupid and that i was crazy and um i wanted to be like this to get friends. So all because of my problems i have no friends people at stores look at me like I'm crazy or they are scared of me. Im never social people know me for being sad all the time and i can never explain how i feel. I can never control my anger my family has mental illnesses but i feel like they don't understand because they say the things normal people would say like Oh its ok it'll get better. i just feel horrible everyday and for some reason the only place i feel happy is in the hospital because everyone is so nice and i can talk about my problems normally there and no body judges. if you people think I'm doing it for attention on here no I'm not i just want to get it all out on here.
Hey hun, I honestly think you should talk to a school nurse (if you’re in school) I’m from the UK but the school nurses here tend to also help with mental health along side with anything physical. She/he can then hopefully refer you to someone who can help you. If not, I recommend a councillor who you can talk about your problems to (who can also refer you to any other people who can help if necessary). Trust me, it’s nice to be able to get a lot of crap off your chest and to be given some advice about what to do with any problems as well as having someone to support you. You might feel conscious about the councillor judging you or the school nurse, but just let it all out because it’s honestly worth it in the end and their job is to help you at the end of the day by not judging you.
I know that you probably feel fed up, down and depressed but it’s going to be OK. If you find the right people you can get help and learn how to cope which will then eventually lead you to feel better. You’re not seeking for attention you’re really just crying out for help. Hang in there- it gets better over time ❣️
I feel the same because if I tell someone about it and the say the word mental illness it’s such a trigger and it makes me feel like I’m insane
Ari Love you know what can help? Try having a diary!! That helped me alot causr I would always write down what I feel and that feeling of explosion actually helped me a lot...Also try reading a book about self improvment, that can alter the way you see things. You will eventually start having happy thoughts about yourself. And last, if your friends think you qre fake and you are doing this for attention just stop being their friend/lover. Stay away from toxic people or people that judge you and nake you feel bad. Really just stay away. Try finding more positive people to spend your time!! That is what I did and it worked and I hope I can help you that way. Either way, try to stay positive and calm baby girl. Be grateful for what you have and appreciate your beautiful and unique self!!
I have all those too
Ari Love I also have adhd and depression and really bad anxiety and I get annoyed and angry easily and pills helps a lot and I’m 14 and 5’4 and 85 pounds
all of you are so brave to share your stories like this. I would not even begin to say anything about what was happening to me. I applaud you and I admire you guy's persistence in your journeys'. you all are an inspiration.
This just helped me realize that I'm not alone with my PMDD disorder. It has caused me to loose so many good people and now i know I'm not alone. 🗣️❤🙏 THANK YOU!
I have anxiety and one thing that drives my mind crazy is when people say its all in your head. No it is not in my head, i cant control it its something that just shows up when it wants to.
People don't believe me when i tell them that i have depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and i'm also struggling with eating disorders.
Sometimes when i have a meltdown in school i cry, and my so called "friends" laugh, thinking that i'm faking it for attention.
They often say "It's not a big deal don't be such a crybaby" "Why do you want to get attention by doing that?".
I've been struggling with it since i was 7, and recently it has become much much worse.
You probably don't care about it but thanks if you read it all.
Self diagnosed?
No,i've been to the psychologist in numerous ocasions and she told me that i had depression,anxiety,bipolar disorder and anorexy.
ʟᴏᴏᴋ,ɪ'ᴍ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴇᴀᴅ sʜᴇᴇᴘ ɪɴ ᴄʜɪɴᴀ I feel you. Kids always say that mental illness isn't a thing, but then what do I have? I have depression and anxiety, and at first, kids thought that I was doing it for attention. Karma is my very best friend.
(I'm not good at interacting with anyone already and I am about to have my friday night breakdown so please appreciate this following mess I'll try to gather)
Those people are not real friends I'd rather call them 'classmates with whom you can have conversations on a regular basis'. I don't know your situation so I strongly advise to 'get a real friend' you know the kind of who have grown out of their teen-psychopathy, has sympathy and is mature enough to discuss deeper stuff. And I don't know if you've tried or not but writing to facebook pages or such (I know, cliché)
And another TRUE cliché is that you are beautiful, inside-out, you are enough and just an amazing human being and I hope that you will get better because you deserve it.
(Also I'm not fluent in english so my apology if I messed up something)
Are you from China?( it’s okay I’m not racist or anything it’s just your name...hahahah) Because if you are, I want to tell you that I know how hard it is for a person IN CHINA to let somebody believe that they have a serious mental illness
I think a really difficult part about recovering from anorexia is that a lot of us are reluctant to seek recovery because of the crippling fear of gaining weight.
I used to be eighty pounds. I’ve gained forty. I’m eating, so people think it’s okay now. But I feel like my eating disorder has never been worse.
Just remember you are beautiful, and when you feel ready for it, recovery is always an option. (i'm trying to recover myself) The voice is wrong.
If you can you should go see a therapist; if you can't because you're not supported by your family or because it's hard in your area or because it's too expensive try watching videos on youtube with people overcoming your same issue, it might help you even just a little bit. eating again and gaining weight it's a start but until you realize that food is your fuel and not your enemy you will probably keep having problems with eating. also, working out while eating as healthy and clean as you can might help a bit. please stay strong!
In Know what it feels like, I have OCD, and Mild hints of ADHD, ADD and other things, sometimes I do the randomest things in class, because of my OCD. I wont go into detail of them, its personal. But I remember when my "friend' leaked it out to the school. I was called names like, "attention seeker" and "fake". My heart shattered into smaller pieces everytime I heard that. Rumors went arounds our school, and somehow spread to the next town over. I just stopped trying, and gave up a little on life. Kids would make of me, and do things with my OCD just to see me do it. I suffered a lot at that time and I still suffer from those disorders, and from those people. Just so you know, your situation will get better. :)