Please stop saying you are not a professional. You have given me the clearest and more relatable insight about narcissists even more than professionals.
I would also like to see a video on narcissists and having cats as pets . I think they use pets for supply , how can they really love pets when they can’t even love people that they claimed to have loved !
It's so funny your analysis of how narcissist don't share funny stuff. every time I would try to share something funny with my narcissistic ex he would not find it funny. he would look at it and act non interested in whatever I was sharing. These people are so awkward and draining. I'm not sure how I put up with his bs for three years. so over it! Thank God.
Something my narcissistic ex did a lot was to make sexual or otherwise inappropriate jokes that he knew made me uncomfortable. I don't think I ever fully understood his motivation. Part of it was probably the thrill of provoking a negative reaction in me (I'd just glare or roll my eyes or try to joke back about his gutter humour) and knowing I wouldn't/couldn't do anything to stop him... but I feel like he also watched my reactions really carefully like he was collecting data to use later. Anyway, thinking about it still gives me the creepy crawlies. Major red flag if I ever encounter that again.
Great video!!! I just broke up with a narcissistic abuser and now he’s gaslighting in a very immature way saying he’s “sarcastically joking” & “too bad I can’t take a joke anymore”. It’s truly disgusting this kind of behavior from a grown man
I love this video. This video could be titled. "The Biggest Let Down." "When you discover you are married to a narcissist." That was the most shocking and devastating thing to learn. That the jovial, confident guy wasn't who he pretended to be all these years. All the insults disguised as jokes. All the gaslighting. The blame shifting. You aren't just unloved. They have a feeling of disdain for you. Mistrust. For no apparent reason. Now I know it is plain insecurity. And, desperation. Everything about them is trouble.
You are absolutely right!!!! My brother does not use humor to put others down but he does non-stop joking as a way of forcing others to have to laugh at them even when they are not funny. He works so hard at it that it is agonizing. It is impossible to hold a normal conversation without making everything a joke. I am convinced that the non-stip joking is a way of demeaning things we are saying. He forces people to laugh when they don't feel what he says is funny. This sort of manipulates them to pay attention to him, in his mind making him seem like a fun person. Making a joke is keeping attention on themselves and even an opportunity to accuse someone of not having a sense of humor when they do not laugh at their humor. Natural humor is fun, but telling jokes just to joke is a form of control over others.
Thank you for explaining this, I see now that they use humour as an attack, and so they assume that I was doing that, when of course I wasn't. They misunderstand and go silent for several days. Really horrible. I wish they could be treated, (fat chance.) Yes, their 'humour' is jeering, mocking, schadenfreude.
I just thought of a couple of narcissists I know and they used humour for attention. I was just thinking how they reminded me of a baby. Dyou know when you laugh at something a baby is doing and then they do it again and again, but at the same time they are intensely watching you and your reactions….. some narcissists do that too , strange people Nawh he’s lovely 🥰. Take care Marshal.
Yeah I agree some narcissists are really witty, sharp. Others not so much. But I think a lot of them are exactly what you are describing. There’s a wickedness about them isn’t there 👍🏻. Great description. Hope you’re all okay and well. Take care and thank you ☺️
Thanks so much for this insightful video! I haven't seen this topic discussed before. What an interesting insight about using laughter to create trust with others and therefore probably to grease the wheels of manipulation, so interesting and accurate. Most of the narcissists whom I've known have considered themselves to have a great sense of humor and cracked 'jokes' a lot--jokes that were incredibly immature or cruel. As you point out, on the flip side, they rarely recognized true humor. So spot on that they compete with class clowns, these type of people drive them nuts. I've known narcissists who share things that they find funny when they have found it alone, mostly videos however so there is a kind of audience they're part of with that or cruel humor of seeing someone fall or look bad, which is really derision masked as humor.
The narcissist will say something stupid, immature, crude, or disrespectful, then laugh at his own "joke", look at you looking confused, grossed out, bored, uninterested, hurt, horrified, or mortified, and then they will stop smiling and say, "I think I'm funny."
I think that they look on social media and regurgitate "those" jokes as their own. You know, like they came up with them. It's only a theory, but I think they steal them.
OMG I do have an exception. The big narcissist in our circle is pushing nonstop memes on our group chat. They flood us so everyone else's comments get pushed out of view. We even started a separate chat with only half of us so we could actually communicate about meaningful things. ❤
Its been a while since ive said the over used statement that they are all the same.. but if the glove fits...obviously its interwoven with nuances of preference. The times when I saw a glimpse of humor was just before a passive aggressive correction of a thought or belief that was shared. Nothing much, just something anyone could agree on. Really your chasing a connecting link that really never happens. Analyzing it now, it was the opportunity to school you. Not a coincidence I believe if it person was raised by two carreer "educators". Both of highly suspected traits. Thats great if its genuine care or concern. Its not. Its control and manipulation in hindsight that's prevalent throughout their life. If only there was a " Narc Fax Report" to check. But at the time its usually ' no need to know whats a narcissist' ? As always i stray into other than vlog topic, but here goes. Its the fact that you can be primary supply without being priority supply. But no one is a 'priority' supply beyond the narcs exploratory supply expedition looking for subjects willing to sustain the affliction at length. But even then their not priority, just a temporary adoring fan. Yes when the normally all business narc is finding humor its at someone's expense. Always for a transactional and manipulative mantra. Very good video for those questioning a sense of humor that mystified.
My ex used humor in serious circumstances and was serious when others told jokes. He watched cartoons and had a bigoted, immature sense of humour. He’d get defensive but I was supposed to laugh at all of his terrible jokes
My ex watched conspiracy channels , sometimes she would send me link to watch some of these people and I found them total nut cases so I stopped even clicking on the links she would send . Other thing she was into was watching forensic files
Have you heard from males who were in relationship with a covert narcissist and what their experience was in bed with them . I was in such a relationship and sex was so unfulfilling that I can’t even describe , I felt I was having sex with a dead body and her engagement in sex was just an investment to get me attached. It felt like she was just going through motions . I hope you would do a video on this aspect of the relationship
now that i think about it, my ex would send me videos she found funny... often they were prank videos that involved people getting hurt, sometimes quite badly? i found it kind of disturbing at the time
She lacked a mature sense of humor, only thought 3's Company John Ritter slapstick was funny. She even copied her grandmother's style of laughter, obviously forced. And said I had no sense of humor.
My sister used to have parties 😂and invite her gay friends who i really 😍, they were so funny, we were drunk and stoned but i used to have such a great time, but now we're older, I beca,e aware that she never smiled or laughed, there was no lightness just a continual mean harassment of me and this superiority game, everything was a competition, she was just a miserable, mean person to be around, it and i would come away feeling ashamed and depressed! The other one is the same bit different but much same! became
My experience with narc's humour - sarcasm, sneers ...
humor at the expense of someone else, to put someone else down and enjoying that .
Please stop saying you are not a professional. You have given me the clearest and more relatable insight about narcissists even more than professionals.
She's really helping me as well I agree
@@bohammondlee7472 Absolutely! Very clear! Very right on!!!! She is shinning a light!!! Thank you!!! So helpful!!!
I would also like to see a video on narcissists and having cats as pets . I think they use pets for supply , how can they really love pets when they can’t even love people that they claimed to have loved !
It's so funny your analysis of how narcissist don't share funny stuff. every time I would try to share something funny with my narcissistic ex he would not find it funny. he would look at it and act non interested in whatever I was sharing. These people are so awkward and draining. I'm not sure how I put up with his bs for three years. so over it! Thank God.
Oh yeah! I can relate to that! Good observation! Like they don’t want to give you the credit for having found something funny.
Yes exactly! I noticed this with him too! Anything I said he wasn’t interested in but I had to give him 💯 attention when he was speaking !!!
Saw the NEX 30 years after the divorce; he sternly admonished me with: “I don’t get jokes” when I said something funny to lighten the meeting.
i would share something w my ex and she would often plainly state she "didn't get it" even though it was usually pretty self explanatory
Something my narcissistic ex did a lot was to make sexual or otherwise inappropriate jokes that he knew made me uncomfortable. I don't think I ever fully understood his motivation. Part of it was probably the thrill of provoking a negative reaction in me (I'd just glare or roll my eyes or try to joke back about his gutter humour) and knowing I wouldn't/couldn't do anything to stop him... but I feel like he also watched my reactions really carefully like he was collecting data to use later. Anyway, thinking about it still gives me the creepy crawlies. Major red flag if I ever encounter that again.
Great video!!!
I just broke up with a narcissistic abuser and now he’s gaslighting in a very immature way saying he’s “sarcastically joking” & “too bad I can’t take a joke anymore”. It’s truly disgusting this kind of behavior from a grown man
I love this video. This video could be titled. "The Biggest Let Down." "When you discover you are married to a narcissist."
That was the most shocking and devastating thing to learn.
That the jovial, confident guy wasn't who he pretended to be all these years.
All the insults disguised as jokes. All the gaslighting.
The blame shifting. You aren't just unloved. They have a feeling of disdain for you. Mistrust. For no apparent reason.
Now I know it is plain insecurity. And, desperation. Everything about them is trouble.
You are absolutely right!!!! My brother does not use humor to put others down but he does non-stop joking as a way of forcing others to have to laugh at them even when they are not funny. He works so hard at it that it is agonizing. It is impossible to hold a normal conversation without making everything a joke. I am convinced that the non-stip joking is a way of demeaning things we are saying. He forces people to laugh when they don't feel what he says is funny. This sort of manipulates them to pay attention to him, in his mind making him seem like a fun person. Making a joke is keeping attention on themselves and even an opportunity to accuse someone of not having a sense of humor when they do not laugh at their humor. Natural humor is fun, but telling jokes just to joke is a form of control over others.
Yes they all dish it out but absolutely cannot take it in return
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Thank you for explaining this, I see now that they use humour as an attack, and so they assume that I was doing that, when of course I wasn't. They misunderstand and go silent for several days. Really horrible. I wish they could be treated, (fat chance.)
Yes, their 'humour' is jeering, mocking, schadenfreude.
I just thought of a couple of narcissists I know and they used humour for attention. I was just thinking how they reminded me of a baby. Dyou know when you laugh at something a baby is doing and then they do it again and again, but at the same time they are intensely watching you and your reactions….. some narcissists do that too , strange people
Nawh he’s lovely 🥰. Take care Marshal.
Oh that’s a good analogy. Interesting. Marshall says hi!
Yeah I agree some narcissists are really witty, sharp. Others not so much. But I think a lot of them are exactly what you are describing. There’s a wickedness about them isn’t there 👍🏻. Great description.
Hope you’re all okay and well. Take care and thank you ☺️
Thanks so much for this insightful video! I haven't seen this topic discussed before. What an interesting insight about using laughter to create trust with others and therefore probably to grease the wheels of manipulation, so interesting and accurate. Most of the narcissists whom I've known have considered themselves to have a great sense of humor and cracked 'jokes' a lot--jokes that were incredibly immature or cruel. As you point out, on the flip side, they rarely recognized true humor. So spot on that they compete with class clowns, these type of people drive them nuts. I've known narcissists who share things that they find funny when they have found it alone, mostly videos however so there is a kind of audience they're part of with that or cruel humor of seeing someone fall or look bad, which is really derision masked as humor.
The narcissist will say something stupid, immature, crude, or disrespectful, then laugh at his own "joke", look at you looking confused, grossed out, bored, uninterested, hurt, horrified, or mortified, and then they will stop smiling and say, "I think I'm funny."
Omg I laugh at something genuinely funny at work and half of the guys just get all bitter and have a refusal to give in laugh with me.
I think that they look on social media and regurgitate "those" jokes as their own. You know, like they came up with them.
It's only a theory, but I think they steal them.
OMG I do have an exception. The big narcissist in our circle is pushing nonstop memes on our group chat. They flood us so everyone else's comments get pushed out of view. We even started a separate chat with only half of us so we could actually communicate about meaningful things.
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twisted dark humours.
Well put together video
Its been a while since ive said the over used statement that they are all the same.. but if the glove fits...obviously its interwoven with nuances of preference. The times when I saw a glimpse of humor was just before a passive aggressive correction of a thought or belief that was shared. Nothing much, just something anyone could agree on. Really your chasing a connecting link that really never happens. Analyzing it now, it was the opportunity to school you. Not a coincidence I believe if it person was raised by two carreer "educators". Both of highly suspected traits. Thats great if its genuine care or concern. Its not. Its control and manipulation in hindsight that's prevalent throughout their life. If only there was a " Narc Fax Report" to check. But at the time its usually ' no need to know whats a narcissist' ? As always i stray into other than vlog topic, but here goes. Its the fact that you can be primary supply without being priority supply. But no one is a 'priority' supply beyond the narcs exploratory supply expedition looking for subjects willing to sustain the affliction at length. But even then their not priority, just a temporary adoring fan. Yes when the normally all business narc is finding humor its at someone's expense. Always for a transactional and manipulative mantra. Very good video for those questioning a sense of humor that mystified.
This was my upbringing.
About your question, maybe it's the same mechanism as yawning, narcissists don't seem to yawn when someone else yawns.
My ex used humor in serious circumstances and was serious when others told jokes. He watched cartoons and had a bigoted, immature sense of humour. He’d get defensive but I was supposed to laugh at all of his terrible jokes
The narcissist has satire instead of humor
Clarify please
Not satire rather sarcasm
humor at the expense of someone else, to put someone else down and enjoying that .
I’m going to have some gleeful schadenfreude when my narcissistic ex gets hit with his karma.
Humor? Humor? My sister doesnt even understand sarcasm. She's nearly 60.
My sisters seem to be devoid of humour,
Brilliant video. X❤
My ex watched conspiracy channels , sometimes she would send me link to watch some of these people and I found them total nut cases so I stopped even clicking on the links she would send . Other thing she was into was watching forensic files
Have you heard from males who were in relationship with a covert narcissist and what their experience was in bed with them . I was in such a relationship and sex was so unfulfilling that I can’t even describe , I felt I was having sex with a dead body and her engagement in sex was just an investment to get me attached. It felt like she was just going through motions . I hope you would do a video on this aspect of the relationship
now that i think about it, my ex would send me videos she found funny... often they were prank videos that involved people getting hurt, sometimes quite badly? i found it kind of disturbing at the time
100%
I found her laughters as fake
She lacked a mature sense of humor, only thought 3's Company John Ritter slapstick was funny. She even copied her grandmother's style of laughter, obviously forced. And said I had no sense of humor.
My sister used to have parties 😂and invite her gay friends who i really 😍, they were so funny, we were drunk and stoned but i used to have such a great time, but now we're older, I beca,e aware that she never smiled or laughed, there was no lightness just a continual mean harassment of me and this superiority game, everything was a competition, she was just a miserable, mean person to be around, it and i would come away feeling ashamed and depressed! The other one is the same bit different but much same! became
He had 12 year old humor and that's okay, but he'd get mad at me for not finding something funny.
She wasn't funny if that's humor