People should avoid conflict. Problems, on the other hand, can't be helped & should be solved. And yes, there's a difference between problems & conflict.
6. Being indecisive. 7. Falling in love every 6 months (being a sucker for love). 8. Don't need validation from others (outside validation). 9. Don't let the woman do all of the hard work/solve problems. 10. Be able to express your true feelings - hiding your true feelings; but (caution).. not be overly emotional.
Avoiding conflict means not to get arrested because she runs her mouth.. I known alot of dude's in jail 4 putting hands on there girl because of there mouth..
Amen! Women don't realize if they speak positive, believe in you, and appreciate you.. we will go over and beyond to make them happy.. if Obama didn't have Michelle he would not have been president of the united states with our her support
@@peterturayjr1209 facts! A women I believe can make or break us. A good positive woman can push us men to another level in life. Is just meeting that one!
I had a big problem with #2. I was always the nice guy. The guy that couldn't say no. Not only will your lady take advantage of you (if you have a lady like that) but you will burn yourself out. Fortunately my lady of 6 months didn't take advantage of me, but she was shocked when I told her no for the first time. She wasn't used to it, but we talked it out, and she was understanding. She said, "If you don't want to do something just tell me. If I get upset I'll get over it. OK?" From that moment on I knew she was a keeper.
Don't. It's concerning if a person, forget a man, if a PERSON always says yes to everything at one point you would wonder are they even enjoying it? Do they actually like the things I cooked today? Are they actually agreeing with me? If lying then why? Am I that intimidating? It would drive the other person to always be on edge whether you actually like it or not because trust me, your partner wants u to be happy
And always put yourself first along side your partner never AFTER them. Say yes only if it IS actually a yes. Otherwise those partners who care about you would doubt themselves and the partner who does not care about you will take advantage.
Nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as you aren't passive aggressive. I have most of these traits, which is why I struggle with dating, though I do think I have ambitions though it took a long time to discover my life purpose.
Avoiding conflict ! He let people walk all over him. Take advantage, he is too nice, and people see him as a sucker. When I bring it to his attention he says “ I don’t want conflict “. You are right , I don’t feel protected. It’s a sign of weakness. Also, he is too emotional. He rather give me the silent treatment than talk. I’m done ❌
Man!!! There’s a lot of dudes that need to see this. I’m in my 40’s and I learned a lot of these on my own. Wish I’d learned them sooner but hey…I’m good tho! This was on point! Thanks man and keep it up
Brother, you got EVERYTHING right! From top to bottom. Everything you covered is spot on! As a woman and from a woman's view point, I would say that all of the those indicators of a weak man are exactly what I see in a weak man. Please keep dropping those gems!
I married this man 😫 I realize now that I stayed with him because he would do, or try to do all the things I wanted. After we got married, he started being passive aggressive and resentful because he couldn’t stand up for himself. He’s no longer living here.
You got it right bro. Women also need to support and encourage their men in starting businesses, taking extra courses on new subjects, getting ahead at the office. I didn't get that support often and now I'm wealthy and my ex is struggling financially.
As an emotional guy that has been on both sides of the pendulum I think I would like to see a video on emotional dos and donts thanks bruh your in my routine of self improvement peace to you for your energy output may it return with the same minty freshness peace
Since learning that a "nice guy" is seen as manipulative I've really worked hard to eliminate that habit from my character and personality. I've had to work hard bc I think like a lot of men I was trained early on to be deferential. It's a very hard habit to break, but all things are possible.
And these “coaches” keep capitalizing off the same “spineless” men they are so called helping out by talking about everything about this. This sphere out of hand.
Amen. Men don't even bother. They have no fucking clue what they want. Your Creator and your training are the only things that will never betray you. And even your Creator isn't supporting a couch potato lifestyle.
You got me at the one with getting in love every 6 months, like I don’t mean for it to happen but I can’t get too attached too easily. Hit the bullseye
"They don't wanna guess, they don't wanna be a mind reader" but they expect men to guess and be mind readers. It's annoying. No wonder such ladies turn me off. I have a lot to think about.
Men who can't actively listen. That's another weakness women don't like. When women vent, most of the time, they don't want a solution to their problem and they also don't want a "damn, that's crazy" dude either, merely pretending that he's listening to her. Actively listen, ask questions that you probably already know the answers to and provide some reassurance. Let her know you're on her team. Most of the time, that's all they want when they vent: a guy who is an active listener.
Jeff, IMHO, you got everything right, nothing wrong, and didn't leave anything out in this enlightening Saturday video. Thank you. My only complaint is that I can't burn all of your advice into myself and then be able to just go on auto pilot without thinking. That sure would be great.
👊🏽 on point as usual. I should of had this told to me when I was younger but like many other black men I learned on my own.🤔 I'm not a parent but I would tell my son this "if I had one" .
You're probably not alone. I suspect that Jeff is helping MANY guys who didn't have fathers. He really comes across as a guy who is counselling a younger friend. He's a mentor.
You do not need a child of your own to pass on what you have learned. Teach, mentor and sponsor the next generation; investing in the youth today is investing into all of our futures.
@@ChonkedaDevil I think he already knows that, but I also think it’s especially important to pass this along to our sons to reestablish that continuity of mens knowledge legacy that became broken in so many families over the last few decades. Don’t get me wrong, I also think that mentoring is great and should be encouraged. However, I think it’s of more urgent importance to pass on what we know to the next generation within our own families from father to son whenever possible.
For a quick one Gentle Men 1. Lack of drive /Ambition 1:08 2. Letting women run over 1:50 3. Always blaming everyone else 2:43 4. Not having a life of your own ( being super clingy) 3:23 5. Always avoiding conflict 4:13 6. Being indecisive 5:06 7. Falling in Love every 6 months/being overly in love and loving to quickly 5:57 8. Needing too much outside validation/ seeking outside approval 6:36 9. Letting your woman do all the work especially when handling conflict 7:27 10. Hiding your true feelings 8:11 11. Being overly emotional 9:04 P.S: However, I wish to deferr about hiding your true feelings. Women love to do the chasing, it's best to keep them guessing but show them a little of it, even if you feel it, don't show it. This is my opinion though.
I stumbled upon a very rare person/woman who took the time to see me in my pain. I was 57 at the time. Up to that point in time, no one else had ever done what she did. She took time out from her other job duties to really attend to my pain-- really quite extraordinary. I violated the carnal rule of crying in front of a woman. But tears as such are not an inherent sign of weakness, but of humanness. I know no one who does not have tear ducts, do you? Emotional vulnerability and the expression of that kind of pain must have an outlet or the pain will likely go elsewhere in the body.
Style OG, another great topic. In life, love and in business. You must be able to make a decision. As a father’s of three I tell my kids stand by your decision. You don’t wanna be weak.
Great video and great advice for men of all ages. Women, whether they verbalize it or not, expect their ideal man to be capable of leadership, being a protector and provider. Women can't stand simps and "weak" pushover men. Don't be a nice guy, just be a guy that she respects!
Spot on with everything. Guys that fall for everyone are not attractive. The mild and nice guy is invisible to me. I also start to lose my attraction when I feel he is unable to resolve his problems, acting weak and undecided. Makes me feel like I am mommy. I need to feel that my man makes my life easier and nicer, rather than harder.
What pisses me off is that women want both a man who is stronger than them but at the same time they want to be regarded as equals and they can't have both so they can never be happy
Thanks so much for this video! I agree with your list but would add one thing… A man who doesn’t follow through with his word (or who doesn’t communicate when he’s not able). This causes women to lose faith in their man and relationship quickly. You never want your woman to get used to being disappointed.
You got everything right, damn you should write a script, a book for men to follow. Being in a relationship with a weak man is down right annoying. A woman could never truly love and respect a weak man who cannot defend himself let alone her.
I wish I would've heard this a long time ago. I'm making some of these changes now in my marriage but I'm hoping we're not too far in. Thanks for the video! Peace...
Keep in mind, these are quality women and many out there are substandard. So, surround yourself with the right crowd first before expecting to see results.
I appreciate the teachings they're so profound and important, I think most men should hear this, One other thing is we men must always learn to reflect on certain things.
To be honest Jeff...we could really take these points and apply them to Women as well! Yes we are supposed to bettering ourselves EVERYDAY! But alot of the points you made in this...there are a lot of Women out there who could take these tips too to be a better Woman and PREPARE Herself to be with a Man that I at the TOP of his Game!
some of these definitely be applied to both..however I prefer to stick to the subject that is being addressed because it can easily turn into "yeah but they do it too" which allows one to shift focus and not take accountability. i recently did a video where I talked about red flags a woman isn't for you. Strange that no guys chimed in and said, but yeah these can be applied to men as well. i would guess that's because it was highlighting women's shortcomings..
@@Howtonaturally Agreed! Although Jeff the Style O.G. videos don't put the "men vs women" per se' But there are SO MANY that do! I mean its like some of them are to the point where they may as well stop playing around and just say they view man-woman interaction as a form of slavery for MEN'S benefit. Some dude's channels really come off cringy and weird sometimes. Yes I think we can all agree that the female species needs good, strong men to lead them and protect them...but damn some dudes just talk about women like they are their pet canines! I ljke Jeff's approach of Us Men First..and take care of yourself to be the Best Man We Can Be...but when that "RealWoman" comes and she is 100% with what you are bringing and wants to add value and invest is, its a beautiful thing and we give those women love and respect. Some of these dudes dont respect any woman at all, and in my opinion giving some Men out here bad, dangerous advice sometimes
@@marx41mans 100%. I think a lot of these "manosphere" channels are actually doing a disservice. I don't think they are doing a good job of taking accountability or have a healthy perception of women in general where they aren't seen as literal bitches (dogs to be told what do in every sense, controlled and used). I despair for what passes as intelligent conversations on a lot of these channels.
I know a weak trait that every women hates: a guy with a small wallet. Figurative speaking of course...lots of guys only carry around plastic. Small wallet as in small bank account.
All good topics, you are soo right!! I think also Women are confused about what a Strong Man is!! I always tell my love interest “ Understand that I am not going to give you your way or bend to your will , when you want!! We are different and we’re raised differently, so I am not gonna see things “ Your” way!!
Yes..u nailed it bro.. love a take charge man. Like a man who is protective...smells good,dress well and he is well diverse especially within conversation. Great video bro. As always love watching your Chanel🥰💯❤
FACTS OG! I agree with all. In contrast, the one damming trait me and my bro’s got from the old man is our brutish/cave man behavior with women. The only thing we are decisive about is doing wtf we want; swear we can’t get rid of them…
This was good! Especially the part about crying. I always joke that if you’re a man and you’re crying it better be because one of your parents died, OR you lost in the Finals.
Men cry for more reasons than that. Like for instance when I listen to certain songs it bring tears to my eyes knowing how close to death I was being gang affiliated from ages 9 to 16. But no man should cry over no woman it’s too many out here
That's BS. I cried at the end of Saving Private Ryan and it didn't bother the girl I was with. Any woman who doesn't understand that isn't worth being with as she's a low brow Neanderthal.
Another one of those gold gems videos that most bros need to hear. And I'm going to add one please fellow bros stop begging these women for attention!! If they like you you don't have to beg them to call or text you.
While I agree with most of what's said in this video, there are other traits of strength that women don't recognize as strengths that aren't listed in this video. I understand that this isn't an exhaustive list, but I just thought I'd point that out.
I love it!! OmG, see that's the problem we need more men that that's willing to learn to do better with their relationship with their women but yeah that's a problem we don't have enough of them!! that's willing to learn ! But you have to think about it you have some men out here just faking for the moment and it's not coming from the heart in this not real that's the problem with a lot of men
Men who gossip, men who shirk their responsibilities, men who cheat e.g leaving at 4.00 when the office closes at 5.00, pretending to meet clients but goes home. Men who talk behind the back of their friends. Men who make false promises. Noted from experience, I have been doing some of those things myself, but I've tried to avoid these pitfalls as much as I can.
@@TheStyleOG I feel it depend’s on the situation! Sometime’s we end up in a situation where our back’s are up against the wall in which at that point and time, we have NO CHOICE but to react. I’m the type of MAN that NO LONGER argue’s with a Woman that I am interested in. Instead, I’ll stand there and smile in her face while she argue’s. I feed Good Energy with my Good Energy. Negative Energy get’s avoided at all time’s.
I want a light-hearted, and primarily emotionally stable marriage. I've done serious for far too long. I want to have and provide my share of good, healthy fun before I pass.
I always had a problem with the "life of his own" part, i always thought giving more attention was the best but she was always annoyed and complained at how clingy i am
A wonderful man like this takes many years of seasoning and wisdom 🧂 I’m so thankful my husband is an awesome, perfect man. It almost seems too good to be real. 16 years of going strong 💪🏼
There are so many things here I disagree with . At the end of the day you only need to find that one woman that's compatible with you . You do not have to follow any particular trait to impress a woman . The right one will come sometime . Just be you ,regardless
Thank you for your input OG. I choose to be the best grown man for myself before anyone else so I can live my full potential. I appreciate the insight examples of weak traits being explained.
What's always up with a 'lack of drive or ambition is a turn off for women' in these kind of videos? What's wrong with just having a stable job and NOT wanting to work yourself to death? I always say, I work to live, I don't live to work. Geez. See that? I'm speaking my mind here and I am not afraid of conflict. Look at me being attractive.
Thanks Jeff, you came through again in this video. I've got some relationship insecurities, and this really helped ground me. Most of these are things I'm not doing already, and the couple I do need to work on are things I'm able to, so that alone helps bring a little more confidence.
I agree with what is said here. I have found out that I qualify as a good dude. Just have to get out there and be seen. That is the hard part. Trying to be seen when you don't want everyone's attention. Just the attention of the woman I find special.
I think the definition of a weak man is listening to another man of how you should be. Be yourself and if she don’t like it then find one that does. And here the lesson endeth.
Being loved by other women is fine but the desired trait is the man who can appreciate the attention of another woman but stands firm in his devotion to his woman
Style OG What do you think about the Prada brand of cologne. I'm a Prada Sport guy. But I bring out the Prada Black 🖤 for the ladies. Tell me what you think?
1. Lack of drive or motivation
2. Letting your woman run over you
3. Always blaming everyone else
4. No life of your own
5. Always avoiding conflict
And bad breath.
People should avoid conflict. Problems, on the other hand, can't be helped & should be solved.
And yes, there's a difference between problems & conflict.
6. Being indecisive. 7. Falling in love every 6 months (being a sucker for love).
8. Don't need validation from others (outside validation). 9. Don't let the woman do all of the hard work/solve problems. 10. Be able to express your true feelings - hiding your true feelings; but (caution).. not be overly emotional.
all facts...
Avoiding conflict means not to get arrested because she runs her mouth.. I known alot of dude's in jail 4 putting hands on there girl because of there mouth..
This is way too much work. I'm getting a dog. You can be yourself and don't have to worry about living up to her standards.
In addition to having a sense of a drive and purpose as a man, actually having a woman who HAS confidence to believe in you is a great trait!💪🏾
Indeed !
Facts
Amen! Women don't realize if they speak positive, believe in you, and appreciate you.. we will go over and beyond to make them happy.. if Obama didn't have Michelle he would not have been president of the united states with our her support
@@hightopfad Very true. Us men need female encouragement the way we would break our backs encouraging a lady.
@@peterturayjr1209 facts! A women I believe can make or break us. A good positive woman can push us men to another level in life. Is just meeting that one!
I had a big problem with #2. I was always the nice guy. The guy that couldn't say no. Not only will your lady take advantage of you (if you have a lady like that) but you will burn yourself out. Fortunately my lady of 6 months didn't take advantage of me, but she was shocked when I told her no for the first time. She wasn't used to it, but we talked it out, and she was understanding. She said, "If you don't want to do something just tell me. If I get upset I'll get over it. OK?" From that moment on I knew she was a keeper.
great input!
Don't. It's concerning if a person, forget a man, if a PERSON always says yes to everything at one point you would wonder are they even enjoying it? Do they actually like the things I cooked today? Are they actually agreeing with me? If lying then why? Am I that intimidating? It would drive the other person to always be on edge whether you actually like it or not because trust me, your partner wants u to be happy
And always put yourself first along side your partner never AFTER them. Say yes only if it IS actually a yes. Otherwise those partners who care about you would doubt themselves and the partner who does not care about you will take advantage.
@Leonard Maltin Gae why?
Nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as you aren't passive aggressive. I have most of these traits, which is why I struggle with dating, though I do think I have ambitions though it took a long time to discover my life purpose.
Real talk O.G , I’m a man in my 40’s but we should always be willing to learn . Appreciate you ✌🏾
My man!
Ditto 👏🏻
Agree, and that includes knowledge from a woman.
Yezur 💯 I'm a lot younger but big bro O.G drops so much valuable information.
You’re from 1890?
"Yeah we all fall in love just not twice a year" 😅 real talk
For real !
Avoiding conflict ! He let people walk all over him. Take advantage, he is too nice, and people see him as a sucker. When I bring it to his attention he says “ I don’t want conflict “. You are right , I don’t feel protected. It’s a sign of weakness. Also, he is too emotional. He rather give me the silent treatment than talk. I’m done ❌
On of the most productive channels for personal development.
I appreciate that!
Thank you for trying to help adult males transform to grown men.
My pleasure!
💯💯💯
Lol
That is so so real cuz a lot of black men do not know any better that is so good but a lot of them so wanted to listen sometime but each is own
Man!!! There’s a lot of dudes that need to see this. I’m in my 40’s and I learned a lot of these on my own. Wish I’d learned them sooner but hey…I’m good tho! This was on point! Thanks man and keep it up
Will do!
This man never misses. He’s that cool uncle 😎
Kind words indeed!
He's definitely a solid Original Gentleman!
Brother, you got EVERYTHING right! From top to bottom. Everything you covered is spot on! As a woman and from a woman's view point, I would say that all of the those indicators of a weak man are exactly what I see in a weak man. Please keep dropping those gems!
Who cares what self entitled narc women think?.
I married this man 😫
I realize now that I stayed with him because he would do, or try to do all the things I wanted.
After we got married, he started being passive aggressive and resentful because he couldn’t stand up for himself.
He’s no longer living here.
Were you happy when he was doing what you wanted ?
You got it right bro. Women also need to support and encourage their men in starting businesses, taking extra courses on new subjects, getting ahead at the office. I didn't get that support often and now I'm wealthy and my ex is struggling financially.
appreciate the input!
That was your parents' job. After they raise you then it's your job and yours only.
Want one like you ,starting businesses and all
As an emotional guy that has been on both sides of the pendulum I think I would like to see a video on emotional dos and donts thanks bruh your in my routine of self improvement peace to you for your energy output may it return with the same minty freshness peace
appreciate the suggestion!
Since learning that a "nice guy" is seen as manipulative I've really worked hard to eliminate that habit from my character and personality.
I've had to work hard bc I think like a lot of men I was trained early on to be deferential.
It's a very hard habit to break, but all things are possible.
My problem is every woman is expecting traits in man ...
And A . dont know how to treat a man
B. Dont have traits of a good woman
And these “coaches” keep capitalizing off the same “spineless” men they are so called helping out by talking about everything about this. This sphere out of hand.
Get really there are still a lot of good women out there men
@@paulbrandel5980 Fellow Paul, I am 1590 days hard mode Nofap. No women at all.
We don't care what women want or think they want anymore, this is for us.
Exactly damn straight she never cared about me why should i give a fuck about her lol
I am 1590 days nearly Nofap. Hard mode.
@@pauljohnson6019 Nice
@@legendkillersshittyduffleb932 Okay, watch the language there Sir.
Amen. Men don't even bother. They have no fucking clue what they want. Your Creator and your training are the only things that will never betray you. And even your Creator isn't supporting a couch potato lifestyle.
You got me at the one with getting in love every 6 months, like I don’t mean for it to happen but I can’t get too attached too easily. Hit the bullseye
as long as you recognize it, you can work on it..
Either you just doing the moment or she's doing it for the moment that's not right but inches are
"They don't wanna guess, they don't wanna be a mind reader" but they expect men to guess and be mind readers.
It's annoying. No wonder such ladies turn me off. I have a lot to think about.
I recognize some of those traits in myself. I got alot of work to do! Mainly that indecision and nice guy crap.
You got this !
Libra energy detected...
Man being indecisive will ruin you man and being too nice I've lived it
@@Gold-dreams facts
It’s so refreshing to see a man giving dating advice to other men and not to women ☺️
Uh oh..
Huh
Uh oh indeed..
Let's delete the comment shall we? 🙂
Thank you.
@@Sterling-Archer a sneak diss
Good advice is good advice... doesn't matter who its coming from
Men who can't actively listen. That's another weakness women don't like. When women vent, most of the time, they don't want a solution to their problem and they also don't want a "damn, that's crazy" dude either, merely pretending that he's listening to her. Actively listen, ask questions that you probably already know the answers to and provide some reassurance. Let her know you're on her team. Most of the time, that's all they want when they vent: a guy who is an active listener.
great input!
As a woman I agree lol
How old is this "woman" you talk of?, 6 years old?., they should grow up and learn to be feminine women.
And to the returning host!!
Salute..
Great video and on point.
Salute Will!
Been married with children for 17 years now… I liked the video and I see some of those traits I need to work on. Thanks for sharing
Jeff, IMHO, you got everything right, nothing wrong, and didn't leave anything out in this enlightening Saturday video. Thank you. My only complaint is that I can't burn all of your advice into myself and then be able to just go on auto pilot without thinking. That sure would be great.
We are all works in progress Robert
@@TheStyleOG Exactly we are all still Evolving Mentality as well as Physically. Life experiences Makes one Grow.
👊🏽 on point as usual. I should of had this told to me when I was younger but like many other black men I learned on my own.🤔 I'm not a parent but I would tell my son this "if I had one" .
You're probably not alone. I suspect that Jeff is helping MANY guys who didn't have fathers. He really comes across as a guy who is counselling a younger friend. He's a mentor.
That’s my goal !
You do not need a child of your own to pass on what you have learned. Teach, mentor and sponsor the next generation; investing in the youth today is investing into all of our futures.
@@ChonkedaDevil
I think he already knows that, but I also think it’s especially important to pass this along to our sons to reestablish that continuity of mens knowledge legacy that became broken in so many families over the last few decades. Don’t get me wrong, I also think that mentoring is great and should be encouraged. However, I think it’s of more urgent importance to pass on what we know to the next generation within our own families from father to son whenever possible.
One of my friends need to listen to this video right away. Thanks O.G. and salute
Salute Clifton!
For a quick one Gentle Men
1. Lack of drive /Ambition 1:08
2. Letting women run over 1:50
3. Always blaming everyone else 2:43
4. Not having a life of your own ( being super clingy) 3:23
5. Always avoiding conflict 4:13
6. Being indecisive 5:06
7. Falling in Love every 6 months/being overly in love and loving to quickly 5:57
8. Needing too much outside validation/ seeking outside approval 6:36
9. Letting your woman do all the work especially when handling conflict 7:27
10. Hiding your true feelings 8:11
11. Being overly emotional 9:04
P.S: However, I wish to deferr about hiding your true feelings. Women love to do the chasing, it's best to keep them guessing but show them a little of it, even if you feel it, don't show it. This is my opinion though.
Thank you dude plus the time stamps are even better. Cheers.
Can’t even show emotion if your family died I learned that the hard way got broken up after good riddence
I just turned 30 last month Im learning a lot of new things, I've been a pushover for all my life. I'm tired of it costing me important things
With these 11 points, you described the current day average woman.
I stumbled upon a very rare person/woman who took the time to see me in my pain.
I was 57 at the time.
Up to that point in time, no one else had ever done what she did.
She took time out from her other job duties to really attend to my pain-- really quite extraordinary.
I violated the carnal rule of crying in front of a woman.
But tears as such are not an inherent sign of weakness, but of humanness.
I know no one who does not have tear ducts, do you?
Emotional vulnerability and the expression of that kind of pain must have an outlet or the pain will likely go elsewhere in the body.
Style OG, another great topic. In life, love and in business. You must be able to make a decision. As a father’s of three I tell my kids stand by your decision. You don’t wanna be weak.
Agreed Pierre !
Great video and great advice for men of all ages. Women, whether they verbalize it or not, expect their ideal man to be capable of leadership, being a protector and provider. Women can't stand simps and "weak" pushover men.
Don't be a nice guy, just be a guy that she respects!
Nothing wrong with a good cry. Like laughter it’s a great way to relieve tension from the body.
You're always on point Jeff!
That suit looks good on you.
Thanks my friend!
Blessing to my wanderful brother. you are telling the truth thank you for your advice 🙏🏾
I appreciate that!
Style OG Jeff....always good to see you, brother!!!!! Salute!!!!! 🤜🏼🤛🏾💯💯💯
Salute Rick!
Sharp suit sharp wisdom, always enjoy the positive words you have 💪🤗
I appreciate that!
@@TheStyleOG Hey man, I had a girl tell me to take my tie off, is she wrong?
Spot on with everything. Guys that fall for everyone are not attractive. The mild and nice guy is invisible to me. I also start to lose my attraction when I feel he is unable to resolve his problems, acting weak and undecided. Makes me feel like I am mommy. I need to feel that my man makes my life easier and nicer, rather than harder.
What pisses me off is that women want both a man who is stronger than them but at the same time they want to be regarded as equals and they can't have both so they can never be happy
Self doubt.. Fucked me up everytime! 🤦🏽♂️
It can happen!
Thanks so much for this video!
I agree with your list but would add one thing…
A man who doesn’t follow through with his word (or who doesn’t communicate when he’s not able). This causes women to lose faith in their man and relationship quickly. You never want your woman to get used to being disappointed.
Appreciate the input !
You got everything right, damn you should write a script, a book for men to follow. Being in a relationship with a weak man is down right annoying. A woman could never truly love and respect a weak man who cannot defend himself let alone her.
a book is on the vision board..
I wish I would've heard this a long time ago. I'm making some of these changes now in my marriage but I'm hoping we're not too far in. Thanks for the video! Peace...
Peace!
So on POINT Sir😁
Keep in mind, these are quality women and many out there are substandard. So, surround yourself with the right crowd first before expecting to see results.
I appreciate the teachings they're so profound and important, I think most men should hear this, One other thing is we men must always learn to reflect on certain things.
Indeed!
#12 - Caring what women think.
always one...
Great video .... Every point you discussed was on point... As men we need to be sharp and improve daily. Thanks again Jeff. Salute...
Right on!
Salute O.G! All the best from the UK. Great advice as always,
Sean.
Salute Sean!
Too Real. Great advice. When you get to a certain age, you either have the confidence to be secure with who you are,, or you don't. Salute!
Woke me up 💯💯👌🏾thank you I needed that
Style OG again you hit it out the park. Driven and purposeful, a great trait to own when dealing with women
Thanks Victor!
To be honest Jeff...we could really take these points and apply them to Women as well!
Yes we are supposed to bettering ourselves EVERYDAY!
But alot of the points you made in this...there are a lot of Women out there who could take these tips too to be a better Woman and PREPARE Herself to be with a Man that I at the TOP of his Game!
some of these definitely be applied to both..however I prefer to stick to the subject that is being addressed because it can easily turn into "yeah but they do it too" which allows one to shift focus and not take accountability. i recently did a video where I talked about red flags a woman isn't for you. Strange that no guys chimed in and said, but yeah these can be applied to men as well. i would guess that's because it was highlighting women's shortcomings..
@@Howtonaturally Agreed!
Although Jeff the Style O.G. videos don't put the "men vs women" per se'
But there are SO MANY that do!
I mean its like some of them are to the point where they may as well stop playing around and just say they view man-woman interaction as a form of slavery for MEN'S benefit.
Some dude's channels really come off cringy and weird sometimes.
Yes I think we can all agree that the female species needs good, strong men to lead them and protect them...but damn some dudes just talk about women like they are their pet canines!
I ljke Jeff's approach of Us Men First..and take care of yourself to be the Best Man We Can Be...but when that "RealWoman" comes and she is 100% with what you are bringing and wants to add value and invest is, its a beautiful thing and we give those women love and respect.
Some of these dudes dont respect any woman at all, and in my opinion giving some Men out here bad, dangerous advice sometimes
@@marx41mans 100%. I think a lot of these "manosphere" channels are actually doing a disservice. I don't think they are doing a good job of taking accountability or have a healthy perception of women in general where they aren't seen as literal bitches (dogs to be told what do in every sense, controlled and used). I despair for what passes as intelligent conversations on a lot of these channels.
you get me Gregory! much appreciated
I know a weak trait that every women hates: a guy with a small wallet. Figurative speaking of course...lots of guys only carry around plastic. Small wallet as in small bank account.
All good topics, you are soo right!! I think also Women are confused about what a Strong Man is!! I always tell my love interest “ Understand that I am not going to give you your way or bend to your will , when you want!! We are different and we’re raised differently, so I am not gonna see things “ Your” way!!
Yes..u nailed it bro.. love a take charge man. Like a man who is protective...smells good,dress well and he is well diverse especially within conversation. Great video bro. As always love watching your Chanel🥰💯❤
Love you Sis !
I'm seeing some of that in me. I like the mentorship. I liked and subscribed. I making these changes starting today. Thanks greatly!
FACTS OG! I agree with all. In contrast, the one damming trait me and my bro’s got from the old man is our brutish/cave man behavior with women. The only thing we are decisive about is doing wtf we want; swear we can’t get rid of them…
This was good! Especially the part about crying. I always joke that if you’re a man and you’re crying it better be because one of your parents died, OR you lost in the Finals.
For real !
Men cry for more reasons than that. Like for instance when I listen to certain songs it bring tears to my eyes knowing how close to death I was being gang affiliated from ages 9 to 16. But no man should cry over no woman it’s too many out here
Family*
@@righteousmasculine Cry over no woman. I be like fuck that bitch.
That's BS. I cried at the end of Saving Private Ryan and it didn't bother the girl I was with. Any woman who doesn't understand that isn't worth being with as she's a low brow Neanderthal.
Spot on 🎯
Salute!
You have just described dating a narcissist which apparently is classified as a woman.
You got to have a backbone women like that
Another one of those gold gems videos that most bros need to hear. And I'm going to add one please fellow bros stop begging these women for attention!! If they like you you don't have to beg them to call or text you.
Salute Azell!
While I agree with most of what's said in this video, there are other traits of strength that women don't recognize as strengths that aren't listed in this video. I understand that this isn't an exhaustive list, but I just thought I'd point that out.
Thank you for letting me know what I have been doing wrong in my relationship ! It all makes sense know !! I will keep watching you so I can learn !
You are welcome 👍
I love it!! OmG, see that's the problem we need more men that that's willing to learn to do better with their relationship with their women but yeah that's a problem we don't have enough of them!! that's willing to learn !
But you have to think about it you have some men out here just faking for the moment and it's not coming from the heart in this not real that's the problem with a lot of men
Super powerful video king. Thank you for always keeping it real with us 👊🏾
My pleasure!
Men who gossip, men who shirk their responsibilities, men who cheat e.g leaving at 4.00 when the office closes at 5.00, pretending to meet clients but goes home. Men who talk behind the back of their friends. Men who make false promises. Noted from experience, I have been doing some of those things myself, but I've tried to avoid these pitfalls as much as I can.
Avoiding conflict isn’t ALWAY’S a bad thing!
Often times it is
@@TheStyleOG I feel it depend’s on the situation! Sometime’s we end up in a situation where our back’s are up against the wall in which at that point and time, we have NO CHOICE but to react. I’m the type of MAN that NO LONGER argue’s with a Woman that I am interested in. Instead, I’ll stand there and smile in her face while she argue’s. I feed Good Energy with my Good Energy. Negative Energy get’s avoided at all time’s.
You have to be able to pick your battles
i agree, the problem is someone who ALWAYS avoid conflict
@@TheStyleOG I agree with you as well, Fellow KING/GAWD! 💪🏽
Thank you. I will use what i learned to avoid toxic women.
Winter is coming.
you ain't never lied my brother!!!!!
I’m not sure I saw Jealousy on here… that’s definitely a trait to avoid.
This was a much needed video Jeff!!! Much love bro! Saulte!!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Ambition is the marker of a weak man.
I want a light-hearted, and primarily emotionally stable marriage.
I've done serious for far too long.
I want to have and provide my share of good, healthy fun before I pass.
Being a, simp is NO1 - although they dont lke, or appreciate it, they wont tel you that. They will make you think the opposite.
I always had a problem with the "life of his own" part, i always thought giving more attention was the best but she was always annoyed and complained at how clingy i am
A wonderful man like this takes many years of seasoning and wisdom 🧂 I’m so thankful my husband is an awesome, perfect man. It almost seems too good to be real. 16 years of going strong 💪🏼
Wonderful!
There are so many things here I disagree with . At the end of the day you only need to find that one woman that's compatible with you . You do not have to follow any particular trait to impress a woman . The right one will come sometime . Just be you ,regardless
Thank you for your input OG. I choose to be the best grown man for myself before anyone else so I can live my full potential. I appreciate the insight examples of weak traits being explained.
No problem!
It happened again...Jeff states his first point and right away I have to scroll down and hit thumbs up.
My man !
What's always up with a 'lack of drive or ambition is a turn off for women' in these kind of videos? What's wrong with just having a stable job and NOT wanting to work yourself to death? I always say, I work to live, I don't live to work. Geez.
See that? I'm speaking my mind here and I am not afraid of conflict. Look at me being attractive.
I'm so glad I found this channel. Thank you for all you do for us dudes, man 😎
Always for me is LUST first then LOVE may come later. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST. ALWAYS.
Thanks Jeff, you came through again in this video. I've got some relationship insecurities, and this really helped ground me. Most of these are things I'm not doing already, and the couple I do need to work on are things I'm able to, so that alone helps bring a little more confidence.
EXCELLENT O.G.!
Thanks for listening!
I agree with what is said here. I have found out that I qualify as a good dude. Just have to get out there and be seen. That is the hard part. Trying to be seen when you don't want everyone's attention. Just the attention of the woman I find special.
As a woman I feel the same way .,I dont want everyones attention just the one for me
Workaholic and an addictor of anything are turn offs as well. Great list!
Thanks!
I think the definition of a weak man is listening to another man of how you should be. Be yourself and if she don’t like it then find one that does. And here the lesson endeth.
so that means we should not listen to you either, you being another man....
I get two times a year to cry when I break up with the 2 woman I fall in love with every year.
Ha !
Thank you for sharing these insights
Any body ever thought about having a Style O.G get together or cruise?
Thanks Jeff for this information. If I knew this when I was married, I would still be married still this day. Thank you Uncle Jeff.
No problem Christopher!
Your video came up in my TH-cam feed and I watched it and did subscribe. I did learn some things from that first video I watched.
Agreed with everything he said, except for the sharing of feelings with women or crying in front of your woman.Guys, DON'T EVER DO THAT.
Yeah it's a huge turn off for them and the moment you cry in front of them, is the moment they lose all respect for you
Facts
ABSOFKINGLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!DO NOT EVER CRY IN FRONT OF A WOMAN.EVER!
women love men who are loved by other women...Thanks O.G.
Being loved by other women is fine but the desired trait is the man who can appreciate the attention of another woman but stands firm in his devotion to his woman
Style OG What do you think about the Prada brand of cologne. I'm a Prada Sport guy. But I bring out the Prada Black 🖤 for the ladies. Tell me what you think?
which one?
@@TheStyleOG About both which 1 you like most Prada Sport or Prada Black
Never let anyone take unfair advantage of you. Kick that person out of your life immediately and enjoy your life without that person around.