Thank you so much for your encouragement-it truly means a lot! I’m grateful for the opportunity to share strategies that can make a difference, and it’s wonderful to know the content is helping. The journey through challenges like ADHD, addiction, and trauma can feel isolating, but together as a community, we can support each other and make healing more accessible. Please feel free to share the videos you find helpful-it would help me help the community. Is there a particular topic or strategy you’d like to see covered in future videos? I’d love to keep creating content that’s useful and supportive for you and the community!
Thank you 🙏 This is the most comprehensive information on ADHD & trauma I've ever come across. Not only was it extremely validating to be understood Truly understood I cried. I wish the people around me could understand & inform themselves instead of judging & labeling me. I can feel & see how they criticise & take the piss out of me, I can also see it is projection of their own flaws & insecurities. Of course they wouldn't even take the time to watch something like this because they are not interested in the why & wherefore of why I am like I am but merely a scapegoat to take the focus off themselves
Thank you so much for sharing that-it sounds like the video really resonated with you on a deep level. I can only imagine how isolating it must feel when those around you aren’t supportive or willing to understand the complexities of ADHD and trauma. That frustration of feeling seen and judged but not genuinely understood is very real, and it can be exhausting. It’s insightful of you to recognize that some of their criticisms may actually stem from their own insecurities. This awareness can be grounding, as it helps you see that their judgments reflect more about them than about who you truly are. Remember, it’s okay to seek out people and spaces where you feel seen, respected, and valued-support from people who genuinely understand and appreciate your journey can be transformative. Your resilience in navigating these challenges speaks volumes. If there were one thing you wish they understood, what would it be? Sometimes just naming it for ourselves can be empowering.
@DocSnipes I actually don't know what one thing I'd want them to understand. I often find myself over explaining things in an attempt to be understood but then as I got older & wiser from experience of the same situations I realised...it's actually only people with highly narcissistic traits that make me feel unimportant and flawed. Once you know the type &have been a target over a long period time, you feel it even when you can't quite ( yet) put your finger on what isn't sitting right with you about them. Eventually they show there true selves. I'm certain though that there are more people these days that have big ego & toddler mentality & maybe it's the ADHD " call it as you see it" aka....speak before you think, that makes them uncomfortable. I have found there's no point in trying to explain yourself to them because they don't really care to know me anyway. I just try to remain consistent in how I conduct myself always having to self analyse which is exhausting but I work so hard at trying to overcome my emotions & cope with the many triggers ( poor sleep or stress etc ) that can potentially cause me to be inconsistent with my work standard or just interaction in general. As I am more of an observer these days rather than participating in social groups I have learnt a lot about other people's behaviour. I hate having to be so self aware but have been conditioned to as I have been effected by others false narrative & dismissive behaviour towards me. That is the reason I isolate and constantly assess my actions words just incase it is me & my whole way of being that is warranting the negative actions & vibes I get. Like I mentioned in the beginning of this now ...novel 🥴 it is not everyone but maybe coincidentally...it is people that are constantly on there phones always doomscrolling every second there's a pause in there day only looking up if they are getting attention from someone or something that validates & benefits them in someway. It has also occurred to me that now I'm not not the younger harder faster model anymore that society holds so highly & aspires to that, maybe I'm just invisible now for that reason only & it not the adhd at all. 🤷
We’ve known people that respond emotionally and logically at the same time. Not very many, mind you, but there are those that can respond to situations like that. Stress and trauma can affect people differently, even though stress can come from trauma and vice versus. 🧐🤔 Very good episode Doc 😎💪🏼👏🏼
Thank you so much for your thoughtful insights and kind words! You’re absolutely right-some people do have a unique ability to blend emotional and logical responses, which can be a powerful skill, especially in challenging situations. As you pointed out, stress and trauma impact each person differently, which makes understanding these mind-body strategies so valuable in tailoring what works for each individual. I’m glad you enjoyed the episode! Is there a particular aspect of mind-body connection or a strategy that resonated with you? I’d love to hear more about what stood out, and I’m always open to suggestions for future topics too!
Hey, is there a way I can contact you? I’ve seen different people, and tried different medications, etc. But I have ADHD and suffer from depression. But I don’t know what’s causing what.
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot in trying to find the right support, and it’s completely understandable to feel confused about what might be underlying certain symptoms, especially when dealing with both ADHD and depression. The two can often overlap and even amplify one another, which can make it hard to separate what’s causing what. ADHD symptoms like trouble focusing, lack of motivation, or feeling overwhelmed can sometimes mimic or even contribute to depressive symptoms, and vice versa. You can contact me at support@allceus.com. What’s been the most helpful approach or strategy you’ve come across so far? Sometimes reflecting on what’s worked, even in small ways, can help guide the next steps in your journey.
Wow thanks for your amazing content what are the chances of having ADHD if you have dyslexia? I wasn’t someone who struggled with sitting still but definitely struggle with impulsivity and emotional regulation along with people pleasing.
Thank you for sharing such a raw and honest reflection. It sounds like you’ve been through an incredibly challenging journey, and reaching a place where you can recognize your strength and resilience is truly powerful. Living with the weight of a complex family history and navigating the impact it’s had on your sense of self is no small feat, and the grief that accompanies this kind of self-discovery can be exhausting-physically and emotionally. Allowing yourself to feel that grief and to rest after intense “episodes” is important; it’s your body’s way of processing and healing from deeply rooted pain. It’s remarkable that you’re beginning to understand more about yourself, even in the midst of so much hardship. If there’s any specific area where you’d like support or strategies, please let me know. You’re doing an incredible job of holding space for your own growth, and that’s something to be very proud of.
@ thanks for the support. My dad is a people pleaser and I never felt heard in my interactions and I became addicted to pornography (quit now), video games anything to numb out from life. I am now in therapy and trying to reparent myself and at the age of 43 this isn’t easy. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
Great question! Fine motor challenges are often overlooked in discussions about ADHD, yet they can impact daily life in subtle but frustrating ways. Addressing fine motor issues can involve a mix of exercises and strategies to build control, coordination, and confidence in those skills. Working with an occupational therapist can be incredibly helpful-they can provide specific exercises designed to improve hand strength, coordination, and precision. Additionally, small adjustments like using tools with larger grips, taking breaks during tasks, and incorporating activities that naturally build fine motor skills (like drawing or playing with clay) can support progress over time. Are there specific tasks where fine motor difficulties seem to be more challenging? Sometimes focusing on those particular areas can make a big difference day-to-day.
That’s a thought-provoking perspective! The concept of free will-or lack thereof-is a deep and often debated topic, especially in the context of ADHD, addiction, and trauma. When we look at how brain chemistry, past experiences, and learned responses shape our behavior, it can sometimes feel like we’re not entirely in control. But understanding these influences also gives us insight into strategies that can help us regain a sense of agency and make more intentional choices over time. I’d be curious to hear your thoughts on this-do you find it empowering to explore how biology and environment shape behavior, or does it feel more limiting?
Your videos are truly excellent and you are much appreciated
Thank you! 🙏
Please keep helping the community!!!
Thank you so much for your encouragement-it truly means a lot! I’m grateful for the opportunity to share strategies that can make a difference, and it’s wonderful to know the content is helping. The journey through challenges like ADHD, addiction, and trauma can feel isolating, but together as a community, we can support each other and make healing more accessible. Please feel free to share the videos you find helpful-it would help me help the community.
Is there a particular topic or strategy you’d like to see covered in future videos? I’d love to keep creating content that’s useful and supportive for you and the community!
Thank you 🙏
This is the most comprehensive information on ADHD & trauma I've ever come across. Not only was it extremely validating to be understood Truly understood I cried.
I wish the people around me could understand & inform themselves instead of judging & labeling me. I can feel & see how they criticise & take the piss out of me, I can also see it is projection of their own flaws & insecurities. Of course they wouldn't even take the time to watch something like this because they are not interested in the why & wherefore of why I am like I am but merely a scapegoat to take the focus off themselves
Thank you so much for sharing that-it sounds like the video really resonated with you on a deep level. I can only imagine how isolating it must feel when those around you aren’t supportive or willing to understand the complexities of ADHD and trauma. That frustration of feeling seen and judged but not genuinely understood is very real, and it can be exhausting.
It’s insightful of you to recognize that some of their criticisms may actually stem from their own insecurities. This awareness can be grounding, as it helps you see that their judgments reflect more about them than about who you truly are. Remember, it’s okay to seek out people and spaces where you feel seen, respected, and valued-support from people who genuinely understand and appreciate your journey can be transformative. Your resilience in navigating these challenges speaks volumes.
If there were one thing you wish they understood, what would it be? Sometimes just naming it for ourselves can be empowering.
@DocSnipes I actually don't know what one thing I'd want them to understand.
I often find myself over explaining things in an attempt to be understood but then as I got older & wiser from experience of the same situations I realised...it's actually only people with highly narcissistic traits that make me feel unimportant and flawed.
Once you know the type &have been a target over a long period time, you feel it even when you can't quite ( yet) put your finger on what isn't sitting right with you about them. Eventually they show there true selves. I'm certain though that there are more people these days that have big ego & toddler mentality & maybe it's the ADHD " call it as you see it" aka....speak before you think, that makes them uncomfortable.
I have found there's no point in trying to explain yourself to them because they don't really care to know me anyway. I just try to remain consistent in how I conduct myself always having to self analyse which is exhausting but I work so hard at trying to overcome my emotions & cope with the many triggers ( poor sleep or stress etc ) that can potentially cause me to be inconsistent with my work standard or just interaction in general. As I am more of an observer these days rather than participating in social groups I have learnt a lot about other people's behaviour.
I hate having to be so self aware but have been conditioned to as I have been effected by others false narrative & dismissive behaviour towards me. That is the reason I isolate and constantly assess my actions words just incase it is me & my whole way of being that is warranting the negative actions & vibes I get.
Like I mentioned in the beginning of this now ...novel 🥴 it is not everyone but maybe coincidentally...it is people that are constantly on there phones always doomscrolling every second there's a pause in there day only looking up if they are getting attention from someone or something that validates & benefits them in someway. It has also occurred to me that now I'm not not the younger harder faster model anymore that society holds so highly & aspires to that, maybe I'm just invisible now for that reason only & it not the adhd at all. 🤷
We’ve known people that respond emotionally and logically at the same time.
Not very many, mind you, but there are those that can respond to situations like that.
Stress and trauma can affect people differently, even though stress can come from trauma and vice versus. 🧐🤔
Very good episode Doc 😎💪🏼👏🏼
Thank you so much for your thoughtful insights and kind words! You’re absolutely right-some people do have a unique ability to blend emotional and logical responses, which can be a powerful skill, especially in challenging situations. As you pointed out, stress and trauma impact each person differently, which makes understanding these mind-body strategies so valuable in tailoring what works for each individual.
I’m glad you enjoyed the episode! Is there a particular aspect of mind-body connection or a strategy that resonated with you? I’d love to hear more about what stood out, and I’m always open to suggestions for future topics too!
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Hey, is there a way I can contact you? I’ve seen different people, and tried different medications, etc. But I have ADHD and suffer from depression. But I don’t know what’s causing what.
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot in trying to find the right support, and it’s completely understandable to feel confused about what might be underlying certain symptoms, especially when dealing with both ADHD and depression. The two can often overlap and even amplify one another, which can make it hard to separate what’s causing what. ADHD symptoms like trouble focusing, lack of motivation, or feeling overwhelmed can sometimes mimic or even contribute to depressive symptoms, and vice versa.
You can contact me at support@allceus.com.
What’s been the most helpful approach or strategy you’ve come across so far? Sometimes reflecting on what’s worked, even in small ways, can help guide the next steps in your journey.
Wow thanks for your amazing content what are the chances of having ADHD if you have dyslexia? I wasn’t someone who struggled with sitting still but definitely struggle with impulsivity and emotional regulation along with people pleasing.
Thank you for sharing such a raw and honest reflection. It sounds like you’ve been through an incredibly challenging journey, and reaching a place where you can recognize your strength and resilience is truly powerful. Living with the weight of a complex family history and navigating the impact it’s had on your sense of self is no small feat, and the grief that accompanies this kind of self-discovery can be exhausting-physically and emotionally.
Allowing yourself to feel that grief and to rest after intense “episodes” is important; it’s your body’s way of processing and healing from deeply rooted pain. It’s remarkable that you’re beginning to understand more about yourself, even in the midst of so much hardship. If there’s any specific area where you’d like support or strategies, please let me know. You’re doing an incredible job of holding space for your own growth, and that’s something to be very proud of.
@ thanks for the support. My dad is a people pleaser and I never felt heard in my interactions and I became addicted to pornography (quit now), video games anything to numb out from life. I am now in therapy and trying to reparent myself and at the age of 43 this isn’t easy. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
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How to manage possible fine motor problems that may be related to ADHD?
Great question! Fine motor challenges are often overlooked in discussions about ADHD, yet they can impact daily life in subtle but frustrating ways. Addressing fine motor issues can involve a mix of exercises and strategies to build control, coordination, and confidence in those skills.
Working with an occupational therapist can be incredibly helpful-they can provide specific exercises designed to improve hand strength, coordination, and precision. Additionally, small adjustments like using tools with larger grips, taking breaks during tasks, and incorporating activities that naturally build fine motor skills (like drawing or playing with clay) can support progress over time.
Are there specific tasks where fine motor difficulties seem to be more challenging? Sometimes focusing on those particular areas can make a big difference day-to-day.
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No free will!😢
That’s a thought-provoking perspective! The concept of free will-or lack thereof-is a deep and often debated topic, especially in the context of ADHD, addiction, and trauma. When we look at how brain chemistry, past experiences, and learned responses shape our behavior, it can sometimes feel like we’re not entirely in control. But understanding these influences also gives us insight into strategies that can help us regain a sense of agency and make more intentional choices over time.
I’d be curious to hear your thoughts on this-do you find it empowering to explore how biology and environment shape behavior, or does it feel more limiting?