Malignant Narcissist Vs Narcissist | How To Spot The Difference

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  • @LindaRifle1
    @LindaRifle1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    Malignant narcissits are way too dangerous. They are aggressive and enjoy exploiting their victims till theit last breath. The only option is go no contact.

    • @BrianWynne-g2m
      @BrianWynne-g2m 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thought I'd met all types of narcissists until I met this one it was the worst yet didn't last long so volatile I had to get away and the shock it put me through wasn't worth a second of it... Literally 1 minute they seemed normal the next world war absolutely shocking thank God I got away pl be safe 🙏💪💜

  • @gladiammgtow4092
    @gladiammgtow4092 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    THE ONLY SOLUTION IS NO CONTACT.

    • @wellnesslenses
      @wellnesslenses  ปีที่แล้ว +19

      That's true, sometimes it is the only solution

    • @jameshatton4211
      @jameshatton4211 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Use technology to block them in every possible way. Don't respond to their button pushing.

    • @hasansarhan9296
      @hasansarhan9296 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Some of them will become stalkers be careful

    • @jimhall5472
      @jimhall5472 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Exactly right, you can maintain a tenuous relationship with an standard narcissist but when it comes to a malignant narcissist, the only solution is no contact. When I learned that it saved me so much misery when dealing with a particular malignant narcissist in my family. I haven’t talked to him in probably four years, and life has been splendid.

    • @hasansarhan9296
      @hasansarhan9296 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jimhall5472 malignant narcs are sadistic cruel master manipulators

  • @JenSmyre
    @JenSmyre 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    THEY SHOULD BE PUT AN ISLAND 🏝️ WITH EACH OTHER!!

    • @Shirley-t9b
      @Shirley-t9b 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Agree and stay on that island forever only narcs there

    • @fresnoniiji
      @fresnoniiji 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      They will swim to their death before they stay there! Lol if they gotta ride a great white shark they will find some supply

    • @jessebelanger9753
      @jessebelanger9753 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That could be a fun reality show.

    • @ilovemeforwhoiam
      @ilovemeforwhoiam 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Then they will do good.. coz they will exploit only good empathetic people.. 😅

    • @joannemckay6631
      @joannemckay6631 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😃

  • @mthomas1091
    @mthomas1091 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    OMFG GET OUT!!!
    STAYING IS THE WRONG CHOICE.
    THEY’LL JUST THINK YOU’RE STUPID & HURT YOU MORE.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      They don´t think you are stupid - they know you are not. But they think you accept their behaviour if you stay with them. And they will go on more and more... Till you hopefully finally say stop it is enough (just till there and no more further).

    • @Shirley-t9b
      @Shirley-t9b 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They want you dead malignant narcissists when you don't want them he tried to kill me

  • @anotherday9719
    @anotherday9719 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Malignant narcissist don't respect boundaries run people 🏃‍♂️

    • @carolann4087
      @carolann4087 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I had never heard this term until about 6 moths ago. I stumbled across a short video stating the 7 characteristics of a malignant narcissist and my hair literally stood on end because it was an exact description of my sister! I feel as though I have finally been given the cheat codes to life. Everything makes perfect sense now. Amazingly, I had already gone "no contact" without realizing that it was an actual "thing". I felt bad about cutting her off, but now I know that it was necessary and just cutting a toxin out of my life.

  • @adrienne3334
    @adrienne3334 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I'm finding that having no contact with such people is the only way. So that I can finally work out what counts in life. Myself and my health. Thanks for this video it has helped..

  • @nicolesmith4490
    @nicolesmith4490 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I really think this significantly downplays MALIGNANT narcissism. A narcissist may get help, and I fully recognize they're not all bad, but from the everything I've learned so far (from other sources) and also my own experiences, malignant narcissists have some symptoms of sociopathy (ASPD), and at least some of them really seem to enjoy the harm they cause others and/or they do these things because they can. Maybe just my situation, but I doubt it.

    • @carolann4087
      @carolann4087 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yep. My narcissistic sister would display incredible joy if she could make me cry. Then, she could demean me further for "being too sensitive" or "stop being such a big baby!

    • @sangeetakumari1468
      @sangeetakumari1468 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am with a malignant narcissist.I found him to be very different from other narcissists,Malignant ones are 100 times more childish,sadist and dangerous.You are right,i felt it too that they downplayed it .
      This person put me in such a situation I almost lost my job during our fight when we were in a relationship -they are malignant.I can't disclose.
      They are highly angry but suppress it.With time you will everytime how inhuman they are and have a brain of 5 years old nasty child

    • @kamka8149
      @kamka8149 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It's not just you, it's been my experience too.
      I knew for a long time that my ex-husband was a narcissist, but I didn't know that there is a specific term for how he is. He is worse than just a regular narcissist. What people say here (that a malignant narcissist will use and abuse their victims to their last breath) is very true. Also, it's very TRUE, more than anything, that you need to stay absolutely 100% NO CONTACT with them, as much as you are able to.

    • @nicolesmith4490
      @nicolesmith4490 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As much as I hate that any of us have gone through this, and I genuinely do, I believe it helps any of us isn't alone. No matter how much it might feel like that.
      Our end goal is definitely no contact. My therapist is in full support of that, too. As slow of a process as it is, my kids and I all understand how important it is. I was born into a family full of narcissism and dysfunction. Naturally, that's where I gravitated toward when it came to relationships. My ex is one too, and as much as my kids can't stand him, they deserved the dad he should have been. The door was always open. That's one that's out of our lives as I ended it in 2019. Now to deal with "family." Good thing is we are less dependent than we used to be. It's been a real wakeup call since I started realizing what was really happening and that this isn't normal. Not normal and never will be. Best wishes to everyone going through anything like this. We all deserve better.

    • @fresnoniiji
      @fresnoniiji 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Naw your right. A real mal narss is extremely diabolical. My ex is trying to sue me for no reason but at the same pursuing me for sex.

  • @robicarm
    @robicarm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    This advice comes from a healthy person who doesn't understand these type of people. Malignant narcissist are a level below a socialpath. Treatment is for a normal person needing help. It is BENEATH the malignant narcissists to admit they need treatment.

    • @Circumnavigate
      @Circumnavigate 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for stating this.

    • @danielwymer1580
      @danielwymer1580 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      There actually one step below a psychopath

    • @kimrobinson6285
      @kimrobinson6285 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      There's no treatment.

    • @Krazykal
      @Krazykal 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I thought it was a level above a sociopath seeing as how they are psychopaths.

    • @govenormayor87
      @govenormayor87 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      No such thing as a sociopath

  • @Qdogg2019
    @Qdogg2019 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    With all respect malignant narcissists don't always respond to treatment if anything they use therapy as a way to hone their manipulation tactics and skills

  • @sonia2880
    @sonia2880 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Walking away and going No contact is the only way to having peace and joy in life. These options to stay and maintain the relationship will only deteriorate your mental health, who wants to live like this in a relationship? It exhausting . And it’s true they are not all bad people in a sense that it’s how you get trauma bonded to the abuse moments of bliss during hovering and bread crumbing. They are highly effective in hiding these traits in the community. You will be the only person witnessing and experiencing the brutality of the behavior. Breaking the bond but once you come to a point you just can’t keep breaking down you will walk away 😊

  • @NOVA_STARK
    @NOVA_STARK 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    As a former narcissist i say narcissism not only hurts others but also hurts the narcissist themselves in many ways.

  • @sangeetakumari1468
    @sangeetakumari1468 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I am thankful for this video but It didn't explain nicely and downplayed it .I am with a malignant narcissist:
    1)They are dangerous.
    2)They are highly pervert -insanely obsessed with women.
    3)They can't fake their mask longer than 2-3 months.
    4)They are sadist.
    5)They talk 100 times more childish than other narcissist categories:
    You will straight away know a malignant narcissist ,they seem mental when they speak and become defensive .
    4)They won't talk to you for days and repeat this tactics till the last day unless you approach them.
    5)the more time and love you give-the more disrespect they show .
    6)They can only think about themselves like a mental,They can't even consider your point.
    7)They have zero empathy ,guilt or shame
    8)If other narcissists are 7 years old children,malignant narcissist is a 5 years old nasty child who doesn't understand what to speak,what is normal but is also criminal minded ,sadist,unattached with humans but with themselves.
    You will see it after a few months itself they can't fake it longer than 2-3 months like other narcissist categories.
    This one has put my job in danger over a small fight.
    Other things I can't disclose-they have no empathy
    sadistic-1st tactic they use is not talking to you for days unless you approach first and will remain normal even in front of you.

    • @kamka8149
      @kamka8149 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, this is very true.
      I wish that society would do more to prevent further people becoming their victims. This info should be taught in schools, in domestic violence cases, in psychology and social science classes, in therapy and counseling courses; child protection officers should learn about it, etc.

    • @specialtwice4975
      @specialtwice4975 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I met a mn and this is true. The mn seemed to be drunk whenever they talked, but they weren't...
      It was crazy to see.
      Example: The mn named their dog after themselves, so when at the dog park they said their name out loud.
      John: "John! fetch the ball john."
      Another thing was random switch in conversation, random change in topic, you could be talking to the narc about how they can't let their dog go on your front lawn and the mn will say "Oh, my blue couch! I'm buying a blue couch!" and you stand there confused because you aren't talking about a couch...why are they mentioning about that??
      Also, yes, you can tell them right away. They are SOOOO rude. They will budge in line or text on their phone during a meeting, and everything has to be about them alllll the time.
      The mn I knew acted like an important ceo but he worked as a fry cook.
      You can tell you me a mn because they act like an important ceo.

    • @Krazykal
      @Krazykal 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If I didn't know better I would ask if you were my friend Anna talking about her husband Mitchell but you didn't mention the excessive drinking.

  • @adrienne_despisespronouns
    @adrienne_despisespronouns 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Demons don't earn respect, period

  • @casunax3484
    @casunax3484 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    your videos deserve more recognition bro

  • @lundsweden
    @lundsweden หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Malignant narcissist hears: Remove stigma. Thinks: Blank cheque to do whatever I want. These people are idiots!

  • @BigHammerz
    @BigHammerz 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Power and principalities that kill,steal and destroy and throw fiery darts.

  • @MickManningly
    @MickManningly วันที่ผ่านมา

    Woww ! This video is SO deep ,detailed & subtle. ! I learned a LOT about narsarsizm. !

  • @bobtaylor170
    @bobtaylor170 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Damned infuriating A.I. "narcism."

  • @kaylabryson1932
    @kaylabryson1932 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Keep trying w/ them ??? Won’t get you anywhere …. It’s comical and tragic trying w/ them. GET OUT ASA POSSIBLE .

  • @jenniferAKABUT
    @jenniferAKABUT 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    They are horrible people.
    Don't get involved
    This is probably the worst video on this.
    WATCH Dr Ramani people not this

  • @Shirley-t9b
    @Shirley-t9b 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I married a malignant narcissist so evli

    • @goddosyourself7970
      @goddosyourself7970 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Then just divorce him.There made your life better.You can thank mr later

  • @voyaristika5673
    @voyaristika5673 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If you have to go to such extremes/extents to be around someone, you need to get away from that person as soon as you can. Living in constant defense mode must be horrible.

  • @ChaoticNeutralMatt
    @ChaoticNeutralMatt ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've never heard of your channel, but the name is interesting, and point 3 and the intro to this video is promising. In the same way psychopathy and other such *issues* (not so much in themselves but the problems they can cause).. well it's something to be aware of certainly but it doesn't make someone bad in and of themselves. I don't expect everyone to engage with those with difficult behavioral traits of course, but certain people if they are prepared with foreknowledge will continue to regardless, which I'd like to think is more beneficial in the long run. It's a tricky issue, that I think just compassionate awareness can help with (without actually *trying* to fix something)

    • @ChaoticNeutralMatt
      @ChaoticNeutralMatt ปีที่แล้ว

      Based on the comments.. yeah. Not everyone *should* stay, but not everyone is bad on purpose. :P

  • @irisiris6717
    @irisiris6717 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    They are soul killers.

  • @jennduncandeloach
    @jennduncandeloach 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    They make a good person be a physco path

  • @mintberrycrunch4333
    @mintberrycrunch4333 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Do not listen to this enabling advice

  • @johnlenhart5911
    @johnlenhart5911 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    None of this will help get out move your not a tree

  • @edwinswift2646
    @edwinswift2646 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For one to seek out options for managing narcissism, one first needs to know that narcissism in it's many forms exist and there is treatment (hope).

  • @TheDevineFempress
    @TheDevineFempress 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    All true narcissists are malevolent…

  • @nicog189
    @nicog189 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Idk the more I look at traits the more worried I am I’m one of these :/

  • @floralgreen801
    @floralgreen801 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is bad advice. Boundaries don't work on these people.They just go and do it behind your back.

  • @annad.384
    @annad.384 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do malignant narcissists have fear of abandonment or do they have this if they have border line personality disorder? I have a twin of the guy who killed the Utah students, following me around and he moved into my city to be close to me. I can't go on dating apps because he created a fake profile to talk to me, then told me who he was.

  • @izzy9132
    @izzy9132 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Just don't forget there may be heritable characteristics whether NPD or MNPD. Make sure you raise the children in a calm, predictable and healthy disapplined environmwnt which the medical community thinks this minimizes the effect on that child so they can lead a much healthier life.
    And there is good advise in books and online as to how to eliminate the NPD former spouse legally from seriously affecting your childrens welfare.

  • @Andrea-HeIsKing
    @Andrea-HeIsKing ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just quit a client who decided it was time to unmask. Bye.
    .she then said she was going to fire me. Lol. After( I drove to her house) Garbage and trash out she said.😆 Too funny. Now the smear campaign starts. Not my first rodeo.

  • @Julia-0411-k8x
    @Julia-0411-k8x หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a regular narcissist who has comorbid bpd and I was in a toxic friendship with a malignant narcissist ( who I also had a crush on)who totally ruined my already low self worth. So its funny I emphatzise with survivors of narcissistic abuse because I am one but I am also not really welcome in these spaces because I am a narcissist myself

  • @rambultruesdell3412
    @rambultruesdell3412 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    .... take it or leave it ......

  • @gladhguru
    @gladhguru 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My youngest son handles typical female insanity in his wife by calmly and assertively repeating "I don't negotiate with terrorists', which always works, but never results in a permanent fix - so WTF is going on here?
    I think that from now on, I'll try saying that there's no quick fix to this problem, as this kind of problem can only be fixed in a large number of small postive / constructive steps (maybe triggering little brief upsets) over an hour, or day, or week, or month, and zillions of relationships all of our planet are struggling in the same way because one partner or the other insists on a quick fix, or a downing of tools, or a tantrum / hard for anyone to quell hissy-fit -- wish me luck -- or advise me otherwise !!

  • @ranijohal-r8g
    @ranijohal-r8g 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This video under plays this type of Narcs. They are dangerous and then some!

  • @JohnShotter-ft6vq
    @JohnShotter-ft6vq 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    If you don't have kids run run run

  • @healthandenvironment2998
    @healthandenvironment2998 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am not sure how many PPL are stalking me . But the man I was in relationship with just fucked it up by making the relationship public. And I no longer even attempt to patch up with this man because he is scared of being normal and has normal conversations and brings forth random men to put forth his feelings. He exhibits scary behaviour. Ticking time bomb. If he gets mildly angry, he destroys PPL , their life.
    What I don't understand is that after succeeding in his mission to successfully traumatise me and destroy me, why didn't he leave?
    He so relentlessly tried a mission to kill my trust in him and the PPL . After losing my trust in him and PPL he used to do so successfully , I am wondering why is he not feeling elated about succeeding in his mission. I have this feeling that he never even has this maturity of even understanding that his behaviour is not helping him. Being angry and destructive. I wonder if he ever considered getting real help. Because this behaviour won't limit to me, it repeats with every subsequent partner. Because it's a pattern of behavior

  • @Theunbelievabletruth489
    @Theunbelievabletruth489 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What’s the difference tho ??? That’s y we’re here ! This video is USELESS ! THANKS FOR NOTHING

  • @trala8911
    @trala8911 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Didn’t watch the video. Got the crib notes from the thumbnail. Malignant narcissists don’t have boobs. Now feel prepared to ace my psych final.

  • @nicog189
    @nicog189 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I def have narcissist tendencies. I don’t like it at all. But i don’t realize the harm I do until after the damage is done

    • @caustictoxin1616
      @caustictoxin1616 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They don’t understand that we do it because they hurt us, I think a lot of us don’t understand why we do it because we don’t remember some of the hurt they cause us because of the emotional distress we go through

  • @gladhguru
    @gladhguru 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Below is my (MARTIN, 63) attempt to get inside the head of my female BPD NARC (LISA, 51) after 26 years of rollercoaster, then yo-yo, now I a tumor ....
    Lisa: "What do many others (non-BPD NARC) believe that they 'think' such others know that will make them believe that putting them down strategically is good for them and what is this something that they 'think' they know you know?, and what triggers such others before and after this presumed realisation? And are such others actually helping me in some way, even though it feels to me that they never understand how I'm feeling, nor why, so how can I get them to back off for a while with this obsession of theirs, for a while, or preferably forever? Why can't they see that my spiralling ever downward is at least partly because of something in them resulting in terror in them? What is this something and how can I at least lessen its grip? or is my analysis so far away from reality that I'm confusing them, and they remain with this confusion until starts lessen whenever we create space between us but then it starts growing again as soon as one of us, which one, or doesn't it matter which one?, then their terror starts getting worse again, and I 'think' that his way of getting at a few to many key differences between relating to these differing somethings, one in him and the other in me, in the hope or expectation that he can figure out just one thing in one of us will create a virtuous circle that he believes evermore so strongly will manifest an automatic healing process that will look not that different from every slide up, slide down, slide randomly all over the place with amplitude and oscillation rate also both flowing with a similar kind of randomness, but where now I'm imagining all now observed randomness not making my usual oscillating slide ever-downwards towards the dream of a wecome death, as opposed to remaining stuck in a living Hell with virtually no of good enough end, so he's right, I should listen to him the way I don't even try to understand debate about how to improve politics and the how to improve the rules of political discours so that there are not too many fracas, and virtual none where some kind of nastiness fight breaks out so when our kind of horrible dymamic breaks out on the radio, the radio show host then starts acting like a referee, deciding when to show yellow cards, red cards, and sending people off, and what is the marriage version of off-side rule of fooyball such that certain moves don't take the excitement / enthusiam out of the game?, but can yellow and red cards or sending off cards or something else be used to discourage this in 'mariage'; and I know that my man doesn't know the answers these questions either because I know that football fans just know that they know without knowing how they know what they know, and I don't even know why I'm persisting in writing this long sentence and I, all of a sudden, know that I know everything that my man suspects but cannot prove even to himself, how come I feel evermore so clueless about what's going on here, and my obession about wanting to know why I do what I do in what sequence now seems to have disappeared, but I have absolutely no surity about what I've said, but I have no botherment about this this turn up in my own words, so it looks like my former obsession with having no control whatsoever over my botherment levels has gone. But gone is not at all the best word (according to some mysterious part of me but, fukk it, yet another fukking mystery , jokey yawn, jokey yawn, don't let the bed bugs bite", she remembers. "Is my consciousness coming back on line a bit", she asks herself?. "Don't let the bed bugs bite", she remembers, before using the 'loonacy' of such nonsense as an incentive to shut down her stupid mind, wilfully, and that's the last thing she the types into the virtual Google Notes App now parked somewhere in her brain. Now the real Martin wanted to carry on. God(?) crashed his computer again, HE KNOWS ME SO WELL, "Goodnight All" ]]]]].

  • @globalnomad1221
    @globalnomad1221 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I consider some societies and tribes to be malignant and narcissistic

  • @JenSmyre
    @JenSmyre 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    AMEN AMEN 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Andrea-HeIsKing
    @Andrea-HeIsKing 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh hell NO. THERE IS NO DEALING WITH A MALIGNANT NARCISSIST. EVER. OH GO GET COUNCILING. WTF. THESE CREEPS ARE EVIL.

  • @Mumumama205
    @Mumumama205 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nope, this is delusional. Just run!

  • @katiekach5125
    @katiekach5125 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Narci-sism.

  • @paulabritocamara5513
    @paulabritocamara5513 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    🎉

  • @andreimarincas2826
    @andreimarincas2826 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Get out!

  • @Lily-q1s7g
    @Lily-q1s7g 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I apologize for any typos...

  • @bookerdooley6739
    @bookerdooley6739 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I will say it again when is it time for Trump's 5150 hold on him? 🤔

    • @Cherokee51774
      @Cherokee51774 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why?
      He's an adaptive narcissist. That's not a bad thing.

  • @peterkotara
    @peterkotara 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Don't vote for them.

    • @8888alouette888
      @8888alouette888 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Most, if not all politicians are narcistic. Some are obvious (trump) some are more seductive and therefore dangerous (obama)

  • @bob-the-builder-NGP
    @bob-the-builder-NGP ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Kim Jong

  • @AJooWon
    @AJooWon 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Character issue. Not personality.