Nu Mindframe Hi Nu it's Bob. My family still operates like they did 54 years ago. Its sad. Especially when a person enters Recovery, which ever route they take and freak out. I'm not responsible for their Recovery. ( My family) . just hope you are ok. I'm seeing Narcissisim spilling in the professional field. I have a exit route and probably will never be seen again. Who knows.
My method of surviving my mother's abusive behavior is writing letters of self love/appreciation but I only open these letters and read them out loud when I feel sad/depressed. Self care/love is a strong weapon against a toxic parent. Reading books is my way of escaping my mother's abuse.
I've tried many things but in my case my mom's a cold bitch who's only agenda was to terrorize me the Church Pentecostal ,she's a freaking vapmire , got me detained as I left to the states again to live my life...now in worst condition with severe insomnia , no job ,she screwd my head with Soo much paranoia and fear...just finally learned about narcciism en more Thur the Church using scriptures of sin and hell... My father and brother and sister are her flying monkeys. .lost many realtionship cause of her and also my father came to my friends to kick me out of Florida that mothefucker..
thank you. I feel so trapped right now. I am trying to get means to move out right now but simply living here makes me so depressed and lose motivation and see a way out
I found working overtime so I was out of the house as much as possible helped, even though it's still not enough to afford to move out. I was definitely better, mentally, when I was working a lot.
Being the youngest child in a household with a narcissistic parent is especially hard. If they feel that they've lost control of your other siblings, they will target you so much harder than they did your siblings, especially when you're the last one in the house
Yes, and my older siblings went low to no contact, so abandoned me also because of that. Friends haven't stuck around either, because people now "hate negativity", like there are things that deserve being upset about. I am 35 and still can't escape my mom for good. Mainly because rent is so high while jobs pay nothing, even working 60 hours a week, I cannot afford basic expenses here. Things are so ridiculously expensive.
Yup the other siblings have moved out and on and when it’s time for you to. They have grown such a co dependence on you being their sole energy system that they can’t fathom the idea of you moving on.
It sucks when you finally feel like being productive but cannot even act on it because leaving your room is too exhausting when a narc is on the other side of the door. I just go to sleep and end up doing nothing again and again.
Feel ya bruh. Only thing worse than an Energy Vampire is an Energy Vampire in your place of rest. The outside world is cold enough. Everyone deserves the peace & solace of home. Shittin on that is some of the worst shit you can do.
Do the productive things in your room or in nature outside. I would sit in my room all day and learn about astrology, plan my life, journal, meditate, read, talk to friends on my phone and on social media and relax. I ended up moving out for college and then for work and then marriage and nerve came back all from scripting about it so start scripting daily.
I'm no longer a teenage living with my parent(s) but my heart goes out to those who are. I'd say this video is full of good advice. but the one thing I can't help but think about is all the mistakes I made while trying to avoid being at home as much as possible. So I would just like to reinforce the idea of trying to stay out doing positive activities (work, school, volunteering, etc) and keep good company. And it is also my personal opinion and hope that anyone living in this type of environment abstains from getting involved romantically until they are removed from the toxic environment and have began healing work. Just because we empaths tend to attract more toxic people, more narcissists etc unless we have started to heal. Relationships also tend me distractions from our own goals and can prevent us from getting out sooner.
I can totally relate to this at twenty six years old I never been in a relationship with anyone because of my toxic mother she's very manipulative. my toxic mother has made me come to the discussion to adopt a child rather than have one because mental illness runs on both sides of my family.
Thank you for giving advice about relationships. I noticed I tend to cling to the person more than normal, I crave their affection and words of affirmation obsessively, or I talk down on them because they aren't perfect. Idk. And ALL of these people I date are usually emotionally unavailable or a narcissist. So I basically beg these unhealthy people to fill my unhealthy void of loneliness and missing love. It's crazy lol. So yes, you're absolutely right. Don't date until you gone.
Highly accurate. I was going to write: "Narcissists are like vampires. They need a victim. If they see you developing independence, they will start getting dangerously aggressive to keep you around. They will try to ramp it up, in order to set off a break-down in you, to undo any progress" ...and as I'm listening, you said they're pretty much "psychic vampires", and then I realized you had it covered. Yeah, great stuff. I wish everyone good luck. It's amazing how often I find myself in these situations. I'm 45 and even to this day I find myself in a toxic situation, and I never saw it coming. I never thought this seemingly kind woman, was actually a toxic narcissistic person. I moved in with her and her husband after my divorce, and everything was fine as long as I talked with her, and within the first few months, I started noticing our conversations would end with her getting angry about strange things, like me simply disagreeing on an opinion based topic. When she tried to discuss politics, I said I didn't think that was a good idea, and she laughed and said "That's silly, what do you think is going to happen?", and within five minutes she was yelling and stomping around. That's when I knew I couldn't talk with her. Unfortunately, avoiding more than 'how are you.' 'Have a good day' 'Hello' 'Goodbye', made her seem to become bitter and passive aggressive, and at this point, she's screaming at me when I try to solve disputes, made via the messages passed through her husband, who is a good man and likely, I suspect at this point, beaten down by her. I'm 45 and still capable of getting hurt by these people. I'm not a weak person. I'm not a fool. I simply never saw it coming and so it's not your fault. These people have very very thick disguises and they are sick, and likely will never heal, but all the advice here, is excellent. Thank you for sharing it.
I'm 35 here, my mom is a narcissist. I find so many of us also end up in abusive relationships. I just escaped my alcoholic very emotionally abusive ex, he still stalks me and is trying to recruit any acquaintances we shared to his side. Of course he was charming at first, and it felt so nice to feel loved. It didn't last of course. I guess we get kind of desensitized to abusive people, because our own parent is one, so it's what we've seen and known for our entire life! Once I get away from my mom this time (escaped a dozen time but financial reasons, and not wanting to be homeless get me back in this house) I'm sticking with cats as my company. I don't trust myself knowing if I can tell a safe person from an abusive one, I thought studying psychology in college and living with a narcissist, that I'd be able to spot them, but so many of them are very good at hiding who they really are in the beginning, so it does seem to come out of nowhere sometimes! Nothing escalated fights with my ex more than when I wanted to be calm and rational, and he's competitive and wanted an argument-they gave him life or something. Even being quiet and not responding or trying to leave the room would set him off and he'd start throwing dishes across the room just to hear the crash I guess. It's going to take me a long time to trust my heart with someone. Remember to love yourself first, you will always have your own back and care about your best interests, you can't be sure anyone else will give you that same respect, you have to give it to yourself.
The problem is that narcissistic people or bullies have enablers so it’s easier said then done to get away from them. Usually narcissistic ppl target you if you’ve been in these environment.
Going through a tough time right now, I have come to realisation at 25 that enough is enough. People can't be fixed.. I'm focusing on myself now before I become even more damaged
I'm super late probably but i don't live with my parents but I still live with my family and they seem jealous when I get nice things or when I look nice. They always complain about how me and my siblings eat up all the food and that we aren't grateful and it hurts alot. And I never realized that it was this serious and I appreciate you for this video ❤. I've been trying to find these videos and I'm 16 and thank you.
@@saadiaou7139 I don't know about you but I just tied my first noose and found a good beem in the garage capable of supporting 480 pounds. I hope you survive but I don't think I will.
Seeing this I remembered when I was a teenager and maybe unconsciously or with some life self acquired knowledge I did many things that you have talked like staying the most part of the time out, my emotional escape were my grandparents, I also built an emotional barrier and didn’t talk about myself...., and after many years using these “tactics” I was able to survive and build my own life...., now seeing your videos I understand better...., thank you.....
What’s sad is the narcissist’s behaviour doesn’t diminish with age. My father, to this day, still displays these behaviours, but minus the physical abuse as he is too old. I’m now not afraid to put him in his place when it’s necessary.
I like the bit about respecting them even though they don't deserve it. I think this just makes you an even better person, but then maybe they'll push it and abuse you because you do everything perfect, so yeah you do have to choose your battles.
The passive aggressive attitudes were strong.I mostly stayed in my room all day if I wasn’t working or at school. You have to choose your battles wisely and sometimes just let them go.
Hey Nu thank you for this video, I watch every single one but this one helped me especially because I'm 18 and in my last year of school, living with my narcissistic mother and father again bc living w my aunt didnt work out. I still have a problem though and its my little brother. He's 15 and I can see him slipping into the same behaviours that my mom has. I saw them in myself too, but I spent two years up until now recovering and becoming aware, and still am and your videos were my main thing to turn to when I was desperate so thank you thank you, couldnt thank you enough. I dont know what to do about my little brother though, because I know that he would have to go through that change himself and his motivation would have to come from within, but I dont see him wanting to do that in the future at all. Sucks bc I wanna love my brother and have a good relationship with him in the future, and I want him to get better bc I can see that he's just existing from Ptsd as you mentioned, just like i was. Could you maybe make a video about helping family members recover/becoming aware of whats actually going on (if you find it at all possivble)? Love you so much and I wish only the best for your future and may many blessings come your way.
I hope you have a close community now and a better environment treating you better than you think you deserve. I hope you really feel safe and strong in love for yourself. Ironically, the abused and healing will be the heroes of this time I think.
I'm tired. I am being emotionally abused feeling obligated to take care of my single mom. I have become angry and god forbid bitter. I am naturally a tender-hearted person. That's why I am so wounded. God has been telling me to leave and to have bravery. My narc mom is a pusher, not as much as being the enemy. I should have listened when I had the chance. This may even sound strange but God has lead me to your video to listen to you
This comment section feels like home I thought I'm the only one with abusive and a narcissistic father because when I see my friends posting about their lives... enjoying it ... they're growing and learning but here I am barely surviving ... he's so full of himself that he doesn't want anyone in the family to grow up and become independent...and to top it all he's so sexist and mysoginistic and thinks that me and my sister as girls can't survive in the world with
For Tip 2. I tried doing this, keeping my emotions contained and being "boring" but my Father did not take it kindly I would say. Since I'm 16 he uses the "attitude" excuse and when we went grocery shopping and he pointed out how someone looked when looking for a parking spot, I was picking at my lip and replied with a soft 'mhm' and he confronted me asking if I was mad. I got so anxious since I was trapped in the car, I couldn't leave because I didn't want to cause a scene so I made an excuse. He continued to be angry and told me to take my anger out on someone else since he "doesn't give me attitude, doesn't hit me, isn't mean" which was all lies.
I wanted to say that I’m very thankful for this video. I have been going through some things but knowing that I am not alone feels extremely relieving. I feel seen. Thank you once again ❤
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮
I made the mistake of telling my Nmom that im moving with friends. idk who needs to hear this, but NEVER!!!! EVER!!!! tell your Nparents your plans. EVER. DONT make the mistake i did.
I try to stay away from my mother but I don't have my own room so that makes it so much harder. I have nowhere in my house to go to cry and that hurts so much
my moms boyfriend is a huge narcissist, and he keeps doing small things to get under my skin and treats me like i’m a virus. i’m locked in the basement on multiple occasions, i have to sneak to get food otherwise he will throw a fit, he puts up signs for me to remember that i’m worthless and stupid. my mom just blindly sided with him because she “loves” him. it’s so fucking hard living in this house. i fucking hate it here.
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN 🏃🏽♀️ for your life!
Narcicists are energy vanpires abd also forces you to eat more til you be ina food coma. For them being fatter than your young daughter is a big problem and would force you to be to be fatter in order to be the thin one...
Me & my narcissistic mother currently live in the same house & don’t speak to each other at all but she throws slick shots at me every chance she gets. My boyfriend is in college a few hours away he has an apartment & he eventually wants me to come move in with him but he also told me he doesn’t think I should leave on bad terms with her. He wants me to talk to her & tell her how I feel but I don’t want to I feel like it won’t help at all but I’ve thought about it & if I were to do it I wouldn’t know what to say. Someone please help me.
My situation right now is horrible.. I’m 24 and I Iive with my older brother but he is a alcoholic and crazy he trips out over everything and he always yells at me and blames me and he also busts in my room and unpick my door knob at anytime 😞 I told my therapist this and she really just kinda brushed it off I started thinking it was my fault. I want to move out so badly but I don’t know how to get started or what to do. My parents never really taught me things so now I’m stuck living in this hell hole. He comes into my room at any time of the day and busts in my room he will yell at me if I don’t open the door. 😔 I don’t have any privacy and I’m always afraid he will just come in at a bad moment. I just want to be around peace
oh i remember that i did set emotional boundaries, but it went horribly wrong, as they convinced my friends so always did it in school, and could never trust anyone(caused me to barrel up my emotions for probably 4 or 5 years continously, i really loved them as i just tought i was doing something wrong and thats why they didn't love me), they barely even cared about the years of suffering, seeing them just continue life normally when i
I need to start 2 or 3 of these to re establish my flow states of energy not too low or too high heart pounding thank you so much this video really helped and also was a little pat on the back for myself doing some of these
Oh GOSH GOSH GOSH! This is something I am very much anticipating to watch (kinda like a processing excercise for my past). Dear one, would you please also consider making a video about how to 'detach' from an abusive household? I have already moved out, but I am still not far away enough... and recently... things again got worse again.. (Mom calls, *your father is drinking again - pause - could you come over a bit?*) I am mostly watching your co-dependant videos to process my PARENT's relationship... but I realized (took 29 years) that I cannot do the development for them. I have had ENOUGH, but it is sooooooo HARD staying out of the MESS that they constantly create... I do not know how to be consistent in saying no. I do it a couple of times, but then... then feeling of guilt and responsibility kick up (as IF I were their designated resquer...). I am so aware that this is all wrong thinking, but I feel that you are a person who completely understands this. Would you have any advices? Sending good vibes over (even if you DONT have time to answer me, I admire what you do, so sending good vibes over in ANY case)
Dear one, I just watched that. It was very insightful, but may I please still ask if you would consider making a video about how to actually cut them off? what to tell them, how to approach? how to keep up the cutting off? These things seem incredibly difficult for me...
i genuinely don't know if i can take it anymore even though i have 7 months until i can move out. i feel like this trauma will stick with me forever and i'll never get better.
Do you have any advice for dealing specifically with the breaking of boundaries? My narcissistic mother does not ever respect my boundaries, and as someone who lives at college most of the time, being able to live a life where i am respected and then being thrust back in during breaks (although i try to avoid going home) is rough - I feel like the phenomenon of having to re-enter for any period of time after living a somewhat normal life and "forgetting" how to cope or dealing with my own indignant rage now that I know what its like to be treated right is something not covered very often.Discussing with her EVER about this sort of stuff is futile - any tips for keeping in mind what a healthy boundary is and staying "okay" in a situation in which they are constantly broken?
Greyrocking doesn’t work with my mother :/ she thinks I’m giving her an attitude or that I’m mad even if I’m just answering her question, no matter what I say or do.
this is the best advice ive ever received. i struggle with suicidal thoughts daily because of living in an abusive household. and the only advice people have been giving me is talk to friends and family... so shit sherlock, im suicidal BECAUSE of them
i havent talked to them in so many years, thankfully they dont care about me so they didn't notice, i still live with them though and have to eat with them and other things
but if i've been abused for more than 10 years and lost all of those years of my life, worth nothing and i really cared about them, what can i do?dont need a real fix, just a way to deal with living here
Turn to God more and focusing on your own responsibilities. Looks simple but it's actually hard, but the pay off will significantly better than just wallowing in self pity for weeks.
I have a emotionally abusive parent who I believe might be a narcissist because when I tell her how I feel instead of being like oh, why do you feel like that and working on our problems she just says that’s how I feel and leaves me to deal with it by myself, or gets offended and I can’t move out because I don’t know how to adult because she never taught me.
Wow, that's exactly how I feel alredy for so long. But my question is if I am also turned to be like my parents. Coz my married also Brock. It's so weird to know we're I stand a d who I am!
You'll really have to work hard at not being like your parents, if they were toxic and/or narcissistic. Situations like that would come up if you have children, and although some would say that they'll never be like their mother &/or father and they'll treat their son/daughter better than how they were treated, they can fall into the same pattern of abusive behavior, unless they break that pattern.
Don’t worry sweetie you will find friends. Start saying that every morning as your mantra “I have good, genuine, trustworthy friends and people in my life”. Also find hobbies and work to make you happy and make money.
Then pack a bag and walk honey!!! Go to a shelter Get a social worker Apply food stamps Work at Mc Donald’s Get a beater car Get an apartment with Housing assistance or 3 good friends in same boat. Save save save Don’t trust anyone with or let anyone borrow money. Get into classes Move away as far as possible to a great place in this world 🌎
Choosing battles wisely is the hardest part it’s like your walking on eggshells like even if you do everything you can they will still find somethinggg I don’t live in my abusive household but I do wish I had these tips while being there thank you for these videos
Yeah to not give an emotional response teaches you to shut your emotions off. I have shut my emotions off so I dont even feel anything anymore after constantly being in their presence. They are trying to gaslight my mind to make me think that I am trying to be something I'm not, which is not true. They are all energy vampires and I must get away from them and never reconnect with them cause they actually need me in order to feed off of me.
@@angelh7703 I still get physically abused. I used to turn off my emotions for the longest time, but my African parents see it as disrespect after I’ve never been rebellious in nature my whole life. I can never please them. “I love you” really means nothing to me anymore.
The hardest part is letting yourself know you've been abused. They make you feel like you're being dramatic or other people have it better. My mom cut me off from seeing a thearpist. Im looking for a job, trying my hardest to get one. i am stuck here all the time, and now im boiling in my own self hate and tears because im always so upset. i have compelety lost all sense of myself.
I feel you :( my mom actually took my job away from me. She found out about my plan of saving money up and she completely cut me off from my savings. She cut me off from therapy, everything...smh. I’ve been trying to talk to my friends and spend time taking care of myself in my room to resolve my feelings of hatred. It’s hard I know. I hop you’re doing better
Me too I was going in a store to ask for a work but they said they needed a grade ,12 graduated and have a diploma my situation is so hard I just go with the flow of this hell poverty the situation forcing me to give out and makes me think of running away and be homeless cause I don't really have someone my friends forgotten me I only have few can count .
1)Get educated, join forums 2) Choose your battles wisely 3) Set emotional boundaries- Don’t tell your plans and good news or bad news. Keep your life private, cry in private 4) Spend as little time at home as possible- energy is drained 5)
reminder for people in general; not just the christian God, but whatever God or deities you believe in. for me that is Baphomet for you that may be God. thanks for the extra tips!
I am in my 40's. I really wish social media had been a resource when I was a kid. Narcissistic parents are so hard to survive. I'm so glad this channel is here! ❤
Me too. I'm 42 and I still feel like a child.. so scared of life and being me.. I'm trauma bonded to my mother and that's why every time Iv tried to get away, my lack of survival skills and confidence keeps pulling me back to her.. yes social media would have been so helpful back in our teen years. Sending you love and peace 😔🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@meljc2823Im 42 as well… I am so deeply ashamed of not being independent and that I am too emotionally broken to find the confidence I need to make changes and push myself. I know I have it in me but it’s pointless when someone is determined to derail me.. . My entire family fixates on me being the family low life……. I stopped doing all the things they would badger me about… no drinking, no smoking, never go out, they constantly bashed the job I got in the hospital because I should be a nurse not a technician, I heard them make fun of me working with all the people who weren’t smart enough to graduate college, my siblings created a narrative about me that would make anyone want to hate me…. They got my parents on board too…. The last two times I began online classed for a nursing degree my siblings decided to make an issue of me consuming energy drinks which for some reason is not okay with them. My brother physically attacked me during the first week of me starting online classes claiming I was on drugs….. nobody even helped me… I begged for them to let me prove I was not on drugs and take a drug test but they refused to even give me that opportunity but continued to break me down and demoralize me for being on stimulants WHICH I used to take for my ADHD but stopped because they claimed I didn’t need that medication and I only took them to curb my appetite …… I ran out of my house after the last time he assaulted me and ran to my boyfriends house to escape that abuse.. They wouldn’t allow me have my dogs for 6 weeks. I’ve overheard them discussing me being mentally ill because I would isolate in my bedroom to avoid the heavy energy and seeing them exchange glances and roll their eyes….. they scream at me and make fun of my lack of ambition but if I attempt to motivate they literallpush me down. I am their primary focus and they all have teamed up against me …. I have no money and a crappy car and it will stay that way because whenever I start making moves and get on track they sabotage me and then they will all scoff about me failing.., I have chest pains, depression, anxiety…. I feel exhausted today😊
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN for your life!!!
I'm 18 now aswell and i got my mouth broken by my mum a few weeks ago, it's hard to shake off but if you can get some money and start compounding assets you'll be freed one day I still remember the full year of depression that was my 17s, and looking back on it I'm in such a better place I think the best solution is to becomes fit, now that I can prepare my shit and not depend on them for it I can start hitting my weight goals as I'm underweight right now. I think having a great body just makes you stand out and brings good attention I'm just one opinion I just hope you can get out of hell Gravemind is a good channel you might wanna take a look Wish you the best
My parent has schizophrenic like symptoms along with narcissism, she stalks me in the house. Like if I go downstairs she stands at the top of the stairs to watch what I’m doing. If I go outside she secretly follows me in the car or makes sure I’m at the place I said I would be. Mind you guys I’m 29 and have a child. It’s hard but I don’t have the money to be on my own right now. Sending lots of love to everyone enduring this
I am experiencing the stalking in the house as well. Always trying to see what I am doing or asking what I am doing. I had to move back after a horrible divorce with a -- you guessed it -- narcissist! Stay strong, we will overcome this hurdle and be free of this. Sending love your way!
This sounds exactly like my mum. She no longer lives with us but she sure screwed up my entire childhood up to the point that I still feel her prying eyes on me. I still have a hard time trusting anyone even my other family. It's honestly frustrating
This video called me out. I was just about to cry and vent to my narcissistic mother about how I got rejected from one of my top colleges. Then I watched this video and realized she just wants to see my downfall and she WILL use that against me in the future. It isn't fair though. Kids should have support from their parents.
its genuinely such a lonely feeling to not have any support from your parents. its like not having anything to anchor you down in life and it feels like you have to figure out all the secrets of life yourself.
It’s hard to do do self care because the more self care I do the more shame my mom gives me. If she sees me doing good she gets mad and wants to keep me down. She doesn’t want to see me happy
@@jessicah3450 hi, i was wondering if you could give me some advice? i saw you replying to several comments here and i like your perspective. i totally understand if it's too much for you x
same with me but with my sisters… when i do self-care they always assume i’m being selfish or something but in reality i’m trying to mind my business and get better mentally.
Your description is my life. They put you down so badly to the point where you don’t have the energy to stand up and walk away. But they _constantly_ tear you down with every look, every words, every criticism. It sucks the life and soul out of you. But what to do when you leave no money, no place to run to, nowhere to go in a climate catastrophe/pandemic. Thank you for your advice!!
I’m in the same situation too it sucks and it’s extremely difficult just to get on with my daily routine. But I don’t give up & realise as long as I keep working towards saving every penny I get then I can move out a lot sooner forever & never have to come back! I’ll just cut my dad off completely till he can learn to have respect! This video is very helpful definitely these tips do work! I know pandemic it’s makes it worse I feel your pain deeply🙏🏽❤️💯🙏🏽but don’t give up on yourself! I go out for walks in the park to get in touch with nature & clear my head & release the toxic energy off me and also vision my dreams & how I plan to get there! Focusing on goals & dreams helps to keep your mind occupied more with improving your life rather than thinking about the difficulties we’re currently in! Hope you move out soon and find peace in your life @mai... Luv you❤️🙏🏽🌍💫💯❤️ from London
That's what I can't figure out. I'm 35 and worked 60 hours a week before this pandemic, but that still is not enough to get an apartment. Gotta make 3x rent to not have a co-signer in the lease.
@@senbetuyeymerry7411 I was there. If you care for my advice then I highly recommend thinking about What is your reason WHY you want to live? What is your purpose in Life? What do you want to live for? What else would you like to expirience?
Exactly, once you're in trouble you find out how shallow your so called friends were. I don't have an answer to this, 35 and still stuck at home (again, moved out about a dozen times). I try to not rely on people, because I know I can't count on them, but it seems like everyone who gets out has had someone who helped them or some enormous amount of luck. I always seem to slip through the cracks.
@@jessicah3450 where you able to get out ? I’m 25 still struggling to leave I’m almost there but it’s a struggle even after leaving still have to repair the pieces I’ve also tryed to move out but ended up back but when I leave this time it’s for good
I just sent this video to my little brother, who lives with my narcissistic mother still. I actually started finally dealing with my past trauma this year and I've grown SO much. Art has saved my life, so thank you so much for mentioning that!
My problem is not standing up for myself or feeling guilty when I do it when it comes to family.. my grandmother and mom try to tell me I’m evil because I won’t be a busboy.. I have cried in private since a child, and I stay in my room for most of day to avoid them.. but recently I have been going out more.. ive been journaling but I wanna get into painting..
Omg...not to mention narcissistic mothers will not help their children financially...see them as objects and use them when they start working to take all their money...lord help the children especially if they get custody in a divorce...I feel for the children...steaming hot shower not good for the skin warm bath/shower is better...
Yes, for me this is so true. My mom filled out job applications for me, without me present and once I was employed she charged me for rent because "everybody has to earn their keep." Except she never worked nor did any house/motherly duties. She chsrged me $800 in rent and my sister $1000. I would bever do that to my kids.
That’s so true. Im 30 and im broke af. I have no savings. She took all my money all my salaries bc she said if im strong financially i can leave the house. She put me in debts for years but that didn’t stop me. I managed to leave. When you’re free and happy being broke is not a problem at all.
Or they give you a trickle of money, so you can't pay bills and end up having to move back home. Then they can say stuff like see something must be really wrong with you that you can't afford rent, and can't live on your own. Prices have doubled since the last time wages have gone up. This is what I'm stuck in. Everything was so much more affordable when my mom was my age, there was still a middle class.
Same, but housing here is so expensive. That's what it always comes down to, I think I'm going to end up sleeping in my car again or having to move back home again. The money situation even when cutting out every luxury like a tv and cell phone still don't add up.
@@jessicah3450 Same for me! its the whole reason why I havent moved, because its not easy and also i dont have a job right now so its really hard to deal with this.
And KEEP your hobbies to yourself!!! My mother wouldn’t even compliment my art and believe me they were stunning…. But still she would ignore it and talk about the stuff she got at the thrift store… I learned to never take it personally anymore…
Melinda Wutangcroft I'm very sorry:( Please take a break from these types of videos if it gets overwhelming. I know how hard it is. Just know that you're not alone. Sending you love❤
Do you have a Video about how to deal with people not wanting to understand you and shaming you for your 'disrespective' behavior towards your parents. Currently I'm just avoiding speaking (about this toppic) with those ppl
Avoid it. They won't understand. I literally would send videos and texts (evidence of the narcissism) to my uncle and grandmother. My uncle flat out said he didn't even look at the evidence. Its frustrating but just know they dont understand, and they never will.
I experience with that with members of family. Narcissist are very manipulative so all my family are bitching behind my back that I am the bad one to not speak to mother of the year when she is the one who is crazy! So I give one of my aunt warning if she don't shut her mouth repeating my mothers lies I come over and slap her so hard she see the stars. That might works or the best to cut yourself off from this double faces idiots ! I just block them all !
@Osito Kintsugi I could not put that better then u! Prefect! Been in similar situation. With my mother and brother who both narrcisist psychopaths! I thread some of my family members to zip there mouth and stop repeating my mothers lies. They are wimps get scared but I bet are bitching behind my back. So better to cut yourself of from that double faces idiots! X
@Osito Kintsugi Thank you for your answer! 100% agreed what u saying! Waste of energy as everything I will say will be twisted or if I reacted they will have something to talk about for a years! Very challenging thou 🤔 x
I’m so happy I found this. I’m in my 30’s and, due to the craziness with covid, lost my job and couldn’t afford to live on my own anymore. Moving back with my parents has been like a death sentence to my soul so this is going to help.
I am 17 and feel like my world has come crashing down around me, realizing how my parents are and how they’ve gaslit me for years. Thank you for this video, it’s helping me not to feel so alone and motivating me to get out of this place.
The biggest thing that helped me with the abuse that I went through for most of my life. Was art and writing that gave me a escape from a world that I felt closing in around me .
So crazy that you JUST posted this today. I’m in this situation, & earlier today I almost snapped and wanted to hurt my dad. He’s my narcissist. Thank you so much for your insight. You truly are making a difference in at least one person’s life for sure!
My dad was too and although I don't live with him and haven't for years, I swear I can't get away from his effects and all that he put me through... Edit: but I wish you the best with everything and hope you can find relief soon ❤
Dear precious Maddie, I was quite validated when she said, "Narcs groom their children to lose their lust for life so that they don't have the drive or energy to do anything else, so they will stay under the narc's roof and continue to be abused." This is what happened to me. My senior year of high school, I dropped all my classes except the ones I needed to graduate because I could barely wake up to make it to school. I was mentally exhausted. When I moved away to college at 18, I slept so much that my concerned friend said, "There's no way sleeping this much is healthy." But I just HAD to sleep. I took the minimum classes I needed to keep my scholarship. I changed my major 100 times. I have always made near perfect grades, and I didn't major in pre-med, something I always wanted to do, because I thought organic chemistry was going to be too hard. Do you see the distorted thinking I had? I ended up loving chemistry, but anyway...Years later, I described myself at that time I left home as being "totally spent". I used to say I was DONE--at 18 years old!!! Now, I am not in any way suggesting you mimic anything I did. I just want you to know how serious the repercussions were for me, but they do NOT have to be the same for you. As she said, educate yourself as much as possible. The college course Abnormal Psychology was life changing for me, ok? My life actually started to make sense. If you live near a college or university, I want to encourage you to reach out to the psych dept faculty. College professors are MUCH cooler than HS teachers. Find out when they are lecturing on narcissism and other relevant topics you find in your research and sit in on the lectures. Trust me--they will be happy to have you there. You're going to need to be very creative to decrease exposure to the toxic environment you are now in, but you can do it! And if I haven't completely scared you off with all this info lol, you may message me anytime. All the best to you, Monique
Rising my vibrations helped with my family. It's odd how the energy works. Sometimes when I don't respond they will and get worst sometimes. But I am using a subliminal to have powers/shift into my ideal reality to leave my parents and family. I'm only 14...
I know how hard it is. I left my parent's house for my own sanity, but I haven't healed. I met my ex who was a fucking demon and stayed with him for 4 years. I left him this summer, now I'm learning to live by myself and taking care of me and my soul.
I try to make myself as nonexistent as possible. I buy my own food and make my own food, I eat at a different time and do only my dishes. I never eat food or use products that my parents buy even if they say they got something for me. I don’t want them to use that as leverage and act like I own them. I’m either not at home or in my room. I don’t take their feelings into consideration since they didn’t care about mine. I don’t tell them where I’m going or what I’m gonna buy. My parents have no sense of privacy and will enter my room and snoop around for things without my consent. My mother has a phobia of snakes so I bought a pet snake without telling her. I have thankfully detoured her from entering my room. I can leave my wallet in my room knowing she won’t steal my money. Speaking of money, I never borrow any money from them nor do I allow they to pay for anything. I don’t give them any emotional satisfaction. I do talk to them but am never engaged in what they say or state my own opinions. In a way I’m still feeding their egos because they think I’m listening to them, at least they aren’t emotionally manipulating me. I hope that if anyone reads my comment it might be of help. I understand it sucks to pretty much count your breaths in your own home with the amount of limitations you out on yourself but remember. It’s only temporary. I’m 23 and in 10 months from now I will be free.
I'm not being abused but the fear from living in my house has always been so overwhelming. I'm 20 now, I wasn't allowed to get a job, and I basically forced myself to go to college to please my mom even though I failed and now finally, decided to drop out. Mental health is a serious factor in succeeding. When you feel unsafe in your own home, how can work be finished?!?! I'm deciding to move into my car or into my bfs. You guys, make a plan. Get that job. Anything. You may think everything is okay but once you see how other families are treating their kids, it will open your eyes like it did mine.
I stayed away from the house as much as I could. At the library until they closed. At my cousins and grandparents houses. I was there to sleep, get up early and bounce.
Not telling them what your doing is my top tip. My mom came one time asking me about my how my channel was doing and I said “Don’t worry about it” and she tried to ask my sister but she didn’t tell her. I knew she didn’t really want to support me by how she said it. 🤫
Definitely normal unlike the shitty people who intentionally hurt us. I'm still working past my anger...but who wouldn't be? One of her late night thoughts videos touched on not being bitter. We can do this.
Extra tip: these tips won't work for everyone because everyone's situation is different, and that doesn't make your situation any less valid. You can best judge what will and won't work for you.
I just gotta say, it feels good to know that I’m not going crazy and everything I’ve been going through is real and not some game I make up like my family says I do :/ I hope everyone heals from any damage done by their families
When I looked up this video, I was trying to figure out whether I am exaggerating or not. It is painful to discover that I am actually in an abusive situation because all the things you have mentioned as survival techniques I have been using even before I landed on this video. That kind of confirmed that I am in an abusive situation.
I wanted to say thank you so much! I followed all these tips and finally MOVED OUT! I remeber watching this vidoe in so much pain, there is hope, my additional tips would be 1. Convice your mind your not in living that house, truly already beileven your in a safe place in your mind- this is def hard bur just keep refronicing the beilef in your head anytime it tries to come out and listen to happy songs while listening visualize yourself being happy and safe knowing you deserve it and will happen/ already has happened. you wanna have the emotion that you already have it to manifest it 2. Look at shelters or transitonal homes to move into
For the second step I'll just ignore my dad as much as I can and ehen he gets mad I'll talk back to him and cry like I always do, because he's one of those people that won't stop until you cry.
Thank you for supporting and uplifting each other in the comments❤
your gratitude, your god is inside of you, great and full of love, it is in yourself
Thank you for covering the hell that is the abuse narcissistic parents inflict ❤️ You are helping so many of us - YOU are more than amazing 🌹
Nu Mindframe Hi Nu it's Bob. My family still operates like they did 54 years ago. Its sad. Especially when a person enters Recovery, which ever route they take and freak out. I'm not responsible for their Recovery. ( My family) . just hope you are ok. I'm seeing Narcissisim spilling in the professional field. I have a exit route and probably will never be seen again. Who knows.
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Nu Mindframe I was adopted by a narcissist. Your videos help me out alot
My method of surviving my mother's abusive behavior is writing letters of self love/appreciation but I only open these letters and read them out loud when I feel sad/depressed. Self care/love is a strong weapon against a toxic parent. Reading books is my way of escaping my mother's abuse.
Patricia the booke This is a great method! I'll have to try this myself. Thanks for sharing❤
Yes I was reading books as well to escape the abuse and my awful reality 😝
Thank you for sharing. I might try this.
I've tried many things but in my case my mom's a cold bitch who's only agenda was to terrorize me the Church Pentecostal ,she's a freaking vapmire , got me detained as I left to the states again to live my life...now in worst condition with severe insomnia , no job ,she screwd my head with Soo much paranoia and fear...just finally learned about narcciism en more Thur the Church using scriptures of sin and hell... My father and brother and sister are her flying monkeys. .lost many realtionship cause of her and also my father came to my friends to kick me out of Florida that mothefucker..
I'm autistic and my mother is completely abusive. I can't move out bc I have no money yet. This is hell and I can't leave
Omgggggg I used to take 30 min long showers when I was in my narc household I never knew why either
I didn’t know until I moved out and my showers went from 40 minutes to 10 max...
Yeah my showers are like an hour but then they make fun of me for that too lol
My showers are 1 to 2 hours☹
my showers are always like 25-30 minutes and they talk about me and blame me for the water bill lol
Me too
thank you. I feel so trapped right now. I am trying to get means to move out right now but simply living here makes me so depressed and lose motivation and see a way out
I found working overtime so I was out of the house as much as possible helped, even though it's still not enough to afford to move out. I was definitely better, mentally, when I was working a lot.
Me to
Im sure everyone will lose motivation in a Hella house even get out of bed without being sick in ur stomach ...
Being the youngest child in a household with a narcissistic parent is especially hard. If they feel that they've lost control of your other siblings, they will target you so much harder than they did your siblings, especially when you're the last one in the house
Yes, and my older siblings went low to no contact, so abandoned me also because of that. Friends haven't stuck around either, because people now "hate negativity", like there are things that deserve being upset about. I am 35 and still can't escape my mom for good. Mainly because rent is so high while jobs pay nothing, even working 60 hours a week, I cannot afford basic expenses here. Things are so ridiculously expensive.
Yup the other siblings have moved out and on and when it’s time for you to. They have grown such a co dependence on you being their sole energy system that they can’t fathom the idea of you moving on.
I'm going through this even more since 2020. It makes me want to kill myself.
EXACTLY
OMG YES 😭
It sucks when you finally feel like being productive but cannot even act on it because leaving your room is too exhausting when a narc is on the other side of the door. I just go to sleep and end up doing nothing again and again.
Feel ya bruh. Only thing worse than an Energy Vampire is an Energy Vampire in your place of rest. The outside world is cold enough. Everyone deserves the peace & solace of home. Shittin on that is some of the worst shit you can do.
Do the productive things in your room or in nature outside. I would sit in my room all day and learn about astrology, plan my life, journal, meditate, read, talk to friends on my phone and on social media and relax. I ended up moving out for college and then for work and then marriage and nerve came back all from scripting about it so start scripting daily.
i'm sorry, i hope things get better
damn this really sums me up rn
that's what happens with me too.
I'm no longer a teenage living with my parent(s) but my heart goes out to those who are. I'd say this video is full of good advice. but the one thing I can't help but think about is all the mistakes I made while trying to avoid being at home as much as possible. So I would just like to reinforce the idea of trying to stay out doing positive activities (work, school, volunteering, etc) and keep good company. And it is also my personal opinion and hope that anyone living in this type of environment abstains from getting involved romantically until they are removed from the toxic environment and have began healing work. Just because we empaths tend to attract more toxic people, more narcissists etc unless we have started to heal. Relationships also tend me distractions from our own goals and can prevent us from getting out sooner.
I can totally relate to this at twenty six years old I never been in a relationship with anyone because of my toxic mother she's very manipulative. my toxic mother has made me come to the discussion to adopt a child rather than have one because mental illness runs on both sides of my family.
Samantha Salmon Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for giving advice about relationships. I noticed I tend to cling to the person more than normal, I crave their affection and words of affirmation obsessively, or I talk down on them because they aren't perfect. Idk. And ALL of these people I date are usually emotionally unavailable or a narcissist. So I basically beg these unhealthy people to fill my unhealthy void of loneliness and missing love. It's crazy lol. So yes, you're absolutely right. Don't date until you gone.
So so True
@@platinumheart_ SAME for me !
Highly accurate. I was going to write: "Narcissists are like vampires. They need a victim. If they see you developing independence, they will start getting dangerously aggressive to keep you around. They will try to ramp it up, in order to set off a break-down in you, to undo any progress"
...and as I'm listening, you said they're pretty much "psychic vampires", and then I realized you had it covered. Yeah, great stuff. I wish everyone good luck. It's amazing how often I find myself in these situations. I'm 45 and even to this day I find myself in a toxic situation, and I never saw it coming. I never thought this seemingly kind woman, was actually a toxic narcissistic person. I moved in with her and her husband after my divorce, and everything was fine as long as I talked with her, and within the first few months, I started noticing our conversations would end with her getting angry about strange things, like me simply disagreeing on an opinion based topic. When she tried to discuss politics, I said I didn't think that was a good idea, and she laughed and said "That's silly, what do you think is going to happen?", and within five minutes she was yelling and stomping around. That's when I knew I couldn't talk with her. Unfortunately, avoiding more than 'how are you.' 'Have a good day' 'Hello' 'Goodbye', made her seem to become bitter and passive aggressive, and at this point, she's screaming at me when I try to solve disputes, made via the messages passed through her husband, who is a good man and likely, I suspect at this point, beaten down by her.
I'm 45 and still capable of getting hurt by these people. I'm not a weak person. I'm not a fool. I simply never saw it coming and so it's not your fault. These people have very very thick disguises and they are sick, and likely will never heal, but all the advice here, is excellent. Thank you for sharing it.
I'm 35 here, my mom is a narcissist. I find so many of us also end up in abusive relationships. I just escaped my alcoholic very emotionally abusive ex, he still stalks me and is trying to recruit any acquaintances we shared to his side. Of course he was charming at first, and it felt so nice to feel loved. It didn't last of course. I guess we get kind of desensitized to abusive people, because our own parent is one, so it's what we've seen and known for our entire life! Once I get away from my mom this time (escaped a dozen time but financial reasons, and not wanting to be homeless get me back in this house) I'm sticking with cats as my company. I don't trust myself knowing if I can tell a safe person from an abusive one, I thought studying psychology in college and living with a narcissist, that I'd be able to spot them, but so many of them are very good at hiding who they really are in the beginning, so it does seem to come out of nowhere sometimes! Nothing escalated fights with my ex more than when I wanted to be calm
and rational, and he's competitive and wanted an argument-they gave him life or something. Even being quiet and not responding or trying to leave the room would set him off and he'd start throwing dishes across the room just to hear the crash I guess. It's going to take me a long time to trust my heart with someone. Remember to love yourself first, you will always have your own back and care about your best interests, you can't be sure anyone else will give you that same respect, you have to give it to yourself.
The problem is that narcissistic people or bullies have enablers so it’s easier said then done to get away from them. Usually narcissistic ppl target you if you’ve been in these environment.
I've been in this situation..my parents are enablers
Going through a tough time right now, I have come to realisation at 25 that enough is enough. People can't be fixed.. I'm focusing on myself now before I become even more damaged
The tragic part is that every abusive family is abusive in their own unique way
I'm super late probably but i don't live with my parents but I still live with my family and they seem jealous when I get nice things or when I look nice. They always complain about how me and my siblings eat up all the food and that we aren't grateful and it hurts alot. And I never realized that it was this serious and I appreciate you for this video ❤. I've been trying to find these videos and I'm 16 and thank you.
Has anyone else considered suicide as a way to get away from your parents or just me
I’ve considered it. Thankful that I didn’t. Life get better❤️
@@NuMindframe unfortunately I don't think I'm going to make it to my 18th birthday so even if it does get better as an adult its irrelevant
0i am thinking about it currently
@@saadiaou7139 I don't know about you but I just tied my first noose and found a good beem in the garage capable of supporting 480 pounds. I hope you survive but I don't think I will.
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Seeing this I remembered when I was a teenager and maybe unconsciously or with some life self acquired knowledge I did many things that you have talked like staying the most part of the time out, my emotional escape were my grandparents, I also built an emotional barrier and didn’t talk about myself...., and after many years using these “tactics” I was able to survive and build my own life...., now seeing your videos I understand better...., thank you.....
Them after:
“OmG mY bAbY sO gRoWn Up”
*kisses*
*hugs*
🤨I’m confused😽
Exactly! Jesus they're all fucking sick.
What’s sad is the narcissist’s behaviour doesn’t diminish with age. My father, to this day, still displays these behaviours, but minus the physical abuse as he is too old. I’m now not afraid to put him in his place when it’s necessary.
it gets worse tbh
I like the bit about respecting them even though they don't deserve it. I think this just makes you an even better person, but then maybe they'll push it and abuse you because you do everything perfect, so yeah you do have to choose your battles.
The passive aggressive attitudes were strong.I mostly stayed in my room all day if I wasn’t working or at school. You have to choose your battles wisely and sometimes just let them go.
Thank you so much. Honestly . I do half of these things anyway but acknowledging it and being able to effectively do these steps is very helpful
Hey Nu thank you for this video, I watch every single one but this one helped me especially because I'm 18 and in my last year of school, living with my narcissistic mother and father again bc living w my aunt didnt work out. I still have a problem though and its my little brother. He's 15 and I can see him slipping into the same behaviours that my mom has. I saw them in myself too, but I spent two years up until now recovering and becoming aware, and still am and your videos were my main thing to turn to when I was desperate so thank you thank you, couldnt thank you enough.
I dont know what to do about my little brother though, because I know that he would have to go through that change himself and his motivation would have to come from within, but I dont see him wanting to do that in the future at all. Sucks bc I wanna love my brother and have a good relationship with him in the future, and I want him to get better bc I can see that he's just existing from Ptsd as you mentioned, just like i was.
Could you maybe make a video about helping family members recover/becoming aware of whats actually going on (if you find it at all possivble)? Love you so much and I wish only the best for your future and may many blessings come your way.
thank you so much. ive been suffering for so long and im only 16 i needed this.
Same here. It's so f*ing hard
@@sunflowermood829 do you want to be friends and help each other out? its good to have support
@@piscean6161 sure
I hope you have a close community now and a better environment treating you better than you think you deserve. I hope you really feel safe and strong in love for yourself. Ironically, the abused and healing will be the heroes of this time I think.
Thank you so much for this video there's not very many of these videos and they are pretty hard to find and they help so so much
I'm tired. I am being emotionally abused feeling obligated to take care of my single mom. I have become angry and god forbid bitter. I am naturally a tender-hearted person. That's why I am so wounded. God has been telling me to leave and to have bravery. My narc mom is a pusher, not as much as being the enemy. I should have listened when I had the chance. This may even sound strange but God has lead me to your video to listen to you
No more voice overs 😭😭 we want to see you
I'm tired! gimme a few weeks😂❤️
@@NuMindframe take your time girl and get your rest❤❤
Creepy MUCH!
Fair-Is-Foul& Foul-is-Fair He's joking and he's a family friend. Keep it positive. If I have a problem with a comment I'll address it myself.
This comment section feels like home
I thought I'm the only one with abusive and a narcissistic father because when I see my friends posting about their lives... enjoying it ... they're growing and learning but here I am barely surviving ... he's so full of himself that he doesn't want anyone in the family to grow up and become independent...and to top it all he's so sexist and mysoginistic and thinks that me and my sister as girls can't survive in the world with
For Tip 2. I tried doing this, keeping my emotions contained and being "boring" but my Father did not take it kindly I would say. Since I'm 16 he uses the "attitude" excuse and when we went grocery shopping and he pointed out how someone looked when looking for a parking spot, I was picking at my lip and replied with a soft 'mhm' and he confronted me asking if I was mad. I got so anxious since I was trapped in the car, I couldn't leave because I didn't want to cause a scene so I made an excuse. He continued to be angry and told me to take my anger out on someone else since he "doesn't give me attitude, doesn't hit me, isn't mean" which was all lies.
I wanted to say that I’m very thankful for this video. I have been going through some things but knowing that I am not alone feels extremely relieving. I feel seen. Thank you once again ❤
all of this makes me so sad man it makes me completely hopeless and not wanting to even live anymore
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮
I made the mistake of telling my Nmom that im moving with friends. idk who needs to hear this, but NEVER!!!! EVER!!!! tell your Nparents your plans. EVER. DONT make the mistake i did.
Were you not able to go then
@@j.rebekah8605 Nope. Still trapped but i'm hoping to get out next summer.
I try to stay away from my mother but I don't have my own room so that makes it so much harder. I have nowhere in my house to go to cry and that hurts so much
We’re your parents narcissists ? If so, I’m very sorry you had to endure that pain. I send you lots of love and courage ❤️
my moms boyfriend is a huge narcissist, and he keeps doing small things to get under my skin and treats me like i’m a virus. i’m locked in the basement on multiple occasions, i have to sneak to get food otherwise he will throw a fit, he puts up signs for me to remember that i’m worthless and stupid. my mom just blindly sided with him because she “loves” him. it’s so fucking hard living in this house. i fucking hate it here.
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN 🏃🏽♀️ for your life!
Narcicists are energy vanpires abd also forces you to eat more til you be ina food coma. For them being fatter than your young daughter is a big problem and would force you to be to be fatter in order to be the thin one...
Crying just listening to this.
Me & my narcissistic mother currently live in the same house & don’t speak to each other at all but she throws slick shots at me every chance she gets. My boyfriend is in college a few hours away he has an apartment & he eventually wants me to come move in with him but he also told me he doesn’t think I should leave on bad terms with her. He wants me to talk to her & tell her how I feel but I don’t want to I feel like it won’t help at all but I’ve thought about it & if I were to do it I wouldn’t know what to say. Someone please help me.
Why does he want you to leave on good terms? In case you might have to go back?
@@NuMindframe lol thats fucked up dont go with him get your own apartment..
Oml
This is last but most important year to me. I hope i can come and type here i am at uni and leave
I wanna die most of the time.i know I'm a worthwhile person but I can't leave my mom alone while my brother is getting violent and too much.
Thank you! Couldn't have come at a better time. You are a GEM! 💎
My situation right now is horrible.. I’m 24 and I Iive with my older brother but he is a alcoholic and crazy he trips out over everything and he always yells at me and blames me and he also busts in my room and unpick my door knob at anytime 😞 I told my therapist this and she really just kinda brushed it off I started thinking it was my fault. I want to move out so badly but I don’t know how to get started or what to do. My parents never really taught me things so now I’m stuck living in this hell hole. He comes into my room at any time of the day and busts in my room he will yell at me if I don’t open the door. 😔 I don’t have any privacy and I’m always afraid he will just come in at a bad moment. I just want to be around peace
I'm sorry that sounds hard
oh i remember that i did set emotional boundaries, but it went horribly wrong, as they convinced my friends so always did it in school, and could never trust anyone(caused me to barrel up my emotions for probably 4 or 5 years continously, i really loved them as i just tought i was doing something wrong and thats why they didn't love me), they barely even cared about the years of suffering, seeing them just continue life normally when i
I need to start 2 or 3 of these to re establish my flow states of energy not too low or too high heart pounding
thank you so much this video really helped and also was a little pat on the back for myself doing some of these
Thank you so much. I have had a hard day dealing with stuff related to npds. I am going to try some of these. Just made a plan earlier.
Oh GOSH GOSH GOSH! This is something I am very much anticipating to watch (kinda like a processing excercise for my past). Dear one, would you please also consider making a video about how to 'detach' from an abusive household? I have already moved out, but I am still not far away enough...
and recently... things again got worse again.. (Mom calls, *your father is drinking again - pause - could you come over a bit?*) I am mostly watching your co-dependant videos to process my PARENT's relationship... but I realized (took 29 years) that I cannot do the development for them. I have had ENOUGH, but it is sooooooo HARD staying out of the MESS that they constantly create... I do not know how to be consistent in saying no. I do it a couple of times, but then... then feeling of guilt and responsibility kick up (as IF I were their designated resquer...). I am so aware that this is all wrong thinking, but I feel that you are a person who completely understands this. Would you have any advices?
Sending good vibes over (even if you DONT have time to answer me, I admire what you do, so sending good vibes over in ANY case)
Found the cutting-off video! :)
Dear one, I just watched that. It was very insightful, but may I please still ask if you would consider making a video about how to actually cut them off? what to tell them, how to approach? how to keep up the cutting off? These things seem incredibly difficult for me...
i genuinely don't know if i can take it anymore even though i have 7 months until i can move out. i feel like this trauma will stick with me forever and i'll never get better.
My Dad called me evil and negative today because he told me to stop using my phone and i said im not playing games,im studying 😁
Do you have any advice for dealing specifically with the breaking of boundaries? My narcissistic mother does not ever respect my boundaries, and as someone who lives at college most of the time, being able to live a life where i am respected and then being thrust back in during breaks (although i try to avoid going home) is rough - I feel like the phenomenon of having to re-enter for any period of time after living a somewhat normal life and "forgetting" how to cope or dealing with my own indignant rage now that I know what its like to be treated right is something not covered very often.Discussing with her EVER about this sort of stuff is futile - any tips for keeping in mind what a healthy boundary is and staying "okay" in a situation in which they are constantly broken?
The after college move back phase is like retrauma. This needs more attention.
As hard as it is, grey rock and then eventually go no contact. That's what I'm having to do. Stay strong.
Greyrocking doesn’t work with my mother :/ she thinks I’m giving her an attitude or that I’m mad even if I’m just answering her question, no matter what I say or do.
this is the best advice ive ever received. i struggle with suicidal thoughts daily because of living in an abusive household. and the only advice people have been giving me is talk to friends and family... so shit sherlock, im suicidal BECAUSE of them
i havent talked to them in so many years, thankfully they dont care about me so they didn't notice, i still live with them though and have to eat with them and other things
but if i've been abused for more than 10 years and lost all of those years of my life, worth nothing and i really cared about them, what can i do?dont need a real fix, just a way to deal with living here
Turn to God more and focusing on your own responsibilities. Looks simple but it's actually hard, but the pay off will significantly better than just wallowing in self pity for weeks.
It's hard to ignore a needy parentmust stay strong.
I have a emotionally abusive parent who I believe might be a narcissist because when I tell her how I feel instead of being like oh, why do you feel like that and working on our problems she just says that’s how I feel and leaves me to deal with it by myself, or gets offended and I can’t move out because I don’t know how to adult because she never taught me.
damn....
this was incredible.
Thank you.
I wish i could live in a normal healthy household
I need some emotional support 😪 abusive home😪😪😪
I cant move out I fear I will be forced into marriage that fear cripples me . thanks for the information
Great video!
Wow, that's exactly how I feel alredy for so long. But my question is if I am also turned to be like my parents. Coz my married also Brock. It's so weird to know we're I stand a d who I am!
You'll really have to work hard at not being like your parents, if they were toxic and/or narcissistic.
Situations like that would come up if you have children, and although some would say that they'll never be like their mother &/or father and they'll treat their son/daughter better than how they were treated, they can fall into the same pattern of abusive behavior, unless they break that pattern.
They just threatened to kick me out and i have nowhere to go, i have no friends because of them
Don’t worry sweetie you will find friends. Start saying that every morning as your mantra “I have good, genuine, trustworthy friends and people in my life”. Also find hobbies and work to make you happy and make money.
Then pack a bag and walk honey!!!
Go to a shelter
Get a social worker
Apply food stamps
Work at Mc Donald’s
Get a beater car
Get an apartment with Housing assistance or 3 good friends in same boat.
Save save save
Don’t trust anyone with or let anyone borrow money.
Get into classes
Move away as far as possible to a great place in this world 🌎
im too tired. I dont know how much longer I can go on.
i feel you
try to remember things will change and you will get over it, even if it takes time
@@ian-online thank you
Choosing battles wisely is the hardest part it’s like your walking on eggshells like even if you do everything you can they will still find somethinggg I don’t live in my abusive household but I do wish I had these tips while being there thank you for these videos
So True !!!
Yeah to not give an emotional response teaches you to shut your emotions off. I have shut my emotions off so I dont even feel anything anymore after constantly being in their presence. They are trying to gaslight my mind to make me think that I am trying to be something I'm not, which is not true. They are all energy vampires and I must get away from them and never reconnect with them cause they actually need me in order to feed off of me.
So true omg. I live temporarily in hell with my mom but I am not of it.
@@angelh7703 I still get physically abused. I used to turn off my emotions for the longest time, but my African parents see it as disrespect after I’ve never been rebellious in nature my whole life. I can never please them. “I love you” really means nothing to me anymore.
Thank you for spending your time to watch them anyway
The hardest part is letting yourself know you've been abused. They make you feel like you're being dramatic or other people have it better. My mom cut me off from seeing a thearpist. Im looking for a job, trying my hardest to get one. i am stuck here all the time, and now im boiling in my own self hate and tears because im always so upset. i have compelety lost all sense of myself.
I feel you :( my mom actually took my job away from me. She found out about my plan of saving money up and she completely cut me off from my savings. She cut me off from therapy, everything...smh. I’ve been trying to talk to my friends and spend time taking care of myself in my room to resolve my feelings of hatred. It’s hard I know. I hop you’re doing better
Me too I was going in a store to ask for a work but they said they needed a grade ,12 graduated and have a diploma my situation is so hard I just go with the flow of this hell poverty the situation forcing me to give out and makes me think of running away and be homeless cause I don't really have someone my friends forgotten me I only have few can count .
I am going through that too. Don't lose you! Shalom : )
@@mariatheresafloresca4166 You can do it! Have faith in you. I know what that feels like. I've been there! You can survive.
Same here 🥺😕 reply to my comment when u make it out luv u got this 🙁❤️
1)Get educated, join forums
2) Choose your battles wisely
3) Set emotional boundaries- Don’t tell your plans and good news or bad news. Keep your life private, cry in private
4) Spend as little time at home as possible- energy is drained
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5) Find an outlet for your emotions
6) Self soothe as much as possible
7) Turn to God
@@lelev.5758 ty so much
@@lelev.5758 mlmmo owiyeietu. Mere
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reminder for people in general; not just the christian God, but whatever God or deities you believe in. for me that is Baphomet for you that may be God. thanks for the extra tips!
this is helpful thanks
I am in my 40's. I really wish social media had been a resource when I was a kid. Narcissistic parents are so hard to survive. I'm so glad this channel is here! ❤
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I'm 34 and have never felt like any age since I was a child. I don't think I was able to be happy and laugh so just took each year as it came.
Me too. I'm 42 and I still feel like a child.. so scared of life and being me.. I'm trauma bonded to my mother and that's why every time Iv tried to get away, my lack of survival skills and confidence keeps pulling me back to her.. yes social media would have been so helpful back in our teen years. Sending you love and peace
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@@meljc2823Im 42 as well… I am so deeply ashamed of not being independent and that I am too emotionally broken to find the confidence I need to make changes and push myself. I know I have it in me but it’s pointless when someone is determined to derail me..
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My entire family fixates on me being the family low life……. I stopped doing all the things they would badger me about… no drinking, no smoking, never go out, they constantly bashed the job I got in the hospital because I should be a nurse not a technician, I heard them make fun of me working with all the people who weren’t smart enough to graduate college, my siblings created a narrative about me that would make anyone want to hate me….
They got my parents on board too…. The last two times I began online classed for a nursing degree my siblings decided to make an issue of me consuming energy drinks which for some reason is not okay with them. My brother physically attacked me during the first week of me starting online classes claiming I was on drugs….. nobody even helped me… I begged for them to let me prove I was not on drugs and take a drug test but they refused to even give me that opportunity but continued to break me down and demoralize me for being on stimulants WHICH I used to take for my ADHD but stopped because they claimed I didn’t need that medication and I only took them to curb my appetite …… I ran out of my house after the last time he assaulted me and ran to my boyfriends house to escape that abuse.. They wouldn’t allow me have my dogs for 6 weeks. I’ve overheard them discussing me being mentally ill because I would isolate in my bedroom to avoid the heavy energy and seeing them exchange glances and roll their eyes….. they scream at me and make fun of my lack of ambition but if I attempt to motivate they literallpush me down. I am their primary focus and they all have teamed up against me …. I have no money and a crappy car and it will stay that way because whenever I start making moves and get on track they sabotage me and then they will all scoff about me failing.., I have chest pains, depression, anxiety…. I feel exhausted today😊
i'v survived 15 years , i can survive 3 more years i think.
i hope i get to live some day
Call child protective services, and the police!!! ☎️ 👮🏻♂️ When the police and social worker get there, beg them for hell to escape. Never let the abusers convince the courts or you to return. They will hurt you even more if you do.😢😮 RUN for your life!!!
i really felt that last sentence. i also have another year left
found this comment i made two years ago , Now i’m 18 i came back to this video only to realise my situation will never get better a
I'm 18 now aswell and i got my mouth broken by my mum a few weeks ago, it's hard to shake off but if you can get some money and start compounding assets you'll be freed one day
I still remember the full year of depression that was my 17s, and looking back on it I'm in such a better place
I think the best solution is to becomes fit, now that I can prepare my shit and not depend on them for it I can start hitting my weight goals as I'm underweight right now.
I think having a great body just makes you stand out and brings good attention
I'm just one opinion
I just hope you can get out of hell
Gravemind is a good channel you might wanna take a look
Wish you the best
My parent has schizophrenic like symptoms along with narcissism, she stalks me in the house. Like if I go downstairs she stands at the top of the stairs to watch what I’m doing. If I go outside she secretly follows me in the car or makes sure I’m at the place I said I would be. Mind you guys I’m 29 and have a child. It’s hard but I don’t have the money to be on my own right now. Sending lots of love to everyone enduring this
I am experiencing the stalking in the house as well. Always trying to see what I am doing or asking what I am doing. I had to move back after a horrible divorce with a -- you guessed it -- narcissist! Stay strong, we will overcome this hurdle and be free of this. Sending love your way!
This sounds exactly like my mum. She no longer lives with us but she sure screwed up my entire childhood up to the point that I still feel her prying eyes on me. I still have a hard time trusting anyone even my other family. It's honestly frustrating
Oml I feel bad for you
@@itsbritneybyotch7471 I finally was able to leave staying in a residential shelter for women and children 🥰
@@Alcoholpad omg, sounds really good for you, I hope you're doing okay at there too as well, good luck :)
This video called me out. I was just about to cry and vent to my narcissistic mother about how I got rejected from one of my top colleges. Then I watched this video and realized she just wants to see my downfall and she WILL use that against me in the future. It isn't fair though. Kids should have support from their parents.
😔🙏🙏🙏🙏 yes.. I'm so sad for you.. keep being strong..😌❤️
U will be free one day..🕊️
its genuinely such a lonely feeling to not have any support from your parents. its like not having anything to anchor you down in life and it feels like you have to figure out all the secrets of life yourself.
Omg, like I’m literally in tears. I feel like the universe spoke to you so you could speak to me. Amazing!
LiLMaddie TheBaddie ❤
Makes too of us
@@metfanmetfan1477 nah 3
4 of us
It’s hard to do do self care because the more self care I do the more shame my mom gives me. If she sees me doing good she gets mad and wants to keep me down. She doesn’t want to see me happy
Yes same! When I try to dress up nice and do my makeup my mom always finds my flaws and calls me names🤦🏾♀️I can never be happy in her presence
Do it for yourself because it makes you feel better. She just wants to keep you down and is jealous that you have more self discipline than she does.
@@jessicah3450 hi, i was wondering if you could give me some advice? i saw you replying to several comments here and i like your perspective. i totally understand if it's too much for you x
same with me but with my sisters… when i do self-care they always assume i’m being selfish or something but in reality i’m trying to mind my business and get better mentally.
UFF I SWEARRRRR. this is literally my situation. My mother is mentally sick tbh.
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I always forget that the reason I’m always tired isn’t because I’m lazy I literally just can’t find my lust for life. I needed this talk today.
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Thisss😔💯
Your description is my life. They put you down so badly to the point where you don’t have the energy to stand up and walk away. But they _constantly_ tear you down with every look, every words, every criticism. It sucks the life and soul out of you. But what to do when you leave no money, no place to run to, nowhere to go in a climate catastrophe/pandemic. Thank you for your advice!!
I’m in the same situation too it sucks and it’s extremely difficult just to get on with my daily routine. But I don’t give up & realise as long as I keep working towards saving every penny I get then I can move out a lot sooner forever & never have to come back! I’ll just cut my dad off completely till he can learn to have respect! This video is very helpful definitely these tips do work! I know pandemic it’s makes it worse I feel your pain deeply🙏🏽❤️💯🙏🏽but don’t give up on yourself! I go out for walks in the park to get in touch with nature & clear my head & release the toxic energy off me and also vision my dreams & how I plan to get there! Focusing on goals & dreams helps to keep your mind occupied more with improving your life rather than thinking about the difficulties we’re currently in! Hope you move out soon and find peace in your life @mai...
Luv you❤️🙏🏽🌍💫💯❤️ from London
@@kev1519 same situation here all am thinking is killing ma self I really need help
That's what I can't figure out. I'm 35 and worked 60 hours a week before this pandemic, but that still is not enough to get an apartment. Gotta make 3x rent to not have a co-signer in the lease.
@@senbetuyeymerry7411 I was there. If you care for my advice then I highly recommend thinking about What is your reason WHY you want to live? What is your purpose in Life? What do you want to live for? What else would you like to expirience?
same..
How do you leave an abusive family if you literally do not have any external people available to help you?
Exactly, once you're in trouble you find out how shallow your so called friends were. I don't have an answer to this, 35 and still stuck at home (again, moved out about a dozen times). I try to not rely on people, because I know I can't count on them, but it seems like everyone who gets out has had someone who helped them or some enormous amount of luck. I always seem to slip through the cracks.
@@jessicah3450 where you able to get out ? I’m 25 still struggling to leave I’m almost there but it’s a struggle even after leaving still have to repair the pieces I’ve also tryed to move out but ended up back but when I leave this time it’s for good
DV shelters Because it is domestic violence!!! Go and never look back!
@@SharlenesJourney Same here. I wish you all the luck in the world.
You really know your shit. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences with us.
I just sent this video to my little brother, who lives with my narcissistic mother still. I actually started finally dealing with my past trauma this year and I've grown SO much. Art has saved my life, so thank you so much for mentioning that!
My problem is not standing up for myself or feeling guilty when I do it when it comes to family.. my grandmother and mom try to tell me I’m evil because I won’t be a busboy.. I have cried in private since a child, and I stay in my room for most of day to avoid them.. but recently I have been going out more.. ive been journaling but I wanna get into painting..
I'm so proud of you girl! Please don't listen to them. YOU and only you know what path you need to follow in life.
Ps. How did the painting turn out?
Do what you love! You will succeed! Much love!
Omg...not to mention narcissistic mothers will not help their children financially...see them as objects and use them when they start working to take all their money...lord help the children especially if they get custody in a divorce...I feel for the children...steaming hot shower not good for the skin warm bath/shower is better...
Some of them do help financially. But they use it as a way to have power and control over the child, and to keep them dependent.
Yes, for me this is so true. My mom filled out job applications for me, without me present and once I was employed she charged me for rent because "everybody has to earn their keep." Except she never worked nor did any house/motherly duties. She chsrged me $800 in rent and my sister $1000. I would bever do that to my kids.
That’s so true. Im 30 and im broke af. I have no savings. She took all my money all my salaries bc she said if im strong financially i can leave the house. She put me in debts for years but that didn’t stop me. I managed to leave. When you’re free and happy being broke is not a problem at all.
Or they give you a trickle of money, so you can't pay bills and end up having to move back home. Then they can say stuff like see something must be really wrong with you that you can't afford rent, and can't live on your own. Prices have doubled since the last time wages have gone up. This is what I'm stuck in. Everything was so much more affordable when my mom was my age, there was still a middle class.
tbh that's exactly my dad
I'm in my 30's and Im still trapped with my Toxic Mother... but I am getting everything set up to move out.
Same, but housing here is so expensive. That's what it always comes down to, I think I'm going to end up sleeping in my car again or having to move back home again. The money situation even when cutting out every luxury like a tv and cell phone still don't add up.
@@jessicah3450 Same for me! its the whole reason why I havent moved, because its not easy and also i dont have a job right now so its really hard to deal with this.
And KEEP your hobbies to yourself!!! My mother wouldn’t even compliment my art and believe me they were stunning…. But still she would ignore it and talk about the stuff she got at the thrift store… I learned to never take it personally anymore…
this video is triggering ;( i'm living this right now
Melinda Wutangcroft I'm very sorry:( Please take a break from these types of videos if it gets overwhelming. I know how hard it is. Just know that you're not alone. Sending you love❤
Do you have a Video about how to deal with people not wanting to understand you and shaming you for your 'disrespective' behavior towards your parents.
Currently I'm just avoiding speaking (about this toppic) with those ppl
Avoid it. They won't understand. I literally would send videos and texts (evidence of the narcissism) to my uncle and grandmother. My uncle flat out said he didn't even look at the evidence.
Its frustrating but just know they dont understand, and they never will.
I experience with that with members of family. Narcissist are very manipulative so all my family are bitching behind my back that I am the bad one to not speak to mother of the year when she is the one who is crazy!
So I give one of my aunt warning if she don't shut her mouth repeating my mothers lies I come over and slap her so hard she see the stars.
That might works or the best to cut yourself off from this double faces idiots ! I just block them all !
@Osito Kintsugi I could not put that better then u! Prefect!
Been in similar situation. With my mother and brother who both narrcisist psychopaths! I thread some of my family members to zip there mouth and stop repeating my mothers lies. They are wimps get scared but I bet are bitching behind my back. So better to cut yourself of from that double faces idiots! X
@Osito Kintsugi Thank you for your answer! 100% agreed what u saying! Waste of energy as everything I will say will be twisted or if I reacted they will have something to talk about for a years! Very challenging thou 🤔 x
You'll reach a point when you don't care at all.
I’m so happy I found this. I’m in my 30’s and, due to the craziness with covid, lost my job and couldn’t afford to live on my own anymore. Moving back with my parents has been like a death sentence to my soul so this is going to help.
Praying for you Gypsy I hope you can make it out of there I know you will and feel at peace you deserve it 🙏🏾🙏🏾✨✨
This is currently me 😢
I am 17 and feel like my world has come crashing down around me, realizing how my parents are and how they’ve gaslit me for years. Thank you for this video, it’s helping me not to feel so alone and motivating me to get out of this place.
The biggest thing that helped me with the abuse that I went through for most of my life. Was art and writing that gave me a escape from a world that I felt closing in around me .
So crazy that you JUST posted this today. I’m in this situation, & earlier today I almost snapped and wanted to hurt my dad. He’s my narcissist. Thank you so much for your insight. You truly are making a difference in at least one person’s life for sure!
LiLMaddie TheBaddie sending you strength! I know how hard it is to deal with that daily
Whitley Brown Thank you. Very much appreciated. I try to stay strong and patient but I almost broke today. I genuinely appreciate your words! ❤️
My dad was too and although I don't live with him and haven't for years, I swear I can't get away from his effects and all that he put me through...
Edit: but I wish you the best with everything and hope you can find relief soon ❤
My mother is the abusive parent not my father I can't relate.
Dear precious Maddie, I was quite validated when she said, "Narcs groom their children to lose their lust for life so that they don't have the drive or energy to do anything else, so they will stay under the narc's roof and continue to be abused." This is what happened to me. My senior year of high school, I dropped all my classes except the ones I needed to graduate because I could barely wake up to make it to school. I was mentally exhausted. When I moved away to college at 18, I slept so much that my concerned friend said, "There's no way sleeping this much is healthy." But I just HAD to sleep. I took the minimum classes I needed to keep my scholarship. I changed my major 100 times. I have always made near perfect grades, and I didn't major in pre-med, something I always wanted to do, because I thought organic chemistry was going to be too hard. Do you see the distorted thinking I had? I ended up loving chemistry, but anyway...Years later, I described myself at that time I left home as being "totally spent". I used to say I was DONE--at 18 years old!!! Now, I am not in any way suggesting you mimic anything I did. I just want you to know how serious the repercussions were for me, but they do NOT have to be the same for you. As she said, educate yourself as much as possible. The college course Abnormal Psychology was life changing for me, ok? My life actually started to make sense. If you live near a college or university, I want to encourage you to reach out to the psych dept faculty. College professors are MUCH cooler than HS teachers. Find out when they are lecturing on narcissism and other relevant topics you find in your research and sit in on the lectures. Trust me--they will be happy to have you there. You're going to need to be very creative to decrease exposure to the toxic environment you are now in, but you can do it! And if I haven't completely scared you off with all this info lol, you may message me anytime. All the best to you, Monique
Rising my vibrations helped with my family. It's odd how the energy works. Sometimes when I don't respond they will and get worst sometimes. But I am using a subliminal to have powers/shift into my ideal reality to leave my parents and family. I'm only 14...
Oh Paige Cutie omg really i am 14 as well!
So young and yet so wise
I know how hard it is. I left my parent's house for my own sanity, but I haven't healed. I met my ex who was a fucking demon and stayed with him for 4 years. I left him this summer, now I'm learning to live by myself and taking care of me and my soul.
Good for you!
Building you by learning to love you.
I try to make myself as nonexistent as possible. I buy my own food and make my own food, I eat at a different time and do only my dishes. I never eat food or use products that my parents buy even if they say they got something for me. I don’t want them to use that as leverage and act like I own them. I’m either not at home or in my room.
I don’t take their feelings into consideration since they didn’t care about mine. I don’t tell them where I’m going or what I’m gonna buy.
My parents have no sense of privacy and will enter my room and snoop around for things without my consent. My mother has a phobia of snakes so I bought a pet snake without telling her. I have thankfully detoured her from entering my room. I can leave my wallet in my room knowing she won’t steal my money.
Speaking of money, I never borrow any money from them nor do I allow they to pay for anything.
I don’t give them any emotional satisfaction. I do talk to them but am never engaged in what they say or state my own opinions. In a way I’m still feeding their egos because they think I’m listening to them, at least they aren’t emotionally manipulating me.
I hope that if anyone reads my comment it might be of help. I understand it sucks to pretty much count your breaths in your own home with the amount of limitations you out on yourself but remember. It’s only temporary. I’m 23 and in 10 months from now I will be free.
I hope you made it out!
I'm not being abused but the fear from living in my house has always been so overwhelming. I'm 20 now, I wasn't allowed to get a job, and I basically forced myself to go to college to please my mom even though I failed and now finally, decided to drop out. Mental health is a serious factor in succeeding. When you feel unsafe in your own home, how can work be finished?!?! I'm deciding to move into my car or into my bfs. You guys, make a plan. Get that job. Anything. You may think everything is okay but once you see how other families are treating their kids, it will open your eyes like it did mine.
I stayed away from the house as much as I could. At the library until they closed. At my cousins and grandparents houses. I was there to sleep, get up early and bounce.
I’m having financial difficulties. I can’t seem to move out.
same here. it's horrible
Join the marines for two years that will set you on track thats what im planning to do.
Kinda the same for me... I have an eviction on my credit ... praying this credit company can get it removed 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thanks for sharing
Lets crowd funt people in this situation
Everytime my narcissistic dad begs for affection and then he berates me after I give in😢. Must stay strong.💪
Not telling them what your doing is my top tip. My mom came one time asking me about my how my channel was doing and I said “Don’t worry about it” and she tried to ask my sister but she didn’t tell her. I knew she didn’t really want to support me by how she said it. 🤫
Anger is building the more I learn I feel confused
Definitely normal unlike the shitty people who intentionally hurt us. I'm still working past my anger...but who wouldn't be? One of her late night thoughts videos touched on not being bitter. We can do this.
Extra tip: these tips won't work for everyone because everyone's situation is different, and that doesn't make your situation any less valid. You can best judge what will and won't work for you.
Great advice here. My heart goes out to anyone out there that ever had to deal with this.
I just gotta say, it feels good to know that I’m not going crazy and everything I’ve been going through is real and not some game I make up like my family says I do :/ I hope everyone heals from any damage done by their families
When I looked up this video, I was trying to figure out whether I am exaggerating or not. It is painful to discover that I am actually in an abusive situation because all the things you have mentioned as survival techniques I have been using even before I landed on this video. That kind of confirmed that I am in an abusive situation.
I wanted to say thank you so much! I followed all these tips and finally MOVED OUT! I remeber watching this vidoe in so much pain, there is hope, my additional tips would be
1. Convice your mind your not in living that house, truly already beileven your in a safe place in your mind- this is def hard bur just keep refronicing the beilef in your head anytime it tries to come out and listen to happy songs while listening visualize yourself being happy and safe knowing you deserve it and will happen/ already has happened. you wanna have the emotion that you already have it to manifest it
2. Look at shelters or transitonal homes to move into
For the second step I'll just ignore my dad as much as I can and ehen he gets mad I'll talk back to him and cry like I always do, because he's one of those people that won't stop until you cry.