You won't stop binge eating until you understand this.

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  • @Lucidtundra
    @Lucidtundra 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +645

    I stopped binge eating when I realised eating excessively won’t change the fact that my mother was a narcissist

    • @_namasteshay
      @_namasteshay 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      Oooooof you just hit waaay to close to home 😢🥵

    • @Lindakelly89
      @Lindakelly89 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is just facts right here 😢 was it an overnight realization?

    • @angelamurphy9472
      @angelamurphy9472 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Such a fantastic insight! Thank you.

  • @andreamolnarova2185
    @andreamolnarova2185 ปีที่แล้ว +6357

    Hi, Im Rebecca.

    • @RyanAmero
      @RyanAmero ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Your her client?

    • @nowwhat1434
      @nowwhat1434 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Me too!

    • @geishalova
      @geishalova ปีที่แล้ว +52

      no youre andrea molnárová

    • @annabella_jean
      @annabella_jean ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same here

    • @Rose_budd
      @Rose_budd ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I'm Rebecca as well lol

  • @sattheer1493
    @sattheer1493 ปีที่แล้ว +2615

    I have been consuming binge-eating content for almost a decade and I have NEVER heard anyone describe my experience so perfectly. This is an amazing video!

    • @Catita_atitaC
      @Catita_atitaC 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      me too

    • @CharlieMingaz843
      @CharlieMingaz843 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      My mind is blown.

    • @hassegawamkt
      @hassegawamkt 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same for me! I feel like she's describing me. Lol

    • @EdouardNicolas96
      @EdouardNicolas96 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      a decade?? seems like the content hasn't been helping you if you still around

    • @jl2493
      @jl2493 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@EdouardNicolas96😡

  • @nusagrace
    @nusagrace ปีที่แล้ว +620

    Today is my 4th day without binging. I am so happy. It’s possible, my dear, never stop believing and seeking it!

    • @user-mz2vh7vi1b
      @user-mz2vh7vi1b ปีที่แล้ว +13

      im rooting for you 🫶🏼

    • @jackyderden8775
      @jackyderden8775 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yay! Keep us updated :)

    • @goshiii1995
      @goshiii1995 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      YAYYY IM SOOPROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!I'm gonna stop binging tomorrow I hope it'll stop forever

    • @meenugupta1137
      @meenugupta1137 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Hey I am 13 years old I binge on sweets alot I have recovered ed but now I am fed up of this binge eating
      How did you recovered your binge eating

    • @user-yi2db6bv5o
      @user-yi2db6bv5o 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I am definitely binging because I am bored and feel suppressed. I do t feel like I can go out and do what I want without checking I. With my partner first.

  • @cikis14
    @cikis14 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

    I have done this for 20 years, I’m exhausted

  • @lauralee5226
    @lauralee5226 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    I binged again today. And yesterday. And the day after. I want to be better. I will try again, and again ❤

    • @pcastillo01
      @pcastillo01 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      That’s ok. Focus on calming your mind and body down. Eat slower. Eat what you like. After your body and mind are peaceful then you can decide what foods are better for you. Eventually you’ll move to what’s better to eat and what amount is better. Slow down, breathe, slow your mind and body down. There is nothing wrong with you, this is just a habit, a coping method. You can focus on finding new, healthier coping methods and slowly, calmly change.

  • @sarabethlopez
    @sarabethlopez 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    These are the type of videos that need to go viral.
    What world do we live in?

  • @steadystackin7250
    @steadystackin7250 ปีที่แล้ว +133

    In America, there is more fake food than real food. As a person who has chosen only to put mostly real food in my body, it's extremely frustrating that you have to work so hard to find it. I'm constantly having to think and plan about food simply because real food is not available in most restaurants

  • @mexicanprincess2002
    @mexicanprincess2002 ปีที่แล้ว +1069

    It’s my 3rd time trying recovery and I feel more hopeful than ever. Of course I’m still scared of things going wrong, but my need to get better is stronger and videos like this make me feel more seen and comforted. Thank you

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +36

      That's really lovely to hear. You're very welcome here. You can do this ❤️

    • @yashvi8576
      @yashvi8576 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Did it help u??

    • @monopoly340
      @monopoly340 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      3rd time's the charm

    • @mexicanprincess2002
      @mexicanprincess2002 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@monopoly340 I hope so :)

  • @evaggeliastavropoulou7829
    @evaggeliastavropoulou7829 ปีที่แล้ว +658

    My cravings when under depression meds were INSANE, I gained 8kg, which might not sound like a lot but it was to me. I stated writing everything down (like a diet journal). For the first step I tried to only eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day and once I got that down I started swapping the unhealthy choices with healthy ones + 20' of exercise 3-4 times a week. It took over a year but my old clothes finally fit again! It was a slow change but a change nonetheless 😊

    • @kotenoklelu3471
      @kotenoklelu3471 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I also want to lose 12 kilo. I am in second month. I lost 3 kilos. But I overeat on cookies yesterday 2700 calories. And I need to eat 1300 calories. I afraid to think about weighing myself after this

    • @marnieishappy7530
      @marnieishappy7530 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I’m suffering with mentall illness too and I’ve gained 10 kgs , I’ll try your tips ! Thank you🙏🏻

    • @evaggeliastavropoulou7829
      @evaggeliastavropoulou7829 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@kotenoklelu3471 Hi, I hope you are doing good! About what you asked one month ago: I don't think one day of overeating can outdo months of hard work. Don't beat yourself mentally for having an off day once in a while. Just make sure that day is an exception, not the rule.

    • @dikshasharma5642
      @dikshasharma5642 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Same am on antipsychotics since jan and i have gained 17 kg and it's so concerning and i just can't stop myself I feel so empty without eating
      ..

    • @evaggeliastavropoulou7829
      @evaggeliastavropoulou7829 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@dikshasharma5642 I don't know how antipsychotics affect appetite but I heard it's even more extreme than antidepressants...try to do things that make your heart full, maybe swithing your focus to something other than food is the key.
      I hope you find your balance💙

  • @cheers2023
    @cheers2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I don't think I am a full-blown binge eater, but I think I'm nearly there. Trying to find ways to stop before it gets worse.

  • @reneetones2077
    @reneetones2077 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    Thank you for this video. I am 63. I have been an emotional eater forever. I eat to comfort myself when I am afraid, stressed, lonely, board, ect. I grew up with an angry, distant mother. We weren't allowed to have feelings. We didn't dare show any anger. My sisters became alcoholics and I turned to food for my comfort. Gaining weight is also a shield to hide behind. I have healed a lot through therapy and prayer, but now I am left with not knowing how to be happy and have a fun fulfilling life. I feel a lot of grief for the loss of a happy life all these years. I use food and sweets as a fake social life. If I could just, "get a life", maybe I would be able to exchange love of food to love of people and activity.

    • @inesfreire9135
      @inesfreire9135 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I feel the same :(

    • @lovelymunch2
      @lovelymunch2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      this is a very late reply, but i say take a walk or two everyday! start with a 5 minute walk, get comfortable with that and add 5 minutes whenever you are ready. create a playlist you love and just take a lovely stroll! i know this may be a bit counterintuitive, but take a walk to a bakery whenever you want a treat, get some fresh air and converse with the people you meet along the way! wishing you the very best 💗

  • @laurx.
    @laurx. ปีที่แล้ว +443

    I have been struggling with ED for the past 6 years now and I never once even thought about it that way. Being/feeling this way has been making my life miserable because I constantly think about it and for once in my life, thanks to you, I finally understand that I am not stuck, that I can get better, that it will get better. I also feel understood and seen and I never felt that way before. So thank you so much for posting this video !

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I ma so glad to hear this has helped you in this way ❤️ You are understood here, I assure you.

  • @jl2493
    @jl2493 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    This is me. It serves a purpose; it allows me relax, to zone out, to occupy my thoughts, etc. Every morning I'm a different person, researching and learning, and then the afternoon or evening comes, I binge, feel relief (not from restriction but from my thoughts of my day or because it is my habit and I look forward to it).
    I don't know how to want to stop; how to find something as worthwhile.

  • @WildWinterberry
    @WildWinterberry 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    I want everyone in the comments to know that you all deserve to be heathy and have all the nutrition you need to thrive. You are worth more than how your ED is treating you and i wish you all happiness and health

  • @ottipellegrini
    @ottipellegrini ปีที่แล้ว +428

    Honestly... thank you so much for this video! I am 100% Rebecca and what is crazy is that since a couple of days I have started to realise that what I really crave is to feel loved and accepted and that i should go out more instead of staying home to count calories. You are so insightful, great great job and congrats for overcoming it!

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well done!! I'm really happy for you 🎉❤️

    • @sugarsober
      @sugarsober ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I love how insightful this comment is. I had binge eating disorder for years and when I was most strict with my eating is also when I was most depressed, alone, isolated...yet strict diets pretend to sell "freedom." It's such a trap!

    • @ottipellegrini
      @ottipellegrini ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sugarsober ❤Thank you! I hope you are doing well right now and enjoying life :)

    • @brynncampbell4929
      @brynncampbell4929 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just skipped youth group the other night to meal prep 😅

    • @sugarsober
      @sugarsober ปีที่แล้ว

      @Brynn Campbell I think choosing Jay you really need is more important than sticking to a specific meeting schedule

  • @anitas5817
    @anitas5817 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I wasn’t even aware that all my thoughts around planning food, diets, tracking, etc, is a disordered behavior in and of itself. This is eye opening. I don’t need more planning to do better. I need one simple way of eating, on autopilot, and to stop using food as a hobby in any sense.

  • @sharkya1006
    @sharkya1006 ปีที่แล้ว +452

    this is the most helpful video I've watched on youtube on forming a healthy relationship with food, lightbulbs went on multiple moments throughout. i never understood the importance of learning new ways to feel self assured that aren't dependent on being smaller, until now. I read the intuitive eating book and it didn't help much at all but you've really managed to explain and help a lot in just 10 minutes

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That means a lot to me to hear. Thank you for taking the time to write that ❤️ Above all else, I am glad it has led to some light bulb moments for you.

    • @jayalex_8
      @jayalex_8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed with this comment! This video was crazily at the top of my recommendations page when I opened up the app and its just blown my perception up. I imagine this is what paid therapy does for people 😅

  • @smkra8832
    @smkra8832 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    I could really relate to this video, always binge eating when I‘m heavily bored, frustrated or stressed which I‘m very often due to lack of social touchpoints. When I‘m out with friends I don’t even think about food, I have joy I could go hours and hours without food, I feel more alive, I just feel something at all.

  • @shreyansisingh
    @shreyansisingh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +128

    I’m literally Rebecca, i have had binge disorder for the past5-6 yrs and I didn’t even know it was a disorder until last year, the part where you described binge and a replacement of entertainment is so accurate and also the point that planning for next meal is sort of a distraction from current stressful stuff and anxiety is so spot on, I couldn’t have described what I was feeling better than you have,thank you❤️

  • @morimori6251
    @morimori6251 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I am right now mostly 16 in a month, I’ve always been obsessed with how I look, how much I weight and how perfect I am at least since the age of 13…
    Right now I feel like I can’t stop thinking about food, it’s hard to restrict myself as well and hard to even enjoy food after I “eat the whole fridge”. I decided it’s better to fix the problem right now; this video helped better than ever
    I never thought there would be people who would be exactly like me

  • @portofthoughts4477
    @portofthoughts4477 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    You described how overeating is literally a hobby to a T and it's really opened my eyes ... Thank you, this was excellent. A real description of what emotional/boredom eating looks like and it's really changed my perspective on my binges.

  • @ninamonti2056
    @ninamonti2056 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    This scared me, because you just describe my two last years and I didn't realize that was like that until I saw your vídeo. It shock me a lot, but it helps me a lot to see what was the real problem of everything. I was so convenced that my problem with food is because how my body looks like, that seeing myself as Rebecca, shows me that it's not.
    Thanks You so much for this vídeo, and sorry if I don't speak English very well, i'm from argentina and I'm trying My Best xd

    • @sugarsober
      @sugarsober ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is such an insightful comment. I'm so excited work like this is changing the entire conversation!

  • @clouise7473
    @clouise7473 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I don't think I have an eating disorder yet, but I've been getting to a point recently where I feel like I'm at a little bit of a tipping point. I have friends who've been through eating disorders, and I don't want to get to that place, so I decided to do some research to understand what I'm going through better. This was one of the first videos that came up and I'm so glad I found it. I resonate with this a lot already and I'm going to try hard to take your advice and seek out what I guess I might classify as "distractions," or just other methods of "fun" or "entertainment" that can replace the relief feeling you were talking about that I get from food.

    • @katestavridi5193
      @katestavridi5193 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well said! I hope you don't ever reach the level of a disorder. Our health is above the rest. Stay well, my friend😊

  • @lunameister2625
    @lunameister2625 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Wow this is crazy. I feel like you uncovered every reason I restrict and binge and told my whole Story of Mt relationship with Food. Channels like these are the ones we need. Thank you!

  • @yuriisthebestgirl1421
    @yuriisthebestgirl1421 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Hi, it's like my 3rd binge this week and I'm losing my mind. Everything goes so well, I eat healthy all day, I'm careful about my calories and don't starve myself as much as I used to... until I find out about another assignment for school. It stresses me sm I want to distract myself from it, especially when I know beforehand I won't be able to get it all done in time. I fall into this spiral of "just one more" and then it becomes "I dont care anymore I'll always be ugly anyway" and I cant do this anymore. I've started getting fit and exercising everyday and getting enough protein but what does it matter if at the end of the day I'm gonna stuff my face with chocolate? I haven't been in school whole week because Im too fucking embarrassed to show up and I cant get anything done

  • @maeieeq
    @maeieeq ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i’ve never heard anything that’s resonated with me so much… it’s so hard for me to pinpoint where it all sort of started but i feel like this just said it all..

  • @vikiki4233
    @vikiki4233 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i feel like u really understand how it is, i feel so gratefull because someone can put all of that on words to say it, i will be working on this

  • @sandyedwards2681
    @sandyedwards2681 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant! Really great insight. Thank you for sharing. I don’t have these issues now but hearing about them helps me stay clear on how to not fall back into those traps and self-sabotage that I’d fell into in the past.

  • @xxsamlovexx
    @xxsamlovexx ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh that was super helpful! I hadn’t thought about it that way. Thank you for discussing solutions and not just explaining the problem!

  • @thenoobksa123
    @thenoobksa123 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I’m going to listen to this every. Single. Day. The first few minutes of the video and you’ve immediately listed everything I’ve been feeling… you’re amazing. I really never thought of it this way 😢

  • @rakshita__
    @rakshita__ ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video ❤. There was lots of parts where I resonated and it really helped me to understand where I am constantly stuck. I am really very grateful to you for this

  • @janenuss6
    @janenuss6 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You just described this experience better than I’ve heard anyone describe it before ❤

  • @barbaram.6220
    @barbaram.6220 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I cannot believe how you described my life in such detail. Now I need to find something that I would think is fun to do, nothing comes to mind- but you've given me such hope. Thank You !!!

  • @tappingrat2469
    @tappingrat2469 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You really just made me realize how much of a serious problem I have. Like it was so eye opening and felt like therapy session honestly

  • @takumichan5153
    @takumichan5153 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    had a full breakdown realizing the connection of my relationship with food is also related to how i regulate with my feelings and how it was addressed by my parents growing up

  • @Kenlee614
    @Kenlee614 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey! Thank you for this video! I related to nearly everything in this video. I have been struggling with eating disorders for almost four years now with little to no help. It is easy to be overlooked or disregarded if you are not underweight. I always felt like a failure because I couldn’t just lose the weight, instead I would go back and forth with binging and dieting. I am mentally stretched because of all of the pressure I put on myself to be skinny. I am ready to put all of this behind me and make food a normal part of my life and scratch it off of the list of things I have to stress over.😊
    This video means a lot to me and has truly helped me understand myself and that I am not alone in my troubles. Thank you!❤

  • @mandarinapranjic2173
    @mandarinapranjic2173 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Thank you. This is painfully accurate for me. I started dating when i was15-16 years old, im now 22 and finally single. The more im single the more i binge and i kind of think its because i miss being in relationship and cuddling. I tried intermitted fasting (16-8) and it honestly fucked me up so much. I was on it for a month and felt so proud of myself, it was my little accomplisment every day. But i felt really obsessive so i stoped and now i just binge all the time even more than before. I feel so out of control, and when i binge its Like i try to eat as much calories as possible in a short period of time and feel Like that's wrong but cant help it.

  • @shade7283
    @shade7283 ปีที่แล้ว

    Finally a story that really matches my life rn. I had that initial theory of me needing some kind of emotional replacement for my stress from school and all that. I keep trying to restrict thinking that's the way and always find myself in envy of how my mother can eat just one satiating meal at the right times and not eat for hours on end between meals with such ease while also being so diligent in her work. I thought I just need to push it more. Ur vid opened my eye to the true nature of this cycle which I probably wouldn't have realized for a while. Thank you.

  • @angieschramm
    @angieschramm ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel so seen , this has literally been my life 😭 Thank you for sharing this🤍

  • @JessieSchwab
    @JessieSchwab ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. I’ve been searching so many different BED resources for so long and this is the first and only time I’ve ever felt really understood.

  • @laurenriley8519
    @laurenriley8519 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh my goodness…one of the BEST videos I have watched about binge eating hands down! Thank you for your clarity and honesty. So good and so true❤️

  • @shannondillow9587
    @shannondillow9587 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I have struggled with ED/Binge eating for 7 years now. It’s kind of a blessing that your video popped up on my home page. Thank you so much for this video. I related to every part of the story. For once, I did not feel alone❤️ I hope and pray to start a journey of recovery

  • @Shiloh75
    @Shiloh75 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This made me cry. Sad tears then happy tears from feeling understood and hopeful. Thank you, Rachael! ❤

  • @maddien2135
    @maddien2135 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve never been able to explain what goes through my head and you explained it perfectly. I think the reason I do it is because it gives me a sense of control. It’s one of the few things I can control in my life but I also feel so out of control of it at the same time and idk how to fix it.

  • @samanthaalsopp
    @samanthaalsopp 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This video actually made me cry, I always knew I felt something wasn't right with myself but you've just described me in one! I hope I can turn it around!

  • @ChannelSally
    @ChannelSally ปีที่แล้ว

    I have to say this video and reasoning is one of the best, if not THE best, I’ve seen. And I’ve been struggling with this for over 15 years.

  • @rachelmckitterick
    @rachelmckitterick ปีที่แล้ว

    You word this all in a way I have been trying to for over a decade! Thank you!

  • @charlottemund684
    @charlottemund684 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much for this. This explained a lot of addictive behavior I've never been able to explain

  • @3jake5mee
    @3jake5mee ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this. You kind of described me to a tee. I am just now realizing my mind with food is so messed up and it’s holding my life back

  • @omnzgnr678
    @omnzgnr678 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I cannot believe how perfectly you explained binge eating and why it occurs

  • @erinshannon1114
    @erinshannon1114 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video. One of the things that helped me recover was the book Brain over Binge. I loved the no nonsense approach. I still re read it at least once a year to keep my mind in check

  • @maqy01
    @maqy01 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I don't feel like I can say I've got an ED or anything, but I got a really unhealthy relationship with food. This really spoke to me, and I'll try not to feel good about just watching a video about it, and try to do something about it. we're all trying.

  • @midnightdew
    @midnightdew ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your video confirmed my thoughts..I grew up obese because of sedentarism, loneliness and too much sugar to cope with my hard feelings. I always hated myself and treid to use all techniques to stop binge eating on sugar and pasta. I am totally Rebecca...the fact that I could not live my life socializing, doing meaningful connection with people and being optimistic and loving myself, I tried to eat my feelings when I felt down. I needed so much help, there was no one for me. This was a way to cope with depression and anxiety, I think without food I would have been much worse. But I will repair my self esteem in time. I hope. Thank you ❤

  • @elaroluv8631
    @elaroluv8631 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i watched some of your videos, and i concluded my emotions and mindset causing me to binge. so i took what you said to heart and i have been eating intuitively for the past 3 days. I haven't felt the need to binge for the past 3 days after hearing your advice. I don't limit myself. I eat more healthy and when I'm hungry, I stop when I'm full. if I want a snack, I don't tell myself I can't snack, I'll eat a snack. when you said that your bingeing is not a problem you need to stop doing but a symptom of something in your life, it really helped me to see food differently and stop restricting/binging. it's crazy how simple it was after all this time. I've struggled most of my life to become a "normal" eater, but all I needed was to be taught why I binge and the psychological factor, and now I feel so free because I can eat what I want, but be healthy at the same time. also i am a boy. ❤

  • @elynn843
    @elynn843 ปีที่แล้ว

    Really wholesome and worthy video, thank you for sharing, more people should watch it.

  • @emilielewis854
    @emilielewis854 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for this video. I have never been able to hear this or feel this. I cannot thank you enough ❤

  • @bunnywavyxx9524
    @bunnywavyxx9524 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    this video resonates with me so well and I just realized that after 2 years of quarantine desolation I relapsed to this binging mindset again. It's like my defense from dieting. I lost 6 lbs in a week of becoming more fit and adopting a healthy lifestyle, I know on paper it's not healthy but I don't see any other way. One day I worked off more calories than I ate, I was exhausted and realized I couldn't keep the fitness up (running, walking for 3 hrs a day) and the calorie counting was rotting my brain. Back then when I binged, it was really bad, I was so lost then I don't know if it was really about being prettier. Those binge ED videos where they'd eat like 2000+ calories... yeah that was something like it. But now, truth is it was very thin girls at school that made me want to be thinner again, and I gained 20+ lbs during quarantine, having already wanted to lose weight when I was at my thinnest. Another deep truth is that my sibling is trying to lose weight as well and competitivity is one of my main motivations. I do not have access to a gym though I wish, and I work part time so yeah. I want to give up, I can't do what it takes. Sorry for this vent it just spilled out.

  • @Amanda-rv5hz
    @Amanda-rv5hz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    THANK YOU for this, I am still struggling with binge eating and restrictive eating but I am doing my best. I needed this, thank you! You earned yourself a sub

  • @reptile_overlord
    @reptile_overlord ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's scary how interchangeable I found my own name with Rebecca's, but somehow it's comforting knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this way. This video is really truly helpful, and i love how clear and to the point you made it.
    You're exactly right, it's never been about the food, it's always been about the control and a desire to self soothe immediately.
    Working on the aspects of life that truly instill fear and anxiety, like school and relationships, is the only way forward. ❤❤❤

  • @codylewis7628
    @codylewis7628 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow I’m really thankful to you for making this video. I needed to see it. I feel identified in it. Coupled with depression my binge eating has killed my social life because I feel so ugly due to the weigh gain. I’ve really been trying hard and not ordering take out as much but I did slip late last night and order pad thai. Also been trying to workout more and walk 10,000 steps but it’s hard. One step and day at time.

  • @bazsimoe
    @bazsimoe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this video is the epitome of "the truth hurts". crying but also feeling very seen. thank you.

  • @rebekahadrian487
    @rebekahadrian487 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yes! I needed the control and something else to focus on because I didn't like what was happening in my life. When i started to fix my relationship with food, I noticed I needed something else because without a disordered relationship with food there was a void. That was a big focus of my life: it gave me a type of purpose.

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is so insightful of you. This 'void' is a real thing for a lot of women (that I have worked with anyway). Who are we and what do we care about when it's not food and weight? Such an important question to ask from the get go. You hit the nail on the head there with 'purpose'. It really can be like that. ❤️

  • @leakindt653
    @leakindt653 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is incredible. The way you explain a complex system with such simplicity is so helpful! I have found this to be true of other relationships and external things we use for emotional regulation as well.

  • @Desi_101
    @Desi_101 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This is the most honest, accurate, and helpful video I’ve watched on how to recover from binge eating disorder. I’ve been struggling with binge eating since I was 12 years old ( 5 years) and I’ve been on this roller coaster of emotions. And I’ve been trying to find a solution.. also I realated to the story that you told which was so surprising to me

  • @blue-guymaster5121
    @blue-guymaster5121 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is perfect. Thankfully I’m good again, but it would truly have helped to see this. Thank you so much for putting this out here.

  • @amyw5647
    @amyw5647 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The power of TH-cam- this resonated more with me than anything I discussed during hundreds of £s worth of therapy ❤

  • @luizamendes9529
    @luizamendes9529 ปีที่แล้ว

    that's true, when get home from school, I have lunch and then really look foward to having a desert, coffee with some chocolate, everyday. I think it is one of the very things in my day that isn't done for progress or something, I can literally sit and relax. I never thought of that, thank you

  • @alayna9207
    @alayna9207 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’ve never found a better video that explains exactly how I feel and exactly what I go through. I’ve tried to explain it to people but they never understand I feel so seen right now.

  • @thetoddperspective
    @thetoddperspective 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Relaxing and feeling relief while binging?
    That sounds so alien to me.

  • @TheRealJohnHooper
    @TheRealJohnHooper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have tears in my eyes listening to this..

  • @VElizabethWhitecrochet
    @VElizabethWhitecrochet ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I’ve been struggling with a vicious cycle of bingeing and restricting all my life (I’m 45 now) and I’m realizing that I been using food as a coping mechanism from trauma. I have a therapist now, but still am stuck in this cycle and I really would like to see your approach.

  • @MizzThanng
    @MizzThanng 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    the "sense of entertainment" part is SPOT on. I've always felt this way but never heard it articulated....I really wonder if I'm just bored and often use my body as something to fix my attention to and find feelings of accomplishment - which of course come with the shadow that when I gain weight I feel a sense of extreme failure...thank you for making this video, it's been eye-opening

  • @ot7bg
    @ot7bg ปีที่แล้ว +2

    every attachment in life needs to be looked at this way. once you resolve all your attachments, you will have liberated yourself. all the best everyone, it's a long and hard journey for all.

  • @isabellasunn
    @isabellasunn 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I have never felt so exposed when it came to my food habits. This story is EXACTLY what I have been going through. I recently found out that the reason why I deal with having a bloating which in turn made me restrict was because my body can't consume gluten well. I got checked by a doctor about this, so it is not my own self-assessment, but in all honesty, I really wished I would have seen this video a couple months back. I feel a weird sense of comfort- but it is still great, thank you so much for making this! I definitely needed to see this.

  • @tianlandai
    @tianlandai 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. I also think it highlights how toxic our society is with how it encourages all these thoughts and behaviors so intensely.

  • @v.9524
    @v.9524 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I haven't had problems with food in years and I don't know why this video was recommended to me or why I watched it, but this has got to be some of the best advice I've ever heard, not just for food but for every self-destructive cycle.
    Funnily enough, though my problems right now aren't an ED, they were CAUSED by an ED-it basically set me back three and a half years of my life and I've been playing catch-up ever since. I feel so far behind everyone else my age because while they were studying and getting jobs and applying for colleges I was in and out of treatment centers.
    Though I no longer struggle with food, it seems as if I replaced my one massive disruption with a bunch of tiny disruptions that are beginning to make a significant impact on me. My perspective on tackling those issues has changed after watching this video. Thank you for being so wonderfully insightful!

  • @JayceBroda
    @JayceBroda ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well done! Great advice and what I needed to hear. Thanks

  • @crystalfrye8554
    @crystalfrye8554 ปีที่แล้ว

    OK… so much helpful information that I can relate to… I may have to sit and watch this over and over a few times. Thank you for this video!

  • @Ren-Colby
    @Ren-Colby 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When she started talking about planning, all the weekly schedules, the goals.........I felt hella called out. But I needed to hear this. Lol

  • @harryevans4
    @harryevans4 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey Rachel.
    Great video.
    I have just started making binge eating related content to try and raise awareness and help others stop binging just like yourself.
    Setting new goals outside nutritional and body image goals can be a great way to improve our chances of overcoming BED.
    Before I let go of the restrictive mindset i had no chance of beating the binge.

  • @ivana8393
    @ivana8393 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Definitely resonated with me! This has brought a lot of perspective to my eating habits

  • @jennisvivanco7297
    @jennisvivanco7297 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This woman has describe me word by word I’m so amazed and relieved in a way that I am not alone

  • @mckenzie_allen
    @mckenzie_allen ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is the most helpful video I’ve ever watched. You put everything that I was feeling into words. It all makes sense now. Thank you so so much.

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so glad! I really am ❤️❤️

  • @faree38green
    @faree38green ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you... You have spoken to me. Every bit of what you talked about resonates with me

  • @Erica-zi1il
    @Erica-zi1il หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How have I not watched this sooner you are describing me. Even the weight lost in how many weeks to the clothes I will wear. I have been on a diet nearly my whole adult life and I still struggle everyday and am still overweight. Everything revolves around food. It is draining but thank you for this video. I know it is not just me that deals with these thoughts every single day.

  • @sofiaaloi8529
    @sofiaaloi8529 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can’t believe this doesn’t have 1million views, it’s mind blowing how many people it could help.

  • @Filthycoffin
    @Filthycoffin ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I have to stick to a diet because I’m histamine intolerant. I miss food then I binge and purge to avoid the reactions. I wish I could stop but my body hates foods I’ve only been able to eat 5 different foods for 3 years I’m so tired of eggs squash zucchini 🌶 and avocado 🥑

    • @andreamolnarova2185
      @andreamolnarova2185 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Same here.. i suffer from rosacea so no grain, no dairy, no red meat, no sea food, no cocoa, no peanuts & i have to be careful with fibre as well...
      So like chicken, turkey, salmon, coconut milk, avocado, cucumber, zucchini & egg yolks are pretty much my diet. thats it.

    • @virginiemazy7054
      @virginiemazy7054 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Check the channel nutrition Made simple. It’s a doctor who digs into the science of nutrition. He has one video about his mom. She had an intolerance and slowly with a specialist they introduced food little by little. The aim was to level the threshold of reaction of her body. And she could eat more foods afterwards.

    • @sugarsober
      @sugarsober ปีที่แล้ว +4

      As a licensed clinical nutritionist, I TOTALLY understand this. Diets are THE trigger to then binge. And yet some diets are medically necessarily. Have you worked with a clinical nutritionst to find an expanded list of food that work for you? (I'm not pitching to you, I promise! you should be able to find one in your area so health insurance covers it - if you have insurance, of course)

    • @sugarsober
      @sugarsober ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@andreamolnarova2185 Hey love, this is a pretty extensive elimination list - it sounsd SO challenging! Have you worked with a clinical nutritionist to see if there's an expanded diet for you? And it seems like a major opportunity would be legumes! Vegetarian refried black beans, bean chili, lentil soup, mediterranean lima beans, rosemary white bean soup - there's loads of options!

    • @andreamolnarova2185
      @andreamolnarova2185 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sugarsober Hi there! Thanks for the tips, i def try to eat more of the legumes for i have lots in my pantry! I havent worked with a clinical nutritionist regarding my anti-inflamatory diet regime yet, they are either pretty expensive or mostly not even available here where i live, but i can def try the tips u mentioned. thanks a lot! :)

  • @LanaAndHearts14
    @LanaAndHearts14 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm doing counseling and medication for BED, and you answered SO MANY questions I had.
    I told my Dr's binge eating feels like a cigarette at the end of the day I have stress and anxiety all day long and eating at the end of the day is the biggest relief.
    And... as a child we lived next to a taco bell, that's when I saw my mom get abused and my father went to jail for m3der. For years taco bell was my main binge place. My mind is blown I can't wait to share this discovery with my therapist. Thank you.

  • @Fauxrising2022
    @Fauxrising2022 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    I never knew that my eating habits could be identified as an eating disorder, and this video explains perfectly! I would crave attention from my emotionally withdrawn mom that idolized beauty. My sister was bulimic and my mom would praise her habits for being skinny, but my mom couldn’t have a food relationship with my sister and used me to get that part she craved by taking me out to eat or bribe me with food as a kid for good behavior. Being “fat” l, when looking back I was actually average weight for my tall height, I felt that was all I would ever be and just turned to food in all the ways that Rebecca did 😢 now at 32 after having 2 kids my body is starting to wear.. I’m so embarrassed to admit that my husband who is recovering from a soccer injury can walk faster than me while holding our kids 😢 I’m afraid of who I will be without using food as a crutch, I’m afraid of diving into the unknown and most of all I’m afraid to take the leap of faith within myself. But I need to try. Thank you for sharing this story that gave me a better understanding of myself and where this addiction came from. You and everyone watching this video have my love and support for a brighter future ❤️

  • @clareosborn7731
    @clareosborn7731 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I would love to sign up and get help with my ED but financially it's not viable atm these videos help so much as a free resource x

  • @mennashaltoutart1127
    @mennashaltoutart1127 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    the most relatable video in my life, it has the most relatable story to me, and each single word in here reminds me of myself as if she is telling my story. I suffer from wanting to eat all the time and I went through hard food restriction and now I'm skinny but I'm still restricting the food I eat because I still don't feel that pretty but maybe I'm just wrong and I need to change a lot in my life. Thank you I really needed to here that 💗💗

  • @hazaldenizaygun7339
    @hazaldenizaygun7339 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 6 years binge free and highly highly recommend the book Brain over Binge!

  • @jostuff9131
    @jostuff9131 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank You for this explanation, the concept of finally letting go and relaxing after my stressful week really resonated with me and the way to combat binge eating is to add other fun and enjoyable activities into my life seems so obvious after watching your video💡💡

  • @sanna7882
    @sanna7882 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was so helpful! I have also noticed that past traumas can make you binge eat. It is easier to eat yourself numb or to be overweight than take responsibility for healing from those traumas..

  • @emilylemoine6269
    @emilylemoine6269 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve never resonated with any video more than this one. Thank you for sharing.

  • @tubabayburtluoglu5169
    @tubabayburtluoglu5169 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I never thought someone would relate me that good.

  • @iceyyxx
    @iceyyxx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks rachael for helping me understand the concept of binge eating.. I've been struggling with ED for the past 3 years trying to fight my anxiety, stress and depression. It never really helped me cure the stressful situations and never made me feel fulfilled. Tbh this video helped me a lot and changed my view of unhealthy food.. Hope you keep spreading positiveness and help people out by giving them your expert knowledge.. Love ya❤

  • @abby-gv2oc
    @abby-gv2oc ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i have watched dozens of videos desperate for help over the last 3 years. i think this video finally did the trick. thank you thank you thank you!!!! ❤❤❤

    • @RachaelWrigley
      @RachaelWrigley  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so glad this helped! Thank you for telling me ❤️

  • @xtrasss
    @xtrasss 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    i’m literally rebecca down to the T. with wanting to be pretty and skinny and popular, with distracting mysed with food, to making plans
    i’m going to cry she is me