Thank you Sheikh Yasir Qadhi for beautifully explaining this seriously strange misyar nikah that helps nobody except men who want to take advantage of women in vulnerable situations.
Exactly. Those sheikhs know how these outdated marriage practices reflect on islam. Men receive sex and convenience. Women receive no inheritance, no child custody, no property rights, polygamous relationships, fatherless children and social stigmas of the arrangement. Islam does not respect women and an increasing number of them are becoming ex-religious or ex-muslim.
Say no to Misyar. To keep society solid and to put children rights above the rights of couple. Misyar marriage makes no sense. Misyar marriage will collapse society 100%
Let people decide for themselves what kind of marriage they want. If you make it hard on people to get in to halal relationships, the doors to haram will open.
@@kammiah7428 One of the requirements of marriage is that the man is capable of providing for the wife, if he is not then he isn't qualified to get married.
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He is a mujaddid for western Muslims...so detailed and beautiful..I can't thank him enough for all his lectures like this..this is how Islam should of always been taught..we have a lack of ulama like this
Subhanallah, I'm from Nigeria, this is the first time I have heard about this type of marriage although some men here out of ignorance of Allah's rules, they abuse the concept of marriage by running away from their rights as husband. May Allah protect our umma with knowledge and also be compassionate towards one another...
even if the couple have agreed upon this it is still the woman who suffers, emotionally and financially, there is a very small percentage of success. I strongly feel disgusted by brothers who are looking for 2nd wife in vulnerable single mothers who are already struggling to let go of their rights. These brothers are taking advantage this is not decency, may Allah SWT guide and protect our sisters🤲
💯 agreed too many, way too many vunerable women are being used, sometimes by 'brothers' in positions of power and authority. May Allah safe guard our sisters from such evil doers. It's unfortunate not enough Muslim leaders/ scholars speak up against this. Infact too many facilitate it
What is even more disgusting is that in the uk, they marry say four, then they take three to the council where she claims she is a single mother and gets a house
Woman should leave such man & get marry again simply , why to cry for such man who needs different types of food.But these kind of merriage just use to stop zina . Nothing can be best thn permanent merriage but miysar & mutta are allowed to stop the zina.we can't raise finger if it's allowed in the light of Islam even if we dislike it .both mutta and misyar are same truth is this.just they change the name & trying to give other shape 😊 if mutta is Haram thn misyar is Haram too 😅becax both are same ,truth is this
Sheikh this sermon was so rewarding to listen to. There's things I want to say online that I would regret but believe me it's good to know brothers have options😄
1 - Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071] 2 - whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme) Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One " [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071] 2
Jazaak Allah khayr shaykh for another great explanation. A few points though that might also be beneficial, and please correct any misstatement: 1. A woman entering a misyar marriage typically isn't the husband's first wife 2. A misyar marriage tends to be kept private 3. I believe the majority of women entering misyar marriages these days are either divorced or widowed, in which case they don't marry with the permission of their wali Perhaps some combination of the above is why they tend to end in divorce. I'm no scholar but I would consider making it obligatory for a previously married woman to have a wali if entering a misyar marriage, as well as making it public, to minimize the potential negative outcomes. Exceptions should always be made for life or death situations like you mentioned. 4. The Hanafi opinion is that a wali isn't a requirement for a previously unmarried woman to get married. I don't agree with it, just putting it out there. I also have a couple of questions if you could please address them in a future episode: 1. What is your opinion regarding men taking second wives without informing their first wife (assuming they married someone who was halal for them, with the wali's permission and the public was informed in the area where the second wife lives)? 2. What qualifies as "informing the public" about a marriage? For example, do all of the husband's immediate family (parents, siblings, current wife or wives, current children) need to know?
Secret marriages should not be allowed when the husband already has a wife. It is an act of betrayal to the first wife. To the first wife it is no different to him having an affair. The pain and mental anguish along with the physical repulsion felt when she finds her husband is secretly sleeping with another woman is worse than if she was widowed. She is unknowingly sharing a man who is being intimate with someone else. It is not what she signed up for neither did she agree to it. She is being deceived in the worst way. In Malik’s Muwatta I have heard that it is written that when Umar (radhi Allah anhu) heard of a man with a secret marriage in another place, he replied that if the man had been present he would have had him flogged. Please can the Sheikh find this Hadith.
I do agree with that sentiment. But, the situation not always been black and white. We will not know what situation may arise in the society that we can easily justify our judgement. But the one thing I realize, most of "Muslim", doesn't put God for everything they do. They will seek fatwa that benefit their selfishness, even though mufti that give that fatwa has their good reason for their judgement. If they understand Allah will always see what their heart seek, many of Muslims will take this Misyar in very careful manner, rather give opportunist an excuse to have several spouses and claim this is halal without thinking the repercussion of their first wife emotion. Allah will judge such men and may Allah reward the wives that have been hurt from this opportunist "Muslim".
@Obvious Incel That also happen even without Misyar back in the day. I do not see the problem here. If want to confirm who’s the father, we have DNA test nowadays.
@Obvious Incel Then that is the problem with people perspective, not with the procedure itself. In the first place, why single men need to be Misyar? You talking about the probability that it happen almost to zero. Meanwhile, Misyar happen when men already married is plenty, to the point it become the part of culture itself. So focus on what part of major problem, not on hypothetically.
@Obvious Incel Then the matter become another problem, not Misyar itself. Doesn't matter if she a whore or legit, if DNA test point out the father, then that mean the man still responsible for the pregnant and the woman has the right because impregnation by that man. He still become the father of children no matter what perspective people will look on that woman.
Here in the UK a lot of married men want a second wife but they dont want to pay anything for the second wife they try to convince her to do misyar and just visit her when they feel the need 💩its a sad condition for the ummah and the women suffer the most especially the single mothers who accept this kind of arrangement
It's called having your cake and eating it, having said that if the sister is astute enough to stipulate her requirements within the Misyar contract, then that's a different affair. Sadly there are brothers out there committing zina or muta, at least with Misyar they are able to navigate the pitfalls of the temptations of this dunya by fullfilling their requirements in a halal way, or non haram way. Sometimes the husband's natural drive is much higher then his wife's, in this instance he is able to not hurt either wife, if the 2nd wife is not deceived from the outset, and fully on board with the situation.
@@Ahmed-ob6ec Kindly Do your own research into this, perhaps you will see how your issues / concerns are addressed via a Nikaah contract which has conditions. Usually these Nikkah contracts aren't the norm, however they are there for spouses whom both wish to utilise them if their individual situation requires it.
Pls can u discuss the subject of zakaa especially the recipients being all the “needy and the categories as prescribed under the specified groups” opposed to “ further filter it to be Muslims”
I don't wanna sound dumb but wouldn't Misyar marriage be deemed as "unethical" or even "illegal"? These days a lot of people are using it to a bad purpose in middle east countries.
Why do u think it’s illegal , . The key issue , is the women agreeing this without being forced ? Did it happen before marriage, If it’s yes , then it’s halal. The reason is , since women in this case is in disadvantaged position and want a man in her life , this Maysar is better, then women walking out and committing Zinna !!!!! Think about that !
@@perfect_chaos4217 this is made up bidah and Allah will never forgive you you are not muslim why do prostitution in name of allah and islam why don’t simply leave islam and do anything whatever you want😡🤮i am shocked to see these kinds of marriage exists and people practice it
It is such an informative video,such topic which ppl don't like to discuss .mutta & misyar are halal truth is this . It's halal way to stop zina under the rules of Islam . But if a man doesn't have courage to accept you Infront of whole 🌎,what do you think he'll stay loyal with you ? If during that period of time you fall in love truly with that person ,how it can damage you ? Everyone has their own choices but a woman should avoid to this way ,I think like this .A woman shouldn't forget Abt her self-respect ever
As you said that most of misyar marriages don't go for a long and women are specially the more sufferers which sense quite true I have another important question about here and it about children which born as result of misyar. Would they be entitled to inheritance laws or can such condition be put under misyar that children born out of such marriage contract wouldn't be entitled for inheritance. Regards
if you do not register the zawaj , who is going to enforce the conditions if something happens? the world evolved and changed and so did governments, but is see that some things still didnt change, if it is not registered how will issues be resolved?? very strange stance from scholars to say that you dont have to register in a time where government is the one to enforce the law.
People need to snap out of this traditional blah blah blah opinions. Everyone has a problem & reasons wanted to what they want to do as long as is halal relationship & don’t break the rules of Allah that must be the most focal point. I think, this is very healthy relationship with kind hearted can control the sexual pressure on the ummah. Look how beautiful this religion is. The problem is we are. I’m absolutely ready for this as long as the right person who loves Allah & the massager s.t.w!!
Some of the worst liberties are taken with women converts, who often don’t have a committed wali or Muslim family to keep the husband/prospective husband in check. So the men get their legal residency status and/or citizenship without many obligations like having to pay any substantial mahr, pay for a wedding, etc. In one case I know well, there was a situation opposite to that of the first kind of ‘urfi marriage described in this lecture: the two got married in civil court with only a justice of the peace, after which the husband refused to go through with the Islamic nikah, although he had previously agreed to it. She refused to consummate the marriage until consulting with a qualified mufti in the nation’s capital who assured her that her marriage was absolutely valid as-is on the basis that her rights as a wife were legally protected by the state. Later on there were questions as to why the marriage was not done properly and the woman had no proof of the mufti’s approval. Very awkward… and incidentally the marriage was rife with verbal and psychological abuse and manipulation throughout.
Imam I hear what you are saying. What if you are a brother who's just never been satisfied with the women in your area because their iman doesnt even hit the lowest point on the yardstick of muslima character? Ive always had to marry outside the umma because the sisters in my area are too westernisied
Every women knows what she is getting into . Priorities talk , if her priority is to enjoy and get a Man , then accepting a man under lesser condition is not a bad thing as that might save u from coming Zina .
How is it that no one is mentioning the children that will be born in these circumstances? These kids will feel worthless especially if no real reliance or sharing or rights between parents is there. This will destroy society and thr ummah. The world should end soon at this rate!
Unfortunately many of my new Muslim sisters where fooled into accepting this kind of mysyar mariage done with emam witnesses...yes, they say this is witnessed 😕 by strangers...therefore even 😢 his other wife & kids not aware of it or his direct relatives...later he left her with nothing but bills & kids & went back to his original first wife & only caused further degeneration of islamic values to new Muslim ☪️ community I find it all just as hypocritical as mutah Might as well have a secret boyfriend Like western practice, because it basically sounds all the same Marry secretly, get ur jolly up for a while...when it suits u...then divorce & walk away from all responsibilities... Ya Allah sick of this fake world 🌎 😪
Salam alakium...thank you for pointing this out. Mysiyar marriages have witnesses and other parts of a halal marriage but they are probably also done without the 1st wife knowing. So how is this allowed in Islam. As a revert to Islam honesty which is what the Prophet Mohammed pbuh was known for but a man can be dishonest to his first wife and marry a second without her knowledge. May Allah forgive me but I do not understand how this is acceptable.
@@annalohre1357 A woman is able to set conditions in the marriage contract which gives her the right to divorce if those conditions are not fulfilled. A common one is the right to divorce if the husband marries another wife.
Mahr should be simple and modest. Unfortunately many in the Arab American community are going into exploitation and the marriages are suffering as a result
My question is if Quran permits Mutah, and yet it is forbidden in hadith, which one should be accepted, word of your Allah or Muhammad/ Scholars?.......🤔
What I have found is where one woman gives up her rights, she puts the dependant wife in a very awkward position. Where in many cases one wife ends up being seen as a burden, and the one who takes no or very little rights is put on a pedestal. One wife feels inadequate, whilst the other flaunts her money and almost becomes a halal 'sugar mummy' Defeats the purpose of being just. In the UK the only reason many women give up their financial rights in exchange of a second/third wife status, is Because they register themselves as single mothers, take their sustainance from the government by committing fraud. In this case is it still halal? I'm glad that someone in a leadership role has the courage to caution sisters against this in this day and age, because it is very much misused. I've come across many women who had become homeless with children after being used and divorced.
Basically, everyone should weigh out the pros and cons and also have an exit plan and a plan B if things go south before entering into any relationship, whether monogamous or polygamous because honestly even monogamous relationships are also becoming a complete disaster in the UK including Muslim monogamous marriages. This is mainly because hardly anyone seems to make any preparations before marriage and everyone has this false mythical belief that once a marriage begins that it will last forever and will always be filled with love and happiness. Unfortunately, that's rarely the case anymore.
That's absolute BS : women who chose to become second, 3rd or 4th wife do it because they don't have a choice , no Muslim man would touch a divorcee even with a bargepole, also they don't want to upset the children especially Muslim boys can't accept the idea of their mum marrying another man . Your views on this topic are too simplistic and dumb . Also these women know that most men can't take care of the first wife never mind supporting the second wife
@@user-ux8pj3rf4w what a load of assumptions. Let me guess... You're another man trying to assume what women do and why. I've worked with hundreds of women in such cases over the past decade so I'm very much aware of the causes and circumstances in which such arrangements take place. Unlike your condescending comment based on nothing but baseless assumptions. I don't like to think your outdated mentality about men not wanting to touch divorcees with a bargepole is a reflection of all men. Perhaps men 9fnyour low level calibre. But the more respected men we as Muslims look up to and follow the teachings of, very much married divorcees and also encouraged this practice. If our prophet openly gave divorcees the honour they deserved then who are the likes of you and these 'men' you speak of. You don't match the dirt off the shoes of such honourable men so it makes total sense for the likes of you to attempt humiliating divorced women. Please continue. Many divorced women wouldn't want to touch the likes of you with a bargepole either so I guess the feeling is mutual. Much of what you've said is outdated village mentality. I have 4 boys who have never been insecure about their mum remarrying. But perhaps boys in your circle are insecure and possessive in that way lol
@@naztariq7490 so by me refusing to marry someone who can't take care of me , expects me to work outside and inside the house bring him money, put up with his stink and his evil mother and sisters that's me being fussy wow ! I guess simplistic comments are made simple minds
I always love listening to YQ. But it’s hard to completely avoid gender biases. Besides mentioning the increase in empowered women, he should also mention the fact that boys / men are being left behind educationally. There’s a lot of literature around this, but in my country if you look at public university enrolment, 70% is female. So please ask what’s happening to the men. Waiting for men to support us is no longer a viable option for women.
Regarding 43:25 lets not forget that often it is the women who take advantage of the men. I know personally of stories where the wife stole large amounts of money from her husband even though he was already spending generously on her. Also stories where the woman entered into polygamy but did everything she could to undermine and ruin the marriage of the co-wife. Also stories of women who have secret boyfriends when they enter the marriage to the new husband. Or women who marry a divorced/widowed man with children but she ends up abusing his children. Etc, etc. BOTH men and women are not perfect. Let us stop pretending that all women are little angels who do no wrong.
Yes, ur absolutely rights I also never heard the term till recently. The most important thing here as long as you don’t break the rule of Allah that which ever term we use its always halal & harm standard clear. That one of excuses we don’t have when we go back to Allah for this kind of mistake cuz Allah made it very easy. We the one made harder by pleasing our cultural customs.
@@NRFP That's part of your cult, slave. Why are you crying about that? Didn't your false prophit have several women and let them all alone without giving them any chance to live their lives after his death? Don't be hypocrite, Momo's slave 😉
@@abduhagos8516 look , the sheikh just said it’s not Haram , why do u think it’s against the Islamic way ? Or you are just using ur own ideology to judge what is right or wrong
@@perfect_chaos4217 I think you need to read it again what I said. I’m not criticizing dr yasir & ideology. All I said, we as ummah as long as follows the rule of Allah(sharia) that we need to get ride of our tribes & cultures customs b/c Islamic values are under attack.
@ApeXtc that's odd, I can see it. Anyway, Dr. Naik said you don't have to tell the first wife but I recommend you search the video because I'm not qualified to speak on such things.
Assalamualaikum .... Somebody please help me... Someone is married never given her dowry she left husband after complications... She was never given her dowry... She was never given her divorce... A man never pronounced nor writes talaq... They are communicating because of a baby... It is 8 years now... Can she still consider herself as a married woman... İs there marriage still valid... Help please... Jazakumullahulkhayran
Assalamu alaikum, may Allah help her. I suggest that this lady speaks to her local imam so that she can get direction. In Shaa Allah, she will receive good support & help.
Since the husband never gave divorce nor the wife so it means that their marriage is still valid because without divorce marriage can never become invalid. But it does not mean that couples should stay like this. If the husband did not give dowry then he is sinful but that also does not mean that his marriage is invalid.
I think Shaykh Yasir is somewhat biased when he says "Motah" as allowed in Shia Islam is not comparable or totally different to Misyar. They might differ but certainly they are comparable. The basic argument to justify Misyar is similar and the relaxation of one or partial obligation in permanent marriage are the same. Secondly, it seems "Motah" was abrogated, not in the life time of prophet Mohammad (PBUH), but it was abrogated during the time of second khalif. allah o alam.
Not everything has happened during the Prophet’s time , if the Sahaba witnessed then who are we to say they were wrong . The premise here is if the women is okay with it , why is it hard to see the situation from her angle and not what the expectations are . Misyar marriage , the premise can be many , some may marry for sex , others for other purposes . But Mut,ah is purely for sex , so that is why the two systems have similarities but they are not the same
Mutah marriage was common for years until the second caliph made it haram. It has every right like regular marriage except it was temporary. The woman appoint the time and mahr and the man accept it. Now we have made misyar marriage which is all about $3X, as an alternative to mutah marriage. The Quran is clear. It literally has a verse for mutah marriage. I don't know why some people make it so complicated.
Rubbish. It was the PROPHET WHO MADE IT HARAM, and just like teen talaq hazrat UMAR IMPLEMENTED the prophets teachings. AND there is nothing wrong with misyar.
@@razamughal9095 Mutah was halal in the time of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Abubakar until umar made it haram. نیسابوری، مسلم بن الحجاج، صحیح مسلم، ج۲، ص۱۰۲۳، باب نکاح المتعة بخاری، محمد بن إسماعیل، صحیح بخاری، ج۶، ص۲۷
@@Just-Rethink WRONG. The sahaba were not begairat to allow something halal to be made haram. GET OUT OF YOUR HINDU JAHALAT. Just like three talaqs was something IMPLEMENTED by hazrat umar, the same way, mutah being haram was IMPLEMENTED by hazrat Umar.
@@razamughal9095 there are many hadith in sunni books like Sahih Muslim, Sahih Bukhari, Al Jama bain Sahihain, Sunan Behaqi Kubra, Musnad Abi Awana and many more. If you think they are wrong then you are not even a sunni. I follow Allah swt, Quran, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Ahl al Bayt. Misyar marriage was not the teachings of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. So it is a Bidah! 😏
@@Just-Rethink you are no scholar so dont even name books to me. Especially being a shia, your opinion is worthless to the world, and your religion is made up. The books you write are made up, the hadees you quote are fabricated. Misyar was not made haram, mutah WAS. And WIVES are the FIRST PEOPLE that are part of the ahl e bayt. WIVES. Misyar nikahs are going to be a problem going forward. Up till now it has not been a problem. Since four marriages have stopped, the supply of women is high and the demand is low. Thats why women will propose a misyar nikah themselves, its a lifesaver for divorced and widowed women, who no body wants. That in itself tells you there is nothing wrong with it, it has no time limit like a muttah, and a talaq is required to get out of it. Muftis try to avoid the subject so as to not promote it, so that more women are in a nikah that is not concealed, which means they will get their rights. But them turning a blind eye will not solve the problem, because there WILL BE a direct correlation between women left on the shelves, and misyar marriage.
Asalam alaikom. With respect what was said here about Catholic marriage is not correct though many Catholics themselves make the same mistake. The Sacrament of marriage and the marriage itself happens between the bride and groom themselves. The Priest is there solely as a witness fir the official Catholic Church although he conducts the ceremony. This is clearly explained in the Cathechism of the Roman Catholic Church.
Ya Sheikh Yasir, in the Catholic Church a priest doesn't deliver the sacrement of marriage to the couple. The couple gives it to each other. The priest is there to witness it.
Let us point out what the Qur'anic verses on polygamy actually say: "If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one." (Al-Nisa', 4:3) A subsequent verse states: "You are never able to be fair and just between women even if that were your ardent desire." (Al-Nisa', 4:129) In Misyar 1. Women are exploited financially, morally, socially and religiously. 2. Never be safe and secured for women, there is no safeguards 3. Some men are polygamous by nature, Misyar is for them, where no cost is incurred; as women are freely available 4. Men who agree with Misyar can never be a ‘decent’ husband, on the contrary they are male prostitutes (I apologise)? They bear least respect for women 5. Such marriage can never form a family, the long term consequences will be disastrous not only for the woman but to the entire society 6. Misyar grossly overlooks the wisdom behind holy marriage and Maqasid Al shariah. 7. In my opinion such marriage cannot be HALAL. A malpractice cannot be halal simply because majority “scholars” regard it as halal. If majority says 2+2 is 5, it cannot be justified. The reason behind the notion ‘halal’ is not satisfactory. Moreover, it is against Quranic concept of justice and equality. 8. If a woman at her fifties, unfortunately has no husband, can sabr. A man is advised to fast, why a woman at fifty cannot be patient enough from abstinence? A powerful woman at her fifties can ‘buy’ a full time husband, rather than part time haggards.
In your opinion it’s haram. Because people can give up their rights by free will? Is it haram to give up rights in Islam? If someone owes me money. It’s my right to demand that money. If I want to forgive that debt, is that haram? Do I HAVE to ask for the money?
@@moonwalkerr87 the thing is you can simply walk into a masjid, grab 2 witnesses from the jammat and perform nikkah. But no one does background checks, no checks if the woman specially is vunerable or not. Many organisations specially in the charity sector exploit women. Many of these organisations don't even have safeguarding policies in place. I work with many women who have been married and divorced within weeks, ending up in homeless shelters, Pregnant or with existing kids. A man in our own community is to day has 16 nikkahs performed, no imam enquires his background. He preys on vunerable women. Why can we not have a governing body that performs nikkahs. One that runs complete background checks. Why can't nikkahs be registered on a national data base so serial nikkah seekers can be flagged up. We are so fixated on how multiple wives are permissable or how misyar is allowed, no one is interested in fixing the broken system of how nikkahs are performed and recorded
@@sunnyhanif7496 Those things are unfortunate. But we can not change (add or subtract) the conditions of what makes a nikah valid. Islam has made nikah easy to protect the chastity of human kind, not to abuse.
The mahr is the res, that is, a requirement of a commercial contract. Nikah is a commercial contract. Mahr is not to protect the woman financially. How can it , if it could be an iron ring or a bag of dates? This wrong idea is why there are ridiculous mahr asked, and the youth can not get married
A very tough subject, well addressed. Can marriages be converted from one form to another? In the modern society, maybe sometime to save a marriage from falling apart, can a regular marriage be converted to a Misyar marriage? Basically the man and woman continue to be married, but stay out of each others hair, except when it is agreed upon to come together
I'm trying to understand, but I am really struggling with the you saying that this type of marriage is loveless and fruitless. I don't understand why you would marry someone you don't love, regardless of the agreement or circumstances. It's not necessarily an arranged marriage, so why would the assumption be that it's loveless? I know for a fact that intimacy is equally important for men and women. If intimacy is not coming from both partners, then it does not exist in the relationship. I find this to be a very sexist take. Especially, since the only reason we think sex is more important to men, is because socially and culturally, men have the freedom to express their interest in sex and women are stigmatized for it.
The women should bring down their expectations because I live in Germany and a marriage cost between 30 to 50 thousounds Euro, so how someone effords such a disaster financial Events. I know people that they took loans and credite to get married so its a shame nowdays but that is the reality unfortunately.
. ويجوز للرجل أن يتزوج دميته إذا كان سعيداً. لأن الزواج أكثر فائدة من العزوبة. الشريعة تجيز ذلك لأن الإسلام ليس عبئا على المؤمن أن يتبعه. It is permissible a man to marry his doll if he is happy. since marriage is more beneficial than celibacy. Sharia Law allows it Because Islam is not a burden for a believer to follow. ----- (Kitab Ulama Qiyas , Volume 1, Page 91 )
Mut’a is in Quran, the prophet allowed it and the first caliph allow it. It was the second caliph who forbade it. Only those who have intellect ask who is umar the second caliph to ban something Allah and the prophet allowed. Lol most people go astray like always.
@@razamughal9095It is said that muta was allowed during the time of Hazrat Abu Bakr, and even Abu Bakr did it. If it was haram, there was a long time between the conquest of Khaybar and the first caliph, and in this case, everyone, including the first caliph, committed sins, isn't this against the sunnah
When a man can just say 3 x talak anyway, theres no real difference between misyar and mutah from a woman’s perspective. One sect likes one and one the other . Thts it. Actually mutah is probably financially better for the woman. As to “secret” marriage, its secret from the first wife. Thts the whole point!!
True and that's why women can put conditions on the marriage contract that islamaicly a man cannot marry a second wife until the first one is living and if so she will divorce him. Muhammad PBUH put this condition on his daughter Fatima. When she married Ali apbwh
i never even heard about this. but i guess in our time these type of marriages will increase. may be better for some otherwise they will straight up do Zina
@@Ahmed-ob6ec nobody speaking about disregarding the right of women. If you missing the point that for any Muslims man or woman not to fall in the traps of evil act then brought as a criminal in the judgment day. So when I say the ummah need to think how to save ourselves from the difficulty we face in the modern world. Simply save yourself from haram!!
I am a shia and I don't see any difference between Muta and prostitution period. It will be absolutely foolish to think marriage is about sexual contentment. Those people who get themselves into these kind of marriages are just fooling themselves, and those scholars who are giving fetwa that it is ok will be responsible in the day of judgment for giving immoral/low life human beings and excuse to engage in their lustful wishes. The argument is that Muta is a solution for some people who are not able to get married but at the same time have strong sexual desires. I would say just go take a cold shower and pray/read quran, engage in community work get yourself busy and you will not have the time/energy to have that kind of desire. What are we? An animal that we don't have control over our desires?!
Thank you Sheikh Yasir Qadhi for beautifully explaining this seriously strange misyar nikah that helps nobody except men who want to take advantage of women in vulnerable situations.
And you are here?
You call yourself friendly lol. You are just an attention seeking murtad.
@@andrewdavanzo8497and you are just rude.
This man is a legend for having the guts for going to into technicalities.
Too many sheikhs would run away from this topic.
He is an intellectual
Cuz they cowards b/c it the ummah is state of confusion 🤷🏾♂️
@@abduhagos8516 correct.
Too bad you can’t understand mufti tariq masood.
Exactly. Those sheikhs know how these outdated marriage practices reflect on islam. Men receive sex and convenience. Women receive no inheritance, no child custody, no property rights, polygamous relationships, fatherless children and social stigmas of the arrangement. Islam does not respect women and an increasing number of them are becoming ex-religious or ex-muslim.
Say no to Misyar. To keep society solid and to put children rights above the rights of couple.
Misyar marriage makes no sense.
Misyar marriage will collapse society 100%
Yes but not everyone has the same needs. Not every man is capable of providing, hence why the rules apply
Let people decide for themselves what kind of marriage they want. If you make it hard on people to get in to halal relationships, the doors to haram will open.
@@moonwalkerr87 Disregarding the rights and responsibilities which have been mandated for the spouse is not a halal relationship.
@@kammiah7428 One of the requirements of marriage is that the man is capable of providing for the wife, if he is not then he isn't qualified to get married.
@@Ahmed-ob6ec it is halaal if she decides to give up her rights, u r missing the point here brotha
Beautifully explained
JazakAllah Khair
Beautifully explained, jazak Allah o khair
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu..jazak Allah khairan brother Dr.Yasir Qadhi..I didn't know of these types of mariage, rules & fatawa👍💯🌹🤲
I really enjoyed this Q&A... JzkAllahu khayran Shaykh you are the best ever!!
Assalamu Alaikum WA rahmatullahi WA barakatuh, we understand you couldn't have time to answer all the questions, but we appreciate your time and effort, and for all the topics that you chose a pic we learned from it greatly appreciated May Allah SWT bless you thank you, JazakumUllah Kare
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Wa alaykumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
I can't believe I'm finding or hearing about this now 😳
Me too.
It's common in the gulf, mainly Saudi .
He is a mujaddid for western Muslims...so detailed and beautiful..I can't thank him enough for all his lectures like this..this is how Islam should of always been taught..we have a lack of ulama like this
Plz let's not overglorify, you might now know what an Mujaddid is.
If it is like this then someone these days want a lot drinking then let us also it allows, is it possible 🤔
Maa Shaa Allah may Allah reward you for the illustrative thought.
Marriage and it's technicalities Shaikh Yasser Qadhi shukran
It all depends on ur intentions.If intentions are not pure then be ready to be accountable to Allah in this life n the next.
One of the champions of our Ummah.
Subhanallah, I'm from Nigeria, this is the first time I have heard about this type of marriage although some men here out of ignorance of Allah's rules, they abuse the concept of marriage by running away from their rights as husband. May Allah protect our umma with knowledge and also be compassionate towards one another...
I am also from Nigeria😅. But I have read a book about this type of marriage.
When I heard it a few years ago I had to google lol cuz I never heard of it lol
From what I read and heard this is pretty much like a pleasure marriage astagfrullah. It can last for months to a year or 6 months
even if the couple have agreed upon this it is still the woman who suffers, emotionally and financially, there is a very small percentage of success. I strongly feel disgusted by brothers who are looking for 2nd wife in vulnerable single mothers who are already struggling to let go of their rights. These brothers are taking advantage this is not decency, may Allah SWT guide and protect our sisters🤲
Legal...but not moral...
💯 agreed too many, way too many vunerable women are being used, sometimes by 'brothers' in positions of power and authority. May Allah safe guard our sisters from such evil doers. It's unfortunate not enough Muslim leaders/ scholars speak up against this. Infact too many facilitate it
What is even more disgusting is that in the uk, they marry say four, then they take three to the council where she claims she is a single mother and gets a house
Woman should leave such man & get marry again simply , why to cry for such man who needs different types of food.But these kind of merriage just use to stop zina . Nothing can be best thn permanent merriage but miysar & mutta are allowed to stop the zina.we can't raise finger if it's allowed in the light of Islam even if we dislike it .both mutta and misyar are same truth is this.just they change the name & trying to give other shape 😊 if mutta is Haram thn misyar is Haram too 😅becax both are same ,truth is this
Ameen
Sheikh this sermon was so rewarding to listen to. There's things I want to say online that I would regret but believe me it's good to know brothers have options😄
Fear Allaah! You should wish for for future spouse the same as you would wish for your biological sister…
Shaykh,we want the continuation lecture in the library chat series
The woman must choose wise ,alhamdulillah for the wali as well.
1 - Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071]
2 - whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One " [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071]
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Jazaak Allah khayr shaykh for another great explanation. A few points though that might also be beneficial, and please correct any misstatement:
1. A woman entering a misyar marriage typically isn't the husband's first wife
2. A misyar marriage tends to be kept private
3. I believe the majority of women entering misyar marriages these days are either divorced or widowed, in which case they don't marry with the permission of their wali
Perhaps some combination of the above is why they tend to end in divorce. I'm no scholar but I would consider making it obligatory for a previously married woman to have a wali if entering a misyar marriage, as well as making it public, to minimize the potential negative outcomes. Exceptions should always be made for life or death situations like you mentioned.
4. The Hanafi opinion is that a wali isn't a requirement for a previously unmarried woman to get married. I don't agree with it, just putting it out there.
I also have a couple of questions if you could please address them in a future episode:
1. What is your opinion regarding men taking second wives without informing their first wife (assuming they married someone who was halal for them, with the wali's permission and the public was informed in the area where the second wife lives)?
2. What qualifies as "informing the public" about a marriage? For example, do all of the husband's immediate family (parents, siblings, current wife or wives, current children) need to know?
Bro you are da best!!!!! May Allah Grant you more knowledge.
Who's bro ! You meant Sheikh ?
He got he’s answer good luck on the second wife bro
Lanath on you and your coming generations 🤮
Secret marriages should not be allowed when the husband already has a wife. It is an act of betrayal to the first wife.
To the first wife it is no different to him having an affair.
The pain and mental anguish along with the physical repulsion felt when she finds her husband is secretly sleeping with another woman is worse than if she was widowed.
She is unknowingly sharing a man who is being intimate with someone else. It is not what she signed up for neither did she agree to it. She is being deceived in the worst way.
In Malik’s Muwatta I have heard that it is written that when Umar (radhi Allah anhu) heard of a man with a secret marriage in another place, he replied that if the man had been present he would have had him flogged. Please can the Sheikh find this Hadith.
I do agree with that sentiment. But, the situation not always been black and white. We will not know what situation may arise in the society that we can easily justify our judgement. But the one thing I realize, most of "Muslim", doesn't put God for everything they do. They will seek fatwa that benefit their selfishness, even though mufti that give that fatwa has their good reason for their judgement. If they understand Allah will always see what their heart seek, many of Muslims will take this Misyar in very careful manner, rather give opportunist an excuse to have several spouses and claim this is halal without thinking the repercussion of their first wife emotion. Allah will judge such men and may Allah reward the wives that have been hurt from this opportunist "Muslim".
@Obvious Incel Because there is no problem if he is single.
@Obvious Incel That also happen even without Misyar back in the day. I do not see the problem here. If want to confirm who’s the father, we have DNA test nowadays.
@Obvious Incel Then that is the problem with people perspective, not with the procedure itself. In the first place, why single men need to be Misyar? You talking about the probability that it happen almost to zero. Meanwhile, Misyar happen when men already married is plenty, to the point it become the part of culture itself. So focus on what part of major problem, not on hypothetically.
@Obvious Incel Then the matter become another problem, not Misyar itself. Doesn't matter if she a whore or legit, if DNA test point out the father, then that mean the man still responsible for the pregnant and the woman has the right because impregnation by that man. He still become the father of children no matter what perspective people will look on that woman.
Well explained
Here in the UK a lot of married men want a second wife but they dont want to pay anything for the second wife they try to convince her to do misyar and just visit her when they feel the need 💩its a sad condition for the ummah and the women suffer the most especially the single mothers who accept this kind of arrangement
It's called having your cake and eating it, having said that if the sister is astute enough to stipulate her requirements within the Misyar contract, then that's a different affair.
Sadly there are brothers out there committing zina or muta, at least with Misyar they are able to navigate the pitfalls of the temptations of this dunya by fullfilling their requirements in a halal way, or non haram way.
Sometimes the husband's natural drive is much higher then his wife's, in this instance he is able to not hurt either wife, if the 2nd wife is not deceived from the outset, and fully on board with the situation.
@@anothergoogleuser4915 Misyar is not halal since it disregards the rights that women are given according to the Shariah.
@@Ahmed-ob6ec Kindly Do your own research into this, perhaps you will see how your issues / concerns are addressed via a Nikaah contract which has conditions.
Usually these Nikkah contracts aren't the norm, however they are there for spouses whom both wish to utilise them if their individual situation requires it.
Maybe the women wants that e.g. she has her own house, children are grown etc and she doesn’t want to look after a man 24/7. So it benefits her.
@@jamdoughnut1873 👍
Having Cake & EATING IT ! Comes to mind.
The comment at 24 reality is a million dollar explanation
Pls can u discuss the subject of zakaa especially the recipients being all the “needy and the categories as prescribed under the specified groups” opposed to “ further filter it to be Muslims”
Subhanallah
I don't wanna sound dumb but wouldn't Misyar marriage be deemed as "unethical" or even "illegal"? These days a lot of people are using it to a bad purpose in middle east countries.
Absolutely 💯 right
Why do u think it’s illegal , . The key issue , is the women agreeing this without being forced ? Did it happen before marriage, If it’s yes , then it’s halal. The reason is , since women in this case is in disadvantaged position and want a man in her life , this Maysar is better, then women walking out and committing Zinna !!!!! Think about that !
@@perfect_chaos4217 this is made up bidah and Allah will never forgive you you are not muslim why do prostitution in name of allah and islam why don’t simply leave islam and do anything whatever you want😡🤮i am shocked to see these kinds of marriage exists and people practice it
It’s basically legalizing prostitution. Fact. Short term, no need for parental or government registration=prostitution. AKA WRONG, “halal” or not!
@@uslee19 TRUE
It is such an informative video,such topic which ppl don't like to discuss .mutta & misyar are halal truth is this . It's halal way to stop zina under the rules of Islam . But if a man doesn't have courage to accept you Infront of whole 🌎,what do you think he'll stay loyal with you ? If during that period of time you fall in love truly with that person ,how it can damage you ? Everyone has their own choices but a woman should avoid to this way ,I think like this .A woman shouldn't forget Abt her self-respect ever
Wa alaykumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
I don't know anything about it till Sheik open the pandora box. ; )😅😅😅
There will always be someone looking to capitalize on any opportunity.
ما شاء الله
As you said that most of misyar marriages don't go for a long and women are specially the more sufferers which sense quite true I have another important question about here and it about children which born as result of misyar. Would they be entitled to inheritance laws or can such condition be put under misyar that children born out of such marriage contract wouldn't be entitled for inheritance. Regards
❓️🛑❓️ *What is YQ's opinion on the saudi fatwa that sihir marriage is valid?* ❓️🛑❓️
if you do not register the zawaj , who is going to enforce the conditions if something happens? the world evolved and changed and so did governments, but is see that some things still didnt change, if it is not registered how will issues be resolved?? very strange stance from scholars to say that you dont have to register in a time where government is the one to enforce the law.
People need to snap out of this traditional blah blah blah opinions. Everyone has a problem & reasons wanted to what they want to do as long as is halal relationship & don’t break the rules of Allah that must be the most focal point. I think, this is very healthy relationship with kind hearted can control the sexual pressure on the ummah. Look how beautiful this religion is. The problem is we are. I’m absolutely ready for this as long as the right person who loves Allah & the massager s.t.w!!
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Some of the worst liberties are taken with women converts, who often don’t have a committed wali or Muslim family to keep the husband/prospective husband in check. So the men get their legal residency status and/or citizenship without many obligations like having to pay any substantial mahr, pay for a wedding, etc.
In one case I know well, there was a situation opposite to that of the first kind of ‘urfi marriage described in this lecture: the two got married in civil court with only a justice of the peace, after which the husband refused to go through with the Islamic nikah, although he had previously agreed to it. She refused to consummate the marriage until consulting with a qualified mufti in the nation’s capital who assured her that her marriage was absolutely valid as-is on the basis that her rights as a wife were legally protected by the state. Later on there were questions as to why the marriage was not done properly and the woman had no proof of the mufti’s approval. Very awkward… and incidentally the marriage was rife with verbal and psychological abuse and manipulation throughout.
Can anyone say me the websites of misyar in saudi
It seems misyar marriage close to non Muslim marriage, it's good to do traditional/original
You're joking right? Non-Muslims are actually supposed to register the marriage for it to be recognized.
Imam I hear what you are saying. What if you are a brother who's just never been satisfied with the women in your area because their iman doesnt even hit the lowest point on the yardstick of muslima character? Ive always had to marry outside the umma because the sisters in my area are too westernisied
Why are these things not elaborated, so some women who are not always knowledgeable don’t get duped into these types of marriages?
Every women knows what she is getting into . Priorities talk , if her priority is to enjoy and get a Man , then accepting a man under lesser condition is not a bad thing as that might save u from coming Zina .
Assalamu Alakum .
How is it that no one is mentioning the children that will be born in these circumstances? These kids will feel worthless especially if no real reliance or sharing or rights between parents is there. This will destroy society and thr ummah. The world should end soon at this rate!
Unfortunately many of my new Muslim sisters where fooled into accepting this kind of mysyar mariage done with emam witnesses...yes, they say this is witnessed 😕 by strangers...therefore even 😢 his other wife & kids not aware of it or his direct relatives...later he left her with nothing but bills & kids & went back to his original first wife & only caused further degeneration of islamic values to new Muslim ☪️ community
I find it all just as hypocritical as mutah
Might as well have a secret boyfriend
Like western practice, because it basically sounds all the same
Marry secretly, get ur jolly up for a while...when it suits u...then divorce & walk away from all responsibilities... Ya Allah sick of this fake world 🌎 😪
Salam alakium...thank you for pointing this out. Mysiyar marriages have witnesses and other parts of a halal marriage but they are probably also done without the 1st wife knowing. So how is this allowed in Islam. As a revert to Islam honesty which is what the Prophet Mohammed pbuh was known for but a man can be dishonest to his first wife and marry a second without her knowledge. May Allah forgive me but I do not understand how this is acceptable.
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@@annalohre1357 A woman is able to set conditions in the marriage contract which gives her the right to divorce if those conditions are not fulfilled. A common one is the right to divorce if the husband marries another wife.
Whst really is different than from a mutah again some people sane will say halal and some will not but looks we cherry pick what we like or not
Who is the reciter in video overture please?
Shayh Sajjad Gul. Here is his playlist th-cam.com/play/PLYO6Oz7uwCSiKTfh-qS3yLjIAATuiE22u.html
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Mahr should be simple and modest. Unfortunately many in the Arab American community are going into exploitation and the marriages are suffering as a result
My question is if Quran permits Mutah, and yet it is forbidden in hadith, which one should be accepted, word of your Allah or Muhammad/ Scholars?.......🤔
What I have found is where one woman gives up her rights, she puts the dependant wife in a very awkward position. Where in many cases one wife ends up being seen as a burden, and the one who takes no or very little rights is put on a pedestal. One wife feels inadequate, whilst the other flaunts her money and almost becomes a halal 'sugar mummy' Defeats the purpose of being just.
In the UK the only reason many women give up their financial rights in exchange of a second/third wife status, is Because they register themselves as single mothers, take their sustainance from the government by committing fraud. In this case is it still halal?
I'm glad that someone in a leadership role has the courage to caution sisters against this in this day and age, because it is very much misused. I've come across many women who had become homeless with children after being used and divorced.
Basically, everyone should weigh out the pros and cons and also have an exit plan and a plan B if things go south before entering into any relationship, whether monogamous or polygamous because honestly even monogamous relationships are also becoming a complete disaster in the UK including Muslim monogamous marriages. This is mainly because hardly anyone seems to make any preparations before marriage and everyone has this false mythical belief that once a marriage begins that it will last forever and will always be filled with love and happiness. Unfortunately, that's rarely the case anymore.
That's absolute BS : women who chose to become second, 3rd or 4th wife do it because they don't have a choice , no Muslim man would touch a divorcee even with a bargepole, also they don't want to upset the children especially Muslim boys can't accept the idea of their mum marrying another man . Your views on this topic are too simplistic and dumb . Also these women know that most men can't take care of the first wife never mind supporting the second wife
@@user-ux8pj3rf4w what a load of assumptions. Let me guess... You're another man trying to assume what women do and why. I've worked with hundreds of women in such cases over the past decade so I'm very much aware of the causes and circumstances in which such arrangements take place. Unlike your condescending comment based on nothing but baseless assumptions.
I don't like to think your outdated mentality about men not wanting to touch divorcees with a bargepole is a reflection of all men. Perhaps men 9fnyour low level calibre. But the more respected men we as Muslims look up to and follow the teachings of, very much married divorcees and also encouraged this practice. If our prophet openly gave divorcees the honour they deserved then who are the likes of you and these 'men' you speak of. You don't match the dirt off the shoes of such honourable men so it makes total sense for the likes of you to attempt humiliating divorced women. Please continue. Many divorced women wouldn't want to touch the likes of you with a bargepole either so I guess the feeling is mutual.
Much of what you've said is outdated village mentality. I have 4 boys who have never been insecure about their mum remarrying. But perhaps boys in your circle are insecure and possessive in that way lol
Abusing women... again... when will it end ?
@@user-ux8pj3rf4w 100% truth
Wali ??
It's hard enough for single people to get married but divorcees are also in same position. Why is it so hard to find someone decent?
That's because people are too fussy these days 😔
@@naztariq7490 so by me refusing to marry someone who can't take care of me , expects me to work outside and inside the house bring him money, put up with his stink and his evil mother and sisters that's me being fussy wow ! I guess simplistic comments are made simple minds
I always love listening to YQ. But it’s hard to completely avoid gender biases. Besides mentioning the increase in empowered women, he should also mention the fact that boys / men are being left behind educationally. There’s a lot of literature around this, but in my country if you look at public university enrolment, 70% is female. So please ask what’s happening to the men. Waiting for men to support us is no longer a viable option for women.
Regarding 43:25 lets not forget that often it is the women who take advantage of the men. I know personally of stories where the wife stole large amounts of money from her husband even though he was already spending generously on her. Also stories where the woman entered into polygamy but did everything she could to undermine and ruin the marriage of the co-wife. Also stories of women who have secret boyfriends when they enter the marriage to the new husband. Or women who marry a divorced/widowed man with children but she ends up abusing his children. Etc, etc. BOTH men and women are not perfect. Let us stop pretending that all women are little angels who do no wrong.
What if a woman is older?
Does the women have to obey the husband in misyaar marriage if the women and husband agree .
Obviously thats was the condition at the time of nikah
Who recites the quran at the beginning
Sajjad Gul
@EPICMASJID thanks. Where is he based. His recitation on you tube?
فَصْلٌ بَيْنَ الْحَلَالِ وَالْحَرَامِ، الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ فِي النِّكَاحِ
سنن ابن ماجه (1/ 611) - كِتَابُ النِّكَاحِ - بَابُ إِعْلَانِ النِّكَاحِ
1896 - حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ رَافِعٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ، عَنْ أَبِي بَلْجٍ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَاطِبٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «فَصْلٌ بَيْنَ الْحَلَالِ وَالْحَرَامِ، الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ فِي النِّكَاحِ»
[حكم الألباني] حسن
Truth is all types of marriages fail for one reason or another. Just need to keep it halal
It's so much abuse and oppression to women in this type of misyar marriage, never heard of....end of time, SubhanaAllah
Yes, ur absolutely rights I also never heard the term till recently. The most important thing here as long as you don’t break the rule of Allah that which ever term we use its always halal & harm standard clear. That one of excuses we don’t have when we go back to Allah for this kind of mistake cuz Allah made it very easy. We the one made harder by pleasing our cultural customs.
This is not allow in sunni islam. its shia culture. but some corrupted sunni mullah support this shia. but its totally haram in sunni islam
@@NRFP That's part of your cult, slave. Why are you crying about that? Didn't your false prophit have several women and let them all alone without giving them any chance to live their lives after his death? Don't be hypocrite, Momo's slave 😉
@@abduhagos8516 look , the sheikh just said it’s not Haram , why do u think it’s against the Islamic way ? Or you are just using ur own ideology to judge what is right or wrong
@@perfect_chaos4217 I think you need to read it again what I said. I’m not criticizing dr yasir & ideology. All I said, we as ummah as long as follows the rule of Allah(sharia) that we need to get ride of our tribes & cultures customs b/c Islamic values are under attack.
The million dollar question I have is, does your first wife have to know about the second one in the Halal cases
@@notarussianbot8157 i need a YES or NO response, no idea what Dr. ZN has said .
@ApeXtc I posted the link just watch the video bro
@@notarussianbot8157 I don't see a link. I just a text that was "Dr. Zakir Naik" and just 2 likes.
@ApeXtc that's odd, I can see it. Anyway, Dr. Naik said you don't have to tell the first wife but I recommend you search the video because I'm not qualified to speak on such things.
This is a fiqh question. What you are asking: Does the first wife have to be aware for the second marriage to be islamically valid? The answer is NO.
23:42
How on earth are such marriages halal? I don't get it.
Because fatimah it's a religion for men
Nice soap 🧼 to clean.
Assalamualaikum .... Somebody please help me... Someone is married never given her dowry she left husband after complications... She was never given her dowry... She was never given her divorce... A man never pronounced nor writes talaq... They are communicating because of a baby... It is 8 years now... Can she still consider herself as a married woman... İs there marriage still valid... Help please... Jazakumullahulkhayran
She can ask her husband for divorce if there’s a valid reason from what I know
Assalamu alaikum, may Allah help her. I suggest that this lady speaks to her local imam so that she can get direction. In Shaa Allah, she will receive good support & help.
Since the husband never gave divorce nor the wife so it means that their marriage is still valid because without divorce marriage can never become invalid. But it does not mean that couples should stay like this. If the husband did not give dowry then he is sinful but that also does not mean that his marriage is invalid.
@@rabbi619 You're right, he never divorces her therefore marriage still exists. Marriage is a sacred thing in Islam.
@@AllPraisebetoAllah60 No marriage is not a secret thing in islam it is up to you wether you make it public or not.
Do Muslim men like the concept of Muta Marriage?
Is the misyar mrriage kind of a evolution of muta'a. But the husband can talaaq the woman when ever he wants. ?
I think Shaykh Yasir is somewhat biased when he says "Motah" as allowed in Shia Islam is not comparable or totally different to Misyar. They might differ but certainly they are comparable. The basic argument to justify Misyar is similar and the relaxation of one or partial obligation in permanent marriage are the same. Secondly, it seems "Motah" was abrogated, not in the life time of prophet Mohammad (PBUH), but it was abrogated during the time of second khalif. allah o alam.
Not everything has happened during the Prophet’s time , if the Sahaba witnessed then who are we to say they were wrong . The premise here is if the women is okay with it , why is it hard to see the situation from her angle and not what the expectations are . Misyar marriage , the premise can be many , some may marry for sex , others for other purposes . But Mut,ah is purely for sex , so that is why the two systems have similarities but they are not the same
What about inheritance if the husband dies?Agreement before?
Ae'linu not ee'linu
Mutah marriage was common for years until the second caliph made it haram. It has every right like regular marriage except it was temporary. The woman appoint the time and mahr and the man accept it.
Now we have made misyar marriage which is all about $3X, as an alternative to mutah marriage.
The Quran is clear. It literally has a verse for mutah marriage. I don't know why some people make it so complicated.
Rubbish. It was the PROPHET WHO MADE IT HARAM, and just like teen talaq hazrat UMAR IMPLEMENTED the prophets teachings. AND there is nothing wrong with misyar.
@@razamughal9095 Mutah was halal in the time of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Abubakar until umar made it haram.
نیسابوری، مسلم بن الحجاج، صحیح مسلم، ج۲، ص۱۰۲۳، باب نکاح المتعة
بخاری، محمد بن إسماعیل، صحیح بخاری، ج۶، ص۲۷
@@Just-Rethink WRONG. The sahaba were not begairat to allow something halal to be made haram. GET OUT OF YOUR HINDU JAHALAT. Just like three talaqs was something IMPLEMENTED by hazrat umar, the same way, mutah being haram was IMPLEMENTED by hazrat Umar.
@@razamughal9095 there are many hadith in sunni books like Sahih Muslim, Sahih Bukhari, Al Jama bain Sahihain, Sunan Behaqi Kubra, Musnad Abi Awana and many more.
If you think they are wrong then you are not even a sunni. I follow Allah swt, Quran, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Ahl al Bayt.
Misyar marriage was not the teachings of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. So it is a Bidah! 😏
@@Just-Rethink you are no scholar so dont even name books to me. Especially being a shia, your opinion is worthless to the world, and your religion is made up. The books you write are made up, the hadees you quote are fabricated. Misyar was not made haram, mutah WAS. And WIVES are the FIRST PEOPLE that are part of the ahl e bayt. WIVES. Misyar nikahs are going to be a problem going forward. Up till now it has not been a problem. Since four marriages have stopped, the supply of women is high and the demand is low. Thats why women will propose a misyar nikah themselves, its a lifesaver for divorced and widowed women, who no body wants. That in itself tells you there is nothing wrong with it, it has no time limit like a muttah, and a talaq is required to get out of it. Muftis try to avoid the subject so as to not promote it, so that more women are in a nikah that is not concealed, which means they will get their rights. But them turning a blind eye will not solve the problem, because there WILL BE a direct correlation between women left on the shelves, and misyar marriage.
So sad waAllahi. Women are so oppressed in different ways
Asalam alaikom. With respect what was said here about Catholic marriage is not correct though many Catholics themselves make the same mistake. The Sacrament of marriage and the marriage itself happens between the bride and groom themselves. The Priest is there solely as a witness fir the official Catholic Church although he conducts the ceremony. This is clearly explained in the Cathechism of the Roman Catholic Church.
Ya Sheikh Yasir, in the Catholic Church a priest doesn't deliver the sacrement of marriage to the couple. The couple gives it to each other. The priest is there to witness it.
Yes. However, even Catholics often don't know that the priest is there as a witness for the Catholic Church.
@@Sciencegrinds okay so? I don't understand how that is relevant. Just because the faithful are uneducated about something doesn't dismiss the fact
Assalamu Aleikum wa RakhmatuLlahi wa Barakatuh! could you please clarify to which email address i can send my question?
AskYQ@EPICMasjid.org
Let us point out what the Qur'anic verses on polygamy actually say: "If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one." (Al-Nisa', 4:3)
A subsequent verse states: "You are never able to be fair and just between women even if that were your ardent desire." (Al-Nisa', 4:129)
In Misyar
1. Women are exploited financially, morally, socially and religiously.
2. Never be safe and secured for women, there is no safeguards
3. Some men are polygamous by nature, Misyar is for them, where no cost is incurred; as women are freely available
4. Men who agree with Misyar can never be a ‘decent’ husband, on the contrary they are male prostitutes (I apologise)? They bear least respect for women
5. Such marriage can never form a family, the long term consequences will be disastrous not only for the woman but to the entire society
6. Misyar grossly overlooks the wisdom behind holy marriage and Maqasid Al shariah.
7. In my opinion such marriage cannot be HALAL. A malpractice cannot be halal simply because majority “scholars” regard it as halal. If majority says 2+2 is 5, it cannot be justified. The reason behind the notion ‘halal’ is not satisfactory. Moreover, it is against Quranic concept of justice and equality.
8. If a woman at her fifties, unfortunately has no husband, can sabr. A man is advised to fast, why a woman at fifty cannot be patient enough from abstinence? A powerful woman at her fifties can ‘buy’ a full time husband, rather than part time haggards.
Salams
To each their own.
Agree
In your opinion it’s haram. Because people can give up their rights by free will? Is it haram to give up rights in Islam?
If someone owes me money. It’s my right to demand that money. If I want to forgive that debt, is that haram? Do I HAVE to ask for the money?
@@moonwalkerr87 the thing is you can simply walk into a masjid, grab 2 witnesses from the jammat and perform nikkah. But no one does background checks, no checks if the woman specially is vunerable or not. Many organisations specially in the charity sector exploit women. Many of these organisations don't even have safeguarding policies in place. I work with many women who have been married and divorced within weeks, ending up in homeless shelters, Pregnant or with existing kids. A man in our own community is to day has 16 nikkahs performed, no imam enquires his background. He preys on vunerable women. Why can we not have a governing body that performs nikkahs. One that runs complete background checks. Why can't nikkahs be registered on a national data base so serial nikkah seekers can be flagged up. We are so fixated on how multiple wives are permissable or how misyar is allowed, no one is interested in fixing the broken system of how nikkahs are performed and recorded
@@sunnyhanif7496 Those things are unfortunate. But we can not change (add or subtract) the conditions of what makes a nikah valid. Islam has made nikah easy to protect the chastity of human kind, not to abuse.
The mahr is the res, that is, a requirement of a commercial contract. Nikah is a commercial contract. Mahr is not to protect the woman financially. How can it , if it could be an iron ring or a bag of dates? This wrong idea is why there are ridiculous mahr asked, and the youth can not get married
A very tough subject, well addressed.
Can marriages be converted from one form to another?
In the modern society, maybe sometime to save a marriage from falling apart, can a regular marriage be converted to a Misyar marriage? Basically the man and woman continue to be married, but stay out of each others hair, except when it is agreed upon to come together
Thats not converting, thats merely a seperation, they can live their life how they want
I'm trying to understand, but I am really struggling with the you saying that this type of marriage is loveless and fruitless. I don't understand why you would marry someone you don't love, regardless of the agreement or circumstances. It's not necessarily an arranged marriage, so why would the assumption be that it's loveless?
I know for a fact that intimacy is equally important for men and women. If intimacy is not coming from both partners, then it does not exist in the relationship. I find this to be a very sexist take. Especially, since the only reason we think sex is more important to men, is because socially and culturally, men have the freedom to express their interest in sex and women are stigmatized for it.
Why so this types of marriages are halal why you critisize the Shia Muslim for making mutah halal?
It’s called hypocrisy
Jahil. There is NOTHING wrong with misyar.
I was also wondering. It's appalling.
The women should bring down their expectations because I live in Germany and a marriage cost between 30 to 50 thousounds Euro, so how someone effords such a disaster financial Events.
I know people that they took loans and credite to get married so its a shame nowdays but that is the reality unfortunately.
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ويجوز للرجل أن يتزوج دميته إذا كان سعيداً. لأن الزواج أكثر فائدة من العزوبة. الشريعة تجيز ذلك لأن الإسلام ليس عبئا على المؤمن أن يتبعه.
It is permissible a man to marry his doll if he is happy. since marriage is more beneficial than celibacy. Sharia Law allows it Because Islam is not a burden for a believer to follow.
----- (Kitab Ulama Qiyas , Volume 1, Page 91 )
Mut’a is in Quran, the prophet allowed it and the first caliph allow it. It was the second caliph who forbade it. Only those who have intellect ask who is umar the second caliph to ban something Allah and the prophet allowed. Lol most people go astray like always.
Paindoo. Muttah WAS banned by the PROPHET, NOT UMAR. The fact is that some of the sahabas did not receive the knowledge that it had been banned.
@@razamughal9095It is said that muta was allowed during the time of Hazrat Abu Bakr, and even Abu Bakr did it. If it was haram, there was a long time between the conquest of Khaybar and the first caliph, and in this case, everyone, including the first caliph, committed sins, isn't this against the sunnah
@@Mehmet_23 muta was banned by the Prophet. Whoever continued doing it, is because news had not reached them.
i like this islam you cna have few wives
When a man can just say 3 x talak anyway, theres no real difference between misyar and mutah from a woman’s perspective. One sect likes one and one the other . Thts it. Actually mutah is probably financially better for the woman.
As to “secret” marriage, its secret from the first wife. Thts the whole point!!
The simple solution to misyar marriages are having proper polygamous marriages where the women get all of thier rights and dignity.
shaykh ... what is ruling on ABANDONED women . this is the big issue in society
There's no marriage if is in secret. That's not valid
Why would any woman in her right mind want to share a husband 😔
True and that's why women can put conditions on the marriage contract that islamaicly a man cannot marry a second wife until the first one is living and if so she will divorce him. Muhammad PBUH put this condition on his daughter Fatima. When she married Ali apbwh
Tum zun mureed ki beti ho 🙄
If they are not selfish and want to share with their sisters in Islam. It is an act of Sadaqah which is worship.
@@razamughal9095 who's that 😂
Muttah for Sunnis. Nice 😂
i never even heard about this. but i guess in our time these type of marriages will increase. may be better for some otherwise they will straight up do Zina
1000 times better than illegal relationships even if it one day!!!!
@@abduhagos8516 Disregarding the rights of one spouse could be considered haram in and of itself.
@@Ahmed-ob6ec nobody speaking about disregarding the right of women. If you missing the point that for any Muslims man or woman not to fall in the traps of evil act then brought as a criminal in the judgment day. So when I say the ummah need to think how to save ourselves from the difficulty we face in the modern world. Simply save yourself from haram!!
@@Ahmed-ob6ec not if that spouse willing gives it up. Disregarding it when they haven't given it up then yes it's haram
Most mens dream is it
I am a shia and I don't see any difference between Muta and prostitution period. It will be absolutely foolish to think marriage is about sexual contentment. Those people who get themselves into these kind of marriages are just fooling themselves, and those scholars who are giving fetwa that it is ok will be responsible in the day of judgment for giving immoral/low life human beings and excuse to engage in their lustful wishes. The argument is that Muta is a solution for some people who are not able to get married but at the same time have strong sexual desires. I would say just go take a cold shower and pray/read quran, engage in community work get yourself busy and you will not have the time/energy to have that kind of desire. What are we? An animal that we don't have control over our desires?!
😂😂😂😂 is this in the Quran or man- made? You said 25yrs ago?🤔 this one NO.
I want to know this too
@3:35 - the religion wants to protect the husband and the WIFE! 😂😂🤣😂🤣🤣
He meant JUST THE HUSBAND (aka the rap**t)!!!!!!!!!!!
lmfao.