10 Bad Habits to Break for a Calm and Peaceful Life
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Let's talk about habits! In today's video, I share 10 bad habits to break for a calm and peaceful life.
Lots of love,
🌼 Vera
VIDEO CHAPTERS
Intro 0:00
Not feeling your feelings 1:06
Squirrel days 4:06
Mindless scrolling 5:50
Self-improvement vs self-acceptance 7:03
Constant distraction 8:41
Talking vs listening 10:19
Playing the victim 11:59
Self-worth 14:26
Not wanting the best for yourself 16:20
Forgetting gratitude 18:19
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Do you ever have squirrel days? 😁🐿
I loved your NIKSEN video first and that's where I started listening to you. Today was the squirrel day for me when I was constantly working to avoid talking to my real self and mask it with multi- tasking. Your videos are a treat to soul.
I do and I find that is usually my nervous system being overstimulated. I even knock into things as I’m physically out of balance as well as mentally. Breathing is something I would appreciate a video on, and how it can bring you calmness. ❤
OMG, yes! Those are the day I might notice my tongue, lol. I laughed so hard when you mentioned that at the end of the video; it was totally a laugh of recognition.
YES, definitely. I have days where there's just so much to do and I end up running around in a disorganised, stressed out mess. Love the squirrel image! Sometimes I feel like I'm being like a squirrel moving the nut from tree to tree, instead of slowing down and getting the nut to the right tree and into the right stash in the first place. Exhausting.
No but I’ll start
Vera, not only is your content deep, meaningful, and inspiring, but your scenes with water, breeze blowing through the leaves, and swans, birds and squirrels,(plus not forgetting that sleeping cat!) is like a mini vacation and brings me so much peace. Thank you. ❤️
I was also going to comment on this! Vera always includes such beautiful footage.
Aw thank you both!! Those images are both for my viewers to be able to relax, as well as for myself to relax while I'm editing hahaha.
I just noticed how relaxing your videos are. No crazy camera movements, no flashy lights, no epic text effects. Just good chill content and relaxing nature scenery. Truly unique. Thank you!
Yes, they help me relax so much. I really appreciate them
Number 6: breaking the habit of talking more than listening is such a great point! There's a brilliant book called: "You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy which explores this idea perfectly. I highly recommend it!
The top you are wearing is one I have not seen before. It is extremely flattering, as is your hair style today. You look relaxed and peaceful.
Thanks for the reminders - I don't need to keep / wear holey clothes!! I just paused the video to go and sort through a drawer and remove damaged items. I can afford and am worthy of clothes without holes in them! It sounds so simple, but there are such deep messages about self worth in there. Thank you :)
And at the same time, don't chastise yourself for having kept them. It may be a frugality urge from a childhood experience that gives you the instinct to preserve. Instead, I hope you congratulate yourself for overcoming the instinct and letting go of the item that has served you and is past due to be discarded.
The bad habit I am working on right now is to stop getting involved into gossiping about others.. it just happens sometimes with colleauges or neighbors, but I want to work on it and dont get drawn into it anymore.. just keeps myself happier as well.
Me2! Even when I don't want to gossip, it seems I'm sucked in😢
I fight my bad feelings all the time and it just makes everything worse. I would appreciate a whole video on this.
It s ok to have bad feelings, if it doesn t work it doesn t work.
Me, too, please❤
Therapy helps
@@Sunnydays484 I haven’t found a good therapist and it’s expensive to keep shopping around.
I must say that I used to have all these bad habits, but getting older made me a lot more conscious of my life and so I changed most of them. I still can’t sit and stare at the wall but I just love to play some music at those times and completely get into the music. The main bad habits that I have are smoking cigarettes, postponing chores and not taking good care of myself where it concerns meals. So those are the things I would like to change this year and I’m working on it already for months by now without real change 😅
I'm retired but I still have squirrel days! I'm working on improving my diet and implement a more effective night time routine as my sleep is not very good (I gather this is common in the post-menopausal?) I know that feeling of getting up to clean or tidy after valuing your home too! I don't have a minimalist home, but I love nice clear worktops and spaces.
Thank you 💜 You brought up some really good points here that resonate with me deeply.
About having difficulty feeling gratitude when you are going through the process of grief or any other overwhelming negative feeling - I struggle with this so much, because I habitually stubbornly fight to keep gratitude in my life no matter what. But what normally helps me to calm down is one of my favorite quotes:
"The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them."
Francis Ward Weller
Bad habits I'm working on: 1) binge watching series (house declutterring journeys haha) after dinner until it is very late. 2) mindlessly doomscrolling through real estate listings when I'm not planning to buy anytime soon (although I want to). 3) procastinating projects when working from home. Thank you for this video, I'll be working on them this month.
Thank you so much for putting together such an informative & thought-provoking video. I especially liked your own "ah-ha" moment when you realized it's okay if not everyone likes you because you personally don't like everyone you come in contact with either, such an eye-opener for me as I find my balance...
“ I don’t like everybody ….. and everybody don’t have to like me ….. “
# 9 “ I’m worth it ! “
Excellent
I'm learning to respect my "peaceful time" and saying no to people, this semester in college I wouldn't catch a break, even on my weekends, so my anxiety got worse (I even had to go back to my psychologist). But I'm grateful that I catch the signs and improve my life! Everyone please remember to always have a healing time for yourself 😊
Love your hair absolutely beautiful💖. And the floral dress looks gorgeous on you. Very soft and feminine. Also very informative video. Thank you!
Aw thank you! 🤗🌷 Also happy to hear you enjoyed the information. 😊 Have a great day!
"Enjoy the silence." Yes!!! I love early in the morning, opening the windows and just listening to the birds, the breeze in the trees or the silence if that's what is there. My husband is someone who has to have the noise, so he turns the TV on and doesn't watch it, drives me bananas.
Hahaha that's funny :) Also love the idea for enjoying silence in the mornings especially...
A lot of Americans seem to do that, at least I know quite a few… a bad habit and especially difficult if the spouse or partner doesn’t like it! Why not switch on some relaxing music instead…😂
I am trying to break my nail biting habit by reminding myself that a self-destructive response to anxiety is not helpful. I'm also working on my tendency to apologize for things that aren't my fault or responsibility, that one's challenging.
No joke, gel nail polish will help that. I used to bite nails all the time then I got gel nails done for a wedding and haven't bitten since. The gel polish will last like 4 weeks and you can get short neutral nails if that's more you're style
@@calilnalan I will try that, thank you!
I’d like to see a video discussing feeling my feelings because I have always suppressed my emotions and it’s been a very unhealthy habit that I don’t know how to break
One thing I am really working hard on giving up to be more calm (although not sure if it's really a habit😅) is getting upset about people talking nonsense, hurtful things and this constant need to change their mind by explaining. And what I mean by that is mostly politics/society oriented. As a member of LGBT community in Poland it is really frequent to hear people talk really nasty things, show no respect. And it made me really upset and mad. Now I try to not engage in those negative patterns and chose compassion over anger. It helps to keep my calm and I feel better as a human being ❤
I can relate. I stopped getting into it with people over that same topic.
I feel the same. I deleted Facebook to avoid being drawn in. I realize I can't be the defender of every social issue, through social media. In real life, I will engage, but online there's no point.
I totally agree withyou about the gratitude, you wouldnt thank anyone for diarrhoea, but you could be grateful for the sink to wash your hands in, the bed to sleep in, thats how i see things, thank you for sharing Vera have a lovely week
Waiting for the coffee, while unloading the dishwasher while heating a pot of soup and listening to a podcast? I feel seen 😂😫
A video about feeling your feelings would be so so helpful!!
Dear Vera. I recognized myself in some of these habits. Thank you for talking about it, it will help me fight them.❤
Thanks for the wonderful video, Vera. ❤ Yes, I absolutely have squirrel days! It kind of feels like I’m getting nowhere fast. And I also experience squirrel moments where I just randomly get distracted. As a HSP it is so difficult to try to multitask or hurry because doing so really feels overwhelming/stressful.
Exactly! :) Time to slow down then :) Thanks for sharing, have a lovely day!
Squirrel days are for taking some deep breaths and drinking some water ! More usual after a not so good night's sleep !
I would love a video exploring the topic of feeling your feelings! I often have thoughts like "I shouldn't feel this way" or "I'm just so sensitive" and I think part of it is that I push away justified feelings that later pop up again and again because I have't given them the room they need to be properly processed.
Working on replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts thru listening to inner wisdom, meditation, gratitude journal. Its a working progress.
Your country's govt's move hard right is as scary as the one here in the U.S. It's difficult not to "feel your feelings" with this kind of &hit going on all around you. Your videos are a nice distraction from the day's events. Thank you for them.
I really liked this topic. Great use of examples. I am frying to break scrolling on TH-cam so I set a timer before I start and this helps me watch my favorite subscribers and not sit there for a long time.
Not wanting the best for myself really resonated with me and doim scrolling ..2 very bad habits i struggle with.
I love the discussion about one third, one third, and one third. So true! ❤️
Thank you! I am grateful for your putting this important step-by-step insight into the world for all of us to use to find more peace in our increasingly chaotic world. You give me a reason to express GRATITUDE! ❤
Thanks for this nice video!
Many things to think about and small changes should be done easily.
And yes, most of my days feel like squirrel days, it starts in the morning, then at work and back at home again.
I just discovered you and your wonderful channel a few days ago and I’m happily binge watching your previous videos. Your authenticity and kind soul jump right through the screen, Vera. Sending you summer greetings from San Francisco!
You always tell me what the most important thing is for me. It’s very difficult not to do multiple tasks because I feel that I’m wasting my time. There’s a good Chinese phrase, “ to be satisfied with what you have “. I intend to forget that. I’d like to understand that I’m always have a lot and I’m happy, I don’t need to be a rush. Thanks always, Vera.
Hi Vera, I would love a video on feeling your feelings!
I'd love the deeper video about feeling your feelings
Hi Vera, thank you for this video. I liked what you said about how not everyone will like you the same way you don't like everyone you come across. It's something I struggle with for sure but still working on it 😌 one bad habit I am trying to break at the moment is mindlessly scrolling as it has become really bad lately, so social media has now been deleted. Thank you 🙏
Great video! I am getting into the habit of doing one thing at a time. It was so much better to give my full attention to the video.
Wonderful, good for you!! 🤗 Have a lovely rest of your day 🌷
Thank you so much Vera. I never heard of Squirrels day but I guess I'm guilty of that. Doing different things at the same time. ❤❤
Thanks! Your video is a much needed break for me - and great reminders. I've been pulled in a direction lately that has given me a lot of squirrel days. I'm working on trying to get closer to more balance in my life again. take care
I found you and my feelings were of relief and I felt like crying because I felt seen or I recognized myself. (?).
Vera, ALL of these topics were good and your perspective was refreshing, particularly #7; said with love and wisdom.
Yay, happy to hear it!! Thanks Viki 🤗🌷🌱 Hope you're doing well and having a nice day so far!
Hey Vera! Great video as usual. I have to say the habit of gratitude is what I find most helpful and your tip on doing something to express gratitude is also very practical and something I will try do more often! Thanks for this one and have a great rest of the week! Many blessings!😊
Thank you Vera for a well curated list 🤍Currently I am writing the comment from my July staycation, reffering to point 9. A great decision I made for myself after a long career transitioning process. Sending best wishes!
THE bad feeling I need to break is mindless scrolling and the stupid smartphoe game I started to play again after having not touched it. I started again when I felt bored, so working on that "distraction" thing is also a point I see. I love the sleeping cat scene!
And yeah, squirrel days. I know those very good, and I really need to stop multitasking, especially in the morning. I am the one who unloads the dishwasher while waiting for the waterboiler to get the water heated, AND the one who went home again after leaving for work two days in a row because she forgot her medication.
Buying things I really dont need is my bad habit. It is getting better I have a feel good app on my phone and I have it as one of my goals for each day. It has really helped so far so if I am tempted I also think to myself buy this thing or go on my dream vacation/trip. I always choose my dream vacation/trip. I have only messed up/ bought something I dont need once. Pretty proud of myself. Hope this helps others.
Oh I'm the the Queen of the Squirrels lol. Im trying to be mindful of what I'm doing as I run around trying to get things accomplished, for example even just cleaning in my home and then I'm like where did I put that 'thing' because I've just ran around like a crazy squirrel so end up backtracking to find whatever item I needed or was using.
Hahahaha queen of the squirrels, I love it 😁🐿️
Hi Vera, I watch your videos but usually don't comment. I just wanted you to know how much peace your video brought me today. Thank you very much! Susanne ❤
Another excellent video. There's elements of all these points I could incorporate into my life and I know it would make it better. I believe in gratitude too. I've also learned to to stop running around like a squirrel and rushing around. I might rush around a little bit if I'd like to get some practical things done but not so much. I'm much more patient and I do things gradually. I could also be a better listener. Ps there are so many videos about what 'to do' to have a calmer life and they all very good. This video is really great and very important because it details really well about what 'not to do'.
I am working on not criticising myself.. I keep telling myself how amazing I am doing now and also have done so far.. still have a long way to go to break this habit..
Loved the video btw❤️
This video is right on time. Just what I needed. Thanks for sharing! 💚
Vera You look extra pretty today 1) Doing this 2) do not do this I learned it does not work 3) not a issue 4) agree 5)not really 6) Yes I deal with this Have to listen more7 ) learning 8) realy good I hate it when people complain that I love cats9) love this one 10) working on it I am always gratefull for my cats
I really enjoyed this video. I particularly liked your last point about gratitude, acknowledging it and then acting on it. In the past I've kept a gratitude journal but, to be honest I found it a bit of a chore. Not that I'm saying practicing gratitude isn't important - it clearly is BUT I've always had it in my mind that writing things down that I'm grateful for was the best way to 'do it'. Keeping a gratitude journal seems to be the strategy that most wellbeing experts push. It didn't work for me so I' feel really happy that you've suggested another way to practice more mindful and meaningful gratitude for me. As I'm writing this I'm thinking about what I'm grateful for right now and it's that our old dog is doing ok, happy and healthy and enjoying his walks . Today it's perfect weather for him walking - not too hot so I'm going to take him out on an extra short walk (which he'll love) and just enjoy that time with him. Thank you for this idea.
Gratitude changes everything!
Vera, you are beautiful! Your videos and sage advice brighten my day. 🤗
I love this, thank you for sharing. I have been more distracted lately with mental garbage (which is what I call them) lol I am finding ways to keep myself in check and keep my head in a more clear-headed space. I have been getting back into enjoying the silence.
Hi Vera, I can relate to #1 for sure, especially lately because I was diagnosed with cancer (early stage) but it’s been 2 months and I still am trying to process it, it’s hard to believe & accept. I still haven’t had a good cry, I’m just going through the motions to try healing myself mostly holistically but I know it isn’t good to suppress feelings because at the end of the day your body is holding in all of that stress instead of just releasing it, I’m not sure if it’s a defensive mechanism to not fall apart and just get on with business and do what you have to do or if it means having a good cry makes it official. I know others mentioned about having a video on this topic and I would love one ❣️I am reading a book by James Clear called “Atomic Habits”, retraining your bad habits 1% at a time, this is so valuable for many of these topics that you discussed and really everything, I also bought the workbook because it just cements the ideas that you can work on. This was an excellent video with so much practical information 😍
Wonderful videos of the nature! Beautiful ❤ The tips soooo useful, as always!
Thanks for this inspiring video. I don’t mean to seem superficial, but your hair looks so beautiful. 😀 I’m glad you are leaning in to your natural curl and that you found great products. 😊
Great tips!! Love your look today❤
Aw thank you! :) Have a lovely day!
Wonderful video as always Vera - very calming, peaceful scenes from nature too 🥰. A bad habit I’m really trying to break is to notice when I’m anxious over things that I can’t control. Catastrophising is something I can be prone to, so I’m making a concerted effort to catch myself in the ‘what if’s’. Just concentrating on the here and now is very freeing 🤗
LOVE your list. The points I relate to the most at this time are feeling feelings and more listening. I'm working on being more honest with myself and with others about my feelings. The second, I'm working on listening more and not necessarily sharing my own experience, trying to relate to the other person. Also interesting to observe others with these two, express feelings and how well they listen.
Thank you for these wonderful tips on living a more balanced and peaceful life. Wonderful reminders. Especially like the reminder of feeling your feelings..and taking time to sit back and not try to cover it up or numb it. So enjoying your videos.
That last thing you said I've gotten with anxiety. Being hyper aware of random things is annoying. I call it "what do I do with my hands?" like that Will Ferrell character 😂
Thank you for this video, as always I appreciate your words and your voice always manages to soothe me :) The 9th point made me laugh simply because I'm right in it: my socks full of holes that I continue to wear while pushing my partner to buy new things for him by telling him "you deserve to wear new things, treat yourself" XD You know what, I deserve it too so my goal for the week will be to go buy socks and not the first ones that come along, not the ones that I like and that I will enjoy wearing ^^ Have a good day Vera :)
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I think others try to push us into having squirrel days, thinking what they want is more immediately important than what we are doing (or not doing). I’ve known to be a bit stubborn about this at times. 😮 Also, I wonder if doing associated things at the same time (cooking and kitchen cleanup as example) fits your definition as I normally multitask related tasks. 😊
Hi Vera
Looking beautiful today 😊 loved your hair and outfit.
I have been focusing on cutting down mindless scrolling, avoiding people that constantly nag and practicing gratitude more often
Oh Vera posted ❤can’t wait to watch it’s really lovely and valuable content
I do enjoy your videos a lot and it’s helping me to apply minimalism on a daily basis as well as be proud I’m highly sensitive
Also I finally know how to explain it to others
Lots of love 🥰
Aw that's amazing, reading that makes me very happy 🤗💕
I love Kyra. Watched it!
Vera I really loved this video so much & as others have mentioned the nature scenes are wonderful. I have recently discovered that the words SILENT & LISTEN are both spelt with the same letters ❤
So good to see you, Vera! ♡
Thanks for this video!
High quality video, so well made thoughts, wow good job Vera!
The reminders are deep and on point! I'm starting to look at life a bit different now. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Vera!😊
Great video, Vera! A topic I needed to listen to at this time in my life! Love your videos. ❤
Ty so much. This was very interesting & helpful. My bad habit is there is more to do in a day than we can get done. That’s life. But I feel anxiety & guilty about what isn’t getting done & I can’t turn it off & do something enjoyable like reading a good book. So I do neither & then more guilt & being hard on myself for being hard on myself. & it’s wasted hours & wasted days.
Vera, your hair's looking great 😃👍🏾
I don't do squirrel days anymore. I'm all about the slow life these days.😊
I would love a video about how to process your feelings and more examples about how you do thankfulness( like making a picture from flowers and clean your home), that is very interesting. I make pictures from my meals and drinks when they become so nice, i dont show these pictures, its only for me and it makes me happy, looking at it, what i have done so nicely: )
Thank you so much for this video! Love your calm personality. :-)
I needed this today thank you 🙏🙏 ooohhhh yiiiiis I know the squirrel-days 🥴😑😆
Hahaha you're so welcome, have a lovely rest of your day! :)
Great points of view as usual. Thanks Vera 🌷
So much wisdom, thank you for sharing. I just wanted to say you look so lovely today, your hair is gorgeous and such a pretty dress ❤
I'm pausing the video because I was at the point in not multitasking while I was loading and unloading the dishwasher, then an alarm went, I went upstairs to do that task, then the cat jumped up and licked the dirty plates, so I figured - time for a break!
Thank you Vera! ❤
Not wanting the best for myself is my lesson. Yesterday I only bought new underwear because the old ones were completely worn out. Same with my shoes. I would never let my child walk around in such worn-out clothes. I also stir up leftovers, which I would never serve to guests. 🙈
I have to say lately I have improved the Number 9 😊 is funny you mentioned the meal example as I recently tried to do that for me, even if I am alone I will cook a lush meal just for myself and I have notice my wellbeing improved 😊💗💙💗
Vera, thank you for your videos❤They are amazzzzzing❤❤❤❤❤
I was number 100 to comment today. I just want to say that I Appreciate You 100% 😊
Thank you Vera
the most important lesson I've ever had is that: if something realy irritates you, probably you're doing the same thing in a diferente way, but you don't aknowledge that. As an example: if you get angry if someone's messes up your things whitout your permission, but you are stalking deeply somebody's social midia, you're doing the same thing: privacy invasion. So if you stop doing this (stalking), probably magically the situation that makes you angry will desapear, or it will be continue to happen, but you will never notice, because it means nothing to you anymore. It don't irritates you anymore. It's crazyness, but it works. So in my case now: I need to stop calling mentaly someone's dumb because he/she don,t know an obvious thing, like a basic portuguese rule (I'm from Brazil), because, on the other hand I always get REALY BAD AND SAD if my mom's calls me dumb because of the same thing, as an basic wrong at the kitchen (but she never teached me how to cook and I'm a novice, but for her that use to cook for many years it the BASIC OF THE BASIC) "how can my daughter make a mistake like that, for god's sake!!!!???) and it affects me the most. So try to do this you too. Think abaout want gets you crazy e try to think how/where/what/in wicth area are you doing the same thing but in a diferent way and try to stop it and see what happens. Give this tip a chance. See you!
Such good advice, thank you🥰
Vera, you look especially beautiful and refreshed in this video, which I loved by the way! Every point you made resonated with me in some way. The tongue thing happens to me when I'm driving, and I wonder if it's somehow related to being tense. I just let it rest in the roof of my mouth until I forget about it! lol
Number 8 comes with the ages. 😅 Great video as always. 😀
some particularly great advice in this one, thank you! :)
Love that you also watch Kyra Ann. Maybe you both could do some sort of collab together sometime. 💖
Your hair looks so good in this video!
Hi Vera your hair is looking so healthy and a lot thicker it really suits you ❤️ the bad habits I’m trying to let go of are being talked into something I don’t really want to do! And being around people that don’t let me be me?? 😀
I struggle with gratitude the most. I was very sick through my teenage years and everytime I cried or complained my family would basicly say that I am ungrateful because there are children out there who don't even have food or can go to school etc. Since than every time I try to be grateful for something or when they tried to teach me in therapy I just get sooooo angry and start lashing out. I'm almost 40 now and I still couldn't break this cycle. Stopped trying to be grateful since it always makes me feel worse.
Any tipps?
Thank you!
I would be interested in a video about “sitting with your emotions.”