JOSH NEEDS TO LEARN THE LANGUAGE. I'm always screaming at the top of my lungs that whichever person is unemployed in these situations needs to be learning the language as their full-time job. Contribute to your relationship!
Yeah but the issue with Josh is that this man said In his first episode that Mandarin was too hard so he quit all the while he expected Lily to speak English fluently despite her not evening needing too because she is still in China a country where they don’t use English all that much and Josh said it himself he can’t get a job due to chinas policy until he stays there for 5 years.
@@Boba_Belly I kind of am rooting for Statler honestly. I can't get along with YOLO people when it comes to financial and housing stability either and Dempsey has always given me shady vibes. For example, she didn't tell Statler about her having money, making her take out a loan unnecessarily(she didn't put her name on it saying that you're not allowed to co-sign a car, which is inaccurate, UK residents can co-own cars with US citizens), cheated on her(with a producer I heard), and didn't tell her she wanted to have children until their in person meeting their last season. I relate to her AuDHD/severe anxiety and I just feel like they aren't compatible. I get the feeling that Dempsey is likely neurotypical and she doesn't communicate well either and doesn't understand Statler or try to.
Statler is so frustrating!! She created this situation and doesnt like it and is now taking out her frustrations on Dempsey. You can tell how angry, bitter and anxiety ridden she is every time she speaks. Josh not learning Mandarin despite having no job and getting everything provided to him AND he plans on living there forever is absolutely ridiculous. Why hasnt he enrolled in some classes there or smt?
You’re so right about the parenting thing with James. There are a lot of people who are good with kids but would not be a good parent. I’m one of them. People who know me have always said “oh you should/should’ve had kids. You’re so good with kids! You’d be a great mom.” Immediately…no. Short interactions are not remotely comparable to raising & caring for a child. That’s a 24/7 gig & it’s physically & mentally taxing. I just know I would not make a good parent for many reasons. 🤷🏻♀️
I feel sorry for Lily. He doesn't understand the culture. Despite being labeled as a romantic, Lily will have been raised with a very pragmatic and frank attitude towards money. She owns a business and works for a living. To someone in our culture who works for a living, that money represents her time and labour. Her blood, sweat, and tears, if you will. Her using her money, the fruits of her labour, for Josh's wants and needs is an absolutely normal way of expressing love and I imagine that for him to ask her not to remind him of it is probably baffling to her. It would be like your husband shoving you away when you go in for a hug. I get that he is insecure about not having a job, but that's more of a "him" problem. In our culture, we tend not to explicitly talk about love. We express love through actions rather than words. Saying, "I love you!", in Chinese absolutely sounds cringe unless you are talking to a very small child. As you get older, you stop hearing it, but you know your parents love you because they make your favourite food. Or they tell you, "this is the best part of the chicken, it's all for you," as they put it in your bowl. Or they go without the things they want and work extra shifts to pay for your schooling. That transfers into how we act in our romantic relationships. She is going without food so he can live in a nice house as big as what Americans are used to and he can feel at home. But Josh is so insecure that what he wants is huge and frequent infusions of verbal reassurance and validation to an extent that it would be exhausting even for someone from his own culture. Considering your typical Chinese upbringing, I am not even sure it is possible for Lily to supply even half of what he seems to need. It is just not how we are raised to view love. She is totally confused. So then she is doing the, "I love you, so if you are not happy and I can't give you what you want, I will set you free" thing and he doesn't want that either! She can't do right with this man!
He may feel a bit inadequate but I believe it's a conflict of opposite love languages. He's clearly much more appreciative of her culture than some of the other cast members we've seen. It's not easy for someone who wants words of affirmation to just be okay with "gift giving" love language. When they were apart it was easy to understand now that they are close it's harder to understand. It's a culture clash for sure, but they both need to adjust to the others needs. Frankly just because it's cultural doesn't mean they can't change for their partners. The type of love you described can easily be misunderstood even by those of the same culture.
Thanks for your very interesting comments. I'm European and I wasn't aware of all that. I do feel that Lily is a very pragmatic woman and that Josh should quickly start to make an effort to prove that he wants to build his life with her in China. Learning the language and immersing himself in her culture seem to me like the basic steps, plus if he's got 5 or 10 years to wait before being allowed to work in China, maybe he'll need to do something, anything really to avoid dying of boredom anyway. I seem to remember from the start of the season that he didn't work much in the US, but I really doubt that he can integrate in China - and build a solid marriage - without investing some energy and work.
omg so fun fact- apparently corona used to work at my job? I'm a new grad nurse in an ICU and my preceptor made a random comment about how someone left the job to be on "some reality show" and I was like oh weird but I didn't ask any further questions. But later he said they were on 90 day fiance and I was immediately like whoa what I watch 90 day, and turns out it was CORONA!! Every single person at my job that has mentioned her so far has said that she was insane lmao. Apparently she said my preceptor was awful and mansplaining everything and being super mean (he's pretty blunt, but he's also pretty nice and everyone respects him because he's been there for years and knows so much. like i dont think mansplaining applies when it's literally someone's job to teach and guide you but whatever I could be wrong idk I wasn't there lmao) so she would storm off the floor or hide in the bathroom?? And then she got a different preceptor (who was a woman) and she would still run off the floor being sad or crying and honestly I believe my coworkers when they say all this because she seems... unstable lmao.
In nursing, and medicine in general, a preceptor is someone who shows you the ropes while you’re working on a specific unit. Like, when you’re a student nurse or a new graduate nurse, your preceptor is the one who teaches you all the ins and outs of the job. ☺️
Sounds like Statler didn’t want to do this, so didn’t want to plan any of it and just kept telling Dempsey she’d pay for whatever. She’s frustrated now because she’s having to live with the situation she created by not being involved.
@@linderlindest5373 lots of people have autism and adhd. As someone on the scale, she should know better than to beat around the bush and not be direct.
@@SpicyPlur EXCATLY!!! people keep thinking just because a person has a disability it should excuse all behavior. Ole girl needs to just be honest with herself and partner
Corona plays to much onto her stereotype. It's amazing how oblivious she is to her toxic behavior. As if it was normal to treat your partner like your child.
What if he told her everyday I've just made you breakfast what can I get you for lunch here's what I'm making you for dinner and cleaned the house and arranged flowers there's a lot of things he could be doing . He wouldn't feel so small that way
I needed to pause and re-watch around 5:15 cause I don't get it. She never seemed happy about taking on this sugar mama-like role, whines about being in debt, and now you say she took part of that on for a vehicle that isn't even in her name? 😨 And at 6:13 you tell me Statler was the one who told her not to take the time to save up?! This is insane.
Depends on the child probably but I’ve never felt the need to be the ‘bad guy’ with my daughter. I was open, honest and respectful to her since she was born and she is so understanding and respectful to me in return. ❤
9:30 “ I will fight, to keep your money” is basically what he said. lol he is hardcore gaslighting sis and I can’t believe she’s okay with that. I mean this in the nicest way, but for both their sake I hope they broke up. 😂
I think zarper and shakayna r a match 4 real. Ifeel like They r The same level of petty, strong boundaries yet mind boggling immaturaty . They r perfect 4 each other
I wonder if the ex that was abusive physically was also the same guy that wrote her hundreds of Love Letters because she actually did say her mom had forbid her from talking to the guy so all they had was letters chicken communicated
I think she's cute. And I don't get all the hate...I would be worried too and super stressed about money and not having a back up plan. I get her panic and anxiety
@@bambinaforever1402 you CAN in the US, and I’ve seen a bunch of comments from people in the UK saying it can be done there, too, but I don’t feel like looking it up to verify that right now. 😂
For me, saying no is not the hardest part lol I don’t mind saying no bc I have a 2 year old and a newborn so they don’t know wtf they’re doing lmao The hardest part for me so far is recognizing and correcting learned behavior from my parents so I can be a better one. Also cleaning up after them 24/7 !!!! 😂
My issue with Dempsey is that she is not even trying to do anything to contribute to their lifestyle or fundings. I get Statler said she pay for things, but she doesn't try even a little? Even like just for herself? That would be drainning for me too
I think Josh is possibly borderline and splitting when he says Lily doesn't love him. My ex used to do it to me all the time. She would forget everything good about our relationship when we were in an argument and just see me as a bad partner, tell me I didn't love her and would threaten to leave. I can 100% understand Lily's feelings that she is in a loveless marriage. She probably feels really unloved, devalued and disrespected.
Most men are not going to want to propose and get married in 4 months. Corona needs to slow down, obviously it didn’t work she went to school here. Statler should learn not to want to leave everything and move to another country before meeting the person even. I don’t care for Statler but Dempsey was told on the tell all before this season by Statler she expected her partner to also contribute financially that she could support them for a short time which apparently Dempsey thinks means you never have to work again. Anytime someone says they never worry and the world will provide is basically saying I will find someone to provide or find a way to slide by. These two also didn’t make it. Josh should be learning the language and could work some kind of internet job or something. He should have put his foot down and told her no don’t move out of the apartment, rent out the house or sell it for money. These two will not make it either they are too culturally different.
Been dating my bf for 8yr and still no ring. Some of these people need to calm down... legit corona is his FIRST gf😅 Legit also Statler told her that she would pay for things and she committed to things so she just feels like she pushed Dempsey into the move since last season anyway. I don't know what she expects. Honestly they need to wrote things they agree to in a notebook or something because if you can't remember things you agree to it's your responsibility to find a way to remember
Eight years is too long, if you want to get married. That's a red flag. Yes four months is too short, especially since they JUST moved in together, but why did she change countries and give up her spot in school with no ring??
@@xletragedyx because she actually didn’t change countries or give up her spot in school, they were only casually dating when she applied to be on the show as a joke, and when TLC wanted them, they faked all this to be on TV. He did an interview in Iceland talking about it just as the season started. 🫢
- Josh looks like he’s 45 or whatever but where is this dude’s money? He had a hot tub in his back yard back in the US but it seems like Lily is spending all the money now that they’re in China. Josh said he felt that was emasculating but still didn’t do anything to secure a large amount of finances before moving to China knowing full well he wouldn’t be able to work there for several years. On top of that bro’s jealousy for a 45 yard man (especially when Lily is playing badminton with her friends, 1 of which is a female and the other who seems very flamboyant). Lily is almost 50. There’s 2 billion people in China. Also I don’t think many people are confusing Lily with Olivia Wilde bro. Have some self confidence and unless you DONT want to be with this woman long term (which, sorry to say, for his age makes it completely possible that this is his last serious relationship). Quit acting like a petulant, jealous tired. Since you can’t earn money via a job in China how about spending some time on a daily business trying to learn Mandarin so you two can communicate better. Lily is running her own business which obviously requires a ton of time and she’s still I would say 80% fluent in English. You on the other hand can only communicate with her when you want some happy ending time or to argue about something pointless. Yeah, this relationship will withstand the test of time about as well as whole milk sitting outside on pavement during a late summer day in July in sunny Miami, Florida
You're right. Another thing is my Chinese friend says that they talk abt money all the time. Lily isn't emasculating Josh on purpose it's part of their culture/upbringing. Americans hardly care abt their partners culture. They have interest in it but hardly do anything to understand it. Even my American partner doesn't try understand, I'm African living in Africa and grew up in America. I understand why they are the way they are but it's frustrating when the American doesn't make an effort
@@henriettakanya8605 I’ve lived in the US since I was 4. Lived in Kinshasa when it was still Zahir for a year because my uncle had a business there but he and my father had a falling out so we moved to NYC where my dad is an example of the American dream. Had maybe $200-$300 in his pocket, a 4 year old and a wife. Worked as a courier and in a deli in NYC but it so expensive it was going nowhere. So 6 months later after we heard about the Olympics in Atlanta our family and 2 other that we knew packed our station wagons and drove down to Atlanta. Dad worked 6 Am to midnight for 2 years straight. Mom worked 60 hour work weeks, picked up and dropped me off to school (I remember sleeping outside in her car after school without any air conditioning on temps being well over 100 in the car. But my parents are the epitome of the American dream. Sounds like you are happy and things are going well. That’s great to hear. Lastly: Josh is still a super weirdo lol. I want to know what happened to his house in Connecticut or whatever. That was an expensive house. Josh acting broke having a few million in an American bank account not telling Lily about it sounds like. Pretty sad
My cousin got a spousal visa for the US and wasn‘t allowed to work for the first year (she had a job lined up after that through her husbands company) - they paid them to relocate to the US. So she first got her C2 certificate (highest English proficency level equal to native speaker) and then volonteered at the school, teaching English herself. She said, what else can she do than to work for free? And I mean the school had a social programm to teach people English who could otherwise not afford it, so it was a nice thing to do as well. Point is; fill your own time. Do your own thing. Be your own person. Don‘t make other people take care of you and then resent them for it….
Anyone pick up what exactly Josh does for a living? I wonder if he could start an online business? He’s literally in China where a ton of American goods are made.
JOSH NEEDS TO LEARN THE LANGUAGE. I'm always screaming at the top of my lungs that whichever person is unemployed in these situations needs to be learning the language as their full-time job. Contribute to your relationship!
Yeah but the issue with Josh is that this man said In his first episode that Mandarin was too hard so he quit all the while he expected Lily to speak English fluently despite her not evening needing too because she is still in China a country where they don’t use English all that much and Josh said it himself he can’t get a job due to chinas policy until he stays there for 5 years.
@@calrystuff4940 I thought it was 10 years?
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🙄 he’s getting more and more annoying every episode
Josh: i will do anything except for try...
🤣🤣🤣 seriously lolol
Statler and Dempsey are so incompatible, they have nothing incommon.
Doesn’t matter what Dempsey does…. Statler will always find something to complain about
There's not one couple this season to root for.
It's been like that for alot of the spinoffs too
Inge and Corona aren't together anymore, anyway.
there’s not really one person this season to root for hahahaha
@@Boba_Belly omg you're right 😮
@@Boba_Belly I kind of am rooting for Statler honestly. I can't get along with YOLO people when it comes to financial and housing stability either and Dempsey has always given me shady vibes. For example, she didn't tell Statler about her having money, making her take out a loan unnecessarily(she didn't put her name on it saying that you're not allowed to co-sign a car, which is inaccurate, UK residents can co-own cars with US citizens), cheated on her(with a producer I heard), and didn't tell her she wanted to have children until their in person meeting their last season. I relate to her AuDHD/severe anxiety and I just feel like they aren't compatible. I get the feeling that Dempsey is likely neurotypical and she doesn't communicate well either and doesn't understand Statler or try to.
Statler is so frustrating!! She created this situation and doesnt like it and is now taking out her frustrations on Dempsey. You can tell how angry, bitter and anxiety ridden she is every time she speaks. Josh not learning Mandarin despite having no job and getting everything provided to him AND he plans on living there forever is absolutely ridiculous. Why hasnt he enrolled in some classes there or smt?
Nah Dempsey downplayed everything and omitted what was convenient to get statler to make the move she was so hesitant about
Corona is so so so weird. That guy should find another person better suited for him. She seems so awkward around him
Her choice in fashion is questionable as well. Just cause you can wear something doesn’t mean you should ;)
It feels very “I’m going to keep being the worst until she breaks up with me and I can blame her for it” by Statler
You’re so right about the parenting thing with James. There are a lot of people who are good with kids but would not be a good parent. I’m one of them. People who know me have always said “oh you should/should’ve had kids. You’re so good with kids! You’d be a great mom.” Immediately…no. Short interactions are not remotely comparable to raising & caring for a child. That’s a 24/7 gig & it’s physically & mentally taxing. I just know I would not make a good parent for many reasons. 🤷🏻♀️
I feel the same!! 🤣🤣 I don’t have the stamina to be a mother.
I feel sorry for Lily. He doesn't understand the culture. Despite being labeled as a romantic, Lily will have been raised with a very pragmatic and frank attitude towards money. She owns a business and works for a living. To someone in our culture who works for a living, that money represents her time and labour. Her blood, sweat, and tears, if you will. Her using her money, the fruits of her labour, for Josh's wants and needs is an absolutely normal way of expressing love and I imagine that for him to ask her not to remind him of it is probably baffling to her. It would be like your husband shoving you away when you go in for a hug. I get that he is insecure about not having a job, but that's more of a "him" problem.
In our culture, we tend not to explicitly talk about love. We express love through actions rather than words. Saying, "I love you!", in Chinese absolutely sounds cringe unless you are talking to a very small child. As you get older, you stop hearing it, but you know your parents love you because they make your favourite food. Or they tell you, "this is the best part of the chicken, it's all for you," as they put it in your bowl. Or they go without the things they want and work extra shifts to pay for your schooling. That transfers into how we act in our romantic relationships. She is going without food so he can live in a nice house as big as what Americans are used to and he can feel at home. But Josh is so insecure that what he wants is huge and frequent infusions of verbal reassurance and validation to an extent that it would be exhausting even for someone from his own culture. Considering your typical Chinese upbringing, I am not even sure it is possible for Lily to supply even half of what he seems to need. It is just not how we are raised to view love. She is totally confused. So then she is doing the, "I love you, so if you are not happy and I can't give you what you want, I will set you free" thing and he doesn't want that either! She can't do right with this man!
He may feel a bit inadequate but I believe it's a conflict of opposite love languages. He's clearly much more appreciative of her culture than some of the other cast members we've seen. It's not easy for someone who wants words of affirmation to just be okay with "gift giving" love language. When they were apart it was easy to understand now that they are close it's harder to understand.
It's a culture clash for sure, but they both need to adjust to the others needs. Frankly just because it's cultural doesn't mean they can't change for their partners. The type of love you described can easily be misunderstood even by those of the same culture.
These two have different love languages….it’s sad they can’t get on same page
Thanks for your very interesting comments. I'm European and I wasn't aware of all that.
I do feel that Lily is a very pragmatic woman and that Josh should quickly start to make an effort to prove that he wants to build his life with her in China. Learning the language and immersing himself in her culture seem to me like the basic steps, plus if he's got 5 or 10 years to wait before being allowed to work in China, maybe he'll need to do something, anything really to avoid dying of boredom anyway.
I seem to remember from the start of the season that he didn't work much in the US, but I really doubt that he can integrate in China - and build a solid marriage - without investing some energy and work.
They both need to figure out their partners Love Language and then use it. Read the book, peeps! It really is helpful.
omg so fun fact- apparently corona used to work at my job? I'm a new grad nurse in an ICU and my preceptor made a random comment about how someone left the job to be on "some reality show" and I was like oh weird but I didn't ask any further questions. But later he said they were on 90 day fiance and I was immediately like whoa what I watch 90 day, and turns out it was CORONA!! Every single person at my job that has mentioned her so far has said that she was insane lmao. Apparently she said my preceptor was awful and mansplaining everything and being super mean (he's pretty blunt, but he's also pretty nice and everyone respects him because he's been there for years and knows so much. like i dont think mansplaining applies when it's literally someone's job to teach and guide you but whatever I could be wrong idk I wasn't there lmao) so she would storm off the floor or hide in the bathroom?? And then she got a different preceptor (who was a woman) and she would still run off the floor being sad or crying and honestly I believe my coworkers when they say all this because she seems... unstable lmao.
A nurse named Corona just sounds like the set up to a joke 🤣
I beliefe every Word you say, she's...special...😂
Yeah I wouldn't want her handling any delivery of mine as a midwife!! She'd leave mid delivery!
@@bambinaforever1402I think they meant predecessor
In nursing, and medicine in general, a preceptor is someone who shows you the ropes while you’re working on a specific unit. Like, when you’re a student nurse or a new graduate nurse, your preceptor is the one who teaches you all the ins and outs of the job. ☺️
Everytime Statler talks all I can hear is Dory from Finding Nemo 😂
Oh my GOD 😂
I can’t unhear it!!!! 💀
Sounds like Statler didn’t want to do this, so didn’t want to plan any of it and just kept telling Dempsey she’d pay for whatever. She’s frustrated now because she’s having to live with the situation she created by not being involved.
She tried to go full stud 😂 love bomb the ghost after saying she will take care of you
statler is the worst. anyone directly named after a muppet 😅 but really she pretends to be such a victim
Statler led with her ADHD and now she's sitting in her autism. I feel bad for her and the way people don't understand.
@@linderlindest5373 lots of people have autism and adhd. As someone on the scale, she should know better than to beat around the bush and not be direct.
@@SpicyPlur EXCATLY!!! people keep thinking just because a person has a disability it should excuse all behavior. Ole girl needs to just be honest with herself and partner
If they sell the van, the profits should be split commensurate to the amount each party invested in it
Dempsey is not doing anything to wrong to statler. I understand statler is not comfy. I get it, but she is really making serious accusations.
I’m sorry but I’d love to see Europe by driving in that nice van . I feel sorry for Dempsey .Satler is nuts.
I felt like I was going crazy watching Statler and Dempsey for this episode 🙃🙃
Yay your beautiful panda face is back! I love watching your videos
You’re too sweet
19 seconds ago is crazy!!! HI BOBA
HELLO!!!
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Impressed I made it 10 mins in lol 😅
Corona plays to much onto her stereotype. It's amazing how oblivious she is to her toxic behavior. As if it was normal to treat your partner like your child.
You’re totally right Boba, too many parents, especially dads fall into the friend trap. When they need to be the “bad guy” sometimes
I am in Iceland right now for a road trip and I can tell you she is too weird for the lovely people here 😂
Her name, Corona, throws me EVERY TIME 😂 2019 ruined her name for our generation
It is Spanish for "crown", really pretty like her!
I don’t want to have to demand a ring from anyone
Yeah this whole season is weird lol😂❤
Corona is actually insufferable. I'm gonna have to opt out of these 90 days couples. They are just - ick
OMG, Josh's acting like a little cry Baby. Grow a Pair !!
Panda lady in the house
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What if he told her everyday I've just made you breakfast what can I get you for lunch here's what I'm making you for dinner and cleaned the house and arranged flowers there's a lot of things he could be doing . He wouldn't feel so small that way
He should start w learning her language. I think being able to communicate w her in her native tongue would mean so much to her.
@@Boba_Belly yes
and learning the language! That's number one. I love your videos
The beautiful Boba ✨️🐼✨️
@Boba_Belly my favorite train wreck 💙
This was a great recap!! I needed this laugh this morning and it is great to see your face again 💕💕💕
What happened to shekina in childhood that made her so narssasistic but so insecure
Maybe her Amish background
YAY!!! Love you and Po
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Statler and Dempsey seem so mismatched that it isn't even funny. Statlerseems so mentally and emotionally checked out and not to mention dry.
Side note… Dempsey lost a lot of weight and Statler gained a lot of weight. Hmmm
Hey! Pandas lips are moving again! Yay! 😜
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Why no po in the theater seating? 😢
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I noticed that too 😢
I needed to pause and re-watch around 5:15 cause I don't get it. She never seemed happy about taking on this sugar mama-like role, whines about being in debt, and now you say she took part of that on for a vehicle that isn't even in her name? 😨
And at 6:13 you tell me Statler was the one who told her not to take the time to save up?! This is insane.
Depends on the child probably but I’ve never felt the need to be the ‘bad guy’ with my daughter. I was open, honest and respectful to her since she was born and she is so understanding and respectful to me in return. ❤
Congrats 🎉 your back
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J’adore écouter tes commentaires, merci ! 🙏 ❤
You’re so sweet. Merci!!!
Loved this recap❤
Glad you enjoyed it
9:30 “ I will fight, to keep your money” is basically what he said. lol he is hardcore gaslighting sis and I can’t believe she’s okay with that. I mean this in the nicest way, but for both their sake I hope they broke up. 😂
I think zarper and shakayna r a match 4 real. Ifeel like They r The same level of petty, strong boundaries yet mind boggling immaturaty . They r perfect 4 each other
I wonder if the ex that was abusive physically was also the same guy that wrote her hundreds of Love Letters because she actually did say her mom had forbid her from talking to the guy so all they had was letters chicken communicated
The girl on the left, my goodness!! She hit every branch on the way down the ugly tree
Which girl?
12:33 ol boy was high as a kite (allegedly), not just nervous.
Being a scammer ages you so bad. Dempsey looks 49 not 29 and Statler looks great
None of you can convince me not to be Team Statler just FYI. 😂
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I think she's cute. And I don't get all the hate...I would be worried too and super stressed about money and not having a back up plan. I get her panic and anxiety
Should've put it in both there names there not MARRIED
@@bambinaforever1402 B.S
@@bambinaforever1402 you CAN in the US, and I’ve seen a bunch of comments from people in the UK saying it can be done there, too, but I don’t feel like looking it up to verify that right now. 😂
Why isn’t po in the movie theater with you anymore? Is everything ok?
I was thinking the same thing!
Yes, of course! I accidentally used the wrong overlay for this video and didn’t wan to export/upload again lolol
@@Boba_BellyOh. That's a relief! I was feeling sad. 😂
For me, saying no is not the hardest part lol I don’t mind saying no bc I have a 2 year old and a newborn so they don’t know wtf they’re doing lmao
The hardest part for me so far is recognizing and correcting learned behavior from my parents so I can be a better one. Also cleaning up after them 24/7 !!!! 😂
My issue with Dempsey is that she is not even trying to do anything to contribute to their lifestyle or fundings. I get Statler said she pay for things, but she doesn't try even a little? Even like just for herself? That would be drainning for me too
Dempsey got the van. She definitely put money in, but she put in the time and research as well. It's a lot of hard work
Thank you! So much hate for statler, but Dempsey is taking advantage of
Girl lives in China. Six single men to one woman.
And money is important in China. They talk about it. They show love with it.
Don’t believe everything what Stattler says.. why say you provide, but in reality she has big debts. Typical an 🇺🇸 😅
I think Josh is possibly borderline and splitting when he says Lily doesn't love him. My ex used to do it to me all the time. She would forget everything good about our relationship when we were in an argument and just see me as a bad partner, tell me I didn't love her and would threaten to leave. I can 100% understand Lily's feelings that she is in a loveless marriage. She probably feels really unloved, devalued and disrespected.
Most men are not going to want to propose and get married in 4 months. Corona needs to slow down, obviously it didn’t work she went to school here.
Statler should learn not to want to leave everything and move to another country before meeting the person even. I don’t care for Statler but Dempsey was told on the tell all before this season by Statler she expected her partner to also contribute financially that she could support them for a short time which apparently Dempsey thinks means you never have to work again. Anytime someone says they never worry and the world will provide is basically saying I will find someone to provide or find a way to slide by. These two also didn’t make it.
Josh should be learning the language and could work some kind of internet job or something. He should have put his foot down and told her no don’t move out of the apartment, rent out the house or sell it for money. These two will not make it either they are too culturally different.
Been dating my bf for 8yr and still no ring. Some of these people need to calm down... legit corona is his FIRST gf😅
Legit also Statler told her that she would pay for things and she committed to things so she just feels like she pushed Dempsey into the move since last season anyway. I don't know what she expects. Honestly they need to wrote things they agree to in a notebook or something because if you can't remember things you agree to it's your responsibility to find a way to remember
Yeah I def don’t think it’s a red flag that he’s not thinking about a ring yet.
Eight years is too long, if you want to get married. That's a red flag. Yes four months is too short, especially since they JUST moved in together, but why did she change countries and give up her spot in school with no ring??
@@xletragedyx because she actually didn’t change countries or give up her spot in school, they were only casually dating when she applied to be on the show as a joke, and when TLC wanted them, they faked all this to be on TV. He did an interview in Iceland talking about it just as the season started. 🫢
- Josh looks like he’s 45 or whatever but where is this dude’s money? He had a hot tub in his back yard back in the US but it seems like Lily is spending all the money now that they’re in China. Josh said he felt that was emasculating but still didn’t do anything to secure a large amount of finances before moving to China knowing full well he wouldn’t be able to work there for several years.
On top of that bro’s jealousy for a 45 yard man (especially when Lily is playing badminton with her friends, 1 of which is a female and the other who seems very flamboyant).
Lily is almost 50. There’s 2 billion people in China. Also I don’t think many people are confusing Lily with Olivia Wilde bro. Have some self confidence and unless you DONT want to be with this woman long term (which, sorry to say, for his age makes it completely possible that this is his last serious relationship). Quit acting like a petulant, jealous tired.
Since you can’t earn money via a job in China how about spending some time on a daily business trying to learn Mandarin so you two can communicate better. Lily is running her own business which obviously requires a ton of time and she’s still I would say 80% fluent in English. You on the other hand can only communicate with her when you want some happy ending time or to argue about something pointless.
Yeah, this relationship will withstand the test of time about as well as whole milk sitting outside on pavement during a late summer day in July in sunny Miami, Florida
You're right. Another thing is my Chinese friend says that they talk abt money all the time. Lily isn't emasculating Josh on purpose it's part of their culture/upbringing. Americans hardly care abt their partners culture.
They have interest in it but hardly do anything to understand it.
Even my American partner doesn't try understand, I'm African living in Africa and grew up in America.
I understand why they are the way they are but it's frustrating when the American doesn't make an effort
@@henriettakanya8605 I’ve lived in the US since I was 4. Lived in Kinshasa when it was still Zahir for a year because my uncle had a business there but he and my father had a falling out so we moved to NYC where my dad is an example of the American dream. Had maybe $200-$300 in his pocket, a 4 year old and a wife.
Worked as a courier and in a deli in NYC but it so expensive it was going nowhere. So 6 months later after we heard about the Olympics in Atlanta our family and 2 other that we knew packed our station wagons and drove down to Atlanta.
Dad worked 6 Am to midnight for 2 years straight. Mom worked 60 hour work weeks, picked up and dropped me off to school (I remember sleeping outside in her car after school without any air conditioning on temps being well over 100 in the car. But my parents are the epitome of the American dream.
Sounds like you are happy and things are going well. That’s great to hear.
Lastly: Josh is still a super weirdo lol. I want to know what happened to his house in Connecticut or whatever. That was an expensive house. Josh acting broke having a few million in an American bank account not telling Lily about it sounds like. Pretty sad
My cousin got a spousal visa for the US and wasn‘t allowed to work for the first year (she had a job lined up after that through her husbands company) - they paid them to relocate to the US. So she first got her C2 certificate (highest English proficency level equal to native speaker) and then volonteered at the school, teaching English herself. She said, what else can she do than to work for free?
And I mean the school had a social programm to teach people English who could otherwise not afford it, so it was a nice thing to do as well.
Point is; fill your own time. Do your own thing. Be your own person. Don‘t make other people take care of you and then resent them for it….
Anyone pick up what exactly Josh does for a living? I wonder if he could start an online business? He’s literally in China where a ton of American goods are made.
@@eaglewinnings8003 that's sad.
Who is doing Corona’s hair there?
Where's Po in the cinema??? 🥺
just go find your waldorf, statler, dempsey is too nice and too set in reality for this avoidant manipulator
All the couple this season make me feel uncomfy
Yep 😢
WHY ISN'T PO IN THE THEATER???
I accidentally used the wrong overlay!! 😭😭
@@Boba_Belly girl don't give me a heart attack lmao
Where is Po?? I haven’t seen you two.
They have their own channels…
we both had a busy few weeks 😭
Why on earth has Josh not learned the language?? 🙄
It was so awkward to watch the girlies talk about being broke when Dempsey is wearing what loooooooks like a $7000 Cartier Love Bracelet
Maybe it’s from temu 🤣🤣 Fraudier
I’m sure it’s a knockoff
@@Boba_Belly yeah, maybe she got it from the same place that Angela found her “SEKSI” necklace, Etsy has that for $24.99 😂
@@Boba_Belly we can only hope Shawn asks about it at the Tell All
Are Statler and Dempsey married? I can’t remember.
No, they are just dating which makes statler wanting to tour around Europe with Dempsey all the more crazier
Thank the heavens, no lol
james farghking khooont
For some reason i dont believe dempsey. Statler is a trip but I dont see her being this forgetful about every conversation. Come on.
@@bambinaforever1402 ....she is really miserable. I agree.
You seem over top with this take
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Black culture…no thanks
What are you on about, Dusty Dan? 🤣
Excuse me???
@@guardedheart7855 you are excused
The cute little audience that you add to the videos reminds me of mystery science theater 3000 🥹🩷 I loveeee it!
My thoughts (no pun intended, lol) exactly!
I love MST3000 and it’s def a nod to that!