maybe lily does always bring up money but what josh doesn't understand is that she means "i dropped all these bands on you but all i'm asking is for you to listen/blow my back out/be kind" lol
He sucks but it’s still super annoying. I don’t think he asked her to completely renovate a mansion for him and she knew he was broke coming over. It’s like she’s using it as blackmail but that’s not going to make him anymore affectionate. I think they’re both delulu.
Exactly. Nikki Faces Reality made an excellent point about this: how is Inky supposed to treat this midwife program like it's SO important when she abandoned it at the drop of a hat to move to Iceland?
@@gabmo8809 how did you turn this into it being a problem with the women? HE is the common denominator. Men will scream and shout about how women can’t keep a man but have absolutely none of that energy for men who have been married multiple times. BFFR.
Josh is completely worthless as a husband. Other than flying to China, he seems to have done nothing for the relationship or for Lily. I think Lily is telling Josh about the money she spends on him to 1) reassure him she loves him and 2) get an ounce of appreciation for her hard work. 🤷🏼♀️
Men who do this aren't afforded the latitude women are affording Lily. If a man acted like her, women would attribute to him a nefarious motive. Women really do think they are better than men just as a function of their birth. Delusional!
He could be harboring some resentment because there is a lot of money tied up in that house. He may not be empathetic to her complaints because she made all the choices that spent all the money.
Why did she choose him? Maybe she chose him for the same reasons men chose women from foreign countries. Maybe she chose him because he is worthless, and therefore, easy to control.
@@angelamaried7218 Free ride! Anti-social people can mask their true feelings long enough to get what they want. Once they get what they want, they can no longer feign interest in people. This behavior can be found to be exhibited by "Big" Ed, Loren and almost all the prisoners on "Life/Love After Lockup."
I think (from what we are shown) that Lily brings up money only when she’s upset but I think Josh 100% deserves that reminder for being such a big baby all the time
The two of them can't seem to communicate with each other, and it's so frustrating to watch. I need to know from a Chinese person whether Lily is a completely nutty person or whether she's being reasonable and it's just lost in translation.
@@habeashumor9814 From my understanding as Chinese American, Chinese people don't say "I love you", they more or less show it by showering you in gifts/money. But I don't think they'd bring it up as much as Lily did unless there's a major fight. It could also depend how she was raised
Josh is only concerned with maintaining the image he thinks his brother has of him. The sooner the brother leaves, the more relaxed Josh will become. Lily talking about their living arrangement is an attack on the ego for which he has no justification.
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I feel so bad for Lily. Josh is *trying* to misunderstand everything she's saying so he can argue about it. Lily please, Im not a man but marry me instead 😭I'll learn Chinese in a heartbeat!
Her love language left her single all her life, that says something about putting money on the mouth and treating your spending as a favour to people. Its disgusting and noone appreciates it.
Josh's last comment to Lily made me want to slap the beard off his face. He doesn't deserve her. She seems like a really kind and loving person and he can't even show her any affection. I think she doesn't have the means to communicate with him well so spending money is her way of trying to show him how much she cares.
Her idea of love is to spend money and demand love. Is that really love? I mean beside JOsh's behaviour is she really showing love or just mental illness? I personally am disgusted by her behavior to justice her own choice of spending as a favor and its done all for you, bs i call it. How is a golden elevator in her house somehow for Josh? SHE said that and demanded appreciation? Imagine what they are NOT showing on TV?
@@chengchiu957 He's her husband - of course she should expect love and affection. I do agree about what they're not showing. It's highly edited, so for all we know TLC is telling her to talk about money all the time.
@@lilysagecreates The female go to, "he is just insecure." Women use this statement to try to manipulate men when women violate boundaries set by men. Want to dress like a 304 and your boyfriend thinks it violates reasonable boundaries he has set, then "he is insecure." If a man doesn't want to be married to a club rat, "he is insecure." A woman wants to hang around a new "male friend" alone after work ing hours, then "he is insecure." Maybe if Lily weren't insecure, she would not think she can BUY the defective product that is Josh. Yes, Josh is a terrible husband with many flaws, but Lily is no angel, and women need to stop with the gaslighting. The more I listen to modern women and men, there is no wonder they all have children out of wedlock. Neither gender has the mental fortitude to make a real commitment, to each other!
@@lilysagecreates That is the modern American woman's go to, "he is just insecure." Women don't want to talk things through, they want to name call then claim men are emotionally unavailable. Listen and stop declaring what your partner's emotional status is. This stuff is relationship 101. No wonder relationships don't last! Before you get froggy, I have been married to the same woman for 37 years. The only children either of us have is with each other. We have always been all in. No plan B! No back burner beta male orbiters! No side chick or other children all over town! All in!
She thought I'm American; they have to kneel for me. Then she hit reality. I'm in Canada, where doctors, nurses, etc., have to start from zero. While they learn the language, they work in anything, even cleaning. Afterward, they start moving to different positions and have to redo their careers, which can take eight to ten years. So, what he suggested is the correct path; there is no jumping ahead because you are American. This is an example of how it is here in Canada. She is lucky if it will only take 2 years in Iceland and she can work in the medical field.
@amirazeineddine9727 No, don't you know how to read? It was an example of how it is here in Canada. She is lucky if it will only take 2 years in Iceland and she can work in the medical field.
I think 2 years of super optimistic because it requires her mastery of the language and something tells me she is going to be the typical American, refusing to learn the language
L&D Nurse would be a great job to do while learning langauafexand preparing for midwife school. But as a RN id hate to relearn all that anatomy in another language when you arent that sure you want to be with the guy or country.
How you want her to be a nurse when she doesn't speak the language. But it doesn't matter either way they were already broken up when TLC come to film them
@loredanadincu4300 I assumed since he suggested it, hospital care was in English, vs the midwife training in Icelandic. She claims to have completed her Nursing in USA.
In Josh and Lily's situation, if he at least attempted to learn the language, they would both be better off because they'd be able to understand each other better AND Lily would see that Josh is working towards a future with her and a future in China.
@@bambinaforever1402 You're 100% right! I forgot about that! He must've been on that app just to find someone. Then, when he did, he deleted the app lol
I agree with what you said about Corona, Boba. It’s her life, it’s her responsibility. That being said, did she not think to just …ask him to help her brainstorm? Would love to see what they cut out of this show lol
Josh is a RED FLAG 🚩🚩🚩 Showing so much resentment. He is the type to purposely be mean and manipulative to her. it will be a pattern that becomes the norm.
Mental health issues that may affect the other person in the relationship should be talked about before you're on a van trip of Europe on a ferry having a panic attack.
@@ZumbaZINJPanda I don't know if he had debts or something. But he clearly stated that he sold his house, months before going to China. But he told her he is broke .
It's hard to say with Josh and Lily. He definitely says some low stuff, like "thanks for ruining Jarod's night", but I have been a victim of an abusive situation of constantly using how much money had been spent on me against me and as a means to ve expected to act/behave a certain way, remain in the relationship, or otherwise constantly be told how "unappreciative" I was when I didn't meet their unagreed-upon expectations. It's called financial domination or financial abuse or something like that, in which a person sort of attempts to control another with money in somewhat subtle/semi-passive ways.
POOR JOSH. LILLY IS DEFINITELY SABOTAGING THEIR RELATIONSHIP. SHE KNOWS FULL WELL HER DEMANDING HE BE GRATEFUL SHE SPENT SO MUCH MONEY HURTS HIM BUT SHES TOO NARCISSISTIC TO LISTEN. SHE BREAKS HER PROMISES. AND HUMILIATES HIM IN PUBLIC & ALSO BLACKMAILS HIM.
I wonder if Lily's issue is that she expected Josh to come over to China with more money. Isn't there anyone from China who can contextualize this drama for us? I also asked on Reddit. Also, apparently the couple is very active on Chinese social media.
@@Boba_Belly Lol oh yeah! The part where she was like "I knew you were a poor person!" (I think she definitely didn't understand the insulting way that translates).
@@habeashumor9814she doesn't speak English good at all. And the dude isn't poor only if he had a tone of debts or lived in a carboard box. He supposedly sold his house just before he got to China, but told her he is broke
Lily brings up money because she thinks of it as her self worth. It makes her feel like a person. She needs confidence in herself. She can't see that she is a great person whether she spend $1 or $1000.
But he gave her a plan.... work I'm the area but pivet the goal for a while. He can't learn the language for her.... nobody can. The uni lady was straightforward, is not that you are not qualified but qualifications without the language won't work. Now because she lost the date of application she has a year to bust her ass off and assimilate the language. She is being entitled and not take responsibility for her decisions and actions.
@@Boba_BellyDoes Lily want that? I haven't watched the full episodes. She seems to make decisions and handle things without him. What is it she wants him to do to contribute? He seems to be dissatisfied or maybe even depressed since day 1.
I actually understand how Josh feels because my nana for some reason my whole life loves to bring up how much something cost every time she spends money. no matter what! And she likes to do it especially out in public very loud to let everybody know and it's so embarrassing. so that's not just a lily thing, some people just do that and don't understand how it feels to others...
I feel so bad for Lily and Josh because it’s like they can’t stop being offended by the phrases they say. They need help and I really thought they were actually in love. Josh needs to relax like we get it you can’t do anything so does Lily maybe having spicy time will alleviate the tension.
I've been thinking that some therapy might help them, and I agree with you that a bit of intimacy would surely do them a lot of good. It was certainly quite humiliating for Lily to beg Josh for a bit of spice in the previous episode, and even more humiliating when he seemed to make excuses in order to postpone any action. It feels like every conversation that they have brings them further apart. Sad.
Exactly. What in his life is so important that it can't wait an hour or 2? No wonder he's been divorced 4 times. He's a child! He was playing with Lego and living with his parents in his interviews in the US.
@@2shy1151 he was living with his parents because he supposedly sold his house. At least that's what he said. But don't know we're the house money dissappeard since he told her he is broke
I'm a boomer woman and I'd be really pissed off if my significant other was texting or having a phone call of the not-so-urgent variety while we're out to dinner. Such terrible manners !
Here’s my thing with Statler and Dempsey, Dempsey is not flawless, I will admit that, some times her timing with conversations when Statler is having an attack wasn’t great. HOWEVER Statler is a grown adult who supposedly has dealt with anxiety her entire life, you would think she would have figured out some sort of coping mechanism to at least take some of the edge off. And so she isn’t as snappy with Dempsey. But this is Statler we’re talking about. All her problems are everyone else’s fault.
Josh contributes nothing to this rs, not even in bedroom . 😵💫Dunno why lily puts up with this bs and terrible guy when she can pay for a toy boy easily . The way he lashed out at her in front of his bro is so mean. I honestly think lily wants Josh to contribute financially too, that’s why she’s reminding him everything is costly. She may have expected him to have some money coming in from the sale of his house, and she’s surprise he hasn’t volunteered to contribute anything.
I know I was shocked that he said that and patted her on the shoulders. That was so condescending and interrupting her when she’s trying to explain something in a language she doesn’t know very well well. Lily must have been so frustrated.
In defense of Lily bringing up their couple issues in front of his brother: It's probably so frustrating for her to not be able to talk about Josh and get honest feedback from anyone. No one else in her circle knows him, so when she vents to them, they probably just tell her to leave him. Clearly, she wants a deeper answer, from someone who can give real insight into why Josh does what he does. Lily has probably bottled this up for so long that, as soon as they were in a tight space, it all came out. All speculation from when I did that...
Relationships are hard in general but when u have cultural & language problems that will exacerbate 10x ... watching these couples is exhausting 😢 BTW love ur vids. U & Po r funny AF 🤣🤣🤣
Sorry, but it's not so simple as "just Google search what to do during a panic attack." That's like saying just Google how to fix an unhealthy relationship. It's more complicated than that; hence why the last step on there was "know what to say". Besides, having a legitimate panic attack is mostly physical; like it feels indistinguishable from having a heart attack. My wife used to have them all of the time and I've had a few myself, and the biggest question is whether it is actually an emergency (i.e. a heart attack) and should call an ambulance and rush to the ER just in case and get hit with yet another several-thousand dollar bill, or try to wait it out and hope it is "just a panic attack", in which case there is really not much you can do other than worry but try not to worry and stay calm and comfort them.
Sarper is tremendously insecure! The constant need for control the constant need for validation. The constant need for approval it's exhausting.. Statler needs to own her -ish and work on herself or she'll wreck every relationship
I think lily is sweet and not trying to belittle Josh. Some of its cultural too, it’s not a big deal to talk about money in china from my understanding. There’s a stigma in the USA
Josh doesn’t show lily he cares and lily talks about money constantly so, I think she needs him to step up and find a job some how ..I think he swings the other way in my opinion
Actually, when you spend time with someone like Lily, you immediately understand how mentally ill someone like her is and how unbearable that behavior, She does everything on her own and spend her own money whilst claiming its all for you, you should be grateful, its disgusting.
She is not bringing the money topic to rub it in his face. If she would do that she would say from the beginning of the argument in the car that the dinner yesterday evenng was for 500. But she said it quite late in the discussion to emphasize that you don't go out to spend hundreds on dinner so your partner is busy texting.
Sarper physically abused Shekinah and she still gave him another chance bc part of it was a mistake. now he’s trying to act like her son ? she’s a decent woman & i’m not judgmental on looks so i don’t pretend that plastic surgery or w/e makes someone a bad person. she seems like a decent person and it’s wild where assholes like him take decent people when they don’t have someone they trust. YOUR RELATIONSHIP SHOULD NOT BE THE FIRST TIME YOU TRY TO TRUST SOMEONE YAL
I wish there was a way to reach out to Statler I want to tell her to ask her therapist if they can try Seroquel because I'm somebody that has had sleeping issues and anxiety issues my whole life my anxiety was sometimes be 24/7 365 to the point where if you look at me I look like a scared animal with my eyes all big and my body visibly shaking after a week on that I started to notice visible difference in my anxiety and after that first week I noticed the visible difference in the fact I could sleep my anxiety is typically so bad it disrupts my ability to sleep but now that that's all fixed I sleep like a baby
Exactly… same for me 100% I tried every medication and dose and nothing fixed my anxiety so I was kinda withdrawn and an ass being so worn down and then I was out on seroquel and getting a full nights rest changed everything ao I’m on a low dose of 1 anxiety meds instead of 10 pills that all make you “feel” something to not fix things.. seroquel for a good night rest was the answer for me
@@bbennett1039 you know I initially was put on it when I was very young like 16 but because it's not one of those medications that works instantaneously I just told them it didn't do anything now that I am 34 I finally just been so worn down by lack of sleep and anxiety and I asked if we could try it again because I heard somebody talking about experience in prison on TH-cam and apparently they give people in prison Seroquel for sleep they won't give them anything narcotic and the person said it was high value in there because then people will just sleep their sentence away and I'm thinking okay if that's seriously works maybe I need to give it another try because there was nothing left I ended up having an adverse reaction to my Ambien and I was actually prescribed to 10 mg when the FDA has a rule that women are supposed to get one 5 mg and men are supposed to get one 10 mg but my doctor wrote a note into the FDA to get them to approve that and they did because I had been taking that dose since before those rules were put in place so I guess that really wasn't working that great anyway but then the fact that I started doing things I didn't remember I told my doctor and had to take me off of it but now that I've got the Seroquel everything's better I feel like I am also a lot less fidgety and thoughts in my head aren't running a million miles an hour it's just Blissful inner Serenity and peace I absolutely love it I think Statler needs to ask about this and she needs to understand she needs to wait at least 3 weeks you will notice a minor change in the first week but it gets much more in your system and works better after you've been on it for a while but I will say oh my God the Seroquel Munchies are brutal you will just eat and eat and eat because apparently it disrupts your stomach sending signals to your brain let's say it's full so you will end up eating until your stomach hurts but if you look into it it's even recommended that if you start getting the munchies side effect talk to your doctor about weight loss medication to help that because you cannot realistically keep taking it if it makes you eat ungodly amounts of food and gain like three times your body weight Statler needs to know all this too because I guarantee she would probably do what I was thinking at first like okay I don't want this cuz of the insane munchies but I need it so I had to find out another way I've done lots of research because I know how much of an effect that was positive it's really hard that I don't want to stop
8:25 i love ya bo, but i think you’re a little off here. Ofc she can’t expect whatever his name is to come up with a whole plan for her. But there’s nothing wrong with going to your partner for ideas etc. imo it seems like she was just trying to get him to spitball some ideas to her, not for him to lay out a whole entire plan. But hey maybe I’m wrong 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
That’s totally valid. I interpreted it the way I did cause it didn’t seem like she had come up with any initial ideas on her own for him to bounce off of which would annoy me if I were ingy.
@@2shy1151 exactly he gives nothing. And if he was the foreigner and she the American I bet everyone would call him out. But very few do. Most are calling her this and that
@@loredanadincu4300 Very good point with the nationalities reversed. I.see no effort to understand another culture. People go nuts if someone comes to the US and doesn't learn to speak English! It's clear there was no foundation for a marriage here. It seems like Josh has had one foot out the door from the moment he arrived.
weird that Corona is receiving so much vitriol for wanting her partner to help come up with a plan. She’s not asking him to wave a magic wand, she’s asking for help which is pretty normal when you feel stuck.
20:26 bad take, dempsey is feeling happy and comfortable, you can never say i love you too much. that’s something you need to get over, sad watching otherwise intelligent ppl have to come full circle bc they can’t accept certain truths.
this sarper had thousands of women story seems like bullshit to me just like most of the things that comes out of his mouth he aint pulling any women they way hes acting maybe he lied and manipulated a couple but thousands hell no
maybe lily does always bring up money but what josh doesn't understand is that she means "i dropped all these bands on you but all i'm asking is for you to listen/blow my back out/be kind" lol
Facts
😂😂😂 100% facts.
He sucks but it’s still super annoying. I don’t think he asked her to completely renovate a mansion for him and she knew he was broke coming over. It’s like she’s using it as blackmail but that’s not going to make him anymore affectionate. I think they’re both delulu.
With all her punk oversexy outfits
Yes! She isn't even getting sex from him! He's pathetic!
Who's gonna tell Corona that if being a midwife was really that important she wouldn't have moved for a TV show?
Exactly
Exactly. Nikki Faces Reality made an excellent point about this: how is Inky supposed to treat this midwife program like it's SO important when she abandoned it at the drop of a hat to move to Iceland?
And she moved to Iceland WITHOUT AN ACTUAL PLAN on how to pursue midwifery there.
Their entire storyline is just fake igni did an interview saying they weren't even together when they started filming corona just wanted to be on tv
No one has to tell her, she didn’t really move there, it was all fake.
Not learning the main language of a country you are planning on doing any type of reproductive health is wild.
I fully understand why Josh is on his 4th marriage.
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I haven't heard any self reflection. 🚩
Exactly.
I don't understand it actually. It means that many women agreed to marry this man.. which boggles the mind.
@@gabmo8809 how did you turn this into it being a problem with the women? HE is the common denominator. Men will scream and shout about how women can’t keep a man but have absolutely none of that energy for men who have been married multiple times. BFFR.
Shikinah is giving RuPauls Drag Race
😂😂
Sarper be like "Need help packing?"
Josh is completely worthless as a husband. Other than flying to China, he seems to have done nothing for the relationship or for Lily. I think Lily is telling Josh about the money she spends on him to 1) reassure him she loves him and 2) get an ounce of appreciation for her hard work. 🤷🏼♀️
Men who do this aren't afforded the latitude women are affording Lily. If a man acted like her, women would attribute to him a nefarious motive. Women really do think they are better than men just as a function of their birth. Delusional!
Agreed. I feel like she would honestly stop bringing up the money if he just showed some kind of appreciation.
I just don’t think he cares about the money.
He could be harboring some resentment because there is a lot of money tied up in that house. He may not be empathetic to her complaints because she made all the choices that spent all the money.
Why did she choose him? Maybe she chose him for the same reasons men chose women from foreign countries. Maybe she chose him because he is worthless, and therefore, easy to control.
Statler is an energy vampire. I swear.
Corona is unrealistic. She needs to pivot her attitude. Being abrasive with your partner for your mistakes is incredibly immature.
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Corona is annoying.
Josh’s behavior is straight up insidious, he doesn’t care about Lily at all
He’s doesn’t even appear to like her..even a little. I’m confused why he’s even there.
@@angelamaried7218
Free ride! Anti-social people can mask their true feelings long enough to get what they want. Once they get what they want, they can no longer feign interest in people. This behavior can be found to be exhibited by "Big" Ed, Loren and almost all the prisoners on "Life/Love After Lockup."
I think he's a Loren, he just wanted to live off her hard work
How could Corona work as a nurse there not speaking the language??
I think (from what we are shown) that Lily brings up money only when she’s upset but I think Josh 100% deserves that reminder for being such a big baby all the time
The two of them can't seem to communicate with each other, and it's so frustrating to watch. I need to know from a Chinese person whether Lily is a completely nutty person or whether she's being reasonable and it's just lost in translation.
That’s fair. TLC could absolutely be butchering the translation too.
I do wish lily would stop bringing up the money just so we could see Josh be sad that their problems didn’t magically disappear.
@@habeashumor9814 From my understanding as Chinese American, Chinese people don't say "I love you", they more or less show it by showering you in gifts/money. But I don't think they'd bring it up as much as Lily did unless there's a major fight. It could also depend how she was raised
@@SetsuRanAs a Chinese Canadian, I can second this, but also add food. Money, gifts, and feeding you!
How is josh not embarrassed in front of his brother not just with the way hes acting but being completely useless as a husband, a man, a HUMAN
Josh is only concerned with maintaining the image he thinks his brother has of him. The sooner the brother leaves, the more relaxed Josh will become. Lily talking about their living arrangement is an attack on the ego for which he has no justification.
Poor Jared must be so embarrassed to find himself right in the middle of that argument ! I'd have jumped out of the car if I were him.
I’m embarrassed to admit this but I really enjoy Sarper. Each episode you wait to hear what stupid things he says next. He’s TV gold.
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That’s so kind of you. Thank you!!!!
I love how I immediately knew who "the potato" is 😂 I agree, these two are my lifesavers
Sarper sometimes make the same faces my pug does when i tell her no human food 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 simultaneously hilarious and adorable
I feel so bad for Lily. Josh is *trying* to misunderstand everything she's saying so he can argue about it. Lily please, Im not a man but marry me instead 😭I'll learn Chinese in a heartbeat!
Lmaooo second here! 👋🏾 I'm straight but I'll turn into a housewife and learn Chinese for Lily.
I think Lily is communicating love in her love language, amd like most all of the men this season, Josh is a big pant load.
Her love language left her single all her life, that says something about putting money on the mouth and treating your spending as a favour to people. Its disgusting and noone appreciates it.
Lily deserves better. Josh is doing nothing, yet whines at Lily.
Josh's last comment to Lily made me want to slap the beard off his face. He doesn't deserve her. She seems like a really kind and loving person and he can't even show her any affection. I think she doesn't have the means to communicate with him well so spending money is her way of trying to show him how much she cares.
Her idea of love is to spend money and demand love. Is that really love? I mean beside JOsh's behaviour is she really showing love or just mental illness? I personally am disgusted by her behavior to justice her own choice of spending as a favor and its done all for you, bs i call it. How is a golden elevator in her house somehow for Josh? SHE said that and demanded appreciation? Imagine what they are NOT showing on TV?
@@chengchiu957 He's her husband - of course she should expect love and affection.
I do agree about what they're not showing. It's highly edited, so for all we know TLC is telling her to talk about money all the time.
Statler isn’t easy to deal with or the best person but Dempsey was really horrible in this situation. Dempsey showed no empathy at all.
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Dempsey is a cold-hearted user
I think Lily’s love language is acts of service and gifts - I don’t think she talks about money just to hurt Josh’s feelings.
Agreed. I do wonder what would happen if she did actually stop mentioning the money…. Cause I don’t think Josh would feel any better if she did 🤣
@@Boba_Belly I think Josh is just very insecure and projecting that onto Lily.
@@lilysagecreates
The female go to, "he is just insecure." Women use this statement to try to manipulate men when women violate boundaries set by men. Want to dress like a 304 and your boyfriend thinks it violates reasonable boundaries he has set, then "he is insecure." If a man doesn't want to be married to a club rat, "he is insecure." A woman wants to hang around a new "male friend" alone after work ing hours, then "he is insecure."
Maybe if Lily weren't insecure, she would not think she can BUY the defective product that is Josh. Yes, Josh is a terrible husband with many flaws, but Lily is no angel, and women need to stop with the gaslighting. The more I listen to modern women and men, there is no wonder they all have children out of wedlock. Neither gender has the mental fortitude to make a real commitment, to each other!
@@lilysagecreates
That is the modern American woman's go to, "he is just insecure." Women don't want to talk things through, they want to name call then claim men are emotionally unavailable. Listen and stop declaring what your partner's emotional status is. This stuff is relationship 101. No wonder relationships don't last! Before you get froggy, I have been married to the same woman for 37 years. The only children either of us have is with each other. We have always been all in. No plan B! No back burner beta male orbiters! No side chick or other children all over town! All in!
@@ckaybeeJosh has been married and divorced 4 times. That might help put things into context.
She thought I'm American; they have to kneel for me. Then she hit reality. I'm in Canada, where doctors, nurses, etc., have to start from zero. While they learn the language, they work in anything, even cleaning. Afterward, they start moving to different positions and have to redo their careers, which can take eight to ten years. So, what he suggested is the correct path; there is no jumping ahead because you are American.
This is an example of how it is here in Canada. She is lucky if it will only take 2 years in Iceland and she can work in the medical field.
Shes in Iceland not Canada lol did the snow confuse you a little bit?😂
@amirazeineddine9727 No, don't you know how to read? It was an example of how it is here in Canada. She is lucky if it will only take 2 years in Iceland and she can work in the medical field.
I think 2 years of super optimistic because it requires her mastery of the language and something tells me she is going to be the typical American, refusing to learn the language
@@kria9119 I was thinking the same
Three phrases that every American should learn in every other language- I need help, where is the embassy, and I'm sorry.
Josh: Lily causes all our problems
also Josh: what was that flashing light?!
I love how the last step in “what to do if someone is having a panic attack” is “know what to say”. 🤣
Hahahaha
HEY! stop panicking, you f*ck!.....does that work? Cause that's what I'd do 😂
Bad sign that Josh's brother sees Lilly as a cash cow, rather than a person. It's disturbing.
L&D Nurse would be a great job to do while learning langauafexand preparing for midwife school. But as a RN id hate to relearn all that anatomy in another language when you arent that sure you want to be with the guy or country.
This woman keeps talking about her Ivy League education, so now it's time to put that big brain to work on making her dream come true!
How you want her to be a nurse when she doesn't speak the language. But it doesn't matter either way they were already broken up when TLC come to film them
@@bambinaforever1402 I think you mean certified nursing assistant. You don't have to be a nurse to do that kind of job. But it is a job at least!
@loredanadincu4300 I assumed since he suggested it, hospital care was in English, vs the midwife training in Icelandic. She claims to have completed her Nursing in USA.
@joywebster2678 Even if she sid that in USA she can't speak Icelandic. How do you expect her to communicate with people
ITS NOT STATLERS PANIC ATTACKS THE PROBLEM ITS HER FALSELY CLAIMING THEY MAKE BE RUDE AND HOSTILE. PANICS DO NOT MAKE YOU AS NASTY AS STATLER ACTS.
Trust is earned.I doubt this man has ever had to earn anything in his life
In Josh and Lily's situation, if he at least attempted to learn the language, they would both be better off because they'd be able to understand each other better AND Lily would see that Josh is working towards a future with her and a future in China.
@@bambinaforever1402 You're 100% right! I forgot about that! He must've been on that app just to find someone. Then, when he did, he deleted the app lol
Every time I look at Statler now, I see Rayne (chicken lady from Before The 90 Days) 😄
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Yall can’t lie.. they’re lil staged photo shoot was cute
It was. I would love to do that.
Please keep doing Statler and Dempsey. Its great to see a couple different from the usual couples.
The nails are always sharpened for a fight 💅🏾 ✨
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3:01 *A pink lie* please 😂
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@@Boba_Belly yea if you find a woman in the closet let’s believe ME the pink liar not the real human
I agree with what you said about Corona, Boba. It’s her life, it’s her responsibility. That being said, did she not think to just …ask him to help her brainstorm? Would love to see what they cut out of this show lol
So true. I can only go off of what they show me so I’m assuming she didn’t offer up any initial options for him to bounce off of.
Josh is a RED FLAG 🚩🚩🚩 Showing so much resentment. He is the type to purposely be mean and manipulative to her. it will be a pattern that becomes the norm.
18:21 I think Dempsey tried 5 out of the 10 things and Statler was not receiving any of it. Statler is just a ass.😂
Mental health issues that may affect the other person in the relationship should be talked about before you're on a van trip of Europe on a ferry having a panic attack.
Lilly should leave Josh and marry his brother instead 😂his brother appreciates her more than he does
Saltana .. sounds like a raisin . Great episode
Hahaha it really does lol. And thank you!
10:25 I don't understand why he didn't save money before moving to another country.
I’m sure he did. I think he sold his house before moving.
@@Boba_Bellyhe did, but told her he is broke
@@loredanadincu4300 wtf?
@@Boba_Belly seriously? Wtf? Then why does he act like a total bum?
@@ZumbaZINJPanda I don't know if he had debts or something. But he clearly stated that he sold his house, months before going to China. But he told her he is broke .
lol, I’d call him a Goober and not a Gooder! No good there! 😂😂
It's hard to say with Josh and Lily. He definitely says some low stuff, like "thanks for ruining Jarod's night", but I have been a victim of an abusive situation of constantly using how much money had been spent on me against me and as a means to ve expected to act/behave a certain way, remain in the relationship, or otherwise constantly be told how "unappreciative" I was when I didn't meet their unagreed-upon expectations. It's called financial domination or financial abuse or something like that, in which a person sort of attempts to control another with money in somewhat subtle/semi-passive ways.
POOR JOSH. LILLY IS DEFINITELY SABOTAGING THEIR RELATIONSHIP. SHE KNOWS FULL WELL HER DEMANDING HE BE GRATEFUL SHE SPENT SO MUCH MONEY HURTS HIM BUT SHES TOO NARCISSISTIC TO LISTEN. SHE BREAKS HER PROMISES. AND HUMILIATES HIM IN PUBLIC & ALSO BLACKMAILS HIM.
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I wonder if Lily's issue is that she expected Josh to come over to China with more money. Isn't there anyone from China who can contextualize this drama for us? I also asked on Reddit. Also, apparently the couple is very active on Chinese social media.
I’m not sure. I assume not since she always says she knew he was poor and is okay covering all the expenses.
@@Boba_Belly Lol oh yeah! The part where she was like "I knew you were a poor person!" (I think she definitely didn't understand the insulting way that translates).
@@habeashumor9814she doesn't speak English good at all. And the dude isn't poor only if he had a tone of debts or lived in a carboard box. He supposedly sold his house just before he got to China, but told her he is broke
Lily brings up money because she thinks of it as her self worth. It makes her feel like a person. She needs confidence in herself. She can't see that she is a great person whether she spend $1 or $1000.
To Lily: tag me in coach 😅
But he gave her a plan.... work I'm the area but pivet the goal for a while. He can't learn the language for her.... nobody can. The uni lady was straightforward, is not that you are not qualified but qualifications without the language won't work. Now because she lost the date of application she has a year to bust her ass off and assimilate the language. She is being entitled and not take responsibility for her decisions and actions.
"And it needs to stop"
Then get a job
To be fair he can’t work in China for five years. BUT he could absolutely find other ways to contribute.
@@Boba_BellyDoes Lily want that? I haven't watched the full episodes. She seems to make decisions and handle things without him. What is it she wants him to do to contribute? He seems to be dissatisfied or maybe even depressed since day 1.
I actually understand how Josh feels because my nana for some reason my whole life loves to bring up how much something cost every time she spends money. no matter what! And she likes to do it especially out in public very loud to let everybody know and it's so embarrassing. so that's not just a lily thing, some people just do that and don't understand how it feels to others...
Ahhh thanks for your perspective!
I feel so bad for Lily and Josh because it’s like they can’t stop being offended by the phrases they say. They need help and I really thought they were actually in love. Josh needs to relax like we get it you can’t do anything so does Lily maybe having spicy time will alleviate the tension.
I wonder what their conversation would be like if they had someone interpret accurately for them 🤔
I've been thinking that some therapy might help them, and I agree with you that a bit of intimacy would surely do them a lot of good.
It was certainly quite humiliating for Lily to beg Josh for a bit of spice in the previous episode, and even more humiliating when he seemed to make excuses in order to postpone any action.
It feels like every conversation that they have brings them further apart. Sad.
What's Josh's problem? What does he bring to the table? Nothing but pouting. No wonder Lily is at her wit's end.
12:55 how does a man with no job is texting so much. Why couldn't he tell the family he was out to dinner?
Maybe he is texting to someone else 🤔. A side chick or boy
Exactly. What in his life is so important that it can't wait an hour or 2? No wonder he's been divorced 4 times. He's a child! He was playing with Lego and living with his parents in his interviews in the US.
@@2shy1151 he was living with his parents because he supposedly sold his house. At least that's what he said. But don't know we're the house money dissappeard since he told her he is broke
@@loredanadincu4300 Apparently, we're on the same page here. Lol!
I'm a boomer woman and I'd be really pissed off if my significant other was texting or having a phone call of the not-so-urgent variety while we're out to dinner. Such terrible manners !
Here’s my thing with Statler and Dempsey, Dempsey is not flawless, I will admit that, some times her timing with conversations when Statler is having an attack wasn’t great. HOWEVER Statler is a grown adult who supposedly has dealt with anxiety her entire life, you would think she would have figured out some sort of coping mechanism to at least take some of the edge off. And so she isn’t as snappy with Dempsey. But this is Statler we’re talking about. All her problems are everyone else’s fault.
Corona is a pain in the neck. Always whinging and moaning. How can Inky stand her?
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Josh contributes nothing to this rs, not even in bedroom . 😵💫Dunno why lily puts up with this bs and terrible guy when she can pay for a toy boy easily . The way he lashed out at her in front of his bro is so mean. I honestly think lily wants Josh to contribute financially too, that’s why she’s reminding him everything is costly. She may have expected him to have some money coming in from the sale of his house, and she’s surprise he hasn’t volunteered to contribute anything.
I know I was shocked that he said that and patted her on the shoulders. That was so condescending and interrupting her when she’s trying to explain something in a language she doesn’t know very well well. Lily must have been so frustrated.
@@Boba_BellyThat was more than condescending. That was passive aggressive. He's very immature.
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Love your videos
In defense of Lily bringing up their couple issues in front of his brother: It's probably so frustrating for her to not be able to talk about Josh and get honest feedback from anyone. No one else in her circle knows him, so when she vents to them, they probably just tell her to leave him.
Clearly, she wants a deeper answer, from someone who can give real insight into why Josh does what he does.
Lily has probably bottled this up for so long that, as soon as they were in a tight space, it all came out.
All speculation from when I did that...
Love the nails lol😂
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This might sound weird, but does Surpers eye look unnatural. Like he had that eye colour change.
I assumed he was wearing color contacts
Does anyone else think Statler sounds exactly like Ellen?? No wonder she annoys me so much.
The thumbnail 😂💅🏼
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Lilys love language is spoiling her man, she needs a confident partner that doesn’t feel insecure by her. 🥺
Relationships are hard in general but when u have cultural & language problems that will exacerbate 10x ... watching these couples is exhausting 😢
BTW love ur vids. U & Po r funny AF 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah the money is a bit much though she she asked her to stop she needs to stop I'd be mad too
Sarper is a total BS’er and a cheater. 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Sorry, but it's not so simple as "just Google search what to do during a panic attack." That's like saying just Google how to fix an unhealthy relationship. It's more complicated than that; hence why the last step on there was "know what to say". Besides, having a legitimate panic attack is mostly physical; like it feels indistinguishable from having a heart attack. My wife used to have them all of the time and I've had a few myself, and the biggest question is whether it is actually an emergency (i.e. a heart attack) and should call an ambulance and rush to the ER just in case and get hit with yet another several-thousand dollar bill, or try to wait it out and hope it is "just a panic attack", in which case there is really not much you can do other than worry but try not to worry and stay calm and comfort them.
Maybe I’m the problem but the conversation Lily wanted to have seemed perfectly fine to me 😭😭
I’m sorry, but somethings just not quite right with Josh.
14:23 he needs a remote job or something. But also, throwing money in someone's face is disrespectful. She knew what she was getting.
Oh and him gaslighting and talking patronizing with her is not disrespectful
I think she thought she was getting a husband, not a child.
Carona is so beautiful. I wish her story was real.
16:03 can you skip these two. Statler is annoying Af all the time.
Some ppl like the recaps of them
I know I was getting mad at Josh the whole time and cringing how he brings up his brother
Sarper is tremendously insecure! The constant need for control the constant need for validation. The constant need for approval it's exhausting..
Statler needs to own her -ish and work on herself or she'll wreck every relationship
I think lily is sweet and not trying to belittle Josh. Some of its cultural too, it’s not a big deal to talk about money in china from my understanding. There’s a stigma in the USA
Josh doesn’t show lily he cares and lily talks about money constantly so, I think she needs him to step up and find a job some how ..I think he swings the other way in my opinion
Actually, when you spend time with someone like Lily, you immediately understand how mentally ill someone like her is and how unbearable that behavior, She does everything on her own and spend her own money whilst claiming its all for you, you should be grateful, its disgusting.
Josh reminds me of Riley. They both need therapy to address their insecurity before they project on their current partners.
She is not bringing the money topic to rub it in his face. If she would do that she would say from the beginning of the argument in the car that the dinner yesterday evenng was for 500. But she said it quite late in the discussion to emphasize that you don't go out to spend hundreds on dinner so your partner is busy texting.
Sarper physically abused Shekinah and she still gave him another chance bc part of it was a mistake. now he’s trying to act like her son ? she’s a decent woman & i’m not judgmental on looks so i don’t pretend that plastic surgery or w/e makes someone a bad person. she seems like a decent person and it’s wild where assholes like him take decent people when they don’t have someone they trust. YOUR RELATIONSHIP SHOULD NOT BE THE FIRST TIME YOU TRY TO TRUST SOMEONE YAL
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I wish there was a way to reach out to Statler I want to tell her to ask her therapist if they can try Seroquel because I'm somebody that has had sleeping issues and anxiety issues my whole life my anxiety was sometimes be 24/7 365 to the point where if you look at me I look like a scared animal with my eyes all big and my body visibly shaking after a week on that I started to notice visible difference in my anxiety and after that first week I noticed the visible difference in the fact I could sleep my anxiety is typically so bad it disrupts my ability to sleep but now that that's all fixed I sleep like a baby
Exactly… same for me 100% I tried every medication and dose and nothing fixed my anxiety so I was kinda withdrawn and an ass being so worn down and then I was out on seroquel and getting a full nights rest changed everything ao I’m on a low dose of 1 anxiety meds instead of 10 pills that all make you “feel” something to not fix things.. seroquel for a good night rest was the answer for me
@@bbennett1039 you know I initially was put on it when I was very young like 16 but because it's not one of those medications that works instantaneously I just told them it didn't do anything now that I am 34 I finally just been so worn down by lack of sleep and anxiety and I asked if we could try it again because I heard somebody talking about experience in prison on TH-cam and apparently they give people in prison Seroquel for sleep they won't give them anything narcotic and the person said it was high value in there because then people will just sleep their sentence away and I'm thinking okay if that's seriously works maybe I need to give it another try because there was nothing left I ended up having an adverse reaction to my Ambien and I was actually prescribed to 10 mg when the FDA has a rule that women are supposed to get one 5 mg and men are supposed to get one 10 mg but my doctor wrote a note into the FDA to get them to approve that and they did because I had been taking that dose since before those rules were put in place so I guess that really wasn't working that great anyway but then the fact that I started doing things I didn't remember I told my doctor and had to take me off of it but now that I've got the Seroquel everything's better I feel like I am also a lot less fidgety and thoughts in my head aren't running a million miles an hour it's just Blissful inner Serenity and peace I absolutely love it I think Statler needs to ask about this and she needs to understand she needs to wait at least 3 weeks you will notice a minor change in the first week but it gets much more in your system and works better after you've been on it for a while but I will say oh my God the Seroquel Munchies are brutal you will just eat and eat and eat because apparently it disrupts your stomach sending signals to your brain let's say it's full so you will end up eating until your stomach hurts but if you look into it it's even recommended that if you start getting the munchies side effect talk to your doctor about weight loss medication to help that because you cannot realistically keep taking it if it makes you eat ungodly amounts of food and gain like three times your body weight Statler needs to know all this too because I guarantee she would probably do what I was thinking at first like okay I don't want this cuz of the insane munchies but I need it so I had to find out another way I've done lots of research because I know how much of an effect that was positive it's really hard that I don't want to stop
8:25 i love ya bo, but i think you’re a little off here. Ofc she can’t expect whatever his name is to come up with a whole plan for her. But there’s nothing wrong with going to your partner for ideas etc. imo it seems like she was just trying to get him to spitball some ideas to her, not for him to lay out a whole entire plan. But hey maybe I’m wrong 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
That’s totally valid. I interpreted it the way I did cause it didn’t seem like she had come up with any initial ideas on her own for him to bounce off of which would annoy me if I were ingy.
@@Boba_Belly girl you’re so right though 🤣 i think im being optimistic for her lmao
Lily is rubbing things in Josh ‘s face.😊
He won’t let her do that, that’s the problem
She doesn't rubb shit , that is the reality. The jerk didn't contribute with anything to that relationship or wedding.
@@loredanadincu4300 Right? There's more ways to contribute to a relationship than money that most people need from their partner. He gives nothing.
@@2shy1151 exactly he gives nothing. And if he was the foreigner and she the American I bet everyone would call him out. But very few do. Most are calling her this and that
@@loredanadincu4300 Very good point with the nationalities reversed. I.see no effort to understand another culture. People go nuts if someone comes to the US and doesn't learn to speak English! It's clear there was no foundation for a marriage here. It seems like Josh has had one foot out the door from the moment he arrived.
weird that Corona is receiving so much vitriol for wanting her partner to help come up with a plan. She’s not asking him to wave a magic wand, she’s asking for help which is pretty normal when you feel stuck.
But I mean why did she bring that up in front of the brother?? So cringe that poor dude
I think Josh and Lilly have 2 different love language. Lillies is gift and wants attention. Josh should work on positive words of affirmation.
Yeah! Totally agree.
20:26 bad take, dempsey is feeling happy and comfortable, you can never say i love you too much. that’s something you need to get over, sad watching otherwise intelligent ppl have to come full circle bc they can’t accept certain truths.
I mean you can definitely say I love you too much if your intentions are impure. Like if you’re a love bomber or in denial.
@@Boba_BellyThat's what Statler did in the last season! Lol!
Josh and Lily are both 46 and 47? Hmmm. Sure.
Lilly and Josh have too many cultural differences between them.
Corona talks too fast. My opnion.😊
Lily is beautiful josh is a tool
Lili is Chinese and she is able to speak English he might learn Chinese to understand her well because he lives in CHINA
5:23 even if you find a girl in the closet *you must believe me* 😂
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I think lily is mad why should she keep on reminding Josh about how much she spend .josh go back to USA this lady is not good
sorry but josh is 🗑️ the way he talks to lily is so mean!
Agreed. Can’t believe he thinks *she* is the bad guy!
this sarper had thousands of women story seems like bullshit to me just like most of the things that comes out of his mouth he aint pulling any women they way hes acting maybe he lied and manipulated a couple but thousands hell no
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