The one 'biggest' problem with Arranged Marriages??
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 พ.ค. 2018
- Why most Indian marriages are just an eye wash to society. There is no love or intimacy, just fear of society. Should you divorce or not??
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பெற்றோர்களால் நிச்சயக்கப்பட்ட திருமணம் அல்லது காதல் திருமணம் எதுவாயினும் தம்பதியருக்கிடையே புரிதல் இல்லையென்றால் திருமண வாழ்க்கை கசப்பாகிவிடும்
Yes
Yes. Correct
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Well said mam....neraiya girls parents kaaga than yellathaium sacrifice pannitu vaaluranga...avangalukunu oru own opinion kuda Ilama erukanga....mrg ku apuram full control lum husband Kita poiduthu....adutha jenmathula ponna matum porakka kudathu kandippa.........girls avanga life avanga nenacha maari avangalala vazhave mudila........
Yen mudiyadhu. madam solldra Mari namba economically oruthara depand panni irukaradhunala dhan nambala onnum seyya mudiyala.. namaku nu oru vela irundha nambalum sambadhicha namba yaraiyum nambi iruka vendiya avasiyam kedaiyadhu namaku edhu pudikidho adhu seyyalam dhairiyama edhayum sadhikalam.
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Boys mattum epdi...😒
Ungala yaru parents kaga sacrifice panna sonnadhu
No marriage no tension..chilll guys ❤
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Pasanga ipdithan pesuvinga...girls than antha kastatha anupavikanum...girls fate...
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*The best way merriage pannidu love pannunga life azhaga irukkum ... Enakku arrange marriage dhan but my Hubby ma ah naa rombavum naa Love pannuren ❤😊😊*
Silambu Arasan super bro.
Silambu Arasan love marriage ku aprm paiyan maara matan nu ena guarantee iruku
No gurantee...
sai mahes exactly
bro atha yep d chose panrathulathaan kulapamea iruku.ungaluku amaijathumaari yellaarukum amaiyum nu solla mudiyaathu
அருமையான பேச்சு உங்கள் பேச்சு உங்கள் சேவை தொடர வாழ்த்துக்கள் சகோதரி..
Wow wow super
Very nice
நிறைய பொண்ணுங்க வாழ்க்கை இன்னிக்கு இப்படி தான் போய்ட்டு இருக்கு
Yes
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Oru husband sports manna irutu wife accept panukuragalanu first paruga boys romba katavuga mathri comment potukuga best husbands du irukaga worst husbands du irukaga in this world la
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@@happymoodchannel640 feel panathinga lemon vechi name eluthi 21 days pooja room la panunga sari aakitum
Problem is the society n relatives.. Need solutions to such issues..
Relatives play in other lives...
definitely bro
Ithan pala ponnunga lifelaym nadanthukittuirukku......relatives veetuku vanthu enna inum ponna marag Panama vachrkeenga...vayasaguthunu solli epidiyo kadamaya muduchuranum....itan neraya per lifela nadakuthu.....
@@rramya3964 u r correct. Avanga avanga life Avangaley than valanum. Society criticism kuduthutey irupanga 19 Vayasu aanaley Kilavi mari feel panna vachuruvanga
Definitely , all parents are fearing about society n relatives ... They are not gng to live our life ..
Love marriage oh arranged marriage oh, ethuva irunthalum,
Vazhkai ah rasika theriyathavanuku epovume naragam thaan,
Its not about how we get married,
Its all about how we live ,
True sir
Rasanaiya hmkum oruthanukku irukkaadhu oruthikku irukkum idhaan mrg life...kodumai
Well said
Katti kududha podhum ..... parents???? We have to face the problem
Apsthulasi K 👍
true.... it is happening to me.... I'm fighting
Awesome
Full fighting in my marriage life
Yes🙄 I face the problems
Love before marriage is the True love.
Love after marriage is not love but its a duty.
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எனக்கும் இது மாறிநடந்தது திருமணம் செய்து வைத்தார்கள் ஆனால் அந்தப் பையன் என்னுடன் உடலுறவு மட்டும் வைத்துக் கொண்டு மனைவியாகவே மதிக்கவில்லை.வேறொரு பெண்ணுடன் தொடர்பு வைத்திருந்தான். அதை அறிந்து நான் கேட்ட பொழுது எனக்கு கல்யாணத்தில் விருப்பமில்லை கட்டாயப் படுத்தி தான் கல்யாணம் பண்ணி வைத்தார்கள். எனக்கு அந்த பொண்ணு தான் வேணும். நீ வேண்டாம்னு சொல்லிட்டு போயிட்டான். கடைசியில் பாதிக்கப்பட்டு நின்றவ நான் மட்டுமே.
What she says is absolutely right...even to choose a shirt also we are thinking much what about a person that gonna be with us lifelong...if we get a wrong partner it will directly give huge impact towards our life...we are responsible 100% to choose wisely the right partner not our parents...even the parents choose also we must get to know the person deeply for some duration before commit...thank god i decide my own desicion in choosing life partner...and parents support it...even its right or gonna be wrong in future i still will be happy coz the desicion is mine...😊
Then let's love.... Before marriage and then marry... Are u ready sunitha
Well said😊👍
Life is Divine thanks for agreeing with my statement but why U need to live together and knowing someone deeply than only u want to enter into marriage...knowing and loving someone doesn’t mean require u to live together and have sex and finally u decide that person is good in this and that...what I agree with her is that u doesn’t require someone else to choose for u and u can do it yourself but that doesn’t mean u need to live together... I just checked I have written this message 2 years back and in my marriage for 3 years with my husband which is love marriage too but we never done living relationship all sort before marriage but compromise and understanding is there...maybe my husband and mine life journey might be different and our perception might be different too from other couple...some as u said has all this sexual issues and they unable to compromise all sort...but what if our parents choose someone who we might have no clue at all...some arrange marriage turns beautiful too because they are compatible and able to compromise ❤️
Mani Kanta I already love my husband a lot and marry him...He eager to reply your comment too🤣
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Arrange marriage is legal punishment 😭😭😭
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Don't feel Anna pray to Allah God will soon remove negativities in your life
Significant topic.
Marriage shud happen as a result of mutual love .
If it is arranged based on many other factors eventually problems arise.
It is not wise to expect that familiarity wud create 'love' later in such relationships.
Times have changed and hence we need to rethink for the betterment of social life.
Joshanne Me exactly. arranged marriage only seems a joke to me. people very easily say that the couple can fall in love after marriage which seems very impractical. It's better to live a life with the person you loved rather than creating artificial love and feeling obliged to show affection after getting arranged marriage.
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thank you soo much for every messages...
I agree with you sister, in my own choice, if something happens I can take responsibility for it, but others messing up my life, I can't accept it
arranged marriage only seems a joke to me and most of the western countries. people very wrongly assume that the couple can fall in love after marriage which seems very impractical. It's better to live a hard life with the person you loved with all your heart rather than creating/expressing artificial love and feeling obliged to show affection after getting arranged marriage. there are so many aspects that are going to contradict
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Castism..
Can you please explain why divorce rate is high in western and European nations? Why there are broken families, single parents? Live in relationships are today's trend. Many married couples are preferring child adoption than to have their own children. So dating and love marriages are not the solutions. Ego centric and self centric nature of couples are the main reasons for unhappy relationships.
@@mariasvasaba1261 I fully agree. You're absolutely right. No one is perfect. Passion and empathy for each other would go a long way.
You're confusing arranged marriage with forced marriage, arrange marriage happens when the couple and families agree with each other, maybe the couple may know each other before or they might get know in a period of time, then decide to engage furthur.
Also your comparison between western and Asian marriage is wrong, western marriage is typically between just the couple, while Indian and few other Asian country marriages is between two families and the couple. It comes down to a nuclear family type love.
There's nothing wrong to follow western one and also nothing wrong to follow the Asian one. From my personal experiences I can sya arrange marriage works too. And if you're talking about if the couple would stay in love even after marriage, it's a problem with all marriage types not just arranged.
Not only arrange maarraige kirtanya even love marraige also lik this bcos aftr marraige mind changing...........
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girubhakar T ya but understanding b/w couples gives happy life else not
True true true
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Correct
neenga solrathu 100 percent truth ithellam opena pesuna nammalatha loosunu intha arivu jeevinga solvanga
Evlovo parents kattikuduththa pothumnudha irukranga
S.Crt ya.... I hate some parents
Ama....
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Mam it's really true.... Ella parents mey avinga decide panuravana katikanum nenaikuranga... Ipo love panna kuda lot of expectations vaikuranga.... Ithu neraiya peruku oru advice ah iruku.... Superb mam
U r right bt it happens not only in arranged marriage even in luv marriage..only thing should stay between them is luv..luv has trillions of power to make both of them to stay together whatever struggles nd fights come between them..It was my own experience..
Keep it up akka ana youngster's middle cls Pasanga face pandra problems ah face pani Happy ah valrathu epadi nu solunga akka bcoz nan romba adi patutan life la konjam solunga akka
Most problem arises because of relatives and surrounding people and parents too sometimes making mistakes.
Mam absolutely correct mam arrange marriage parvalainu patha
Ippo periya problem aa athuthan mam irukku parents namma children oda future epdi irukum nu lam pakarathu illa avan enna solluvan Ivan enna solluvan nu ponnungaloda future aa spoil pandrathe intha parents than 100%
This is the best advice I have herd rather than just getting married for society it is best to know you first want to get married and whether that person chosen is a suitable partner.
Majority of people suppress the reality and truth. This is the biggest hurdle. Thanks for the awakening video
Love marriage also may not always lead to success. It all depends on how the chemistry works. And how much you love the other person. If you really love someone you will let them pursue their dreams..you won't stop your life partners from achieving / chasing their dreams.
Abba atleast one sensible comment ... nalla eru atha 🤣
Love is one of the factor. Never, the only factor. For a happy marriage life, personality of a person matters. How they are molded by their family and community.
A person who loves a women may not be a good gentleman, or necessary mentally healthy and sexually healthy too
Exactly that chemistry will not be with everyone.
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Better understanding is best couples ❤️❤️the person who waits for u till end ...it means true love .. ❤️ never giveup..till end
Compare to men and women,women need to think more about marriage.whether its love marriage or arrange marriage...
Thank u mam..
superb mam ... yen life ithu marithaan irukku. ...
Mam you are really well informed ,that shows in your speech. You cover so many subject clearly that is very great. Thank you.
Ellarum avanga manasukku pidicha mathiri irukka try panunga.....
Nanum apd than think pandra but enga veetla tension pandranga
I agree with your speech completely ma’am...what you told was right ..even me and my husband took two years to know about each and we loved each other and now we are happily married and it’s been one year...my parents had that trust in me and they were confident about my decision ...as you told initially for society pressure they want to do a marriage the way how you told but I explained the same way how you told ..,I told it’s my life whom I have to be with that person for longer time so let me think and take the decision...luckily my parents understood and gave me the liberty to choose my life partner.. Now I am happily married☺️☺️☺️
Epaiume ponugale tappu sollathiga dear parents, nagalum evloo tha sacrifice panrathu engalukum santhosham nu eruka kuthathu
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Ss crt 😭😭
very true
Break the rules be self confidence
Me also arrange mrg ,avaruku self ah decision eduka therinjaalum old fashioned tradition nu chuma chuma edhukeduthaalum kora solite irupaanga
Periyavangamundai vakara koodathu
Elaarum saaptadhukaprom than saapdanum
Morning noon night nu thani thaniya samaikanum
Aama veetuku poga kudathu
Na ena saapten ngratha kuda amma kita sola kudathu saapten nu matum thaan solanumam ena saaptenu sola kudaatham intha maari pala thala vali
Mrg ku aprom ipdi thaan irukanum coz ne enga veetuku vaala vantha ponu vaala vantha ponu nu kadupethvaanga
Edho nan matum thaan vaal porana ena
Then breakup 1yr after irukura periyavanga elaam senthu hus ku advice pani now be happy always
Good thoughts madam. All the arranged marriages in India is not lived happily. What actually is happening in majority of the families is what exactly that husband said. Women just live for societies expectations and go through life and not living a satisfactory self-fulfilled life.
I am from Kerala residing in Dubai....we face the same issue in Kerala....atleast people like you are trying to bring some change in this society but it will take time....also if you can please provide subtitles for your videos....🤗🤗
Marriage is only problem...!!!
ungaluku vayasaana piraku thunai thevaipadum
prasanth p yes but we do have old age home or any sibling children will take take
vijay well said
Aiyoo nalla illa jobita
Apa neengalu marage pannalayo
Be brave sis to face any problem at the same time self respect is more important than anything, sis u gave a nice suggestion .
Semma semma, nenga soldrathu 100 percent crt mam, my cousin sister life ippaditha poguthu 4 years sa😤😩 parents force panni marraige panni vechanga
Tq so much mam😊
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Thank you for your kind awareness ........
Innaiku neraya ponnunga life ippadi taun mam iruku...unga speech la neraya Kettu irukan .. really superb mam ...luv u mam 😘 seriously Ninga pesuna Ella speechum 💯 unma
Ponnunga yokkiyama
Nowadays parents support for problems. They don't know to find solution for problems .If some girl or boy didn't like a proposal, parents force them to marry them.Its really wrong.you are killing your daughter/son's life.give them time to take decision.
😊your right
@@Hannah-hg7xr how's the situation now?
I'm scared because my parents are talking about marriage!
So true... Please marry only if you like otherwise don't... Coz you will have to live not your family.
@@varunramachandran7879 absolutely my friend in our society if one doesn't marry they are judging him as a loser which is completely dumb because every body is not suited for spare parents have to understand this
Yes mam I also havng ths same problem.
Excellent ..we girls have to speak out ..kanavane kankanda theivam avanga dream kaga tha na iruka apdi ellam iruka mudiyathu ..should be an independent girl or women ..we also have dreams ..since bcaz we give birth doesn't mean our life gets over there..atleast now women are changing everywhere..Let us be a changer
Keertana, I appreciate your thoughts on this subject. I agree parents should come out of the auto pilot mode. Sons/daughter welfare is important than the society view
Talk about men's issues too, how men are objectified as just money providers, "Man cant be without a job and should earn more", child custody is always given to the women, divorce property split (portion of wealth being given to women is legal but dowry is illegal), etc.
Enakum arrange marriage than.. but en parents lam after engagement kuda engala pesa kudathunu than sonanga... Ithuku ellathukum reason un educated ah iruka Namma parents um than reason ... Avanga society kaga mattum than paarkurangalea thavira Namma situation la irunthu paarka maatranga 🙄
Nan engagement munnadi pesunom everything is alright...but engagement date ka 5 days munnadi enaku venam nu sollitu ponaga...ethuku nu teriyala....ipo romba deppress a iruku ..parents pesa koodathu nu solrathu ipo kadupa irukum but namma nallathuku tan
Mam ,This is very true....Don't waste time by thinking about others.
பெற்றோர்கள் கடமை முடிஞ்சுருச்சுனு கல்யாணம் பன்ணி வய்க்காம தயவு செஞ்சு அந்த பெண் காலம்முழுக்க அந்த வாழ்கயோட தான் அனுபவிக்கனும் அதுவும் கயில பிள்ளைங்கனு ஆன பின்ன பெண்களே வேர வழியில்லாம அந்த வாழ்க்கை யே கதிணு கடசி வரைக்கும் வாழவேண்டியதா இருக்கு.
Nowadays Marriage is a pure Business,it don't require true love,mutual understanding & respect ,all their needs are only money...Need to change this marriage system ..
Sema akka tq for tha information
Great message. Thank u so mich
நீங்கள் செல்வது எல்லாம் உண்மை என் வாழ்க்கையில் சந்தோஷம் என்ற ஒரு வரி கூட இல்லை 😥 30 வயசு ஆச்சு
Same situation faced by me still going in tears 😭
Kavalapatathinga kavi
For me also.....I hate my life ipo age 27 ipove evlo kashta pattutu iruken.....innum future la enna aagumo
correctaa solluringaa madam....
Ethuku marriage......
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Super sister, done a great job. Thank you for open talk, keep doing it.... This is education.....
Thank you, once again.....
it have lot of dependency issues. not easy to cut off.
Love 100% unmaiyaga irukunum purinjnadakanum
Vaipilla Raja
Good Message, understanding before marriage s must, parents please give independence to ur child to thier partner
Very informative speech.I thank Keerthanya for giving this informative speech.
it is based on how we understand each other....my lover too say like dis ...dont talk with boys....then he will understand ma situation...bcoz am CA..students
marriage life is a big problem adhum pudikadha oru marriage life is very very big problem
Mam neenga correct ah sonninka 💯 True 👍
I did not understand Tamil language, but I enjoyed watching her. She is very pretty, beautiful, nice figure, single, intelligent, very high values, full of character, etc. She should be cloned, so that India gets a high quality population instead of quantity population.
Sathiyama sollaren akka.... Before marriage parents are saying as after marriage everything will be okay,, after marriage,,, let's 2 to 3 yr might go , everything will be okay,,, but they will never think about that girls mindset akka..... Ipo yellaram marriage ye force panni dha cheiyaranga... They need to complete their responsibility... After that marriage,, whether the girl is happy or not? It's not important for them,,,, but girls need to be adjust for everything, y they will saying the girls to adjust?Why the parents can't adjust for that girls???
The problem doesn't rely on the type of marriage..either arranged or love .whatever it may be.the partner whom we choose is important.dont live up for the society..live for urself.god has given this beautiful life only for
urself.when someone expects you to sacrifice and if they want to live happily by the sacrifices u have made it is an utter selfishness..dont ever fall for that.always be responsible for yourself take a wise decision and be independent.our career and studies are not only for our fame or earnings..it also helps us to be mature..if we fall for the society's selfishness..it is our foolishness..don't moan at the end..
செமையான அட்வைஸ் சூப்பரா எடுத்துச் சொல்லி இருக்கீங்க இது நிறைய பேருக்கு புரிஞ்சு திருந்தி வாழனும்
Currently my situations are very bad mam..enaku marriage veanu sonna..ana avanga force and blockmail panni engagement fix pannaga....namba lofe ulla ella decision-making nambala eduka mudiyathu...ennaku appa kidaiyathu so..yen life ulla ella decision ellam relative tha edupaga..en school,college eduvumay unaku pudichi irukanu keatka kuda mataga..but life partner vishyathal naa tha decide pannanum ninacha..aduvum nadakala...ithu varaikum enlife one day kuda pudicha mathiri valthadhu kuda kidaiyathu..ipa forced panni engaged panni vachitaga..pudikalana vidamal force pannraga...ipa ellarum happy ahh irukaga.. 😢
your smile and active speech very inspired me
அருமையான பேச்சு. ..
ஆணித்தரமான உண்மை. ..
நன்றி. ..!!
The only way happy life is not to get married and earn money own and be independent
Exactly
not only arrange marriage....love marriage also same...
Parents ellarum kekura 1st question,"un life ah spoil paniduvoma"nu stupid ah conversation panranga..
Are all selfish bzc they are search bridal groom.. But women are find out life partner..
EXACTLY the same happened with me . Three months and the marriage ended .
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Sis unga speach keta mind relexed ah feel agukuthu ,,💕
இந்த நிலைமை இந்தியாவில் ஒன்றும் புதிதல்ல ...காலம் காலமா நிறைய பேரு வாழ்க்கைல நடக்கிற அநியாயம் தான்....😔😞😞😔😞😔😞
உண்மை. பயன்னுள்ள தகவல்
God's creation, each one have there individual attitude and behaviour.. it's foolish to think arrange marriage or love marriage should live life long with understanding.
thanks for ur advice mam ☺
Just 1 example is not a judgement against arranged marriage.most arranged marriages are successful.this could have happened with love marriage also .
problem is not about the type of marriage.either it is arranged or loved, prblm is between two peoples.. this type of conflict araise in love mariage couples also
Lol Keerthana after coming home I even go back and return the dress.
Mam I am a big fan of your speech. More than that I love the way your drew your Kajal. Looks good on you.
mam really my inspiration ...super speech🙏👍👍👍👍👍🙏
5:40 it's true !
super fantastic excellent madam
Motivational speech 💅.Generally speaking life is one time only ,it never comes again,so just focus on the present and do our best now and don’t entertain complicated life.Misusing the 3G,4G,5G 🙏.
Andha video va first enoda amma Ku tha kattanum....tq mam😑😳
mam my son admission for you school where is the place mam
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Wow nice topic, after seeing it I immediately saw your post... semma getha pesuniga the topic related to my life too.... I totally agree with you that girls should get freedom to take decision on their own life... but still now a days it's not happening to some girls 😫😭 I am too facing my own personal problems so please tell me how can I contact you? First time saw your video and liked it ☺️
Did u get her contact?
Me 2 facing same problem in my life.......
Neenga peasurathu video rompa arumaiya irukkum mam👍
Yes, It took ten years to commit myself 👍...I made all the analysis to choose...I know what works for me 🙏