This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality. I'm sure you're making a lot of money tho.
This helps me realize why people's positive comments about me haven’t really had an effect on my negative self perception. I couldn't internalize what they said because it didn’t fit the box i was in. Thanks for this
From a person who has experienced trauma and deep rooted self hate all her life and is now mastering the rewiring of her brain trust me: this ability WILL change your life. She explained something that I’ve dealt with for years and that is so complex in such a simple and well spoken way. bravo!!
I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to. All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears. I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I’ve been taking a deep breath and just saying to myself “whatever”. Somehow the word helps me let go. I guess I could be invalidating my own emotions and I should notice them to some degree, but at least it helps prevent things building up.
@@ShivangiMishra-g2s You basically give it a category. You are naming the category. For example "thought that I'm not doing enough". Then when a thought like that comes up, you can say (and write it down if you are journaling) as " I had a "thought that I'm not doing enough" ". And you will easier recognize when that sort of thought is coming up, and will be able to easier deal with it.
I'd add not just the brain but all neurons in the body - there's nothing special in the brain other than a higher abundance of neurons. Some of our organs, like the heart, have 400, 000 while some fruit flies have entire brains of only ~450, ~5800, and so on. Our stress also gets trapped in our gut, our heart, our muscles, etc.
Thank you so much to all the neuroscientists, psychologists, philosophers, mental health professionals, and other lovely humans who have done what they can to spread better ideas for us all. I spent 23 years suicidal and so depressed it led to a nightmare. But now thanks to amazing people and ideas I'm happier than I ever would have expected and would live for millions of years with the new mindful software ❤
@@jamesabar207 For the most part a combination of learning and practicing ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) and getting a deeper dive into training the mind and mindfulness using the waking up app.
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers. Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like "I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]" for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer. Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want. Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
therapy is a top-down and slow approach. You may find a boost by adopting somatic (body-up) practices. Lots of free resources on youtube, such as irene lyon, TRE, laughter yoga (blew my mind it DOES work short-term n longer term)
Thank you. I really needed to hear these words today. I can change, my pre-programming is not my narrative, I can and will determine who I am and what my story is. Thank you so much again, this really saved me from my blackhole suicide ideation spiral.
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
I discovered this through a spiritual breakthrough when I was in a meditative state. It has changed my life, it is awesome to see that neuroscience backs up my conclusions! ❤
I loved this video. What amazed me more is that these are exactly the teachings of Louise Hay. It’s great to know such teachings are now backed up by neuroscience.
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
never forget muscle weighs more than fat. I also use a measuring tape and NEVER do these more than 1/month due to hormone cycle changing a woman's weight/water retention levels
watching this while i had my breakfast and sure thing this is life changing as soemone who working themselves with therapist and trying to heal their inner child
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most). Hopes it help !
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
That makes a lot of sense. Exploring those layers of identity can open up new perspectives, especially when you’re already in a place of self-reflection.
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
@MyDawgyLovesMeMoreThanIDeserve I think I agree with you - if one meditates with expectations, that causes tensions - and everyone has some expectations when meditating, in some ways... it takes years of practice to even get aware of them and start letting them be. Also talking about pain - I can only speak for myself, just had nose surgery and that was my experience with pain. It was tightly bound to anxiety, for me, in that situation. Can imagine that its completely different for fibromyalgia patients. I'm still sure that the possibility of it helping there exists. Even if its not realistic or a form of playing a game in "super hard mode". All the best for anyone affected!
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
Ive always seen myself as the artistic and happy one of the group but removing the happy part made me realize that im alowed and able to have multiple emotions in my life and right now ive been interested in mechanics and science so im starting to realize that i can be creative and smart :]
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations. 00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception. 01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets 02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases 03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world. 04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain 04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions 05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
Lovely video. Thank you so much for mentioning both neurotypicals and neurodivergents. It means so much to have the full range of humanity included and considered.
When I had worst anxiety, observing my thoughts were really my breakthrough, and understanding I can change my narrative if I wanted to really nice vid
Narrative and Negative bias... what a perfect way to reflect a human mind. But confirmation bias can be debatable. A highly recommended video. Thank you
the natural human tendency to have a negativity bias is based on survival. we tend to forget positive and neutral things very easily because they aren't dangerous and pose no threat to us, and so why should we remember them? versus negative things like larger predators and dangerous places, these are things that we need to remember to keep ourselves safe. unfortunately yes our thoughts are very powerful and this negativity bias is very strong and tend to transfer to other areas of life. i've found it's easier to manage negativity when we know where it comes from or why we might need it, and we can prevent it from spilling into other areas of life where we should keep things more positive
I've developed this set of questions over the years that seem to help me: 1) "Did I really create this thought or did it just resurfaced automatically?" (meaning did I really THOUGHT it, like there was thinking, analytical process - or it just an empty husk with a label on it - without any depth, logic, foundation? - that just stored somewhere inside my brain and triggered autiomatically?). What if I MISTAKEN this thought for TRUTH long ago and since then I keep seeing this as truth without ever exploring it? 2) "Is this thought helping me or ruining me?" 3) "Why whould I, this highly-developed creature with super complex and intricate brain and body, want to have ANY thoughts that are self-defeating? That go against myself and my nature? It's unnatural and serving me no good. It's just a glitch, a mistake that I adopted along the way, probably in the early ages and I will stop believing these thoughts as absolute TRUTHS which they are not".
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
Today Ive written this and this video came up I recently learned the word “remedial,” and I constantly strive to improve my life in that sense. For me, it’s about shifting my perspective. If I can change the way I view things, I believe I can reach a different level of understanding and existence. I often think of my mind as a box that I’m confined within. Sometimes it scares me to realize that I might hold false beliefs or that I’ve misunderstood aspects of life. It’s a daunting task to break free from established ways of thinking and see things from a completely new angle. However, there’s a downside to this approach-life doesn’t always allow for too much skepticism. It can hit you hard when you start questioning everything, making it difficult to simply accept things as they are. While I haven’t yet fully grasped the depth of this, I’m committed to exploring and understanding it.
To zacznijmy od behavioryzmu i bliskosci. Tak ludzie tworza wiez miedzy soba. To podstawa. Czlowieczenstwo to dawanie czegos od siebie i nie oczekiwanie niczego w zamian. Dajesz komus cos, to moze byc cos materialnego a moze byc slowo uznamia lub po prostu cos co sprawi ze jego zycie bedzie lepsze, jego swiat stanoe sie dla niego lepszy. Nie oczekujesz ze sie odwdzieczy, po prostu robisz to by byc czlowiekiem. Bo to jest kwintesencja milosci, dobra, czlowoeczenstwa ale nie tylko, to naturalny instynkt ktory maja tez zwierzeta, one tez czuja, nie maja tak rozbudowanych emocji jak czlowiek i swiadomosci ale czuja milosc, strach, bol, strate, przyjemnosc i przywiazanie. Jesli chcesz zrozumiec jak to jest byc czlowiekiem musisz przelamac bariery logiki i zrobic to chocby z logiki tego ze chcesz sie tego nauczyc. Zrob teraz dobry uczynek komus, pomoz komus tak by ktos inny z tego powodu nie ucierpial ale tylko dlatego ze mozesz. Mozesz pomoc komus kto wie ze to ty pomagasz i moze byc tak ze dzieki temu ta osoba bedzie ci wdzieczna, bedzie cie bronic kiedys gdy przyjdzie okazja, bedzie ci pomagac gdy bedzie mogla i bedzie cie cenic, bedziesz dla tej osoby wartosciowy bo bedzie czula ze jestes jak czlowiek, po prostu bedzie widziala w tobie dobro. Nie oczekuj ze yo sie stanie, po prostu przyjmij ze moze tak byc ale jesli nie to po prostu zrobisz dobry uczynek. Czemu? Bo mozesz!
My goodness, my sister and I are also Samantha and Martha. My sister was the "athletic" one and I was the "academic" one. Real life knocked us both down
the medial prefrontal cortex is not usually associated with problem solving... with metacognition (that what was talked about) is indeed associated with the mPFC (and anterior cingulate cortex). just a note
I do not matter when every one around me does not support who I am. I changed my thoughts to drop fighting against everyone to accept me. I taught myself I am not accepted and will never be accepted.
How our beliefs about ourselves can keep us stuck in a perception box and limit ourselves. "Like I am not good enough", " I just a new one". Therefore, we need to get out of the narratities that we have reinforced if it's no longer serving us. We can change our thoughts and expand our perception of ourselves. Break free from negative patterns and create lasting change.
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea, People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
You can recognize when you start thinking something about yourself or feeling a specific way. when you think of something that makes you sad you can recognize that it makes you sad and that you sre now feeling sad. Creo
Try imagining your mind as a place - a room, a library, a house. And observe what goes in and out of it. She talks about narratives in the video and I think it's as simple as that - stories we tell ourselves about who we are. We can tell stories about what goes on in our brains. For example, at night perhaps you're more likely to think of sad and lonely thoughts. You can give these thoughts a name. John, Alice. They come knocking in at night and it's up to you how you deal with them. Do you ignore them and sleep? Do you ask them to come in for tea? Anthropomorphise your feelings and thoughts, and perhaps, over time, you'll start to tell a new story about who you are.
When ever I notice that my thoughts are going somewhere useless or negative, I right away say "monkey brain" it works for me. Then I force my self or remind my self to think of something happy or positive or thankfulness or my do-to-list. Lol
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
Well focus on small wins is easy said, but when those things keep seeming less important than the big bad things, it doesnt help to just know about beiing stuck in a bias. THE FEELING STAYS! :(
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
What you'll do :
- Notice the small win
- Labeling your thoughts
- Self-reflect your narrative about the world
What i took from it was you need to write out your story or clarify it before looking for positives because that’s a seperate thinking hat
Thank u
This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality. I'm sure you're making a lot of money tho.
Good
1) Gratitude Training
2) Vipassana: Five Hindrances + Mantra
3) Positive Self-Talk
This helps me realize why people's positive comments about me haven’t really had an effect on my negative self perception. I couldn't internalize what they said because it didn’t fit the box i was in. Thanks for this
Yes. Same.
Same here! Let's do our best to change how we see ourselves. God don't make no mistakes & God made us so we are good & good enough!
From a person who has experienced trauma and deep rooted self hate all her life and is now mastering the rewiring of her brain trust me: this ability WILL change your life. She explained something that I’ve dealt with for years and that is so complex in such a simple and well spoken way. bravo!!
Heal well, Luana 🤍
Take care of you dear luana 😊
I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to.
All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears.
I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I’ve been taking a deep breath and just saying to myself “whatever”. Somehow the word helps me let go. I guess I could be invalidating my own emotions and I should notice them to some degree, but at least it helps prevent things building up.
I don't understand the concept of naming the thoughts what does it mean
@@ShivangiMishra-g2s You basically give it a category. You are naming the category. For example "thought that I'm not doing enough". Then when a thought like that comes up, you can say (and write it down if you are journaling) as " I had a "thought that I'm not doing enough" ". And you will easier recognize when that sort of thought is coming up, and will be able to easier deal with it.
"There is no scientific study more vital to man than the study of his own brain. Our entire view of the universe depends on it." ~ Francis Crick
I'd add not just the brain but all neurons in the body - there's nothing special in the brain other than a higher abundance of neurons. Some of our organs, like the heart, have 400, 000 while some fruit flies have entire brains of only ~450, ~5800, and so on. Our stress also gets trapped in our gut, our heart, our muscles, etc.
The way she smiled at the end when she said that the narratives can change brings so much hope. Thank you for this!
Same 😊
Thank you so much to all the neuroscientists, psychologists, philosophers, mental health professionals, and other lovely humans who have done what they can to spread better ideas for us all.
I spent 23 years suicidal and so depressed it led to a nightmare. But now thanks to amazing people and ideas I'm happier than I ever would have expected and would live for millions of years with the new mindful software ❤
How did you do it ?
@@jamesabar207 For the most part a combination of learning and practicing ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) and getting a deeper dive into training the mind and mindfulness using the waking up app.
@@Sylar-451 I appreciate the response. That’s a long time to be in that headspace so congrats on your success!
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers.
Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
No other way mate 😅
@LordBrittish Courteous drivers are rare these days, but when I cross paths with one , I feel a subtle sense of hope for my fellow man.
Wow
Thank you! I feel like crying because there's hope for change. I'm on a dirt road looking forward to paving it.
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
"Whoever u r, if u have a brain. It can change"... Broke me
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like
"I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]"
for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer.
Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want.
Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
therapy is a top-down and slow approach. You may find a boost by adopting somatic (body-up) practices. Lots of free resources on youtube, such as irene lyon, TRE, laughter yoga (blew my mind it DOES work short-term n longer term)
Thank you.
I really needed to hear these words today.
I can change, my pre-programming is not my narrative, I can and will determine who I am and what my story is.
Thank you so much again, this really saved me from my blackhole suicide ideation spiral.
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
I discovered this through a spiritual breakthrough when I was in a meditative state. It has changed my life, it is awesome to see that neuroscience backs up my conclusions! ❤
I loved this video. What amazed me more is that these are exactly the teachings of Louise Hay. It’s great to know such teachings are now backed up by neuroscience.
Videos like this are what make living better
Exactly
Information like this saved my life ❤
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
never forget muscle weighs more than fat. I also use a measuring tape and NEVER do these more than 1/month due to hormone cycle changing a woman's weight/water retention levels
Thanks!
The tone she speaks with has so much compassion and empathy. I can't find a better word to describe it than "beautiful".
watching this while i had my breakfast and sure thing this is life changing as soemone who working themselves with therapist and trying to heal their inner child
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most).
Hopes it help !
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
That's an interesting thought. I'll make sure to add it to my program
05:58 "If you have a brain, it an change" 😂😂
That makes a lot of sense. Exploring those layers of identity can open up new perspectives, especially when you’re already in a place of self-reflection.
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
That’s what I do as well. Do check it out vipassana meditation
@MyDawgyLovesMeMoreThanIDeserve
I think I agree with you - if one meditates with expectations, that causes tensions - and everyone has some expectations when meditating, in some ways... it takes years of practice to even get aware of them and start letting them be.
Also talking about pain - I can only speak for myself, just had nose surgery and that was my experience with pain. It was tightly bound to anxiety, for me, in that situation.
Can imagine that its completely different for fibromyalgia patients. I'm still sure that the possibility of it helping there exists. Even if its not realistic or a form of playing a game in "super hard mode". All the best for anyone affected!
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
Kunjalo khabazela
Ive always seen myself as the artistic and happy one of the group but removing the happy part made me realize that im alowed and able to have multiple emotions in my life and right now ive been interested in mechanics and science so im starting to realize that i can be creative and smart :]
Started off thinking this was another video that would only cover the basics. I was impressed with the breadth of information provided.
Hell yeah! This is what I'm all about, both in my personal life and in my professional life as a certified Soul-based Coach!
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations.
00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception.
01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets
02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases
03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world.
04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain
04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions
05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
Lovely video. Thank you so much for mentioning both neurotypicals and neurodivergents. It means so much to have the full range of humanity included and considered.
When I had worst anxiety, observing my thoughts were really my breakthrough, and understanding I can change my narrative if I wanted to really nice vid
Love the image of dirt road changing into high way!
Narrative and Negative bias... what a perfect way to reflect a human mind. But confirmation bias can be debatable. A highly recommended video. Thank you
A lot of contents in a short video. Love it!
This vedio reached me at the right time. Time to work on myself.
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for creating such valuable content!
the natural human tendency to have a negativity bias is based on survival. we tend to forget positive and neutral things very easily because they aren't dangerous and pose no threat to us, and so why should we remember them? versus negative things like larger predators and dangerous places, these are things that we need to remember to keep ourselves safe. unfortunately yes our thoughts are very powerful and this negativity bias is very strong and tend to transfer to other areas of life. i've found it's easier to manage negativity when we know where it comes from or why we might need it, and we can prevent it from spilling into other areas of life where we should keep things more positive
Thanks this is a whole another perception
I've developed this set of questions over the years that seem to help me:
1) "Did I really create this thought or did it just resurfaced automatically?" (meaning did I really THOUGHT it, like there was thinking, analytical process - or it just an empty husk with a label on it - without any depth, logic, foundation? - that just stored somewhere inside my brain and triggered autiomatically?). What if I MISTAKEN this thought for TRUTH long ago and since then I keep seeing this as truth without ever exploring it?
2) "Is this thought helping me or ruining me?"
3) "Why whould I, this highly-developed creature with super complex and intricate brain and body, want to have ANY thoughts that are self-defeating? That go against myself and my nature? It's unnatural and serving me no good. It's just a glitch, a mistake that I adopted along the way, probably in the early ages and I will stop believing these thoughts as absolute TRUTHS which they are not".
This felt so much like therapy, much enjoyed!
Her smile alone can change someone else. I can only imagine het expertly thought out and educated seed-planting casual questions.
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
I overanalyse everything i do and feel.I am very well aware of tge biases and weaknesses i have.
Absolutely love this! Not just research and info about how our brains work but actionable steps to help ourselves. ❤🧠
Wow, thank you so much for this video!! Love the way you explained the content in an understandable way!! ❤😊
Absolutely loved this video. Thank you Big Think.
THIS VIDEO IS POWERFUL!!!
IM GONNA KEEP COMING BACK HERE WHEN I FEEL SOME TYPA WAY!!!
Her English is beautiful! Amazing video! Thanks a lot.
Replaced her with kamala Harris if...😂😂😂😂
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
Today Ive written this and this video came up
I recently learned the word “remedial,” and I constantly strive to improve my life in that sense. For me, it’s about shifting my perspective. If I can change the way I view things, I believe I can reach a different level of understanding and existence. I often think of my mind as a box that I’m confined within. Sometimes it scares me to realize that I might hold false beliefs or that I’ve misunderstood aspects of life. It’s a daunting task to break free from established ways of thinking and see things from a completely new angle.
However, there’s a downside to this approach-life doesn’t always allow for too much skepticism. It can hit you hard when you start questioning everything, making it difficult to simply accept things as they are. While I haven’t yet fully grasped the depth of this, I’m committed to exploring and understanding it.
1) Gratitude Training
2) Vipassana: Five Hindrances + Mantra
3) Positive Self-Talk
Thank you very much for sharing this information with us.
Wonderful discussion. Interested in a larger scale and depth - I'll be fitting her book into my schedule as soon as possible
To zacznijmy od behavioryzmu i bliskosci. Tak ludzie tworza wiez miedzy soba. To podstawa. Czlowieczenstwo to dawanie czegos od siebie i nie oczekiwanie niczego w zamian. Dajesz komus cos, to moze byc cos materialnego a moze byc slowo uznamia lub po prostu cos co sprawi ze jego zycie bedzie lepsze, jego swiat stanoe sie dla niego lepszy. Nie oczekujesz ze sie odwdzieczy, po prostu robisz to by byc czlowiekiem. Bo to jest kwintesencja milosci, dobra, czlowoeczenstwa ale nie tylko, to naturalny instynkt ktory maja tez zwierzeta, one tez czuja, nie maja tak rozbudowanych emocji jak czlowiek i swiadomosci ale czuja milosc, strach, bol, strate, przyjemnosc i przywiazanie.
Jesli chcesz zrozumiec jak to jest byc czlowiekiem musisz przelamac bariery logiki i zrobic to chocby z logiki tego ze chcesz sie tego nauczyc.
Zrob teraz dobry uczynek komus, pomoz komus tak by ktos inny z tego powodu nie ucierpial ale tylko dlatego ze mozesz.
Mozesz pomoc komus kto wie ze to ty pomagasz i moze byc tak ze dzieki temu ta osoba bedzie ci wdzieczna, bedzie cie bronic kiedys gdy przyjdzie okazja, bedzie ci pomagac gdy bedzie mogla i bedzie cie cenic, bedziesz dla tej osoby wartosciowy bo bedzie czula ze jestes jak czlowiek, po prostu bedzie widziala w tobie dobro. Nie oczekuj ze yo sie stanie, po prostu przyjmij ze moze tak byc ale jesli nie to po prostu zrobisz dobry uczynek. Czemu? Bo mozesz!
Amazing video, clearly an incredibly intelligent person. Added her book to my list.
Thank you for this video, i needed this motivation👍
Such a relief knowing that You can change.
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My goodness, my sister and I are also Samantha and Martha. My sister was the "athletic" one and I was the "academic" one. Real life knocked us both down
the medial prefrontal cortex is not usually associated with problem solving... with metacognition (that what was talked about) is indeed associated with the mPFC (and anterior cingulate cortex). just a note
LOVE her & her book Rewired is 10/10 !!
Bravo! The video i needed!
this finally made it really click in my brain how helpful consciously practicing gratitude can be
I do not matter when every one around me does not support who I am.
I changed my thoughts to drop fighting against everyone to accept me. I taught myself I am not accepted and will never be accepted.
Damn you’ve met every single person in the world and NONE of them accepted you
What an impact it had on me !
Thank you
Narratives we create, through often overlooked, shape our reality to a significant extent.
How our beliefs about ourselves can keep us stuck in a perception box and limit ourselves. "Like I am not good enough", " I just a new one". Therefore, we need to get out of the narratities that we have reinforced if it's no longer serving us. We can change our thoughts and expand our perception of ourselves. Break free from negative patterns and create lasting change.
Thank you❤
Thank you 😊
Thank you! Needed to hear this
Love you nicola ❤ thanks for saving my life ❤
@LiamTheodore-w9e NICOLA VIGNOLA
Thank you
Thanks for sharing
this is a great topic, can you please bring in more in-depth knowledge on it
2:07 Same same!!!! Same thing happened with me also and I don't know anymore,
A very important topic, especially in these truly terrifying days.
This was great! ❤
Thank you for posting this video.
complex to hear and understand but good to watch
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea,
People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
This was quite helpful.
but how do you name the thoughts? can someone give an example? 6:11
You can recognize when you start thinking something about yourself or feeling a specific way.
when you think of something that makes you sad you can recognize that it makes you sad and that you sre now feeling sad.
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You can try a simiar strategy we use to identify objects or feelings.
Try imagining your mind as a place - a room, a library, a house. And observe what goes in and out of it. She talks about narratives in the video and I think it's as simple as that - stories we tell ourselves about who we are. We can tell stories about what goes on in our brains. For example, at night perhaps you're more likely to think of sad and lonely thoughts. You can give these thoughts a name. John, Alice. They come knocking in at night and it's up to you how you deal with them. Do you ignore them and sleep? Do you ask them to come in for tea? Anthropomorphise your feelings and thoughts, and perhaps, over time, you'll start to tell a new story about who you are.
When ever I notice that my thoughts are going somewhere useless or negative, I right away say "monkey brain" it works for me. Then I force my self or remind my self to think of something happy or positive or thankfulness or my do-to-list. Lol
Everything is netral. When u give meaning to something in your brain. it will give you a perception of the meaning of something and a feeling
I really enjoyed this one.
small wins = big big big impact on life
Thank you!
Amazing ❤
A technique to work on changing a (disfunctional) limbic system is DNRS. Just a tip :)
i love this thank you
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
There's nothing inherently wrong, or "bad", with any of those things. It becomes an issue when it's unbalanced and affects your daily existence.
Depends where you want to go friend
Thank you
Love this!
You can start with understanding there is no "your" brain. "your" is a thought.
Well focus on small wins is easy said, but when those things keep seeming less important than the big bad things, it doesnt help to just know about beiing stuck in a bias. THE FEELING STAYS! :(
Getting out of the bed. Maybe not in the morning but getting out of it.
Just awesome 💯
Great interview. Music and sound effects in the background are distracting from the message
A useful therapy for working with those thoughts and automatic thoughts is internal family systems therapy
beautiful
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
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