This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality.
This helps me realize why people's positive comments about me haven’t really had an effect on my negative self perception. I couldn't internalize what they said because it didn’t fit the box i was in. Thanks for this
I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to. All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears. I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I’ve been taking a deep breath and just saying to myself “whatever”. Somehow the word helps me let go. I guess I could be invalidating my own emotions and I should notice them to some degree, but at least it helps prevent things building up.
@@ShivangiMishra-g2s You basically give it a category. You are naming the category. For example "thought that I'm not doing enough". Then when a thought like that comes up, you can say (and write it down if you are journaling) as " I had a "thought that I'm not doing enough" ". And you will easier recognize when that sort of thought is coming up, and will be able to easier deal with it.
Thank you so much to all the neuroscientists, psychologists, philosophers, mental health professionals, and other lovely humans who have done what they can to spread better ideas for us all. I spent 23 years suicidal and so depressed it led to a nightmare. But now thanks to amazing people and ideas I'm happier than I ever would have expected and would live for millions of years with the new mindful software ❤
From a person who has experienced trauma and deep rooted self hate all her life and is now mastering the rewiring of her brain trust me: this ability WILL change your life. She explained something that I’ve dealt with for years and that is so complex in such a simple and well spoken way. bravo!!
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers. Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
Thank you. I really needed to hear these words today. I can change, my pre-programming is not my narrative, I can and will determine who I am and what my story is. Thank you so much again, this really saved me from my blackhole suicide ideation spiral.
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like "I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]" for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer. Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want. Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
I'd add not just the brain but all neurons in the body - there's nothing special in the brain other than a higher abundance of neurons. Some of our organs, like the heart, have 400, 000 while some fruit flies have entire brains of only ~450, ~5800, and so on. Our stress also gets trapped in our gut, our heart, our muscles, etc.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Steve_porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
I discovered this through a spiritual breakthrough when I was in a meditative state. It has changed my life, it is awesome to see that neuroscience backs up my conclusions! ❤
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
That makes a lot of sense. Exploring those layers of identity can open up new perspectives, especially when you’re already in a place of self-reflection.
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most). Hopes it help !
Narrative and Negative bias... what a perfect way to reflect a human mind. But confirmation bias can be debatable. A highly recommended video. Thank you
To zacznijmy od behavioryzmu i bliskosci. Tak ludzie tworza wiez miedzy soba. To podstawa. Czlowieczenstwo to dawanie czegos od siebie i nie oczekiwanie niczego w zamian. Dajesz komus cos, to moze byc cos materialnego a moze byc slowo uznamia lub po prostu cos co sprawi ze jego zycie bedzie lepsze, jego swiat stanoe sie dla niego lepszy. Nie oczekujesz ze sie odwdzieczy, po prostu robisz to by byc czlowiekiem. Bo to jest kwintesencja milosci, dobra, czlowoeczenstwa ale nie tylko, to naturalny instynkt ktory maja tez zwierzeta, one tez czuja, nie maja tak rozbudowanych emocji jak czlowiek i swiadomosci ale czuja milosc, strach, bol, strate, przyjemnosc i przywiazanie. Jesli chcesz zrozumiec jak to jest byc czlowiekiem musisz przelamac bariery logiki i zrobic to chocby z logiki tego ze chcesz sie tego nauczyc. Zrob teraz dobry uczynek komus, pomoz komus tak by ktos inny z tego powodu nie ucierpial ale tylko dlatego ze mozesz. Mozesz pomoc komus kto wie ze to ty pomagasz i moze byc tak ze dzieki temu ta osoba bedzie ci wdzieczna, bedzie cie bronic kiedys gdy przyjdzie okazja, bedzie ci pomagac gdy bedzie mogla i bedzie cie cenic, bedziesz dla tej osoby wartosciowy bo bedzie czula ze jestes jak czlowiek, po prostu bedzie widziala w tobie dobro. Nie oczekuj ze yo sie stanie, po prostu przyjmij ze moze tak byc ale jesli nie to po prostu zrobisz dobry uczynek. Czemu? Bo mozesz!
Today Ive written this and this video came up I recently learned the word “remedial,” and I constantly strive to improve my life in that sense. For me, it’s about shifting my perspective. If I can change the way I view things, I believe I can reach a different level of understanding and existence. I often think of my mind as a box that I’m confined within. Sometimes it scares me to realize that I might hold false beliefs or that I’ve misunderstood aspects of life. It’s a daunting task to break free from established ways of thinking and see things from a completely new angle. However, there’s a downside to this approach-life doesn’t always allow for too much skepticism. It can hit you hard when you start questioning everything, making it difficult to simply accept things as they are. While I haven’t yet fully grasped the depth of this, I’m committed to exploring and understanding it.
the natural human tendency to have a negativity bias is based on survival. we tend to forget positive and neutral things very easily because they aren't dangerous and pose no threat to us, and so why should we remember them? versus negative things like larger predators and dangerous places, these are things that we need to remember to keep ourselves safe. unfortunately yes our thoughts are very powerful and this negativity bias is very strong and tend to transfer to other areas of life. i've found it's easier to manage negativity when we know where it comes from or why we might need it, and we can prevent it from spilling into other areas of life where we should keep things more positive
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
@@AtLeastMyDawgyLovesMe I think I agree with you - if one meditates with expectations, that causes tensions - and everyone has some expectations when meditating, in some ways... it takes years of practice to even get aware of them and start letting them be. Also talking about pain - I can only speak for myself, just had nose surgery and that was my experience with pain. It was tightly bound to anxiety, for me, in that situation. Can imagine that its completely different for fibromyalgia patients. I'm still sure that the possibility of it helping there exists. Even if its not realistic or a form of playing a game in "super hard mode". All the best for anyone affected!
I do not matter when every one around me does not support who I am. I changed my thoughts to drop fighting against everyone to accept me. I taught myself I am not accepted and will never be accepted.
Lovely video. Thank you so much for mentioning both neurotypicals and neurodivergents. It means so much to have the full range of humanity included and considered.
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations. 00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception. 01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets 02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases 03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world. 04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain 04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions 05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
How our beliefs about ourselves can keep us stuck in a perception box and limit ourselves. "Like I am not good enough", " I just a new one". Therefore, we need to get out of the narratities that we have reinforced if it's no longer serving us. We can change our thoughts and expand our perception of ourselves. Break free from negative patterns and create lasting change.
When I had worst anxiety, observing my thoughts were really my breakthrough, and understanding I can change my narrative if I wanted to really nice vid
Basically in order to change you have to change the way you see yourself, doing this regularly through lived experiences will help cultivate the change you want to see in yourself. Therefore giving yourself back acceptance, love and control. My pov
Or a third or fourth possibility: what she's saying doesn't relate to you so its harder to make sense of. She's not explaining it in a way that is clear to you but if you sat down and wrote it in your own words you'd gain a greater understanding. Keep trying, it's worth knowing.
My goodness, my sister and I are also Samantha and Martha. My sister was the "athletic" one and I was the "academic" one. Real life knocked us both down
00:26 Wait, what?! The narrative we've lived our entire lives by might not even be our own? 😱 Imagine the power of reshaping who we are just by rewiring our thoughts! This is mind-blowing! I need to know more about this Perception Box-how do we break free from it?
Meditation and journaling help because they make you observe your thoughts, especially your ANTs (automatic negative thoughts). You cannot change a thought that you’re not aware that you’re having. So once you are aware of your thoughts, you can choose to let them go, as if you were watching a car driving away; you can choose to challenge your thoughts, questioning if they’re true; and you can choose new ways to think about things. Best of luck in your self-discovery journey. ❤
This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality.
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
Honestly, I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed by the flood of information out there, but Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity by Karl K. Dondaneau changed that for me. It’s like everything clicked-this book blends quantum mechanics, psychology, and mathematics in a way that actually makes sense of the chaos we’re all swimming in. It’s already starting to shift how I see reality, giving me a framework to understand things on a deeper level. If you’re craving something meaningful that cuts through the noise, this might be the book that does it. I can’t recommend it enough. It's on Amazon….
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea, People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
I'm going to read your book. So relevant in this phase of my life. Special stuff young lady. You're tuned into a higher channel. Oh, add Michael Pollan - How to Change Your Mind to all the listeners.
This isn't a simple matter of thinking positively and having everything fall into place through repetition. Neurons and perception don't work by just "believing and changing" - there are too many variables that need to align before you can excel or even succeed at an average level. Changing your thoughts doesn't guarantee a positive outcome. What this neuroscientist should have emphasized is that the strategies she mentioned-imitation, conditioning, and reinforcement-work best for tasks that can be learned through repetition. For example, if someone asks you to disassemble an air conditioner or cook a Beef Wellington meal, it might seem hard at first. But if someone shows you how and has you practice it 50 to 100 times, it will eventually become second nature. Not because "the brain can change," but because it's a case of "monkey see, monkey do"-imitating, emulating, and simulating. Now, take that same person and teach them chess for 10 years, put them through Navy SEAL training (BUD/S), enroll them in a rigorous academic program to become a theoretical physicist, or ask them to lose 70 pounds. There's a 99% chance they won't succeed because our abilities and achievements are heavily influenced by our DNA, genetic makeup, and cognitive predispositions. That's why athletes like Cristiano Ronaldo, Messi, Jon Jones, and Tom Brady are extraordinary,thats why physicists like Stephen Hawking, Edward Witten, Roger Penrose, Frank Wilczek, Kip Thorne are exceptional-not just because they thought positively or worked hard, but because they are part of a small group of gifted individuals who found what they excel in or were guided to the right path and they pushed hard on top of their dna and cognitive predispositions. These neuroscientists today often oversimplify things for the sake of gaining attention,views,click or god knows what. They need to be more realistic and convey their ideas in a way that resonates with and to the average person.
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Dear, I am not in a box but by circumstances agendas & many other means ppls involved defending their interest while sapping mine. I have never done " negative" self talk. Never seen myself unworthy. Of whatever. Only have seeked things differently than most. Which is too long to explain. The economic political & social local level having driven alot of the ppls above mentioned against small incentives at what they did to sap my best interest of which I am the warrant of not anybody else. I am independent thus rely very little on others. & Those that have put me in boxes had first visceral dislike then want to clear the sight of the wrongs they had done & place themselves in a warm light. After it is true advancing a number of agendas in between. At the scale of what things were I should have seeked justice but even their traces " cleverly" they have mostly erased. & The toll on me would have augmented not diminished. I do not have victim mentality because of it but not toxic positivity nor saying you are not the victim will not cut it. I have with what to structure the rest of my life. To not be defined by that harm & hurt. But it was never mine to.
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
Well focus on small wins is easy said, but when those things keep seeming less important than the big bad things, it doesnt help to just know about beiing stuck in a bias. THE FEELING STAYS! :(
Broken chains I remember the warden and the lock and the keys I remember the chains I’ll give you my time if you feed me I’ll give you my soul if you give me hope And I’ll forgo friends and family While you make merry with yours And I will not sleep And I will not laugh And I will not ask when and why For I know my place These chains I have broken I’m free now, but I remember I remember your hold And your rules and your ways and your authority And I remember how I bowed obediently But now I’m free The keys are mine and the chains broken Am I then to become a prisoner of my own freedom As this you once foretold I remember the warden and the lock and the keys So today I will sing and not be quiet So today I will dance and be silly I will laugh with friends Share tears of joy and pain with the ones I love And if one day I should forget If I forget the warden and the lock and the keys I pray I never forget my chains My freedom was born of these broken chains
The universe negates all my small wins with one loss every day. One loss to add to all my past losses cumulated so big they nullify all my small win in my life. Universe > Life.
Absolutely if your plan is to to be a sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon. Just be the very best sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon you can be!
Humans are not machines to be ON , made "right" in click of a button. Make space for incremental growth . For that recognizing and building upon small wins is important, is what the video says. Even one hour devoid these habits in a week is a win if want to change. All the best.
Know your true enemy, not yourself, not others thought, not the world and not life itself but everything that goes wrong and can be right. To give an example I am a pacifist, I hate crowd, the air that I breath, the food that I eat, the thoughts of others and myself. Then it was a joke, life is meaningless I don't know the answer too.
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What you'll do :
- Notice the small win
- Labeling your thoughts
- Self-reflect your narrative about the world
What i took from it was you need to write out your story or clarify it before looking for positives because that’s a seperate thinking hat
Thank u
This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality.
This helps me realize why people's positive comments about me haven’t really had an effect on my negative self perception. I couldn't internalize what they said because it didn’t fit the box i was in. Thanks for this
Yes. Same.
I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to.
All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears.
I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I’ve been taking a deep breath and just saying to myself “whatever”. Somehow the word helps me let go. I guess I could be invalidating my own emotions and I should notice them to some degree, but at least it helps prevent things building up.
I don't understand the concept of naming the thoughts what does it mean
@@ShivangiMishra-g2s You basically give it a category. You are naming the category. For example "thought that I'm not doing enough". Then when a thought like that comes up, you can say (and write it down if you are journaling) as " I had a "thought that I'm not doing enough" ". And you will easier recognize when that sort of thought is coming up, and will be able to easier deal with it.
Thank you! I feel like crying because there's hope for change. I'm on a dirt road looking forward to paving it.
Thank you so much to all the neuroscientists, psychologists, philosophers, mental health professionals, and other lovely humans who have done what they can to spread better ideas for us all.
I spent 23 years suicidal and so depressed it led to a nightmare. But now thanks to amazing people and ideas I'm happier than I ever would have expected and would live for millions of years with the new mindful software ❤
From a person who has experienced trauma and deep rooted self hate all her life and is now mastering the rewiring of her brain trust me: this ability WILL change your life. She explained something that I’ve dealt with for years and that is so complex in such a simple and well spoken way. bravo!!
Heal well, Luana 🤍
The tone she speaks with has so much compassion and empathy. I can't find a better word to describe it than "beautiful".
The way she smiled at the end when she said that the narratives can change brings so much hope. Thank you for this!
Same 😊
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers.
Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
No other way mate 😅
@LordBrittish Courteous drivers are rare these days, but when I cross paths with one , I feel a subtle sense of hope for my fellow man.
Wow
Videos like this are what make living better
Exactly
Information like this saved my life ❤
Thank you.
I really needed to hear these words today.
I can change, my pre-programming is not my narrative, I can and will determine who I am and what my story is.
Thank you so much again, this really saved me from my blackhole suicide ideation spiral.
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like
"I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]"
for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer.
Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want.
Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
"There is no scientific study more vital to man than the study of his own brain. Our entire view of the universe depends on it." ~ Francis Crick
I'd add not just the brain but all neurons in the body - there's nothing special in the brain other than a higher abundance of neurons. Some of our organs, like the heart, have 400, 000 while some fruit flies have entire brains of only ~450, ~5800, and so on. Our stress also gets trapped in our gut, our heart, our muscles, etc.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Steve_porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is Steve_porassss
Hell yeah! This is what I'm all about, both in my personal life and in my professional life as a certified Soul-based Coach!
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
I discovered this through a spiritual breakthrough when I was in a meditative state. It has changed my life, it is awesome to see that neuroscience backs up my conclusions! ❤
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
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That makes a lot of sense. Exploring those layers of identity can open up new perspectives, especially when you’re already in a place of self-reflection.
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most).
Hopes it help !
Narrative and Negative bias... what a perfect way to reflect a human mind. But confirmation bias can be debatable. A highly recommended video. Thank you
To zacznijmy od behavioryzmu i bliskosci. Tak ludzie tworza wiez miedzy soba. To podstawa. Czlowieczenstwo to dawanie czegos od siebie i nie oczekiwanie niczego w zamian. Dajesz komus cos, to moze byc cos materialnego a moze byc slowo uznamia lub po prostu cos co sprawi ze jego zycie bedzie lepsze, jego swiat stanoe sie dla niego lepszy. Nie oczekujesz ze sie odwdzieczy, po prostu robisz to by byc czlowiekiem. Bo to jest kwintesencja milosci, dobra, czlowoeczenstwa ale nie tylko, to naturalny instynkt ktory maja tez zwierzeta, one tez czuja, nie maja tak rozbudowanych emocji jak czlowiek i swiadomosci ale czuja milosc, strach, bol, strate, przyjemnosc i przywiazanie.
Jesli chcesz zrozumiec jak to jest byc czlowiekiem musisz przelamac bariery logiki i zrobic to chocby z logiki tego ze chcesz sie tego nauczyc.
Zrob teraz dobry uczynek komus, pomoz komus tak by ktos inny z tego powodu nie ucierpial ale tylko dlatego ze mozesz.
Mozesz pomoc komus kto wie ze to ty pomagasz i moze byc tak ze dzieki temu ta osoba bedzie ci wdzieczna, bedzie cie bronic kiedys gdy przyjdzie okazja, bedzie ci pomagac gdy bedzie mogla i bedzie cie cenic, bedziesz dla tej osoby wartosciowy bo bedzie czula ze jestes jak czlowiek, po prostu bedzie widziala w tobie dobro. Nie oczekuj ze yo sie stanie, po prostu przyjmij ze moze tak byc ale jesli nie to po prostu zrobisz dobry uczynek. Czemu? Bo mozesz!
Today Ive written this and this video came up
I recently learned the word “remedial,” and I constantly strive to improve my life in that sense. For me, it’s about shifting my perspective. If I can change the way I view things, I believe I can reach a different level of understanding and existence. I often think of my mind as a box that I’m confined within. Sometimes it scares me to realize that I might hold false beliefs or that I’ve misunderstood aspects of life. It’s a daunting task to break free from established ways of thinking and see things from a completely new angle.
However, there’s a downside to this approach-life doesn’t always allow for too much skepticism. It can hit you hard when you start questioning everything, making it difficult to simply accept things as they are. While I haven’t yet fully grasped the depth of this, I’m committed to exploring and understanding it.
the natural human tendency to have a negativity bias is based on survival. we tend to forget positive and neutral things very easily because they aren't dangerous and pose no threat to us, and so why should we remember them? versus negative things like larger predators and dangerous places, these are things that we need to remember to keep ourselves safe. unfortunately yes our thoughts are very powerful and this negativity bias is very strong and tend to transfer to other areas of life. i've found it's easier to manage negativity when we know where it comes from or why we might need it, and we can prevent it from spilling into other areas of life where we should keep things more positive
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for creating such valuable content!
Started off thinking this was another video that would only cover the basics. I was impressed with the breadth of information provided.
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
That's an interesting thought. I'll make sure to add it to my program
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
"Whoever u r, if u have a brain. It can change"... Broke me
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
That’s what I do as well. Do check it out vipassana meditation
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I think I agree with you - if one meditates with expectations, that causes tensions - and everyone has some expectations when meditating, in some ways... it takes years of practice to even get aware of them and start letting them be.
Also talking about pain - I can only speak for myself, just had nose surgery and that was my experience with pain. It was tightly bound to anxiety, for me, in that situation.
Can imagine that its completely different for fibromyalgia patients. I'm still sure that the possibility of it helping there exists. Even if its not realistic or a form of playing a game in "super hard mode". All the best for anyone affected!
I do not matter when every one around me does not support who I am.
I changed my thoughts to drop fighting against everyone to accept me. I taught myself I am not accepted and will never be accepted.
Lovely video. Thank you so much for mentioning both neurotypicals and neurodivergents. It means so much to have the full range of humanity included and considered.
Absolutely love this! Not just research and info about how our brains work but actionable steps to help ourselves. ❤🧠
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations.
00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception.
01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets
02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases
03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world.
04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain
04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions
05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
How our beliefs about ourselves can keep us stuck in a perception box and limit ourselves. "Like I am not good enough", " I just a new one". Therefore, we need to get out of the narratities that we have reinforced if it's no longer serving us. We can change our thoughts and expand our perception of ourselves. Break free from negative patterns and create lasting change.
Her smile alone can change someone else. I can only imagine het expertly thought out and educated seed-planting casual questions.
When I had worst anxiety, observing my thoughts were really my breakthrough, and understanding I can change my narrative if I wanted to really nice vid
Her English is beautiful! Amazing video! Thanks a lot.
Replaced her with kamala Harris if...😂😂😂😂
THIS VIDEO IS POWERFUL!!!
IM GONNA KEEP COMING BACK HERE WHEN I FEEL SOME TYPA WAY!!!
This vedio reached me at the right time. Time to work on myself.
This felt so much like therapy, much enjoyed!
Wow, thank you so much for this video!! Love the way you explained the content in an understandable way!! ❤😊
Love the image of dirt road changing into high way!
Either I'm too dumb for these, or people that come on here say a lot but mean so little.
Basically in order to change you have to change the way you see yourself, doing this regularly through lived experiences will help cultivate the change you want to see in yourself. Therefore giving yourself back acceptance, love and control. My pov
Or a third or fourth possibility: what she's saying doesn't relate to you so its harder to make sense of. She's not explaining it in a way that is clear to you but if you sat down and wrote it in your own words you'd gain a greater understanding.
Keep trying, it's worth knowing.
My goodness, my sister and I are also Samantha and Martha. My sister was the "athletic" one and I was the "academic" one. Real life knocked us both down
I overanalyse everything i do and feel.I am very well aware of tge biases and weaknesses i have.
Such a relief knowing that You can change.
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Absolutely loved this video. Thank you Big Think.
Thank you very much for sharing this information with us.
Amazing video, clearly an incredibly intelligent person. Added her book to my list.
LOVE her & her book Rewired is 10/10 !!
A lot of contents in a short video. Love it!
Wonderful discussion. Interested in a larger scale and depth - I'll be fitting her book into my schedule as soon as possible
00:26 Wait, what?! The narrative we've lived our entire lives by might not even be our own? 😱 Imagine the power of reshaping who we are just by rewiring our thoughts! This is mind-blowing! I need to know more about this Perception Box-how do we break free from it?
I think by identifying the story you are telling yourself.
Meditation and journaling help because they make you observe your thoughts, especially your ANTs (automatic negative thoughts). You cannot change a thought that you’re not aware that you’re having. So once you are aware of your thoughts, you can choose to let them go, as if you were watching a car driving away; you can choose to challenge your thoughts, questioning if they’re true; and you can choose new ways to think about things. Best of luck in your self-discovery journey. ❤
Narratives we create, through often overlooked, shape our reality to a significant extent.
this finally made it really click in my brain how helpful consciously practicing gratitude can be
judgmentcallpodcast covers this. Neuroscientist's guide to change wiring.
If you read the book called "The 23 Former Doctor Truths" you would know exactly what is she talking about here.
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This lacks empirical evidence and the personality cards you're dealt with demolishes whatever this is. People who are high in openness tend to be more creative for example. This prioritizes subjective interpretation over objective reality.
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
There's nothing inherently wrong, or "bad", with any of those things. It becomes an issue when it's unbalanced and affects your daily existence.
Depends where you want to go friend
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
Honestly, I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed by the flood of information out there, but Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity by Karl K. Dondaneau changed that for me. It’s like everything clicked-this book blends quantum mechanics, psychology, and mathematics in a way that actually makes sense of the chaos we’re all swimming in. It’s already starting to shift how I see reality, giving me a framework to understand things on a deeper level. If you’re craving something meaningful that cuts through the noise, this might be the book that does it. I can’t recommend it enough. It's on Amazon….
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I will look into this book! thank you for your suggestion. :)
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Love you nicola ❤ thanks for saving my life ❤
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Thank you❤
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea,
People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
I'm going to read your book. So relevant in this phase of my life. Special stuff young lady. You're tuned into a higher channel. Oh, add Michael Pollan - How to Change Your Mind to all the listeners.
You can start with understanding there is no "your" brain. "your" is a thought.
Thank you for this video, i needed this motivation👍
This isn't a simple matter of thinking positively and having everything fall into place through repetition. Neurons and perception don't work by just "believing and changing" - there are too many variables that need to align before you can excel or even succeed at an average level.
Changing your thoughts doesn't guarantee a positive outcome. What this neuroscientist should have emphasized is that the strategies she mentioned-imitation, conditioning, and reinforcement-work best for tasks that can be learned through repetition.
For example, if someone asks you to disassemble an air conditioner or cook a Beef Wellington meal, it might seem hard at first. But if someone shows you how and has you practice it 50 to 100 times, it will eventually become second nature. Not because "the brain can change," but because it's a case of "monkey see, monkey do"-imitating, emulating, and simulating.
Now, take that same person and teach them chess for 10 years, put them through Navy SEAL training (BUD/S), enroll them in a rigorous academic program to become a theoretical physicist, or ask them to lose 70 pounds. There's a 99% chance they won't succeed because our abilities and achievements are heavily influenced by our DNA, genetic makeup, and cognitive predispositions. That's why athletes like Cristiano Ronaldo, Messi, Jon Jones, and Tom Brady are extraordinary,thats why physicists like Stephen Hawking, Edward Witten, Roger Penrose, Frank Wilczek, Kip Thorne are exceptional-not just because they thought positively or worked hard, but because they are part of a small group of gifted individuals who found what they excel in or were guided to the right path and they pushed hard on top of their dna and cognitive predispositions.
These neuroscientists today often oversimplify things for the sake of gaining attention,views,click or god knows what. They need to be more realistic and convey their ideas in a way that resonates with and to the average person.
Agree, hard work and positive only get you through day to day task. It doesn't guarantee that you could archive anything high quality or exceptional
Thank you 😊
I'm loving this comment section. So many inspiring journeys. I hope everyone here can feel proud of their wins and how far we have all come thus far.
If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - find unveiling your hidden potential by bruce thornwood, then come back and thank me
Dear, I am not in a box but by circumstances agendas & many other means ppls involved defending their interest while sapping mine.
I have never done " negative" self talk. Never seen myself unworthy. Of whatever. Only have seeked things differently than most.
Which is too long to explain.
The economic political & social local level having driven alot of the ppls above mentioned against small incentives at what they did to sap my best interest of which I am the warrant of not anybody else.
I am independent thus rely very little on others. & Those that have put me in boxes had first visceral dislike then want to clear the sight of the wrongs they had done & place themselves in a warm light. After it is true advancing a number of agendas in between.
At the scale of what things were I should have seeked justice but even their traces " cleverly" they have mostly erased. & The toll on me would have augmented not diminished.
I do not have victim mentality because of it but not toxic positivity nor saying you are not the victim will not cut it.
I have with what to structure the rest of my life. To not be defined by that harm & hurt. But it was never mine to.
A very important topic, especially in these truly terrifying days.
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
Beautiful Nicole. My mood and anxiety was lifted when I became aware of small wins 🏆
A technique to work on changing a (disfunctional) limbic system is DNRS. Just a tip :)
What an impact it had on me !
Thank you
Well focus on small wins is easy said, but when those things keep seeming less important than the big bad things, it doesnt help to just know about beiing stuck in a bias. THE FEELING STAYS! :(
A useful therapy for working with those thoughts and automatic thoughts is internal family systems therapy
05:58 "If you have a brain, it an change" 😂😂
this is a great topic, can you please bring in more in-depth knowledge on it
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he
Thank you! Needed to hear this
2:07 Same same!!!! Same thing happened with me also and I don't know anymore,
Thank you
Amazing ❤
Great interview. Music and sound effects in the background are distracting from the message
Broken chains
I remember the warden and the lock and the keys
I remember the chains
I’ll give you my time if you feed me
I’ll give you my soul if you give me hope
And I’ll forgo friends and family
While you make merry with yours
And I will not sleep
And I will not laugh
And I will not ask when and why
For I know my place
These chains I have broken
I’m free now, but I remember
I remember your hold
And your rules and your ways and your authority
And I remember how I bowed obediently
But now I’m free
The keys are mine and the chains broken
Am I then to become a prisoner of my own freedom
As this you once foretold
I remember the warden and the lock and the keys
So today I will sing and not be quiet
So today I will dance and be silly
I will laugh with friends
Share tears of joy and pain with the ones I love
And if one day I should forget
If I forget the warden and the lock and the keys
I pray I never forget my chains
My freedom was born of these broken chains
The universe negates all my small wins with one loss every day.
One loss to add to all my past losses cumulated so big they nullify all my small win in my life.
Universe > Life.
My perception box is constructed from masturbation, drug abuse, playing video games and procrastination. Am I on good way?
Absolutely if your plan is to to be a sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon. Just be the very best sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon you can be!
Humans are not machines to be ON , made "right" in click of a button. Make space for incremental growth . For that recognizing and building upon small wins is important, is what the video says. Even one hour devoid these habits in a week is a win if want to change. All the best.
as long as you don't get radicalized on the internet to be a hateful psycho, you're good in my book
Know your true enemy, not yourself, not others thought, not the world and not life itself but everything that goes wrong and can be right. To give an example I am a pacifist, I hate crowd, the air that I breath, the food that I eat, the thoughts of others and myself. Then it was a joke, life is meaningless I don't know the answer too.
As long as you believe that in the areas you are an expert in you are the best you can be haha
Thank you for posting this video.
Thanks!
complex to hear and understand but good to watch
Yes, pigeon-holing can be so frustrating.
Thank you!
Ayye NicoleNeuroscience for the win !
Thanks
I really enjoyed this one.