It will be mentioned that his father, who is in the video with him, was dying of kidney disease at the filming, as he had donated one earlier in life and the one left was failing. James sang this in one take, and his dad had not heard it yet. He didn't want any auto tune added, so what you hear is from the video (with some harmonies added at one point) A long-distance relative saw the video and reached out and was a match for donating his kidney, so his father is doing better. The whole song is also about the turning of the tables of a child and a parent later at the end of life. Parents put out their children's clothes, read stories, leave a light on for you when you stay out late, and check for monsters in your room when you are small. But now it's his turn to do those things for his dad now. When they were both in the British Army, that is what they would say to each other when leaving for combat, that "they are just 2 grown men saying goodbye". Everyone at the filming was crying, but the father said, "I'm not dead yet!"
Both James and his dad served in the British Military - James was an Officer in the Life Guards and served with NATO in Kosovo in 1999 amd his father had been a Colonel (helicopter pilot) The line in the song 'i'm not you son, you're not my father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye' was how they said their farewells before being deployed. A great reaction. Thank you x
This song kills me. My husband and I had 5 sons and 1 daughter. One son died at birth. He was an amazing dad, and yes, our one daughter was the princess. My husband died suddenly when our children were ages 6 to 23, joining our son, his namesake, in heaven. I was widowed at only 41 yrs old. Just 4 weeks after his sudden death, my own mother, who was just 61, was diagnosed with terminal lung and brain cancer. I cared for her and watched her die while in complete shock and grief, trying to get the kids through grieving their dad. I was a mess. Those months were a blur of unbearable pain. Our 23 yr old son moved back home to try to help me, and I see him teaching his younger brothers all the things their dad got to teach him growing up because he got him until young adulthood.
My dad was present but his idea of interaction with me was to tell me how everything I did was wrong or to get him and his buddies another beer. He is 83 now and life has slowed him down a lot and last fall as i was mowing his yard he came out to chew my ass out like I was 10 years old , I am 60. I told him how I really felt for the first time in my life. I felt horrible after but now we are closer than we have ever been
My father died this past june and we hadnt spoke in 16 years. I found out through alternative means. He never stayed in my life, but somewhere inside me i wonder if i was somewhere in his last thoughts, i always longed for him to love me but it just never happened, he left me with anger and a handful of memories, it must be so wonderful to have a father you truly love as much as james blunt loves his dad. 😢😢😢
No...😢I'm not crying. This one is tough. I can never watch it without tears. While I don't have a relationship with my father my papa was my dad. He passed away last month from a fall he took outside. I never got a chance to say goodbye. I'm just thankful and blessed I had him in my life. I hope you can find a way to have peace with your son and your father Ray. Peace and love always until there is no more!😭❤ (I will always love you Papa.)
Ray, i have watched alot of reactions and discussion about this song, thought your view of the song and the lyrics were bang on, you did a great job with it and relating to life in general. What an amazing song by James, surprising how deep he goes and how he touches so many people with the song. Great job with the analysis of it.
This song gets to me every time i lost my mom in 2004 after an argument she passed away the next day the last thing she heard come out of my mouth was F off it still haunt's me. Than my dad passed 2017 after a 2 year fight with cancer. I've never been able to get through this whole song without crying
When I had nightmares as a child, my Dad would come in my room and chase the monsters away so I could go back to sleep. I did the same for my children and they do the same for theirs. I could control my emotions until James sang those words.
It's crazy.. growing up, my mom was someone I looked up to.. until I got hurt and actually had to depend on her.. took a long time to realize that the best lessons I learned from her came after I faced the fact that the role model mother was a costume worn only as long as I performed.. Wanting better for my kids, I've tried to teach them to live a life they love even if people laugh.. let them lol they'll thank you for the giggle if they ever grow up.. Let yourself learn from every lesson life lays before you bc there's no better way to honestly get to know not only yourself but those around you for who you truly are as people, as friend for your strengths and weaknesses.. You're only weakened by your weaknesses when you won't face them or wear them as disguises you hide behind ... bc excuses make for faulty armor ... the face you see in the mirror will still be you. When trying anything new, remember that the first thing you learn on the ice is how to fall. Being scared to fall leaves you leaning leary of it happening.. let it lol get it outta the way so you gain the insight needed to prevent it happening again or at the very least soften the landing so you can get back up. Last but not least be smart about stupid ish bc life has no sympathy for a lack of common sense and will laugh at you if you let your arrogance leave you ignorant. Brilliant people do stupid things all the time, but only the smart ones get to do more stupid ish .. making memories that make it all worthwhile... Much love and mad respect #Ray ❤️❤️
Listen to I am togi on America's got talent singing this song ... I cried because is similar to what I went through but it was my mother ... She was both parents to me so when I lost her I lost both parents... Thank you for this reaction brother 🇲🇽
James served in the Bosnian war and his father is a veteran as well. James got the line about "just two grown men saying goodby" from his father's goodby, when he left to go to Bosnia.
awsome reaction as usual ray. had you not seen it before ? a funny one is him on the voice germany. during covid he actually is a contestant, he just wanted to get out and sing. its brilliant.
Every father and every son is playing a role. The role of father or the role of son. You act differently around your child than you do your friends. I love that james is saying its the end and the time is up so we can lose the roles and just ve ourselves. For the first time in their lives they are meeting not as father and son but just as they are, two grown men. Men who have made mistakes.
i have seen the difference between how my dad treated me and my brother. i got away with murder, while my brother joined the army to get some relief from my dad's scrutiny of his every move. as adults, we now know why, but we can no longer tell him we understand.❤❤❤❤
The monsters James is speaking of are metaphorical. When a person is a child they are afraid that a monster is hiding underneath their bed or in their closet. Now that the roles are reversed and James is taking care of his father, and tucking him in at night he’s saying don’t be afraid it’s my turn to chase the monsters away
As a mother of a 19 year old son who's father shouldn't be breathing I've always instilled in my son and daughter we have no secrets you come to me about anything and everything then you get the facts the truth not false information no topic is off the table and he does exactly that sometimes you have to sit listen no shouting just talking I've learnt shouting at then just makes em walk out the door
Ray! Had you let that video run for a further 5 seconds, then you would have seen something even more emotional ❤.Ray,once again you climaxed and pulled out to early!❤
I interpreted him singing, “I’m not your son. You’re not my father. We’re just two grown men saying goodbye.” as a son saying he can’t deal with the fact that his Dad is dying.
I remember telling my friends when they were about to become dads because I had my child long before they did that being a dad is the hardest thing in the world I’ve ever done, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world
I don’t have the most flawless relationship with my father. In certain ways we can be very alike, but there are other things that we clash big on. I have to be honest in that I know my personality is more like my mother’s. I hope that he and I can work to smooth things over more in the years to come.
I’m sure you’re gonna hear this 1 million times but you have to hear the Iam Tongi version. he looks like that guy who passed away the Hawaiian guy who played the ukulele. Anyway, he sang this at his audition last year at American Idol and end of winning the whole thing and I’m pretty sure it was because of this song I know it was because of this song. I love James Blunt, but iam 0:08 is better on this song.! James story is crazy I don’t know exactly how it goes but when he wrote goodbye my lover, the sun was so huge and never forget the other song he did off that album, but that was probably almost 20 years ago between Albums. He was like a special forces in the British military never actually even heard people say that he help to stop World War III basically from happening.. you have to google him and read about him he’s a fascinating dude but he does have sad eyes or some people call it 100 yards there for a sniper. But this song kills me my father and myself. I’ve been tired could be my entire life and he’s been sick for several years and the end is very near, first time I heard this I didn’t even make it halfway before I was hysterical crying when that comes, I know I’m gonna lose part of myself forever. Fortunately, for James, his dad was able to get the transplant he needed. Apparently a great uncle had the same blood type. It was either a kidney I believe and he was a day or two from passing. Also, when he says, take the monsters away when your little kid just monsters in the closet or under the bed announces dad‘s last time in the bed so just worry about yourself. Don’t worry about the monsters I’ll take care of them.. yes, that is his dad and he did almost die but he is still alive at this moment and doing well. You have to watch the one I told you about from American Idol. His dad just died like six months before his audition and he showed a clip. There’s so many clips of him and his dad on TH-cam with him, singing his dad doing back up vocals. It’s amazing. This one is my favorite. He’s on the left of his dad’s all the way to the right. This song is dope too nobody ever heard of it called Clay pigeon. th-cam.com/video/yNQXWmVQe4w/w-d-xo.htmlsi=yFioZyJTj2KBwQsD
Dude, what I've found works with my son when he messes up, because like yours, he knows and he knows that I know that he knows better. Instead of reacting in anger, I wait. I take him out to eat at a local diner, and I ask him questions. We're in a setting where we can't lose our tempers without looking awful, so I hear him out. If punishment has to happen, which is usually taking away video games, I explain to him why I have to do that. And he's pretty receptive most of the time. Open dialog goes a long way. Not trying to unsolicit advice to you, since you talked about it publicly. Just my two cents. You seem like a great Dad though, just for the fact that you are thinking about this stuff.
Ayy nice vid man, I recently found an up and coming hip hop group named CLAN SPRM they just released a music video would love to see you react to it! Keep up the good work !
I don’t know if women feel the same way about protection as men do but my wife let my kids get by with murder. They’re grown now, but I still protect them like they so tiny it’s ridiculous and I don’t understand why people and parents don’t try to guide their kids.
I lost my partner of 28 yrs passed will we watched a movie mo illness nothing. Tmoro is NOT GUARANTEED for anyone Hold them so tight xx Love peace n respect xxx
Uncle Ray, please, if you can in anyway, keep trying to patch things up with your father. I should have and I didn’t. I will never forgive myself for it. All I can do now is ask God to forgive me. Much love my friend.
Who are you talking to? 😮 Its so weird listening and watching you talk to an invisible person?? Gender shouldn't factor in how you treat, talk, or behave towards your children. Do get yourself in~check before projecting your crap on them. Yes, I'm a parent and older than you.
U can treat a boy like you treat a girl they both go through different problems in life so u have to take care it differently, i have a boy and a girl my daughter and son are doing just fine with the way i raised them they are not on drugs , putaide acting crazy or nothing they are in school working and one i. College so i think ill be ok
It will be mentioned that his father, who is in the video with him, was dying of kidney disease at the filming, as he had donated one earlier in life and the one left was failing. James sang this in one take, and his dad had not heard it yet. He didn't want any auto tune added, so what you hear is from the video (with some harmonies added at one point)
A long-distance relative saw the video and reached out and was a match for donating his kidney, so his father is doing better.
The whole song is also about the turning of the tables of a child and a parent later at the end of life.
Parents put out their children's clothes, read stories, leave a light on for you when you stay out late, and check for monsters in your room when you are small. But now it's his turn to do those things for his dad now.
When they were both in the British Army, that is what they would say to each other when leaving for combat, that "they are just 2 grown men saying goodbye".
Everyone at the filming was crying, but the father said, "I'm not dead yet!"
Brilliantly put
This song.. I grew without a father.. so I hear it.
" you're not my mom, I'm not not your daughter" .. I miss my mother so much. 😢
His dad got a kidney donated and he is doing great!
This was done in 1 take.. he wanted realness in the room. His dad got his surgery in 2020.. both fought in the Queens military.
Hero upon hero.
Both James and his dad served in the British Military - James was an Officer in the Life Guards and served with NATO in Kosovo in 1999 amd his father had been a Colonel (helicopter pilot) The line in the song 'i'm not you son, you're not my father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye' was how they said their farewells before being deployed.
A great reaction. Thank you x
This song kills me. My husband and I had 5 sons and 1 daughter. One son died at birth. He was an amazing dad, and yes, our one daughter was the princess. My husband died suddenly when our children were ages 6 to 23, joining our son, his namesake, in heaven. I was widowed at only 41 yrs old. Just 4 weeks after his sudden death, my own mother, who was just 61, was diagnosed with terminal lung and brain cancer. I cared for her and watched her die while in complete shock and grief, trying to get the kids through grieving their dad. I was a mess. Those months were a blur of unbearable pain. Our 23 yr old son moved back home to try to help me, and I see him teaching his younger brothers all the things their dad got to teach him growing up because he got him until young adulthood.
that’s beautiful that your husband lives on in your children. condolences from a stranger.
❤ bless you sister❤ 😢
I apologized to my dad for my wrongs because I lost that chance to do with my mom and I didn't want to have that same regret with my dad.
It's a hard hitter this one! POSITIVE communication with your kids is SO IMPORTANT
My dad was present but his idea of interaction with me was to tell me how everything I did was wrong or to get him and his buddies another beer. He is 83 now and life has slowed him down a lot and last fall as i was mowing his yard he came out to chew my ass out like I was 10 years old , I am 60. I told him how I really felt for the first time in my life. I felt horrible after but now we are closer than we have ever been
My father died this past june and we hadnt spoke in 16 years. I found out through alternative means. He never stayed in my life, but somewhere inside me i wonder if i was somewhere in his last thoughts, i always longed for him to love me but it just never happened, he left me with anger and a handful of memories, it must be so wonderful to have a father you truly love as much as james blunt loves his dad. 😢😢😢
My dad weren’t around much when it mattered… I got a 3 year old who is my world so it hits different now
שיר מהמם מאוד מרגש.עוצמתי❤❤אהבתי את התגובה שלך🫶🫶🫶🫶
Ignore all the haters in the comments. Ray, i love your reactions. You're funny, caring, and very thoughtful. It helps me connect to you
Agreed 💯 There are some rude people in the comments today 😒
Real recognizes Real
Meaning I agree with you. His comments are heart felt and that is what is needed for this song
Love you Ray. This is one of them ones that doesn't require words to appreciate. Just soak it in.
Our babies will always be babies, no matter their age. We don’t see them where they are, we see them progressively, then to now.
No...😢I'm not crying.
This one is tough. I can never watch it without tears.
While I don't have a relationship with my father my papa was my dad. He passed away last month from a fall he took outside. I never got a chance to say goodbye.
I'm just thankful and blessed I had him in my life.
I hope you can find a way to have peace with your son and your father Ray.
Peace and love always until there is no more!😭❤
(I will always love you Papa.)
Ray, i have watched alot of reactions and discussion about this song, thought your view of the song and the lyrics were bang on, you did a great job with it and relating to life in general. What an amazing song by James, surprising how deep he goes and how he touches so many people with the song. Great job with the analysis of it.
This is a true video of him and his father, who was dying. He did this song in one take.
This song gets to me every time i lost my mom in 2004 after an argument she passed away the next day the last thing she heard come out of my mouth was F off it still haunt's me. Than my dad passed 2017 after a 2 year fight with cancer. I've never been able to get through this whole song without crying
When I had nightmares as a child, my Dad would come in my room and chase the monsters away so I could go back to sleep. I did the same for my children and they do the same for theirs. I could control my emotions until James sang those words.
...you read into the song early...great for you! Smart man! Love ya!
Oh my you listening to this impactful song but just a tearjerker
❤My favorite James Blunt song
I appreciated your honesty and comments. And I'm not gonna lie the NY accent makes me feel like I'm home. I miss NYC bluntness
It's crazy.. growing up, my mom was someone I looked up to.. until I got hurt and actually had to depend on her.. took a long time to realize that the best lessons I learned from her came after I faced the fact that the role model mother was a costume worn only as long as I performed..
Wanting better for my kids, I've tried to teach them to live a life they love even if people laugh.. let them lol they'll thank you for the giggle if they ever grow up..
Let yourself learn from every lesson life lays before you bc there's no better way to honestly get to know not only yourself but those around you for who you truly are as people, as friend for your strengths and weaknesses..
You're only weakened by your weaknesses when you won't face them or wear them as disguises you hide behind ... bc excuses make for faulty armor ... the face you see in the mirror will still be you.
When trying anything new, remember that the first thing you learn on the ice is how to fall. Being scared to fall leaves you leaning leary of it happening.. let it lol get it outta the way so you gain the insight needed to prevent it happening again or at the very least soften the landing so you can get back up.
Last but not least be smart about stupid ish bc life has no sympathy for a lack of common sense and will laugh at you if you let your arrogance leave you ignorant. Brilliant people do stupid things all the time, but only the smart ones get to do more stupid ish .. making memories that make it all worthwhile...
Much love and mad respect #Ray ❤️❤️
This gets into my feelings 😢😢
Listen to I am togi on America's got talent singing this song ... I cried because is similar to what I went through but it was my mother ... She was both parents to me so when I lost her I lost both parents... Thank you for this reaction brother 🇲🇽
This song always makes me cry
This one hits every time I listen to it. 😢❤
James served in the Bosnian war and his father is a veteran as well. James got the line about "just two grown men saying goodby" from his father's goodby, when he left to go to Bosnia.
Beautiful Music by James Blunt. Just Beautiful. He always bring such emotion to his songs/videos.
Wwwooooo you switched the place where the vid is shown, him and lewis capaldy are masters of the tissue moments😢......❤
awsome reaction as usual ray. had you not seen it before ? a funny one is him on the voice germany. during covid he actually is a contestant, he just wanted to get out and sing. its brilliant.
Every father and every son is playing a role. The role of father or the role of son. You act differently around your child than you do your friends. I love that james is saying its the end and the time is up so we can lose the roles and just ve ourselves. For the first time in their lives they are meeting not as father and son but just as they are, two grown men. Men who have made mistakes.
i have seen the difference between how my dad treated me and my brother. i got away with murder, while my brother joined the army to get some relief from my dad's scrutiny of his every move. as adults, we now know why, but we can no longer tell him we understand.❤❤❤❤
Lost daddy to vascular dementia on my mum's 80th bday in January. He's my hero. No man will hold a candle to my daddy.xx
JAMES BLUNT- THE GIRL THAT NEVER WAS, REACT TO THAT, SALUDOS DESDE ARGENTINA, KEEP GOING LIKE THIS
The monsters James is speaking of are metaphorical. When a person is a child they are afraid that a monster is hiding underneath their bed or in their closet. Now that the roles are reversed and James is taking care of his father, and tucking him in at night he’s saying don’t be afraid it’s my turn to chase the monsters away
As a mother of a 19 year old son who's father shouldn't be breathing I've always instilled in my son and daughter we have no secrets you come to me about anything and everything then you get the facts the truth not false information no topic is off the table and he does exactly that sometimes you have to sit listen no shouting just talking I've learnt shouting at then just makes em walk out the door
Ray! Had you let that video run for a further 5 seconds, then you would have seen something even more emotional ❤.Ray,once again you climaxed and pulled out to early!❤
Oh doll your wife is a wise and wonderful woman. Y'all are doing great.
I interpreted him singing, “I’m not your son. You’re not my father. We’re just two grown men saying goodbye.” as a son saying he can’t deal with the fact that his Dad is dying.
Being a parent is a crazy thing... but I'd strap on a straight jacket before I ever gave it up...
I remember telling my friends when they were about to become dads because I had my child long before they did that being a dad is the hardest thing in the world I’ve ever done, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world
We love JB here in the U.K. too.
I don’t have the most flawless relationship with my father. In certain ways we can be very alike, but there are other things that we clash big on. I have to be honest in that I know my personality is more like my mother’s. I hope that he and I can work to smooth things over more in the years to come.
& as someone who just lost their dad 3 months ago.. i feeel this.
Lost my dad 25 years ago... still missing him.
❤❤❤❤
Father and Son by Cat Stevens... you need to listen to this, let your son find his own way, it’s hard as a parent to pass on wisdom
I’m sure you’re gonna hear this 1 million times but you have to hear the Iam Tongi version. he looks like that guy who passed away the Hawaiian guy who played the ukulele. Anyway, he sang this at his audition last year at American Idol and end of winning the whole thing and I’m pretty sure it was because of this song I know it was because of this song. I love James Blunt, but iam 0:08 is better on this song.! James story is crazy I don’t know exactly how it goes but when he wrote goodbye my lover, the sun was so huge and never forget the other song he did off that album, but that was probably almost 20 years ago between Albums. He was like a special forces in the British military never actually even heard people say that he help to stop World War III basically from happening.. you have to google him and read about him he’s a fascinating dude but he does have sad eyes or some people call it 100 yards there for a sniper. But this song kills me my father and myself. I’ve been tired could be my entire life and he’s been sick for several years and the end is very near, first time I heard this I didn’t even make it halfway before I was hysterical crying when that comes, I know I’m gonna lose part of myself forever. Fortunately, for James, his dad was able to get the transplant he needed. Apparently a great uncle had the same blood type. It was either a kidney I believe and he was a day or two from passing. Also, when he says, take the monsters away when your little kid just monsters in the closet or under the bed announces dad‘s last time in the bed so just worry about yourself. Don’t worry about the monsters I’ll take care of them.. yes, that is his dad and he did almost die but he is still alive at this moment and doing well. You have to watch the one I told you about from American Idol. His dad just died like six months before his audition and he showed a clip. There’s so many clips of him and his dad on TH-cam with him, singing his dad doing back up vocals. It’s amazing. This one is my favorite. He’s on the left of his dad’s all the way to the right. This song is dope too nobody ever heard of it called Clay pigeon. th-cam.com/video/yNQXWmVQe4w/w-d-xo.htmlsi=yFioZyJTj2KBwQsD
Dude, what I've found works with my son when he messes up, because like yours, he knows and he knows that I know that he knows better. Instead of reacting in anger, I wait. I take him out to eat at a local diner, and I ask him questions. We're in a setting where we can't lose our tempers without looking awful, so I hear him out. If punishment has to happen, which is usually taking away video games, I explain to him why I have to do that. And he's pretty receptive most of the time. Open dialog goes a long way.
Not trying to unsolicit advice to you, since you talked about it publicly. Just my two cents. You seem like a great Dad though, just for the fact that you are thinking about this stuff.
❤
Ayy nice vid man, I recently found an up and coming hip hop group named CLAN SPRM they just released a music video would love to see you react to it! Keep up the good work !
Men at times have to be tough in order to show affection/love. So we pretend we are in a different situation.
If you like this try Goodbye My Lover by James Blunt
I don’t know if women feel the same way about protection as men do but my wife let my kids get by with murder. They’re grown now, but I still protect them like they so tiny it’s ridiculous and I don’t understand why people and parents don’t try to guide their kids.
I lost my partner of 28 yrs passed will we watched a movie mo illness nothing. Tmoro is NOT GUARANTEED for anyone Hold them so tight xx Love peace n respect xxx
I'm sorry for your loss
PLEASE react to charice pempengco and celine dion duet ..you will love it ❤❤❤❤❤
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hello and happy weekend .. wondering if you can do "1776" by my Homie Playboy the Beast please.. it has a chill vibe to it but a strong message .
A father’s relationship with his son is different because it’s his job to raise a man. Not be his friend.
Uncle Ray, please, if you can in anyway, keep trying to patch things up with your father. I should have and I didn’t. I will never forgive myself for it. All I can do now is ask God to forgive me. Much love my friend.
Could you react to
"elephant revival "schism" TOOL cover LIVE?? one of best TOOL covers out there. 9 months ago this video was..
Cakra Khan has a version of monstwrs u shd check out
Hey boss I think you might have missed a request I sent you
This is a rough one. Beautiful tribute though.
You never reacted to MGK Smoke and Drive 2?? Roll the Windows Up??
He’s seeking for attention that’s what kids do
The more u stop the song wile reacting the more disconnected we all get
Speak for yourself
The more you make these comments the more idc 😏 😂
Rai das what Rai wants. End of 🤷♂️
Maybe you don't understand a "reaction." Perhaps you should simply watch the original video...
This fuxking guy just don’t get it. Stop watching reactions if u don’t want it to be reacted to u dummu
Who are you talking to? 😮 Its so weird listening and watching you talk to an invisible person?? Gender shouldn't factor in how you treat, talk, or behave towards your children. Do get yourself in~check before projecting your crap on them. Yes, I'm a parent and older than you.
U can treat a boy like you treat a girl they both go through different problems in life so u have to take care it differently, i have a boy and a girl my daughter and son are doing just fine with the way i raised them they are not on drugs , putaide acting crazy or nothing they are in school working and one i. College so i think ill be ok
You can’t see Federico??? 🤔
@vibereacts05 and don't forget that you have an amazing/wise wife 😉