I still love watching Phyllis’s videos. I so wish I had known her outside of her videos. Common sense, calmness, thoughtful reflection, and wonderful cook. What a unique and caring person she was.
Addicted to Ms Stokes so happy I found her here I am Nov 23/18 yesterday was Thanksgiving and after dinner I went to relax and started watching this wonderful lady and It's 4:24 am and I'm watch her speak and wide awake but I find it soothing like reading a good book love love this wonderful woman and her hubby both are treasures ❤️❤️❤️😍😍💐
P.S. I’m up all night since I’ve retired....... I go to 🛏 around 9 or 10 am & get up around 2pm Actually I wish I could stay up till midnight and then sleep until seven or eight in the morning but it’s just not happening for me plus I can’t put down this iPhone and TH-cam love and miss Mr. Bucky and Phyllis so been watching them for the last eight hours so far today
I just found this channel about a month ago and I love, love, love watching Phyllis. She is a wonderful cook and orator. I could listen to her every day, all day and I usually do take up most of my time listening to her. I am so very, very sad that she is no longer with us. I could have learned so much more from her. She and Mr. Bucky have great chemistry. Love them both.
Such a smart lady. From all the talk videos I've been watching since yesterday or maybe it was day before yesterday, I'm so sorry all I ever watched were the cooking videos. She's gone now and I can't comment and ask her things. But I'm thankful she did all of these and I'm enjoying every one. And she and Mr. Bucky are enjoying heaven. I look forward to meeting both of them someday. 💜💜🕇💐👑👑
4.5 years after reaching your eternal reward I still stop by your channel to visit, especially when I need to get lost from this mad, mad world for a little while. I miss you and Mr. Bucky.
I know this is old but.......I’m the Husband. I do some cooking, bake breads which is how I found you. I do most of the food shopping, car maintenance, gardening, vacation planning, manage fiancés, which maybe you didn’t mention. I do all the painting, help straighten up after a meal, make breakfast every morning. We are both retired.
You always make me laugh lol :) I WISH I could wake up early... no matter what, I cant. Ive never liked getting up early.... Now if I get up by ten I'm pretty proud... Im up all night doing everything and sleep till noon... im still getting everything done & getting my 8hrs sleep...just at a different time of the day LOL
This is one of the best videos I've seen on TH-cam....I've never been married ,and retired, by myself, but I'll share this with friends who are about to retire. I think the division-of-chores is fine, because it seems that you and Mr Bucky talk about things. I think, after retirement, the time spent together takes priority....after that, it's gravy....Bless you, Phyllis.
Judith Loue I too am alone. I also cannot do things that I use to do, like keep spotless floors and stand for a long time. And I sometimes sleep days on end until my brain wakes up. But I have help 2 hrs a day once every 2 weeks and my laundry. I'm 65 now and expect to be around for 5 or 6 years yet... God willing and life goes on.
I can certainly appreciate having a great spouse and that we can work very well together. Overall, sounds like you have a great partnership. Being retired is amazing! I love it!
Know you sick and things has changed a lot with you but was watching your video on retirement and chores. From that I am so glad I was not married. I cannot imagine someone messing up my kitchen lol One more thing I worked til I was 75. I can tell I am going to love going through your videos and actually would love for my daughters to watch so they could learn how to save NOW lol God Bless you and hope you are getting better. I have a book I have to get in your hands to read You may receive healing from this book
You and Mr. Bucky are just too funny! You sound exactly like my husband and me, except I am the one who likes to "organize" stuff. Fortunately my husband is not into sports, but we still have different tastes when it comes to TV programs. Our chores are divided very similar to yours, such as I cook, shop for food, do laundry and he does the dishes, vacuums and takes care of any outside chores. We have someone mow our lawn because we live on a corner and have a large plot and in this Florida heat it is just too much for us. I do all the painting, in fact I painted the entire house inside and out. I am kind of a control freak that way. He takes the dogs to the vet but I feed them. We are homebodies and home together most of the day but he has his own office with his own computer and I keep my laptop on a small table in the living room so we don't get into each other's hair. We love being retired and what you said about still getting up early is so true.
Miss Phyllis, you were such a wise woman. Everything you say here is so true. My hubby has a small at home business and I'm fully retired and it's been a big adjustment after working over 40 years. Rest in peace Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky.
Deb from Idaho Miss Phyllis, you two are a match made in heaven. You said the key to a solid marriage, being best friends. Really. You are so fortunate to have each other!! God Bless you both!
Can't stop laughing at the "rearranged my kitchen" story - Mr Bucky was a confident man for sure. hahaha I like to imagine you both having a blast in heaven - talking and holding your pups up to say hi to us out here.
My husband did the same thing. He puts measuring spoons and measuring cups in dishwasher before I have finished. Retirement is an adjustment, but it sure is wonderful.
Ms.Phyllis ,my hubby and I split up all the work in an out of the house we both cook ,so whoever cooks the other cleans up he feeds the dogs and keeps up with there flea medication I do all the washing and folding of the clothes I gather the trash in the house and he takes it the the outside bin .I am the organiser of the house and cleaner of closets ,drawers, cabinets .when I am cleaning the house sweeping ,moping ,etc he will be outside doing yard work So,you get the idea we share the work load evenly. Thanks for sharing
My hubby and I have been married for 38 years. In those years he has done everything I have done. but on a regular basis, he loads and unloads the dishwasher, helps me clean the kitchen after dinner,...we do it together. He does wash whenever we need anything clean and I haven't done it. He does all the mowing, trimming, weeding,, planting we do together, cleans the litter box every night, makes his lunch, his coffee for the next morning, makes his breakfast, runs the vacuum, does all the grocery shopping, takes his mom to the store every Saturday, cleans the showers, and bathrooms, toilets....It goes on and on......You ask why? ..... He loves me and I have a spine disease which makes me live in chronic pain. Years ago we did everything together, but I can;t anymore. With all this he is also an Elder at church (Elder duties), a Sunday school teacher (studies the Bible, does lesson every week) and works 50-60 hours a week at his job. I got an amazing husband, and.........he is the most amazing lover....(had to throw that in)......I am so blessed.
Thanks for sharing. I stopped working over a year ago because of severe health issues, which have gotten worse over time. I envisioned (sp?) Not working and retiring a bit differently, as a lot of things I wanted to do were physical, such as mowing the grass, gardening, etc. I can't mow the grass, and the gardening, I've had to come up with solutions such as sitting on a stool for short periods of time, but picking up anything, just doesn't happen. I also wanted to keep my house spotless as I'm a clean freak, I've had to get use to doing what I can and leaving it for another day. Sleeping is great as I'm on pain meds and when they kick in, I enjoy your videos. One day, Pete will retire and I pray that he is in good enough shape to enjoy his retirement. God Bless and take care.
Teresa H your life sounds a lot like mine. I am only 50 and am disable because of my back. I had planned on working up to retirement age. But our live don't always turn out like our plans. I used to do all of the yard work but that is in the past. I have to sit on a bar stool to wash dishes and cooking. Also my husband had become disabled at the age of 43 after his open heart surgery. So we are both home now and we are able to watch our two grandsons for our daughters. We are unable to do much physical work but we do get to contribute by watching the boys while they work. Plus we have such a close relationship with the boys. We don't get to do a lot of physical things with the boys but we can read and sit outside and watch them play in their sand box or riding their tricycle.
Teresa H It’s the same for me. I was accepted and am on Social Security Disability. I’m now 55 and I too can only do a little bit at a time then I need to rest up and hopefully can get back at it the same day. I’m on day 2 of this channel and I love it. These 2 kids are are special 🦋💜
So funny! Retirement is definitely a game changer. I retired first and had my routine several years before my husband retired; then I had to figure out "what am I going to do with him?" That got worked out eventually however what I hated most was the judgement in how I did my chores. That finally worked itself out only to have the aggravation of a new quirk surface. Retirement is fabulous, never thought I could fill my day with things to do but somehow I've mastered that. Phyllis your kitchen rearrangement story is what I just went through. Oh no! No, no, no.
I cook, my husband washes the dishes. He will make breakfast when I don’t feel like it. He’ll go to grocery store when I need him to. He still does yard work and repairs. We help each other when we ask
Hi Phyllis, another great vid... Yawl seem like you're working out retirement beautifully. My husband and I married 6 years ago, I had been married for 35 years and he had NEVER been married. He is now 70 and works 50 to 60 hours a week, he loves his work and has been in the same field for 45 years. He says he will never retire. I retired 3 years ago. He also says he loves married life and if he had know it was so great he would have married years ago. He cracks me up every time he says this, but I do appreciate his words. He commutes to work here in Florida, 150 mile round trip every day 5 days a week. He makes a great salary and we feel so blessed for his job in these hard and weird times. I feel like since he "brings home the bacon", the least I can do is the home management. He does have a few chores, he cleans the fans on the first of every month, vacuums the whole house every Sunday and sweeps the front porch and back patio, helps me change the bed sheets every weekend, keeps all batteries changed and changes the AC filter once a month and does load the dishwasher once in a while and he does love to go to the grocery store together, this is new for me, and I have grown to like it. I don't ask him to do any chores during the week. We have our lawn mowed every week, but I do just about every thing else masculine and feminine things. Repairs and painting, organizing, decorating, cooking, cleaning, making sure everything works and is clean ( I'm a clean freak) and anymore projects I can come up with, If I can't do it I do hire a handy man from a great handy man service here in our city. We love our life, but, we have found out that we don't work very well together, because we are both Alpha Formans, hahaha... Things would really be different if he was retired and we were together 24/7. We have talked about it and feel we could work out a plan. Yawl's plan sounds great, life is so short in the scheme of things, I try to enjoy every minute, also our Dr. says the key is to keep moving. :P
Dear Mrs Stokes: I have VERY much enjoyed your cooking tutorials; however today I stumbled upon your videos about retirement(Preparation for,paying for ,adjusting to etc., etc.)...I LOVE them! My favorites! Thank you SO much! I've been disability retired since 2002 so we are speaking the same language! Continue on.Sounds to me you are BOTH VERY intelligent and mature and copecetic...So cool!
Phyllis and Bucky - WOW! They are two amazingly wonderful people. I was up late last night (6/8/20) scrolling through TH-cam when I came across this absolutely sweet, humble, wise and dedicated angel. I watched my first Phyllis cooking video and was immediately drawn to her. Right away I sensed this woman was a very special person with a heart that delighted people, certainly me, and pleased God.I decided to watch my second Phyllis Video and before it it was even half way through, I had hit the subscribe button- something I very rarely do. That lead to an all night Phyllis Video binge “y’all,” as Phyllis would call her audience. Then I found myself wanting to connect with her on a personal level, so that she could be
Oops, I accidentally hit the ‘send button’ prematurely, sorry “y’all.” Anyway, I binge watched till 4:00 AM, and it wasn’t long before I saw my first video where Mr. Bucky made an appearance and they sat side by side telling the story of how they met and married, and I absolutely fell in love with Mr. Bucky as well as Phyllis. I do believe God put those two together to bless each others lives and the lives of their children, and no doubt, the lives of everyone the knew and those they met along life’s way. Their love story was maybe my third or forth video in and by then I just wanted to adopt these two wise, warm, sweet, kind, humble and gentle souls as my personal online life coaches, surrogate parents and foreverfriends. Unfortunately, on the next video done by Phyllis’s first born son, I learned that this lovely woman went on to be with the Lord on 1/5/20. I’m sixty years old now, and found myself instantly drawn to her as a nurturing mother figure, since my own mom hadn’t planned for or wanted me at birth, and demonstrated that to me every day of my life, until she passed. I just wish that I had learned of Ms. Phyllis at the beginning of her TH-cam video making career. More than that, I wish I had been given the opportunity to have actually meet these two lovely people while thy were still alive. These are the kinds of people who can impact, motivate and change other people’s lives for the better. These are the kind of people who truly let their light, the light of God, shine in and through their lives. Phyllis and “Mr. Bucky’s” children were truly blessed to have these two beautiful people as their parents. May God continue to comfort, strengthen and bless the surviving children and grandchildren. May Ms. Phyllis and Mr. Bucky memories, faith, values and life lessons continue to live in all of their hearts and inspire their daily lives, from one generation to the next, without end.
I Also sent the message in the middle of my typing. Anyways, When I realized both had died, I cried and thought about these two for days. What a lovely couple. They loved each other and had a good life with one another. That’s a successful life, they were happy.
So many similar things that you do or used to do like me. The doggies, the clutter, picking up dog poop, vet appts, some grooming, etc. We eat out once a week and eat home cooked meals the rest of the week. I'm getting great tips from you. Ty!
My husband and I are retired and loving it. I can relate to what you are saying. It's an adjustment but everything fell in place. He does control the TV in whatever room he's in, I just get on the computer when he does. That's how I found you, by surfing the net. Love all your videos. Do hope you continue with them after your move, Rachel
Sounds like you two make a good team. It must be nice to be married to your best friend and a Christian. I wish I had had that opportunity. My 2 marriages were not to Christians so they failed. I was married 18 yrs the first time & 4 yrs the second time. After that I decided if I could not be married to a good Christian man I would not be married period. I am so happy that you two found each other and loved your story on how you met. I wish I had had the sense and patience to wait on God to have sent me who I was suppose to be with, but there are no re-dos, right? I am glad that I have the daughter I have and little grandson so I guess it was worth it in the end. I just wish I had that soul mate to grow old with together. You are very lucky.
We aren't retired, but my Husband does help with chores. He empties all the trash, he cleans the car, he changes the bed sheets weekly, and he helps often by taking the dishes out of the dishwasher. Also, when I go to Costco, he carries all the groceries in for me. Right now while I work full-time he does his laundry. I work right now full-time, but in about a year I am going to transition to staying at home. I am thankful he helps me. I do the cooking, a lot of shopping, the bathrooms, my laundry, the ironing and the vacuuming and dusting. He also takes the car in for the oil changes, tire rotations etc. So thankful for a Hubby who helps!
I'm a 61y/o widow, and I have one son who is married to a lovely girl. I was asked to help look after my daughter-in-law's father who has Alzheimer's, which I did at first at his home, giving up my job to do so. As his illness is quite advanced, he and I now live with my son and daughter in law. I often wonder now if I should try to plan for or even expect to retire in the conventional sense of the word. I get asked all the time if I'm retired, and I say, "Yes, I was tired yesterday and I'm tired again today." Honestly if you can't see the humour in a situation, it might just break you. It's our faith that keeps us strong and sane.
Wow, Helen, you're a brave woman and a saintly mother-in-law! What a gift you've given to your daughter-in-law. How do you deal with the stress of caring for her father? Are you the only one caring for him? Best of luck to you and your family!
Hi Phyllis, sounds like you have divided the chores in a way that you are both happy with...I am going to make my husband watch this video!!!! He has been retired for about twelve years and I about six years. He did agree that he should do some chores (unloading dishwasher, putting the bins out on bin collection day and vacuum the stairs once a week ) ..... However these few chores go by the wayside frequently and it reverts back to me again...and another 'debate" ensues!! I think he was spoiled by his mum who seemed to do everything for him......However he does have a lot of redeeming qualities.
Hello...You look fantastic my dear. I am 61 myself. Sounds to me that you two have most definitely been Blessed with the relationship you have. It is not easy to find that. I have watched many of your cooking videos. Coconut Cake most recently. Thank you kindly for the peaceful evenings you have given me. May God Bless
I chuckled several times during this. My husband will be 57 this year and we've been discussing retirement. My biggest concern about having him home all day is that he likes to have the t.v. on while I never turn it on during the day. I like quiet. He'll need really good wireless headphones so he can watch and I won't have to hear it. ;)
After my husband retired, he would sneak into the kitchen and start rearranging the cabinets and even though we got into an argument about it, he will still do it. I went in there to make a big pot of soup one day and started looking for the spices I needed, well, then it hit me...he had thrown a lot of my spices away. I kept thinking "NO, he DIDN'T!!", but yes, he had! I came into the living room and I was SO mad. He said they were almost out of date. I told him to NEVER throw my spices, or anything in the kitchen away again. Then it hit me. I started thinking about the food in the pantry and things in the fridge, yep..he had been busy throwing a lot of those things away, too. I am an easy going person, but man oh man..I felt my blood pressure going up. Even my coconut oil was gone...had not had it long. I'm hoping he has learned a lesson, but ...he is stubborn. I just had to tell you about this, because I still can't believe he did it. He is a retired military officer, so he doesn't like being told not to do something. He has always been very strick. We do have a good marriage and have been married almost 45 yrs. I was nineteen and he was twenty three when we got married. We do have things that each does. I do all of the cooking, washing clothes, housework, sewing, but he does load/unload the dishwasher, the yard work and also loves to get groceries, but he likes to bring to much junk food home. I use to do everything, but...the yard work. Oh, we love those same old westerns that you and Mr Bucky watch. My husband loves football, also. I love all of your videos! Thanks, for sharing!
You have perfectly described our home situation, your husband and my Mr. Bucky must be long lost brothers. Mr. Bucky says he can shop for groceries and I should let him do all the shopping, so far I have not fallen for that line. He went to the grocery store when we first got married and I cleaned the house while he was gone. Each week we would have lots of cookies and candies along with the regular groceries. He became somewhat of an expert on which cookies were the best. When he came home with imitation vanilla when I had carefully explained I needed vanilla extract that ended his grocery shopping days. What was so bad is the youngest son was with him and told him not to get that cheap vanilla but Mr. Bucky said the imitation was so much cheaper and he was sure I would like it. So now that Mr. Bucky has retired he thinks he should get the groceries, that's totally not going to happen.
I no longer work full time and I love it. When the weekend comes I no longer stress about bad weather, if it rains on the weekend it is okay because i can do outside work during the week. What I don't understand are the seniors who insist on shopping on weekends and then complain about how busy the stores are and heaven forbid, all the crying children. And why, if you are travelling do you insist on driving on weekends - you aren't working anymore so just enjoy sitting around one more day then head home, we should enjoy having less stress, not having to be home Sunday night to go to work Monday and if the laundry doesn't get done or the lawn isn't mowed the world will not end. Have fun, take naps, go out for coffee, walk to the store and stay out of my kitchen.....or I will rearrange your workshop.
I know right, when its your kids it was ok, but these moms now a days, not all moms, let them run a hundred miles an hour and it scares me I shop with a good friend and she is 84, my self at 58 , is not as bad for me
My husband retired in 2014. Just the year before I had an accident at home and fractured my right femur. Because of this, my husband started doing the grocery shopping. For sometime it was too uncomfortable, for me, to walk through the whole store. Well, a blessing in disguise! Now I can at any time ask him to do some food shopping. He doesn't mind at all. Before my accident, he wouldn't have done that chore. One rule we have is that he cares for most of the outdoors and I take care of the inside. We no longer do our own home painting. I always disliked it and he always took to long to do it. We're just hoping for a long and healthy retirement!!
We also do not entertain anymore either. When My husband was in the Air-force and we were stationed overseas. I always made Christmas dinner and Thanksgiving for the guys that could not go home for Christmas.I came from a big family ,so I was use to cooking for a lot of people anyway.
My husband is really finicky about loading the dishwasher and one of the things he likes to do is all the knives in one all the forks in another and all the spoons in the another place it’s a very efficient because when you take them out it’s easier to put them away I don’t do it that way I just put them in there. He also organize is a lot better than I do every thing! !! I don’t know how I would’ve felt coming home and having everything in a different spot! Jeff and I get along pretty well too we have great conversation.
@Deborrah Oliveri, When I read your comment, I almost forgot that both Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky are no longer with us. I hope they are together, enjoying each other in the afterlife. Her eldest son Steven , with his daughter Isabella , are doing a great job updating the site with new videos and reminisces about life with Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky, Rene and Ernie.
OH NO your didn't rearrange my kitchen". That would be like me rearranging his garage, lol. It took me forever to get MY OWN TV remote. He has the big fancy one with volume control, grr. I was "forced" to quit working because my rheumatoid arthritis had gotten really bad and I used to tease my husband that I had to quit work because him helping me get dressed every morning and him doing my hair had me looking funny most days as I went to work. Seriously though, my brain still wanted to work, but the body wouldn't cooperate. My identity was really tied to my career and I had always worked, so it was really hard when I was home bound. Chores had to be shifted by what I could do and I tried hard to continue to do my usual tasks around home. It took me almost a year to come to grips with my situation and re-align not only tasks, but our relationship as well. When he retired 8 years later, I watched him go thru the same identity thing and helped him find his passions for projects. Some adjustments were driven by my disability, some by, "Hey I've cooked virtually all our married life - now it's your turn to experiment in the kitchen." He loved the shift into the kitchen. Our labor divisions were mostly driven by time constraints and he drove 2 hours each way, every day, for work, so him starting dinner at 7:00 at night wasn't practical. He did cook, usually on Saturday and Sunday nights. Once he retired, he about chocked at the prices in grocery stores so I had a chance to teach him bargain shopping, meal planning etc, which he took comfort in having some control. We were married for 34 years before losing him to a heart attack and I must say I was soo blessed to build a relationship with Jer. He accepts my limitations has great empathy and we've found ways for me to still participate in cooking (like using my quilting chair to sit while I'm chopping or whatever) but I often defer to him because he's a,ways loved to cook and now can to his hearts content. Love his cooking, love him, lucky girl I am.
My husband and I have the same situation..he likes sports and racing etc.. I like hgtv...and the Phyllis and Bucky Show too..😊. I watch what I want on my iPad..my earphones have been wonderful...
Name of the books? I am divorced for 17 years...need to do it all, but now energy is low. I need to declutter. I like too many things. I have 2 sons, but not married and no grandkids. Your life is amazing...get the most out of life and no waste. I had to do most things also when I was married. I am glad you have a great relationship/partner in life. Using your talents is awesome!
I'm a guy, but at 18 minutes, I TOTALLY AGREE... Don't touch my stuff. (Not selfish, but if I don't put it away, I don't know where it is). Thank you for all of your videos, they are GREAT.
....You not only know how to do a million things you talk to those of us who love to listen and without being told to 'go ahead, try it' we're given the idea. I would like to paint. . It's comfort 'food' to listen to your way of speaking. I look for this sort of interchange and cannot ever find it.... . I can hardly believe my good luck in finding your helpful, meaningful videos (vlogs?). Life enriching.
Love your video's, don't always think to hit the like, sorry...today I've watched you make hamburgers, banana pudding, retirement and chores...others. The first video I watched of yours was about pinto beans and dumplings. I really liked the way you melted the cheese in the microwave for the burgers...yummmy...gonna do that from now on.
I love your videos very much. I am glad I came across your channel. I love your cooking videos. You are a very good teacher. very precise. You make the recipes look easy to try.
my husband is 70 and still farming. I do everything in here except grocery shopping he wants to do that so I let him as long as he gets what is on my list. He needed help getting the freshest food. Like the greens for smoothies would be limp or already getting soggy in the boxes. well , we couldn't have that so he is improving. when he is fully retired if that happens we will devide thing like you did. Sorry Mr. Bucky but you guys don't want to sit in your recliners all day, do you ?
I have to laugh because you and Mr Bucky sound so much like my husband and myself. He was an over the road truck driver and was gone usually 6 to 8 days driving. So I had to do everything by myself at home. When he retired I said OK Time to divide the chores.I do the cooking and he does the cleaning ,lol, with me going behind him about once a month and “really” cleaning the floors and bathrooms. But at least he is trying. Love your videos, thanks for sharing your life with us.
You all do just about everything . my hubby and I do about the same things. He is 75 and I am 73. I also started giving the both of us the :Osteo-BiFlex. I am looking forward to. We also took Tumeric 1000mg dly,selenium 50 mg,dly, magnesium 200 mcg 3 times dly,Cromium picnolate 2000mg dly, I am a diabetic, I recently started on Victoza inj 1.2 mcg dly. We rarely get sick with any thing, Vit c 2 gm dly.
As a person that has been retired for 10 years, all I can say to your video is "Amen, Amen and Amen to all." I do what I want when I want how I want, or don't do anything. I love to can and I do a lot of that. I take care of my own yard work. I keep a very small garden. I live along so I either have to hire it done or do it myself. I live in a small 3 bedroom home which needs to be cleaned constantly. I can say truthfully that I love retirement and so glad I did when I did. You and Mr Buckey seem very happy. When are you moving into your little house or have you gotten it built yet? I don't know if I could handle a little house. I have to much "stuff".
my husband cooks and cleans , we take turns I do the garbage in the winter and he doe the summer, long story cant walk in the grass because of the chigger bites, my hubby and I take turns vacuuming he does most of it I can carry it up stairs, we both shop hubby just did our windows and blinds, I used to do all that stuff when he worked I used to do the gardening but now in the summer I cant go out we don't make a lot of clutter I do the bathroom and hubby does his bathroom I dusting I help painting I do all the major freezing cooking but he chops for me
Sounds like you have your division of labor down pat. Mr. Buckey, since you are the Head not the tail (as per the scripture) I would say with pride that you are happy to do more than Mrs. Buckey as division of labor should entail who does each chore the best. God is continuing to bless your marriage because of it. You are lucky to have such an organized and great planner in your life. :) My husband and I watch all of the Alaska shows where people are living off grid. - While Alaska is not our dream destination, we find how people deal with all of those stages of nature in every age group is interesting. I predict you'll work it all out to a "T" :)
My husband washes dishes at his Dad’s. So therefore he believes his Son washed dishes at home! Not so. I’m fortunate if he brings his dirty plates to the Sink! However; he does Windows. ❤️
Phyllis, My husband does so much like fixing whatever breaks around here. I'm not good at it and he takes care of much of the car maintenance which saves us thousands of dollars. He does the lawn and chickens too and the garden. He dusted when he was a teen too so now he will NOT dust or do house work. I cook, he does the grill. He's sort of messy in the kitchen so I do it myself. He is my advisor and I'm his and we get on each others nerves. ha ha I used to do so much more til I damaged my Achilles tendon which limits my walking. This upset me in many ways and gaining weight really bothers me so recently I purchased a exercise bike and try to do at least 50 minutes a day. We both agree that we don't like sports so that's good. I like the old movies and series better than the new junk that's on t.v. My husband seems to like shopping more than I do. We do the carpet shampooing and windows together cause it's a two story house. Our garden used to be large but it has since gotten to difficult (we're both retired) so now we have a mini garden. I hate clutter and my husbands a collector of stuff. That's a big problem we have never solved. We try to adapt to each other. I do all the painting or used to. I don't want to paint anymore! We do a lot together also. He loves horror movies and I like old movies, romance and comedy. Pete and I are best friends too. Sounds like we have a lot in common. I'm reserved and quiet. Pete is out going and talkative. Sometimes I wish he'd be quiet cause I got used to the quiet time all of the years he worked. I like order, my husband often can't find his tools,etc. cause he is not. ha ha I like to read and Pete doesn't. I could go on and on. I tell him "a place for everything and everything in it's place but it does not compute with him. ha ha I operate the computer and he operates the vcr.
With the two of you together you make the perfect couple. Sounds like Mr. Bucky and me. The sports thing just really gets on my nerves sometimes especially during football season, seems like there is always a football game on TV somewhere.
My husband retired last year at age 74...he also worked 3 days a week for years and it was a good thing for us too...my husband is very traditional..so he doesn't want to do the things traditionally done by females lol..but he takes care of the pool..anything to do with our cars and outside..
Hahahaha!! you two are just to funny! I love to watch your videos ,especially when your both in them! I enjoy your cooking videos and love all the recipes :) God Bless you both .......I so addicted!!!! :}
I still love watching Phyllis’s videos. I so wish I had known her outside of her videos. Common sense, calmness, thoughtful reflection, and wonderful cook. What a unique and caring person she was.
Addicted to Ms Stokes so happy I found her here I am Nov 23/18 yesterday was Thanksgiving and after dinner I went to relax and started watching this wonderful lady and It's 4:24 am and I'm watch her speak and wide awake but I find it soothing like reading a good book love love this wonderful woman and her hubby both are treasures ❤️❤️❤️😍😍💐
Moon Star I feel the same way , so soothing & interesting
I also find myself cooking more 🍽👍
P.S. I’m up all night since I’ve retired....... I go to 🛏 around 9 or 10 am & get up around 2pm
Actually I wish I could stay up till midnight and then sleep until seven or eight in the morning but it’s just not happening for me plus I can’t put down this iPhone and TH-cam love and miss Mr. Bucky and Phyllis so been watching them for the last eight hours so far today
I just found this channel about a month ago and I love, love, love watching Phyllis. She is a wonderful cook and orator. I could listen to her every day, all day and I usually do take up most of my time listening to her. I am so very, very sad that she is no longer with us. I could have learned so much more from her. She and Mr. Bucky have great chemistry. Love them both.
Such a smart lady. From all the talk videos I've been watching since yesterday or maybe it was day before yesterday, I'm so sorry all I ever watched were the cooking videos. She's gone now and I can't comment and ask her things. But I'm thankful she did all of these and I'm enjoying every one. And she and Mr. Bucky are enjoying heaven. I look forward to meeting both of them someday. 💜💜🕇💐👑👑
I've just started watching too. What lovely folks. Ms Phyllis and Mr Bucky...you'll be missed
Miss Mrs. Phillis & Mr. Bucky , been feeling so sad lately , binge watching all their videos
I so miss you hon. You were like my older sister. I miss your wisdom and kindness
Ms. Phyllis, you are an angel. You have helped me so with depression.
4.5 years after reaching your eternal reward I still stop by your channel to visit, especially when I need to get lost from this mad, mad world for a little while. I miss you and Mr. Bucky.
Thank you, Staying active is the best medicine.
I forgot to mention you are so beautifu! Love your hair too.
I am addicted to your videos, lol you are remarkable, is there anything you can't do?
Miss you. I found you after my mom passed. I loved all of your tips and advice. Helped with missing Mom. ❤
You two were so cute! I love hearing your stories. I hope someday I find someone who loves me as much as I love them.
I know this is old but.......I’m the Husband. I do some cooking, bake breads which is how I found you. I do most of the food shopping, car maintenance, gardening, vacation planning, manage fiancés, which maybe you didn’t mention. I do all the painting, help straighten up after a meal, make breakfast every morning. We are both retired.
You always make me laugh lol :) I WISH I could wake up early... no matter what, I cant. Ive never liked getting up early.... Now if I get up by ten I'm pretty proud... Im up all night doing everything and sleep till noon... im still getting everything done & getting my 8hrs sleep...just at a different time of the day LOL
This is one of the best videos I've seen on TH-cam....I've never been married ,and retired, by myself, but I'll share this with friends who are about to retire. I think the division-of-chores is fine, because it seems that you and Mr Bucky talk about things. I think, after retirement, the time spent together takes priority....after that, it's gravy....Bless you, Phyllis.
Judith Loue I too am alone. I also cannot do things that I use to do, like keep spotless floors and stand for a long time. And I sometimes sleep days on end until my brain wakes up. But I have help 2 hrs a day once every 2 weeks and my laundry. I'm 65 now and expect to be around for 5 or 6 years yet... God willing and life goes on.
You look Gorgeous in pink! Love the color of your hair... 💗🍃🌸🍃
I can certainly appreciate having a great spouse and that we can work very well together. Overall, sounds like you have a great partnership. Being retired is amazing! I love it!
Know you sick and things has changed a lot with you but was watching your video on retirement and chores. From that I am so glad I was not married. I cannot imagine someone messing up my kitchen lol One more thing I worked til I was 75. I can tell I am going to love going through your videos and actually would love for my daughters to watch so they could learn how to save NOW lol God Bless you and hope you are getting better. I have a book I have to get in your hands to read You may receive healing from this book
You guys were so cute! I just had to go back and watch a video! R.I.P beloved Mr Bucky and Miss Phyllis ❤️
You and Mr. Bucky are just too funny! You sound exactly like my husband and me, except I am the one who likes to "organize" stuff. Fortunately my husband is not into sports, but we still have different tastes when it comes to TV programs. Our chores are divided very similar to yours, such as I cook, shop for food, do laundry and he does the dishes, vacuums and takes care of any outside chores. We have someone mow our lawn because we live on a corner and have a large plot and in this Florida heat it is just too much for us. I do all the painting, in fact I painted the entire house inside and out. I am kind of a control freak that way. He takes the dogs to the vet but I feed them. We are homebodies and home together most of the day but he has his own office with his own computer and I keep my laptop on a small table in the living room so we don't get into each other's hair. We love being retired and what you said about still getting up early is so true.
Miss Phyllis, you were such a wise woman. Everything you say here is so true. My hubby has a small at home business and I'm fully retired and it's been a big adjustment after working over 40 years. Rest in peace Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky.
Deb from Idaho Miss Phyllis, you two are a match made in heaven. You said the key to a solid marriage, being best friends. Really. You are so fortunate to have each other!! God Bless you both!
Phyllis, I love your stories, your sense of humor, and interesting take on things. Thank you so much for sharing with us 😊
Excellent video. Can't wait to play it for my husband!!!
Great videos. You make a good team. Good marriage when you help each other out.
We sure miss you and Buckey!!! ❤❤
I miss you so much! Love that I can still watch these.
Can't stop laughing at the "rearranged my kitchen" story - Mr Bucky was a confident man for sure. hahaha
I like to imagine you both having a blast in heaven - talking and holding your pups up to say hi to us out here.
My husband did the same thing. He puts measuring spoons and measuring cups in dishwasher before I have finished. Retirement is an adjustment, but it sure is wonderful.
You guy's work good together
Ms.Phyllis ,my hubby and I split up all the work in an out of the house we both cook ,so whoever cooks the other cleans up he feeds the dogs and keeps up with there flea medication I do all the washing and folding of the clothes I gather the trash in the house and he takes it the the outside bin .I am the organiser of the house and cleaner of closets ,drawers, cabinets .when I am cleaning the house sweeping ,moping ,etc he will be outside doing yard work So,you get the idea we share the work load evenly.
Thanks for sharing
My hubby and I have been married for 38 years. In those years he has done everything I have done. but on a regular basis, he loads and unloads the dishwasher, helps me clean the kitchen after dinner,...we do it together. He does wash whenever we need anything clean and I haven't done it. He does all the mowing, trimming, weeding,, planting we do together, cleans the litter box every night, makes his lunch, his coffee for the next morning, makes his breakfast, runs the vacuum, does all the grocery shopping, takes his mom to the store every Saturday, cleans the showers, and bathrooms, toilets....It goes on and on......You ask why? ..... He loves me and I have a spine disease which makes me live in chronic pain. Years ago we did everything together, but I can;t anymore. With all this he is also an Elder at church (Elder duties), a Sunday school teacher (studies the Bible, does lesson every week) and works 50-60 hours a week at his job. I got an amazing husband, and.........he is the most amazing lover....(had to throw that in)......I am so blessed.
Thanks for sharing. I stopped working over a year ago because of severe health issues, which have gotten worse over time. I envisioned (sp?) Not working and retiring a bit differently, as a lot of things I wanted to do were physical, such as mowing the grass, gardening, etc. I can't mow the grass, and the gardening, I've had to come up with solutions such as sitting on a stool for short periods of time, but picking up anything, just doesn't happen. I also wanted to keep my house spotless as I'm a clean freak, I've had to get use to doing what I can and leaving it for another day. Sleeping is great as I'm on pain meds and when they kick in, I enjoy your videos. One day, Pete will retire and I pray that he is in good enough shape to enjoy his retirement. God Bless and take care.
Teresa H your life sounds a lot like mine. I am only 50 and am disable because of my back. I had planned on working up to retirement age. But our live don't always turn out like our plans. I used to do all of the yard work but that is in the past. I have to sit on a bar stool to wash dishes and cooking. Also my husband had become disabled at the age of 43 after his open heart surgery. So we are both home now and we are able to watch our two grandsons for our daughters. We are unable to do much physical work but we do get to contribute by watching the boys while they work. Plus we have such a close relationship with the boys. We don't get to do a lot of physical things with the boys but we can read and sit outside and watch them play in their sand box or riding their tricycle.
Teresa H It’s the same for me. I was accepted and am on Social Security Disability. I’m now 55 and I too can only do a little bit at a time then I need to rest up and hopefully can get back at it the same day. I’m on day 2 of this channel and I love it. These 2 kids are are special 🦋💜
So funny! Retirement is definitely a game changer. I retired first and had my routine several years before my husband retired; then I had to figure out "what am I going to do with him?" That got worked out eventually however what I hated most was the judgement in how I did my chores. That finally worked itself out only to have the aggravation of a new quirk surface. Retirement is fabulous, never thought I could fill my day with things to do but somehow I've mastered that. Phyllis your kitchen rearrangement story is what I just went through. Oh no! No, no, no.
I cook, my husband washes the dishes. He will make breakfast when I don’t feel like it. He’ll go to grocery store when I need him to. He still does yard work and repairs. We help each other when we ask
Hi Phyllis, another great vid... Yawl seem like you're working out retirement beautifully. My husband and I married 6 years ago, I had been married for 35 years and he had NEVER been married. He is now 70 and works 50 to 60 hours a week, he loves his work and has been in the same field for 45 years. He says he will never retire. I retired 3 years ago. He also says he loves married life and if he had know it was so great he would have married years ago. He cracks me up every time he says this, but I do appreciate his words. He commutes to work here in Florida, 150 mile round trip every day 5 days a week. He makes a great salary and we feel so blessed for his job in these hard and weird times. I feel like since he "brings home the bacon", the least I can do is the home management. He does have a few chores, he cleans the fans on the first of every month, vacuums the whole house every Sunday and sweeps the front porch and back patio, helps me change the bed sheets every weekend, keeps all batteries changed and changes the AC filter once a month and does load the dishwasher once in a while and he does love to go to the grocery store together, this is new for me, and I have grown to like it. I don't ask him to do any chores during the week. We have our lawn mowed every week, but I do just about every thing else masculine and feminine things. Repairs and painting, organizing, decorating, cooking, cleaning, making sure everything works and is clean ( I'm a clean freak) and anymore projects I can come up with, If I can't do it I do hire a handy man from a great handy man service here in our city. We love our life, but, we have found out that we don't work very well together, because we are both Alpha Formans, hahaha... Things would really be different if he was retired and we were together 24/7. We have talked about it and feel we could work out a plan. Yawl's plan sounds great, life is so short in the scheme of things, I try to enjoy every minute, also our Dr. says the key is to keep moving. :P
Hi from Tennessee.. just came by you now and can't believe I'm just coming by you. I love your videos, and been binge watching lol. You're awesome!!
Dear Mrs Stokes: I have VERY much enjoyed your cooking tutorials; however today I stumbled upon your videos about retirement(Preparation for,paying for ,adjusting to etc., etc.)...I LOVE them! My favorites! Thank you SO much! I've been disability retired since 2002 so we are speaking the same language! Continue on.Sounds to me you are BOTH VERY intelligent and mature and copecetic...So cool!
I love watching Little House on the Prarie reruns and Bananza and Gunsmoke.
My husband does cook if I am not feeling well and I love it! I have taught him how to cook.
Great advice and that is a really good that you help each other out with dividing the chores! I Love how you discuss and work it out!
Phyllis and Bucky - WOW! They are two amazingly wonderful people. I was up late last night (6/8/20) scrolling through TH-cam when I came across this absolutely sweet, humble, wise and dedicated angel. I watched my first Phyllis cooking video and was immediately drawn to her. Right away I sensed this woman was a very special person with a heart that delighted people, certainly me, and pleased God.I decided to watch my second Phyllis Video and before it it was even half way through, I had hit the subscribe button- something I very rarely do. That lead to an all night Phyllis Video binge “y’all,” as Phyllis would call her audience. Then I found myself wanting to connect with her on a personal level, so that she could be
Oops, I accidentally hit the ‘send button’ prematurely, sorry “y’all.” Anyway, I binge watched till 4:00 AM, and it wasn’t long before I saw my first video where Mr. Bucky made an appearance and they sat side by side telling the story of how they met and married, and I absolutely fell in love with Mr. Bucky as well as Phyllis. I do believe God put those two together to bless each others lives and the lives of their children, and no doubt, the lives of everyone the knew and those they met along life’s way. Their love story was maybe my third or forth video in and by then I just wanted to adopt these two wise, warm, sweet, kind, humble and gentle souls as my personal online life coaches, surrogate parents and foreverfriends. Unfortunately, on the next video done by Phyllis’s first born son, I learned that this lovely woman went on to be with the Lord on 1/5/20. I’m sixty years old now, and found myself instantly drawn to her as a nurturing mother figure, since my own mom hadn’t planned for or wanted me at birth, and demonstrated that to me every day of my life, until she passed. I just wish that I had learned of Ms. Phyllis at the beginning of her TH-cam video making career. More than that, I wish I had been given the opportunity to have actually meet these two lovely people while thy were still alive. These are the kinds of people who can impact, motivate and change other people’s lives for the better. These are the kind of people who truly let their light, the light of God, shine in and through their lives. Phyllis and “Mr. Bucky’s” children were truly blessed to have these two beautiful people as their parents. May God continue to comfort, strengthen and bless the surviving children and grandchildren. May Ms. Phyllis and Mr. Bucky memories, faith, values and life lessons continue to live in all of their hearts and inspire their daily lives, from one generation to the next, without end.
I agree, I did the same, I watched a couple of videos, then started to binge watch them, and when I realized both Phyllis and Bucky ate no longer
I Also sent the message in the middle of my typing. Anyways,
When I realized both had died,
I cried and thought about these two for days. What a lovely couple. They loved each other and had a good life with one another. That’s a successful life, they were happy.
Yes, my husband does anything he can ! Loves to do outside chores ,but will help inside when I asked and sometimes when I don’t haha !
😆🥰😝❤️ I don’t believe most couples communicate as well as you and Mr Bucky.
So many similar things that you do or used to do like me. The doggies, the clutter, picking up dog poop, vet appts, some grooming, etc. We eat out once a week and eat home cooked meals the rest of the week. I'm getting great tips from you. Ty!
I absolutely love hearing your stories. I am so glad I found your site and look forward to seeing all of your blogs.
My husband and I are retired and loving it. I can relate to what you are saying. It's an adjustment but everything fell in place. He does control the TV in whatever room he's in, I just get on the computer when he does. That's how I found you, by surfing the net. Love all your videos. Do hope you continue with them after your move, Rachel
Sounds like you two make a good team. It must be nice to be married to your best friend and a Christian. I wish I had had that opportunity. My 2 marriages were not to Christians so they failed. I was married 18 yrs the first time & 4 yrs the second time. After that I decided if I could not be married to a good Christian man I would not be married period. I am so happy that you two found each other and loved your story on how you met. I wish I had had the sense and patience to wait on God to have sent me who I was suppose to be with, but there are no re-dos, right? I am glad that I have the daughter I have and little grandson so I guess it was worth it in the end. I just wish I had that soul mate to grow old with together. You are very lucky.
We aren't retired, but my Husband does help with chores. He empties all the trash, he cleans the car, he changes the bed sheets weekly, and he helps often by taking the dishes out of the dishwasher. Also, when I go to Costco, he carries all the groceries in for me. Right now while I work full-time he does his laundry. I work right now full-time, but in about a year I am going to transition to staying at home. I am thankful he helps me. I do the cooking, a lot of shopping, the bathrooms, my laundry, the ironing and the vacuuming and dusting. He also takes the car in for the oil changes, tire rotations etc. So thankful for a Hubby who helps!
I love ur videos-your a joy!
I'm a 61y/o widow, and I have one son who is married to a lovely girl. I was asked to help look after my daughter-in-law's father who has Alzheimer's, which I did at first at his home, giving up my job to do so. As his illness is quite advanced, he and I now live with my son and daughter in law. I often wonder now if I should try to plan for or even expect to retire in the conventional sense of the word. I get asked all the time if I'm retired, and I say, "Yes, I was tired yesterday and I'm tired again today." Honestly if you can't see the humour in a situation, it might just break you. It's our faith that keeps us strong and sane.
Wow, Helen, you're a brave woman and a saintly mother-in-law! What a gift you've given to your daughter-in-law. How do you deal with the stress of caring for her father? Are you the only one caring for him? Best of luck to you and your family!
God will bless you dear...you are good
I agree that we value our time more...to me, it’s our most precious commodity...time with the ones we love..
Hi Phyllis, sounds like you have divided the chores in a way that you are both happy with...I am going to make my husband watch this video!!!! He has been retired for about twelve years and I about six years. He did agree that he should do some chores (unloading dishwasher, putting the bins out on bin collection day and vacuum the stairs once a week ) ..... However these few chores go by the wayside frequently and it reverts back to me again...and another 'debate" ensues!! I think he was spoiled by his mum who seemed to do everything for him......However he does have a lot of redeeming qualities.
Hello...You look fantastic my dear. I am 61 myself. Sounds to me that you two have most definitely been Blessed with the relationship you have. It is not easy to find that. I have watched many of your cooking videos. Coconut Cake most recently. Thank you kindly for the peaceful evenings you have given me. May God Bless
WoW...I been hoping back and forth watching your videos. You are an interesting, pleasant lady Phyllis ~
I chuckled several times during this. My husband will be 57 this year and we've been discussing retirement. My biggest concern about having him home all day is that he likes to have the t.v. on while I never turn it on during the day. I like quiet. He'll need really good wireless headphones so he can watch and I won't have to hear it. ;)
After my husband retired, he would sneak into the kitchen and start rearranging the cabinets and even though we got into an argument about it, he will still do it. I went in there to make a big pot of soup one day and started looking for the spices I needed, well, then it hit me...he had thrown a lot of my spices away. I kept thinking "NO, he DIDN'T!!", but yes, he had! I came into the living room and I was SO mad. He said they were almost out of date. I told him to NEVER throw my spices, or anything in the kitchen away again. Then it hit me. I started thinking about the food in the pantry and things in the fridge, yep..he had been busy throwing a lot of those things away, too. I am an easy going person, but man oh man..I felt my blood pressure going up. Even my coconut oil was gone...had not had it long. I'm hoping he has learned a lesson, but ...he is stubborn. I just had to tell you about this, because I still can't believe he did it. He is a retired military officer, so he doesn't like being told not to do something. He has always been very strick. We do have a good marriage and have been married almost 45 yrs. I was nineteen and he was twenty three when we got married. We do have things that each does. I do all of the cooking, washing clothes, housework, sewing, but he does load/unload the dishwasher, the yard work and also loves to get groceries, but he likes to bring to much junk food home. I use to do everything, but...the yard work. Oh, we love those same old westerns that you and Mr Bucky watch. My husband loves football, also. I love all of your videos! Thanks, for sharing!
You have perfectly described our home situation, your husband and my Mr. Bucky must be long lost brothers. Mr. Bucky says he can shop for groceries and I should let him do all the shopping, so far I have not fallen for that line. He went to the grocery store when we first got married and I cleaned the house while he was gone. Each week we would have lots of cookies and candies along with the regular groceries. He became somewhat of an expert on which cookies were the best. When he came home with imitation vanilla when I had carefully explained I needed vanilla extract that ended his grocery shopping days. What was so bad is the youngest son was with him and told him not to get that cheap vanilla but Mr. Bucky said the imitation was so much cheaper and he was sure I would like it. So now that Mr. Bucky has retired he thinks he should get the groceries, that's totally not going to happen.
I no longer work full time and I love it. When the weekend comes I no longer stress about bad weather, if it rains on the weekend it is okay because i can do outside work during the week. What I don't understand are the seniors who insist on shopping on weekends and then complain about how busy the stores are and heaven forbid, all the crying children. And why, if you are travelling do you insist on driving on weekends - you aren't working anymore so just enjoy sitting around one more day then head home, we should enjoy having less stress, not having to be home Sunday night to go to work Monday and if the laundry doesn't get done or the lawn isn't mowed the world will not end. Have fun, take naps, go out for coffee, walk to the store and stay out of my kitchen.....or I will rearrange your workshop.
I know right, when its your kids it was ok, but these moms now a days, not all moms, let them run a hundred miles an hour and it scares me I shop with a good friend and she is 84, my self at 58 , is not as bad for me
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My husband retired in 2014. Just the year before I had an accident at home and fractured my right femur. Because of this, my husband started doing the grocery shopping. For sometime it was too uncomfortable, for me, to walk through the whole store. Well, a blessing in disguise! Now I can at any time ask him to do some food shopping. He doesn't mind at all. Before my accident, he wouldn't have done that chore. One rule we have is that he cares for most of the outdoors and I take care of the inside. We no longer do our own home painting. I always disliked it and he always took to long to do it. We're just hoping for a long and healthy retirement!!
U r such a breath of fresh air. U have aged so very well. Such grace. Enjoy . Yes I so.... agree with you
We also do not entertain anymore either. When My husband was in the Air-force and we were stationed overseas. I always made Christmas dinner and Thanksgiving for the guys that could not go home for Christmas.I came from a big family ,so I was use to cooking for a lot of people anyway.
It is good that you can agree on a division of labor. It is good that you are best friends.
My husband is really finicky about loading the dishwasher and one of the things he likes to do is all the knives in one all the forks in another and all the spoons in the another place it’s a very efficient because when you take them out it’s easier to put them away I don’t do it that way I just put them in there. He also organize is a lot better than I do every thing! !! I don’t know how I would’ve felt coming home and having everything in a different spot! Jeff and I get along pretty well too we have great conversation.
Catching up on your videos Ms Phyllis. Thank you.
@Deborrah Oliveri, When I read your comment, I almost forgot that both Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky are no longer with us. I hope they are together, enjoying each other in the afterlife. Her eldest son Steven , with his daughter Isabella , are doing a great job updating the site with new videos and reminisces about life with Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky, Rene and Ernie.
You two are just too cute. Enjoying the retirement videos.
Ms Phyllis I just adore listening to you and the way you and Mr Bucky live your Retirement years! Enjoy your lives together! 🙏👍😀👋💐
OH NO your didn't rearrange my kitchen". That would be like me rearranging his garage, lol. It took me forever to get MY OWN TV remote. He has the big fancy one with volume control, grr. I was "forced" to quit working because my rheumatoid arthritis had gotten really bad and I used to tease my husband that I had to quit work because him helping me get dressed every morning and him doing my hair had me looking funny most days as I went to work. Seriously though, my brain still wanted to work, but the body wouldn't cooperate. My identity was really tied to my career and I had always worked, so it was really hard when I was home bound. Chores had to be shifted by what I could do and I tried hard to continue to do my usual tasks around home. It took me almost a year to come to grips with my situation and re-align not only tasks, but our relationship as well. When he retired 8 years later, I watched him go thru the same identity thing and helped him find his passions for projects. Some adjustments were driven by my disability, some by, "Hey I've cooked virtually all our married life - now it's your turn to experiment in the kitchen." He loved the shift into the kitchen. Our labor divisions were mostly driven by time constraints and he drove 2 hours each way, every day, for work, so him starting dinner at 7:00 at night wasn't practical. He did cook, usually on Saturday and Sunday nights. Once he retired, he about chocked at the prices in grocery stores so I had a chance to teach him bargain shopping, meal planning etc, which he took comfort in having some control. We were married for 34 years before losing him to a heart attack and I must say I was soo blessed to build a relationship with Jer. He accepts my limitations has great empathy and we've found ways for me to still participate in cooking (like using my quilting chair to sit while I'm chopping or whatever) but I often defer to him because he's a,ways loved to cook and now can to his hearts content. Love his cooking, love him, lucky girl I am.
My husband and I have the same situation..he likes sports and racing etc.. I like hgtv...and the Phyllis and Bucky Show too..😊. I watch what I want on my iPad..my earphones have been wonderful...
God Bless.
Name of the books? I am divorced for 17 years...need to do it all, but now energy is low. I need to declutter. I like too many things. I have 2 sons, but not married and no grandkids. Your life is amazing...get the most out of life and no waste. I had to do most things also when I was married. I am glad you have a great relationship/partner in life. Using your talents is awesome!
I'm a guy, but at 18 minutes, I TOTALLY AGREE... Don't touch my stuff. (Not selfish, but if I don't put it away, I don't know where it is). Thank you for all of your videos, they are GREAT.
....You not only know how to do a million things you talk to those of us who love to listen and without being told to 'go ahead, try it' we're given the idea. I would like to paint. . It's comfort 'food' to listen to your way of speaking. I look for this sort of interchange and cannot ever find it.... . I can hardly believe my good luck in finding your helpful, meaningful videos (vlogs?). Life enriching.
You are both lucky to have each other. Phyllis you are a once in a lifetime woman. Mr. Bucky very lucky. Hope you have many years together. Corinne.
Great vlog Phyllis!!!!!!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!!!
You are blessed! My husband divorced me for a younger women many yrs ago and I never remarried.
Love your video's, don't always think to hit the like, sorry...today I've watched you make hamburgers, banana pudding, retirement and chores...others. The first video I watched of yours was about pinto beans and dumplings. I really liked the way you melted the cheese in the microwave for the burgers...yummmy...gonna do that from now on.
What!! Mr, Bucky rearranged your kitchen??? That'll be the day! The one who does the most cooking 🍳 gets to decide where things should go! Lol! 😂
I love your videos very much. I am glad I came across your channel. I love your cooking videos. You are a very good teacher. very precise. You make the recipes look easy to try.
Retirement is sweet. I have been retired for two years now. We are still working on the division of chores though 😉.
my husband is 70 and still farming. I do everything in here except grocery shopping he wants to do that so I let him as long as he gets what is on my list. He needed help getting the freshest food. Like the greens for smoothies would be limp or already getting soggy in the boxes. well , we couldn't have that so he is improving. when he is fully retired if that happens we will devide thing like you did. Sorry Mr. Bucky but you guys don't want to sit in your recliners all day, do you ?
I have to laugh because you and Mr Bucky sound so much like my husband and myself. He was an over the road truck driver and was gone usually 6 to 8 days driving. So I had to do everything by myself at home. When he retired I said OK
Time to divide the chores.I do the cooking and he does the cleaning ,lol, with me going behind him about once a month and “really” cleaning the floors and bathrooms. But at least he is trying. Love your videos, thanks for sharing your life with us.
You all do just about everything . my hubby and I do about the same things. He is 75 and I am 73. I also started giving the both of us the :Osteo-BiFlex. I am looking forward to. We also took Tumeric 1000mg dly,selenium 50 mg,dly, magnesium 200 mcg 3 times dly,Cromium picnolate 2000mg dly, I am a diabetic, I recently started on Victoza inj 1.2 mcg dly. We rarely get sick with any thing, Vit c 2 gm dly.
As a person that has been retired for 10 years, all I can say to your video is "Amen, Amen and Amen to all." I do what I want when I want how I want, or don't do anything. I love to can and I do a lot of that. I take care of my own yard work. I keep a very small garden. I live along so I either have to hire it done or do it myself. I live in a small 3 bedroom home which needs to be cleaned constantly. I can say truthfully that I love retirement and so glad I did when I did. You and Mr Buckey seem very happy. When are you moving into your little house or have you gotten it built yet? I don't know if I could handle a little house. I have to much "stuff".
We'll be building the small house as soon as we sell this big house which I hope is real soon.
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Mrs. Phyllis so you live in the RV while your little house is being built is that right
my husband cooks and cleans , we take turns
I do the garbage in the winter and he doe the summer, long story cant walk in the grass because of the chigger bites,
my hubby and I take turns vacuuming he does most of it I can carry it up stairs,
we both shop
hubby just did our windows and blinds, I used to do all that stuff when he worked
I used to do the gardening but now in the summer I cant go out
we don't make a lot of clutter
I do the bathroom and hubby does his bathroom
I dusting
I help painting
I do all the major freezing cooking but he chops for me
Sounds like a good division of labor to me.
I am short and I need my spices easily ready and available and I am always having to rearrange my kitchen cabinets.
Such a nice video...you two are a great team!
Sounds like you have your division of labor down pat. Mr. Buckey, since you are the Head not the tail (as per the scripture) I would say with pride that you are happy to do more than Mrs. Buckey as division of labor should entail who does each chore the best. God is continuing to bless your marriage because of it. You are lucky to have such an organized and great planner in your life. :) My husband and I watch all of the Alaska shows where people are living off grid. - While Alaska is not our dream destination, we find how people deal with all of those stages of nature in every age group is interesting. I predict you'll work it all out to a "T" :)
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I just found your channel, I think the two of you are such a great couple, the"disagreement" was cute.
Sounds wonderful. Even if I could just work part time, it would give me more time. Right now, I have no time for anything working full time.
My husband washes dishes at his Dad’s. So therefore he believes his Son washed dishes at home! Not so. I’m fortunate if he brings his dirty plates to the Sink! However; he does Windows. ❤️
Phyllis, My husband does so much like fixing whatever breaks around here. I'm not good at it and he takes care of much of the car maintenance which saves us thousands of dollars. He does the lawn and chickens too and the garden. He dusted when he was a teen too so now he will NOT dust or do house work. I cook, he does the grill. He's sort of messy in the kitchen so I do it myself. He is my advisor and I'm his and we get on each others nerves. ha ha I used to do so much more til I damaged my Achilles tendon which limits my walking. This upset me in many ways and gaining weight really bothers me so recently I purchased a exercise bike and try to do at least 50 minutes a day. We both agree that we don't like sports so that's good. I like the old movies and series better than the new junk that's on t.v. My husband seems to like shopping more than I do. We do the carpet shampooing and windows together cause it's a two story house. Our garden used to be large but it has since gotten to difficult (we're both retired) so now we have a mini garden. I hate clutter and my husbands a collector of stuff. That's a big problem we have never solved. We try to adapt to each other. I do all the painting or used to. I don't want to paint anymore! We do a lot together also. He loves horror movies and I like old movies, romance and comedy. Pete and I are best friends too. Sounds like we have a lot in common. I'm reserved and quiet. Pete is out going and talkative. Sometimes I wish he'd be quiet cause I got used to the quiet time all of the years he worked. I like order, my husband often can't find his tools,etc. cause he is not. ha ha I like to read and Pete doesn't. I could go on and on. I tell him "a place for everything and everything in it's place but it does not compute with him. ha ha I operate the computer and he operates the vcr.
With the two of you together you make the perfect couple. Sounds like Mr. Bucky and me.
The sports thing just really gets on my nerves sometimes especially during football season, seems like there is always a football game on TV somewhere.
My husband retired last year at age 74...he also worked 3 days a week for years and it was a good thing for us too...my husband is very traditional..so he doesn't want to do the things traditionally done by females lol..but he takes care of the pool..anything to do with our cars and outside..
SUCH good advice Phyllis
Hoping all is well for you and your family.
I can relate about the dishwasher except, Mr. D doesn't load it the way I like it.
Love this...
My husband does nothing . He has never ever volunteered to do anything. My husband sits in his recliner with a remote that's it.
Hahahaha!! you two are just to funny! I love to watch your videos ,especially when your both in them! I enjoy your cooking videos and love all the recipes :) God Bless you both .......I so addicted!!!! :}
I think y’all are such a great team..