Just imagine all ladies take your advice and stay away from married life.... we will all be extinct in few hundred years. It takes 2 to bring a new life to earth.🤔
😂😂 1. I’m not advising anyone, I’m just sharing my worldview. 2. don’t worry, not many women want the life I want. Many children have been born while you were asleep and will continue to. Fun fact, not every woman in history has always had children or a husband and look, you’re here despite that 😂 3. you will very much be long gone from this earth before humanity goes extinct. So stop worrying about things that will not affect you
@Jepisms You only have to look at Japan or some European countries to understand the gravity of the situation of childless society. When somehow being a lone wolf becomes fashionable or the new trend. Then the diaper companies switch from manufacturing kids diapers to adult diapers. Because ladies are having less and less kids or none at all. Then the society automatically collapses. Villages becomes deserted and whole towns become ruins. We should stop romanticizing unmarried life and encourage more kids to be born. Every woman should have atleast atleast 2 kids to maintain healthy population. Below that is a disaster waiting to happen. Just ask Japan.
@@saidhashi2856 then focus on telling men to stop killing women, for men to stop wanting to control women's bodies, for men to stop raping children, for men to stop starting unnecessary wars. why do you want women to risk their lives to bring children into a world that doesn't even care about children?
I'm grateful to have declined marriage proposals. I feel like being tied to a man is slavery. If I fear anything, I fear losing my freedom more than being lonely.
I was about to be set up to marry the head elder’s grandson at the church. I’d left (due to unforeseen circumstances) before any plans were set in stone. Praising God everyday!
Girl, I just turned 30, and I cannot see myself living that life. I've mostly been single all my adult life, and honestly, I love the freedom of being by myself.
For some of us God has already planned for us to either be single forever until we meet him one day or married whether we want to or not. In the end we will be happy with whatever path he has chosen for us. He will always give us confirmation.
First born daughters and honestly all daughters , let’s gather here and discuss deconstructing patriarchy, and religion, Spirituality, romanticizing our single childless lives, being the best version of ourselves. We are Goddesses 🧘🏽♀️🌸
So well said. Many women are out there auditioning to be double-servant material (mum &wife) ...even after witnessing their own mothers, aunts, grandmothers suffer. So glad the new generations are starting to wise up and value themselves. Love your unfiltered commentary 💛
i’ve always watched all the women around me with their incompetent husbands and subpar relationships and it’s made me want to stay single forever. i’ve watched my male cousins and my brothers grow up to become the same type of men as my uncles, father, grandfather, etc. and then the people in my family have the audacity to act like i’m the problem for not wanting to date…
Honestly, for some of us God has already planned for us to either be single forever until we meet him one day or married whether we want to or not. In the end we will be happy with whatever path he has chosen for us. He will always give us confirmation.
I had to replay the intro 2 times because that is my life! Church and parents wanted me to stay away from boys, but now want me to be married? I’ve stayed away from guys and miraculously they want me to be in a relationship all of a sudden? How, when I’ve never been on a date, never went to parties, or even small gatherings. I always was studying or just chilling in my room. And they expect me to all of a sudden be marriage minded? I’m too focused on getting debt free, figuring out how to be a fur mom in the next few years, and when Stray Kids concert tickets are going on sale 😂
Girl you on the right path! Too much narcissist males out here. They will slowly drain your energy until you have non. I was married for six years and it was the worst years of my life.
This video is so refreshing. I have no desire for marriage or children, I just want to self actualize, continue discovering myself, be happy and healthy, travel, give back to causes i believe in, and enjoy my life❤❤
Just turned 26 last month and honestly, I don't want to be a slave to a man,I want to make so much money,travel,live my life the way I feel,satisfying my soul
@@shaypope4732 Yes and no. That far less possible. Because the money is not just your but the money of the familly so every use for yourself will impact everyone. You have a child to take care of. You can't just let your husband and child and go there and there. You have many concession to do. Parental obligation. Obviously that not impossible, but there is largely more difficulties to do what you want. Every parent tell it.
@@aelitastone5629 I've been traveling for free since I was 10 matter fact no 15 for free n I used to bring my husband for free too but everyone different hun cause I don't have kids r want them so I do travel with my mom and dad n siblings when I have to go turn on the lights at my vacation properties I've built cause a hurricane came n even though I had the generator turned off after I left the country the power came back n everything was on n the most I ever had to pay to travel is 40$ n that's if it's a overnight last-minute JetBlue flight but u know more about traveling than me even though I have 4passports(I ran out of places to stamp)but thanks for the advice hun do wat works for u n ur family
Society is hellbent on terrorizing young girls into marriage for fear of being ridiculed but I love my single peaceful life. I don’t want to experience childbirth for a cheating husband, domestic violence and do most of the domestic/emotional labor.
The older I become, the less I argue or debate with people, especially men. Most of the time they are literally committed to misunderstanding you. Anyway, great video. I just subscribed.
I'm 29 and have mourned already the fact that I won't be having kids in this life. To me it was too precious to hand over to men who are trained and focused on controlling women and children. I will focus on me, my community, and the children who need guidance 🙏. Most men are dumb and refuse to educate themselves, so this is truly a breath of fresh air. Thank you for posting and you have a new subscriber here ❤. Looking forward to hearing more of your thoughts and feelings on these situations ❤️🔥
Girl you are okay. I am 56 and single and loving it. Just shut out the noise. I ignore social media and what society tells me I should be. I am just living my life. Society has brainwashed women into thinking that a single childhood woman cannot be happy. I beg to defer and I realize you cannot argue with ignorance. I have nothing against marriage and children as it is needed and has its place. Therefore live and let live and let others live the life they want to. Great video. Protect your sanity
Your decision not to want a husband is a reflection of your personal needs, desires, and values. Some people simply don’t feel the desire for marriage, and that’s perfectly okay
@@zaire-aniyarobinson2928who is putting them down? If anything it's women who don't desire marriage and kids that are looked down on more in the society
I really want to meet a friend like you, i always feel so lonely because nobody understand im happy without a boyfriend. People tend to make me feel ashamed because i never haved a relationship, it's so frustating. Great video!
You’ll need to learn to not care about being misunderstood. I know it’s easier said than done but not giving people’s opinions weight when it comes to your own life is one of the skills you have to learn in order to live peacefully
Me too am 27 never dated nor been in a relationship and whenever I think about being romantically involved with a man I get so anxious especially now that people expect you to be married.
Marriage scares the shit out of me. Plus i'm a retired burnt out first born daughter. 31 and i do not want that stress. From what i have seen women in my family endure in marriage for the tittle of "wife", i have no desire for it all. I am not bothered about birthing biological children either. I will adopt an orphaned child who needs love and care.
There are studies that show marriage benefits men more than it does women. So of course there's pressure for women to marry and benefit men. Being child free, including adult sized male children, is one of the best decisions I ever made. I have peace ❤️🔥💜🥳
I’m 23 and I’ve already come to this conclusion. It’s so freeing and I can think about the future and what I want, and definitely human beings are so exhausting 😫.
This is so refreshing, I am 41, and I don't have any desire for marriage or children. It's been a lifetime of people asking me questions of " why not." Frankly, it's none of their business. It's not the end all be all for all women. Keep shining 😊
Girls how is this not blowing? I’m 26 never dated and I’m not planning to do it any time soon. The idea of just being in a relationship doesn’t seem to be a need/want to me so I’ll continue to listen to my guts. The amount of weird opinions I get about my singleness is wild. But it always confirms to me that I’m on the right path.
@@trafficcontrol2420me too! 43 here and majority of the men I dated was a waste of precious time that I could been using on my own best interest. A lot of men are users and energy vampires.
Im 27 and will be 28 in 3months, i once met another college student like myself, so i started talking to him about my plan on how im buying my home appliances and wardrobe....he felt intimitated by me and said he doesnt want a partner who will lead him cause he wanted to be the leader😂😂😂😂 i kid you not these men want women to always be a doormatt
OMG, this is the first video I’ve seen of you, and I already love you so much. I relate so much to this video! I am a 26-year-old, first-born daughter of a very Christian family, and I have had the same experience as you. Throughout my childhood, I was always pushed to excel and be the best in school. I did everything they asked of me, including staying away from boys and men for fear of getting pregnant and other concerns. Now that I’m 26, everyone keeps asking if I have a fiancé or a boyfriend. It’s ironic because I spent my entire childhood avoiding men, and now they expect me to be ready for marriage. Honestly, I’m not attracted to the married woman lifestyle. It doesn’t resonate with who I am, even though I still try to push myself to look for a boyfriend or partner. Deep down, I know it’s not for me, and I don’t enjoy it. I feel like I’d be miserable if I ever got married. Seeing that so many others have had similar experiences makes me feel less alone, and it gives me hope that everything will be OK. It’s hard to navigate this world when you think differently from most people.
Thank you. I'm glad me sharing my experience helps us to take one step closer to knowing that there are so many ways to do life. We are taught that there is only one and that's why many people are suffering silently
I've finally met myself through another woman, 😂😂😂😂 this empowered me so much. Thanks Sis! 😘 This is the first video from your channel that I came across and made me subscribe.
Brilliant analysis! When you spoke about how misogyny affects women’s health, it really resonated. I recently read a study highlighting that Black women experience the highest rates of autoimmune diseases, with stress identified as a significant contributor. I've also come across stories from divorced women who report that illnesses like migraines, autoimmune flare-ups, fibromyalgia, and high blood pressure eased after leaving their marriages. Your insights are powerful, and I look forward to more content like this. You’ve gained a new subscriber!
I am 18 and I always feel I am too young to think of myself not wanting to live a life in marriage or with a boyfriend . I feel I am yet to grow and discover new things about myself,but the thought of marriage and being a mom just isn’t in the picture for me because I want freedom and I believe there is so MUCH more to life than marriage or living with a partner ! So I am glad I have found this channel ! New SUBSCRIBERRR❤️
Girrrl, you have time. Use your years, till 25 at least, to invest in yourself. Take risks for your dreams. Go to wherever you desire. Focus on knowing yourself because these are your foundation years 🥂
So happy i found your channel. I'm 32 and relate to your perspective so much. I started dating and got into relationship at 29 because I felt pressured to do so, not because it was something I wanted. I ended up in an abusive relationship and it's still something that I'm trying to recover from. I learned my lesson the hard way but it's something I could have avoided if I had listened to what I wanted and not what other people expected from me.
I’m “worth nothing” if I’m not tied to someone who doesn’t bathe, pees all over the toilet seat and farts under the covers??😒😒😒 Yeah, *hard pass* for me. 🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
@@Dhfhucudu Ladies that do not marry drastically increase their chances of living in poverty in their senior years. I would never wish that on my daughter.
@@lennylink8772so why not help your daughter create a successful life by teaching her about saving, investing, and the importance of skills that add value to society in ways that lead to financial success?
SAME! I live in a tiny old-fashioned village, and everyone is belittling me, asking me why I don't look for a boyfriend, giving me those pity looks (mostly older men), since I'm apparently not a bad catch ... I'm exhausted. I'm a freelancer, make much more money than most men, but I have no husband! So saaaad! What am I doing with my life? Why aren't I submitting to my servant role like every woman in my family before me?
Please don't care what they think or say, the men are angry because you are not serving them at the age most women are "supposed to" be servants and baby machines to men. It is a threat to the patriarchy and to the entitlement to woman's free labour.
I love your voice. There is just something beautiful about it. Am 43, also not interested in having a partner or a husband. I just had this conversation with my elder brother and he seemed confused 😅. But it's my truth. I have find relationships with men to be exhausting and draining. P.S. Your kitties are too adorable 🐈
Thank you 🥰 I find that because a lot of men are uncomfortable being alone they don’t understand why women would choose that because they benefit greatly from these relationships
I'm finally realizing it now at the age of 44. I no longer have interest dating, relationships, marriage, etc. It's not meant for everyone and thats alright. Most people get in their feelings because they don't fully understand why some women regardless of their age and mostly young women refuse to settle for relationship, etc. Women are more than being wife, mother. I'm a Introvert and truly content with my own company and space. I prefer a peaceful, drama free, child free life. This year and more years in my future continue on my growth, healing, spiritual, singlehood and feminine journeys. Keep forward in life and not repeat the same cycle of mistakes, but take them as lessons learned throughout my youth to adult years.
@@JepismsWhen I was in my late 20's I got so tired of conversations from a few of my uncle's wives asking questions about me to settle, marry have a family? Even though they were nosy and try get into my business, etc. My answer is NO. Just because they are grandparents and their adult children married or not they have kids and others have one child. No thanks. In my mid 40's still have the same mindset and it's not the lifestyle for me.
So true. Women killing them selves to have the best body for guys who don’t even have to try to look as nice as us. Hell no, I’m going to be MY version of beautiful. I’m going to be as carefree as a man because that’s what I deserve. Why should women have to do all the strict dieting and adapting to society’s body trends but men don’t? F that. CHOOSE not to fall for the trend.
I'm 22 ♀️.. Met a guy last year and we clicked, both liked each other.. We got to a topic and I asked him what his body count is, he said he lost count, then he asked me and I told him I'm a virgin. He said "I can't be with someone that is inexperienced".. My confidence dropped / insecure 😅 we stopped talking a few days after that convo. It gave me more reason to just live like a nun. Apart from that, i never really got the obsession with marriage.
Not your man. Search for deeper connection. Take more time to know person. Its nothing bad being a virgin. Your man would love and respect your choices. And care for your wellbeing.
Girrrrl I'm a 38 year old with a daughter and a partner has been asking me to marry him for years now and, I told him in the beginning that I don't want to get married but I think he assumes I'll change my mind. So he says can we move in together and I said No. I am happy with my life, I am happy living with my daughter. Marriage is not for and I know it. My so called 'happily married' neighbours are so unhappy. I know it cause they tell me.
I wonder why such people always think that women will always change their mind. Do they really believe that women don't know how to make their own life choices? And i find this behaviour quite rampant because when a woman says they don't want children or marriage they are always told they will change their mind 😭
I'm almost 30 and finally realizing I was so programmed into thinking I had to be with someone. I sincerely do not even like the idea lol and it's nothing against men for me. Relationships just don't entice me!
Men dont like women like that.Its just sex nothing else. Am 28 now and sometimes i mourn over how long this took me to find out. Controlling women, free labour, ego stroking and yet being so childish at the same time (doesn't matter what age he comes in, its just testosterone) I have friends who were soo happy they were chosen..i dont get excited at all because am asking myself 'ok, then what?..i wish i could explain how unhappy they are. Always complaining. My advice to anyone younger than me: TRUST GOD ! Decentralize men, focus on your life, your growth, make good friends,stay vigilant, and if you must pick someone be sure that they want you as much,dont be delusional.
Same here! My self love journey is making me not a man hater, but a deeper lover and appreciation of true love and people who are really open! Now that I am not in a romantic relationship, I am in so much deeper love with myself and much more compassionate and loving when people are real. I don't need to be guided or competed with anymore. This sort of confidence is a lot to hold, but as I get more comfortable, I am so excited to cheer other people on their journey through life ❤ GURL SHINE!!!!
Its sad i got told the same thing. The women around me are all single mothers ive never seen a man properly love a woman. Its said im now 29 and not married no kids. It depresses but i wont give up
@@JepismsYES. We’ve been conditioned to believe that being a wife and mom is what we SHOULD want, however I’ve been happier ever since I’ve decided not to marry my ex fiancé. Men in general aren’t going to love you properly, regardless of you have his kids or not. Idc about being shamed for actively choosing to be a single mom anymore. I’ll forever only balance my time for my kids and ME 🥰
I am a first born daughter as well (heck for my mom I am the only child) and I completely relate with every single thing you said. My dad has constantly told me growing up to never depend on a man and to be careful of men who want me to carry many children. He said, it's a form of control to keep me in the house while he is out and about living in the outside world. He said women go through so much during labor that men need to be more empathetic of what they put women through during child labor. I am 34 now and my parents still don't pressure me to have children or get married. ❤ Not saying I am opposed to ever doing it, but I don't feel it a need.
I told the people i live with that i dont think I ever want to get married. I had mustered up the courage and everything. They flatly told me, you dont mean that. You will change your mind. The way my jaw slackened😂
Such a great video and I love your energy! Just turned 37 and been single most of my life (just dated a few months at a time but always ended up leaving because I prioritize peace) and I've watched all my girlfriends and some guy friends suffer so much in their relationships. Either it has to feel so right or I'm staying single. Love that more people are talking about this. Thank you so much! ❤
Wow ❤ your mindset is amazing, your confidence radiates through your words and you have an inspirational lifestyle, the pets look beautiful and healthy and the organic nutrition shows intentionality❤ I'm glad TH-cam recommended your channel ❤
I’m engaged. Found a great guy. But I’m not having children. Just not the path I want for myself. I’ve already gotten the “I’m selfish” shot from my future FIL. My family and more importantly my fiancé agrees.
Finally! Someone said it! I don't see myself being a slave through marriage and having children. Men don't really like women! They just use women. If you have an honest, genuine conversation with men, most of them will tell you the truth. I agree with everything you said apart from calling yourself a god or the alpha and omega bit. I am kindly requesting you do a childfree video for women who don't want kids. Thank you 😊
I love you! This year I stopped caring about other people and their opinions about how I should live my life, and I am actually finally losing a few inches on my waist🥰
I am happily married but I support you 100 I hate women who criticise other women about their lives choices the man always project their fears of lonely love this generation marriage is not a trophy I love it but I force others to it
this is one of the many reasons i'm opting out of dating. i'm losing interest in romantic relationships, and trying my best to prioritize friendships and experiencing life in itself
Didn't see the whole video yet, but as a happily married mom of 3 boys, I agree with majority of what you've said so far. I think I can empathize because before being a wife and a mom, i wanted to be single as well- the dudes out there were trash! My husband at that time was my friend (platonic as platonic can be). And in that dynamic, I got to see him for who he really was- someone who actually DOESN'T want a slave for a wife, someone who WANTS to be challenged to grow, who wants someone who is driven in her professional and personal pursuits, etc.etc. In any case, I have to agree, a lot of people tend to push societal norms on others (esp women) and being on the other side of the spectrum now, while I gladly chose this life, and would do it again in a heartbeat, I also know how much it demands of you and what sacrifices you'll need to make. And now even more than before I was married, I hate that motherhood, or wifehood is pushed on us in such a flippant manner, with no respect to the gravity of such a life choice! Someone who knows in their heart of hearts that they don't want to be a mother should not be pressured into that just because it's "what you're supposed to do/want". I love my kids to death, but with how physically and emotionally demanding motherhood can be, I TOTALLY get it if a woman chooses not to embark on that journey. I love my husband to death, but the repercussions of choosing the wrong life partner can be devastatingly damaging to your entire life and is this not a decision to take lightly, so I totally understand someone choosing not to embark on that journey as well. All in all, I'm glad I was/am the type who is willing to go against the grain and ruffle feathers on matters that are important to have your own perspective on because the choices I made were truly my own, and that's the only way you can be at peace with life regardless of what others expect of you. I wish that for all women/ all people. We are all so much more than what we adorn on our finger, or what our wombs can do.
THANK YOU !! thank you sm for making this video and sharing it! I am soo glad the algorithm recommended it. Ever since a teenager I have always said I didn’t want children. still for a while considered marriage if I could find a partner that didn’t weaponize incompetence or expected me to do all the labor at home and with children. but I am slowly realizing I may be asking for a unicorn bc most men are socialized & trained to believe that IS a woman’s role in marriage & once having children. smh.. not for me! i’m better off keeping my sanity and peace while being single. I have a better chance at happiness and not being stuck being miserable. now at 31, going on 32, I have truly become more focused on decentering men and romantic relationships from my life and focusing on myself. myself, my health, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, aspirations, my family, friends, network, etc. anything BUT a man ! There is really so much more to life!!! it is so liberating and empowering. I really resonated with the part about not wanting to be friends with women that are so male centered… I noticed that some of my friendships with women allllll we spoke about was men men men men men.. literally about 80% of our conversations would be about men.. 🫠 it was exhausting !! had to distance myself and limit my time with them unfortunately. i’m over it, and want more women friends that don’t center their lives around men & romantic relationships. please, please, please make more content around this topic. I find that it will help soo many women in need of hearing this message. & of course I will watch all of it! i’m subscribing to your channel to make sure I don’t miss a thing!.. I hope more women come across your message and have a moment of clarity. u have such a valuable view that should be discussed more!.. thanks again!! 🩷
I love your philosophy and am so happy for you that you know yourself well enough to not be manipulated by the outside influences designed to enslave the masses. Only those who are insecure in themselves will feel threatened by your choosing to confidently be your unapologetic self. Good for you SISTA ✊🏾
It wasn't until a few decades ago that women had the choice to marry or not. We were seen as property, passed on from father to husband. Expected to keep house, have children, stay at home. That was our job. This modern notion of romantic love that women have been sold has totally upended what should have been a clean break from men as more and more women are able to support themselves and no longer needed a man for survival. So, I'm in total agreement. Having a bf, husband is boring to me. It means more work for me. Same if I have children. Women, because of our caring, nurturing nature, are often stuck doing 90%+ of household work, including childcare. While many men view looking after their own children on their own as "babysitting." Ladies, PLEASE, ask yourselves why you want marriage, a bf, a husband, even children. Really ask yourselves WHY. If it's for other reasons than you really, really want these things yourselves, DO NOT do it!
I LOVE everything about this video! New subscriber here ! Keep it coming !! Well spoken, and great points💯 why should men have all the fun?! When we do it , we’re villainized. Thank you so much for speaking on this ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Was perfectly fine being single raising son..choose to get married because I thought marriage is completion ....one Month in and I knew I was in trouble.
I actually agree and I have a boyfriend, the latter I didn't think would happen. I worry slightly that men are being made slightly 2 dimensional, they're not completely socialised in a way that benefits them/us. They are just as complex and confused as us. I don't want ppl to lose that understanding whether they want heteronormative relationships/not.
i'm greatful we have the ability to choose whether we want to or not.. many regions still don't allow women to be safe or make a living without a husband. I'm glad i was born in a time that not having a husband doesn't mean no income or protection.
I also like to live how I want, not how society dictates; majority is wrong. I think living apart together is a good option where you only meet your man or your woman twice or three times a week whilst you live separately at orher times. This allows you to have time for yourselves and a time together when you more or less missing each other.
@@Jepisms I'm sure that lifestyle can work out well. Actually a lot of the things you say resonate with me; I would like to visit your country Kenya one day.
As a 40 year old man, I am single/unmarried by choice for a lengthy laundry list of reasons but here are my top 5…1) The thought of dating, entering a relationship and getting married never appealed to me. 2) Romantic partnership is expensive because it takes restaurant dinners, movie tickets, hobbies, travel, wine bottles, gifts and flowers. 3) Too many people lie and cheat which can result in baggage and diseases. 4) Your partner can become controlling, abusive and violent. 5) I value my autonomy and freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want. Overall, having a partner is selfish because you are insecure as a single and codependent once you get a partner. You are using someone to do things for you and give you things which you can provide for yourself, that is just the epitome of selfishness to me.
I guess it depends on perspective, no one is an island, we all use or need other humans to provide things for ourselves, for companionship, for joy, whether those people come in the form of a friend, acquaintance, the shop attendant helping us, the bankers etc. So a certain level of selfishness is essential for human survival and mental health.
I guess it depends on perspective, no one is an island, we all use or need other humans to provide things for ourselves, for companionship, for joy, whether those people come in the form of a friend, acquaintance, the shop attendant helping us, the bankers etc. So a certain level of selfishness is essential for human survival and mental health.
I love your mind Jep! Also I could have written that title myself lol. I am not interested in having a romantic partner and everyone is so confused. I have been living in my father's house for the past three years after i moved from Uganda and while it's sometimes limiting living in the rural country side, I am way more content and happy living here than ever before. I have learned to be patient and to wait for things to reach their own stages of development. I find myself tending to plants, starting long knitting projects, and reading books and listening to music outside my bubble. i understand my oppression under my father but it is more palatable than being dominated by a misogynistic partner. A lot of people see me, a 27 year old woman living in my father's home and think I am wasting a life that could otherwise be more productive if I was cooking and cleaning for a man and having his babies. I don't want kids. And I don't want to cook for a man. i want to travel and have meaningful experiences in the world. But I can't because I am not allowed to leave the house without some sort of punishment. That's my only hang up with this lifestyle. I am someone who loves being outside and DOING things. but alas. That's the price i pay for my freedom. - I would love to know more about your connection with spirituality/divine feminine/masculine that you talk about. I don't believe in any sort of spirituality and have to rely on myself for my own self worth and self esteem, which is kinda hard sometimes.
I am happy for you. Im happy for any woman who doesnt make the mistake I did. I married at 20. 38 now. Id never been around men. I was so niave at 20. 10 years past divorce but I still pay for my mistake daily by just how different my life is because I allowed a man to distract me. And my son suffers from having a bad father.
You are definitely a "Sigma" ❤❤❤ I'm intentionally watching advertisements so to support your channel. I resonate, deeply. Women who managed to attract enlightened husbands and boyfriends ❤ are the luckiest.
We are liberated women. It’s a blessing to be an educated and liberated woman who refuses to be controlled and manipulated to please these mainly immature men. I love this video! I’m happy to know we shared the same thoughts. Let’s continue to take care of ourselves and self-actualize.
Just imagine all ladies take your advice and stay away from married life.... we will all be extinct in few hundred years. It takes 2 to bring a new life to earth.🤔
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1. I’m not advising anyone, I’m just sharing my worldview.
2. don’t worry, not many women want the life I want. Many children have been born while you were asleep and will continue to. Fun fact, not every woman in history has always had children or a husband and look, you’re here despite that 😂
3. you will very much be long gone from this earth before humanity goes extinct. So stop worrying about things that will not affect you
@Jepisms
You only have to look at Japan or some European countries to understand the gravity of the situation of childless society. When somehow being a lone wolf becomes fashionable or the new trend. Then the diaper companies switch from manufacturing kids diapers to adult diapers. Because ladies are having less and less kids or none at all. Then the society automatically collapses.
Villages becomes deserted and whole towns become ruins.
We should stop romanticizing unmarried life and encourage more kids to be born.
Every woman should have atleast atleast 2 kids to maintain healthy population. Below that is a disaster waiting to happen.
Just ask Japan.
@@saidhashi2856your mouth runs faster than your ears. It makes you sound shallow.
@@saidhashi2856you should start having those kids than...
@@saidhashi2856 then focus on telling men to stop killing women, for men to stop wanting to control women's bodies, for men to stop raping children, for men to stop starting unnecessary wars.
why do you want women to risk their lives to bring children into a world that doesn't even care about children?
I'm grateful to have declined marriage proposals. I feel like being tied to a man is slavery. If I fear anything, I fear losing my freedom more than being lonely.
It is slavery. Married women are suffering
Me too. 3 times declined. I do not really like them
I was about to be set up to marry the head elder’s grandson at the church. I’d left (due to unforeseen circumstances) before any plans were set in stone. Praising God everyday!
@@Psa46 That was God 🙌
I've never been proposed to. Sounds like a nightmare honestly.
Girl, I just turned 30, and I cannot see myself living that life. I've mostly been single all my adult life, and honestly, I love the freedom of being by myself.
Yess , I love that for you❤
For some of us God has already planned for us to either be single forever until we meet him one day or married whether we want to or not. In the end we will be happy with whatever path he has chosen for us. He will always give us confirmation.
First born daughters and honestly all daughters , let’s gather here and discuss deconstructing patriarchy, and religion, Spirituality, romanticizing our single childless lives, being the best version of ourselves. We are Goddesses 🧘🏽♀️🌸
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Thank you for this.
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Periodt!
So well said. Many women are out there auditioning to be double-servant material (mum &wife) ...even after witnessing their own mothers, aunts, grandmothers suffer.
So glad the new generations are starting to wise up and value themselves.
Love your unfiltered commentary 💛
Thank you 🥰
i’ve always watched all the women around me with their incompetent husbands and subpar relationships and it’s made me want to stay single forever. i’ve watched my male cousins and my brothers grow up to become the same type of men as my uncles, father, grandfather, etc. and then the people in my family have the audacity to act like i’m the problem for not wanting to date…
Honestly, for some of us God has already planned for us to either be single forever until we meet him one day or married whether we want to or not. In the end we will be happy with whatever path he has chosen for us. He will always give us confirmation.
@@divinedianec3170 Empower yourself in knowing you choose your own path.
Single, happy and free is one of the paths that people are blessed to choose🫶
I had to replay the intro 2 times because that is my life! Church and parents wanted me to stay away from boys, but now want me to be married? I’ve stayed away from guys and miraculously they want me to be in a relationship all of a sudden? How, when I’ve never been on a date, never went to parties, or even small gatherings. I always was studying or just chilling in my room. And they expect me to all of a sudden be marriage minded? I’m too focused on getting debt free, figuring out how to be a fur mom in the next few years, and when Stray Kids concert tickets are going on sale 😂
😂😂they are in for a rude shock for a lifetime
You’re so real for the concert tickets😂
Girl you on the right path! Too much narcissist males out here. They will slowly drain your energy until you have non. I was married for six years and it was the worst years of my life.
Same hahah, I can’t wait to be a fur mom and also go to all the kpop concerts that I’ve never been able to attend 😂. I am also a stay ✌🏽
This video is so refreshing. I have no desire for marriage or children, I just want to self actualize, continue discovering myself, be happy and healthy, travel, give back to causes i believe in, and enjoy my life❤❤
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Just turned 26 last month and honestly, I don't want to be a slave to a man,I want to make so much money,travel,live my life the way I feel,satisfying my soul
U can travel with points r free with mry
Same girl same.
@@shaypope4732 Yes and no. That far less possible. Because the money is not just your but the money of the familly so every use for yourself will impact everyone. You have a child to take care of. You can't just let your husband and child and go there and there. You have many concession to do. Parental obligation. Obviously that not impossible, but there is largely more difficulties to do what you want. Every parent tell it.
Me too🥺
@@aelitastone5629 I've been traveling for free since I was 10 matter fact no 15 for free n I used to bring my husband for free too but everyone different hun cause I don't have kids r want them so I do travel with my mom and dad n siblings when I have to go turn on the lights at my vacation properties I've built cause a hurricane came n even though I had the generator turned off after I left the country the power came back n everything was on n the most I ever had to pay to travel is 40$ n that's if it's a overnight last-minute JetBlue flight but u know more about traveling than me even though I have 4passports(I ran out of places to stamp)but thanks for the advice hun do wat works for u n ur family
So original and So refreshing. She's clearly 1000 years ahead of her time.
Merci 🥰
@@Jepisms thank you for being so fearless, we love you the thougts have been gems
Society is hellbent on terrorizing young girls into marriage for fear of being ridiculed but I love my single peaceful life. I don’t want to experience childbirth for a cheating husband, domestic violence and do most of the domestic/emotional labor.
The older I become, the less I argue or debate with people, especially men. Most of the time they are literally committed to misunderstanding you. Anyway, great video. I just subscribed.
Nothing you say will be good enough for them because they have been conditioned to see us as inferior humans
I'm 29 and have mourned already the fact that I won't be having kids in this life. To me it was too precious to hand over to men who are trained and focused on controlling women and children. I will focus on me, my community, and the children who need guidance 🙏. Most men are dumb and refuse to educate themselves, so this is truly a breath of fresh air. Thank you for posting and you have a new subscriber here ❤. Looking forward to hearing more of your thoughts and feelings on these situations ❤️🔥
Girl you are okay. I am 56 and single and loving it. Just shut out the noise. I ignore social media and what society tells me I should be. I am just living my life. Society has brainwashed women into thinking that a single childhood woman cannot be happy. I beg to defer and I realize you cannot argue with ignorance. I have nothing against marriage and children as it is needed and has its place. Therefore live and let live and let others live the life they want to. Great video. Protect your sanity
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Your decision not to want a husband is a reflection of your personal needs, desires, and values. Some people simply don’t feel the desire for marriage, and that’s perfectly okay
And that’s fine but I don’t think it’s fair to put down and label women that want to be married.
@@zaire-aniyarobinson2928who is putting them down? If anything it's women who don't desire marriage and kids that are looked down on more in the society
You put words on my feelings thank you ❤
I really want to meet a friend like you, i always feel so lonely because nobody understand im happy without a boyfriend. People tend to make me feel ashamed because i never haved a relationship, it's so frustating. Great video!
You’ll need to learn to not care about being misunderstood. I know it’s easier said than done but not giving people’s opinions weight when it comes to your own life is one of the skills you have to learn in order to live peacefully
The Peace I have when I am not romantically involved with a guy is unmatched 😂
This feeling is the BEST😂😂😂
Me too am 27 never dated nor been in a relationship and whenever I think about being romantically involved with a man I get so anxious especially now that people expect you to be married.
Marriage scares the shit out of me. Plus i'm a retired burnt out first born daughter. 31 and i do not want that stress. From what i have seen women in my family endure in marriage for the tittle of "wife", i have no desire for it all. I am not bothered about birthing biological children either. I will adopt an orphaned child who needs love and care.
There are studies that show marriage benefits men more than it does women. So of course there's pressure for women to marry and benefit men. Being child free, including adult sized male children, is one of the best decisions I ever made. I have peace ❤️🔥💜🥳
I’m 23 and I’ve already come to this conclusion. It’s so freeing and I can think about the future and what I want, and definitely human beings are so exhausting 😫.
So exhausting! 😩
This is so refreshing, I am 41, and I don't have any desire for marriage or children. It's been a lifetime of people asking me questions of " why not." Frankly, it's none of their business. It's not the end all be all for all women. Keep shining 😊
Same here. I realized in my 20s that there are 10 billion other things to be in this world besides somebody’s wife/mother.
Girls how is this not blowing?
I’m 26 never dated and I’m not planning to do it any time soon. The idea of just being in a relationship doesn’t seem to be a need/want to me so I’ll continue to listen to my guts. The amount of weird opinions I get about my singleness is wild. But it always confirms to me that I’m on the right path.
I wish I could go back in time and never date!
@@trafficcontrol2420me too! 43 here and majority of the men I dated was a waste of precious time that I could been using on my own best interest. A lot of men are users and energy vampires.
@@trafficcontrol2420Same
Me too 27 and don’t want none of that 😂😂
Same here and I’m 33
i wish i was as clever as you at 27...i've just realised this at 41 after a lifetime of ab use and injuries
Im 27 and will be 28 in 3months, i once met another college student like myself, so i started talking to him about my plan on how im buying my home appliances and wardrobe....he felt intimitated by me and said he doesnt want a partner who will lead him cause he wanted to be the leader😂😂😂😂 i kid you not these men want women to always be a doormatt
@@shaditiahuur9634 men and their leadership obsession without any leadership portfolio 🤦🏽♀️
Me three am 27 too and I just feel like romantic relationships aren't for me. I'm more drawn to my passions.
I've found my tribe❤
Cheers 🥂❤️
Yup
Me tooooo!!! At 32
@@joanwanjiku5275 33 here 🤭
me too❤
OMG, this is the first video I’ve seen of you, and I already love you so much. I relate so much to this video! I am a 26-year-old, first-born daughter of a very Christian family, and I have had the same experience as you. Throughout my childhood, I was always pushed to excel and be the best in school. I did everything they asked of me, including staying away from boys and men for fear of getting pregnant and other concerns. Now that I’m 26, everyone keeps asking if I have a fiancé or a boyfriend. It’s ironic because I spent my entire childhood avoiding men, and now they expect me to be ready for marriage.
Honestly, I’m not attracted to the married woman lifestyle. It doesn’t resonate with who I am, even though I still try to push myself to look for a boyfriend or partner. Deep down, I know it’s not for me, and I don’t enjoy it. I feel like I’d be miserable if I ever got married. Seeing that so many others have had similar experiences makes me feel less alone, and it gives me hope that everything will be OK. It’s hard to navigate this world when you think differently from most people.
Thank you. I'm glad me sharing my experience helps us to take one step closer to knowing that there are so many ways to do life. We are taught that there is only one and that's why many people are suffering silently
I've finally met myself through another woman, 😂😂😂😂 this empowered me so much. Thanks Sis! 😘 This is the first video from your channel that I came across and made me subscribe.
🥰🥰merci. We are many out here 💃🏽
Brilliant analysis! When you spoke about how misogyny affects women’s health, it really resonated. I recently read a study highlighting that Black women experience the highest rates of autoimmune diseases, with stress identified as a significant contributor. I've also come across stories from divorced women who report that illnesses like migraines, autoimmune flare-ups, fibromyalgia, and high blood pressure eased after leaving their marriages. Your insights are powerful, and I look forward to more content like this. You’ve gained a new subscriber!
Thank you. Yes, we need to talk more about how stress affects our health. It’s baffling how this is not a mainstream subject
I am 18 and I always feel I am too young to think of myself not wanting to live a life in marriage or with a boyfriend . I feel I am yet to grow and discover new things about myself,but the thought of marriage and being a mom just isn’t in the picture for me because I want freedom and I believe there is so MUCH more to life than marriage or living with a partner ! So I am glad I have found this channel ! New SUBSCRIBERRR❤️
Girrrl, you have time. Use your years, till 25 at least, to invest in yourself. Take risks for your dreams. Go to wherever you desire. Focus on knowing yourself because these are your foundation years 🥂
So happy i found your channel. I'm 32 and relate to your perspective so much. I started dating and got into relationship at 29 because I felt pressured to do so, not because it was something I wanted. I ended up in an abusive relationship and it's still something that I'm trying to recover from. I learned my lesson the hard way but it's something I could have avoided if I had listened to what I wanted and not what other people expected from me.
I wish you a beautiful recovery ❤️🩹♥️
I’m “worth nothing” if I’m not tied to someone who doesn’t bathe, pees all over the toilet seat and farts under the covers??😒😒😒
Yeah, *hard pass* for me. 🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
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Don't forget snoring! Depends on the guy though.
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This is funny😂😂😂
4B movement because we don't want bullshit.
@@jamaicaandrada5526 💯💯
That's a movement for LGBT
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Ah yes, every straight woman just cannot bear to not serve a man for the rest of her life.
@@Dhfhucudu Ladies that do not marry drastically increase their chances of living in poverty in their senior years.
I would never wish that on my daughter.
@@lennylink8772so why not help your daughter create a successful life by teaching her about saving, investing, and the importance of skills that add value to society in ways that lead to financial success?
SAME! I live in a tiny old-fashioned village, and everyone is belittling me, asking me why I don't look for a boyfriend, giving me those pity looks (mostly older men), since I'm apparently not a bad catch ... I'm exhausted. I'm a freelancer, make much more money than most men, but I have no husband! So saaaad! What am I doing with my life? Why aren't I submitting to my servant role like every woman in my family before me?
They literally downplay all life achievements just because a man hasn’t claimed you as his property 😭😭😭!
A tiny old fashioned village? Where?!?
@@katrinabrown3561 South Tyrol in Italy, near the border to Austria. We have a Bavarian like culture, very traditional, many small farms, 300 people.
@@pincopallino8176 ohh that sounds like my dream 😍
Please don't care what they think or say, the men are angry because you are not serving them at the age most women are "supposed to" be servants and baby machines to men. It is a threat to the patriarchy and to the entitlement to woman's free labour.
I love your voice. There is just something beautiful about it. Am 43, also not interested in having a partner or a husband. I just had this conversation with my elder brother and he seemed confused 😅. But it's my truth. I have find relationships with men to be exhausting and draining. P.S. Your kitties are too adorable 🐈
Thank you 🥰
I find that because a lot of men are uncomfortable being alone they don’t understand why women would choose that because they benefit greatly from these relationships
@@JepismsYes I agree.
I'm finally realizing it now at the age of 44. I no longer have interest dating, relationships, marriage, etc. It's not meant for everyone and thats alright. Most people get in their feelings because they don't fully understand why some women regardless of their age and mostly young women refuse to settle for relationship, etc. Women are more than being wife, mother. I'm a Introvert and truly content with my own company and space. I prefer a peaceful, drama free, child free life. This year and more years in my future continue on my growth, healing, spiritual, singlehood and feminine journeys. Keep forward in life and not repeat the same cycle of mistakes, but take them as lessons learned throughout my youth to adult years.
@@Jepisms Your kittens are so cute.
@@JepismsWhen I was in my late 20's I got so tired of conversations from a few of my uncle's wives asking questions about me to settle, marry have a family? Even though they were nosy and try get into my business, etc. My answer is NO. Just because they are grandparents and their adult children married or not they have kids and others have one child. No thanks. In my mid 40's still have the same mindset and it's not the lifestyle for me.
So true. Women killing them selves to have the best body for guys who don’t even have to try to look as nice as us. Hell no, I’m going to be MY version of beautiful. I’m going to be as carefree as a man because that’s what I deserve. Why should women have to do all the strict dieting and adapting to society’s body trends but men don’t? F that. CHOOSE not to fall for the trend.
I'm 22 ♀️.. Met a guy last year and we clicked, both liked each other..
We got to a topic and I asked him what his body count is, he said he lost count, then he asked me and I told him I'm a virgin.
He said "I can't be with someone that is inexperienced"..
My confidence dropped / insecure 😅 we stopped talking a few days after that convo.
It gave me more reason to just live like a nun. Apart from that, i never really got the obsession with marriage.
God just saved you from a complete idiot.
Not your man. Search for deeper connection. Take more time to know person. Its nothing bad being a virgin. Your man would love and respect your choices. And care for your wellbeing.
Your angels just got rid of a zombie for you!!!! Stay that way. You will be healthier both physically and spiritually.
even if he wanted you why would you ever be with a guy who "lost the count"?
Im happy to have found you!
Thank you 🥰
Girrrrl I'm a 38 year old with a daughter and a partner has been asking me to marry him for years now and, I told him in the beginning that I don't want to get married but I think he assumes I'll change my mind. So he says can we move in together and I said No. I am happy with my life, I am happy living with my daughter. Marriage is not for and I know it. My so called 'happily married' neighbours are so unhappy. I know it cause they tell me.
I wonder why such people always think that women will always change their mind. Do they really believe that women don't know how to make their own life choices?
And i find this behaviour quite rampant because when a woman says they don't want children or marriage they are always told they will change their mind 😭
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Exactly.😅
I've had a guy follow me around for months thinking I would change my mind.
So annoying 😫
Love this, I was reflecting on this recently. Love to see women talking about this❤❤
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I'm almost 30 and finally realizing I was so programmed into thinking I had to be with someone. I sincerely do not even like the idea lol and it's nothing against men for me. Relationships just don't entice me!
This is wonderful. You can still live an aweome full life SOLO. Too many folks idolized relationship. Its not that serious. This is good!
Men dont like women like that.Its just sex nothing else. Am 28 now and sometimes i mourn over how long this took me to find out.
Controlling women, free labour, ego stroking and yet being so childish at the same time (doesn't matter what age he comes in, its just testosterone)
I have friends who were soo happy they were chosen..i dont get excited at all because am asking myself 'ok, then what?..i wish i could explain how unhappy they are. Always complaining.
My advice to anyone younger than me:
TRUST GOD !
Decentralize men, focus on your life, your growth, make good friends,stay vigilant, and if you must pick someone be sure that they want you as much,dont be delusional.
Same here! My self love journey is making me not a man hater, but a deeper lover and appreciation of true love and people who are really open! Now that I am not in a romantic relationship, I am in so much deeper love with myself and much more compassionate and loving when people are real. I don't need to be guided or competed with anymore. This sort of confidence is a lot to hold, but as I get more comfortable, I am so excited to cheer other people on their journey through life ❤ GURL SHINE!!!!
This video just match my vibe completely. Where can I find friends like you?
I thought the same thing
@@likemycommentifyouwantareplymy wish too all my friends are cohabiting i am 26 years old living with my sister
I also thought am alone
Its sad i got told the same thing. The women around me are all single mothers ive never seen a man properly love a woman. Its said im now 29 and not married no kids. It depresses but i wont give up
Funny thing is I see single mothers have happier lives than many married women who end up being single mothers in their marriages
@@JepismsYES. We’ve been conditioned to believe that being a wife and mom is what we SHOULD want, however I’ve been happier ever since I’ve decided not to marry my ex fiancé. Men in general aren’t going to love you properly, regardless of you have his kids or not. Idc about being shamed for actively choosing to be a single mom anymore. I’ll forever only balance my time for my kids and ME 🥰
The right man will come and don't worry about your age. I'll be praying for you ☺️
I am a first born daughter as well (heck for my mom I am the only child) and I completely relate with every single thing you said. My dad has constantly told me growing up to never depend on a man and to be careful of men who want me to carry many children. He said, it's a form of control to keep me in the house while he is out and about living in the outside world. He said women go through so much during labor that men need to be more empathetic of what they put women through during child labor. I am 34 now and my parents still don't pressure me to have children or get married. ❤ Not saying I am opposed to ever doing it, but I don't feel it a need.
You have such wonderful parents 🥰
@@Jepisms I do. 🥰
Can we just form a community am not interested in relations with men
Me too,I just want men to stay away from me.
@@carolinemwikali3121 girl where?
I told the people i live with that i dont think I ever want to get married. I had mustered up the courage and everything. They flatly told me, you dont mean that. You will change your mind.
The way my jaw slackened😂
Let them get their piece of the patriarchy, you will laugh when they get cheated on/left/beaten ecc lol
Ohhh i've found my group of African gyal dem who will never fall for the trap of marriage!!!! Wish i could like this 1000x 🎉🎉
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Gal , I love your voice.
Thank you 🥰
Such a great video and I love your energy! Just turned 37 and been single most of my life (just dated a few months at a time but always ended up leaving because I prioritize peace) and I've watched all my girlfriends and some guy friends suffer so much in their relationships. Either it has to feel so right or I'm staying single. Love that more people are talking about this. Thank you so much! ❤
Wow ❤ your mindset is amazing, your confidence radiates through your words and you have an inspirational lifestyle, the pets look beautiful and healthy and the organic nutrition shows intentionality❤
I'm glad TH-cam recommended your channel ❤
Thank you 🥰♥️
Me too. I am so glad to have found her❤
I’m engaged. Found a great guy. But I’m not having children. Just not the path I want for myself. I’ve already gotten the “I’m selfish” shot from my future FIL. My family and more importantly my fiancé agrees.
Finally! Someone said it! I don't see myself being a slave through marriage and having children. Men don't really like women! They just use women. If you have an honest, genuine conversation with men, most of them will tell you the truth. I agree with everything you said apart from calling yourself a god or the alpha and omega bit. I am kindly requesting you do a childfree video for women who don't want kids. Thank you 😊
Already done it here 👉: th-cam.com/video/-x2qbh3EluM/w-d-xo.html
I still believe there are good men and women out here. I have no desire to live with a man for eternity.
You’re hilarious when you switch to the mocking tone of voice 🤣🤣🤣 I’m done with men too and I’m 26😭
Ms. Lady, you are a racket & I love it!🤣💖✌️
WOWWW! I love youuu and your energy🧚🏾♀️🌍🤣🌺 you spoke too many facts 🔥
Your voice is so soothing. You can lull anyone to sleep. ❤️
Besides you speaking facts my sistah. I absolutely love your accent and attitude when you are speaking 😊❤
I love you! This year I stopped caring about other people and their opinions about how I should live my life, and I am actually finally losing a few inches on my waist🥰
Your aura is everything!
Merci 🥰♥️
Finally I find someone who has the same perspective as myself 🎯🎯🎯❤️
I am happily married but I support you 100 I hate women who criticise other women about their lives choices the man always project their fears of lonely love this generation marriage is not a trophy I love it but I force others to it
Marriage to the wrong person is hell on earth
Tell them girl you are not interested in stupidity
I love children and want to be married, but I respect women who don’t. Life is a choice and we shouldn't impose our views on others❤❤❤
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but but but but bu.....who...is ....going...to...take...care...of....us....when we are OLD???RIGHT>??? we going to die alone.....RIGHT???
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this is one of the many reasons i'm opting out of dating. i'm losing interest in romantic relationships, and trying my best to prioritize friendships and experiencing life in itself
I’m 27 and I feel the exact same way🤣🤣😭🤣
Are we living the same lives? 😂
You had me in the first 50 seconds. I said, "YES!!" 🗣
Yes!!!! I love seeing women especially the ones that are older than me living a life that does not center men.
Didn't see the whole video yet, but as a happily married mom of 3 boys, I agree with majority of what you've said so far.
I think I can empathize because before being a wife and a mom, i wanted to be single as well- the dudes out there were trash! My husband at that time was my friend (platonic as platonic can be). And in that dynamic, I got to see him for who he really was- someone who actually DOESN'T want a slave for a wife, someone who WANTS to be challenged to grow, who wants someone who is driven in her professional and personal pursuits, etc.etc.
In any case, I have to agree, a lot of people tend to push societal norms on others (esp women) and being on the other side of the spectrum now, while I gladly chose this life, and would do it again in a heartbeat, I also know how much it demands of you and what sacrifices you'll need to make. And now even more than before I was married, I hate that motherhood, or wifehood is pushed on us in such a flippant manner, with no respect to the gravity of such a life choice! Someone who knows in their heart of hearts that they don't want to be a mother should not be pressured into that just because it's "what you're supposed to do/want". I love my kids to death, but with how physically and emotionally demanding motherhood can be, I TOTALLY get it if a woman chooses not to embark on that journey. I love my husband to death, but the repercussions of choosing the wrong life partner can be devastatingly damaging to your entire life and is this not a decision to take lightly, so I totally understand someone choosing not to embark on that journey as well.
All in all, I'm glad I was/am the type who is willing to go against the grain and ruffle feathers on matters that are important to have your own perspective on because the choices I made were truly my own, and that's the only way you can be at peace with life regardless of what others expect of you. I wish that for all women/ all people.
We are all so much more than what we adorn on our finger, or what our wombs can do.
Heard your first few lines and decided I'm subscribing!!!😂👌🏾
🥰♥️merci
THANK YOU !! thank you sm for making this video and sharing it! I am soo glad the algorithm recommended it. Ever since a teenager I have always said I didn’t want children. still for a while considered marriage if I could find a partner that didn’t weaponize incompetence or expected me to do all the labor at home and with children. but I am slowly realizing I may be asking for a unicorn bc most men are socialized & trained to believe that IS a woman’s role in marriage & once having children. smh.. not for me! i’m better off keeping my sanity and peace while being single. I have a better chance at happiness and not being stuck being miserable.
now at 31, going on 32, I have truly become more focused on decentering men and romantic relationships from my life and focusing on myself. myself, my health, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, aspirations, my family, friends, network, etc. anything BUT a man ! There is really so much more to life!!! it is so liberating and empowering.
I really resonated with the part about not wanting to be friends with women that are so male centered… I noticed that some of my friendships with women allllll we spoke about was men men men men men.. literally about 80% of our conversations would be about men.. 🫠 it was exhausting !! had to distance myself and limit my time with them unfortunately. i’m over it, and want more women friends that don’t center their lives around men & romantic relationships.
please, please, please make more content around this topic. I find that it will help soo many women in need of hearing this message. & of course I will watch all of it! i’m subscribing to your channel to make sure I don’t miss a thing!.. I hope more women come across your message and have a moment of clarity. u have such a valuable view that should be discussed more!.. thanks again!! 🩷
Thank you. You have articulated this so well. 🥰
thank you for choosing yourself, love!
I love your philosophy and am so happy for you that you know yourself well enough to not be manipulated by the outside influences designed to enslave the masses. Only those who are insecure in themselves will feel threatened by your choosing to confidently be your unapologetic self. Good for you SISTA ✊🏾
It wasn't until a few decades ago that women had the choice to marry or not. We were seen as property, passed on from father to husband. Expected to keep house, have children, stay at home. That was our job. This modern notion of romantic love that women have been sold has totally upended what should have been a clean break from men as more and more women are able to support themselves and no longer needed a man for survival. So, I'm in total agreement. Having a bf, husband is boring to me. It means more work for me. Same if I have children. Women, because of our caring, nurturing nature, are often stuck doing 90%+ of household work, including childcare. While many men view looking after their own children on their own as "babysitting." Ladies, PLEASE, ask yourselves why you want marriage, a bf, a husband, even children. Really ask yourselves WHY. If it's for other reasons than you really, really want these things yourselves, DO NOT do it!
I LOVE everything about this video! New subscriber here ! Keep it coming !! Well spoken, and great points💯 why should men have all the fun?! When we do it , we’re villainized. Thank you so much for speaking on this ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
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I knew EXACTLY what you mean and feel!
I’ll be 27 Friday and I definitely have your mindset. Thank you girl 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Happy early birthday 🥰
@@Jepisms thank youuuu 🤍🤍 extremely grateful to be alive and see another day 🙏🏻🙏🏻🤍🤍‼️‼️‼️
Was perfectly fine being single raising son..choose to get married because I thought marriage is completion ....one
Month in and I knew I was in trouble.
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I love the confidence and self assurance sis you have really inspired me ❤❤❤
Thank you 😊
I actually agree and I have a boyfriend, the latter I didn't think would happen. I worry slightly that men are being made slightly 2 dimensional, they're not completely socialised in a way that benefits them/us. They are just as complex and confused as us. I don't want ppl to lose that understanding whether they want heteronormative relationships/not.
i'm greatful we have the ability to choose whether we want to or not.. many regions still don't allow women to be safe or make a living without a husband.
I'm glad i was born in a time that not having a husband doesn't mean no income or protection.
Yes yes yes I love this is the vibe
Love your voice and content. Glad I came across your channel. You've gained a new subscriber 👏
Thank you 🥰🥰
Bruv I hate them too ....they dont even know their boundaries 💀
I also like to live how I want, not how society dictates; majority is wrong. I think living apart together is a good option where you only meet your man or your woman twice or three times a week whilst you live separately at orher times. This allows you to have time for yourselves and a time together when you more or less missing each other.
Yes, I’ve always thought about this structure as the most ideal to ensure you don’t end up suffocating each other
@@Jepisms I'm sure that lifestyle can work out well. Actually a lot of the things you say resonate with me; I would like to visit your country Kenya one day.
You have blessed us with this content ❤😢
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As a 40 year old man, I am single/unmarried by choice for a lengthy laundry list of reasons but here are my top 5…1) The thought of dating, entering a relationship and getting married never appealed to me. 2) Romantic partnership is expensive because it takes restaurant dinners, movie tickets, hobbies, travel, wine bottles, gifts and flowers. 3) Too many people lie and cheat which can result in baggage and diseases. 4) Your partner can become controlling, abusive and violent. 5) I value my autonomy and freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want. Overall, having a partner is selfish because you are insecure as a single and codependent once you get a partner. You are using someone to do things for you and give you things which you can provide for yourself, that is just the epitome of selfishness to me.
I believe relationships should be a mandatory course in school because it is a lot of work, majorly inner work.
I guess it depends on perspective, no one is an island, we all use or need other humans to provide things for ourselves, for companionship, for joy, whether those people come in the form of a friend, acquaintance, the shop attendant helping us, the bankers etc. So a certain level of selfishness is essential for human survival and mental health.
I guess it depends on perspective, no one is an island, we all use or need other humans to provide things for ourselves, for companionship, for joy, whether those people come in the form of a friend, acquaintance, the shop attendant helping us, the bankers etc. So a certain level of selfishness is essential for human survival and mental health.
I love this video, thanks❤😘
Subscribed because of this gem. Also, watched all the ads✨
Yaaay thanks 🥰🥰
I love your mind Jep! Also I could have written that title myself lol. I am not interested in having a romantic partner and everyone is so confused. I have been living in my father's house for the past three years after i moved from Uganda and while it's sometimes limiting living in the rural country side, I am way more content and happy living here than ever before.
I have learned to be patient and to wait for things to reach their own stages of development. I find myself tending to plants, starting long knitting projects, and reading books and listening to music outside my bubble. i understand my oppression under my father but it is more palatable than being dominated by a misogynistic partner.
A lot of people see me, a 27 year old woman living in my father's home and think I am wasting a life that could otherwise be more productive if I was cooking and cleaning for a man and having his babies. I don't want kids. And I don't want to cook for a man. i want to travel and have meaningful experiences in the world. But I can't because I am not allowed to leave the house without some sort of punishment.
That's my only hang up with this lifestyle. I am someone who loves being outside and DOING things. but alas. That's the price i pay for my freedom.
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I would love to know more about your connection with spirituality/divine feminine/masculine that you talk about. I don't believe in any sort of spirituality and have to rely on myself for my own self worth and self esteem, which is kinda hard sometimes.
Wow, it seems like we are living very similar lives.
I’ll work on a video about balancing feminine and masculine energies 🥰
Thank you for watching ♥️
I am happy for you. Im happy for any woman who doesnt make the mistake I did. I married at 20. 38 now. Id never been around men. I was so niave at 20.
10 years past divorce but I still pay for my mistake daily by just how different my life is because I allowed a man to distract me. And my son suffers from having a bad father.
I actually love this video ❤🥺
Have you ever thought about writing a book and doing a live on this topic very Educational 😊
You are definitely a "Sigma" ❤❤❤
I'm intentionally watching advertisements so to support your channel.
I resonate, deeply.
Women who managed to attract enlightened husbands and boyfriends ❤ are the luckiest.
Thank you 🥰♥️
@@Jepisms 💗
Who is this beautiful queen preaching
Lool, your message is so on point
Gm I am watching and enjoying your journey keep posting we learn something everyday every interesting 😊
We are liberated women. It’s a blessing to be an educated and liberated woman who refuses to be controlled and manipulated to please these mainly immature men. I love this video! I’m happy to know we shared the same thoughts. Let’s continue to take care of ourselves and self-actualize.