I was approached buy a brother, he was an islamic student, Hafiz al quran etc... MashaAllah. Hes conditions was that i shall respect my religious obligations AND he would not be able to complete his obligation of being a provider for my basic needs as hes a student and he dont have time to work and he dont want to free some of his time to get an income. Obviously i told him this was unfair, and religious obligations are not made to play. And i told him that i will complete my obligations to please my god and not him, and he should do the same, especially as hes a shari3a student and he'll be judged on what he learnt inshaAllah I wish him a pious spouse once he fixes that point inshaAllah
As a man, thank you!!! this is a very good video. There are SUCH a wide range of people and EVERYONE can have a spouse they can get along with. There is no neeed to settle with someone you know you cant get along with.
I personally (and I’m not a scholar yet) Take the zakir naik approach: I tell them I’m broke and if it happens ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ if not, that’s not my spouse
As a male, I have an insecurity that if I have taken my wife into confidence that In Sha Allah I'll be financially stable in X years and the girl is willing to compromise on her needs for X Years but what if things don't work out as planned and the struggling phase gets prolonged, will she second guess her decision of marrying me in the first place? I think I'll be dead inside if I'm not able to fulfill my promise of becoming stable within the decided time frame? Do things happen like this in reality? How should the situation be dealt with? I think the wife will stop respecting her husband if he doesn't fulfill the commitment.
Just an opinion as a woman, some of us want to see the effort that man shows he is being responsibility as a provider of the family. Dont let the girl wait for you and make a promise to ait for you. We dont know in te future, but once you have put your effort to the fullest and having confidence that you can be provider, then asked for marriage.
hello there sister. assalamualaikum. amazing caption, however I would put the whole caption in quotations and phrase it in that makes it seem like a real person is saying it, to present it as a mental dialogue. for example, "What if I'm not financially there yet?" (the TRUTH about marriage). like always, I like your content, I think its an amazing change of pace from guys and girls trying a different TikTok dance every week. Keep creating. Fiamanillah.
The first big thing a man suffers is from his own parents. I told my mom that I want to marry and then she taught me a lesson to remember. "Build yourself, earn money, make your home, make your own Identity and then we will talk about marriage". This was her response. And we can't do anything. We can only pray to Allah. It's difficult man, yean it's difficult 😅😣
@@SYEDSHAZEB46013All it does is benefit relationships. Without it a lot of Muslim men treat their wives like cattle. The Prophet SAW never treated his wives as such.
How does a guy go about asking a woman, who at this point is to an extent is a stranger, to share in his burden of financial instability? I dont think it's an insecurity but rather feels like it's a bit duplicitous on my part.
As a woman with life experience NEVER accept a man who is not where he wants to be. You have a HIGH RISK of being replaced as soon as he will be able to do so.😂😂
I feel that says more about the character of the man. He must not have integrity or appreciation towards his wife who supported him through those struggles? 🤔
Sorry for your experience but the best way to judge a male is to judge him by his actions,friends,and how he treats kids and how he treats women of his family
Sounds more like the type of ‘man’ you were with (sorry for your exp btw) was not mature or had any kind of good morals you would find in a pious spouse to begin with. The money must have just exposed more of what he really was. A man with good morals would not leave his wife for another woman. The previous comment mentions some good points, you can really weed out these kinds of ‘men’ by really questioning their thoughts in a vetting process. Of course there is a level to how much you can get the truth. Also, I don’t see why a man who is where he wants to be in life may not also do the exact same thing.
What if righteous Muslims are proposing me for marriage but I am not mentally prepared for marriage as I have some past divorce trauma to overcome with?
Do you experience that some people hide their infertility issues in talking stages? What shoul they do instead of hiding it? I understand them too, but ist a huge zulm and reason for divorce if hidden, according to our religion!
I was approached buy a brother, he was an islamic student, Hafiz al quran etc... MashaAllah. Hes conditions was that i shall respect my religious obligations AND he would not be able to complete his obligation of being a provider for my basic needs as hes a student and he dont have time to work and he dont want to free some of his time to get an income. Obviously i told him this was unfair, and religious obligations are not made to play. And i told him that i will complete my obligations to please my god and not him, and he should do the same, especially as hes a shari3a student and he'll be judged on what he learnt inshaAllah
I wish him a pious spouse once he fixes that point inshaAllah
“50/50 ghetto stuff” lol made my day
same hahaha
As a man, thank you!!! this is a very good video. There are SUCH a wide range of people and EVERYONE can have a spouse they can get along with. There is no neeed to settle with someone you know you cant get along with.
Bro , if you cant marry then dont . Fast and keep yourself busy. Not everyone’s is destined to marry and i am turning 31 next week .
@@SYEDSHAZEB46013 Wow, Im 18, and I feel SUPER old.
@@SYEDSHAZEB46013 just because you haven't gotten married yet does not mean you wont. You will get married, if you don't give up. Insha'Allah.
That was really reassuring to hear especially being in med school and the path to a high stable income can take some time
Of course shes a doctor. All brown people think engineers and doctors are the only careers who make good money
Super proud of your for putting it out there. Most women don't really know what they want these days.
As a 20 years old man, i found this video very helpful, barakAllah fik
Doubt it
I personally (and I’m not a scholar yet) Take the zakir naik approach: I tell them I’m broke and if it happens ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ if not, that’s not my spouse
That’s manipulative
@ not necessarily. I always reserve the right to abandon any potential spouse at any moment and I give her the right to abandon me at any time also
@@barackobama3719If you're misleading someone from the beginning, you're likely going to do it again.
Money arguments are a major reason for divorce.
As a male, I have an insecurity that if I have taken my wife into confidence that In Sha Allah I'll be financially stable in X years and the girl is willing to compromise on her needs for X Years but what if things don't work out as planned and the struggling phase gets prolonged, will she second guess her decision of marrying me in the first place? I think I'll be dead inside if I'm not able to fulfill my promise of becoming stable within the decided time frame?
Do things happen like this in reality?
How should the situation be dealt with? I think the wife will stop respecting her husband if he doesn't fulfill the commitment.
Just an opinion as a woman, some of us want to see the effort that man shows he is being responsibility as a provider of the family. Dont let the girl wait for you and make a promise to ait for you. We dont know in te future, but once you have put your effort to the fullest and having confidence that you can be provider, then asked for marriage.
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Keep uploading !
hello there sister. assalamualaikum. amazing caption, however I would put the whole caption in quotations and phrase it in that makes it seem like a real person is saying it, to present it as a mental dialogue. for example, "What if I'm not financially there yet?" (the TRUTH about marriage). like always, I like your content, I think its an amazing change of pace from guys and girls trying a different TikTok dance every week. Keep creating. Fiamanillah.
this whole 50/50 ghetto stuff xD
The first big thing a man suffers is from his own parents. I told my mom that I want to marry and then she taught me a lesson to remember. "Build yourself, earn money, make your home, make your own Identity and then we will talk about marriage". This was her response. And we can't do anything. We can only pray to Allah. It's difficult man, yean it's difficult 😅😣
Than you very hepfull advice with easy way.
Can you do a video on feminism and its effect on relationships?
I guarantee she wont
What makes you say that @@SYEDSHAZEB46013
@@SYEDSHAZEB46013All it does is benefit relationships. Without it a lot of Muslim men treat their wives like cattle.
The Prophet SAW never treated his wives as such.
I am going through this situation.
How does a guy go about asking a woman, who at this point is to an extent is a stranger, to share in his burden of financial instability? I dont think it's an insecurity but rather feels like it's a bit duplicitous on my part.
As a woman with life experience NEVER accept a man who is not where he wants to be. You have a HIGH RISK of being replaced as soon as he will be able to do so.😂😂
I feel that says more about the character of the man. He must not have integrity or appreciation towards his wife who supported him through those struggles? 🤔
Sorry for your experience but the best way to judge a male is to judge him by his actions,friends,and how he treats kids and how he treats women of his family
Sounds more like the type of ‘man’ you were with (sorry for your exp btw) was not mature or had any kind of good morals you would find in a pious spouse to begin with. The money must have just exposed more of what he really was. A man with good morals would not leave his wife for another woman.
The previous comment mentions some good points, you can really weed out these kinds of ‘men’ by really questioning their thoughts in a vetting process. Of course there is a level to how much you can get the truth.
Also, I don’t see why a man who is where he wants to be in life may not also do the exact same thing.
What if righteous Muslims are proposing me for marriage but I am not mentally prepared for marriage as I have some past divorce trauma to overcome with?
Do you experience that some people hide their infertility issues in talking stages? What shoul they do instead of hiding it? I understand them too, but ist a huge zulm and reason for divorce if hidden, according to our religion!