As an Indian woman who’s getting married at the end of the year, I can confirm it’s not in our culture for the in laws to have your money. That’s just plain entitlement.
The woman who keeps getting sued by the MIL should sue her back for defamation, slander, and harassment. And probably get a restraining order against her covering herself and her daughter. That is not ok behavior. It's expensive, stressful, and can be damaging to a child. Using a lawsuit should be a last option in serious circumstances, not a way to try to manipulate a situation where she has no rights.
If it's been 23 times I'm surprised XMIL isn't on the list for vexatious litigants. They call it different in every state, but it's when you abuse the legal system to a point where a judge has to pre approve your claim before you can even talk about suing someone. Literally you can't sue anyone unless a judge says so and they take their sweet time when you are on that list.
@@PandaMonium92827 I came here to say the same. I think the XDIL can sue for frivolous lawsuits. Not sure if it's just monetary or criminal or both, but after the second or third one, I'd have looked into a way to stop it. Another thought could be she's having fun watching the other woman make a total a** of herself in front of a judge as well. I'm sure a frustrating as it is to be hauled into court every couple of months, it has to be satisfying to watch someone get their butt handed to them time after time.
@@Airy_Contrary plus 2 days before the wedding I wanted to cancel but my mom would not let me. She paid way too much money and I was not going to embarrass her in front of all her friends. That’s why I’m always telling my daughters pay attention to what he does not what he says. And just leave I’m here for you.
When I got a divorce due to my husband's infidelity, I basically packed up and left with nothing. My then MIL yelled at me and accused me of stealing a pillow and some cheap cutlery. 20 years later, I had finished law school and passed the bar. She had the audacity to call me up and DEMAND that I go to her house and do her will for free!!! UMMM, NO! The best revenge is success!
that's when you do some sneaky illegal stuff with the will....she wanna fk around, she can give you her money when she rots lmao (probably don't do this irl because prison is not fun but it's SO tempting)
That's why Zayn Malik went berserk with Yolanda Hadid. She kept showing up unannounced. Also that time he hit Yolanda, allegedly she came with a group of people for intervention with Zayn while Gigi was out for work. 🤷🏻♀️
The way I had to stop to run to the comments to see at least ONE other person say this too... Thank you :'D Nevermind the sh1t-in-law, the DUDE HIMSELF is the biggest red flag! He's siding with mom... about making preggo partner work outside in sun? EVEN THE SUGGESTION ITSELF IS STUPID this man should not be a father. He's not done being a little boy for his mother. :|
I hope Charlotte sees this. So I dated this guy for sometime. We fell in love and even wanted to get married. We are Africans from Ghana to be precise. His mother strongly disagreed to our union because she didn’t like my tribe. This guy chose his family over what we had and asked me to move on with my life because he can’t be with a woman his family dislikes. Fast forward to now, I’ve found an amazing young man who’s so in love with me and I love him to bits. Recently let’s say, three weeks ago my coward ex, texts me to inform me that his mother died and because of that he wants me back . I never click on the block button so fast 😂. Plus my boyfriend’s mother is an angel. I’m really glad the first family didn’t accept me 😂😂😂. I would be missing out big time
To the lady who has bee sued more than once per year since 2012: From experience. If she is suing you multiple times over 10 years, time to get a harrasment lawyer. Criminal harrasmen is a 4-8 year jail sentence, and harrasment at that level is absolutely criminal. You can back sue her up to 20 years for all the lawyer and court fees you've paid and missed work. Blessings, queen.
I wish I knew how. I lost my home, my car, my business and I'm still 40k in debt. She stopped suing once my daughter turned 18 almost 2 years ago. But 11 and a half years of back to back suits, I'd love to get some of that money Back. 🥺
I feel so sorry for that woman being told to wash the windows.... Honestly I would have said "no" once and "I'm going home [husband] can stay and help mommy maybe for a week" right after. And then go home and really put my priorities in order... I would be out of that marriage faster than you can say "mama's boy"
I got the impression they all lived in the same house together. Seemed like a typical “multiple families living together” type of argument. Saw that endlessly living in Southern California b/c it was so expensive to live there. Was not unusual to have all the family members staying together whether they wanted to be there or not.
@@fourlittlebirds6166 I've seen those. Coming from Latin America it's p normal there and from what I know it tends to suck. Either way I would at least got stay with my parents or some other family. I would not put up with this kind of abuse and neglect
That last one was absolutely psychotic. Why would you invade your sons home and risk seeing him in the middle of the act? WTF is wrong with that woman and the others with her enabling that shit?
@@healingmagichands my mom and sister have a key to my place if they need to drop something off/pick something up etc while I’m not home but they would NEVER go to my house unannounced! They have always called and asked hrs if not days in advance.
Dude do you have no idea, I've been with my son's father for 6 years and up until the past couple of years she would stand at his door and his door broke and he has an odd shaped frame so it's hard to find a door that isn't expensive and we're not really able to buy 1 so we just use baby gate and a curtain to cover it and her room is so far down from his on the opposite side of the house so it might we don't really have to worry as long as we're not doing that if you know what I mean But we've caught her like a handful of times watching us. Not to be too graphic but 1 time she was watching so long we didn't even notice until he... you know... And we lay down to cuddle afterwards and looked over and saw her peeking through this little gap she was watching through.
My mother-in-law INSISTED that I abort our TRIPLETS that I was 4 monthes pregnant with because "We didn't know how hard it would be to be parents"... we both already had two children each from previous marriages. 2 months later, I had three beautiful little girls (4 months early). We have been together for 10 years now, continue to fall more in love every day, absolutely love and adore our 7 children, and now our 2 Grandchildren as well.
7 kids...I'm glad your big family was a happy one but 7 kids is scary to me. The "you don't know how hard parenting is" bit is kinda funny considering you guys were 4 kids into it.
@katrinascarlet5637 two of those kids were already 16 and 18 at that time, so they're adults now. My husband has a great job and I have always been able to stay home with the kids. Sadly, one of our beautiful girls went to Heaven at 7 months old, leaving us with 4 kids at home.
@@jenniferschroeder3086 I am so very sorry for your loss. My precious son died 2 years ago (although it still feels like it was 2 weeks ago), and the grief can, and is, at times overwhelming. I wish you much happiness in your life. 🫶🏼
@Racingirl911 thank you, dear, and I, too, am so sorry for your loss. Oh yes, unfortunately, I understand all too well. This July will be 8 years since our girl left this world, and the grief can still send me spiraling. I have to stay strong for all of my other "babies," but we (you and I!) will make it through and see our beautiful babies again one day. All the very best happiness, beauty and love to you, my new friend ❤️
Opposite here. I aborted because (one of the few times my ex supported me) if ex MIL had helped financially, she would have pushed her way in to raising the kid. And she was a physically and emotionally abusive parent.
The MIL that’s stole the heirlooms?! What the actual?! She should have been escorted away in handcuffs! She stole them, and actively tried to get away with it by lying, and she was going to ruin the wedding day just so SHE could have earrings?! Greedy people are so hard to comprehend.
As an Indian myself, I can confirm this exists in some families I know. Me and my siblings are unmarried, our parents never ask us for money - we spend some of ours on things for the house or the bills because we still live with them and sometimes without telling them - we just tell them it was due and it was covered. My spur of the moment shopping spree is the only thing that gets some counselling; other than that we are all reasonable and respectful. We all have our own accounts, only our parents have joint accounts.
It exists in some families in EVERY culture. White, black, Chinese, Latino, etc. doesn't make it a "cultural thing", it makes it a weird familial thing some have decided to do, no matter their background
For the people thinking the last one is fake, this actually happened to me (19) in college. The mom of my on and off again boyfriend (22) let herself in and barged in the bedroom. I was in the bathroom having just taken a shower. I stepped out of the bathroom to be called a lot of names for corrupting her baby. She also had a special nickname for him thst she would coo at him when she called him. So ick. We kept breaking up because of stunts like that. Months later he called me in the middle of the night, (pre cellphone days, so my whole family woke up). He proposed, I told him he was drunk, and yes I loved him, but he would have to leave his mom out his life before we would even just date again. Really nice guy, but his mom, OMG
The dad that drove the mom to his son's house so she could do this, though... Why is nobody talking about these sad dads? I know the mums are crazy and totally out of line, but why do dads enable their wives to do this to their sons? Do they not want grandchildren? Are they just happy that someone else is the target of the crazy behaviour? Someone please explain!!
@@alieknitzer I think they make a point of surrounding themselves with people that will never challenge their crazy. Choose a partner. Favor a child or children. Drive away the ones that challenge. Have a posse of gullible doormat friends and relatives. It is NOT an accident.
@@alieknitzer Because men have no rights in the relationship anymore. Im in the UK but I know the US has the same laws. There is an offence which is coercive and controlling behaviour. If I was to say to a girlfriend "I prefer your other sweater, why dont you wear that today" that single innocuous statement can be counted as an offence of controlling her. I could receive a custodial sentence and be placed on the domestic violence register. We are scared to say anything. And before anyone says women are governed by the same rules Police wont investigate male victims of domestic violence. My ex has stalked me and my family for 8 years which lost me my job by her contacting my employer. She also used a razorblade to attack me and she tried to emasculate me. When I tried to report it I got told "men cant be the victim of domestic violence so go away". We are scared
As an Indian person, I have to say… that is NOT normal. Please do not express familial norms as cultural norms. No body - between my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. - shares a familial account. My mom co-signed to my account only for contingency reasons. No one takes or asks for my money and I don’t ask for theirs either. However, my parents will help me out on a heartbeat if I need anything, and I will gladly give them what they need as well.
Your point is very valid, but please bear in mind OP may well have been told by her husband's family (even her husband) that it *is* a cultural thing, and as someone new to that culture, she doesn't know enough to real the... um... exaggeration. I know my father had to explain to his older brother (who married last) that *no-one* did some of the things around money their parents had done - he just assumed it was normal and was about to start the same practices with his own family.
I'm Sri Lankan, I have bunch of Indian friends. This is the first time I heard families sharing bank accounts like that. That is definitely not normal.
@@fionam7768 I’m wondering since it’s not culturally normal maybe the family told her that to keep her manipulated? I don’t want to assume malicious intentions however this particular situation sounds super sus
My mother pulled the same crap as the last one in the vid. Repeatedly. Just delighted in trampling all over my boundaries in the most horrific ways. Now every so often I get a text from a sibling telling me how she doesn't understand why I haven't spoken to her in seven years!
All the folks who "don't understand" are part of the problem. They enable the abusive/toxic behavior as long as it's not directed at them. As soon as the victim stands up for themselves, all those enablers have to deal with the toxicity themselves... And their response is to try and pull the original victim back in so the toxic person can go back to the same old routine, and the enablers can be comfortable again. It may not be a conscious decision, but that's how it often plays out. You deserve better.
As a mother, this makes me so sad. For you. That your mother was so toxic you had to walk away. Everyone deserves a kind, loving, supportive mother. I bet you're all the stronger for it, but still. It'd be nice if it didn't have to be that way.
Press charges on the earrings thief for sure, and press charges against the mom who entered the “sleepover” home without permission if it’s not her home.
My father would’ve done something like that. But only if he was paying the rent. Makes me wonder if their kid is a student and they pay his housing so “they make the rules”. I’m not saying that would make it okay, I think privacy should have been a right given with a place to live, but I know parents who strongly disagree. Anyway I think mom is an AH but not sure if they had an agreement the son broke
As bad as it is that her mother-in-law stole her earrings, the fact that she and the family is now harassing her would make me concerned about what family I just married into and how "far" the apple fell away from the toxic tree.
OMG, I just had a PTSD moment with the mother-in-law telling her pregnant daughter-in-law to clean the windows.. so the same thing happened to me but in my case, it was in the middle of winter in Europe and she wanted me to clean the outside of the window while 5 months pregnant in -10 degrees... I'm happy to say that I'm not a part of that family anymore 🙏
9:09 Speaking as an Indian, yes there are Indian parents who have extreme interference in their adult kids lives including financial but NO DECENT RESPECTFUL PARENTS CAN EXPECT A DIL TO DO THIS! It’s not Indian culture- it’s PATHETIC CULTURE and us Indians look down upon and hate such families in our communities who do this. Much power to this DIL for standing up for her 💵!
I hit the mother in law *jackpot!* She was like my second mom & truly treated me as her daughter, not just her son’s spouse. My husband & I have been together for 12 years but sadly my MIL passed away the year before our wedding & I miss her every single day! Some of these stories are so horrible & jaw dropping! They make me extra thankful for my amazing MIL. 💕
Ok I get it, you want someone to have a spare key to your house in case something happens. But if this ever happened, you would never have a key to anything I own again.
I was blessed with the best mother-in-law you could ever ask for. She was wonderful. I never heard her say one bad word against anyone. We lost her to breast cancer. It was heartbreaking for her husband, her son-my husband-me, her other family members and almost everyone in the small town she lived in. She touched so many lives with her sweet goodness. I was so close to her. I have been determined to be a good mother-in-law to the sons and daughters that married into my family. They have become my children, my friends. I doubt I’m half the kind generous woman she was but I try.
There’s a cool thing called a peace bond. This keeps the culprit away for 6 months and is a great step prior to pressing charges. This gives you some middle ground so that the individual will learn you mean business and no matter if time goes by and they pretend it didn’t happen, because the law records don’t forget.
An ex partner and I were together about 6 months before I met his family and 5 mins after meeting his mother she cornered me alone in the kitchen and told me I was "too rugged" for her son and I"wasn't welcome". I walked out to where everyone was and VERY LOUDLY repeated what she said .....and WE left.
That's how you do it. They don't expect us to speak up but when you do they start watching their tongue (only if the bf is on our side otherwise it's doomed)
I did something similar with my late dad’s ex GF. Long story short she’d cornered me in the kitchen and hissed something at me, but then my dad came in like “Is everything alright in here? 🤨" And she spun around and responded in this sugary voice that she did 98% of the time like “Oh yes, everything’s fine!” And I was like “Actually, it’s not, your GF was just threatening me but then poured on the syrup when you walked in.” Then I walked out of the kitchen and left them to deal with it 😂 So weird that she assumed I would lie for her and cover up the fact that she was being a c*nt to me, like, why would I?
Every time I watch one of these, I think the same thing. Last week my MIL was at a family event out of state (my husband’s hometown) and FaceTimed us so he could speak to family he hasn’t seen in years. She said her goodbyes, put the phone down, and didn’t realize she hadn’t ended the call and I heard her tell the other people what a great DIL I was. It was so sweet. We started yelling at her so she’d notice before anything else was accidentally said. 😂
Haha same, but my bf is going to have an absolute b*tch of a MIL unfortunately. We both hate her guts, I’ve been living with that psycho for way too long, if I ever do end up getting married, I don’t want her there, I don’t even want my future children close to her. She is physically and verbally abusive and also very manipulative. I love his family whilst I want nothing to do with my family (neither does he), the only real family I do have is him and hopefully his family too somewhere in the future. They are genuinely the sweetest people ever and treat me like a human being instead of an animal that gets beaten and spat on when the owner doesn’t get their way. I hate her for everything she’s done to me, for every mark and bruise she’s left on me, for every hair she’s pulled off my head whilst dragging me by my hair, for every slur she’s called me (all of this because I had mental issues and I didn’t get cured after one therapy session). Oehh I get angry and start ranting when I think about her, I am so thankful for his family and being so kind towards me and again, treating me like an equal human being, which is unfortunately sth I’ve gotten to feel very rarely during my lifetime. Bless that wonderful man and bless his wonderful family
My partner's mom is super cool but his dad did something that means so much to me. The first time I met my partner's father was also the last. He had end stage cancer and we drove across the country so my partner could see him one last time. The night we got there and I got to know all these people I had never met before. His father and I spoke for a while because we have very similar personalities and views (we're both logical, fact based, analytical people). The next morning, it was just myself and my partner's parents having breakfast (coffee/diet coke). We we're talking and his father made it clear, in no uncertain terms, that I was not only accepted into their family but also felt that I make the perfect balance for his son and both himself and his wife very happy that we were together. That was so touching. He passed away about two weeks later and I'm glad to have met him.
That last woman who woke up the couple sounds like someone who no one would like. How she would think that was an appropriate thing to do to them is truly amazing.
I would be pissed, but then I would tell mom to wake us when breakfast is ready. Then when they left I'd make a call to get the locks changed. On mom's birthday I would tell her that her gift was paying for changing the locks.
Never give your house key to people who don't respect boundaries, no matter what they promise. They WILL break their promise. Too many of us learn this the hard way.
My mother in law was the type that would look in the medicine cabinet when she used our bathroom. Rather than confront her ,and give her the chance to go into " I am the victim here mode", I devised a plan to put an end to her nonsense. The next time I knew she was coming over I placed a photo of her scowling face (enlarged to show detail) inside the medicine cabinet and let her ugly face stare back at her.
😂😂😂😂😂 _That's _*_~PERFECT!~_* She cannot say, or do anything, without _OUTING HERSELF_ as a snoop, thief, or both! *_~BRILLIANT!~_* 💗 I'm so damn impressed! So... ...I have to know _WHAT HAPPENED???_ Did she say something _ANYWAY--_ too offended, or addicted to drama--or just STUPID--that she just could not _help herself?_ I need a Part II, friend! Thank you for sharing your genius. ❤ God Bless.
I might've mentioned this before but here it is in light of the earring story! My mother tells this story often. There were a myriad of issues at my parents' wedding up to and including the florist being in a car accident. (He was okay! Did his damnedest to get everything done in spite of it 'cause he knew my mom personally, and then went and got some stitches.) But the key point of the wedding was that my mother had gotten these gorgeous shoes for the ceremony. They matched the dress and they made her keep up with my father's height (my father is rather tall, and my mother is rather short), and she just adored them. Come wedding day and she's getting dressed, and she can't find her shoes. Her mother and her maid of honor have vanished, and this was the boiling point of every event prior. She was damn near ready to call off the wedding until one of my dad's groomsmen had went out shoe hunting. They were able to find shoes for her in the end, she walked down the aisle, and my parents are going on damn near 30 years now! For additional context: my nonna (grandmother) hates buying new things. My mother's side of the family is... very a lot of things (we don't talk to them anymore after *several* years of mental and emotional abuse) and ... penny pinchers were one of those things. My nonna was going to wear this old polka dot dress that *she* had gotten married in or something that had even yellowed with age and it was insane (she was finally convinced to buy a new dress but)- Cut to my parents going through all of their wedding photos. Lo and behold. There on my nonna's feet. My mother's brand new white shoes.
My son’s, now ex, wife literally grew up across the street from us and she’d been in and out of our house since she was 12 because they were best friends. When they decided to get married, I decided I needed to set some ground rules with them so I sat them down and had that conversation. These were the rules for her: 1) I’m bossy and I know it so, if I overstep, you need to tell me to back off. You will not hurt my feelings. You need to have boundaries and I need to respect them. But, to do that, I need to know what they are. So, tell me. 2) If I say something that hurts your feelings, please know that I didn’t mean to. But, you need to tell me so we can talk about it and resolve the issue. I just had one rule for him: 1) If there’s ever an argument between she and I, you will take her side. Period. Even if you think I’m is right, you take her side. The three of us will sit down later and talk it out but, in front of the family, you will have her back every single time.
You need to set some ground rules? What? You sound like a pain in the ass MIL. Lol. Honestly if you just mind your own business, and not be worried about what they have going on, you wouldn't have to worry about being to bossy? They are adults, who are you bossing around? Why do they have to sit down with you to work things out? I see why she is an ex...
You sound like a great MIL, though I hope your son didn't actually NEED to be told to take his ex's side! (I'm sure he didn't, with a mum like you raising him).
@@samanta3720 long story short, she cheated on him with his twin sister’s boyfriend of five years. They’re now married with two kids and my kids are lucky to be rid of them. And neither of his mothers can stand her!
Ugh. This is why couples need to talk about everything before getting marriage. Money, children, finances, religion, cultural values and expectations. Better to know ahead of time than to have it sprung on you like the woman who married into the Indian family. So everyone is on the same playing field. And the mom who walked in on her son??? Who does that? What a freak. And why does she have a key to his apartment! Oh, hell no!
OMG... The husband that let his mother talk to his pregnant wife that way, that girl needs to leave that relationship. He is never going to support her and he is showing her that he never will.
The lady who made the skit about the mom almost leaving the wedding always adds in her elf character, who always tells off the MIL in her own funny ways (especially by yelling “SCOOT!”). Her own character always stands up against the monster in law in her own petty ways but her elf character always shakes down the MIL through her own devious and funny plans.
my monster in law was my father in law who told me 1) he had a bet with his buddies we would not last a year ( been 38), 2) i would never give him children (there have been 2)..I would keep him from getting a college degree (he has 2 associates, 2 bachelors and a masters degree..) and we would never have our own house (it's paid off )... loved proving him wrong.
My ex almost killed my youngest when she was only a couple months over 1yr old and SA'd my oldest when she was 5... I liked my MIL before when we were married, she treated me like I was one of her own kids and was a sweetheart .. fast forward to us being split(after the youngest was hurt but before the SA) and she still was kind and came to visit her grandkids in my care... Then when the SA came out(proud of my daughter for being strong enough at 5 to say something) I told them and he lost custody, and ever since she has made a point of going around the country visiting "all of her grandkids" and no longer even mentions her 2 granddaughters with me... But at this point I'm glad bc my current MIL is absolutely amazing, my fiance is a wonderful dad to all 3 of our kids, and we don't need them, but still, the idea that she could side with a p*do just bc she birthed him over her abused grandkids always floors me...
I get that as a parent it must be really hard to learn your kid is a terrible person, but her reaction is really bad. She is missing out on so many things with her grandkids just because she chose to close her eyes on her son's horrible actions. I'm glad the 3 of you are in a better situation now. And that your daughter was brave enough to speak up!
@@jworth7203 I don't think so bc when it came out and I told her, I said that I had nothing against her and she was welcome to visit as long as he wasn't around obviously... She visited once about a month after and sent a Christmas present package that following Christmas, but has never contacted or anything since and frequently posts on FB about her grandkids and such(the other 6 grandkids she has from her other children) and not even a mention of my 2... Her ex that she's still friends with(my ex's step dad) even went as far as to mention them to her in one of these posts a few years ago(he has since stopped contacting and visiting as well) and she didn't even comment back to him about how she forgot her 2 grand daughters too...
First, I am sorry this happened to your kids. Your daughter has so much courage and obviously you are a great parent for believing and taking action. Nothing people do surprises me any longer. Your old MIL was obviously just a "on display" nice person and not really a good person at all to behave this way. My ex literally tried to kill me. As in chased me down the street trying to run me over with her car causing a 3 car accident. And her mom kept telling me I was a bitch for kicking her out of the house. This ex has since harassed me on & off over the past 6-7 years. But apparently I'm the a-hole. This is why I am happy to remain single.
@@ginjagurl1330 that's disgusting. I'm glad that you have a better MIl and your kids have a better grandma. How's your daughter been since? I'm also proud of her too.
My S-I-L is the most disgusting person I have ever met. She called a month before our wedding and asked me if I was pregnant, absolutely stunned by the question to start with I told her “NO”. She then asked me to put my hubby on the phone. Immediately proceeds to ask him the same question and if that was the reason we were getting married. He told her “NO”. We get married, she shows up and sulks all night because she wanted my hubby to drive her back to where she was staying after the reception, she is from another state and was lodging about an hour and a half away, but he told her “NO”. Speaking with my M-I-L a few years later she informed that S-I-L had told the whole extended family that I was pregnant anyway. Funny thing is our daughter was born exactly ten days after our first anniversary. We are now heading to our thirtieth. We no longer have “Leatherface” in our life. Years of smoking and tanning have not been kind to the wicked bitch of the south, 😂😂😂😂.
My husband worked nights and my husband’s Mother, went absolutely nuts that I wasn’t waiting until he got home, to ‘make his breakfast!!’ I was a University Lecturer and had groups of 120 students. When I laughed & said ‘what should I tell the students & my manager’ she said that ‘if my job, got in the way, of looking after my husband, I should give it up!!!’
The sad thing is how little we pay our teachers in the US. They hold the future of our children in their hands but are looked down upon. Truly a labour of love.
Seriously though. And the work doesn't stop when the kids leave. There is always the next lessons to prepare for. The work literally never ends. And I'm going to be a teacher any way :)
Been wanting to post something and this is the perfect spot, thank you, And I Oop. __ *Thank you Charlotte, for being here, putting out amazing video after amazing video. I am in a huge transition in my life at the moment and spend a lot of time watching your videos here, Facebook and TikTok. I go to bed at night with you in my speakers. You don't know it, but you have been a tremendous comfort for me. Thanks again, Charlotte. You just don't know how much it means.* __
Mil found out about our first miscarriage and asked if we were trying to make her life harder because we were trying to have one in the first place. He didn't tell her about the others after. My husband only sees/talks to his mom a few times a year.
I was welcomed by my in laws like I was a long lost member of the family. I absolutely adored my mother in law -- in fact, she was the one who I turned to when I had problems. She died in 2010, and I miss her terribly to this day.
My husband chose his mother when she gave him the ultimatum, been divorced for 15 years, raising my son by myself. Learned to be independent and self sufficient. Made the mistake of getting married a second time and same thing happened 7 years ago. Lost faith in marriage. Why do men get married if they cannot stand up for their wives?
There's plenty of us men who would. I think the real issue, people with sincere hearts who want to work on things, fall for people who need working on.
This is so fuckin unlucky! Wow! Sorry to hear that, must of been difficult to go through and to deal with the aftermath. Heart goes out to you ❤ best of luck
@yupyup3878Same here! My big 3 5 is right around the corner and anyone mentioning me being in a relationship again, I say NOPE. Happy for other people but for me, a strong NO THANK YOU! 35 is going to be amazing. Wishing you all the best when your birthday arrives 😊🎉❤
Its not men... Its you. You don't learn from your mistakes and have no spine. Plenty great men out there but you go for mommy boys - sort yourself if you want this sorted. And get some standards ffs mommy's boys are so easy to spot but you don't notice what they are until they divorce you? Therapy and education... Or stop dating - your choice really
There’s a whole trend on TikTok of people analyzing and breaking down reasons why there are men who are terrible to their wives (and not abusive, just general assholes) and the consensus seems to be that these are men who don’t LIKE women. They’re attracted to women, but they don’t LIKE them, and they just want to be married for the tax benefits and societal prestige, and the free labor of having a live-in maid.
There's a term for Mama boys. it's called Son-Husband. In which the mother will groom the boy into becoming the husband she truly wanted, even when she is married. If she is married, the dad is just someone she settled with because her biological clock is ticking, and she needs to get married and have a family. She doesn't respect the guy unless the enabling dad grows a spine and puts a stop to her time of terror.
She’s horrific. If her son wants to have a success marriage, he’ll have to go nc. You could tell that the idiot mom was so excited to “catch” her adult son fornicating. And her husband is absolutely worthless. He knew what her intent was, and instead of stopping her, he drove her there and filmed her. Spineless! I hope the son took his key back before they left.
@@1cosmicGirl for a second I read 'nc' as North Carolina and I thought "well, I guess that could work if it's really far away" then I realized you meant 'no contact' hahaha 😆
I could fill the page with MIL horrors but I'll keep it simple. My husband and I eloped because we didn't want to deal with her bs. My Mom and Dad arranged a party to celebrate our marriage, MIL wanted to be involved, and offered to pay half of the cost, she proceeded to invite 80% of the guests and paid nothing. (I found this out many years later and my Mom didn't care about the money, she only told me after MIL died and I also found out MIL used to call my Mom and bitch about me. I knew she hated me but I didn't know she hated me so much that she made up lies and told my husband I was cheating on him (my Mom had cancer and I would occasionally stay overnight because the drive to her treatments was really far) also I just found out about this last week when I asked my husband why she hated me so much. MIL was diagnosed with alzheimers and instead of her 2 daughters taking care of her (1 lived with her and the other didn't work) I gave up a good paying job to take care of her, despite the many horrible things she did and said about me I felt sorry for her. As a final farewell, after I prayed to God asking that she didn't die on our wedding anniversary, which didn't seem likely because she was doing pretty good, yeah, you guessed it, she died on our wedding anniversary. I'm sure it was just a coincidence. I feel bad for writing this comment but it's been boiling inside me since 2008.
Oh wow! Don’t feel bad for venting here! Sounds like she was a hateful person, and you did above and beyond. My most sincere wish for you is boundless happiness in your future. Take gentle care of yourself… 🫶🏼
God knows and loves you. He's getting your attention - you HAVE to take Him seriously if you want to spend eternity with Him. "Forgive us our trespasses AS we forgive those who trespass against us. God is trying to wake you up. It's worth it. Your eternal soul is worth saving, is worth more than your anger toward your MIL.
I ended a 4 year relationship several years ago mostly for the reason that his mother was a total monster in law. Put down my appearance regularly (ex never defended me), often pointed out hot women in movies to him, and in all areas of his life was extremely controlling and manipulative. And the man was 27 at this point, still letting his mom dictate his life. He probably still is LOL.
Here's my horrible mother in law story.... My hubby and I have recently celebrated our 10 year anniversary. My MIL has never liked me. She didn't like me even before she met me. She wanted my husband to get with a girl she knew. Fast forward: My husband's mother was asked to watch my stepson for a business trip. I'm currently in another state helping my brother. She freaked out and sent a very long rant about what a horrible wife and mother I am. I abandoned him and my stepson, how dare I help my brother, I'm selfish, I've ruined my husband's life, I've ruined his relationships with his family... ummm, let's see....oh, the best part.... I'm out here living the single life while spending all his money. She said he needed to divorce me and man up. Basically that he's my whipping boy. At first, I was mad, but then I laughed at how ridiculous she is. I wish I didn't have a monster in law, but sometimes you have no control over that. 🤷♀️
A narcissistic mother-in-law of mine just looked at me and "...I don't like you", and made her daughter's life a living hell until she broke up with me just so she can have peace with me (she loved me so much that handled her mom's daily tantrums for a years and four months). It has been seven years, and I still whisper "that bitch..." every time I remember of her 😖😅. Which is bad, because I really loved her daughter 😓😅.
My ex-boyfriend is Indian and he explained to me how his entire immediate family shares all of their combined incomes. I actually admired their ability to have so much trust in each other as a family that they can do that without any issues, especially when there's much MUCH less trust among my immediate family and there's no way in heck that we would be able to share one bank account without strangling each other (we're American). The trust is nice but it's not just voluntary trust, it's expectation. And I'm not cool with that from in-laws. My future in-laws don't get to tell me what I do with my money or what I decide to do jointly with my husband, I don't care what their culture dictates, respectfully.
it's not only about trust though. it's about mutual social control. the reasons for all the earned money going into one fund in traditional Indian families is that in an extended family living situation usually one person - the mother-in-law - will be in charge of most of the household expenses, while bigger purchases like cars etc will be decided upon by the father-in-law. All other family members pay into that fund as they are living in that household and using its resources. traditionally after marriage the new daughter-in-law will move in with her husband's family and become part of his family more than of her own, so her earnings go to that family. sounds practical, right? Well it's also a way to make sure the daughter-in-law has very little options to put aside funds and run away if she felt she needed to. it's a lot about control, especially that of new family members that are not fully trustworthy yet and are intentionally kept in a state of dependency and on a short leash. I'm using the word leash very intentionally here. btw. I am a Western woman married to an Indian man for almost a decade now. We've met in India while I was working there and have been living together in India since our marriage. I had studied and got a uni degree in Indian culture(s) and languages before even first going to India and albeit fascinated by Indian culture I was wary about those cultural things when I first started dating my husband. I made it very clear when things started getting serious that I'll never be able to live in a joint family setting and that I need my personal space. Lucky me, his family is very nice and progressive. They were a bit sad that we wouldn't all live together - still are I guess - but they do understand it's not my culture and learned to accept it. My mother-in -law is a true angel and I cannot do wrong by her. This is why it's easy to spent a lot of time with my inlaws every week, but we also have our own place to go back home to. Me and my husband, as well as my husband's brother all have our own bank accounts. Only mother-in-law and father-in-law share one bank account, which makes sense cause mother-in-law has been a housewife for the last 40 years and just needs access to her husband's money for household expenses. In their family luckily full shared family accounts are not normal at all. we are all each other's nominees in case of demise, that's as far as it goes. From what I see in other urban Indian couples, it's still absolutely common for husband and wife to have merged accounts. The husband will usually also have a merged account with his parents from when he was unmarried and continue to support them financially, but married couples usually have their own household expense account when they're not living with his parents. A merged account with your inlaws - especially when not living together - feels like a very village-y backwards expectation to me. India is a country of 1.4 billion people, and it always rubs me a bit the wrong way when diaspora Indians abroad want to brush off such topics as just 'their culture', when millions of educated Indians in India have long left such outdated practices behind. It's an ever-increasingly outdated part of Indian culture that is meant to exert control over lower-hierarchy family members. Anyway, if you are in a serious relationship with someone from South Asia it's important to address and clear such questions up before marriage itself. You can be very frank in addressing such issues. never be scared of seeming culturally insensitive. this is your life we're negotiating about here. India has lots of different cultures and cultural practices within itself and it's normal to negotiate such things when marrying out of caste (and that's just what an intercultural marriage amounts to). A woman from the state of Kerala marrying a guy from Haryana would face just as much of a culture shock as an American woman marrying that same guy, you better believe it. So do address such things like what cultural things can you concede to and what are your boundaries (for me extended family setting was my boundary). No marriage proposal in India goes without a negotiation, and things you cleared up beforehand cannot easily be used as a cause for arguments later. So yeah, know your Indian inlaws and their expectations well before marriage. Cultural acceptance is no one-way street, you'll have to adapt a little, of course, but so will they if they want it to work. You'll have an easier time the more in-depth your knowledge about the other person's culture. It will give you a basis for knowing what is non-negotiable cultural taboo/norm, but also what is just being pushed forward as 'our culture' just to make you more pliable. Again, I was just insanely stupidly lucky having run into a man who has the sweetest mom in the world and whose entire family is very forward-thinking. Doesn't mean our family ties aren't still firm. Family always takes priority and is involved in all bigger decision taking. I do actually use most of my income to cover my mother-in-law's household expenses, not because she makes me, but because I want to make her life easy as I can out of gratefulness of being such a light in my life.
My BF is Indian they dont do this, BUUUUTTTT the one thing i really struggle with is his Mother believing that the "Women" do every thing. I understand it's the culture but thats one thing that is hard for me to understand like if they come over for a visit - Why is my son doing the dishes - Why are you folding his shirts like that i fold them like this (in our own home) - Do you make him dinner? I hope you do cause he works (um so do I 🤷🏾♀️) - Are you going to be ok to look after YOUR baby? - No dont let him watch the baby thats YOUR job. - Not to mention she trued to marry him off in India when we were together. The only thing that gets to me is she will NEVER say it around him only when he leaves room The boys say she doesn't know what shes saying shes just old school BUT she knows not to say it in front of them 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ THATS thee ONLY thing i have a hard time with is just that little cultral difference. BUT i can see how very close they all are as a family so I understand still get mad at dem comments doe lol BUT I UNDERSTAND
@@churr19 yeah, that's sadly pretty common. many Indian women somehow see those completely incapable doofuses in their sons/husbands who'll just starve and go to the dogs if they're not taken care of. sadly, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy cause if they never have to lift a finger at home to help and never learn taking care of themselves, they'll actually be dependent on a woman. basically Indian women subconsciously try to create a dependency where the son/husband can't leave them, because... WHAT WILL HE EAT??? same with childcare. men are just considered incapable. it's sad for the guys too, cause they are missing out on a big fulfilling chunk of parenthood and forming a proper emotional bond with their children. I think again here, the women subconsciously make sure the kid will be emotionally more attached to them and supportive of them in old age not only financially but also to talk on their behalf in important decisions. it's worse still in smaller towns and standard in rural areas I guess. Educated urbanites are thankfully bit by bit letting go of those things, but you'll still get to hear those remarks pretty commonly. Again, I was very lucky here. My Indian inlaws never say any such things to me. They are very supportive of me. When I was too. busy or sick to cook all they say is that I need to rest more and take care of myself. Also my mother-in-law raised her two sons making them wash their own dishes, saying while washing your dishes you wash away your sins ;p and my father-in-law at age 90(!!!) so as oldschool as you can possibly get is still doing a bunch of chores at home just to keep busy. He does the dishes, laundry, book keeping and cleans up random clutter :) It differs from family to family, but also from community to comunity I guess (and India has so many of those). But yeah, I was definitely very lucky. As for your Indian BF I have to agree with your BF and his brother, you have to get a thick skin and just ignore. The fact that she's not saying it in front of them means she already knows they'll scold her for it, so her battle is already lost and she knows it. So she tries by badgering you when she gets you alone a bit. Don't let it get to you. Have some standard answers ready: - Why is my son doing the dishes? -> Cause he lives and eats here, aunty. I cooked, he does the dishes. This is how we do it. - Why are you folding his shirts like that i fold them like this (in our own home) -> I see, aunty, but in this house we do it like this only. - Do you make him dinner? I hope you do cause he works (um so do I 🤷🏾♀) -> I also work, aunty. Whoever has time makes dinner or we cook together or we go out. - Are you going to be ok to look after YOUR baby? -> Aunty, you raised him na? So certainly he will be a capable father? - No dont let him watch the baby thats YOUR job. -> Same as above. - Not to mention she trued to marry him off in India when we were together. -> Expected to happen, especially if he's in his mid to late 20s. But yeah, the way she acts and judging by what the sons say, you've already won, so don't show weakness. Stay polite and friendly but hold your ground. She won't change.
I don’t know why these Indian men are saying these kinds of things because it is NOT a cultural thing. It is a their family practice thing. I have ‘heard’ about these kinds of families but do not know of even one. Usually, if they have this kinds of family practices they probably have more archaic beliefs in the name of culture. No one in my family or any of my friends are like this. I have a joint account with dad because I send him money that way. Same with MIL. They don’t share our main account with us. My dad doesn’t even know how much either I or my brother earns. Do they want to know? Probably. There are so many people who cheat you of money and normal person would know not to do that! Providing a living wage to parents, sure! But not what these men are claiming!
I also have a window washing story. The first year my husband & I were married I was 8 months pregnant in December and we were living in the 2nd story apartment in my in-laws' home (yes, we paid rent). My MIL called my mother to scream at her about what a pig I was because I wasn't washing the outside of our (2nd story) windows. It was December. In Pennsylvania. There was snow and ice on the roofs. It was bitter cold outside. The windows were very old and NOT the tilt-in type. AND I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT! This was just a preview of what my life was like for the next 30+ years until she died.
I simply adore my mother in law. I thank god ever day for her. She’s the mom I never had and she treats me like a daughter. She and I often call each other while we drink coffee in the morning. We go on girls trips (with my sister in law-who I also love to death). She has told me on more than one occasion to let her know if her son (my husband) acts up, because she knows who she raised-he’s no angel (guys-he’s literally the best guy anyone could ever ask for). She will send me random texts saying she is so thankful for me being in her life. She and I actually go all the way back to when I and my husband where in 2nd grade together and my dad asked her to take me to Girl Scout meeting when it was mother daughter events, since my mom was out of the picture. When my husband and I finally started dating in senior year, she told me “finally! I thought y’all were never going to be together!” Love that lady.
My ex mother-in-law is the absolute worst human being I've ever had the displeasure of meeting!! When her son and I found out I was 4 months pregnant with a little girl that'd be born with special needs, she literally called me almost every freakin day to tell me I had no business bringing a child like that into this world and I needed to get rid of IT. And then the bi-otch had the nerve to show up at the hospital when I delivered😠 Then she was pissed when I refused to let her see me or baby.
As Charlotte says: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! How tf can you look at the child that you wanted to be gone? And what if she tries to pull some stunt to succeed in the thing you didn't want to do?!?! Get a restraining order! Also, how is the baby?
Yeah, I'm a daddy's girl: he and I are both disabled and we take care of each other, but he has never, and would never, interfere in my relationships like that. The pets have to like them, but that's a rule that if the animals don't approve that it's a no go because there might be something about them that we can't sense but they can. Miner's canary rules. I told my last partner that my two male cats had to like him. Plus I told him that my older cat takes seniority because he has been with me a heck of a lot longer and loves me unconditionally. My cats loved him, but unfortunately we didn't make it. Different desires from life unfortunately. I did kinda decide to put my life on hold to just enjoy whatever time we have left as Dad's now terminal, but that's my choice and he knows nothing about it. He'd probably be upset it if I told him, so if he ever asks I'm feigning ignorance.
i just stumbled on this video from my wife's youtube recommendations. I'm honestly blown away to see you using half life 1 sound effects for reactions. Talk about nerd cred!
Last one. Time to change the locks. I would never just walk into my grown child’s home. If someone let me in I would never walk into her bedroom. You do not ever go into anyone’s bedroom unless they say you can. If you gave them a key for some reason(emergency, feed plant or animal while on vacation) then install a chain type lock so they can’t just walk in any time. I live in a small town where doors are rarely locked during the day and I visit many relatives and friends. I may open the door and holler their name to see if they’re in the house, but I don’t go in unless they answer me.
That first one pisses me off so bad. I know I could *_NEVER_* abide a partner that REFUSES to acknowledge such obvious things as *_you do not side with someone OTHER than your PREGNANT partner when it comes to THE PREGNANT PARTNER'S health and wellbeing._* Hearing the baby daddy in the BG batting for mom like "I didn't grow up that way, you're too sensitive, mom's just saying to communicate, if you can't work bring proof" FUCK ALL THE WAY OFF AND I AM NOW A SINGLE MOTHER. The way I would run home to my own family or just go to a women's shelter if I had NO options, sooooooo fast. Their heads would be spinning. The FIRST whiff my partner supports ANYONE more than me while I'm PREGNANT and I'm liable to literally walk out the door and refuse to come back without couples counselling or significant changes being made... And this is why I'm not having kids. It's one thing too many. Hard enough just to ensure you have a partner who doesn't f*ck sh1t up in this direction, since apparently so many are just like "nah, fam, my momma is WAY more important than this person I married and the LITERAL INFANT WE ARE ABOUT TO HAVE TOGETHER." I know it's hard for people out there, but please respect yourself enough NOT to put up with that sort of nonsense, to make it CLEAR what your boundaries are and to 100% NEVER get yourself STUCK with someone (even with a child on the way, you should have an "out" IT IS NOT WRONG TO HAVE AN OUT IN CASE THE SHIP SINKS, IT IS SMART, NEVER LET THEM OWN YOU DO NOT BE CAUGHT IN A TRAP).
Pregnant woman - your husband needs to stand up for you NOT his mother! I love my sons - but if I ever acted the way these women do I would undoubtedly never see them again and rightfully so.
A quick question: Do you house your sons and their wives on your home while you clean and they lay around doing nothing all day? It seems to me pregnant woman is playing victim here.
@@kool2btrue shes PREGNANT, do you even know what its like to carry a kid??. Its a fucking watermelon growing in your stomach and you want her to manual labor that doesnt matter?.. cleaning the windows?? I would understand cleaning up after herself but this is WINDOWS
@@empath9814 Because it seems like that's her chore which she refused to do. The conversations very much transpired as someone who isn't contributing to the house. Why are we supposing MIL as the bad guy if we are not going to make assumptions then? Her critique is fairly reasonable in the right context, heck the most likely context.
I couldn't stand my own mom, and family in general so I walked away at 15 and never looked back. I am so glad I love my partner's family. They're so absolutely lovely
I’m happy for you! Life is the best when your family on all sides are so supportive and loving ❤❤❤ you make my heart happy to know you are in such a beautiful situation
I’m grateful for my MIL! She now has Alzheimer’s, but even before this awful illness, she was so sweet and kind to me. I take care of her now and it is an absolute honor to take care of her!
Today is my 11th wedding anniversary, and I'm the 11th thumbs up.. it's a sign❤. My mother was the monster in law for my husband. She wore black from wrist to ankle in Vegas mid May. The look on her face in all my wedding pictures could only be described as bracing herself for something. No smiles or smirks. Thanks mom
Yikes. I’m so sorry. But happy anniversary!!!! I made the mistake of wearing all black to my uncles second wedding. Everyone took it as a sign I didn’t approve of the wedding. But I just really liked the dress and shoes. Next time I’ll accent it with pink or red or blue or silver though. Lol lesson learned. I felt awful when my cousin said something to me about it. At least I was smiling in all the photos.
My MIL told me she wished my cancer would hurry up and kill me because my wife and I wanted to spend a night alone after she had been out of town. My MIL showed up at our house anyway and had a melt down when she was asked to leave. She has since been banned several times 😂 especially since we have a one month old and my wife has been amazing and supportive hah. I think she sees how her mom really is.
@@thesecretshade I know it’s pretty harsh, but I don’t ever want to be the reason my wife doesn’t see/speak to her family. I understand there’s something not right with someone who would say that kind of thing, and in all fairness, my wife did cut her off for almost four months. I lost my mom when I was very young, so I don’t want my wife to be sad, so I’m the one who reached out. That being said, I have decide to treat her as a child. I set boundaries and if she doesn’t want to follow them, she loses the opportunity to see her daughter and grandchild. She has manipulated ppl for years and she is learning our family is accessible on our terms ha. It’s very sad tho. We just want a Normal family ha
@@zombieparrot2606 hopefully she respects your boundaries and you are a great person for allowing her in your life for the sake of your wife. I hope you are well
@@zombieparrot2606 "but I don’t ever want to be the reason my wife doesn’t see/speak to her family" What you fail to realize that it's not about you. You aren't the reason. Her toxic family is the reason.
The lady in the second story being attacked like that is so awful! Like why gang up on her like that???! He's supposed to defend her or control the situation or something!
@@foreignbentley173 I was thinking the same. Oh the drama, your life is about to ve wrapped up in I swear. Especially when he started comparing his upbringing to hers, you could tell that he straight off the bat resented her in some way.
@@foreignbentley173 totally!!! “yeah you wanna defend your mom so hard buddy? Cool, have a nice life together! Have fun scr*wing your MOMMY” I would’ve walked away so damn fast their heads would spin!!!
The irony of her Indian family wanting her to respect their culture while totally disregarding hers >_< I'm glad she set boundaries because the last thing you want is your family fighting over money T_T Good luck to everyone in these videos with dealing with their monster in laws. I hope if I eventually get married I'll be marrying into a supportive family. Kind of fearing my mum would be the monster in law tbh.
At my wedding my mil was going around telling everyone this wasn't the real wedding and that we were going to have a much bigger better wedding later. That's just a snapshot of how she would always need to act like nothing was good enough and she needed to have "the best" everything. I had never heard about another bigger better wedding and also she wasn't planning to pay for this second wedding she was reporting about.
This video is making me grateful that I’m single right now. Single life has its own issues, but I have no one trying to steal my money, earrings, or anything else. 😂
OMG, that MIL that complained about not getting enough attention at their wedding is exactly what one of my siblings did at my wedding. Complained their family wasnt given enough attention, didnt get the photos they wanted and that others werent showign them enough respect... Like yeah, yoi go and hid ein a place that you have been told multiple times are private residence and the wedding is where all the food, drinks, celebratory decorations and everyone else was.
My mother in law tried to get rid of me for over 30 years. My husband figured out what she was trying to do. He was so afraid that I would leave him. I told him that I married him not her. He did the best he could to control her bs.
My husband and I divorced 12 years ago. I absolutely love my ex in-laws (even though he and I no longer communicate because our kids are grown). I am in constant contact with them even though our kids-grandkids are grown and on their own. Anything I can do for them and anything they can do for me will be done. I am SO freaking lucky to have them in my life. I absolutely love them. I am very fortunate.
As an Indian woman, that is 100% not a thing in our culture. Its a weird familial thing THEY do. Ppl need to stop claiming an entire culture must be doing those certain quirks just bc they r ignorant to what that culture ACTUALLY involves 😒. Nobody shares their accounts with other family members
I won the mother in law jackpot for sure. I currently live across the world from my partner (soon moving over there) and my mother in law is literally doing everything to include me in what is going on in the family. She is one of my favourite people on this planet and I love her so much.
Pre-wedding, my ex MIL was awesome. We went shopping, did lunch, had great times. At the rehearsal dinner, she flipped the switch. I found out from one of my sisters that she had my mum in tears because she was 'explaining' that me & her favourite son would be having dinner at their place every Sunday. Plus every holiday. Because I was now part of her family (British, BTW) and MIL now came first. Took me 7 years to finally clue in that her beloved number 1 son was always going to excuse her petty, passive-aggressive, emotionally abusive behaviour as part of her bipolar disorder, and never stand up for me. Good riddance to his whole damn family. They were all awful in their own ways.
My mother in law was the most incredible woman outside my own mother, that i have ever known. I still feel blessed to have become a part of her family. She raised the perfect man for me and I’m so thankful for that. When my mother was dying from cancer she came down here, over ten hours away, to help care for her before she passed. God took her home the way everyone wants to go, as a surprise in her sleep with no suffering. I’m so thankful to her for my life, and i wish all women could have the experience with their mother in law’s that i had with mine. She was a beautiful human being and was celebrated multiple times in her community for the charity work she spent her life dedicated too. I wasn’t surprised at all about that either because she deserved it.
These videos always make me appreciate how normal my in laws are. Though my mil legit has some clown shoes. She used to do balloon animals and stuff for kid's birthday parties, so has a whole costume for it. 🤣
Yeah, my monsta-in-law was a menace. I'd say the worst thing she did was try to get my husband to leave me and the kids multiple times. Her wearing a white lace dress at our wedding did not bother me that much. Hubby always supported me. That's the way it should be.
@@2Btoobee I always tell people that I’m not turned off to the idea of marriage but I am turned off to the options currently available. And I do not mean that as a slight to the ladies, I mean that as an encouragement to myself to improve and prepare to be the best husband when the right woman comes around. Of course I also say that my picker is broke but that’s another story for another day. 😉
For that MIL story where the mother was harassing after stealing, I for sure would have pressed charges. Maybe if she didn't send those messages after the incident I wouldn't press charges but she pushed her luck. She could have just let it go after the initial incident but the MIL didn't. She played stupid games, so she'll win stupid prizes.
Right?!? Why would you keep being a bish when your DIL didnt press charges YET and you know your son is on his wifes side. You should be kissing her ass or at least avoiding upsetting her at all costs so she doesnt decide to press charges cause as big as they said those earrings are thats gonna be felony money not a misdemeanor
Im so blessed even though im seperated from their son we are still close and they are very close with their grandchildren...i literally just got home from my friends place to flowers and chocolates on my doorstep for mothers day with a note thanking me for being such a good mum to their grandkids ❤❤
The elf girl is her best friend eve. Britt Nicole is one of the best mother-in-law creators out there and she’s absolutely hilarious. I recommend everybody go check her out. Edit: fixed her name. She says scoot a lot but it’s not her name.
during my former marriage, I felt like my in-laws really treated me like one of the family. Then I found out that my wife cheated on me... I turned to my parent-in-laws for help dealing with this and to try and save my marriage... I was destroyed and actually crying on the phone with my mother-in-law... the first question out of my mother-in-law's mouth was "but how is (wife) doing?".... that's the moment that I understood that it had all been a pretense on their part...
I'm sorry to say but once the partner does anything to "void" the marriage. (Whether it's cheating or they have a reason to divorce you).. Do NOT bother running to their parents. At the end of the day... YOU are not their child. Even if you got together as teens. My ex-husband and I met when I was 13. Didn't date til I was 16. I was with him til I was 25. So my family was very nice to him etc since he was a family friend first. But his alcoholism got too strong, he stepped boundaries into cheating more than once. I tried but being with him in an affectionate way just gave glimpses of the other women so I'd withdraw. I couldn't last. So I filed for divorce and I didn't fight for anything. No alimony and none of my belongings in the apartment bc I didn't want to associate with him at all. Married @19 and yes he was in the military. My entire family cut him off. NOW if I had cheated during that time.... My parents would've ripped me a new one but he'd still be cut off. Also it's shitty to try turning a partner's parents to your side ... Unless there are kids involved. But it's better to just be cordial and try not to alienate anyone. In laws have no obligation to continue treating you as a son in law when their only real connection to you was their daughter. And tbh trying to salvage a relationship where cheating occurred... It's better for YOU to walk away. Don't let them use you. Any trust will be obliterated... The relationship will be tainted. Don't bother with a relationship where you have to worry about repeats. That's just my thoughts and experience. 2¢
The woman wanting her DIL to wash windows. Like what are they even talking about they keep interrupting omg? And the husband is a mommas boy douche bag. She ought to file for divorce.
My mother-in-law is the sweetest person I know. She’s like my best friend. We spent the day together just 2 days ago and it was so nice. She treats me with more respect than I deserve.
I was very fortunate to have amazing in-laws that treated me like their own. I became closer to them then my own parents. They would even side with me when their son was being a jerk lol. I lost both my MIL and FIL this year and they took a piece of my heart with them.
I'm so glad my bf's parents are so nice to me. They're the type that's like "as long as you treat our son well, we'll treat you well." And they're such a joy to be around.
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As an Indian woman who’s getting married at the end of the year, I can confirm it’s not in our culture for the in laws to have your money. That’s just plain entitlement.
Yeah that's so weird.
I've never heard this before.
It sounds more like a controlling family.
Thievery
I am Indian and NOBODY I know puts their money together like that.
I agree. Its common for the couple to have a joint acc. But a joint acc for the entire family? Hell no!
Husband and wife joint account yeah but the whole family,no way,not ever
The woman who keeps getting sued by the MIL should sue her back for defamation, slander, and harassment. And probably get a restraining order against her covering herself and her daughter. That is not ok behavior. It's expensive, stressful, and can be damaging to a child. Using a lawsuit should be a last option in serious circumstances, not a way to try to manipulate a situation where she has no rights.
If it's been 23 times I'm surprised XMIL isn't on the list for vexatious litigants. They call it different in every state, but it's when you abuse the legal system to a point where a judge has to pre approve your claim before you can even talk about suing someone. Literally you can't sue anyone unless a judge says so and they take their sweet time when you are on that list.
My question is, how old is the kid now? How does grandma think the kid will react after 8 years of harassing her mom?
@@PandaMonium92827 I came here to say the same. I think the XDIL can sue for frivolous lawsuits. Not sure if it's just monetary or criminal or both, but after the second or third one, I'd have looked into a way to stop it. Another thought could be she's having fun watching the other woman make a total a** of herself in front of a judge as well. I'm sure a frustrating as it is to be hauled into court every couple of months, it has to be satisfying to watch someone get their butt handed to them time after time.
I was thinking, surely theres a way to stop vexatious suits
She can also sue for malicious litigation because she was taking her to court specifically to mess with her.
Not defending the pregnant mother of your child when she is clearly distressed is so wild to me.
Same. I hope she is alright.
I’m sure he has always been that way. She decided to marry him anyway after seeing all those red flags.
@@themetalchica sadly I made way too many. I too missed red flags before my wedding. Was in the wedding dress fantasy.
@wandarosario6629 that is very true. Sometimes, when you're in love, you don't see em as clearly as the way others do
@@Airy_Contrary plus 2 days before the wedding I wanted to cancel but my mom would not let me. She paid way too much money and I was not going to embarrass her in front of all her friends. That’s why I’m always telling my daughters pay attention to what he does not what he says. And just leave I’m here for you.
The fact that the fiance said "ill support you if you want to press charges against my mom" says it all. 😅
When I got a divorce due to my husband's infidelity, I basically packed up and left with nothing. My then MIL yelled at me and accused me of stealing a pillow and some cheap cutlery. 20 years later, I had finished law school and passed the bar. She had the audacity to call me up and DEMAND that I go to her house and do her will for free!!! UMMM, NO! The best revenge is success!
No no no my mom sticks by her kids and will be mama bear if needed but if her kid effs up she won't hesitate to call us on it.
I hope you mailed her the pillow and the cutlery instead 🤣🤣
What was her reaction when you told her no?
that's when you do some sneaky illegal stuff with the will....she wanna fk around, she can give you her money when she rots lmao (probably don't do this irl because prison is not fun but it's SO tempting)
I’d feel so violated if my parents let themselves into my home without notice. That’s fucked up.
That's why Zayn Malik went berserk with Yolanda Hadid. She kept showing up unannounced. Also that time he hit Yolanda, allegedly she came with a group of people for intervention with Zayn while Gigi was out for work. 🤷🏻♀️
My MIL does that... We gave her the key for emergency situations and I regret that.
I would change the locks so fast…. I would’ve called the cops the moment my parents did that.
I'd of punched the mom. Relationship might end - but you don't disturb and record sleeping people. Icky.
Yeah that was so effing weird.
The dude being on the side of his mother instead of helping his wife and support her is the biggest red flag. Id run.
This made me so sad for her!
Yeah, run and take that baby as far away from that toxic b*tch and her mama-boy b*tch.
The way I had to stop to run to the comments to see at least ONE other person say this too... Thank you :'D Nevermind the sh1t-in-law, the DUDE HIMSELF is the biggest red flag! He's siding with mom... about making preggo partner work outside in sun? EVEN THE SUGGESTION ITSELF IS STUPID this man should not be a father. He's not done being a little boy for his mother. :|
Totally Agree! Run now because it's only going to get worse! 😮
I was so mad and upset at those 2 horrible people. I wanted to give her a big hug.
I hope Charlotte sees this.
So I dated this guy for sometime. We fell in love and even wanted to get married. We are Africans from Ghana to be precise. His mother strongly disagreed to our union because she didn’t like my tribe. This guy chose his family over what we had and asked me to move on with my life because he can’t be with a woman his family dislikes.
Fast forward to now, I’ve found an amazing young man who’s so in love with me and I love him to bits. Recently let’s say, three weeks ago my coward ex, texts me to inform me that his mother died and because of that he wants me back . I never click on the block button so fast 😂.
Plus my boyfriend’s mother is an angel. I’m really glad the first family didn’t accept me 😂😂😂. I would be missing out big time
So happy for you!! When a door closes, somwhere a window opens! I hope everything goes well in your relationship ♡
That made me so happy to read!
This happens a lot in Nigeria, don't wanna mention names of tribes that do it more, but it happens a lot.
This situation fits the quote “Sometimes man’s rejection is God’s protection” perfectly. Congratulations 🥳🥂
@@williamholdaway6598 what?????
To the lady who has bee sued more than once per year since 2012: From experience. If she is suing you multiple times over 10 years, time to get a harrasment lawyer. Criminal harrasmen is a 4-8 year jail sentence, and harrasment at that level is absolutely criminal. You can back sue her up to 20 years for all the lawyer and court fees you've paid and missed work. Blessings, queen.
I would think the court would charge her with filing nuisance lawsuits, too.
@@mutteringcrone1210 depends on the state.
I wish I knew how. I lost my home, my car, my business and I'm still 40k in debt. She stopped suing once my daughter turned 18 almost 2 years ago. But 11 and a half years of back to back suits, I'd love to get some of that money Back. 🥺
I feel so sorry for that woman being told to wash the windows.... Honestly I would have said "no" once and "I'm going home [husband] can stay and help mommy maybe for a week" right after. And then go home and really put my priorities in order... I would be out of that marriage faster than you can say "mama's boy"
I got the impression they all lived in the same house together. Seemed like a typical “multiple families living together” type of argument. Saw that endlessly living in Southern California b/c it was so expensive to live there. Was not unusual to have all the family members staying together whether they wanted to be there or not.
@@fourlittlebirds6166 I've seen those. Coming from Latin America it's p normal there and from what I know it tends to suck. Either way I would at least got stay with my parents or some other family. I would not put up with this kind of abuse and neglect
That last one was absolutely psychotic. Why would you invade your sons home and risk seeing him in the middle of the act? WTF is wrong with that woman and the others with her enabling that shit?
I'm assuming the person driving was his Dad. Why would he drive her there.. he needs to grow a pair.
Yea I was thinking that too what the hell is wrong with her husband for going along with this crap?!!
@@healingmagichands my mom and sister have a key to my place if they need to drop something off/pick something up etc while I’m not home but they would NEVER go to my house unannounced! They have always called and asked hrs if not days in advance.
Dude do you have no idea, I've been with my son's father for 6 years and up until the past couple of years she would stand at his door and his door broke and he has an odd shaped frame so it's hard to find a door that isn't expensive and we're not really able to buy 1 so we just use baby gate and a curtain to cover it and her room is so far down from his on the opposite side of the house so it might we don't really have to worry as long as we're not doing that if you know what I mean But we've caught her like a handful of times watching us. Not to be too graphic but 1 time she was watching so long we didn't even notice until he... you know... And we lay down to cuddle afterwards and looked over and saw her peeking through this little gap she was watching through.
The level of entitlement with these types of parents. "I raised you so I get to act however I please!"
My mother-in-law INSISTED that I abort our TRIPLETS that I was 4 monthes pregnant with because "We didn't know how hard it would be to be parents"... we both already had two children each from previous marriages. 2 months later, I had three beautiful little girls (4 months early). We have been together for 10 years now, continue to fall more in love every day, absolutely love and adore our 7 children, and now our 2 Grandchildren as well.
7 kids...I'm glad your big family was a happy one but 7 kids is scary to me. The "you don't know how hard parenting is" bit is kinda funny considering you guys were 4 kids into it.
@katrinascarlet5637 two of those kids were already 16 and 18 at that time, so they're adults now. My husband has a great job and I have always been able to stay home with the kids. Sadly, one of our beautiful girls went to Heaven at 7 months old, leaving us with 4 kids at home.
@@jenniferschroeder3086 I am so very sorry for your loss. My precious son died 2 years ago (although it still feels like it was 2 weeks ago), and the grief can, and is, at times overwhelming. I wish you much happiness in your life. 🫶🏼
@Racingirl911 thank you, dear, and I, too, am so sorry for your loss. Oh yes, unfortunately, I understand all too well. This July will be 8 years since our girl left this world, and the grief can still send me spiraling. I have to stay strong for all of my other "babies," but we (you and I!) will make it through and see our beautiful babies again one day. All the very best happiness, beauty and love to you, my new friend ❤️
Opposite here. I aborted because (one of the few times my ex supported me) if ex MIL had helped financially, she would have pushed her way in to raising the kid. And she was a physically and emotionally abusive parent.
The MIL that’s stole the heirlooms?! What the actual?! She should have been escorted away in handcuffs! She stole them, and actively tried to get away with it by lying, and she was going to ruin the wedding day just so SHE could have earrings?! Greedy people are so hard to comprehend.
It was 100% Premeditated
Entitled people are not self aware
I would have RIPPED that bag out of her hands SO fast. When monster in laws come out, that is the one of the ONLY times a bridezilla is justified.
What confuses me is its not like she could wear them. Her daughter in law AND her family would recognize them immediately.
I hope she presses charges.
@@7ShadowMaiden7 I don't even think that would count as being a bridezilla. It's literal survival mode when comes to monsters 😅
As an Indian myself, I can confirm this exists in some families I know.
Me and my siblings are unmarried, our parents never ask us for money - we spend some of ours on things for the house or the bills because we still live with them and sometimes without telling them - we just tell them it was due and it was covered. My spur of the moment shopping spree is the only thing that gets some counselling; other than that we are all reasonable and respectful. We all have our own accounts, only our parents have joint accounts.
It exists in some families in EVERY culture. White, black, Chinese, Latino, etc. doesn't make it a "cultural thing", it makes it a weird familial thing some have decided to do, no matter their background
For the people thinking the last one is fake, this actually happened to me (19) in college. The mom of my on and off again boyfriend (22) let herself in and barged in the bedroom. I was in the bathroom having just taken a shower. I stepped out of the bathroom to be called a lot of names for corrupting her baby. She also had a special nickname for him thst she would coo at him when she called him. So ick. We kept breaking up because of stunts like that. Months later he called me in the middle of the night, (pre cellphone days, so my whole family woke up). He proposed, I told him he was drunk, and yes I loved him, but he would have to leave his mom out his life before we would even just date again. Really nice guy, but his mom, OMG
The dad that drove the mom to his son's house so she could do this, though... Why is nobody talking about these sad dads? I know the mums are crazy and totally out of line, but why do dads enable their wives to do this to their sons? Do they not want grandchildren? Are they just happy that someone else is the target of the crazy behaviour? Someone please explain!!
@@alieknitzer In my case his dad also drove, IDK narissists are pretty manipulative. But I like your idea.
@@alieknitzer i mean, he ALSO is the one who filmed everything… so i’m going to go ahead and say he’s just as complicit.
@@alieknitzer I think they make a point of surrounding themselves with people that will never challenge their crazy. Choose a partner. Favor a child or children. Drive away the ones that challenge. Have a posse of gullible doormat friends and relatives. It is NOT an accident.
@@alieknitzer Because men have no rights in the relationship anymore. Im in the UK but I know the US has the same laws. There is an offence which is coercive and controlling behaviour. If I was to say to a girlfriend "I prefer your other sweater, why dont you wear that today" that single innocuous statement can be counted as an offence of controlling her. I could receive a custodial sentence and be placed on the domestic violence register. We are scared to say anything.
And before anyone says women are governed by the same rules Police wont investigate male victims of domestic violence. My ex has stalked me and my family for 8 years which lost me my job by her contacting my employer. She also used a razorblade to attack me and she tried to emasculate me. When I tried to report it I got told "men cant be the victim of domestic violence so go away". We are scared
As an Indian person, I have to say… that is NOT normal. Please do not express familial norms as cultural norms. No body - between my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. - shares a familial account.
My mom co-signed to my account only for contingency reasons. No one takes or asks for my money and I don’t ask for theirs either.
However, my parents will help me out on a heartbeat if I need anything, and I will gladly give them what they need as well.
Your point is very valid, but please bear in mind OP may well have been told by her husband's family (even her husband) that it *is* a cultural thing, and as someone new to that culture, she doesn't know enough to real the... um... exaggeration. I know my father had to explain to his older brother (who married last) that *no-one* did some of the things around money their parents had done - he just assumed it was normal and was about to start the same practices with his own family.
I'm Sri Lankan, I have bunch of Indian friends. This is the first time I heard families sharing bank accounts like that. That is definitely not normal.
I was going to say the same thing then I saw your message. 100% this is not normal.
@@fionam7768 I’m wondering since it’s not culturally normal maybe the family told her that to keep her manipulated? I don’t want to assume malicious intentions however this particular situation sounds super sus
Thank God, this did not seem normal despite me not being from that culture. It seemed like they were just _obsessed_ with money.
My mother pulled the same crap as the last one in the vid. Repeatedly. Just delighted in trampling all over my boundaries in the most horrific ways. Now every so often I get a text from a sibling telling me how she doesn't understand why I haven't spoken to her in seven years!
Same!! Haven't spoken to my mom in years and it's been the most freeing experience being able to have my own space!!!
All the folks who "don't understand" are part of the problem. They enable the abusive/toxic behavior as long as it's not directed at them. As soon as the victim stands up for themselves, all those enablers have to deal with the toxicity themselves... And their response is to try and pull the original victim back in so the toxic person can go back to the same old routine, and the enablers can be comfortable again. It may not be a conscious decision, but that's how it often plays out. You deserve better.
@@Sleipnirseight well said
As a mother, this makes me so sad. For you. That your mother was so toxic you had to walk away. Everyone deserves a kind, loving, supportive mother. I bet you're all the stronger for it, but still. It'd be nice if it didn't have to be that way.
Press charges on the earrings thief for sure, and press charges against the mom who entered the “sleepover” home without permission if it’s not her home.
My father would’ve done something like that. But only if he was paying the rent. Makes me wonder if their kid is a student and they pay his housing so “they make the rules”. I’m not saying that would make it okay, I think privacy should have been a right given with a place to live, but I know parents who strongly disagree. Anyway I think mom is an AH but not sure if they had an agreement the son broke
As bad as it is that her mother-in-law stole her earrings, the fact that she and the family is now harassing her would make me concerned about what family I just married into and how "far" the apple fell away from the toxic tree.
OMG, I just had a PTSD moment with the mother-in-law telling her pregnant daughter-in-law to clean the windows.. so the same thing happened to me but in my case, it was in the middle of winter in Europe and she wanted me to clean the outside of the window while 5 months pregnant in -10 degrees... I'm happy to say that I'm not a part of that family anymore 🙏
Happy for you!!!
That's just mental
9:09 Speaking as an Indian, yes there are Indian parents who have extreme interference in their adult kids lives including financial but NO DECENT RESPECTFUL PARENTS CAN EXPECT A DIL TO DO THIS! It’s not Indian culture- it’s PATHETIC CULTURE and us Indians look down upon and hate such families in our communities who do this. Much power to this DIL for standing up for her 💵!
I don’t think that parental interference is exclusive to Indian culture, at all. 👍
And much power to you for saying this ❤
I hit the mother in law *jackpot!*
She was like my second mom & truly treated me as her daughter, not just her son’s spouse. My husband & I have been together for 12 years but sadly my MIL passed away the year before our wedding & I miss her every single day! Some of these stories are so horrible & jaw dropping! They make me extra thankful for my amazing MIL. 💕
I'm sorry for your loss. At least you have great memories with her ❤️
@@karolinamakowska2514 … Thank you 💕
If my mother ever did what the last one did.. I'd immediately be changing all of those locks she had a key to. Absolutely not. 😬💀
same tbh and I would call the cops
Bro I'd sell that house and move as far away as possible and never say the new address
Massive ick!
That and a restraining order. 🚫
@@stronghealer yes right away!
Ok I get it, you want someone to have a spare key to your house in case something happens. But if this ever happened, you would never have a key to anything I own again.
I was blessed with the best mother-in-law you could ever ask for. She was wonderful. I never heard her say one bad word against anyone. We lost her to breast cancer. It was heartbreaking for her husband, her son-my husband-me, her other family members and almost everyone in the small town she lived in. She touched so many lives with her sweet goodness. I was so close to her. I have been determined to be a good mother-in-law to the sons and daughters that married into my family. They have become my children, my friends. I doubt I’m half the kind generous woman she was but I try.
There’s a cool thing called a peace bond. This keeps the culprit away for 6 months and is a great step prior to pressing charges. This gives you some middle ground so that the individual will learn you mean business and no matter if time goes by and they pretend it didn’t happen, because the law records don’t forget.
An ex partner and I were together about 6 months before I met his family and 5 mins after meeting his mother she cornered me alone in the kitchen and told me I was "too rugged" for her son and I"wasn't welcome". I walked out to where everyone was and VERY LOUDLY repeated what she said .....and WE left.
Who would hate someone who's rugged, rugged is cool af
Ooooh good for you guy, I'm so happy for you 😊 What did your Bae say to his mom??
That's how you do it. They don't expect us to speak up but when you do they start watching their tongue (only if the bf is on our side otherwise it's doomed)
Absolute power move, because she obviously didn't think you'd do such a thing. Kudos!
I did something similar with my late dad’s ex GF.
Long story short she’d cornered me in the kitchen and hissed something at me, but then my dad came in like
“Is everything alright in here? 🤨"
And she spun around and responded in this sugary voice that she did 98% of the time like
“Oh yes, everything’s fine!”
And I was like
“Actually, it’s not, your GF was just threatening me but then poured on the syrup when you walked in.”
Then I walked out of the kitchen and left them to deal with it 😂
So weird that she assumed I would lie for her and cover up the fact that she was being a c*nt to me, like, why would I?
60 seconds in and I am 100x more grateful for my mother-in-law than I was beforehand. WOW!!!
Same! OMG!
Every time I watch one of these, I think the same thing. Last week my MIL was at a family event out of state (my husband’s hometown) and FaceTimed us so he could speak to family he hasn’t seen in years. She said her goodbyes, put the phone down, and didn’t realize she hadn’t ended the call and I heard her tell the other people what a great DIL I was. It was so sweet. We started yelling at her so she’d notice before anything else was accidentally said. 😂
@@susieq1279 hilarious. Love that for you.
Haha same, but my bf is going to have an absolute b*tch of a MIL unfortunately. We both hate her guts, I’ve been living with that psycho for way too long, if I ever do end up getting married, I don’t want her there, I don’t even want my future children close to her. She is physically and verbally abusive and also very manipulative. I love his family whilst I want nothing to do with my family (neither does he), the only real family I do have is him and hopefully his family too somewhere in the future. They are genuinely the sweetest people ever and treat me like a human being instead of an animal that gets beaten and spat on when the owner doesn’t get their way. I hate her for everything she’s done to me, for every mark and bruise she’s left on me, for every hair she’s pulled off my head whilst dragging me by my hair, for every slur she’s called me (all of this because I had mental issues and I didn’t get cured after one therapy session). Oehh I get angry and start ranting when I think about her, I am so thankful for his family and being so kind towards me and again, treating me like an equal human being, which is unfortunately sth I’ve gotten to feel very rarely during my lifetime. Bless that wonderful man and bless his wonderful family
My partner's mom is super cool but his dad did something that means so much to me.
The first time I met my partner's father was also the last. He had end stage cancer and we drove across the country so my partner could see him one last time. The night we got there and I got to know all these people I had never met before. His father and I spoke for a while because we have very similar personalities and views (we're both logical, fact based, analytical people). The next morning, it was just myself and my partner's parents having breakfast (coffee/diet coke). We we're talking and his father made it clear, in no uncertain terms, that I was not only accepted into their family but also felt that I make the perfect balance for his son and both himself and his wife very happy that we were together.
That was so touching.
He passed away about two weeks later and I'm glad to have met him.
That last woman who woke up the couple sounds like someone who no one would like. How she would think that was an appropriate thing to do to them is truly amazing.
I would be pissed, but then I would tell mom to wake us when breakfast is ready. Then when they left I'd make a call to get the locks changed. On mom's birthday I would tell her that her gift was paying for changing the locks.
I agree 💯!
To top it off, her husband is filming it!
I think that is staged..trying to get some views with that one.
Never give your house key to people who don't respect boundaries, no matter what they promise. They WILL break their promise. Too many of us learn this the hard way.
My mother in law was the type that would look in the medicine cabinet when she used our bathroom. Rather than confront her ,and give her the chance to go into " I am the victim here mode", I devised a plan to put an end to her nonsense. The next time I knew she was coming over I placed a photo of her scowling face (enlarged to show detail) inside the medicine cabinet and let her ugly face stare back at her.
😂😂😂😂😂
_That's _*_~PERFECT!~_*
She cannot say, or do anything, without _OUTING HERSELF_ as a snoop, thief, or both!
*_~BRILLIANT!~_* 💗
I'm so damn impressed!
So...
...I have to know
_WHAT HAPPENED???_
Did she say something
_ANYWAY--_
too offended, or addicted to drama--or just STUPID--that she just could not _help herself?_
I need a Part II, friend!
Thank you for sharing your genius. ❤
God Bless.
me too, please 🙏 definitely need a part 2. Please, please, please
😊
I might've mentioned this before but here it is in light of the earring story!
My mother tells this story often. There were a myriad of issues at my parents' wedding up to and including the florist being in a car accident. (He was okay! Did his damnedest to get everything done in spite of it 'cause he knew my mom personally, and then went and got some stitches.)
But the key point of the wedding was that my mother had gotten these gorgeous shoes for the ceremony. They matched the dress and they made her keep up with my father's height (my father is rather tall, and my mother is rather short), and she just adored them. Come wedding day and she's getting dressed, and she can't find her shoes. Her mother and her maid of honor have vanished, and this was the boiling point of every event prior. She was damn near ready to call off the wedding until one of my dad's groomsmen had went out shoe hunting. They were able to find shoes for her in the end, she walked down the aisle, and my parents are going on damn near 30 years now!
For additional context: my nonna (grandmother) hates buying new things. My mother's side of the family is... very a lot of things (we don't talk to them anymore after *several* years of mental and emotional abuse) and ... penny pinchers were one of those things. My nonna was going to wear this old polka dot dress that *she* had gotten married in or something that had even yellowed with age and it was insane (she was finally convinced to buy a new dress but)-
Cut to my parents going through all of their wedding photos. Lo and behold. There on my nonna's feet. My mother's brand new white shoes.
My son’s, now ex, wife literally grew up across the street from us and she’d been in and out of our house since she was 12 because they were best friends. When they decided to get married, I decided I needed to set some ground rules with them so I sat them down and had that conversation. These were the rules for her: 1) I’m bossy and I know it so, if I overstep, you need to tell me to back off. You will not hurt my feelings. You need to have boundaries and I need to respect them. But, to do that, I need to know what they are. So, tell me.
2) If I say something that hurts your feelings, please know that I didn’t mean to. But, you need to tell me so we can talk about it and resolve the issue.
I just had one rule for him:
1) If there’s ever an argument between she and I, you will take her side. Period. Even if you think I’m is right, you take her side. The three of us will sit down later and talk it out but, in front of the family, you will have her back every single time.
You need to set some ground rules? What? You sound like a pain in the ass MIL. Lol. Honestly if you just mind your own business, and not be worried about what they have going on, you wouldn't have to worry about being to bossy? They are adults, who are you bossing around? Why do they have to sit down with you to work things out? I see why she is an ex...
Those rules sound great!! But now it makes me curious as to why they broke up😅
You sound like a great MIL, though I hope your son didn't actually NEED to be told to take his ex's side! (I'm sure he didn't, with a mum like you raising him).
@@samanta3720 long story short, she cheated on him with his twin sister’s boyfriend of five years. They’re now married with two kids and my kids are lucky to be rid of them. And neither of his mothers can stand her!
@@sfkarch .... Damn
Ugh. This is why couples need to talk about everything before getting marriage. Money, children, finances, religion, cultural values and expectations. Better to know ahead of time than to have it sprung on you like the woman who married into the Indian family. So everyone is on the same playing field.
And the mom who walked in on her son??? Who does that? What a freak. And why does she have a key to his apartment! Oh, hell no!
That was probably a good cue to have the locks changed
That last mom probably pays for most of her son's expenses, so she has power over him.
OMG... The husband that let his mother talk to his pregnant wife that way, that girl needs to leave that relationship. He is never going to support her and he is showing her that he never will.
The lady who made the skit about the mom almost leaving the wedding always adds in her elf character, who always tells off the MIL in her own funny ways (especially by yelling “SCOOT!”). Her own character always stands up against the monster in law in her own petty ways but her elf character always shakes down the MIL through her own devious and funny plans.
12:25 - in that woman's skits, the elf is her single, wild girlfriend who also hates the mother in law
my monster in law was my father in law who told me 1) he had a bet with his buddies we would not last a year ( been 38), 2) i would never give him children (there have been 2)..I would keep him from getting a college degree (he has 2 associates, 2 bachelors and a masters degree..) and we would never have our own house (it's paid off )... loved proving him wrong.
My ex almost killed my youngest when she was only a couple months over 1yr old and SA'd my oldest when she was 5... I liked my MIL before when we were married, she treated me like I was one of her own kids and was a sweetheart .. fast forward to us being split(after the youngest was hurt but before the SA) and she still was kind and came to visit her grandkids in my care... Then when the SA came out(proud of my daughter for being strong enough at 5 to say something) I told them and he lost custody, and ever since she has made a point of going around the country visiting "all of her grandkids" and no longer even mentions her 2 granddaughters with me... But at this point I'm glad bc my current MIL is absolutely amazing, my fiance is a wonderful dad to all 3 of our kids, and we don't need them, but still, the idea that she could side with a p*do just bc she birthed him over her abused grandkids always floors me...
That’s really sad. Do you think maybe she is ashamed that her own child did something so heinous and assumes you don’t want to see her?
I get that as a parent it must be really hard to learn your kid is a terrible person, but her reaction is really bad. She is missing out on so many things with her grandkids just because she chose to close her eyes on her son's horrible actions. I'm glad the 3 of you are in a better situation now. And that your daughter was brave enough to speak up!
@@jworth7203 I don't think so bc when it came out and I told her, I said that I had nothing against her and she was welcome to visit as long as he wasn't around obviously... She visited once about a month after and sent a Christmas present package that following Christmas, but has never contacted or anything since and frequently posts on FB about her grandkids and such(the other 6 grandkids she has from her other children) and not even a mention of my 2... Her ex that she's still friends with(my ex's step dad) even went as far as to mention them to her in one of these posts a few years ago(he has since stopped contacting and visiting as well) and she didn't even comment back to him about how she forgot her 2 grand daughters too...
First, I am sorry this happened to your kids. Your daughter has so much courage and obviously you are a great parent for believing and taking action. Nothing people do surprises me any longer. Your old MIL was obviously just a "on display" nice person and not really a good person at all to behave this way.
My ex literally tried to kill me. As in chased me down the street trying to run me over with her car causing a 3 car accident. And her mom kept telling me I was a bitch for kicking her out of the house. This ex has since harassed me on & off over the past 6-7 years. But apparently I'm the a-hole. This is why I am happy to remain single.
@@ginjagurl1330 that's disgusting. I'm glad that you have a better MIl and your kids have a better grandma. How's your daughter been since? I'm also proud of her too.
My S-I-L is the most disgusting person I have ever met. She called a month before our wedding and asked me if I was pregnant, absolutely stunned by the question to start with I told her “NO”. She then asked me to put my hubby on the phone. Immediately proceeds to ask him the same question and if that was the reason we were getting married. He told her “NO”. We get married, she shows up and sulks all night because she wanted my hubby to drive her back to where she was staying after the reception, she is from another state and was lodging about an hour and a half away, but he told her “NO”.
Speaking with my M-I-L a few years later she informed that S-I-L had told the whole extended family that I was pregnant anyway. Funny thing is our daughter was born exactly ten days after our first anniversary. We are now heading to our thirtieth. We no longer have “Leatherface” in our life. Years of smoking and tanning have not been kind to the wicked bitch of the south, 😂😂😂😂.
I'm cackling at the names you called her at the end. Totally deserved in my opinion 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you sweetheart. I just wish you could see her, she looks like a saddlebag with eyes, 😂😂😂😂.
My husband worked nights and my husband’s Mother, went absolutely nuts that I wasn’t waiting until he got home, to ‘make his breakfast!!’ I was a University Lecturer and had groups of 120 students. When I laughed & said ‘what should I tell the students & my manager’ she said that ‘if my job, got in the way, of looking after my husband, I should give it up!!!’
That last one is the reason I took the keys to my place back from my mother.
The sad thing is how little we pay our teachers in the US. They hold the future of our children in their hands but are looked down upon. Truly a labour of love.
Its there everywhere. My dad used to be a teacher and he was paid less than minimum wage.
Seriously though. And the work doesn't stop when the kids leave. There is always the next lessons to prepare for. The work literally never ends. And I'm going to be a teacher any way :)
If we closed the Dept. of Education in the US and gave the entire budget evenly among k-12 teachers, they'd all get a $40,000 raise.
Teaching is a noble profession. I'm proud of my sister and nephew, both teachers.
Personally I think that teachers up until 9th grade should get 2 paychecks. 1 for babysitting and 1 for teaching salary.
Can we appreciate the fact that Charlotte posts everyday for us, we don’t deserve our petty queen 👑
Been wanting to post something and this is the perfect spot, thank you, And I Oop. __ *Thank you Charlotte, for being here, putting out amazing video after amazing video. I am in a huge transition in my life at the moment and spend a lot of time watching your videos here, Facebook and TikTok. I go to bed at night with you in my speakers. You don't know it, but you have been a tremendous comfort for me. Thanks again, Charlotte. You just don't know how much it means.* __
I noticed that recently. Speaking from experience, that ain't easy. Props to a real TH-cam pro.
PLEASE stop saying period!
@@guudino6344 period…. 😏😏😏
@@guudino6344PERIOD
Mil found out about our first miscarriage and asked if we were trying to make her life harder because we were trying to have one in the first place. He didn't tell her about the others after. My husband only sees/talks to his mom a few times a year.
I'm so sorry that happened to you! Miscarriage is so tragic and hard to deal with. I hope you can find healing🙏
I was welcomed by my in laws like I was a long lost member of the family. I absolutely adored my mother in law -- in fact, she was the one who I turned to when I had problems. She died in 2010, and I miss her terribly to this day.
My husband chose his mother when she gave him the ultimatum, been divorced for 15 years, raising my son by myself. Learned to be independent and self sufficient. Made the mistake of getting married a second time and same thing happened 7 years ago. Lost faith in marriage. Why do men get married if they cannot stand up for their wives?
There's plenty of us men who would. I think the real issue, people with sincere hearts who want to work on things, fall for people who need working on.
This is so fuckin unlucky! Wow! Sorry to hear that, must of been difficult to go through and to deal with the aftermath. Heart goes out to you ❤ best of luck
@yupyup3878Same here! My big 3 5 is right around the corner and anyone mentioning me being in a relationship again, I say NOPE. Happy for other people but for me, a strong NO THANK YOU! 35 is going to be amazing. Wishing you all the best when your birthday arrives 😊🎉❤
Its not men... Its you.
You don't learn from your mistakes and have no spine.
Plenty great men out there but you go for mommy boys - sort yourself if you want this sorted.
And get some standards ffs mommy's boys are so easy to spot but you don't notice what they are until they divorce you?
Therapy and education... Or stop dating - your choice really
There’s a whole trend on TikTok of people analyzing and breaking down reasons why there are men who are terrible to their wives (and not abusive, just general assholes) and the consensus seems to be that these are men who don’t LIKE women. They’re attracted to women, but they don’t LIKE them, and they just want to be married for the tax benefits and societal prestige, and the free labor of having a live-in maid.
There's a term for Mama boys. it's called Son-Husband. In which the mother will groom the boy into becoming the husband she truly wanted, even when she is married.
If she is married, the dad is just someone she settled with because her biological clock is ticking, and she needs to get married and have a family.
She doesn't respect the guy unless the enabling dad grows a spine and puts a stop to her time of terror.
Emotional incest.
Jeebuz effin christ in a hockey bag that is my ex & his mum 100%.
Literally described my dad's parents to a T
The last one… oh my God. I am a mother of 4 boys. There isn’t a chance in hell I’d ever act like that.
That mom and dad are repulsive! No respect for their son or boundaries!
She’s horrific. If her son wants to have a success marriage, he’ll have to go nc. You could tell that the idiot mom was so excited to “catch” her adult son fornicating. And her husband is absolutely worthless. He knew what her intent was, and instead of stopping her, he drove her there and filmed her. Spineless!
I hope the son took his key back before they left.
Time to change the locks. Even if you ask for her key she might have made an extra copy.
Plus she can’t just touch a random girl like that? There is so much wrong with this woman it’s scary
@@1cosmicGirl for a second I read 'nc' as North Carolina and I thought "well, I guess that could work if it's really far away" then I realized you meant 'no contact' hahaha 😆
I could fill the page with MIL horrors but I'll keep it simple. My husband and I eloped because we didn't want to deal with her bs. My Mom and Dad arranged a party to celebrate our marriage, MIL wanted to be involved, and offered to pay half of the cost, she proceeded to invite 80% of the guests and paid nothing. (I found this out many years later and my Mom didn't care about the money, she only told me after MIL died and I also found out MIL used to call my Mom and bitch about me.
I knew she hated me but I didn't know she hated me so much that she made up lies and told my husband I was cheating on him (my Mom had cancer and I would occasionally stay overnight because the drive to her treatments was really far) also I just found out about this last week when I asked my husband why she hated me so much.
MIL was diagnosed with alzheimers and instead of her 2 daughters taking care of her (1 lived with her and the other didn't work) I gave up a good paying job to take care of her, despite the many horrible things she did and said about me I felt sorry for her.
As a final farewell, after I prayed to God asking that she didn't die on our wedding anniversary, which didn't seem likely because she was doing pretty good, yeah, you guessed it, she died on our wedding anniversary. I'm sure it was just a coincidence.
I feel bad for writing this comment but it's been boiling inside me since 2008.
Oh man. I wouldn't have looked after her
Oh wow! Don’t feel bad for venting here! Sounds like she was a hateful person, and you did above and beyond. My most sincere wish for you is boundless happiness in your future. Take gentle care of yourself… 🫶🏼
God knows and loves you. He's getting your attention - you HAVE to take Him seriously if you want to spend eternity with Him. "Forgive us our trespasses AS we forgive those who trespass against us. God is trying to wake you up. It's worth it. Your eternal soul is worth saving, is worth more than your anger toward your MIL.
@@janebaker4912 middle child syndrome 😆
@@Racingirl911 thank you so much, I don't usually comment, but I sure love you guys ❤️
I ended a 4 year relationship several years ago mostly for the reason that his mother was a total monster in law. Put down my appearance regularly (ex never defended me), often pointed out hot women in movies to him, and in all areas of his life was extremely controlling and manipulative. And the man was 27 at this point, still letting his mom dictate his life. He probably still is LOL.
I'm glad to find a community that shares my distain for mama's boys 🙏
Here's my horrible mother in law story....
My hubby and I have recently celebrated our 10 year anniversary. My MIL has never liked me. She didn't like me even before she met me. She wanted my husband to get with a girl she knew.
Fast forward:
My husband's mother was asked to watch my stepson for a business trip. I'm currently in another state helping my brother.
She freaked out and sent a very long rant about what a horrible wife and mother I am. I abandoned him and my stepson, how dare I help my brother, I'm selfish, I've ruined my husband's life, I've ruined his relationships with his family... ummm, let's see....oh, the best part.... I'm out here living the single life while spending all his money. She said he needed to divorce me and man up. Basically that he's my whipping boy. At first, I was mad, but then I laughed at how ridiculous she is.
I wish I didn't have a monster in law, but sometimes you have no control over that. 🤷♀️
A narcissistic mother-in-law of mine just looked at me and "...I don't like you", and made her daughter's life a living hell until she broke up with me just so she can have peace with me (she loved me so much that handled her mom's daily tantrums for a years and four months).
It has been seven years, and I still whisper "that bitch..." every time I remember of her 😖😅.
Which is bad, because I really loved her daughter 😓😅.
I’m so sorry.
That is truly heartbreaking for the two of you. Wow, the vile selfishness of this woman to torture her own daughter and ruin her life.
This is tragic & so unnecessary 🥺 I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry, that is so messed up…I feel bad for your ex, having to deal with a mother like that it would be so hard.
I am a 57 year old female with a mother in law from hell. I empathise with you, That bitch lives downstairs, lol
My ex-boyfriend is Indian and he explained to me how his entire immediate family shares all of their combined incomes. I actually admired their ability to have so much trust in each other as a family that they can do that without any issues, especially when there's much MUCH less trust among my immediate family and there's no way in heck that we would be able to share one bank account without strangling each other (we're American).
The trust is nice but it's not just voluntary trust, it's expectation. And I'm not cool with that from in-laws. My future in-laws don't get to tell me what I do with my money or what I decide to do jointly with my husband, I don't care what their culture dictates, respectfully.
My partner and I don't even have joint accounts 😂. I'm certainly not going to trust his immediate family if I don't trust him.
it's not only about trust though. it's about mutual social control. the reasons for all the earned money going into one fund in traditional Indian families is that in an extended family living situation usually one person - the mother-in-law - will be in charge of most of the household expenses, while bigger purchases like cars etc will be decided upon by the father-in-law. All other family members pay into that fund as they are living in that household and using its resources. traditionally after marriage the new daughter-in-law will move in with her husband's family and become part of his family more than of her own, so her earnings go to that family. sounds practical, right? Well it's also a way to make sure the daughter-in-law has very little options to put aside funds and run away if she felt she needed to. it's a lot about control, especially that of new family members that are not fully trustworthy yet and are intentionally kept in a state of dependency and on a short leash. I'm using the word leash very intentionally here.
btw. I am a Western woman married to an Indian man for almost a decade now. We've met in India while I was working there and have been living together in India since our marriage. I had studied and got a uni degree in Indian culture(s) and languages before even first going to India and albeit fascinated by Indian culture I was wary about those cultural things when I first started dating my husband. I made it very clear when things started getting serious that I'll never be able to live in a joint family setting and that I need my personal space. Lucky me, his family is very nice and progressive. They were a bit sad that we wouldn't all live together - still are I guess - but they do understand it's not my culture and learned to accept it. My mother-in -law is a true angel and I cannot do wrong by her. This is why it's easy to spent a lot of time with my inlaws every week, but we also have our own place to go back home to. Me and my husband, as well as my husband's brother all have our own bank accounts. Only mother-in-law and father-in-law share one bank account, which makes sense cause mother-in-law has been a housewife for the last 40 years and just needs access to her husband's money for household expenses. In their family luckily full shared family accounts are not normal at all. we are all each other's nominees in case of demise, that's as far as it goes.
From what I see in other urban Indian couples, it's still absolutely common for husband and wife to have merged accounts. The husband will usually also have a merged account with his parents from when he was unmarried and continue to support them financially, but married couples usually have their own household expense account when they're not living with his parents. A merged account with your inlaws - especially when not living together - feels like a very village-y backwards expectation to me. India is a country of 1.4 billion people, and it always rubs me a bit the wrong way when diaspora Indians abroad want to brush off such topics as just 'their culture', when millions of educated Indians in India have long left such outdated practices behind. It's an ever-increasingly outdated part of Indian culture that is meant to exert control over lower-hierarchy family members.
Anyway, if you are in a serious relationship with someone from South Asia it's important to address and clear such questions up before marriage itself. You can be very frank in addressing such issues. never be scared of seeming culturally insensitive. this is your life we're negotiating about here. India has lots of different cultures and cultural practices within itself and it's normal to negotiate such things when marrying out of caste (and that's just what an intercultural marriage amounts to). A woman from the state of Kerala marrying a guy from Haryana would face just as much of a culture shock as an American woman marrying that same guy, you better believe it. So do address such things like what cultural things can you concede to and what are your boundaries (for me extended family setting was my boundary). No marriage proposal in India goes without a negotiation, and things you cleared up beforehand cannot easily be used as a cause for arguments later.
So yeah, know your Indian inlaws and their expectations well before marriage. Cultural acceptance is no one-way street, you'll have to adapt a little, of course, but so will they if they want it to work. You'll have an easier time the more in-depth your knowledge about the other person's culture. It will give you a basis for knowing what is non-negotiable cultural taboo/norm, but also what is just being pushed forward as 'our culture' just to make you more pliable.
Again, I was just insanely stupidly lucky having run into a man who has the sweetest mom in the world and whose entire family is very forward-thinking. Doesn't mean our family ties aren't still firm. Family always takes priority and is involved in all bigger decision taking. I do actually use most of my income to cover my mother-in-law's household expenses, not because she makes me, but because I want to make her life easy as I can out of gratefulness of being such a light in my life.
My BF is Indian they dont do this, BUUUUTTTT the one thing i really struggle with is his Mother believing that the "Women" do every thing. I understand it's the culture but thats one thing that is hard for me to understand like if they come over for a visit
- Why is my son doing the dishes
- Why are you folding his shirts like that i fold them like this (in our own home)
- Do you make him dinner? I hope you do cause he works (um so do I 🤷🏾♀️)
- Are you going to be ok to look after YOUR baby?
- No dont let him watch the baby thats YOUR job.
- Not to mention she trued to marry him off in India when we were together.
The only thing that gets to me is she will NEVER say it around him only when he leaves room
The boys say she doesn't know what shes saying shes just old school BUT she knows not to say it in front of them 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
THATS thee ONLY thing i have a hard time with is just that little cultral difference. BUT i can see how very close they all are as a family so I understand still get mad at dem comments doe lol BUT I UNDERSTAND
@@churr19 yeah, that's sadly pretty common. many Indian women somehow see those completely incapable doofuses in their sons/husbands who'll just starve and go to the dogs if they're not taken care of. sadly, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy cause if they never have to lift a finger at home to help and never learn taking care of themselves, they'll actually be dependent on a woman. basically Indian women subconsciously try to create a dependency where the son/husband can't leave them, because... WHAT WILL HE EAT???
same with childcare. men are just considered incapable. it's sad for the guys too, cause they are missing out on a big fulfilling chunk of parenthood and forming a proper emotional bond with their children. I think again here, the women subconsciously make sure the kid will be emotionally more attached to them and supportive of them in old age not only financially but also to talk on their behalf in important decisions.
it's worse still in smaller towns and standard in rural areas I guess. Educated urbanites are thankfully bit by bit letting go of those things, but you'll still get to hear those remarks pretty commonly.
Again, I was very lucky here. My Indian inlaws never say any such things to me. They are very supportive of me. When I was too. busy or sick to cook all they say is that I need to rest more and take care of myself. Also my mother-in-law raised her two sons making them wash their own dishes, saying while washing your dishes you wash away your sins ;p and my father-in-law at age 90(!!!) so as oldschool as you can possibly get is still doing a bunch of chores at home just to keep busy. He does the dishes, laundry, book keeping and cleans up random clutter :) It differs from family to family, but also from community to comunity I guess (and India has so many of those). But yeah, I was definitely very lucky.
As for your Indian BF I have to agree with your BF and his brother, you have to get a thick skin and just ignore. The fact that she's not saying it in front of them means she already knows they'll scold her for it, so her battle is already lost and she knows it. So she tries by badgering you when she gets you alone a bit. Don't let it get to you. Have some standard answers ready:
- Why is my son doing the dishes? -> Cause he lives and eats here, aunty. I cooked, he does the dishes. This is how we do it.
- Why are you folding his shirts like that i fold them like this (in our own home) -> I see, aunty, but in this house we do it like this only.
- Do you make him dinner? I hope you do cause he works (um so do I 🤷🏾♀) -> I also work, aunty. Whoever has time makes dinner or we cook together or we go out.
- Are you going to be ok to look after YOUR baby? -> Aunty, you raised him na? So certainly he will be a capable father?
- No dont let him watch the baby thats YOUR job. -> Same as above.
- Not to mention she trued to marry him off in India when we were together. -> Expected to happen, especially if he's in his mid to late 20s.
But yeah, the way she acts and judging by what the sons say, you've already won, so don't show weakness. Stay polite and friendly but hold your ground. She won't change.
I don’t know why these Indian men are saying these kinds of things because it is NOT a cultural thing. It is a their family practice thing. I have ‘heard’ about these kinds of families but do not know of even one. Usually, if they have this kinds of family practices they probably have more archaic beliefs in the name of culture. No one in my family or any of my friends are like this. I have a joint account with dad because I send him money that way. Same with MIL. They don’t share our main account with us. My dad doesn’t even know how much either I or my brother earns. Do they want to know? Probably.
There are so many people who cheat you of money and normal person would know not to do that! Providing a living wage to parents, sure! But not what these men are claiming!
I also have a window washing story. The first year my husband & I were married I was 8 months pregnant in December and we were living in the 2nd story apartment in my in-laws' home (yes, we paid rent). My MIL called my mother to scream at her about what a pig I was because I wasn't washing the outside of our (2nd story) windows. It was December. In Pennsylvania. There was snow and ice on the roofs. It was bitter cold outside. The windows were very old and NOT the tilt-in type. AND I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT! This was just a preview of what my life was like for the next 30+ years until she died.
My mother-in-law once sent me a letter outlining all her expectations from me while she visited my family at MY house.
I simply adore my mother in law. I thank god ever day for her. She’s the mom I never had and she treats me like a daughter. She and I often call each other while we drink coffee in the morning. We go on girls trips (with my sister in law-who I also love to death). She has told me on more than one occasion to let her know if her son (my husband) acts up, because she knows who she raised-he’s no angel (guys-he’s literally the best guy anyone could ever ask for). She will send me random texts saying she is so thankful for me being in her life. She and I actually go all the way back to when I and my husband where in 2nd grade together and my dad asked her to take me to Girl Scout meeting when it was mother daughter events, since my mom was out of the picture. When my husband and I finally started dating in senior year, she told me “finally! I thought y’all were never going to be together!” Love that lady.
awwwwww ❤❤❤
This is one of the most beautiful comments🥹 I'm so happy for you! What a wonderful person to have in your life💛💛💛
My ex mother-in-law is the absolute worst human being I've ever had the displeasure of meeting!! When her son and I found out I was 4 months pregnant with a little girl that'd be born with special needs, she literally called me almost every freakin day to tell me I had no business bringing a child like that into this world and I needed to get rid of IT. And then the bi-otch had the nerve to show up at the hospital when I delivered😠 Then she was pissed when I refused to let her see me or baby.
Damn!!
As Charlotte says: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! How tf can you look at the child that you wanted to be gone? And what if she tries to pull some stunt to succeed in the thing you didn't want to do?!?! Get a restraining order! Also, how is the baby?
How fucking sad!
mothers being obsessed with their sons to the point of damaging their relationships are so removed from reality it blows my mind
Yeah, I'm a daddy's girl: he and I are both disabled and we take care of each other, but he has never, and would never, interfere in my relationships like that. The pets have to like them, but that's a rule that if the animals don't approve that it's a no go because there might be something about them that we can't sense but they can. Miner's canary rules. I told my last partner that my two male cats had to like him. Plus I told him that my older cat takes seniority because he has been with me a heck of a lot longer and loves me unconditionally. My cats loved him, but unfortunately we didn't make it. Different desires from life unfortunately.
I did kinda decide to put my life on hold to just enjoy whatever time we have left as Dad's now terminal, but that's my choice and he knows nothing about it. He'd probably be upset it if I told him, so if he ever asks I'm feigning ignorance.
i just stumbled on this video from my wife's youtube recommendations. I'm honestly blown away to see you using half life 1 sound effects for reactions. Talk about nerd cred!
Last one. Time to change the locks. I would never just walk into my grown child’s home. If someone let me in I would never walk into her bedroom. You do not ever go into anyone’s bedroom unless they say you can. If you gave them a key for some reason(emergency, feed plant or animal while on vacation) then install a chain type lock so they can’t just walk in any time. I live in a small town where doors are rarely locked during the day and I visit many relatives and friends. I may open the door and holler their name to see if they’re in the house, but I don’t go in unless they answer me.
That first one pisses me off so bad. I know I could *_NEVER_* abide a partner that REFUSES to acknowledge such obvious things as *_you do not side with someone OTHER than your PREGNANT partner when it comes to THE PREGNANT PARTNER'S health and wellbeing._* Hearing the baby daddy in the BG batting for mom like "I didn't grow up that way, you're too sensitive, mom's just saying to communicate, if you can't work bring proof" FUCK ALL THE WAY OFF AND I AM NOW A SINGLE MOTHER.
The way I would run home to my own family or just go to a women's shelter if I had NO options, sooooooo fast. Their heads would be spinning. The FIRST whiff my partner supports ANYONE more than me while I'm PREGNANT and I'm liable to literally walk out the door and refuse to come back without couples counselling or significant changes being made...
And this is why I'm not having kids. It's one thing too many. Hard enough just to ensure you have a partner who doesn't f*ck sh1t up in this direction, since apparently so many are just like "nah, fam, my momma is WAY more important than this person I married and the LITERAL INFANT WE ARE ABOUT TO HAVE TOGETHER."
I know it's hard for people out there, but please respect yourself enough NOT to put up with that sort of nonsense, to make it CLEAR what your boundaries are and to 100% NEVER get yourself STUCK with someone (even with a child on the way, you should have an "out" IT IS NOT WRONG TO HAVE AN OUT IN CASE THE SHIP SINKS, IT IS SMART, NEVER LET THEM OWN YOU DO NOT BE CAUGHT IN A TRAP).
Pregnant woman - your husband needs to stand up for you NOT his mother!
I love my sons - but if I ever acted the way these women do I would undoubtedly never see them again and rightfully so.
A quick question: Do you house your sons and their wives on your home while you clean and they lay around doing nothing all day? It seems to me pregnant woman is playing victim here.
The fact that she was being yelled at, SHES PREGNANT
@@kool2btrue shes PREGNANT, do you even know what its like to carry a kid??. Its a fucking watermelon growing in your stomach and you want her to manual labor that doesnt matter?.. cleaning the windows?? I would understand cleaning up after herself but this is WINDOWS
@@kool2btrue we literally have no information on the video why assume she's not doing anything
@@empath9814 Because it seems like that's her chore which she refused to do. The conversations very much transpired as someone who isn't contributing to the house. Why are we supposing MIL as the bad guy if we are not going to make assumptions then? Her critique is fairly reasonable in the right context, heck the most likely context.
I couldn't stand my own mom, and family in general so I walked away at 15 and never looked back. I am so glad I love my partner's family. They're so absolutely lovely
I’m happy for you! Life is the best when your family on all sides are so supportive and loving ❤❤❤ you make my heart happy to know you are in such a beautiful situation
I’m grateful for my MIL! She now has Alzheimer’s, but even before this awful illness, she was so sweet and kind to me. I take care of her now and it is an absolute honor to take care of her!
Today is my 11th wedding anniversary, and I'm the 11th thumbs up.. it's a sign❤. My mother was the monster in law for my husband. She wore black from wrist to ankle in Vegas mid May. The look on her face in all my wedding pictures could only be described as bracing herself for something. No smiles or smirks. Thanks mom
Happy anniversary! ❤ Don't invite your mum.
Yikes. I’m so sorry. But happy anniversary!!!! I made the mistake of wearing all black to my uncles second wedding. Everyone took it as a sign I didn’t approve of the wedding. But I just really liked the dress and shoes. Next time I’ll accent it with pink or red or blue or silver though. Lol lesson learned. I felt awful when my cousin said something to me about it. At least I was smiling in all the photos.
happy anniversary 🎉🎉🎉
Looking at your surname, is the MIL Polish? I got one myself so explains a lot. Rest of the family and FIL great though 😊
My MIL told me she wished my cancer would hurry up and kill me because my wife and I wanted to spend a night alone after she had been out of town. My MIL showed up at our house anyway and had a melt down when she was asked to leave. She has since been banned several times 😂 especially since we have a one month old and my wife has been amazing and supportive hah. I think she sees how her mom really is.
"She has since been banned several times"
Should be only one time. After that, it's a police escort.
She still has contact with her mother after she wished for your death? I'm judging that sorry. That calls for an immediate cut off.
@@thesecretshade I know it’s pretty harsh, but I don’t ever want to be the reason my wife doesn’t see/speak to her family. I understand there’s something not right with someone who would say that kind of thing, and in all fairness, my wife did cut her off for almost four months. I lost my mom when I was very young, so I don’t want my wife to be sad, so I’m the one who reached out. That being said, I have decide to treat her as a child. I set boundaries and if she doesn’t want to follow them, she loses the opportunity to see her daughter and grandchild. She has manipulated ppl for years and she is learning our family is accessible on our terms ha. It’s very sad tho. We just want a Normal family ha
@@zombieparrot2606 hopefully she respects your boundaries and you are a great person for allowing her in your life for the sake of your wife. I hope you are well
@@zombieparrot2606 "but I don’t ever want to be the reason my wife doesn’t see/speak to her family"
What you fail to realize that it's not about you. You aren't the reason. Her toxic family is the reason.
The lady in the second story being attacked like that is so awful! Like why gang up on her like that???! He's supposed to defend her or control the situation or something!
Right?!? Massive red flag!!
Right I would’ve just left him I’m not about to argue ima just leave him to love his mother lol
@@KDu400 Totally
@@foreignbentley173 I was thinking the same. Oh the drama, your life is about to ve wrapped up in I swear. Especially when he started comparing his upbringing to hers, you could tell that he straight off the bat resented her in some way.
@@foreignbentley173 totally!!! “yeah you wanna defend your mom so hard buddy? Cool, have a nice life together! Have fun scr*wing your MOMMY” I would’ve walked away so damn fast their heads would spin!!!
The irony of her Indian family wanting her to respect their culture while totally disregarding hers >_<
I'm glad she set boundaries because the last thing you want is your family fighting over money T_T
Good luck to everyone in these videos with dealing with their monster in laws. I hope if I eventually get married I'll be marrying into a supportive family. Kind of fearing my mum would be the monster in law tbh.
That last mom. He’s obviously not a teenager and obviously not under her roof. CHANGE THE LOCKS!!!!
Queen Camilla wore white to Diana and Charles wedding. So Queen Elizabeth wore white on Camilla's and Charles wedding day. 😂 Loved that!
My favorite queen story!
She was not only Queen of the U.K. but the queen of shade as well.
I can’t believe that they actually made that home wrecking Biatch a queen. If I were Diana’s kids, I would be livid.
@Felecia Donelson my favorite shade was wearing a brooch that was a gift from the Obama's to Trump's visit.
At my wedding my mil was going around telling everyone this wasn't the real wedding and that we were going to have a much bigger better wedding later. That's just a snapshot of how she would always need to act like nothing was good enough and she needed to have "the best" everything. I had never heard about another bigger better wedding and also she wasn't planning to pay for this second wedding she was reporting about.
This video is making me grateful that I’m single right now. Single life has its own issues, but I have no one trying to steal my money, earrings, or anything else. 😂
Same I do what and who I want, don't have to ask for permission for anything, and don't have to worry about fighting with anyone.
The love of your sister is so precious ❤
OMG, that MIL that complained about not getting enough attention at their wedding is exactly what one of my siblings did at my wedding.
Complained their family wasnt given enough attention, didnt get the photos they wanted and that others werent showign them enough respect... Like yeah, yoi go and hid ein a place that you have been told multiple times are private residence and the wedding is where all the food, drinks, celebratory decorations and everyone else was.
My mother in law tried to get rid of me for over 30 years. My husband figured out what she was trying to do. He was so afraid that I would leave him. I told him that I married him not her. He did the best he could to control her bs.
My husband and I divorced 12 years ago. I absolutely love my ex in-laws (even though he and I no longer communicate because our kids are grown). I am in constant contact with them even though our kids-grandkids are grown and on their own. Anything I can do for them and anything they can do for me will be done. I am SO freaking lucky to have them in my life. I absolutely love them. I am very fortunate.
Can we just appreciate Charlotte's beautiful voice for a second 🎵😍
As an Indian woman, that is 100% not a thing in our culture. Its a weird familial thing THEY do. Ppl need to stop claiming an entire culture must be doing those certain quirks just bc they r ignorant to what that culture ACTUALLY involves 😒. Nobody shares their accounts with other family members
Watching these makes me feel like the best Mother in the world lol. So when I feel like I have failed in some way, I watch these to reassure me lol.
I won the mother in law jackpot for sure. I currently live across the world from my partner (soon moving over there) and my mother in law is literally doing everything to include me in what is going on in the family. She is one of my favourite people on this planet and I love her so much.
My late mother in law was an angel, a true lady and I loved her dearly. After watching this I know how truly blessed I was to have had her in my life
Pre-wedding, my ex MIL was awesome. We went shopping, did lunch, had great times. At the rehearsal dinner, she flipped the switch. I found out from one of my sisters that she had my mum in tears because she was 'explaining' that me & her favourite son would be having dinner at their place every Sunday. Plus every holiday. Because I was now part of her family (British, BTW) and MIL now came first. Took me 7 years to finally clue in that her beloved number 1 son was always going to excuse her petty, passive-aggressive, emotionally abusive behaviour as part of her bipolar disorder, and never stand up for me. Good riddance to his whole damn family. They were all awful in their own ways.
My mother in law was the most incredible woman outside my own mother, that i have ever known. I still feel blessed to have become a part of her family. She raised the perfect man for me and I’m so thankful for that. When my mother was dying from cancer she came down here, over ten hours away, to help care for her before she passed. God took her home the way everyone wants to go, as a surprise in her sleep with no suffering. I’m so thankful to her for my life, and i wish all women could have the experience with their mother in law’s that i had with mine. She was a beautiful human being and was celebrated multiple times in her community for the charity work she spent her life dedicated too. I wasn’t surprised at all about that either because she deserved it.
These videos always make me appreciate how normal my in laws are. Though my mil legit has some clown shoes. She used to do balloon animals and stuff for kid's birthday parties, so has a whole costume for it. 🤣
Yeah, my monsta-in-law was a menace. I'd say the worst thing she did was try to get my husband to leave me and the kids multiple times. Her wearing a white lace dress at our wedding did not bother me that much. Hubby always supported me. That's the way it should be.
I’ve been married… ahem… more than once. And all of my MILs were actually really sweet people. I consider myself very, very fortunate.
Don’t know why ya gotta clear your throat on that. 😉 Nothing wrong with being married … more than once. 😂🤣 Ended my second last year. 🎉🍾🍺
@@davidguidry657 yea, and it also takes real courage to have a second one
@@2Btoobee I always tell people that I’m not turned off to the idea of marriage but I am turned off to the options currently available. And I do not mean that as a slight to the ladies, I mean that as an encouragement to myself to improve and prepare to be the best husband when the right woman comes around.
Of course I also say that my picker is broke but that’s another story for another day. 😉
For that MIL story where the mother was harassing after stealing, I for sure would have pressed charges. Maybe if she didn't send those messages after the incident I wouldn't press charges but she pushed her luck. She could have just let it go after the initial incident but the MIL didn't. She played stupid games, so she'll win stupid prizes.
Right?!? Why would you keep being a bish when your DIL didnt press charges YET and you know your son is on his wifes side. You should be kissing her ass or at least avoiding upsetting her at all costs so she doesnt decide to press charges cause as big as they said those earrings are thats gonna be felony money not a misdemeanor
BRB, gonna go call my wonderful mother in law and reiterate just how much I love and appreciate her. These stories are wild.
Im so blessed even though im seperated from their son we are still close and they are very close with their grandchildren...i literally just got home from my friends place to flowers and chocolates on my doorstep for mothers day with a note thanking me for being such a good mum to their grandkids ❤❤
The elf girl is her best friend eve. Britt Nicole is one of the best mother-in-law creators out there and she’s absolutely hilarious. I recommend everybody go check her out.
Edit: fixed her name. She says scoot a lot but it’s not her name.
her name is Eve (like Christmas Eve lol) "scoot!" is just something she says a lot
I was looking through this to be sure it was explained!! Britt is hilarious 😂
I’m glad you remembered her name. I recently found her. So funny!
@@KansasNotTheBand whoops. You are correct.
during my former marriage, I felt like my in-laws really treated me like one of the family. Then I found out that my wife cheated on me... I turned to my parent-in-laws for help dealing with this and to try and save my marriage... I was destroyed and actually crying on the phone with my mother-in-law... the first question out of my mother-in-law's mouth was "but how is (wife) doing?".... that's the moment that I understood that it had all been a pretense on their part...
I'm sorry to say but once the partner does anything to "void" the marriage. (Whether it's cheating or they have a reason to divorce you).. Do NOT bother running to their parents. At the end of the day... YOU are not their child. Even if you got together as teens. My ex-husband and I met when I was 13. Didn't date til I was 16. I was with him til I was 25. So my family was very nice to him etc since he was a family friend first. But his alcoholism got too strong, he stepped boundaries into cheating more than once. I tried but being with him in an affectionate way just gave glimpses of the other women so I'd withdraw. I couldn't last. So I filed for divorce and I didn't fight for anything. No alimony and none of my belongings in the apartment bc I didn't want to associate with him at all. Married @19 and yes he was in the military. My entire family cut him off. NOW if I had cheated during that time.... My parents would've ripped me a new one but he'd still be cut off. Also it's shitty to try turning a partner's parents to your side ... Unless there are kids involved. But it's better to just be cordial and try not to alienate anyone. In laws have no obligation to continue treating you as a son in law when their only real connection to you was their daughter. And tbh trying to salvage a relationship where cheating occurred... It's better for YOU to walk away. Don't let them use you. Any trust will be obliterated... The relationship will be tainted. Don't bother with a relationship where you have to worry about repeats. That's just my thoughts and experience. 2¢
The woman wanting her DIL to wash windows. Like what are they even talking about they keep interrupting omg? And the husband is a mommas boy douche bag. She ought to file for divorce.
Always charge a karen always otherwise they get even worse.
Women ☕
I mean, I feel like you were really naive
That second one is SO TOXIC!!! God that was like a flashback to my first marriage!
My mother-in-law is the sweetest person I know. She’s like my best friend. We spent the day together just 2 days ago and it was so nice. She treats me with more respect than I deserve.
The skit with the elf, the elf is the best friend who’s willing to f the MIL up any chance she can 😂😂 love that woman and her MIL skits
I was very fortunate to have amazing in-laws that treated me like their own. I became closer to them then my own parents. They would even side with me when their son was being a jerk lol. I lost both my MIL and FIL this year and they took a piece of my heart with them.
I am so sorry for you and your husband’s loss… 😥
@@Racingirl911 thank you. They really were amazing parents, inlaw and grandparents
The one with the sister with cerebral palsy is so sad. My heart goes out to her. That’s really rough
You make my day every day. I found you last summer and I was in such a horrible place and you helped me make my way out. Thank you
I'm so glad my bf's parents are so nice to me. They're the type that's like "as long as you treat our son well, we'll treat you well." And they're such a joy to be around.
11:25 The Elf is Eve we LOVE Eve ❤❤❤