I'm 105 days alcohol-free, which is a record for me. I had crippling anxiety and depression on a daily basis when I was binge drinking, and now I feel so much better!! You got this! It's so worth it ❤
You should simply not have any alcohol at your gatherings. Including Thanksgiving. Your family will manage without it. Just don't even offer it. It will still be fun for them & it will support your sobriety. It's ok to have a fully no alcohol gathering even if others could be ok drinking
Leaving Ted is not an option though,sometimes two people can come together and change two problems to zero problems😂😂❤❤Ted is getting sober with her. The guy loves her. He stays
So essentially what happened was you had a BPD meltdown at Oak Lawn at Ted and now out of fear that he's going to leave you/kick you out you are acting out more with more BPD behaviours (black/white) thinking of "alcohol is the problem here, I'll just stop drinking and it'll be fine again". I don't disagree that the amount of alcohol you consume is a problem but without knowing the context of the meltdown i doubt it occurred just because you were drunk. Can you please just actually seek & commit to proper mental health care support?
Yep Dr Cindy in the house ..something happened and now she is doing damage control I've heard her say the same stuff before like I thought she was taking THC gummies to stop drinking like a while ago girl just go to AA or rehab I'm seeing 🚩
She doesn’t believe in AA. She also claims not to be an alcoholic. So she’ll pretend to go into recovery, refuse to go to any real recovery programs, refuse to get humble and make amends, she’ll just play at recovery like it’s a game. She’ll try to make it a challenge without ever admitting that she needs to go to meetings regularly, that she needs addiction therapy and that she’s an alcoholic. She’s already started lecturing her audience like she’s an authority on addiction. So she’ll fail to stay sober for very long, and she’ll blame it on Ted or she’ll blame it on anything but herself and her refusal to admit she’s an addict. She’ll pick some books that tell her how to quit drinking the easy way (there is no easy way). Then she’ll stop trying after a month or so when she gets bored and frustrated. So glad she doesn’t have children.
@@DL-powerfulhope Not everyone needs AA to quit something! Whatever you think of Cindy, she makes things happen. She's proactive and when she puts her mind to something she goes for it.
Don't place your sobriety on the line with someone else's. It's great to be supportive but don't give in, just because someone else drinks even if its your partner, if you both have a problem you should be careful
You can't just shift your reality to stop drinking like you tried to do with BPD. It can be physically dangerous to do so especially if you've been drinking as heavily as you say. You need more than books and meditation. You need professionals who know what they're doing to help you. Addiction is hard to overcome, but it isn't impossible. To do it successfully, you need real help and you need to be ready to do the hard work needed. Simply deciding you're done being an alcoholic won't make it so. I wish you luck.
@StephS503 That's cool. But it's an actual fact that quitting cold turkey can be extremely dangerous physically, especially if someone is drinking as heavily as she says she had. So, you can disagree all you want, but it's a fact. And she's more likely to succeed if she joins a real support group and actually goes to therapy. She's tried to quit before on her own and she can't. And there's no shame in that or in admitting she needs help.
Therapy should be a routine thing, even when times are good. Your bpd is not managed when you're sober. You're still showing black and white, absolute thinking in this video. Who am I to say, as I'm just another random on the internet. Good luck.
What really happened the night of the tequilla shots? Did you drive home?? You've taken over Ted's house, now you're gonna show your ass getting drunk. Same game, different guy, but this one seems like a decent fella. You're not gonna stop w/o real help, you just won't, and you're gonna run Ted off.
I'll never put anyone down for trying to sober up. I pray that you do. But I've heard this from you about 100 times so we'll see. Actions speak louder than words.
@@lesleyannthecarnivore I agree with your sentiment. I do. But, Cindy has not stuck to anything. Keto? Broke it 100 times. Tells us she doesn't need a man, loves being single.. moves in with a man, pratically a stranger, after a few months. The 100th time now she says she'll stop drinking. Sorry but its hard to believe anything she says.
@@StacyKeiblerUS i can see what you are talking about. I can share my experience with unhealthy relationship. I could be very wrong but here goes. I was in a unhealthy place where i thought "if only i was loved by a man" i found all the wrong places and people. When i started working on myself and held the boundaries for myself for a while like actively seeking therapy and a better life, mindset i did find my partner. For me it was less "someone to fix me" and more "someone to walk with me to hold me to a standard when it got hard" i dont watch every video but i do hope she is in therapy, being honest to herself and others and working with everyone to grow daily.
@@gigglesandhugs5690 Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm happy you found your partner and are in a better place. Cindy I believe stopped doing therapy and relies on BPD books since it costs a lot less money.
Hopefully the foundation of your relationship doesn't rest on alcohol. Ted seems super sweet, caring, and chill and don't believe that's the case. I hope you two the best on removing alcohol from your lives. It truly is a ruiner of lives and ones body. There's a reason alcohol was once illegal, if only it stayed that way.
Unfortunately, the foundation of their relationship does rest on alcohol. Alcohol and him allowing her to run things. Once he gets a taste of sobriety, she’s in for a rude awakening.
What do you mean you don't know how you got home from Oaklawn? Did Ted leave you at the taco shop or did he leave you at Oaklawn? This is not the 1st time we've seen you pour out liquor and declare yourself a new woman so forgive skepticism. It's also telling that you managed a 33 minute vlog about how you can't control your drinking without once calling yourself an alcoholic. You seem to be avoiding the label and you shouldn't. Some of us have known this about you for quite a while.
She basically admitted they’ve been driving drunk. In her car. In his motorcycle. Sounds like one of them got a DUI recently and they’re now required by a court to do a program of recovery, or she flipped out at Ted treated him like dirt while she was drunk and now she’s paranoid that he’ll leave her if she doesn’t get her shit together. But Ted’s also an alcoholic. So this is not going to work. The minute one of them falls off the wagon, the trust is gone and it will be over. Also, wouldn’t be surprised if she breaks up with him just so she can start drinking again - or maybe he’ll break up with her for the same reason.
I’ve told my story before: I drank in EXCESS for 24 years. In the last decade of my alcoholism, I drank a gallon of vodka every day for 10 years straight. i have been sober for 12+ years. You had a realization like I did, Cindy, when I realized what I was doing to myself by drinking. if I can do it, Cindy, so can you. I believe you can and KNOW you can. May Sekhmet give you strength and bring healing to you. ♥️
its tricky being with a partner that drinks (from what I've seen - a lot). Maybe dont announce to the world that you're quitting alcohol again - keep it to yourself.
Thanks for sharing with us Cindy. When ever you feel weak at any point during this period of sobriety, play this video over and over again. Remind yourself of who you really want to be. I really miss those days when you would make soap, cook meals, or talk about your hobbies. I work in a hospital and see patients who are spiraling down the drain who feel regret and sadness and at this point it becomes too late. Don’t allow that to happen to yourself🌺
Again, NPD not BPD. Ppl with NPD LOVE to find a partner that they can control. That’s their main objective, like being a puppet master. This time she may have actually found a man who is controllable. Look at how much she had uprooted his life already in a super short span of time.
U can def tell she bosses him around and takes control also I noticed she talks way diff around Ted it's noticeable the last videos I seen it's like she is trying to be someone else out of fear he will not like her or something it's crazy she def is trying to do damage control she is blaming alcohol for whatever went down while drunk she thinks she is just gonna stop drinking I think she needs help cause a real good relationship is going to end and Ted seems real nice and def patient probb the best she will have
Not the same situation, but I've struggled with mental health for multiple years, it hit its peek during Covid quarantine, and I tried everything - exercise, new hobbies, multiple therapists, nothing helped for over 4 years untill I met a new therapist with a new approach to my problems . Sometimes it takes multiple attempts to find what works. I hope you beat this. Restart as many times as you need but dont give up.
We’ve seen the addictive behavior and if she continues to arrogantly refuse to go to a real program of recovery, AA, real therapy and do the real work, she’ll just relapse or trade her old addictions for new ones. While she’s not drinking, she’ll be doing extra mushrooms, cigarettes, and marijuana. And she’ll hide it all from us and even from Ted. An addict is an addict and if they refuse to seek real help, they’ll become enslaved to their addictions.
Cindy, I am extremely confused. So, you said that you have difficulty “expressing feelings to people that I care about when I’m sober.” So far so good, I think alot of people are like that and turn to alcohol to help “express” themselves and their true feelings. But, not even five minutes later you said that you have “complete control over [your] BPD when sober” (btw I’m quoting not to be rude or for a gotcha moment but just to be sure I got it right) That made zero sense to me when you said that because you obviously don’t have “complete control” over your BPD when sober when you can’t even express your feelings properly and your BPD is still present enough to be constantly on the verge of being triggered when you’re partaking in alcohol. Wouldn’t it be best to just stop pretending that you have your BPD under control when sober and instead continue to work on it matter of factly? Again, I’m not saying this to be rude or hateful, it just concerns me that you’re putting so much stock into alcohol being the main problem and your only BPD trigger. Because now that you’re getting sober, what happens when your BPD gets triggered again? Especially since you said at the beginning that you can’t even express your actual feelings when sober. You would then have to come to terms with alcohol being only one of many triggers you still have for your BPD, and that would be a devastating revelation for you both mentally and emotionally if you truly thought you had your BPD, in your words, “completely under control” when sober. Hence part of the BPD “cycle” people keep saying you have, where you say it’s one thing but it’s actually a multitude of other things that you just choose to not address until forced to, like alcohol. That is VERY confusing for viewers like me because I don’t see you in a hateful or negative light, but when it happens I have to take your words for what they are, and unfortunately when you contradict yourself later down the line it reflects horribly on your credibility in my eyes. Just food for thought. I hope everything works out for you Cindy and I’m glad you’re getting sober, but please consider being completely honest to yourself as well as to your viewers when making these vlogs. Wishing you and Ted all the best. :)
Today marks 2 yrs that I’ve been alcohol free!! My last hangover 2 yrs ago, was my worst and last!! The next day, I had so much guilt and shame and I felt so depressed! It was awful 😢. I said never again! The first year was the hardest because of FOMO. Going to family things and what not. Since then, I did try some AA meetings, but they weren’t for me, so I found my own way. Yoga, healing from CPTSD, meditation, and self love. I wanted to know the science behind it too. I self isolated for a bit too. When we really love ourselves, we learn that our bodies are our temples and we treat them better. I had to teach myself these things. Both of my parents are alcoholics and I didn’t want that for my kids. Anyway, love you Cindy! Keep healing and evolving 💗 Sending lots of love, light and positive vibes 💗🙏🏼✨
If you have one crow then all you need to do is start offering peanuts when she is there. Make sure she sees you with the peanuts and then make sure to put the peanuts away from you so she can come get it. However she probably won’t come down unless your inside at the beginning and once you start you could get more crows and they might come at the crack of dawn in the summer cawing for peanuts (trust me I know I’ve been feeding a family for the past 4 years 😉) Good luck 😊
Seeing judgement and unsolicited advice in the comments. From my own experience, I quit drinking about 10 years ago and it was the best decision I made to help overcome my own emotional/behavioral healing journey. That doesn't mean I don't struggle with other things but, one step at a time as always. Proud of you, just keep going💜💜
I'm sorry Cindy u have said at least 50x u were gonna stop drinking but guess u meant drinking just 1! There is no way I will believe u stopped drinking because u like it to dam much! So until u can prove in some way u quit drinking I won't believe it, and if Ted keeps drinking for sure u won't stop time will tell I guess!
my 30 day no alcohol detox turned into a 2 1/2 year adventure. No regrets and I've noticed tremendous perks from not drinking. Good luck on your journey. So many great perks.
Cindy, don't you remember!! I'm 14 years sober and I JUST collected four Opossums off of the road and i'm raising them by hand 😂😂 it ain't boring sister❤❤❤
I fully support you and Ted. I quit drinking years ago after my husband and son both told me I'm a royal bitch when I drink. I'm a really laid back, kind, compassionate, and loving person so that really bothered me. I didn't want them to think I was a royal bitch nor did I want to be one. So I quit. It wasn't that hard to quit. You got this, so does Ted. You'll enjoy life much more without the booze.😊❤
I think that sometimes you should take your viewers more into account. I mean, I know it must be really difficult to tell apart the haters from the normal people who watches you and worries, but when a high amount of the audience is telling you that your behaviour isn't normal maybe you should stop to think about it for some minutes. I wish you the best luck and I know you will get out of this, I've been watching you for years and I know you get every little thing you propose to yourself, but don't just ignore the comments when (mean as they are most of the time) they are actually right.
@@DL-powerfulhope AA is a mega conservative and all round pretty disproven form of therapy. it works for some but it isnt helpful for many. However she is taking on some of the AA mindset w the book shes reading
I had a weird feeling this might be happening. Glad you gave recognized it sooner rather than later. You and Ted both have an opportunity to grow your relationship I am not a drinker, but I can certainly understand the pressures of a failed marriage and finding yourself socially again. One day at a time. I see a happiness in you and Ted with blending your lives. Praying you can do this on your own. Get help right away, though, if you have any issues. Alcoholism is a serious and terrible thing. Loving the new house and your adventures. Don't ever think you without alcohol is dull. There are a lot of us out here supporting you who believe otherwise.....and this many of us can't be wrong. 😊 Keep up the positive momentum and energy!!!! Hope you take us on some holiday light walks. (Hint , hint.) Smiles and Happy Day.....Yolanda
Also keep in mind that withdrawals can be delayed especially in binge drinkers who didn't drink every day, you can start feeling mild to moderate withdrawals more so after 72 hours. Fatigue, irritability, low or high appetite, anxiety, depression, dizziness etc. Look up PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome) and kindling effect because most people aren't aware of those concepts with alcohol.
How's Ted handling your drinking? Just remember this same thing screwed up everything for you..pls continue what you were doing before Ted, just have fun with each other, you probably are a very nice fun person without needing to drink..pls stop, think, you got something good now don't screw it all up....remember, ur worth more than this your allowed to be happy. You sabatog yourself even time you are in a relationship....gwen
Cindy you have such a strong character. You lost 100 pounds and let’s face it-not many people have that sort of will power and dedication. Giving up alcohol is a drop in the ocean compared to what you’ve already achieved. Good on you
One day at a time. I haven’t drank alcohol since 2012 and quit smoking at the same time, best decision I’ve ever made. I didn’t consider myself an alcoholic but I just hated how I felt the days after a big party night. You got this!
It WON'T be boring, your sober life, bc it will be a VERY INTERESTING, INSIGHTFUL JOURNEY - and the fact you're doing this together: wonderful! You'll have your therapy, you'll have your supportive boyfriend and you'll have your wisdom, to make 'staying sober' a doable goal. And you'll have your channel, to vlog this journey in all honesty and by being open minded, just as you have done regarding bpd, relationships and other human challenges... All the best for you, all the best for Ted, all the best for you guys together! 🌷🍀🌷
Good luck to both you and Ted on this journey I'm so happy that you have all this support in Ted. He loves you so much that he is willing to work on himself too. I'm looking forward to seeing a healthier happier Cindy and Ted. You can do so much more together now -Get into cold process soap making,maybe discover other bath products too. Who knows you could even sell your soaps to us😂It's really a fun hobby. I've recrntly taken it up. -Gardening with Ted would be fun and a nice way to bond. -Start getting into massage,you can treat eachother,spending time and creating bonds. - Go back to your herbalism as you clearly enjoy that. Another thing i wanna say is that you have such an engaging way of speaking. You are fun enough without the alcohol. You got this.❤
I’m quitting cigarettes finally after over 10 years of addiction. I’m tired of not being able to breathe. I’m tired of not having money for things because i blow it all on nicotine. I wish I could socially smoke, but I cannot. I am all or nothing as well. Good job Cindy, give yourself grace.
Hey Cindy! I've never had a drop of alcohol in my life and I'm 30. Different scenario I know but I've never regretted my decision. I've never seen alcohol add anything positive to anyone's life. You don't need it!
I’m so proud of you! I wish you so much luck on this journey. And you are so lucky to have someone like Ted in your life. So glad that you have each other.
You sound like you’ve really thought about this and are making the best decision for you, you sound very positive and you CAN do this. You are in such a wonderful happy time of your life right now, that should help, you can enjoy life with Ted, your home together, your dogs, you are blessed! You have lots of support, so proud of you for doing this and realizing you need help and you can be happy. It’s awesome that you have Ted to do this with you, you two are great together, live your best life.
Hey Cindy, Writing to say that it is incredibly challenging to face these shadows in our lives. I see the courage and determination it will take to overcome the dependency clearly on your face and the way you are reflecting on how you’ve been impacted by this behavior. It is totally understandable and relatable to do something for a long time without realizing or acknowledging the negative impacts. Looking forward to you continuing to share this very real experience of behavior change. All of the love and supportive energy is heading your way from me. You are capable, you are strong, and you are worthy of a life a joy and contentment. Not every moment can be bliss, but with gratitude we can experience contentment 🧡
Cindy I loved getting to know you for the past year and I know how much you have gone through. You live your life girl but I must suggest that you stop confessing on TH-cam. It draws haters in and you and Ted do not deserve to the comments. You have come a long way and I believe you will continue to get stronger. Ted is a nice guy and I have good instincts about people. WE love to see you happy caring for your plants, taking care of your dogs, your home, reading cards for people, travels with Ted, meet ups with friends, and going to concerts. Focus on those things. Keep confessions out. A lot of people love and care about you!
It's just another one of Cindy's patterns. I don't get my hopes up anymore, I just watch and see what if anything actually does change every time she makes the same resolutions.
@@skyegroome223 no. it's one of Cindy's so-called Subs, whom likes to trash her every move. from what i have seen. she is nothing like the person was after her last person she dated. but you don't want to see that. you just like trying to make digs at her to make yourself feel better about whatever is going on with you.
It’s easy for people in the comments to judge her when they aren’t posting their most vulnerable moments online… the people whose judging her in the comment section could be in a terrible/worse relationship, could have a terrible/worse emotional state and even terrible/worse physical state but will still have the audacity to lift their sausage, swollen bloated fingers and judge Cindy… it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve heard her repeat something that’s the thing about life… one day you may fall off BUT as long as you keep going that’s all that matters… SHES HUMAN AND SHES SHOWING YOU HER HUMAN SIDE… because if she was fake perfect like some of these other TH-camrs she would’ve been called out on it or been called boring!!!! Shaming her isn’t going to change anything… AND before you shame her how about cleaning up YOUR life first…
Just a pro tip, sorry commenting for a third time on this! As much as Ted is being supportive just be cognizant of you and your emotions, going completely sober can make people angry and aggressive so be super mindful about how you respond to things and internally analyze how you’re feeling everyday ♥️
I can relate a lot to you Cindy. Especially about not being able to express feelings to people in your life and not being fun. I think those things comes from childhood, being neglected in some aspects. When you are never taught those things and never had example or opportunity to practice it , its very difficult as an adult
Cindy, I’m not “sober” just don’t like drinking. I’ve found it’s easy to order a soda when I go out so I can still hang out with my friends at the bar! Ginger ale is my favorite
That book changed my life! It really teaches you how to see alcohol as it truly is - poison. Many people don’t like his writing style, as it comes off a little…..I dunno, rudimentary? For those people I recommend Annie Grace’s “This Naked Mind”. But I like Alan Carr’s style. It’s an easy but very effective read. He hammers all the negativity from alcohol repeatedly. By the time I finished the book just the thought of alcohol made me nauseous. I never thought a book could stop my drinking. (I know it’s crazy but it was some kinda magic😂) One thing I didn’t do that he recommends is to read this while you’re still drinking. I had quit already for a few weeks because I started KETO! I actually have a Reddit thread in one of the stop drinking subs “Keto cured my drinking “ and I can’t believe how many people liked it Good luck ! I know you got this
I'm proud of you. It is so important that this is a change YOU want. No amount of concerned comments will make anyone change their habits. This will not be easy, you might have some failures, but just keep it up. Do not let one drink or drunken night spoil your journey. You can do this.
Yes replace a bad habit with a good habit. Like take a 30 min walk everyday regardless of the weather, or go to the gym and use the treadmill for 30 min and then other exercises for another 30. I'd love to see how your eyeshadow looks if it's angled lower almost like eyeliner. I think it may look pretty.
😂👍 The dogs are living the life in the garden.. ❤❤ I think you are making the right decision about alcohol, I'm so proud of you, quitting alcohol is werry hard because people do jused it too cope. You have come so far. ❤❤ Big hugs from Denmark. 💝🌹🥰
Good for you, Cindy! Sorry if you mentioned this and I didn't catch it, but are you going to see a professional or explore any other resources to help you? I'm glad you've been able to find something useful in those books, and I admit I know next to nothing about alcohol addiction, but it might be harder than it seems at first glance to give it up. idk, just some food for thought. Wishing you well!
Good luck, I hope you have the support to truly stop. I know Ted likes to drink, and it’s going to be difficult to openly have alcohol around when your partner drinks.
I think when you are truly making changes it will show without explaining it to others. I do think anything is possible if you want it bad enough. i wish you the best in the changes coming. always seek out help when you need it. I hope you are still in therapy and working on all the things. Blessed BE
@@LifePlusCindy I have a follow up question regarding the "melt down". I don't really want to know the details just a general question /statement. Do you feel heard and or understood when you try to communicate before a meltdown? i ask because my past taught me to always sugar coat or be super passive when i wanted to voice anything. It would lead to frustration on my part because nothing was ever really resolved. So, i am curious if you do it too? Would it be easier to set boundaries or expectation like if i have a problem i just need to say whatever it is to you how i need to say it so there is no confusion with what i heard /felt with whatever happened? not filtered to please or not seem passive in a true feeling, thought or emotion. the i would like to understand you and process in the here and now
Cindy you have an amazing will power. I've been following you for years now and I know that when you decide to really do something you do it. So go for it. I'm happy for you anyway. I won't try to give a full grown ass adult a moral lesson like some other comments are trying to,you know what is best for you and you're the one living your life. Also,I'm really happy for you and Ted and your new home! Congrats. 🥰
Good for you for examining your behaviour and having the courage to change and to talk about it. I wish you all the best! Maybe AA could be a good support for you so you can talk to others and hear others stories. There are lots of good literature released by AA. Working with your therapist too. And remember the NOFX song Bob? Don’t be a Bob. His liver exploded!
Wow Cindy! This is major! You are not alone here! I just quit drinking last week! So proud of you! We will hold each other accountable and get through this ♥️
I love that song by Nofx, Quart in Sessions. Another song about the relying on drinking is "release the hostages". Good song tho.. Got me through when I was feeling crappy. I still put that song on from time to time.
Good for you Cindy! I’m wishing you the best in this journey of sober living. ❤And that emptiness you may feel, it might be Jesus calling you. Only Jesus can fill that void.
Still not on board with the new relationship and moving in with someone she doesn't know so soon but I do believe it could be good for her in time. Stopping the drinking will be hard but you got it girl. Overall it's good to see you doing good wether or not I agree with your life choices.
Hey, Cindy, I've only been a subscriber for a couple of months. I found your channel through Zachary, Michael. coming from someone who gets easily bored and tired of the same old vloggers.You are so interesting.I love watching you and your life, all your plants and your two sweet little babies. you have kept me interested and wanting to come back for more of your life. You have so much going for you. I know, I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I can tell you're strong and you're a happy person inside. Please try to conquer this addiction. You are right, you have so much going for you. Wishing you much love and happiness. You can do this girl.
I'm also BPD on a sobriety journey and oh boy do you become well aware of how alcohol messes with your emotional stability after quitting. Even moreso after relapsing (multiple life tragedies at once haha), noticing the almost instant volatility. I seriously thought for so long that alcohol relaxed me, that was definitely a lie, it makes it much easier for me to get hurt by triggers. Some people are doubting you which is disappointing, quitting is extremely difficult for so many reasons, but I really hope this is a healthy step for you that gives you better quality of life.
I’m so glad you’ve got Ted to keep you supported through all this, life is not easy and you’re doing what you have to do to get better! Proud of you Cindy ❤
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I'm 105 days alcohol-free, which is a record for me. I had crippling anxiety and depression on a daily basis when I was binge drinking, and now I feel so much better!! You got this! It's so worth it ❤
You should simply not have any alcohol at your gatherings. Including Thanksgiving. Your family will manage without it. Just don't even offer it. It will still be fun for them & it will support your sobriety. It's ok to have a fully no alcohol gathering even if others could be ok drinking
Picking partners that drink often is not a good thing
Leaving Ted is not an option though,sometimes two people can come together and change two problems to zero problems😂😂❤❤Ted is getting sober with her.
The guy loves her. He stays
So essentially what happened was you had a BPD meltdown at Oak Lawn at Ted and now out of fear that he's going to leave you/kick you out you are acting out more with more BPD behaviours (black/white) thinking of "alcohol is the problem here, I'll just stop drinking and it'll be fine again".
I don't disagree that the amount of alcohol you consume is a problem but without knowing the context of the meltdown i doubt it occurred just because you were drunk.
Can you please just actually seek & commit to proper mental health care support?
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Truth truth truth truth and more truth. Thank you!
Judge Judy is here lol jesus
Yep Dr Cindy in the house ..something happened and now she is doing damage control I've heard her say the same stuff before like I thought she was taking THC gummies to stop drinking like a while ago girl just go to AA or rehab I'm seeing 🚩
Cindy go to AA. Also I really hope you have a back up plan if you need to leave Ted’s house. I see red flags
Really? I myself do not.
She doesn’t believe in AA. She also claims not to be an alcoholic. So she’ll pretend to go into recovery, refuse to go to any real recovery programs, refuse to get humble and make amends, she’ll just play at recovery like it’s a game.
She’ll try to make it a challenge without ever admitting that she needs to go to meetings regularly, that she needs addiction therapy and that she’s an alcoholic. She’s already started lecturing her audience like she’s an authority on addiction. So she’ll fail to stay sober for very long, and she’ll blame it on Ted or she’ll blame it on anything but herself and her refusal to admit she’s an addict. She’ll pick some books that tell her how to quit drinking the easy way (there is no easy way). Then she’ll stop trying after a month or so when she gets bored and frustrated.
So glad she doesn’t have children.
what are they
I agree 💯
@@DL-powerfulhope Not everyone needs AA to quit something! Whatever you think of Cindy, she makes things happen. She's proactive and when she puts her mind to something she goes for it.
Don't place your sobriety on the line with someone else's. It's great to be supportive but don't give in, just because someone else drinks even if its your partner, if you both have a problem you should be careful
You can't just shift your reality to stop drinking like you tried to do with BPD. It can be physically dangerous to do so especially if you've been drinking as heavily as you say. You need more than books and meditation. You need professionals who know what they're doing to help you. Addiction is hard to overcome, but it isn't impossible. To do it successfully, you need real help and you need to be ready to do the hard work needed. Simply deciding you're done being an alcoholic won't make it so. I wish you luck.
I disagree with that, people can make things happen without professional help. Not everyone, but a lot of people can.
@StephS503
That's cool. But it's an actual fact that quitting cold turkey can be extremely dangerous physically, especially if someone is drinking as heavily as she says she had. So, you can disagree all you want, but it's a fact. And she's more likely to succeed if she joins a real support group and actually goes to therapy. She's tried to quit before on her own and she can't. And there's no shame in that or in admitting she needs help.
@@kcj6236 lol it’s also a fact that people can change without help 🤷🏽♀️
Therapy should be a routine thing, even when times are good. Your bpd is not managed when you're sober. You're still showing black and white, absolute thinking in this video. Who am I to say, as I'm just another random on the internet. Good luck.
Truth.
Truth.
Is this a new upload? I swear I've seen it a couple times now.
Oh sticky Peter does your Peter even know what it’s like to be sticky? Didn’t think so
@@KIKI_LOVES_KIMCHI wtf..
@@KIKI_LOVES_KIMCHIHAHA??
@@KIKI_LOVES_KIMCHIha!!!!!🤣🤣☠️☠️☠️
@@KIKI_LOVES_KIMCHI Yeah, I can't keep your mouth off of it. Slow down on the boxed wine.
What really happened the night of the tequilla shots? Did you drive home?? You've taken over Ted's house, now you're gonna show your ass getting drunk. Same game, different guy, but this one seems like a decent fella. You're not gonna stop w/o real help, you just won't, and you're gonna run Ted off.
I'll never put anyone down for trying to sober up. I pray that you do. But I've heard this from you about 100 times so we'll see. Actions speak louder than words.
I’ve said it 100xs too! Without failing “the test” there is no testimony!
@@lesleyannthecarnivore I agree with your sentiment. I do. But, Cindy has not stuck to anything. Keto? Broke it 100 times. Tells us she doesn't need a man, loves being single.. moves in with a man, pratically a stranger, after a few months. The 100th time now she says she'll stop drinking. Sorry but its hard to believe anything she says.
@@StacyKeiblerUS 🙊🙈🙉
@@StacyKeiblerUS i can see what you are talking about. I can share my experience with unhealthy relationship. I could be very wrong but here goes. I was in a unhealthy place where i thought "if only i was loved by a man" i found all the wrong places and people. When i started working on myself and held the boundaries for myself for a while like actively seeking therapy and a better life, mindset i did find my partner. For me it was less "someone to fix me" and more "someone to walk with me to hold me to a standard when it got hard" i dont watch every video but i do hope she is in therapy, being honest to herself and others and working with everyone to grow daily.
@@gigglesandhugs5690 Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm happy you found your partner and are in a better place. Cindy I believe stopped doing therapy and relies on BPD books since it costs a lot less money.
Are you still using the CBD gummies for your alcohol consumption or did that not work out?
I’m pretty sure that was an ad
🎶 The history book on the shelf 🎶 Is always repeating itseeeelffff!🎶
Hopefully the foundation of your relationship doesn't rest on alcohol. Ted seems super sweet, caring, and chill and don't believe that's the case. I hope you two the best on removing alcohol from your lives. It truly is a ruiner of lives and ones body. There's a reason alcohol was once illegal, if only it stayed that way.
Unfortunately, the foundation of their relationship does rest on alcohol. Alcohol and him allowing her to run things.
Once he gets a taste of sobriety, she’s in for a rude awakening.
What do you mean you don't know how you got home from Oaklawn? Did Ted leave you at the taco shop or did he leave you at Oaklawn? This is not the 1st time we've seen you pour out liquor and declare yourself a new woman so forgive skepticism. It's also telling that you managed a 33 minute vlog about how you can't control your drinking without once calling yourself an alcoholic. You seem to be avoiding the label and you shouldn't. Some of us have known this about you for quite a while.
She basically admitted they’ve been driving drunk. In her car. In his motorcycle.
Sounds like one of them got a DUI recently and they’re now required by a court to do a program of recovery, or she flipped out at Ted treated him like dirt while she was drunk and now she’s paranoid that he’ll leave her if she doesn’t get her shit together.
But Ted’s also an alcoholic. So this is not going to work. The minute one of them falls off the wagon, the trust is gone and it will be over. Also, wouldn’t be surprised if she breaks up with him just so she can start drinking again - or maybe he’ll break up with her for the same reason.
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Truth.
That's an old fashioned word. It's substance use disorder
I assume ted drove her home
I’ve told my story before:
I drank in EXCESS for 24 years. In the last decade of my alcoholism, I drank a gallon of vodka every day for 10 years straight.
i have been sober for 12+ years.
You had a realization like I did, Cindy, when I realized what I was doing to myself by drinking.
if I can do it, Cindy, so can you. I believe you can and KNOW you can.
May Sekhmet give you strength and bring healing to you. ♥️
Great job 👏
its tricky being with a partner that drinks (from what I've seen - a lot). Maybe dont announce to the world that you're quitting alcohol again - keep it to yourself.
No, if you don't even say you're doing it, you're not doing it.
gonna be pretty funny when she is drinking like a fish again
Oh another self help book. How did the last one work out?
And how many have you read 😂
@@lordi.v.j9834 What? Clearly these books aren't helping and she needs actually therapy and help for her BPD and alcohol addiction.
Thanks for sharing with us Cindy. When ever you feel weak at any point during this period of sobriety, play this video over and over again. Remind yourself of who you really want to be. I really miss those days when you would make soap, cook meals, or talk about your hobbies. I work in a hospital and see patients who are spiraling down the drain who feel regret and sadness and at this point it becomes too late. Don’t allow that to happen to yourself🌺
Again, NPD not BPD. Ppl with NPD LOVE to find a partner that they can control. That’s their main objective, like being a puppet master. This time she may have actually found a man who is controllable. Look at how much she had uprooted his life already in a super short span of time.
U can def tell she bosses him around and takes control also I noticed she talks way diff around Ted it's noticeable the last videos I seen it's like she is trying to be someone else out of fear he will not like her or something it's crazy she def is trying to do damage control she is blaming alcohol for whatever went down while drunk she thinks she is just gonna stop drinking I think she needs help cause a real good relationship is going to end and Ted seems real nice and def patient probb the best she will have
Waa hoo get a load of mr pop psychology over here
Not the same situation, but I've struggled with mental health for multiple years, it hit its peek during Covid quarantine, and I tried everything - exercise, new hobbies, multiple therapists, nothing helped for over 4 years untill I met a new therapist with a new approach to my problems . Sometimes it takes multiple attempts to find what works. I hope you beat this. Restart as many times as you need but dont give up.
Is this therapist in the room with us ? Or is she in the sims 2 or something……
We’ve seen the addictive behavior and if she continues to arrogantly refuse to go to a real program of recovery, AA, real therapy and do the real work, she’ll just relapse or trade her old addictions for new ones.
While she’s not drinking, she’ll be doing extra mushrooms, cigarettes, and marijuana. And she’ll hide it all from us and even from Ted.
An addict is an addict and if they refuse to seek real help, they’ll become enslaved to their addictions.
Idk my dad never went to AA...
AA is also Christian based
I thought you were going to totally stop drinking in January. 🤔
People tend to have to restart multiple times
Cindy, I am extremely confused.
So, you said that you have difficulty “expressing feelings to people that I care about when I’m sober.” So far so good, I think alot of people are like that and turn to alcohol to help “express” themselves and their true feelings. But, not even five minutes later you said that you have “complete control over [your] BPD when sober”
(btw I’m quoting not to be rude or for a gotcha moment but just to be sure I got it right)
That made zero sense to me when you said that because you obviously don’t have “complete control” over your BPD when sober when you can’t even express your feelings properly and your BPD is still present enough to be constantly on the verge of being triggered when you’re partaking in alcohol.
Wouldn’t it be best to just stop pretending that you have your BPD under control when sober and instead continue to work on it matter of factly?
Again, I’m not saying this to be rude or hateful, it just concerns me that you’re putting so much stock into alcohol being the main problem and your only BPD trigger. Because now that you’re getting sober, what happens when your BPD gets triggered again? Especially since you said at the beginning that you can’t even express your actual feelings when sober. You would then have to come to terms with alcohol being only one of many triggers you still have for your BPD, and that would be a devastating revelation for you both mentally and emotionally if you truly thought you had your BPD, in your words, “completely under control” when sober.
Hence part of the BPD “cycle” people keep saying you have, where you say it’s one thing but it’s actually a multitude of other things that you just choose to not address until forced to, like alcohol.
That is VERY confusing for viewers like me because I don’t see you in a hateful or negative light, but when it happens I have to take your words for what they are, and unfortunately when you contradict yourself later down the line it reflects horribly on your credibility in my eyes.
Just food for thought. I hope everything works out for you Cindy and I’m glad you’re getting sober, but please consider being completely honest to yourself as well as to your viewers when making these vlogs.
Wishing you and Ted all the best. :)
Today marks 2 yrs that I’ve been alcohol free!! My last hangover 2 yrs ago, was my worst and last!! The next day, I had so much guilt and shame and I felt so depressed! It was awful 😢. I said never again! The first year was the hardest because of FOMO. Going to family things and what not. Since then, I did try some AA meetings, but they weren’t for me, so I found my own way. Yoga, healing from CPTSD, meditation, and self love. I wanted to know the science behind it too. I self isolated for a bit too. When we really love ourselves, we learn that our bodies are our temples and we treat them better. I had to teach myself these things. Both of my parents are alcoholics and I didn’t want that for my kids. Anyway, love you Cindy! Keep healing and evolving 💗 Sending lots of love, light and positive vibes 💗🙏🏼✨
I don't mean to be rude but youve said this HOW many times? I....will believe it when I see it
If you have one crow then all you need to do is start offering peanuts when she is there. Make sure she sees you with the peanuts and then make sure to put the peanuts away from you so she can come get it. However she probably won’t come down unless your inside at the beginning and once you start you could get more crows and they might come at the crack of dawn in the summer cawing for peanuts (trust me I know I’ve been feeding a family for the past 4 years 😉) Good luck 😊
Aww that is so cute of you. I like crows too
Seeing judgement and unsolicited advice in the comments. From my own experience, I quit drinking about 10 years ago and it was the best decision I made to help overcome my own emotional/behavioral healing journey. That doesn't mean I don't struggle with other things but, one step at a time as always. Proud of you, just keep going💜💜
I'm sorry Cindy u have said at least 50x u were gonna stop drinking but guess u meant drinking just 1! There is no way I will believe u stopped drinking because u like it to dam much! So until u can prove in some way u quit drinking I won't believe it, and if Ted keeps drinking for sure u won't stop time will tell I guess!
my 30 day no alcohol detox turned into a 2 1/2 year adventure. No regrets and I've noticed tremendous perks from not drinking. Good luck on your journey. So many great perks.
Good for you that you have realized you need to avoid alcohol completely in life, moderation won't work, you're not alone, there's a lot of us.
Cindy, don't you remember!! I'm 14 years sober and I JUST collected four Opossums off of the road and i'm raising them by hand 😂😂 it ain't boring sister❤❤❤
♥️Truth! 12+ sober. i had to learn how to keep myself too busy to care about alcohol.
As someone with BPD, part of that can be feeling an emptiness inside of you. I am constantly looking for ways to fill that void. Good luck Cindy.
I fully support you and Ted. I quit drinking years ago after my husband and son both told me I'm a royal bitch when I drink. I'm a really laid back, kind, compassionate, and loving person so that really bothered me. I didn't want them to think I was a royal bitch nor did I want to be one. So I quit. It wasn't that hard to quit. You got this, so does Ted. You'll enjoy life much more without the booze.😊❤
I think that sometimes you should take your viewers more into account. I mean, I know it must be really difficult to tell apart the haters from the normal people who watches you and worries, but when a high amount of the audience is telling you that your behaviour isn't normal maybe you should stop to think about it for some minutes.
I wish you the best luck and I know you will get out of this, I've been watching you for years and I know you get every little thing you propose to yourself, but don't just ignore the comments when (mean as they are most of the time) they are actually right.
Truth.
If only there was a place you could go to get help 🤔
rehabs dont tend to take someone with a drinking problem like this? and she definitely cant afford to not work for so long
@@alexanderh8129lmao work? She posts maybe twice a week. She should absolutely prioritize her alcoholism over her “job”.
@@thinkanewcolor5108 bruh 😭😭 lucky you that u can just afford not to work??
@@DL-powerfulhope AA is a mega conservative and all round pretty disproven form of therapy. it works for some but it isnt helpful for many. However she is taking on some of the AA mindset w the book shes reading
I had a weird feeling this might be happening. Glad you gave recognized it sooner rather than later. You and Ted both have an opportunity to grow your relationship I am not a drinker, but I can certainly understand the pressures of a failed marriage and finding yourself socially again. One day at a time. I see a happiness in you and Ted with blending your lives. Praying you can do this on your own. Get help right away, though, if you have any issues. Alcoholism is a serious and terrible thing. Loving the new house and your adventures. Don't ever think you without alcohol is dull. There are a lot of us out here supporting you who believe otherwise.....and this many of us can't be wrong. 😊 Keep up the positive momentum and energy!!!! Hope you take us on some holiday light walks. (Hint , hint.) Smiles and Happy Day.....Yolanda
The idea of alcohol is better than the actual alcohol
Also keep in mind that withdrawals can be delayed especially in binge drinkers who didn't drink every day, you can start feeling mild to moderate withdrawals more so after 72 hours. Fatigue, irritability, low or high appetite, anxiety, depression, dizziness etc. Look up PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome) and kindling effect because most people aren't aware of those concepts with alcohol.
For anyone who wants to rethink their relationship with alcohol, I *highly* recommend reading "This Naked Mind" by Annie Grace
How's Ted handling your drinking? Just remember this same thing screwed up everything for you..pls continue what you were doing before Ted, just have fun with each other, you probably are a very nice fun person without needing to drink..pls stop, think, you got something good now don't screw it all up....remember, ur worth more than this your allowed to be happy. You sabatog yourself even time you are in a relationship....gwen
Cindy you have such a strong character. You lost 100 pounds and let’s face it-not many people have that sort of will power and dedication. Giving up alcohol is a drop in the ocean compared to what you’ve already achieved. Good on you
One day at a time. I haven’t drank alcohol since 2012 and quit smoking at the same time, best decision I’ve ever made. I didn’t consider myself an alcoholic but I just hated how I felt the days after a big party night. You got this!
Thank you! And congratulations on your sobriety too! 🖤🖤
It WON'T be boring, your sober life, bc it will be a VERY INTERESTING, INSIGHTFUL JOURNEY - and the fact you're doing this together: wonderful! You'll have your therapy, you'll have your supportive boyfriend and you'll have your wisdom, to make 'staying sober' a doable goal. And you'll have your channel, to vlog this journey in all honesty and by being open minded, just as you have done regarding bpd, relationships and other human challenges... All the best for you, all the best for Ted, all the best for you guys together! 🌷🍀🌷
Good luck to both you and Ted on this journey
I'm so happy that you have all this support in Ted. He loves you so much that he is willing to work on himself too.
I'm looking forward to seeing a healthier happier Cindy and Ted.
You can do so much more together now
-Get into cold process soap making,maybe discover other bath products too. Who knows you could even sell your soaps to us😂It's really a fun hobby. I've recrntly taken it up.
-Gardening with Ted would be fun and a nice way to bond.
-Start getting into massage,you can treat eachother,spending time and creating bonds.
- Go back to your herbalism as you clearly enjoy that.
Another thing i wanna say is that you have such an engaging way of speaking. You are fun enough without the alcohol. You got this.❤
I’m quitting cigarettes finally after over 10 years of addiction. I’m tired of not being able to breathe. I’m tired of not having money for things because i blow it all on nicotine. I wish I could socially smoke, but I cannot. I am all or nothing as well. Good job Cindy, give yourself grace.
Hey Cindy! I've never had a drop of alcohol in my life and I'm 30. Different scenario I know but I've never regretted my decision. I've never seen alcohol add anything positive to anyone's life. You don't need it!
Yess, cheers to sobriety! You will feel so much more better and refreshed with tons of energy now that you are not drinking. Happy tuesay
I’m so proud of you! I wish you so much luck on this journey. And you are so lucky to have someone like Ted in your life. So glad that you have each other.
Sure
I thought there was something sideways when you drank a bloody mary in the morning instead of coffee but it's not my place to judge
You sound like you’ve really thought about this and are making the best decision for you, you sound very positive and you CAN do this. You are in such a wonderful happy time of your life right now, that should help, you can enjoy life with Ted, your home together, your dogs, you are blessed! You have lots of support, so proud of you for doing this and realizing you need help and you can be happy. It’s awesome that you have Ted to do this with you, you two are great together, live your best life.
Changing habits while getting dopamine from being in love, is the most effective thing ever. Make the most of the honeymoon phase!
I think it would help you to find friends who will support this whole heartedly or find sober friends. Sometimes friends can be a bad influence
Hey Cindy,
Writing to say that it is incredibly challenging to face these shadows in our lives. I see the courage and determination it will take to overcome the dependency clearly on your face and the way you are reflecting on how you’ve been impacted by this behavior. It is totally understandable and relatable to do something for a long time without realizing or acknowledging the negative impacts. Looking forward to you continuing to share this very real experience of behavior change. All of the love and supportive energy is heading your way from me. You are capable, you are strong, and you are worthy of a life a joy and contentment.
Not every moment can be bliss, but with gratitude we can experience contentment 🧡
Cindy I loved getting to know you for the past year and I know how much you have gone through. You live your life girl but I must suggest that you stop confessing on TH-cam. It draws haters in and you and Ted do not deserve to the comments. You have come a long way and I believe you will continue to get stronger. Ted is a nice guy and I have good instincts about people. WE love to see you happy caring for your plants, taking care of your dogs, your home, reading cards for people, travels with Ted, meet ups with friends, and going to concerts. Focus on those things. Keep confessions out. A lot of people love and care about you!
I believe in you Cindy all the best 💜
The comments you get are just wild.
10 shots of tequila 🤯
Quitting alcohol will help your weight loss/maintenance journey as well
you can do this, alcoholics anonymous is a suggestion, hang in there and take 1 step in front of the other. 1 minute at a time. hugs to you and Ted.
Alternative title: “I will do better to edit out all the vlog shots of booze and any mention of it”
Oh, knock it off. If you have e time to judge her, you have time to go outside and tell someone to their face those very words.
I get sick of people who hide behind a pc and day mean stuff
Glad you're here to watch and give her views! I hope your day gets better ✨
It's just another one of Cindy's patterns. I don't get my hopes up anymore, I just watch and see what if anything actually does change every time she makes the same resolutions.
@@skyegroome223 no. it's one of Cindy's so-called Subs, whom likes to trash her every move. from what i have seen. she is nothing like the person was after her last person she dated. but you don't want to see that. you just like trying to make digs at her to make yourself feel better about whatever is going on with you.
It’s easy for people in the comments to judge her when they aren’t posting their most vulnerable moments online… the people whose judging her in the comment section could be in a terrible/worse relationship, could have a terrible/worse emotional state and even terrible/worse physical state but will still have the audacity to lift their sausage, swollen bloated fingers and judge Cindy… it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve heard her repeat something that’s the thing about life… one day you may fall off BUT as long as you keep going that’s all that matters… SHES HUMAN AND SHES SHOWING YOU HER HUMAN SIDE… because if she was fake perfect like some of these other TH-camrs she would’ve been called out on it or been called boring!!!! Shaming her isn’t going to change anything… AND before you shame her how about cleaning up YOUR life first…
Nobody is forcing her to post her vulnerable moments but she is, people can react however they want to the content being provided 🙂↕️😊
She’s not being vulnerable. She’s being manipulative.
Just a pro tip, sorry commenting for a third time on this! As much as Ted is being supportive just be cognizant of you and your emotions, going completely sober can make people angry and aggressive so be super mindful about how you respond to things and internally analyze how you’re feeling everyday ♥️
I can relate a lot to you Cindy. Especially about not being able to express feelings to people in your life and not being fun. I think those things comes from childhood, being neglected in some aspects. When you are never taught those things and never had example or opportunity to practice it , its very difficult as an adult
Cindy, I’m not “sober” just don’t like drinking. I’ve found it’s easy to order a soda when I go out so I can still hang out with my friends at the bar! Ginger ale is my favorite
Proud of you. I recently made it to 1 year sober. The craving didn't fully hit till now, but I'm resisting.
I fed a family of crows all summer. They ate peanuts (shelled and deshelled) and peanut delight suets.
please get help with getting sober. you can actually die from quitting from 100 to 0. please be safe
That book changed my life! It really teaches you how to see alcohol as it truly is - poison. Many people don’t like his writing style, as it comes off a little…..I dunno, rudimentary? For those people I recommend Annie Grace’s “This Naked Mind”.
But I like Alan Carr’s style. It’s an easy but very effective read. He hammers all the negativity from alcohol repeatedly.
By the time I finished the book just the thought of alcohol made me nauseous. I never thought a book could stop my drinking. (I know it’s crazy but it was some kinda magic😂) One thing I didn’t do that he recommends is to read this while you’re still drinking. I had quit already for a few weeks because I started KETO! I actually have a Reddit thread in one of the stop drinking subs “Keto cured my drinking “ and I can’t believe how many people liked it
Good luck ! I know you got this
I'm proud of you. It is so important that this is a change YOU want. No amount of concerned comments will make anyone change their habits. This will not be easy, you might have some failures, but just keep it up. Do not let one drink or drunken night spoil your journey. You can do this.
So you're going to solve your "problem with alcohol" the same way you have "cured" your BPD? By changing believes and shifting realities? Oh boy! 🤣🤣
Yes replace a bad habit with a good habit. Like take a 30 min walk everyday regardless of the weather, or go to the gym and use the treadmill for 30 min and then other exercises for another 30.
I'd love to see how your eyeshadow looks if it's angled lower almost like eyeliner. I think it may look pretty.
😂👍 The dogs are living the life in the garden.. ❤❤
I think you are making the right decision about alcohol, I'm so proud of you, quitting alcohol is werry hard because people do jused it too cope.
You have come so far. ❤❤
Big hugs from Denmark.
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best of luck to you, cindy! I think giving up alcohol is always a healthy decision 😊
You got this ❤ I know addiction well. My mom and myself. It's possible and worth it ✨✨💕
Good for you, Cindy! Sorry if you mentioned this and I didn't catch it, but are you going to see a professional or explore any other resources to help you? I'm glad you've been able to find something useful in those books, and I admit I know next to nothing about alcohol addiction, but it might be harder than it seems at first glance to give it up. idk, just some food for thought. Wishing you well!
I think you’ll appreciate the concert even more being sober!
Good luck, I hope you have the support to truly stop. I know Ted likes to drink, and it’s going to be difficult to openly have alcohol around when your partner drinks.
Good for you, girl. First step - done. I know it sucks but benefits from not drinking are much better than being drunk and sick all the time.
I think when you are truly making changes it will show without explaining it to others. I do think anything is possible if you want it bad enough. i wish you the best in the changes coming. always seek out help when you need it. I hope you are still in therapy and working on all the things. Blessed BE
Thank you! 🖤
@@LifePlusCindy I have a follow up question regarding the "melt down". I don't really want to know the details just a general question /statement. Do you feel heard and or understood when you try to communicate before a meltdown? i ask because my past taught me to always sugar coat or be super passive when i wanted to voice anything. It would lead to frustration on my part because nothing was ever really resolved. So, i am curious if you do it too? Would it be easier to set boundaries or expectation like if i have a problem i just need to say whatever it is to you how i need to say it so there is no confusion with what i heard /felt with whatever happened? not filtered to please or not seem passive in a true feeling, thought or emotion. the i would like to understand you and process in the here and now
Quitting an addiction is easier when you are in the honeymoon phase. I'm proud of you for your bravery, You Got This ❤
Cindy you have an amazing will power. I've been following you for years now and I know that when you decide to really do something you do it. So go for it. I'm happy for you anyway. I won't try to give a full grown ass adult a moral lesson like some other comments are trying to,you know what is best for you and you're the one living your life. Also,I'm really happy for you and Ted and your new home! Congrats.
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Good for you for examining your behaviour and having the courage to change and to talk about it. I wish you all the best! Maybe AA could be a good support for you so you can talk to others and hear others stories. There are lots of good literature released by AA. Working with your therapist too. And remember the NOFX song Bob? Don’t be a Bob. His liver exploded!
Wow Cindy! This is major! You are not alone here! I just quit drinking last week! So proud of you! We will hold each other accountable and get through this ♥️
That's awesome! Congratulations to you and best of luck! We will get through it! 🤗
I love that song by Nofx, Quart in Sessions. Another song about the relying on drinking is "release the hostages". Good song tho.. Got me through when I was feeling crappy. I still put that song on from time to time.
you got this cindy!
Good for you Cindy! I’m wishing you the best in this journey of sober living. ❤And that emptiness you may feel, it might be Jesus calling you. Only Jesus can fill that void.
It takes alot of willpower, dicipline and self respect! It will be hard, but you are a fighter! You’re so strong Cindy, you can do this! ❤
Congrats! Also, your hair looks significantly fuller - wow
Good luck Cindy! I believe in you ❤
now THIS is the kind of content i love from you Cindy ❤🍀
Best of luck with this journey! Proud of you for realizing that you have to make a change!
Still not on board with the new relationship and moving in with someone she doesn't know so soon but I do believe it could be good for her in time. Stopping the drinking will be hard but you got it girl. Overall it's good to see you doing good wether or not I agree with your life choices.
Congratulations on your decision! I think it’s incredible that Ted has committed to not drinking with you. You can do it!
Hey, Cindy, I've only been a subscriber for a couple of months. I found your channel through Zachary, Michael. coming from someone who gets easily bored and tired of the same old vloggers.You are so interesting.I love watching you and your life, all your plants and your two sweet little babies. you have kept me interested and wanting to come back for more of your life. You have so much going for you. I know, I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I can tell you're strong and you're a happy person inside. Please try to conquer this addiction. You are right, you have so much going for you. Wishing you much love and happiness. You can do this girl.
Maybe you need some medication for your serotonin, i don't know, i am not an expert. Meditation helps too. Take care Cindy.
I'm also BPD on a sobriety journey and oh boy do you become well aware of how alcohol messes with your emotional stability after quitting. Even moreso after relapsing (multiple life tragedies at once haha), noticing the almost instant volatility. I seriously thought for so long that alcohol relaxed me, that was definitely a lie, it makes it much easier for me to get hurt by triggers. Some people are doubting you which is disappointing, quitting is extremely difficult for so many reasons, but I really hope this is a healthy step for you that gives you better quality of life.
Thank you! This is the next step in completely conquering my BPD. I wish you the best on your journey too! 🖤
Proud of you girl! Don’t be hard on Ted if he fails tho ❤
I’m so glad you’ve got Ted to keep you supported through all this, life is not easy and you’re doing what you have to do to get better! Proud of you Cindy ❤