@@iwantdoppiodakimakuraplsd1811 doesn’t matter abt being insecure.. it’s abt what’s healthy and what’s not and people are acting like saying u gained a bit of weight means ur obese and unhealthy someone can be so skinny and if they gained a little bit even saying u gained some weight could be a compliment to them if they are unhealthy
I remember how in fifth grade I met a girl from my previous school and she said “you finally started to dress up normally”. But we had to wear school uniform in primary school, so it actually was the first time when she saw me in my usual comfortable clothes, not uniform. Like.. I couldn’t even dress up the other way because of the rules I was so confused and still am
Like why do you feel the need to pack the insult and the complimet together. I’ve had pretty much the same thing said to my friend but there it at least made some sence since there was no uniform involved… But still big wtf regardless😭
I’m 11 years old and I struggle with anorexia and i can relate to this comment so much. It’s a extremely triggering thing to say when I’m trying to recover. It made me so upset and irritable with myself so I relapsed. I don’t think anyone should be commenting on anyone s looks even if they don’t struggle with an ED bc it can cause one or make the person feel bad about themselves. My own struggle is when people make those kind of comments and my ED gets so upset and wants me o get even worse.
I developed a ED recently because I was being called fat in school and never told anyone why I wasn't eating a lot anymore and then some of the bones below my neck showed and I covered it, I hope you feel better soon sending love! And hope no one ever goes through what I had to, it's just sad, Feel better soon!
@@Random_Stranger-1576 i support you but.. like i have an ed too (anorexia) and recovering but.. like what does that have to do with the comment no hate
@@Idklol2866serious question. How do you want people to tell someone to gain or loose weigth for their health? Because saying anything doesn't help and it's hard to see a loved one starving themself to death.
@@SL-gz3dy wow that’s a tough situation to be in. I did have a history of starving myself but I can’t say anything that’s guaranteed for everyone because lot of people will always think there too skinny or too fat even when there not its good to gain or lose weight for your health as being too skinny or too fat can come in majority of health problems but starving or overeating isn’t the solution It’s hard to convince people to stop losing or gaining weight when there in too deep but if there a minor you should tell there parents and hopefully they’ll take them to the doctor or somewhere
Extremely relateable to me . Ever since childhood I was told that I am extremely skinny. During my high school I gained weight and by graduation I had doubled weight ( from 23 to 50 kg )and then people told me that I'm overweight and need to loose weight.🤷♀️ They spoiled my relation with food so much that I can't even enjoy eating. After 5 years of my graduation from high school (now almost finished masters) I lost my weight again . And the result was nothing but hating my body and stretch marks on almost my whole body. World is cruel y'all, wont let you live in peace 🔪
Yeah when my phycologist said “since you haven’t been throwing up you have gained quite a bit of weight” ( I used to have cyclic vomiting syndrome that was triggered by stress so I would throw up once a month kind of like a period. I would also throw up in stressful situations) so I started making myself throw up. And developed Bulimia. Every day at school I would throw up my breakfast as soon as I got there and then I wouldn’t eat lunch and make myself vomit my dinner up at home. Having an eating disorder sucks. It doesn’t help you so please please please don’t do it. You are beautiful just the way you are. ❤❤❤❤❤
This is very sad. I am a naturally very skinny and underweight person and it’s not easy. I had a babysitter from ages 6-8 I think and she would constantly force me into overeating so I would gain weight. She would feed me the fattiest foods and the ones I didn’t enjoy and she would constantly tell a damn six year old that she will never get a boyfriend because she is “to skinny” it’s not great for someone to do this. I told my mom about the issue and she told her not to but it kept going on. We finally left her right after I turned 8. A couple weeks ago I ran into her again and realized she hadn’t changed a bit. She came up to me and said that I had gotten taller but she told me that it looked like a hadn’t put on a single pound. She told me that I would have to go on “a reverse diet” so I could gain weight. I’m not underweight in a way that it is affecting my health and safety. In fact I am perfectly healthy at where I should be. I just find it fucking disgusting the things that people say and do to kids and even older teenagers or adults. You can focus on your own damn life because you don’t have to worry about where I am right now. I hope that anyone who receives any hate like this can get out of that situation and realize that it’s not okay what people are saying.❤
I hope karma get this b*tch cause I am the same as you, exept I didn't have a mean baby-sitter ( I had my fair share of horrible bullying from my classmates though). It's one thing to be bullied at school by stupid children, but to be bullied in your own home, where you're supposed to feel safe, by a full grown adult who should know better ? No way, this person shouldn't work with children at all, destroying your self esteem like that, it's a crime ! And forcing you to eat ? This is so wrong, you could've developped an ed and it would be her fault, wtf ? Some people really do not think about the consequences of their actions... But another thing that makes me mad is that your parents didn't just fire the baby-sitter the minute you said "she's mean to me" and you had to bear the bullying for months. It's not responsible as a parent to do that, so they are at fault too. Did they ever said they were sorry ? Maybe you can talk about that with them, it would make you feel better. And eventually in some years, maybe confront the baby-sitter again, so that you can finally be free of that trauma ? Anyway I send you courage 🤗
Neat trick for those of you that want to help anyone with an ed - or without one! - by commenting on their weight and associating a higher or lower weight with goodness through follow ups: don't. Don't glance over their bodies noticing the difference. Don't cover it with "it looks good on you!" or "you look better!" Don't acknowledge their body in ANY way, shape, or form, unless magically a tragic accident happens and you need to tell them, "I'm gonna bandage your arm." Otherwise don't even mention their arm, or face, or stomach, ANYTHING. Pretend they don't have a body. Because that's how serious EDs are. Walk on eggshells and do it proudly. ANYTHING you say can send someone back into relapse. Despite me quite literally describing it as walking on eggshells, it's actually really, really, really, really damn easy to not comment on someone's body at all. It's about as easy as it is as not referring to someone by their name every single time you interact with them, and it comes just as naturally with enough patience and self-control.
My mum always walks in when I’m changing and she always comments on my body saying “you’ve lost weight gain some weight you look unhealthy” or when I do gain weight she’s like “you’ve gained too much weight you look fat”
call her out on it. some people have done that with their own mothers and surprisingly some parents do back off and apologize. I'm so sorry your own parents can't even be someone you'd feel comfy with.
My so has anorexia and the daughter of a friend of ours comments on how he had “such a glow up” he had been struggling with his eating disorder for over a year at that point and was over 6ft tall and weighed less than 130lbs of course she had no idea but her “compliment” set him back in his treatment and nearly caused a relapse. I didn’t even realize how much we can hurt people with our “compliments “ until I had to watch my son going they this. Be more mindful and please don’t comment on someone’s physical appearance unless you have close firsthand knowledge as to weather this complements will help or hurt them
As someone who has difficulty with this, this feels so reliable. Even as a passing comment whether meant as good or with frustration, it lingers a lot more when one would think. Even when you know you should not let it bother you and you've grown from it, it sticks and leaves an impact greater than one would think.
That's tough. We need to be more open about conversations regarding ED and knowing the right things to say because I know for a fact most people who say stuff like that do not understand what they are doing is wrong and harmful.
relatable, I struggled with anorexia many years ago, but my trip to being able to eat normally has been hard, finally after 4 years I can say I'm fully recovered but it just doesn't feel good when people say "oh you gained weight you look so much better" like I know I look good but idk I just don't like it and if I express how I feel about that then I'm exaggerating...
I have ADHD and autism so I struggle in crowded environments as well as having social anxiety and mental health problems I struggle with body image and have attempted to end it all multiple times. I'm also anorexic from extreme bullying that went for three an a half years until somebody ( a friend) noticed on my school camp that I refused to eat properly. My recovery journey started about six to seven months ago
I remember in middle school, i was lacking off VD because of my allergies. So i was breaking bones off and on during middle school and being in wheelchair/clutches i gain weight. I was also dealing with ed too. I was very much heavily bullied at the time. But later in life, on the day i turn 18 i saw an ex bully at a place i was having a party at. She simple told me wow you look amazing. She change and felt sorry of what she did to me. When i told her my side of my story, it made her feel even badder. But she learn her lesson and we been close friends every since.
It's not only about being so skinny if you had body problems it feels bad anyway. I had a bit more weight when I was in middle school and I had a lot insecurities because of this. Now I think my body is fine but if someone say anything about my body, it makes me down. Even I'm trying to lose weight when they say it, it's still not being fine. I hate every conversation about bodies.
I catch myself doing this quite alot. I forget not everyone has a problem with their body and wants to lose/gain weight like I do or needs/wants to hear comments about their body like I do (I have body dismorphia and I need reassurance about how my body looks I the moment or what people think about my body...it's kind of an "addiction" you could say)
As a 16 yr old who’s small but still the biggest among my sisters (physically), i’ve been compared to them ever single time i meet someone new. I’m told “wow you’re the youngest of the family is the biggest” and i guess they’re js tryna find something to talk about, but seriously, is that really the only thing they can think of? Like come on commenting on someones weight almost always makes that person feel terrible, so why do it? Always being told im big made me so insecure to the point where i would starve myself all day and even when i did eat, it’d be much smaller portions. I went from 110 lbs to 93 lbs in a matter of a few months, while i did not physical exercises. This was so so unhealthy for me & i wish i would’ve realized sooner how harmful it was to my physical and mental health. Now i have a really shitty relationship with food & it’s hard for me to finish most of my meals, causing my parents to constantly force feed me. I’m afraid im gonna gain all that weight back & i love my body as it is. I feel full quickly now even if i don’t finish meals but they don’t understand so usually after i eat i feel like throwing up. But i keep it in bc i know if i do then they’re gonna take me to the hospital like bruh
I been fighting ed off and on for the past years from being preteen and now im young adult. I wish i had support. Even though i have some support here the damage been done.
I have the same issue but about being told I looked better when I was skinny… The time that they refer to is when I was skinny enough you could see all my ribs. But I always had baggy clothes so no one knew but my mom. Thank God for mom because most of those people that said stuff like that to me were older relatives so out of respect I didn’t say anything.
When you meet someone you haven't seen in ages, swap "have you gained weight? you look so much better" to "have you been working out? You look so good"
Everyone tells me I'm too small and ask me if I'm anorexic. Im not and no matter how many times I tell people that, they make a point to make sure I'm eating. It's not even in a friendly way. Btw your really pretty
We’ve reached a point where noticing a difference in the body has become TRIGGERING. I think we all need to re-evaluate our mental health and realise how fragile we’ve gotten. It’s not a crime to feel the way we do, but at the same time, we can’t live like this. I used to be so sensitive to these comments knowing damn well people who said it didn’t mean it in a bad way. They probably meant when they said I looked better. What I did was confide in a person I trusted to tell me what I’m doing wrong and why I feel the way I do. Made things 100x better.
My aunt said so happily "did you put on weight?! It looks good! " Bless her heart but i cried myself to sleep after forcing myself to throw up thrice that day.
Hi I’m 13 and struggling with anorexia nervosa I relate to this. anything really anything that someone says about my weight or food I’m eating my recovery process goes down hill again 🙄 it’s really hard to keep going but I’m doing my best
I feel like there’s a difference between saying “you look so much better now that you’re not skinny” and “you look so much healthier and happier❤” I feel like saying you look really nice with more weight can have a more negative connotation than saying you look healthier.
My friends told me that I used to be fat and I used to eat garbage all day , I know they said I used to but , it still really hurts when I think about , and now I every time I eat something not healthy it makes me feel really bad and that I need to stop . 😢
I haven't thought about this in a while but when I do I always wondered how I wanted to respond back then. When I feel fat and tried to lose weight then they say how they preferred when I put on weight or didn't liked how skinny I was becoming. At the time I didn't know if I was supposed to be glad cause even though I feel fat others don't, or feel offended/ mad by how they worded it out?? I don't think much about it now, but it just got me thinking again.
The thing is, when i was losing weight i wanted people to say that. But when i realized i never got that same attention, or human decency when i was overweight, it really threw me off.
When covid started me and my dad didn't see eeach others for ¾ of year. A month before it's start, I started with bulimia and anorexia (bcs of him:)). In the time I lost 10 kg. When we finally met he said „I don't know what did you do that you lost so much weight, but it's great, you look so much better now”
People have gotten weak, I don't think I have had a single moment where people have called me "skinny" or "spooky skeleton" and I got emotional or offended
As someone with Ana eating disorder it’s so hard or when people make comments like oh u must be really hungry or oh u look so skinny or oh u gained weight I see or u should go to the gym and then we relapse
One of my friends said I looked like I had gained weight and looked fat (when in reality I was and still am skinner than all of my friends bc I struggle with anorexia) and I was trying to gain weight but when she said that I spiralled back to when I was underweight and bc of that comment I have gone back to therapy to try and help me with my ed
There was this one time when I got home from school and my moms friends were all there ( like 4 of them ) and my other mom said to me as I walked in “ oh my goodness have you lost weight !! “ in front of everyone else and it made me feel so uncomfortable so I just stood there in silence as everyone stared at me. I will never forget that day…
I still remember when my friend was playfully fighting my then when they grabbed round me (cus I'm very small and they throw me around as a joke). And my friend was about to throw me like normal (which I'm fine about) but then they said i was so small and needed to gain weight and i still haven't even tho i think I'm trying Srry if this upsets anyone or anything
So many people have mentioned my weight like my grandma kids at school and even a kindergarten that I babysit. I want to start working out but I am not old enough to go to a gym and my mom would not approve of me working out. So I am stuck with a body I hate for a long but short while
If you want to compliment a friend who has an ED on their weight gain, just compliment them like you would anyone else?? Don’t mention weight, just go with either a generic compliment like “you look stunning!” or if you want to get into specifics, mention their sense of style, their hair, eyes, makeup, etc. For example, “Dude, you’re hair is so pretty in this lighting! It looks super shiny and soft!” To those who genuinely don’t know how to compliment someone who’s recovering from an ED, you’re welcome ✨
I always get skinny shamed, so when one old friend of mine met me after a year maybe, she said, "Omgg!! You've gained weight!" it felt so nice i was literally dancing in my head
That’s why I can’t go out when I don’t feel like being,,thin,, And when I do There’s ppl saying I look tired or ,,did u loose weight comments. Idk i feel so alone
Once I went to my grandmas house and she said i got wayyy skinner this past month, i was confused but then i checked my weight and i lost 20 pounds without doing anything. No yoga and no diet
I have this problem in a different way it’s always, *me styling my hair different and I like it* my friend: “EWWW NO, I DONT KNKW YOU FIX IT” this happened so I asked someone for a hair tie got one and fixed my hair so it wouldn’t happen again, my other friends even said I looked like Draco Malfoy. As a person who already doesn’t feel confident with how they look this makes it hard. ❤❤❤❤ keep in mind what you are saying bc it could hurt someone ❤❤
As someone that’s got BDD it’s really hard when people comment my looks, and it happens often. I once starved myself in over a week and only ate tiny bits because of that. Like I don’t need you to tell me I look worse then a pig-
this might be me eventually- I’m 15 pounds underweight and I cannot gain any weight almost at all (not to mention I have a BED) I’m hoping I will eventually. somehow
This is why we shouldn't comment on people's weight unless *they* bring it up and you know it's ok to comment. I struggle with anorexia, and it wrecks me when people comment either way -- whether I gain or lose. My OCD latches on and won't let it go, and an off-hand comment derails me for months.
I got really depressed during covid and didn't eat enough and lost weight. Everyone said I looked amazing and how happy they were that I lost weight. Now I'm gaining it all back and all the fat comments are coming back so I just avoid people.
First I was too fat, so I starved myself. Then I was a stick, so I binged. Then I was eating too much, so I stopped. Then I wasn’t eating enough, and now I know that since I can never make people happy, fuck it!
For me it’s your skin looks lighter! I’m the darkest in my family (I’m brown btw) and it feels really weird when they get excited that my skin color gets light from traveling or the season or smth
When I gained weight, my friend told me I look healthier, it felt so nice
Yeah how is this a bad thing 😭 if it’s healthier than that’s so good
well not if you're incredibly insecure about it lmfao ?? ? @@rownii
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@@iwantdoppiodakimakuraplsd1811 doesn’t matter abt being insecure.. it’s abt what’s healthy and what’s not and people are acting like saying u gained a bit of weight means ur obese and unhealthy someone can be so skinny and if they gained a little bit even saying u gained some weight could be a compliment to them if they are unhealthy
Were you skinny like Gigi Hadid before you gained weight?
I remember how in fifth grade I met a girl from my previous school and she said “you finally started to dress up normally”. But we had to wear school uniform in primary school, so it actually was the first time when she saw me in my usual comfortable clothes, not uniform. Like.. I couldn’t even dress up the other way because of the rules
I was so confused and still am
Like why do you feel the need to pack the insult and the complimet together. I’ve had pretty much the same thing said to my friend but there it at least made some sence since there was no uniform involved… But still big wtf regardless😭
Isn't it like a joke? Maybe im wrong but from my point of view it does look like one.
@@dominiksiemasz1989Yeah, I’d think so too. It’s like when we were wearing P.E. uniforms and kids said they liked their friend’s shirts.
1500th like 👍🏻
I wish people would stop talking to us about our bodies! It’s just ridiculous. Hope you’re ok
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So real. Like people say i lost weight, but that doesent help like bru
@@Cluckyisamazingthat should make you feel better abt yourself like what 😂
wish I could get support irl rather than getting it by reading the comments section
@@SPROcteztell me you know nothing about Eating Disorders without telling me you know nothing about Eating Disorders
I have an eating disorder and even people like my own mother say things like this and it's what gave me depression 😭🙏🤍
I’m 11 years old and I struggle with anorexia and i can relate to this comment so much. It’s a extremely triggering thing to say when I’m trying to recover. It made me so upset and irritable with myself so I relapsed. I don’t think anyone should be commenting on anyone s looks even if they don’t struggle with an ED bc it can cause one or make the person feel bad about themselves. My own struggle is when people make those kind of comments and my ED gets so upset and wants me o get even worse.
I hope you are getting better. Sending love pls have a nice day ❤
@@mariakarathanou5343 tysm bless you.
Hope You recover soon and have a nice day❤
I developed a ED recently because I was being called fat in school and never told anyone why I wasn't eating a lot anymore and then some of the bones below my neck showed and I covered it, I hope you feel better soon sending love! And hope no one ever goes through what I had to, it's just sad, Feel better soon!
@@Random_Stranger-1576 i support you but.. like i have an ed too (anorexia) and recovering but.. like what does that have to do with the comment no hate
It feels so good finally contect creators coming up with mental health problems awareness
This isn’t “made up” tho
@@ILikeCreepyStuff they didn’t say that?
@@sylviethefish oh. I read it wrong sorry
@@ILikeCreepyStuff it’s okay!! 💓
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on a sad note, I can relate
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Just say “you look so good” 😶 if they wanna share, they’ll share.
I remember this time when my grandmother said “You should gain some weight “. And I look at her like if she just said that can hurt me forever.😢
If you were underweight, that could be life threatening so she’s giving you advice, if you weren’t, that’s just a mean ass grandma.
My grandmother told my to exercise more
@@nari_s4so could being overweight and we don’t say “ lose weight “
@@Idklol2866serious question. How do you want people to tell someone to gain or loose weigth for their health? Because saying anything doesn't help and it's hard to see a loved one starving themself to death.
@@SL-gz3dy wow that’s a tough situation to be in. I did have a history of starving myself but I can’t say anything that’s guaranteed for everyone because lot of people will always think there too skinny or too fat even when there not its good to gain or lose weight for your health as being too skinny or too fat can come in majority of health problems but starving or overeating isn’t the solution
It’s hard to convince people to stop losing or gaining weight when there in too deep but if there a minor you should tell there parents and hopefully they’ll take them to the doctor or somewhere
Extremely relateable to me . Ever since childhood I was told that I am extremely skinny. During my high school I gained weight and by graduation I had doubled weight ( from 23 to 50 kg )and then people told me that I'm overweight and need to loose weight.🤷♀️ They spoiled my relation with food so much that I can't even enjoy eating. After 5 years of my graduation from high school (now almost finished masters) I lost my weight again . And the result was nothing but hating my body and stretch marks on almost my whole body. World is cruel y'all, wont let you live in peace 🔪
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Yeah when my phycologist said “since you haven’t been throwing up you have gained quite a bit of weight” ( I used to have cyclic vomiting syndrome that was triggered by stress so I would throw up once a month kind of like a period. I would also throw up in stressful situations) so I started making myself throw up. And developed Bulimia. Every day at school I would throw up my breakfast as soon as I got there and then I wouldn’t eat lunch and make myself vomit my dinner up at home. Having an eating disorder sucks. It doesn’t help you so please please please don’t do it. You are beautiful just the way you are. ❤❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry I hope it gets better ❤
May God bless you ❤❤
@@abbieprice5067 thank you may the lord protect your heart.
I hope you get better ❤. Sending virtual hugs for comfort 🤗
@@shreyaverma1819 thank you🫶❤️
@@MhAwareness23 thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
This is very sad. I am a naturally very skinny and underweight person and it’s not easy. I had a babysitter from ages 6-8 I think and she would constantly force me into overeating so I would gain weight. She would feed me the fattiest foods and the ones I didn’t enjoy and she would constantly tell a damn six year old that she will never get a boyfriend because she is “to skinny” it’s not great for someone to do this. I told my mom about the issue and she told her not to but it kept going on. We finally left her right after I turned 8. A couple weeks ago I ran into her again and realized she hadn’t changed a bit. She came up to me and said that I had gotten taller but she told me that it looked like a hadn’t put on a single pound. She told me that I would have to go on “a reverse diet” so I could gain weight. I’m not underweight in a way that it is affecting my health and safety. In fact I am perfectly healthy at where I should be. I just find it fucking disgusting the things that people say and do to kids and even older teenagers or adults. You can focus on your own damn life because you don’t have to worry about where I am right now. I hope that anyone who receives any hate like this can get out of that situation and realize that it’s not okay what people are saying.❤
I hope karma get this b*tch cause I am the same as you, exept I didn't have a mean baby-sitter ( I had my fair share of horrible bullying from my classmates though). It's one thing to be bullied at school by stupid children, but to be bullied in your own home, where you're supposed to feel safe, by a full grown adult who should know better ? No way, this person shouldn't work with children at all, destroying your self esteem like that, it's a crime !
And forcing you to eat ? This is so wrong, you could've developped an ed and it would be her fault, wtf ? Some people really do not think about the consequences of their actions...
But another thing that makes me mad is that your parents didn't just fire the baby-sitter the minute you said "she's mean to me" and you had to bear the bullying for months. It's not responsible as a parent to do that, so they are at fault too. Did they ever said they were sorry ? Maybe you can talk about that with them, it would make you feel better. And eventually in some years, maybe confront the baby-sitter again, so that you can finally be free of that trauma ? Anyway I send you courage 🤗
That’s absolutely disgusting. You should have sued her for literal abuse, forcing someone to eat is abuse.
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Neat trick for those of you that want to help anyone with an ed - or without one! - by commenting on their weight and associating a higher or lower weight with goodness through follow ups: don't.
Don't glance over their bodies noticing the difference. Don't cover it with "it looks good on you!" or "you look better!" Don't acknowledge their body in ANY way, shape, or form, unless magically a tragic accident happens and you need to tell them, "I'm gonna bandage your arm." Otherwise don't even mention their arm, or face, or stomach, ANYTHING. Pretend they don't have a body. Because that's how serious EDs are. Walk on eggshells and do it proudly. ANYTHING you say can send someone back into relapse.
Despite me quite literally describing it as walking on eggshells, it's actually really, really, really, really damn easy to not comment on someone's body at all. It's about as easy as it is as not referring to someone by their name every single time you interact with them, and it comes just as naturally with enough patience and self-control.
My mum always walks in when I’m changing and she always comments on my body saying “you’ve lost weight gain some weight you look unhealthy” or when I do gain weight she’s like “you’ve gained too much weight you look fat”
I am so sorry! Also fat, skinny, slim and any body shape is beautiful!!
call her out on it. some people have done that with their own mothers and surprisingly some parents do back off and apologize. I'm so sorry your own parents can't even be someone you'd feel comfy with.
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@@corncobbob2326 I tried and she said “I made you so I can walk in on you if I like to”
My so has anorexia and the daughter of a friend of ours comments on how he had “such a glow up” he had been struggling with his eating disorder for over a year at that point and was over 6ft tall and weighed less than 130lbs of course she had no idea but her “compliment” set him back in his treatment and nearly caused a relapse. I didn’t even realize how much we can hurt people with our “compliments “ until I had to watch my son going they this. Be more mindful and please don’t comment on someone’s physical appearance unless you have close firsthand knowledge as to weather this complements will help or hurt them
My friend has been dealing with that since preschool and I was the first person who actually saw her as prefect
As someone who has difficulty with this, this feels so reliable. Even as a passing comment whether meant as good or with frustration, it lingers a lot more when one would think. Even when you know you should not let it bother you and you've grown from it, it sticks and leaves an impact greater than one would think.
Her lashes really said SLAYYYY ✨
Girl your lashes are sooo pretty
That's tough. We need to be more open about conversations regarding ED and knowing the right things to say because I know for a fact most people who say stuff like that do not understand what they are doing is wrong and harmful.
relatable, I struggled with anorexia many years ago, but my trip to being able to eat normally has been hard, finally after 4 years I can say I'm fully recovered but it just doesn't feel good when people say "oh you gained weight you look so much better" like I know I look good but idk I just don't like it and if I express how I feel about that then I'm exaggerating...
This. Finally in a good place. And my mother MIL asked if I was pregnant again
When an adult said it it’s very impactful 😭
This is a message to everyone:let people judge let people think but never forget who you are meant to be❤😊
I have ADHD and autism so I struggle in crowded environments as well as having social anxiety and mental health problems
I struggle with body image and have attempted to end it all multiple times. I'm also anorexic from extreme bullying that went for three an a half years until somebody ( a friend) noticed on my school camp that I refused to eat properly. My recovery journey started about six to seven months ago
off topic so much but gurrrllll... ur eyelashes are the slayyyyers❤️
better thing to say: u look so good!!
I remember in middle school, i was lacking off VD because of my allergies. So i was breaking bones off and on during middle school and being in wheelchair/clutches i gain weight. I was also dealing with ed too. I was very much heavily bullied at the time. But later in life, on the day i turn 18 i saw an ex bully at a place i was having a party at. She simple told me wow you look amazing. She change and felt sorry of what she did to me. When i told her my side of my story, it made her feel even badder. But she learn her lesson and we been close friends every since.
It's not only about being so skinny if you had body problems it feels bad anyway. I had a bit more weight when I was in middle school and I had a lot insecurities because of this. Now I think my body is fine but if someone say anything about my body, it makes me down. Even I'm trying to lose weight when they say it, it's still not being fine. I hate every conversation about bodies.
I catch myself doing this quite alot. I forget not everyone has a problem with their body and wants to lose/gain weight like I do or needs/wants to hear comments about their body like I do (I have body dismorphia and I need reassurance about how my body looks I the moment or what people think about my body...it's kind of an "addiction" you could say)
It’s really a backhanded compliment if you’re in this situation just say their body looks amazing
As a 16 yr old who’s small but still the biggest among my sisters (physically), i’ve been compared to them ever single time i meet someone new. I’m told “wow you’re the youngest of the family is the biggest” and i guess they’re js tryna find something to talk about, but seriously, is that really the only thing they can think of? Like come on commenting on someones weight almost always makes that person feel terrible, so why do it? Always being told im big made me so insecure to the point where i would starve myself all day and even when i did eat, it’d be much smaller portions. I went from 110 lbs to 93 lbs in a matter of a few months, while i did not physical exercises. This was so so unhealthy for me & i wish i would’ve realized sooner how harmful it was to my physical and mental health. Now i have a really shitty relationship with food & it’s hard for me to finish most of my meals, causing my parents to constantly force feed me. I’m afraid im gonna gain all that weight back & i love my body as it is. I feel full quickly now even if i don’t finish meals but they don’t understand so usually after i eat i feel like throwing up. But i keep it in bc i know if i do then they’re gonna take me to the hospital like bruh
Or when they say “Omg what happened?!” (Whether you lost/gained weight)
It’s so incredibly rude
Ya
Damn....this is too relatable...
Exactly, getting told that you are skinny can hurt too.
I been fighting ed off and on for the past years from being preteen and now im young adult. I wish i had support. Even though i have some support here the damage been done.
I get told I'm to skinny.....it hurts
You’re actually too pretty.
Then just go gym and eat some protein.
@@Im-ft6xlto become healthy
same
@@tekpirate9137I’m skinny so lemme answer this
1) my mom doesn’t let me I’m 13
and 2) I do eat protein. And I’m trying.
I have the same issue but about being told I looked better when I was skinny… The time that they refer to is when I was skinny enough you could see all my ribs. But I always had baggy clothes so no one knew but my mom. Thank God for mom because most of those people that said stuff like that to me were older relatives so out of respect I didn’t say anything.
My friends used to make fun of me because they thought I was fat and now when I've lost so much weight they say you looked better before
When you meet someone you haven't seen in ages, swap "have you gained weight? you look so much better" to "have you been working out? You look so good"
This right here will set me back so far
Everyone tells me I'm too small and ask me if I'm anorexic. Im not and no matter how many times I tell people that, they make a point to make sure I'm eating. It's not even in a friendly way. Btw your really pretty
I’m the opposite my auntie said I became skinny and I have to admit it it kind of hurt considering that she probably thought I was fat
Even though it hurts, they mean well. A lot of people out there can’t communicate on a higher level using gentleness and compassion.
We’ve reached a point where noticing a difference in the body has become TRIGGERING.
I think we all need to re-evaluate our mental health and realise how fragile we’ve gotten. It’s not a crime to feel the way we do, but at the same time, we can’t live like this.
I used to be so sensitive to these comments knowing damn well people who said it didn’t mean it in a bad way. They probably meant when they said I looked better. What I did was confide in a person I trusted to tell me what I’m doing wrong and why I feel the way I do. Made things 100x better.
My aunt said so happily "did you put on weight?! It looks good! "
Bless her heart but i cried myself to sleep after forcing myself to throw up thrice that day.
Hi I’m 13 and struggling with anorexia nervosa I relate to this. anything really anything that someone says about my weight or food I’m eating my recovery process goes down hill again 🙄 it’s really hard to keep going but I’m doing my best
I can relate so much with this...
I feel like there’s a difference between saying “you look so much better now that you’re not skinny” and “you look so much healthier and happier❤” I feel like saying you look really nice with more weight can have a more negative connotation than saying you look healthier.
I had one of my friends told me this once and ever since I eat less and wear baggy clothes till I’m happy with results
This makes me more sad thinking about my bff we havent seen each other in 4 years
My friends told me that I used to be fat and I used to eat garbage all day , I know they said I used to but , it still really hurts when I think about , and now I every time I eat something not healthy it makes me feel really bad and that I need to stop . 😢
I haven't thought about this in a while but when I do I always wondered how I wanted to respond back then. When I feel fat and tried to lose weight then they say how they preferred when I put on weight or didn't liked how skinny I was becoming. At the time I didn't know if I was supposed to be glad cause even though I feel fat others don't, or feel offended/ mad by how they worded it out??
I don't think much about it now, but it just got me thinking again.
Girl your make up looks flawless!!!! what mascara do you use?
The thing is, when i was losing weight i wanted people to say that. But when i realized i never got that same attention, or human decency when i was overweight, it really threw me off.
I relate a lot. 😢
"You look so much healthier" 💀
I personally take it as a compliment if they aren’t being cocky or sarcastic
im so sorry this happened to you i know your not alone please hang in there
I can’t relate to this it has happened to me so many times
When covid started me and my dad didn't see eeach others for ¾ of year. A month before it's start, I started with bulimia and anorexia (bcs of him:)). In the time I lost 10 kg. When we finally met he said „I don't know what did you do that you lost so much weight, but it's great, you look so much better now”
Fr it’s always either “your so skinny you need to gain weight” or “you should realy Lose some weight” never in the middle
Same as "have you lost weight? You look so good"
yes, one of my parents good friends told me this. and he kept asking my dad if i was eating, and he made it sound like i had an actual issue.
People have gotten weak, I don't think I have had a single moment where people have called me "skinny" or "spooky skeleton" and I got emotional or offended
As someone with Ana eating disorder it’s so hard or when people make comments like oh u must be really hungry or oh u look so skinny or oh u gained weight I see or u should go to the gym and then we relapse
I thought I was the only one offended by this thanks for letting me know I'm not alone 💕
One of my friends said I looked like I had gained weight and looked fat (when in reality I was and still am skinner than all of my friends bc I struggle with anorexia) and I was trying to gain weight but when she said that I spiralled back to when I was underweight and bc of that comment I have gone back to therapy to try and help me with my ed
real my dad just said i was getting heavy a few minutes ago and i’m struggling to not give my self an ED 🎀
There was this one time when I got home from school and my moms friends were all there ( like 4 of them ) and my other mom said to me as I walked in “ oh my goodness have you lost weight !! “ in front of everyone else and it made me feel so uncomfortable so I just stood there in silence as everyone stared at me. I will never forget that day…
I still remember when my friend was playfully fighting my then when they grabbed round me (cus I'm very small and they throw me around as a joke). And my friend was about to throw me like normal (which I'm fine about) but then they said i was so small and needed to gain weight and i still haven't even tho i think I'm trying
Srry if this upsets anyone or anything
So many people have mentioned my weight like my grandma kids at school and even a kindergarten that I babysit. I want to start working out but I am not old enough to go to a gym and my mom would not approve of me working out. So I am stuck with a body I hate for a long but short while
If you want to compliment a friend who has an ED on their weight gain, just compliment them like you would anyone else?? Don’t mention weight, just go with either a generic compliment like “you look stunning!” or if you want to get into specifics, mention their sense of style, their hair, eyes, makeup, etc. For example, “Dude, you’re hair is so pretty in this lighting! It looks super shiny and soft!”
To those who genuinely don’t know how to compliment someone who’s recovering from an ED, you’re welcome ✨
The school doctor asked me today "when did you start getting fat" I know she asked that for a reason but it crushed me
Well, he’s a doctor so he must be right. You should do something about it before it gets out of control.
I always get skinny shamed, so when one old friend of mine met me after a year maybe, she said, "Omgg!! You've gained weight!" it felt so nice i was literally dancing in my head
That’s why I can’t go out when I don’t feel like being,,thin,,
And when I do
There’s ppl saying I look tired or ,,did u loose weight comments.
Idk i feel so alone
Omg why do you look like my favorite 3rd grade teacher 😭😢😢❤
At first I thought this was a normal vid and I was like "relatable! " but then I saw the #mentalhealth ...
Once I went to my grandmas house and she said i got wayyy skinner this past month, i was confused but then i checked my weight and i lost 20 pounds without doing anything. No yoga and no diet
Every day I get " ohhhhh your all skinny now, you look so good" I know they mean it as a compliment but damn.
I have this problem in a different way it’s always, *me styling my hair different and I like it* my friend: “EWWW NO, I DONT KNKW YOU FIX IT” this happened so I asked someone for a hair tie got one and fixed my hair so it wouldn’t happen again, my other friends even said I looked like Draco Malfoy. As a person who already doesn’t feel confident with how they look this makes it hard. ❤❤❤❤ keep in mind what you are saying bc it could hurt someone ❤❤
Personally I think that's a compliment😊
As someone that’s got BDD it’s really hard when people comment my looks, and it happens often. I once starved myself in over a week and only ate tiny bits because of that. Like I don’t need you to tell me I look worse then a pig-
Relateable, my nan picked up a pair of XXS trousers and went " maybe if u actually lose weight u would be able to fit into these" and then laughed
Wtff? I'm so sorry ♥️
"you look slimmer!" And then the cycle starts again
I get that all the time. Even though I just lost weight
Bro she literally gave you a compliment, be happy.
this might be me eventually- I’m 15 pounds underweight and I cannot gain any weight almost at all (not to mention I have a BED) I’m hoping I will eventually. somehow
This is why we shouldn't comment on people's weight unless *they* bring it up and you know it's ok to comment. I struggle with anorexia, and it wrecks me when people comment either way -- whether I gain or lose.
My OCD latches on and won't let it go, and an off-hand comment derails me for months.
I got really depressed during covid and didn't eat enough and lost weight. Everyone said I looked amazing and how happy they were that I lost weight. Now I'm gaining it all back and all the fat comments are coming back so I just avoid people.
This happenes to me bc i eat alot but stay skinny and my friends are like "why are your hands so small" or "Why are your wrists that tiny"
First I was too fat, so I starved myself. Then I was a stick, so I binged. Then I was eating too much, so I stopped. Then I wasn’t eating enough, and now I know that since I can never make people happy, fuck it!
For me it’s your skin looks lighter!
I’m the darkest in my family (I’m brown btw) and it feels really weird when they get excited that my skin color gets light from traveling or the season or smth
i had to deal with this in the age of 7😔
And I hate it because when they say I gain weight I think I’m fat and when they say I lost weight I’m too skinny
Nah, for me it was my own grandad saying "You've gotten bigger! Have you been putting on weight?" Twice
Me when my asian grandma told me I finally looked pretty when I was recovering from an eating disorder and was the skinniest shed ever seen me.
I used to be super skinny, and when my grandma or my grandfather told me that I gained weight and looked so much better, it felt weird.
When I get complimented I feel worse about myself
I have gained weight due to an ED and i hate people telling me about how I look. Like yea i know I am wayyyyy overweight i can tell