I have nurturing and loyal. Confidence goes back and forth. Needy ..... I was raised with extreme emotional neglect (homeschooled by crazy people I've since cut off) ..... and that's the one that makes its difficult for me to fix.
What I love about this video is that you announce all five items at the very beginning, instead of one by one, and elaborating for a long time on each one throughout the video. Thank you so much this helps a lot, but giving us a direct idea of what each item is, and then afterwords taking time to explain each one. You should use this format more often. Thanks very much :-)
Thank you for vouching for us single moms! I've seen so many TH-cam videos with reasons not to date us. Your words are appreciated. Keep up with the great advice! 😃
I agree! I miss having a nice, comforting rainfall. And some thunder. It's too cold for rain where I am in the world.. we got over a foot of snow last night.
Elliot, I just found these videos today. I am fairly new to the dating scene after my divorce. I've been really appreciative of the sound advice you offer. Blunt is important to some of us.
Elliot, thanks for saying positive things about single moms! Ladies, remember that if you are a single mom you need to stay strong and hold out for the right guy.
Hi Elliot, These videos are truly a gift, like I have a brother available 24/7/365 that gives it to me straight, no sugar coating. Sincerely, Christina
Awesome advice! My question now is (or this could be a great next video idea) where to meet quality guys who are looking for what you just described. I don't like going to bars or clubs, sooo where to meet these guys? Like you, you seem to have all the traits that I am attracted to. Where does someone like you hang out or in what setting would you feel comfortable talking to a girl?? Thank you ahead of time!
Thanks so much for your candor in your videos (not to mention, I love your colorful language). You're pretty spot on and your information reminds me to take off my rose colored romance goggles and step into reality. Thanks again!
Thank you for this video. In a video you said "A man doesnt want a woman who doesnt need a man". My question is what signs tell a man she doesnt Need me and How can I show I NEED a man during the first dates? (Maybe that would be an interesting topic for a video)
Its awesome to watch all these dating love coach advice videos because... at most times there are alot of vids that totally cross eachother, but i think its great since I get to see different types of guys in different perspectives. Thanks Elliot for being a solid, blunt, and very honest person, your viewpoint is an interesting one. 😎✨
The loyalty part seems like a double edge sword because I've heard on other videos that it's important to create the idea that the guy has competition.
Hi I'm newly separated (20 year relationship) ( 6 months ago)I have 2 teen sons, about 2-3 months ago my friend suggested a friend of hers I friend request him and we talked a little he himself recently got out of a bad relationship, but while he's not dating nor am I we barely talk ( my friend suggested that maybe he's giving me space to get over breakup? And grow ) how do I know if this is true? I have never dated anyone but my ex so very new to this
I've been binge watching on your videos! Thanks for your videos! Prayers and support! With the love I have for a guy I like. your videos again makes me smile and have hope!! Happy 2017 upcoming can't wait for what's next ❤️😀
Hi Metra, the same thing happened to me, try firts to see the spam folder, then if it is not that sometimes hotmail rejects mails that send to you that contains links. If you do not succeed with that send to Elly an email (elliotscottservices@gmail.com) , he will solve it in a sec, he can send you a pdf :) , the book is 100 % awesome, so good, clear and on top of that funny and entertaining, you will love it. Hope this info helps you, xoxo
Thank you for another great video! Apparently I have all the qualities of a long term friend zone. A fwb situation is starting to look appealing but I don't know how to go about that either lol. Not sure I'm ready for a relationship anyway as I'm going through a divorce right now but I'm learning so much from your videos I'll actually know what I'm doing when I am ready!
I just discovered this channel and i must admit that a lot these videos were a true eye opener for me. I fell in love with someone back in the summer (while i was on vacation in my home country), and normally i don't fall in love so easily. If i fall in love with someone is mostly bc i like the vibe i'm getting from that person, how i feel when i'm near that person. And that almost never happens! Long story short, i went waaaaayy out of my comfort zone and told him (through a small letter, bc i was too damn nervous to talk to him) that i liked him for years, his response was very positive and he was also interested, and then... i blew it (and these videos confirms it too)!!! I've never approached someone in my life (and now this is the first and last time). When i went back home, a few days later, he blocked me on whatsapp bc i was so damn annoying/clingy. It hurts like hell bc i genuinly felt that he liked me too (he even told me that he likes seeing me around), and my insecurities (and anxiety) let me blew it! In about a yr and a half i'll be moving back to my homecountry (not bc of him tho), and i just hope that i get a second chance with him (i don't know if thats possible) and then i'll do things the right way this time (just as i learned now from your vids). Bc i really, really like this guy, everything felt right from both sides, and by my own mistakes and insecurities i blew it... I feel so stupid and embarassed right now... Anyways, i subscribed (excuse my grammar, english is not my mother tongue)
This guy I've been with said I'm perfect, caring, sweet, beautiful and that he wanted to be with me for years, though he broke it off after a short while and he ended up long-term dating a girl who is way less beautiful (I'm sorry but it's true) and is known for being difficult. Why would he exchange this amazing thing we had together (I know he felt it too, he said so and acted like it) for that? I'm asking, not because I think so highly of myself, but because guys tell me all the time that I'm perfect and their dreamwoman, and right after I fall in love they drop me... why is this?
I am actually very good at flirting and the game, I always hold a little back and I made him work for me, though I always gave him enough love in return. He kept showing his love for me, he bought me presents, surprised me with a trip and when I got sick in the middle of the night one time he stayed up with me the entire night and rubbed my belly, even though he had to work the next day. He was the one who said that he wanted to take things slow, to build a great relationship with me. RELATIONSHIP. I gave him his space and after a week he told me he didn't want space anymore he just wanted to be with me. But even after all this, he still just broke it off. There is SOMETHING I'm doing wrong, but for the life of me I can't figure out what it is.
He sounds like he was an emotionally unavailable man looking for a door mat! My ex boyfriend did the same thing to me and lived with a girl who looked just like shriek and after reading about sociopaths I figured him out to a t. There's men who can have the most beautiful perfect woman in front of them and they always pick the woman who will do anything for him like probably over looks cheating or she has money or her own place ect? There are good men who don't play these games and will commit but they are so rare. Good luck!
Ohh man this guy was in love with me but im just not attractive to him ...i heard stories where a woman end up with someone whom they dont see attractive at first but keep dating the guy and she just feel in love
lalagirl211 I mean I know times where things are so well but haven't found their so that attractive... but they choose to love them everyday. So i guess it all works out- they are actually happy as they work it out :) i guess it depends what you want out of it.
honestly all of these requirements sound exhausting to live up to just to catch a man. I really feel bad for men and the requirements we want them to live up to lol
+BlackMagnolia dont do them for a man do them for yourself. Your quality of life is based on the quality of your relationships and the quality of your relationships is based on the quality of self. If you hold yourself accountable and raise your standards and everything else falls in place.
hey there is this guy he is psychedelic and wants to live his life freely I know he finds me attractive how can I get him to shift his mindset into dating me.
Two things that u missed thats very important girl that know how to cook and and she can ...... Anyways, dating with a single mother is a deal breaker if her previous relationship ended then maybe it will happen to your relationship with her . Find a responsible, caring female
lalagirl211 I mean I personally dont think it would really be a deal breaker, it just wasnt meant to be with that person. It takes effort to try and make something work- single mother or not. Goes to show who really wants her in this situation ;)
If anyone has this problem and can give me advice, or link to video that gives me advice, I would appreciate it. So here is the problem... I'm not putting myself down by saying this, it's the truth, I'm a bit on the plain side. I good with that. lol I never try to attract a man (my husband died 10 years ago and I can't let go), but for some reason men usually have a need to tell me they're seeing someone. Which I find odd because all I'm trying to do when I speak with them is get info from them so I can help with their sound (I'm a sound tech) but it never fails they have to tell me they're seeing someone. I usually just smile, shake me head, and head to the booth. lol Now after many months of working together and usually becoming their "mother" if they have a problem, I find a certain situation is inevitable. When they have a break up with their chick of choice, I find them crying on my shoulder. I'm always nice and try to listen, although I rarely have advice. I just listen. But than they become attached, especially when they break up. Saying how it should have been me they were with...blah blah blah. I try to tell them as gently as possible, that I can't be their rebound, once their pain is over they'll look for someone new. I don't see the point in hurting myself to help him emotionally or physically get over his ex. It's just not me. The problem is than...they get mad at me. As though somehow it's all my fault. And that anger they have lasts. It's not like they get over it and come back to our friendship. So my question is...how to help them and keep our friendship? No offense, but men are so egocentric, that even being turned down by me, someone they really aren't interested in, gets them mad. What do I do?
you know what while i agree with a few points in here i dnt know how accurate it is i know millions of guys who dated women who embodied all of the mentioned traits only for them to leave her for someone who had the opposite guys dont want predictability they want sexy and uncertain
Dating single moms? Not for the males who have other options. Looking after another woman's kid and dealing with her baggage (there's bound to be SOME, including issues with the child's father, $$ issues, availability issues since the kid becomes the center of the mom's life, and other inevitable drama that comes along with having a kid) doesn't trump these "feminine traits" of "patience and forgiveness" that single moms "only have". Lots of single women have these traits ...it just depends on your personality and psychological disposition. Some girls are more high strung/bpd/bipolar than others. And that's not saying that the latter are bad. They're correlated with high functioning/highly intelligent/highly creative people after all
1) confident
2) nurturing
3) not needy/ controlling
4) loyal
5) he sees it long-term
I have nurturing and loyal. Confidence goes back and forth. Needy ..... I was raised with extreme emotional neglect (homeschooled by crazy people I've since cut off) ..... and that's the one that makes its difficult for me to fix.
“WHATS goin on everybody ITCH your favorite dating coach Elliot Scott”.....😊🤣👍🏻👍🏻
I know right? Gets me every time! 😆 Makes me want to say it out loud; but I totally love it! ☺
and as you can see by the title below...
What I love about this video is that you announce all five items at the very beginning, instead of one by one, and elaborating for a long time on each one throughout the video. Thank you so much this helps a lot, but giving us a direct idea of what each item is, and then afterwords taking time to explain each one. You should use this format more often. Thanks very much :-)
Thank you for vouching for us single moms! I've seen so many TH-cam videos with reasons not to date us. Your words are appreciated. Keep up with the great advice! 😃
I love a good binge watch on your channel!! ❤️
The sound of the rain make this cosy. As if I'm in the car with you. 😊
I agree! I miss having a nice, comforting rainfall. And some thunder. It's too cold for rain where I am in the world.. we got over a foot of snow last night.
Elliot, I just found these videos today. I am fairly new to the dating scene after my divorce. I've been really appreciative of the sound advice you offer. Blunt is important to some of us.
Elliot, thanks for saying positive things about single moms! Ladies, remember that if you are a single mom you need to stay strong and hold out for the right guy.
Hey Elliot, I love your videos and I recommend them to my friends 😃
Love it thank you!!
Elliot why do guys approach me but they never ask for my number?
Hi Elliot,
These videos are truly a gift, like I have a brother available 24/7/365 that gives it to me straight, no sugar coating.
Sincerely,
Christina
Awesome advice! My question now is (or this could be a great next video idea) where to meet quality guys who are looking for what you just described. I don't like going to bars or clubs, sooo where to meet these guys? Like you, you seem to have all the traits that I am attracted to. Where does someone like you hang out or in what setting would you feel comfortable talking to a girl?? Thank you ahead of time!
I'm subscribing because you post consistently
I clicked the bell :) I enjoy your vids Elliot..
Thanks so much for your candor in your videos (not to mention, I love your colorful language). You're pretty spot on and your information reminds me to take off my rose colored romance goggles and step into reality. Thanks again!
Thank you for all these helpful videos and you never fail to make me smile
I came across one of your videos the other day and I subscribed to your channel immediately. So glad I did! Thanks for the input, love your videos.
Thanks hun. I love hearing that
Thank you for this video.
In a video you said "A man doesnt want a woman who doesnt need a man". My question is what signs tell a man she doesnt Need me and How can I show I NEED a man during the first dates?
(Maybe that would be an interesting topic for a video)
Not that hard, just be a person with positive energy, kind and forgiving. Not because u want relationship, but because you want to be loving.
Its awesome to watch all these dating love coach advice videos because... at most times there are alot of vids that totally cross eachother, but i think its great since I get to see different types of guys in different perspectives. Thanks Elliot for being a solid, blunt, and very honest person, your viewpoint is an interesting one. 😎✨
Thanks for vouching for us single moms
The loyalty part seems like a double edge sword because I've heard on other videos that it's important to create the idea that the guy has competition.
Hi I'm newly separated (20 year relationship) ( 6 months ago)I have 2 teen sons, about 2-3 months ago my friend suggested a friend of hers I friend request him and we talked a little he himself recently got out of a bad relationship, but while he's not dating nor am I we barely talk ( my friend suggested that maybe he's giving me space to get over breakup? And grow ) how do I know if this is true? I have never dated anyone but my ex so very new to this
Your videos are amazing in helping me understand how to get closer to this shy guy I'm crushing on ❤ you're the best Elliott!!!
I've been binge watching on your videos! Thanks for your videos! Prayers and support! With the love I have for a guy I like. your videos again makes me smile and have hope!! Happy 2017 upcoming can't wait for what's next ❤️😀
wow thank you so much for this
Guys, I clicked on the ebook link and it said that the book will arrive shortly, but it hasn't been sent to my e-mail yet (24h+). Any advice?
Hi Metra, the same thing happened to me, try firts to see the spam folder, then if it is not that sometimes hotmail rejects mails that send to you that contains links. If you do not succeed with that send to Elly an email (elliotscottservices@gmail.com) , he will solve it in a sec, he can send you a pdf :) , the book is 100 % awesome, so good, clear and on top of that funny and entertaining, you will love it. Hope this info helps you, xoxo
Flavia de Robles Thanks so much for helping me out ❤ Happy new year!
Your wellcome :) !!! Happy new for you 2
I have those nurturing traits from teaching kids :)
"Bitch in his tribe" love it 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for another great video!
Apparently I have all the qualities of a long term friend zone. A fwb situation is starting to look appealing but I don't know how to go about that either lol. Not sure I'm ready for a relationship anyway as I'm going through a divorce right now but I'm learning so much from your videos I'll actually know what I'm doing when I am ready!
hi elliot, i was wondering if you could do a video about if zodiac signs make a difference in relashondhip? thank you
I just discovered this channel and i must admit that a lot these videos were a true eye opener for me. I fell in love with someone back in the summer (while i was on vacation in my home country), and normally i don't fall in love so easily. If i fall in love with someone is mostly bc i like the vibe i'm getting from that person, how i feel when i'm near that person. And that almost never happens! Long story short, i went waaaaayy out of my comfort zone and told him (through a small letter, bc i was too damn nervous to talk to him) that i liked him for years, his response was very positive and he was also interested, and then... i blew it (and these videos confirms it too)!!! I've never approached someone in my life (and now this is the first and last time). When i went back home, a few days later, he blocked me on whatsapp bc i was so damn annoying/clingy. It hurts like hell bc i genuinly felt that he liked me too (he even told me that he likes seeing me around), and my insecurities (and anxiety) let me blew it! In about a yr and a half i'll be moving back to my homecountry (not bc of him tho), and i just hope that i get a second chance with him (i don't know if thats possible) and then i'll do things the right way this time (just as i learned now from your vids). Bc i really, really like this guy, everything felt right from both sides, and by my own mistakes and insecurities i blew it... I feel so stupid and embarassed right now... Anyways, i subscribed (excuse my grammar, english is not my mother tongue)
my ex use to be called my bitch..ugh men are so insecure..
Colette Weier ok? i don't understand what that has to do with my comment tho...
i love your vidios my friend i just come across them today
This guy I've been with said I'm perfect, caring, sweet, beautiful and that he wanted to be with me for years, though he broke it off after a short while and he ended up long-term dating a girl who is way less beautiful (I'm sorry but it's true) and is known for being difficult. Why would he exchange this amazing thing we had together (I know he felt it too, he said so and acted like it) for that? I'm asking, not because I think so highly of myself, but because guys tell me all the time that I'm perfect and their dreamwoman, and right after I fall in love they drop me... why is this?
I am actually very good at flirting and the game, I always hold a little back and I made him work for me, though I always gave him enough love in return. He kept showing his love for me, he bought me presents, surprised me with a trip and when I got sick in the middle of the night one time he stayed up with me the entire night and rubbed my belly, even though he had to work the next day. He was the one who said that he wanted to take things slow, to build a great relationship with me. RELATIONSHIP. I gave him his space and after a week he told me he didn't want space anymore he just wanted to be with me. But even after all this, he still just broke it off. There is SOMETHING I'm doing wrong, but for the life of me I can't figure out what it is.
Well, not to brag but, I think I have that covered hahahaha.
Carré Albers 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm glad
Too short for me Star
He sounds like he was an emotionally unavailable man looking for a door mat! My ex boyfriend did the same thing to me and lived with a girl who looked just like shriek and after reading about sociopaths I figured him out to a t. There's men who can have the most beautiful perfect woman in front of them and they always pick the woman who will do anything for him like probably over looks cheating or she has money or her own place ect? There are good men who don't play these games and will commit but they are so rare. Good luck!
"he's a bitch" omg I'm dying😂
This explains why I'll always be single. 😅
I clicked the bell. You gotta love me forever 😊
Good advice!
thank u sooo much for everything
Ohh man this guy was in love with me but im just not attractive to him ...i heard stories where a woman end up with someone whom they dont see attractive at first but keep dating the guy and she just feel in love
lalagirl211 I mean I know times where things are so well but haven't found their so that attractive... but they choose to love them everyday. So i guess it all works out- they are actually happy as they work it out :) i guess it depends what you want out of it.
Mari Alvarez so r u saying keep dating the guy ?
I wish guys could fall in love with a girl this way by dating her but unfortunately they are shallow
honestly all of these requirements sound exhausting to live up to just to catch a man. I really feel bad for men and the requirements we want them to live up to lol
+BlackMagnolia dont do them for a man do them for yourself. Your quality of life is based on the quality of your relationships and the quality of your relationships is based on the quality of self. If you hold yourself accountable and raise your standards and everything else falls in place.
Precisely! Hope you had a great New Years. Big Hugs!!
Even if you're extremely loyal, they still leave. I would never cheat, yet I still can't keep them around.
They are not design to stick around anymore
Thank you so much
Great video!!
This is my favorite video
Why do you record the videos in your car?
Single mom ..got my shit together. confident..hot as fuck..lol..just got to get rid of my trust issues. .lol
thank you for this n ur help in my email 😀
hey there is this guy he is psychedelic and wants to live his life freely I know he finds me attractive how can I get him to shift his mindset into dating me.
+Ah-Fock Emilie i may make a vid on that soon
I always want to just frolic in your man bun. 🤗 It looks so fun and like it's fully of curly surprises! 😉😍😘
Ericaa haha same. That's a cute comment. 😄
Two things that u missed thats very important girl that know how to cook and and she can ...... Anyways, dating with a single mother is a deal breaker if her previous relationship ended then maybe it will happen to your relationship with her . Find a responsible, caring female
lalagirl211 I mean I personally dont think it would really be a deal breaker, it just wasnt meant to be with that person. It takes effort to try and make something work- single mother or not. Goes to show who really wants her in this situation ;)
Mari Alvarez okay but for me i dont want to date someone that has a kid thats just my preference
If anyone has this problem and can give me advice, or link to video that gives me advice, I would appreciate it.
So here is the problem...
I'm not putting myself down by saying this, it's the truth, I'm a bit on the plain side. I good with that. lol I never try to attract a man (my husband died 10 years ago and I can't let go), but for some reason men usually have a need to tell me they're seeing someone. Which I find odd because all I'm trying to do when I speak with them is get info from them so I can help with their sound (I'm a sound tech) but it never fails they have to tell me they're seeing someone. I usually just smile, shake me head, and head to the booth. lol
Now after many months of working together and usually becoming their "mother" if they have a problem, I find a certain situation is inevitable. When they have a break up with their chick of choice, I find them crying on my shoulder. I'm always nice and try to listen, although I rarely have advice. I just listen. But than they become attached, especially when they break up. Saying how it should have been me they were with...blah blah blah. I try to tell them as gently as possible, that I can't be their rebound, once their pain is over they'll look for someone new. I don't see the point in hurting myself to help him emotionally or physically get over his ex. It's just not me.
The problem is than...they get mad at me. As though somehow it's all my fault. And that anger they have lasts. It's not like they get over it and come back to our friendship.
So my question is...how to help them and keep our friendship? No offense, but men are so egocentric, that even being turned down by me, someone they really aren't interested in, gets them mad.
What do I do?
please wear your hair down for me ❤❤
Damn hun you really want that hair down huh? ha
Elliot Scott Dating She wants that hair down. Do it Do it Do it!
Elliot Scott Dating what can I say I like the long hair I just want to see it down once. please.
Single mama of two here
Happy New Year Elliot!!!
Hey you! hope all is well. Happy new years to you too hun
party like rock star sounds great 👍
I like this guy if a had a chance I would date him
..🤗
you said you don't have a chance?
Why do u do this in ur car?
But single mom is a red flag!! Baggage
he says red flags but doesn't actually list any.
samantha wilson he has a video on red flags
Thanks.
You are so handsome 😩
Who misses this intro 😭😭
If a guy is joking with a girl about having a baby together, is it literally just a joke?
Damn I wish I could get 78 views in 9 mins!!! 😮 so jealous
you know what while i agree with a few points in here i dnt know how accurate it is i know millions of guys who dated women who embodied all of the mentioned traits only for them to leave her for someone who had the opposite guys dont want predictability they want sexy and uncertain
You lost me at "men have resources, women have services". Women don't need to be of service to men
Emily Rose then men shouldn't provide neither! Life is all about give and take, please stop with the double standards
I think he means, she has reproductive services that only women can provide i.e. bearing children.
good,never going to be one..
Your so cute!
Dating single moms? Not for the males who have other options. Looking after another woman's kid and dealing with her baggage (there's bound to be SOME, including issues with the child's father, $$ issues, availability issues since the kid becomes the center of the mom's life, and other inevitable drama that comes along with having a kid) doesn't trump these "feminine traits" of "patience and forgiveness" that single moms "only have". Lots of single women have these traits ...it just depends on your personality and psychological disposition. Some girls are more high strung/bpd/bipolar than others. And that's not saying that the latter are bad. They're correlated with high functioning/highly intelligent/highly creative people after all
U R SO FUNNY
#singlemomsstrong who's with me!?