I feel like people are scared of showing the "bad side" of being trans because that will give an argument to people against trans people, and that's, tbfh, bullshit. I hate how nowadays transtioning is shown by people as this thing with absolutely no side effect, going smoothly, everything is rainbow and glitters, everyone's happy transitioning etc. It's gotten to the point where people start transtioning without looking at the risk and side effects. People going "Yeah you can go off on T if you don't like the changes it's okay", no, because your voice, once changed, will never go back, you'll have to deal with people looking at you weird because you present female with a deep voice. There's changes you can't reverse, and people don't understand that, they think it's something you can do and stop at any time if you're not happy. That being trans in the end is a "choice" when... It's not. Stuff I've heard also from people starting hormones with no knowledge on it whatsoever were people getting pregnant because they thought "If it stops my period then I'm infertile" when no, that's not how it works. I've also seen people on hormones not knowing that, well, if you start testosterone and want the change to last, it's a life thing. If you stop T, some changes will revert back, like body fat which are what helps having a more masculine appaerance. I see a lot of people being against hysteroctomy, but for the bad reasons. Hysteroctomy should be a choice, but the choice should be made with the knowledge. If you don't get hysteroctomy, you need to check every 5 years if your body there is okay. That's just a medical protocol to make sure you're okay, it has nothing to do with transphobia. I don't know, I feel like lately people just wanna share the good stuff and side, but don't dare talk about the rest. It's as if going into a life changing procedure shouldn't be scary, no matter how sure you are. People wanna make everything short, you should be able to get hormones as quickly as possible, no matter what, not even looking at the side effect. Therapy shouldn't be a thing anymore, because it's "making the idea that trans people are sick". Like no, getting therapy for a life changing decision is normal. People who go under surgeries because they loose and arm or a leg gets therapy, so why shouldn't trans people get that same support without being seen as freaks. Being trans isn't a nightmare, but it's not the perfect picture people try to paint either. It's just being human. People need to stop showing only the shiny side of the coin and aknowledge that there's a second side of it, less shiny and pretty. Both exist in a whole. I wish you the best, you're not alone in this ! I hope everything will go smoothly for you. I also want to tell you that I think you pass very well, if I were to pass you in the streets I would never think you're a girl. Do what's the best for you, be yourself, your true self. Good luck man !
I know what you mean about wishing to just be a girl. If I could just be a cis girl then that would be much easier than being transgender. However the reality is that I'm trans and I need to accept that and do what I need to do. If I had to choose between being a cis guy or cis girl I would absolutely choose guy though.
Brother I'm really glad you posted that video about some of the negative shit and some of our struggles, as a trans masculine person myself. But that first comment had some really heavy terf dog whistles imo. Live your truth and be honest, but be careful about what arguments you listen too because some people will try to gas light you into thinking you're wrong about yourself. These strangers on the internet do not know you. You know you. You know what is going to make you happy. But also, everyone benefits from therapy. So like. Do that for more than just gender shit. Lol. P.s. you may want to script your videos a little more if people are confused, but also. Random strangers on the internet don't matter. Like me for example, I am entirely irrelevant to your life.
I want to test how much you you wish you didn’t mind being called she/her. Let’s set that world up: if I gave you a magic wand and said, wave this wand and tomorrow you wake up pre-transition, with out any desire to be male. Do you do it? Or maybe would it be more accurate to say that you wish it was easier to present the way you want and You wish paper work was easier at work. Maybe you wish you had insurance to cover costs. I’ve been there too dude. When I’m having a really bad day bc the road seems tough or I don’t feel good enough, I say I wish I didn’t feel this way too. But I gotta remind myself everything worth having in life is hard to attain. And my desires for what I want in life are just as valid as anybody else’s. This is the world we live in today. Maybe the world of the future has no gender, but we’re never gonna see that day. Keep being you brother 💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜
I wouldn’t mind being called she/her once I get top surgery.. yeah I’d take that, I wish I had no desire to be male. Since that’s not the case yes of course, the reason why I’m having such a hard transition is because I’m not passing, not getting the paper work done fast & no insurance it sucks man. Yeah I wish it was easier to transition. Thanks for giving me something to think about man💙💙
I feel like people are scared of showing the "bad side" of being trans because that will give an argument to people against trans people, and that's, tbfh, bullshit.
I hate how nowadays transtioning is shown by people as this thing with absolutely no side effect, going smoothly, everything is rainbow and glitters, everyone's happy transitioning etc. It's gotten to the point where people start transtioning without looking at the risk and side effects. People going "Yeah you can go off on T if you don't like the changes it's okay", no, because your voice, once changed, will never go back, you'll have to deal with people looking at you weird because you present female with a deep voice. There's changes you can't reverse, and people don't understand that, they think it's something you can do and stop at any time if you're not happy. That being trans in the end is a "choice" when... It's not.
Stuff I've heard also from people starting hormones with no knowledge on it whatsoever were people getting pregnant because they thought "If it stops my period then I'm infertile" when no, that's not how it works. I've also seen people on hormones not knowing that, well, if you start testosterone and want the change to last, it's a life thing. If you stop T, some changes will revert back, like body fat which are what helps having a more masculine appaerance. I see a lot of people being against hysteroctomy, but for the bad reasons. Hysteroctomy should be a choice, but the choice should be made with the knowledge. If you don't get hysteroctomy, you need to check every 5 years if your body there is okay. That's just a medical protocol to make sure you're okay, it has nothing to do with transphobia.
I don't know, I feel like lately people just wanna share the good stuff and side, but don't dare talk about the rest. It's as if going into a life changing procedure shouldn't be scary, no matter how sure you are. People wanna make everything short, you should be able to get hormones as quickly as possible, no matter what, not even looking at the side effect. Therapy shouldn't be a thing anymore, because it's "making the idea that trans people are sick". Like no, getting therapy for a life changing decision is normal. People who go under surgeries because they loose and arm or a leg gets therapy, so why shouldn't trans people get that same support without being seen as freaks.
Being trans isn't a nightmare, but it's not the perfect picture people try to paint either. It's just being human. People need to stop showing only the shiny side of the coin and aknowledge that there's a second side of it, less shiny and pretty. Both exist in a whole.
I wish you the best, you're not alone in this ! I hope everything will go smoothly for you. I also want to tell you that I think you pass very well, if I were to pass you in the streets I would never think you're a girl.
Do what's the best for you, be yourself, your true self. Good luck man !
Yo, thanks man, I agree!! 🖤🤟🏽
I know what you mean about wishing to just be a girl. If I could just be a cis girl then that would be much easier than being transgender. However the reality is that I'm trans and I need to accept that and do what I need to do. If I had to choose between being a cis guy or cis girl I would absolutely choose guy though.
Yeah I mean I wish I was a happy cis male or female I just wish I could just be happy in the body I was born in.
Brother I'm really glad you posted that video about some of the negative shit and some of our struggles, as a trans masculine person myself. But that first comment had some really heavy terf dog whistles imo. Live your truth and be honest, but be careful about what arguments you listen too because some people will try to gas light you into thinking you're wrong about yourself. These strangers on the internet do not know you. You know you. You know what is going to make you happy. But also, everyone benefits from therapy. So like. Do that for more than just gender shit. Lol.
P.s. you may want to script your videos a little more if people are confused, but also. Random strangers on the internet don't matter. Like me for example, I am entirely irrelevant to your life.
Lol yeah true trueee
I want to test how much you you wish you didn’t mind being called she/her. Let’s set that world up: if I gave you a magic wand and said, wave this wand and tomorrow you wake up pre-transition, with out any desire to be male. Do you do it?
Or maybe would it be more accurate to say that you wish it was easier to present the way you want and You wish paper work was easier at work. Maybe you wish you had insurance to cover costs.
I’ve been there too dude. When I’m having a really bad day bc the road seems tough or I don’t feel good enough, I say I wish I didn’t feel this way too. But I gotta remind myself everything worth having in life is hard to attain. And my desires for what I want in life are just as valid as anybody else’s. This is the world we live in today. Maybe the world of the future has no gender, but we’re never gonna see that day.
Keep being you brother 💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜🏳️⚧️💜
I wouldn’t mind being called she/her once I get top surgery.. yeah I’d take that, I wish I had no desire to be male. Since that’s not the case yes of course, the reason why I’m having such a hard transition is because I’m not passing, not getting the paper work done fast & no insurance it sucks man. Yeah I wish it was easier to transition. Thanks for giving me something to think about man💙💙