Hilary, I truly wish more therapists -- and people in general knew about the need for this kind of hug -- and especially how healing SAFE, non sexual touch can be. I live alone and when struggling I tend to isolate. When I had therapy for a while it was by phone so I have really felt alone, unseen and invisible lately -- much as I did during my childhood trauma. To add to the stress, I have a fairly new friend who used to be my home health aide. She had to quit and I had at that point only known her 2 months but despite my usual trust issues, I felt at ease with her and I felt she was professional and had a pleasant personality. When she left we decided to be friends. However she lives with a very controlling boyfriend so our only way of communication is texts and occasionally a visit. Each time she visits she says "I don't have a lot of time, sorry." Granted she recently had to get a full time job because he won't work at all but I struggle because I'm the emotional support for everyone in my life, including her. Yet today I just wanted someone to see me and validate.my struggle , I wanted to matter to her, to someone and I felt the childish need to be held. She left anyway although she did give me a quick hug. I still felt sad though. Not sure why.
I watched this video. I receive these full body hugs from therapist. Before this video i was sure that im like, going too close to her... I tried like to step back, to not be that close, or stay too long, like very afraid to make her uncomfortable. But she just stands there and like allows me to glue myself to her completely.... Wow.... And this is what they guys teach to you therapists? I thought like...im the one doing something wrong. Im soo confused actualy now.
I cant make sense now and messaged it to my therapist that i am frekin shocked..... WHY WOULD ANYONE want to hug ME?!? What the actual hell?!?!? It doesnt make sense to me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Ended up at this video after bad anxiety after today's hug and just needing to know 😭😭😭 did i do smth wrong 😭😭😭 and u sayin i didnt?!? 😭😭😭 I even wrote message to her, asked if i did anything wrong...... I saw her read but not answer (she told 3 yrs ago i can write but she might not answer and very rare she does, she didnt, but the bad anxiety, and i started googling) U BLOWED MY MIND LADY
Like....i will still have to ask her to ne 101% sure but it already makes TOO MUCH sense, like, why would she allow me glue full body to her all these years if she would be anyhow against?!?!? Why would she smile after?!?!? (Like, actualy i thought she smiles and thinks smth bad about me that moment, cuz my anxiety) but omg now i remember the thing that i dont read minds 😭😭😭😭😭 omg. Idk what to do with this information
Sorry for spamming comments i am absolutely shocked and overwhelmed. I always was the one BEGGING for hugs all my life and being rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected..... And now u saying she might not be just "letting me do it tho she hates it" but that....i mean....if she is a healthy person...which i believe she is....she wont let it if she would not be ok with it....literaly means she wants it....and im SHOCKED
I hope this video reaches more and more people. I know the pain of not being touched very well. Little to none growing up. Little to none now. Its awful. But when i do get a good long hug it feels amazing. More amazing for me than for other people. Those who have ppl they can routinely hug will never comprehend just how healing it truely is. I hope i can get more soon. Thank you for this video
My therapist asked me for a hug yesterday. I went with it, but didn't feel comfortable at all. He said " maybe we can have a regular hug". I felt extremely uncomfortable and it crossed a professional line. At the end of our session he hugged again. He's never done this before and he brought up about my sexuality and things which is simply not appropriate
Hi! Hilary! This is Jermey McGuire, I have lion that’s hand carved. When I’m upset I listen to rainbow from Kacey Musgraves I gab the lion and hug it, when no one is not available, don’t judge me when I’m upset I don’t want to talk. I want to hug it out.” I find hugging is therapeutic; it feels so good to hug. I’m a hugger and take my hus so seriously!!! You need to checkout rainbow from Kacey Musgraves. You need to play rainbow for your clients, When there too upset too talk. I Love You So Much Hilary!!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 P.S my favorite word is I Love You. I Love telling my family and friends I love them.” Your clients need to hear someone tell them I Love You. And we all need to hear I Love You From Family and friends,
Hi Hillary, As a blind person i have trouble acquiring normal amounts of human touch. I do love to hug but I'm not sure of the right way to do so. Is it most proper for a man to put his arms around her waist? Should she put her arms over the man's shoulder? or a mixture?
We need to hug more in this society. It starts killing the soul when we aren't getting them. 😢
Hilary, I truly wish more therapists -- and people in general knew about the need for this kind of hug -- and especially how healing SAFE, non sexual touch can be. I live alone and when struggling I tend to isolate. When I had therapy for a while it was by phone so I have really felt alone, unseen and invisible lately -- much as I did during my childhood trauma. To add to the stress, I have a fairly new friend who used to be my home health aide. She had to quit and I had at that point only known her 2 months but despite my usual trust issues, I felt at ease with her and I felt she was professional and had a pleasant personality. When she left we decided to be friends. However she lives with a very controlling boyfriend so our only way of communication is texts and occasionally a visit. Each time she visits she says "I don't have a lot of time, sorry." Granted she recently had to get a full time job because he won't work at all but I struggle because I'm the emotional support for everyone in my life, including her. Yet today I just wanted someone to see me and validate.my struggle , I wanted to matter to her, to someone and I felt the childish need to be held. She left anyway although she did give me a quick hug. I still felt sad though. Not sure why.
I watched this video. I receive these full body hugs from therapist. Before this video i was sure that im like, going too close to her... I tried like to step back, to not be that close, or stay too long, like very afraid to make her uncomfortable. But she just stands there and like allows me to glue myself to her completely.... Wow.... And this is what they guys teach to you therapists? I thought like...im the one doing something wrong. Im soo confused actualy now.
I cant make sense now and messaged it to my therapist that i am frekin shocked..... WHY WOULD ANYONE want to hug ME?!? What the actual hell?!?!? It doesnt make sense to me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Ended up at this video after bad anxiety after today's hug and just needing to know 😭😭😭 did i do smth wrong 😭😭😭 and u sayin i didnt?!? 😭😭😭 I even wrote message to her, asked if i did anything wrong...... I saw her read but not answer (she told 3 yrs ago i can write but she might not answer and very rare she does, she didnt, but the bad anxiety, and i started googling) U BLOWED MY MIND LADY
Like....i will still have to ask her to ne 101% sure but it already makes TOO MUCH sense, like, why would she allow me glue full body to her all these years if she would be anyhow against?!?!? Why would she smile after?!?!? (Like, actualy i thought she smiles and thinks smth bad about me that moment, cuz my anxiety) but omg now i remember the thing that i dont read minds 😭😭😭😭😭 omg. Idk what to do with this information
Sorry for spamming comments i am absolutely shocked and overwhelmed. I always was the one BEGGING for hugs all my life and being rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected..... And now u saying she might not be just "letting me do it tho she hates it" but that....i mean....if she is a healthy person...which i believe she is....she wont let it if she would not be ok with it....literaly means she wants it....and im SHOCKED
I hope this video reaches more and more people. I know the pain of not being touched very well. Little to none growing up. Little to none now. Its awful. But when i do get a good long hug it feels amazing. More amazing for me than for other people. Those who have ppl they can routinely hug will never comprehend just how healing it truely is. I hope i can get more soon. Thank you for this video
Sending hugs! Thx for connecting.
Hilary, I wish every child grew up with those soothing hugs 🫂. However, I believe it is never too late to start.
I miss getting hugs. Oh my goodness. 👍💫
Sweet! Big hug to you!
It reminds me of “Waitress” the Adrienne Shelly movie where there is a memorable hug scene
What and how can you tell about client by how they hug you back?
My therapist asked me for a hug yesterday. I went with it, but didn't feel comfortable at all. He said " maybe we can have a regular hug". I felt extremely uncomfortable and it crossed a professional line. At the end of our session he hugged again. He's never done this before and he brought up about my sexuality and things which is simply not appropriate
Find a new therapist. You should never feel uncomfortable in THAT way with anyone, esp a therapist.
I am scared and upset at the same time
Hi! Hilary! This is Jermey McGuire, I have lion that’s hand carved. When I’m upset I listen to rainbow from Kacey Musgraves I gab the lion and hug it, when no one is not available, don’t judge me when I’m upset I don’t want to talk. I want to hug it out.” I find hugging is therapeutic; it feels so good to hug. I’m a hugger and take my hus so seriously!!! You need to checkout rainbow from Kacey Musgraves. You need to play rainbow for your clients,
When there too upset too talk. I Love You So Much Hilary!!!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
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P.S my favorite word is I Love You. I Love telling my family and friends I love them.”
Your clients need to hear someone tell them I Love You. And we all need to hear I Love You From Family and friends,
Hi Hillary, As a blind person i have trouble acquiring normal amounts of human touch. I do love to hug but I'm not sure of the right way to do so. Is it most proper for a man to put his arms around her waist? Should she put her arms over the man's shoulder? or a mixture?
I do not feel safe
CAN BARELYYY HEAR YOUUUU
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