Mental health VS students of India | Why mental health is a big issue in India | Abhi and Niyu
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In this video, Abhi and Niyu discuss the problem of Mental Health Awareness and education in India. In India 1 out of 4 kids is suffering from mild to severe depression. 74% of Indian children go through stress and less than 1% get the required medical attention for it. Let's make a collection of resources and helplines that can help the people of India find logical solutions and make India a happier place!
#MentalHealth #education #abhiandniyu
00:00 Mental Health Awareness in India
01:35 Unhealthy competition
02:36 Social media and anxiety
03:34 Impact of lockdown on mental health
04:31 Solutions and helplines
05:34 Conclusion
06:28 My experience with health
A video by Abhiraj Rajadhyaksha & Niyati Mavinkurve
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Let's raise awareness about Mental health and make sure talking about it is NOT taboo! If you need therapy - it is OKAY! Taking professional help is not a sign of weakness.
Please make video on Anuj Dhar sir
He is doing great work in field of research about our history❤️
Make video on positive and negative points about mahatma gandhi jee 🇮🇳🇮🇳
Make a video on Dance+ racist episode.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR LISTENING TO MY SUGGESTION..JUST CAN FORGET IT❤💯🥰
u guys are doing a great thing
The sad truth is:
98% viewers are students😔
Not parents.
Yes
Yes man you right
BoHOT SAHI BAAT KAHI HAI APNE
Yes
99%
According to (some) Indian parents there is no such thing as depression 🙂
😢
Sad but true
True 😂
Me : mom dad i think I'm depressed
Parent's: aese koii cheez hi nhi hoti yeh sab doglapan hai jaa jake padhai kar dekh shoaib aftab ne 720 marks laaye tujhe kam se kam 800 to lane hi honge
So true...
They think depression is some kind of disease that we're even forbidden to talk about that..
I also suffered from anxiety and stress disorder when I was a teenager. I took courage to tell my parents that I wanted to meet a psychologist and they were too supportive and helped me.
lucky you ......
And we unfortunately can't tell to our parents
@@Unknown14bb exactly we can't even think to say that
You're lucky💜
You are so lucky
I am a neet aspirant
My 11th wasted
Not because I wasn't serious there was no guidance
While coming to 12th i realised the perfect way of my self study
But after first test of 12 which was so easy and most of my batchmates scroed 600+ i got 246 and -4 in phy
I started to focus on physics
But after 1 week of hard work
Now I have dark circles unable to focus
Not being able to solve any questions
Not able to understand anything
I am not able to sleep during night
And sometimes sleep all day and night
Like for more than 12 Hours
Pressure from coaching and society
And hopes of my parents
( I belong to lower middle class but my parents didn't forced me to choose this path but every middle class parents wants their child to have a proper job
Which is not wrong but slowly i am realising i am not made for this
Well i am gonna try my first attempt
If it happens it happens
If doesn't i am not gonna try again
Edit: I am focusing on self improvement
I am better now
Good luck man 💞
@@Chirstian_725 thanks mate
I am in better situation now I talked to my parents they supported me
My studies are back on track
And my chances of selection has increased
I am gonna try my best
I will my everything but never gonna kill myself
Life is beautiful if you have a strong mindset
Hope you also live a peaceful and happy life
And get a chance to meet BTS😂💜
@@Charlotte_Katakuri_825 same situation I'm going through rn and I don't know what to do yet, I hope you get selected and have a great life 🤍
What was it actually..? The very same thing happened to me for 2 long years and I was bed ridden.. I used to sleep almost all day and I could not read anything coz I couldn't understand.. terrible brainfog..I was irritated.. my wt increased to 90.. and I was suicidal but all i could do was sleep...
I could never understand what it was.. can you tell me so that I can find ways to tackle it if it happens in future? It woupd be really helpful.
Thanks.
@@nayansaxena4592 well ny weight is also so much like around more than 90
But I am working on it
I am still learning but from the experience of past 1 and 1/2 years I can say that
Go for walk in morning for at least 20 mins
In a park or garden near nature
If ever feel low talk to your loved ones
Mummi papa or any friend
Fortunately I got 2 really good friends and maa-papa supported me
Use your phone as a tool
Like writing to do list
Using timers etc
And most important thing
Don't/no use social media
Using social media at first doesn't feel like a big issue for students but later on you would realise that your most of the time was consumed by it....some stuff on social media can demotivate you also
For eg I read a post about mbbs I was so scared that I didn't studied for 10 days...just because in that post there was description of further struggle in college and life
So summary at last😂
Social media use must be limited
Prioritise your health
Never study at night
Night sleep is important
And never listen to negative things
Like those shit heads relatives
why indian youth are dipressed-
1.thanks to parents who dont know how to raise a kid.
2.great teachers
Not at alll ....you fucking students are also reason....why you get depressed.... we should talk to others about problem, depression....and we should not think about anything so much ....just do karma don't fear for failure......
@@AYUSH-kw1lq it's easy to say but it's difficult to face
@@riyavaryani799 it is easy....jee syllabus padho tab pta chale depression🥴
@@AYUSH-kw1lq Imao are u 5 or 4?
@@AYUSH-kw1lq itna confidence miljaye toh life set hain.
I guess our generation will be the best parents 🙂
Yessss.....I swear I will never gonna do this to my child. Instead told them to learn life rather than answers. I know the meaning of being compared, pressured and will never do this to anyone else.
Every generation, thinks the same.
@@kashettyavp yes but what we think is true and what ours parents think is false
I don't think so
well at least that's the goal
I feel so better seeing everyone just like me suffering the same . Let's promise our future generation will never face such situation ✨ . Even if our parents and teachers don't understand, we can always help eachother through internet and all :) and build a better future. We have to do it
My point is parents are so proud to understand that they can't make mistake or misunderstood their child needs..
Students preparing for Exams like JEE and NEET should never hesistate to visit a mental doctor if they feel weird like Nerves beating etc etc. Believe me they can help a lot, I myself am a victim
but no one helps tbh
Ya I too felt the same last year , dark phase of my life
Yeah i tried contacting counselor but every1 is like take online career test nd all n9body is ready to talk .
jee mains in 2-3 months 😩
@@revatt2307 yeah bro 🥺🥺
Depression = pagal
(mindset of grownups)
That's why people are shy(scared) to say
Exactly 😔😔
And Therapists= Pagal log ke doctor
@@jameslalruatpuia7633 this can make depressed people normal.
@@jameslalruatpuia7633 😂 mujhe ye banna tha and my mom dad said the same thing
@@jameslalruatpuia7633 sahi baat h log smajhte h ki pagalkahne jaa rha h
I am a student of 2020-2021 batch and I still remember how badly everyone was trolling us after board results!! No one thought how we spent the last year of our school life confined in our house away from our friends and it was worse for students who had toxic or abusive parents.
Only these two people in whole of India had the intellect to bring such an important topic out. So brave. Thank you guys
Believe me even toppers are too depressed.
The pressure they get from parents to maintain the rank in school , fear what will others think if you didn't get a rank... trauma of what your friends will think , your results is like the visiting Card of your parents and you have to update it every year....That pressure of maintaining a ideal student image. It's just so much to handle.
And there are no other reasons you just get deviated from path the lecture and taunt you get about this for long time
Well l'm not a topper but l totally understand what you wanna say.
Finally a guy who understands me
Truth
Exactly
100% relatable
This made me cry just because I feel someone actually cares about OUR MENTAL HEALTH... Thank you soo much for coming up with this
edit: THANK YOU FOR 3.2K LIKES!!!
Same bro 😭😭😭😭😭😭🥺i sent this to my father
Same. 🌚🙃
Don't worry you are not alone....❤️
Same
I'm not even 13 but I always think about cutting myself.
the amount of stress us students have to go through is terrible. There was a point where i was stressing for my finnals so much that I didnt get my periods for 4 MONTHS STRAIGHT BECAUSE OF TRRIBLE STRESS !!!
Thankyou for understanding more that my parents 😔
People overhyping up and overglamorizing board exams and competitive exams like NEET and JEE is the biggest stress for students
And once you get into a Uni you'll realise what a waste of time it was in your life
@@hypotonic333 exactly they don't care about it anymore
@@hypotonic333 seriously. I got into a medical school and now I'm thinking was it even worth to sacrifice a carefree life to study for the sake of a fricking entrance test?
Yes I am in class 10 th and in my class more than 90% student want to go in iit amd the a liittle number of student want to give neet exam.and it is the same everywhere. And the rest wanna be CA. and most of the student think this no body want to do other jobs
@@rishabhrai5483 I know right! I'm almost done with my first year of engineering... And realise that there are so many different fields i could get into, and avoid all this stressful havoc to begin with. Yaar that's what happens when the generation gap between you and your parents is too much. They don't even try to understand today's market and life, but just keep chanting their mantra of " take a stable profession and settle in life " . Anyways, since you're still in 10th, I wouldn't go deeper into this aspect. Honest opinion as a senior : Just don't fall into this blackhole of formulae, stress and depression ( the story of most of the PCM folks )... PCM for sure is a good field and offers you a variety of interesting jobs in future too... But don't really compromise your health just to focus on scoring extremely well in your 11th and 12th... I personally suffered a lot during those times too :) Don't take life too serious... There are always ways to get what you want... And taking PCM doesn't in 11th and 12th isn't even a thing, because around 30% of my friends who were in my class have either taken up Graphical/Animation or have forked into commerce stream! SO CHILL BUDDY!
Best wishes
The worst thing is, we can't even share this to our parents cuz we already know what their answers would be!
yeah fr
So true
fr fr
I wish that this video will get automatically recommended to my parents 🥲
@@_mrk347_ Highly unlikely as they don't watch these types of videos, so they won't be getting recommended. And even if one my parents get, they won't bother viewing : ))
even all the people who comment are depressed due to behaviour of indian parents but still have a smile on their face...sad truth but real🥺
society ko to bilkul fark hi nhi padta . they think ki bache mature ho rhe hai and its part of their life.
i some times cry when i am alone.
It happens
Mere saath 9 months se ho Raha hu
Kota kills
Being a psychology student I can understand that how people suffer what makes them depressed and people hesitate to share which a big problem .This video is very good for those and everyone else also .☺️
Me I was never depressed
@@itsaumlakhtariya1323 lucky you having a smooth ride aaahh
@@chrryxblossm let's let this generation know that everything is temporary problem too because they are just innocent about this world
@@itsaumlakhtariya1323 ya I don't even care about these smaller problem
If you won't to know how to be like sigma so see bigger problem like what happen if I don't get job in future this will help you to forget about your mark
@@itsaumlakhtariya1323 ❣️
"Compare with the input instead of output" worth praising 🔥
true man.. this line is one of the most important thing to follow.
Exactly! Parents, before comparing your child to any kinda topper/talented kid, see for yourself what kind of input, what sorts of efforts you fill into your child. There's lazy parents like mine who never really did jackshit for us in studying but expected topper like results.
I am an avid mental health awareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💚❤️
Mera Teenage chla gya ,acha bnne k chakkar m ,pta nhi kisko ,kya proof kr rhi thi ,na koi skill h ,na koi hobby,na conversation skills ,na koi dost .....sbko lgta h ,ye toh topper h ..,lonely feel aati h yaar,10th ki topper ,12th m topper ,aur 2 saal Neet Dropper ...
Bachpana toh khraab kr diya ,teenage bhi gya ..ab life restart kre ya rukk jaaye ,manage krna to koi sikhaya hin nhi .
Kids: "I just wanna talk"
Many parents: "you saying you are struggling more than us?"
I mean isn't it... True they literally have to lecture their struggle.
This is my family
Yes sam broooooo🥲
My parents get gov job after graduation.
In my time is very hard to get even private job after graduation. Compilation is highly increase from then to now. Our generation struggle more than our parents
yesssssssssssssssssssssssssss
they always makes us feel like our struggle is nothing in front of them but the thing is everybody havetheir own level maybe your child is suffering mentally and more than you just because you travelled so long to go to school and your child don't do so then he cant be struggling we are humans and as we evolves our problems too
maybe problem we are facing our children wouldn't or maybe even worse
Im 17 year old ... Actually I really like to study ... but sometimes due to my surroundings it feels suffocating ... even my family members don't ask me whether I'm fine or not . The first query from them will be "Are you studying well beta ?" Or "What is your score or what marks did u get " .🤯
Exactly!!!same
@@masterofmysea1071 😢
So trueee..same goes with me
That's true
I will run away from such parents like that
99% comments are from students.... In that 99% / 60% are neet aspirants... 🥺🥺
Please also make an vdo on mental health of adults from 23-32 age group.
pressure of boards and practicals and entrance is really eating me up.
Same here
IIT & NEET I guess
Are you my gang which has 'Pretended' to study online for the past one and half year and have now entered a new world?😂
Lol it's never ending belive me I mean untill college finishes there will always be tension but just chill do what u can 😆 bilkul tension nhi lene ka
I am currently making practicals in very depresed situation 😵🥺
I want to study but busy in making practicals 🤒🤕
The main problem of our education system is that they stress on "BOARD EXAMS" regard it as the "TURNING POINT OF LIFE" it makes students to root learn rather than gain knowledge from it. EDUCATION SHOULD GIVE LIFE SKILLS THAT WILL BE FRUITFUL IN FUTURE. 🙏
What about JEE/NEET
Sharma ji ka beta select hogaya ,tu toh nalla nikla !
-Avg brown families
@@Mnthnplkrmap2382 Exactly, I am in 12th this year and I can confirm that my scores are gonna take a rapid downfall in boards due to the past one and half year, and you can imagine my parent's reaction when the results are out!!
@@vighnarajnarvekar8909 being a college final year student your marks are not that big a thing and rarely someone is gonna care about it after 12th
@@vighnarajnarvekar8909 Seriously don't even give s**t about board marks but yeah just have to pass though. They are not even worth a seconds of playtime. Have some fun(Not online though :P) and don't compare with others and keep going!
No board exam is not a problem . Problem is that we have to memorize more .
I wish I could come across this video when it was released. I lost my brother (my only sibling) 2 months ago due to mental health issues. Kids do find it difficult to express how they are feeling. Often these signs of depression, anxiety, BPD, PTSD etc. are not understood well due to lack of awareness. Losing him has created a permanent void in my heart and is a wake up call to realise how critical it is to understand issues around mental health
Im so Sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself
This is the worst era for India as some Andhbhakts are now even defending Education System
Shame on them
Being a student, I can confirm that parents don't even try to understand your point. They want us to be their robots. My problem may not be huge, but is surely a trigger for a mental unstability.
buddy just talk to them they are your parents they will surely help you. or else you can talk with your cousin or sensible friend
@@sushrutmorey5784 after all our parents are 'typical indians' and what if a person does not have a sibling , cousin or a sensible friend?
@@sushrutmorey5784 but what if the parents that demotivet you that the problems of Indian parents 🥲
Obviously they don't think us as robots, they just want a good future for us, the only problem is that they don't know how to treat depression or anxiety, since most of the previous generation didn't knew what depression is. Sorry if I offended u.
@@anirbanmukherjee658 nope but sometimes after seeing the society they treat like robot sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly it's sad but it is true 🤐🥲
Even though I scored 635 in NEET and rank is 7042 among 16 lakh students, my parents think it's not a very good score.. Just bcoz one of my classmate scored 696..
Wahh gajab
🥲
💀 I wish I could give u a hug rn-
That sucks 😔
That's the sad reality 😣
Finally someone talked about this.. i agree with all the 3 points...this vdo was so relatable..i literally was on the edge to cry..i will surely send this vdo to my parents so that they can understand my situation and not pressurise or criticise me for my marks in past 2 yrs
Wow..Your last line just touched me the most.. Thank you soo much amazing vdo..
Me: I'm tired and depressed
Parents: Do you even know what is tired and depressed. How about you put yourself in our shoe's then you know what is tired. Being an adult is more tiring than you. All you do is study, us adults needs to worry about financial and job problem.
.
.
This is why i don't like sharing i'm scared of being judged:)
True lol 😭
I completely relate it to myself
@@priyankadubey7050 Yes
True 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
This is what the truth
I also suffered from depression for almost 1.5 years. i am scared to share my problems with family. I cried lots i'mean daily at night and my family never asked me why im sad. Actually according to Middle class family there isn't anything like depression, they thinks ish age me konse tension?
I agree with you. Time has changed.Pace of the life is not same as in early 2000.
Regulate your social media.
Try yoga once.
But you have to reduce the gap between your demand & supply.
Book reading in physical format can be a great healer.
Power to you 👍
1dom ryt
Hnm right
Brother please read 1 time bhagvad gita please ya quran jo apki religion hai,
🥺🥺
Their is no way
Only thing we can do is that we can blame our selves
Tolerate
Thank you so much for making stuff like this, it feels so good knowing that we're not alone. Some adults still understand us and care about how we feel.
im 17 and i faced 2 panic attacks this year , I am preparing for JEE in Kota and been consistenlty unsatisfied with my performance no matter how i worked hard,First time when i got panic attack , i cant explain it with my mother or father , But after few months i dared to say it to them and they finally listened and call me home for a few months , then i feel refreshed and again went to Kota , Talked to few mental doctors and now i am Finally fine. I think too much insane work pressure almost every time leads to depression
I hope you're doing better now. Many people don't even realize they are depressed and even if they do are often scared of getting judged
HEY just want to say please focus on leading a meaningful life that's what matters.. these exams can be unnecessarily stressful 🤍 Good luck you got this
Bro do some exercise to cope up with stress...light exercise..
Even i faced panic attacks when i was preparing for jee this year...
Talk to parents every day for sometime..u will feel good...
Work smart bro and u will succeed..
All d best
I hope you’re doing better and if it does get worse, there is no shame in seeking therapy. I wish you all the best for JEE.
Don’t worry 😉 everything will be fine and good just sit back and relax ,enjoy life , pice of paper can’t judge ur future ,
You missed 2 major points:
1. Lack of outdoor sports activities
2. Over pampering of parents
❤️❤️🙂🙂💐💐
You have a point ✅, parents don't let their children see the real world , because they fear so much
Yes!
Not really
@@nikita2841 Why do you think it's NO. These are the only two main reasons!
@@devesh7646 i do sports and my parents don't "pamper " me.... But i still have ocd!... And these are not the main reasons.
Thankfully my parents have never done this to me especially my mom.She is my biggest supporter ,she is the one that hugged me during all of my breakdowns and told me it's fine and got me into counselling and one could say she is my personal therapist.Currently I am in 1st yr mbbs and next week is my internals and I'm highly stressed but my mom checks up on me every 2-3 hours to tell me that she loves me .
I was very good student but after completing
high school, I became depressed since the age of 14-15. I didn't had a single thought about it at that time but slowly came to know about it.
Can we just appreciate how mature students community Abhi and Niyu have
We are so glad people are coming out and sharing their stories! The first step is to start talking about mental health issues... Glad people have started
Can't get happier that there are people talking openly about mental health.... Brought tears to my eyes
Mine too
Yesterday I saw this video I told my mom to watch it with me she watched it and told me that she understands but Ik that she'll forget it soon ik they worked hard for me and they have expectations from us but they should understand us too I somehow felt so vulnerable Yesterday I was crying infront of my parents and told them I feel so suffocated.......but at last everyone forget everything I told to them.
I'm just 14 years old I don't know what I'm even doing the past two years were horrible for the whole world frankly speaking I've lost interest in everything before I use to draw nowadays it's like I don't even want to draw ....I'm just exhausted 😩 😟I can't help myself .
After watching this video I got some sort of confidence but still both the parents and children have to improve otherwise it'll be the same .......
Thanks I had tears bc of this video
Majority: School / college children
I relate too much to you and im also 14 bestie I feel you we're in this together 🤝 :')
@@riddhianand2197 yeah it's true
" If it is possible for him, then why not for my child?" .... This line is spoken in legit every household including mine .... Parents need to understand that their child is different... Infact every child is different... Drawing comparisons and constantly pressuring teenagers to perform well may or may not lead them to do good but it will definitely depress them...
It is important to know what the urge to succeed in life always comes from within and no amount can pressure or scolding can make your child successful!
Everything is so relatable, I in my family is a loser because I can't get into IITs or NITs, due to something I've done in my past I was kept reminded the same thing for like 5-6 years, when I was struggling I decided to be anything but not like my father, my family used to compare me with my IITian Cousin, so family function start giving me fear instead of excitement. The things inside me got so heavy that I decided to walk off oneday and never comeback. Now I work here in Canada as a full Stack Developer, I know I wasn't good enough like my cousin but now I'm doing something on my own, and literally the things through which I've gone through, I don't wish to meet any of my relatives anymore. I goes to India many times but I just came back here again as stepping into my society gives me the smell of all that trauma. There should be a love and solidarity between brothers but when I watch myself I don't find anyone with me... I know I'm not performing that good like them today too, but atleast faraway from my home I have got one thing that I don't wanna lose and that is my mental peace ✌️ ☮️
bro how you get chance to work in foreign and what is your package, plz can you guide me. I also want to work outside india
@@coolsai which grade ur in
@@spixet 12th passed
@@coolsai in which field u wanna work in and how many percentage did u get in 12th
@@spixet i want to work in ai or game development I am currently taking addmission in state level engineering college for further study !
For elders, Students had the most comfortable online classes, but little did anyone cared how much students suffered from mental health issues. We really need such TH-camrs who really talk on practical problems that ppl are facing silently!! ❤️❤️
Yes exacty ❤️❤️😭
Yess
Very true
Ya really
Yes online is most comfortable....in offline time waste in traveling etc....in home you can manage your studies time table acc to choice.....you are just making fucking excuse
It is really great that u guys are bringing unspoken words to light..
Ur contents and reviews are based on honest facts..
Keep making such videos.👍
Hoping to see a change in our society after this
❤️❤️
I think this extends to all walks of society as well. There is competition, lots of trauma and mental health issues both in adults and kids. Just like how we wish our parents to take responsibility for our mental health, shouldn't the same extend to kids too? Shouldn't we take care of their mental health too? I request Abhi and Niyu, as adults yourself, both of you to make a video on this topic too in your perspective and how can we help all the adults suffering through this.
I am really grateful for the video and the treasure trove of information you have shared on this video since, as a teenager myself, it really has opened my eyes to not only help myself regarding common 'taboos' in the Indian society like depression, but to also help my cousins and family members. Thank you a lot.
I am a topper student...i literally cried watching this vid...I can relate to all this...a lot of people think being a topper is awesome... Being a topper is hell.... the pressure of keeping up your good performance...burdens of expectations of family and teachers...basically when you score well,congrats you'll have no life now..enjoying is a sin...hobbies are a sin..passion is a sin..everything you love to do are now a sin....only study study study.. I wish I could go away from all of this.. I wish I could relax ... I badly want a break from all of this.. I want peace..but suprise!! my class 12 board exams are going on. Even after that I cant relax..I have to prepare for cuet 'cause I got just a month for entrance preparation..I am tired of all this..I wish I could advance my guitar skills, do my gardening, go for mun or debates, play basketball cricket, fly kites, do my baking, draw, go out with friends and just chill...
I can relate to this a lot
I am a topper too, people in my class have recently started using phrases like "vedika ne bola he toh sahi hi hoga", "vedika Tera toh kaam saara complete he" honestly this is an addition of pressure, i feel like I am in this big gravity well of expectations and i can't get out of it 🤦🏻♀️
Couldn't relate to anything
More than this .
I am also a toper and can relate very well, I always worry to score highest in my class or stream, my father have a lot of expectations from me , on the one side where my father is happy with 75%-80% of my brother or cousin on the other he expect me to get 98% . And all those cbse 100 on 100 result give him more expectations
😂here about me I have topped my school in 12th class but my parents taunt me in opposite way.. "that I only know how to study... Nothing else ..."
Other says I got lucky.. nobody saw me studying all night
I m 18 yrs old and jabse maine samajhna start kiya h tabse abhi tak maine kabhi bhi apne parents se kuch bhi share nhi kiya.... None of my problems ,depression and the way i feel... aaj tak mujhe kabhi bhi apne parents ka EMOTIONAL SUPPORT nhi mila....aur sach baat to ye h ki hum agar apne parents ko apne emotional problem share bhi kare to bhi samajhne ki koshish tak nhi karenge.... Kyoki unke hisab se struggle to wo karte h.... Humari life to bohot easy h and they made it easy... Likhna khatam nhi hoga is topic pe.. But dukh hota h ki agar parents ko you tube ne ye vdo suggest bhi kiya tab bhi they won't give any attention to this... Wo khud bhi nhi sunna chahte humari problem aur kisi dost k sath time spend karke man ko halka banaye wo bhi Nhi chahte... Unko bas ye dikhta h ki dost k sath time pass kar rhe h... Duniya se kaat k alag rakh dete h.... Aur ye sochte h ki unke bacho k life m Kisi Dost ki kya zarurat....wo log to hume sab provide kar rhe h... But jo sabse zaruri h-Mental Satisfaction, mental peace wohi nhi provide kar pate.... Aur hum unhe ye bol bhi nhi pate kabhi just bcs wo samajhna hi nhi chahte.... Unke hisab se hume koi problem nhi honi chahiye bcs unhone hume sab provide karaya h...
I am now completely independent in terms of mental things , i never inform my parents what i am doing or will do. I finish my studies and try to get best job , and satisfy my parents that now i am something , after getting job i do what i want , don't care what they will think. This is my last option that i can follow
Notice - i will not do anything wrong , and they always told ne a logic less point to stop me thats why . 🙁
A huge salute to both of you.❤
I'm a 4th-year Medical Student, for some reason I have to drop a semester, after this incident, my parents start treating me as a waste. If I say something to them or ask them, they never care and ignore me like I'm stupid. From the beginning, I was shy to share feelings. Now, I completely stopped sharing my feelings, and sometimes I think I'm no more important to them. If I leave the home or die they'll be happier. Even if I threaten my younger sister and brother for anything, my parents insult me in front of them. It's heartbreaking for me. I hope one day they'll understand me I'm always praying to Allah. This video touched my heart, Thank you very much for making the Video.
Bro easy bro, it is happening everyone some are managing it but not everyone. Just hold on to your thoughts and target's don't worry too much nor take it too easy.. Hope the Almighty will listen to your prayers and future will shine...
Its not about how much punch you puched in life ... Its about how many puch you got from life and you still fighting! .... All the best for ahead! 👍🏻
Yo bro, I’m a lil too younger than you but still I know what it’s like to be over looked.
Don’t worry mate, I care about you.. there are people that cares about you!
You may feel like a disappointment to your parents or teachers or anyone, but remember that we live for ourselves and not for others.
If your parents don’t like you and treat you equally, then don’t love them back! It’s hard to stop loving people. But the worst curse is when unable to love.
You don’t have to live under a roof of hatred and fear.
Alright but what is the point of life in living a meaningless? you know if you believe in yourself, you can change that!
Do whatever you want because life is yours, and no one gets to stop you from choosing whatever you want.
You don’t have to die to feel better.
That’s where your mind is lying to you that both you and I knows.
You don’t have to play an important role in someone else’s life. It’s you that matters.
YOU MATTER!!
Hope this helps. I really meant every single thing that I mentioned here. I swear to god I know what it’s like. :)
Future is all yours big bro.
im also depressed😥
Be strong brother...you can overcome this..pray well😊
It was all going great till 10th,
I was good in studies, was having good percentage
But suddenly I came to know that I m loosing concentration and that worst day came and I got 60% in 12th,
I was broked, family members were not happy with my performance,they started taunting me which ends in huge depression.
Then after a month I decided not to loose hope and then I dropped 1 year,studied harder and cleared my entrance exam as well as 12 re exam with better score and landed in one of the prestigious college of my locality.
Thankyou guys u were one of my motivation 😀
Best rule- LIFE IS NOT PERFECT,ACCEPT IT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE
Bro which Entrance exam you cracked
@@dhillon3846 mhtcet
Same bro 10th 90% 12th is going on not able to get 25 outoff 70 :)
@@vishwassingh4918 please bhaiya give me tips on mhtcet. I'm also preparing for it but don't have any guidance
Same i had told my parents but they said me "or use kar phone " 😕
Worst is that our own parents don't understand us and taunt and scold us like we are wrong while we are suffering
You did a great thing.thank you.
@abhiandniyu. Please make more valuable videos for mental health & joyful life.
I am thankful to my parents for not comparing me with anyone even when use to less marks
You are lucky
U r sooo lucky 😭
That's really mature of them coz marks are not everything
Same
Same here about comparison but about marks not so I am in 10th std currently,last year as everyone knows grades were given on average and I got a B in computer lol and you know what would've happened 😒😒
1/2
I have passed 3 semester of engineering still approx 2 years are remaining.😭 Still I feel homesick and miss parents and family.I can visit them whenever I want to....Like once a week(3.5 hrs away by train).😭.I miss them so much .They are not rich but they kept me as a prince. They have pushed their financial and mental limits to fulfill my needs.I miss them a lot at college.
Bro stay strong we will break the chain of poverty in our family
@@aasifcreates1658 definitely brother...❤️ But still I am not able to stop missing them , for even a single minute.
Bhai dosto ka sath time bitaa
@@dhrubakakati8108 sach me bohot zyada try Kar rha Hu...Pr Nahi ho rha ..😭 Ajeeb khayal ate hai depression Ata hai....Man Nahi Lagta Kahi...
@@amangayakwad4936 bhai frnds ka sath thora bahar time spend kya karo library jao , evening p chai pina jao sab thik ho jaiga room p mat rho har time
I genuinely appreciate the way you put forth the facts honestly..............
Very well said and explained. Thank you so much both of you for bringing this topic up. ❤
Im so happy that you guys discussed this topic. Im not mentally stable as i got my NEET marks very low than expected. I was crying the whole video as you guys talked about the early stages of depression. I guess im not the only one with this state. In india, parents only care about scores not our mental health. Hope it reaches to all parents. Thanks for creating an awareness of this topic. More power to you.
Dont worry sis
Life always gives an another chance
Wishing you best of luck for future🙂
Exactly that's why nowadays I don't pay any heed towards what my parents say.
Neet and jee marks are not the only thing in life dear..... If you think you can do better ...give it a try again or else find ur interest and work hard on it.... Begin sad is not going to help rather motivate urself and share with your parents.... I am speaking as a mother of 18 yr old daughter...
Yes run behind your passions, success will follow you.
So you are criticizing parents..lol
They wants you to be successful is bad for you because you are not making..
Whatever field you choose.. Games, study, Or different like youtubers.
In all cases you will suffer like this..
You have to change yourself and find where you are doing mistakes...
I know study is not everything.. But if you want to become doctor you have to crack exam.. Same in other field..
Dont waste time in support x y z and trolls and social media..
Just Focus and also force parents to focus with you.. Means you are studying and next room parents watch TV in loud..(just an example) ..
That the only way you will not be in depression and keep motivated
As a student who has once failed in JEE and is going to give his second attempt my confidence is very low I have become very moody in this lockdown sometimes I don't feel like studying and sometimes I'm not able to concentrate my previous failure is continuously haunting me but my mother doesn't care for that she thinks mental health is just a new term made by unsuccessful people
Bro i know it is difficult to study in this in unsupporting environment.as a person who had qualified jee i would suggest you to express yourself talk to your parents if not that then talk to your siblings or seniors they will surely help you. I was also going through the same phase.make your life disciplined and study hard. Wish you have a great success ahead. ALL THE BEST.
@@baleshwarram4823 lockdown period has made me contactless I have a supportive friend group but most of them have got into a decent college and they are suggesting me not to go for a drop and my mother is a single mother I don't have any siblings and my cousins are very small
try to go out and play a few sports for sometime
honestly it will not only keep you healthy and fit it will also remove your moody feeling
i had this lasting depression kind of feeling in last year class 9 and partially this year in class 10 but now i am fine
i noticed this was due to classes continuosly they were soo much that i had hardly any time for self study so whenver i had time i used to study I hardly went out to play alsmost did'nt socialise cause i had no time every day was boring lockdown made things worse........
so one day i sat and noticed that there were so many classes doing the same topics so what i did was attended 1 class per topic and used the leftover time that was previously taken by classes for H.W studies and then used the leftover time to socialise and play and talk to friends and have fun join dinners and all.................
what i noticed is that the tedious scedule of both coaching and school classes was taking a toll on me deppressing me both physically and mentally
its only then i noticed that when they say" A healthy body leads to a healthy mind " is so apt
this must help..........
as a student who had gets good marks 9th std was my worst year i had continuosly bad marks moody feeling and what not....
As someone in 12th, I would advise going outside and just doing whatever you feel like, be it relaxing, playing etc
It makes you relaxed and if you do it regularly, then you would start looking forward to that part of the day, and everything will not seem so bleak anymore
I guess that's the beauty of life, the small happy moments that make you look forward even when you're in a bad spot
I am wishing the best for you, and if you need to talk, you can just reply to me, I'll be supporting you :)
@@randomhooman3236 koi nhi bhai mujhse share krle but express kr bhai khudko
@Abhi and Niyu - Glad to see this video and happy that some one is talking about you. But please realize this "deshko aghe kaise lejayenge" is a social pressure at different level. As you guys mentioned, providing right input is in the hands of parents at the same time expecting any kind of results for doing the same could lead to mental health issues. Keeping the kids away from social evils should be parent's best chance in parenting. God bless you guys.
Abhi dada middle class Maharastrian students sathi khup helpful ahe mental health vr focus krn
Ani tumche videos khup help kartat
Ajun clarity yete thaughts madhe
Thank you 😊
Exams like JEE NEET creats a lot of pressure on students... Every one does comparisons.. Even parents.. If u didn't qualified exam.. U r considered as LOSER!!
Problem is not with exams but with attitude of comparing ourselves with others and not knowing our own capabilities and our special existence
So true.........abhi ghar mai wohi chal raha h mere 😓
@@Mbbsfromrus josaa ka round 5 ho gya nit bhi nho mila
bro, actually everyone is fighting in their life. A relative who is insulting you is also getting insulted by his boss. Everyone is stressed up. They show they are happy then why these adults have B.P, heart ailment, diabetes, .lol. they are also fuckin depressed. Thats why to release there stress they tell you that u r loser but the fact is you are young. they are fuckin 50 years of age and willl die soo. after 10 years when they get old. sooo enjoy your life bro. never give a fuck to them. truth i
I don't get it. JEE and NEET is not the only exam in India. Why only focus on those 2?
I was lucky that my college had a separate wing for emotional wellbeing where students can avail services for free, and seeing a therapist was really one of the best desicion I ever took. But that's not the case with everyone most colleges don't have such initatives and seeing a therapist by yourself costs alot, that's another reason why people doesn't go into therapy. Hope it becomes more accessible and affordable in future, and it would be even better if we can create support groups in our school/college/office/area etc
@Gaurav Singh nope Symbiosis Pune
I think it should be mandatory in schools and colleges.
@@Rooochiii agreed
Wow, that's brilliant! Especially in colleges with high stress levels - this can actually help!
@@AbhiandNiyu it's actually happens in other countries
I was a really obedient child till 9th standard.
But when 10th started, my parents started to give more pressure and forced me to study.
At first I was very sad and trapped.
They won't let me go outside.
They won't let me play.
I had no mobile, no tv, no pc.
The only thing I did after and before school was studying.
And i was very afraid to speak back to them.
They often compared me to other kids from their work places.
I became overweight within months due to lack of exercise and stress eating.
But my parents said that now you look even better and stronger.
Most of my friends made fun of me.
But after being depressed for a long time i decided to change.
Till that time i was really afraid to make my own decisions.
But after that I learnt to SAY NO.
Then... things eventually got better.
How are you😁
You people r Just amazing....Am unable how to thankful to both of you.... no words just Thank you so much ❤️🥺and soo muchh for understanding our feelings ❤️
We always focus on unecessary things. Teachers in schools focuses on whether hair are trimed or not, shoes are cleaned or not, nails are cut or not, etc. Even if they divert their 1% focus on absolutely necessary things like computer labs, science labs, playgrounds, etc then it would really great for students. But nobody want to solve problem! We get punishemmnt for untidiness but what punishment should we give to teahces for their incompetence and poor school infrastructure?
They never even ask if today we are doing fine or not. Are we even happy or is something bothering us.
But it is good to give punishment for untidiness as cleanliness and discipline is a very important habit for students to cultivate in an early stage..
So if infrastructure are not good, they shouldn't maintain the discipline.
That's why spiritual education should also be given in schools, lessons from Ramayan, Mahabharat and Geeta will help students to deal with tough situations and face them bravely, in ancient times spiritual education was the basis of Vedic education system, that's why we had great warriors and leaders in our past. I hope the govt. Will introduce spiritual education.
Yes bro after watching videos related to mahabharat and bhagwat gita of abhi and niyu and vivek bindra i am literally... woho the josh is high
Indeed
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I totally agree with this! Our nation has developed it's technology, now it's time to concentrate on developing our country in the path of spirituality! Hare krishna!💫
They will give a lecture of secularism but not the great teachings of Ramayana and Geeta
Interestingly most of the comments are blaming their parents but real culprit is education system. Gurukul system was best where bhagwat Gita was taught and student able to get real purpose of life
I want to salute you guys for bringing out this topic. Thank you so much for bringing out awareness.
As someone who lost her childhood friend to suicide a couple days ago, I want to thank you for making this video. 🙏
🫂
Stay strong girl 💪💪
Ohh !. Power to their family. Keep spreading the awareness 👍👍
I had 2 drop years in my engineering. Scored less marks in CET. Was depressed for 2-3 years. Still managed to get a job in good IT company. Always keep patience and don't loose hope. Good things take time to happen. Don't compare your life with anyone others. And even if no one helps you or supports you in the journey do it for yourself and push yourself to success.
I gave neet 3 times...but i got 425 this time....lets see where i will get admission....but this journey has taught me a lot of things....but i feel depressed and scared...i am going throgh happy as well as bad emotions...
where do you work brother
That's the saddest success story I've heard tbh.
I compare myself with nikola tesla and galileo
The thing is most of the ppl watching this video are students and not parents and now even if the students go to their parents the only thing they will say is there is nothing such thing called depression and u are making all these things so that you dont have to study. They will not even listen to us. This is the sad truth
Nobody chooses education by their own will...someone hold their finger and put them on the path of fulfilling their own desires through them...at the age when they had just began with the life... Sad truth of today's society.
For 2 years schools were teaching in online mode and now they are conducting BOARD exams offline.
I didn't understood whole 9th std
Pressure of BOARDS is making me more anxious.
(+ pressure by school teachers, they put additional fear of exams for no reason)
To socho 12th board walo ka kya ho rha hoga
Bro chalega 10 th can be handled
@@dhanshreeshilam1104 mein toh 11th mein hu aur online ki wajah se kuch nhi samajh aaraha
@@dhanshreeshilam1104 bhai me abhi 12th mein hu 😞😞😞
@@pritishgourav159 mera upar se science h🌚🌚💔💔😭😭😭😭
I am preparing for NEET. My mother herself was a patient of depression a few years back. This made sure they didn't take it lightly when I had a panic attack in 10th grade. So I was able to go to a doctor without hesitation when I felt weird this time, but I guess everyone's situation isn't the same. Anyways, all others out there, please try and talk to mental doctors if you feel weird because it definitely helps. And you both, thank you so much for making this ❤
Jhoot
Hope you're doing better now! More power to you💙
panic attack? chutiye ORS peelay bakchodi karna aya bada😁😁😭😭😁😭
@@shayaanrk panic attack क्या hota hain
(Question only no hate or anything else)
@@amandhattarwal2593 Bina kisi wajah ya aas paas ke mahol ya Purana Baat yaad aane se Achanak se dar lagne ko Panic attack bola jata hai.....
Great value video... Thank you so much for the information. 🙏
Thankyou for raising ur voice for mental health issues of students... 🥺
I'm 22 and I was facing depression from past 4 years I have taken medical help and I'm good now..
Very good
Yes, taking professional help is important
Take care.
GUYS, Mental health is much much important than your studies, take care!!
Huh !
What!?
Is there something more important than studies??
It can't be, nothing is more important than your future and career!!
Now go back to your room and study!!
@@AkshayShukla. RATIOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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@@AkshayShukla. I hope this is sarcasm
Ye bas yahipe accha lgta h but practical nhi h. Padhai is very important
After seeing this video every parents would probably understand what their kids are going through......this was much helpful❤
Mental health is very important.especially in India where most parents think that it doesn't exist...
this goes out to all who are suffering. Don't worry everything will be ok ..just stay strong and talk to someone if needed ✌️
You guys always focus on building the new India full of positiveness and awareness. Hats off both of you for your continued hard work. Hoping more people would see this if not more parents at least because today's students are tomorrow's parents. At least the next generation of parents will understand these things. Thank you guys!
@Gaurav Singh Yeah
Really glad to see that someone on the internet is talking about these serious issues which sometimes aren't even noticed. Keep up the good work and please do keep making such content . Love you guys☺☺☺❤
Yes true i am also a neet aspirant i also have to ups and downs after every test and seeing this sometime i too feel low but i think its just school test and we should keep up doing hard work and as well said nothing is going to be useless it will help afterwards.
Great message at the end!
Our generation will be the best parents because we'll look after our child's mental health, we'll not compare them to others, proper sex education and we'll look after their overall development.
Hope so
You are actually ryt here
Right🥲
Just understanding their feelings will not make us good parents , because first we all need to make a better education system for them not like ours we need to make a good environment for them , and then we also need to understand their feelings but we should also guide them properly and tell them what is right And what is wrong
dude, idk abt you but my own childhood was so horrid, i decided to not have kids - to spare them 1. my own trauma leftover being dumped on them, 2. giving them bad grandparents who'd judge them before loving/accepting them.
This made me cry, it's actually so good that someone is making a video on this. This needs more attention.
I had great parents thankfully, who on time understood that it's time not to compare us with others.... I feel blessed... They rather chose to understand
I'm 23 and I'm continuously bullied in my school life and college life and I'm the type of boy who always feels scared for no reason day by day my thoughts are leading towards suicidal attempts I feel like there is nothing left in my life I feel totally unenthusiastic and tired all the day I don't feel hunger always frustrated and everybody is making fun of me can't handle this situation anymore I just want to escape from everything 😔
For me the best line was
Don't compare by output, compare input!💯
Being a victim of depression I can totally agree with this video!
Although India is slowly progressing towards mental health issues, we need to crack the problems caused due to depression and anxiety on ground levels ! And yes not to make fun of any Individual going through such things but to help them really needs to be inculcated in today's generation !
Don't you think everyone is worried it's about success and making money... 1 in 1000 become success in a field and everyone just cheers up and make them famous.. No body talk about.. 2nd
I can give you example of baba ka dhaba..
Purpose was to help the locals.. What the people did you know...
My parents never compare from others and im very lucky to have such a greate parents , i only face is financial problem but im happy with what my parents give 😊
Yaa but the challenge for therepy is that we the stressed children do not want that our parents know about our sad condition..we do not want our parents know what all happen in these things...we just want to move on which the most difficult thing to do ..but we do after a lot of sad days