one thing to be careful of- using hobbies as an excuse to over-consume/shop. I recently got into perfume and scent chemistry, and I have to fight the urge to buy more aroma chemicals rather than actually making stuff with what I already have. I think its similar to the thing where you trick yourself into feeling you've been productive when you buy planners and stationary.
I dabble in a lot of things for the same reason. I'd make a couple of things and then move onto other things because it looses it's novelty. I have been told by people that my handmade gifts were so good that I could sell them however even if I enjoy making things, having to mass produce them takes the fun out of a hobby. I've learned the accept that my hobbies last for a month or two and then I move onto something else.
this might be a biased take as i am a literature major (a drop-out but that's not important), but reading anything absolutely IS a productive hobby!! you don't have to be actively learning or studying for reading to be productive, just reading novels of any kind is very productive for your literacy skills! you have to practice literacy kind of like a muscle, and reading is crucial in that. so there's no non-productive reading; all of it is amazing and you should definitely keep it up
I’ve been drawing, reading, playing video games, watching TH-cam and walking. I’ve found that dabbling in different hobbies has helped reduce my spending, and helped with my mental health. I’ve recently relapsed with BED so having distractions from food is helping a lot. We can do it, fam 👏
Social media is so bad because lots of hobbies have a shopping stage and if you don't want haul content the algo ignores your interests. Like knitting and crochet pushes yard hoarder content. Sewing pushes fabric and pattern hauls. Etc etc
That's true -- as someone who knits, I totally understand the draw of buying gorgeous new yarn that you don't have a plan for yet. BUT the difference in satisfaction between fondling that pretty yarn versus wearing that hat you completed?! It's so fantastic to be able to *make* something.
@@shawnaripariit really sucks how much the world around us wants to milk us for our money. And thinking how kids and teens are sorrounded by this all the time too.... It's very concerning
A tip for my fellow readers, get a library card from your local library! Libraries offer free services including physical, audio and ebooks and I have found that it helps me to check out the books and read them first before I decide to buy or put them on my wishlist.
I'm currently learning a new language to curb my shopping habits, whenever I feel the urge I go on the app and start doing some language exercises, so far it has been helping 👍
I have worked in luxury retail for 8 years (both Bloomingdales and Nordstrom on the resume). I used to shop so much because believe it or not the employee discounts are amazing and started out as a really good college job. I think I was a shopaholic - luckily I found Poshmark and sold about $12k over the years but I was shopping a lot and making a lot all on commission (before shopping online was big if you can imagine).. transitioning out of that lifestyle especially with it all around you is hard… what made me stop was making the hobby I guess to travel abroad once a year which I e done every year since 2015 except for in Covid and this year although booked due to a pretty decent injury from a car accident. If not a hobby perhaps higher goals than material things or atleast investment material items (automatic watches - not battery watches, gold, good furniture) but maybe like hiking and using the urge to buy things when you reach milestones for your hobby such as new hiking gear each step of the way like those cute vests or shoes… also men do appreciate women with hobbies tn at as we do for them… hope maybe some of that is helpful!
One of my favorite activities for when i'm low energy or bummed out is taking a good look at my house plants and seeing what's changed. It goesnt sound like much, but it can be really rewarding to intentionally observe them. Ive noticed new leaves, new shoots, leaves turning different directions. It helps me look for good things and gives me a better understanding of my plants needs and growth cycles. And it doesnt cost a thing!
I love to read or crochet in the winter months and hike, camp, and kayak in the warmer months. I have a pretty stressful job and I found out pretty early on how important it was to have those hobbies that give me time to recharge 💕
I got into adult coloring in 2020 , it's very relaxing and fun but I had to stop watching content about it bc it turn out to be lots of hauls and excessive buying coloring books, the prices of some of these pencils are over $100 . I ended up buying more than what is necessary to start, so now I'm just doing it but not buying anymore stuff. I also love to read but I don't buy physical books i read them from Kindle unlimited. Your videos are so helpful , thank you :)
I’ve really struggled to have the hobby activity as the hobby and not the shopping for the hobby if that makes sense. Trying to stop the shopping cycle instead of just jumping shopping mediums is so hard. I think this is seen in how many beauty and makeup people are branching out different areas like fragrance specifically. The marketing to make us feel like we need the latest makeup, skincare, haircare, fragrance, accessories, bags etc definitely doesn’t help this shopping creep either.
Definitely feel you on this. It can even feel like our spending on makeup (as an example) has gone down but you're still spending money, it's just shifted. Now you're buying perfume or earrings
True. When I’m super busy I don’t really shop, just because I don’t have the time. Also, you look super pretty in todays video! Love the hair and makeup look!
I remember you talking about this in an older video but I need to insist on finding a hobby that doesn't drive the need to shop to enjoy your experience otherwise that's maybe another way to pass time rather than something you get fulfillment from 😊
Great topic to discuss! Thanks for the video! I live in Washington state. Nature here is fabulous. Camping and hiking is a must and I like it so much. But I wanted to do something besides sitting by the campfire or going through the mountains. I guess I got a little bored at some point.😅 My dad used to be a great fisherman, and my grandmother liked mushroom hunting and taught me how when I was a kid. So I picked up these two hobbies. I learned so much about rivers and lakes, different places where I can hunt for specific fish or mushrooms. I became so familiar with surrounding areas. I see things that others don’t. Once I was in a park with a river. I learned it was a salmon spawn season and noticed about ten big ones swimming and jumping out of the water. I stopped and looked. Other people were passing by me with no idea what was happening in that river that day. And I felt the connection with nature that I never had before .
I've learned that shopping is not the only form of consumption. Reading books, watching movies, and doom scrolling are also examples of consumption which makes shopping such a normalized, slippery slope. The opposite of consumption is creation. When I find myself in a slump, I usually haven't created in sometime. Creation can take many forms like baking, sewing, painting, jewelry making, etc. I believe it is healthy to consume in moderation (and that we are designed to appreciate/want things), but we must find that healthy balance of giving and taking As always, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
One of my hobbies is mending, which means I can reuse my clothes even after most people would have had disposed of them. I also had most of the supplies at home already, and only had to buy a second hand sewing machine, meaning that after some time it's like negative shopping: I've made my money back by not needing to buy any clothes lol
I really enjoy journaling. There is a huge journaling community on TH-cam. Problem is, seeing what other people are using can be tempting for me to get the exact same thing 😅 I’ve just sort through all my supplies and decided that it’s more than enough for my way of journaling. I can do with just a notebook and pen because I enjoy doodling on the page much more than using pre-printed stickers and washi.
I love journaling too! I just wish I had some sort of social component the way shopping does. I try to take my journal out to parks and that sort of thing but it’s still not something other people can really participate in 😂
I sang as a child and teen, we mostly did chamber choir. And when I didn't have the time anymore I told myself t wasn't so bad because I can always sing, I don't have to go anywhere to do it. Went back to singing at 40 for voice lessons. I'm not interested in going back to choir, but I do enjoy singing and finding out all I can do with my voice.
Writing. Drawing. I also crochet and knit and book bind, but those all have a shopping component for supplies. Drawing and writing can be done in any cheap af notebook.
After grad school I had no idea what I liked it to do for fun outside of watching TV and going outside for walks (and even walking came out of a need for sanity during COVID lockdown). Since then I've taken up running, reading, baking/cooking/ trying new recipes, I think those are my main ones. I also watch the intentionally/ as part of a fandom, I try to watch shows in real time and have watch parties or interact with the subreddit.
Hobbies helped me out of my depression. It was super hard, and there were a few weeks of kind of making myself go through the motions, but even if you just try a little it can help. Keep fighting the good fight, depression is tough but you are tougher
I lost a pregnancy a few weeks ago and i spent a lot of money because it felt like oh this will make my life so much better. And i really regret it especially because i was doing so good at saving money
I love this video, i always think that having other interests that dont involve the acquisition of material objects keeps me from thinking about or desiring to shop 99% of the time. The youtube channel Not Buying It (which I think you would love if you havent checked it out yet) has a really great contemplative video on avoiding the potential spending trap of hobbies with communities that encourage shopping, it's called "The Terrible Spiral of Consumption Communities" and i really recommend it. Theres a lot of overlap in your channels' interests there.
I am currently trying to find new hobbies and I am struggling with wanting to explore hobbies without buying too much stuff related to the hobby (mostly craft activities) and also not making more stuff than I need (my old hobbies that no longer bring me joy due to some traumatic life events were sewing, knitting, and soap making). Focusing on daily activities as hobbies like cooking, reading, and hiking is reframing my idea of how to enjoy life without needing/generating too much stuff.
My issue is when I get a new hobby (mostly related to crafting of some kind) , I want to get the best possible must have things for it to avoid spending money again and again, this way I end up spending quiet much.. 😅 But those things do serve me well. This sometimes makes me feel guilt of spending (I used to do impulse buying earlier). I think I am reaching the other end where I am feeling guilty about even the good long term purchases. Can you please make a video on how to get out ouf this feeling, how to not feel guilty about spending on good quality things.
Thanks Shawna, well put. I have managed to keep cooking as my hobby and passion for life, thank goodness. I have also been sewing since I was young so can pick up things from the repairs basket if I'm bored. Having a no-buy year and facing up to my addiction, it's been really interesting to re-expose myself to one of my biggest triggers which is shopping with my mum. She always used shopping as a way to celebrate, commiserate, say sorry, say thank you etc. Now if she takes me shopping for my birthday, I have a very clear list of something I've actually been holding off and haven't been able to splurge on like a decent pair of boots or high quality bras and swimwear that will last for years. I don't want to aimlessly shop and mindlessly consume just because it's on someone else's credit card.
I personally never had much issues with shopping... Until corona. I had to move cities right when it started and I got put into a position where I got stuck in a small apartment without being able to meet anyone, and my family was literally on the other side of the world. I started to shop, but also get aggressive with space optimization because that gave me a sense of control and momentum, a way to get novelty into my space. Unfortunately it's a bad habit that persists for now
The biggest impact my mom’s shopping problem has had is that she can never just leave the house because she ALWAYS has packages being delivered and she doesn’t want them to sit on her porch because she’s worried someone will steal them. So instead of visiting her children/grandchildren or meeting up with people, she’s stuck at home waiting for packages. It’s so sad to me.
I have outdoor hobbies, but those also tend to be expensive hobbies cause I have to drive far for it and buy gear (hiking and skiing). I can also only do those on the weekends. 😢
(I'm not diagnosed, but I suspect I have ADHD). The fixation aspect is the most difficult for me. Ive never been able to sustain a hobby for longer than 2 months 😢 It's something I'm trying to accept about myself/stay aware of. I try not to get involved in hobbies that involve buying lots of special supplies because I inevitably will lose interest and end up with a bunch of junk I dont want anymore.
This is a wonderful thing to know about yourself and gives you something to consider when trying something new. I can relate to what you're saying because I also fixate a lot, and have also taken to enjoying fixations that are free and then moving on.
As others pointed out it's disappointing how many hobbies have been linked if not been taking over by hauls and shopping encouragement. As someone that really loves make up and have loved it long before beauty gurus took their first steps out of the cave into the sun I hate it. I love GRWMs and tutorials and I even enjoy faves and make up news BUT I hate that everything is starting from the assumption that I have money I urgently want to get rid of 🙄
diamond painting, zombie books, sf books, I want to lear latin, etymology is fascinating to me, my biggest hobby though is my dog, I don't know if that is a hobby, but I taught myself to do haircut on her to save money and really love to take her for long walk
I appreciate the sentiment behind your video, one needs to be careful about what type of hobby they have. Do you buy your books? or do you use the library? Do you get them on Amazon, and therefore are buying them? I know people who have hundreds and hundreds of books, some read some for the 'next read' . If you are crafting, you get into all of the stuff you need and then want for your crafting can become extremely expensive as well.
Firstly, love your content. It was a hard pill to swallow that Shopping is currently my #1 hobby because of all of the micro task and skills it requires so I’m looking at those things and seeing how it can be applied to something that is more tangible and sustainable. Even with the best intention to start a hobby, I get stuck in the phase of ‘I need the best tools, the ideal space to do this, etc’ and then I stay there in that loop of collecting then abandoning (also+ my neurospicy folks know how that shiny thing syndrome is) and never even actually begin to do the hobby. I think for people who have this experience, investing in a IRL class is a great option because it usually gives you the access to the space & materials as well as an instructor and community to hold you accountable/encourage to practicing/completing projects (also potential to swap/barter/trade).
I’ve had to learn that I just despise making things with a passion. I run tabletop games and take ballet classes, but I spend a great deal of money on buying those classes and leotards and new pointe shoes. I have yet to find another hobby besides shopping that gets me out of the house, can be done last minute and pretty much any time, and has the social element of interacting with other people. I go to museums but there’s no interaction with others, and honestly I love having something tangible at the end of the day that serves as something to show for my efforts.
@@lexiemartin8669 ohhh a library is a good option! They do so much more then just books! Get to know the librarians, use the public computers, etc. check with your library first, but mine lets us bring closed drinks into the building. Sometimes you just gotta strike up the conversation first, as most people aren't for a variety of rasons. Don't be scared! Plus you get to take a book, and if they to different project "classes" you'll be able to take a thing home.
@ thank you for the suggestion; I’m actually getting my masters in library studies! Sadly my closest library is only open 9-5 M-F, which is when I’m working. I’ve tried going into other locations on a Saturday and striking up a conversation, but people look at me like I have two heads, or they’re irritated I’m there. The classes all tend to be about social services or childcare, which, while important for the community, are not relevant to me.
I also wish it got my body moving more. When I’m shopping, I’m basically on an extended walk through cute neighborhoods in my city. I get to get dressed up, take the time to do my hair and makeup, and move from place to place, chatting with people while I’m there, stopping for snacks or lunch. I get to feel special and important when I’m in stores, and because I’m doing something entirely unproductive, it feels luxurious. I get to interact with salespeople, other shoppers, people at cafes… and the more positive interactions I have, and the more I buy, the more sparkly I feel. I’ve been trying for a year now to find something that gives me a sparkly feeling and haven’t found anything yet. I was on a no buy for the first half of 2024 but then I fell off the wagon hard because without that sparkle, nothing seemed to really have a point. Don’t get me wrong, I love playing dnd with my friends online, and writing and ballet, but nothing else has made me feel sparkly.
I’m just starting this video but I feel like hobbies and shopping kind of go together - almost every hobby is pay to play to some degree so I’m not sure shopping is a hobby so much so as the hobby needs to be shopped for in order to participate? I’m not saying over consume, but it seems naive / impossible to not buy a single thing in order to have hobbies, unless that hobby is something like walking (even then - good shoes!)
I think my point is - shopping (for clothes) was a hobby for me for many years, and I’m now deciding I want to have other hobbies (like reading, journaling, sewing) and these hobbies sometimes require buying at least one thing to be able to do it. So because the hobby involves shopping it just seems like I’m adding more shit to the pile of shopping even though it’s for a different reason and it just feels gross so I give up on having and pursuing hobbies. Sigh
Knitting is a great hobby but can quickly become an overconsumption trap. I have forced myself to become a "monogamous" knitter for this reason. Otherwise I'm a minecrafter 😊
Oh definitely this! I allow myself to start a quick knitting project while I have a larger one going on ( for example if my large knit is too difficult to do if I can’t concentrate on it, but want to bring a knitting project with me somewhere). I have just sold and given away almost all my yarn, because the excess supplies where actually discouraging the actual knitting. Going forward I will just buy the yarn for the next project. I don’t want to ever do this again. I did the same with most of my fabrics.
@marineb9666 actually same hahah. I have so much to go through that ive really stopped buying new yarns. Except if I'm in a project and need more of one kind 😇
I still don’t quite understand the tv vs reading as a hobby. I often engage with a book in the same way as I do with watching a scripted series. Maybe I’m engaging with the media in a hobby-like way and it’s not what you meant, but I’m not sure I understand in what way people watch where it’s not a hobby. Do they just have a random thing on in the background and they are not paying attention?
Ok, I know this isn’t the point of this video, but where is your sweater from? I’ve been wanting a collared sweater where there are no buttons and the collar is not a separate fabric.
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one thing to be careful of- using hobbies as an excuse to over-consume/shop. I recently got into perfume and scent chemistry, and I have to fight the urge to buy more aroma chemicals rather than actually making stuff with what I already have. I think its similar to the thing where you trick yourself into feeling you've been productive when you buy planners and stationary.
Yes! We can get enticed to buying more things because it's a way to engage with our hobby or interest
Ive always wanted a hobby, but i have the attention span of a breath mint. Thats why shopping WAS so easy to fall in to. Great video, as always 🎉
This is such an interesting observation and I don't think you're alone with that
@@SimplyKatieWalks BREATH MINT
I dabble in a lot of things for the same reason. I'd make a couple of things and then move onto other things because it looses it's novelty. I have been told by people that my handmade gifts were so good that I could sell them however even if I enjoy making things, having to mass produce them takes the fun out of a hobby. I've learned the accept that my hobbies last for a month or two and then I move onto something else.
@geekelly000 i started junk journaling. That way I don't have to buy anything. And then I won't feel bad when I get tired of it.
😂Can we form a club?
this might be a biased take as i am a literature major (a drop-out but that's not important), but reading anything absolutely IS a productive hobby!! you don't have to be actively learning or studying for reading to be productive, just reading novels of any kind is very productive for your literacy skills! you have to practice literacy kind of like a muscle, and reading is crucial in that. so there's no non-productive reading; all of it is amazing and you should definitely keep it up
I’ve been drawing, reading, playing video games, watching TH-cam and walking. I’ve found that dabbling in different hobbies has helped reduce my spending, and helped with my mental health. I’ve recently relapsed with BED so having distractions from food is helping a lot. We can do it, fam 👏
Reading library books is the hobby I’ve found that distracts me from shopping and is free.
@@EmmaHacker-kj9un same!!! I’ve really gotten back into reading over this past year, and the library! It’s like i forgot it was there???
This is the reminder I needed! I bought a Kindle a year ago specifically to use Libby.
Social media is so bad because lots of hobbies have a shopping stage and if you don't want haul content the algo ignores your interests. Like knitting and crochet pushes yard hoarder content. Sewing pushes fabric and pattern hauls. Etc etc
That's true -- as someone who knits, I totally understand the draw of buying gorgeous new yarn that you don't have a plan for yet. BUT the difference in satisfaction between fondling that pretty yarn versus wearing that hat you completed?! It's so fantastic to be able to *make* something.
Yes definitely, I got into adult coloring and it's the same , coloring hauls and excessive buying books and supplies
This is a great point. You as a viewer have to do a lot of work to find the right content if you don't want hauls or consumer driven content
@@shawnaripariit really sucks how much the world around us wants to milk us for our money. And thinking how kids and teens are sorrounded by this all the time too.... It's very concerning
A tip for my fellow readers, get a library card from your local library! Libraries offer free services including physical, audio and ebooks and I have found that it helps me to check out the books and read them first before I decide to buy or put them on my wishlist.
I love knitting and I started up sourdough making two years ago. Both make me feel like an old lady, and I love it😊
THIS HAIRCUT ON YOU! SO. CUTE.
I'm currently learning a new language to curb my shopping habits, whenever I feel the urge I go on the app and start doing some language exercises, so far it has been helping 👍
ouuuu this is a wonderful idea
I have worked in luxury retail for 8 years (both Bloomingdales and Nordstrom on the resume). I used to shop so much because believe it or not the employee discounts are amazing and started out as a really good college job. I think I was a shopaholic - luckily I found Poshmark and sold about $12k over the years but I was shopping a lot and making a lot all on commission (before shopping online was big if you can imagine).. transitioning out of that lifestyle especially with it all around you is hard… what made me stop was making the hobby I guess to travel abroad once a year which I e done every year since 2015 except for in Covid and this year although booked due to a pretty decent injury from a car accident. If not a hobby perhaps higher goals than material things or atleast investment material items (automatic watches - not battery watches, gold, good furniture) but maybe like hiking and using the urge to buy things when you reach milestones for your hobby such as new hiking gear each step of the way like those cute vests or shoes… also men do appreciate women with hobbies tn at as we do for them… hope maybe some of that is helpful!
One of my favorite activities for when i'm low energy or bummed out is taking a good look at my house plants and seeing what's changed.
It goesnt sound like much, but it can be really rewarding to intentionally observe them. Ive noticed new leaves, new shoots, leaves turning different directions.
It helps me look for good things and gives me a better understanding of my plants needs and growth cycles. And it doesnt cost a thing!
thank you for sharing something that works for you!
I love to read or crochet in the winter months and hike, camp, and kayak in the warmer months.
I have a pretty stressful job and I found out pretty early on how important it was to have those hobbies that give me time to recharge 💕
I got into adult coloring in 2020 , it's very relaxing and fun but I had to stop watching content about it bc it turn out to be lots of hauls and excessive buying coloring books, the prices of some of these pencils are over $100 . I ended up buying more than what is necessary to start, so now I'm just doing it but not buying anymore stuff. I also love to read but I don't buy physical books i read them from Kindle unlimited. Your videos are so helpful , thank you :)
Love the haircut queen very cute on you!!! 💝💝
I’ve really struggled to have the hobby activity as the hobby and not the shopping for the hobby if that makes sense. Trying to stop the shopping cycle instead of just jumping shopping mediums is so hard. I think this is seen in how many beauty and makeup people are branching out different areas like fragrance specifically. The marketing to make us feel like we need the latest makeup, skincare, haircare, fragrance, accessories, bags etc definitely doesn’t help this shopping creep either.
Definitely feel you on this. It can even feel like our spending on makeup (as an example) has gone down but you're still spending money, it's just shifted. Now you're buying perfume or earrings
God it’s so hard. I love my ballet classes, but you know what’s even more fun? Buying pretty leotards and skirts. It’s so bad.
Just clicked on and your haircut looks AMAZING!!!! :) love your videos Shawna :)
True. When I’m super busy I don’t really shop, just because I don’t have the time. Also, you look super pretty in todays video! Love the hair and makeup look!
I remember you talking about this in an older video but I need to insist on finding a hobby that doesn't drive the need to shop to enjoy your experience otherwise that's maybe another way to pass time rather than something you get fulfillment from 😊
I agree that hobbies can become spending traps and it is important to set boundaries on hobby spending
Great topic to discuss! Thanks for the video!
I live in Washington state. Nature here is fabulous. Camping and hiking is a must and I like it so much. But I wanted to do something besides sitting by the campfire or going through the mountains. I guess I got a little bored at some point.😅
My dad used to be a great fisherman, and my grandmother liked mushroom hunting and taught me how when I was a kid. So I picked up these two hobbies.
I learned so much about rivers and lakes, different places where I can hunt for specific fish or mushrooms. I became so familiar with surrounding areas. I see things that others don’t.
Once I was in a park with a river. I learned it was a salmon spawn season and noticed about ten big ones swimming and jumping out of the water. I stopped and looked. Other people were passing by me with no idea what was happening in that river that day. And I felt the connection with nature that I never had before .
That sweater ❤❤❤ what a dreamy find!
I've learned that shopping is not the only form of consumption. Reading books, watching movies, and doom scrolling are also examples of consumption which makes shopping such a normalized, slippery slope. The opposite of consumption is creation. When I find myself in a slump, I usually haven't created in sometime. Creation can take many forms like baking, sewing, painting, jewelry making, etc.
I believe it is healthy to consume in moderation (and that we are designed to appreciate/want things), but we must find that healthy balance of giving and taking
As always, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
One of my hobbies is mending, which means I can reuse my clothes even after most people would have had disposed of them. I also had most of the supplies at home already, and only had to buy a second hand sewing machine, meaning that after some time it's like negative shopping: I've made my money back by not needing to buy any clothes lol
I really enjoy journaling. There is a huge journaling community on TH-cam. Problem is, seeing what other people are using can be tempting for me to get the exact same thing 😅
I’ve just sort through all my supplies and decided that it’s more than enough for my way of journaling. I can do with just a notebook and pen because I enjoy doodling on the page much more than using pre-printed stickers and washi.
I love journaling too! I just wish I had some sort of social component the way shopping does. I try to take my journal out to parks and that sort of thing but it’s still not something other people can really participate in 😂
I sang as a child and teen, we mostly did chamber choir. And when I didn't have the time anymore I told myself t wasn't so bad because I can always sing, I don't have to go anywhere to do it.
Went back to singing at 40 for voice lessons. I'm not interested in going back to choir, but I do enjoy singing and finding out all I can do with my voice.
Writing. Drawing.
I also crochet and knit and book bind, but those all have a shopping component for supplies. Drawing and writing can be done in any cheap af notebook.
After grad school I had no idea what I liked it to do for fun outside of watching TV and going outside for walks (and even walking came out of a need for sanity during COVID lockdown). Since then I've taken up running, reading, baking/cooking/ trying new recipes, I think those are my main ones. I also watch the intentionally/ as part of a fandom, I try to watch shows in real time and have watch parties or interact with the subreddit.
Shawna, girl, I hear you, but ✨depression✨ lol
same girl same 😅
Hobbies helped me out of my depression. It was super hard, and there were a few weeks of kind of making myself go through the motions, but even if you just try a little it can help.
Keep fighting the good fight, depression is tough but you are tougher
@@ellieamorous4372sounds like it would be worth it. Thank you!
I lost a pregnancy a few weeks ago and i spent a lot of money because it felt like oh this will make my life so much better. And i really regret it especially because i was doing so good at saving money
I love this video, i always think that having other interests that dont involve the acquisition of material objects keeps me from thinking about or desiring to shop 99% of the time. The youtube channel Not Buying It (which I think you would love if you havent checked it out yet) has a really great contemplative video on avoiding the potential spending trap of hobbies with communities that encourage shopping, it's called "The Terrible Spiral of Consumption Communities" and i really recommend it. Theres a lot of overlap in your channels' interests there.
I am currently trying to find new hobbies and I am struggling with wanting to explore hobbies without buying too much stuff related to the hobby (mostly craft activities) and also not making more stuff than I need (my old hobbies that no longer bring me joy due to some traumatic life events were sewing, knitting, and soap making). Focusing on daily activities as hobbies like cooking, reading, and hiking is reframing my idea of how to enjoy life without needing/generating too much stuff.
My issue is when I get a new hobby (mostly related to crafting of some kind) , I want to get the best possible must have things for it to avoid spending money again and again, this way I end up spending quiet much.. 😅
But those things do serve me well. This sometimes makes me feel guilt of spending (I used to do impulse buying earlier).
I think I am reaching the other end where I am feeling guilty about even the good long term purchases. Can you please make a video on how to get out ouf this feeling, how to not feel guilty about spending on good quality things.
Thanks Shawna, well put. I have managed to keep cooking as my hobby and passion for life, thank goodness. I have also been sewing since I was young so can pick up things from the repairs basket if I'm bored.
Having a no-buy year and facing up to my addiction, it's been really interesting to re-expose myself to one of my biggest triggers which is shopping with my mum. She always used shopping as a way to celebrate, commiserate, say sorry, say thank you etc. Now if she takes me shopping for my birthday, I have a very clear list of something I've actually been holding off and haven't been able to splurge on like a decent pair of boots or high quality bras and swimwear that will last for years. I don't want to aimlessly shop and mindlessly consume just because it's on someone else's credit card.
This sounds like wonderful progress! Congratulations 🎉
I personally never had much issues with shopping... Until corona. I had to move cities right when it started and I got put into a position where I got stuck in a small apartment without being able to meet anyone, and my family was literally on the other side of the world. I started to shop, but also get aggressive with space optimization because that gave me a sense of control and momentum, a way to get novelty into my space. Unfortunately it's a bad habit that persists for now
The biggest impact my mom’s shopping problem has had is that she can never just leave the house because she ALWAYS has packages being delivered and she doesn’t want them to sit on her porch because she’s worried someone will steal them. So instead of visiting her children/grandchildren or meeting up with people, she’s stuck at home waiting for packages. It’s so sad to me.
Man I can't... I need every shade of lipstick and I don't have friends or family to give me gifts on my birthday 😭
I love puzzles!
I have outdoor hobbies, but those also tend to be expensive hobbies cause I have to drive far for it and buy gear (hiking and skiing). I can also only do those on the weekends. 😢
(I'm not diagnosed, but I suspect I have ADHD). The fixation aspect is the most difficult for me. Ive never been able to sustain a hobby for longer than 2 months 😢 It's something I'm trying to accept about myself/stay aware of. I try not to get involved in hobbies that involve buying lots of special supplies because I inevitably will lose interest and end up with a bunch of junk I dont want anymore.
This is a wonderful thing to know about yourself and gives you something to consider when trying something new. I can relate to what you're saying because I also fixate a lot, and have also taken to enjoying fixations that are free and then moving on.
As others pointed out it's disappointing how many hobbies have been linked if not been taking over by hauls and shopping encouragement. As someone that really loves make up and have loved it long before beauty gurus took their first steps out of the cave into the sun I hate it. I love GRWMs and tutorials and I even enjoy faves and make up news BUT I hate that everything is starting from the assumption that I have money I urgently want to get rid of 🙄
diamond painting, zombie books, sf books, I want to lear latin, etymology is fascinating to me, my biggest hobby though is my dog, I don't know if that is a hobby, but I taught myself to do haircut on her to save money and really love to take her for long walk
I appreciate the sentiment behind your video, one needs to be careful about what type of hobby they have. Do you buy your books? or do you use the library? Do you get them on Amazon, and therefore are buying them? I know people who have hundreds and hundreds of books, some read some for the 'next read' . If you are crafting, you get into all of the stuff you need and then want for your crafting can become extremely expensive as well.
Yes, you're totally right that shopping can creep into hobbies
Firstly, love your content. It was a hard pill to swallow that Shopping is currently my #1 hobby because of all of the micro task and skills it requires so I’m looking at those things and seeing how it can be applied to something that is more tangible and sustainable. Even with the best intention to start a hobby, I get stuck in the phase of ‘I need the best tools, the ideal space to do this, etc’ and then I stay there in that loop of collecting then abandoning (also+ my neurospicy folks know how that shiny thing syndrome is) and never even actually begin to do the hobby. I think for people who have this experience, investing in a IRL class is a great option because it usually gives you the access to the space & materials as well as an instructor and community to hold you accountable/encourage to practicing/completing projects (also potential to swap/barter/trade).
This is absolutely a wonderful suggestion as you're totally right that shopping can creep into hobbies quickly
I loved the video! I recently started knitting but my great love are books.
I’ve had to learn that I just despise making things with a passion. I run tabletop games and take ballet classes, but I spend a great deal of money on buying those classes and leotards and new pointe shoes.
I have yet to find another hobby besides shopping that gets me out of the house, can be done last minute and pretty much any time, and has the social element of interacting with other people. I go to museums but there’s no interaction with others, and honestly I love having something tangible at the end of the day that serves as something to show for my efforts.
@@lexiemartin8669 ohhh a library is a good option! They do so much more then just books! Get to know the librarians, use the public computers, etc. check with your library first, but mine lets us bring closed drinks into the building. Sometimes you just gotta strike up the conversation first, as most people aren't for a variety of rasons. Don't be scared! Plus you get to take a book, and if they to different project "classes" you'll be able to take a thing home.
@ thank you for the suggestion; I’m actually getting my masters in library studies!
Sadly my closest library is only open 9-5 M-F, which is when I’m working. I’ve tried going into other locations on a Saturday and striking up a conversation, but people look at me like I have two heads, or they’re irritated I’m there.
The classes all tend to be about social services or childcare, which, while important for the community, are not relevant to me.
I also wish it got my body moving more. When I’m shopping, I’m basically on an extended walk through cute neighborhoods in my city. I get to get dressed up, take the time to do my hair and makeup, and move from place to place, chatting with people while I’m there, stopping for snacks or lunch. I get to feel special and important when I’m in stores, and because I’m doing something entirely unproductive, it feels luxurious. I get to interact with salespeople, other shoppers, people at cafes… and the more positive interactions I have, and the more I buy, the more sparkly I feel.
I’ve been trying for a year now to find something that gives me a sparkly feeling and haven’t found anything yet. I was on a no buy for the first half of 2024 but then I fell off the wagon hard because without that sparkle, nothing seemed to really have a point.
Don’t get me wrong, I love playing dnd with my friends online, and writing and ballet, but nothing else has made me feel sparkly.
My primary hobby is TH-cam but you have to go premium or the ads will send you over the edge.
I’m just starting this video but I feel like hobbies and shopping kind of go together - almost every hobby is pay to play to some degree so I’m not sure shopping is a hobby so much so as the hobby needs to be shopped for in order to participate? I’m not saying over consume, but it seems naive / impossible to not buy a single thing in order to have hobbies, unless that hobby is something like walking (even then - good shoes!)
I think my point is - shopping (for clothes) was a hobby for me for many years, and I’m now deciding I want to have other hobbies (like reading, journaling, sewing) and these hobbies sometimes require buying at least one thing to be able to do it. So because the hobby involves shopping it just seems like I’m adding more shit to the pile of shopping even though it’s for a different reason and it just feels gross so I give up on having and pursuing hobbies. Sigh
Love your haircut.
woah never been this early. perfect timing! your videos are great to watch while i clean :)
I love, love, love your hair!
Knitting is a great hobby but can quickly become an overconsumption trap. I have forced myself to become a "monogamous" knitter for this reason.
Otherwise I'm a minecrafter 😊
Oh definitely this! I allow myself to start a quick knitting project while I have a larger one going on ( for example if my large knit is too difficult to do if I can’t concentrate on it, but want to bring a knitting project with me somewhere).
I have just sold and given away almost all my yarn, because the excess supplies where actually discouraging the actual knitting. Going forward I will just buy the yarn for the next project. I don’t want to ever do this again. I did the same with most of my fabrics.
I spend all my money on yarn to crochet with 😂😂
thats the problem isnt it, you can end up back at square one with a new flavor of shopping addiction😅
I did the same the first year I started crocheting, now I don't need to buy yarn for a couple years 🤷♀️
@marineb9666 actually same hahah. I have so much to go through that ive really stopped buying new yarns. Except if I'm in a project and need more of one kind 😇
Your haircut looks really good
I still don’t quite understand the tv vs reading as a hobby. I often engage with a book in the same way as I do with watching a scripted series. Maybe I’m engaging with the media in a hobby-like way and it’s not what you meant, but I’m not sure I understand in what way people watch where it’s not a hobby. Do they just have a random thing on in the background and they are not paying attention?
Love the new sweater!!
great cut!!! 💇♀️
Ok, I know this isn’t the point of this video, but where is your sweater from? I’ve been wanting a collared sweater where there are no buttons and the collar is not a separate fabric.
She says in her last video she got it at a clothes swap. She says the brand name in that video - but I can’t remember the name. Edit: Everlane (sp?)
@@shay-caryeah, and it’s 100% cashmere (every time I say cashmere I remember the movie “Friends with money”, there was an episode))
I’m now watching that video, watching out of order! She does indeed mention it is from Everlane.