Varun you literally have a sharp sense of understanding situations,moments & human emotions and articulating it in your videos finesse!! Can't agree more!! Awesome stuff!!🙌👌
That is when a hobby comes to ur rescue, if u have at least one hobby which u enjoy and pursue passionately, u can connect with people of same interest, same energy and obviously be friends 😊
As we grow older and succeed we lost all our contacts with friends 💯.....just like a rocket....as it goes upwards its parts get detach and at the last only the main part lands💯
Agreed to all the points mentioned. I too was discussing the same thing one day with my friend like why most of our friends are not together anymore and why there is loneliness in our lives. This is the reason why I was little concerned about moving to New City for my job location because now I don't have any need to make new friends like we used to have in school and college but the thing is that life without friends in a new City can be quite boring and troublesome at times.
Well in my case my energy spiked when I grew older, by the time I reached 29. I used to have associates but not real friends. But suddenly at age 29 i had the urge to socialize and form a great circle. But by this time most people I knew suddenly lost energy and interest in any fun stuff which they used to do earlier. I used to have more family contacts when younger but now i am trying to reduce family contacts and increase friend contacts. I have this urge to go party with some like minded people in Goa which i never had before
I changed my friends circle 4 times in last 2 month of college , every time I leave them i thought i will be lonely but instead i find better and like minded people. Thanks Varun , You stopped me making friends with benchmate and motivated me to grow socially and explore people .
Why some friends betray, and some don't? What is the science behind friendship? How to identify those who don't betray? Is there any reason why they don't betray? Could you please make a video about it, or answer my question
I think it's human nature to be selfish and we all had time where we also betrayed somebody. I Don't think so one can identify instantly but yeah subtle signs as their friends and their little habits like flaking at last moment or trying to get you humiliated/or trying to dominate you and a lot of other things, "How they treat people who are less powerful/less in status than them"is my way to Know. No there isn't a specific general reason for anyone to betray and not betray somebody it's about their character and what their core is made up of.
The people who keep in touch leaving behind everything(selfish, hatred , jealousy, competitiveness..) in life are only friends. And if you want a friend try reaching out to them.. But hangout with them and then don't think of only gaining from them...just be there and talk about stuffs.. You see people who are super busy in life like Varun will suggest that always be around them with whom you can become the best version of yourself.. And that's not exactly bad either, it's practical approach, and it should make you better person, but those productive person around you are also selfish trying to achieve their goals, and that's not friendship... Friendship requires sacrifices..can you waste time for your friend to spend time with them? when there's whole lot of work to do, handle business? Can you make time for a friend? If yes then you'll get true friends in life who will value you and will know that this guy values " relationships" and don't think everyone as products or target them as an target to achieve... People when become rich they become lonely and they start spending money to have bunch of people around them ( fake friends) to make them feel good about life and their success was worth it.. See I might be wrong completely bcuz in this selfish world , you can't really trust anyone..but it's upto you if you want to keep trying or not.. Be genuine and you'll get genuine people around you..who will stay ..
Friendship is a give and take. Give and take can be some agenda, contacts or even love and support. No one’s gonna stay with you if you do not offer them ‘something’. So, I feel people tend to betray when they feel that they have nothing else to get from you and some friends stay with you because they do get something out of that friendship, guidance, love, support etc. And literally there’s no way to identify if someone’s gonna betray you or not, human beings are just selfish. If their best interests align with staying with you, they will never betray otherwise you never know.
I realised quite recently just a few days back before this video, and this video literally summarized it. I have quite come to a conclusion that 'beautiful relations dissapear in the midst of ambitions'!
There's been nothing so relatable to me as this video was ❣️🥺 , i never ever actually comment but this made me, you are one of my idols, inspirations and role models, I wish you good luck for "Avalon"
In school i felt lonely ,i felt no one wants to talk to me Later in life i got youtube Here everyone wants to talk me and got them to be listened wanted to tell their stoies via podcast vlogs much more Its awesome
Hey congratulations for your 100k in advance I would love to see u talking in Kannada 😍 how many agree leave a like and Varun will If yes please replay with a big "YES"
I do feel lonely many times. Try exposing yourself to slightly, just slightly uncomfortable situations every now and then, and then your social life might pick up. Has helped me personally, it used to be 100x worse before.
Well that "bye"at the end was awkward lol, but damn, you spill some crazy truths. Also, your videos are Podcast friendly, I'm gonna start listening to it while workout - Not too fast or slow, just complete value :)
Hi Varun, this is very relatable for me. I had a circle of friends for whom I was a convenience or the person they can reach out whenever they want to share something, and I was somehow happy with it because I got attention for a small span of time. I also relate and agree with your suggestion of marrying a best friend. I have a best friend (it started as convenience friendship for both of us) and now we are together for more than 13 years. We struggle to kind of understand each other grassroot problems or convince each other (may be our friendship was based on convenience at first place). This makes me question if I should really my best friend (who may be a good listener at the moment of sharing but we are not helpful with each other emotional problems). Would ove your suggestions on this.
It's also due to Dunbar's Number. As per Dunbar's theory at any given moment we are connected in a network of 150 people at Max. But the close one's ideally are 5-6.
First of all coke don't make you look cool or this is not a good thing to promote . Second thing that this is a really good video because it is relatable ❤️
Be friend who you are married. Have optimistic friend and neglect pessimistic & toxic friends which drain out energy.Remimber what you do today is impact decade.
The differences between allies, friends and brothers is best understood the sooner it is coz I sometimes regret having given so many chances to so many fuck all people. (Brothers might be an overstatement due to my age, media consumption and practical experiences).
Giving me Kunal Shah vibes with regards to your understanding the human psyche 🙋🏼♂️ major problem: I do not have female friends. Seems like the concept of marriage might be an issue huh? 🤦🏼♂️
Hey Varun, super relatable video there. But I think we can stay 'friends' with school/college buddies. Yeah planning meet-ups and stuff, no-one's gonna do that but maybe a pact could work. A pact to go on a short trip during holidays or even some weekend just for 3-4 days. This reduces the effort to once a year, which I think is pretty do-able life-long.
1.Friends gradually disappear. 2.Almost all videos talk of hostel, college, friends-same thoughts in different expressions. Writer's block. "Stop creating content" is the best idea.
Hey man I am curious to know exactly what your startup does (Avalon) is there any material I can read or watch to understand the basics of your business .
No it’s not! As long as you are doing well in school (if you are in HS), working on improving and developing yourself ( communication skills, soft and hard skills) etc… you will be fine and who knows you might meet ppl you genuinely connect with! Also, remember most ppl are “friends” with others out of comfort or to stop from being lonely. Plenty of ppl I know have friends yet they feel lonely. Loneliness is a state of mind and should enjoying spending time with yourself. If you want friends go join clubs, volunteering, get into a hobby etc
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I am 27 now and the biggest lesson that I have learnt is that there is a BIG difference between a friend and an acquaintance.
Can you differentiate the two?
I'm 28 I agree with you
I’m 100 steps ahead: just never had friends to begin with
U need hugs ?
@@srijan0303 i need 😭
@@cosMYs891 lemme give you a hug (no hetero😳🌈)
Ikr look at these idiots with friends
*cant be me*
same here i also not made friend in college and i am learning blockchain ,reading books , exercise daily now because i have my own time
Love it I am 18 and I have taken a gap year. My clg stars this fall and i can actually relate to most of the things that you said
Varun you literally have a sharp sense of understanding situations,moments & human emotions and articulating it in your videos finesse!! Can't agree more!! Awesome stuff!!🙌👌
Ya he is genius
That is when a hobby comes to ur rescue, if u have at least one hobby which u enjoy and pursue passionately, u can connect with people of same interest, same energy and obviously be friends 😊
As we grow older and succeed we lost all our contacts with friends 💯.....just like a rocket....as it goes upwards its parts get detach and at the last only the main part lands💯
Agreed to all the points mentioned.
I too was discussing the same thing one day with my friend like why most of our friends are not together anymore and why there is loneliness in our lives.
This is the reason why I was little concerned about moving to New City for my job location because now I don't have any need to make new friends like we used to have in school and college but the thing is that life without friends in a new City can be quite boring and troublesome at times.
You are not going to mars......Though if you move to city you can find like minded people in collegues or roommates.....
@@sudhakar3991 thanks Sherlock
Well in my case my energy spiked when I grew older, by the time I reached 29. I used to have associates but not real friends. But suddenly at age 29 i had the urge to socialize and form a great circle. But by this time most people I knew suddenly lost energy and interest in any fun stuff which they used to do earlier. I used to have more family contacts when younger but now i am trying to reduce family contacts and increase friend contacts. I have this urge to go party with some like minded people in Goa which i never had before
I changed my friends circle 4 times in last 2 month of college , every time I leave them i thought i will be lonely but instead i find better and like minded people.
Thanks Varun , You stopped me making friends with benchmate and motivated me to grow socially and explore people .
Why some friends betray, and some don't? What is the science behind friendship? How to identify those who don't betray? Is there any reason why they don't betray? Could you please make a video about it, or answer my question
Me tooo want to knew it bro such as you
I think it's human nature to be selfish and we all had time where we also betrayed somebody.
I Don't think so one can identify instantly but yeah subtle signs as their friends and their little habits like flaking at last moment or trying to get you humiliated/or trying to dominate you and a lot of other things,
"How they treat people who are less powerful/less in status than them"is my way to Know.
No there isn't a specific general reason for anyone to betray and not betray somebody it's about their character and what their core is made up of.
The people who keep in touch leaving behind everything(selfish, hatred , jealousy, competitiveness..) in life are only friends. And if you want a friend try reaching out to them..
But hangout with them and then don't think of only gaining from them...just be there and talk about stuffs..
You see people who are super busy in life like Varun will suggest that always be around them with whom you can become the best version of yourself..
And that's not exactly bad either, it's practical approach, and it should make you better person, but those productive person around you are also selfish trying to achieve their goals, and that's not friendship...
Friendship requires sacrifices..can you waste time for your friend to spend time with them? when there's whole lot of work to do, handle business? Can you make time for a friend?
If yes then you'll get true friends in life who will value you and will know that this guy values " relationships" and don't think everyone as products or target them as an target to achieve...
People when become rich they become lonely and they start spending money to have bunch of people around them ( fake friends) to make them feel good about life and their success was worth it..
See I might be wrong completely bcuz in this selfish world , you can't really trust anyone..but it's upto you if you want to keep trying or not.. Be genuine and you'll get genuine people around you..who will stay ..
Friendship is a give and take. Give and take can be some agenda, contacts or even love and support. No one’s gonna stay with you if you do not offer them ‘something’. So, I feel people tend to betray when they feel that they have nothing else to get from you and some friends stay with you because they do get something out of that friendship, guidance, love, support etc.
And literally there’s no way to identify if someone’s gonna betray you or not, human beings are just selfish. If their best interests align with staying with you, they will never betray otherwise you never know.
This
channel is sooooo underrated
Absolutely, toxic people drain the Life out of you, Let alone when u have to see them everyday.
I realised quite recently just a few days back before this video, and this video literally summarized it. I have quite come to a conclusion that 'beautiful relations dissapear in the midst of ambitions'!
There's been nothing so relatable to me as this video was ❣️🥺 , i never ever actually comment but this made me, you are one of my idols, inspirations and role models, I wish you good luck for "Avalon"
In school i felt lonely ,i felt no one wants to talk to me
Later in life i got youtube
Here everyone wants to talk me and got them to be listened wanted to tell their stoies via podcast vlogs much more
Its awesome
Much needed video, Thanks Varun.
So getting friend zoned is a sign of future marriage 😏😏
Great positive message right there
Hey congratulations for your 100k in advance
I would love to see u talking in Kannada 😍 how many agree leave a like and Varun will
If yes please replay with a big "YES"
YES
took a drop year for jee and going through everything he said .. now i do have a lil bit hint about the future .
I'm 17 but I don't have friends. When I borred I watch some financial content.
I do feel lonely many times. Try exposing yourself to slightly, just slightly uncomfortable situations every now and then, and then your social life might pick up. Has helped me personally, it used to be 100x worse before.
Bold of you to assume i had friends to begin with.
This content is gold standard ❤️
Thanks for the insights Varun
I got a clarity in between colleagues and friends ❤
Well that "bye"at the end was awkward lol, but damn, you spill some crazy truths. Also, your videos are Podcast friendly, I'm gonna start listening to it while workout - Not too fast or slow, just complete value :)
Thats avery unique perspective, thanks for sharing Varun !
Wow. This video is like perfectly sequenced my thoughts on friendships.
This was unique and less discussed topic.. We need more videos like this Varun.. 💕
i have not made friend in college and i am learning blockchain ,reading books , exercise daily now because i have my own time
Fact after college we start less communicating
Hi Varun, this is very relatable for me. I had a circle of friends for whom I was a convenience or the person they can reach out whenever they want to share something, and I was somehow happy with it because I got attention for a small span of time. I also relate and agree with your suggestion of marrying a best friend. I have a best friend (it started as convenience friendship for both of us) and now we are together for more than 13 years. We struggle to kind of understand each other grassroot problems or convince each other (may be our friendship was based on convenience at first place). This makes me question if I should really my best friend (who may be a good listener at the moment of sharing but we are not helpful with each other emotional problems). Would ove your suggestions on this.
It's also due to Dunbar's Number. As per Dunbar's theory at any given moment we are connected in a network of 150 people at Max. But the close one's ideally are 5-6.
Path of success is loneniless.
Best video so far 🎉 I am glad I watched it at right time
Make friendship with them who don't drain your battery....
Watched first video of this channel and it is soo apt!!
First of all coke don't make you look cool or this is not a good thing to promote . Second thing that this is a really good video because it is relatable ❤️
Harsh reality.
Thanos would have said - "this is inevitable"
Whatever he said is absolutely correct
Be friend who you are married. Have optimistic friend and neglect pessimistic & toxic friends which drain out energy.Remimber what you do today is impact decade.
Absolute truth!
I was thinking about this past days.
Now, a video comes out confirms my concern.
Then wedding is not meant for me... 😳🔥🤝
Yeah that is happening with me right now
This video is epic !!
I only have 2-3 close friends, I wanna make more !!
Please make more such videos !
This is exactly what I really need.
This video was much needed. Thank you!
Its better to be alone rather tahn being with wrong ones while writing this comment i am completely alone no friends only parents are there and im 27
Helpful stuff!
This video is🤯🤯🤯🤯 . What is 'The Secret' of @Varun Mayya 's intel?
Why you are so amazing to listen to?😢😢😢😢
Watching these videos make me realise how good my childhood was 😭
Man you're the elder brother i never had. And unfortunately I'm the elder sibling so nobody pays much attention to me😐. Thanks for making these videos
I don't have any friends at 16
Pls make a video how can someone struggle to live with toxic parrent
It's lonely at the top explained in 7 mins
Thats why i don t make friends because in the End we Know all will be seperates
No need to overthink and complicate things. Don't try to make friends, actual friendships are made without you knowing it.
The differences between allies, friends and brothers is best understood the sooner it is coz I sometimes regret having given so many chances to so many fuck all people. (Brothers might be an overstatement due to my age, media consumption and practical experiences).
Man u have great realization
Facts mate
Giving me Kunal Shah vibes with regards to your understanding the human psyche 🙋🏼♂️
major problem: I do not have female friends. Seems like the concept of marriage might be an issue huh? 🤦🏼♂️
Now i understand why marriage is needed.
And this dude looks like a vampire
And here me at 17 who has just 1 friend
I have no friends since past year...
This hit me real hard
Bitter truth 😢
Keep up the good work Varun 😎
Thank you
5:48-👀👀
So can we say for you to be successful losing friends happen organically because difference in future goals and objectives to achieve in life .
Also the common interests/work becomes different, so eventually there is very less talking points.
Eg- You love cricket but your friend doesn't.
Awesome 👌
Love your content 😘😘
Hey Varun, super relatable video there. But I think we can stay 'friends' with school/college buddies. Yeah planning meet-ups and stuff, no-one's gonna do that but maybe a pact could work. A pact to go on a short trip during holidays or even some weekend just for 3-4 days. This reduces the effort to once a year, which I think is pretty do-able life-long.
I literally have 0 friends
😀😀 My friend's are top valuable authors and youtube creator
and i am losing at teen....
I am losing my friends now ,my age is 20🙂
Don't know but it feels like - "Deja Vu, I've seen this video before"
Same
1.Friends gradually disappear.
2.Almost all videos talk of hostel, college, friends-same thoughts in different expressions.
Writer's block.
"Stop creating content" is the best idea.
Drinking Unites people , this friendship last forever , 😬🎉
Good thumbnail nice concept
What is reason/secret/cause behind your smartness/knowledge? I get naval's vibe from you .
Wow....that was .....sad
I am 19
bro only 16 k views in your channel recently ? maybe you should make video on a controversy ?
What if you got no friends, I'm 19 and dont have any
Don't worry right people comes with time
Hey man I am curious to know exactly what your startup does (Avalon) is there any material I can read or watch to understand the basics of your business .
Hi varun how old are you , as you have done a lot and influenced society very positively
29 - 30
I lost 90% of my friends in my gap year:)
College?
@@cas3885 BITS Pilani
@@theworkingman2467 so you dropped after 12th for bits?
@@cas3885 yes and bits is not that easy to get into
@@theworkingman2467 bruh I'm in 12th and I'm also aiming bits. Ik it ain't ez😔
Deja vu lol
Elevation needs separation.
Down to my last 2 (:
I literally have 0 friends , is it bad? I mean is it gonna affect my future or something?
No it’s not! As long as you are doing well in school (if you are in HS), working on improving and developing yourself ( communication skills, soft and hard skills) etc… you will be fine and who knows you might meet ppl you genuinely connect with! Also, remember most ppl are “friends” with others out of comfort or to stop from being lonely. Plenty of ppl I know have friends yet they feel lonely. Loneliness is a state of mind and should enjoying spending time with yourself. If you want friends go join clubs, volunteering, get into a hobby etc
Yelling out the truth :)
Le me:- I'm growing old
I'm lost friends (almost everyone)
...but wait I'm not seeing any signs of success.
on death bed.....Realise I'm screwed
Lost 3 closest friend
Already have 0😎
Bro please tell me how u changed the expression of friends actors from happy to sad 🙏🙏🙏
👍👍👍
4:03 wildlife activist doesnot irritate chimpanzees/ gorillas in jungle by imcessantly taking their pictures in a jungle .....please change your idea about a wildlife activist
Nice
Woah
Oh so you're telling me I'm old and successful already 💀
Hey Varun, how to make friends online?