bad mental health day at university (but it's okay not to be okay 🙈)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ต.ค. 2020
- I wasn't sure whether or not to upload this but, after the positive response to yesterday's video I thought I would include this whole clip. Past me was right to say I would be second-guessing it completely when editing! I really do want to speak openly about mental health though because we need to end the stigma, and I know that I can do just a little bit to help with that by talking about it on my channel when relevant.
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Worst thing to do when you feel bad is telling yourself “Everything is fine yet I feel bad. What’s wrong with me? People have much worse struggles yet I’m here being sad for stupid reasons. I’m weak.” Denying the saddnes or stress makes it worst(for most people).
Well... In my case, it really helps me
@@Ikipool5 I'm going to press back on this statement -- how does it help you?
@@anywitchway3866 I mean, of course it doesn't help me telling myself "I'm weak" or "I'm here being sad for stupid reasons". What, sometimes, helps me is the fact of recognizing how privileged I am in a lot of aspects, like, some people do have waaay more struggles than I do, and that doesn't mean my reasons are less valid, but it helps me going on sometimes. This is a very sensitive topic and I don't want to get misunderstood, because there're probably gonna be people who that doesn't work for them. Don't deny your sadness, never!
But it's true
@@Ikipool5 I agree, perspective can be helpful!
I was a top in my year at university for 3 years in a row and everyone thought my life was perfect. That couldn't be further from the truth. People only saw my accomplishments not what went on behind the scenes
I relate so much
Same. Things really started to change for me when I finally realized that my grades should not determine my self worth. My grades don’t define me anymore.
Exactly! I graduate fast than my cousins, but they just proud about the result I got, not the sacrifice I've been through
Same here
@Will Fryer 2 sorry for the typo
Most TH-camrs only show the happy side of things, so videos like this are very much needed, thank you Ruby!! :))
I want a new video 😕🙋❤
David Calleja That’s so true!! I actually dislike a lot of university TH-camrs now because they’re trying to look all ‘happy’ and ‘positive’ and sometimes you can see how tired and drained they are but they try to look happy for the camera and honestly it’s just toxic
I agree with you! When we see “a perfect life” of someone we think that it’s something wrong with us. But actually we all are humans and we have bad days sometimes. It’s okay not to be okay❤️
"It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness."
thank you for the quotation!! I needed to read that
@@Jyeah89 No worries. It's one of my personal favourites. Simple yet powerful.
I’m writing this down to my quote notebook!
@@gls3578 This is one of those instances where the correct use of "then" and/or "than" is critical.
I guess the slightly more pessimistic version of this would be "It's hard to light a candle, easy to curse the dark instead" - I immideately thought of that when I read your comment I must admit 😂 it's a line from the song Last Ride of the Day by Nightwish (which I can very much recommend btw)
I think it was so important that you showed that it’s okay to not always have happy days ! - studyjourney
I love your channel
Cookie Monster thank you
@@StudyJourney i just got ur channel just now....and subscribe it......Its amazing frankly saying...can u give me some advices to make those beautiful videos like u🥺
Amelia's vlog thank you , I would say keep on practising with your filming and your videos will definitely improve . It took me a while to figure out my filming style !
Just checked out your channel. Love it!!😍
I also like this technique for anxiety to bring your mind back to the moment: name 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel, two things you smell, one thing you taste. this works for me, and trust me, I usually resist a lot of techniques! hope this and my other comments help!!! sending you love Ruby!
The way you go about everything makes me want to be a better version of myself. You help me so much, and always make me feel better about my many bad days :) Also the fact you find the time to work hard and study but edit and post your videos really regularly is so impressive.
it’s ok ruby, everyone has those days xx
most of my days are those days
it is totally okay to have these days Ruby! we all face challenges but if they become too overwhelming then it is important to take some time to relax and face it again. Glad you shared this with us! we will always support you and be inspired. 😘😍🤩
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Ananya 🥰💗💗
That’s really sweet 😘
It's crazy how some people still think that you-tuber's are somehow perfect. Or that they never have bad days. At the end of the day we're all humans not robots. Sending positive autumnal vibes to Ruby.
True ...I also used to think studytubers studying so nicely, enjoying...I was like everything is perfect for them...and there's is my life😥...but all have bad days...its natural...lots if love...😊👍...more power to you ruby
That's because many youtubers pretend to be perfect. They want to seem like they are. They want their viewers to see them as and role model or perfection. After years and years pf watching, you start to believe they have their life figured out. There is this youtuber that has been making videos for 10 years now, and she just recently said "omg my haor os a bit messy, I dont believe Ive ever shown this".
7:24 I actually had to check whether the video had jumped to an Emma Watson video. The two voices sounded so alike in that sequence!
“The advantage of a bad memory is that one enjoys several times the same good things for the first time.”
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As someone who has had to live in a busy city throughout lockdown (most of which was spent entirely alone), I can honestly say it gets better Ruby, just remember to stay vigilante and safe!
All the best from Glasgow!
I've skipped lessons this week because ive been having bad mental health days as year 13 is getting to me and this video has came out at the perfect time! thank youuu!
Hoping you'll feel better soon xxx
Feel better xx
year 13 is rough, im first year uni so that was me last year. You'll be okay... the final year is a period of time where you might not feel your best, you have lots of work to do and are excited to just finish and move on, but it is only temporary. Once you've finished and can run away to uni you will thank yourself x
I really need a video like this. I have really been struggling being back. It’s so important to talk about these things and it helps show others they are not alone 😊💕
Sending love xxx
True 👍🏼
Hey. I have OCD. I hear you. Just remember, thoughts aren’t facts and distraction from a train of thought works wonders. OCDAction and OCD UK are awesome, even if you have tendencies. Best tackled with CBTand ERP. You can’t control everything, you can only do your best. It sounds as though you have done a good job so far.
Same, I have OCD too, it controls my every waking hour
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Sorry you have the condition. I hope you have good support.
Sending love to both of you. 💕
Health anxiety is a really tricky one and I have struggled with it previously. But from what I've seen you are being so sensible and considerate of others. Stay strong 💪 things are going to get better ❤️
And also I recommend having a mental health mini routine when you're feeling anxious, instead of immediately brushing it off and going back to what you were doing. (I did that in university and it over time it was horrible. Have a deck of cards, maybe a little drawing, a smell, meditation, something to play with, etc, to focus on.) My therapist once said that if it is something you can immediately solve, well then do it. if not, don't worry about it because it is not productive and detrimental to your health. Just have to let go and live in the way you know how and things will work themselves out. :)
Beautiful and practical advice.
Ruby, I'm happy that you decided to post this video about mental health. You really encourage me.I always look forward to your videos.
Thank you so much Ruby to talk about this and show people that even those whose lifes look perfect on first glance have bad days and struggle sometimes (like we all do). I actually had the problem that a girl in school bullied me when I was 16/17 because she envied me for having a pretty good life (good grades without studying hard, few good friends, functioning loving family, getting along with siblings well). In reality I found out by myself that my dad was suffering from depression and nearly cried every night because I feared that he might be suicidal (which he luckily wasn’t but I was to feared to actually speak with somebody about it)
Hi Ruby, thank you so much for that insight! I personally struggle with anxiety too and can absolutely understand how you are feeling! Thank you for showing that and for explaining that it is okay to not be okay.
Thank you for being so transparent with your mental health, it definitely makes me feel less alone knowing someone else feels the same. I have had debilitating anxiety for the last two years which is gladly under control now but it was so hard to explain to people how I felt if they had never felt anxious to that extreme. I’m so happy and grateful that you are sharing your experience because it helps others understand!!! X x x
I am feeling the exact same way about coronavirus!! I had to fly home during the peak in April from Australia and was so scared I would pass it. However I’ve found by going out (risk free activities like walks, seeing people from afar, going into a few shops)ive slowly built up my confidence again. The truth is the virus is very real and dangerous however the media is a big factor in scaring us and causing anxiety. I would suggest you have breaks from the news and know that soon this will all be over and we will appreciate normality so much more. Really hope your okay ruby, you’ve done so well to even go back to university!!
yes, the media really bother me, imagine they would report on a daily basis what happened to people because of car accidents, and how many people died because of cars, and even show videos of those people.. of course it would get a lot more terrifying to get in a car.. there are so many scary things in life, and of course being cautious helps, but horrifying and guilt-tripping people who easily get anxious like that all of the time is really crude and calculated, and truly will end up making more people sick because of anxiety and lack of activity and vitamine D deficiency (which is something most ppl who die of covid 19 have)
@@gwencaster6485 Yes I totally agree with what you are saying.
It's perfectly fine to have days like this. We all do - it's just a normal thing! I really appreciate you showing this as it shows that even the best of people have hard times. I hope that you feel a lot safer over time and continue doing amazingly in University. I love your videos so much and you are so inspiring. I have so much respect for you.
Thank you for being so open and sharing with us.💜 I think it's so important to acknowledge that everyone has bad days even if we only show our good days on social media
Ruby stay strong, everyone go through these type of times. Stay safe and take care 🙂 ❤
It must have been such a shock moving back to a city when you live in the countryside, and probably really quite scary !! I did the opposite , moving from a city to a town and it was so much less busy and stressful !! You’re doing all the right things , you will be ok from the virus because you’re following the guidelines , I have anxiety so I completely get how you must feel . Remember that your head is probably making everything 10 times more scary , and even though the situation is bad , it will get better. Keep doing what you’re doing Ruby, I love your content ❤️
Thanks for sharing your story, Ruby. We are all struggling at times, especially this year. Thank you for being honest: It's helping me and I think others, too.
Having other people acknowledge that everyone, especially students, are struggling right now is really meaningful to me.
Thank you for sharing that love, it helps immensely knowing that everyone is struggling with something, there is some beauty in showing vulnerabilities. Wish you all the best 🌷
Thanks Ruby. Being able to share bad days is a huge step in making ourselves well. You are stronger than you probably give yourself credit for.
We all love you and your honesty. It takes a lot of guts to be totally open. I read your book on Kindle and thoroughly enjoyed it ! I hope there will be another soon ❤❤❤
thanks for sharing the highs and lows of your day. thank you for being brave enough to show these moments
Thank you so so much for talking about mental health! I also struggel a lot with it (in a diffrent way but it still helps me a lot when you open up about it)
You are completely not alone in how you feel, I just started my 4th year at University and have also struggled a lot moving back during the pandemic. I have the same anxious hypothetical thoughts like 'what if I get covid and bring it back to my family' and especially at work as I work part time in a care home so I think 'what if I bring covid into work'. These thoughts really weigh on my shoulders, and the lack of control over what other people i.e. housemates are doing, also adds to the equation. What has helped me over the last day or so, however, is when I spoke to my CBT therapist I guess you can say about it, and she made me realise that even though to me these are very real worries that I perceive as rational, they are in-fact hypothetical situations that thinking about does not do anything good or help anything. You can take the necessary precautions, but its not feasible to micro manage your life to avoid a situation that might not happen in the first place. Obviously these things are much easier said than done to rationalise, especially when anxiety brain has a mind of its own haha. I hope you just know that you are not alone in feeling this and as you said, its okay not to be okay sometimes!
i needed to hear this today- have had a bad mental health week and seeing someone talk as openly about it as you was amazing - hope you're feeling better, thank u for the video xx
Thank youso much, Ruby!! I've been having such a hard time toay...
My anxiety has been so bad throughout the day and it's really comforting to know I'm not alone.
*PS:* I really love your videos! They always cheer me up.
Thank you for sharing Ruby, you’ve made me and I’m sure others feel less alone by being open with this and make sure to take care of yourself
Thank you for being so vulnerable and brave. You're so strong Ruby 🤍
Oh Ruby!! My heart is with you
I really appreciate it that you also talk about your vulnerabilities and bad mental days. 💗
I’m so glad I’m not the only one with these worries coming back to uni, your videos have really been helping me though!
I extend my warmest wishes to Ruby and everyone else who is struggling with mental health at the moment. I struggle so often with autism, anxiety, and depression, and yet better days are always just around the corner. You are not alone, and you deserve happiness and wellbeing.
Anxiety doesn't discriminate! I feel very privileged to be studying in New Zealand, that we have been so lucky regarding Covid-19, that I have family in town that can help out. BUT, I get anxious a lot, and feel guilty for it. I think being honest about where you are at is so important. Thank you so much for sharing!
i suffer really bad anxiety and i always always always come back to your vlogs or routine videos whenever im having a really bad day. so thank you for being you because you bring me so much comfort.
really hope you're feeling okay! sending so much love xxx
Thank you for speaking up on this Ruby, it helps me feel that its okay to have a tough time at this time
honestly this video came at such a good time for me! i’m really struggling since coming back to uni with the pandemic too and my housemates have no respect for my boundaries and it makes me feel so uncomfortable but don’t wish to cause tension!!! this video made me feel not alone
love you ruby! i’ve been having a worse week than normal mental health wise but your videos have helped me get back on track - i did two hours of my assignment work today (which is better than usual...) and many chores, so thank you!
Thank you for your vulnerability 🙏 we appreciate you so much
Hey Ruby! Thank you so much for being vulnerable and transparent. We all have bad days no matter who we are or how “good” our lives are. We live in a crazy world that is scary sometimes so bad mental health days are inevitable. Praying for you and yours 🥰🙏🏽♥️
every once in a while, i have a bad mental health day while trying my best to be productive. it is totally ok ruby, you will get over it!! whenever you post, it absolutely makes my day just to let you know!!
we love you Ruby , take care and everything will be just fine!
I love your daily vlogs! It really motivates me to be productive with my uni work during those strange times. Especially with my undergoing health problems and feeling ill most of the time. Thank you Ruby!
Respect for talking about mental health. Definitely makes everything seem more real.
feeling sorry for Celia is an amazing read, Ruby, I just couldn’t put it down!
on a more serious note, thank you so much for sharing this honest and raw footage with us. I was having a bad mental health day too and it’s really helped me deal with my anxieties knowing that I’m not alone. and neither are you. we will get through this as long as we remember that. best wishes 💗
You've got this. Keep going. I admire your resilience, hard work and honesty.
Thank you Ruby for speaking about your anxieties with covid ❤️ As someone with OCD, I’ve really struggled during the past few months, so I appreciate you being honest about how you feel. Lots of love and I hope things get easier for you xxx
It's always important for everyone to remember that what you see online isn't 100% of the story of someone's life. You're so lovely Ruby, and I'm glad you had the courage to show everyone that you aren't perfect and that you have bad days like the rest of us. I hope you are able to feel better/more comfortable soon!💖💖💖
Thanks for being vulnerable! Loved the little nod you did while looking at the pumpkin 🎃!
Ruby, you are so genuinely nice person, so sensitive and so precious. I struggle with anxiety too and I feel very bad this year. But this year I also found your channel, so it has positive things too. I wish I could meet you and hug you and tell you in person how great is to watch your videos and how it helps me with anxiety and gives me hope. I am sending so many hugs and positivity and love and good wishes to you x
I’m back at uni and this was so incredibly reassuring (in the sense that I feel less alone of course!). I’m worried about it too and I’m feeling a bit homesick after coming back. Thank you so much for being so honest and raw. God bless you- sending you lots of positive energy xxx
Thank you so much for making this video Ruby! My mental health hasn't been terribly great as of recent. I've honestly been having a bit of a rough day. However, seeing this video really made me feel better, as well as made me acknowledge that its okay to feel this way. I hope you feel better soon. I hope the semester is going well for you 💗
Thank you for sharing your hard times Ruby, it is nice to see that other people have bad days too and that I'm not alone when I have had a hard day!
Thank you for having the courage to post this :) it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one in this situation. It really helps out👍🧡
I think it's very important that you talk about these. These times are hard on all of us and we need to know we're not alone with our worries. I hope you feel a little better now. :)
It is okay to not be okay. I think everyone has anxieties but it does help to face it. Sending hugs. I had ocd and ptsd for years in my early 20's so I know what the feeling of overwhelming anxiety and panic attacks can be like- stay strong.
I have been having a tough time lately and I can relate to some extent how you feel. All I can say is that you are so brave to be open about it and talk about it unlike me. I love you loads. I hope you know that we all love you and want the best for you. This tough time too shall pass. Keep working hard the way you do Ruby. You inspire so many lives.
And whoever is reading this, I wish you loads of happiness and good health. Times are tough but we are strong enough to fight it.
And yes, It's okay not to be okay! 💖💖💖
"Its ok to be not okay" 🎀🎀Even these sort days are required in our lives they make us learn so much and be grateful for happier days❤😇
Just stumbled on your channel and I am so glad I did! You are a beam of light that shines in the darkest spaces. I wish you happiness and good days in your future. :)
Thank you for sharing, I was home for two weeks and then had to start going back to work, riding public transit etc I experienced that each week I went back to work got slightly easier and less scary so don't worry you'll slowly feel more comfortable.
Thank you for sharing this and being so honest Ruby. Sending you love and strength x
I must say up until know I felt like I was dealing with this whole Covid situation quite well.... it only hit me the last couple of days and I‘ve been feeling quite anxious... thank you for being so open about it, you‘re not alone
its okay sweet girl i’ve been at uni for three weeks and had at least 10 of these. you’ve got this. weve got this.
You’ve got this!!
stay strong ruby, sending you love and support
So so important ruby! Thank you for showing that everyone has bad days. Hope you’re feeling better now!❤️
Ruby you are soooo strong . Nothing could stop you or break you down , we all are with you.
i was in a similar boat when i had to return to work after being furloughed for three months. it was very hard, especially because i spent most of that furloughed time with my family. i am very blessed that i was not completely laid off, but returning to work was still hard.
thank you for sharing this ruby! it's ok to not be ok, we'll always be there for u and I'm sure everything will work out in the end
Thank you so much for your honesty, you make me feel soooo much better!!
Hey Ruby! I admire you talking about this I really do! Hats off to you :) I have just started a mental health series and I have been trying to eliminate the stigma surrounding talking about mental health. Love that I have found an awesome UK youtuber! Keep flying the flag you are amazing x
Thank you for showing this! ❤ Its so important we normalise bad days especially when you're always seen as the positive person!
Well done Ruby for making this video with such openess and honesty! You are an inspiration!
Thanks Ruby! I really needed to hear this now, I’m struggling as well but now I don’t feel so alone ❤️
Wow I was really struggling with going back to uni this year. Everything feels so huge and crushing and scary and so much harder than it did last year. Seeing that other people are struggling too kind of helps. Feels like I'm not alone and maybe I do have the power to scrape myself together
THANK YOU FOR BEING SO HONEST AND REAL.
Its what makes us imperfectly perfect 💖
This came at a really good time, I've been struggling a lot over the past few days, it's really nice to have people talking about these things c:
Feel better soon ruby! ♥️ You're an inspiration to us all. Do what makes you feel your best xx
I'm struggling with anxiety too, we got this
Thank you for being honest and human. I can relate to what you're feeling.
Oh Ruby, I get you so much and I am so grateful I can watch your videos!!!!
You're brave don't let anything disturbs your mental health and you life
Hey Ruby... you're amazing. Keep smiling and keep being you. You'll get through your bad days and keep inspiring us🌹
Thanks for sharing. I know the feeling of having a bad day and not wanting to talk about it. And consequently, that people and friends always assume that your life is just rainbows and sunshine... Much more often we should remind ourselves that everyone is struggling from time to time.
Lots of love Ruby xx you're doing so well, it is okay to not be okay that's very true. It's amazing that you are sharing this. You have nothing to feel guilty about, it's so so okay to struggle and like you said it's amazing to be open about these things. You've got this Ruby ❤️
I’ve had a bad mental health day as well, my motivation was really low and I couldn’t do as much as I wanted to,anyway You are so incredibly inspiring ruby!
Thanks for showing the vulnerable side of your because we all are human and I guess less or more we all are facing it. Its just 2nd week that my uni started and I can already feel the grind
Thank you for being real and sharing the not-so-perfect moments, Ruby. Sending love.
Hi Ruby, stay safe! Just make sure that you take the necessary preventive measures and you'll be fine!! ♥︎
Don’t ever feel bad for struggling. You’re only human and your feelings are valid. Sending you lots of love 💕
Ruby here’s something my mom once told me,
“Would you feel bad about getting a lead in the school play? No you wouldn’t so why do we feel bad about feeling bad for ourselves”
I hope this helps. 😘
you are right everyone has bad days. I think whenever you don't feel like talking about your emotions to someone, just grab a pen and a paper n start writing down everything that is going on in your mind. It really helps in channeling emotions. Lots of love from india♥️ ♥️