responding to assumptions about me p3
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- Yet another assumptions video for Anti-Bullying Week 2020
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*"When you judge me without knowing me, you don't define me, you define yourself."*
Its a beautiful quote...luv it!
Nice but v can make some kinda gud assumptions
"When you take a dump, it smells"
so good!!
Beautiful
" you fall in love easily: *i* *don't* *think* *so* *cause* *i've* *never* *fallen* *in* *love* " i felt that
What.. most of us love our parents but sure as hell aren’t IN love with them
Anonymous there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone
Great
@hufflepuff harry potter lover actually it's not sad at all, there are so many other beautiful things in life worth living for ...a relationship isn't always the centre of the universe for everyone...and as you get older you realise relationships are just unnecessary drama, headache etc and some some people are just way happier single and free
@hufflepuff harry potter lover I don't believe you had ill intentions at all however not everybody needs a romantic relationship in their life. Just because you experience romantic attraction doesn't mean others experience it the same way or at all. If you don't feel the need to be in a relationship then that's no loss nor is it sad, a romantic relationship doesn't define you.
There really is much more to life than romance. If it's important to you that is perfectly fine however i'm a firm believer in the theory that a relationship can only then be healthy when you don't need it to feel complete but know that you are already complete on your own. :)
“Women have minds and souls as well as just hearts, and they’ve got ambition and talent as well as just beauty. And I’m sick of people saying love is all a woman is fit for.” - Little Women
You saying True and please "SUPPORT FEMINISM!"
This is one of my favourite quotes EVER! Thank you for sharing this in the comments section!!!
Wait I really needed to see this! Thank you so much for sharing this, I’m tearing up reading it. I’m starting a PhD and everyone keeps asking me when are you going to focus on yourself and get married and have kids if you just keep studying and it’s so hard and putting me off my career path but this quote really helped!
Jo March, I love her
@@RubyGranger8 do you subscribe to jordan peterson's teachings?
I like that you pointed out that there's no such thing as a wasted day. There's no need to feel guilty or anxious about how you spend your down time.
I could totally see Ruby in like 40 years, in her little house somewhere in the english country, just reading writing, vibing. The world is okay in this image. Maybe she has become a beekeeper. There is a cute little stream going through her beautiful garden. The house is basically a library on the inside. Tea. A whole aesthetic.
this is the exact life i want in the future
Same.
I wouldn't be a bee keeper, I'm scared that Barry b. Benson would come @ me
This is better than my english work 😅
let's write a fanfic.
I think you are introverted more than shy, there are many people who confuse these two terms but they're different
yes they are i am an introvert but i am not shy
Yes! I have no problem talking to people and socializing but I prefer spending time with myself than with others.
@@zm9927 Same. I like spending some time around people, I enjoy conversation and hanging out, but I need to recahrge on my won and I do need some time, in a day, just for myself. If I go on vacation witha group of friends for more than 5 days, I'll probably take an afternoon off. There will be a trip or half a day at the beach that I'll skip just so that I can refocus. People that know me recognize that I become irritable after a few days without "down time", and that I'm much better to be around once I've had that couple of hours of just me
being shy and extrovert sucks opposite don’t.
or both
I am 34 and I wish I was as sorted and matured as you are at your age. But its never too late to unlearn and relearn. I very much enjoy listening to you and understanding your philosophy of life - love from India
I’m a fellow 34 year old. I’m sitting A-Level Economics next summer and hopefully going to university in a few years time. Ruby is the friend I wished I had when I was young.
@@BluePenguin835 I was in IT , left the job to learn German because language was always my first love. Ruby helps me to get back in study-mode again.
@@dipandat You made me feel so much better. I'm about a year and half into my field and I already feel despair about it. I'm 26 though, but I think I'll stick around for a couple more years and truly reflect on what I want to do in life. I'm seriously open to going back to uni again if I really feel I should and will save up finances till then. Fingers crossed.
@@Hari-bz1mh i totally get you. I was your age when I was in IT. I struggled throughout my 20s trying to understand what truly makes me happy. I was earning good money, visiting countries, good at my job but deep inside i was so unhappy. I simply couldn't convince my parents and relatives why I want to leave such a comfortable job. Even today I wonder if I had taken the right decision sometimes. But my husband and brother always say if your goal is clear , no matter how much time it takes, keep persevering sincerely, your dreams will come true. At this age language learning is a difficult task, moreso making a career out of it. But everyday I wake up determined thinking I have got to do this.
I'm 35 now lol
i read "you're insecure about your future" as "you're insecure about your furniture" and i was like ????what??
I'm very very insecure about my furniture 🙈
As 30 year old man, watching this has made me think about what assumptions I make against people I do not know. I've been so hateful toward people I've never met....Thanks for making me realize this and make a change.
Ruby : "you can't do absolutely nothing" me: 👁👄👁
Lmaoo
A quote I read and LOVED it: "We live our lives forewards but we understand it backwards."
Have a good day everyone💕
I love this
Well said🥺👌🌟
"Im not really bothered if you dont like me, cause not everyone has good taste"
The confidence!, the audacity is very funny and Acceptable.
"I find it hard to sit down and watch a film"
That's sounds a lot like me!
The message at the start of the video was so touching. As a moderator in Ruby's livestreams I see lots of messages held in review and the amount of hate and rude comments I saw was horrible. To any of them people who do that on anyones videos or livestreams just stop. Even though they look strong on camera, you do not know what a person is going through off camera there's no need to spread hate. To anyone who has ever said anything to try to hurt someone, stop and just think about how you would feel.
I used to be an internet troll cz I thought that people wouldn't be as affected as they would be...but then I matured when I got cyber-bullied.
That's when I learnt to treat others the way you wanna be treated
Love your ethos about marriage... feels like an automatic expectation to get married have kids etc even if noone has told you to
Doesn't she sound like Hermoine from Chamber of Secrets in this whole video🖤
Omg I love her so much!!🤗
Omg I recognized the same thing!
As apposed to Hermonie in the rest of the films? 😂
It's just the accent
I love how personal you got in this video and you seem so carefree and happy in this video! And I am so happy that you are!
i love the way u smile while answering those questions 🥺
I liked your view on marriage. I think its such an interesting concept that if you have a big goal like that and it doesn't happen then it feels like a fail. I've always wanted to get married but ultimately there are so many independent goals I want to achieve that as long as I'm happy I guess that's all that matters.
Loved this ruby! It’s been so cool growing up with you the past few years on your channel. Both of us have grown so much and it’s just lovely to see that
Thanks for being honest and vulnerable Ruby! Bullying can be so damaging! Being bullied as a kid helped me learn to control my own speech and actions to try to always be kind. I dislike how as a young adult in the workforce this kindness is seen more as a weakness. Something to be taken advantage of, not something that encourages others to be kind. While bullying can definitely teach you some good things it can also take a very long time to unlearn the bad habits it formed within.
I love how with these videos we can see a different side of you, it's so nice
you seem so comfortable on camera as of lately and like you're letting more and more of your personality come through! It's so nice to see
I loved the Hermoine thing for you. It was so relatable, I totally identified with her as a kid and did very similar things to add fantasy and imagination to my life like wearing cloaks or making wands and of course, honing my book readi g while walking skills. It was a beautiful time.
I think it's so incredible when you talk about Hermione's and your relationship with the character because I consider you to be my Hermione. you're such an inspiration to me and everytime I see you have posted a new video I immediately click because you truly make me happy
I think it’s really valuable to frame this with the anti-bullying week stuff. I am one of those people who loves an assumptions video, which is fine, but it’s so important to think about how assumptions can be damaging 💖
Hey Ruby! I have never been this early, so ill use this opportunity to say... i love your videos and i think you are a real inspiration for this generation!
thanks
She’s a really positive and amazing person I love u ruby ❤️
you‘re the sweetest person ever!🥺
That bullying and assumptions analogy gave me a whole new perspective! Beautiful ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this Ruby! Scrolling through social media definitely makes it easier for me to make assumptions so thank you for this reminder and thank you for being so genuine!❤️
I love Ruby’s channel so much and she inspires me a lot I think it’s because I can definitely relate to her! Thanks so much for the awesome content throughout the years, keep up the good work!!!!
your room gets incredible sun light I really love that.
I love your honesty and just how you are so open and kind, that‘s so inspiring to me (:
Thank you for answering my question Ruby! Your content is amazing and I love who you are as a person. A great role model and truly inspiring!
Don't be so hard on yourself you are an inspiration I love your videos you give so many people motivation!
This is actually a great excercise, everybody should do this, make a list of things you assume people think about you, and by doing this you could get to know you better, and understand why you are the way you are, and get an outside perspective of yourself, and use this to find ways to improve your self, because society can be a great mirror to find out how much of your inner self is reflecting to the outside world...or maybe im just being too philosophical, either way, this is a great video :)
@workingonit Glad it was helpful :)
Ruby I think you're an amazing person! We are so different in terms of habits and lifestyle (only from what we see online of course) yet I admire you very much. I hope you keep doing what you're doing and that you're happy! Greetings from Athens!
I really liked this more chatty video, it gave me a better grasp of your personality to see you just casually talking :)
I'VE LITERALLY BEEN TRYING TO FIND YOUR CHANNEL AND WAS UNSUCCESSFUL. I'M SO GLAD I FINALLY CAME ACROSS IT AGAIN! YESSSS!!!!!!!!!!!
Ruby, you’re TH-cam videos make my day better! It’s so important to tackle bullying because it’s almost become a normalized thing. We are the generation that need to break stereotypes!!
Ruby here is something I don’t assume about you but something I know : you are such a wonderful person and you are ambitious, smart, creative and an amazing, young woman. You’re one of the few people in life who have inspired me and continue to inspire me each day. Thank you for everything but most importantly I thank you for simply being yourself ♥️
This woman is so eloquent and wise. I initially started watching a video of her daily routine to pass some time, but she is so inspiring that I stayed. I just love the way she carries herself to maintain both an organized life and a clean mindset. 🧡
I totally agree with you. She looks and she is really wise.
your channel is one of my favourite channels - I’m 24 and often get caught up in the world and you ALWAYS manage to bring me back down and you make me feel so warm and humble. always be you x
I think it is so important to exude kindness to other human beings and to not simply, as Ruby and her mother say: “assume.” Because by having, as well as spreading assumptions, people can be hurt in more profound ways than many others can imagine. So I’m so thankful for people like Ruby who spread so much awareness to being kind, even if it is something that should be done without question, many people still fail at it. I think it is important to keep in mind that you never know what a person is going through, and even if they are totally fine or even if they are not, it is always important to be kind. Because I truly feel that even if we have nothing left, there will always be kindness and kindness can truly save people. Thank you, as ever Ruby for your insightful videos. Keep on inspiring. ♥️🕰🕯🍂
You are so sweet 💕 these are such well thought out answers. I really struggle with organisation and commitment to my studies, but have found your channel incredibly helpful. Thank you!
I really appreciate your videos since the day I started following you on youtube, you seem to be more relaxed on camera, and that is amazing.
You inspire me to be the version of me that I’ve always wanted to be.
Xoxo
I want to tell you that you are an absolutely wonderful human being! I have been following you for around 4 years and you always have inspired me so much, academic and life wise. We also share a love for Harry Potter which is amazing! I love your content, to many more years!!
I enjoyed this video and hearing you talking about these private and sometimes difficult topics! Thank you for opening up to us 🌸 And I must say, today some of my negative assumptions about people were proven wrong and I’ll try to be more mindful about it from now on 🦋
love how open you are in your most recent videos!! thanks for all your awesome content ruby, keeping me going through lockdown! :)
I agree with being very faithful with only a couple of friends. I think you have a lot of wisdom and thank you for shedding light on some dark places in our world.
Hi Ruby! I follow you for 3 years now and I wanted to tell you that you’re an inspiration to be kind and productive during lockdown
Anyway love from France 🇫🇷 😘
I always smile when Ruby uploads a video, it just makes my day ❤️
you're amazing so please dont let this stuff get to you. may every year be one in which you find further freedom from the limiting assumptions of others upon your life
You're beautiful - don't let other people's assumptions make you feel bad! 💛
Actually I never watch this kind of video but in this case when I saw Ruby , it matters ! Love your vibes❤️
ah I'm so honoured 🙈
@@RubyGranger8 When people think of you as someone who belongs to a whole other world, and you use words like honoured ❤️❤️😍😭
Ruby, you are absolutely STUNNING!
I have heard about your canal in the past but I never really started to watch, now I did and I absolutely love your video's!
You are so inspiring and your videos always make me feel better. Have a great week and thank you for everything you doing ❤️
Gosh you truly are such a beautiful and kind woman
your voice is so graceful and elegant! how beautiful!
I don't know exactly for how long I've been following you, it's been long though. I just wanted to tell you that you've grown so much and that you're an incredibly beautiful human being - and naturally pretty too! :) wish you the best
you're such a precious little nerd inside and out, you deserve all the love in the world (btw I'm not saying nerd in a negative way, more like you clearly enjoy academics)
I love watching your assumptions video because it helps me to reflect on myself too and I love to hear your answers :-)
love how honest this video is & your smile is so pretty and cute :)
Another great video!!!
You should do a NOTION tour, how you plan and how you use it
Love your videos!
That's an amazing video! I totally enjoy watching you sharing your opinion on different topics. This gives so many ideas to think about. Thank you❤️
loved this ruby! and your camera presence is so calming too
Ruby just gets more and more beautiful everyday!💜 Thank you for your videos Ruby! Love you!💖
"Opinions aint facts, take'em in and let'em go!" That's a song lyrics but I can't remember which song, but I love it regardless :)
I love ur videos soooo much !!!!! your the best ruby ! you make me smile on the day i feel like crying
You remind me of Hermione Granger. I love how you’re so much like her, including her thoughts and personality. Love you Ruby 💖
We're "synced" up in life, in a way. I graduated from school and changed my field of study at the same time as you. I watched your channel all throughout the years! But when things most changed for me was when I met my current boyfriend Feb 2019. My priorities shifted somewhat. So it's interesting you're deciding against a relationship. Its probably a priority-setting decision too, which I can understand. My grades are still the same, but I can tell how much a relationship changes things.
Yes, I wish that my ex-boyfriend also would have changed priorities, when he got together with me 😅 He was always studying and doing sth with friends, rarely sth with me... Eventhough he was the one who wanted to be together so badly. Anyways, it is now good, the we aren`t together anymore, wasn`t cool always hearing from him, that we can`t meet, he is doing sth with friends... Actually I like the thought of ruby about not being in a relationship it saves me from so much worry and other bad emotions and also gives you a lot of time for yourself! but I know, that my parents will be sad about me having not kids... 😄
@@inspiredby-sx7wy Reminds me of the saying: a good relationship is better than no relationship; but a bad relationship is worse than being single.
@@clare2385 Haha true!
Being in love and being in a relationship is nice but heartbreak isn't. I can kind of get why Ruby isn't prioritising love right now because I do have that mindset too. I on the other hand got that mindset more from my past love life that was a mess then Ruby's reason
I am following you since you were in school. You definitely blosssomed into a beautiful and smart woman.
Awhh you are the cutest human being! I hope you have a good day❤️
You are doing a beautiful job here ... and igniting passion in the hearts of others ... You are the best
Great video!! Good topics well handled! Also, I have that same Christmasy red cushion, what a cosy mood it gives!
You have such a positive face Ruby!!! Plus your approach is so unique.
mini Boden club! Actually kind of loved it, I felt cute in all those bold/clashy colours growing up
I’m scared of the future too. It feels good knowing I’m not alone. COVID has made everything I had planned for my future come to a halt. Growing up has always been scary, but it’s even more scary in the midst of a pandemic.
I love what you said about doing what you love despite what other people say 💕
the scarf in your hair looks lovely!
I love this video Ruby. You are so true to yourself and that is very inspiring 💖
Ppl will say all kinds of things to hurt u but they can't change who u r ....... a quote from a song "So don't u worry your pretty little mind, people throw rocks at things that shine" this is ur life live it the way u want to ...... u shouldn't change yourself just bcoz others want u to be the way they want you to be .......... peace ✌
I really enjoyed this...
Your a sweet, kind-hearted person!
Watching your videos is genuinely looking in a mirror ❤️ my responses to these assumptions would be identical! I’ve never related to someone so much 😍
I love your videos so much! You motivate and inspire me. ❤️
YES SAVE THE SHARKS!!! I'm so glad that you are big on this issue too, I am literally listening to this while I write my speech on shark conservation for school.
Ahhh same! My mum always used to tell me the advice her first boss gave her “assumption is the mother of all fuck ups” and I think it’s true because making assumptions about anything can be harmful in the long run!
I think everyone has at one point tried to act like their idol. Thats part of finding your own identity
I loved this video, it is so important to stop assumptions. I also think these videos are a great way to get to know people more. Could you do a video about what you want to do in the future :). e.g. job, future education, if you want a family etc
Honestly, do not worry about what you want to do your PhD in/on. I kinda changed my 'focus' (what i was interested in) almost between second and third year of UG, and I am in the process of getting my masters now and writing PhD applications (not for Sept 2021 because I need to BREATHE).
The older I get, the more I appreciate friendships to romantic relationships..
Understandable but I think it's an irrational fear to see that friendships and romanctic relationships have really much of a difference. I mean there are differences ofcourse but I am assuming you have never been in a relationship or atleast a serious one so I can see why you would have this kind weird fear. (Tho I will admit this is based on an assumption)
@@lobstered_blue-lobster literally what fear? When did they ever mention they were so frightened by the thought of being in a romantic relationship? Their comment stated that as they grew, they’ve become more aware of how much more precious platonic relationships are in comparison to romantic relationships- that they might’ve been excessively seeking in the past
@@imeaiwteh7540 first of all, the person's comment stated nothing what you said in the latter part of their comment. They simply said as they grew they appreciated platonic friendships more than romantic relationships, nothing else you simply added the other parts in.
And the reason I said "fear" is more hyperbolic than being accurate because there are more things in common than there are differences between them. The aspect of let's say forming a close personal bond or hanging out and having fun or (even a negative one) being toxic and discouraging them in anything (like "you can never be like 'x', or "you'll never achieve your dream" and other more toxic ones that I am forgetting) are not mutally exclusive to either of them, it happens in both. So what I was trying to imply is that it is cognitive dissonance to gravitate towards a certain one while resist the other when really they are almost the same. In a way this is a double standard. It's also like asking "who do you love more/who do you think is better, your mom or dad" this is a frankly a stupid question and a comparison, I hope you'll agree and I don't need to clarify why. My point is it's an either/or fallacy.
@@imeaiwteh7540 and also "...how much more precious platonic relationships are in comparison to romantic relationships.." in what sense might I ask?
@@lobstered_blue-lobster literally shut the fuck. I won’t even try to be respectful anymore. You’re not making any sense and you’re not sticking to your original narrative, you using a couple words you read on the internet here and there doesn’t give your words credibility. Point out EXACTLY what I said that couldn’t have possibly been implicitly stated in their comment, then compare it to your totally baseless assumption and manipulative claim of them being fearful of romantic relationships, hence tricking themselves into thinking they appreciate platonic relationships more.
If you care about what people say about you here's one for you... you are doing a great job. I got lots of inspiration and motivation from your videos and you. Thank you for being a beautiful color in my life. Lots of love from Istanbul ❤ stay safe
Hi Ruby! I just found your channel a few days ago but I love it. It helps me so much to stay motivated! Btw we´re so similar, I would´ve answered most of the questions the same way. And you´re always so kind and respectful, your friends must be very happy to have you :)
Hi Ruby. I pray for you to always in a good condition mentally, phisically and any kind of aspects. I've been following you since you were in highschool and i was in my 3rd semester in uni. You really help me with your productive video and I was sooo happy when you announced that you already in uni. Today you are very mature and the way you talk is really different from before. I remember your first semester, maybe you kind of confused or shock with how college is, idk.. but now you grow soooo well. I'm sorry for my bad explaination. I'm not native btw, but I should learn more like you. Love you from Indonesia.
"You're sensitive about what other people say about you." This is very hard due to the fact that we are human beings, we are and always have been a tribal people, we want the tribe to accept us or we feel useless or unworthy. The way I approach this is "I am sensitive to what some people say about me" i.e. people who I look up to, some relatives and friends or people that I respect and who want what is best for me. Everyone else's opinions just don't matter because they don't have your best interests in mind.
Ruby you're like a factory for deep quotes
To be honest, sometimes your videos make me feel sad bc you are so productive while I just can't force myself to do ANYTHING. But this one made me feel very good, I think I like your personality even more if that's possible. I hope one day you will find someone to love, that's a really good feeling (tho I know some people never experience that and they still have a perfectly happy life) and you deserve it.
Sorry for my grammar, English is not my first language, but I hope it's understandable. :)
Can I just say Ruby you’ve grown so much into your features and look so beautiful!! Not to sound like an old lady but you are literally becoming a woman now from a girl it’s pretty cool we could see your journey through youtubr