Thank you for being so vulnerable and open about your story. You've obviously done a lot of work to heal from your experience. And you are absolutely right- it was NOT your fault. Keep shining your light in the world. ❤
So brave. The strength that must have taken. In my life I have found that when I allowed myself to be fully vulnerable it always results in personal growth. Take care of you.
You are so brave and so amazing. I'm so glad you are on a journey of healing. Thank you for taking the time to try to educate the community on this taboo topic. Your words are wise and helpful.
Thank you so much!! (This is Sadia! I gave the talk!) It means a lot to me that you watch the talk -- and took the time to write such an encouraging comment!
'BIOLOGICAL father???not step father?!?!' ugh finally found someone on internet with similar story as mine .... dysfunctional family... mom also a victim with unprocessed trauma ... father throwing his grief onto me .....
Hi this is Sadia the girl who gave the talk. Thanks so much for your comment. Wow I am really sorry this happened to you! You are not alone. It's not your fault.
@TVSoaps666 Hi, sometimes it can be difficult to understand "tone" when things are written and not spoken. Yes, it's true everyone has problems! Some seem okay to talk about. Some problems can make it seem like no one cares. Well I care! Not all families are great. Mine definitely wasn't.
@TVSoaps666 Feelings are normal. I had a lot of bad feelings yesterday then I remembered to wait 24 hours. And this morning things are a lot better. Feelings come and then they go.
Sadia, I liked your story and the way you approached the discussion. I also liked your drawings. I'm glad that you found your way, that you chose healing, that you found a way to make them and others to be aware of the impact of abuse from a dysfunctional family on children. I wish you strength and courage and a life always good and worthy of your beautiful soul! Keep shining your light with your voice and your drawings!
@@girlgeniusnyc272you and I have the exact same story and I am so grateful to have found your speech; I used to feel so disgusted with myself but now like I’m not alone so thank you 💗 can I please have your email so we can talk with each other more?? Thank you for speaking up 🫂
You are a beautiful, confident, talented girl. And you are strong. You are guiding and helping others. Not many people have achieved what you already have. And I am sure you will go from strength to strength.
Thank you for finding the courage to step out and tell your story and educate people of this experience that many of us experienced as children. Thank you for finding the words to explain this.
Thank you so much! Even as a child, I thought I "just needed the right words". It was never my fault! Adults around me refused to admit/accept what was going on. Again, thank you for your comment.
Thank you for sharing this traumatic event in your life. No child should be subjected to this. When you say you are talking to the universe, what do you mean by that? Can the universe listen to us and answer?
Hi Eric. This is Sadia, the speaker. Yes I absolutely believe that the Universe listens. I have seen this happen many many times. I thank the Universe for all the good things and ask the Universe for help when I need it.
I needed this. I have been feeling so alone. Like no one gets me. At 55, I struggle still. I am the same going no contact 16 years with my father. But tried recontacting my mother 3 times and it never worked out and recently told her I just cannot. I get too many intrussive thoughts being around them. No one apologizes and you are expected to assume your familial role. Holidays and birthdays are lonely AF and so I choose to make sure I am working those days.
What if it’s not your choice at first and he persuades you into wanting to do it then it turns into manipulation and things a good loving father would do just cause he cares doesn’t happen unless you do something for him?? I haven’t said anything because I feel like if I’m agreeing to it it’s not legitimate but it’s ruining my life I don’t know who I am everything is a lie
No matter how old you are or when it started IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Children depend on their parents for food and shelter! Damaged/Broken people take advantage of this. I don't know enough details about your situation to give any "advice". This is what worked for me. The abuse (from my dad) stopped when I was around 8 years old. When I turned 18 I went far away for college. After college I cut all contact with my family.
That sounds like gaslighting and manipulation to the max to me. If somebody has to convince you why you actually want something, that's shady. But inner emotions are complex, wish you the best in at least eventual remission/ recovery
No You mean you didn't make it up for shits and giggles Lol😮 People still amaze Me! Bless you for speaking your truth. I hope very soon I can as well Society silences many ; Survivors/ thrivers deserve so much more. Stop gaslighting victims Stop making them the crazies. Stop victimizing the victims And bless those who can not comprehend this type of abuse, but Please don't pretend to know And don't judge It isn't anyone's place to do so. Assumptions yeah makes both parties....
Hi I am the lady who gave the talk. How do you suggest that I "get over it"? The abuse was NOT MY FAULT. That's the point. I spoke up to help other people who have survived similar situations. If you don't like my talk, that's okay. Plenty of other people have found it helpful.
@@girlgeniusnyc272 Please dont let these trolls get to you. My girlfriend suffered the same. We are still young. She felt EXACTLY the same as you explained. Groomed at a young age, knowing its wrong but not knowing to fight back. Your talk helped me understand her a lot more! She is still recovering, not yet completely detached, but the abuse stopped a few years ago. I'm aware it takes time but I wanna help her through the journey. She did the same thing, pretend it never happened because she couldn't process it. Until I came along and i started healing her and was patient with her . She opened up after 2 years of our relationship. We are both girls and that is the only reason she can trust me. Please dont let them get to you. You're incredibly brave. Incredibly! My girlfriend is afraid to be an orphan. Your story tells me that she will find happiness too, that with time she will recover.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open about your story. You've obviously done a lot of work to heal from your experience. And you are absolutely right- it was NOT your fault. Keep shining your light in the world. ❤
Thank you so much! (I am the girl who gave the talk.)
So brave. The strength that must have taken. In my life I have found that when I allowed myself to be fully vulnerable it always results in personal growth. Take care of you.
Thank you. It was a very difficult journey, but I knew that this talk would help people!
You are so brave and so amazing. I'm so glad you are on a journey of healing. Thank you for taking the time to try to educate the community on this taboo topic. Your words are wise and helpful.
Thank you so much!! (This is Sadia! I gave the talk!) It means a lot to me that you watch the talk -- and took the time to write such an encouraging comment!
'BIOLOGICAL father???not step father?!?!' ugh finally found someone on internet with similar story as mine .... dysfunctional family... mom also a victim with unprocessed trauma ... father throwing his grief onto me .....
Hi this is Sadia the girl who gave the talk. Thanks so much for your comment. Wow I am really sorry this happened to you! You are not alone. It's not your fault.
@TVSoaps666
Hi, sometimes it can be difficult to understand "tone" when things are written and not spoken. Yes, it's true everyone has problems! Some seem okay to talk about. Some problems can make it seem like no one cares. Well I care! Not all families are great. Mine definitely wasn't.
@TVSoaps666 Are you okay?
@TVSoaps666 Feelings are normal. I had a lot of bad feelings yesterday then I remembered to wait 24 hours. And this morning things are a lot better. Feelings come and then they go.
@TVSoaps666 Hey sorry for my late reply. How are you?
THANK YOU SADIA!!!! YOU ARE BRAVE, AMAZING AND APPRECIATED!!
Wow thanks for your comment!!! (I am Sadia the speaker.)
Sadia, I liked your story and the way you approached the discussion. I also liked your drawings. I'm glad that you found your way, that you chose healing, that you found a way to make them and others to be aware of the impact of abuse from a dysfunctional family on children.
I wish you strength and courage and a life always good and worthy of your beautiful soul! Keep shining your light with your voice and your drawings!
Thank you so much for your kind comment! Yes I am still making drawings and playing guitar!!
@@girlgeniusnyc272 I am very happy for you! Go ahead with a lot of courage!
@@girlgeniusnyc272you and I have the exact same story and I am so grateful to have found your speech; I used to feel so disgusted with myself but now like I’m not alone so thank you 💗 can I please have your email so we can talk with each other more?? Thank you for speaking up 🫂
You are a beautiful, confident, talented girl. And you are strong. You are guiding and helping others. Not many people have achieved what you already have. And I am sure you will go from strength to strength.
Thank you so much!!
A very difficult life experience. May God continue to bless you w healing and peace.
Thank you so much! This is Sadia - I gave the talk!
Thank you for finding the courage to step out and tell your story and educate people of this experience that many of us experienced as children.
Thank you for finding the words to explain this.
Thank you so much! Even as a child, I thought I "just needed the right words". It was never my fault! Adults around me refused to admit/accept what was going on.
Again, thank you for your comment.
Thank you for sharing this traumatic event in your life. No child should be subjected to this. When you say you are talking to the universe, what do you mean by that? Can the universe listen to us and answer?
Hi Eric. This is Sadia, the speaker. Yes I absolutely believe that the Universe listens. I have seen this happen many many times. I thank the Universe for all the good things and ask the Universe for help when I need it.
Thanks for being a beacon of light!
Oh wow! Thanks for your beautiful comment!
I needed this. I have been feeling so alone. Like no one gets me. At 55, I struggle still. I am the same going no contact 16 years with my father. But tried recontacting my mother 3 times and it never worked out and recently told her I just cannot. I get too many intrussive thoughts being around them. No one apologizes and you are expected to assume your familial role. Holidays and birthdays are lonely AF and so I choose to make sure I am working those days.
Sadia, you are so beautiful and confident and while you speak!!!! Keep it up!
Oh wow!! Thank you so much!
Tell somebody..even if they are your mother.TRIBAL LAW
Thanks so much for your comment!
Thank you for discussing this.
Thank you so much! It was not easy but I knew I would help people.
THIS is stunning and brave
Thank you!! It was not easy but it had to be done.
You are a brave young lady. God bless you. I have a friend her dad used her for a very long time. Like a wife....
Thank you 💕 bless you beautiful ❤️
Thank you so much! (I am the girl who gave the talk!)
Amazing sharing ❤❤❤
proud of her for standing up there and speaking her truth. heaven bless her
Thank you so much! I am Sadia (the speaker)
What if it’s not your choice at first and he persuades you into wanting to do it then it turns into manipulation and things a good loving father would do just cause he cares doesn’t happen unless you do something for him?? I haven’t said anything because I feel like if I’m agreeing to it it’s not legitimate but it’s ruining my life I don’t know who I am everything is a lie
No matter how old you are or when it started IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Children depend on their parents for food and shelter! Damaged/Broken people take advantage of this. I don't know enough details about your situation to give any "advice". This is what worked for me. The abuse (from my dad) stopped when I was around 8 years old. When I turned 18 I went far away for college. After college I cut all contact with my family.
That sounds like gaslighting and manipulation to the max to me. If somebody has to convince you why you actually want something, that's shady. But inner emotions are complex, wish you the best in at least eventual remission/ recovery
No You mean you didn't make it up for shits and giggles
Lol😮
People still amaze Me!
Bless you for speaking your truth.
I hope very soon I can as well
Society silences many ;
Survivors/ thrivers deserve so much more.
Stop gaslighting victims
Stop making them the crazies.
Stop victimizing the victims
And bless those who can not comprehend this type of abuse, but
Please don't pretend to know
And don't judge
It isn't anyone's place to do so.
Assumptions yeah makes both parties....
Thank you so much for your comment!
I am the girl that gave the talk.
THANK YOU.
❤
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Oh gosh! Could you please be more specific?
Geez.......this lady has so much baggage. Get over it already.
Hi I am the lady who gave the talk. How do you suggest that I "get over it"? The abuse was NOT MY FAULT. That's the point. I spoke up to help other people who have survived similar situations. If you don't like my talk, that's okay. Plenty of other people have found it helpful.
@@girlgeniusnyc272 Please dont let these trolls get to you. My girlfriend suffered the same. We are still young. She felt EXACTLY the same as you explained. Groomed at a young age, knowing its wrong but not knowing to fight back. Your talk helped me understand her a lot more! She is still recovering, not yet completely detached, but the abuse stopped a few years ago. I'm aware it takes time but I wanna help her through the journey. She did the same thing, pretend it never happened because she couldn't process it. Until I came along and i started healing her and was patient with her . She opened up after 2 years of our relationship. We are both girls and that is the only reason she can trust me. Please dont let them get to you. You're incredibly brave. Incredibly! My girlfriend is afraid to be an orphan. Your story tells me that she will find happiness too, that with time she will recover.
Are you serious? Does this ring a bell for you, you living the trauma as well but can’t possibly let people know?
@@johnlumb1078
Thank you