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A WEAK Spouse in HARD Times
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ต.ค. 2021
- So many are asking what to do in this scenario.
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I like this quote and live by it. “I’d rather have a $10.00 purse with $300.00 in it than a $300.00 purse with $10.00 in it.
P.S. my husband and I agree on almost everything. We are trying to be prepared for anything. He’s such a good man!
My husband is asleep. He thinks I'm completely nuts and a hoarder. But I'm pushing on, I use my income to prepare so that when the day comes my family will be taken care of. It's hard not having that support. But you gotta keep going.
As a widow I am in this alone. I wish Tom was here. He would be the one helping me stock the pantry. He would be out getting the turkey and the deer. He busted his butt to support his family and he taught me everything I am now doing. Canning, dehydrating, not wasting anything. I miss him and his laughter and his knowledge. God bless you Patara
My boyfriend of 12 years left me because I have fear of the future and want to be more rural and prepped. He was bored not being able to go to clubs and tired of hauling wood and wanted to move back to Portland. What a waste of my life.
Yesterday, a famous woman on twitter wrote in BOLD letters "STOCK UP" . I was shocked at the number of folks who said "FOR WHAT?" BUT, also proud at the majority who said "They were and had been!" 😊
The Proverbs 31 woman: She was diligent, creative, financially stable, an entrepreneur, attentive, a good planner, a land owner, a gardener, an overseer, hard worker, consistent.
I call my husband a Neanderthal. He knows what’s going on but just carries on with his job and stuff around the home. We don’t call repair men, he fixes everything. He doesn’t argue about my stocking up, he lets me run our home. His vacation recently was cutting down trees around our property. He’s smart but prefers a simple life. Also, we have no debt so we’re comfortable in our old age.
My hub wasnt on board and thought I was nuts, UNTIL he saw what happened last year. By God’s grace and lots of praying, HE opened his eyes! Thank you Patara! ❤️🙏🏻😘
My husband knows that I use preparedness to manage my own anxiety. I’m wondering if women framed it as “This is something I need to feel secure”, if that could be helpful.
I'm the same way. Was raised to have a solid pantry but also went through a period of years where I was homeless and starving. I can handle not having money no problem. If I don't have at least 6mo of food I have panic attacks. I know by experience I can handle living outside long term but only eating a little every few days breaks me.
Pretty sure my husband thought I was nuts for prepping prior to lock down, but he had no problem eating those groceries that I had stockpiled. Guess who just bought a second freezer and filled it? Sometimes just planting a seed and letting them think it was their idea works. :-)
“Lodge and Louis are not the same thing.” :) This is also a great reminder that it’s better to be single than to be sharing a boat with someone rowing the other way. So many homesteaders are families it’s great to remember being single can be a blessing too! Thank you Ms. Patara!
I have to say, that this is not an issue with my household. My wife and I are fully aware and awake in regards to current events. It's shocking that so many men and women just close their eyes to reality and "hope" things work out.
My eyes opened in 2018, told my husband about the "bad feeling" I had about the future in our world. He listened to my concerns carefully and fully supported my ideas of "stocking up a little just in case". Since then I learned how to can fruits, veg, meats and learned to bake all kinds of bread. Invested in vacuum seal, canning jars, equipment etc, saved an emergency cash stash in the house. We have 30 gallons of extra gasoline with stabilizer that we rotate. He has done a lot for the non food preps, he knows things I don't (former Army MP) We work together on this and bounce ideas off each other. I am so grateful, it's so much easier with him on board. I'm scared for single parents who don't have a partner in life to help them.
I'm listening to this as I peruse the Dollar Tree aisles! My husband makes fun of me (in a kind way), but after we experienced the Great Freeze of Texas, he is very much appreciative of my canning and the things I had stocked up on. Marry wisely.
Heck, I’m the man in our marriage telling my wife exactly what you are saying here. We have not really bought a good bill of groceries in a yr and a half. Why? I found Patara in a video a couple of years ago in her pantry and something clicked. Since then, it’s just how I think. It made total sense. BUT….we also buy extra should family or friends need something. My family first tho! We’re getting low on some things but I’m taking note. I have a lot to learn still BUT ppl laugh at my wife and I. I don’t care! My house is fed and taken care of. God, wife, family, and all else after that. Great video!!!
My spouse is weak in some ways but extremely strong in others, same for me, but we compliment each other and follow where the other one is strong and support each other where needed.
Praise God, you said it well!
I'm a man with a woman who doesn't really care to get on board. I'm stretched thin doing the work while, it seems like, she works against me.
I'd like to show her this, and tell her to switch "husband" to "wife".
I work 6 says a week, and work at home everyday. If she'd help a little, maybe it would help....forget "maybe", it would help.
I can't see doing it like this much longer.
Thank you talking the time for your videos.
You've described my husband to a T. He works outside of the home in a very high stress job and just doesn't have the time to think about the little things. However, that being said, he trusts that I will make all of the right decisions for the house and our kids. So if I buy a little extra for the pantry, he doesn't bat an eyelash and just assumes I've made the right decision. Thank you for addressing this very difficult topic. So many people needed to hear your thoughts.
I ain't got no time for weakness, not in myself nor my hubby. He lets me do my prepping business, but prefers I don't chat him up about all the happenings in the world. I have no doubt he will be ready when stuff flies, but it would be nice to be able to unload some of the things I hear going on out there. So I talk to my dogs about a lot of it. 😂
Ditto!
Ditto
I can't imagine being with a husband who isn't supportive of my plans to make sure our family is taken care of in any circumstance. My father once told me, "You can't turn a Poodle into a Rottweiler." People are who they are whether it's weak, strong, determined, or apathetic, kind, or as mean as a snake. We have to work with the choices we make in this life...or make other choices.
This is my life I'm trying to prepare alone and I think someone thinks I'm crazy. Wait til we need the stuff I'm putting up for the hard times.
We are very much like you & James. My husband & I are on the same page. He is losing his job Dec 8th. We know we will be able to eat. Our savings will pay for things we can't do ourselves. I am lucky that my husband is a jack of all trades. There isn't much that he can't do. We have built our house by ourselves with me working right beside him.
My husband grew up a city boy, inherited his family farm while I grew up in the country dealing with not getting to the store often because of being snowed in. The first year we were married we moved onto the family farm. He accused me of being a hoarder. However, after that winter, he has become my helper in “hoarding” food for the winter months. For 15 years he has been my helper in making sure we are set up to be snowed in for at least a month. I have always been a monthly shopper but in the last 2 years I have turned into an every 3 month shopper but will use things like Amish bulk store or Azure for other things every month and a half.
I live in California not by choice. I eat my own canned food and prep hard core even though my nearest grocery store is 1/4 mile away. My point: extended family wont eat my canned food. They think it's below them and only poor people do that. By blessing is I have a great wife that understands my efforts and stands by me 100%.
It is heartbreaking to me that a husband is mad because the wife bought extra groceries. I think you have given very good advice, bless you. I'm sure you have helped many.
Good talk, Patara. Choosing wisely is the #1 thing. Most things people complain about in their spouse were there when they were "courting", & they ignore it or think they will change. If your man doesn't put you/family first....do you have a man? Likewise, we need to be trustworthy & honest in our "running" of the house.
After 19 years I had to leave the grasshopper to meet his winter. Now my ant hill is well stocked.
My husband has thought I’m an absolute lunatic for stocking up on food basics. Just the other day he read about shortages and is finally believing it’s good to have extra food in the house.
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7
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Pray for wisdom and understanding on how to handle a weak man in hard times.
We are to be a helpmate! If letting my husband know what we need to do, how we need to prepare, and gather and store away for our families..then by golly I think that sounds like a great helpmate! Ladies we need to stay busy! ❤❤ wonderful video!
For years I listened to my husband say omg that's crazy. This year it has been omg what can I do to help!!!
Good afternoon 🙋♀️
I've never asked if my husband was to be on board I just did it he shrugs and buys my shelves to put my food up. The cool thing is he never believed me (about economy when he had his accident doing this saved our behinds) but let me do it anyway he thanks me everyday.
My husband is a hoarder, and that's a whole other nightmare - he never stops even when we've run out of space to store. I've been prepping since o was in office, because I felt in my spirit big trouble was coming, so it's not that I don't believe in prepping because I certainly do. Because I'm now home-bound disabled and my husband is not doing well, we live with our divorced son and grandson out in the country, so my push for them is to garden, and they are now majorly expanding our small garden, so most of our extra monies are going to seeds and supplies to to care for a large garden. You will never be able to store enough for a crash in our economy, but you can prepare by gardening and hopefully raising chickens for eggs and meat. If you are unable to garden, try micro gardening inside because you can grow more than you might think...
I think it might be helpful for the husband to walk through the grocery store and see the half empty shelves that have been fully stocked in the past. It might be a wake up call.
I'm extremely blessed to have a husband on the same page as me. He is fully awake and aware of what is going on.
My heart goes out to those men and women that are struggling with this factor. I will continue to pray that God opens up people's eyes and hearts to see the truth.
Much love to u all 💕
May God continue to lead and guide you in His wisdom. You speak such truth that needs to be spoken. Way to frequently I see/meet and or know weak men. As a Christian woman, it is best for me not to remarry at my age. Being unequally "yoked" is not an option during these already stressful times. God bless and keep you and yours. God be with us all.
Women look well to the ways of your household.its a calling.
My husband tried to open my eyes about 10 years ago, when we first got together. I didn't take heed to his request to buy extra food the first year because I didn't understand how important it was. I am in charge of paying the bills but we always discuss where the money goes. I am so thankful for him in my life.
I feel this. My issue is he was raised up sheltered and wealthy ... I was not. I realize what is going on and he thinks it will all "blow-over" ...
This winter is going to be long dark and colder like never before people "STOCK UP"!!!
Yes. Thank you.
I divorced my weak spouse years ago and haven't regretted it one nanosecond. I wish I had dome so sooner. He turned out to be the the poster child for the "dead beat dad" club, not paying child support or spousal support for 2 decades. There are many men out there like him unfortunately. Strong, competent women often attract weaker men just as the Empath attracts a Narcissist.. You offer some words of wisdom, always. I so appreciate your honesty and speaking the truth. It must be that Native american heritage which I adore. Thank you for being you. Blessings to you and your family.
I do the lion's share of the prepping purchases for our household. But husband is totally supportive and he does make the purchases in the protection realm of things. He sees what's happening but as the sole income for our family he spends his time working hard to provide and I spend my time managing the household, homeschooling, and prepping.
I stand up and applaud you, Patara. James is a blessed man. Praying your gentle way of speaking will wake some people up.
My husband has called me a hoarder more than once. But he was the one that bought shelving (unsolicited) for my hoard. World events changed his mind. There is no way I was not going to make sure my family had enough.
I got my partner on board by pointing out there has been a great depression every 80 years or so, and we are overdue for one. Also ask him how many empty shelves he's seen at his last visit to the supermarket... The other thing is did was buy bulk of specials we like, and I pointed out we rarely pay full price for anything because we have enough till the next special. That made him happy.
This was a good talk. Thank you
Young Women: choose a good man and use your family and friends especially your father to vet your boyfriend and future spouse so you don’t end up with a weak man.
Married Women: Be honest and open with your husband, let him know that you will feel more secure and safe when you are prepared. If you are not aligned spiritually. Pray for your spouse FIRST and ask the Lord to help him lead this family and for the Lord to open his eyes and ears. But, remember where your true help comes from which is the Lord. The Lord ultimately gives us wisdom and provides for our needs. I do agree that buying a few extra cheap items like rice and beans and pasta should not cause a problem with your marriage. But, pray first always. God bless.
People in relationships (marriages especially) vow to support each other through sickness/health, hardships/good times, poverty/wealth … whatever… if one partner has to step up and be wise for a while until their loved one figures it out and joins them then GO IT ALONE (meaning just do it and take responsibility) because it will be better for your family/marriage to be prepared than for your family to be unprepared and at the mercy of difficult times… you don’t want to set yourselves up for regrets, for blaming, for failure
Perfect advice as far as I'm concerned....and that was me 15 years ago. Ladies, my husband was not a believer & had no idea what was going on to be "awake & preparing". I would tell him things that I learned (both spiritual and world events), but not push at him to agree; but I included his permission in all my purchases towards prepping especially big ticket items. I don't spend money on myself so he listened. I was the one who kept up with the news & helpful prepping tips. He was the one who was the best shopper for the buck and reminded me to buy 2 instead of 1 even when I complained that the cart would be too full...lol. He started watching prepping shows, bought all our firearms, ammo, bugout bags, gear for SHTF scenarios. I'm the one who wanted to homestead...he build everything I asked him too. I wanted chickens he said ok...but he thinks they are a waste of feed for eggs...but he did it because it was a start at self reliance. He isn't a farmer & hates outside sweating work but he agreed to the 4 acre farm. He started keeping an eye on the news, found similar minded men to share prepping ideas with & we made prep friends. All this evolved over 15 years because I didn't want to force anything, but kept him informed of what was going on in the world. When things are scary & I want to pray, he holds my hand and prays with me. When I get more worldly than spiritual he reminds me of what is true from the bible & I had said it...even though he is "not a believer". o.- It makes me blessed and laughing. Thank you so much for your sound advice, well balanced & spiritually sound....it worked for me & my "weak" husband who is now a strong, wise leader in our family especially when I am weak or want to give up. :)
Good advice! My husband wasn't on board at first, but didn't try to curb me in any way. As time went on last year, he began to come around slowly. I kept suggesting he store up some firewood. He finally got a good amount stacked up under the shed. (Probably to quiet me a little! LOL) When the February Freeze hit us in Texas and we stayed warmer than most and my stored water got us through until the day the water was safe to drink without boiling, his attitude changed! He now tries to accomplish anything I think is a prudent safeguard without rolling eyes or shaking his head! LOL Also, Patera, my Aldi's had the marinara sauce today for .....$1.49! YIKES!!!
I will drive a car until the wheels fall off too, but hubby does make sure our vehicles are well maintained. It's good when your husband can trust you and my husband and I have the same arrangement as far as who does the budget and pays the bills. We discuss large purchases with one another.
My God! You are “Superwoman”. So great to hear what really needs to be said, heard, and how to say it. I’m in the inverse situation, so it is not just the men. Eyes, ears, minds, and hearts need to open up to the real world we are in.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for these words. I was just praying about this. I want to give my husband the benefit of the doubt that he is just too consumed with trying to keep his job and thoughts about what is going on in the world are too much. I prayed this morning that in God’s perfect timing his eyes would be opened up and that he will be thankful for the preparations I’ve been doing. I have often said over the 22 years of marriage, that as a mom and a wife I am a thermostat. That is how God made me. More often than not, the Holy Spirit moves my spirit and lets me know what is going on. It’s okay that my husband doesn’t necessarily hear it when I do. I just need him to trust me when I do.
A counselor once commented that my late dh was a "fire fighter". What he meant was my dh would not deal with a problem until it became a fire. I could tell him over and over that "X" was a problem and he would ignore it until it exploded in his face. Once this was pointed out to him he changed and made an effort to act in a more timely matter. When I said we needed to prep and explained why I thought so, he was 100% onboard. He built the shelves, he took responsibility for prepping in areas he was responsible for and helped with food and other supplies.
Blessed to have a husband that is on board!
I am so glad I found your channel many years ago! God bless you Patara!
Thank you! My husband can only deal with the stress of his stressful job. And I have been feeling like he’s in major denial. But your perspective has been so helpful- he’s a good husband and father. He supports me in running the home. He can only deal with so much. He supports me in my preparation efforts. Thank you and God bless you
My husband’s ‘ bad day ‘ was last Friday ( October 8 ).
When I realized it was his ‘ bad day ‘ , I let him know that I was there for his support. His emotions were totally depleted. Every ounce of emotion left him. Yes, he has been very happy that I’ve been stocking, still. We went to the Lord in prayer.
Faith is another thing/ blessing we need to stock up on, btw... we’re gonna need it.
Stock, stock, stock ladies.
Thank you dear for everything you do!
May God bless each & everyone❣️🙏🏼
I have always said I wanted to ask the Lord about the Bible saying men are stronger, because many times I feel the men I know haven't been strong and I have felt I had to lead which I feel is their job.
I grew up in West Virginia but am now in Texas. I'm second generation American- my grandparents came from eastern Europe before WWI. First thing my grandmother asked when you came into her house was what did you want to eat? It might be coffee and a slice of bread but there was always food. Yes, we have to listen to those voices from our past. Take care and buy another bag of beans!
"Hard times create strong men
Strong Men create Good times, Good times create Weak Men. And, weak men create hard times".
~ Stefan Aarnio
Amen. One of the big clashes in my marriage was I always back stocked when I could. It took going from 3 incomes to one for him to understand and support it. The marriage didn't work out for another reason but I constantly tell folks to make dang sure you both have the same resolutions on what is and isn't acceptable.
I love love the way you talk I could listen to you all day ⚘ . In November
I will be married to my husband 25 years and I'm so blessed because my husband and I are on the same page about stocking up on Food we agree on most things. and he don't say nothing to me when I buy extra because he knows I'm looking out for the family . But I don't care husband or not when it comes to buying extra food and my family I'm going to do what I have to. Please keep talking and sharing your advice because You are 💯 right.
God bless 🙏
I try and add a little bit every trip to the store. My problem is no storage at home.
Not all women are like you. I had to find my wife from Venezuela she is the best. US girls don’t see where we are headed she has lived it. Thank God for sending her into my life.
You're just calling it like it is. Sometimes TRUTH stings.
This has been a serious problem in my household, especially since all of this mess started the last year plus.
This was very well put, and included much wisdom. I'm not religious, but I agree with you 💯%. Communication is key at the end of the day. New subbie✌🏾
At the beginning of this “demic”, I had to read mine the riot act…… I STRONGLY voiced ALL my concerns …….. from that point forward he has been onboard 100%……..I give him a list, he shops….. and I prep…..our dehydrator is running everyday and all day…..
Mine FINALLY “gets” it! Possibly of starvation is a real MOTIVATOR!
My spouse is trying to come along side with preparing for what may come next but he doesn't really get it. He thinks we get raptured before anything gets bad, but girl we know that is not scripture.
And somehow he doesn't see what's happening today either. So yeah I understand this video totally. God bless Shalom praying for you sister
Amen! Thank you, Patara! God bless you and keep your family safe in His arms today. God will provide!
Please remember this when raising sons (and daughters). Raise them strong in the Lord, not feminized in the flesh 🙂.
Thank you for putting this out there for everyone. I am thankful that my hubby woke up during this pandemic! I was starting to stock pile a little at a time before the pandemic hit. Him & the family said I was being a hoarder! But when the pandemic hit I had plenty that everyone else was out of! Now the hubby is on board & asking do we need to get more of this or that? The other day he said we sure have spent a lot of extra money. I said that extra money will not do any good if there is nothing on the shelf to buy, now will it? You think about that & if it is on the shelf what price will it be? He just saw where we bought a bottle of propane last week for our grill for $44 and last night we got an extra bottle for $64!
Stock up as much as you can & I pray that we all make it through to the other side. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I love love love your channel. You are grounded and wise beyond your years….God Bless and keep you and yours🙏🏻❤️
You are spot on with this Patara. My husband, is a wonderful man but wasn't on board at first. But , I started with out him and he started to see the light. As far as biblical goes. You are an Esther for such a time as this. The Holy spirit can also speak through your wives gentlemen! 😉👊❤ Thanks again Patara!
I am so fortunate. My husband and I have been preparing for years. He is always involved in ensuring our family is ready for any issue. Our motto is multiples, backups, and options.
Thank you, Para, for your transparency and honesty. My man is finally on board...after retirement, we're headed in the right (✝️) direction, together.
My wife runs the house/farm. I've been working 50+ hours a week for over a year. She mostly figures out what we need/afford. I've told her I would rather have food, livestock, seeds, and such over a bunch of digits in the bank account that can be turned off at the blink of an eye. She went shopping and saw a 20lb bag of rice and was going to walk by it, but heard me saying why didn't you get it. She told me when I got home from work and I laughed saying you know I would have been mad. 😂
Lord, please give her and every one of Your children Your strength.Holy Spirit, move through every crevice in their lives, so that they can survive and thrive for YOUR GLORY. In the Name of Jesus I pray. Amen
Neighbor Friend ..... I detected ZERO lies in this video!!!!
Amen...we are a team here. Thank you
So blessed with a husband that understands. Our children married or on their own yet he knows I am putting a bit more back so incase they need food. God comes first in out home with my husband second. He knows and feels the same that I am number two with God first. He works while I have a few health issues that made me no longer able to. He says because of the way I budget and do that we have more than people making three times what we make. Still want to move out of this city so I can have chickens and a bigger garden than I do now but waiting on God's plan for us. You stay strong. God's blessing to you and yours
You said everything I would say! Praying for all families out there to make it through these times.
I haven’t even listen to it all and I’m yelling oooh come on with it!!!
Love you hunny!!! 🤟❤️
Great and needed message! We have to as women need to talk about this and help to encourage one another in this! We need each other. I sure needed this video of encouragement! Please do more of these!
I love, love you guys. You are a blessing to us, and you all are always in our prayers. I couldn't agree more with you on everything today. I'm not one of these wussies, in this country today. I'm fully in tune with my little lady, as well as she with me. We're a great team, and have nothing but respect for each other and tons of love.
You keep it up little lady, like I said you are a blessing to the world, God has given you a platform to do wonderful things and you don't disappoint. ❤️
I have been working on my pantry but I just still feel so underprepared.
The lord helps those who help themselves. Prepare and pray.
I wish I had a good woman in my life to help me prepare. But unfortunately I'm alone and have to go through everything alone. Maybe one day. I'm glad to see a strong woman.
It’s like you’ve read my mind. Thank you so much for taking your time to give an unbiased opinion on how to handle this Extremely stressful situation. When you are trying to do the best for your family but someone else does not understand why.Sending blessing 🙏🏽
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I'm a strong woman. Hubby respects that. He respects my foresight/intuition. We have been discussing current times. We are a team. No, we may not always agree, but we are a team.
Spot on! The struggle is real.
You are a real blessing stay strong this is great advice your so smart and wise women...I'm single and I refuse to be with a man that's not on board with prepping or a man of God 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
You spoke very tactfully and wisely about a nightmare situation that has been deliberately thrust upon us!!
"When the going gets tough, the tough get going"!! Heard that in swim practice all the time, many decades ago!!
Thank you Patara and Blessings in abundance!!
He’s finally coming around. Was so surprised when I pulled out M95 masks for us. I do what I have done for the last 20 years and my family will make it Lord Willing.
I know how overwhelming a person can feel. I also know I can do More than I think I can.. I thank God for the energy and will power to do it. I am just one person. What you choose to accomplish will make a difference in your life, and the lives of others.
Patara you are so correct on every level. Only a few cans of pumpkin puree on shelf at supermarket and no small cans of
pumpkin pie mix. No canned sweet potatoes. Grocery Mgr said not getting products until November and they will be limited.
They already know!!! Now what is this all about. Limiting groceries? We need everyone praying to lift up our country.
My God continue to bless you and your family. We are listening. Praying in Texas.
Well said! A loving and respectful approach.
I feel like it can be quite tough for a strong women to know how to effectively reel back and provide space for a man to step up and work with us, without stepping on his role as head of the family. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
A few years back my husband of 31 years was diagnosed with Severe Major Depression ( job Related)and didn't work for three years. He's better now and working but still has bad days so on good days he knows what's coming on bad days he doesn't. On bad days he doesn't say anything about extra buying unless we spend $300.00 on a grocery run . Great advice Patara.
My husband’s whole attitude is” God is in charge and God will provide”! Mine is “God helps those who help themselves” !! He sits in his recliner and waits! I go out and make or get things in order! I go crazy and he watches TV! He is very weak in every way! But it’s my fault for choosing this sort of man in the beginning! At 70 it’s too late to change now!
I have been struggling for YEARS on how to navigate doing what I believe to be good and right, without stepping beyond my husband's headship. There isn't any good counsel around me other than other ladies telling me, basically, what he says goes, period. It has left me in such a tug-of-war mentally, spiritually, emotionally...I am exhausted! Especially since we don't see eye to eye on much at all. I want to stay home, he wants me to work; I want to homeschool, he wants the kids in public school; I have a strong faith, he is a "cultural Christian"...I laid it all down before the Father - and He reminded me of Deborah, Abigail, and Eunice (Timothy's mother). Thank you, Patara, for the confirmation.
I've bought myself two purses in the last year that might be considered "expensive" to some, but not to others. I certainly thought they were expensive, but they're the first purses I've ever owned that cost more than $15. Hell, the last purse I carried I had for about 20 years! I think I was overdue for a little treat, but I rarely treat myself to anything.
Most of my "big" purchases are along the lines of "Oh! Jars on sale!" or "Oh! Look At The Size Of Those Roasts!!" LOL. I even got us 20 lbs of ground beef for our freezer for about half of what it would have cost normally, and it was grass-fed beef. Woot! That might not sound like a lot to many but it was a lot to us! We were used to getting 3-4 lbs at a time until we bought our big upright freezer this year. Yeah, I guess it's been a year of big purchases to help us in the long run. Heh.
My husband isn't weak, but I don't know how strong he truly is. We'll see what happens in the weeks to come. I hope he's strong enough to refuse the you know what but he's talking about being uncertain himself whether he is strong enough to refuse it outright or not, even after having submitted a religious exemption form. We'll see...