Shiko dear... Am so happy and inspired by this... Well i know it is a podcast of two(Mr Mike kudos)but as the womanist I am, I admire your versions courage... The courage to change your life over and over, The courage to move... On... The courage to submit to a man again. Take your roses dearest. ❤
One thing I have learnt about this internet ,?If you ain't compatible with someone leaveeeeee!!!!I love the new blooming relationships after break ups to be honest this are wins happy for women who are leaving and thriving elsewhere ❤❤❤❤
Through this broadcast l have come to really like Mike ❤ over the years l have compared Mike with Maina Kakeni :) … Mike seems like a really good person
I've really enjoyed listening to Mike's perspective on this episode. Thinking about the guys I've seen so far, especially those raised by single mums without a positive male figure his perspective is so true
I am a single mother of one boy aged 8yrs. His dad wasnt in his life from when he was 3yrs - 7yrs. Mostly because of the differences between the two of us which we were able to sort out, thankfully . I realised over time that it is VERY important for him to be present in shaping up his life as a boy and in future as a man. As women , we are capable of raising boys and instilling important values to their lives . But it only takes a man to be a man!!!
Yoooooh...what a conversation, this is my BEST episode yet...wow..yes to everything that Mike said on leadership...boys can only be raised best by a man and girls by a lady..and my take home is "Let everyone lead in their strength,we are not in a competition "that was so powerful Mike..you guys are doing so good with these episodes..can't wait for more to come
I totally agree with Mike on boys can only be raised by other men. If their father isn’t present it is good for them to identify a trustworthy strong man and let him teach the boys on how to become men. I feel as a woman getting married soon, I could tell a clear difference while I was dating on men who had been brought up by single mothers and who had present father/father figures. Men who have men in their lives have a strong sense of responsibility and leadership whereas in my opinion most men from single mothers tend to be ok leaving responsibilities to women and they are not bothered. Maybe it’s because they saw their mothers doing it and it was normal. Just my observation. Also I recommend watching the movie: The Forge by Kendrick brothers . It will put a lot of insight to what Mike is saying. I really enjoyed the conversation
I was listening on Spotify but I had to come on TH-cam to get the full effect of what Mike is saying. Like Shikoku I struggled to accept Mike’s point but then when I considered my friends who have male sons, no influence from male figures and how they have been raised I can really understand and accept Mike’s perspective. There’s a scripture in 1 Peter 4:10 that reflects the concept only a man can raise a man. And I just love how the AMP expanded on the gift of grace. It states “Just as each one of you has received a special gift [a spiritual talent, an ability graciously given by God], employ it in serving one another as [is appropriate for] good stewards of God’s multi-faceted grace [faithfully using the diverse, varied gifts and abilities granted to Christians by God’s unmerited favor].” 1 Peter 4:10 AMP
As a grown woman, having been raised by my father, I can see the disconnect in my femininity. I tend to operate from a masculine energy, which causes conflict in my relationships. I wholeheartedly agree with Mike on the importance of both genders playing a significant role in raising a child
No one will treat a grown a** man like one of the kids unless they act like it. Like Mike said, you own your crown and respect as a leader when you assume the leadership role in your household and perform accordingly. Basically provide for the family and parent your kids - otherwise you’re one of the squatters.
A man punching another in the face is him expressing and acting on his emotions (anger is an emotion). All human beings have emotions and do react emotionally, just differently. Men reacting by fighting is showing emotion. So let's get this notion that women are the only emotional beings out of the way. Research shows that women are better regulators of their emotions. Meaning crying and wanting to talk about someone keying my car is a better regulation of emotions than throwing a punch and not a sign of weakness.
For me, this was so emotional. Am a single mum to two boys, and most days, I blame myself. I chose to get married to such a toxic man who was just wrong for me and the kids, and the thought of having him back into the kids' life scares me. What to do with such mum guilty aki😭
It's awesome that you're aware and it's best to not beat yourself down because ultimately you made the right choice, difficult as it was! It sounds cliche but you're right on the path of peace ,may God reward you !
Don't look at your cup as half empty. You left a very bad relationship because you are strong enough to make that decision. THATS YOUR HALF FULL GLASS. That's how much you love your babies. What would have happened if you had stayed.? Just ensure there is a strong male figure guiding them. You are an amazing mam
Hugs 🤗 Try being in a good Church and enrolling them in some sort of sports activities where they can interact with good male role models. Prayerfully let the Lord lead you and give you peace. You’re doing your best.
Jikaze kisabuni na uwaleee. Why are you taking as gospel truth, advise from two internet strangers😅😅😅didn't God give us all brains? If the man was crap to you, suddenly you think he will turn over a new leaf and become a reasonable, respectable father? Hebu wake up and smell the coffee. Work with God to raise those kids. You also have male relatives. Identify excellent ones and let them mentor the boys.
I know I hate a lot on this show, but today Mike I give you your flowers. Hope it's not the 'broken clock is right twice a day' kind of thing happening😄
Perhaps you have preconceived ideas, that’s why you hate ‘a lot’ on this show, and only agree on what you believe in. Only those willing to learn become wise
@@TiredKenyan I have preconceived experience, and resultant research on why I went through what I went through. He, probably never bothered to ask 'How come I am almost always the one cheated on? Is it all my partners' fault or mine?' Such questions take you pretty deep on relationship dynamics. And so I 'hate' only because I see him mislead other men (or himself). Women are born ruthless on matters love. Men, not so. Ironically, society has us thinking it is the opposite. So I have to call him out for the sake of enlightening the rest. Alikuwa na a few blunders in these episode as well lakini he did more good, so I let it slide😄
@@sammwaniki6916 your own experience is not research, if so I can point to my parents who have been happily married for over 40 years, and a few others in my family
25:00 - Mike is right on how women can't raise men! Shiko is defensive on the single mother raising sons because she KNOWS that being around feminine energy imoacts boys! It's a sad sight when women try to justify raising males rather than men.Criticism isn't always bad ,it can be used to help grow . Good convo though...
@@Kakwasi I was pointing to the fact that SHE WAS prior to him! She ,like many single mothers,are sensitive about issues to do with their children even when it comes from a place of love ..
@@thespot2035To be fair single mothers tend to get a lot of flack for even just existing. You barely hear people yapping about how single fathers cannot raise daughters, even though we are to apply the same logical concept, it can be perceived to hold water. Thing is life happens. As much as everyone would want the perfect "mother-father-child/ren", "masculine-feminine" yin yang balance or nuclear family, life doesn't always pan out that way for everyone. And that is *okay*. So instead of demonizing single mothers doing their best to work with the situation life has accorded them, how about we allow for the complex nuances that exist within this plane of existence? ~Kanye shrug
My favourite couple!!! I love these two together!!! Sasa I differ with Mike Ile part ya women can’t raise a man - I’m paraphrasing- IMO I believe most women can and have, case and point President Obama grew up without a Daddy and look he grew up to be The First black president of the free world. Some men fail too.
Shiko, honestly. You are so much smarter than the conversations you have with this man. So a woman can only bring up her sons to be her mini-boyfriends? Really? I actually gag. Sigh.
In general, it is ideal to have a child raised by both parents however let's stop making broad conclusions about the academic performance of a child is based on the gender of his primary caregiver. That is assumptive. Emotions are not gender specific too. Such assumptions are what some schools use to bar children from single parent households from enrolling. I've met men who I would have never guessed were raised just by a mom alone. Leadership is important, and if a man fails to do so, there are plenty of examples of men who were successfully raised by their mothers.
Shiko dear...
Am so happy and inspired by this...
Well i know it is a podcast of two(Mr Mike kudos)but as the womanist I am, I admire your versions courage... The courage to change your life over and over,
The courage to move... On...
The courage to submit to a man again.
Take your roses dearest. ❤
These two have become my Sunday dose❤
One thing I have learnt about this internet ,?If you ain't compatible with someone leaveeeeee!!!!I love the new blooming relationships after break ups to be honest this are wins happy for women who are leaving and thriving elsewhere ❤❤❤❤
Through this broadcast l have come to really like Mike ❤ over the years l have compared Mike with Maina Kakeni :) … Mike seems like a really good person
Mike is grounded, professional & mature while Maina nose is over the roof na utoto & always talking about cheating in relationships damn!
I've really enjoyed listening to Mike's perspective on this episode. Thinking about the guys I've seen so far, especially those raised by single mums without a positive male figure his perspective is so true
I am a single mother of one boy aged 8yrs. His dad wasnt in his life from when he was 3yrs - 7yrs. Mostly because of the differences between the two of us which we were able to sort out, thankfully . I realised over time that it is VERY important for him to be present in shaping up his life as a boy and in future as a man. As women , we are capable of raising boys and instilling important values to their lives . But it only takes a man to be a man!!!
Yoooooh...what a conversation, this is my BEST episode yet...wow..yes to everything that Mike said on leadership...boys can only be raised best by a man and girls by a lady..and my take home is "Let everyone lead in their strength,we are not in a competition "that was so powerful Mike..you guys are doing so good with these episodes..can't wait for more to come
I love you both and may God preserve this union!!!
I really like Mike's take on relationship..so level headed..
During the 1st half I was struggling to accept what Mike is saying but I listened through and by the end of the podcast I totally agree with him.
I totally agree with Mike on boys can only be raised by other men. If their father isn’t present it is good for them to identify a trustworthy strong man and let him teach the boys on how to become men. I feel as a woman getting married soon, I could tell a clear difference while I was dating on men who had been brought up by single mothers and who had present father/father figures. Men who have men in their lives have a strong sense of responsibility and leadership whereas in my opinion most men from single mothers tend to be ok leaving responsibilities to women and they are not bothered. Maybe it’s because they saw their mothers doing it and it was normal. Just my observation.
Also I recommend watching the movie: The Forge by Kendrick brothers . It will put a lot of insight to what Mike is saying.
I really enjoyed the conversation
Mike's Wisdom is winning on this episode 🔥
I don’t have a family yet but wooow! I love to listen to this every Sunday! It is phenomenal. Thank you for sharing
I was listening on Spotify but I had to come on TH-cam to get the full effect of what Mike is saying. Like Shikoku I struggled to accept Mike’s point but then when I considered my friends who have male sons, no influence from male figures and how they have been raised I can really understand and accept Mike’s perspective.
There’s a scripture in 1 Peter 4:10 that reflects the concept only a man can raise a man. And I just love how the AMP expanded on the gift of grace. It states “Just as each one of you has received a special gift [a spiritual talent, an ability graciously given by God], employ it in serving one another as [is appropriate for] good stewards of God’s multi-faceted grace [faithfully using the diverse, varied gifts and abilities granted to Christians by God’s unmerited favor].”
1 Peter 4:10 AMP
As a grown woman, having been raised by my father, I can see the disconnect in my femininity. I tend to operate from a masculine energy, which causes conflict in my relationships. I wholeheartedly agree with Mike on the importance of both genders playing a significant role in raising a child
Thank you Mike and Shiku for this ❤
No one will treat a grown a** man like one of the kids unless they act like it. Like Mike said, you own your crown and respect as a leader when you assume the leadership role in your household and perform accordingly. Basically provide for the family and parent your kids - otherwise you’re one of the squatters.
Interesting conversation. Love it..
Wow this is very eye opening... U guys always look good together
Love this so much!
That was such a good Convo..thank you
Mike spitting facts 💯🔥
Somethings can’t be controlled However , I do agree with Mike, Boys needs to be raised by Men ! No hate to the single mothers out there !!
Women have become provider!!!!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
A good conversation it is..kudos guys
What Mike is saying is 100pc true
A man punching another in the face is him expressing and acting on his emotions (anger is an emotion). All human beings have emotions and do react emotionally, just differently. Men reacting by fighting is showing emotion. So let's get this notion that women are the only emotional beings out of the way. Research shows that women are better regulators of their emotions. Meaning crying and wanting to talk about someone keying my car is a better regulation of emotions than throwing a punch and not a sign of weakness.
For me, this was so emotional. Am a single mum to two boys, and most days, I blame myself. I chose to get married to such a toxic man who was just wrong for me and the kids, and the thought of having him back into the kids' life scares me. What to do with such mum guilty aki😭
It's awesome that you're aware and it's best to not beat yourself down because ultimately you made the right choice, difficult as it was! It sounds cliche but you're right on the path of peace ,may God reward you !
Don't look at your cup as half empty. You left a very bad relationship because you are strong enough to make that decision. THATS YOUR HALF FULL GLASS. That's how much you love your babies. What would have happened if you had stayed.? Just ensure there is a strong male figure guiding them. You are an amazing mam
Hugs 🤗 Try being in a good Church and enrolling them in some sort of sports activities where they can interact with good male role models. Prayerfully let the Lord lead you and give you peace. You’re doing your best.
Your boys are better off with just you than growing up in a toxic environment. You’re doing just great, mama.
Jikaze kisabuni na uwaleee. Why are you taking as gospel truth, advise from two internet strangers😅😅😅didn't God give us all brains? If the man was crap to you, suddenly you think he will turn over a new leaf and become a reasonable, respectable father? Hebu wake up and smell the coffee. Work with God to raise those kids. You also have male relatives. Identify excellent ones and let them mentor the boys.
Very informative ❤
I know I hate a lot on this show, but today Mike I give you your flowers. Hope it's not the 'broken clock is right twice a day' kind of thing happening😄
Perhaps you have preconceived ideas, that’s why you hate ‘a lot’ on this show, and only agree on what you believe in. Only those willing to learn become wise
@@TiredKenyan I have preconceived experience, and resultant research on why I went through what I went through. He, probably never bothered to ask 'How come I am almost always the one cheated on? Is it all my partners' fault or mine?' Such questions take you pretty deep on relationship dynamics.
And so I 'hate' only because I see him mislead other men (or himself). Women are born ruthless on matters love. Men, not so. Ironically, society has us thinking it is the opposite. So I have to call him out for the sake of enlightening the rest. Alikuwa na a few blunders in these episode as well lakini he did more good, so I let it slide😄
@@sammwaniki6916 your own experience is not research, if so I can point to my parents who have been happily married for over 40 years, and a few others in my family
Mike is wise
25:00 - Mike is right on how women can't raise men!
Shiko is defensive on the single mother raising sons because she KNOWS that being around feminine energy imoacts boys! It's a sad sight when women try to justify raising males rather than men.Criticism isn't always bad ,it can be used to help grow .
Good convo though...
Si she is with Mike. she is not a single mother
@@Kakwasi I was pointing to the fact that SHE WAS prior to him! She ,like many single mothers,are sensitive about issues to do with their children even when it comes from a place of love ..
@@thespot2035To be fair single mothers tend to get a lot of flack for even just existing. You barely hear people yapping about how single fathers cannot raise daughters, even though we are to apply the same logical concept, it can be perceived to hold water. Thing is life happens. As much as everyone would want the perfect "mother-father-child/ren", "masculine-feminine" yin yang balance or nuclear family, life doesn't always pan out that way for everyone. And that is *okay*. So instead of demonizing single mothers doing their best to work with the situation life has accorded them, how about we allow for the complex nuances that exist within this plane of existence? ~Kanye shrug
The ideal is have both parents, however, there are successful men from single moms like President Obama. People like trump had both parents 🤔
My favourite couple!!!
I love these two together!!!
Sasa I differ with Mike Ile part ya women can’t raise a man - I’m paraphrasing- IMO I believe most women can and have, case and point President Obama grew up without a Daddy and look he grew up to be The First black president of the free world.
Some men fail too.
His step dad and grandfather were very much a part of his life.
Women can raise men, yes but male figures, if possible, are important for the boys. Teaches them how to be a man.
You key my car, it’s war!
Shiko, honestly. You are so much smarter than the conversations you have with this man. So a woman can only bring up her sons to be her mini-boyfriends? Really? I actually gag. Sigh.
In general, it is ideal to have a child raised by both parents however let's stop making broad conclusions about the academic performance of a child is based on the gender of his primary caregiver. That is assumptive. Emotions are not gender specific too.
Such assumptions are what some schools use to bar children from single parent households from enrolling. I've met men who I would have never guessed were raised just by a mom alone. Leadership is important, and if a man fails to do so, there are plenty of examples of men who were successfully raised by their mothers.
Scamming old women in Europe😆😆😆😆
By using bible titles you are mocking God.
how so?
You don't belong here
Una zako wewe. Hakuna kitu kama hiyo