I am truly sorry that happened to you too pretty young lady. I thought I was going crazy. And I am 68 years old. People say I look in my 50's. These narcissists are pure demonic. Prayers for all beautiful ladies these demons did to us. 🙏 🙏 🙏
@@sharonshepard2628I was told the same, but I denounced that on his face and went on to start divorcing him! He still can’t believe that I, the soft and sweet one, took the bold step to save myself from him!
I went full No Contact 100%. Its extremely effective when applied correctly. I do not need to shut a Narcissist down. God did that for me. I have remained in No Contact. I also changed my behavior by establishing healthy boundaries for myself by not getting involved with any narcissist once I recognize them. Narcissist are everywhere these days. So you pray and put on the armor of God and be aware of who they are and when they are present. I do not play their game. I see, recognize them and call them out directly by point out their behavior; then I remove myself. Separated, distance and cut off. I sense them when they are present; do not argue or quarrel with them. Move on and walk away, and do not look back.
Yes Absolutely Ms.Tea I needed this today just ran across this video I been gone now for almost 4 years what you explain is where I'm in my life now 2024 . Thank you and this is what I told myself thank you thank you thank you 🙏🙏😊🙏❤️🙏❤️❤️🙏🙏😊🙏❤️❤️❤️
No contact is your power. Every time I start missing him and get emotional, I look at his mugshot from the day he got arrested from putting his hands on me. That photo looks evil and demonic. Then I think about every lie, all the manipulation, the gaslighting, the deception, cheating, waking up with bruises and scratches, and how I feared for my life the day I left. All of that puts my mind back in check and I thank God for saving me from this monster from hell. My new beginning was his ending. When God is doing a new thing in your life, you can’t look back. You can’t go back to a place God delivered you from if you want what HE has for you!!!
@Laiesha Tahidiah Neal In the family setting, it will be your closets relatives that will try to guilt you for setting boundaries and going no contact. They want you to keep up appearances. They put up with the narcissist family member so you should put up with it too. You are not exempt from the abuse in their eyes.
That’s another thing they do!! Towards the end of the relationship when they know u on to them & start confronting them about the lies, manipulations, gaslighting, u know all the wickedness they put forth then they ignore u & treat u like u done them dirty smh🤦🏽♂️
Facts, Strictly Facts... Nothing More, Nothing Less... Write that Craziness Down. Get It Out. Read It Out Loud, Every Day. Remember The Abuse. Facts !!!!!
Almost a year after I left my nex I see this video. Wow! This is so on point!! We have two kids so there has to be a little contact. Everytime he asks why I never call him to ask how he is doing and that he is always the one asking me. I always say, I am not ready for that yet.😅 But what he is doing is trying to make my life miserable through financial manipulation and having minimal contact with the kids while I have a fulltime job, have the kids fulltime and being responsable for everything. This video helped me to step out of my emotions, get ‘angry’ and fight back! Due to low selfworth I kinda belief I do not deserve better I guess😢 Thank you and sending you hugs from Holland!🫶🏽
The way that they play in your face, gaslight, lie and just go around in circles is traumatizing!!! I never understood how a person can be so evil to someone that only wanted to help. It is now about how you treated me and tried to basically kill me. NO CONTACT!!!!!
From what I know these ppl are serial cheaters. Love doesn't even think of cheating.. These ppl are so disgusting. Love love your talks and sense of humour 💯💜
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS SO BAD THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! ugh I'm so excited about my future without an abusive narcissist, I'll even say I'm grateful it happened because now I've gained clarity.
Instead of getting in my feelings I'd take it to prayer. Devil didn't know he was helping me die to flesh. I'd also jot a note for that day on a calendar. I got to see all these patterns written in front of my face, months worth !! I also placed a recorder on him and the disgusting things I hered will never let me go back. Hoover is coming as I have his baby and it's Christmas he's such a looser in my book now even when his charming face is in front of me praise God for bringing all things to light just like I asked 🙌 he cares for you just ask him he'll do it.
Word and amen, YES!!! 🔥❤️🔥⚔️Yes, everything you said YES! Thank God for recording, pictures and reminders we put in secret places while living in Hell! God is ALWAYS WORKIN, even in our low times🔥❤️🔥What was meant for evil, God uses for our GOOD (Romans 8:28 and Gen. 50:20)!!🔥💯
* it was " no joke".." going thru"... But NOW. We can all look back and " see".. you feel me..! I don't FORGIVE. GOD DOES!!!😊...I'm on that right there!...all u can see is the " back of my azz"!.. real talk!😌💗
You got a long way to go my love, but I'm here to tell you...the outcome will always be the same in the end, but you will hurt even worse Everytime you re-engage or make contact with that person. I'm 2 years in recovery and still have my days...but that first year after leaving a Narcissist is pure hell because you are still trying to make sense of things and you're vunerable to reconnecting with them. I hope you stand in your Power and realize one day that it is a Dead End. It took me 3 tries in the spand of 7 years to finally leave the Narcissist alone. The last round, I ended up Homeless with 82 cent in my bank account after he destroyed my life and made me lose everything I owned...even Family. Never EVER go back...the Outcome will always be the same!!!!!
Yessss......The OUTCOME will STILL be the SAME❗💯 14yrs & 2 children of TRYING with My EX Narc. 1 year & 3 months FREEEEEE Kinda, because we still have early teens. I DON'T deal with IT(him) walking or riding...as My grandma use to say.😂
That's All I Think About Is All The Dirty Things He Done There Is Nothing I Want To Return Back To However He Text Me And Said There Was A Major Sell Going On At A Store All I Could Say Was Okay Thanks Other Than That I Don't Desire To Keep Contact With That Bird
This is the one right here!!!! This is where you roll up your sleeves and get to work!!!! I can’t thank you enough for how much you’ve helped me get through this difficult process. May God continue to give you revelation, so you could pour endlessly into others! 💚
Spot on message as always! It's a long process, filled with tears and pain, but once you get out of your emotions and enter the reality of the situation... revelation!!! I'm past my emotions now, other than just being more or less upset with myself for allowing the narc to treat me like a doormat. But, praise God, for the lesson learned! Never again! 👐💪
Yes! Some people are thinking no contact is part of a game and it’s pulling them into a back and forth game with the narc rather than healing. No contact only works if you are truly doing it for you to get healing and get a way from them. Just like forgiveness it’s not for them; it’s for us! We can’t get into a game with these people because we aren’t built like that…. The think that has kept me from even thinking about wanting him is remembering he was trying to harm me. Trying to take me out and how lowdown he’s being at the end. 34 years! Almost 28 in marriage. Carried four babies for this man; three almost took my life. Raising our kids mentally alone… I could go on…. How loyal and supportive I was to him and he’s doing ME a dirty deal! That says it all… Remember who they are! 😞❤️🙏🏽
yessss..detach those emotions and get out your feelings!! never compromise your morals and integrity !! dont lie to me , disrespect me , or insult my intelligence !! im gonna always love me more !!!
It's been a year. I'm still healing. I want to heal so good I forget that bird. I still have some emotions and pain attachment. I'm work to get rid of it so I'm no longer trigger. Wishing everyone the best if you're going through this narc abuse and healing. May we heal, be happy again, and heal. ❤
Everything you are saying is SERIOUS on Point. Im Done with This Person Disrepected myself and my Parent with foul Words of Darkness. Just lieing cheating and talking to another man, im just Done.And Im just. Im here to teach a woman how to Treat a man right.. Im more Happy now
Have a funeral for these birds. Take all their belongings, pictures, or trinkets from them and burn them! Took me three months to slowly back out of the situation. Figured I was doing him a solid by maintaining calm with conversation letting him think everything was fine even when he was being himself lying, cheating, and fleasing money so he would have time to find the new supply since I was not providing fuel. It was hard to ignore and difficult to not react but as Telsha and others have said but worth it all in the long run. Once you're ready let the last time you wave goodbye be the last time they ever see your face. Also looking into erasing any online footprints and address contact info for a monthly fee but probably worth the expense! Hopefully, that will put a halt to any future hoovers! I've been trapped in this nightmare for the last 27 years off and on and family trust that it doesn't get better the narcs just get more creative with the scams and they get more dangerous as time goes on. Ran into this channel and gathered the strength to carry out the plan and so very thankful for this tribe!
He is being honored in our city for the Athlete's Hall of Fame. All the kids will be in attendance. He tried to get them to convince me to come. I gave it a moments thought. Then I had to revert back to Rev. Bullwinkle. Hell to the Naw.
PREACH SISTER!!!!!!! BACKWARDS WALKING GIRAFFE LOL LOL My ex discarded me, one of many before, telling me that she couldnt be the one between me and God and that she was out of my life forever. And for the first i went NO CONTACT for real! I worked on myself. I got healthier, fitter, my job got better etc…she went on with her life. After 6 months she started hoovering me, she found a way to send me emails since she was blocked everywhere. She sent texts to my friends asking to join the bible group i attend to. She sent me another email telling me how much she misses me and how much she loves me and that she is “sorry for not fitting in my life anymore” WTF….! Lol she is the one that dumped me!!!!!!! They are delusional!! I am keeping my no contact!
This is true for me I'm at 6 months no contact and need to start writing all the wrong done to me. It will help. That dirty dog had everything payed for and given to him by me
Yep, same here. To quote Ms. Telsha, that backwards walking giraffe didn't have a pot to p*ss in when I met him! Got it all from manipulating me! I started keeping notes of all his wrong doings towards me before I left for good. It made it much easier to deal with his victim act during the divorce. Oh yeah, you're such a victim alright... that's why you're driving a brand new vehicle that I bought!!! These people are certifiably CRAZY!!!
💯💯💯💯💯100 % facts please step out your emotions and really take time to look at these clowns LOGICALLY you would NEVER WANT THAT DEMON TO TOUCH YOU AGAIN IN A MILLION YEARS I’m two years away from the narc ….had the nerves to look at my tik tok recently I didn’t even entertain it nor bother looking at there page ✌️girl bye
Thelsa.... You're on the money. I had to go thru this EXACT process to maintain NO CONTACT. Take the emotions away and see it for what it is... The gaslighting Focus on the events.. I was ANGRY.. From there I analyze the red flags so I can Heal. Im healing now.. Much better with boundaries And who I need to become as a person In Jesus name. The revelation God gives me is at a higher level.. No more breaking no contact from time to time. Thats over in my life. Im free
I am celebrating one complete year of absolutely no contact from a 27 year old narcissist. Super proud of myself. I have now declared to add a year of not looking at his social media. Thanks to this video explaining that it is my emotions that still want closure. I WILL FOCUS ON THE MANY EVENTS AND THINK LOGICALLY 😊
So true 💯because the first emotion that came over me was Hurt ✔️second was anger and then I started blaming myself but when I did focus in on all the times that I felt awkward and I couldn’t understand what was going on now looking back hindsight that was my spirit telling me to leave the situation alone but anytime I started ruminating on any of the lies that I thought I had a relationship with that narc me remembering all of the lies and manipulations and knowing that he did not mean me any good that’s what keeps me from even second-guessing my decision I don’t regret at all going no contact and never looking back I’m not even attracted to what I thought he was and definitely NOT WHO IS REALLY IS 🙅🏽♀️👿🐍🤢🤮🤡
I’m 39 weeks pregnant and no contact .. I’ve been so at peace and praying to stay that way . His mom has been texting me but I really believe he is telling her to text me .. or it’s actually him texting me from her phone .. he will not be at the birth.. he stressed me out too much during my pregnancy and I REFUSE to let him win ! I will unblock him once I get back home ..BUT if it’s not about our daughter he will not be entertained ..💁🏾♀️ communication through text only and communication will be short and sweet !
I thank God for you!!! Not only have I’ve been healing from your channel for 6 months but I self identified with my spiritual trauma but got my mom to understand the abuse we all faced🙏🏾🙌🏾
Hi I really love your videos its helping me with this narcissist used me told me he was single and come to find out he ghost me and he got married and now he's Spiritual because his wife is a Minister and they chouldnt have sex before marriage but he told he was single but he said he still wanted to be friends
Such wisdom!! Thank you again & again!! This is THE ticket! Don't be reeled in! Me, I am super clear on family and anyone I meet. Discernment, stealth mode, no early emotional sharing. The Holy Spirit, like you say will guide & protect me. I'm not letting these dummies stop me from meeting people to guide them to Christ or relationships. THIS CHRISTMAS, I WILL REJOICE IN MY SAVIOR AND LOVE ON FAMILY. NEW YEARS WILL BE RUNG IN REJOICING IN MY FREEDOM!!! I DO NOT NEED AN ABUSIVE FAKE LOVE nor FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF. Tis the season for me!! Be safe everyone!!
Submit yours ways and do everything unto Jesus Alone and He will direct you. Depend on Him for Everything from relationships to what your gonna eat. You can’t go wrong!
Praise the lord for his mercy endures forever,always listen to our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST you will never go wrong, we love 💕 you Lord and keep on keeping your hands on us because we need you Amen 🙏
I'm amazed at how deep they can cut, I'm almost a year in, away from him and I still feel broken.I knew to keep my distance and not get my hopes up but he still managed to break me..... I don't know how???!!!!
Make a journal. Look in the mirror & talk to yourself what he did to you. What you gave! You are better than that. You are Awesome. This is a speed bump. One Pole at a time. Improvise Adapt Overcome. At the end of the talk Tell yourself I am Beautiful & I love you!! Be thankful he set You FREE! FREE AT LAST! In day 22 of being set free. It is getting better & easier! I didn't deserve that treatment from her! She told in a video Mom Loves You and says You're a Keeper. Mom said to me a few times I need to take you home with me. I treated her like a Queen!! Listen 2 Randy Travis I TOLD YOU SO(he is the caller) or Lee Greenwood SHE'S LYING! or Lionel Richie GOODBYE!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
Funny, a week ago I was looking at coaches who talked about how you get your ex back, will she come back, stages dumpers go thru. Last this week I'm looking for coaches to teach me how to Keep her away from me!! 17 mos with her engaged, many wash rinse recycle. As I always told her Words are nice but I need to see Action. 22 days since she set me FREE. 6 days NC! Going strong!!
A former friend clown 🤡 use to harass me through the DM’s because I no longer allowed her to manipulate me out of my money. She never asked for what she needed, she would always invite me to lunch or dinner and tell me about her needs as if it was a problem she wanted to vent but started hinting about money needs. My Dad died and my friend was pressing me to go out to eat bc of the insurance money. I found out later. Her and hubby both was trying to figure out how to get money from me, I cut them out, block. I went no contact.
Wow l. Yes I was no contact but he has been reaching out and saying everything and nothing at the same time. More confusion and sets me back emotionally when I do talk to him. I feel so much better when I disconnect and go no contact!!! You are on point!
My estranged narc wife had absolutely no empathy nor took any accountability for her actions during the marriage. In fact, my estranged narc wife wanted so terribly for me to believe that I was the one responsible for her actions during our marriage. So, my anger was unadulterated. I would tell her about herself. I called her out on her manipulation and gaslighting tactics. I let her know that those tactics were no longer effective on me. Of course that didn’t stop her from trying anyway, and once I left the household and went gray rock not responding to any calls, voice mails, or text messages, and also blocking her on social media. The hovering tactics began. She tried by first trying to start up text arguments with me hoping to get a response out of me. Once that didn’t work, she started with the nice gestures asking me if we could remain as friends and go out for drinks sometimes thinking that I would just forgive and forget. Of course mother in law and sister in law were calling and asking me how I was doing, etc. and inviting me over to family events etc. I denied all of that. Today, and this is around the 8 month mark since the discard, my estranged wife has gone completely silent as of now, but my mother in law continues to call on occasion asking me how I am doing.
You are talking about a strategy that I used and continue to use everyday. I wrote down every wicked thing that he did to me, and I looked at it several times a day for the first few weeks, and I kept looking at it over the months. He hoovered me for a year and a half, and I never responded. It’s almost 2 years now since the discard, and I made myself feel disgusted by him. I made my emotions take a back seat and thought w my logical mind. Thank you, Telsha for such wisdom. This really works y’all. ❤️
When I took my emotions out of the equation that is when I was able to say I'm done i left unannounced no more talking no contact no social media no posting no nothing i started to acknowledge my self worth that's when I started to heal and my life has been so much better praise God please stay no contact silence and keep it moving
MRS TELSHA 💖💖THIS IS DEEP IT HIT ME FROM FRONT TO BACK.. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE YOU REALLY HIT A NERVE ON THIS .. THE NARC KEPT ME IN A STATE OF WONDERING WHERE I STAND WITH HIM.. YES NO MORE EMOTIONAL RIDE.. HE LIED. CHEATED AND GASLIGHTED ME NO MORE I WROTE WHAT HE DID TO ME DOWN 💯 LOVE YOU QUEEN TELSHA 👑 THIS WORD HIT HOME 💯❤️
He's doing no contact. As well, as me. He's in a whole new relationship. For 6months now. He's engaged and they're buying a house. They're in love hunny.
Telsha, you are absolutely correct!! I journal everything the narc did to me about 2 1/2 years ago when I filed my divorce and it truly helped. When I started to ruminate, I would go and look at what I had written and it would cut those negative thoughts and I have never gone back and I won't ever. I can't take the credit, but someone in the community who I can't remember who shared this with us. It may have been you. It truly works! You can do it!! I have been no contact since June 2020 and I praise God!
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned u better believe when I tell u that the narcissist has no clue who he be dealing with when he is dealing with me I'm relentless and very ruthless when it comes to him hurting me and Mines!
All true but now I don't care to focus on the the events or the emotions lol. I don't even care to argue, the truth is out and it is a big eye opener. When you pray Yahuah reveals revelations. Never stop praying, it works and now Im truly understanding when Yah said we wrestle not against flesh and blood but principalities. Them same principalities has revealed themselves amount other unnatural behavior of the human race and we are surrounded
This was amazing. This cowboy 🦇 was a love bombing, insecure, emotional manipulative man. It has been a year and through the aide of Pastor Kevin Ewing I was able to forgive and ask for forgiveness back in March 2022. It has been an amazing year and now that I have found your page it has been overflowing with answers that I prayed for. MY God continue to provide you the insight and we viewers be richly blessed because of it 🙌🏾🙏🏽🕊❤️🤗
God bless you Ms.Telsha , you just gave me the keys, this is what I've been waiting on. Even though almost 2 years no contact, emotionally still around, I would tell myself you haven't gotten mad about this enough. Glory be to God. You gave me 🔐🗝️. It's really a wrap now!
My god my god she is stating FACTS cause when u start caring again it’s coming from your emotions remember what they did 95% of the time other 5% care from them is fake
You are so right! I navigated between events and emotions and one moment I went no contact and the next in-contact. This went on until a truth I spoke to him scared him so much he threatened me with his lawyers. I blocked 🚫 and deleted ❌all his numbers and have not contacted him in a year now. He retaliated by sending a hurtful message to my son after he asked him to help him financially. My son cried so much blocked him afterwards. He then turned on his siblings and claimed that they influenced his son against him, yet he had told them not to contact us and that’s exactly what they did! He’s so unhappy it smells from far! Please, delete, block and change your number if you can! He will never call or text me again!
Wow this was deep. I let the emotions go because I found myself looking for an apology even though I was no contact. I kept an audio dairy on my phone. Its hard to look back now smh.
Your words really help me a lot to recover fast please dont stop reaching out to future victims that will gonna encounter this type of person, and one day those victims will gonna discover this type of people too and landed to this channel and asking for help, that in need of advice too.. your words such a wisdom to me that really help my soul too.. Thank you so much
Everrytthing hhe did to me, I never ever called him. Out of his name, I never argued back I would try to. Prove him wrong, I never did these things I. Was accused of. I was everything in. The book. Now I know it was projection, but then I didn't know why or who was telling him these things. It was a mess. I was lost, confused sad depressed, this went on for ten years at least 4 or 5 times a week. I don't know how I did it, and I still stayed trying to prove myself to him. Not no more. Damn demon.🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤👍👍
True! Not only did I delete my email and changed number and with no social media he can’t reach me but I also blocked myself from Reaching out to him by deleting his number and emails and anything related to him. And I was able to do that when I started to out my feelings aside and just go through all the actions he did towards me! It’s works I dorm event wnat to see or hear form Him if we crossed paths I dorm have time to stop for the backwards walking giraffe with a dread wig on!
3:23 nope cause my ex thought they was the goat and I said of what and that fools said to me,”of souls”! Let me tell u I got right on up outta there! No contact means also not to be stalking nothing connected to them or even to them meaning checking their social media and all that jazz. U have to detach from the emotion by healing so u can leave those backwards walking giraffes 🦒 behind 😂
😮 Definitely went through this, I kept all my receipts 🧾 and more I started questioning him, I did recorded him girl he was a nasty hateful rude disrespectful person 👀💯his lies started catching up with him 😮and I’m still puzzled on how did he get married without money 💰 😮nothing no car no house want pay bills 👀🧾✅ who is you playing on now 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 run whoever she is will be destroyed just because 😮
Sometimes for me it is packing for an avoided trip by unpacking then repacking (ruminating) but it hasn’t been as bad lately though. I find myself shaking my head when events comes to mind instead of crying and victimization thoughts. And deciding to be kind to Me. This season of pruning comes with honesty and vulnerability. This word was needed cold, freshly squeezed orange juice on a hot day. Thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
No contact is not it. You have to clear the narcissist out. Which means getting rid of the monkeys as well. As the monkeys will tap you and bring up the narc. Cut them all off. The entire line.
It is true u can remain no contact i have been for 4 yrs I erase his number photos all text messages all photos. And it continues to work I also left the church where he was my pastor a sheep in wolves clothing. And we need to make sure we heal our wounding and inner child hood wounding.
Maaaaammm....this was a WORD. I have never heard it broken down like this. I went through my journals entries and got mad. Funny how those emotions evaporate when you just go to the facts.
Yeah. I’m on my 3rd no contact AKA my final no contact. The first time, I was not aware of the Hoover. I did not expect him to do that at all! The next time, his dad died, and I fell for the “I need you” … this time… I’m done and ready for whatever.
narcs = sharks smell blood in the water as Narcs smell your weaknesses. Emotional weakness especially.
I am truly sorry that happened to you too pretty young lady. I thought I was going crazy. And I am 68 years old. People say I look in my 50's. These narcissists are pure demonic. Prayers for all beautiful ladies these demons did to us. 🙏 🙏 🙏
No woman can deal with all these demons my ex told me if he can't have me no one can Really!!!!!!
I agree with you
@@sharonshepard2628 my grandmother was murdered by my grandfather that's exactly what he said
yes they are demonic, ex saw ghosts , im free now of four weeks, does it get better
@@sharonshepard2628I was told the same, but I denounced that on his face and went on to start divorcing him! He still can’t believe that I, the soft and sweet one, took the bold step to save myself from him!
I went full No Contact 100%. Its extremely effective when applied correctly.
I do not need to shut a Narcissist down. God did that for me. I have remained in No Contact.
I also changed my behavior by establishing healthy boundaries for myself by not getting involved with any narcissist once I recognize them.
Narcissist are everywhere these days. So you pray and put on the armor of God and be aware of who they are and when they are present.
I do not play their game. I see, recognize them and call them out directly by point out their behavior; then I remove myself.
Separated, distance and cut off.
I sense them when they are present; do not argue or quarrel with them. Move on and walk away, and do not look back.
Yes Absolutely Ms.Tea I needed this today just ran across this video I been gone now for almost 4 years what you explain is where I'm in my life now 2024 . Thank you and this is what I told myself thank you thank you thank you 🙏🙏😊🙏❤️🙏❤️❤️🙏🙏😊🙏❤️❤️❤️
No contact is your power. Every time I start missing him and get emotional, I look at his mugshot from the day he got arrested from putting his hands on me. That photo looks evil and demonic. Then I think about every lie, all the manipulation, the gaslighting, the deception, cheating, waking up with bruises and scratches, and how I feared for my life the day I left. All of that puts my mind back in check and I thank God for saving me from this monster from hell. My new beginning was his ending. When God is doing a new thing in your life, you can’t look back. You can’t go back to a place God delivered you from if you want what HE has for you!!!
I have a picture of my black eye I refer to
Clear out all energy him from your space....go out to bin now. Cause that's he's energy
He pushed me all the way out of my emotions, then tried to gaslight me like I was doing him wrong because I shut completely down.
@Laiesha Tahidiah Neal
In the family setting, it will be your closets relatives that will try to guilt you for setting boundaries and going no contact. They want you to keep up appearances. They put up with the narcissist family member so you should put up with it too. You are not exempt from the abuse in their eyes.
Good. They love yo gaslight. They have no accountability at all. No Contact is the only way to gain control of your emotions and bring back sanity.
That’s another thing they do!! Towards the end of the relationship when they know u on to them & start confronting them about the lies, manipulations, gaslighting, u know all the wickedness they put forth then they ignore u & treat u like u done them dirty smh🤦🏽♂️
Facts, Strictly Facts... Nothing More, Nothing Less... Write that Craziness Down. Get It Out. Read It Out Loud, Every Day. Remember The Abuse. Facts !!!!!
No contract and deep praying is the best thing we can do besides therapy for our healing. 🙏 🙏 🙏
Baby..did she just say a duck with a cape & Combat Boots on😭🤣😭😂😂
Almost a year after I left my nex I see this video. Wow! This is so on point!! We have two kids so there has to be a little contact. Everytime he asks why I never call him to ask how he is doing and that he is always the one asking me. I always say, I am not ready for that yet.😅 But what he is doing is trying to make my life miserable through financial manipulation and having minimal contact with the kids while I have a fulltime job, have the kids fulltime and being responsable for everything. This video helped me to step out of my emotions, get ‘angry’ and fight back! Due to low selfworth I kinda belief I do not deserve better I guess😢
Thank you and sending you hugs from Holland!🫶🏽
The way that they play in your face, gaslight, lie and just go around in circles is traumatizing!!! I never understood how a person can be so evil to someone that only wanted to help. It is now about how you treated me and tried to basically kill me. NO CONTACT!!!!!
From what I know these ppl are serial cheaters. Love doesn't even think of cheating.. These ppl are so disgusting. Love love your talks and sense of humour 💯💜
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS SO BAD THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! ugh I'm so excited about my future without an abusive narcissist, I'll even say I'm grateful it happened because now I've gained clarity.
Instead of getting in my feelings I'd take it to prayer. Devil didn't know he was helping me die to flesh. I'd also jot a note for that day on a calendar. I got to see all these patterns written in front of my face, months worth !! I also placed a recorder on him and the disgusting things I hered will never let me go back. Hoover is coming as I have his baby and it's Christmas he's such a looser in my book now even when his charming face is in front of me praise God for bringing all things to light just like I asked 🙌 he cares for you just ask him he'll do it.
Word and amen, YES!!! 🔥❤️🔥⚔️Yes, everything you said YES! Thank God for recording, pictures and reminders we put in secret places while living in Hell! God is ALWAYS WORKIN, even in our low times🔥❤️🔥What was meant for evil, God uses for our GOOD (Romans 8:28 and Gen. 50:20)!!🔥💯
@@doesitmatter9022 AMEN !! Lessons learned, smarter wiser, no longer codependent !! HalleluYAH
This was a good word, thank you.
Their like roaches in a wonderful home they got to go
Separate the emotions from all events with the Narc …😂
* it was " no joke".." going thru"... But NOW. We can all look back and " see".. you feel me..! I don't FORGIVE. GOD DOES!!!😊...I'm on that right there!...all u can see is the " back of my azz"!.. real talk!😌💗
I'm on day 17 of no contact. He knows I'm a super empath. He knows I feel him and he's been playing mind games on me .
You got a long way to go my love, but I'm here to tell you...the outcome will always be the same in the end, but you will hurt even worse Everytime you re-engage or make contact with that person. I'm 2 years in recovery and still have my days...but that first year after leaving a Narcissist is pure hell because you are still trying to make sense of things and you're vunerable to reconnecting with them. I hope you stand in your Power and realize one day that it is a Dead End. It took me 3 tries in the spand of 7 years to finally leave the Narcissist alone. The last round, I ended up Homeless with 82 cent in my bank account after he destroyed my life and made me lose everything I owned...even Family. Never EVER go back...the Outcome will always be the same!!!!!
Yessss......The OUTCOME will STILL be the SAME❗💯 14yrs & 2 children of TRYING with My EX Narc. 1 year & 3 months FREEEEEE Kinda, because we still have early teens. I DON'T deal with IT(him) walking or riding...as My grandma use to say.😂
Just made 1 year. Sigh
That's All I Think About Is All The Dirty Things He Done There Is Nothing I Want To Return Back To However He Text Me And Said There Was A Major Sell Going On At A Store All I Could Say Was Okay Thanks Other Than That I Don't Desire To Keep Contact With That Bird
This is the one right here!!!! This is where you roll up your sleeves and get to work!!!! I can’t thank you enough for how much you’ve helped me get through this difficult process. May God continue to give you revelation, so you could pour endlessly into others! 💚
Spot on message as always! It's a long process, filled with tears and pain, but once you get out of your emotions and enter the reality of the situation... revelation!!! I'm past my emotions now, other than just being more or less upset with myself for allowing the narc to treat me like a doormat. But, praise God, for the lesson learned! Never again! 👐💪
AMEN TO THAT, I completely CONCUR❤️
Yes! Some people are thinking no contact is part of a game and it’s pulling them into a back and forth game with the narc rather than healing. No contact only works if you are truly doing it for you to get healing and get a way from them. Just like forgiveness it’s not for them; it’s for us! We can’t get into a game with these people because we aren’t built like that…. The think that has kept me from even thinking about wanting him is remembering he was trying to harm me. Trying to take me out and how lowdown he’s being at the end. 34 years! Almost 28 in marriage. Carried four babies for this man; three almost took my life. Raising our kids mentally alone… I could go on…. How loyal and supportive I was to him and he’s doing ME a dirty deal! That says it all… Remember who they are! 😞❤️🙏🏽
When I went no contact, I stayed no contact even through everything he did to me afterwards.
yessss..detach those emotions and get out your feelings!! never compromise your morals and integrity !! dont lie to me , disrespect me , or insult my intelligence !! im gonna always love me more !!!
Jus the fact tht she is living in extreme depression breaks my heart I’m not even mad no more I’m jus sad
It's been a year. I'm still healing. I want to heal so good I forget that bird. I still have some emotions and pain attachment. I'm work to get rid of it so I'm no longer trigger. Wishing everyone the best if you're going through this narc abuse and healing. May we heal, be happy again, and heal. ❤
I sing your jingle “If yah rocks with yah girl “ YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE AND I CANNOT BELIEVE I AM NOT ALONE THANK YOU
You are so not alone ❤
I caught myself singing the jingle 2day too🤣
*DITTO*
YASS love the jingle " cause I rocks with our girl" 🙌🏿
EVERY DAY with no contact you heal More you heal stronger you will be NEVER LOOK BACK MOVE FORWARD
As man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
Excellent point! Separate your emotions and think logically in regards to the entire situation! Toxic soul tie!
Everything you are saying is SERIOUS on Point. Im Done with This Person Disrepected myself and my Parent with foul Words of Darkness. Just lieing cheating and talking to another man, im just Done.And Im just. Im here to teach a woman how to Treat a man right.. Im more Happy now
It’s hard to go no contact if you have a child with the narc
Have a funeral for these birds. Take all their belongings, pictures, or trinkets from them and burn them! Took me three months to slowly back out of the situation. Figured I was doing him a solid by maintaining calm with conversation letting him think everything was fine even when he was being himself lying, cheating, and fleasing money so he would have time to find the new supply since I was not providing fuel. It was hard to ignore and difficult to not react but as Telsha and others have said but worth it all in the long run. Once you're ready let the last time you wave goodbye be the last time they ever see your face. Also looking into erasing any online footprints and address contact info for a monthly fee but probably worth the expense! Hopefully, that will put a halt to any future hoovers! I've been trapped in this nightmare for the last 27 years off and on and family trust that it doesn't get better the narcs just get more creative with the scams and they get more dangerous as time goes on. Ran into this channel and gathered the strength to carry out the plan and so very thankful for this tribe!
He is being honored in our city for the Athlete's Hall of Fame. All the kids will be in attendance. He tried to get them to convince me to come. I gave it a moments thought. Then I had to revert back to Rev. Bullwinkle. Hell to the Naw.
Lol!!
Damn damn damn… “ it’s about separating your emotion from the event” ! Grounded indeed-
PREACH SISTER!!!!!!!
BACKWARDS WALKING GIRAFFE LOL LOL
My ex discarded me, one of many before, telling me that she couldnt be the one between me and God and that she was out of my life forever.
And for the first i went NO CONTACT for real! I worked on myself. I got healthier, fitter, my job got better etc…she went on with her life.
After 6 months she started hoovering me, she found a way to send me emails since she was blocked everywhere. She sent texts to my friends asking to join the bible group i attend to. She sent me another email telling me how much she misses me and how much she loves me and that she is “sorry for not fitting in my life anymore” WTF….! Lol she is the one that dumped me!!!!!!!
They are delusional!!
I am keeping my no contact!
This is true for me I'm at 6 months no contact and need to start writing all the wrong done to me. It will help. That dirty dog had everything payed for and given to him by me
Yep, same here. To quote Ms. Telsha, that backwards walking giraffe didn't have a pot to p*ss in when I met him! Got it all from manipulating me! I started keeping notes of all his wrong doings towards me before I left for good. It made it much easier to deal with his victim act during the divorce. Oh yeah, you're such a victim alright... that's why you're driving a brand new vehicle that I bought!!! These people are certifiably CRAZY!!!
Yes this is me right now!!!!!!! I can't stop ruminating 😓😓😓😓
💯💯💯💯💯100 % facts please step out your emotions and really take time to look at these clowns LOGICALLY you would NEVER WANT THAT DEMON TO TOUCH YOU AGAIN IN A MILLION YEARS I’m two years away from the narc ….had the nerves to look at my tik tok recently I didn’t even entertain it nor bother looking at there page ✌️girl bye
Thelsa.... You're on the money.
I had to go thru this EXACT process to maintain NO CONTACT.
Take the emotions away and see it for what it is...
The gaslighting
Focus on the events..
I was ANGRY..
From there I analyze the red flags so I can Heal.
Im healing now..
Much better with boundaries
And who I need to become as a person
In Jesus name.
The revelation God gives me is at a higher level..
No more breaking no contact from time to time.
Thats over in my life.
Im free
If u been through it u should already know it's brutal
I am celebrating one complete year of absolutely no contact from a 27 year old narcissist. Super proud of myself. I have now declared to add a year of not looking at his social media. Thanks to this video explaining that it is my emotions that still want closure. I WILL FOCUS ON THE MANY EVENTS AND THINK LOGICALLY 😊
So true 💯because the first emotion that came over me was Hurt ✔️second was anger and then I started blaming myself but when I did focus in on all the times that I felt awkward and I couldn’t understand what was going on now looking back hindsight that was my spirit telling me to leave the situation alone but anytime I started ruminating on any of the lies that I thought I had a relationship with that narc me remembering all of the lies and manipulations and knowing that he did not mean me any good that’s what keeps me from even second-guessing my decision I don’t regret at all going no contact and never looking back I’m not even attracted to what I thought he was and definitely NOT WHO IS REALLY IS 🙅🏽♀️👿🐍🤢🤮🤡
I totally agree with everything you said! God bless you...keep on loving on yourself with clarity of who you are!👏👏
I’m 39 weeks pregnant and no contact .. I’ve been so at peace and praying to stay that way . His mom has been texting me but I really believe he is telling her to text me .. or it’s actually him texting me from her phone .. he will not be at the birth.. he stressed me out too much during my pregnancy and I REFUSE to let him win ! I will unblock him once I get back home ..BUT if it’s not about our daughter he will not be entertained ..💁🏾♀️ communication through text only and communication will be short and sweet !
The narcs always do number 2 all over you and your goodness, love, kindness, and forgiveness. #walkawayspirit
I thank God for you!!! Not only have I’ve been healing from your channel for 6 months but I self identified with my spiritual trauma but got my mom to understand the abuse we all faced🙏🏾🙌🏾
Hi I really love your videos its helping me with this narcissist used me told me he was single and come to find out he ghost me and he got married and now he's Spiritual because his wife is a Minister and they chouldnt have sex before marriage but he told he was single but he said he still wanted to be friends
I'm 6 mos strong and Divorce I'm so peaceful and happy He Gone!!!
Such wisdom!! Thank you again & again!! This is THE ticket! Don't be reeled in! Me, I am super clear on family and anyone I meet. Discernment, stealth mode, no early emotional sharing. The Holy Spirit, like you say will guide & protect me. I'm not letting these dummies stop me from meeting people to guide them to Christ or relationships. THIS CHRISTMAS, I WILL REJOICE IN MY SAVIOR AND LOVE ON FAMILY. NEW YEARS WILL BE RUNG IN REJOICING IN MY FREEDOM!!! I DO NOT NEED AN ABUSIVE FAKE LOVE nor FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF. Tis the season for me!! Be safe everyone!!
Submit yours ways and do everything unto Jesus Alone and He will direct you. Depend on Him for Everything from relationships to what your gonna eat. You can’t go wrong!
Praise the lord for his mercy endures forever,always listen to our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST you will never go wrong, we love 💕 you Lord and keep on keeping your hands on us because we need you Amen 🙏
I'm amazed at how deep they can cut, I'm almost a year in, away from him and I still feel broken.I knew to keep my distance and not get my hopes up but he still managed to break me..... I don't know how???!!!!
Allow your heart to break so your soul can heal. It takes time…. Avoid looking at his social media as well. It has helped tremendously
Make a journal.
Look in the mirror & talk to yourself what he did to you.
What you gave! You are better than that. You are Awesome.
This is a speed bump.
One Pole at a time.
Improvise Adapt Overcome.
At the end of the talk Tell yourself I am Beautiful & I love you!!
Be thankful he set You FREE!
FREE AT LAST!
In day 22 of being set free.
It is getting better & easier! I didn't deserve that treatment from her! She told in a video Mom Loves You and says You're a Keeper. Mom said to me a few times I need to take you home with me. I treated her like a Queen!!
Listen 2 Randy Travis I TOLD YOU SO(he is the caller) or Lee Greenwood SHE'S LYING!
or Lionel Richie GOODBYE!!
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
@@titanniki412 thank you
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Yes ma’am. This mess is crazy. I thank God for delivering me from my emotions while delivering me from these birds.
Funny, a week ago I was looking at coaches who talked about how you get your ex back, will she come back, stages dumpers go thru.
Last this week I'm looking for coaches to teach me how to Keep her away from me!! 17 mos with her engaged, many wash rinse recycle. As I always told her Words are nice but I need to see Action. 22 days since she set me FREE. 6 days NC! Going strong!!
My recall made me stronger. Once I forgave myself my healing was on the way. Thank you Jesus!!!
A former friend clown 🤡 use to harass me through the DM’s because I no longer allowed her to manipulate me out of my money. She never asked for what she needed, she would always invite me to lunch or dinner and tell me about her needs as if it was a problem she wanted to vent but started hinting about money needs. My Dad died and my friend was pressing me to go out to eat bc of the insurance money. I found out later. Her and hubby both was trying to figure out how to get money from me, I cut them out, block. I went no contact.
“ Backwards walk Giraffe!!!” Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Wow l. Yes I was no contact but he has been reaching out and saying everything and nothing at the same time. More confusion and sets me back emotionally when I do talk to him. I feel so much better when I disconnect and go no contact!!! You are on point!
When dealing with a narcissist, always use logic. Logic will always triumph narcissism.
My estranged narc wife had absolutely no empathy nor took any accountability for her actions during the marriage. In fact, my estranged narc wife wanted so terribly for me to believe that I was the one responsible for her actions during our marriage. So, my anger was unadulterated. I would tell her about herself. I called her out on her manipulation and gaslighting tactics. I let her know that those tactics were no longer effective on me. Of course that didn’t stop her from trying anyway, and once I left the household and went gray rock not responding to any calls, voice mails, or text messages, and also blocking her on social media. The hovering tactics began. She tried by first trying to start up text arguments with me hoping to get a response out of me. Once that didn’t work, she started with the nice gestures asking me if we could remain as friends and go out for drinks sometimes thinking that I would just forgive and forget. Of course mother in law and sister in law were calling and asking me how I was doing, etc. and inviting me over to family events etc. I denied all of that. Today, and this is around the 8 month mark since the discard, my estranged wife has gone completely silent as of now, but my mother in law continues to call on occasion asking me how I am doing.
You are talking about a strategy that I used and continue to use everyday. I wrote down every wicked thing that he did to me, and I looked at it several times a day for the first few weeks, and I kept looking at it over the months. He hoovered me for a year and a half, and I never responded. It’s almost 2 years now since the discard, and I made myself feel disgusted by him. I made my emotions take a back seat and thought w my logical mind. Thank you, Telsha for such wisdom. This really works y’all. ❤️
When I took my emotions out of the equation that is when I was able to say I'm done i left unannounced no more talking no contact no social media no posting no nothing i started to acknowledge my self worth that's when I started to heal and my life has been so much better praise God please stay no contact silence and keep it moving
You was on time with this word here. 🔥🔥🔥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Wow 😯 this is the go to whenever anyone wants to understand what narcissism is 🔥💪🏽💯
You’re preaching, auntie!!!!! My God!
MRS TELSHA 💖💖THIS IS DEEP IT HIT ME FROM FRONT TO BACK.. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE YOU REALLY HIT A NERVE ON THIS .. THE NARC KEPT ME IN A STATE OF WONDERING WHERE I STAND WITH HIM.. YES NO MORE EMOTIONAL RIDE.. HE LIED. CHEATED AND GASLIGHTED ME NO MORE I WROTE WHAT HE DID TO ME DOWN 💯 LOVE YOU QUEEN TELSHA 👑 THIS WORD HIT HOME 💯❤️
Oh yes! When you lose the emotion and stay in reality, the Narc’s spell doesn’t penetrate. You’re repellent to it.
He's doing no contact. As well, as me. He's in a whole new relationship. For 6months now. He's engaged and they're buying a house. They're in love hunny.
Telsha, you are absolutely correct!! I journal everything the narc did to me about 2 1/2 years ago when I filed my divorce and it truly helped. When I started to ruminate, I would go and look at what I had written and it would cut those negative thoughts and I have never gone back and I won't ever. I can't take the credit, but someone in the community who I can't remember who shared this with us. It may have been you. It truly works! You can do it!! I have been no contact since June 2020 and I praise God!
I'm taking all of this in Ms. Tea...this is GOOD INFORMATION!!!!
I had a whole woman knock on my door wit fighting clothes on. The narc said with a smirk I never met her before
I have listened to this message several times so I can stay in my space with no contacts and moving on
Wow. I have been through hell for 7 years with that backwards walking giraffe. But I will not stay there!!!
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned u better believe when I tell u that the narcissist has no clue who he be dealing with when he is dealing with me I'm relentless and very ruthless when it comes to him hurting me and Mines!
All true but now I don't care to focus on the the events or the emotions lol. I don't even care to argue, the truth is out and it is a big eye opener. When you pray Yahuah reveals revelations. Never stop praying, it works and now Im truly understanding when Yah said we wrestle not against flesh and blood but principalities. Them same principalities has revealed themselves amount other unnatural behavior of the human race and we are surrounded
If they did not hit the Like button last night....Pastor!!!! Whew!🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This was amazing. This cowboy 🦇 was a love bombing, insecure, emotional manipulative man. It has been a year and through the aide of Pastor Kevin Ewing I was able to forgive and ask for forgiveness back in March 2022. It has been an amazing year and now that I have found your page it has been overflowing with answers that I prayed for.
MY God continue to provide you the insight and we viewers be richly blessed because of it 🙌🏾🙏🏽🕊❤️🤗
God bless you Ms.Telsha , you just gave me the keys, this is what I've been waiting on. Even though almost 2 years no contact, emotionally still around, I would tell myself you haven't gotten mad about this enough. Glory be to God. You gave me 🔐🗝️. It's really a wrap now!
My god my god she is stating FACTS cause when u start caring again it’s coming from your emotions remember what they did 95% of the time other 5% care from them is fake
You are so right! I navigated between events and emotions and one moment I went no contact and the next in-contact. This went on until a truth I spoke to him scared him so much he threatened me with his lawyers. I blocked 🚫 and deleted ❌all his numbers and have not contacted him in a year now. He retaliated by sending a hurtful message to my son after he asked him to help him financially. My son cried so much blocked him afterwards. He then turned on his siblings and claimed that they influenced his son against him, yet he had told them not to contact us and that’s exactly what they did! He’s so unhappy it smells from far! Please, delete, block and change your number if you can! He will never call or text me again!
I don’t want anything but to be set free! I am so ready to get rid of this bird😂
Wow this was deep. I let the emotions go because I found myself looking for an apology even though I was no contact. I kept an audio dairy on my phone. Its hard to look back now smh.
Your words really help me a lot to recover fast please dont stop reaching out to future victims that will gonna encounter this type of person, and one day those victims will gonna discover this type of people too and landed to this channel and asking for help, that in need of advice too.. your words such a wisdom to me that really help my soul too.. Thank you so much
That Part sis!!!! Speak on it!!!
Everrytthing hhe did to me, I never ever called him. Out of his name, I never argued back I would try to. Prove him wrong, I never did these things I. Was accused of. I was everything in. The book. Now I know it was projection, but then I didn't know why or who was telling him these things. It was a mess. I was lost, confused sad depressed, this went on for ten years at least 4 or 5 times a week. I don't know how I did it, and I still stayed trying to prove myself to him. Not no more. Damn demon.🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤👍👍
True! Not only did I delete my email and changed number and with no social media he can’t reach me but I also blocked myself from
Reaching out to him by deleting his number and emails and anything related to him. And I was able to do that when I started to out my feelings aside and just go through all the actions he did towards me! It’s works I dorm event wnat to see or hear form
Him if we crossed paths I dorm have time to stop for the backwards walking giraffe with a dread wig on!
3:23 nope cause my ex thought they was the goat and I said of what and that fools said to me,”of souls”! Let me tell u I got right on up outta there! No contact means also not to be stalking nothing connected to them or even to them meaning checking their social media and all that jazz. U have to detach from the emotion by healing so u can leave those backwards walking giraffes 🦒 behind 😂
Amen!!! Preach!!!
😮 Definitely went through this, I kept all my receipts 🧾 and more I started questioning him, I did recorded him girl he was a nasty hateful rude disrespectful person 👀💯his lies started catching up with him 😮and I’m still puzzled on how did he get married without money 💰 😮nothing no car no house want pay bills 👀🧾✅ who is you playing on now 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 run whoever she is will be destroyed just because 😮
I am so glad I found you a few months ago. You’ve helped me so much! Thank you!❤
Sometimes for me it is packing for an avoided trip by unpacking then repacking (ruminating) but it hasn’t been as bad lately though. I find myself shaking my head when events comes to mind instead of crying and victimization thoughts. And deciding to be kind to Me. This season of pruning comes with honesty and vulnerability. This word was needed cold, freshly squeezed orange juice on a hot day. Thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Protect this woman at all costs 💯
No contact is not it. You have to clear the narcissist out. Which means getting rid of the monkeys as well. As the monkeys will tap you and bring up the narc. Cut them all off. The entire line.
U gotta sits down with urself in silence and b honest with urself !! And think the hard truth get angry and say I won’t ever let
The narcissists can be anyone....
It is true u can remain no contact i have been for 4 yrs I erase his number photos all text messages all photos. And it continues to work I also left the church where he was my pastor a sheep in wolves clothing. And we need to make sure we heal our wounding and inner child hood wounding.
No contact from brother every since Jan 2019 I still watch videos like your to keep me strong thank u
I been no contact and block all over the board for over a year I disappeared I let my lawyer do the talking.
You truly have helped me to understand and get over my hobosexual narcissistic husband. Thank you for your help❤
You are a1,000 and more right. Never looking back under any cicumstances 2yrs and 5 month's
Maaaaammm....this was a WORD. I have never heard it broken down like this. I went through my journals entries and got mad. Funny how those emotions evaporate when you just go to the facts.
Yes he did all this!! I’m so glad I’m free from that clown!!🙏🏾
Yeah. I’m on my 3rd no contact AKA my final no contact. The first time, I was not aware of the Hoover. I did not expect him to do that at all! The next time, his dad died, and I fell for the “I need you” … this time… I’m done and ready for whatever.