"That's why they always want you emotional. Because emotion will take you where logic can't reach you." realest ish I've ever heard! May your Father rest easy!
It's interesting because I now realize I used the narcissist to run from my own trauma and distract myself from my own healing. I wasn't prioritized as child , so I didn't prioritize myself as an adult, I chose a narcissist to reinforce that. I was angry with the narcissist for doing to me what I was already doing to myself. The narcissist did it to a level that I had to get therapy and heal myself and stop blaming my childhood and the narcissist for the work I kept running from doing my whole adult life. The narcissist was the final straw to motivate my healing.
They're filled with lies not all of them were abused and neglected some of them were just spoiled brats that were put on a pedestal and have never been knocked off of it my guy like me
I just got my own place, after that npd destroyed my life and left me for homeless. Things are coming together. I have more peace than ever. Dating is hard after this nasty relationship. I'm damaged.... But "pushing forward" like you Ms. Tea. Thank you. You literally saved my life!!
Thank you so much for finally healing me today I can move forward now that I know exactly what happened to me from the narcissist I could never really figure it out but now we all have the answer and it will be so much easier to move on having an explanation thank you so much I'm so sorry for your loss
Telsha, you have served as a witness to hundreds of narc abuse survivors who have no one else in their life other than yourself who understand the spiritual nature of the evil forces we experienced through the narcissist. In my opinion You have the best narc abuse understanding channel on TH-cam for that reason. 🙏 ❤️
This actually makes me feel sad for him. Obviously I could never fix him and he hurt and betrayed me but it’s so sad how a child goes through such a trauma that turns them evil. No it was never their fault. This is why it’s important to raise our future children better and help them so no more people turn out like this 🙏
I say this all the time, I never want my child to grow up and be a broken man! The more I learn the more I pass on to my child. As a teen I am making him aware of Narcs and their behaviors!
@@hersheme5994 me to at least we have the Wisdom to break the curse no one in my family will suffer at the hands of the narc at least we have the experience sending you love ❤️
These jerks are PLAYERS! What is a Player? A player is someone who shows up at your door with a fake personality with an AGENDA to keep getting FREE supply from you. The narrsassist shows up at your door with the personality you fell in love with. Once the narrsassist is through the door there miserable real personality comes back out. So what I realized was... I was in love and had emotions and feeling for a fake personality. Why would I continue loving , sacrificing and having emotions and feelings for a fake person. I couldn't any more logically and flushed this person out of my life. I was done being played! If someone loves you they will sacrifice for you. They will not come to your table and take! They will come to your table and give and love you without asking for anything! Keep preaching! Xoxo
So many people, many Christians don't realize that the earth is loaded with these demons and to ignore the fact is to run from a very real and powerful enemy and they only fear Jesus. Thank you, Tea.
I am completely EXHAUSTED and Tired of dealing with Narcissists. We all choose whether knowingly or unknowingly to be the people we are. Many of us have experienced trauma during childhood and refuse to treat another person in the manner in which they treat others. I've tried to have many conversations with my soon to be ex-husband, I mean "King Narcissist" to no avail...SMH!! YES, they will definitely run and become angry!
Yes this is totally true. My ex had an alcoholic father who neglected him as a child and shamed him for who he was. He was never validated and loved unconditionally by his parents. This is the story he told me in the early stages of dating to get my sympathy. Little did I know how damaged of a person he was from all this and how he would use that to then abuse me- gas light, lie, cheat, devalue, steal, triangulate, etc…. Yes, this is the core of his narcissism. He can’t live with the shame so he became a destructive narcissist. And he doesn’t know what love means. Thank you for this insightful video!! 👍🏻🙏
My story to the tea and they know you r going to try love them enough to heall them but they then take your pearls trample them turn to you and reap you apart savagely .the scrpitures say and tellus and worn us of these swines .that's why God did no contact and put the First Narc in the Pitt of hell .there was no way he cud have stayed in heaven .God had to cutt off and No contact. .
On point my brother is a narcissist...he literally lives off a woman,he picks a woman that is either young and or have low self-esteem...he has never had his own place...he is rude disrespectful and inconsiderate... he's always looking for praise for something he did not even do correctly...I did confront him last year by asking him what part of the situation could have been prevented or done differently what are you taking accountability for...of course it allllll the other person's fault. I believe something happened to him as a child won't go into detail but what you said is on point ..
She hates her father, and disrespectful to her mother who never protected her. It's a shame the things they've gone through. I don't understand why they take take all their anger on us who is trying build them up and give them a better outlook an help them to heal. But she doesn't take accountability, reflection on there part of behaviors. ACCOUNTABILITY IS A BIG PROBLEM FOR THEM.
They will always come back….its for supply. Show them what they lost but never go back. Its funny how when they leave or discard you life changes…..trust me it will get better. Just don’t go back ever
I had a sister who was narcissist , so is my father also? I'm a pastor they would both attack me, I moved away a year ago, She couldn't handle it, I believed she overdosed she lost her feeding habit from me. She also tried to have my father take my life with a gun, didn't work, and he is miserable, the attack is on other family members now. But since I've learned the narcissist habits and goals. In putting all my family on notice.
You, Lady, are absolutely AMAZING!! Do you even realise, what you got there? This is not just any kinda revelation... this is a such a GEM of Revelation! WOW. Well done. Love You! ❤
Yes they hate healthy communication cause it makes them come in contact with their memories and feelings. I pity them 🙏🏼😪 we try help them but they push all good people away bc of their trauma its so sad how their life will ends in tragedy when they die. He always hated when I talk deep talk and logic it maked him stressed. Thats why he discarded me bc I was so deep and wise and busted his lies always
Wow! I did this to my narc sister without even understanding this concept. I never even knew about the term "narcissism", yet I wrote my narc sister a letter 8 years ago describing everything in detail, including the way she made me feel, to how her actions affected everyone in the family and how she would live her life, trying to cover up her wrongdoings and insecurities. It was a 14 page-typed letter. I also included at the end how she could help herself if she wanted to. How, if she would look inside herself, she would see the truth and how changing herself or getting the help that she needed, would set her free...she wrote back a childish letter, then disappeared off the face of the planet. I haven't seen or heard from her these past 8 years. I guess I destroyed her core without knowing that that's what I did? - At the time, I didn't realise that she was incapable of looking inside herself, or too fearful to face her truth (shame) - Her and her demons are afraid of me! Thank you so much for this message, it has helped me to understand her and past circumstances. May God bless you in all you do! 😀
That's why it's called emotional manipulation/blackmail. They know we feel deeply, honestly, faithfully and soulfully. It's our greatest strength and weakness.
So they actually feed on you good feel to cover they own deep shame, by getting you emotional pulled into their state of shame, they crying help me feel my pain, that understanding is deep my sister
😱😱😱OMG! I did this without knowing what I was doing! Now I see why that ex narc got so mad at me! Yes that Chinese Crescent did get up out of my place. Now I see why when I allowed him to come back it was 10 times worse! I’m sitting here shaking my head! He kept saying that was my past. I’m not that person anymore! WOW! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I just can't stomach a narc. They need to be put in a unforgettable position unto which they will never forget. I love my fellowman which come in the form of empaths(my tribe)
THIS IS DEEP!... and I had a sit down talk with him about his mental and he flipped like hotcakes . He did the extreme of trying to take my life so naw...he has to deal with all the karma him and his being all caused me..
You are absolutely correct. Because of the depth of narc shame, their ultimate goal is to HUMILIATE you by leaving you BROKEN & DESTITUTE. Beautiful Sister, may you have beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. My prayers are with you & yours. Thank you always!
My MOM is the narc in my life or was.....she played victim to my 19yr old daughter turned her against me with lies and my daughter left college to move in with my mother and now it's been 4yrs! My daughter tells ppl I am a demon because of my mother's games.... but it's all temporary...NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER!!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS IN MY FAVOR!!!!!
This is really insightful, and the insight helps me understand why the narcissist did what she did. I feel enlightened enough to actually consider forgiveness: forgiveness from a distance. I still feel an authentic love for her, but I realize that she's only about 5-years-old. A loose, destructive, 5-yr. old cannon. Thanks Telsha!
My mother is a covert narc! She is suffering and has always been. She has just been a thorn in my side from birth and now she has dementia and the whole entirety of lies has crumbled! I have poa of her finances and where she is going. The only true emotion has been anger! My mother cries when she speaks about her childhood and then when I gave her an opening to heal she cried so bad. She turned around and talked about me like i was the worse person in the world! Dragged me so bad right in my face first time I saw pure evil: now my mom lives with me til she transitions to her living assistant home but we give her very little supply! She is starting to whither like a raisin. Not from anything else cause black don’t crack but it does shrivel when u a narc. The only energy she is getting is massive prayers and I ignore everything else. Wow wow 😯 wow I did this with my mom intuitively 4 years ago! She shrunk and then the abuse came . But my mother is a little girl. Whoooooweee we speaking the same language this is why I’m in school to be a psychotherapist . U are on 1! Yaaas yesss yesss. I love it love it love it My ex used to tell me I control u and the relationship and she controlled my emotions ! But then I took my power all the way back! Jokes on her
WOW Ryi that's deep!!! And I agree with everything you said. Cause I'm literally watching my mom dig her own grave. Something is always wrong with her. She is always and look depressed. I've been told that she is going die this way. I have been trying to get her to go get some help for decades, but she refused to go. She has been like this for most of my life. And she is only getting worse. I had backed off for a long time until COVID first came back in 2019. I was doing fine up until then. I had reached out and let her know that I apologize for everything that I may have said or done when raising me. And asked her for her forgiveness. Cause in my mind at the time, was that if COVID didn't bring us all close together, nothing will. I never was disrespectful towards her. I believe she is the cause and reason why my siblings don't talk to me, and why a couple of my own kids act the they do. Now I'm trying to get back to my peace of mind and well being as I speak. Working on getting my power back and I'm not going to return to that negative energy. It's exhausted and draining! I think guilt played a part in my decision to reach out because that's my Mom and I thought I'm supposed to put up with her and her foolishness. Cause you only get one Mom right? Sad to watch her take herself through all this unnecessary bitterness, but Im not gone be able to do this dance anymore. I love my Mom, but I love myself more as well, by any means necessary! I know how to not give a damn. I'm working on me, myself and I. I don't think it's no where written that I'm supposed to put up with all this unnecessary foolishness from my Mom and all who act like her. I choose to be happy and to have a peace of mind by any means necessary! God bless us all.
Dear Telsha, since 7 months i'm in grey rock and no contact. I still know exactly the day, the hour and the minute, when he leaved my life. His face, the tears in his eyes... and my breakdown when he was gone. I was beating him all around his ears, that he was looking like a little child or a beaten dog. I feel so much pain, until today, sometimes i think, now I am over it, fight every day, work hard, exercise, strong and healthy, sleep well ... and then it goes down again ... like a rollercoaster and I cry until I can't look through my eyes the next day. So helpless, because I know about the facts, why a narcissist comes to be a narcissist. I wish sometimes, I could rescue him ... but I can't. I loved nothing in this world so much than him. And all remembers me of him, in my home, sometimes, when I eat the same things, many songs I shared with him. It's horrible and hurts so deep. Nobody knows about my pain inside. I don't show it. I let the power flow in other things and keep smiling. Until I'm alone or not very busy. Then it goes on again... My heart is bleeding for his lost soul- and I can do nothing with love. Greetings from germany, Telsha. God bless you ❤🍀
Many are able to manipulate Therapist because many therapist are not aware of NPD. My ex was in therapy, being treated for depression & anxiety. I found out it was a Narcissist. The relationship between them and their therapist was totally ineffective. The therapist was telling the Narcissist their personal business. True Story.
“Emotions will take you where logic can not teach you “ That’s all folks!!! 💞🙌🏾🙏🏾To God be the Glory❣️ God bless you T prayers and condolences 💐 to you .
This is very true. The minute I held him accountable and called him out, he was out as quick as a train. He minimized the whole experience as if nothing meant anything. He was extremely cold and indifferent but I definitely sensed his anger boiling underneath.
fun fact: I can make him "go away" by simply asserting myself and reminding him of the trauma I got from his abuse, or calling out what he is just at that moment trying to do. I can relate a lot to sensing the anger boiling under the surface, even if he tries to play it "cool" and self-reassured? But... there's not much you can hide from a hypervigilant autistic person + studied ethologist, who put some time and effort into learning to read facial (also micro-) expressions and body-language... It's so sad, and weird, because at the table, he is SUCH a good poker player, even having been a professional poker dealer once! Lmao! I move out in 2 weeks and will go no contact, with the firm intention of calling the "men in black" if he starts to stalk or harass me. I know what's awaiting me, does he? I don't think so, because he tends to laugh and shrug off my well meant warnings about "cold turkey detox"... Well, NOT my responsibility. And I refuse to make it mine.
Truth... had this exact conversation with him. We share a child together he now stays away from both of us because I exposed him. I ran into him at a store he kept his head down in his phone the whole time until his food was ready.
Hey Ms T. So glad to see you. Sure did miss you. Just take one day at a time don’t rush yourself ok. Your Mental health is important as well. Blessings
Tea you are right on the money. I remembered asking him, " What are you running from" There wasn't a day he couldn't go without smoking (weed) all day everyday and I said to him, "Now I know you like getting high but as much as he smoked you can't get but so high. So you got to be running from something". And that's when I asked him the question. Thank you for the revelation and wisdom alongside of it. God Bless you
But in asking this question and getting to the root of their narcissism, do they ever experience a moment of clarity or enlightenment? Do they have the ability to see your true unconditional love for them and actually realize that you are not their enemy but want to help them heal, despite the immense pain they have caused you? I so badly want to have hope and believe that a breakthrough will come.
The narcissist i was with, said he was the devil..I feel he was born that way. His own parents were afraid of him. I would've got beaten again if I'd ask him that..
Ex Narc shared with me his daddy use to beat him and his mama. *The last night with him when I decided this it it..... He was physical with me and I told him he was an abuser.... He denied it. His excuse was back to his daddy being abusive and how his daddy did his mama. He looked like he was sucked back into time.... He changed personalities right in front of me. I'm thankful he didn't kill me that night. Telsha keep speaking the truth!!!!!
My narc brother to this day makes up false stories of trauma about our childhood. He’s 54. He’s been lying all his life. It’s to garner support from a pity standpoint, not from a character standpoint.
@@andre1987eph I was the target of my narc mother- she was an angel to my 7 siblings and took out all her frustration and hatred out on me. While I understand your brother is making things up from your point of view please bear in mind that it is a truth for some of us while our siblings experienced no violence or obvious abuse at all. My mother had a halo to my siblings and they've blocked out that abuse ever happened to me. I mean they have literally erased it- even though it happened multiple times in front of them.
H.L. "the description of how the child sacrifices its true self to the fantasy demi-god because of a psychological catch-22 is honestly heartbreaking". (description by Sam and comment shared). [from the video link shared].
Yes ma’am! I had this very epiphany , divine inspiration, the last time I was with the narc. As he raged and laid hands on me, I suddenly stood up and said “what are you doing? do you know why you are doing this? I think it’s your SHAME! “ I was not righteous, but I was not scared. He stopped and just stood there a minute, then laughed/scoffed and said “yeah right?”. But I KNEW I was right. And you are confirming this for me. I often felt like I knew his core, that we had similar traumas but how we coped or adapted were opposite sides of the coin. So when I saw his vulnerabilities I could understand, but I no longer will enable. I went no contact that night (10 months ago) and still am working through the rubble of my emotions, but I KNOW God’s hand was all over that night and he showed me what I needed to see, as painful as it was, and delivered me . Thank you T. And may God hold you tight as you grieve and press on.
Wheeewww this right hear is nothing but the truth and I am living proof I recall A time I flipped it on my ex narc by saying, “I m otw what you saw growing up was hate but I’m not your enemy!!” And babyyyy it was like a light switch he completely stabilized and just stopped attacking in that moment I knew this was a tormented soul!!!
Yup. Each one of them tried to get me to see life from their demented viewpoint. I was always insulted and called gullible because I refuse to see the world as such a horrible place that I should destroy other people. All of them tried this with me.
I actually tried this with my nex regarding his fathers abuse as a child, and he just dismissed it, said “oh I’m over all that. I understand why he did what he did”. Mine was rational and proud of his “methods”. Totally resistant to any speck of introspection at all. Lying, stealing and love bombing work for him and he’s proud of his skills in that area.
Thank you from NSW Australia, 30 August 2024… one of the most powerful vids helping us understand the madness, that I’ve seen… May God keep & guide all truthseekers🙏💪❤️🩹🌻
Hi Telsha, So sorry for your loss. I did this to my first ex narc - I brought up his mother when we were going throuh the divorce on how i know she never loved him and boy did this send him over the edge, wow! He kept raging at me telling me to shut up just shut up and he ran downstairs so fast! This is what my counselor told me to do to see how he reacts. I don't recommend it. His mom and dad abused him.
He had someone else in that house that night to torture me! Thousands of dollars were stolen energetically in the spirit realm and the physical! I was set up!
Yup try to make amends With a narcissist biggest mistake ever my former female last year December coworker took no responsibility of taking advantage of me and saying things she didn’t mean and stood me up and then she’s gonna say it wasn’t that deep She’s don’t owe me anything very in denial but then she’s the type to wanna stare at you in public or be nice act like nothing happened blocked delete I know my worth that’s gods battle now not mine!🙏
Boom! ✴️ Giiiirl.....that was a really good one! I'm definitely not out to hurt or destroy anybody but you said some things in here that gave me a lot to think about. Think I'll have to listen again tomorrow. 😂 Thanks for sharing all your knowledge and sweet self with us, Telsha! ❤❤ 🫂
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!! This right here is the truth and makes a lot of sense, giving insight and understanding on that buzzard. Thank you and good to see you back sis, sending healing love your way.
They are traumatised 5 year old children inside a man or women’s body. So tragic though we can’t help them. Even Satan tricks them! Only God can bring them to their knees and would take a miracle to fix them bcos their narcissism is a self defence against their fragile egos! 🙏🏼
I did this same thing. He balled up and cried like a baby. I'm talking about cried so hard and balled up like a baby in a mother's womb. After that he left me for a week. Then I let him back and after that everything really turned bad!!
I have no sympathy for them, whether they suffered in childhood or not.
They will try to make you feel insecure and jealous of other women.
The whole time, they're laughing with a beer in their hands. Karma will come swift and quick! God does not play!
Or a cup of lean🤮
"That's why they always want you emotional. Because emotion will take you where logic can't reach you." realest ish I've ever heard! May your Father rest easy!
They are definitely not logical! A lot of crazy making
My silence is GOLDEN
YEP YOU SAID IT!
I never thought of it like that. Thank you. I'm never going to forget your comment. I will remember it .from now on. Thank you ❤
Right
I was abused and neglected but I don’t act like this so it’s hard to understand why people intentionally hurt others like this
Exactly 🎉
Correct!
It's interesting because I now realize I used the narcissist to run from my own trauma and distract myself from my own healing. I wasn't prioritized as child , so I didn't prioritize myself as an adult, I chose a narcissist to reinforce that. I was angry with the narcissist for doing to me what I was already doing to myself. The narcissist did it to a level that I had to get therapy and heal myself and stop blaming my childhood and the narcissist for the work I kept running from doing my whole adult life. The narcissist was the final straw to motivate my healing.
"EMOTIONS WILL TAKE YOU WHERE LOGIC CAN'T REACH YOU! THE ENEMY CAN MANIPLATE EMOTIONS BUT IT CAN'T MANIPULATE LOGIC."
They're filled with lies not all of them were abused and neglected some of them were just spoiled brats that were put on a pedestal and have never been knocked off of it my guy like me
Yesss!!
Exactly....spoiled. never told no or made to respect rules, regulations, or boundaries.
Which is also childhood abuse
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I dealt with a psychopath Narcissist. The highest on the spectrum!
Hell, I feel like I’m dealing with one now
I just got my own place, after that npd destroyed my life and left me for homeless. Things are coming together. I have more peace than ever. Dating is hard after this nasty relationship. I'm damaged.... But "pushing forward" like you Ms. Tea. Thank you. You literally saved my life!!
I was homeless about 3 months ago and I'm back on my feet I'm so glad your doing good now keep ur head up
God bless
I’m in the same situation sis. We all need to pray for each other.
Thank you so much for finally healing me today I can move forward now that I know exactly what happened to me from the narcissist I could never really figure it out but now we all have the answer and it will be so much easier to move on having an explanation thank you so much I'm so sorry for your loss
Dating is not hard. You are just more aware. That narc relationship did you a service so you will never have to go through that again
Telsha, you have served as a witness to hundreds of narc abuse survivors who have no one else in their life other than yourself who understand the spiritual nature of the evil forces we experienced through the narcissist. In my opinion You have the best narc abuse understanding channel on TH-cam for that reason. 🙏 ❤️
Andre Noble. I second that!
I third that!
I agree hands down!
Hands down she’s a G. 😎
This actually makes me feel sad for him. Obviously I could never fix him and he hurt and betrayed me but it’s so sad how a child goes through such a trauma that turns them evil. No it was never their fault. This is why it’s important to raise our future children better and help them so no more people turn out like this 🙏
I say this all the time, I never want my child to grow up and be a broken man! The more I learn the more I pass on to my child. As a teen I am making him aware of Narcs and their behaviors!
Not all of them become narcs, some are just born that way
@@hersheme5994 me to at least we have the
Wisdom to break the curse no one in my family will suffer at the hands of the narc at least we have the experience sending you love ❤️
@@cherylmarriott2648 thank you so much. We didn't got through this pain for nothing. We will teach them
@@hersheme5994 yes there's always purpose to your pain
These jerks are PLAYERS! What is a Player? A player is someone who shows up at your door with a fake personality with an AGENDA to keep getting FREE supply from you. The narrsassist shows up at your door with the personality you fell in love with. Once the narrsassist is through the door there miserable real personality comes back out. So what I realized was... I was in love and had emotions and feeling for a fake personality. Why would I continue loving , sacrificing and having emotions and feelings for a fake person. I couldn't any more logically and flushed this person out of my life. I was done being played! If someone loves you they will sacrifice for you. They will not come to your table and take! They will come to your table and give and love you without asking for anything! Keep preaching! Xoxo
The mask is the fake personality btw.
I WANT GOD SET THEM FREE !
BUT AT THE SAME TIME I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM!
COMPLETE NO CONTACT !!!
I’m sorry to hear about your father.💐
So many people, many Christians don't realize that the earth is loaded with these demons and to ignore the fact is to run from a very real and powerful enemy and they only fear Jesus. Thank you, Tea.
I am completely EXHAUSTED and Tired of dealing with Narcissists. We all choose whether knowingly or unknowingly to be the people we are. Many of us have experienced trauma during childhood and refuse to treat another person in the manner in which they treat others. I've tried to have many conversations with my soon to be ex-husband, I mean "King Narcissist" to no avail...SMH!! YES, they will definitely run and become angry!
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They're psychos!
Demons
Yes this is totally true. My ex had an alcoholic father who neglected him as a child and shamed him for who he was. He was never validated and loved unconditionally by his parents. This is the story he told me in the early stages of dating to get my sympathy. Little did I know how damaged of a person he was from all this and how he would use that to then abuse me- gas light, lie, cheat, devalue, steal, triangulate, etc…. Yes, this is the core of his narcissism. He can’t live with the shame so he became a destructive narcissist. And he doesn’t know what love means. Thank you for this insightful video!! 👍🏻🙏
Did we date the same person 😅
@@nokulungamoyo2296 I know, right? They are all the same!
Shame for mine her and mom and family still go thru it now however I don’t want to be apart of it
Sounds like my late narc husband. Sorry you went through this
My story to the tea and they know you r going to try love them enough to heall them but they then take your pearls trample them turn to you and reap you apart savagely .the scrpitures say and tellus and worn us of these swines .that's why God did no contact and put the First Narc in the Pitt of hell .there was no way he cud have stayed in heaven .God had to cutt off and No contact.
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On point my brother is a narcissist...he literally lives off a woman,he picks a woman that is either young and or have low self-esteem...he has never had his own place...he is rude disrespectful and inconsiderate... he's always looking for praise for something he did not even do correctly...I did confront him last year by asking him what part of the situation could have been prevented or done differently what are you taking accountability for...of course it allllll the other person's fault. I believe something happened to him as a child won't go into detail but what you said is on point ..
She hates her father, and disrespectful to her mother who never protected her. It's a shame the things they've gone through. I don't understand why they take take all their anger on us who is trying build them up and give them a better outlook an help them to heal. But she doesn't take accountability, reflection on there part of behaviors. ACCOUNTABILITY IS A BIG PROBLEM FOR THEM.
FACTS
They will always come back….its for supply. Show them what they lost but never go back. Its funny how when they leave or discard you life changes…..trust me it will get better. Just don’t go back ever
I had a sister who was narcissist , so is my father also? I'm a pastor they would both attack me, I moved away a year ago, She couldn't handle it, I believed she overdosed she lost her feeding habit from me. She also tried to have my father take my life with a gun, didn't work, and he is miserable, the attack is on other family members now. But since I've learned the narcissist habits and goals. In putting all my family on notice.
You, Lady, are absolutely AMAZING!! Do you even realise, what you got there? This is not just any kinda revelation... this is a such a GEM of Revelation! WOW. Well done. Love You! ❤
my deepest heartfelt condolences to you and your family ❤
The devil is the author of confusion..
Yes they hate healthy communication cause it makes them come in contact with their memories and feelings. I pity them 🙏🏼😪 we try help them but they push all good people away bc of their trauma its so sad how their life will ends in tragedy when they die. He always hated when I talk deep talk and logic it maked him stressed. Thats why he discarded me bc I was so deep and wise and busted his lies always
We love you 😍prayers going up for your loss as you all move forward 🙏 Godspeed
I asked the narc if there was he able to talk fault in anything that happened in his past...he turned into the exodus 🤯
I did confront him about this and he dissed me to the core
powerful stuff they refuse treatment
I did this on accident several times and whoa... the eyes got so dark and she snapped .I was shocked
But how can he live with himself?? When he tried to hard to break me. I was broken and almost gave up but God is letting me see.
Wow! I did this to my narc sister without even understanding this concept. I never even knew about the term "narcissism", yet I wrote my narc sister a letter 8 years ago describing everything in detail, including the way she made me feel, to how her actions affected everyone in the family and how she would live her life, trying to cover up her wrongdoings and insecurities. It was a 14 page-typed letter. I also included at the end how she could help herself if she wanted to. How, if she would look inside herself, she would see the truth and how changing herself or getting the help that she needed, would set her free...she wrote back a childish letter, then disappeared off the face of the planet. I haven't seen or heard from her these past 8 years. I guess I destroyed her core without knowing that that's what I did? - At the time, I didn't realise that she was incapable of looking inside herself, or too fearful to face her truth (shame) - Her and her demons are afraid of me!
Thank you so much for this message, it has helped me to understand her and past circumstances. May God bless you in all you do! 😀
That's why it's called emotional manipulation/blackmail. They know we feel deeply, honestly, faithfully and soulfully. It's our greatest strength and weakness.
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So they actually feed on you good feel to cover they own deep shame, by getting you emotional pulled into their state of shame, they crying help me feel my pain, that understanding is deep my sister
You are so on-point on all but, when you said … can manipulate emotion not logic… WOW!
What a 💡 moment for me!
😱😱😱OMG! I did this without knowing what I was doing! Now I see why that ex narc got so mad at me! Yes that Chinese Crescent did get up out of my place. Now I see why when I allowed him to come back it was 10 times worse! I’m sitting here shaking my head! He kept saying that was my past. I’m not that person anymore! WOW! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I had a partner who did not believe in jesus.
She was always not taking accountability.
I always used to take a accountability when it was needed.
No contact anymore-if i can help her i will , but is 100% a dead end street!!!! Better not to see her again, never!!!!!
I just can't stomach a narc. They need to be put in a unforgettable position unto which they will never forget. I love my fellowman which come in the form of empaths(my tribe)
THIS IS DEEP!... and I had a sit down talk with him about his mental and he flipped like hotcakes . He did the extreme of trying to take my life so naw...he has to deal with all the karma him and his being all caused me..
Call them out on their bs but leave before than because they are dangerous individuals..... Escape & Don't look back run.....
You are absolutely correct. Because of the depth of narc shame, their ultimate goal is to HUMILIATE you by leaving you BROKEN & DESTITUTE.
Beautiful Sister, may you have beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. My prayers are with you & yours. Thank you always!
My ex told me it was too much and hard to heal. I told her if she doesn't heal she will never be able to enjoy life or success.
My MOM is the narc in my life or was.....she played victim to my 19yr old daughter turned her against me with lies and my daughter left college to move in with my mother and now it's been 4yrs! My daughter tells ppl I am a demon because of my mother's games.... but it's all temporary...NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER!!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS IN MY FAVOR!!!!!
They're not in touch with their emotions.
This is really insightful, and the insight helps me understand why the narcissist did what she did. I feel enlightened enough to actually consider forgiveness: forgiveness from a distance. I still feel an authentic love for her, but I realize that she's only about 5-years-old. A loose, destructive, 5-yr. old cannon. Thanks Telsha!
My mother is a covert narc! She is suffering and has always been. She has just been a thorn in my side from birth and now she has dementia and the whole entirety of lies has crumbled! I have poa of her finances and where she is going. The only true emotion has been anger! My mother cries when she speaks about her childhood and then when I gave her an opening to heal she cried so bad. She turned around and talked about me like i was the worse person in the world! Dragged me so bad right in my face first time I saw pure evil: now my mom lives with me til she transitions to her living assistant home but we give her very little supply! She is starting to whither like a raisin. Not from anything else cause black don’t crack but it does shrivel when u a narc. The only energy she is getting is massive prayers and I ignore everything else. Wow wow 😯 wow I did this with my mom intuitively 4 years ago! She shrunk and then the abuse came . But my mother is a little girl.
Whoooooweee we speaking the same language this is why I’m in school to be a psychotherapist . U are on 1! Yaaas yesss yesss. I love it love it love it
My ex used to tell me I control u and the relationship and she controlled my emotions ! But then I took my power all the way back! Jokes on her
WOW Ryi that's deep!!! And I agree with everything you said. Cause I'm literally watching my mom dig her own grave. Something is always wrong with her. She is always and look depressed. I've been told that she is going die this way. I have been trying to get her to go get some help for decades, but she refused to go. She has been like this for most of my life. And she is only getting worse. I had backed off for a long time until COVID first came back in 2019. I was doing fine up until then. I had reached out and let her know that I apologize for everything that I may have said or done when raising me. And asked her for her forgiveness. Cause in my mind at the time, was that if COVID didn't bring us all close together, nothing will. I never was disrespectful towards her. I believe she is the cause and reason why my siblings don't talk to me, and why a couple of my own kids act the they do. Now I'm trying to get back to my peace of mind and well being as I speak. Working on getting my power back and I'm not going to return to that negative energy. It's exhausted and draining! I think guilt played a part in my decision to reach out because that's my Mom and I thought I'm supposed to put up with her and her foolishness. Cause you only get one Mom right?
Sad to watch her take herself through all this unnecessary bitterness, but Im not gone be able to do this dance anymore. I love my Mom, but I love myself more as well, by any means necessary! I know how to not give a damn. I'm working on me, myself and I. I don't think it's no where written that I'm supposed to put up with all this unnecessary foolishness from my Mom and all who act like her. I choose to be happy and to have a peace of mind by any means necessary!
God bless us all.
Dear Telsha,
since 7 months i'm in grey rock and no contact.
I still know exactly the day, the hour and the minute, when he leaved my life. His face, the tears in his eyes... and my breakdown when he was gone.
I was beating him all around his ears, that he was looking like a little child or a beaten dog.
I feel so much pain, until today, sometimes i think, now I am over it, fight every day, work hard, exercise, strong and healthy, sleep well ... and then it goes down again ... like a rollercoaster and I cry until I can't look through my eyes the next day.
So helpless, because I know about the facts, why a narcissist comes to be a narcissist. I wish sometimes, I could rescue him ... but I can't. I loved nothing in this world so much than him. And all remembers me of him, in my home, sometimes, when I eat the same things, many songs I shared with him. It's horrible and hurts so deep.
Nobody knows about my pain inside. I don't show it. I let the power flow in other things and keep smiling. Until I'm alone or not very busy. Then it goes on again...
My heart is bleeding for his lost soul- and I can do nothing with love.
Greetings from germany, Telsha. God bless you ❤🍀
Emotions will take you where logic cannot not reach you.....Emotions always leaves the dirt to logic.
Many are able to manipulate Therapist because many therapist are not aware of NPD. My ex was in therapy, being treated for depression & anxiety. I found out it was a Narcissist. The relationship between them and their therapist was totally ineffective. The therapist was telling the Narcissist their personal business. True Story.
You and family are in my 🙏
“Emotions will take you where logic can not teach you “ That’s all folks!!! 💞🙌🏾🙏🏾To God be the Glory❣️ God bless you T prayers and condolences 💐 to you .
This is very true. The minute I held him accountable and called him out, he was out as quick as a train. He minimized the whole experience as if nothing meant anything. He was extremely cold and indifferent but I definitely sensed his anger boiling underneath.
fun fact: I can make him "go away" by simply asserting myself and reminding him of the trauma I got from his abuse, or calling out what he is just at that moment trying to do. I can relate a lot to sensing the anger boiling under the surface, even if he tries to play it "cool" and self-reassured? But... there's not much you can hide from a hypervigilant autistic person + studied ethologist, who put some time and effort into learning to read facial (also micro-) expressions and body-language... It's so sad, and weird, because at the table, he is SUCH a good poker player, even having been a professional poker dealer once! Lmao!
I move out in 2 weeks and will go no contact, with the firm intention of calling the "men in black" if he starts to stalk or harass me. I know what's awaiting me, does he? I don't think so, because he tends to laugh and shrug off my well meant warnings about "cold turkey detox"... Well, NOT my responsibility. And I refuse to make it mine.
Hey Telsha so sorry to hear about your loss. Praying for strength during this time. Glad to see you back on ❣️
My sincere condolences in the passing of your dad, may Abba Father continue to heal and comfort you💜...APTTMH 🙏🏽💜🙌🏽🕊
May God have mercy on them.
I'm so sorry for your loss its a hurt no one should ever have to face. I loss my dad Feb 6th 2022. I'll continue to pray for you🙏🏾
Truth... had this exact conversation with him. We share a child together he now stays away from both of us because I exposed him. I ran into him at a store he kept his head down in his phone the whole time until his food was ready.
You.nailed it they are not mature enough to grasp the reasoning of their faults
He used a team to try and come up against me for my resources and money! Financial fraud and exploitation etc.
This is great!!!!!!!!!
The fear of people knowing who they really are?
“I’ve never heard a video like this on TH-cam! 👏🏽” period auntie 🤣🖤🖤🔥🔥
Hey Ms T. So glad to see you. Sure did miss you. Just take one day at a time don’t rush yourself ok. Your Mental health is important as well. Blessings
Hi. Another awesome video👍🏼
Tea you are right on the money. I remembered asking him, " What are you running from" There wasn't a day he couldn't go without smoking (weed) all day everyday and I said to him, "Now I know you like getting high but as much as he smoked you can't get but so high. So you got to be running from something". And that's when I asked him the question. Thank you for the revelation and wisdom alongside of it. God Bless you
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Just can’t make this stuff up, right. 🧐
But in asking this question and getting to the root of their narcissism, do they ever experience a moment of clarity or enlightenment? Do they have the ability to see your true unconditional love for them and actually realize that you are not their enemy but want to help them heal, despite the immense pain they have caused you? I so badly want to have hope and believe that a breakthrough will come.
@@aliciacascino8964 no
This they love drugsssssss.....
God. No sugarcoating ! Tell like it is. These academics could not explain as simple as you did it for us. Thanks dear. Wooowww. Thanks
❤ teach sis
The narcissist i was with, said he was the devil..I feel he was born that way. His own parents were afraid of him. I would've got beaten again if I'd ask him that..
This is very good, I don't think I want to have this conversation with ex narc. I m not trying to see his demons. Lord help them all!
Ex Narc shared with me his daddy use to beat him and his mama.
*The last night with him when I decided this it it..... He was physical with me and I told him he was an abuser.... He denied it. His excuse was back to his daddy being abusive and how his daddy did his mama. He looked like he was sucked back into time.... He changed personalities right in front of me. I'm thankful he didn't kill me that night. Telsha keep speaking the truth!!!!!
My narc brother to this day makes up false stories of trauma about our childhood. He’s 54. He’s been lying all his life. It’s to garner support from a pity standpoint, not from a character standpoint.
@@andre1987eph I was the target of my narc mother- she was an angel to my 7 siblings and took out all her frustration and hatred out on me. While I understand your brother is making things up from your point of view please bear in mind that it is a truth for some of us while our siblings experienced no violence or obvious abuse at all. My mother had a halo to my siblings and they've blocked out that abuse ever happened to me. I mean they have literally erased it- even though it happened multiple times in front of them.
The ex narc would move furniture around and I believe he had recording devices. The flying monkeys were part of the show too.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. ❤️ You have given us another great video. Blessings.
H.L. "the description of how the child sacrifices its true self to the fantasy demi-god because of a psychological catch-22 is honestly heartbreaking". (description by Sam and comment shared). [from the video link shared].
My condolences… sorry to hear about your loss. Be encouraged🙏🏾
Yes ma’am! I had this very epiphany , divine inspiration, the last time I was with the narc. As he raged and laid hands on me, I suddenly stood up and said “what are you doing? do you know why you are doing this? I think it’s your SHAME! “ I was not righteous, but I was not scared. He stopped and just stood there a minute, then laughed/scoffed and said “yeah right?”. But I KNEW I was right. And you are confirming this for me. I often felt like I knew his core, that we had similar traumas but how we coped or adapted were opposite sides of the coin. So when I saw his vulnerabilities I could understand, but I no longer will enable. I went no contact that night (10 months ago) and still am working through the rubble of my emotions, but I KNOW God’s hand was all over that night and he showed me what I needed to see, as painful as it was, and delivered me .
Thank you T. And may God hold you tight as you grieve and press on.
Wheeewww this right hear is nothing but the truth and I am living proof I recall
A time I flipped it on my ex narc by saying, “I m otw what you saw growing up was hate but I’m not your enemy!!” And babyyyy it was like a light switch he completely stabilized and just stopped attacking in that moment I knew this was a tormented soul!!!
Yup. Each one of them tried to get me to see life from their demented viewpoint. I was always insulted and called gullible because I refuse to see the world as such a horrible place that I should destroy other people. All of them tried this with me.
I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family!
I’ve tried to have a adult conversation and he ran from me when I tried to do this .. I’ve let he go back to the streets!!
Why are you preaching like this today!? "Emotion will take you to a place where logic cannot reach you." This is so good to my soul!
I actually tried this with my nex regarding his fathers abuse as a child, and he just dismissed it, said “oh I’m over all that. I understand why he did what he did”. Mine was rational and proud of his “methods”. Totally resistant to any speck of introspection at all. Lying, stealing and love bombing work for him and he’s proud of his skills in that area.
Thank you from NSW Australia, 30 August 2024… one of the most powerful vids helping us understand the madness, that I’ve seen… May God keep & guide all truthseekers🙏💪❤️🩹🌻
Hi Telsha, So sorry for your loss. I did this to my first ex narc - I brought up his mother when we were going throuh the divorce on how i know she never loved him and boy did this send him over the edge, wow! He kept raging at me telling me to shut up just shut up and he ran downstairs so fast! This is what my counselor told me to do to see how he reacts. I don't recommend it. His mom and dad abused him.
He had someone else in that house that night to torture me! Thousands of dollars were stolen energetically in the spirit realm and the physical! I was set up!
I never seen nobody act so careless seeing a picture with her kids ND husband and mom holding her youngest son
Yup try to make amends With a narcissist biggest mistake ever my former female last year December coworker took no responsibility of taking advantage of me and saying things she didn’t mean and stood me up and then she’s gonna say it wasn’t that deep She’s don’t owe me anything very in denial but then she’s the type to wanna stare at you in public or be nice act like nothing happened blocked delete I know my worth that’s gods battle now not mine!🙏
Epic message🙌🏼
Boom! ✴️ Giiiirl.....that was a really good one! I'm definitely not out to hurt or destroy anybody but you said some things in here that gave me a lot to think about. Think I'll have to listen again tomorrow. 😂
Thanks for sharing all your knowledge and sweet self with us, Telsha! ❤❤ 🫂
She protects the abuser.
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!! This right here is the truth and makes a lot of sense, giving insight and understanding on that buzzard. Thank you and good to see you back sis, sending healing love your way.
A buzzard that's just what he is
He's a buzzard 😂😂😂
I did this to my Mum and she ran off with her suitcases because I confronted her on all grounds , she never has an adult conversation.
They are traumatised 5 year old children inside a man or women’s body. So tragic though we can’t help them. Even Satan tricks them! Only God can bring them to their knees and would take a miracle to fix them bcos their narcissism is a self defence against their fragile egos! 🙏🏼
I did this same thing. He balled up and cried like a baby. I'm talking about cried so hard and balled up like a baby in a mother's womb. After that he left me for a week. Then I let him back and after that everything really turned bad!!
Basically throwing their problems on us..Soooo good girl!
Powerful Revelation 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 oooo this is so good 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿 more GRACE and Blessed to you.
Ooh this is so true!!!! He even said" if I can make you feel it I no longer do" OMW!!!!
He can manipulate your emotions but not your logic! Oh girl! I needed that.
That is the most realistic truth,they are ashamed!!