7 Checkpoints To Know If You Should Marry Him/Her | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • @owusuafriyiedennis4386
    @owusuafriyiedennis4386 2 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    If you are lonely now, marriage is not the cure, purpose is the cure.

  • @mojetioluwamolayo
    @mojetioluwamolayo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +222

    1. PERSPECTIVE CHECKPOINT
    2. MUTUALITY CHECKPOINT
    3. TIME CHECKPOINT
    4. FRIENDSHIP CHECKPOINT
    5. ACCOUNTABILITY CHECKPOINT
    6. PRAYER CHECKPOINT

    • @The_Judicious
      @The_Judicious 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks🙏 for this boss
      I appreciate

    • @davidezeol
      @davidezeol ปีที่แล้ว +1

      📌📌

    • @sarahkyobutungi
      @sarahkyobutungi 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you

    • @alexlouis9424
      @alexlouis9424 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      12:19 Dismiss, disagree, debate and defend.

  • @samsonakindahunsi1111
    @samsonakindahunsi1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    7 Checkpoints on how not to marry wrong
    1) PERSPECTIVE CHECKPOINT
    2) MUTUALITY CHECKPOINT
    3) TIME CHECKPOINT
    4) FRIENDSHIP CHECKPOINT
    5) ACCOUNTABILITY CHECKPOINT
    6) PRAYER CHECKPOINT
    Prov. 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart; lean not on your own understanding. In thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.
    God won't leave you abandoned when you come to him in prayer.
    Prayer answers all things because we serve a Living God that answers prayers.
    Thank you Pastor.

  • @oyizaelizabethodu449
    @oyizaelizabethodu449 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Loneliness is not the absence of affection but absence of direction. Hmmmm thank you sir

  • @NuelaMary
    @NuelaMary 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    My Favorite line is "I KNOW YOU WILL FIND IT, JUST LIKE I FOUND YOU"

  • @abrahamlincoln8013
    @abrahamlincoln8013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Even as a single guy, your teachings has helped and make me see the clearer picture about marriage

  • @byrnenoel6317
    @byrnenoel6317 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "Loneliness is not the absence of affection, it is the absence of direction."-- Pastor K. (from the video) 1:13
    1. Perspective 00:50/2:22 --What is the perspective of the man and woman on marriage?
    2. Mutuality 15:47 -- You both must want the marriage to work.
    3. Time 17:07 -- Don't rush. A major way to show if he/she is right. Time reveals deception.
    4. Friendship 17:56 --
    5. Accountability 18:52 -- Authority figures over the life. Who do you report to? Who do you submit to?
    6. Prayer 20:00 -- God will always reveal things to you.
    (Point 7 is not in this video. Pastor K. ended at Point 6)

  • @andrewoluwayemi7591
    @andrewoluwayemi7591 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Listening to Pastors K and M is always a blessing.
    Greater heights sir and ma in JESUS' mighty name

  • @adeniyananike9717
    @adeniyananike9717 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love the time check point,it's true that people can't deceive you for too long,all you need to do is slow down and don't rush.

  • @Rm_scentsation
    @Rm_scentsation 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I agree when you said a woman’s mind is full of drama...I’m telling things continually play in my head

  • @Brilliant-b6k
    @Brilliant-b6k 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Loneliness is not the absent of affection, it's the absent of direction

  • @Global-voice
    @Global-voice 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    1) perceptive checkpoint
    Know her concept abt marriage and how he/her can endure on a Tim difficult, how does she see devorce .
    * respect , marry someone u can respect natural.
    +Someone u can respect not inspect)
    R - romance for man
    R- Respect for woman
    2) maturity check point
    Knw the level her thinking and action.
    4 D
    Don't demiss her
    Don't disagree
    Don't defense ur self
    Don't debate .
    4 C
    Don't compare
    Don't criticise
    Don't complain
    Don't
    2) mutuality checkpoint
    3). time checkpoint don't be in a hurry to get married and also don't over delay
    4) accountability checkpoint ,who do u report to , who do u summit to ,ur authority over u , u can respect and obey
    4) friendship check point
    5) prayer checkpoint .

  • @michelleadebiyi2341
    @michelleadebiyi2341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Been waiting to hear from God whether or not I will marry a specific person. I’m convinced this video will be used to answer. Cant wait sir🙏🏾.

  • @idaraemmanuel9041
    @idaraemmanuel9041 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I mean the books
    Cab I get it in any book shop

  • @Flo_lifeisbeautiful
    @Flo_lifeisbeautiful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Really Romantic my partner introducing me to ''Pastor Kingsleys'' teaching. Looking forward to the LDM conference. 😌

  • @Ifenkilipro
    @Ifenkilipro ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh Lord,
    Order my foot steps , I will not make more mistakes before getting the right one ……….. Amen 🙏
    I will be at the right place, at the right time 🙏

  • @olaoluwaokewole1615
    @olaoluwaokewole1615 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome Word!!!
    "People can't pretend for too long" 💯

  • @SheSpeaks_Jesus
    @SheSpeaks_Jesus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I love how humorous you get with your messages. I Love your messages too!!

  • @Rhedysky
    @Rhedysky 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂😂😂 when I talked to him about something he did that I appreciated and he was like that happened ages ago I was like it just came to my mind😂😂 we're really full of drama and our brains be rotating 😂

  • @moneypenny3050
    @moneypenny3050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ... and I love how you explained the time checkpoint where you said that a situation will arise in which the individual will show their true colors ... you're really on it PastorK! You're good in all your videos. I could write comments on every video that I've watched but I just resist the urge to over do it. I really enjoy your counsel.

  • @shoporente4320
    @shoporente4320 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Pastor K! Your teachings have helped me understand marriage better and taught me what to look for in a spouse! God bless you.

  • @AviationInfo120
    @AviationInfo120 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So rich a message. Thank you sir. Please how can I buy your book.? I am in Cameroon

  • @sphiwekamwendo696
    @sphiwekamwendo696 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen in Jesus christ name.

  • @alexlouis9424
    @alexlouis9424 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    14:40 dont criticise, complain, compare ...

  • @ezinnepaul2999
    @ezinnepaul2999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omo this man just described me here 🥺🥺i which he can get better

  • @TozyhaPhiri-xh2uy
    @TozyhaPhiri-xh2uy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great teaching pst sir are your books available in soft copies

  • @odukwecynthia8535
    @odukwecynthia8535 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Lord from protecting me over these years👏🏾👏🏾

  • @attoaliceprim.843
    @attoaliceprim.843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks PR. K & M, you're preaching has blessed me...love you guys

  • @BlessingChristiana-ff6xe
    @BlessingChristiana-ff6xe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This massage is for me,i had 2 kids with this guy,letter i fined out ,he is not a man i can settle for ,he uses in the name of kids and his church people to pest my life around,he cant take decision on his own without his pastor,any time i tried making him understand things he brings age in to it,he doest listen,he do more of listing to outsiders than me,his a man of god,but he do more on pleasing things to people,he doest take responsibility,any time i talk about it he brings excuses,and for me my late parents never want him around me ,but as for me am trying to make things work cus of my kids ,and my little sibling but all is on me,pls help me

    • @kgothatsomosweu7358
      @kgothatsomosweu7358 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      May the Lord, help you. May He redeem you.

  • @terryondecks350
    @terryondecks350 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My favorite pastor..Love you man❤May God continue to increase wisdom

  • @claudettenewton2773
    @claudettenewton2773 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome life lesson on relationship and marriage . I believe all should focus on knowing as much as possible before commitment. Be the person best friend and learn as much as possibly from each other. I really enjoy your teaching and your enthusiasm as in all your sessions Pastor K. My favorite line is about the perfume and how to find it, that’s hilarious 😂. Also I agree that a man desires respect. Keep helping us, God bless you and your wife.

  • @iyoriobheprimepeter7865
    @iyoriobheprimepeter7865 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow is is educative

  • @kosisochukwuinnocent9709
    @kosisochukwuinnocent9709 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you JESUS CHRIST

  • @user-pw4zu8it5m
    @user-pw4zu8it5m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Good msg Pst ..appreciate all what you do.. please can you let your sound engineer do more better with the audio quality.. its not the best

  • @anyaedwin
    @anyaedwin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just can't wait for this video

  • @yemisiawonaike5408
    @yemisiawonaike5408 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤I love 💕 the word of God Pastor K said.
    It really happened me a lot in Relationship .

  • @queenesthertv2
    @queenesthertv2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much sir this teaching's have been a blessing to my marriage

  • @tomzd99
    @tomzd99 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The teachings here have blessed me tremendously and have come when I sought God's specific answers. Thank you Pastor and all those that put in the work to make this happen. God continue to bless you and make you flourish!

  • @oluwatosinevelyn4165
    @oluwatosinevelyn4165 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    PERSPECTIVE CHECKPOINT
    Purpose is the cure of loneliness
    I ended a relationship on this perspective reason. The parent saying i made him cheat.
    Men struggle to sort it out themselves Indeed.
    God help me to marry right.

  • @betheleduviedarlingtonabem359
    @betheleduviedarlingtonabem359 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN

  • @sportingarenatv7495
    @sportingarenatv7495 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank for sharing

  • @GiftyDavid-vs9vf
    @GiftyDavid-vs9vf ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Jesus

  • @borderlesstv777
    @borderlesstv777 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hmmm, real matter o!!!!!!!

  • @ajayiblessingcornelius9745
    @ajayiblessingcornelius9745 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What should someone who is already married and sense that the purpose is gone, what should the person do?

  • @mediationwithgoddi7853
    @mediationwithgoddi7853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Ronaldo person ❤❤love u sir

  • @mercyokuonghae9915
    @mercyokuonghae9915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Recently I’ve made a good decision
    Thank you pastor K

  • @oyerindeojo4619
    @oyerindeojo4619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen in Jesus mighty name Sir,Many thanks

  • @moneypenny3050
    @moneypenny3050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'll try to make this the last one I comment on tonight Pastor. You said the church is a hospital, there are mad people here. 😅
    Oh my my ... that's good, seriously

  • @carsoverhumanity5800
    @carsoverhumanity5800 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    My sweet Isabella put me onto Pastor Kingsley

  • @ekerenkanta2480
    @ekerenkanta2480 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good afternoon pastor, please what books would you recommend for me to read and prepare for my marriage.

  • @tatendamuchamiri3572
    @tatendamuchamiri3572 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen🙏, thank you Pastor

  • @ogarglory3715
    @ogarglory3715 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much sir 🙏 please where can i get the books

  • @ekerenkanta2480
    @ekerenkanta2480 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you o much for this message and God bless you abundantly. This is actually a cure. And eye opener.
    Pease what is the title of the books?

  • @solutiontech2985
    @solutiontech2985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What is the name of the book pastor use in this video, anyone who can help will be appreciated

  • @JessieAA
    @JessieAA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much pastor, very helpful

  • @superbhollychannel7815
    @superbhollychannel7815 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    God bless you, pastor

  • @josephjohnson61
    @josephjohnson61 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So inspiring..

  • @mojetioluwamolayo
    @mojetioluwamolayo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    WHEN TALKING TO A WOMAN (FOR MEN)
    Don't
    1. Dismiss
    2. Disagree
    3. Debate
    4. Defend
    WHEN TALKING TO A MAN (FOR WOMEN)
    Don't
    1. Complain
    2. Criticize
    3. Compare
    4. Confront (It wasn't mentioned in this message but I think I've heard it in one of his previous videos)

  • @gloryuririn374
    @gloryuririn374 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks sir

  • @izuchukwusilas2342
    @izuchukwusilas2342 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks pastor K.

  • @lightskinned_girrl
    @lightskinned_girrl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing piece as ever. God bless you sir🙏🏻

  • @moneypenny3050
    @moneypenny3050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pastor Kingsley you just really know how to make a great point

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Work on building a healthy relationship and falling in love with the person that you see everyday, who has been through so much pain and heartache, but still manages to gets through it all.❤️
    💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship

  • @giwaayodele
    @giwaayodele 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Power sermon please how can i get the book of A-Z of marriage. Thank you Sir

  • @nalubegalydia42
    @nalubegalydia42 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A-z I agree

  • @adannajohn3281
    @adannajohn3281 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank u so much sir for this 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @raphaelmishael7045
    @raphaelmishael7045 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Never disappointed with this Channel 🔥

  • @glorianamubiru1896
    @glorianamubiru1896 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amen

  • @tobiasfavour8974
    @tobiasfavour8974 ปีที่แล้ว

    How can one that base is South Eastern part of Nigeria get your books?

  • @eternallifeznow3840
    @eternallifeznow3840 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is there any open door to Uganda sir

  • @gabriellaengmann7573
    @gabriellaengmann7573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where in Ghana can we locate the books please ??? @pastor k

  • @yondelamadaka9765
    @yondelamadaka9765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Pastor K and M ♥️

  • @johnwilliams5024
    @johnwilliams5024 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please I want some of the books

  • @moneypenny3050
    @moneypenny3050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hello PastorK,
    Once again you are amazing and so funny when you said the part about "let's all have our own steering wheel - make it fair".
    I was falling off my chair with laughter.

    • @chiomaassumpta3148
      @chiomaassumpta3148 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your messages has been eye opener to us all....Sir please how can I get your books??

  • @tomwrightstechnologies5648
    @tomwrightstechnologies5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your message sir...how can I get your books and be my mentor
    Wow it was great sir more anointing

  • @kanyanadebby9357
    @kanyanadebby9357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just cn't wait🤩🤩

  • @foyinlolasworld6072
    @foyinlolasworld6072 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you sir
    Amen

  • @Willitobore
    @Willitobore 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you sir

  • @ademehintoyehannah9494
    @ademehintoyehannah9494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where can I download the books sir
    More anointing sir

  • @idaraemmanuel9041
    @idaraemmanuel9041 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please sir
    Where can I get it

  • @alexlouis9424
    @alexlouis9424 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    12:19 with women don't Dismiss, disagree, debate or defend.

  • @JAY-BOOGIE__xX
    @JAY-BOOGIE__xX ปีที่แล้ว

    What are the names of the books ?

  • @sarahkyobutungi
    @sarahkyobutungi 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please, How do I get these books, I am in Uganda

  • @kifTrvgiRL
    @kifTrvgiRL 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for the preaching.

  • @ekempatience5148
    @ekempatience5148 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please where can I get these books in mowe Ogun State

  • @demeyeibotamaraumiene5773
    @demeyeibotamaraumiene5773 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do I get to buy books from you sir

  • @Digitaldeas625
    @Digitaldeas625 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    How can I get your books in portharcourt

  • @egwuatuomezievictor7546
    @egwuatuomezievictor7546 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There's a difference between loneliness and
    alone~Alone is u been on ur own doing ur thing
    and still b happy Been one while lonely is done
    many people are facing today, they re so scared
    of staying alone (finds it difficult to stay a day
    alone without feeling bored)
    Wen u find ur gift (discover ur purpose on earth/d
    reason y u re on earth)u wil never b lonely but u
    wil b alone that's y people lol jesus always used
    d word I will love to b alone n talk to my father n
    he was having fun doing it and didn't desire to
    marry same wit apostle Paul same wit Nelson
    Mandela wen he was alone in d prison for
    27 years.
    So if u still feel lonely it's a great sign and signal
    that u re only doing ur job(career) and not ur
    work(gift and life purpose) and In genesis God
    gave man work first before he gave him a woman
    so u must first discover ur work(gift) n even b
    lost in doing it before u will b given a wife that's
    d order of heaven

  • @jblendsworld
    @jblendsworld 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t complain, I don’t compare, I only criticize when he criticize someone else, but he does everything both sexes should not do

  • @mrizzytv
    @mrizzytv 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you sir💖🙏

  • @adedejiracheal541
    @adedejiracheal541 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You will definitely get it wrong when your reasons for getting married are wrong

  • @AbelBlog
    @AbelBlog 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I appreciate some of the checkpoints given in this message. But there is a much better way to know people for marriage without having to be involved with them relationally. It's anonymous inside out courtship.
    People know themselves anonymously starting inside (spirituality, morality intellect...) and end outside (physique, external assets,...) at the time they are ready for marriage only if they match consistently inside. Many people can even be known simultaneously this way without risk. Anyone would maintain over time a pool of compatible prospect based on inner values. It's only when people are ready for marriage that the identity of their prospects are fully revealed and they can asses the external qualities and assets. Even without technology it's very feasible. But it's much easier with technology through a social platform.
    The problem with the conventional approach is that many people get damaged when they try to know others and that negatively affect their experiences in their marriages.

    • @ashleyrakatsinzwa7124
      @ashleyrakatsinzwa7124 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true. Sometimes getting involved can come with emotional and psychological aftermath. Having a pool of friends helps. It allows time to assess perspective, morals and principles. If there is no alignment, it's easier to jump ship

  • @adeoyemoses6967
    @adeoyemoses6967 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How will l get this book

  • @achiaadorcas6120
    @achiaadorcas6120 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pls the books where will get some in Ghana to buy

  • @mojetioluwamolayo
    @mojetioluwamolayo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very impactful message 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. Where you invest is where you harvest 💯💯💯💯💯.
    There's only one thing I disagree with in this message.
    Messi is the 🐐.

    • @thendykrystyna8184
      @thendykrystyna8184 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣it had to be that?

  • @BecomingwithPB
    @BecomingwithPB 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please how can I get these books?
    All of them.
    The hard copies ×2

  • @olufemitinuoye3248
    @olufemitinuoye3248 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Pst K, please, work on the volume of your videos. The volume 📢 of this video is too low.

    • @Daughter-oftheMostHigh-y3r
      @Daughter-oftheMostHigh-y3r 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes it's really low as with others. I had to hold the phone to my ear. Interestingly, his wife was of better quality.

    • @michelleadebiyi2341
      @michelleadebiyi2341 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not for me

  • @EH_Analytics
    @EH_Analytics 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How can I get this book and some other of your books?

  • @graceanih3909
    @graceanih3909 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    How do I get your books

  • @Tanimola
    @Tanimola 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just started reading Men are from Mars women are from Venus and you literally just said the same thing about women and their feelings... Very accurate