Coping with Cleaning ANXIETY: Keeping Your Spaces Tidy
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I suffer with both mental and physical health problems, and for some reason I find cleaning the bathroom the hardest task of all. Last week, I put on an audiobook that I was really into before I started cleaning. I ended up doing 4 HOURS of bathroom cleaning without even noticing! I organised and decluttered every little item on every shelf and even descaled the shower heads! Focusing on something else works wonders for me.
I've definitely found listening to audiobooks to be extremely helpful too.
Lately, I have a new saying to myself; “If you see something, do something!” So if I open the fridge & see dirt on the bottom shelf, I clean it…this has really helped me 😊
About 2 years ago I changed my mindset. My “to do” list is now called my “goals list”. This mindset helps me to not feel guilty if I don’t complete my list for that day. ~Shiree~
My problem is I spent so many years being depressed and working and being short of money, that I let my house go and now I feel it is beyond rehabilitation.
Awwww Just do little bits at a time you will get there 😢😘 xxx
Just start in one corner. Any corner.
Pick up one thing. There is only 3 catergories: Trash, Donate and Put away. It gets easier as you keep doing it.❤
Start on a small task but a spot that you see daily. Like the dishes in the sink or the stovetop. It will be gratifying at each passing. Then maybe the countertop next to that area. Little by little it will feel more satisfying and accomplished. Don’t expect all this in one day. It will take time. Hope you feel better.
Do the best you can with what you have. Thats all we can do ❤
This is also a GREAT video for those of us who struggle with chronic health/pain issues. I have chronic migraines (15+per month). On my good days, picking one project to start is my strategy. I absolutely agree with making self-care a priority too though! Now, I think...I feel pretty good today...what is one thing that needs to be done, and also, what is one thing that would bring me joy? On some days, this does mean a little more cleaning because I'm enjoying it. On others, it might look like...I'll mop the floors and then do some art.
As a fellow migraine sufferer, I tend to put off a lot. Your comment means a lot to me. Thank you for sharing your experience.
@@pattischult9401 , you're more than welcome! I am so sorry that you're experiencing this too. Just said a little prayer for you right now. Take care of YOU and may God bless you!
I go for either the five minutes or the one thing and generally find myself doing more than I had expected.
Me too
What a great message to us all! You nailed it Melissa. Some days we just don't "have what it takes" to do those never ending cleaning chores. That "struggle bus is real"!
Being realistic and honest is key. Self care works for me. And doing just one thing can be just the positive influence we may need.
Yes Elaine! The struggle bus is definitely real some days! Maybe we should all hop off and take a self-care break. Thanks for watching! Melissa
I'm going too do the self care option tonight.
I did do a bit of tiding today cause my partner and kids just leave mess everywhere. I have changed my thinking too just do one thing, in my case was just cleat the clutter today!!! Now I'm going too reward myself with self care. Thank you Melissa ❤️ 😊
If I'm struggling I remind myself that my hubby gets up everyday at 5am to go to work and provide a beautiful home for us the least I can do is make sure he comes home to a tidy house. Doesn't always work but most times it does. And thankfully my hubby never says a word about it if it doesn't. He actually will just start pitching in and doing stuff. I'm pretty lucky to have him.
5:45 In my house, we call this "chain" cleaning or "might as well" cleaning and it usually happens when I'm just so fed up with the mess I start by fixing one thing then noticing something else while I'm finishing the first. It usually goes something like "these towels are dirty, let's put them in the hamper" -> "I might as well replace all the towels on my way to put this away" -> "there was a dirty tissue in the closet, I should throw that away"-> "wow, there's a lot of trash around the house, I'm going to pick it up on my way to throw this away" -> "the trash can is full, I'm going to empty it" -> "the garage doorknob is gross, I'm going to wipe that off" -> "I have the disinfecting spray out, I might as well do all the knobs and light switches."
It's sometimes hard to let go and feel like I'm just flailing around, cleaning in circles, but it's really just letting the lower-level, emotion-driven parts of my brain snag on the things that still need to be cleaned based on how much anxiety or frustration they give me compared to the other things that still need to be done. It's not as efficient or practical as it might have been if I'd made a list to follow, but in these situations where I'm "chain cleaning" instead of "routine cleaning," I'll usually get overwhelmed and give up if I stop to make a methodical list first, so being flexible like this is really important for the overall cleanliness of my house. Even doing this for just 30 minutes or so can get whatever overwhelm or anxiety had built up back down to a level where I can get back to my routines the next day.
When I struggle, I put a really good Playlist or Audio book, and start cleaning.
The audiobook thing is so smart!
And ask for help. My husband doesn't often help clean, but it's been hard lately due to some sad life events. I spoke up and asked him to help with dishes and if I cleaned would he dry and put away. I don't ask for help and just asking made me cry, but together we got the dishes done. ❤
I am glad he helped you.
That's great to hear! Thanks for the comments! Melissa
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO !! It remind me that I'm not the only one on the 🚍
I've been on the struggle bus for many years due to medical problems and chronic pain but i always try to keep up with day-to-day things and I guess you can say 2 years ago all the tires on the bus became flat... My mom passed away and I haven't been able to motivate myself to do anything 😢 and I really want to start getting stuff done I can't even sweep my place because it broke almost a year ago 🤦🏼 I know that if I get my voice cleaned up it will help my depression I was finally able to motivate myself to push myself to get dishes and counters cleaned off so it's a start 🤞🏼 that I can continue to do a little bit each day. Is it going to keep watching this video to remind myself did a little bit each day is okay 🙏🏼☮️💜🤗♾️
This may be the best video, you´ve ever made. And I have seen many great videos on your channel 😊I have two kinds of areas in my house. The first is "just do it" areas. These are areas, that I want to keep clean, and that I know CAN be kept clean if I spend 10 min a day cleaning. My sink, the kitchen table, surfaces on the toilet and clothes put away ect. The second kind is "just do it when it´s time" areas. These are areas that I don´t mind if they get a bit dirty from time to time. The floors for example. So I only vacuum when it starts being annoying to me. This means that if I have a periode with no motivation to clean, I allow myself to rest - except for the 10 min. a day where I "just do it".
Thank you. Most if not all the time I look at what needs to be done and get so overwhelmed that I do nothing. I do feel when I do manage to clean it’s not thinking about it. Just do it. Most of the time I’m trying to clean when I should be getting ready to go to work. And when I do come home, I do nothing😱😱
My bad days are amplified when my house isnt clean! So sometimes it helps to get things tidy, other times its a struggle. I pride myself that i do 90% of the cleaning, laundry, and food prep, but hubby jumps in whenever he can. He takes care of broken things, the lawn, etc and works a lot of OT, I work a pretty normal work week. So i dont like asking him for help but im very fortunate that I can have him help! I recently started a new job with a very new work schedule which has thrown a wrench into my cleaning schedule, so in the meantime of finding my new groove I've asked for help. He may not clean how I "love" but he gets the job done and we work as a team. And i really try to rely on my "most important areas" when i am busy or overwhelmed rather than keeping the entire house clean. Not every space needs to he important 100% of the time!
Oh my goodness. I just reached the end of my rope with being disorganized and you show up with suggestions. Thank you! 🙂
Yes Sandra! Looks like I arrived just in time to save the day! Melissa
I used to think having a ridged cleaning schedule would help me be organized but it just stressed me out. Now my chores are the same as I give my kids. Do the top 3 rotating tasks. For me it’s laundry, dishes and decluttering the counter/table. Then if I still have energy I’ll do more. If not. I did enough for the day. Working on trying to give myself more grace. Homes are supposed to be lived and clean enough to be healthy but dirty enough to be happy. You’re probably doing better than you think you are ❤❤❤
Thanks for being real!! I'm sorry to hear you're on the struggle bus. I hate that bus!! Thanks for helping so very many people with your gifts and talents!!
The struggle bus is the worst, right? But we'll get through it together! Melissa
Yes, absolutely: Thank you, Melissa, for being so candid, open, and honest about the place you were in at the time you recorded this. I love the very practical tip of setting a five minute timer and going at the first thing I see. I’m a long time subscriber, first time commenter. Your channel has been SUCH a help!
I'm a list maker. If I'm struggling and my comprehensive digital list feels overwhelming, I switch back to paper and pen. I put a MAXIMUM of 3 narrowly defined tasks on the list. (Vacuum the bathroom fan instead of clean the bathroom.) If I don't know where to start, I do the dishes. Nothing beats the physical act of crossing something off a list!
I love the timer idea. Kind of reminds of school when you couldn't wait for your least favorite class (gym for me) was over. You knew it would eventually end, so you could bear it. To motivate myself, I'll tackle one area first and make sure whatever I do is really visible, like clean and buff the kitchen sink. Because I'm a visual person, when I go to that place and allow myself to admire my work, I find that it actually helps make me feel accomplished and often motivates me to do more. At least for another 5 minutes! 💖
And when I don’t have motivation to Clean I turn your channel on and get going and other channels too but your my top favorite! I call your book my Cleaning Bible lol I have highlighted it and made notes in a notebook ❤ And sometime to get motivated I reward myself for a job well done,a new shirt,a manicure I give myself,or read a book!
Same, I have been watching Melissa for years for great tips. I normally love cleaning but, lately I have been struggling!
Same...but exclusively you Melissa, cleaning motivation, play all...
Love those rewards, Chrissy! Keep them coming and thanks for the love! It's awesome to hear that my videos help you get in the cleaning zone. Keep up the great work! Melissa
Thanks, Melissa. Perfect timing. I've been feeling overwhelmed lately by being the primary house cleaner - things got out of hand because I was busy with other things. I'm getting back to having a clean & organized home & I DO put your channel on when I'm cleaning. It helps me stay motivated and get things done.
Thank you for your kind words! It means a lot to know that my videos are helping you stay motivated.
@@cleanmyspaceyou rock I love your honesty and your cleaning tips to but this world is falling Jesus is coming soon but not before Satan the Antichrist shows up as Paul teaches in 2nd Thessalonians 1 through 4.
The whole world follows after Satan Revelation 13:3 and verse 8 except those written in the Book of Life of lamb slain who knows Satan comes first don't be deceived and follow Satan Revelation 6:2 he comes on a white horse Jesus Christ comes on the white horse in Revelation 19 verse 11. God bless you and I will be praying for you❤😊
@@cleanmyspaceI've been using ecos laundry detergent with a 1 cup of hydrogen peroxide with another cup of water and I was wondering can I use one cup of vinegar instead of the detergent?
I have been using the laundry detergent all free and clear but I just switched to Eco so I'm prematurely asking the question on using vinegar.... thank you for everything you do !
I have been struggling (on the bus) to clean the inside of my range hood. For those who have done this, you know what I'm up against!! Today, I will clean one side of the interior of the range hood. That leaves only 3 more. Sounds crazy, but to me, that's a win!!!! Thank you for the inspiration, Melissa!!
I seem to always be on the Struggle Bus when it comes to cleaning. I moved about a year ago and I am still struggling to keep my place ‘clean’ and tidy. I’m not dirty per se (I don’t leave dishes under my bed or not do laundry for weeks) I’m just so untidy. Mum says cleaning and seeing a tidy space will make me feel better, so it’s a catch 22 at the moment.
It's all about finding a cleaning routine that works for you! Thanks for tuning in!
I took a spiritual workshop about 22 years ago, and yes I'm old. We were suppose to pick a spiritual practice that was new to us and do it every dday, then report back once/month for a year. So, I picked saying a mantra, which was a mini prayer to God, over and over again while I did something I absolutely hated for 30 min every morning. You guessed it, my most hated thing to do was cleaning. Every morning, I cleaned the kitchen for 30 min saying my mantra and pretty soon I could stay in that happy place while cleaning. Over the years, I used the same mantra/prayer whenever I had to do something mindless that I hate doing or going someplace I did not want to go. To this day, 20 years later, I begin the morning cleaning the kitchen..
What was that prayer? cause I need it. And thank you!
I’d like to know this mantra too❤
@@CocoRehman It's part of a Catholic prayer my friend gave me: 'Lord, make me humble, patient, pure and wholy obedient to Thy Will.' Thanks for asking
@@aleciariddick7719 I replied above. Thanks for asking.
@@pestimom6572 thank you🙏🏻
This is a great vlog Melissa. I’m sure 99% can relate. It only takes a few successive days of work, social commitments, late nights for the chores to pile up leaving you feeling overwhelmed, drained and out of control. I find the best way is to tackle one job eg iron and put away the clean laundry that has piled up in the guest room. Once I see the fruits of my labour and how nice it looks this seems to give me a boost to tackle another job and so on. Keep going if you seem to be on a roll. Thanks for your advice as always
I have learned to feel how I feel. If today is not the day, i do what I can. I also have inspired my kiddos to clean. I am proud of what they are able to do
Melissa, I am exactly like you. I cannot plan or make a list. Days I do, nothing gets done. But if I either pick one thing, or set a timer, I’ll be able to get a lot done. I also don’t feel like cleaning is self care. It is, but it just doesn’t feel like it. I actually DO like to clean. I love vacuuming, I have four vacuums!! I also buy various cleaning products, those things tend to motivate me as well. Thank you for all your great advice on this channel!! ❤
When I feel overwhelmed or I'm struggling to start cleaning, I always think about your three wave system and follow your lead: left to right, top to bottom. Thank you so much for this system!
Thanks for this and for being real. Some days you just don't feel it and that's ok. I like what you said about self care. We all need it.
I’m on the bus, too. Welcome aboard. Lots going on in the world these days.
Oh my gosh, I too hate cleaning! Well I say that, it always feels like too much and so therefore I don’t enjoy it. You just saying, sometimes it’s okay to leave it made me cry in relief. I always push myself to burnout and to know that feeling this way to start with is normal, has given me permission to listen to myself more. Thank you Melissa 💕💕
Ben Franklin - Col. Sanders - almost the same. LOL!!! Thank you for another great - insightful - video!! :)
lol!! I was wondering if anyone else caught that!! Too funny!
Personally, I read a book when I’m feeling the struggle. Cleaning is a habit for me though, so I always do a bit every day. Exercise is my biggest struggle, and your 5 minute tip will be my inner voice today.
I love your videos 🩷 May I share them on my website?
Thanks for watching and happy to be the inner voice for today! Of course you can share. Sharing is caring! Enjoy the weekend! Melissa
I often make to do lists. Sometimes just getting it all down on paper relieves the stress in my brain. Sometimes the list helps me see what is actually most important if I only have time or inclination to do one or two things. And other times the list is just too overwhelming! You’re definitely right about knowing yourself and understanding what will work for you personally on different days! My current strategy is a big list on a sheet of paper, but then there are spaces at the top of the sheet for 2 post it notes for “today” and “tomorrow” where I transfer just a few jobs from the main list. That way I’m not worried about forgetting all the things, but just focusing on a few at a time.
I might make a list and pick one thing I'm drawn to ..maybe the easy one or maybe the one I'd get the most satisfaction or relief from. Or, I put a video on, music, or a podcast and almost get into a meditative state. Or, I just organize something small and see if that grows into something more. But, I honor where I am at so I may not do anything and that's ok.
I love all your videos but this one is one of my favourites! I love that you acknowledge that sometimes it's all too hard. I had that spur of the moment clean the other day and I just went on a de-clutter, moving furniture, cleaning rampage. It lasted 2 hours and I felt awesome after. I'm an overthinker and can find lists too much. I love the 'do one thing, see how you feel' suggestion. And yes of course you are the one I watch for motivation. Works every time! Thank you so much for sharing your tips, thoughts, knowledge.
Thank you for keeping it so real Melissa...needed this video today💜
These days, I am really trying to keep it real, even when I'm talking to my cat! Thanks for tuning in....Melissa.
This video came just in time I've been feeling sick and under the weather my routines went straight out the door. Thank you. 😊
This is exactly why I am watching your video right now, to get motivated.
Glad I could be your virtual cheerleader! Go conquer the world!
@@cleanmyspace, I need motivation.
Thanks for the inspiration! I've been in a funk recently & your suggestions for a time limit & music seem perfect.
I'm glad my video could help inspire you! Keep pushing through that funk!
Great video 🎥 Melissa!
I think of how I will feel afterwards 😊 and also put music 🎶 and a timer on like you said which can motivate me more once the timer goes off. I try and tune my routines to how much time I have each day and also try and tune my body to the seasons throughout the year which also impacts my cleaning 🧼🧹 routine.
It's amazing how small changes like music and a timer can really boost motivation in our daily routines!
@@cleanmyspace😊😊😊 - please do more raw and real videos like this. I have OCD with cleaning 🧼🧹 so sometimes I put off cleaning because my OCD overwhelms me with what to do and how many times I may need to wash my hands when cleaning 🧼
I needed this. I am STRUGGLING! My house is a mess.
Oh this is so me! Thank you for this video ❤
I hope it helped you :)
Whatever it is that you're struggling with, I hope you'll get through it, you've been such an inspiration! I've been struggling with many health issues and sometimes getting out of bed seems too much, so cleaning is therapeutic for me.
I've been following your TH-cam channel for a few years now, and I remembered thinking that you looked alot like my English teacher back in middle school (also the same last name).
After seeing your instagram feed, my hunch was once again validated! I'm pretty sure your mother taught my English class in either grade 6 or 7, at Bayview Middle School!! 😅😂
Perfect timing on this one, thank you 🙏
@CleanMySpace In my house growing up my mom would say "the cleaning bug bit" and that is the moment you are talking about that you have to take advantage of!! Love it.
I think it is also do with interiors of the house a modern house is definitely easy to clean and one would feel motivated to clean , but a traditional or old house is harder to clean , more mould , dark walls , rough tiles etc
I think interior design plays a major role in motivation to clean and keep clean
I am sorry you are struggeling! I have a favorite video, from years ago. where chad cleans the whole whose. I turn that on as motivation. Its the best! Also, I have a disabilty and chronic pain, so for me, a decluttered home is really important, so the cleaning goes as fast as possible. I used to have an appartment , after surgery, or when having really bad phases, which was just horrible, embarrasing, and made me to not want to have visitors. Now, the flat looks at least tidy, because theres is not much stuff, and does not get embarassing.I also have little habits to clean on the go, so I never really have to do a whole house clean. I learned a lot from you and clutterbug.And regarding deep cleans, i only do 1 task so it does not wear me out physically.
Thanks for the good advice. I recently subscribed to your channel and started using your recipes for DIY products. They work so well. I also get motivated listening to you. Please do self care. This from a fellow Canadian!
Looks like my DIY recipes are working their magic! Who knew I was a secret potion master? Thanks for the love, fellow Canadian! Have a good weekend! Melissa
One tip I have : use gloves ! Sometimes I don’t want to clean because I don’t like my hands to get wet or dirty 😿 but when I put my gloves on 🧤 I can clean more efficiently, also if your gloves are tight they’re hard to get off 😂 so I keep cleaning 🧼
I've never had discipline, everything is emotional. Working according to lists would kill my motivation. I have various strategies to motivate myself, but they don't always work emotionally. But what has motivated me for many months is: hey, you can do the 5 minutes... and then you'll feel better... I'm so happy about it. But the prerequisite for me was to have a basic order... everything has a place - in its place.
🥰🤣 really needed the ben franklin / chicken laugh tytyty
Who knew Ben Franklin and chicken laughs could be the perfect combo for a good time? Thanks for tuning in! Melissa.
thank you so much for posting this 💗 means a lot to us passengers of the struggle bus haha
I just saw a post on a site that said you know how Often people should clean there car. How many years of detailing cars for people do you have. Thank you for your expert advice.
This is just what I needed today. I even paused your video to do some öoght cleaning.
My best way to get things done when I am not feeling up for it(aka 80% of the time) I put on a good podcast or audio book and/or I set a certain number of things to put away or clean and only do those things. Simular to setting a timer.
Another great video. Just what I needed to hear today.
You and me both! It's like I have a direct line to your thoughts, huh? Thanks for watching! Thanks for watching! Melissa
When I’m having a hard day, I take a few mins, run through the day and figure out if it’s a bad day all around or if I’ve had a few bad moments. I vent to a friend quick or my husband, and then I get out of my head and remember how much my family means to me, and how I’ll thank myself later🙂
If I can only make my bed, load my dishwasher, do 1 load of towels, fluff my couch pillows or clean my bathroom sink, then I tell myself it’s good enough
What channel are you talking about? And where do I find these helpful hints?
Wow. This hit home.
Most days I have 1-2 tasks that I do weekly …if it’s bad I try to do it even if it’s a bad job …it can get done properly another day or next week.
The days I am good I try to get more things done
Ask someone you trust to help somtimes is a good idea
I always find when I’m completely unmotivated to get stuff done, I pick the one cleaning task that I enjoy most (for me that’s vacuuming) and I do it until the battery stops. Sitting back and seeing things look and feel cleaner just by doing that one task, usually gets me motivated to tackle other things.
The other thing that always gets me cleaning is having an argument with my husband. When I’m mad, I power clean. (Of course, there are times when said husband pushes buttons on purpose because after 30 years of marriage, he knows this about me) 😂
I really needed this video
The Struggle Bus ❤ love it. Along with Cas from Clutterbug's Clutter Shuffle.
I get some music going upbeat kind and some essential oils. If that doesn't work I watch some TH-cam creators like you and watch a little pause get some cleaning done and continue watching. I've had issue with my foot and back so I just need to take breaks.
This is so good for other tasks too. Thank you!
Thanks for watching Tina!
Hello
HI! hope this video helped get your through the day!
My bad days are caused by my house being dirty and messy. I hardly ever get anything done on those days.
Such great advice! ❤️❤️ To get in cleaning mode I put on Taylor Swift essentials on my Apple phone and go to town! Lol… I don’t know what it is about it that gets me in the mood, but it works for me.. Find what works for you. If you’re just not in the mood, it can wait. Not the end of the world. There is always tomorrow. A to do list to me seems like a chore or work! Hard pass 😬
I appreciate your kind words! It's all about finding what motivates you to tackle your tasks.
Very good video!
Thank you so much for watching and for your kind words!
You made this video for me and l love it !
I’m in a purge mood all week trying to ignore it because I don’t want to throw everything away even tho that my mood currently and I’m trying to ignore it
I watch cleaning videos to get me going.
Hi Melissa! I am hoping you answer my question.
I just recently bought porcelain matte black bathroom sinks. What do I use to clean them and make sure they looking like new? I do not want to put wrong products on them and mess up the finish.
Or anyone on here- PLEASE give any advice, tips. I don’t want these new porcelain matte black sinks ruined. They are in our bathrooms.
If you see it, you clean it. I’ll walk in a room and the first thing I see that needs done gets cleaned. After that it’s fine to walk away or keep going. For me it defeats the elephant in the room or the task hidden at the bottom of the pile.
Hi, please help how do you remove lint on your bath towels
I was adding vinegar to my laundry every wash and then it was said during a cleaning video or appliance cleaning video it was said never use vinegar it will ruin the washing machine destroy the belts, plastic parts etc., which did not make sense to me because how does the water reach belts and other parts, etc.? So, I am asking you since I just saw you, I think, adding vinegar as you have suggested and why I started and love what it does for the cleaning of cloths, no smells either, is there any validity to this said? Thank you in advance.
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İ put on my AirPods an listen Michael Jackson while i am cleaning❤ i even dans around a bit 😂
We get cleaning zoomies, hahahahaha, I just had the zoomies this morning....
in bad days i only focus on hot spots,,i appreciate my health my family ..i know it will pass
It's important to focus on the positive things during tough times. Have a great weekend. Melissa
I watch your video a while ago about a commercial drain cleaner for the bathroom and kitchen sink I wonder if you can send it to me thank you
When I don't feel like it, I will take a day off. I usually can make it up.
I wondered if you've ever cleaned to your own videos and laughed at your own completely funny self... 🤭
Oh yeah, I've definitely had a cleaning dance party to my own videos! Who knew I was so entertaining?!
@@cleanmyspace 😂👍
Melissa, you look so sad. This is not who you usually are. I understand. I’m in that place. Sending you love, light and blessings. I hope you feel better soon.
I had a baby who is now 6m…… and I am just not able to keep my house clean. My husband is a clutter bug and I feel overwhelmed as he’s not listening
Hire a maid to come once a week or assign him 2 chores. Such as trash, and dishes. Or laundry. Or floors. Or...live separately
Benjamin 😂
Just so you know “On the struggle bus” is a derogatory statement referencing children and people with disabilities/special needs and how “they”all ride together on the same bus purposefully separate from others without disability. Thats a big conversation but the main point is People use this term generically-to fit their situation in a lighthearted or comical or illustrative purpose i did too until someone nicely explained to me where this stems from and bigger picture issues-ultimately showing me why its tasteless rude and offensive. Just figured id pass it along.