10 Lies Women Were Told About Men
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- Hey there, it's Sarah Don Moore, and welcome back to my channel! Here, we explore the world of modern dating, relationships, mental health, and today's favorite topic - the honest truth about what men really want and what they don't want. Before we dive in, a special shout-out to my channel members. Your support keeps things rolling, and it allows me to stay true to my mission outside the constraints of corporate America. I appreciate you all!
Let's get to it. We're tackling some common myths about men's desires and shedding light on the truth:
10 Lies Women Were Told About Men:
1. Men Are Sex-Crazed Commitment-Phobes
Contrary to what you might think, most men aren't just looking for a fling. In reality, many yearn for a loyal, genuine connection. They appreciate women who bring more to the table than just looks.
2. Men Are Emotionally Unavailable
Men are emotional beings, too. Society often pressures them to mask their feelings, leading to a disconnect. However, it's not that they lack emotions; they've learned to cope differently. They fear rejection and societal expectations about how they should express their feelings.
3. Men Want a 1950s Housewife
The idea that men only want submissive, stay-at-home partners is outdated. Many men value women who contribute financially and share responsibilities. However, they do want recognition for their efforts, support, and accomplishments.
4. Men Love the Chase
While some may enjoy a playful pursuit, most men don't want to chase endlessly. What they desire is reciprocation and clear interest from women. Healthy relationships involve mutual effort, not mind games.
5. Men's Gaze Means They're Uninterested in You
Men are visual creatures. Admiring beauty doesn't mean they want to leave or cheat. It's a natural response. Trust your partner, and remember that attraction doesn't equate to infidelity.
6. Silent Moments Mean Trouble
When men are quiet, it doesn't necessarily signal relationship issues. Women often assume the worst, but sometimes, men are simply focused on something specific, which doesn't reflect negatively on the relationship.
7. Men Want Mothers, Not Partners
Men desire nurturing, not mothering. There's a significant difference between the two. Nurturing shows care and thoughtfulness, while mothering can be condescending. It's about being supportive and attentive, not overbearing.
8. Men Are Only Interested in Sex
While sex is important, it's not the only thing men want. Most men value women who respect their bodies and boundaries. They appreciate women who prioritize emotional connection over physical intimacy.
9. Men Don't Like Challenges
Men do appreciate a bit of challenge, but not when it leads to arguments or competition. They value intellectual stimulation, playful banter, and a partner who knows how to balance seriousness with fun.
10. Men Are Controlling
While there are controlling individuals of both genders, many times, what might seem controlling behavior from men is actually rooted in genuine concern for their partner's safety and well-being.
So there you have it, folks! These are some common misconceptions about men and their desires. Remember, every individual is unique, and healthy relationships are built on communication, trust, and understanding.
If you've encountered any of these myths or have your own insights, share your thoughts in the comments below. Let's keep this conversation going!
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#11: We do NOT have a hidden agenda when we say something. Take it at face value, do NOT take it to an illogical, hyperbolic extreme interpretation. Period.
My ex wife used to pull that “so what your saying is” crap. What I said is what I mean.
This hidden agenda interpretation by my soon to be ex was so frequent I virtually stopped talking to her. When I did talk I usually regretted it. I believe this is a narcissistic characteristic. I know narc... word way over used in the age, but if truly fits IMHO.
@@davidlewis4688 IMO, it's almost like women can not possibly fathom men being different from their fellow women, who usually DO have an agenda w/what they say. Almost like they practice getting subtle digs on each other...for reasons that you and I will never ever understand.
And so therefore, we must be the same as them.
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We as men don't have time to sugar coat things, so yes if we say something our hearts and minds put out what we want perceived and hope she understands most of the time it's for our best interest
@@darkstar92772My biggest pet peeve is people assuming random shit and putting words in my mouth. Bitch, if I meant to say that, I WOULD HAVE FUCKING SAID IT!
Women: you should be more vulnerable and show your feelings
Man: *shows his feelings*
Women: ew, not like that
@@davestuart1382 More likely - in modern day terms - the horse was too cheap.
Women are often told to not express anger.
@rayf6126 we live in a gynocentric culture that caters to women, you can complain when it's legitimate, then get over it and find a solution, men have been doing this since the beginning of time, now women can be equal or be alone.
With all the abuse we silently take so we dont get accused of being toxic it means a lot to see awoman defend us. Thank you.
I remember the look of incomprehensible shock on a woman's face when she was bitching about some guy that didn't chase her after she shut him down when he asked for a date. "He just took you at face value. No means no, and you told him no. Now it's all on you to pursue him, and he's going to be highly suspicious because now he knows you play stupid games."
....go on.....
Women don't know how to handle men who don't play games, they expect and even want it because if you play games so can they, if you don't then you don't go along with theirs which means they have to actually act like equals, and that terrifies them.
@@cdoublejj damn brother!! You are right!!
#10 reminds of something I once heard and keep in mind for myself: "Men don't protect their women because women are weak, they protect them because they are important"
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Yes we do protect them because they ARE weak. Why would we do it if they weren't? They wouldn't need us to.
WE are important, but you don't see women protecting us. The reason is obvious, we're stronger.
I think it's for both reasons. Men protect their women because they're usually physically weaker, but they're also worth everything to them. Of course, a good man will also protect women and children who are not part of his family. The sacrifices made by men and women in families are very different, but equally valuable.
@@cryptojihadi265 Wow. I kinda feel sorry for any women in your life.
But modern day women think we think they are weak so we walk away. There a "Bricked Woman" trending, she resorted to provoking a man so that she can prove other men are not protectors. This after she had said men are useless and female are the real protectors
4:34
"Men Like To Chase"
That one is most definitely a lie. A lot of men (myself included) don't like to chase a woman, mostly because they're prone to be labeled as a creep for doing so
That's a hornets nest that most guys would be more likely to try to avoid at all costs
Chasing women was socially acceptable for men 75 years ago. Now it isn’t.
I don't like a chase like it was done kind of hunting game. But I enjoy a playful chase, as long as it's clear that it's going somewhere
never chase.. she ran for a reason.. and will run again
@@K0LDER exactly the point that I had been attempting to make, as well
@@davestuart1382 I used to, back when I was young and stupid
I think the biggest one is just how much men appreciate a woman who is easy to get along with. The number of women that seem to think being a drama queen, having emotional issues, being unreliable, hard to talk to, etc are actually badges of honour is amazing. A lot even put them on their dating profiles (which to be fair is so handy as you know to avoid them)
I agree, some of the things women say in their dating profiles is unbelievable. They hit you right in your face with a HUGE red flag.....lol. I find it funny.
@@Navigator001they're unintentionally doing men a favour it allows the smart men to avoid a bullet
"If you can't handle me at my worst..." quote is the biggest red flag. They're always at their worst and are proud of making no effort to be easy to be around.
Life hands one enough drama. There is no need for one to manufacture it.
@davidcox3076 totally agree. I suspect that is why a lot of women start saying how they want a stable man when they approach or hit 30. It is not because they suddenly mature, it is because they think he will keep things ticking over and pick up the pieces whenever she decides to blow things up with drama
The "mothering" vs "nurturing" is a big one for me. So many women (even older ones!) don't think men need emotional support. Those women label it as "mothering" when a man tries to tell them that's what they need from them. THANK YOU FOR DRAWING THAT SEPARATION!
Here is for the one smart woman: Shut up and just listen.
Men need to know his partner is in his corner. Shes cheering from the sideline. To be his confidant.
God forbid women treat men with the same kindness they expect from men. God forbid they reciprocate.
Indeed. Some wives clearly don't know the difference between being a Mother or a Wife.
I left my ex because of her telling to man up when I finally reached out for help..... women need to realize that for most men asking for emotional help is THE HARDEST THING that we could ever do
its nice to see a girl standing up for us men instead of hating on us. I love that she actually understands us
psshh she just saw a niche on youtube and got in there to make that cash
she's benefiting of you lmao, poor you 🙄😒
Poor you. You can't get your head out of the sand to see that Sarah just wants to help us understand one another better.@@kc270352
😂😂😂 not so easy when the person you're talking about responds, is it?... anyway. I don't see a reason why both statements can't be true: she's benefiting men AND herself. After all, I don't see ANYONE criticizing other content creators for less than quality content, but suddenly, a woman creates content for the addressing of issues of roughly half the population and she's a hypocrite for not belonging to the same gender? Make up your minds, people.
For sure ✌👨💻
I was always frustrated by being called a liar by many women my whole life because I told them I wasn’t thinking about anything. No matter what it was always “You got to be thinking about something” No! No I don’t!
It's hard for women to understand because we can't do that.
It's sorta like most men don't sympathize with women over their period. You simple have no clue.
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816I don't have any sympathy for a womans period because they're allowed to make it my problem.
@@vernonharrison4832 well.. that's debatable.
Most men know very little about the period.
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 Not what he said. He said we know periods exist. Women can't seem to grasp that thinking about nothing is actually not only possible but not uncommon for us at all.
@@MJ19438
Well..its not possible for the vast majority of women.
Plus...denying men will reply with "nothing" at other times is simply untrue.
Men can and do lie about this.
Need to add to this list one BIG thing. Don't weaponize what we say to you in confidence. Or our feelings. We show you once to see how we are treated. If we are betrayed or they are used against us, you will never see it again.
I dated a girl who kept mentioning other men. I packed it in and went elsewhere. I ran into her later and she asked me why. When I told her, she said she was trying to be sure I was interested. Oops.
It's call a shit test, and you passed.
Hahaha. Women are always amazed at men walking out on them. Women never had an idea how they push men away. If they are told, they have a justification.
I will never understand this...
There's no ''oops'' about it. She was setting up an impossible standard for you... and would have spent the rest of the relationship with you getting approval only when you met that impossible standard. In short, she was attempting to dominate the relationship by putting you on a performance basis. You're lucky you got out in time.
Not oops. Shit testing is the biggest redflag ever. Don't waste your time on people like that
It's amazing to me how much of this boils down to treating the man in your life like a human being, caring about him and his needs, and in general being a decent partner. The one that deviates is the nothing box. That is a genuine difference. I have met women who truly didn't understand how it's possible to not have a running commentary in their head 24/7. And ladies, there are things about you we don't understand. But understanding isn't necessary. Acceptance is.
Your "being a decent partner" pretty much nails it. But it makes no difference if the woman has a behavioral health issue such as obsessive compulsive behavior.
@@meandshe1518 or she's a narcissist.
I find dudes that don't have processes going on, in their minds, to be kinda oafy and stupid honestly. But I say this as a dude.
@@jayfink2199 If they NEVER have processes going on, then I agree. If they, after a long day of taking care of business, need to veg for an hour, then I don't see that as worrying.
I had one woman get weird on me on a date because I sighed lol @@scottclark3761
#3 → IMO it is not so much men _want_ a _1950s submissive woman,_ but rather they _do not want_ a _MODERN 3RD OR 4TH WAVE FEMINIST._
BASED!
It is as if there is some happy medium between not being able to think for herself and being an argumentative twit.
@@CyrusFreeman>>> 👍
😂 nothing wrong with 1950s attitude
that word submissive is poisonous. change it to cooperative, and remember it works both ways. nobody cooperates by themselves.
2:55 I totally agree, I was an RAAF Wing Commander and used to fly FA/18s. My wife almost divorced me and I could not understand why, I thought we were doing well. She went to a counselor and worked out the problem. The problem was she was jealous of my accomplishments and resented the fact, in her words " she could not beat me" This competitive streak was fostered by her Mother in all her daughters. Almost cost my wife her marriage.
I'm a maritime writer who dreamed of being a pilot as a boy (my father was RAAF) so, while I might envy you flying the Hornet, would your wife really want to compete with you for the risk of getting her arse shot out of the sky? Governments don't just procure these jets for fun, even if they are fun to fly - it really is a deadly serious business! All too often I have seen others try to live out their frustrated ambitions through their children which usually has disastrous consequences for those concerned but not the ones pulling the strings. Your story suggests to me that your wife did not value her own achievements enough. It would be hard to "beat" you in career terms anyway. Sometimes the best way to win is not to play the game. What we come home to is the real measure of our wealth. Would love a ride in your Hornet!
My wife of 42 years always had my best interests at heart, she looked out for me like you wouldn’t believe. Even on her death bed she was worried about what would become of me when I was on my own after her death. She had our daughter pass her words on to me when she told her that I would be fine, that we had money squirreled away in savings etc. that I would have a good retirement. The one thing I miss the most, is her energy,, and of course her love.
I think you had something truly special - the gold standard. I tell young people today to ask people in successful, loving, long-term relationships how they did it and ignore everyone else.
If a woman asks you what youre thinking about when you're not thinking about anything, start talking about car problems and watch her eyes glaze over.
I'm never thinking about nothing and most of the time it's something mechanical or engineering. I just say nothing to avoid the tilted head look. The most irritating thing a women does is when she or anyone starts talking "because I'm doing nothing" when I'm in deep thought about something, which is all the time, even after explaining that just because there's no physical activity doesn't mean that I'm doing nothing..
when they ask me what you are thinking about ...I say wondering what you are thinking about ...hahaha
I almost never think of nothing. And a decent chance it is a car problem. Even if the problem is just how to make it faster/better.
I usually say, "Stop interrupting"
I sometimes zone out, even now while I'm single, and women will ask that. My go to response it "The next rocket launch, and the FAA." 100% enough to get them running away, because I can talk for hours about Space. 🤣 But I have learned to keep my mouth shut, because no one in my RL circle is interested.
I think another big lie is that you always have to "look your best" for a man to be interested. Yes, we are visual creatures but we also value a woman who is real. So many women apologize for not having their makeup perfect, or having makeup on at all. A man isn't impressed if it takes you an hour or more to get ready to leave the house, that isn't a valuable quality to most men. He will find you most beautiful when you are comfortable and you aren't all done up, when you are the real you without all of the crap that society(mostly women) tell women they need to do.
Yes. When women think that their make up routine is how they pay for dates, it seems like they don't appreciate the man at all.
There is some truth to the saying all a woman has to do to make a man happy on a date is show up
Women enjoy wearing makeup for themselves, they don't wear it for you. If you know it takes her an hour to get ready, make sure you give her plenty of time and look after your children so she can focus.
@@susanplatt5331 Please stop with the 'women wear makeup for themselves'. It's silly and illogical. Are you saying women wear makeup while alone and staying home, does it make them feel better about themselves? If that were true I suggest that would point to some real issues they should be addressing, don't you? Yes it is true they might not be wearing makeup for 'you' but they are wearing it for others. Now the 'others' might be other men or other women but let's be honest about it please.
@@susanplatt5331sure, but then it should be no more of a consideration in terms of costs or time, than the gaming system he plays for him.
this isn't something she was probably taught in her childhood, but nowadays a lot of women are on high alert for finding microaggressions, back handed compliments, lies, etc. i have noticed an uptick in the frequency that my words are misinterpreted as a veiled attack. i got told i had 'weaponized incompetence' by someone that i had no animosity towards. if someone is convinced that men aren't good people, they'll reinforce that conclusion every time.
I notice misinterpretations by women of men's words and actions a LOT these days. Women are being taught much more these days to think of men as competitors or threats and it shows in their actions.
@@davestang5454 Either as competitors or more often, the enemy. Metoo, while necessary, certainly did not help that either.
@@davestang5454 Woman: "In other words, what you're saying is..."
Man: "What I said was perfectly clear and unambiguous. It doesn't need putting into other words."
When tiktok language like "weaponized incompetence" get tossed out irl it's time to run the fuck away from that social setting. Let alone the fact that such a term is just...the very opposite of how most men think and operate. Genuinely manipulative, abusive men play mind games like anybody else, but the fact so many women think men play dumb on purpose as some power move or control tactic shows a TOTAL lack of basic understanding of how men think.
Playing dumb is literally the opposite of how men are socialized in society.
"weaponized incompetence" Wow!! I guess "Malicious Compliance" is having an effect everywhere.
I'm a 56 year old disabled man and some of the ways that women treat me is so out of the spectrum that I have pretty much said enough is enough. They have this ideology of what a man should or shouldn't be or do and their expectations are much higher than they can reach themselves or so it seems. It's wonderful to hear such a young and attractive lady talk in defense of men. Thank you hun!
Better to be disabled than utterly dysfunctional like so many modern women of the West
Like they want a 60+ man to have the performance of a 20 year old and scorn if it isn't so. Get real! He may have a few tricks which she will never know.
You said it, brother. Fortunately, I've known women who didn't expect me to be physically perfect.
You sound a bit like my current stepdad. He's a genuinely good man but he can't be as physically active as he'd like, but my mom loves him anyway. Women like that do exist.
@@AJadedLizard sometimes a person in general has certain desires but they're not willing to be with just anyone who comes along for the takin. Self respect is taken out of context these days.
I 100% agree that there is nothing more beautiful than a smart woman.
I was married to a dumb one and it went nowhere. It is embarrassing and frustrating to have a dumb er partner. My current wife is a smart blonde who had my number when I met her. 28 years and counting. Sex is such a small part of your life unless you are morbidly fixated. Nothing to talk about in the other 98% of your life gets thin very quickly
That helps me understand why girlfriends have often been uncomfortable with my quiet personality. I didn't realize that they were thinking insecure thoughts in response. I wasn't thinking "something is wrong." I wasn't thinking anything in particular. I was just idling, like a car.
"Just idling, like a car" That is perfect my dude. I vibe with that on so many different levels
@@BreakerXXIV: Add to that the thought, “men are happy idling”.
It's like a saying my father, WW2 said about the Army. "Hurry up and wait!" There was a lot of activity getting ready, then huge amounts of time "idling" or waiting (traveling or make work) before the sudden burst of activity, "WAR!" then rinse and repeat. He was in from September 1939 to Late 1946. @@timonsolus
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
to grieve deeply is to have loved fully. Listen man, in terms of length of time being with someone I get it, however it is time for you to focus on yourself and what makes you happy without her being included
Dont get on with women, dont get Hurt, betrayed and abandoned. I know hormonal drive is a bitch, but the price for getting involved with women is too high.
There are many fish in the sea.
About 10 years ago my wife was doing a lot of charity work for our church in some ugly situations. Several time when she was walking out to do this work, I asked where she was going. She did not want to tell me because she felt I was being controlling, and butting into her work. Finally one time she was getting upset with me about this, and I said; "Look, I just need to know where to send the police to start looking for your body, if you don't come back." after that she started telling me where she was going, ask for me to come along, or sent me to deliver the care packages to the families. Point is sometimes woman mistake caring for controlling. There's a big difference there.
Point #2 Woman instead of rying to find fault, or craft a response into something wild he did not say or do, try being nice to him and you might find out a lot more about him on his positive side.
One thing I would say about number 8.
You will lose a guy if he finds out that his girl gave it up quickly to other men and not him. Also equally so if she experimented with other men but doesn't with him.
You're right but, you can't say it that way, because women are incapable of understanding what you've just said, and only see it as a sense of entitlement on the part of men who think that women are just objects for them to use blah, blah, blah... They don't understand that, by engaging in that kind of behavior, they're telling a man through their actions that they don't respect or desire him.
men don't want the town bicycle.
@@Xander1Sheridan a lot of men could forgive that if the bicycle wanted to be ridden like it used to be.
Very true@@justhecuke
I had a girl in my life for a while who would basically rewrite history in her head. If she made a mistake, if something random went wrong... she'd think about it until she was the victim, and I was the villain. On top of all that, we'd be sleeping and she'd suddenly wake up and start screaming and hitting me. Once she calmed down a little, I'd ask what it was about. She'd tell me I cheated on her (or something) in her dream. She'd be mad at me about it (again, HER dream) for weeks. After 7 years of this, I left her.
She hates men, and only wants a man around to punish him, for her own feelings of hatred. This is really what the "Patriarchy" and "oppression of women" narratives are all about. Projecting their anger, their own persecution of men onto the men they claim are "oppressing" them.
Women have been worshipped, honored, protected from violence, put on a pedestal, mollycoddled and shielded from accountability all through history, and they actually resent men for doing it, believing it's a sign of "weakness", so they've turned it around, cherry picked the exceptions, claiming they are the rule, to "prove" their narrative that women are poor oppressed victims all through history.
But if you read any actual history, you'll see there was no such thing. Only that women did not want to compete with men most of the time. There were women doctors in the 1800's, as well as scientists, which prove there were no restrictions on them, and the longest reigning Monarch was a Woman [Queen Victoria], without a king, mind you.
It's all pure BS. Joan of Arc was a 16 year old girl that the military leaders let COMMAND the army, all because she claimed visions. Go figure how a "patriarchy" allowed that to happen. Women's "oppression" is Bull SHITTT with capital letters. None of that could have possibly happened if women were "kept down" as falsely claimed today.
When was the last time you heard a woman apologize?
When was the last time you got a compliment from a woman?
woman apologize? what kind of fantasy world you livin' in? Compliment? LOL. when they don't want something from you?@@williamsporing1500
It took 7 years?
@@flyer617 yeah, that's behaviour that'd be tolerated for a month...max
I was once with a group of men and women, of the single men all of us were widowed after long (20+ year) marriages and all the women were divorced. One of the women remarked the men knew what a successful marriage is like. But the sad part, none of the women thought we were worth dating or getting to know better.
This is lucky for you. Consider someone who is in your situation, widowed.
Every one of Sarah’s points is on point. Probably the biggest issue most men have (having learned from many negative situations) is we never ever show emotions and/or talk about “feelings.” Sarah said it best, you can literally hear women’s nether regions drying out if we’re stupid enough to do this. Not to mention those emotions or feelings will be filed away then somewhere down the road will be weaponized against us. It happens. All. The. Time. Thus, it’s much better to just tell her “no problem, I got it” then keep grinding.
Yup, weaponizing our emotions is a huge communication killer, but what you going to do?
@@jimjohnson394 I love how the women in my life hate the idea of me weaponizing their emotions against them (Assuming I have an agenda and would actually do this) but seem to have no problem doing it to me. Like, hypocrite much?
That’d be fun, next time your wife starts crying, start mock crying and say, “whatcha gonna do now, cry like a baby?”
"hear women’s nether regions drying out"
Yeah and it's ridiculous because women love emotional men, but they absolutely do not want their male romantic partners to talk about their feelings the way they do with their friends. Humans can't hide their emotions, their going to be moody, angry, or disassociate if they try. So you have to own your emotions, own their solution, and own yourself. It's not her responsibility but she can help if she wants.
By the same token I don't like when women respond like they do with their friends. I don't want sympathy or my feelings validated, I want support, comfort, and shared experience.
Like it's fine to acknowledge your emotions, what you are doing with them, and the action oriented-ness of the situation (masculine). Co-regulating? You may as well have told her your quitting your job and moving back in with your mother because you miss her cooking.
Guys, you can tell me if I'm wrong, but I really don't expect or ask my partner to fill me in on every little emotion or insecurity. All I ask is, please, let me know it something I'm doing or say upsets you. I can't take any measures to work on an annoying behavior if I don't know what it is. Just tell me, I feel aggravated/ frustrated, etc. when you... I am am working on myself so some constructive feedback is welcomed.
I used to think there was something wrong with my brain in my teens and early twenties when a girlfriend would ask me what I was thinking about and I would panic and try to come up with something to satisfy her curiosity. The truth is: nothing. We're thinking about nothing.
or at that age maybe I was just thinking about her breasts...
Hahaha you too?
Women's brains are like having 18 trains going all at once, and the tracks are well maintained, so the trains are rarely late and rarely detail.
Men's brains are like having 1 train. And the tracks are in the wilderness where trees fall and block the tracks, and the rails are not well maintained, so it is very easy for that little train to detail.
That one little train is like, I think I can, I think I can, I think, oh look a squirrel. Where was I going? And then we will run the TV Sign off test pattern for the next 10 minutes.
Just say ' you'. Win, win.
@@matt19026not all true. Women and men use different parts of our brains. Men are more focused on goals, women are less focused on one thing and are partially focused on multiple. Which is is why men make better leaders and women make better care takers and raising kids. We compliment one another.
Love the part where you say that "men will not chase"
Absolutely correct
There is 0 way I am chasing a woman. I believe in enthusiastic consent. If I have to chase you You HAVE NOT given consent.
I love this video because it shows me as I get older why I don't want to date anymore. Physiological games, bad communication, bad attitudes, self entitlement, and a host of other bad traits that most women have today. As the video keeps trying to paint a good picture for women and why men should date them it does the opposite. These should be the reasons not stop dating today. Listen to this laundry list of headaches 😩
7:29 yeah I get that same thought process going. The more helpful info she gives the more determined I am to be happy alone.
Not only today. I read an italian tell from the 1500's, where a devil is sent down to Earth to find out why so many would be glad to be in hell, rather than on Earth and married.
not just dating. Relationships of any kind with women are a nightmare.
@@Xander1Sheridan: I have had good relationships with female cats. The human ones, not so much.
To some of these points. Yes, most decent guys feel worn out and unappreciated, that they're not rewarded for doing the right things. Good behavior isn't rewarded... it's 'boring'. Also, nobody with self respect is going to chase after a woman. The #1 quality any guy should look for in a potential partner is - "She is INTERESTED in him." Doesn't mean she's all over him, just making it relatively easy to date her. After that, look for integrity, sense of humor, loyalty... a lot of nice guys, in long term, good, successful relationships, were considered pigs or trash to some other woman who had more red flags than China, so he had to bail out on her once he saw those flags.
we are just ATMs
I just want a woman who is levelheaded, fair minded, empathetic. I believe that MODERATION is the key to successful relationships.
Dude,..just get a dragon...its easier to find and more realistic
I just want one who doesn't see me as basically a status symbol. Fix that crap, and you've fixed almost everything else.
To put a point on #4, remember the saying, "Playing hard tp get makes you hard to want."
#6. Sometimes, we can think about nothing, if momentrarily. Sometimes, we may be thinking about something so monumentally goofy that it doesn't really warrant being voiced. However, more often than not, we as men are faced with so much in life on a daily basis that we are just tired physically and mentally, so we do need to mentally check out for a little bit, like hitting a reset button. We do need to mentally separate ourselves from the world for a little bit so that we can then come back and address whatever is going on fresh.
One thing I love about my wife is that she doesn't get jealous when I check out other women. In fact, she usually nudges me when she sees a women she knows I'll like and points her out. She's amazing
I guess she knows that you’re not ‘Chad’ and therefore she’s safe in the knowledge you’re not going to leave her.
Another aspect to this for many men (not all) is that we're not looking because of lust. We're likely not even looking in a sexual manner or sexual appreciation. It's art appreciation. Seriously, a female body can look as a magnificent work of art and you're just simply appreciating that art as you would in a museum. Are there men who want to "own" that art? Yes . . . but I don't believe most of us want to do that. We're just appreciating the beauty without any lust or sexuality attached to it.
@@justjames9246it's called perving
the biggest turnoffs for me are
lack of taking responsibility for her part of the drama
not reciprocating
her boolshit test and games
not being respectful
not allowing to be honest and vulnerable
been ego driven
lack of mature communication
not giving a clear and direct signals dating/ home
moaning and complaining just because
and lastly me me me
Do you know my wife? That's impossible! But that list is uncanny!
You literally just described most modern wahem
@@rougebaba3887sounds like my ex they are all the same. Wahmen are children
@@Level_No_Curvebut but but I thought women matured before men isn't that way they taught us
I actually dumped my girlfriend the last January with many of these factors but the last straw was when she decided to put my Pat between myself and the relationship and when she didn't get her way she actually had plans to try to damage the reputation of my Veterinarian Clinic with false reasons
Here's a corrollary for the "men are only interested in sex" lie:
_"He only wants me for my body."_
Yes, if a man is in a committed and mutually exclusive relationship with you, then he likely wants you for your body-but not *just* for your body. He wants you for *all* of you, and because he loves *all* of you, he wants to be physically intimate with you and *only* you precisely because of how important *you* are to him.
When sex with the woman a man loves means much more than just satisfying a bodily urge, it hurts and is even insulting to have the desire to be physically close to her reduced to nothing more than scratching an itch. If we were just "scratching an itch," there would be plenty of ways to do so without involving our partners. Because it is not just scratching an itch, however, our partners are the essential reason why we want only them specifically.
This is a good, because one could misunderstand point number one to think men are fine with sexless relationships and that’s NOT TRUE for the most part.
Well said.
Well said. It's true!
Dr. Orion Taraban points out that a woman can get sex just by (TL;DR) walking out the door and saying yes to a simp, but (non-Chad) men have to put forth enormous effort to achieve sex with a woman. So sex for him is a prize he feels he’s fairly won. So for a woman to ask him “Is sex ALL you think about?!” is like the person holding the comically large check asking the Publishers Clearing House winner “Am I just a source of ten million dollars to you?” or the business he built up from nothing “am I just a source of mortgage payments to you?” As one of the other commenters said, if we just wanted to nut, we wouldn’t have built a relationship with you, we’d have just cruised downtown to pick a girl at the corner. We don’t demand sex, but yeah, we do kind of expect it.
@@justsomeguy6133 sexless relationships are typically emotionally destroying a man at the deepest emotional levels.
#5 is actually changing. Modern day being what it is, men can't even glance in the direction of a woman without potentially being labeled a creep or worse, especially if they are older men.
It’s so important to hear stuff like this from a woman, because most men are dismissed and called all sorts of things when they try to share their experiences and feelings. We’re human too.
As far a challenge, men do enjoy a challenge but we don't want an enemy. We don't want a person that seems to fight us just to fight us. Tension back and forth is good but not an adversary that looks to stop us at every opportunity.
Every one of these is so true.
How about when women play the game of telling us to do something but actually wanting us to do the opposite and then getting mad when we do what they said?
Here is something that I think all women should learn so feel free to tell them. We men have what is called the "Nothing Box" in our brain. It's where we just shut off all thoughts and just relaxes our brains. No thoughts are happening, nothing going on. We are in our nothing box.
I'm a 53yo paraplegic and I really appreciate your knowledge and understanding of us males. Thank you!
I actually love strong, confident, capable, independent women. But I dislike strong, confident, capable, independent women who ram it down your throat as if they are in competition with you, instead of a loving partnership.
those traits are nice, but just not when the women leads with them as if to make sure that you are well aware that she doesn't need you. Whats worse is when a partner does actually need you and you are there for them, but they are so invested in their image of being strong and independent that they cant bring themselves to actually acknowledge the things you do for them. Instead, they downplay anything you do for them as insignificant or worse yet deny that you are helping them at all. Guys like a woman who is strong, confident, capable, and independent. Just not one that needs to go out of her way to make sure you know she is better than you and she is simply doing you a favor by being with you because she doesn't actually need you.
Men love competency in women, but women are so insecure that when they achieve some competency, they try to punish the man, as if he needs to be put in his place, rather than her simply doing her part now that she is able to pull her own weight. It's why women can't resist accusing men of having an "ego" - because theirs are so huge & fragile they can't handle any kind of achievement without the irresistible temptation to USE it, to club the man over the head with it. Women rarely have true strength, which doesn't go to their heads and trigger their feminist rage into passive aggressive destruction of their relationships with men.
You'll rarely see a woman with a man that is not her superior in enough ways to secure his over-all social image above hers. Women can't handle being better than a man they're tied to sexually, though they will claim it's the man's ego that can't handle it, when it's really her own hyper-self consciousness of her social status that is her highest concern. The man, however, is otherwise happy to have a woman who excels. What happens though, that makes him uncomfortable is her reaction to his perceived inferiority to her. It is SHE that cannot have it, not him. But she will blame it on him, claiming it was "his ego" that couldn't abide her accomplishments.
But the proof of who "can't handle it" is easily found in women's own admission of what they need a man to be, before they will even consider him as a partner. One of my ex's confessed once that she could not marry me, and continue in her job of working for me. Why? Because she is contributing to my success, which makes it at least partly HER success, rather than ALL mine.
The implication is that since she is supporting my success, it is actually HER success, or at least not WHOLLY mine. The math of course is that my success [i.e. status] includes too much of her contribution to add up to being independent of her achievement. This reduces me several notches in value as a "provider".
And this is the deeper revelation, the ultimate kicker: Women need to know that you don't depend on their contributions for the status or success that attracts them to you. Otherwise, they might be at least partly responsible for your success, which makes you dependent, and consequently "weak", in their eyes. Thus, any competency of theirs is a volatile source of trouble for your relationship, because it has implications tied to your status as a competent mate: "strong" "reliable" a "provider" an "alpha" etc. None of which can include dependency on her for anything. That's why women get irritated when they have to carry any crucial responsibility in a marriage partnership, and why it can never be truly equal in terms of contribution.
This explains all the celebrity relationships you see, and their dynamics to a "T". You will rarely [if ever] find a marriage where the woman is more successful, wealthier, or more able than her husband. If you think you found one, find out more about it, and you'll inevitably discover that the man has more to offer her than she can offer him. You can also investigate any divorce or separation by these factors: the relationship collapsed when her contributions at least SEEMED to be above his.
To those women who say men go from 0 to 100 on a dime in the emotional sphere, consider this:
Without a safety valve, pressure builds up and there *will* eventually be an explosion.
You may only see the explosion, but you do not see (or perhaps ignore) the dozens if not hundreds of incidents that see no emotional reaction.
This is like blaming a camel when a straw finally breaks its back.
Great video, Sarah. Keep it up
I would say that what appears as a man going 0 to 100 emotionally is not usually what is actually happening. Those emotions have been there building up. We just do our best to mask them til they reach a boiling point that is out of our control.
It is usually true that men are not thinking about nothing. We do sometimes think about nothing but more often it is simply too much of a pain in the ass to explain what we are thinking about because we know it's something you have zero interest in. I can't say for sure how many times my ex asked what I was thinking about, i explained, and she still came to the conclusion that I must be thinking about another girl or got visibly irritated because it was something boring to her. Physics, ancient military history, economics, and my hobbies were the ones that annoyed her the most. You can kind of see why she is my ex
This.
I thought the same thing. My mind is always going, and I'm not sure how one would even go about "thinking about nothing." That seems like a contradiction. But most of what I think about my wife just isn't interested in, which she has made clear on multiple occasions, so I just keep it to myself.
We also have a huge tolerance so it takes a whole lot for us to snap.. and if it seems weve snapped quickly it's because weve been pushed and pushed and pushed to extreme
You should consider how MUCH of your relationship advice applies to married couples AS MUCH to singles. I am married and am struck as to how much of your content carries over to and can improve marital relationships.
My wife says, it's the little things that matter. So I pointed out that women do not notice when we do. Her favorite answer is she shouldn't have to say thank you for every little thing.
Of course. Relastionships carry on into marriage.
This is more accurate and important than some people may realize. I'm 54 now (yikes, time flies by). Looking back to past relationships I can that some of these assumptions were at the very start of contention that led to the downfall of the relationships I cherished the most. A marriage is Exactly a team. Dating is the tryouts. If you've never played or at least studied two person sports, or singing duets or music played in a duet then you aren't prepared for a relationship. I challenge everyone to study some sort of two person team. Two person beach volleyball is pretty fun to watch. The synchronous teamwork of two people committed to the teams success propels them to the top of the championship ladder. What's the champions ladder in real life? Making to the finish line while all the other teams drop off. It's not about competing against other teams. It's about striving to be a team of excellence. The best teams make it to the finish line.
In a duo team everything you do affects the team positively or negatively. You are the team. They are the team. Who gets when you're not synchronized in harmony? Your teammate does. But, your teammate is the team so the team gets hurt. But, you are the team so you get hurt. You hurt yourself. A team is more powerful than it's individuals parts. Therefore, it must be put first for success. There is always a stronger teammate. Sometimes one and sometimes the other but there is always one. Someone may being having an off day, or sick for weak, or an injury for a month, or grieving for a year. They play through it. The good teams recognize it immediately and compensate. Always tweaking for best performance. Like trying to tune in a radio station for clearest sound on a none digital radio.
Study some doubles beach volleyball. It's impressive.
Nice comment and I agree. I've repeatedly advised that Social dance lessons should be part of any marital counseling (pre or post). Both partners can't lead and back-leading causes all kinds of issues. You want to find a partner where you can play the role you are designed to play. It's teamwork. . . otherwise, it doesn't work.
Hi Sarah,
Regarding your comments about the haters, many celebrities have been victims of huge volumes of hate-mail that caused them to be depressed and change their plans only to find out it was just one hater who employed a chatbot that generated thousands of fake addresses. I cannot imagine more than a few crazy people that would take offense to what you share. The rest of us love you!!!
“Yes, I was thinking about nothing, and enjoying it immensely. Now? Now I am doing neither.”
Early leader in winning the internet for September right here!!
I've already given up on all relationships because love is a lie and it isnt worth it anymore
😂i found that out after 25. 98% of relationships are more like a contract instead of based on love
Words of gold.
Why are you watching this video then?
I don't think it is a lie, but I do think it is terribly fleeting...like the spiraling water in the drain of a sink - it exists, and is even cool (for its brief tenure).
It's not that women can't love, it's that they can't love the guy they procreate with. They can love their brothers, Dads and sons, but not the guy they sleep with. I can't say why, or what it is about sleeping with a guy, but that's been my experience and observation. Women DO NOT marry for love. EVER. That is not to say they can't love the guy they marry, just that love will never be the reason she marries or stays with you. It's just extra icing on the cake, should you be lucky enough to qualify somehow for her love.
When women have a choice between a guy they love and one who makes them feel secure financially and socially, they will forfeit the love and choose the financial security EVERY time, no regrets and never look back. Love is not important to them when it comes to the reasons, or motivations to marry. That's very hard for men to understand, so most men kid themselves and assume that women feel and think the way they [the men] do. That is, men think that if a woman wants to marry them, or says she loves them, then she does. Women have no problem lying about love either, probably because they have no clear definition of it, that they have thought about and committed to. They tell you what you need to hear, to give them what they want.
Sex isn't the prize....it's when a beautiful woman gives herself to you of her own volition. That's the treasure.
An EMPATHETIC woman is one of the natural wonders of the world and Sarah Don Moore is a perfect example of that. Especially when it comes to understanding the needs, wants, and feelings of a male.
#6 is hilarious. "They can actually think about nothing" - she ends with oftentimes "he's just thinking about sex with you". Its like she conceptually gets that we think about nothing but then goes right back to he is thinking about something but its not what you think!
No - actually think about nothing and its amazing.
My wife thinks I would work just as hard and long even if I had never married or had a family. If I were single I would live within my means and live a simpler life. I don’t need nearly as much as she does.
This is definitely true for me as well.
Chris Rock said it best when he said, "If men could have sex with women in cardboard boxes, we wouldn't have jobs."
For a huge percentage of women there is "never enough". Being married to these women is like running on a treadmill with no "off" switch.
"I'm cold" - man invents fire. "I'm getting wet" - man builds a hut. 10,000 years later: voila, Instagram.
Yep. I could live in my car and be happy
Great content in my book. You hit it right on the head. Just to add point eleven is communication. If the guy does something the lady does not like. Let him know right away and do not wait for an argument to bring it up.
Most women do exactly that. Including mothers, sisters and friends. I dont need it.
My gf constantly has things in her brain and shes always going a mile a minute and doing/ talking at lightning speed. Sometimes for hours without even realizing. She'll randomly notice I've been silent but she knows I'm listening. It's wholesome she asks me what's on my mind and then gets excited to hear about the stupid shit ive been thinking about rather than instantly judging me. She laughs WITH me not AT me.
Sarah I humbly bow to you. Thank you for what you are doing for men and women 🙂
This take is dead on. I’ve been married to same woman for 27 years and these 10 things apply to married men as well as single
Same woman 32 years. I still have problems with the control thing and have to back up and explain why I am saying things, I am trying to look out for her.
Yeah I thought these were all very on point! I think the challenge that both men an women have is that in order to really understand the opposite sex, you have to remove the lense of your own biases and really be able to look objectively from a different point of view. I think many of these lies come from women who assume men think and act the way they do, and often times it's just not the case.
Finally a woman who understands and says how it is and not what they are conditioned to. Thank you Sarah, keep up the good work!
Her: "He's probably thinking about other women."
Him: "Why is every C in the phrase 'Pacific Ocean' pronounced differently? 😧"
or wondering when the next episode of a comical show like Spongebob Squarepants is coming.
When I was married and basically taking care of my spouse. I think I got one birthday card in 5 years and a handful of thank yous, maybe like 5. And she wonders why I feel like she didn’t appreciate me. Was also told to grow up because I was depressed that I gave up my dreams for her to make sure she was ok
I’m going through a divorce and basically the same has happened. She can’t understand why I just gave up after 23 years of feeling unappreciated and talked down too. All I wanted from her is to feel like she loved me the same way love her and I wouldn’t have left her. It’s my time to find the one that will love me for me.
You got a birthday card? I got a water bottle for Christmas once. Wanna trade?
@@derpderpington5433 not in a million years lmao
At least you finally left. Hope you’re in the gym and stop being a nice guy.
@@theancient1911 I’ve been doing both of these things
Absolutely love this woman we need more like her
The three things that attracted me to my wife was: 1) Her intelligence, 2) That she was secure about herself (most men don't like insecure women) , 3) Her dark/sarcastic sense of humor.
I will love her until the day I die.
That last one reminds me of the time I asked my wife to leave the store, I didn't tell her why but it was because a guy behind us had a concealed firearm and was acting nervous. Instead of leaving she started an argument it is really a pain when you want to protect someone and they are too stubborn for their own good. Same thing happened another time, she is afraid of dogs and we where at a junk yard I saw a large dog and asked her to move to my other side she fought me over it, then saw the dog and screamed. infuriating.
This is very affirming. We, both sexes, don't know and end up guessing what the other likes or dislikes. A little conversation makes all the difference.
Women never mind the "little" in little conversation.
This was very solid and actually extremely cathartic. I was kind of giving in to the negative thoughts like, feeling shame for dropping pursuit with women who don't reciprocate or are immature, or how I do want nurturing not mothering, and starting to question if I am controlling. It's nice having someone else(especially a woman) put my inarticulate-d feelings into words. Thank you!
As men, it isn't just a matter of pride to protect our women, it's our absolute responsibility to keep her safe and protected. If someone breaks into the house at night, there is positively no question about who's going to go to confront the intruder and I hope at that moment I don't have a woman arguing with me when I tell her to go and escape in the opposite direction.
This is certainly not something I'm going to tell her because I want to be controlling, I will be telling her this for her safety as well as my own. This type of a confrontation is deadly serious and it's critical for both of us that you are gone to safety and I have all my options open without having to be additionally cautious for YOUR safety during the confrontation!!!
When you become a mother, especially to a boy, you begin to see the male species with very different eyes and appreciate their unique qualities and challenges. I have found through my son, my brother and other men that men are very generous, kind, considerate and thoughtful.❤ I always have great respect for men and receive respectful treatment from good men. Thank you for the video.
Absolutely spot on! Most of this was wrong in my marriage and that is why I divorced my wife after 12 years finally for good.
Sarah.. Thank you, 10 out of 10 you're spot off.. You really understand us.. (The 90% of men) I have nothing more to add 😘
*'Joined an hour ago'*.....nice try charlatan.🙄
As a man I do think we mostly want a 1950s wife. A lot of men have even dropped out of dating because women today are too emotionally similar to men, so there’s no reason to take the relationship further than sex.
We don't expect praise or compliments, but, we treasure them when we get them
Just want a good match. She doesn't need to be accomplished, or independant, or even fully traditional. She just needs to be a woman who is ready to actually be loved, instead of doted on.
Edit: If I look at another woman, I'd LOVE the reaction from my partner to be aggressive ownership more than insulted hurt. I've never cheated, nor would I.
"Aggressive ownership." I like that wording. It make it clear that she values you and isn't directing negative feelings toward you.
I have gotten that before, but when other women noticed me, not when I noticed them.
And even then it felt good because it was in a positive frame, as in "sorry sister, he's mine," and not and angry "fu** off Bi***."
To expand on the ideas of nurturing & wanting challenging/ stimulating conversation, I understand that the Japanese Geisha were primarily trained for and gained notoriety in their skills for being a charming dinner date. Yes her look and makeup, but this was mostly done by others in the Geisha House. Her skills came down to music, artistic presentation of food, delicacy tea or sake serving, and most of all her intelligence and conversation. I belive most of the top teir Geisha rarely were paid for sex. That desire is rather simplistic satisfied. The Geisha were legendary for the other ways they interacted with men, doing the things that most women didn't do.
I believe that Geisha translates to "Artist", not "Prostitute".
They were originally entertainers, in the literal sense of the word. They were paid to entertain: Musical, etiquette, culinary, conversational, all the things that a busy housewife didn't necessarily know how to do for their husband (and, yes, I DO realise how patriarchal mediaeval Japan was) Paid sex was a looong way down the list of what they were supposed to do for their customers.
The role geisha play was originally held by men, in the position of drumbearers
They were advisors first and foremost
Being married into a Japanese family with deep historical roots, I can assure you theat Geisha were not generally prostitutes; those were a seperate group and often indentured servants (and also men)
Literally, I have moments where I just kind of space out for a bit and let my mind just kinda wander
As far as emotions go, a long time ago I learned to keep mine to myself. A woman asked me in a certain situation what I was feeling, so I told her. She immediately said "that's just silly." We split up soon after and I've stuck to the idea that woman only want to know how you're feeling when it matches how they feel. You won't change my mind, don't try.
When men say it’s nothing, it usually is. When women say it’s nothing, you can bet the house that there IS something and you’re in trouble for not knowing what that is.
I'll make my own sandwich and one for my girl as well. My mother raised us (my brother and I) to be truly independent men because she saw the writing on the wall back in the 80's and thus equipped us with cooking (and baking) skills. I'd say it was a perfect example of how much mothers care about their children. God bless mothers (and fathers) who raise their children to flourish.
Amen 🙏
Domestic skills for men is not new, at least not to all men. My grandmother taught her three boys how to cook and sew, and both mom and dad taught me. We men were taught the masculine arts, too, I've torn down and rebuilt engines, made cabinets for my home, etc. My dad was born in the 1930's.
virtue signaling goof
When I say I'm thinking about nothing, I often mean I am thinking about something I know she will not care about or something very personal but unrelated to her.
Also playing hard to get can be interpreted as rejection and a man may love a woman but can only take so much rejection before he gives up. Sacrificing his feelings to set her free to find the man she wants.
Remember ladies, men value loyalty so much that many of us have died to defend a rag on a stick because it represents what we have given our loyalty to!
To your point about men not wanting to be challenged: the problem with this one is what most women understand the word "challenged" to mean in that statement. Do we want a shrinking violet who blindly agrees with everything we say? Probably not. But that's just the other end of the spectrum from modern women's interpretation of her being justified in acting like a selfish, roaring asshat and if he doesn't like it it's because he's intimated by strong women. That's not strength by any sane person's definition, and no one likes that sort of person whether they're male or female.
I’d love to see a round table discussion with Sarah Dawn Moore, Pearl Davis, Billie Ray Brandt, and Anna Jorgensen. That would be a fascinating discussion on vital issues.
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Include Jedidiah Bila to that list!
Challenging =/= combative
Being challenged in healthy ways can be some of the best motivation ever. Constantly berating someone and nonstop nagging is not what challenging is.
And as a 60yo monk, looking back i can assure you men don't want or need more challenges and every time you create a challenge, you reduce his ability to actually focus on the real challenges of life. I can't count the number of men i have spoken with over the decades, including myself, that the challenges of woman caused loss on the business or career path. Even long after you are gone. Men want support not challenges (aka an adversarial relationship with women) if a man still wants a relationship at all.
When I walk in the door I want to be met by someone who has had a happy day and has those vibes.
Get a dog then lol
Lie #1 from Sarah: Men would LOVE a woman who would provide some food when they're working hard and need to eat. When we're too busy to make food, we'd love that sign that our woman will provide for our inefficiencies. 🤣
I couldn't agree more to this list of lies. As a 38-year-old man I've been told I am just being lazy and that I don't want to work. That couldn't be farther from the truth. I would love too but, relying on medications that keep my disability under control is no joke. Especially when the only medication that works leaves me dizzy most days at best and bed ridden the others. Being judge for medical problem you were born with is not right or fair.
Thank you Sarah, it is so refreshing to hear you talk so positively about men.
Many years ago I was seeing a woman, we dated about 8 months, the relationship ended badly. During our relationship I realized she was verbally, emotionally and physically abusing me, heart and my soul were crushed and I never tried dating again for many, many years.
For the past couple of years I've met women on social media, but without positive interactions. These women have mostly wanted me to spend my money on them in some manor. There have been times I wish I were a cute little puppy, then maybe the girls would honestly give a 💩 about me.
I've had 3 long distance "relationships" online. Two of which I met. 1 came to me 3 times from 10,000 miles, to conferences she wanted to attend for her career. The other was disabled 400 miles away, and we decided that it was great as friends, but too far for us to have a relationship. She eventually found someone withing 50 miles, and they hooked up. After that I gave up. I'm disabled and not rich, and not over 6 feet. There have been several in America that I found on FB, through cousins, but I've backed off, even though they are ok women. It's not worth the heart ache. I'm not moving out from under the Socialized Gov't Medicine.
Love your 10 points. They're very insightful. If I may add a couple of points myself:
1. It's not the sex we crave, but the intimacy. ( okay, sometimes it's the sex)
2. We don't want anyone to nag us every day. That's what we go to work for. If you could just inspire us to be a better version of ourselves, that would be great.
3. We need an ally , to stand beside us in this hard , difficult world. A slightly witty, snarky ally would be cool. 😉❤
Empathy towards your man and actually paying attention to what is going on in their life. EVERY relationship I have been in. I pay attention to my GF. I can usually tell if they are having a bad day or a good day or need time. It usually takes a little bit of time to get the hang of this but if you pay attention it’s not too difficult. Though I’ve only had guy friends that will do this for me and the only woman I have had in my life that does this is family. Mom of course, aunts, grandmas. I’ve yet to have a woman realize there’s anything going on in my world that could be slightly bothering me. Most of the time they think it’s an issue with them and will tend to make things worse.
I now have a boat. When I’m not feeling it on a particular day. I’m going offshore fishing where I have no cell service. That’s how I deal with my bad days. And good days lol.
Thank for understanding us. Instead of shaming us.
When men are thinking about nothing it is usually sports, Video games, or other hobbies you may not be interested in on their mind. Every woman needs to watch this video.
Sarah is a godsend for rationality in relationships, I feel. Most of her advice and commentary doesn't quite apply to me, because I'm in my best time of life: old; retired; and with a marvelous wife who actually seems to know how to operate me! As if she already had read the manual!
I think one of my issues is when I want sex from a women and she thinks its all I want but also has given it up on first dates.. is that Its not all just about the sex but to knowing she found me attractive enough and would commit herself to the shared experience. Instead I feel undesirable and lead on not knowing if I wasnt good enough for her then down the line she will find someone else at her convenience.
If you dont like to be hurt by women (and they will hurt you), dont get in relationships with them.
It took me too long to learn not to waste time, energy and money on women like that. There are plenty of women out there who will manipulate and use you and that's one way. I learned if dating a woman wasn't heading to intimacy in several dates it wasn't going anywhere and bail out. Keep looking as there are also wonderful women out there who are serious and will let you know it and want to connect with you. Just passed my 40th anniversary with one.
Thank you!
Not only for standing up for good men, but also for expressing ideas/concepts some men themselves may not have been able to vocalize.
When a man shows emotion and sorrow is Not a Weakness. A man who is comfortable in their masculinity, can show emotion without be weak.