Hey! I appreciate you doing this video, I learned a lot! As I mentioned in my video, I'm not a professional and was simply sharing my experience, which is exactly what my channel is all about - honestly sharing my life experiences. It was not my intension to scare anyone away from getting an IUD or away from female doctors. I will personally never get another IUD and feel more comfortable with male Gyno's, but as I said in the video, that's because we all have different life experiences that change our perspective/perception. I in no way meant to put female doctors down, but in my case I had 2 female doctors working with me at the time who both showed no compassion or support to me and then a male doctor did - this shaped how I feel because it deeply affected me emotionally. I'm happy that since posting my video many have shared their positive experiences, which I know is statistically the majority of those who get IUD's, otherwise they wouldn't keep inserting them. Many have also privately reached out sharing stories similar to mine, some much worse, and have found support through me sharing my experience, which I'm so happy about. I didn't look up horror stories or negative side-affects going into getting my IUD because I didn't want to convince myself I would experience those issues - it wasn't until I was searching for answers to my issues that I found those forums and realized I wasn't crazy, this was real, and I wasn't alone. Some may be put off by things I said but I'm human and I shared my authentic story, which was extremely vulnerable and scary to share, so I appreciate people being respectful of that and not being negative towards me or that fact atet I may not have known all the right terms or things to say. Again, thanks for making this video and being so kind and open, I hope others in the comments can do the same.
Molly Burke I'm sad you experienced this. I've always been super proud of the Canadian Healthcare system, and my main reaction was "no! That can't be!" But every profession is made up of humans and we all have a unique mix of good and bad qualities. It's sad when someone goes into a profession they are not suited for, or have lost their passion for. Just as a Canadian I hope people don't think our whole Healthcare system is like this. Sorry you went through this, I feel very lucky to have had the Nurse Practitioner I had.
Molly Burke I love you soo much, and admire your honesty! Thank you for sharing your story and spreading awareness about these “taboo” topics. Keep up the great work! You’re an amazing role model and truly an inspiration!! xoxo
My favorite part of this video was MDJ's horrified facial expressions when you'd talk about how your female doctors treated you. Like her doctor (and human woman) sirens were going off "nooooo GOD THEY DID NOT!" Thank you so much for sharing, love your content Molly ❤️
"two people treated me badly so i hate all people like them" mmm. yeah. not how the real world works. the male doctor i had treated me like shit while the women seemed to go above nd beyond. not dumb enough to hate all male physicians.
@@argentiagrace2809 She's not saying she hates all female doctors, she did make a generalizing statement that women doctors might think 'I deal with stuff like this too it's not a big issue.' Even though it was misguided and certainly not the case, and she was understandably frustrated. No need to say she was dumb. She put her story out there and even was open to corrections, that's awesome.
This is a fact though. It's not a stereotype :/ We have a lot of contraception methods for women and very little for men, this is not random. I know for sure that there are many men that would make bigger sacrifices, but at the moment, it is still not the reality.
Your position is correct and clear, but still it doesn't contradict my argument. At the moment, science is focusing on women contraception and very little on men contraception (besides condoms). I see very few men complaining (even though they exist).
so annoying. i have a guy friend that I just explained all the different contraceptive methods to and how none are 100% effective and how i would always use a condom and he’s like “i don’t like that though” ugh
@@KarasMagicalLife have you had a problem with getting a new doctor? I'm Canadian and all I have to do is bring my info to another doctor's office with the name of my current doctor and wait a few days
As a nursing student, it’s funny when her doctor said that side effects don’t exist however, Molly was experiencing diarrhea which was one of the side effects lol
I did that with an ObGyn. One of the quickest decisions of my life (I always tend to need a long time to process a decision, but I politely ran away from that ObGyn XD)
The last time I went in to get my IUD replaced the woman who was getting hers replaced right before me was in the next room over and she was screaming for them to stop. I could hear the doctor say to her “No, you don’t actually want us to stop, because it will just take longer when you already would be on your way home right now if you would have let us do it.” This woman went from sobbing to completely complacent and silent. SHE WAS SHAMED INTO A TRAUMA RESPONSE BY HER DOCTOR. Then he said, “Most women are in and out in 2 minutes” to which one of the nurses said “to be fair, she has not had any children.” He didn’t acknowledge this comment and instead said “Come on now. You can handle it. It is just 3 cramps.” (I 100% believe in my soul that should roles reverse and men be the ones forced to endure things like this, they would be given heating pads, ibuprofen, laughing gas, and local anesthesia, every time, regardless of how many or few kids they birthed). I heard that women whimpering as they forced her to do the procedure she told them she didn’t want them to perform anymore. By the time the nurse came into my side of the suite to grab me for MY TURN, I was in a complete PTSD meltdown. I was shaking and crying and couldn’t formulate words and couldn’t look at the doctor when he came in to introduce himself. I finally told them you could hear literally everything that happened to the woman before me and the doctor made a giant exaggerated SIGH and said “And, in a couple of minutes you are going to see that very same woman walk herself out of the office completely fine.” I looked at the nurse and said I needed help. I didn’t really know what I meant exactly but that was all I could articulate in the moment. She said something to the doctor and a couple of minutes later she and I were alone in the room sitting silently while she patiently waited for me to feel comfortable/safe enough to talk to her. I said I couldn’t have that doctor. She started to say he was the only doctor signed up for the procedure room for the day but she cut herself off mid explanation and excused herself from the room. A PTSD eternity later, and she came back in with a female doctor and explained that she had an idea she wanted to run by me. She said she was actually a doctor finishing up her residency or something like that and asked if I would be comfortable if she did the procedure? She added that the woman she brought in would be there to help her if she needed any assistance. That is when I noticed the other woman was holding a plastic tray with some items in them. The doctor explained to me the second part of her idea was to use a topical numbing spray they use in the dentistry clinic to numb the skin of my cervix. And when I was ready she would then use a little bit of local anesthesia with a needle and make sure my cervix was completely numbed up before they tried to take the IUD out. And that’s exactly what happened that day. I just hope to whatever deity is out there that when I need to get my next one replaced in 2022 that I will get a doctor who is willing to help me like that lady was that day! …I still have nightmares where I hear that poor woman begging and screaming… Side note: That is also how I learned that anesthesia can make your heart race temporarily and make you feel like you are having some anxiety
That doctor sexually assaulted that woman. She said stop, he didn't, she was screaming, he told her she didn't actually want him to stop. It's literal sexual assault. I feel absolutely horrible for that woman and for you for having your PTSD triggered and that he tried to assault you as well. It's no wonder you were so frightened. I'm so glad you were able to verbalize your need for assistance to the nurse. This is the exact type of thing I'm afraid of when I go to the obgyn. There are way too many stories of them not stopping and I have severe PTSD that makes me go non-verbal when triggered. My doctor is luckily very kind and makes sure I'm comfortable, but my first one was not at all like her.
Hey, I just want you to know that taking out the IUD is soooo much less pain than having it inserted. Literally, not even a pinch- a similar discomfort to the speculum just at your cervix- a small bit of a weird pressure and then it's out. If you ever go to get it taken out without having it replaced, it is 100% not the same procedure at all. ❤
I am so sorry that this happened to you and that other woman too 💜 There are some pretty great resources for working toward healing when you feel like you would like to start that journey. Not everyone can afford a therapist/counselor, but finding the right professional to talk to would make all the difference in the world (and also there’s good ones and bad ones too, so keep trying, if you can, to find a good one that you feel safe with). If that’s not something that’s an option, there are a lot of self-directed resources out there too, and those could be a good place to start if you don’t have access to a good therapist. I promise I didn’t intend for that to be a long thing. I just want to say that the experience you described was very traumatic. I’m no stranger to trauma myself, so when I see something like your story I just feel like I want to share what has helped me and also acknowledge that at certain points of my experiences I was not ready to start healing yet. So wherever you are with that, it’s 100% okay. Much love, many healing vibes headed your way 💜
@@foozlegamer1025 what a stupid fucking comment. I had my IUD put in by a female doctor. I screamed immediately when she clamped my cervix and just started cussing, saying anything, saying stop, she reassured me it would be over shortly and she kept on with the procedure. It was over in 2 minutes. Did she sexually assault me, you absolute snowflake?
Lol if it helps whenever I have a question specifically about a medication reaction or side effect I call my pharmacy first because that’s the whole jam
cricketreads I’m studying to become q doctor and one of the first things they teach you is every single drug has adverse effects and it all depends on the dosage. If someone tells you the don’t.... SHUT THEM UP
It was really amazing how Dr Jones corrected Molly and disagreed in certain aspects but still made it clear that she respected her and didnt take anything away from Molly's experience
Right. I wish more Doctors were like MDJ. I’m had terrible experience with so many bad doctors. I wish I could have a doctor in each feel I need like MDJ.
I tried to get an IUD placed when I was 18 and basically completely ignorant of my own organs, and had never had anything in my vagina before, let alone any cervix dilation. I was unable to relax my muscles at all so the doctor couldn't even get her fingers in properly, and I was crying from the pain. She stopped, because obviously an insertion was not happening that day, and asked me why I was trying to get an IUD at all, and talked me in to trying other birth control options (which have worked very well). She was super kind and understanding, I was crying from shame but she reassured me that IUD's aren't for everyone, and that's okay!! I hope all my future OBGYNs are so empathetic and kind.
@LoveofVelvet No matter really. If it's one person who doesn't believe in side effects & screams at patients, they should be removed from practice. If it's two people, one of whom doesn't believe in side effects of medicines and procedures they're prescribing and/or performing and the other one screams at a patient for any bloody reason*, BOTH should be removed from further practising medicine. *Acceptable reasons to scream at your patient start somewhere around them telling you they've hurt your loved ones or are planning a terrorist attack. Them reporting their ER visit to you is very much not that.
I had a GP who told me the dangerous mental side effects I was having from Topamax weren't "real" side effects and it was a CYA by the manufacturer. He basically gaslighted me into thinking I was going insane for a year.
Annie Fleming Or doctors that don’t tell you about things (for instance the fact that you have pain during the iud procedure) until you are naked in the stirrups.
And anti-psychopatic screening. A year ago or so, there was a story in the press in my country about a doctor who sexually harrassed female *oncological* patients and raped a number of them. I feel sick just thinking about this. He enjoyed abusing most vulnerable people.
@@MsMaggyW That is scary. right up there with going to the ER in an ambo and not being about to understand what the ER personnel are saying to you because they do not speak clear and concise English. I detest the fact the so many hospitals do not staff their ER and Urgent Care with hospital staffed nurses, clinicians, doctors, PA's etc. Rather they contract with some medical staffing group (business) and there fore the staff is not directly answerable to the hospital, rather they answer to the medical staffing service. Shit, the last time I was in the ER (for a kidney stone that wouldn't pass), I was told that the staffing service set protocol, not the hospital. I was so happy when I saw my doctor walk through the door and when he took over my care.
I have four friends that have IUDs put in. Three of them, love theirs would never give them up, the fourth one had the same exact story as Molly the whole way through. The crappy doctors, the pelvic infection and having to get it removed at the emergency room. Also getting yelled at by her primary doctor afterwards.
I loved the 1st one I had. Hated the 2nd one. I've got a narrow cervix, and instead of giving me a dilating pill for insertion for #2, she used dilating rods. I ended up getting it removed 3 months later because it moved due to the rods messing up my cervix, and it started coming out.
I'm curious do you know happen to know which of each had e.g. mirena (hormonal) or copper (non hormonal)? I've had both and my copper IUD experience was hellish whereas i swear by my Mirena
I was fine with my first mirena iud but the second one, which I was basically coerced to keep in, I bled for a YEAR. It wasn’t heavy every day, but it was still every day. My dr didn’t believe me. Finally at my yearly, I said remove it, I’m done. So, when it was removed, it was covered in blood. No one was able to tell me why. But I felt so much better once it was out.
@@felixhenson9926After I had two children, I had a copper one put in, the insertion was so incredibly painful I was terrified to have it removed. It was supposed to be good for 10 years. I left it in there for 16 yrs because I was so afraid. I finally had it removed because I was afraid after so much time it would be embedded, but it wasn't painful. It worked like a charm for 16 years though.
I really appreciate how you explain what Molly says without "attacking" her or discrediting her story either. Your content is chock-full of facts and sympathy, and it is delightful to watch. Thank you for yet again another great video!
@ForgottenOnes Molly started out as a motivational speaker and now her passion is for TH-cam. TH-cam is a place full of people earning subscribers just by showing their personality and making viewers feel kind of like... friends. Maybe some of her videos focus more on that aspect now, because she can't make the same 10 videos like "what not to say to a blind person" over and over. It's okay to not like the way someone's content has changed. You don't have to be a dick about it. She's more than just her blindness. She can have videos that aren't JUST about being blind.
@ForgottenOnes So because not all of her videos are related to something you suffer with, that she has made videos on in the past, she's 'gone off the deep end'? Come on. Fun fact: When people become more comfortable with being themselves in front of people they don't know, it can seem like their personality has changed. That doesn't mean it has, just that they feel better about being themselves, openly. It honestly seems like your problem is that she doesn't fit into the box you think she should. If she did only continue to do videos about the same thing, not only would her channel not grow and reach many more people, the information she has already provided about those issues wouldn't be circulated as much as it is. Her videos on her eye diseases don't just reach thousands of people anymore, they reach millions. That is a win for the blind and deaf community as it helps normalise disabilities to hopefully, eventually make it so we're all on the same playing field. I, as a sightie, would never have changed that stereotypical view without Molly. I've learned so much from her, but I also love all of her other videos. It also helps destroy those stereotypes and makes people see that someone who is blind or deaf is no different to me, they're just blind or deaf. You're entitled to not like her videos, but that doesn't mean that because you don't agree with the videos she's putting out that she's 'clout hungry' or whatever the hell you said.
@ForgottenOnes you really don't know what an E-girl is. You were unnecessarily rude for her not living up to your expectations. And she definitely continues to educate on eye issues, but she's branching out and that doesn't make her an "e girl" or "clout chaser".if you no longer like her content that's fine, but that doesn't mean you should be rude.
When my husband and I first moved in together I asked him to get me some tampons. He looked at me like I asked him to kill our first born. Lmao. I looked him dead in the eye and said don’t worry no one thinks you’re on your period. He never gave me that look again and now gets them when ever I ask. After 25 years together we can laugh hard about it now!
As a guy, I can confirm. The tampon aisle is as daunting for us as the auto parts store is for most girls. You have no idea what you are looking at, what you need, and which type to get. If you don't have the empty box from last time, it's gonna be a lot of phone calls lmao.
@@Tetra392 Girls Who buy Tampons for other Girls need the same detailed instructions as Guys would need. We are Not born with the knowledge of all Girls menstrual needs. As well as Guys need some specifics before they can get something for their friend from the car parts aisle. My husband has a Sister and therefore knew he had to ask my size, blood flow and personal preferences First than rot me the Supply i needed.
I've been so incredibly lucky with this, and *mostly* been with people who have no issues with that, my current partner offers to get them without me asking. But I did have one partner years ago who wouldn't go anywhere near "the women only aisle" (his words) and literally waited outside while I bought tampons, like didn't even want to be seen in the store with someone buying them. 🤦🏻♀️🙄
I remember when I got my IUD put in. It was so painful, I got tunnel vision, and nearly blacked out until the OB/GYN reminded me to breath. lol I was talking with a group of female friends who all also had IUDs. None of theirs were as painful. They started to make fun of girls who complain about it being so painful! Saying they are just weak, or have low pain tolerance. I had to butt in and tell them, that can't be the case, because my pain tolerance is very high. I accidentally got my finger cut off and made the person driving me to the hospital stop at Taco Bell on the way because I was hungry. I fell off a horse I was training once, and went jet skiing the next day. Come to find out I had fractured two vertebra when I fell off that horse... I went jet skiing WITH A BROKEN BACK. (It was a blast, but painful and dangerous, had I known I broke my back I wouldn't have gone) IUDs insertions are different case to case and body to body. Don't let anyone tell you, your pain is because you're weak!
My insertion process was also VERY painful! I too almost passed out and they had to remind me to breathe! It took way longer than I was told it would. And others I talked to did not think it was that painful, but mine was!!
I had to be put under general anaesthetic and take the labour-inducing pill because I couldn't dilate and the pain from using a speculum to force my cervix open was unbearable. I don't regret my decision to get an IUD and honestly the insertion was the only bad part of my experience. But I can understand why people would hate it.
Honestly, my insertion wasn't that bad per se but I'm not going to lie that it was painful af. I remember being afraid of touching myself down there for a while because I was traumatized lol I even begged my bf to "make it stop" at one point because the cramps were so brutal
I also had a really terrible experience with an attempted IUD insertion that was horrible largely because of the way that my physician was handled things. I felt so small and stupid and dramatic and not listened to at the time (I was 17), and it is really validating to hear you reinforce the idea that women deserve to be respected and listened to as patients. My OBGYN, I later learned, did not believe me when I told her that I was a virgin with absolutely zero sexual experience (I had also never had a pap smear or pelvic exam) during consultation (so she was a lot less gentle with me), didn't give me any information about what to expect after the insertion, got angry at me when I started screaming and crying during the procedure and asked her to stop, and then told me to hurry up and make a decision because she had another appointment in 10 minutes. I was also told by the person who came with me that I needed to "grow up and get over it" because "we are women and this is just what we have to deal with." My sister-in-law just got an IUD, and I was blown away by how gentle, patient, her physician was and how much information she was given ahead of time. The knowledge that my experience was not okay and not normal actually made me feel a lot better about trying again with a different physician. I am 22 now, and I am going to try again. I am still very very nervous, but I have a better sense of how to advocate for myself, and I'm really grateful for channels like this that help educate and empower female patients to find providers who are worthy of them.
I just had an IUD inserted and I had a similar process to your SIL. Other than the minor pain of the numbing injection, it was painless (they even removed a polyp at the same time!) My best advice is to find a doctor that will thoroughly explain whats, whys and hows and to 100% advocate for numbing your cervix. If they refuse, find someone else.
Ohhhhh I hate that when they don't believe you are a virgin. I didn't lose mine until I was 20, no one believed me either. Don't people realize it's actually not uncommon to even be a virgin in your 30's, 40's? In fact, people do it by choice. Asexuality is a real thing and it is on a spectrum. Some people shut down, by nature, when another person is involved-- some asexual people only masturbate, some don't like sex at all. Yet people find it so incredibly hard to believe for some reason. People are shocked at the idea of asexuality as well as being a virgin after the age of 14, but you know what else is shocking? The amount of nasty women OBGYN who are in this field of medicine. I kid you not, every single female OBGYN has been so nasty and careless.... this was my experience in New Jersey which is a pretty progressive state so idk, I think that is more shocking to me than the amount of virgins there are. This world is so backwards.
Neglecting to INFORM the patient of side effects means that are not informed enough to give informed consent. How many times did I just say inform?!? 🤦🏻♀️ anyway that whole situation frustrates me,as a patient that has dealt with crummy physicians.
Not an IUD horror story. But still an IUD story: I got my first IUD through Planned Parenthood because we didn't have insurance, couldn't pay for the pill, I'm allergic to latex (condoms out of the question), and I'm forgetful a lot so taking the pill was really not for me... Basically a lot of reasons that ended up with me deciding to do this. I had never been pregnant when I got it, either. The lady who inserted it was so awesome. She even called 2 CNAs in the room to hold my hands, it hurt so bad, she gave me a heating pad prior to the procedure which I felt was something that took a lot of the edge off. And after because I was going into shock, they put ice packs on my neck to keep me from passing out. Not only that, they supplied me with a water bottle, apple juice, string cheese, and peanut butter cheese crackers. The room I was in was right next to the nurses' station they had and I was (in a sitting chair in the room eating, not on the table during the procedure) in the periphery of the nurse there. I had that thing in for almost 6 years. No periods and aside from the initial insertion, no pain. It was glorious. I would so do it over again. Fast forward to 2015, my husband and I decide that we're ready to try for a baby. I had the IUD removed. We're moving from an apartment into a house. It's a new beginning for us, we're able to get pregnant but we're not yet really trying for one. March 2015, I've had 3 periods since the IUD removal, and I'm late. I wait a few extra days because mine had never really been calendar perfect. Many times in middle to high school it'd be a week early or a week late. So it wasn't new to me. Well the test was positive. (yay!) We waited to announce till after the ultrasound and we had pictures. So.... I didn't know that after having an IUD in and removed, it could potentially make your ovaries drop multiple eggs when you wouldn't (or something like that..).. basically, you're at a greater risk of having a multiples pregnancy after IUD. SURPRISE WE HAD TWINS. I wouldn't take it back.
Brianna Cowles I had the same shocky reaction to my first IUD. Even after explaining this reaction to my subsequent OBGYNs they still REFUSED to give me pre-placement pain medication.
I'm glad it all worked out for you! I just want to let you know you can definitely use condoms if you're allergic to latex, there are latex-free condoms in 3 or more different materials available! If you're in a committed monogamous relationship where you've both been tested and are willing to take the risk of your partner not cheating then this might no longer be relevant to you, but when talking about it please don't say that people with latex allergy can't use condoms. They're the only way to prevent STI transmission during penetrative sex so it's really important not to discourage anyone from using them if they're able to.
Brianna Cowles that is an absolutely beautiful story! Also by the way, if you're allergic to latex there is a polyurethane alternative condom material designed for people with latex allergies (latex allergic people need to be safe from STIs/STDs too).
My primary doctor, OBGYN, and I are discussing specifically the Mirena IUD to help treat my heavy periods. He was honest and literally described the procedure feeling like a labor contraction. A mom of three, it gave me a point of reference. He also recommended scheduling the procedure towards the end of a menstrual cycle where I'm still bleeding a bit because the cervix is softer. This OBGYN is my primary care doctors doctor and has proven to be amazing.
My first IUD was a dream, and was placed by an amazing OBGYN. She'd also told me "So you know, it's going to take around 6 months to get your body used to this, so let's talk about what that might look like for you." Then switching it out to my second one was a nightmare. Sadly, my awesome OB had moved. The new doc told me (despite it being clearly marked on my Well Woman questionnaire and in my chart, and having had this discussion with her immediately prior that I wanted to prevent pregnancy and control my horribly heavy periods) that my body would reset itself if I would only have children! And that it's not too late to start having babies, because look at her! She was 40 and just had her second one! And it resets your hormones! That was what she strongly recommended. I looked at her blankly and said AGAIN that I'm 100% sure I don't want children, not now, not ever, and that hasn't changed in my entire life, and that I had an IUD already that was working quite well for my life, so could we just put the next one in, please? She wasn't happy, but she did it and... it felt different. From the first moment. To start, it didn't hurt very badly at ALL. In fact, it didn't feel any worse than the cervix scraping of a pap smear. Then it started really messing with me. I felt like crap. My periods and hormones were off the chart, I had cramps often, sex hurt, I just generally felt terrible. I had countless ovarian cysts and ultrasounds where they told me they saw the IUD. Then for a year, I started bleeding three weeks on, one week off. Backward period, basically. Over the next 4 years, I asked every single doctor and nurse I'd see if I went in for anything at ALL if there was a different dose of the Mirena, or if there was a recall on it or something, because this was very different. Unfortunately, they all brushed it off, saying "Well, you are getting older and our bodies change as we get older." Bite me. I know my body. Something is WRONG. I finally to see another doc (who knew my stance on childbearing and took me very seriously, but only worked once a month so I couldn't see her earlier) and asked for a referral to another OBGYN like my insurance required. She did me one better and sent me to an OBGYN specialist. My other half went with me and literally LESS THAN TEN SECONDS into the pelvic exam, the specialist says "Oh, well there's the problem right there!" He turned to my love and asked: "Do you feel the strings during sex?" Yes, he did. Always. Well, it turns out that it was placed incorrectly and the bottom of the T itself was sticking out of my cervix, and the strings were trimmed right up against it! The OB who placed it had done my WW exams during that time and not said anything, but based on how it was in my uterus, the specialist said it was clear it'd been there a long time. We discussed it and decided to replace it during that visit while we waited for my surgery date to arrive. He did, and it hurt like the dickens! Just like the first time. It made sense! But he was great and verified with ultrasound that it was *properly* placed. And it's been a dream - despite getting older. ;) Now it's time to have it removed, but my current OBGYN (a different one, because doctors don't stay in this town long) is also discompassionate and I'm trying to decide how to proceed. I live in a tiny, rural town that's over 2 hours from the next town with an OBGYN, so it's not easy to just go to another. Ugh. Being a girl sucks sometimes!!!
I hope it goes well for you! Sounds like a terrible time. I tried to get one a few years ago but I'm in one of those countries where we can't get an IUD without at least 2 children AND written consent of my husband (I was single at the time but it was required nonetheless) or be over the age of 35. It's freaking backwards here I tell ya
Oh that's such a terrible experience.. I'm sorry. If I were you I would go see the specialist again. It would be worth the travel costs in the end because you would feel better for years in the long run. 😊
I've had pretty awful doctors, but I've always liked my OBGYN's. My current doctor and I always talk about Led Zeppelin while she's "down there", so that's nice.
The lady who took out my nexplanon after my year of bleeding was pretty rude but all I remember her saying was,"You're such a baby. Now go get some McDonald's". A little weird I know but it's all I remember lol.
Morgan Green That’s so inappropriate and horrible. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. It’s utterly disgusting especially when someone is already vulnerable.
Girl I'm kinda fat but I have a specialist for that because its due to a health problem. Came to an obgyn for suspected endometriosis pain and he said "you don't seem like you're in pain." And "you need more vitamin D" and "you're overweight and killing yourself"
I agree with Mama Doctor Jones on this. The quality of an OB/GYN has nothing to do with their gender. I personally have had several, of all shapes, sizes and genders and they’ve all been wonderful
Glad that has been your experience, but mine has been different. Not all female OBGYNs have been condescending or harsh, but I have had some that have been in the way Molly described... the "I've been there, done that: it's not that bad," tone that a male OBGYN literally can't take because he has not experienced anything similar.
@@16tangerines I've experienced a female nurse shaming me for having symptoms that later required antibiotics because no, they didn't just 'go away on their own.' Granted I probably shouldn't have gone to the hospital but to a walk-in clinic since we probably waited longer in the hospital than we would have in the clinic while my symptoms temporarily subsided. But I was also 12 or something and yes, I looked older for my age but I was a child and to be completely dismissed even as a young girl was shocking to me. And now having volunteered in hospitals and worked in the medical field I completely understand that the nurse was probably extremely overworked and I was nothing compared to what she had seen that day but it still sticks with me that no matter how small your case might seem you need to advocate for yourself and medical professionals need to treat every individual case with compassion.
My boyfriend once said “when you were on your.. uh... time” I just laughed and said “baby you can say period it’s not a bad word” and pretty much ever since I showed him how calmly and easily we can talk about that stuff he watches your channel with me all the time he finds it all so interesting (He’s also voiced he wants to have a daughter one day “because he never got to have a sister” and “wants her to feel comfortable going to him” and I- 🥺)
Taylor Parry moms talk like there kids often. It’s cause there around there kids a lot and there brain changes often times you’ll come across a mom that tells there co worker they used the big girl potty or stuff like that cause it’s how there use to talking to kids. If you was a mother of 4 your would too . Plus it makes the video more fun. My mom often would say because I’m mom because when I was little and being questioned my mom would ask why I did something and wouldn’t take I don’t know as a reason so I said because I’m Courtney. When kids say silly stuff often times moms adapt to those words and stuff. I am mentally delayed however because of this I’m more observant than the average person so most of my knowledge comes from me observing others a behavior I seen my whole life from every mom I ever met highlight I ever met was them adopting and saying stuff there kids would say and talking more like there kids or talking baby talk with grown women I myself have done this with my Niece and nephew and I’m sure I’ll do this with my son once he’s born. However this is info I know from my watching a lot of women in my life doing so. I’m sure not all moms do this I’m also sure some men do this as well but I don’t know my focus is on moms cause I’m a women. However I’m sure you could probably find study’s on it. Don’t take my word thought cause I don’t know the whole world of women just my handful teachers I grew up with as well has done this . I myself however believe it’s the face when your around people you tend to sink with them but I’m not positive on this one. You’ll have to talk to people who know more .
The Lovely Mel Chan if what Molly was saying was true, her doctor absolutely IS psycho. You’re telling me that her doctor saying side effects don’t exist and screaming at her in her office don’t warrant being reported? That is extremely harmful and unacceptable behavior
@The Lovely Mel Chan Sorry but being in the medical field, and having the experience of being sued all the time for no reason, this is a clear example of malpractice. If a patient comes to you with several bad symptoms and you refuse to acknowledge them and treat her, that is malpractice! So yes she should report the doctor.
From my own experience I wish my doctor had given me a warning to the possible amount of pain since she knew I was a sexual assault victim, I know that pain is normal but I wouldn’t go through the putting in or taking out for all the money in the world. It can be wonderful for many women but hearing Molly’s horror story made me feel way less alone
My pain tolerance is very high. I’ve never had a child but was in the most pain of my life when I got mine inserted. My doctor was like, “You did great, you didn’t pass out. A lot of people do!” So when I hear both men and women brushing off the pain I get so angry. I was in terrible pain for about three days after and then it went away completely. It’s been over a year and I haven’t gotten a period since. I’m loving and happy I made that decision, but still consider not getting another because the pain was so bad.
I too, found the IUD insertion extremely painful. They had to open my cervix 3 times in order to get IUD in! For pain management, I was only advised to take ibuprofen an hour before. Because of that experience, I don't want to go through it again. So I have requested a tubal ligation, and am still waiting for the consultation appointment. I don't want any form of hormonal birth control, hence why I went with the 5 year span copper IUD. It's only been 1.5 years and it has shifted down! So even the IUD isn't good for me :(
I think this really illustrates not only the need for better scientific literacy but also a better system to assure informed consent. So many people consent to medicine without really understanding what they're consenting to. I feel like this increases anxiety and bad outcomes.
Absolutely. Informed consent is seriously lacking here. I’ve had lots of issues arise from not getting informed consent with various medications and surgeries throughout my life.
My last ob gyn was a female and convinced me that I have an ovarian teratoma and need to get it removed. Had an MRI and it was just an endometrioma, no need for surgery right now. She explained how teratomas have teeth in them and everything.
Well I had 3 female and they where all very rough and just not nice. Happier with my male gyn. I had an other male one who I loved! But sadly he passed away.
I was sexually abused so I've always had female providers. At 39 & after a c section, I feel like it doesn't matter as much. But yeah, a bad doc is a bad doc.
I had a female ob/gyn nurse practitioner who was downright hostile to me. The current female one I have is much better but I still asked for a second person/nurse to be in the room with me (who is male, not sure if that matters) because I was so traumatized by the first one.
I had my IUD put in last week. The doc thought I was going to pass out, and they only told me to take 2 Advil about an hour before the appointment. It was awful. I was literally screaming, I was shaking and sweating. I honestly feel somewhat traumatized from it. I want to cry just thinking of the pain.
I had a D&C last month and no one advised me how sore I would be afterwards (outside). Found out later there are OTC ointments with benzocaine that I could have used. Female OB-GYN. Looking for a new one.
Any GYN worth their salt will advise you about pain control methods. It's no big deal for some women and a very big deal for others. I've had three IUDs and each experience was different. The first was the worst. I bled heavily for over a week and was in so much pain that I cried after the procedure was done in the exam room. I also had to call a friend to drive me home. The 3rd one wasn't a piece of cake either. My cervix didn't want to open and yes, that's about uncomfortable as it sounds.... trying to pry it open... 🤢 😖 Those two insertions were done by male general practitioners though, not a gynecologist. So, I assume they had less training and experience in that realm. The 2nd insertion though was done by a female gynecologist and it was so much easier. I had a friend take me to that appointment because I was afraid I might not be able to drive myself home afterward. But, that one went so much more smoothly.... I would have been fine driving myself home afterward. Subsequently, I was okay to drive myself home from the 3rd one, despite it being painful and difficult. That time didn't make me bleed afterward like the 1st time though. I think the 1st doc must have been really inexperienced, looking back. My next IUD insertion (probably my last, as I'm 44 now) will definitely be with a gynecologist who I've pre-screened for compassion, sensitivity, experience with difficult IUD insertions (which seems to be a sub-specialty), and who offers pain control options. I hope that anyone else who reads this and is considering one will be able to do the same. I will say though that unlike Molly, my experience with the Mirena IUD has been all positive, except for the difficult insertion process.... which for me has more to do with my own biology and my cervix being resistant to open. For reference, I've had one pregnancy/birth nearly twenty years ago, have not had any cycles with Mirena, and had irregular cycles without the Mirena and when I had my 2nd IUD - a non-hormonal copper IUD - which didn't work well for me due to the expected side effects, which included heavier cramping for me. Naturally, individual mileage will vary. But, I've been a big fan of no longer having to deal with menstrual bleeding and menstrual cramps with the Mirena. -- I mean, the bleeding isn't a huge issue for me, esp with a diva cup. But, I do appreciate the convenience of not worrying about it when I travel, hike, or go on long camping trips. I also *really really* appreciate no longer having cramps and all the other menstrual symptoms. It's been a huge blessing for me personally and has made even the most difficult insertion worth it for me. Honestly, I'll be replacing this one when it's time just for the freedom from cramps, regardless of whether or not I need it for contraception purposes.
It's called a vasovagal response from your cervix being messed with, TBH is very common when you're mucking around with a woman cervix for her to have that reaction. I had the same reaction to my first IUD being put in, I didn't know I had that extreme reaction because the IUD was put in incorrectly but later on during my Midwifery apprenticeship, I found out through experience that mucking about with a woman's cervix can cause a vasovagal reaction!
A friend of mine passed out in the hospital lobby after getting an IUD (from pain), but she rated the experience overall "not that bad" because the doctors were very nice and talked her through it.
The pain (in any procedure) is one part of the "overall experience" but how you are treated es a human being (like, being cared for and taken seriously) is what makes all the difference.
@rando There's also the problem of some doctors underreporting side effects on purpose and telling patients their side effects got nothing to do with the IUD. Both of these factors are skewing the data
I'm an anesthetic nurse in Australia and a lot of IUD's are put in under light to moderate sedation. Its quick and doesn't involve the risks of a general but also saves women the pain and discomfort of the procedure.
This is kind of why I wonder if she was confusing being in the OR as always a general. I do think sedation would be great for us in the US to have for IUDs if it would work for the patient.
I know from watching UK shows that women in labor are offered pain relief for a vaginal exam! Something that the US does not understand. The US is behind the times in pain management for women!
"I had lumps in my breasts, pelvic pain, dizzyness, nausea..." Had the same symptoms when I turned 31, no IUD. When I described them to my mother, former doctor, she said "Well go to the obgyn but sounds to me like you're just getting old, my dear" Thanks mom.
@@luciesimpson6437 In my case, it's an inherited trait called fibroma. My mom and sisters have it too. Maybe it was not accurate to describe them as lumps, it was more that when I did the exploration, I could feel kind of like small grape bundles.
I'm not too sure compassion is the right thing. Compassion has too much to do with emotionally understanding another person's feelings and acting upon that. What is really needed is what that male doctor had, respect for another persons feelings, regardless of whether or not you personally resonate with them. That has to do with empathy, but many people who are terrible at being compassionate, can still manage to talk people through a procedure in a respectful manner, based on their empathetic knowledge that we all can feel differently even in the exact same situation.
@@gadnihasj switch compassion and empathy. Empathy is where you act based on your emotions, compassion is where you act for the other person regardless of how you feel. You can absolutely show compassion when you lack empathy.
After I got my IUD, I was resting and watching some videos on youtube. I got to a bunch of videos on the politics around reproductive rights and the scotus and my cramping got so much worse. Nice to know my IUD is also politically active. :P (I know this was most likely because I was stressing myself with these videos and raised blood pressure can worsen side effects but I like my first explanation.)
I'm a Counseling master's student and one of the things I would love to do is work with doctors to increase their empathy with patients and improving bedside manner. I think its soo important and can drastically change the way a patient responds to treatment and treatment options! Compassion matters, no matter what!
Yes!!! My neurosurgeon is brilliant, but has the worst bedside manner ever. When I asked about risks of surgery, he said that “the building would come down in an earthquake during surgery before you would experience a CSF leak”. I ended up having a CSF leak and was in the ICU for 8 days. The last thing you need after brain surgery is someone pushing you out the door and rushing you to get off of medications. My neurologist almost lost it on him! Care and compassion goes a long way and applaud you for trying to make a difference!
@@macdaddytheladyface6613 that's so awful, I'm so sorry you had that experience... hoping you made a full recovery and that you have better doctors in the future!
Almost all of these problems were the doctors not telling Molly things she needed to beforehand and could have been easily avoided. That's so terrible I hope she has a much better experience soon
Yes please!!! I had 2 surgeries, one for the endo and one for the adhesions and scar tissue from the first surgery! There's a staggering amount of misconceptions about this condition. My specialist was one of only three doctors in my state at the time who actually performed the surgical procedure properly (excision rather than just burning away the surface tissue). For anyone looking for a ton of info, check out Nancy's Nook on Facebook. So much information.
YESS!! I have stage 4, had a hysterectomy at 25, had my gallbladder fail because of it, and also had to have an ovary removed almost 2 years after my hysterectomy because my endo was so bad still. I'm now on disability because of it.
Yes please! @MamaDoctorJones it would be greatly appreciated. It’s almost as if I am a different person for half of the month (week before and week during my period) as I’m in so much pain I want to die. I wish others understood. I’ve had 2 laps done and am almost due for another. My husband and I both have infertility (Endo, PCOS and azoospermia). We’ve been through 2 rounds of IVF (first resulting in 1 embryo which implanted but miscarried a few days later and the second we had to discard 27 eggs because they couldn’t find any mature sperm and our clinic didn’t freeze eggs). I just wish people knew more about it so I could stop getting upset because people are so insensitive.
I dont have endo but I know a few women who do and I know its WAY more common than people know, and that alot of women are suffering undiagnosed and this is something I'd love to have more media about this.
I am also a Canadian women who had IUD complications. My experience was very similar to Mollys, including the lack of consultation and discussion of side effects. I feel like our system is so overburdened there’s just not time for docs to slow down and do things properly. Like Molly, my doctor also initially refused to remove my IUD, even though I was in agony and had been for weeks. Because it was inserted by my GP they had to accept my appointment and I MADE them take it out. It took me another 3 years to see a gynaecologist so I could talk about other birth control options (I was also discouraged from hormonal contraception). A lot of people have posted that Molly could have switched docs sooner if she wasn’t getting the care she deserved. That’s not always the case here, wait lists are long and if you “refuse” care from one specialist you go to the bottom of the triage wait list and the list is years long. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful to be able to go to hospital and not worry about the cost.……but we can and should do better.
Bottom of the triage list, and apparently also the doctor who you didn't like can put a note on your file that you seem to have a personality disorder, and other doctors shouldn't listen to you. Politicians have cut funding so many times, we can't even remember what's missing. No, private pay is not the answer. Less corruption is the answer.
American republicans sear up and down that we can't have universal healthcare because you have to wait a lifetime to be seen . I'd rather that than pay for what I'll never be able to afford . But on the other hand waiting a lifetime isn't good . Listen to me talk I'm in menopause . Thank God ! Sorry folks .
I wish everyone could see this comment. I'm frankly amazed by the doctors in our healthcare system in Canada that do manage to keep their humanity when they're trying to turn over patients so quickly.
I had a doctor actually tell me I should just get used to bleeding in extremes because I have pcos and I wasn't pregnant. After 3 months of very heavy bleeding I went to the doctor (a different doc) and after a blood test she called me at home and told me to go immediately to the hospital. I had to have a blood transfusion and a D&C. I was bleeding to death basically. I had a bad reaction from my oral birth control. If I had just listened to the first doc I may have died. Sometimes women aren't listened to from doctors just because we're women. As a woman who is considered infertile I'm listened to even less.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. That first doctors behavior and recommendations were deplorable and disgusting and doctors like that don’t deserve their medical license.
I'm sorry you are considered infertile however, I do think it's important to note that those with pcos aren't not considered infertile. I have two healthy beautiful children and have pcos. By losing weight ones reproductive abilities\chances will greatly rise, there are many medical documents to prove this. I lost nearly 90lbs and quickly became pregnant without fertility drugs or procedures. You didn't specifically state pocs is the reason you have been told you are infertile however it read that way to me and I just wanted to be sure.others weren't confused. Also I do not know your health history however aside from having your uterus completely removed I would recommend considering a second opinion regarding infertility. Hugs and best of luck!
It’s kinda interesting seeing how many women want a period every month when they go on birth control considering I basically only went on birth control so I could have less of them lol. I’m glad some women find positive feelings in their bodily functions, I always found it to be an annoying nuisance but I can still appreciate the positivity.
I was the same way(I have an arm implant personally) and I lost my period until a year later and I had a Suicide attempt. Since then I get my period sadly.
I only want mine because I have a hormonal disorder, and I went three months without one (for no reason) which led to diagnosis. Getting mine assured me that I’m safe and my hormones are at normal/acceptable levels. I mean, I hate it, but I’d be terrified without it.
I have PCOS so my period is insanely important to me. If I don't get my period it terrifies me because I don't want to become I fertile, or get cancer.
Taking about normalizing the conversation, I said uterus one day,in college, and a man told me that word grossed him out..... UTERUS.... I laughed at him and made a point to talk about reproduction around him.
Oh, my! 😂 Uteri are soo scary to some men... It's ridiculous how uncomfortable some become by simply talking about anatomy! About time we normalize those taboo topics! I love your reaction, talking about stuff so he overhears it. Like, dude, it's just a bodypart most women and some men have (so... almost 50 % of humanity).
YES!! Ok, one time I had to have my ovary taken out. I collect childrens books, and my friend sent me a children's book where she had changed the last page to say, "So even if we lose things [like ovaries or other body parts], we can still keep skipping on." I was a cute idea and made me laugh. Well like a year later, I had a guy friend over (who, granted, was extremely socially awkward) and he was reading some of my kids books out loud. He got to that last page and said, "Even if we lose things, like- AAAH!!!" And we made eye contact and he said, "I forgot something in my car!" and he ran out and did not come back. I was SO surprised! And I laughed and laughed when I realized what happened. I tried to tease him about it the next time I saw him, but he changed the topic and acted like it never happened. SO weird and funny. ;'D
The worst part of getting my IUD placed - and I hope this helps someone - was the expectation of pain. The actual placement was what I would describe as a “pinchy” sort of discomfort. The procedure is fast, about 5 minutes. I’m really happy with mine 3 years later but it took me 2 years and an unexpected baby to gather my courage.
Yep! I got one ten years ago, and I do not regret it in the slightest. It was uncomfortable to insert, but, like you said, that lasted about five minutes. I cramped on and off the next couple of days, and I had very heavy periods the first year. (I got paragard which is the copper one. It can cause heavy periods, but it is hormone free and that's what I wanted.) After that first year though, my periods lightened up tremendously! I spent a 25$ co-pay once at the age of 18 for 12 years of nonhormonal birth control which has caused zero issues. 10/10 Would do again. However, everyone is different! I'm not saying other people would have the same experience. Talk to your doctors (and significant others if that's relevant) folks! Take care of yourself and do what is right for you!
I had three iuds with no problem, just a brief pinch. But now the last one I had hurt like hell for over 3 hours after. I was laying on the table for an hour in pain and couldn't even sit up because I was so nauseous and dizzy. I finally managed to crawl home and took max amount of pain meds the rest of the day. I'm still paranoid something went wrong since I have weird spotting every once in a while.
I also had a doctor tell me side effects don't exist when I asked about them. Then she called me paranoid and accused me of being a smoker. She also wrote me a prescription for birth control pills that I NEVER asked for. I never went back to her.
I had a male GP like that. I fired him after he dismissed my severe ovarian pain and gave me a script for BC I didn't want. A cyst ruptured about a week later and I was PISSED. My doctor is great now
the female doctors in my village all push you to take birth control and get iuds- i made a decision with my partner to stop taking my birth control and my gosh, the appointment after not getting another perscription was uncomfortable
1. I live in South Korea and I got my IUD here and they do use general anesthesia and it was a lovely experience. 2. I'm sad she's had these experiences with female doctors because all of my gynos have been female and they're all amazingly wonderful women and physicians.
I'm from the US and got the copper IUD in my early twenties never having had a baby before. I got no muscle relaxant, no laughing gas, no anesthesia (apart from local) and it was totally fine. It was uncomfortable, sure, but I find it so surprising that general anesthesia with a breathing tube and everything would be needed for such a small and quick procedure.
@@parissinclair6513 That's exactly what I thought but at the same time I wouldn't know because I had 3 kids and when they inserted the IUD I barely felt any pain. But every women's body is different and I heard stories of women passing out from the pain, so who knows🤷🏾♀️
@@parissinclair6513 I'm happy it was painless to you. But I bit of research and just watching the video(doctor Jones literally said "it's painful for almost everybody") will tell you that is not the norm. I want general anesthesia or nothing. I have painful enough period to risk it. I'm actually considering getting inserted in SK lol I wonder if they do it to tourists
@@sasy1533 I literally never claimed it was "painless", I said it was "uncomfortable". Uncomfortable does mean painful, just not to the extent where general anesthesia should be commonly used for it. It was probably a 5 minute procedure, and the side effects from GA can last much longer and commonly cause complications like nausea or even difficulty breathing, stroke, and other issues in more serious cases. So those 5 minutes sucked, sure and my fists were certainly clenched, but just not near to the point where I could imagine needing to be brought into an operating room, have a breathing tube, a supervising anesthesiologist, a 45 minute to hour long recovery in the hospital as you wake up, and requiring a friend or family member to be a chauffer home.
I just wanted to put my experience out there: I have the copper IUD. Insertion post having 2 kids for me was just a slight pinch. In comparison to the other birth controls I've tried, I'd say it's been phenomenal! I haven't had good experiences on hormonal birth controls. I've always reacted badly to them with terrible mood swings, weight gain and acne. Now, my birth control isn't something I even think about most of the time. My periods are normal, I don't have the side-effects of hormonal birth controls, and insertion was a very slight pinch. I guess I just felt like putting this out there since the comment section is mostly awful experiences! I'm also very grateful to have an OBGYN who is kind and understanding and saved my life when I had pre-eclampsia. I recognize with all of these horror story comments that I am very lucky!
Molly had such a bad experience. From a patient’s POV - it’s so hard to advocate for yourself when you feel crappy, are scared, had bad experiences previously, don’t know what to expect, or are just trying to deal with things on your own. I’m so glad Molly found a doctor who listened to her.
My dad was a doctor, so I know a lot of medical stuff and have spent a lot of time in medical offices and hospitals, and I still have a hard time advocating for myself. People seriously underestimate how fear, pain, etc. can impact our ability to stand up for ourselves or otherwise be proactive and assertive - let alone the fear that in so doing, we will piss off the people we are relying on to help us!
I couldnt agree more this is why I take the pill and not something a doctor has to put up, I dont trust them near my private parts no more I have had to many bad experiences
I have a tender cervix, so my GYN and I decided to place my IUD in the OR instead of forcing me to endure the procedure in his office. I started to hyperventilate from the pain and this wonderful man immediately paused and asked me if I wanted to do it under anesthesia. I said yes and that was it. Everyone should have that option!!!! (if it's safe for them, of course)
I started screaming during mine but the doctor didn’t stop she just kept going. It was over in 10-15 minutes and like I’m glad I got it but I really really wish I had the option to get more pain medication. I only got a local anesthetic and was told to take an Advil before the procedure. It was a copper iud too so it was more painful than the hormonal.
Selena N I feel you. I got mine too with no pain meds and I deadass thought I was gonna die lol. But I liked it. I had really bad period cramps. Had it for 2 years. Pregnant now and probably won’t go on birth control for a long while.
I feel you. When the lady was measuring my uterus with the rod thing It hurt so bad I started hyperventilating. They paused because I had clenched so hard they could no longer more the rod. They had to keep me calm and then they placed the iud and I was on the verge of puking from the pain the whole way home. It was the worst
I also had bad experiences with female OB/GYN's (being unsympathetic this pain is no big deal etc.,) and positive experiences with the male ones. You did make me think about something...that because there are more females ob/gyn's you are more likely to run into a bad one that is female. I never thought of that but that makes sense actually. I guess I had my own unfair bias as I am just expecting a female ob/gyn to be more sympathetic and it just seems worse somehow when they aren't.
The last time I went to the hospital with a kidney stone I was in so much pain I didn't even had strength to scream, I was just crying thinking I was gonna die and my doctor told me the exact same thing, "you're ready for child labor now". I didn't reacted them cause... I was dying. But I felt very uncomfortable with the comment and now it just annoys me every time I think about it
My aunt said it was worse than child birth and she has two kids. I can’t imagine that pain level! I’m not having kids so hehe I wouldn’t know. That’s just such as dumb comment like what if said patient had a miscarriage or like trauma and ugh it’s so unprofessional
I personally have never had a kidney stone, but I HAVE had an incident involving my own gynecological woes and needing something removed. Let me tell you, it doesn't hurt for me to have a PAP smear, but it did hurt a lot during said removal. Literally felt like it had to be what going into labor feels like, it was very painful and just cemented the fact I absolutely don't want to go through giving birth ever. In fact I even said something to the effect of "well if this is what labor is like, I'm out" to the OB/GYN. The entire OB/GYN team was super professional and really kind, although I did end up serving as an intern's case study because of the situation.
Same when I had 13 out of 10 pain for 6 months on and off with an undiagnosed galbladder emergency. They were like “well you’re having pain identical to labor pain so now you know what that feels like” I wanted to throw things but all I could do is rock back and forth, shaking, sweating and crying.
I have 7 kids, 6 vaginally 1 caesarean, and had a kidney stone a few weeks ago, all I could do was cry, I took myself to the hospital (I'm usually forced into it and discharge myself not good I know) the doctor asked me after pain stopped, wonderful drugs🤣, which one I thought was worse as she was always told kidney stones were worse, I told her I would rather have a baby!!!
I have seen 4 female gynaes and after each visit has led me to complaining to the health board. The 5th gynae was male and the was the one to take my problems seriously.
My experience with a Mirena IUD; When I was getting my Mirena (I didn't want my period) we were initially going to use laughing gas, but as soon as I got the muscle relaxant I ended up having diarrhea and throwing up so we decided to call it off and use anesthesia. It went incredibly well and the staff were incredible. I continued to have my period for around 6 months then it disappeared for around 5 months and suddenly it came back, so I went back to my OB/GYN and we checked my IUD with a vaginal ultrasound . It was fine so I we ended up trying adding hormone pills to see if it was a hormonal issue...and it was! Since taking my pills I haven't had my period for around a year. All in all I'm pleased with my IUD. Everyone will have a different experience!
I'm glad you've found a birth (&period) control solution that works for you. What country did you get it in, if you don't mind me asking? I'm curious since in this vid that as far as she knows they don't do that in the US.
I have had female doctors with the attitude that "You're a big girl, deal with it". Male doctors have been very gentle and helpful to me. So I've had pretty much the same results as Molly.
Same here. I have had 2 women that I liked. One male I havent liked, but he was so wishy washy and kept changing my care. I have had women who were actually banned from caring for me after i complained about how she treated me. Now i just prefer men as Ob/gyn.
Same I stopped seeing the women doctors at my in because they were annoying during my pregnancy. I continued to see the men they were way less pushy and more relaxed
I've actually had a mix. One male doctor made inappropriate joke to me how I probably didn't listen to his order of no sex because aparently I'm a sex bunny, another one didn't fully understand how painful and sensitive my uterus can be, most ER male doctors would look at me like i'm a child who can't handle cramps when i went in to ER due to ENDO PAIN. and only one female ER Doc who was kind and sensitive and said this is not normal. Since then I have had a good male doc and one current female doc who I've seen for 15 min so can't really say anything about her. And my specialist GYNO surgeon is the best GYNO I ever had.
I just wanted to say thank you for using TH-cam as a platform for education on reproductive health. I stumbled across one of your videos and I find every one of your videos incredibly entertaining and educational. I went to private Catholic school for my entire education and was only ever taught that abstinence was the only answer to anything. I only recall having one, one hour class on how animals reproduce and was told that if I were to have sex, I would get pregnant, no matter if contraception was used. I never learned a single thing about the female anatomy and my biology teacher - who had a baby - didn't even know that women had two openings in the vulva. I grew up without a mother, so I also never had anyone to help me when my period came along and it was a tough go. Thankfully the internet is a thing and had lots of answers. Of course, I consult my doctors for advice as I've gotten older, but I just wanted to say that I think it's great what you are doing to help educate women and young girls who are also turning to the internet like I had to when I was younger.
it is so scary, what you tell. The degree of disinformation. Thanks for educating yourself and raising awareness of this problem in America. A Biology teacher that does not... know things like that. Oh my God... It should be illegal.
I agree, periods and menstrual care should be openly discussed. I’m a cisgender male, so I cannot say anything about a menstrual experience. The closest experience I can relate to is that I had to deal with a perirectal abscess requiring surgery and treatment for sepsis. They did not sew me up, but told me to get Kotex pads to cover the wound for post-op drainage, and that I had to go to the surgeons office to have the packing changed. I felt uncomfortable in buying the pads, in having to change them, in having them “spill over” and stain my underwear. It definitely deepened my empathy for all people who have to deal with this monthly, more than it already was. I’ve since healed up, the infection went away, and I’m mostly back to normal. But it was at least 3-4 weeks of recovery, and having to deal with the internalized misogyny and shame surrounding menstruation when I wasn’t even menstruating was exhausting.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For saying that you cannot give out personal medical advice to someone unless you are their personal doctor. It drives me nuts when people will ask someone who doesn't know them or their medical history to tell them what's wrong with them. Happens to my sister all the time and it drives her nuts!
My biggest peeve is Mental Health Specialists. Especially when they actually give the advice- or worse, stick their nose in to diagnose without being asked.
@@ghostratsarah I'm in mental health and I absolutely agree with you. I might tell someone if they need to talk to let me know but jumping to a diagnosis , giving unwanted advice, isnt something we typically practice. Sorry that has been your experience. I've witnessed it once and the person had never even met the person they were "diagnosing.' Not professional.
@@Ash-ec5iq Most of them are people who went through those peer counseling courses, or a psych degree. Not medical students. So like, the NAMI peer counselors. I've never seen it from someone who had the full authority to write a diagnosis in a professional setting, only treat. But, I see it way too often. And they really play themselves up sound like they know everything. The most common diagnosis I see is "this random person I know nothing about and have never spoke to definitely has ADHD." It's never even accurate. And of course Tumblr. It's rampant in certain spaces of Tumblr. People who truly care about people, they get caught up in these communities and the environment. Mental Health Specialists are especially susceptible to playing doctor for kids who are too scared or too poor to see a doctor.
I’ve had mine in for 12 years now. When I had my last one put in I was told “this will last five years,until you’re 50. Then we will *not* give you another as you’ll be too old to worry” Well.... I wasn’t convinced I’d not be not be fertile so I’ve never been back to have my old Mirena coil removed, and now I’m worried that mine will have fused . I didn’t even know it actually could do that, I just had that horrible thought!
When i went to go get birth control and my doctor (OLD MAN) told me no that i could not get the IUD because i never had a child and "what if your future husband doesnt agree with this?" 🙄
@@punkrockbenny not the copper ones. That's the one I had, when it first came out, and it turns out it's really not good unless you have had kids. My body basically rejected the IUD I was in MAJOR pain. I was doing some research and I guess it's linked to endometriosis. Only in women who haven't had children.
Zion Rowen The copper IUD is not recommended for people who have endometriosis, but the IUD itself isn’t a permanent form of birth control which was more my point. I was addressing the “future husband” part. That just doesn’t add up to me.
@@punkrockbenny Yeah no, F- that guy. He sounds like a sexist as*hole. And I don't have endometriosis, i was just reading stories about it possibly being linked to endometriosis. It took my body so long to heal from my iud. I had it in for a year and a half, and my periods we're terrible the worst I've ever had. But after my uterus basically rejected it, i asked my Obgyn wtf happened and she basically said that sometimes if it happens in women who have never had kids. Because their uterus was never expanded.
Before getting my IUD I was aware of the pain to come (because of videos and other people's experiences) . I still knew I had to (I can't afford a child right now) and it went SO smoothly! It depends on the person and the gyno's experience too. Turns out that I only had cramps that day. BEST.DECISION. EVER. I love my IUD!! 💙💙💙💙
My old dr told me that he refused to prescribe an IUD specifically because I have never had children. He flat out refused. Due to health complications with the pill and Nuva ring, he told me to abstain or use condoms. Amidst a bunch of other things, he routinely told me my pain was nothing to be worried about and to take an Advil and essentially “walk it off”. I finally got a new dr and since, I’ve found out all the things that were wrong with my lovely lady bits...
when i was talking to my GP about changing my birth control and she was saying that she definitely prefers not to prescribe IUD’s before someone has had kids mainly just because of how much they can hurt. im sorry your doctor was shitty and im glad you found a better one to teach you about your “lovely lady bits” 😂
Oh my gosh, my iud insertion as a teen hurt like mad, and my doctor brought me a warm pad and had my grandma (who had driven me) go to the pharmacy for some painkillers before I got up off the bed. Her kindness in that moment made it so much easier to deal with and eased my mind tremendously.
I had my first Mirena IUD placed at 19 (no prior pregnancies). My OB/GYN informed me about the entire process, told me about the side affects, the potential for a painful insertion, basically everything I needed to know that good doctor would do. He then sent me home with literature to make sure this was the route I wanted to go while the IUD was put on order (this was 10+ years ago in a pretty small town). I went into the insertion appointment knowing exactly what to expect, knowing the potential side effects, and being extremely firm in my decision to get it placed. The insertion hurt, more than almost anything I've experienced. I bled for about a week and a half, and then stopped having any periods (with the exception of some occasional spotting, sore breast, and moodiness). I'm on my 3rd IUD now and I wouldn't change it for the world. It's been the best choice I could have ever made (each time I've gotten it). I think the moral of Molly's story is that you need to advocate for yourself in medical situations. If your doctor isn't listening to you, or treating you with respect, do everything you can to find another. I don't think ob/gyns who are men are any better than women or vice versa. Some people are just bad at their jobs, it happens in every field. My orignal Ob/Gyn was a man, and I once had a doctor (woman) perform a pap smear, keep me in the stirrups, and bring in a gaggle of students so they could see my "perfect" cervix. All without my consent. But I also had a male doctor leave the room with the speculum inserted for 10 minutes, come back, quickly remove it, place it on the table and leave the room. I was in the hospital at the time and the speculum was left there for hours. But then my current doc, a woman, talked to me during my most recent pap smear, kept me distracted and laughing, but kept me informed and received consent at every step. Doctors are people. Some people are shitty. Some people are shitty at their jobs.
Pretty much all my ob/gyns have been men. It's not bc I've chosen so, it just happened because, for example, during my university years uni healthcare only had male ob/gyns and as a poor student I could not afford to go to the private one. I could have gone to the public healthcare and gotten a woman, true, but that takes a long time and back then didn't care whether the doctor is male or female. Nowadays I have a slight preference towards male ob/gyns, but that's just bc it feels a bit more natural for me to have a man poking my private parts than a woman. But this is only a very slight preference so I always end up just taking whichever doctor is offered to me, man or woman. All ob/gyns that I've been to have done their jobs well and professionally so I've got absolutely zero complaints. Yay for our universal health care! I also have an IUD although I have the copper one, not the one releasing hormones. Getting it did hurt but I dunno, it wasn't anything too bad. And the doctor was a good one, he explained everything about the thing, side effects, and procedures, I was sent home to ponder which one I would rather have, copper or hormonal one, and only after having decided AND the timing being right, did the actual insertion happen. And absolutely no laughing gas or anything, so obviously Finland isn't one of those countries. My first periods with the things were pretty awful especially since I was used to almost no pain and only a little bit of bleeding. But it had been made clear to me that with a copper IUD the bleeding is much more abundant and period pain can be very notable. So I just gritted my teeth and carried on. Luckily, 2 years from insertion the pain has almost disappeared. I still bleed way more than I used to before the insertion but what'cha gonna do, that's what happens when you get the copper one.
I had to take any left over obgyn as i was new in town and pregnant. Only one had time for me. A Woman. All check UPS hurt a Lot! I thought this is just normal as i am pregnant, so i just accepted it. But than my midwife asked if she can have a look. It didnt hurt at all. Few weeks Later doc checks and it is painful again same day check with midwife, all comfortabe. Thats when i realised my midwife used Lube. Asked my dr. To use some too, got told pregnant Girls are so wet anyway there is no Lube needed. Thanks doc. Good you studied my Body for me as i clearly Cant know whether something hurts me w/o degree...
@@annaniskanen2557 I had mine inserted in the US. They were supposed to prescribe me a strong painkiller but forgot to. I decided to get it inserted anyways since I have a high pain tolerance. It hurt pretty bad but I didn't flinch or scream or anything, was just really dizzy afterwards. In the end, I got it removed because I was having AWFUL symptoms.
I had my IUD placed under anesthetic due to my extreme anxiety. There was just no way anyone was getting close enough to me to do such a thing while I was awake. Too much anxiety combined with a severe dislike of people touching me would have sent me into a breakdown. And when I weighed the options and talked with the doctor, we decided the anesthetic was the best route. We also talked that IUD was the best route for birth control for me, as I struggle with remembering things so couldn't count on the effectiveness of the pill but needed something to help with how irregular, heavy, and painful my periods were. Like take me out of work for at least a day or two kind of bad periods. And honestly, the anesthetic was the best decision ever. Short procedure and they were also able to do all the testing they wanted to do at the same time. I have never regretted it since.
I'm on my third mirena coil, i have zero side effects (apart from no periods but that is more a bonus than a side effect in my opinion lol). Just wanted to share that because like Dr Jones said, if you google mirena you only find people complain about it. That is because people who are happy with their mirena have no reason to go to a forum.
Random question how long did it take for periods to stop? I have a mirena iud and I am just wondering... I have my periods less frequently. I honestly really do like it. Sorry if this is personal, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
I've had in mine since 2018. My period hasn't stopped although it's gotten way less. I hear people say it was painful to put in but for me I felt no pain at all. This was surprising cause I was prepared for the pain. I'm waiting for my period to completely stop cause that's why I chose this particular one.
Wild Fire Farm hey I saw your question and noticed you didn’t get a response but I guess I can add my experience (I’ve had an iud for around two years now) my periods stopped/ got incredibly lighter after 4 months of having it inserted. I do still have very light periods, think something similar to spotting with little to no cramps which is a complete turn around from my original period. I hope this answer helps, but do remember that everyone’s body is different so your time may vary :)
@@b33s1nmyh34d you're so right, everybody will have differing results. I was one of the lucky ones whose periods stopped outright after a couple of months.
My brother and sister-in-law got pregnant with an IUD baby. Their fifth. The IUD had migrated into the uterus and it was decided that because of its placement next to the fetus it would most likely terminate the pregnancy if they attempted to remove it. They decided to see how it played out and my nephew was born with the IUD completely encapsulated in his placenta.
There was a student in my medical school class who had literally failed every nonsurgical contraceptive including IUDs. (This was before Mirena) she got pregnant in medical school on the pill + barrier. (I don’t remember if it was diaphragm or condom).
I got pregnant with my son on the IUD! Thankfully he’s here, alive and healthy and I had an easy pregnancy. I was 19 years old when I got pregnant! He’s 3 now and his name is Kingdom💙💙
Omg I’m happy for you but this made me scared. I have an IUD since I was 18 and I’m now 20. I think I might have some sort of trauma because of men being sexist against me and surrounding women in my life. This causing me to literally get as disgusted by pregnancy, and the thought of babies, like normal people would get disgusted by popping cysts full of puss (and that’s not even counting in the birth itself!) I really hope this doesn’t happen to me
I’ve never had a female gyno and I can tell you there are equally bad male Gyno’s as females. I do have a female urogynecologist and she is amazing and wonderful. She has to stick a catheter in me every 6 weeks to treat my interstitial cystitis and she is super gentle and always goes slow with me, even though I’ve been getting these treatments for years. She is also very reassuring and constantly tells me, throughout, how good I’m doing and how impressed she is with my strength.
I'm so glad you addressed the gender issue. I've had both a male and female OBGYN with terrible bedside manners and being so rude and cold. It's a person to person basis not a gender thing
Like I said it's a person to person thing. You unfortunately haven't came in contact with the right doctors I have found more rude male obgyns then females but I have also had a few that were great. We can't keep pushing the problem off to "oh they are female so I refuse to be seen by them"... instead judge them by professionalism and not gender or race.
Who said ANYTHING about legality??? You are freaking crazy... all I'm saying is you are grouping all female doctors in 1 category and all males doctors in another. As if all male doctors are the same and all females are the same.... no one said ANYTHING about legality learn to read before blowing up something so freaking minor. Personally I think its discrimination to judge someone on their gender and not their medical training.... 🤷♀️
I really appreciate this video. I have only seen an OB-GYN once. It was for my first exam. I was still a virgin at the time, and the doctor treated me like a piece of meat. I left her office feeling completely traumatized and violated. It took me twelve years to have another exam. That one was done by a very compassionate physician’s assistant who treated me much the way Molly’s male doctor did. Unfortunately, I was left with a lingering fear of medical situations, even though I have a background in public health and social work.
around 28:25 i think you’re referring to confirmation bias + how people who are unhappy give more feedback than happy people, so it is easier to find negative information about lots of things
That said, a lot of people don't actually talk to their doctors when there are negative side effects or complications. They go into "good patient mode" and give benefit of the doubt for longer than they probably should before bringing up issues, if they bring them up at all. I think the (after market) stats for these things lie somewhere between what was reported in the clinical trials (and what's reported to care providers) and what it appears to be in forums.
But also, if so many people are having those problems, maybe there is just a problem. It's awesome that some people do really well on one thing but there will still be a number of people who don't or have bad experiences. Those people are important too and could possibly be canaries in a coalmine for certain things. That said I love your video and I think these discussions are important.
I really liked this video. I watched Molly's video before watching this and (although I'm not a doctor) knew some of the things she said were not entirely true. You did a great job addressing those errors in a respectful and informative way.
Sadly the implant didn't suit me at all. Anything progesterone based doesn't suit me and I just keep bleeding constantly and become a psychotic maniac.
I live in Australia and had both my IUDs put in with 'twilight sedation' (propofol/fentanyl/midazolam) in a procedure room and I would 100% recommend both times it went smoothly. Both times were in a women's health clinic that provided a variety of services from family planning to gynaecological day surgery procedures. It's a great clinic.
We don’t have that option in the United States. I really need the iud to help treat chronic pelvic pain & heavy bleeding… but I’ve had enough medical trauma for several lifetimes and I’m scared. Australia has so many good resources for women with endometriosis, the comparison to the United States with virtually zero resources (unless maybe you’re in a large wealthy city like New York or Los Angeles) means millions of women suffer and get subpar care. I’d get it in a heartbeat if twilight sedation were offered. You’re very lucky to have that option.
@@memyselfi2005 I'm a VA patient in the US and had a cervical scrape/biopsy with no medication. I was shaking, sweating, and screaming. They said that I could have twilight anesthesia next time. They mentioned my SA history, as if that's why it hurt. I just have a low pain tolerance 🤷♀️ but docs think everything is psychological. This happened as a hospital where anesthesia is accessible. Maybe if you went to a hospital and not an outpatient office, it would be an option.
I love how if you don't fully agree with something you're still super polite and do a really good job explaining in simple terms why you disagree. It makes for such wholesome react videos instead of just being all "I'm a doctor. I'm right so move on" like I've seen other people do
I also think that because male doctors haven't experienced what their female patient is going through, a lot of the time they can think we're overreacting, don't know what we're talking about, or simply just won't listen to us when we say we're in pain. Obviously this is not all male doctors, and like Molly said some female doctors can also ignore their patient's feelings. But I find more often than not male doctors can't relate to my issues and therefore give me unhelpful solutions.
I only see male doctors, every female dr I have ever seen hasn't taken me seriously. I had pain in my breast and my female dr didn't do anything about it. My male dr had me go to a specialist and thankfully it was benign! There are bad doctors in each sex. She can speak poorly of women drs like myself if we've had bad experiences. Just like if i was to have bad experiences with male drs I would do the same.
I've had a poor sampling of female OBGYNs, I've had a poor experience with male OBGYNS. It really does have to do with the Dr. But that being said, my experience with the female make me a little more hesitant to see a female again. But it could just be that ny personality didn't mesh. That being said, I'd move to Texas so MDJ could be my Dr! Love her!
I've been to two female OBGYNs and one male. The first female was horrible and I swore I never wanted to go to another female again, so I changed to a man, who was pretty cool. Since then I have moved town so I needed a new one and there are only female doctors around me, so I was forced to went to a female doctor. She is the sweetest person on earth and always makes me feel super comfortable! So yes never judge a whole group of people based on one or two bad experiences!
The girl's story was horrific, but watching your genuine reaction to the sh*tty treatment shows you're a wonderful doctor and exactly the type of doc I bet we all wish we had! 😁
Briana Kelley Same! The nurse held my hand and asked if I needed juice or crackers. They let me rest until I felt ready to go. I don’t think I appreciated how nice that was until I saw Molly’s video.
I just had mine replaced today at a clinic for public patients ( meaning we have a senior doctor do the procedure not the Consultant). I have had vasovagal responses every time something is done with my cervix. Today was no exception🤦🏻♀️ As a nurse myself, I understand the physiological triggers but emotionally I feel like a complete wimp. The doctor and nurse were great; cool cloths, fanning me, monitoring my blood pressure and letting me get my act together. Bedside manner is really important.
@@naomipask9956 giiiirl, I feel you! I get that everytime I have blood done(and I bad/deep/tiny veins so it normally takes a few goes). I love when medical staff are understanding of this and don't just treat you like a 'baby' or that you're being 'dramatic'. Edit to add: my name is also Naomi 😄
Also its refreshing how she doesnt discredit peoples stories or try to shame them and how she just explains things in a really respectful and understandable way
@@Matamyherrera Many Ob/Gyns use language like "female" "woman" and "she" when referring to people, even for generic information. Dr. Jones doesn't use terms like that which means people who are not women are included. She would say something like "a person who has not been pregnant might find getting an IUD more painful" instead of "a woman who has not been pregnant might find getting an IUD more painful"
I've moved to seattle now for 3 years and i'm still going to a new OB every single year for my annual exam because I havent found one that I felt comfortable with. They all were very dismissive of my concerns. I really hope every medical student are required to pass a pysc/commpassionate exam during the board certification.
In the movie 'the doctor' a dismissive Dr with a bad bedside manner actually gets sick. The joy at the end where he makes the interns have procedures that they will likely recommend to patients is worth the watch.
I got an IUD 2 years ago, and I’ve never had children before. It was not painful at all for me, I literally just felt a tiny pinch! I was terrified because of all of these videos though 😫😫 I’m so sorry some of you guys go through this 😢
It was the same for me. I only had Ibuprofen before going and I wasn't on my period. I've never been pregnant. It was quick and not painful. Hope it's like this for the majority!
I think it has to do with other issues there as well. I’ve noticed a common theme, women who experience pain during sex and heavy-long periods all seem to have more cervical pain. There’s most likely inflammation
Also our cervix/cervical hole are different sizes. You could’ve also had a decent doctor who numbed your cervix. For some reason they don’t all do that, even though it has nerves 😬
@@catinabox3048 some people might say the most painful part is not the uterus cramps, but the tenaculum piercing the cervix so numbing does help with that part, I got numbing and I can't compare it since it's the only time I got an IUD, but I 100% believe this should be given to all women
The doctor who placed my IUD was an angel! She walked were through every step and I knew what was coming next, so also made it very clear that it was all on my terms. It was a wonderful experience and I’m very grateful for that because I know some women haven’t been that lucky!
Funnily enough, my gyno asked if I wanted to hear what she was doing and I took the option to not hear it! She only talked to let me know to be very still at one particular time and when she was done. It was a very easy insertion process for me, only needed 1 OTC painkiller that evening. (And I do not have a high pain tolerance)
Same for me! My IUD has been an amazing experience. Like I get that I am in an extreme rarity, but for me the uterine sound was the worst part (I didn't feel the "pinch" of it opening) and also I have a copper IUD and my period didn't change except for my cramps not being as painful. The nurse practitioner I see called me a unicorn. My only complaint was that the air conditioner grate above me (I like to count the squares in the grate to distract myself) was the slightest bit out of view when I was in the best position to keep deep breathing through the insertion.
I really appreciate how kind you are through this. You’re dispelling the myths and misconceptions without blaming her (or others) for having them. Your channel is so valuable
I think a lesson everyone should keep in mind is that everyone experiences things differently, something easy to deal with to you could be detrimental for someone else! Always be kind, you never know what people are going through or have gone through. Good healthcare providers and anyone who works with people should be kind and compassionate.
Yeah and why so many women want to keep it from happening with hormones. As a 20 yo it sounds crazy to me. I also wanted to hit puberty earlier but just dealt with it like everybody does instead of taking hormones
I'm trans so i tend to stay away from the OBGYN for obvious reasons (ive yet to have an appointment where my proper name or pronouns are used) but honestly watching your channel has helped me kind of warm up to the idea of getting my issues better under control and correcting my OBGYN/having a bit more hope while looking to switch! (not super relevant to this particular video but love your channel! gig em!)
being on YT has challenged me to work towards using inclusive pronouns (I'm not perfect, but I do try to make strides in the right direction) AND to recognize the major healthcare barrier that is in existence for those in the trans community. your voice here matters. i am trying to help. thank you.
As long as we dont see trans women going in for pregnancy tests and the doctors telling them they are pregnant when they could actually have cancer. Because weve seen that and it's horrible. But yes, I dont feel anyone should be made to feel bad about who they are. We are all different and we all have different needs.
I wanted an IUD a couple years ago, but my OBGYN guided me away from it for the fact the my vaginal canal is actually at a really weird angle. He was VERY up front with the fact that he did not believe he would be able to place it in a safe and pain free area. Thank god I listen to him!! Love him so much! #DrGreve
Hey! I appreciate you doing this video, I learned a lot! As I mentioned in my video, I'm not a professional and was simply sharing my experience, which is exactly what my channel is all about - honestly sharing my life experiences. It was not my intension to scare anyone away from getting an IUD or away from female doctors. I will personally never get another IUD and feel more comfortable with male Gyno's, but as I said in the video, that's because we all have different life experiences that change our perspective/perception. I in no way meant to put female doctors down, but in my case I had 2 female doctors working with me at the time who both showed no compassion or support to me and then a male doctor did - this shaped how I feel because it deeply affected me emotionally. I'm happy that since posting my video many have shared their positive experiences, which I know is statistically the majority of those who get IUD's, otherwise they wouldn't keep inserting them. Many have also privately reached out sharing stories similar to mine, some much worse, and have found support through me sharing my experience, which I'm so happy about. I didn't look up horror stories or negative side-affects going into getting my IUD because I didn't want to convince myself I would experience those issues - it wasn't until I was searching for answers to my issues that I found those forums and realized I wasn't crazy, this was real, and I wasn't alone. Some may be put off by things I said but I'm human and I shared my authentic story, which was extremely vulnerable and scary to share, so I appreciate people being respectful of that and not being negative towards me or that fact atet I may not have known all the right terms or things to say. Again, thanks for making this video and being so kind and open, I hope others in the comments can do the same.
Molly Burke I'm sad you experienced this. I've always been super proud of the Canadian Healthcare system, and my main reaction was "no! That can't be!" But every profession is made up of humans and we all have a unique mix of good and bad qualities. It's sad when someone goes into a profession they are not suited for, or have lost their passion for. Just as a Canadian I hope people don't think our whole Healthcare system is like this. Sorry you went through this, I feel very lucky to have had the Nurse Practitioner I had.
Molly Burke I love you soo much, and admire your honesty! Thank you for sharing your story and spreading awareness about these “taboo” topics. Keep up the great work! You’re an amazing role model and truly an inspiration!! xoxo
My favorite part of this video was MDJ's horrified facial expressions when you'd talk about how your female doctors treated you. Like her doctor (and human woman) sirens were going off "nooooo GOD THEY DID NOT!" Thank you so much for sharing, love your content Molly ❤️
"two people treated me badly so i hate all people like them" mmm. yeah. not how the real world works. the male doctor i had treated me like shit while the women seemed to go above nd beyond. not dumb enough to hate all male physicians.
@@argentiagrace2809 She's not saying she hates all female doctors, she did make a generalizing statement that women doctors might think 'I deal with stuff like this too it's not a big issue.' Even though it was misguided and certainly not the case, and she was understandably frustrated. No need to say she was dumb. She put her story out there and even was open to corrections, that's awesome.
It's amazing how far women would go for contraception and then some men are like "ohhh man, I don't like condoms".
That's cause they don't have to deal with the symptoms and pain we do.
linda dig I seriously got my tubes removed because my husband didn’t want to wear condoms😂
This is a fact though. It's not a stereotype :/
We have a lot of contraception methods for women and very little for men, this is not random. I know for sure that there are many men that would make bigger sacrifices, but at the moment, it is still not the reality.
Your position is correct and clear, but still it doesn't contradict my argument.
At the moment, science is focusing on women contraception and very little on men contraception (besides condoms). I see very few men complaining (even though they exist).
so annoying. i have a guy friend that I just explained all the different contraceptive methods to and how none are 100% effective and how i would always use a condom and he’s like “i don’t like that though” ugh
If your doctor tells you "side effects don't exist" get a different doctor...
Getting a different doctor in Canada isn't as easy as you would think.
@@KarasMagicalLife have you had a problem with getting a new doctor? I'm Canadian and all I have to do is bring my info to another doctor's office with the name of my current doctor and wait a few days
As a nursing student, it’s funny when her doctor said that side effects don’t exist however, Molly was experiencing diarrhea which was one of the side effects lol
"doctor" 😒
No doctor would say that.
Moral of the story: If your physician isn‘t compassionate and professional, change to someone else. I did that with my dentist. My body, my choice.
I wish I changed dentists, now I have lifelong trauma ✨😎✨
Yep!!!!
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Same story here except it was a psychiatrist.
I did that with an ObGyn. One of the quickest decisions of my life (I always tend to need a long time to process a decision, but I politely ran away from that ObGyn XD)
The last time I went in to get my IUD replaced the woman who was getting hers replaced right before me was in the next room over and she was screaming for them to stop. I could hear the doctor say to her “No, you don’t actually want us to stop, because it will just take longer when you already would be on your way home right now if you would have let us do it.” This woman went from sobbing to completely complacent and silent. SHE WAS SHAMED INTO A TRAUMA RESPONSE BY HER DOCTOR. Then he said, “Most women are in and out in 2 minutes” to which one of the nurses said “to be fair, she has not had any children.” He didn’t acknowledge this comment and instead said “Come on now. You can handle it. It is just 3 cramps.” (I 100% believe in my soul that should roles reverse and men be the ones forced to endure things like this, they would be given heating pads, ibuprofen, laughing gas, and local anesthesia, every time, regardless of how many or few kids they birthed). I heard that women whimpering as they forced her to do the procedure she told them she didn’t want them to perform anymore.
By the time the nurse came into my side of the suite to grab me for MY TURN, I was in a complete PTSD meltdown. I was shaking and crying and couldn’t formulate words and couldn’t look at the doctor when he came in to introduce himself. I finally told them you could hear literally everything that happened to the woman before me and the doctor made a giant exaggerated SIGH and said “And, in a couple of minutes you are going to see that very same woman walk herself out of the office completely fine.” I looked at the nurse and said I needed help. I didn’t really know what I meant exactly but that was all I could articulate in the moment. She said something to the doctor and a couple of minutes later she and I were alone in the room sitting silently while she patiently waited for me to feel comfortable/safe enough to talk to her. I said I couldn’t have that doctor. She started to say he was the only doctor signed up for the procedure room for the day but she cut herself off mid explanation and excused herself from the room. A PTSD eternity later, and she came back in with a female doctor and explained that she had an idea she wanted to run by me. She said she was actually a doctor finishing up her residency or something like that and asked if I would be comfortable if she did the procedure? She added that the woman she brought in would be there to help her if she needed any assistance. That is when I noticed the other woman was holding a plastic tray with some items in them. The doctor explained to me the second part of her idea was to use a topical numbing spray they use in the dentistry clinic to numb the skin of my cervix. And when I was ready she would then use a little bit of local anesthesia with a needle and make sure my cervix was completely numbed up before they tried to take the IUD out. And that’s exactly what happened that day.
I just hope to whatever deity is out there that when I need to get my next one replaced in 2022 that I will get a doctor who is willing to help me like that lady was that day!
…I still have nightmares where I hear that poor woman begging and screaming…
Side note: That is also how I learned that anesthesia can make your heart race temporarily and make you feel like you are having some anxiety
That doctor sexually assaulted that woman. She said stop, he didn't, she was screaming, he told her she didn't actually want him to stop. It's literal sexual assault. I feel absolutely horrible for that woman and for you for having your PTSD triggered and that he tried to assault you as well. It's no wonder you were so frightened. I'm so glad you were able to verbalize your need for assistance to the nurse. This is the exact type of thing I'm afraid of when I go to the obgyn. There are way too many stories of them not stopping and I have severe PTSD that makes me go non-verbal when triggered. My doctor is luckily very kind and makes sure I'm comfortable, but my first one was not at all like her.
Hey, I just want you to know that taking out the IUD is soooo much less pain than having it inserted. Literally, not even a pinch- a similar discomfort to the speculum just at your cervix- a small bit of a weird pressure and then it's out.
If you ever go to get it taken out without having it replaced, it is 100% not the same procedure at all. ❤
@@foozlegamer1025 I completely agree. I really hope he was reported for that, at least for unacceptable conduct.
I am so sorry that this happened to you and that other woman too 💜
There are some pretty great resources for working toward healing when you feel like you would like to start that journey. Not everyone can afford a therapist/counselor, but finding the right professional to talk to would make all the difference in the world (and also there’s good ones and bad ones too, so keep trying, if you can, to find a good one that you feel safe with). If that’s not something that’s an option, there are a lot of self-directed resources out there too, and those could be a good place to start if you don’t have access to a good therapist.
I promise I didn’t intend for that to be a long thing. I just want to say that the experience you described was very traumatic. I’m no stranger to trauma myself, so when I see something like your story I just feel like I want to share what has helped me and also acknowledge that at certain points of my experiences I was not ready to start healing yet. So wherever you are with that, it’s 100% okay.
Much love, many healing vibes headed your way 💜
@@foozlegamer1025 what a stupid fucking comment. I had my IUD put in by a female doctor. I screamed immediately when she clamped my cervix and just started cussing, saying anything, saying stop, she reassured me it would be over shortly and she kept on with the procedure. It was over in 2 minutes. Did she sexually assault me, you absolute snowflake?
Doctor: side effects are fake
Me: well my pharmacology degree is USELESS
lolz. i sincerely hope that doc reads this
Lol if it helps whenever I have a question specifically about a medication reaction or side effect I call my pharmacy first because that’s the whole jam
cricketreads I’m studying to become q doctor and one of the first things they teach you is every single drug has adverse effects and it all depends on the dosage. If someone tells you the don’t.... SHUT THEM UP
cricketreads LOL my nursing degree too 😉
Lmao I love this
It was really amazing how Dr Jones corrected Molly and disagreed in certain aspects but still made it clear that she respected her and didnt take anything away from Molly's experience
*Professionalism 👏👏
Right. I wish more Doctors were like MDJ. I’m had terrible experience with so many bad doctors. I wish I could have a doctor in each feel I need like MDJ.
The claws on the IUD thing was kind of funny though.
I tried to get an IUD placed when I was 18 and basically completely ignorant of my own organs, and had never had anything in my vagina before, let alone any cervix dilation. I was unable to relax my muscles at all so the doctor couldn't even get her fingers in properly, and I was crying from the pain. She stopped, because obviously an insertion was not happening that day, and asked me why I was trying to get an IUD at all, and talked me in to trying other birth control options (which have worked very well). She was super kind and understanding, I was crying from shame but she reassured me that IUD's aren't for everyone, and that's okay!! I hope all my future OBGYNs are so empathetic and kind.
fun fact you dilate less than a cm on your period.
Doctors like Mollys who don't believe in side effects and scream at you for going to the ER should have their licence revoked!!
@LoveofVelvet No matter really. If it's one person who doesn't believe in side effects & screams at patients, they should be removed from practice. If it's two people, one of whom doesn't believe in side effects of medicines and procedures they're prescribing and/or performing and the other one screams at a patient for any bloody reason*, BOTH should be removed from further practising medicine.
*Acceptable reasons to scream at your patient start somewhere around them telling you they've hurt your loved ones or are planning a terrorist attack. Them reporting their ER visit to you is very much not that.
I had a GP who told me the dangerous mental side effects I was having from Topamax weren't "real" side effects and it was a CYA by the manufacturer. He basically gaslighted me into thinking I was going insane for a year.
Annie Fleming Or doctors that don’t tell you about things (for instance the fact that you have pain during the iud procedure) until you are naked in the stirrups.
Agreed!!
@@xfortunesquex What were your dangerous mental side effects? I just ask because I used to be on Topamax. I'm sorry he gaslighted you.
Emotional maturity should be a requirement for health care professionals.
And anti-psychopatic screening. A year ago or so, there was a story in the press in my country about a doctor who sexually harrassed female *oncological* patients and raped a number of them. I feel sick just thinking about this. He enjoyed abusing most vulnerable people.
And empathy.
@@ljcl1859 Add a huge dose of compassion.
Canada is too desperate for doctors, they've lowered their requirements a lot. You don't even need great grades to get into med school anymore.
@@MsMaggyW That is scary. right up there with going to the ER in an ambo and not being about to understand what the ER personnel are saying to you because they do not speak clear and concise English. I detest the fact the so many hospitals do not staff their ER and Urgent Care with hospital staffed nurses, clinicians, doctors, PA's etc. Rather they contract with some medical staffing group (business) and there fore the staff is not directly answerable to the hospital, rather they answer to the medical staffing service. Shit, the last time I was in the ER (for a kidney stone that wouldn't pass), I was told that the staffing service set protocol, not the hospital. I was so happy when I saw my doctor walk through the door and when he took over my care.
Now I want to see Molly Burke reacting to Mama Doctor Jones reacting to Molly Burke.
Aunt Deen & then after Molly Burke reacts to MDJ reacting to Molly Burke we need MDJ to react to Molly Burke reacting to MDJ reacting to Molly Burke.
Carole M - The possibilities are ENDLESS.
Way to much drama
Yes!
Should be short: Molly Burke: "I liked that" :)
I have four friends that have IUDs put in. Three of them, love theirs would never give them up, the fourth one had the same exact story as Molly the whole way through. The crappy doctors, the pelvic infection and having to get it removed at the emergency room. Also getting yelled at by her primary doctor afterwards.
I loved the 1st one I had. Hated the 2nd one. I've got a narrow cervix, and instead of giving me a dilating pill for insertion for #2, she used dilating rods. I ended up getting it removed 3 months later because it moved due to the rods messing up my cervix, and it started coming out.
I'm curious do you know happen to know which of each had e.g. mirena (hormonal) or copper (non hormonal)? I've had both and my copper IUD experience was hellish whereas i swear by my Mirena
Copper
I was fine with my first mirena iud but the second one, which I was basically coerced to keep in, I bled for a YEAR. It wasn’t heavy every day, but it was still every day. My dr didn’t believe me. Finally at my yearly, I said remove it, I’m done. So, when it was removed, it was covered in blood. No one was able to tell me why. But I felt so much better once it was out.
@@felixhenson9926After I had two children, I had a copper one put in, the insertion was so incredibly painful I was terrified to have it removed. It was supposed to be good for 10 years. I left it in there for 16 yrs because I was so afraid. I finally had it removed because I was afraid after so much time it would be embedded, but it wasn't painful. It worked like a charm for 16 years though.
I really appreciate how you explain what Molly says without "attacking" her or discrediting her story either. Your content is chock-full of facts and sympathy, and it is delightful to watch. Thank you for yet again another great video!
@ForgottenOnes um that's really rude she's not a clout chaser.
@ForgottenOnes Molly started out as a motivational speaker and now her passion is for TH-cam. TH-cam is a place full of people earning subscribers just by showing their personality and making viewers feel kind of like... friends. Maybe some of her videos focus more on that aspect now, because she can't make the same 10 videos like "what not to say to a blind person" over and over. It's okay to not like the way someone's content has changed. You don't have to be a dick about it. She's more than just her blindness. She can have videos that aren't JUST about being blind.
@ForgottenOnes Wtf does "nothing to do w anything" even mean?
@ForgottenOnes So because not all of her videos are related to something you suffer with, that she has made videos on in the past, she's 'gone off the deep end'? Come on.
Fun fact: When people become more comfortable with being themselves in front of people they don't know, it can seem like their personality has changed. That doesn't mean it has, just that they feel better about being themselves, openly.
It honestly seems like your problem is that she doesn't fit into the box you think she should. If she did only continue to do videos about the same thing, not only would her channel not grow and reach many more people, the information she has already provided about those issues wouldn't be circulated as much as it is.
Her videos on her eye diseases don't just reach thousands of people anymore, they reach millions.
That is a win for the blind and deaf community as it helps normalise disabilities to hopefully, eventually make it so we're all on the same playing field.
I, as a sightie, would never have changed that stereotypical view without Molly. I've learned so much from her, but I also love all of her other videos. It also helps destroy those stereotypes and makes people see that someone who is blind or deaf is no different to me, they're just blind or deaf.
You're entitled to not like her videos, but that doesn't mean that because you don't agree with the videos she's putting out that she's 'clout hungry' or whatever the hell you said.
@ForgottenOnes you really don't know what an E-girl is. You were unnecessarily rude for her not living up to your expectations. And she definitely continues to educate on eye issues, but she's branching out and that doesn't make her an "e girl" or "clout chaser".if you no longer like her content that's fine, but that doesn't mean you should be rude.
When my husband and I first moved in together I asked him to get me some tampons. He looked at me like I asked him to kill our first born. Lmao. I looked him dead in the eye and said don’t worry no one thinks you’re on your period. He never gave me that look again and now gets them when ever I ask. After 25 years together we can laugh hard about it now!
As a guy, I can confirm. The tampon aisle is as daunting for us as the auto parts store is for most girls. You have no idea what you are looking at, what you need, and which type to get. If you don't have the empty box from last time, it's gonna be a lot of phone calls lmao.
Pohaku Mayo don’t worry, most girls don’t know either lol
@@Tetra392 Girls Who buy Tampons for other Girls need the same detailed instructions as Guys would need. We are Not born with the knowledge of all Girls menstrual needs. As well as Guys need some specifics before they can get something for their friend from the car parts aisle.
My husband has a Sister and therefore knew he had to ask my size, blood flow and personal preferences First than rot me the Supply i needed.
I've been so incredibly lucky with this, and *mostly* been with people who have no issues with that, my current partner offers to get them without me asking. But I did have one partner years ago who wouldn't go anywhere near "the women only aisle" (his words) and literally waited outside while I bought tampons, like didn't even want to be seen in the store with someone buying them. 🤦🏻♀️🙄
@@meinennamensagichnet Exactly. I mean, definitely don't use the same products as my best friend lol.
I remember when I got my IUD put in. It was so painful, I got tunnel vision, and nearly blacked out until the OB/GYN reminded me to breath. lol I was talking with a group of female friends who all also had IUDs. None of theirs were as painful. They started to make fun of girls who complain about it being so painful! Saying they are just weak, or have low pain tolerance. I had to butt in and tell them, that can't be the case, because my pain tolerance is very high. I accidentally got my finger cut off and made the person driving me to the hospital stop at Taco Bell on the way because I was hungry. I fell off a horse I was training once, and went jet skiing the next day. Come to find out I had fractured two vertebra when I fell off that horse... I went jet skiing WITH A BROKEN BACK. (It was a blast, but painful and dangerous, had I known I broke my back I wouldn't have gone) IUDs insertions are different case to case and body to body. Don't let anyone tell you, your pain is because you're weak!
I broke my back too by falling off a horse! I couldn't have gone skiing the next day so yes clearly you do have a high pain tolerance
that taco bell one is a whole mood tbh
My insertion process was also VERY painful! I too almost passed out and they had to remind me to breathe! It took way longer than I was told it would. And others I talked to did not think it was that painful, but mine was!!
I had to be put under general anaesthetic and take the labour-inducing pill because I couldn't dilate and the pain from using a speculum to force my cervix open was unbearable.
I don't regret my decision to get an IUD and honestly the insertion was the only bad part of my experience. But I can understand why people would hate it.
Honestly, my insertion wasn't that bad per se but I'm not going to lie that it was painful af. I remember being afraid of touching myself down there for a while because I was traumatized lol I even begged my bf to "make it stop" at one point because the cramps were so brutal
I also had a really terrible experience with an attempted IUD insertion that was horrible largely because of the way that my physician was handled things. I felt so small and stupid and dramatic and not listened to at the time (I was 17), and it is really validating to hear you reinforce the idea that women deserve to be respected and listened to as patients. My OBGYN, I later learned, did not believe me when I told her that I was a virgin with absolutely zero sexual experience (I had also never had a pap smear or pelvic exam) during consultation (so she was a lot less gentle with me), didn't give me any information about what to expect after the insertion, got angry at me when I started screaming and crying during the procedure and asked her to stop, and then told me to hurry up and make a decision because she had another appointment in 10 minutes. I was also told by the person who came with me that I needed to "grow up and get over it" because "we are women and this is just what we have to deal with." My sister-in-law just got an IUD, and I was blown away by how gentle, patient, her physician was and how much information she was given ahead of time. The knowledge that my experience was not okay and not normal actually made me feel a lot better about trying again with a different physician. I am 22 now, and I am going to try again. I am still very very nervous, but I have a better sense of how to advocate for myself, and I'm really grateful for channels like this that help educate and empower female patients to find providers who are worthy of them.
if i could i'd recommend the mirena coil over the copper one :)
I just had an IUD inserted and I had a similar process to your SIL. Other than the minor pain of the numbing injection, it was painless (they even removed a polyp at the same time!) My best advice is to find a doctor that will thoroughly explain whats, whys and hows and to 100% advocate for numbing your cervix. If they refuse, find someone else.
Ohhhhh I hate that when they don't believe you are a virgin. I didn't lose mine until I was 20, no one believed me either. Don't people realize it's actually not uncommon to even be a virgin in your 30's, 40's? In fact, people do it by choice. Asexuality is a real thing and it is on a spectrum. Some people shut down, by nature, when another person is involved-- some asexual people only masturbate, some don't like sex at all. Yet people find it so incredibly hard to believe for some reason.
People are shocked at the idea of asexuality as well as being a virgin after the age of 14, but you know what else is shocking? The amount of nasty women OBGYN who are in this field of medicine. I kid you not, every single female OBGYN has been so nasty and careless.... this was my experience in New Jersey which is a pretty progressive state so idk, I think that is more shocking to me than the amount of virgins there are. This world is so backwards.
@@glassheartsx Hi, commenter above you, also 30 y/o asexual virgin who got an IUD for health reasons. 🙋
I’m so,so sorry you were treated that way.
Dude,
Video suggestion: collaborate with Dr Mike. That would be awesome.
ive opened every door i know to make that happen...;) ball is in docta mike's court
@@MamaDoctorJones so what you're saying is we as a fanbase should start bombarding Dr. Mike with collab requests. 😉
YAAAASSSSS😍😍😍😍👌👌👌👌
So I guess it's time to flood is socials 😜
@@MamaDoctorJones well time to go to his comments LOL
Neglecting to INFORM the patient of side effects means that are not informed enough to give informed consent. How many times did I just say inform?!? 🤦🏻♀️ anyway that whole situation frustrates me,as a patient that has dealt with crummy physicians.
Not an IUD horror story. But still an IUD story:
I got my first IUD through Planned Parenthood because we didn't have insurance, couldn't pay for the pill, I'm allergic to latex (condoms out of the question), and I'm forgetful a lot so taking the pill was really not for me... Basically a lot of reasons that ended up with me deciding to do this. I had never been pregnant when I got it, either. The lady who inserted it was so awesome. She even called 2 CNAs in the room to hold my hands, it hurt so bad, she gave me a heating pad prior to the procedure which I felt was something that took a lot of the edge off. And after because I was going into shock, they put ice packs on my neck to keep me from passing out. Not only that, they supplied me with a water bottle, apple juice, string cheese, and peanut butter cheese crackers. The room I was in was right next to the nurses' station they had and I was (in a sitting chair in the room eating, not on the table during the procedure) in the periphery of the nurse there.
I had that thing in for almost 6 years. No periods and aside from the initial insertion, no pain. It was glorious. I would so do it over again.
Fast forward to 2015, my husband and I decide that we're ready to try for a baby. I had the IUD removed. We're moving from an apartment into a house. It's a new beginning for us, we're able to get pregnant but we're not yet really trying for one. March 2015, I've had 3 periods since the IUD removal, and I'm late. I wait a few extra days because mine had never really been calendar perfect. Many times in middle to high school it'd be a week early or a week late. So it wasn't new to me. Well the test was positive. (yay!) We waited to announce till after the ultrasound and we had pictures. So.... I didn't know that after having an IUD in and removed, it could potentially make your ovaries drop multiple eggs when you wouldn't (or something like that..).. basically, you're at a greater risk of having a multiples pregnancy after IUD.
SURPRISE WE HAD TWINS.
I wouldn't take it back.
Brianna Cowles I had the same shocky reaction to my first IUD. Even after explaining this reaction to my subsequent OBGYNs they still REFUSED to give me pre-placement pain medication.
Yay! Glad to hear a positive story, hope you're twins are doing well! I imagine they should be around 4 years old now.
@@malkies6341traveling with
I'm glad it all worked out for you! I just want to let you know you can definitely use condoms if you're allergic to latex, there are latex-free condoms in 3 or more different materials available! If you're in a committed monogamous relationship where you've both been tested and are willing to take the risk of your partner not cheating then this might no longer be relevant to you, but when talking about it please don't say that people with latex allergy can't use condoms. They're the only way to prevent STI transmission during penetrative sex so it's really important not to discourage anyone from using them if they're able to.
Brianna Cowles that is an absolutely beautiful story!
Also by the way, if you're allergic to latex there is a polyurethane alternative condom material designed for people with latex allergies (latex allergic people need to be safe from STIs/STDs too).
My primary doctor, OBGYN, and I are discussing specifically the Mirena IUD to help treat my heavy periods. He was honest and literally described the procedure feeling like a labor contraction. A mom of three, it gave me a point of reference. He also recommended scheduling the procedure towards the end of a menstrual cycle where I'm still bleeding a bit because the cervix is softer. This OBGYN is my primary care doctors doctor and has proven to be amazing.
But bleeding is not the end of a menstrual cycle
@@cindygrey2828 perhaps she's referring to light flow, when ur period is almost over.
My first IUD was a dream, and was placed by an amazing OBGYN. She'd also told me "So you know, it's going to take around 6 months to get your body used to this, so let's talk about what that might look like for you."
Then switching it out to my second one was a nightmare. Sadly, my awesome OB had moved. The new doc told me (despite it being clearly marked on my Well Woman questionnaire and in my chart, and having had this discussion with her immediately prior that I wanted to prevent pregnancy and control my horribly heavy periods) that my body would reset itself if I would only have children! And that it's not too late to start having babies, because look at her! She was 40 and just had her second one! And it resets your hormones! That was what she strongly recommended. I looked at her blankly and said AGAIN that I'm 100% sure I don't want children, not now, not ever, and that hasn't changed in my entire life, and that I had an IUD already that was working quite well for my life, so could we just put the next one in, please?
She wasn't happy, but she did it and... it felt different. From the first moment. To start, it didn't hurt very badly at ALL. In fact, it didn't feel any worse than the cervix scraping of a pap smear. Then it started really messing with me. I felt like crap. My periods and hormones were off the chart, I had cramps often, sex hurt, I just generally felt terrible. I had countless ovarian cysts and ultrasounds where they told me they saw the IUD. Then for a year, I started bleeding three weeks on, one week off. Backward period, basically. Over the next 4 years, I asked every single doctor and nurse I'd see if I went in for anything at ALL if there was a different dose of the Mirena, or if there was a recall on it or something, because this was very different. Unfortunately, they all brushed it off, saying "Well, you are getting older and our bodies change as we get older."
Bite me. I know my body. Something is WRONG.
I finally to see another doc (who knew my stance on childbearing and took me very seriously, but only worked once a month so I couldn't see her earlier) and asked for a referral to another OBGYN like my insurance required. She did me one better and sent me to an OBGYN specialist. My other half went with me and literally LESS THAN TEN SECONDS into the pelvic exam, the specialist says "Oh, well there's the problem right there!" He turned to my love and asked: "Do you feel the strings during sex?" Yes, he did. Always. Well, it turns out that it was placed incorrectly and the bottom of the T itself was sticking out of my cervix, and the strings were trimmed right up against it! The OB who placed it had done my WW exams during that time and not said anything, but based on how it was in my uterus, the specialist said it was clear it'd been there a long time.
We discussed it and decided to replace it during that visit while we waited for my surgery date to arrive. He did, and it hurt like the dickens! Just like the first time. It made sense! But he was great and verified with ultrasound that it was *properly* placed. And it's been a dream - despite getting older. ;)
Now it's time to have it removed, but my current OBGYN (a different one, because doctors don't stay in this town long) is also discompassionate and I'm trying to decide how to proceed. I live in a tiny, rural town that's over 2 hours from the next town with an OBGYN, so it's not easy to just go to another. Ugh. Being a girl sucks sometimes!!!
I hope it goes well for you! Sounds like a terrible time. I tried to get one a few years ago but I'm in one of those countries where we can't get an IUD without at least 2 children AND written consent of my husband (I was single at the time but it was required nonetheless) or be over the age of 35. It's freaking backwards here I tell ya
@@macybautista1301 May I ask what country it is in which you live?
Sometimes I wish the good doctors would call up the bad doctors and berate/scold/yell at them on behalf of the patient.
Oh that's such a terrible experience.. I'm sorry. If I were you I would go see the specialist again. It would be worth the travel costs in the end because you would feel better for years in the long run. 😊
God! Reading these stories make me want to restart my life as a boy. What happened to you was terrible!! Wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.
“50% of the world has had a period at some point in their life”
me, a fully developed female: I feel sorry for those people
me: oh, wait...
Lmao
Lol 😆
😂😂
Oh god, true tho 😓
@Mr. & Mrs Smith ah am awaiting the day I can get my hysterectomy
Video idea: OBGYN reacts to mean comments women have gotten from OBGYNs. You could probably make an entire series out of that alone 😂
I've had pretty awful doctors, but I've always liked my OBGYN's. My current doctor and I always talk about Led Zeppelin while she's "down there", so that's nice.
The lady who took out my nexplanon after my year of bleeding was pretty rude but all I remember her saying was,"You're such a baby. Now go get some McDonald's". A little weird I know but it's all I remember lol.
Morgan Green That’s so inappropriate and horrible. I’m so sorry you were treated that way. It’s utterly disgusting especially when someone is already vulnerable.
Yes!!
Girl I'm kinda fat but I have a specialist for that because its due to a health problem. Came to an obgyn for suspected endometriosis pain and he said "you don't seem like you're in pain." And "you need more vitamin D" and "you're overweight and killing yourself"
I agree with Mama Doctor Jones on this. The quality of an OB/GYN has nothing to do with their gender. I personally have had several, of all shapes, sizes and genders and they’ve all been wonderful
You are fortunate, but I think she may feel nervous and traumatized a bit and felt vulnerable in this process. I am grateful for videos.
Glad that has been your experience, but mine has been different.
Not all female OBGYNs have been condescending or harsh, but I have had some that have been in the way Molly described... the "I've been there, done that: it's not that bad," tone that a male OBGYN literally can't take because he has not experienced anything similar.
Yep I have had 2 obgyns, both women, one was absolutely wonderful and one was not.
@@16tangerines yes but a male doctor who can’t experience what you do can also contribute to them not empathizing
@@16tangerines I've experienced a female nurse shaming me for having symptoms that later required antibiotics because no, they didn't just 'go away on their own.' Granted I probably shouldn't have gone to the hospital but to a walk-in clinic since we probably waited longer in the hospital than we would have in the clinic while my symptoms temporarily subsided. But I was also 12 or something and yes, I looked older for my age but I was a child and to be completely dismissed even as a young girl was shocking to me. And now having volunteered in hospitals and worked in the medical field I completely understand that the nurse was probably extremely overworked and I was nothing compared to what she had seen that day but it still sticks with me that no matter how small your case might seem you need to advocate for yourself and medical professionals need to treat every individual case with compassion.
My boyfriend once said “when you were on your.. uh... time” I just laughed and said “baby you can say period it’s not a bad word” and pretty much ever since I showed him how calmly and easily we can talk about that stuff he watches your channel with me all the time he finds it all so interesting
(He’s also voiced he wants to have a daughter one day “because he never got to have a sister” and “wants her to feel comfortable going to him” and I- 🥺)
Sis he's a keeper. I'm so happy for U.❤👋🏻
Yup! Put a ring on it girl!
HE'S SUCH A KEEPER OH MYGODDDD, THAT IS SOOOO CUTE. IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND I HOPE YOU GET A DAUGHTER OR AT LEAST A VERY HEALTHY BABY.
Open minds are a beautiful thing. Agree with the other comments!
That's so beautiful 💜
sometimes i forget shes a mom to 4 young kids until she says things like banana pants
Taylor Parry moms talk like there kids often. It’s cause there around there kids a lot and there brain changes often times you’ll come across a mom that tells there co worker they used the big girl potty or stuff like that cause it’s how there use to talking to kids. If you was a mother of 4 your would too . Plus it makes the video more fun. My mom often would say because I’m mom because when I was little and being questioned my mom would ask why I did something and wouldn’t take I don’t know as a reason so I said because I’m Courtney. When kids say silly stuff often times moms adapt to those words and stuff. I am mentally delayed however because of this I’m more observant than the average person so most of my knowledge comes from me observing others a behavior I seen my whole life from every mom I ever met highlight I ever met was them adopting and saying stuff there kids would say and talking more like there kids or talking baby talk with grown women I myself have done this with my Niece and nephew and I’m sure I’ll do this with my son once he’s born. However this is info I know from my watching a lot of women in my life doing so. I’m sure not all moms do this I’m also sure some men do this as well but I don’t know my focus is on moms cause I’m a women. However I’m sure you could probably find study’s on it. Don’t take my word thought cause I don’t know the whole world of women just my handful teachers I grew up with as well has done this . I myself however believe it’s the face when your around people you tend to sink with them but I’m not positive on this one. You’ll have to talk to people who know more .
Molly, if you see this, report your doctor to the CPSO college of physicians and surgeons of Ontario
The Lovely Mel Chan if what Molly was saying was true, her doctor absolutely IS psycho. You’re telling me that her doctor saying side effects don’t exist and screaming at her in her office don’t warrant being reported? That is extremely harmful and unacceptable behavior
@The Lovely Mel Chan Sorry but being in the medical field, and having the experience of being sued all the time for no reason, this is a clear example of malpractice. If a patient comes to you with several bad symptoms and you refuse to acknowledge them and treat her, that is malpractice! So yes she should report the doctor.
The Lovely Mel Chan Based on the description we were given this doctor actually was very crazy. This is malpractice
Ha see. Good one. (I'm also mostly blind)
thanks for calling me on that one. wink
From my own experience I wish my doctor had given me a warning to the possible amount of pain since she knew I was a sexual assault victim, I know that pain is normal but I wouldn’t go through the putting in or taking out for all the money in the world. It can be wonderful for many women but hearing Molly’s horror story made me feel way less alone
My pain tolerance is very high. I’ve never had a child but was in the most pain of my life when I got mine inserted. My doctor was like, “You did great, you didn’t pass out. A lot of people do!” So when I hear both men and women brushing off the pain I get so angry. I was in terrible pain for about three days after and then it went away completely. It’s been over a year and I haven’t gotten a period since. I’m loving and happy I made that decision, but still consider not getting another because the pain was so bad.
I read this comment wrong and thought you meant you had a child inserted into you. Needless to say I was very confused.
@@Duckyletsplay Same 😆
I imagine the first time you get one inserted is the worst since your uterus had never stretched before.
I too, found the IUD insertion extremely painful. They had to open my cervix 3 times in order to get IUD in! For pain management, I was only advised to take ibuprofen an hour before.
Because of that experience, I don't want to go through it again. So I have requested a tubal ligation, and am still waiting for the consultation appointment.
I don't want any form of hormonal birth control, hence why I went with the 5 year span copper IUD. It's only been 1.5 years and it has shifted down! So even the IUD isn't good for me :(
I also felt horrible pain that day it was inserted, and after the insertion I had my menstrual cycle and mine is the worst. I bled heavily after that.
I think this really illustrates not only the need for better scientific literacy but also a better system to assure informed consent. So many people consent to medicine without really understanding what they're consenting to. I feel like this increases anxiety and bad outcomes.
Amen
Absolutely. Informed consent is seriously lacking here. I’ve had lots of issues arise from not getting informed consent with various medications and surgeries throughout my life.
I've had a terrible female ob/gyn and now I have an awesome female ob/gyn. Completely agree with you that it doesn't have to do with gender.
My last ob gyn was a female and convinced me that I have an ovarian teratoma and need to get it removed. Had an MRI and it was just an endometrioma, no need for surgery right now. She explained how teratomas have teeth in them and everything.
Well I had 3 female and they where all very rough and just not nice. Happier with my male gyn. I had an other male one who I loved! But sadly he passed away.
I was sexually abused so I've always had female providers. At 39 & after a c section, I feel like it doesn't matter as much. But yeah, a bad doc is a bad doc.
I've had crappy doctors of both genders (both PCP style and OB/GYN) and good doctors of both genders. It's just luck of the draw.
I had a female ob/gyn nurse practitioner who was downright hostile to me. The current female one I have is much better but I still asked for a second person/nurse to be in the room with me (who is male, not sure if that matters) because I was so traumatized by the first one.
I had my IUD put in last week. The doc thought I was going to pass out, and they only told me to take 2 Advil about an hour before the appointment. It was awful. I was literally screaming, I was shaking and sweating. I honestly feel somewhat traumatized from it. I want to cry just thinking of the pain.
I had a D&C last month and no one advised me how sore I would be afterwards (outside). Found out later there are OTC ointments with benzocaine that I could have used. Female OB-GYN. Looking for a new one.
Any GYN worth their salt will advise you about pain control methods. It's no big deal for some women and a very big deal for others. I've had three IUDs and each experience was different. The first was the worst. I bled heavily for over a week and was in so much pain that I cried after the procedure was done in the exam room. I also had to call a friend to drive me home.
The 3rd one wasn't a piece of cake either. My cervix didn't want to open and yes, that's about uncomfortable as it sounds.... trying to pry it open... 🤢 😖 Those two insertions were done by male general practitioners though, not a gynecologist. So, I assume they had less training and experience in that realm.
The 2nd insertion though was done by a female gynecologist and it was so much easier. I had a friend take me to that appointment because I was afraid I might not be able to drive myself home afterward. But, that one went so much more smoothly.... I would have been fine driving myself home afterward.
Subsequently, I was okay to drive myself home from the 3rd one, despite it being painful and difficult. That time didn't make me bleed afterward like the 1st time though. I think the 1st doc must have been really inexperienced, looking back.
My next IUD insertion (probably my last, as I'm 44 now) will definitely be with a gynecologist who I've pre-screened for compassion, sensitivity, experience with difficult IUD insertions (which seems to be a sub-specialty), and who offers pain control options. I hope that anyone else who reads this and is considering one will be able to do the same.
I will say though that unlike Molly, my experience with the Mirena IUD has been all positive, except for the difficult insertion process.... which for me has more to do with my own biology and my cervix being resistant to open.
For reference, I've had one pregnancy/birth nearly twenty years ago, have not had any cycles with Mirena, and had irregular cycles without the Mirena and when I had my 2nd IUD - a non-hormonal copper IUD - which didn't work well for me due to the expected side effects, which included heavier cramping for me.
Naturally, individual mileage will vary. But, I've been a big fan of no longer having to deal with menstrual bleeding and menstrual cramps with the Mirena. -- I mean, the bleeding isn't a huge issue for me, esp with a diva cup. But, I do appreciate the convenience of not worrying about it when I travel, hike, or go on long camping trips.
I also *really really* appreciate no longer having cramps and all the other menstrual symptoms. It's been a huge blessing for me personally and has made even the most difficult insertion worth it for me.
Honestly, I'll be replacing this one when it's time just for the freedom from cramps, regardless of whether or not I need it for contraception purposes.
It's called a vasovagal response from your cervix being messed with, TBH is very common when you're mucking around with a woman cervix for her to have that reaction.
I had the same reaction to my first IUD being put in, I didn't know I had that extreme reaction because the IUD was put in incorrectly but later on during my Midwifery apprenticeship, I found out through experience that mucking about with a woman's cervix can cause a vasovagal reaction!
A friend of mine passed out in the hospital lobby after getting an IUD (from pain), but she rated the experience overall "not that bad" because the doctors were very nice and talked her through it.
The pain (in any procedure) is one part of the "overall experience" but how you are treated es a human being (like, being cared for and taken seriously) is what makes all the difference.
@rando There's also the problem of some doctors underreporting side effects on purpose and telling patients their side effects got nothing to do with the IUD. Both of these factors are skewing the data
how is that acceptable??
I'm an anesthetic nurse in Australia and a lot of IUD's are put in under light to moderate sedation. Its quick and doesn't involve the risks of a general but also saves women the pain and discomfort of the procedure.
I got mine in the UK, I was told to take some painkillers beforehand but I forgot, and it was fine.
This is kind of why I wonder if she was confusing being in the OR as always a general. I do think sedation would be great for us in the US to have for IUDs if it would work for the patient.
Yes I agree
I had nothing before putting my IUD in... I mean uncomfortable but I was fine
I know from watching UK shows that women in labor are offered pain relief for a vaginal exam! Something that the US does not understand. The US is behind the times in pain management for women!
"I had lumps in my breasts, pelvic pain, dizzyness, nausea..." Had the same symptoms when I turned 31, no IUD. When I described them to my mother, former doctor, she said "Well go to the obgyn but sounds to me like you're just getting old, my dear" Thanks mom.
Lumps in the breast should *definitely* be checked out ASAP!
Was going to say - breast lumps=breast cancer. Seriously, have that checked!
@@luciesimpson6437 In my case, it's an inherited trait called fibroma. My mom and sisters have it too. Maybe it was not accurate to describe them as lumps, it was more that when I did the exploration, I could feel kind of like small grape bundles.
I wish I had YOU as a doctor! You seem so invested in your patients' well-being...which is so awesome. 🥺🥰
I think the trait you're thinking of that medical schools should be on the lookout for for good doctors it's called compassion
I'm not too sure compassion is the right thing. Compassion has too much to do with emotionally understanding another person's feelings and acting upon that. What is really needed is what that male doctor had, respect for another persons feelings, regardless of whether or not you personally resonate with them. That has to do with empathy, but many people who are terrible at being compassionate, can still manage to talk people through a procedure in a respectful manner, based on their empathetic knowledge that we all can feel differently even in the exact same situation.
@@gadnihasj you mistake compassion with empathy.
Wait, what about just being a decent human being and a decent doctor.
@@gadnihasj switch compassion and empathy. Empathy is where you act based on your emotions, compassion is where you act for the other person regardless of how you feel. You can absolutely show compassion when you lack empathy.
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My IUD sitting inside my uterus:
Are you talking about me 👁👄👁
After I got my IUD, I was resting and watching some videos on youtube. I got to a bunch of videos on the politics around reproductive rights and the scotus and my cramping got so much worse. Nice to know my IUD is also politically active. :P
(I know this was most likely because I was stressing myself with these videos and raised blood pressure can worsen side effects but I like my first explanation.)
Can't help but think of shrek "ArE yOu TaLkInG tO mE?!?!" Lol
i thought you were me omg
@@kerm2835 omg 😂😂😂😂😂 same humar i guess
Same🤦🏻♀️🤣. Just got one two weeks ago .
I'm a Counseling master's student and one of the things I would love to do is work with doctors to increase their empathy with patients and improving bedside manner. I think its soo important and can drastically change the way a patient responds to treatment and treatment options! Compassion matters, no matter what!
Yes!!! My neurosurgeon is brilliant, but has the worst bedside manner ever. When I asked about risks of surgery, he said that “the building would come down in an earthquake during surgery before you would experience a CSF leak”. I ended up having a CSF leak and was in the ICU for 8 days. The last thing you need after brain surgery is someone pushing you out the door and rushing you to get off of medications. My neurologist almost lost it on him! Care and compassion goes a long way and applaud you for trying to make a difference!
@@macdaddytheladyface6613 that's so awful, I'm so sorry you had that experience... hoping you made a full recovery and that you have better doctors in the future!
Almost all of these problems were the doctors not telling Molly things she needed to beforehand and could have been easily avoided. That's so terrible I hope she has a much better experience soon
She's so great for doing this. Not only is she taking the time to correct misconceptions, she's doing with so much respect!
Would you consider making a video about Endometriosis?
Yes please!!! I had 2 surgeries, one for the endo and one for the adhesions and scar tissue from the first surgery! There's a staggering amount of misconceptions about this condition. My specialist was one of only three doctors in my state at the time who actually performed the surgical procedure properly (excision rather than just burning away the surface tissue). For anyone looking for a ton of info, check out Nancy's Nook on Facebook. So much information.
Yes!! As well as adenomyosis, pelvic floor dysfunction, IC, and all other conditions related!!
YESS!! I have stage 4, had a hysterectomy at 25, had my gallbladder fail because of it, and also had to have an ovary removed almost 2 years after my hysterectomy because my endo was so bad still. I'm now on disability because of it.
Yes please! @MamaDoctorJones it would be greatly appreciated. It’s almost as if I am a different person for half of the month (week before and week during my period) as I’m in so much pain I want to die. I wish others understood. I’ve had 2 laps done and am almost due for another. My husband and I both have infertility (Endo, PCOS and azoospermia). We’ve been through 2 rounds of IVF (first resulting in 1 embryo which implanted but miscarried a few days later and the second we had to discard 27 eggs because they couldn’t find any mature sperm and our clinic didn’t freeze eggs). I just wish people knew more about it so I could stop getting upset because people are so insensitive.
I dont have endo but I know a few women who do and I know its WAY more common than people know, and that alot of women are suffering undiagnosed and this is something I'd love to have more media about this.
I really wish more gynecologists were as compassionate and caring as you are.
I am also a Canadian women who had IUD complications. My experience was very similar to Mollys, including the lack of consultation and discussion of side effects. I feel like our system is so overburdened there’s just not time for docs to slow down and do things properly. Like Molly, my doctor also initially refused to remove my IUD, even though I was in agony and had been for weeks. Because it was inserted by my GP they had to accept my appointment and I MADE them take it out. It took me another 3 years to see a gynaecologist so I could talk about other birth control options (I was also discouraged from hormonal contraception). A lot of people have posted that Molly could have switched docs sooner if she wasn’t getting the care she deserved. That’s not always the case here, wait lists are long and if you “refuse” care from one specialist you go to the bottom of the triage wait list and the list is years long. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful to be able to go to hospital and not worry about the cost.……but we can and should do better.
Bottom of the triage list, and apparently also the doctor who you didn't like can put a note on your file that you seem to have a personality disorder, and other doctors shouldn't listen to you. Politicians have cut funding so many times, we can't even remember what's missing. No, private pay is not the answer. Less corruption is the answer.
American republicans sear up and down that we can't have universal healthcare because you have to wait a lifetime to be seen . I'd rather that than pay for what I'll never be able to afford . But on the other hand waiting a lifetime isn't good . Listen to me talk I'm in menopause . Thank God ! Sorry folks .
I wish everyone could see this comment. I'm frankly amazed by the doctors in our healthcare system in Canada that do manage to keep their humanity when they're trying to turn over patients so quickly.
I feel like my experience over in Britain where we also have an overstretched NHS i've still generally had at the v least acceptable experiences
@Michelle-yw1lv
When Obamacare was passed my healthcare costs went up 400%-I cried.
I had a doctor actually tell me I should just get used to bleeding in extremes because I have pcos and I wasn't pregnant. After 3 months of very heavy bleeding I went to the doctor (a different doc) and after a blood test she called me at home and told me to go immediately to the hospital. I had to have a blood transfusion and a D&C. I was bleeding to death basically. I had a bad reaction from my oral birth control. If I had just listened to the first doc I may have died. Sometimes women aren't listened to from doctors just because we're women. As a woman who is considered infertile I'm listened to even less.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. That first doctors behavior and recommendations were deplorable and disgusting and doctors like that don’t deserve their medical license.
That’s disgusting...I’m so sorry
my heart goes out to you. so, so happy you found a new doc in time! always follow your gut when you know something isn’t right.
I'm sorry you are considered infertile however, I do think it's important to note that those with pcos aren't not considered infertile. I have two healthy beautiful children and have pcos. By losing weight ones reproductive abilities\chances will greatly rise, there are many medical documents to prove this. I lost nearly 90lbs and quickly became pregnant without fertility drugs or procedures.
You didn't specifically state pocs is the reason you have been told you are infertile however it read that way to me and I just wanted to be sure.others weren't confused. Also I do not know your health history however aside from having your uterus completely removed I would recommend considering a second opinion regarding infertility. Hugs and best of luck!
That is truly horrible! I'm happy you seeked other help. Sometimes we need more then one opinion.
It’s kinda interesting seeing how many women want a period every month when they go on birth control considering I basically only went on birth control so I could have less of them lol. I’m glad some women find positive feelings in their bodily functions, I always found it to be an annoying nuisance but I can still appreciate the positivity.
As someone with PMDD, my period literally makes me crazy. I can't imagine every wanting to have one. I will avoid them at all costs.
Beeing quite sexually active i kinda wanna know that i'm not pregno
I was the same way(I have an arm implant personally) and I lost my period until a year later and I had a Suicide attempt. Since then I get my period sadly.
I only want mine because I have a hormonal disorder, and I went three months without one (for no reason) which led to diagnosis. Getting mine assured me that I’m safe and my hormones are at normal/acceptable levels. I mean, I hate it, but I’d be terrified without it.
I have PCOS so my period is insanely important to me. If I don't get my period it terrifies me because I don't want to become I fertile, or get cancer.
Taking about normalizing the conversation, I said uterus one day,in college, and a man told me that word grossed him out..... UTERUS.... I laughed at him and made a point to talk about reproduction around him.
So if you mention "menstruation" instead of "those days" he will faint?..
Oh, my! 😂 Uteri are soo scary to some men... It's ridiculous how uncomfortable some become by simply talking about anatomy! About time we normalize those taboo topics! I love your reaction, talking about stuff so he overhears it. Like, dude, it's just a bodypart most women and some men have (so... almost 50 % of humanity).
YES!! Ok, one time I had to have my ovary taken out. I collect childrens books, and my friend sent me a children's book where she had changed the last page to say, "So even if we lose things [like ovaries or other body parts], we can still keep skipping on." I was a cute idea and made me laugh.
Well like a year later, I had a guy friend over (who, granted, was extremely socially awkward) and he was reading some of my kids books out loud. He got to that last page and said, "Even if we lose things, like- AAAH!!!" And we made eye contact and he said, "I forgot something in my car!" and he ran out and did not come back. I was SO surprised! And I laughed and laughed when I realized what happened. I tried to tease him about it the next time I saw him, but he changed the topic and acted like it never happened. SO weird and funny. ;'D
By the way, we were both like 27. Not in middle school!
@@jennhoff03 what's the original book?
The worst part of getting my IUD placed - and I hope this helps someone - was the expectation of pain. The actual placement was what I would describe as a “pinchy” sort of discomfort. The procedure is fast, about 5 minutes. I’m really happy with mine 3 years later but it took me 2 years and an unexpected baby to gather my courage.
Yep! I got one ten years ago, and I do not regret it in the slightest. It was uncomfortable to insert, but, like you said, that lasted about five minutes. I cramped on and off the next couple of days, and I had very heavy periods the first year. (I got paragard which is the copper one. It can cause heavy periods, but it is hormone free and that's what I wanted.)
After that first year though, my periods lightened up tremendously!
I spent a 25$ co-pay once at the age of 18 for 12 years of nonhormonal birth control which has caused zero issues. 10/10 Would do again.
However, everyone is different! I'm not saying other people would have the same experience. Talk to your doctors (and significant others if that's relevant) folks! Take care of yourself and do what is right for you!
This was my experience as well. Nothing but sympathy for everyone who has a story like Molly though.
I had three iuds with no problem, just a brief pinch. But now the last one I had hurt like hell for over 3 hours after. I was laying on the table for an hour in pain and couldn't even sit up because I was so nauseous and dizzy. I finally managed to crawl home and took max amount of pain meds the rest of the day. I'm still paranoid something went wrong since I have weird spotting every once in a while.
I also had a doctor tell me side effects don't exist when I asked about them. Then she called me paranoid and accused me of being a smoker. She also wrote me a prescription for birth control pills that I NEVER asked for. I never went back to her.
You dodged a bullet with that one. That sounds like a terrible experience all around. Hope you have a better provider now, they are out there!
I had a male GP like that. I fired him after he dismissed my severe ovarian pain and gave me a script for BC I didn't want. A cyst ruptured about a week later and I was PISSED. My doctor is great now
That's interesting mine accused me of being a smoker as well. So bizarre.
WOW. That's absolutely ridiculous!
the female doctors in my village all push you to take birth control and get iuds- i made a decision with my partner to stop taking my birth control and my gosh, the appointment after not getting another perscription was uncomfortable
When a Gynecologist says... “Period” a pun is always intended. 😂
1. I live in South Korea and I got my IUD here and they do use general anesthesia and it was a lovely experience.
2. I'm sad she's had these experiences with female doctors because all of my gynos have been female and they're all amazingly wonderful women and physicians.
I'm from the US and got the copper IUD in my early twenties never having had a baby before. I got no muscle relaxant, no laughing gas, no anesthesia (apart from local) and it was totally fine. It was uncomfortable, sure, but I find it so surprising that general anesthesia with a breathing tube and everything would be needed for such a small and quick procedure.
@@parissinclair6513 That's exactly what I thought but at the same time I wouldn't know because I had 3 kids and when they inserted the IUD I barely felt any pain. But every women's body is different and I heard stories of women passing out from the pain, so who knows🤷🏾♀️
@@parissinclair6513 I'm happy it was painless to you. But I bit of research and just watching the video(doctor Jones literally said "it's painful for almost everybody") will tell you that is not the norm. I want general anesthesia or nothing. I have painful enough period to risk it.
I'm actually considering getting inserted in SK lol
I wonder if they do it to tourists
@@sasy1533 I literally never claimed it was "painless", I said it was "uncomfortable". Uncomfortable does mean painful, just not to the extent where general anesthesia should be commonly used for it. It was probably a 5 minute procedure, and the side effects from GA can last much longer and commonly cause complications like nausea or even difficulty breathing, stroke, and other issues in more serious cases. So those 5 minutes sucked, sure and my fists were certainly clenched, but just not near to the point where I could imagine needing to be brought into an operating room, have a breathing tube, a supervising anesthesiologist, a 45 minute to hour long recovery in the hospital as you wake up, and requiring a friend or family member to be a chauffer home.
Paris Sinclair then you don't fear pain like I do. Lucky
I just wanted to put my experience out there: I have the copper IUD. Insertion post having 2 kids for me was just a slight pinch. In comparison to the other birth controls I've tried, I'd say it's been phenomenal! I haven't had good experiences on hormonal birth controls. I've always reacted badly to them with terrible mood swings, weight gain and acne. Now, my birth control isn't something I even think about most of the time. My periods are normal, I don't have the side-effects of hormonal birth controls, and insertion was a very slight pinch. I guess I just felt like putting this out there since the comment section is mostly awful experiences! I'm also very grateful to have an OBGYN who is kind and understanding and saved my life when I had pre-eclampsia. I recognize with all of these horror story comments that I am very lucky!
Thank you for this
I just got my copper IUD done yesterday and the negative comments are getting me scared
Molly had such a bad experience. From a patient’s POV - it’s so hard to advocate for yourself when you feel crappy, are scared, had bad experiences previously, don’t know what to expect, or are just trying to deal with things on your own. I’m so glad Molly found a doctor who listened to her.
My dad was a doctor, so I know a lot of medical stuff and have spent a lot of time in medical offices and hospitals, and I still have a hard time advocating for myself. People seriously underestimate how fear, pain, etc. can impact our ability to stand up for ourselves or otherwise be proactive and assertive - let alone the fear that in so doing, we will piss off the people we are relying on to help us!
I couldnt agree more this is why I take the pill and not something a doctor has to put up, I dont trust them near my private parts no more
I have had to many bad experiences
Molly: my doctor is a crackpot
Dr. Jones: yeah she’s a crockpot
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I thought that was soooo cute!! I'm happy someone else noticed
🤣🤣 I listened to this 6 million times while editing and didn’t even notice 🤣🤣
Mama Doctor Jones it’s nice to be validated after a bad experience with a medical professional.
So cute! I'm going to start calling people crockpots.... (only the people who really are tho)
I have a tender cervix, so my GYN and I decided to place my IUD in the OR instead of forcing me to endure the procedure in his office. I started to hyperventilate from the pain and this wonderful man immediately paused and asked me if I wanted to do it under anesthesia. I said yes and that was it. Everyone should have that option!!!! (if it's safe for them, of course)
I hyperventilated when mine was placed, as well, and even vomited. Worst pain I have ever experienced.
I started screaming during mine but the doctor didn’t stop she just kept going. It was over in 10-15 minutes and like I’m glad I got it but I really really wish I had the option to get more pain medication. I only got a local anesthetic and was told to take an Advil before the procedure. It was a copper iud too so it was more painful than the hormonal.
Selena N I feel you. I got mine too with no pain meds and I deadass thought I was gonna die lol. But I liked it. I had really bad period cramps. Had it for 2 years. Pregnant now and probably won’t go on birth control for a long while.
I feel you. When the lady was measuring my uterus with the rod thing It hurt so bad I started hyperventilating. They paused because I had clenched so hard they could no longer more the rod. They had to keep me calm and then they placed the iud and I was on the verge of puking from the pain the whole way home. It was the worst
You'll got local or even told to take a otc?? I was told to not even take anything beforehand.
I also had bad experiences with female OB/GYN's (being unsympathetic this pain is no big deal etc.,) and positive experiences with the male ones. You did make me think about something...that because there are more females ob/gyn's you are more likely to run into a bad one that is female. I never thought of that but that makes sense actually. I guess I had my own unfair bias as I am just expecting a female ob/gyn to be more sympathetic and it just seems worse somehow when they aren't.
The last time I went to the hospital with a kidney stone I was in so much pain I didn't even had strength to scream, I was just crying thinking I was gonna die and my doctor told me the exact same thing, "you're ready for child labor now". I didn't reacted them cause... I was dying. But I felt very uncomfortable with the comment and now it just annoys me every time I think about it
My aunt said it was worse than child birth and she has two kids. I can’t imagine that pain level! I’m not having kids so hehe I wouldn’t know. That’s just such as dumb comment like what if said patient had a miscarriage or like trauma and ugh it’s so unprofessional
I personally have never had a kidney stone, but I HAVE had an incident involving my own gynecological woes and needing something removed. Let me tell you, it doesn't hurt for me to have a PAP smear, but it did hurt a lot during said removal. Literally felt like it had to be what going into labor feels like, it was very painful and just cemented the fact I absolutely don't want to go through giving birth ever. In fact I even said something to the effect of "well if this is what labor is like, I'm out" to the OB/GYN. The entire OB/GYN team was super professional and really kind, although I did end up serving as an intern's case study because of the situation.
Same when I had 13 out of 10 pain for 6 months on and off with an undiagnosed galbladder emergency. They were like “well you’re having pain identical to labor pain so now you know what that feels like” I wanted to throw things but all I could do is rock back and forth, shaking, sweating and crying.
Haha I think "child labour" is a different thing to labour 😁
I have 7 kids, 6 vaginally 1 caesarean, and had a kidney stone a few weeks ago, all I could do was cry, I took myself to the hospital (I'm usually forced into it and discharge myself not good I know) the doctor asked me after pain stopped, wonderful drugs🤣, which one I thought was worse as she was always told kidney stones were worse, I told her I would rather have a baby!!!
"Medical's schools admissions need to prioritize whatever trait we can correlate to good bedside manner" i love that youve said that! Thank you:)
Empathy!
I have seen 4 female gynaes and after each visit has led me to complaining to the health board. The 5th gynae was male and the was the one to take my problems seriously.
Just to clear up any confusion:
Crackpot- someone addicted to crack or slang for someone who is crazy/talking s***
Crockpot- a cooking dish
I thought Molly said she is a "cracked pot".
Lol correction
crackpot ->>>> person giving crazy, invalid, misguided info /advice
Crackhead->>> person using crack cocaine
The definition of crackpot and crackhead are very different actually... Crackpot has no reference to using a drug
Genuine thanks for this. As a non-native speaker I had no idea the second definition existed and didn't catch this lol
@@amarahc4351 really? I've always been told that they were both interchangeable. Maybe that's a UK thing?
My experience with a Mirena IUD; When I was getting my Mirena (I didn't want my period) we were initially going to use laughing gas, but as soon as I got the muscle relaxant I ended up having diarrhea and throwing up so we decided to call it off and use anesthesia. It went incredibly well and the staff were incredible. I continued to have my period for around 6 months then it disappeared for around 5 months and suddenly it came back, so I went back to my OB/GYN and we checked my IUD with a vaginal ultrasound . It was fine so I we ended up trying adding hormone pills to see if it was a hormonal issue...and it was! Since taking my pills I haven't had my period for around a year. All in all I'm pleased with my IUD. Everyone will have a different experience!
I'm glad you've found a birth (&period) control solution that works for you.
What country did you get it in, if you don't mind me asking? I'm curious since in this vid that as far as she knows they don't do that in the US.
@@16tangerines I live in Sweden :)
I have had female doctors with the attitude that "You're a big girl, deal with it". Male doctors have been very gentle and helpful to me.
So I've had pretty much the same results as Molly.
Same here. THOUGH, there is a male doc I won't see again!
Same here. I have had 2 women that I liked. One male I havent liked, but he was so wishy washy and kept changing my care. I have had women who were actually banned from caring for me after i complained about how she treated me. Now i just prefer men as Ob/gyn.
Same I stopped seeing the women doctors at my in because they were annoying during my pregnancy. I continued to see the men they were way less pushy and more relaxed
Yep me too!! Men gynos seem to be more compassionate
I've actually had a mix. One male doctor made inappropriate joke to me how I probably didn't listen to his order of no sex because aparently I'm a sex bunny, another one didn't fully understand how painful and sensitive my uterus can be, most ER male doctors would look at me like i'm a child who can't handle cramps when i went in to ER due to ENDO PAIN. and only one female ER Doc who was kind and sensitive and said this is not normal. Since then I have had a good male doc and one current female doc who I've seen for 15 min so can't really say anything about her. And my specialist GYNO surgeon is the best GYNO I ever had.
My sister got pregnant with an IUD. They left the IUD inside because of risks and where it was located. She now has a beautiful healthy Baby
Happy to hear a good ending!!
Sometimes life finds a way. Glad mom and baby turned out okay.
Oh dear lord that terrifies me !! I have an IUD , literally my worst fear 😅
Awwww baby so cute!!!!! 🥰😍
so it didn't poke the baby's eye out?
I just wanted to say thank you for using TH-cam as a platform for education on reproductive health. I stumbled across one of your videos and I find every one of your videos incredibly entertaining and educational. I went to private Catholic school for my entire education and was only ever taught that abstinence was the only answer to anything. I only recall having one, one hour class on how animals reproduce and was told that if I were to have sex, I would get pregnant, no matter if contraception was used. I never learned a single thing about the female anatomy and my biology teacher - who had a baby - didn't even know that women had two openings in the vulva. I grew up without a mother, so I also never had anyone to help me when my period came along and it was a tough go. Thankfully the internet is a thing and had lots of answers. Of course, I consult my doctors for advice as I've gotten older, but I just wanted to say that I think it's great what you are doing to help educate women and young girls who are also turning to the internet like I had to when I was younger.
it is so scary, what you tell. The degree of disinformation. Thanks for educating yourself and raising awareness of this problem in America. A Biology teacher that does not... know things like that. Oh my God... It should be illegal.
I agree, periods and menstrual care should be openly discussed. I’m a cisgender male, so I cannot say anything about a menstrual experience. The closest experience I can relate to is that I had to deal with a perirectal abscess requiring surgery and treatment for sepsis.
They did not sew me up, but told me to get Kotex pads to cover the wound for post-op drainage, and that I had to go to the surgeons office to have the packing changed. I felt uncomfortable in buying the pads, in having to change them, in having them “spill over” and stain my underwear. It definitely deepened my empathy for all people who have to deal with this monthly, more than it already was.
I’ve since healed up, the infection went away, and I’m mostly back to normal. But it was at least 3-4 weeks of recovery, and having to deal with the internalized misogyny and shame surrounding menstruation when I wasn’t even menstruating was exhausting.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For saying that you cannot give out personal medical advice to someone unless you are their personal doctor. It drives me nuts when people will ask someone who doesn't know them or their medical history to tell them what's wrong with them. Happens to my sister all the time and it drives her nuts!
My biggest peeve is Mental Health Specialists. Especially when they actually give the advice- or worse, stick their nose in to diagnose without being asked.
It's so strange that someone would even ask. Even ignoring the legal/ethical issues, they are asking her to work for free! How rude.
@@ghostratsarah I'm in mental health and I absolutely agree with you. I might tell someone if they need to talk to let me know but jumping to a diagnosis , giving unwanted advice, isnt something we typically practice. Sorry that has been your experience. I've witnessed it once and the person had never even met the person they were "diagnosing.' Not professional.
@@Ash-ec5iq
Most of them are people who went through those peer counseling courses, or a psych degree. Not medical students. So like, the NAMI peer counselors.
I've never seen it from someone who had the full authority to write a diagnosis in a professional setting, only treat.
But, I see it way too often. And they really play themselves up sound like they know everything. The most common diagnosis I see is "this random person I know nothing about and have never spoke to definitely has ADHD." It's never even accurate.
And of course Tumblr. It's rampant in certain spaces of Tumblr. People who truly care about people, they get caught up in these communities and the environment. Mental Health Specialists are especially susceptible to playing doctor for kids who are too scared or too poor to see a doctor.
My uterus ate mine....it literally was fusing around my iud. I had to have it surgically removed.....terrifying.
IM sorry but I am cackling at “my uterus ate mine” HAHAHAH
Fuck I hope that doesn’t happen to me
How did you know?
It happened to my mum too.
I’ve had mine in for 12 years now. When I had my last one put in I was told “this will last five years,until you’re 50. Then we will *not* give you another as you’ll be too old to worry”
Well.... I wasn’t convinced I’d not be not be fertile so I’ve never been back to have my old Mirena coil removed, and now I’m worried that mine will have fused . I didn’t even know it actually could do that, I just had that horrible thought!
When i went to go get birth control and my doctor (OLD MAN) told me no that i could not get the IUD because i never had a child and "what if your future husband doesnt agree with this?" 🙄
Brianna Karl did you reply with “then he won’t be my husband or he better get over it”
That doesn’t even make sense. IUD’s are easily removed and need to be changed every few years anyway.
@@punkrockbenny not the copper ones. That's the one I had, when it first came out, and it turns out it's really not good unless you have had kids. My body basically rejected the IUD I was in MAJOR pain. I was doing some research and I guess it's linked to endometriosis. Only in women who haven't had children.
Zion Rowen The copper IUD is not recommended for people who have endometriosis, but the IUD itself isn’t a permanent form of birth control which was more my point. I was addressing the “future husband” part. That just doesn’t add up to me.
@@punkrockbenny Yeah no, F- that guy. He sounds like a sexist as*hole. And I don't have endometriosis, i was just reading stories about it possibly being linked to endometriosis. It took my body so long to heal from my iud. I had it in for a year and a half, and my periods we're terrible the worst I've ever had. But after my uterus basically rejected it, i asked my Obgyn wtf happened and she basically said that sometimes if it happens in women who have never had kids. Because their uterus was never expanded.
Before getting my IUD I was aware of the pain to come (because of videos and other people's experiences) . I still knew I had to (I can't afford a child right now) and it went SO smoothly! It depends on the person and the gyno's experience too. Turns out that I only had cramps that day. BEST.DECISION. EVER. I love my IUD!! 💙💙💙💙
My old dr told me that he refused to prescribe an IUD specifically because I have never had children. He flat out refused. Due to health complications with the pill and Nuva ring, he told me to abstain or use condoms. Amidst a bunch of other things, he routinely told me my pain was nothing to be worried about and to take an Advil and essentially “walk it off”. I finally got a new dr and since, I’ve found out all the things that were wrong with my lovely lady bits...
when i was talking to my GP about changing my birth control and she was saying that she definitely prefers not to prescribe IUD’s before someone has had kids mainly just because of how much they can hurt. im sorry your doctor was shitty and im glad you found a better one to teach you about your “lovely lady bits” 😂
So what was wrong??
Omg I think I would punch my doctor if he told me to walk it off
@@lovebug1180 They don't have to tell anyone that
@@marialindell9874 ???
Oh my gosh, my iud insertion as a teen hurt like mad, and my doctor brought me a warm pad and had my grandma (who had driven me) go to the pharmacy for some painkillers before I got up off the bed. Her kindness in that moment made it so much easier to deal with and eased my mind tremendously.
I had my first Mirena IUD placed at 19 (no prior pregnancies). My OB/GYN informed me about the entire process, told me about the side affects, the potential for a painful insertion, basically everything I needed to know that good doctor would do. He then sent me home with literature to make sure this was the route I wanted to go while the IUD was put on order (this was 10+ years ago in a pretty small town). I went into the insertion appointment knowing exactly what to expect, knowing the potential side effects, and being extremely firm in my decision to get it placed. The insertion hurt, more than almost anything I've experienced. I bled for about a week and a half, and then stopped having any periods (with the exception of some occasional spotting, sore breast, and moodiness). I'm on my 3rd IUD now and I wouldn't change it for the world. It's been the best choice I could have ever made (each time I've gotten it). I
think the moral of Molly's story is that you need to advocate for yourself in medical situations. If your doctor isn't listening to you, or treating you with respect, do everything you can to find another.
I don't think ob/gyns who are men are any better than women or vice versa. Some people are just bad at their jobs, it happens in every field. My orignal Ob/Gyn was a man, and I once had a doctor (woman) perform a pap smear, keep me in the stirrups, and bring in a gaggle of students so they could see my "perfect" cervix. All without my consent. But I also had a male doctor leave the room with the speculum inserted for 10 minutes, come back, quickly remove it, place it on the table and leave the room. I was in the hospital at the time and the speculum was left there for hours. But then my current doc, a woman, talked to me during my most recent pap smear, kept me distracted and laughing, but kept me informed and received consent at every step. Doctors are people. Some people are shitty. Some people are shitty at their jobs.
Pretty much all my ob/gyns have been men. It's not bc I've chosen so, it just happened because, for example, during my university years uni healthcare only had male ob/gyns and as a poor student I could not afford to go to the private one. I could have gone to the public healthcare and gotten a woman, true, but that takes a long time and back then didn't care whether the doctor is male or female.
Nowadays I have a slight preference towards male ob/gyns, but that's just bc it feels a bit more natural for me to have a man poking my private parts than a woman. But this is only a very slight preference so I always end up just taking whichever doctor is offered to me, man or woman. All ob/gyns that I've been to have done their jobs well and professionally so I've got absolutely zero complaints. Yay for our universal health care!
I also have an IUD although I have the copper one, not the one releasing hormones. Getting it did hurt but I dunno, it wasn't anything too bad. And the doctor was a good one, he explained everything about the thing, side effects, and procedures, I was sent home to ponder which one I would rather have, copper or hormonal one, and only after having decided AND the timing being right, did the actual insertion happen. And absolutely no laughing gas or anything, so obviously Finland isn't one of those countries.
My first periods with the things were pretty awful especially since I was used to almost no pain and only a little bit of bleeding. But it had been made clear to me that with a copper IUD the bleeding is much more abundant and period pain can be very notable. So I just gritted my teeth and carried on. Luckily, 2 years from insertion the pain has almost disappeared. I still bleed way more than I used to before the insertion but what'cha gonna do, that's what happens when you get the copper one.
I had to take any left over obgyn as i was new in town and pregnant. Only one had time for me. A Woman.
All check UPS hurt a Lot! I thought this is just normal as i am pregnant, so i just accepted it. But than my midwife asked if she can have a look. It didnt hurt at all. Few weeks Later doc checks and it is painful again same day check with midwife, all comfortabe. Thats when i realised my midwife used Lube. Asked my dr. To use some too, got told pregnant Girls are so wet anyway there is no Lube needed.
Thanks doc. Good you studied my Body for me as i clearly Cant know whether something hurts me w/o degree...
The Dog-Eared Edition I want so badly to like my OB but....I feel so violated.....
@@annaniskanen2557 I had mine inserted in the US. They were supposed to prescribe me a strong painkiller but forgot to. I decided to get it inserted anyways since I have a high pain tolerance. It hurt pretty bad but I didn't flinch or scream or anything, was just really dizzy afterwards. In the end, I got it removed because I was having AWFUL symptoms.
I had my IUD placed under anesthetic due to my extreme anxiety. There was just no way anyone was getting close enough to me to do such a thing while I was awake. Too much anxiety combined with a severe dislike of people touching me would have sent me into a breakdown. And when I weighed the options and talked with the doctor, we decided the anesthetic was the best route. We also talked that IUD was the best route for birth control for me, as I struggle with remembering things so couldn't count on the effectiveness of the pill but needed something to help with how irregular, heavy, and painful my periods were. Like take me out of work for at least a day or two kind of bad periods. And honestly, the anesthetic was the best decision ever. Short procedure and they were also able to do all the testing they wanted to do at the same time. I have never regretted it since.
36 MINUTE VIDEO FROM MAMA DOCTOR JONES??? WE'VE BEEN BLESSED💖
LOL. ily. thank you.
“I can’t give you medical advice unless I’m your doctor”
PLEASE BE MY DOCTOR 😭❤️
I'm on my third mirena coil, i have zero side effects (apart from no periods but that is more a bonus than a side effect in my opinion lol). Just wanted to share that because like Dr Jones said, if you google mirena you only find people complain about it. That is because people who are happy with their mirena have no reason to go to a forum.
Random question how long did it take for periods to stop? I have a mirena iud and I am just wondering... I have my periods less frequently. I honestly really do like it. Sorry if this is personal, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
I've had in mine since 2018. My period hasn't stopped although it's gotten way less. I hear people say it was painful to put in but for me I felt no pain at all. This was surprising cause I was prepared for the pain. I'm waiting for my period to completely stop cause that's why I chose this particular one.
Wild Fire Farm hey I saw your question and noticed you didn’t get a response but I guess I can add my experience (I’ve had an iud for around two years now) my periods stopped/ got incredibly lighter after 4 months of having it inserted. I do still have very light periods, think something similar to spotting with little to no cramps which is a complete turn around from my original period. I hope this answer helps, but do remember that everyone’s body is different so your time may vary :)
@@b33s1nmyh34d you're so right, everybody will have differing results. I was one of the lucky ones whose periods stopped outright after a couple of months.
On Mirena here as well! It works super well for me! Have no periods and super happy! I recommend ☺️
My brother and sister-in-law got pregnant with an IUD baby. Their fifth. The IUD had migrated into the uterus and it was decided that because of its placement next to the fetus it would most likely terminate the pregnancy if they attempted to remove it. They decided to see how it played out and my nephew was born with the IUD completely encapsulated in his placenta.
Sucks that the IUD migrated and failed but the detail about it being in the placenta is kind of fascinating
There was a student in my medical school class who had literally failed every nonsurgical contraceptive including IUDs. (This was before Mirena) she got pregnant in medical school on the pill + barrier. (I don’t remember if it was diaphragm or condom).
I got pregnant with my son on the IUD! Thankfully he’s here, alive and healthy and I had an easy pregnancy. I was 19 years old when I got pregnant! He’s 3 now and his name is Kingdom💙💙
Omg if you had a daughter and named her Royalty !!
Jazmyn Lawyer it is definitely on the list for next time 💜💜💜
i love that name so sweet
Mackenzie Tilotta thank you! I thought it was perfect for him lol
Omg I’m happy for you but this made me scared. I have an IUD since I was 18 and I’m now 20. I think I might have some sort of trauma because of men being sexist against me and surrounding women in my life. This causing me to literally get as disgusted by pregnancy, and the thought of babies, like normal people would get disgusted by popping cysts full of puss (and that’s not even counting in the birth itself!) I really hope this doesn’t happen to me
I’ve never had a female gyno and I can tell you there are equally bad male Gyno’s as females. I do have a female urogynecologist and she is amazing and wonderful. She has to stick a catheter in me every 6 weeks to treat my interstitial cystitis and she is super gentle and always goes slow with me, even though I’ve been getting these treatments for years. She is also very reassuring and constantly tells me, throughout, how good I’m doing and how impressed she is with my strength.
I'm so glad you addressed the gender issue. I've had both a male and female OBGYN with terrible bedside manners and being so rude and cold. It's a person to person basis not a gender thing
Like I said it's a person to person thing. You unfortunately haven't came in contact with the right doctors I have found more rude male obgyns then females but I have also had a few that were great. We can't keep pushing the problem off to "oh they are female so I refuse to be seen by them"... instead judge them by professionalism and not gender or race.
Who said ANYTHING about legality??? You are freaking crazy... all I'm saying is you are grouping all female doctors in 1 category and all males doctors in another. As if all male doctors are the same and all females are the same.... no one said ANYTHING about legality learn to read before blowing up something so freaking minor. Personally I think its discrimination to judge someone on their gender and not their medical training.... 🤷♀️
I really appreciate this video. I have only seen an OB-GYN once. It was for my first exam. I was still a virgin at the time, and the doctor treated me like a piece of meat. I left her office feeling completely traumatized and violated. It took me twelve years to have another exam. That one was done by a very compassionate physician’s assistant who treated me much the way Molly’s male doctor did. Unfortunately, I was left with a lingering fear of medical situations, even though I have a background in public health and social work.
around 28:25 i think you’re referring to confirmation bias + how people who are unhappy give more feedback than happy people, so it is easier to find negative information about lots of things
That said, a lot of people don't actually talk to their doctors when there are negative side effects or complications. They go into "good patient mode" and give benefit of the doubt for longer than they probably should before bringing up issues, if they bring them up at all. I think the (after market) stats for these things lie somewhere between what was reported in the clinical trials (and what's reported to care providers) and what it appears to be in forums.
But also, if so many people are having those problems, maybe there is just a problem. It's awesome that some people do really well on one thing but there will still be a number of people who don't or have bad experiences. Those people are important too and could possibly be canaries in a coalmine for certain things. That said I love your video and I think these discussions are important.
I really liked this video. I watched Molly's video before watching this and (although I'm not a doctor) knew some of the things she said were not entirely true. You did a great job addressing those errors in a respectful and informative way.
My uterus just spat out my IUD's. Like all 4 times. I gave up on IUD's and now have an inplant, at least I know my arm won't spit it out 😂
Same only once. Lol it wouldn't stay
Yep, painful. Went back to natural family planning...
beckm1t How long did it take? Did it happen soon after insertion?
beckm1t six weeks
Sadly the implant didn't suit me at all. Anything progesterone based doesn't suit me and I just keep bleeding constantly and become a psychotic maniac.
I live in Australia and had both my IUDs put in with 'twilight sedation' (propofol/fentanyl/midazolam) in a procedure room and I would 100% recommend both times it went smoothly. Both times were in a women's health clinic that provided a variety of services from family planning to gynaecological day surgery procedures. It's a great clinic.
We don’t have that option in the United States. I really need the iud to help treat chronic pelvic pain & heavy bleeding… but I’ve had enough medical trauma for several lifetimes and I’m scared. Australia has so many good resources for women with endometriosis, the comparison to the United States with virtually zero resources (unless maybe you’re in a large wealthy city like New York or Los Angeles) means millions of women suffer and get subpar care. I’d get it in a heartbeat if twilight sedation were offered. You’re very lucky to have that option.
@@memyselfi2005 there are places that offer twilight sedition for the implantation of IUDs ots just not as common here
@@memyselfi2005 I'm a VA patient in the US and had a cervical scrape/biopsy with no medication. I was shaking, sweating, and screaming. They said that I could have twilight anesthesia next time. They mentioned my SA history, as if that's why it hurt. I just have a low pain tolerance 🤷♀️ but docs think everything is psychological. This happened as a hospital where anesthesia is accessible. Maybe if you went to a hospital and not an outpatient office, it would be an option.
I love how if you don't fully agree with something you're still super polite and do a really good job explaining in simple terms why you disagree. It makes for such wholesome react videos instead of just being all "I'm a doctor. I'm right so move on" like I've seen other people do
Love the way you discussed how she spoke poorly of female doctors. It really rubbed me the wrong way and I couldn't put it into words. You're the best
I also think that because male doctors haven't experienced what their female patient is going through, a lot of the time they can think we're overreacting, don't know what we're talking about, or simply just won't listen to us when we say we're in pain. Obviously this is not all male doctors, and like Molly said some female doctors can also ignore their patient's feelings. But I find more often than not male doctors can't relate to my issues and therefore give me unhelpful solutions.
I only see male doctors, every female dr I have ever seen hasn't taken me seriously. I had pain in my breast and my female dr didn't do anything about it. My male dr had me go to a specialist and thankfully it was benign! There are bad doctors in each sex. She can speak poorly of women drs like myself if we've had bad experiences. Just like if i was to have bad experiences with male drs I would do the same.
I've had a poor sampling of female OBGYNs, I've had a poor experience with male OBGYNS. It really does have to do with the Dr. But that being said, my experience with the female make me a little more hesitant to see a female again. But it could just be that ny personality didn't mesh.
That being said, I'd move to Texas so MDJ could be my Dr! Love her!
I've been to two female OBGYNs and one male. The first female was horrible and I swore I never wanted to go to another female again, so I changed to a man, who was pretty cool. Since then I have moved town so I needed a new one and there are only female doctors around me, so I was forced to went to a female doctor. She is the sweetest person on earth and always makes me feel super comfortable!
So yes never judge a whole group of people based on one or two bad experiences!
I love the way you're clarifying and educating without being condescending towards Molly or other medical staff. Thank you for the amazing info!
No matter what the subject, if you go looking for horror stories on the internet, you'll be sure to find them.
The girl's story was horrific, but watching your genuine reaction to the sh*tty treatment shows you're a wonderful doctor and exactly the type of doc I bet we all wish we had! 😁
My iud placement and recovery was incredibly painful but my gyno was so compassionate and understanding! The nurse even held my hand
Briana Kelley Same! The nurse held my hand and asked if I needed juice or crackers. They let me rest until I felt ready to go. I don’t think I appreciated how nice that was until I saw Molly’s video.
@@average13 Yes me too! I sat there for like half an hour because they said take as long as you need. 😊
Me too I thought I was going to puke
But they just watched me and I just got up and left .. not as much compassion
I just had mine replaced today at a clinic for public patients ( meaning we have a senior doctor do the procedure not the Consultant). I have had vasovagal responses every time something is done with my cervix. Today was no exception🤦🏻♀️ As a nurse myself, I understand the physiological triggers but emotionally I feel like a complete wimp. The doctor and nurse were great; cool cloths, fanning me, monitoring my blood pressure and letting me get my act together. Bedside manner is really important.
@@naomipask9956 giiiirl, I feel you! I get that everytime I have blood done(and I bad/deep/tiny veins so it normally takes a few goes). I love when medical staff are understanding of this and don't just treat you like a 'baby' or that you're being 'dramatic'. Edit to add: my name is also Naomi 😄
I love how this doctor uses inclusive language. Refreshing.
Inclusive language is accurate language, which is imperative in science, especially medicine
Would you explain how does inclusive language works in English?
Also its refreshing how she doesnt discredit peoples stories or try to shame them and how she just explains things in a really respectful and understandable way
@@Matamyherrera Many Ob/Gyns use language like "female" "woman" and "she" when referring to people, even for generic information.
Dr. Jones doesn't use terms like that which means people who are not women are included. She would say something like "a person who has not been pregnant might find getting an IUD more painful" instead of "a woman who has not been pregnant might find getting an IUD more painful"
@@greymcgowan7459 thanks 💕 I really didn’t get it but your comment was very helpful. Imma try inclusivity on a daily basis
I've moved to seattle now for 3 years and i'm still going to a new OB every single year for my annual exam because I havent found one that I felt comfortable with. They all were very dismissive of my concerns. I really hope every medical student are required to pass a pysc/commpassionate exam during the board certification.
In the movie 'the doctor' a dismissive Dr with a bad bedside manner actually gets sick. The joy at the end where he makes the interns have procedures that they will likely recommend to patients is worth the watch.
I got an IUD 2 years ago, and I’ve never had children before. It was not painful at all for me, I literally just felt a tiny pinch! I was terrified because of all of these videos though 😫😫 I’m so sorry some of you guys go through this 😢
It was the same for me. I only had Ibuprofen before going and I wasn't on my period. I've never been pregnant. It was quick and not painful. Hope it's like this for the majority!
I think it has to do with other issues there as well.
I’ve noticed a common theme, women who experience pain during sex and heavy-long periods all seem to have more cervical pain. There’s most likely inflammation
Also our cervix/cervical hole are different sizes.
You could’ve also had a decent doctor who numbed your cervix. For some reason they don’t all do that, even though it has nerves 😬
@@miad6160 I think it's because a lot of the pain people experience come from the uterus contracting and cramping. Numbing the cervix wouldn't fix it.
@@catinabox3048 some people might say the most painful part is not the uterus cramps, but the tenaculum piercing the cervix so numbing does help with that part, I got numbing and I can't compare it since it's the only time I got an IUD, but I 100% believe this should be given to all women
The doctor who placed my IUD was an angel! She walked were through every step and I knew what was coming next, so also made it very clear that it was all on my terms. It was a wonderful experience and I’m very grateful for that because I know some women haven’t been that lucky!
Funnily enough, my gyno asked if I wanted to hear what she was doing and I took the option to not hear it! She only talked to let me know to be very still at one particular time and when she was done. It was a very easy insertion process for me, only needed 1 OTC painkiller that evening. (And I do not have a high pain tolerance)
Same for me! My IUD has been an amazing experience. Like I get that I am in an extreme rarity, but for me the uterine sound was the worst part (I didn't feel the "pinch" of it opening) and also I have a copper IUD and my period didn't change except for my cramps not being as painful. The nurse practitioner I see called me a unicorn.
My only complaint was that the air conditioner grate above me (I like to count the squares in the grate to distract myself) was the slightest bit out of view when I was in the best position to keep deep breathing through the insertion.
I really appreciate how kind you are through this. You’re dispelling the myths and misconceptions without blaming her (or others) for having them. Your channel is so valuable
I think a lesson everyone should keep in mind is that everyone experiences things differently, something easy to deal with to you could be detrimental for someone else! Always be kind, you never know what people are going through or have gone through. Good healthcare providers and anyone who works with people should be kind and compassionate.
I like that you called the family doctor a crockpot instead of a crackpot lol.
Obviously, their MD is better for slow cooking than diagnosis, so... crockpot is correct.
martha k I’m pretty sure she said crackpot
martha k but crockpot would have been better
I thought that just meant that they are full of it, like a crock of shit. I'm sure I've heard that expression before.
I heard "crockpot" too. Maybe cause Dr. No Side FX is a little slow... 😂
Please do a video on menopause. Average age, symptoms, physical and mental changes, etc.
@@calliecalay2101 I hope so. Good luck to us.
Also chemical induced menopause!!
Yeah and why so many women want to keep it from happening with hormones. As a 20 yo it sounds crazy to me.
I also wanted to hit puberty earlier but just dealt with it like everybody does instead of taking hormones
Yes! This is something briefly mentioned in sex ed and never really talked about. My sister thought she was pregnant but was starting menopause.
Also please address the differences between natural menopause and surgical menopause and whether that can equate to a difference in how HRT is used.
I'm trans so i tend to stay away from the OBGYN for obvious reasons (ive yet to have an appointment where my proper name or pronouns are used) but honestly watching your channel has helped me kind of warm up to the idea of getting my issues better under control and correcting my OBGYN/having a bit more hope while looking to switch! (not super relevant to this particular video but love your channel! gig em!)
Sylvester S I hope you have peace♥️
being on YT has challenged me to work towards using inclusive pronouns (I'm not perfect, but I do try to make strides in the right direction) AND to recognize the major healthcare barrier that is in existence for those in the trans community. your voice here matters. i am trying to help. thank you.
I get it, you just need to find someome whos inclusive.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what you need in a doctor and doctors office without issues of correcting them all the time.
As long as we dont see trans women going in for pregnancy tests and the doctors telling them they are pregnant when they could actually have cancer. Because weve seen that and it's horrible. But yes, I dont feel anyone should be made to feel bad about who they are. We are all different and we all have different needs.
I wanted an IUD a couple years ago, but my OBGYN guided me away from it for the fact the my vaginal canal is actually at a really weird angle. He was VERY up front with the fact that he did not believe he would be able to place it in a safe and pain free area. Thank god I listen to him!! Love him so much! #DrGreve