I want you to know how much I am drawn to your channel and it's like you're taking all these words right out of my mouth. You've been helping me try to put my own words together to break down the same shit. I'm 41 so I can say that I've got some definite wisdom at this point but I want to explain how it happened. You're helping a lot.
I rarely leave any comments on here, but I wanted to say that this video has really shifted some perspectives I had, and right on time, since it's the new year (not that we have to wait for a new year to start to make the changes we want). My bestfriend and I share your content all the time, in fact we both have a small notebook where we keep notes and reflect on what you so kindly and brilliantly have shared with us. I
This is *so* incredibly rewarding to hear. I screenshotted this comment and put it where I'll see it regularly. I'm so glad my content is helping you and your best friend. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I'm so glad you're both here
"This might be a nice video to help me start thinking." Then I realized you were talking directly to me and every point hit home. This was so nice to find in my recommended and I am so glad I stopped to watch. I have suffered with Perfectionism my entire life and now, at 35, I finally realized I have to make a change. Thanks for all your hard work and I hope your foot heals quickly!
My goal is to consistently incorporate the gym into my weekly routine. I’ve been on a health journey for almost a year now. And I have a FEAR of the gym due to my perfectionism. Because I am scared of dedicating time and not seeing results, or falling off. Like you said the fear of even starting because I feel like I’ll fail. This video has been so valuable and eye opening thank you!
I’m working on being a more full time artist and I got a part time job in a craft market at the mall and I’m very excited to start. I have a full time desk job and it’s rough but I’m doing my best to balance so I can do what I want to full time! ❤
Thank you so much! ❤ I am trying to find like-minded crafty people through my channel and I learned that being authentic, rather than perfect, is best for my channel and my mental health. My mantra for 2025 is "think and do"
Love this! TH-cam has been recommending you to me for over a week and now I know why 😃 You speak my mind on most things, especially comparing my home to those we see online. I’m actually good at cleaning and being tidy but I don’t like the whole “white minimalist” style. I’m beginning to accept things as they are now and I thinking i’m gradually winning my battle against perfectionism. Thanks for this video. New subscriber here 👋🏾💯
This really helped me put things into perspective. "I have that information, but it doesn't mean it has to be at that caliber for people to get value from this video", really struck a cord for me because it's totally better putting it out there with a less than ideal quality than not at all. Thank you for sharing!!
After watching loads of videos on perfectionism, this video was the one that actually resonated with me. I feel more educated on how to deal with my perfectionism and motivated, thank you for sharing this insight!
You and your videos have been a game changer for my heart and brain. Thank you so much! I definitely got value from this video. You clearly explained how to move past perfectionism, and it almost made me cry because I've been needing that info for so long/ever. ❤
Your self improvement videos are the best I have found, I swear you have the exact struggles that I have. The point about how mistakes can sometimes lead to a better outcome, and how we shouldn't worry about them so much, was very powerful! This is exactly what I needed. Thank you
My New Year's resolution is to be more consistent and show up for myself. For years I’ve been in a mental paralysis. I didn’t feel like I was good enough to achieve the life I wanted, so I didn’t even try. But I’ll be 30 this year and I don’t want to continue living my life in stagnation. I started working on this in late October. I wanted to get a handle on my anxiety, so I started meditating everyday. Even on the days when my chronic illness rears its ugly head, I meditate. It looks different everyday, sometimes I can do 30 mins and sometimes it’s just 1 min of intentional breathing, but I’ve been trying. Currently I’m on a 23 day streak, and I already see improvements. With a calmer and clearer mind I’ve been able to work on other aspects of my life as well 😊
Thank you for your share and the validation it gave me. What you said really hit my heart centre, rang true for my experience and along with this video has planted a seed of growth. I will take your 23 day streak as awesome inspiration to show up for myself. All the best on your personal journey. 😊🌱
@ Aw thank you so much! I’m happy to hear that my story resonated with you, I truly hope that seed blooms and you blossom into the person that you want to become. Love and light to you 😊
Hi Charlotte, just wanted to let you know that you are my comfort creator. Whenever I'm sad, I search your name and re-watch your videos. I always feel so much better and clearer after hearing you. I want you to know how much I appreciate that - thank you for existing :)
i only just found your channel today and have watched two videos, but you have already impacted my day so deeply. i absolutely love the way you format and edit your videos. very straight to the point while being light and easy to digest. at first, i thought you were a licensed professional because of the way you speak and the information you provide. you’re helping so many people. thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I just want to say thank you for making these videos, it feels like I’m getting a pep talk from a friend, as my life currently is crumbling to pieces. Your videos resonate with me and appear on my recommended page whenever i need reminders of my own self worth, and regaining myself again. Thank you again, it feels comforting to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way
I love you to death! I love your heart. I love the way you speak. I love your beautiful intentions creating this channel. Happy new year. Thank you so much!
this video had massive value!! i spent so long in my head about academic achievement and trying to get started on assignments (as a masters student)... not realising that what i had was covert perfectionist tendencies. i now know how to move forward and understand the cycle, thanks to your insight ☀
Literally cannot wait until you're working through the exercise stuff. Want to hear your approach. I ALSO saw it as punishment. I'm teaching myself - so difficult - to embrace movement from a self-love place.
Haha I feel like I’m getting close! Half of my New Year’s resolutions are so variation of “walk again after surgery” 😅 so we’re going to have to face the music in the coming weeks and months. I’ll try to keep a track of my thoughts for a video ❤️ and I’ll just moderate the comments heavily bc like I said ppl lose their damn minds talking about this stuff 🤪
Re : how the video looks / editing. I rarely actively watch yt videos like this. Ive listened to this whole video while i was getting ready for the day. The first ive looked at the screen was to write this comment.
Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you’re feeling really discouraged, and that’s a difficult place to be. Letting go of perfectionism can be challenging because frequently it feels like the thing that holds everything together. But it’s important to remember that letting go of perfectionism doesn’t mean giving up on yourself or your goals… it means allowing yourself room to learn, grow, and be human. When we’re overly perfectionistic, our self-worth often becomes tied to the outcome of what we do. Letting go of that can feel disorienting at first, like losing a safety net. It might even lead to setbacks, which are a natural part of growth, not a sign of failure. Sometimes, the key isn’t to completely let go but to redefine success. Instead of aiming for "perfect," try aiming for progress. What would it look like to celebrate small wins or to recognize effort, even if the result isn’t perfect? You were able to comment on a video today. You did something right. You're engaging with content to hopefully make yourself better. You're doing that right. You can do a lot of things right, but you're probably taking all those little things for granted. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to ask for help. Sometimes working with a therapist or coach can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and find new ways to move forward. Be gentle with yourself-you deserve grace and patience just like anyone else. Please check out my video on self-compassion. It pains me to see you being so hard on yourself.
Obviously, take this with a grain of salt since I don't know you, but perhaps you might want to consider how you define success and failure. I fail at 100% of the things I don't authentically want to do because if I don't have an intrinsic desire to do it, it's not important to me and therefore I will never find it important enough to devote the time and resources necessary to accomplish something I don't want to do. One of the biggest perception shifts I had was when it clicked that the reason I could never get around to putting up a profile on a dating app is because I don't actually want to date anyone. I don't stick to long-term weight loss goals because I don't actually care what size I am. I was trying to date, to lose weight to meet standards society, my parents, my unconscious assumptions thought were important but I didn't. Once I got clear about what actually IS important (community, not partnership, flexibility and vitality, not weight loss etc) then I could work towards goals I DO care about and not only do I make forward progress, because it's an authentic desire, when I do inevitably miss the mark or fall off the wagon, I intrinsically want to get back to it because it's a genuine desire, not a task motivated by the thought of my inadequacy which makes me want to avoid life and doom scroll. I wonder if reframing your expectations of yourself in this way - which is a process, it takes some introspection and journaling and time to suss out - might circumvent this perfection loop you find yourself in. No matter what, I sympathize and wish you relief.
Minimal viable product is a huge shift for me! I have a business idea that is huge and overwhelming, but I am very excited about. This idea is really helpful in moving the goalposts so I feel ready to move forward now, not once everything is decided. Another great video, so sorry about your foot. No weight bearing is soooooo difficult! I used to work in ortho, that's a challenge and it really does affect your healing. Good luck and thanks for sharing!
Minimum viable product is such a game changer! And thank you! I’ve been putting off the surgery for years and it was way overdue so I’m just trying to give myself grace and extra time to do even simple things like brush my teeth haha
@charlottemorabito I'm on the mistakes part of your video and just realized I left this comment in a thread instead of a new comment - very on point LOL Yeah, that's tough. The thing I realized in ortho is that we fully do not appreciate how our whole body is affected when one part is off. Ankles and shoulders stop you in your tracks - the struggle is real when you live in a world made for bipedal able bodied organisms and you no longer are. The mental effort of strategizing how to function while injured is almost as bad as the actual injury. And then when when you can walk on it again, your proprioception (how you guage your body in physical space) will be off and you'll have to reconnect your brain to your newly healed body part. It is A LOT of work to recover from being injured. Thank you for sharing while you are, do take care of yourself and be very kind and compassionate as you struggle. You are doing so very much right now. ❤️
What do you want to get done in the first quarter of 2025! We're going to crush it 💪
I want you to know how much I am drawn to your channel and it's like you're taking all these words right out of my mouth. You've been helping me try to put my own words together to break down the same shit. I'm 41 so I can say that I've got some definite wisdom at this point but I want to explain how it happened. You're helping a lot.
I’m so glad! Being able to verbalize our thoughts, feelings and experiences is so hard but definitely a skill we can all flex and grow
I rarely leave any comments on here, but I wanted to say that this video has really shifted some perspectives I had, and right on time, since it's the new year (not that we have to wait for a new year to start to make the changes we want). My bestfriend and I share your content all the time, in fact we both have a small notebook where we keep notes and reflect on what you so kindly and brilliantly have shared with us. I
This is *so* incredibly rewarding to hear. I screenshotted this comment and put it where I'll see it regularly. I'm so glad my content is helping you and your best friend. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I'm so glad you're both here
"This might be a nice video to help me start thinking."
Then I realized you were talking directly to me and every point hit home.
This was so nice to find in my recommended and I am so glad I stopped to watch. I have suffered with Perfectionism my entire life and now, at 35, I finally realized I have to make a change. Thanks for all your hard work and I hope your foot heals quickly!
Exactly what I needed to hear. Every single word! Thank you so much for this video
You are so welcome! I’m so glad it was helpful ❤️
My goal is to consistently incorporate the gym into my weekly routine. I’ve been on a health journey for almost a year now. And I have a FEAR of the gym due to my perfectionism. Because I am scared of dedicating time and not seeing results, or falling off. Like you said the fear of even starting because I feel like I’ll fail. This video has been so valuable and eye opening thank you!
Thank you for sharing! So many of us self sabotage because we’re afraid of failure 😣 we have to fight the fear. You got this 💪🏻
I’m working on being a more full time artist and I got a part time job in a craft market at the mall and I’m very excited to start. I have a full time desk job and it’s rough but I’m doing my best to balance so I can do what I want to full time! ❤
Thank you so much! ❤ I am trying to find like-minded crafty people through my channel and I learned that being authentic, rather than perfect, is best for my channel and my mental health.
My mantra for 2025 is "think and do"
Love this! TH-cam has been recommending you to me for over a week and now I know why 😃
You speak my mind on most things, especially comparing my home to those we see online. I’m actually good at cleaning and being tidy but I don’t like the whole “white minimalist” style. I’m beginning to accept things as they are now and I thinking i’m gradually winning my battle against perfectionism.
Thanks for this video. New subscriber here 👋🏾💯
This really helped me put things into perspective. "I have that information, but it doesn't mean it has to be at that caliber for people to get value from this video", really struck a cord for me because it's totally better putting it out there with a less than ideal quality than not at all. Thank you for sharing!!
My frizzy hair and sinister lighting would agree haha I’m so glad it helped ❤️
After watching loads of videos on perfectionism, this video was the one that actually resonated with me. I feel more educated on how to deal with my perfectionism and motivated, thank you for sharing this insight!
You and your videos have been a game changer for my heart and brain. Thank you so much! I definitely got value from this video. You clearly explained how to move past perfectionism, and it almost made me cry because I've been needing that info for so long/ever. ❤
Your self improvement videos are the best I have found, I swear you have the exact struggles that I have. The point about how mistakes can sometimes lead to a better outcome, and how we shouldn't worry about them so much, was very powerful! This is exactly what I needed. Thank you
gold as always - thanks Char, hope you’re recovering well x
My New Year's resolution is to be more consistent and show up for myself. For years I’ve been in a mental paralysis. I didn’t feel like I was good enough to achieve the life I wanted, so I didn’t even try. But I’ll be 30 this year and I don’t want to continue living my life in stagnation.
I started working on this in late October. I wanted to get a handle on my anxiety, so I started meditating everyday. Even on the days when my chronic illness rears its ugly head, I meditate. It looks different everyday, sometimes I can do 30 mins and sometimes it’s just 1 min of intentional breathing, but I’ve been trying. Currently I’m on a 23 day streak, and I already see improvements. With a calmer and clearer mind I’ve been able to work on other aspects of my life as well 😊
Thank you for your share and the validation it gave me. What you said really hit my heart centre, rang true for my experience and along with this video has planted a seed of growth. I will take your 23 day streak as awesome inspiration to show up for myself. All the best on your personal journey. 😊🌱
@ Aw thank you so much! I’m happy to hear that my story resonated with you, I truly hope that seed blooms and you blossom into the person that you want to become. Love and light to you 😊
@@ALazyBatYou're so kind. I wish the same for you.
Hi Charlotte, just wanted to let you know that you are my comfort creator. Whenever I'm sad, I search your name and re-watch your videos. I always feel so much better and clearer after hearing you. I want you to know how much I appreciate that - thank you for existing :)
i only just found your channel today and have watched two videos, but you have already impacted my day so deeply. i absolutely love the way you format and edit your videos. very straight to the point while being light and easy to digest. at first, i thought you were a licensed professional because of the way you speak and the information you provide. you’re helping so many people. thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I just want to say thank you for making these videos, it feels like I’m getting a pep talk from a friend, as my life currently is crumbling to pieces. Your videos resonate with me and appear on my recommended page whenever i need reminders of my own self worth, and regaining myself again. Thank you again, it feels comforting to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way
I’m so glad! Thank you for sharing. A stern but compassionate pep talk is the exact vibe I’m going for ❤️
Really excited to have found your channel tonight. I’ve watched three vids now, and I needed all of them.
Amazing! I'm so glad we found each other ❤
Solid video and i really enjoy the mood your putting across here. Sometimes doing is the most important thing!
I love your wisdom!!! And thank u for uploading !!
i have been struggling with perfectionism for YEARSSS, hopefully i can make some progress this year ❤
I love you to death! I love your heart. I love the way you speak. I love your beautiful intentions creating this channel. Happy new year. Thank you so much!
You’re so incredibly sweet. Thank you so much. Happy New Year!
this video had massive value!! i spent so long in my head about academic achievement and trying to get started on assignments (as a masters student)... not realising that what i had was covert perfectionist tendencies. i now know how to move forward and understand the cycle, thanks to your insight ☀
Heck yeah! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you I needed this❤️
Speaking straight facts miss lady
Literally cannot wait until you're working through the exercise stuff. Want to hear your approach. I ALSO saw it as punishment. I'm teaching myself - so difficult - to embrace movement from a self-love place.
Haha I feel like I’m getting close! Half of my New Year’s resolutions are so variation of “walk again after surgery” 😅 so we’re going to have to face the music in the coming weeks and months. I’ll try to keep a track of my thoughts for a video ❤️ and I’ll just moderate the comments heavily bc like I said ppl lose their damn minds talking about this stuff 🤪
this - and all your content - is absolute gold! keep up the indredible work charlotte!
Tysm! I appreciate you and this sort of comment more than I can even express! ❤️
Love ya girl happy new year!
Happy new year! 2025 is going to be great!
felt called to your video - thanks for sharing your wisdom! subscribed
Thank you for your gentle videos! 🤗 Wishing you a happy new year! We got this! ❤
Thank you, you too! We so got this!! ❤️
GO CHARLOTTE GO!!! ✨️💛
You're so good! Love listening!
🤘🦋🌱💛✨️
Tysm! I’m so glad you’re here
My perfectionism and fear of failure has led me to be a coward and really impacted my whole life…. 😢
Thank you
Immediate follow. 😭❤️
Thank you bb 🥹 I’m so glad you’re here!
@@charlottemorabito thank you for engaging ❤️ and for your awesome content
Re : how the video looks / editing. I rarely actively watch yt videos like this. Ive listened to this whole video while i was getting ready for the day. The first ive looked at the screen was to write this comment.
This makes me feel affirmed haha thank you! I hope you enjoyed the video
i let go of my perfectionism and it only made me worse. I cant do anything right. I fail no matter what i do.
Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you’re feeling really discouraged, and that’s a difficult place to be. Letting go of perfectionism can be challenging because frequently it feels like the thing that holds everything together. But it’s important to remember that letting go of perfectionism doesn’t mean giving up on yourself or your goals… it means allowing yourself room to learn, grow, and be human.
When we’re overly perfectionistic, our self-worth often becomes tied to the outcome of what we do. Letting go of that can feel disorienting at first, like losing a safety net. It might even lead to setbacks, which are a natural part of growth, not a sign of failure.
Sometimes, the key isn’t to completely let go but to redefine success. Instead of aiming for "perfect," try aiming for progress. What would it look like to celebrate small wins or to recognize effort, even if the result isn’t perfect? You were able to comment on a video today. You did something right. You're engaging with content to hopefully make yourself better. You're doing that right. You can do a lot of things right, but you're probably taking all those little things for granted.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to ask for help. Sometimes working with a therapist or coach can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and find new ways to move forward. Be gentle with yourself-you deserve grace and patience just like anyone else. Please check out my video on self-compassion. It pains me to see you being so hard on yourself.
Obviously, take this with a grain of salt since I don't know you, but perhaps you might want to consider how you define success and failure. I fail at 100% of the things I don't authentically want to do because if I don't have an intrinsic desire to do it, it's not important to me and therefore I will never find it important enough to devote the time and resources necessary to accomplish something I don't want to do. One of the biggest perception shifts I had was when it clicked that the reason I could never get around to putting up a profile on a dating app is because I don't actually want to date anyone. I don't stick to long-term weight loss goals because I don't actually care what size I am. I was trying to date, to lose weight to meet standards society, my parents, my unconscious assumptions thought were important but I didn't. Once I got clear about what actually IS important (community, not partnership, flexibility and vitality, not weight loss etc) then I could work towards goals I DO care about and not only do I make forward progress, because it's an authentic desire, when I do inevitably miss the mark or fall off the wagon, I intrinsically want to get back to it because it's a genuine desire, not a task motivated by the thought of my inadequacy which makes me want to avoid life and doom scroll. I wonder if reframing your expectations of yourself in this way - which is a process, it takes some introspection and journaling and time to suss out - might circumvent this perfection loop you find yourself in. No matter what, I sympathize and wish you relief.
Minimal viable product is a huge shift for me! I have a business idea that is huge and overwhelming, but I am very excited about. This idea is really helpful in moving the goalposts so I feel ready to move forward now, not once everything is decided. Another great video, so sorry about your foot. No weight bearing is soooooo difficult! I used to work in ortho, that's a challenge and it really does affect your healing. Good luck and thanks for sharing!
Minimum viable product is such a game changer! And thank you! I’ve been putting off the surgery for years and it was way overdue so I’m just trying to give myself grace and extra time to do even simple things like brush my teeth haha
@charlottemorabito I'm on the mistakes part of your video and just realized I left this comment in a thread instead of a new comment - very on point LOL Yeah, that's tough. The thing I realized in ortho is that we fully do not appreciate how our whole body is affected when one part is off. Ankles and shoulders stop you in your tracks - the struggle is real when you live in a world made for bipedal able bodied organisms and you no longer are. The mental effort of strategizing how to function while injured is almost as bad as the actual injury. And then when when you can walk on it again, your proprioception (how you guage your body in physical space) will be off and you'll have to reconnect your brain to your newly healed body part. It is A LOT of work to recover from being injured. Thank you for sharing while you are, do take care of yourself and be very kind and compassionate as you struggle. You are doing so very much right now. ❤️