Islamic laws clearly state that only sexual acts are permitted for procreation. Hadith explicitly mentioned that other forms of acts are forbidden. I can certainly prove it, and so can thousands of my peers and scholars. May Allah guide us all and make us worthy of entering paradise. I myself have three daughters, and I hope their future husbands will treat them with honour. May Allah protect me and the entire Muslim population from all sorts of pleasure and sins which may cause punishment and insult to come down upon them. Oh, Allah! let not the youngsters of our generation become obsessed with using Islam to justify their sexual desires! Today, sad to see Moslems watching internet all day, while others are being tormented. It is due to lust for marriage and wealth that we are suffering. Islamic laws clearly state that only sexual acts are permitted for procreation. Hadith explicitly mentioned that other forms of acts are forbidden. I can certainly prove it, and so can thousands of my peers and scholars. May Allah guide us all and make us worthy of entering paradise. I myself have three daughters, and I hope their future husbands will treat them with honour. May Allah protect me and the entire Muslim population from all sorts of pleasure and sins which may cause punishment and insult to come down upon them. Oh, Allah! let not the youngsters of our generation become obsessed with using Islam to justify their sexual desires! If someone’s heart is dirty and undeserving of the love of Allah and his prophet then Allah closes down the doors of wisdom guidance and understanding from that person and he feels like questioning everything because his heart has been blocked and locked out and his ears have been made deaf and his mind dumb and unaware of the light of deen and true faith and guidance. May Allah protect me and us all from Misguidance and may He keep our heart in His remembrance and pure and free from all sorts of impurity and sexual obsession. Indeed, many Muslims who are suffering in black site prisons have admitted to have engaged in halal marital practices and had multiple wives, and because of their excessive indulgence, today, many trials are deluging them. There is a fine line between halal, what is permissible, and what is impermissible. Some people foolishly argue that doing disgusting sexual things like masturbation and oral activity should be allowed.
1. Religion and akhlak 2. How they treat their parents 3. Waiting on potential 4. Committing haram prior to marriage 5. Being a people pleaser 6. What kind of company they keep May Allah guide us 🤲
I feel like the title is a lie. He seems to have provided his own opinions and attributed them to the Prophet Muhammad (sas). I didn't hear Hadith confirming his opinions, at least not for all 6.
I recently went through a marriage which had most of the red flags. I used to keep turning it down but ultimately I was married off to that man. My heart never accepted and I kept voicing that I wanted to end the marriage. Hearing this gave me Goosebumps and shivers. I feel fear thinking of what would have happened had it gone for long. Everyone around me guilt trips me and makes me feel like I committed a sin after asking for divorce. I personally feel like I can finally breathe, I feel safe now and I genuinely feel I've been saved from something bad. Allah knows better
SubhanAllah!!! I truly feel what you're going through because days ago I ended an engagement due to the same reasons u just said. Trust me, you did the best decision especially that u felt lighter & saved from something bad afterwards. May Allah grant you a better life 🙏
@@sahmedt9 the fact the you don't know either of them yet you choose to assume the worst of her just because she is a woman speaks volumes about your character.
Riyad as-Salihin 1614 Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Keep away from the seven fatalities." It was asked: "What are they, O Messenger of Allah?" He (ﷺ) replied, "Associating anything with Allah in worship (i.e., committing an act of Shirk), sorcery, killing of one whom Allah has declared inviolable without a just cause, devouring the property of an orphan, the eating of usury (Riba), fleeing from the battlefield and accusing chaste believing women, who never even think of anything touching their chastity." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Don’t marry someone who is too overly obsessed with their culture: this will be more important than deen in to them in the long run. Don’t marry someone who’s parents don’t want to accept you. Thank me later.
My starter wife was ALWAYS trying to please her REtarded friends and I was NEVER 1st just a sperm donor and the hate is STILL there I'm like the king cobra I'm waiting for her to slip up someday.
Such an enlightening video with all the authentic facts, he was so right about how people they don’t potentially change (even after promising at times) and especially we can get a deep insight by looking at what kind of people surrounds them.✨
I'm the guy grown up in a Middle Class family, but my parents didn't treat me less. Alhamdulillah they have provided me best education, Got a Software Engineer job and helping my mom for delivery her food business. Still we are working hard.I have only emaan to get a good saliha to take care me and the family. Insha Allah SWT will make it happen.
I think 90% people choose the money all above the point and in arrange marriage if person is highly educated and have good job and well settled family background not single one will consider this point everyone wants their daughter to live luxury life that's it.we are living in society 😢
True who doesn't want the best for their children.But like this video says just follow the rules of Allah swt and Allah will protect your marriage from failing.
You are right, being religious is not praying 5 times a day or reading the Quran. Being religious is people that act and behave in a way that their conduct and demeanor makes those will lower character aspire towards them. Having the right character not swearing or being toxic in the way you speak. Also when you see children disrespect the parents, it works both ways parents can also be toxic in the way they speak to their children. Having respect is parents respect the children for thier choices and children love the parents for what they have invested in them. Just telling your children you love them everyday just makes them love you more. Having the correct fundamentals is worth far more than any action because the intention must be correct. Allah SWT knows best.
Brothers and sisters remember there is no such thing as an arranged marriages in Islam. Let's separate culture from religion. Yes it is ok for your parents to SUGGEST someone as a suitable or potential spouse but to make it their final decision it is not acceptable. We as muslim have the right to say no if we do not want that marriage. And if parents are not happy about it, so be it. Above all we must follow what Allah mandates not what others want
There is difference between arranged and bIind marriage. In case 1 parents arrange someone and you can approve after asking about their din, their money or chastity, their goals and habits, and then say yes or no... In case 2 you don't know the person, the sunnah tells men look at your potential wife to see if you will be attracted to her and walk has to speak to man to see if he can take care his daughter...
@@RaiiiL I laughed at your funny comment but I also want to advise you to not joke about parents’ will being Allah’s will given a lot of people are confused about the concept of human and divine wills in the first place and this just adds to the confusion.
Alhamdulillah! Take heed everyone and pay close attention to these (6) signs. Your marriage depends on them! May الله make it easy for everyone who's looking for good righteous spouses. Let them be the coolness of your eyes! 🤲 اللهم امين
Ameen, stay strong and hold ur ground, if u see the red flags but u want and like the brother or sister ask Allah to give u strength..it's hard, but he will make it easy for u to keep trust in him. I am experiencing this as we speak.
1. If the man or woman disrespects their parents. If they don't respect the parents, more likely they will not respect their spouse. 2. There was no #2 He skipped it. ; ) 3. "They will change" Trust me or trust yourself, chances are they will not change. 4. Beware of someone wh doesn't make a borderline strictly between haraam and halaal. Choose someone who takes the religion seriously and not customize for convenience. 5. Obsessed with pleasing people (not aligned with themselves). "They are doormat for others". 6. Who do they surround themselves with? Friends with both men and women IS not appropriate unless a profession for example a physician.
I'll share a quick story one of my relative she is a counsin of mine.... married a man of Deen. Her first priority was to find a man of strong Deen. But he was not working at the time. Anyway the marriage turned out to be a disaster. Anyhow, my point is teach the sisters not only find a man of Deen but should be strong in his worldy affairs and should balance.
And marry someone who is god fearing and someone who will love you and respect you and your family and someone who’s parents teach them about their rights on how to treat your partner and who is loyal, respectful, kind and in to their deen and not a narcissist
@@QuareebahAfapesee if he fear God and he take religion seriously and if he is a good with his parents and he isn't someone who swear a lot he have good quality and good heart but also set boundaries and have patience.
The moment you start to look improve yourself. You will find so many good spouses. Alhamdulillah. There are so much good people, idk why people find it hard to find a spouse...
@@alphauno6614I feel like they might actually have a point. In some locations men are exceedingly righteous and in other areas women are. InshaAllah this will change in the future.
@@abelievereverrising283 I agree with you however I think you missed my point. There will always be good and bad men and women. It’s your choice how you look at life. Are you perpetually pessimistic or are you optimistic? It’s part of the Sunnah to be optimistic.
8:30 what if you committed haram and you repent and are changing by your self and is looking for the halal way in life from here on out. What if you cut off all the harm you used to do, do you need to tell you future spouse about your past or no? I'm only asking because I missed up and I'm trying my best to please Allah swt from here on out and I'm 23 and I cut off all connections to the past life and when he said if he committed haram before the marriage, he will commit it during Marriage. I don't see myself doing that anymore because I deeply regret what I have done and till this day I'm not happy with what I have done but I'm doing my best to keep up with all my Salah on time, listen to quran on TH-cam while reading it on the video screen. Watching Islamic videos and I'm trying my best to keep up with my Deen but this does Raise a question for me. Any advice?
Brother/sister I’m sorry I don’t know who I’m replying to. You don’t have to and is also recommended not tell your sins unless it’s something that you know might affect your marriage in the future. Also if the person asks you a question that might be because that’s a break dealer for them so I believe they have the right to know. Other than that keep your sins hidden. You answer only to Allah. The day you repent and follow all the pillars you are clean with Allah and you should be so to humans also. Sorry my English is not that good hope you understand what I mean May Allah bless you 🙂
@amirejaha9505 thank you for your advice sister, and it's a brother your talking to. Thank you for your kind words and may Allah swt reward your for your kind wisdom and advice sister 🙏
Never tell no one your past sins except Allah as HE is the ONLY 1 that listens and forgives. May Allah bless you always with everything you have ever wanted Insha-Allah 🤲
Keep it to yourself be a good man pray to God and ask him to forgive you and be truthful of your words inshallah your forgiven and inshallah you marry the best girl that God chose for you be better and don't ever be down from Allah forgiveness Allah will forgive you inshallah
I would say don't marry 1) a person who does not pray or skips jummah as a man, 2) a dayyooth, a person who has no protective jealousy over his women, or for the women then a woman who displays her best beauty to other men (such as full makeup and jewelry dress or no hijab but mostly any 3 combination from what to display) 3) a person who sin openly or exaggerates his sins to others proudly 4). person who has committed zina and their "repentance" is either non-existent or is marriage. This person will cheat on you if they haven't left it for a good period of time. 5) a person who is addicted to pornography or similar interests
My God I had all the red flags, He wrote a letter and left last year after 36 years .I feel relieved he is gone, and yes he was a Doctor ,with wondering eyes. I thought I could change him ,I thought I was enough for him, I'm 27 years younger , But I was schooling him throughout this marriage.
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It feels like ever since I learned how to say no I’ve started losing people who are dear to me I barely have a relationship with my son and my family but I am gaining a greater and more valuable relationship with Allah swt
Assalam alaykum Bismillah people change any thing and everything can change in the name of Allah Please don’t make statements that people don’t change only Allah guide us Allah astray no one can guide. 'La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah
Yes Allah SWT has changed people who had a molecule of interest in changing themselves. Look close Statistic in our families it show not many people have changed for Allah SWT and gone from this world. Yes Allah SWT is capable of changing hearts but in Quran he has said that it is not unconditional 😢
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Thank you, for the very eye opening vedio. The message is clear and loud. Yet, if we dont understand we are deemed as an animal of an abandoned owner. Your segment should help many in the society and reward you in many ways. Peace be on you.
Allhumdullilah beautifully said what we should look into b4 a marriage. Allhumdullilah allhumdulliah I am blessed happily married with beautiful kids. Allhumdullilah ameen. ❤❤
I have been so desensitized i don't know what is a relationship anymore. Has fallen so drastically. I became a predator hunting and a kill for souls in such a broken society.
That's subjective. We're more diverse than that. My marriage has ALL the above red flags. But, I am not perfect myself. Husband doesn't have a bad temper, pays the bills, gives love, and I'm grateful for that. But in all honesty, if I could go back in time, I would choose a man whose heart is one with God. So, yes, there's a big void in my life. I fast alone, I pray alone, I'm made fun of and belittled by my husband for being religious. It's a battle every day. I don't blame anyone for my choice I made but myself. From my own experience, I say to those who are looking to get married, especially those with aspirations to grow spiritually closer to God, DON'T pick a spouse who is by name Muslim but by heart agnostic. You can manage to maintain a happy marriage but not a fulfilling marriage.
@8:58 - If men marry women of the book, who will marry the women of Islam??? We live in a Western Society where we do not have the luxury of finding marriage amongst a bigger demographic. Please be mindful of the fact that not every Muslim comes from background/countries which are predominantly muslim to rely on marrying from an ancestral country. Allah swt says "A slavewoman who is Muslim is better for you (in marriage) than a Favourable Mushrikah - even if you are impressed by her". It does not become a matter of recommendation but a matter of training the Young men to choose the way Allah prescribed. Our Muslim Brothers should always be encouraged to only seek Muslim women for marriage because they are worthy of protection and Satr than non-Muslims. In my circle of mosque friends from childhood, most of the men married non-Muslims and the women were stuck not dating or finding marriage. This is definitely not the way our Prophet pbuh would be pleased. Most of the men who married non-Muslims, the children end up celebrating Christmas and other non-Islamic stuff with their mother's family and the children are confused..on the flip side.. a Mother who is not religious at all who married a man who converted just to marry her...their children go to Madrassah and are advancing in Quran. The Idea that children take upon the father is only strong in non-Western countries.
Even if it is arranged you are allowed to meet your future spouse with a chaperone and discuss important matters. At least, this is how it is done in the Arab countries
there is engagement in Islam before marriage but under the sharia no messing around u feel me and even if it's arranged ur parents will always pick what is the best for u. so do as ur God commanded and know life is too short and the day of judgment is coming insha allah may allah forgive us and grant us the highest rank in jannah
There are a lot of “nevers” and “now you can’t say” in this guy’s lecture. The spirit of Islam is such that there are no dead ends. People are complex beings. We very much subscribe to the image of Islam these days; we have embraced a cultural, mechanical, and “top down approach” Islam where we want to be told what to do Islamically by learned individuals and are comfortable with “recognizable” Islam. This has led to situations of siloed families and mosques where culture prevails over deen. People catch endless flack for liking someone of a different culture for example. Totally unislamic treatment but it prevails the ummah. It’s a referendum on our state of affairs that we want only what we find comfortable and recognizable at a very superficial level. However Islam is very deep and the usual content I keep encountering these days is super watered down and seems to play into mainstream vanilla Islam. I keep finding the advice of these scholars quite hopeless in their feel, whereas Islam only instills hope. Allah controls all affairs. Make dua to him. People do change. I’ve seen it time and again. If they don’t, then I guess reversion to Islam has never occurred. What kind of hopeless rhetoric is this? Have more nuance. Yes risks are inherent. But it starts with oneself. Usually that’s the biggest checks and balance. It filters out a lot. The real question is: How is the iman of the individual with the complaint at baseline? Not “oh you married it you should have known.” Pathetic.
In my previous engagement, unfortunately i missed all of these red flags, but Alhamdulillah i ended it before the nikah, but now i have trust issues towards men but i know it's unreasonable, im healing and working on myself so im balanced in the next relationship inshallah. I know that the sheikh didn't mention the hadith that backs some of these red flags but i know that these are usually emphasized in Islam.
Why the background "music"? People come here to hear lessons not to get entertained. Thanks to the sister who shared the 6 points in the comment section.
The issue is with exception to some of the stuff Prophet (pbuh) said regarding to akhlaq, akhlaq is very subjective and this is like loop-holes people use in contracts to deny or accept a person in marriage.
Akhlaq is losely translated into manners, but its morals (does he lie cheat etc...) than manners, adab is manners. The rest of the categories he mentions is just opinions, and may create even more fitna in society.
I see some red flags on myself and some red flags on the other guy I am trying to engaged with right now. But i’m still being reluctant to tell the truth to the guy hoping he will not getting sad and feeling down about it. May Allah guide me to the right path
yes...she is that special. She understands now what she did not understand before. It is not for us as men to be so arrogant as to squash our woman's concerns.
This is drama. The poster is to blame not the Imam speaking. The poster wrote the Prophet said don't marry someone who is disrespectful to parents. That is not what Imam Bashir said. The poster I'm guessing is a churlish poster. The Prophet Mohamed did not say don't marry someone who is disrespectful to parents. Imam Bashir said it is important to respect your parents. And it is a sign of how they will treat their spouse. The poster is not educated. He or she is being irresponsible.
If our marriages were predetermined by Allah 50,000 years ago (It's in Hadith), before we were even born, then do we really have a choice but to marry the people He has written for us???????? Answer me, brother.
Yeah, you could say the same about literally any action you take in this life. This is the paradox that we just have to live with, and yes, I know, it's confusing. But if you keep trying to find an answer to something like that, it will never lead you anywhere. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but I have been seeking an answer to that for years and it only led me deeper into confusion.
You did something and Allah SWT already knew in advance what you would do and it was written down. Not that you are being forced to something by Allah SWT. For example if you come to a road and have 4 options, A, B, C, D, and you decided to go with B, then because you would take road B, Allah SWT already knew in advance, therefore it was written down. In Sha Allah hope this helps!
To say do not marry them on their potential is one of the most superficial thing ever! While definitely don't hold out on potential but assess both, there has to be a balance.
My mum is Christian and i am Muslim. My mum interfered in my affairs and i lost my other woman i married, she always says my son will be Christian and tell people am Christian etc . I get upset and have a bit arguments with my mum . Mymum is the issues and all the people says is my mum. Dad passed away. Any opinions here
I completely agree with whatever he said, especially with the part of deception where people say that they will change, people don't change they become worse
The title is an exaggeration! I'm literally seeing a therapist to work through my people pleasing issue. I feel like it's something that CAN be changed, and I don't think it's fair to reject someone for something they are actively working to overcome. I think in this situation, it's ok to marry someone for their potential, because they're making effort!
NEVER MARRY THOSE WHO HAVE HAD ROOM MATES BEFORE MARRIAGE AND ARE RUDE. THEY WILL PUT ON A FRONT OF POLITENESS AND THEN BE RUDE TO YOU AND YOUR PARENTS!! May ALLAH PUNISH THEM!
So i know this lecture was meant for parents but my comment is regarding just young people looking to get married. The last point of the doctors wife. I slightly disagree with this. Many times people have no idea of how they feel about something until they get into that situation. People talk alot like oh if this happens ill do this, if this happens ill feel this way, if so and so does this i wont care etc. so sometimes you dont realize how jealous of a person you are until you get married. So you might not always know how you will change your opinions later in life. Or sometimes you never think that far down the line, some people have the opposite problem where they overthink everything which then in turn results in them never marrying. I think we should try on our part but also understand you might change later, i guess a better way to approach this issue is to recommend is to do mashwara with others more experienced in life. When i was a teen i said i wouldn't mind my husband getting a second wife. Fastforward to my marriage and I can't even stand the idea of it. So sometimes we say one thing and later on we realize the reality. Hopefully elders can properly guide youngsters into the right direction and get the youngsters to critically think for themselves
If parents have been abusive then that relationship is more complicated nad is not necessarily and indicator for spousal treatment. But we should strive to be the best we can be to them for allahs sake.
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Auliya can marry as many women they want.
Auliya don't need women they have allah.
Islamic laws clearly state that only sexual acts are permitted for procreation. Hadith explicitly mentioned that other forms of acts are forbidden. I can certainly prove it, and so can thousands of my peers and scholars. May Allah guide us all and make us worthy of entering paradise. I myself have three daughters, and I hope their future husbands will treat them with honour. May Allah protect me and the entire Muslim population from all sorts of pleasure and sins which may cause punishment and insult to come down upon them. Oh, Allah! let not the youngsters of our generation become obsessed with using Islam to justify their sexual desires!
Today, sad to see Moslems watching internet all day, while others are being tormented. It is due to lust for marriage and wealth that we are suffering. Islamic laws clearly state that only sexual acts are permitted for procreation. Hadith explicitly mentioned that other forms of acts are forbidden. I can certainly prove it, and so can thousands of my peers and scholars. May Allah guide us all and make us worthy of entering paradise. I myself have three daughters, and I hope their future husbands will treat them with honour. May Allah protect me and the entire Muslim population from all sorts of pleasure and sins which may cause punishment and insult to come down upon them. Oh, Allah! let not the youngsters of our generation become obsessed with using Islam to justify their sexual desires!
If someone’s heart is dirty and undeserving of the love of Allah and his prophet then Allah closes down the doors of wisdom guidance and understanding from that person and he feels like questioning everything because his heart has been blocked and locked out and his ears have been made deaf and his mind dumb and unaware of the light of deen and true faith and guidance. May Allah protect me and us all from Misguidance and may He keep our heart in His remembrance and pure and free from all sorts of impurity and sexual obsession. Indeed, many Muslims who are suffering in black site prisons have admitted to have engaged in halal marital practices and had multiple wives, and because of their excessive indulgence, today, many trials are deluging them.
There is a fine line between halal, what is permissible, and what is impermissible. Some people foolishly argue that doing disgusting sexual things like masturbation and oral activity should be allowed.
1. Religion and akhlak
2. How they treat their parents
3. Waiting on potential
4. Committing haram prior to marriage
5. Being a people pleaser
6. What kind of company they keep
May Allah guide us 🤲
I feel like the title is a lie. He seems to have provided his own opinions and attributed them to the Prophet Muhammad (sas).
I didn't hear Hadith confirming his opinions, at least not for all 6.
Jazakallah-u-khair
@@HK-dd2boget lost from here. Whatever he taught us is legit.
If you think it's his opinion, do whatever you want. 🙂
العنته عليك
@@iinterstellarGiggles nah I'm good here thanks
@@HK-dd2bo Bro wallhi its sad now days they are using Islam to make money through and become fame by it may Allah protect us from evil peoples 😢
I recently went through a marriage which had most of the red flags. I used to keep turning it down but ultimately I was married off to that man. My heart never accepted and I kept voicing that I wanted to end the marriage. Hearing this gave me Goosebumps and shivers. I feel fear thinking of what would have happened had it gone for long. Everyone around me guilt trips me and makes me feel like I committed a sin after asking for divorce. I personally feel like I can finally breathe, I feel safe now and I genuinely feel I've been saved from something bad. Allah knows better
SubhanAllah!!! I truly feel what you're going through because days ago I ended an engagement due to the same reasons u just said. Trust me, you did the best decision especially that u felt lighter & saved from something bad afterwards. May Allah grant you a better life 🙏
one side of the story, his side may be that you were not a good wife.
@@sahmedt9 they are always the victims in their minds
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot yes, she probably forgot to mention she had no respect and used to throw items to hit him lol
@@sahmedt9 the fact the you don't know either of them yet you choose to assume the worst of her just because she is a woman speaks volumes about your character.
Riyad as-Salihin 1614
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Keep away from the seven fatalities." It was asked: "What are they, O Messenger of Allah?" He (ﷺ) replied, "Associating anything with Allah in worship (i.e., committing an act of Shirk), sorcery, killing of one whom Allah has declared inviolable without a just cause, devouring the property of an orphan, the eating of usury (Riba), fleeing from the battlefield and accusing chaste believing women, who never even think of anything touching their chastity."
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Don’t marry someone who is too overly obsessed with their culture: this will be more important than deen in to them in the long run. Don’t marry someone who’s parents don’t want to accept you. Thank me later.
So so true
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Parents?
The culture point 👍🏻
My starter wife was ALWAYS trying to please her REtarded friends and I was NEVER 1st just a sperm donor and the hate is STILL there I'm like the king cobra I'm waiting for her to slip up someday.
Such an enlightening video with all the authentic facts, he was so right about how people they don’t potentially change (even after promising at times) and especially we can get a deep insight by looking at what kind of people surrounds them.✨
Very imformative
May Allah bless you! This was much needed! Thank you for being straight forward you really nailed it
I heard this man first time. I don't know the name of this speaker but trust me he explains in such a good way that it has cleared my so many doubts
" رَبِّ إِنِّي لِما أَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ "
My Lord! I am indeed in need of any good You may send down to me!
Assalamualaikum hajiah how was your night and family
I'm the guy grown up in a Middle Class family, but my parents didn't treat me less. Alhamdulillah they have provided me best education, Got a Software Engineer job and helping my mom for delivery her food business. Still we are working hard.I have only emaan to get a good saliha to take care me and the family. Insha Allah SWT will make it happen.
As salamu alaykum. Very important knowledge . Wish we were taught before we were married. Jazak Allahu Khairan
I think 90% people choose the money all above the point and in arrange marriage if person is highly educated and have good job and well settled family background not single one will consider this point everyone wants their daughter to live luxury life that's it.we are living in society 😢
the name of your partner was written beside yours before you were ever born
do not despair in the mercy of allah
True who doesn't want the best for their children.But like this video says just follow the rules of Allah swt and Allah will protect your marriage from failing.
nowadays you cant keep your job unless you are good man. of course, job in good place
Yes true. I'm poor guy 😢 living a lonely life.
You are so right vallahi 😢
Who is grateful to be a part of Ummat e MUHAMMAD (ﷺ) ❤❤❤❤❤🕋🌹 ..... ...... .
Alhamdulillah
Alhamdulillah, i am very grateful ❤
@@MohmmadSamii JazakALLAHﷻ khair🌹
@@SanzzNinetyNine JazakALLAHﷻ khair❤
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Allah o akbar... May Allah guide us ... And give us strength to follow the path of our Holy Prophet peace be blessings upon him❤
AMIN...AMIN...AMIN...YA RABBI ❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊
You are right, being religious is not praying 5 times a day or reading the Quran. Being religious is people that act and behave in a way that their conduct and demeanor makes those will lower character aspire towards them. Having the right character not swearing or being toxic in the way you speak.
Also when you see children disrespect the parents, it works both ways parents can also be toxic in the way they speak to their children. Having respect is parents respect the children for thier choices and children love the parents for what they have invested in them. Just telling your children you love them everyday just makes them love you more.
Having the correct fundamentals is worth far more than any action because the intention must be correct. Allah SWT knows best.
May Allah help us all find a righteous spouse ameen
Amin🤲🏻💞
آمین
Aamiin
Aameen🤲🏼😭
amin
6:31 is someone reading Suratul Hajj. My love for that Surah is enormous.
Brothers and sisters remember there is no such thing as an arranged marriages in Islam. Let's separate culture from religion. Yes it is ok for your parents to SUGGEST someone as a suitable or potential spouse but to make it their final decision it is not acceptable. We as muslim have the right to say no if we do not want that marriage. And if parents are not happy about it, so be it. Above all we must follow what Allah mandates not what others want
There is difference between arranged and bIind marriage.
In case 1 parents arrange someone and you can approve after asking about their din, their money or chastity, their goals and habits, and then say yes or no...
In case 2 you don't know the person, the sunnah tells men look at your potential wife to see if you will be attracted to her and walk has to speak to man to see if he can take care his daughter...
Delete your misguided comment
If your parents are believers, trust me their will is allahs will.
You are just a little shayatin that doesn't listen to his parents
@@RaiiiL I laughed at your funny comment but I also want to advise you to not joke about parents’ will being Allah’s will given a lot of people are confused about the concept of human and divine wills in the first place and this just adds to the confusion.
Arranged actually doesnt mean forced
Baraka Allahu Feekum my belovely brother for sharing with us may Allah accept our prayers🤲 and forgive our shortcomings⚰ and protect us from Dajjal
Alhamdulillah! Take heed everyone and pay close attention to these (6) signs. Your marriage depends on them! May الله make it easy for everyone who's looking for good righteous spouses. Let them be the coolness of your eyes! 🤲 اللهم امين
Ameen
Ameeen!
Aameen
Ameen yarabii
Ameen, stay strong and hold ur ground, if u see the red flags but u want and like the brother or sister ask Allah to give u strength..it's hard, but he will make it easy for u to keep trust in him. I am experiencing this as we speak.
Ya Allah please help the Muslims and Muslimas who want to get married and can't, and the ones married to be happy together, amin
Aameen
1. If the man or woman disrespects their parents. If they don't respect the parents, more likely they will not respect their spouse.
2. There was no #2 He skipped it. ; )
3. "They will change" Trust me or trust yourself, chances are they will not change.
4. Beware of someone wh doesn't make a borderline strictly between haraam and halaal. Choose someone who takes the religion seriously and not customize for convenience.
5. Obsessed with pleasing people (not aligned with themselves). "They are doormat for others".
6. Who do they surround themselves with? Friends with both men and women IS not appropriate unless a profession for example a physician.
Thank you very much. May Allah swt bless you with goodness❤
So are you saying is cultural for disrespecting his mother and its Islamic to disrespect her?
Read the last 2 sentences you put
@@TA-sv3cq you have a severe comprehension problem. Read the whole thing I wrote.
@@Swed813
I am not saying your example is wrong but do you a hadith on your point for further learning...
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 you have a severe comprehension problem.
Remember marriage is not Obligatory. It's sunnah. I'd rather be alone than to marry the wrong women - especially in the West today.
I don't want to get married because good men are very few 😢
Then move to another country and found a good women.
Don't be afraid to get married. It may be scary or difficult but so is being a Muslim.
I am a woman and most likely I will also not get married ever. It's getting common in India.
@@asmaabdullah5481yeah, right.
I'll share a quick story one of my relative she is a counsin of mine.... married a man of Deen. Her first priority was to find a man of strong Deen. But he was not working at the time. Anyway the marriage turned out to be a disaster. Anyhow, my point is teach the sisters not only find a man of Deen but should be strong in his worldy affairs and should balance.
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And marry someone who is god fearing and someone who will love you and respect you and your family and someone who’s parents teach them about their rights on how to treat your partner and who is loyal, respectful, kind and in to their deen and not a narcissist
Exactly
Am still young a married man with 3 kids, who is god fearing decided to marry me,what advice can you give
@@QuareebahAfapesee if he fear God and he take religion seriously and if he is a good with his parents and he isn't someone who swear a lot he have good quality and good heart but also set boundaries and have patience.
The moment you start to look improve yourself. You will find so many good spouses. Alhamdulillah. There are so much good people, idk why people find it hard to find a spouse...
Depends on where you live.
@@JEAGERlST Why do you point to the glass being half empty rather than half full?
@@alphauno6614I feel like they might actually have a point.
In some locations men are exceedingly righteous and in other areas women are. InshaAllah this will change in the future.
@@abelievereverrising283 I agree with you however I think you missed my point. There will always be good and bad men and women. It’s your choice how you look at life. Are you perpetually pessimistic or are you optimistic? It’s part of the Sunnah to be optimistic.
@@alphauno6614 yes we should have husnuthan (good assumptions) of Allah that He will help us in all our matters.
… and always trust your first impression and intuition!
8:30 what if you committed haram and you repent and are changing by your self and is looking for the halal way in life from here on out. What if you cut off all the harm you used to do, do you need to tell you future spouse about your past or no? I'm only asking because I missed up and I'm trying my best to please Allah swt from here on out and I'm 23 and I cut off all connections to the past life and when he said if he committed haram before the marriage, he will commit it during Marriage. I don't see myself doing that anymore because I deeply regret what I have done and till this day I'm not happy with what I have done but I'm doing my best to keep up with all my Salah on time, listen to quran on TH-cam while reading it on the video screen. Watching Islamic videos and I'm trying my best to keep up with my Deen but this does Raise a question for me. Any advice?
Brother/sister I’m sorry I don’t know who I’m replying to. You don’t have to and is also recommended not tell your sins unless it’s something that you know might affect your marriage in the future. Also if the person asks you a question that might be because that’s a break dealer for them so I believe they have the right to know. Other than that keep your sins hidden. You answer only to Allah. The day you repent and follow all the pillars you are clean with Allah and you should be so to humans also. Sorry my English is not that good hope you understand what I mean May Allah bless you 🙂
@amirejaha9505 thank you for your advice sister, and it's a brother your talking to. Thank you for your kind words and may Allah swt reward your for your kind wisdom and advice sister 🙏
Never tell no one your past sins except Allah as HE is the ONLY 1 that listens and forgives.
May Allah bless you always with everything you have ever wanted Insha-Allah 🤲
Keep it to yourself be a good man pray to God and ask him to forgive you and be truthful of your words inshallah your forgiven and inshallah you marry the best girl that God chose for you be better and don't ever be down from Allah forgiveness Allah will forgive you inshallah
Very informative, which I enjoyed watching, Subhanallah.
Liked ur do
Maa Shaa Allah ❤️ SubhanAllah ❤ may ALLAH SUBHANAHU WA TA'ALA bless all of us with righteous spouse... ❤ ameen ya rabbul alameen
I would say don't marry 1) a person who does not pray or skips jummah as a man, 2) a dayyooth, a person who has no protective jealousy over his women, or for the women then a woman who displays her best beauty to other men (such as full makeup and jewelry dress or no hijab but mostly any 3 combination from what to display) 3) a person who sin openly or exaggerates his sins to others proudly 4). person who has committed zina and their "repentance" is either non-existent or is marriage. This person will cheat on you if they haven't left it for a good period of time. 5) a person who is addicted to pornography or similar interests
Excellent points! Jazakallah khairan.
That's WHY I'm single and decided not to get married....I'm happier with my own company and solitude.... peaceful
The sadist and the happiest person in the world😅
Subhanallah I should have heard this video before i get married 😐
My God I had all the red flags, He wrote a letter and left last year after 36 years .I feel relieved he is gone, and yes he was a Doctor ,with wondering eyes. I thought I could change him ,I thought I was enough for him, I'm 27 years younger , But I was schooling him throughout this marriage.
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It feels like ever since I learned how to say no
I’ve started losing people who are dear to me
I barely have a relationship with my son and my family but I am gaining a greater and more valuable relationship with Allah swt
Waalaikumsalam
Dear brother/sister, it's Assalamu'alaikum Wa rahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu. You spell it wrong. Hope you understand ❤
MA SHA ALLAH....
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Thank you very much for your advice may ya'Allah reward you Ameen Suma Ameen
I’ve witnessed people change after marriage. So it’s really a gamble.
SUBHANALLAH
LAILAHA ILLALLAH WAHDAHU LASHARIKALAHU LAHULMULKU WALA HULHAMDU WAHUWA ALA KULLISHAIIN QADIR WAANNA MUHAMMADAN RASULULLAHI SWALLAAHU ALAIHI WASALLIM WA BARIK ALAIHI.
ALLAHUMA SWALLI ALA SAIDINA MOHAMMADIN WAALI SAIDINA MOHAMMADIN WA BARIK ALAIHI WASALLIM.
Barakallahu Feek
❤😊 ameen may allah reward you
Interesting! I will suscribe now
Whoever reads this please pray for health of Rasheed,Sabina. Jazakallahu
Assalam alaykum
Bismillah people change any thing and everything can change in the name of Allah
Please don’t make statements that people don’t change only Allah guide us Allah astray no one can guide.
'La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah
Yes Allah SWT has changed people who had a molecule of interest in changing themselves. Look close Statistic in our families it show not many people have changed for Allah SWT and gone from this world.
Yes Allah SWT is capable of changing hearts but in Quran he has said that it is not unconditional 😢
Subhanallah alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar ❤️
1) Give a copy of the Qur'an to someone. Each time one reads from it you gain.
2) Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time a sick person uses it you gain.
3) Participate in building a masjid.
4) Place a watercooler in a public space.
5) Plant a tree. You gain whenever a person or an animal sits in it's shade or eat from it.
6) And the easiest of all, share this message with people
Thia is how to gain deeds after death
Today it's so hard to find someone like this. It's so difficult....
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Thank you,
for the very eye opening vedio. The message is clear and loud.
Yet, if we dont understand we are deemed as an animal of an abandoned owner.
Your segment should help many in the society and reward you in many ways. Peace be on you.
Allhumdullilah beautifully said what we should look into b4 a marriage. Allhumdullilah allhumdulliah I am blessed happily married with beautiful kids. Allhumdullilah ameen. ❤❤
I have been so desensitized i don't know what is a relationship anymore. Has fallen so drastically. I became a predator hunting and a kill for souls in such a broken society.
That's subjective. We're more diverse than that.
My marriage has ALL the above red flags. But, I am not perfect myself. Husband doesn't have a bad temper, pays the bills, gives love, and I'm grateful for that. But in all honesty, if I could go back in time, I would choose a man whose heart is one with God. So, yes, there's a big void in my life. I fast alone, I pray alone, I'm made fun of and belittled by my husband for being religious. It's a battle every day. I don't blame anyone for my choice I made but myself.
From my own experience, I say to those who are looking to get married, especially those with aspirations to grow spiritually closer to God, DON'T pick a spouse who is by name Muslim but by heart agnostic. You can manage to maintain a happy marriage but not a fulfilling marriage.
@8:58 - If men marry women of the book, who will marry the women of Islam??? We live in a Western Society where we do not have the luxury of finding marriage amongst a bigger demographic. Please be mindful of the fact that not every Muslim comes from background/countries which are predominantly muslim to rely on marrying from an ancestral country. Allah swt says "A slavewoman who is Muslim is better for you (in marriage) than a Favourable Mushrikah - even if you are impressed by her". It does not become a matter of recommendation but a matter of training the Young men to choose the way Allah prescribed. Our Muslim Brothers should always be encouraged to only seek Muslim women for marriage because they are worthy of protection and Satr than non-Muslims. In my circle of mosque friends from childhood, most of the men married non-Muslims and the women were stuck not dating or finding marriage. This is definitely not the way our Prophet pbuh would be pleased. Most of the men who married non-Muslims, the children end up celebrating Christmas and other non-Islamic stuff with their mother's family and the children are confused..on the flip side.. a Mother who is not religious at all who married a man who converted just to marry her...their children go to Madrassah and are advancing in Quran. The Idea that children take upon the father is only strong in non-Western countries.
How are we supposed to know this things in arranged marriage, it's possible for love marriage but what about arranged marriage
The Islamically arranged marriage isn't a blind ordeal, but one where your kin get the information about for you naturally and socially
Even if it is arranged you are allowed to meet your future spouse with a chaperone and discuss important matters. At least, this is how it is done in the Arab countries
there is engagement in Islam before marriage but under the sharia no messing around u feel me
and even if it's arranged ur parents will always pick what is the best for u.
so do as ur God commanded and know life is too short and the day of judgment is coming insha allah
may allah forgive us and grant us the highest rank in jannah
If you want to know your future spouse, send a spy from their mahram (your sister/brother)
Ask her/his neighbor how his daily life, good or not
There are a lot of “nevers” and “now you can’t say” in this guy’s lecture. The spirit of Islam is such that there are no dead ends. People are complex beings. We very much subscribe to the image of Islam these days; we have embraced a cultural, mechanical, and “top down approach” Islam where we want to be told what to do Islamically by learned individuals and are comfortable with “recognizable” Islam. This has led to situations of siloed families and mosques where culture prevails over deen. People catch endless flack for liking someone of a different culture for example. Totally unislamic treatment but it prevails the ummah. It’s a referendum on our state of affairs that we want only what we find comfortable and recognizable at a very superficial level. However Islam is very deep and the usual content I keep encountering these days is super watered down and seems to play into mainstream vanilla Islam. I keep finding the advice of these scholars quite hopeless in their feel, whereas Islam only instills hope. Allah controls all affairs. Make dua to him. People do change. I’ve seen it time and again. If they don’t, then I guess reversion to Islam has never occurred. What kind of hopeless rhetoric is this? Have more nuance. Yes risks are inherent. But it starts with oneself. Usually that’s the biggest checks and balance. It filters out a lot. The real question is: How is the iman of the individual with the complaint at baseline? Not “oh you married it you should have known.” Pathetic.
In my previous engagement, unfortunately i missed all of these red flags, but Alhamdulillah i ended it before the nikah, but now i have trust issues towards men but i know it's unreasonable, im healing and working on myself so im balanced in the next relationship inshallah.
I know that the sheikh didn't mention the hadith that backs some of these red flags but i know that these are usually emphasized in Islam.
Lotta toxic parents that ppl aren’t taking into account. There is a reason why people have a contentious relationship w their parents.
I was just saying this
Very true especially if the parents hates you for practicing the deen
May Allah guide us and lead us to the right part
Ameen 🤲
Why the background "music"? People come here to hear lessons not to get entertained.
Thanks to the sister who shared the 6 points in the comment section.
The issue is with exception to some of the stuff Prophet (pbuh) said regarding to akhlaq, akhlaq is very subjective and this is like loop-holes people use in contracts to deny or accept a person in marriage.
Akhlaq is losely translated into manners, but its morals (does he lie cheat etc...) than manners, adab is manners. The rest of the categories he mentions is just opinions, and may create even more fitna in society.
Bismillah Allhamdolillah Mashaallah SubhanAllah Assalam alaykum ya rasul Allah ya habibi ya nabi Allah Allah hu Akbar Allhamdolillah
Please say sallallahu alaihi wa aalihi wasallam.
May Allah bless all of us.
Ameen.
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Ameen
In South Africa, is it possible for a wife to be granted thallaq if the husband does not like employment. Is there a way out for women?
I see some red flags on myself and some red flags on the other guy I am trying to engaged with right now. But i’m still being reluctant to tell the truth to the guy hoping he will not getting sad and feeling down about it. May Allah guide me to the right path
But how can we know about akhlaq in small period?Please tell something because it is the most common question
yes...she is that special. She understands now what she did not understand before. It is not for us as men to be so arrogant as to squash our woman's concerns.
This is drama. The poster is to blame not the Imam speaking. The poster wrote the Prophet said don't marry someone who is disrespectful to parents. That is not what Imam Bashir said. The poster I'm guessing is a churlish poster. The Prophet Mohamed did not say don't marry someone who is disrespectful to parents. Imam Bashir said it is important to respect your parents. And it is a sign of how they will treat their spouse. The poster is not educated. He or she is being irresponsible.
I am 36 years old and still being virgin . Haven't decided yet to get married. It's a bit hard for me to find a good man .
Sallam where are u based
Please send me your number we will be talking about it inchallah my sister
Can anyone check all these issues in one single meeting which typically takes place in Bangladesh? If not, then what is the solution?
So true.. people don't change their behaviors
Caption is wrong❌ because all 6 things can't be refer to prophet Muhammad saw
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah. From Kashmir. Every one pray for my marriage (Z.W) please 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
thanks for this
This rips my heart out 💔
Sooo true...
Have an issue to discuss sir...😢
I think these are the 6 things that I could not have agreed more although I fail in all of them!
If our marriages were predetermined by Allah 50,000 years ago (It's in Hadith), before we were even born, then do we really have a choice but to marry the people He has written for us???????? Answer me, brother.
Yeah, you could say the same about literally any action you take in this life. This is the paradox that we just have to live with, and yes, I know, it's confusing. But if you keep trying to find an answer to something like that, it will never lead you anywhere. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but I have been seeking an answer to that for years and it only led me deeper into confusion.
You did something and Allah SWT already knew in advance what you would do and it was written down. Not that you are being forced to something by Allah SWT. For example if you come to a road and have 4 options, A, B, C, D, and you decided to go with B, then because you would take road B, Allah SWT already knew in advance, therefore it was written down. In Sha Allah hope this helps!
These TH-cam muftis are becoming dangerous. We should read from authentic sources and not listen to these wannabes
Where can I get the photo in the thumbnail?
Take a screenshot of thumbnail 😂
To say do not marry them on their potential is one of the most superficial thing ever! While definitely don't hold out on potential but assess both, there has to be a balance.
I don't think he talked about no.4 in the video but in the end he says he did, he just went from no.3 to no.5
My mum is Christian and i am Muslim. My mum interfered in my affairs and i lost my other woman i married, she always says my son will be Christian and tell people am Christian etc . I get upset and have a bit arguments with my mum . Mymum is the issues and all the people says is my mum. Dad passed away. Any opinions here
Sorry my dear she could be a narcissist
Go to 2 muslim scholars, maulana,and they'll give you best advice
I completely agree with whatever he said, especially with the part of deception where people say that they will change, people don't change they become worse
This title does not make sense. Maybe I'm skipping some parts but could you please check
Men who only knows to say "NO" 😅😅😅
What is the reference of the Hadith for this Hadith.
The title is an exaggeration! I'm literally seeing a therapist to work through my people pleasing issue. I feel like it's something that CAN be changed, and I don't think it's fair to reject someone for something they are actively working to overcome. I think in this situation, it's ok to marry someone for their potential, because they're making effort!
MashaAllah great points
I like the word religion is not only go to mosque, I see it myself and knew it
Who is this speaker? he’s great!!
I think you should change the title of the video. The prophet didn’t say this it’s the speaker who is giving his opinion.
The Prophet did mention things you should look at when getting married....
As slamo alykum w.r
NEVER MARRY THOSE WHO HAVE HAD ROOM MATES BEFORE MARRIAGE AND ARE RUDE. THEY WILL PUT ON A FRONT OF POLITENESS AND THEN BE RUDE TO YOU AND YOUR PARENTS!! May ALLAH PUNISH THEM!
sucessful marriage is patiance and no blame game .look at the positive side of partner and help other to life
So i know this lecture was meant for parents but my comment is regarding just young people looking to get married. The last point of the doctors wife. I slightly disagree with this. Many times people have no idea of how they feel about something until they get into that situation. People talk alot like oh if this happens ill do this, if this happens ill feel this way, if so and so does this i wont care etc. so sometimes you dont realize how jealous of a person you are until you get married. So you might not always know how you will change your opinions later in life. Or sometimes you never think that far down the line, some people have the opposite problem where they overthink everything which then in turn results in them never marrying. I think we should try on our part but also understand you might change later, i guess a better way to approach this issue is to recommend is to do mashwara with others more experienced in life. When i was a teen i said i wouldn't mind my husband getting a second wife. Fastforward to my marriage and I can't even stand the idea of it. So sometimes we say one thing and later on we realize the reality. Hopefully elders can properly guide youngsters into the right direction and get the youngsters to critically think for themselves
Now I am confused that is any marriage today is like this
As-Salaam Alaikum. 😢❤🩵💙💚💜🥲🤗
If parents have been abusive then that relationship is more complicated nad is not necessarily and indicator for spousal treatment. But we should strive to be the best we can be to them for allahs sake.
I’m suffering I married a people pleaser. Today I am heart broken.
What is khuluq,ahklaq ? Bhai can you explain its meaning after mentioning a arabic thing