How These Single Moms Banded Together To Share Costs, Raise Kids
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 มี.ค. 2022
- TODAY’s Sheinelle Jones talks with four women, Herrin Hopper, Leandra Nichola, Holly Harper and Jen Jacobs, who amid the pandemic, divorces and loss, found healing and happiness by moving in together. The idea for the "full house" came from trying to find a way to save money and get support as single mothers, and the women have banded together, even helping Leandra open a cafe. They plan to invest in another house in hopes of helping other women.
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MORE people should do this. Help with expenses, cooking, homework, entertainment. Better security, I can think of all kinds of reasons! Of course you have to agree on rules, limits, I know that doesn't sound how I mean it. But willing people can make this work.
To be honest. It’s easier then I originally thought. I’m sure. Because they all have separate apartments. At first I thought they all lived in a normal house together. But it is an amazing idea if you can find a beautiful house like this that has so many units. Not so easy to find where I live sadly But great if you can.
This would work best with like-minded individuals. Doesn’t have to be same thought, just similar values and parenting ideas, etc. and be respectful of times when things differ. I’ve lived in a 40 woman room and board house in college and shared living absolutely can work. But it does require collaborative work, a defined schedule, regular meetings, and shared common goals. Having separate units makes it a lot easier to have some privacy but if this were a multi-bedroom house instead of a multi-unit building, it could still work but then you’d need to be really tight knit bonded individuals. Because of my experience in college, I’m very open to a home-share type situation with my friends, should our lives end up being single forever or single parents.
No. They are going to be lost
@@AMYV3 No. They are going to be lost
People do this it’s called Polygyny. I know a fully functional house with Man and his 4 Women it’s the best way.
The way rent is rising I wouldn’t be surprised if this becomes even more common. I love this for them 👏🏾💜
They are the modern day GOLDEN GIRLS in their prime.
this is literally a built-in support system, happier moms mean happier kids
No. They are going to be lost
And I.guess the best part no dads.
these women lucked out. sometimes it's not easy sharing a space.
Yup!
I am a single mom and I always thought it would be great if they had affordable housing communities like they have for the 55 + crowed
I'm so jealous! As a single mom, I've dreamt of having something just like this...home-sharing with other single moms for both the financial and logistical support. There was a TV show in the 80s, Kate & Allie, based on this type of living situation. Congrats to these women who were able to find their housemates & create a loving community.
Me too. I have no support as a single mom, my ex-husband's don't pay consistent child support, inflation is kicking my butt right now. I've thought about this so many times. Right now, I'd be happy to find similar single moms with the same moral values to create my own tribe of friends where we support each other.
I actually have a girlfriend who has 4 kids and is always in a relationship I myself am in a relationship 12 years we have 5 kids but we always joke one day we will all just live together ❤ and I think there is nothing wrong with it. It isn't easy to survive in this world why not do it happy healthy and enjoying every minute of life. Hugs 💜
Glad women are finally doing this! Great idea! Lots of support, less stress! Lots of Older woman do thing like this ! Shared Housing!
No. They are going to be lost
Remember, we used to live in villages that's how we survived, do not fall into Capitalist propaganda that you can do it all on your own and you don't need a support system.
However, it is hard to find such great, loyal friends. Congrats to those ladies!
"Burn the rule book of life and just look at it differently." Love that !!
What a beautiful story!! Family can be what we create! ❤️❤️❤️
No. They are going to be lost
Oh my goodness! Women of a certain age can do this too. I'm a forever single 59 yo and there are many women like me. Some of my GFs and I have tossed this idea around for ourselves.
I think about this all the time. 56 yo with 2 sons in college.
Being a single mom with no family no friends nearby to help in case of an emergency was scary. I would have loved to have had a community I could trust for help and guidance.
That's the way to do it !! Women supporting women, it's very empowering !!
I feel like this should be done into a movie, what an inspiration!
Wow. More single moms and dads will be doing this. Thanks for giving this idea some airtime.
This sounds awesome! I'm so happy they had a solution like this. I hope more families come together like this in the future!
I love love love this! I don’t even have kids
It’s like their own version of Full House. It wouldn’t work for everyone but it’s working for them and I think it’s wonderful!!
I'm a single mom of two boys. My boys are older, 20 and 14 years old. I love this concept! That is something I would love to have. Just a house full of love and respect!
Now imagine if you had this idea from the beginning and the children were all from the same Man. It’s a big Family.
This is actually a great idea.
I like this concept!
The key never let a man know where your house is or come sleep over
Remember when single moms were rare?
Pepperidge Farm remembers.
This is amazing, I love this so much.
Before they said they fell in love I judged beforehand and said they were all lesbians lol!!! That’s the only way this would work lmao
This is heartwarming
I absolutely 👍🏽 love this idea!!! If it’s people with the right mindset.
The ex-husbands are paying for that cat ranch.
I’ve been wishing to be able to do this.
This is sad how the family in America has been destroyed!
They are making this out as normal.
No, people used to live in the villages and supported each other, nuclear families separated from society is what is wrong with society. They are divorced for a reason, not all females and males are meant to share the same space.
Sounds like a dream... wish I could live this way... or that my mom could have.
Love this!!!! ❤
Aim for shared custody (if possible). It will greatly benefit your kid(s); It's invaluable to have close contact with your biological father for all humans. It will also free up time for yourself to exercise, etc. Win-win.
Maybe the child want to live would their mother. I know as a child I want to stay with my mom. My daddy asked why we didn't come visit him I said for what and my sister agreed.
@@tomarasmith4459 Did you not love your father?
I'm guessing the kids in these momunes are being taught to hate their father.
WOW!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ this needs to happen more.
What a beautiful story ❤️
Simply amazing😊
I wish :) If the couple move in together. I’ll take a unit for my amazing teen daughter and myself. lol.
We love children 😊
Truly awesome.
Excellent idea!
Carpet munching on the down low
I am sure the son will have a wonderful life after his transition
all you need is one man to ruin their harmony. are you allowed to date men? can you bring them home? if it gets serious, can he move in? or do you essentially sell off or let your share if you decide to move out to be with him? would they let just anyone lease or buy your share, or are you stuck?
Exactlyyyyyyyy
They have separate units, so there is a fair amount of privacy. Since they are single parents, they aren't going to bringing someone home unless it's very serious anyways. Any man would probably have to be cool with moving in to the set-up, but who's going to get mad about free childcare? I live in a 2-unit house, 3 renters downstairs and 5 renters upstairs, so all that's unusual to me about this is that they chose to live together instead of getting stuck together by a landlord. Worse case, especially with the news coverage, I don't imagine they'd have any trouble filling a vacancy.
I'm sure they have a contract and I'm sure they thought of this before, they don't seem like the ladies that made that decision on a whim. Besides, many women date and don't bring the male home, or introduce him to a family right away, it takes time to get to know someone.
Are the kids allowed to see their dads?
I love this!
I need a House Like this....
Also ladies think about buying land and each person builds their home 🏠🏡🏠🏡. It's happening I've seen it....
THIS!! This is exactly what came to my mind while watching this. Freaking genius and solves so many problems. Would have to work with each city's zoning laws though. And not sure how wells and septics would work on a small ish piece of land with multiple separate houses...
This would be a great movie. Id watch.
Just beautiful!
This is a great idea
This is beautiful. Blessings to them.
Living the dream 😆❤️
I want that :(. I'm so tired of being alone...
I guess a Good Man is Hard to Find
More like KEEP
The women ger along together its when you add men it can be a problem
So what do they do with sons?
Have they got a Instagram page?
Siren house yay
Yea!! Its so cool being a single parent!! Hey everybody should do it, its so fun, smile, happiness, laughter 🙄🙄
Sounds like you don't have any friends.
21st century Golden Girls. Ya!
"Let's celebrate toxic femininity!"
These Moms are my sheros.
Men of this society have failed us,it’s best we do it ourselves.
I said the samething!
Feminism failed you, not the men.
Takoma Park ,Maryland is a very PROGRESSIVE ,Liberal part of Maryland! I think Rep.Jamie Raskin ( MD) lives in Takoma Park too! No Stepford ,Republican woman living here! LOL!
Sister wives without the man or husband
And to keep their kids from their fathers.
Oh no 🙈… something is not right here
I feel bad for any boy growing up in that environment
Oh man I imagine the psychological abuse is bad. Probably constantly told they are horrible for being male
@@timriggins70don't be so miserable
There is nothing new here Mexican,Puerto Ricians,Chinese,Africans and Jamaicans
w/ no man?
Banded?
Shades of Kate & Allie!
I'm
What about a male role model for the male children? Are there any?
What's "male" role model?
💋💋💋💋💋
Something tells me they cry every night…
Cry about what?
Also do you know them personally?
What happened to kids growth up without father? bang bang bang!!!
5hry will be happy and fulfilled
"Feminist society" well said 4 single moms 2 of them lesbians, oh boy 😎
Cope ad seethe
Women have defined men living together in their 30s, 40s or 50s as being a loser so I'm confused on the different viewpoints when women do it 🤔
She really said because she lives with women she doesn’t have to take the trash out or ask anyone to do it, do any of them work physical labor or even work outside of the house. Are they all tech support? What happens if one of them gets married will there be jealousy and will they move out leaving the others in a financial crisis or would they just sell the house. Seems nice but I can see there being flaws in the future.
What physical labour?
Also, what do you mean working outside as in having paid jobs? How do you think they are paying to support themselves and the children?
And why would they be jealousy if one get married and moved out, what silly question.
@@z7z766 nah as in at their house since they don’t ask each other to take out the trash they just do I wonder what happens outside like yard work. Women are capable of doing yard work but for the most part would rather not depending on what the task is. Example- I just saw Brett cooper short with a girl who says she asked a random guy to change her flat because she didn’t know how to but she really did she just believes women shouldn’t have to do certain tasks that involve physical work. So back to convo, what happens when it comes to those types of activities that need to be done and they don’t want to do but can’t ask especially when it comes to living on top of each other. Most people would think who cares about lawn care, turns out a lot of people do and they like to go to township or county and complain so they fine property owners for not cleaning lawns and easements depending on where you live.
@@z7z766 my mom got jealous of her sister being pregnant and pushed for having a kid. Me and my sister were born around the same time as our cousins. People tend to get jealous over others relationships or just don’t like being around it. Have you ever lived in a house with a couple and a baby? It’s a weird dynamic even tho we are family. I personally would not get jealous but you do see it happen in society.
@@waste0fspace588
first of all, I think you are mentally challenged because do you even read what you wrote?
About the trash thing, when growns up and responsible adults live in a house together, they don't tell/nag each other what to do, they just do it. I lived in an apartment with another 3 female housemates, I was the only working person and the other 3 were University students, I used to come from work late at night and look for chores to do but there is nothing to do because these 3 young women took care of it like a responsible adults. They don't wait until the trash bile up, they don't wait until the house get dirty, whoever had the chance to do cleaning they will clean, so since I have nothing to contribute during the weekdays, I chose to do deep cleaning for the house once a week as way to contribute. That's why grown ups don't ask each other what to do, they have common sense, I don't have to tell a grown up to take the trash out, they should take it once they see that the trash need to be taken care of.
As for yard work comment, this is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read but an not surprised, you are male after all, ridiculousness is in your Y chromosome.
Let me give you an example, when you live alone in your own house, do you expect a ghost to take care of your house or you just do it?
Another example, if you live in a house with a manchild, who acts clueless and refuse to participate in EVERYDAY domestic labour, like cooking, cleaning and child care, which is 24/7 physical job, and he is refusing to do it because he knows it's exhausting and very stressing so he tries to act as he is contributing to the house by doing yard "work" which is once a week/weekly chorus unlike the daily 24/7 job he running from, so what can you do in that situation, will you fight that manchild on who gets to do the weekly yard work and let the house in mess and everyone starve or will you do the work and it's priority?
You based your silly assumption that women don't do yard work because you saw the patriarchal dynamics betwen couples where males are running from daily domestic labour and picked the easy weekly chores while women do the daily never ending chores that takes more work and hours.
Let me tell you a story, a coworker of mine reached her limit, their house work was divided unequally, so she demanded to switch the chores with her husband, he refused in the beginning and was making it as its a unnecessary to do so because their division is equal, but she insisted on it and in end they switched chores. His chores was yard work which is was once a week, fixing anything if it was broken (they didn't break anything for a whole year) and driving the kids to school, her chores were daily, cooking 3 meals daily, cleaning the whole house, doing laundry, doing grocery, cleaning toilets, preparing the kids for school, washing and feeding the kids at night and helping them with their homework, once they switched these chores, he couldn't last for 3 days, he complained and whined like a little boy, but she was firm and refused to switch back, he neglected the house and the kids on purpose thinking that she will go back to doing the chores but nope, they ultimately got divorced because the manchild couldn't keep up with the domestic labour. So to answer your question, any human will choose doing weekly yard work than doing daily never ending chores like cooking and cleaning. From your ridiculous comment, why do you make it like domestic labour (cooking and cleaning, laundry and childcare isn't a physical labour but somehow yard maintaining is a physical one? Do you know what is physical labour, it's a work that needs body?
Also why do you make it as of women lack common sense? Do you think A group of women who live in house and chose to help each other and raise their children together but somehow you think they will magically neglect their weekly yard work because your ignorant @ss think they require a weiner to do yard work or because you saw a pick me woman who thinks she shouldn't do some certain task because she doesn't a weiner then you projected her mentality on other women?
As for the jealous part, you are weird for that one, normal ppl don't get jealous if their friend or family members are doing great, whether they are in great relationship or doing great at work etc. If someone you are close to doing great then as normal person you will glad for them, the once who get jealous and feeling bad about other fortunes then they are sick and require a therapy. So you took your mother sickness and projected it on other ppl, your mother is sick and she needs therapy, don't project that sickess in random women you don't know.
Who deals with the burglar at midnight?
The ppl in the house
Who pays the bills? So they share the bills now?
What do you think?
Those two lesbians were married to men before? no matter it didn't work out with their husbands lmaooooo.
Did you know that bisexual people exist?
The real question is why they don't have a man
Well, maybe they did and it wasn't a happy or successful arrangement.
Bonding with people who see the world the way you do, can be very comforting and provide emotional security.
Maybe they didn't feel that way with the men in their lives.
Something to think about,I guess.
I'm sure if they had felt that way with their husbands,then they would most certainly still be married!
So, good on them for supporting each other and creating a happy home life for their children.
Or they are so entitled and stubborn and can't take patriarchy. A woman has a role and a man does and when women try to raise kids on they own it doesn't work because the kids do not have an authority figure in their life a man's word and demeanor.
Also women do not know how to bond anymore because so many sexual partners they have been with.
Maybe they don't want one. I'm at a place in my life where I don't want to be tied down to anyone except my son. I date, but choose not to be in a relationship.
@@madreep no woman wants to be alone goes for the same with men.
Can’t keep a man girls ????
They’re all useless...nothing worth keeping, just taking out the trash
Smartest women ever to not want those men and have to care for those king babies
It's funny how all the women in here support this as a "fantastic idea," that more people should do....."
Except... There is no father figure for the children.
Yes, it's called having a family, something so many women do not want to have.
4 mothers... Who disciplines the children? all of them? So one mother can discipline another mother's child?
Sure, having a family with multiple mothers is something that has happened throughout history....
But at the top with the father of the home.