I appreciate your content and your honest discussions. Maturity is gained by facing life’s trials not by pretending they aren’t there. Keep up the good work
Hello Wilma and Greg, Great video. Just wanted to say you are from a different generation and thinking. Wisdom is from Experience. You both really care and love each other. Keep up the Good Work. You are the 1% of Good in this World. 😊
Your channel is refreshing compared to the other PH channels. Your main goal from what I can tell is not to make money off your vids (nothing against making money on YT). It's more like a hobby that makes it refreshing.
Glad you added this new direction to an already very good channel. As someone in the 50's considering moving to duma with my Filipina wife and kids , you offer some good takes on life there. I as well hate drama, and would avoid it at all costs. I'm there next week again and will once again look around and consider if I could live there. I did love your house build videos , and think your house layout is almost exactly what I would do. keep the great content coming
You are absolutely correct. Be kind, but don't let people in too quickly, in the end of the day, after enough time passes, people who deserve to be acknowledged real friends will be apparent based on their words and deeds. Continued success and good health! Love the Iron Dome comparison!
The concept of having an "Iron Dome" relationship is not only ingenious but humorous, in that you could stretch the analogy a bit further and say that not only a defense system is needed, but early warning system as well. My Filipina wife and I have the same conversations except we refer to our relationship as a fortess. We lower the drawbridge time to time, but always remember to pull it back up. And beware any Trojan horses! BTW, not sure who released the Mark Thornton memorial video, but it was very moving and honored Mark's life the right way. Noticed you referred to Mark as one of your true friends. That's awesome. 😊🙏
Well timed advice guys and love the Iron Dome comparison! After 3 months here in Lipa, Batangas, Ghen and I (are 10% now owning some land). We are just laying low here, visiting her family, few vacation getaways and planning the 2025 house build. Hope you all had a great Merry Christmas and have a Happy New Years!
Hi Wilma & Greg. There is jealousy indeed, but also envy. Enjoy your life and keep on looking for the action of the people, not only their words. Wish you guys a belated Merry Xmas and a happy New Year!
17:14 "The best thing to do is talk about how "poor" you are." Is a very good advice! We all have problems, so maybe focusing on those as a conversation rather than boasting on what you have accumulated. I am sure you have seen how Expat are NOT to solve peoples problems but approached by many as a savior. Thank you for what you do!!!
Nice Video! I would also add I never, ever tell my girlfriends what is best for them and/or try to give unsolicited advice about (fill in the blank) "You’re in no position to lecture the public about anything..." - Ricky Gervais (2020 Golden Globes)
Hello Greg and Wilma, Been married to my Beautiful Filipina for 17 years, living in Indiana. We recently purchased land in Cebu. We enjoy you content of house building, planning to build in about 5 years. Enjoy seeing info on how houses are build in the Philippines. Planning to be my own General contractor for our house build. also enjoy your insight of living in the PI, Thank you Gene @ Rose
Well said. Apart from my partner I have one true friend I can trust with anything. Unfortunately I find that many Filipinos attach themselves to my Filipina partner in the hope of deriving some benefit from the relationship.
Much appreciated video 👍 I also very much appreciated your support for Mark, Jen & Rogan. Very sensible video you did with Jen on Marks channel. Would you do a video on how and what to prepare in case of (fatal) emergencies like Mark had? Thanks 🙏🏽 and have a nice weekend!
Thanks appreciate the comment. I won't do a video on my friends passing. I may look to do a video about Healthcare, hospitals here and what paperwork/up front money needed.
@ yes that’s what I meant. I’m not interested in further details about Mark’s passing. But you mentioned in that video he was very well prepared and i think lessons learned from that experience may be valuable information
Hi Greg and Wilma, it’s your neighbor on your right side( the still empty lot 😊) I came home last summer and got the chance to meet the couple building a house to your left… beautiful , enormous structure ! Just like yours!! I was almost tempted to knock on your front door uninvited but decided not to 😊… hope to meet you both on my next visit. Happy new year🎉
Greg, I suggest that 98 % of us think you did not miss the mark whatsoever! 😂😂😂. It was pointed, succinct, and very sage advice. After almost 12 years in Costa Rica, we found here very similar traits that you mentioned. Likely any country with xpats will experience this. Now, with plans 2025 to move there, I will keep my guard up there as painfully as I learned here.😊😊😊😊 i am not surprised Wilma and you marching to your own drum at get togethers! Well done. Cheers, Tony
@buildingthephilippines - Only very few people (youtubers) who I would deliberately look for to attempt to meet when I arrive in the Philippines. You are both so much like we are, I guess what's coming in your comments most of the time. My Filipina has no experience in the first world living, but so much like Wilma, which makes me grin ear to ear. I so enjoy Wilma. I am sure Wilma keeps you on your toes.
Hi Greg and Wilma we are in the process of finding a place to stay and start driving your way Tuesday. What’s your opinion of the beech resort. If you have any.
Good advice I needed to hear. I have a tendency to be an open book with my personal info; never one to hide who I am. I guess I feel that my openness will either drive off those who don't care for my type, or endear me to those who do...win/win. I should work to find balance, I suppose.
The fruit picture to the left of the oven extractor is out of level, or the kitchen cupboards are out of level 🤣On a serious note, thanks for the advice, and your house build series was 100%, great work
Greg your audio has a bit of echo in it because you are in a big room. I think your camera microphone is getting mixed in with your wireless mics when you export your video. Not sure of your camera or editing setup but see if you can only record the wireless mics. Or eliminate the camera mic audio channel in your editing software.
Sorry to hear about finding a good friend, but don't give up.being careful is very smart. It's hard to find a good, loving, and faithful friend that you can trust!
That’s funny I would have never known about Wilma and her job she is quite all the time I’m planning on retiring there in June and I was a owner operator for 30 years here in the USA so it’s funny to hear stuff like can score 😃
@jimmykeller6588 Yes, the dreaded CSA score. Don't want to end up in conditional status. She was a Smyth system trainer as well. She had quite the career.
Hey Jimmy and Wilma I'm a retired OO as well - been married 30 years with my filipina Great advice about keeping cards close to your chest - don't brag Hauled show and specialized freight
I appreciated this one. We tried to catch up with you two in June, but you were sick. We just broke ground down the road from you across from The Halfway Cafe. Ruby and I had recently been talking about some of the topics you addressed in this vlog. There is a lot we relate to in your vlogs as we’ve been married for 22 years in the U.S. and also work in transportation. We are looking forward to making the move next year. The boss is ready now… cheers and thanks for the valuable info you have shared over the last two years. Regards, Ruby & Jason
@ We’re still in the States. Our architect, also our builder is someone we previously knew through mutual friends here in L.A. She built our fence and we’ve spent 6 months on the design. Ruby will go over soon to supervise as her role in our business works remotely.
Hi Greg - another (upstate) NY Greg here. My Leytena wife (from Palo) and I have been married for 15 great years. Friends and acquaintances have come and and gone during that time, because that's how life is. But some remain, and we're blessed with that. I understand your frustration with needless and hurtful gossip, but don't get too isolated. Build your emotional iron dome if you feel compelled to do so, but keep an entry door open. A building with only an exit will eventually be empty. Besides, my asawa and I are moving to Dumaguete and we (someday) hope to be counted among your cherished aquaintances, if not among you close friends. We do appreciate your channel and the information on building a home, as that looks like it will also be our housing strategy if we can't find the right house.
Hello Greg & Wilma. I don’t have much comment on your first topic other than simply be yourself and always remember you always have freedom of choice (in terms of who you trust and spend time with). But sure, it’s helpful to be aware there can be others who may not have your best interest in mind. So likely better to be cautious. Congratulations on eating dinner together and making your own decisions on anything rather than giving into peer pressure. Here in Japan where I live, most people are followers and do what is expected by social rules of conduct. Japan is an extremely ‘controlled’ society which I’ve never felt I fit well into. So, much easier to spend time on my own. It is safe to say, living in Japan for well over 10 years, I’ve never met a leader. No one would dare be a leader here for fear of ‘losing face’ and being permanently shunned among the group.
Sorry to say, but this video does come off as being a bit of a gossipy, high school mentality. Live your life and never mind what other people think and say about you. My opinion only. Wish you both the very best in 2025. 😊
Your opinion, I appreciate the comment. My goal with this video was to let future retirees to the Philippines be aware of what (more than likely) will happen to them. I guess I missed the mark.
I would say explaining gossip can sound like gossip. But try to understand the true meaning of the topic and the heart of the person sharing information. It can be a reality living in the Philippines or any country. Better to hear the possibilities than to be blindsided.
I have been a over the road driver for the past 20 years. Owner-Operator for the past 7. I'm going to guess Wilma worked for Walmart? I dedicate myself and truck to Walmart occasionally. My Leyte girl stays with me on the road and loves it.
My wife and I are the same, we do everything together. Also, you should do a video reading mean comments. They’re usually funny because they’re so ridiculous.
I invited a German friend to my house its quite nice and he went all weird not showing interest in anything and then I found out when he left he was going around telling everyone my Spanish tile roof was not real Spanish tile just concrete cheap tiles, I never bragged about anything I was really shocked considering I thought he was my friend.
You guys are not so lucky as you are smart. You have created your own luck by your commitment to THE RELATIONSHIP that matters most. My wife and I are Blessed because of our commitment to our faith as well as one another.
I just watched. This episode, almost all of your advises are on point. I’m a Filipina myself here in USA, and that applies even here. Don’t Spill all to people even though you have been seen them many many times. Some people are just being nosy but there they want toI get you spend for them. I 100 percent agree. With your opinions.Especially there,most people are just after your $$ if you have it. 👌👌👌👌
Good advice. We spend about 3 months out of the year in the Philippines and we don't have any foreigner friends where we are. It's mostly about family and now there is a split between because of jealousy. We have a nice house where our kids live and we have our own space. The jealous sister is constantly copying everything we do too as they say here in US keep up with the Joneses. We have met a few foreigners in Baliwag, Bulacan where are we do most of our shopping but we just see them in passing. We're heading back to PH in a few weeks, maybe look you guys up if we head over to Negros. Thanks for sharing. J & Lilian
I must be doing something wrong? I haven't made many friends, since moving here, 1 year ago (subject of next video). I have a few good acquaintances in Negros Oriental (you know the other 2), and I'm hoping that over the next year, or so, those will be upgraded? The majority of the people I associate with are family members, and a few from Church. Even most of the "friendly" people are still just acquaintances, though. Maybe my defenses are up too much? 🤔 Love the truthful videos you're putting out, lately 👍 I hope you and Wilma have a happy transition into 2025 💥🇵🇭🌴
Good afternoon Wilma and Greg this is Bruce and Jenny who owned the house or the land I mean on next to you. We’ve met a few times in Hypermart. You’ll remember me now I’m sure anyway I was in a motorcycle accident and we’ve had to go to St. Luke’s hospital in Manila and now we’re on our way back to Canada so if anybody is curious, especially your neighbours cause I’ve met them Joseph and I don’t have her name because I just got out of the hospital. I’m a little tired. we’ll be back in late September or October to start our house but we just had to put it on hold while this accident happened so thank you for everything you’ve done and we’ve talked to you before and I appreciate that just in case anybody was wondering, what happened to me cause I couldn’t talk to anybody till nowHappy new year to you both to you and enjoy.
Well said. We need more Expats to live in a bubble and not vlog drama or give their advice of living here for only a few years just to feel wanted and obtain click bait. My Filipina wife of almost 33 years lived the same lifestyle in Japan for 30 years and now at our residences here.
Yes Sir, I have iron curtain, just like Israel, but it’s people. You are 100% on Track, another reason I always tell people do not sell out of the USA because you never know of China we could be on a plane next week heading to the states if shit hits the fan will be the first ones killed, We have to Exit, Thats just fact, We can fund our community safety from the US, But we cant do shit if we are dead! Happy to see this Video, God Is Great, Remember that, When I came here a Texan told me the only to worry about is other foreigners, In my 4 years everyone I met has failed lol, I font trust only 4 here, wife, nephew, niece, and one sister-in-law, and that is it, I have two full time employees growing my trust, But not yet, lol God Bless
Greg; I agree being genuine seems to be lost. I believe since covid it's worse. My wife & don't have time for jealousy or chezmiz. We are still planning to go to Iloilo in Jan 2026. We're not sure if we will build a house or not, my dream is to build a home there, The costs have gone up so much there. I will check it out in 2026 & then make our decision, we hope our budget will be adequate. Martin from Vancouver BC, Canada
I like your day to day videos of building and.life I have kept to myself and flown under the radar here for 12 years and didnt move here to hang with expatsand im not interested in the yt drama channels they all just regurgitate the same shit You guys keep it real thats the appeal. Sadly, everyone has an opinion
@@buildingthephilippines the comment is not aimed at you its just to say that people giveaway far more information about themselves than they intend to .
Like always, I enjoy your content and your perspective on life. As my one ACTUAL friend always says: “Birds of a feather flock together.” As we mix in an open society we come in contact with many different lifestyles and philosophy’s. True friendships are rare occurrences that need to be cared for and cherished. On the same note distancing yourself from those with ulterior motives or incongruent philosophies is better for all involved. The good news is that since TH-cam is an open forum it provides for the “Planting of seeds “ as I think of it. The people who you probably wouldn’t associate with are given the opportunity to learn from your experiences and your example. How people react is on them and not on you. Keep up the good work. My thought is that the inappropriate reactions you receive are indicative of guilt and jealousy. The CRAB mentality. It could be the first indication of future acceptance and growth
Gossip is unfortunately everywhere some places are worse than other places. In fact it’s one of God’s advice not to do in order to be a righteous person.Proverbs 16:28: "Remember someone who gossips to you will gossip about you, and gossip separates friendships" Proverbs 20:19: "Do not associate with a gossip" Leviticus 19:16: "You shall not go around as a gossip among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor [with slander or false testimony]" Proverbs 26:20-22: "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down" 🌺
The thing about people going to the Philippines is Westerners are bombarded with the idea the Flipinos are the most friendly nation in the world, they are but only very superficially.
Bad analogy Greg. The Iranian missiles get through the iron dome at a rate of OVER 50%! But yes, the Filipinas jealousy is extreme. Which causes lots of marital friction! But our marriage is impenetrable to ALL the people around trying to destroy our marriage. Our biggest strength is our faith In Christ Jesus and my Filipina ONLY having children from me. 😊🙏🏻
As in everything else, trust but verify. There are too many users and manipulators in this world. Wilma probably laughed at the joke because she is more fluent in English than the vast majority of Filipinas. As far as hateful and disrespectful comments here, an interaction is an interaction as far as TH-cam is concerned. It still boosts your content. That should make it even easier to smile and brush it off.
Wilma keeps an eye on you at the parties as she knows a chick-boy when she sees one😊! I just block the negative people on my channel. Guy comes on one of my first videos from PI and tells me that the wife is going to leave me based on her body language in the video! Then he tell me my wife is spending too much $$$! I enjoy your channel. Keep them coming and ignore the losers.
Great video and congrats on your relationship, beautiful home and retirement. Happy New year. Tell Prince hi from Texas.
Thank you
Great very sensible video 3:08 you two are a real class act 👍
@@lyndonhenry8127 Thank you
Awesome channel. Classy... Refined...
Confident...
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@jameswilson1522 Thanks James, thanks for watching.
I appreciate your content and your honest discussions. Maturity is gained by facing life’s trials not by pretending they aren’t there. Keep up the good work
Very true, there's plenty of people who want to see you fail. We need to see over them, not at them.
You have a great Channel. Great Info.
@A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES Thank you, appreciate that.
Hello Wilma and Greg, Great video. Just wanted to say you are from a different generation and thinking. Wisdom is from Experience. You both really care and love each other. Keep up the Good Work. You are the 1% of Good in this World. 😊
Thank you for the comment, appreciate it.
Your channel is refreshing compared to the other PH channels. Your main goal from what I can tell is not to make money off your vids (nothing against making money on YT). It's more like a hobby that makes it refreshing.
100% a hobby. Appreciate the comment.
Great advice. Happy holidays
Thank you, Happy New Year.
Happy Holidays to both of you. Your best video this year! Many more to come.
Thank you, appreciate that.
Glad you added this new direction to an already very good channel. As someone in the 50's considering moving to duma with my Filipina wife and kids , you offer some good takes on life there. I as well hate drama, and would avoid it at all costs. I'm there next week again and will once again look around and consider if I could live there. I did love your house build videos , and think your house layout is almost exactly what I would do. keep the great content coming
Appreciate the comment.
You are absolutely correct. Be kind, but don't let people in too quickly, in the end of the day, after enough time passes, people who deserve to be acknowledged real friends will be apparent based on their words and deeds. Continued success and good health! Love the Iron Dome comparison!
@BarakTheWonderer LOL, the iron dome is a new term used more often lately. More fancy than bubble or force field. Appreciate the comment.
The concept of having an "Iron Dome" relationship is not only ingenious but humorous, in that you could stretch the analogy a bit further and say that not only a defense system is needed, but early warning system as well. My Filipina wife and I have the same conversations except we refer to our relationship as a fortess. We lower the drawbridge time to time, but always remember to pull it back up. And beware any Trojan horses! BTW, not sure who released the Mark Thornton memorial video, but it was very moving and honored Mark's life the right way. Noticed you referred to Mark as one of your true friends. That's awesome. 😊🙏
Yes, he was, I will miss him. Need to be so careful in today's world. It's a shame really.
Good video!
Thanks
Hello Wilma and Greg! Our favorite couple in the Philippines! 🇵🇭 ❤
Thank you, appreciate it.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Years you two from Canada
Happy New Year, thanks for watching.
Well timed advice guys and love the Iron Dome comparison!
After 3 months here in Lipa, Batangas, Ghen and I (are 10% now owning some land). We are just laying low here, visiting her family, few vacation getaways and planning the 2025 house build. Hope you all had a great Merry Christmas and have a Happy New Years!
Sounds like a great plan. Happy New Year, exciting times for you guys.
That’s been on my mind too. I also have been thinking of making a similar video.
You definitely should.
Hi Wilma & Greg. There is jealousy indeed, but also envy. Enjoy your life and keep on looking for the action of the people, not only their words. Wish you guys a belated Merry Xmas and a happy New Year!
Yes, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you. Eyes and ears at the back of your head. Thanks for commenting.
Looking forward to getting to know you both in 2025, signed a you tube new 😂aquaintence
17:14 "The best thing to do is talk about how "poor" you are." Is a very good advice! We all have problems, so maybe focusing on those as a conversation rather than boasting on what you have accumulated.
I am sure you have seen how Expat are NOT to solve peoples problems but approached by many as a savior.
Thank you for what you do!!!
Well said, appreciate the comment.
Hi guys, Yes be true to yourself! Happy New Year neighbor!🤠
@joedavis2066 Happy New Year to you, neighbor !!!
Nice Video! I would also add I never, ever tell my girlfriends what is best for them and/or try to give unsolicited advice about (fill in the blank) "You’re in no position to lecture the public about anything..." - Ricky Gervais (2020 Golden Globes)
Thanks, Ricky is a great comedian. He tells it the way it is.
Nothing but time available to retirees to chismiss....lol....good video, Wilma and Greg...Jim
Pretty sad, right? Thanks for commenting.
Hello Greg and Wilma, Been married to my Beautiful Filipina for 17 years, living in Indiana. We recently purchased land in Cebu. We enjoy you content of house building, planning to build in about 5 years. Enjoy seeing info on how houses are build in the Philippines. Planning to be my own General contractor for our house build. also enjoy your insight of living in the PI, Thank you Gene @ Rose
Congrats guys on your future retirement to the Philippines.
Well said.
Apart from my partner I have one true friend I can trust with anything. Unfortunately I find that many Filipinos attach themselves to my Filipina partner in the hope of deriving some benefit from the relationship.
Yes, that is sometimes true as well. Isn't it all a shame. Retirement is supposed to be happy/relaxing times.
Much appreciated video 👍 I also very much appreciated your support for Mark, Jen & Rogan. Very sensible video you did with Jen on Marks channel. Would you do a video on how and what to prepare in case of (fatal) emergencies like Mark had? Thanks 🙏🏽 and have a nice weekend!
Thanks appreciate the comment. I won't do a video on my friends passing. I may look to do a video about Healthcare, hospitals here and what paperwork/up front money needed.
@ yes that’s what I meant. I’m not interested in further details about Mark’s passing. But you mentioned in that video he was very well prepared and i think lessons learned from that experience may be valuable information
@sumostorms Yes, will look to put something together.
Wilma and Greg, the more I learn about you, the more I am happy and respect the both of you.
Thanks Steve, appreciate that.
Hi Greg and Wilma, it’s your neighbor on your right side( the still empty lot 😊) I came home last summer and got the chance to meet the couple building a house to your left… beautiful , enormous structure ! Just like yours!! I was almost tempted to knock on your front door uninvited but decided not to 😊… hope to meet you both on my next visit. Happy new year🎉
@IryshSy Next time, stop by and say hello. Thanks for watching.
I sure will! I enjoy your videos very much !keep em coming !! 😊
Greg,
I suggest that 98 % of us think you did not miss the mark whatsoever! 😂😂😂. It was pointed, succinct, and very sage advice. After almost 12 years in Costa Rica, we found here very similar traits that you mentioned. Likely any country with xpats will experience this. Now, with plans 2025 to move there, I will keep my guard up there as painfully as I learned here.😊😊😊😊 i am not surprised Wilma and you marching to your own drum at get togethers! Well done.
Cheers,
Tony
There's always people who think differently than others. It is what makes the world go around. Appreciate the call out. Does that make us 98%ers ?
@buildingthephilippines - Only very few people (youtubers) who I would deliberately look for to attempt to meet when I arrive in the Philippines. You are both so much like we are, I guess what's coming in your comments most of the time. My Filipina has no experience in the first world living, but so much like Wilma, which makes me grin ear to ear. I so enjoy Wilma. I am sure Wilma keeps you on your toes.
More than you know. She's a straight talker in real life, quiet on you tube.
Hi Greg and Wilma we are in the process of finding a place to stay and start driving your way Tuesday. What’s your opinion of the beech resort. If you have any.
Atlantis or Pura Vida are the best choices. A bit on the high side for cost though.
@@buildingthephilippinesdo you have time to meet up.
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Good advice I needed to hear. I have a tendency to be an open book with my personal info; never one to hide who I am. I guess I feel that my openness will either drive off those who don't care for my type, or endear me to those who do...win/win. I should work to find balance, I suppose.
In the Philippines, I suggest say as little as possible. My 2 cents.
The fruit picture to the left of the oven extractor is out of level, or the kitchen cupboards are out of level 🤣On a serious note, thanks for the advice, and your house build series was 100%, great work
The cross breeze throughout the home moves that picture daily. I straighten it all the time. Thanks for watching.
Greg your audio has a bit of echo in it because you are in a big room. I think your camera microphone is getting mixed in with your wireless mics when you export your video. Not sure of your camera or editing setup but see if you can only record the wireless mics. Or eliminate the camera mic audio channel in your editing software.
OK, will give it a try.
Everything you said is true!! If someone is asking me personal questions, I will tell him, what newspaper do you work?? And he will stop asking.
That's a good approach, thanks for commenting.
Just be yourself guys and happy 2025
Bingo, Happy New Year.
You two and California Expat have been makin it real. 😊
Thank you, appreciate the comment.
Sorry to hear about finding a good friend, but don't give up.being careful is very smart. It's hard to find a good, loving, and faithful friend that you can trust!
Thanks, Cristina, for commenting.
@cristinateller9107 Best friend is the best enemy, they know all your secrets.
That’s funny I would have never known about Wilma and her job she is quite all the time I’m planning on retiring there in June and I was a owner operator for 30 years here in the USA so it’s funny to hear stuff like can score 😃
@jimmykeller6588 Yes, the dreaded CSA score. Don't want to end up in conditional status. She was a Smyth system trainer as well. She had quite the career.
Hey Jimmy and Wilma
I'm a retired OO as well - been married 30 years with my filipina
Great advice about keeping cards close to your chest - don't brag
Hauled show and specialized freight
@@jonpritz9838 Thanks for watching
I appreciated this one. We tried to catch up with you two in June, but you were sick. We just broke ground down the road from you across from The Halfway Cafe. Ruby and I had recently been talking about some of the topics you addressed in this vlog. There is a lot we relate to in your vlogs as we’ve been married for 22 years in the U.S. and also work in transportation. We are looking forward to making the move next year. The boss is ready now… cheers and thanks for the valuable info you have shared over the last two years. Regards, Ruby & Jason
Yes, several homes are going up in that area. Are you in the States or here full-time?
@ We’re still in the States. Our architect, also our builder is someone we previously knew through mutual friends here in L.A. She built our fence and we’ve spent 6 months on the design. Ruby will go over soon to supervise as her role in our business works remotely.
@@jasonrhodes8890 congrats guys.
Hi Greg - another (upstate) NY Greg here. My Leytena wife (from Palo) and I have been married for 15 great years. Friends and acquaintances have come and and gone during that time, because that's how life is. But some remain, and we're blessed with that. I understand your frustration with needless and hurtful gossip, but don't get too isolated. Build your emotional iron dome if you feel compelled to do so, but keep an entry door open. A building with only an exit will eventually be empty. Besides, my asawa and I are moving to Dumaguete and we (someday) hope to be counted among your cherished aquaintances, if not among you close friends. We do appreciate your channel and the information on building a home, as that looks like it will also be our housing strategy if we can't find the right house.
Striking the right balance is important.
Especially if you are the best person in the world.
That is correct
Hello Greg & Wilma. I don’t have much comment on your first topic other than simply be yourself and always remember you always have freedom of choice (in terms of who you trust and spend time with). But sure, it’s helpful to be aware there can be others who may not have your best interest in mind. So likely better to be cautious. Congratulations on eating dinner together and making your own decisions on anything rather than giving into peer pressure. Here in Japan where I live, most people are followers and do what is expected by social rules of conduct. Japan is an extremely ‘controlled’ society which I’ve never felt I fit well into. So, much easier to spend time on my own. It is safe to say, living in Japan for well over 10 years, I’ve never met a leader. No one would dare be a leader here for fear of ‘losing face’ and being permanently shunned among the group.
@ShikokuFoodForest Thanks for sharing your experience with Japanese culture, very interesting.
Sorry to say, but this video does come off as being a bit of a gossipy, high school mentality. Live your life and never mind what other people think and say about you. My opinion only. Wish you both the very best in 2025. 😊
Your opinion, I appreciate the comment. My goal with this video was to let future retirees to the Philippines be aware of what (more than likely) will happen to them. I guess I missed the mark.
No, you didn’t miss the mark. People see what they want to see. It was educational, not gossipy.
@LoganJoannesRollerCoaster appreciate that
I would say explaining gossip can sound like gossip. But try to understand the true meaning of the topic and the heart of the person sharing information. It can be a reality living in the Philippines or any country. Better to hear the possibilities than to be blindsided.
It’s an issue that needs to be addressed around here. They never mentioned anyone, just a general issue that needs to be addressed and resolved.
I have been a over the road driver for the past 20 years. Owner-Operator for the past 7. I'm going to guess Wilma worked for Walmart? I dedicate myself and truck to Walmart occasionally. My Leyte girl stays with me on the road and loves it.
She worked for JB Hunt. Happy New Year.
My wife and I are the same, we do everything together. Also, you should do a video reading mean comments. They’re usually funny because they’re so ridiculous.
I like that idea, some of them really makes us laugh. Appreciate the comment.
I invited a German friend to my house its quite nice and he went all weird not showing interest in anything and then I found out when he left he was going around telling everyone my Spanish tile roof was not real Spanish tile just concrete cheap tiles, I never bragged about anything I was really shocked considering I thought he was my friend.
That definitely happens sometimes. That's called a false friend.
You guys are not so lucky as you are smart. You have created your own luck by your commitment to THE RELATIONSHIP that matters most. My wife and I are Blessed because of our commitment to our faith as well as one another.
I will take either, lucky or smart. I just know I hit the jackpot, lottery and a grand slam home run with Wilma. The rest who gives a - - - -.
I just watched. This episode, almost all of your advises are on point. I’m a Filipina myself here in USA, and that applies even here. Don’t Spill all to people even though you have been seen them many many times. Some people are just being nosy but there they want toI get you spend for them. I 100 percent agree. With your opinions.Especially there,most people are just after your $$ if you have it. 👌👌👌👌
Thanks for the comment, appreciate it.
Good advice. We spend about 3 months out of the year in the Philippines and we don't have any foreigner friends where we are. It's mostly about family and now there is a split between because of jealousy. We have a nice house where our kids live and we have our own space. The jealous sister is constantly copying everything we do too as they say here in US keep up with the Joneses. We have met a few foreigners in Baliwag, Bulacan where are we do most of our shopping but we just see them in passing. We're heading back to PH in a few weeks, maybe look you guys up if we head over to Negros. Thanks for sharing.
J & Lilian
@jetboatjohnny357 Jealousy really is a big thing here. I wish it wasn't.
I must be doing something wrong? I haven't made many friends, since moving here, 1 year ago (subject of next video). I have a few good acquaintances in Negros Oriental (you know the other 2), and I'm hoping that over the next year, or so, those will be upgraded?
The majority of the people I associate with are family members, and a few from Church. Even most of the "friendly" people are still just acquaintances, though.
Maybe my defenses are up too much? 🤔
Love the truthful videos you're putting out, lately 👍
I hope you and Wilma have a happy transition into 2025 💥🇵🇭🌴
Thanks Jerry, Happy New Year.
Good afternoon Wilma and Greg this is Bruce and Jenny who owned the house or the land I mean on next to you. We’ve met a few times in Hypermart. You’ll remember me now I’m sure anyway I was in a motorcycle accident and we’ve had to go to St. Luke’s hospital in Manila and now we’re on our way back to Canada so if anybody is curious, especially your neighbours cause I’ve met them Joseph and I don’t have her name because I just got out of the hospital. I’m a little tired. we’ll be back in late September or October to start our house but we just had to put it on hold while this accident happened so thank you for everything you’ve done and we’ve talked to you before and I appreciate that just in case anybody was wondering, what happened to me cause I couldn’t talk to anybody till nowHappy new year to you both to you and enjoy.
Oh, very sorry to hear about your accident. Hope you get better soon. I will fill James in. Good luck to you and see you when you get back.
@ Thank you very much
Everything you said is 100% true.
Thank you, appreciate the comment.
Well said. We need more Expats to live in a bubble and not vlog drama or give their advice of living here for only a few years just to feel wanted and obtain click bait. My Filipina wife of almost 33 years lived the same lifestyle in Japan for 30 years and now at our residences here.
@PaulandTessPhilippinesDec2023 Unfortunately, some need to be click baity as they are focusing on the monthly payout.
Yes Sir, I have iron curtain, just like Israel, but it’s people. You are 100% on Track, another reason I always tell people do not sell out of the USA because you never know of China we could be on a plane next week heading to the states if shit hits the fan will be the first ones killed, We have to Exit,
Thats just fact, We can fund our community safety from the US, But we cant do shit if we are dead!
Happy to see this Video,
God Is Great, Remember that, When I came here a Texan told me the only to worry about is other foreigners, In my 4 years everyone I met has failed lol, I font trust only 4 here, wife, nephew, niece, and one sister-in-law, and that is it, I have two full time employees growing my trust, But not yet, lol
God Bless
Thanks for watching and commenting. Appreciate it.
Let the people talk about you behind your back while Jesus blesses you in front of them. 😇
Great way of looking at it.
Greg; I agree being genuine seems to be lost. I believe since covid it's worse. My wife & don't have time for jealousy or chezmiz. We are still planning to go to Iloilo in Jan 2026. We're not sure if we will build a house or not, my dream is to build a home there, The costs have gone up so much there. I will check it out in 2026 & then make our decision, we hope our budget will be adequate. Martin from Vancouver BC, Canada
Thanks, Martin, for the comment.
It’s a great house don’t listen some people are just so pained by other peoples joy.
Very true, jealousy (envy) is one of the deadly sins.
Also , I was very Surprised About Wilma, She must have been one Tuff cookie , dealing with OTR Guys and Gals
She was really good at her job. She got bigger bonuses than I did.
I like your day to day videos of building and.life I have kept to myself and flown under the radar here for 12 years and didnt move here to hang with expatsand im not interested in the yt drama channels they all just regurgitate the same shit
You guys keep it real thats the appeal. Sadly, everyone has an opinion
Staying under the radar is a good thing. Happy New Year.
its a very underestimated skill being able to keep your mouth shut .
I could take this comment two ways. Could you clarify for me?
@@buildingthephilippines the comment is not aimed at you its just to say that people giveaway far more information about themselves than they intend to .
Gotcha, just wanted to make sure. For some reason many people like to share way too much information. That's never good. Thanks for commenting.
Like always, I enjoy your content and your perspective on life. As my one ACTUAL friend always says:
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
As we mix in an open society we come in contact with many different lifestyles and philosophy’s. True friendships are rare occurrences that need to be cared for and cherished. On the same note distancing yourself from those with ulterior motives or incongruent philosophies is better for all involved. The good news is that since TH-cam is an open forum it provides for the
“Planting of seeds “ as I think of it. The people who you probably wouldn’t associate with are given the opportunity to learn from your experiences and your example. How people react is on them and not on you. Keep up the good work. My thought is that the inappropriate reactions you receive are indicative of guilt and jealousy. The CRAB mentality. It could be the first indication of future acceptance and growth
@@Theravadadann A well thought out response. Thank you.
Gossip is unfortunately everywhere some places are worse than other places. In fact it’s one of God’s advice not to do in order to be a righteous person.Proverbs 16:28: "Remember someone who gossips to you will gossip about you, and gossip separates friendships"
Proverbs 20:19: "Do not associate with a gossip"
Leviticus 19:16: "You shall not go around as a gossip among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor [with slander or false testimony]"
Proverbs 26:20-22: "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down" 🌺
It's part of society unfortunately. Thanks for watching.
The thing about people going to the Philippines is Westerners are bombarded with the idea the Flipinos are the most friendly nation in the world, they are but only very superficially.
Appreciate the comment.
Bad analogy Greg. The Iranian missiles get through the iron dome at a rate of OVER 50%!
But yes, the Filipinas jealousy is extreme. Which causes lots of marital friction! But our marriage is impenetrable to ALL the people around trying to destroy our marriage. Our biggest strength is our faith In Christ Jesus and my Filipina ONLY having children from me. 😊🙏🏻
I thought Iranian missles fell over just before launch. You can substitute with bubble or forcefield.
As in everything else, trust but verify. There are too many users and manipulators in this world.
Wilma probably laughed at the joke because she is more fluent in English than the vast majority of Filipinas.
As far as hateful and disrespectful comments here, an interaction is an interaction as far as TH-cam is concerned. It still boosts your content. That should make it even easier to smile and brush it off.
I say here, don't trust and verify twice. Thick skin us needed to be successful. Especially on TH-cam. Appreciate the comment.
Greg you sound just a little permeable not soft skin. That s not always a bad thing. Thx guys
We are pretty good about not letting anyone or anything influence us. Need to stay under that dome. Appreciate the comment.
Wilma keeps an eye on you at the parties as she knows a chick-boy when she sees one😊!
I just block the negative people on my channel. Guy comes on one of my first videos from PI and tells me that the wife is going to leave me based on her body
language in the video! Then he tell me my wife is spending too much $$$!
I enjoy your channel. Keep them coming and ignore the losers.
@@FEgoestoPI lol, lots of experts around. Appreciate the comment.