Just an addition to the conversation. In 1969 I received an Ordained Minister License from the Universal Life Church through the mail. This was before the internet. I was 21, in college and had a couple of peers from Texas who wanted me to perform their wedding. Their parents flew up to Seattle area from Texas. The father of the bride took one look at my long haired, beaded hippy self and questioned how I could preside over the ceremony. He called the county marriage license department and asked if I was legitimate with this Universal Life Church document. Their response was classic! Does your daughter and fiancé believe he has the Power to marry them? The father said yes they do. The clerk responded,”Then he has the Power”. End of questioning. They are still married 50 years later!
Thank you for these great videos. My only niece asked me to become an ordained minister and officiate their wedding. I'm a little nervous, but honored. Thanks again for the tips 👍
Thank goodness for you!! I will be performing my first wedding, too, and I took A LOT of notes from you! I'm feeling much more confident and creative! Heading to get your free guide now!
@@unboringwedding marrige vows in 2019 should be changed. Even if you do the traditional vows they should be changed to fit reality in 2019. For instance the ( till death do us part) part of the vow should be changed ( till i get tired of you).
I think this is the best video of its kind that I’ve seen so far! Thank you for the great advice! This is the only video that makes me feel more at ease and less nervous.
As an officiant in the state of Georgia, we are required to do a Declaration of Intent and this is separate from the vows. Essentially I must verify that the couple is there of their own free will, they understand that they are entering into a legal covenant and they are there because they want to be married to each other. Basically, saying "I do" is required by law but vows are a separate part and not legally required. While a wedding can be done with only the Declaration of Intent, 99% of the 1400+ couples I've married choose to either write and read their own vows or repeat after me, using one of the 150 options I offer.
I am so thankful for your videos. My niece asked me to be the officiant for her wedding and although I do a lot of public speaking for my work I have never felt it is one of my strong points. Your tutorials are extremely helpful and make me feel like I've done this before. However, I have one very heartfelt and serious question. I love this niece as much as I love anyone, I was there the day she was born and she has been a huge part of my life. Her father/my brother and I are incredibly close. Not only is it going to be an emotional day for the couple and their families, but also for me. I have a real fear of crying during my officiant duties (particularly if I cast a glance at my brother/make eye contact) and I see him losing it. Any advice?
Yep - it’s okay to cry. I tend to let my inner drill sergeant out when I might really lose it and remember no one wants me to lose control and ugly cry lol.
I was asked to officiate a friend of my son's wedding. After watching five or six videos of dudes don't get out of the camera way slight brevity timeliness it went off without a hitch! Amazing way to open amazing way to involve the audience you are so amazingly helpful, could have done it without you
Within the province of Ontario, there are only 2 vow styles that satisfy the Marriage Act. Either write and read their own, or repeat after me. The “I do’s” are the declarations of intent which are different from the vows.
Mark, have you ever done a 3 cord ceremony? I'm doing a country wedding in the fall and they want to incorporate this into the ceremony. Any tips of when to do that part and how?
Thanks for your question! No video, but you can check out my article where you can simply change any of these to a question. unboringwedding.com/sample-wedding-vows/
Thank you for all this information. What about private vows and how should they be addressed for the audience? “ The couple has chosen to share their vows privately”, so then I would do the I do’s? Thanks a ton for the help.
Serious question. So if they each write and recite their own vows I don’t have to say anything ending in “do you…?” Writing and reading counts as the I do?
Im suppose to officiate in 2 days and the bride and groom are so casual about it they haven't made time to meet and discuss detail. Normally, I'm not nervous at all and very relaxed, but this casual approach has me flustered.
Awesome, Catherine - thanks! I can 100% recommend the Rode Wireless Go. Best lapel mic I’ve ever come across. Totally reliable and no trouble in the wind. Perfect!
@@unboringwedding thanks because I'm sorta tripping about all of it. 3rd time but the 1st 2 I just went along with all the traditions. But I decided this time I feel more like me and who I am I've ever felt. So im wearing black and red and denim ND leather biker boots and im gonna have smoked pork and a big party in the bar I own. I think little girls get this idea about what the perfect day would be and they don't just say HEY I don't have to wear white I don't have to do anything I don't want to. It's your special day. Frankly it's my 3rd I would have been happy at the courthouse. But he had 1 wife b4 me but never a wedding. He wants to get married in the bar we own and run together. So I said well if we must it's gonna be our way. My mama tried to buy me a white wall down type runner. I I just threw my hands up and said I TOLD YOU NO WHITE 🤭🤣🤣 I think she gets it now
When my wife and got married 38 years ago we wrote our own vows. We wrote them on note cards and had them handy for reference but we pretty much had them memorized. We did a 30 year anniversary re-do and still remember those vows. Her father married us and was still alive to say some words at our 30th but we had a younger person do the officiating. Many more attended our 30th as we had many more friends at that time in our lives. Party! I am performing the ceremony for my son and his fiancé this week and they have written their vows but are going to repeat phrases after me. I think that will work well and take some pressure off of them.
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Just an addition to the conversation. In 1969 I received an Ordained Minister License from the Universal Life Church through the mail. This was before the internet. I was 21, in college and had a couple of peers from Texas who wanted me to perform their wedding. Their parents flew up to Seattle area from Texas. The father of the bride took one look at my long haired, beaded hippy self and questioned how I could preside over the ceremony.
He called the county marriage license department and asked if I was legitimate with this Universal Life Church document. Their response was classic! Does your daughter and fiancé believe he has the Power to marry them? The father said yes they do. The clerk responded,”Then he has the Power”. End of questioning. They are still married 50 years later!
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How does one transition into reading the vows if the couple choices the repeat after me option?
Thank you for these great videos. My only niece asked me to become an ordained minister and officiate their wedding. I'm a little nervous, but honored. Thanks again for the tips 👍
I'll be officiating my daughter's wedding in January. My first! Your videos have saved me. Thanks.
That’s awesome. My mom is officiating mine April 24th! I’ve never seen it but it will mean so much to me!!
Thank goodness for you!! I will be performing my first wedding, too, and I took A LOT of notes from you! I'm feeling much more confident and creative! Heading to get your free guide now!
@@unboringwedding marrige vows in 2019 should be changed. Even if you do the traditional vows they should be changed to fit reality in 2019. For instance the ( till death do us part) part of the vow should be changed ( till i get tired of you).
My wedding is tomorrow! I’m glad I found this video! Thank you!
You are so amazing, thank you so much for sharing all this great content!
I think this is the best video of its kind that I’ve seen so far! Thank you for the great advice! This is the only video that makes me feel more at ease and less nervous.
Exactly! I couldn't have said it any better.
As an officiant in the state of Georgia, we are required to do a Declaration of Intent and this is separate from the vows. Essentially I must verify that the couple is there of their own free will, they understand that they are entering into a legal covenant and they are there because they want to be married to each other. Basically, saying "I do" is required by law but vows are a separate part and not legally required. While a wedding can be done with only the Declaration of Intent, 99% of the 1400+ couples I've married choose to either write and read their own vows or repeat after me, using one of the 150 options I offer.
So glad to have found you! I am about to perform my first wedding and was not sure about my role and what to say. Thank you!
Amazing video! I just ordained as an wedding "Officiant" recently and wanted to learn more. I am a "Newbie" to the work. Thanks!
Hey congrats - and welcome to the officiant party! :-) Thanks for watching and I’m glad I could help!
I am so thankful for your videos. My niece asked me to be the officiant for her wedding and although I do a lot of public speaking for my work I have never felt it is one of my strong points. Your tutorials are extremely helpful and make me feel like I've done this before. However, I have one very heartfelt and serious question. I love this niece as much as I love anyone, I was there the day she was born and she has been a huge part of my life. Her father/my brother and I are incredibly close. Not only is it going to be an emotional day for the couple and their families, but also for me. I have a real fear of crying during my officiant duties (particularly if I cast a glance at my brother/make eye contact) and I see him losing it. Any advice?
It’s okay to cry
Yep - it’s okay to cry. I tend to let my inner drill sergeant out when I might really lose it and remember no one wants me to lose control and ugly cry lol.
I was asked to officiate a friend of my son's wedding. After watching five or six videos of dudes don't get out of the camera way slight brevity timeliness it went off without a hitch! Amazing way to open amazing way to involve the audience you are so amazingly helpful, could have done it without you
I’m thrilled to hear it! Thanks for letting me know here! That opener really is magic and I’m glad you did it. Congrats!
Within the province of Ontario, there are only 2 vow styles that satisfy the Marriage Act. Either write and read their own, or repeat after me. The “I do’s” are the declarations of intent which are different from the vows.
How about when a person marries themselves?
I’m officiating my friends wedding next month. I’m a bit confused on the vows. If they read their own, where does the I do come in?
Thank you so much for your videos. I have just become a celebrant here in New Zealand. You have helped me a lot!. Am using your videos to help me.
Thanks Mark, I will be officiating my granddaughters wedding. Keeping me on track
Mark, have you ever done a 3 cord ceremony? I'm doing a country wedding in the fall and they want to incorporate this into the ceremony. Any tips of when to do that part and how?
Do you have a video with examples of the “long question with ‘I do’ at the end”?
Thanks for your question! No video, but you can check out my article where you can simply change any of these to a question. unboringwedding.com/sample-wedding-vows/
@@unboringwedding thank you!!
Great information. Thank you, sir. 😁
Thank you for all this information. What about private vows and how should they be addressed for the audience? “ The couple has chosen to share their vows privately”, so then I would do the I do’s? Thanks a ton for the help.
I have a question though. When i read the vows you mentioned do i read the question out loud as well with the answer at the wedding?
Serious question. So if they each write and recite their own vows I don’t have to say anything ending in “do you…?” Writing and reading counts as the I do?
Hey Mark!! I was nervous but after watching your video tips, they may have trouble TAKING
the mike away from me .hahahaahh thank you coach!!!
The best link for to the point explanation and vow tips. After trudging through so many sobbing couples with way too long personal vows.
Im suppose to officiate in 2 days and the bride and groom are so casual about it they haven't made time to meet and discuss detail. Normally, I'm not nervous at all and very relaxed, but this casual approach has me flustered.
Mark, could you please help me with my Wedding with my dads help
Mark, I love your videos find them fun and extremely helpful, can you recommend a lapel microphone?
Awesome, Catherine - thanks! I can 100% recommend the Rode Wireless Go. Best lapel mic I’ve ever come across. Totally reliable and no trouble in the wind. Perfect!
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How do you write I do and in a marriage ring ceremony plus how do you say it?
I wanna hybrid I wanna write my own vows for the preacher to reapet b4 that imma say something imma do it my way
@@unboringwedding thanks because I'm sorta tripping about all of it. 3rd time but the 1st 2 I just went along with all the traditions. But I decided this time I feel more like me and who I am I've ever felt. So im wearing black and red and denim ND leather biker boots and im gonna have smoked pork and a big party in the bar I own. I think little girls get this idea about what the perfect day would be and they don't just say HEY I don't have to wear white I don't have to do anything I don't want to. It's your special day. Frankly it's my 3rd I would have been happy at the courthouse. But he had 1 wife b4 me but never a wedding. He wants to get married in the bar we own and run together. So I said well if we must it's gonna be our way. My mama tried to buy me a white wall down type runner. I I just threw my hands up and said I TOLD YOU NO WHITE 🤭🤣🤣 I think she gets it now
This post and the website was so helpful thank you.
Thank you so much, this is so helpful.
Thank you so much! Your video was very helpful!
You’re welcome - so glad I could help!
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I’m officiating for the first time Tuesday! Thanks for your site!
Thank you! I’m trying to get in touch with them because my email changed and I can’t get into their site- do you have a phone number for them?
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When my wife and got married 38 years ago we wrote our own vows. We wrote them on note cards and had them handy for reference but we pretty much had them memorized. We did a 30 year anniversary re-do and still remember those vows. Her father married us and was still alive to say some words at our 30th but we had a younger person do the officiating. Many more attended our 30th as we had many more friends at that time in our lives. Party!
I am performing the ceremony for my son and his fiancé this week and they have written their vows but are going to repeat phrases after me. I think that will work well and take some pressure off of them.
I perform my first wedding this week I could not have done it without your information you save the day thank you so much
Thank you sir
You’re very welcome - thanks for watching and commenting!
@@unboringwedding i have a question though. When i read the vows you mentioned do i read the question out loud as well with the answer at the wedding?
It looks like you renamed some of your videos to get views. I take that as you know people who are trying to get married right now need advice. Please upload some new content.