WakeUP2Luv GET AN AMAZING GIRLFRIEND! ("Life-changing!" ~ Steve B.) members.wingmam.com/get-women/ I hope you enjoyed my video, "The 5 Big Signs of EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION With A Woman UNDERSTAND WOMEN!" Watch this dating advice video next, “5 Times You Should NOT Date Women & 5 Benefits of Staying Single as a Man!” 👉 th-cam.com/video/GKE9sKwjH_g/w-d-xo.html
Signed up for the WakeUP2Luv program. Got to section two. And got stuck. Never thought of the positives. Always based friendships on what I do not want. Probably have to go over session 2 multiple time. I honestly do not see the timetable set up working for me. Everything I do takes 2-3x longer than specified.
I broke up with my twin flame lover Melinda. I. Being mentored by an older woman who is teaching me how to behave and how to treat a decent classy deserving Lady. She said she will teach me and I can practice with her.
I’ve learned the hard way to avoid talking about exes. Just say this: I’ve been fortunate to have had many wonderful women in my life, but I know when to move on…. And that’s it! Anything else you say WILL be used against you.
@@YourWingmam yes. This is why the majority of men are walking away. The very high majority of women only want tall, hot, rich men with horse d's. Those things will always trump personality
Technically its emotional connection, and attraction is more than just physical. I usually find a smart lady to be highly attractive even if some would say “she’s not a 10” physically 🙄
Jimininy Christmas!!!...she is going to change her mind a thousand times...Give her the big o 3 to 5 times per session and she might stay with you, if you have a big enough bankroll.
Im spending all my money on good food and gifts to myself because the pain to reward ratio is horrible for men in a relationship deal. Glad to get confirmation that i dont miss anything.
News Flash: because you LET it turn into an interview. Strap your nuts on and just tell them to stop the interview and don't dance around what you like and dislike. Nobody likes to be interviewed, even for a job. It's easy to do it nicely and without coming across as an A-Hole.
And you should view it as a job. Whereby, if you outgrow the job, then give your notice and move on. If she wants you in her life, then she will change to accommodate you.
I can't say that any of the 5 signs were a surprise to me, probably because I have watched enough of your videos and all of these signs make sense! I appreciate your wise guidance that has helped me to be more confident and not fear rejection! You are enjoyable to watch! I had to look extra hard for SC, but found him/her eventually
Excellent! It often takes multiple repetitions to learn something new, especially if not actively applying the info in the real world. Glad you've taken action and are feeling more confident because of it!! SC: check!
Regarding relationship history... My best girlfriend NEVER wanted to know about my past. She was happy with what she was getting from me and presumably didn't want to carry any manufactured comparisons. An interesting paradox though was she herself introduced "dread" into the mix, where she sometimes suggested that I had a lot of options.
@@raularmas317 I don't think so. She was a playful tease (the innocent kind of tease) but also seemed to undervalue herself. Probably more self-deprecation.
@@MrOgynist I think that's what I was trying to get at. Your "rich" in abundant options compared to me who had fewer options. That's how I interpreted what you said about her comment.
All true...I know I do this when someone has potential, basically getting to know him before I start having emotions, no one wants to get hurt or waste time.
I wouldn't be so tough on yourself. When we are young we don't use anything but our little head to make choices. Nature intended it that way. Later when you get burned you make better choices. As they say...youth is wasted on the young. I know cos I made bad choices but learned through the experiences what's goid and whats not.
@@theapocalypsechronicles3 lol. Yeah, you would think. Married in my 30's to a narcissistic woman. Never saw the signs. My boys are 18-25. I don't want them to marry their mother. 😂
I had some time in between prepping some sides for Thanksgiving , so I watched your video, great tips , I've been out of circulation because of pandemic , it's time to jump back in
Definitely right on that a woman who sees no future with you is not interested in your past... no matter how well things seem to turn out may I add. I also can add they don't share their past and tend to guard it.
These videos have helped me so much in just understanding that the last relationship I was in was not emotionally mature at all. Knew the girl for near 14 years and we used to hook up and hang out back then right before she went off to college. Just had fun. She's extremely smart, beautiful and funny and ticked all my boxes initially, but when she was shown to just have her own agenda, she had to go, as I expressed what I knew and would be lied to to my face. She's a new mom with a man from my area as well, which is why she had to come back to the area. Whatever we got into was very haphazard, but it seemed to have felt right at the start, considering the circumstances. To keep her out of hotels while she figured things out, we cohabitated very well and it would only be until she could find her own spot. Then things got ugly out of nowhere and I was the bad guy for things that didn't make sense. She would behave in contradictory ways and she had to also get her way when it came to her doing toxic things, not only to herself, but to her child and me by proxy. It hurt to let it go, as she had basically disappeared on me to be with someone else, when she still had her things at my place. Made her finally come get things and cut her off. Gave it a few months of pain, as she went no contact and I respected that boundary, despite her not needing it, I needed to keep her away from me, as it was not good for me keeping someone like that around me, for my own mental health. It was already rough enough dealing with the loss and processing what happened and getting lost in my head about it. Though around 3 months later I did get that closure moment that is so rare, as I had predicted and even told her directly she would be back (to an outburst of her laughter as I said it), which sadly was due to abuse from the new guy that I had also figured would happen and would be why she came back, as she told me before she left me that she wanted to be in an abusive relationship... She was basically acting as a 16 year old still in a 30 y/o woman's body scrambling for any bit of her youth still left, but now with a child to take care of... Her new place in life seemed to have contributed to her acting erratic and unhinged, especially when she drank, which was often. As I was getting closure and I think giving that to her in my own way, which I don't even know if she even cared about in seeing the ways she treated me, she showed signs that she's still just trying to use me to get herself to the next place again. I shortly thereafter let her go, again, this time on my terms, stating I was blocking all communication completely, for my own sake. It's hard not to still care for that person, and I hope she finds herself, as she stated herself that she is lost. I just can't help her do it if I'm going to be her punching bag, though I didn't tolerate it when I was made to be that, while at the same time telling me she didn't need my help, when she wouldn't be where she is without it. I had come to so many conclusions about her... The main take-away was that, despite me not ever really thinking I was ready for a relationship, since it had been 15 years since my last serious one, she was really the one who wasn't ready and needed to grow. I am perfectly capable of a healthy relationship, it is just going to take an emotionally mature woman to do so. I did my growth and observations of humanity and am able to see a lot more of the forest for the trees than ever and know what I deserve, as I've been able to do the internal work to see what I want to change or adjust in myself to make the next relationship that much better. It's interesting being a photographer that deals with people so closely in so many ways. I bring out people's insecurities like no other and I can see who they are pretty quickly. The coincidence is that it's almost like I have a crystal ball at times, which technically uses crystal glass, and it is scary how eye opening it is and what people reveal to me quickly. It more often than not keeps me away from others. This one just surpassed my security camera to then display all of the insecurities. A rarity, but maybe there was a little idealization there for me to ignore the monitors to see what would happen, which is perfectly human and I don't fault myself for doing so. I just saw it as an experiment... A very emotionally painful experiment... Sadly, I predict the experiment is not over and she will show up again and I will have to handle it with new tools that have been provided to me here and other sources as well. Thank you for the guidance through your videos! It just shows I'm not alone in dealing with these things and that is some relief!
@@YourWingmam Thank you so much! Sorry for the rare long winded comment! I guess I'm trauma dumping a bit, but I think this is the next phase of coping for me, as I'm sick of talking to my friends about it and I feel like they're sick of hearing about it, despite finding out something new that digs the rabbit hole ever deeper about once a months since the split. This year has been 15 lonely-to-somewhat lonely years in the making and it's no wonder I'm so focused on it, because it's practically alien to me! I'm trying to learn as much from it as I can, so I don't fall into the same cycles and attract/draw in the same people! I hope this phase is on the cusp of finally letting it go so that I can move toward enacting better practices and more fearlessly re-enter the dating world, with new tools that "channels" like yours guide people to utilize! I didn't realize dating had become so much more complicated over the last decade... Needing to catch up!
@@digit313 How about you take in what experiences others are so openly willing to put out there and learn from them. The more information there is out there about these toxic traits others exhibit, the more can be understood. You don't know me, nor my struggles. People like you drag others down for their own entertainment. You here to learn or just be a comment section stalking, harassing POS? Did the comment feel good to decide you needed make it? Part of my therapy was putting everything out there. If your therapy is mocking other's pain back to them, then I feel sorry for you. You have a sick mind.
Anna, your videos are just getting better and better -congratulations. No other dating coach on TH-cam has addressed this topic. You really stand out from the TH-cam dating pack :)
Sounds good. Listening on here and feedback may save my up and coming thang, so thank you. I've learned to accept who I am what I want and I believe fate...in other words not forcing it or sabotaging it either.
For tests I do think there's some that are extreme enough to be dealbreakers, but that's usually if it's as a method of control as opposed to really being a test.
6:31 be very careful if you’ve been with a lot of women in your past. My wife asked me how many women I’ve been with you have to understand I didn’t meter until I was 48 years old and I’ve been married twice. She had been married twice also but she was only 35. I had had over 30 relationship between my first and second wife. She didn’t like that number too well. So she left me.
Temperament is a really good one! Its all about your skills with negative emotions. Seems not so important but if you fail in this area, you fail in all the other areas.
Around 15 years ago while cashing out a younger female customer at a pizza restaurant that I still work at now, a younger female coworker of mine said to me that woman is into you. 15 years ago I was 41, but people typically think I’m 5-10 years younger than I am. I had absolutely no clue that the female customer was into me but maybe she was checking me out while I went back to get her food order. She looked like she was in her 20’s.
Hello Wingmam ; Wow.. "Beliefs" ,"Values", words you don't often hear these days concerning "relationships". Such an informative video ! All good points. Liked the " ice cream flavors" analogy lol, and your info about the "testing"... I'm guilty of "slightly" raising my voice to get my point across ( this does Not work btw). Some women are capable of "testing" so discreetly, it does go unnoticed ! I recently asked a "friend" if she was testing me, she replied :"of Course ! Every woman of value does !" Wow... I never had a clue.. Once again,your video was nicely done and very helpful !!! I hope You and yours' have a nice Thanksgiving" 🍗 So Very Thankful for my Wingmam with the pretty eyes !!! God Bless !
On the spiritual side, a woman I'm dating wanted to know more about my Gnostic beliefs, after teaching her, I kind of won a second date with her and a house call from her.
Well hidden cat this time, behind the leg of the table/chair 😂 Useful information, currently visiting a local supermarket because there is a potential date, its fun getting to know someone in odd moments at a checkout!
so far this new woman in my life has 5/5 of these signs. Silent treatment was testing....very frustrating to deal with but we ended up writing notes to each other. It was seriously funny in the end. Things are moving forward.
Another good content. I particularly like how you highlighted some of your other previous video content at the end. I hope you do that more often, its a great marketing strategy, especially to folks who are new to your channel. Keep it up and Jah bless always.
You know sweety pie Wingmam, I tested my exes out TOO. THEY all were failing my SIMPLE tests. TGhey made harder unneccessary tests, and i PASSED them. Fun thing is...i tested their tests also on THEM...They failed them TOO besides mine tests!! I tested them directly and they were testing them INDIRECTLY lol
I am in an online dating situation. We have discussed many of the beliefs and questions mentioned here through texts and one of the big ones was kids. She has a son and I don't have any children. The alignment came from my past LTR where the woman had 3 children, and some grandchildren while we were together. BTW the new woman is 12+ years younger than me, where the LTR was 12 years older. Happy Thanksgiving.
Unless you are willing to deal with family conflict and a potentially difficult biological parent other than your woman and many other issues, I do not recommend dating a woman who already has children. 😲
I think when you have a lot in common your likes and your dislikes, myself I don't like to talk about my past, this is why we have rearview mirrors, I will keep it short and sweet,👍 Anna thanks for the video 🦋
Best never to dwell on your past if you've spent enough time learning from it. Also, some mystery is attractive, but intimate relationships are deepened by sharing intimate details about some of the things that make us feel vulnerable. (Just not too soon!) :)
Just like a previous employer, i feel it's important never poop talk a previous partner. Every experience makes you who you are today I think this Tuesday video is a test. You released it 6 hours early before I expected it and I'm not even angry. Even I'm impressed with my emotional maturity
I always laugh at women's online postings that state, "No Trumpers"! Deal breaker for me. P.S. like the picture of the Travelodge and '66 Chevy in the background picture. Your eye makeup reminds me of Endora on "Bewitched" from the same era.
First rule about understanding women is that its not possible LOL (kidding!...well maybe not completely) I've have resigned and accepted the fact that the majority of women want a provider that will give them safety and security (no matter what they say). If you are willing to do that, then Wingmam has great advice in this video! If you are not willing to do that...learn to enjoy being single! :) There are worst things you could suffer!
Lol true! re: understanding women ;) Nowadays, many women don't need a provider, but they still don't want a man who earns less than them. (Reasons discussed in other videos.) And true, if you don't want to do the work, best to be single ... just choose to also be happy!
@@YourWingmam Wait, a woman doesn't want a man that earns less her? Therefore he has to make more than her? I stand by my statement of being a provider LOL You made my case :)
@@JackFalltrades I would be happy to find a woman pursuing what God/Universe intended for her. Hopefully she would also understand there is more freedom with the right relationship vs being single. That would be quite the unicorn as I am sure wingmam would agree LOL.
Dear Anna: Is this today's video? Why so early? Either way, Fluffy is on the chair behind you to your right. Test? Tests? Tests? Once we finished school us men thought we were done. Then came work, license and certification tests, and of course, the hardest tests of all, the Women tests. You ladies also do NOT grade on a curve or give extra credit. Good video and you are right about those signs. I have encountered all of those and for sure it is a very bad idea to ignore incompatibilities; all that leads to time and resources wasted. Well Anna, as you know in two days us Americans are going to sit down with our loved ones to celebrate Thanksgiving. I am grateful for many blessings I have and on top of the list are the people in my life, and that includes you. Anna, you are more than a pen pal and I am very grateful for you. I hope God blesses you with health, finances and wonderful people in your life. Thank you for being so awesome, so caring, and so brave with some of your content. Big hug and a giant peck on each cheek. You are gorgeous on the outside and beautiful on the inside. One more kiss on your right cheek. Your GLAWAB!!
Testing out a new time ;) Fluffy: check! Lol re tests, true no extra credits (unless it's with your kids or her parents)! Thank you so much for including me in your giving of thanks, right back at yah! Thank you for the compliments and for being here! 💞
... well, watching | listening to AJ's sanity almostly fuels anticipation for moments that some things might work out in cases - but even that anticipation is cooling off soon after, though.
Oh, well. Just going by the first part, knowing about my family.... There has not been a woman that I know, as a friend or a datr/relatiobship.....that has asked me these question....or the others. In a long, long time
There is more room for and need of even superficial friendships than intimate relationships. When you meet someone who starts asking some of these, that's a good sign. :)
Great list. It seems to me that if she is approaching with this line of questioning, it strikes me as dominant behavior. Qualifications are important, but I should be delivering them, not have them interrogated out of me. If she's leading the dialogue, you're behind.
This is good, as far as it goes. The concern is that people lie a lot, that's the first thing. The other thing is that people change over time for one reason or another. And the other thing is that folks become bored with their love life and lose interest in their “mate.” I could go on and on. My point is that there needs to be a “relationship calculus" to handle all of the various changes that are bound to occur, as people are constantly refining or redefining themselves everyday. There's a kaleidoscopic mishmash of wants, needs, and desires constantly shifting and swirling around in their heads, and lots of couples simply grow apart in too many cases -- and there seems to be precious little information to help “romantically bonded individuals” keep their relationship on track with peace and happiness. And we know in the real world that people get sick, lose their job, lose their hair or put on too much weight or lose too much weight. So, they may start thinking of calling it quits because a new, hot guy or gal joined your church or got hired to work on your team. Bingo! There's a dizzying array of "what if's" that crop up in a relationship that'll pressure one or both partners to throw in the towel. So, the flaw in trying to come up with “x” number of signs for this or that in a marriages or LTRs weren’t intended to last, happily, from the “get go.” Even the Good Book tells us that there will be strife between husband and wife (boyfriend and girlfriend, same or worse), and that divorce (or a breakup) is sanctioned in that manuscript in certain situations. There is only one way to be happy in a marriage, and that approach is fully explained step-by-step in this highly misunderstood Book, which is truly understood by an infinitesimally small group of people. Too many cults are out there twisting the messages around leading folks astray. And some of the charlatans look and act just like the real deal. Beware! Learn about them so you won’t become a victim.
Relationships are definitely complicated and not for the faint of heart! I'm doing my best to decode them but it'll never be simpler than physics lol Thanks for your impassioned and detailed comment!
Hi Anna. Good video, these are 5 very important points. They lay good groundwork for building a solid relationship on. Sure the women love to test us, I don't mind taking tests as long as I've done all the studying first! 😁👍
I just had a thought. Ladies seem uninterested in me when we first meet, but like me more as they get to know me. The small amount of ladies I have met through dating sites. Don't like me when we meet. One even wrote me an email saying she was not attracted to me, but as we got to know each other she wanted to stay with me. Ladies at work warm up to me after they know me for a while. A successful relationship is to be worked at, but some jobs are good.
This happens way more frequently than men expect. And men don't expect it because *men know instantly if a woman's looks are acceptable* to them. Women are different! More on this in an upcoming video. I also left a related reply on another comment today. :)
@@YourWingmam When I came to the lady living in England. I told the ladies at work, the problems with the relationship. They told me later, they decided to not make a judgement until they got to know me better. After several months, they told me I was normal and a lady should be happy to be with me. You are right, I do decide if a lady is is acceptable, instantly. It is after some time of knowing them, and seeing their true colours, I can decide if they would be a good relationship.
What has the who, where,when, why questions to do with EMOTIONAL CONNECTION??? I take it litteraly (im a men) so emotion is anger, fun, deperate, sad, confused, jealousy etc.. Thats why woman like to say that darn questions OFTEN: - Why you want to chill with your nephew - WHen will you do that? - WHo are joining more you besides your nephew?? - How long will you chill with him? - Will you call me several times? It happened to me several times...a men will feel very irritated and like a small BOY being belittled by a 2nd mommy!!
In regards to “Testing”, I learned a while ago, that not knowing the material and cramming all night before a test may allow you to pass. Unfortunately, you won’t retain what you crammed for and it will bite you in the ass. Passing a test might be a false sense of hope. If someone is witty, they will probably finesse their way around the test. Make sure you are testing the tester. Jocko Willink made the comment that “for most guys, if the lady likes you and the Woman is attractive; most guys say “she’s the one!” They fail to do additional assessments.” If someone is flirting/teasing with someone for the mere purpose to test your reaction; consider this. Isn’t it just as disrespectful to the third party? Do they have insecurity or validation issues? Contrived or not, I’d consider that. I’ve encountered a lot of “My friend is going through this situation…” and perhaps they wait and listen. Or situations where they provide a story and want your opinion. When I’ve been unable to get specific details, I realize it’s a hypothetical question and know it’s a test. I feel that if you know yourself. You know your values and try to stay partially objective you are on the right track.
I do not like the feeling of being interrogated which can happen on first dates, or in the beginning of starting a R-word. I have come up with a solution to avoid the testing and interrogation phase. Just get to know someone slowly. Get to know her before starting any romance/courting/dating type stuff. Don't ever date someone you have only recently met. If you didn't know her 10 years ago, don't start anything with her. These are rules I made for myself .
Hey John, Anna is Canadian. They have already celebrated Thanksgiving in Canada this year. It doesn't correspond with our Thanksgiving here in the USA. Happy Thanksgiving to you, sir. 👍👍👍
It seems to me the problem most men have when trying to deal effectively with women in an LTR is that while women instinctively or naturally make use of the psychological technique of partial re-enforcement in many of their relationships men don't seem to pick up on the technique until it's too late and their partner has one foot out the door???
1Corinthians 7:20-40 has an important message concerning marriage or staying single. It is a mature discussion!! Thanks again Anna Jorgensen and God bless you.😸🙏
Answer to a threesome: "Of course I've thought about having a threesome. But it's hard enough to satisfy 1 woman let alone two!" Works every time to defuse the question, even makes the ladies giggle a bit. As far as "testing" goes, I bring it straight upfront. I say, in a calm voice especially when it's the same question, "Why are you asking me this again? We have discussed this exact thing before. I do not care to answer it if you cannot remember my answer." Yes, it will tick her off, but, she comes around because I've called her test. And yes, sometimes she takes offense, but if she won't listen and remember what I said then she's not for me. Rock on Anna...
I also got asked the threesome question. My answer was "um, I'm Catholic." She broke up with me a month later. Turns most people don't like waiting for years until they're married to have sex.
She's putting itt straight. The problem is woman sometimes test u but u don't take it seriously n then u think why she is backing away for no reason. Now I came to know it was a test, I just didnt give it any importance.
If you are over 40, and especially 50, I would imagine a woman would be comparing your stated life goals against your actual accomplishment toward those goals. It would be a way of confirming both your actual ability and determination versus what is probably so much BS or 'lip service'. Wink to the West Coast. Good listening skills.
Yes, true. All you can do is what you can do. And if you can show a woman you're taking real action toward goals you both feel are important some women (not all) will value that and take a chance on you. :)
All of the emotional attraction items you mentioned are good and reasonable. None of them surprised me. Do you ever recommend someone perform a covert background investigation on a love interest? 🤔
If you can do so in a stealth way, yes. It's not romantic but in today's world it should be common place. However! I once hired (and un-hired the same day) a PI who said these words I'll never forget, "Usually we find something." In other words, if there are enough red flags to hire a PI, save yourself the $!
@@YourWingmam Thanks for your reply. Isn't it all really like a job interview? They don't check you out until after they've interviewed you. Then they talk to people and search records, a kind of investigation after you've jumped over the first interview hurdle. Some employers even require you to subject yourself to a credit check. There may be some limitations, since someone who is twenty is less likely to have a history compared to someone who is fifty. There's a lot you can find out just through the internet. One must be careful, since internet information can be inaccurate. One should also be aware that something bad on a person's record could be an isolated incident in the distant past. Patterns would be more of a concern. It would be very cool if you could do a video on this question and how to get at the truth of the matter. Anyway, it's an interesting subject.
So glad you appreciate that! I know it turns some off but I hope the info before it lends itself worthy of watching for those who aren't God types! (And maybe shows some of us God types aren't all that serious and judgey like they often think lol.)
Sooo... This girl i was dating started asking questions about my past relationships. I felt it wasn't very much her business about my past relationship ,other than the fact that i was once married. I was uncomfortable talking about it, so i didn't volunteer much info. Also i dont want to know about someone's Past relationships. Im moving forward. Js🙂
Women try to gauge your potential in a future relationship by your past relationships. The best way to make a woman feel safe about a potential relationship with you is to tell her what you learned about yourself from that past relationship. In other words she wants to know you can take responsibility for where things went wrong even if it’s simply means you chose the wrong person in the past. She should also be able to take responsibility for where she went wrong in past relationships. And that should be of value to you. :)
I wish I had some of this insight yeah ago. I have felt for a long time that I had enough of the ware and tare of relationships and if life is going well I can enjoy being by myself. Obviously having a great companion can be much better. With that being said I have incidentally met someone online who somehow her presents is helping me to be a better person or at least deal with life in a manner that I used to do. I feel like I have been going through the same process you mentioned. I have never had something like this and am still leery but I feel like I have made a good friend. I tend to think about many things most of the time so I asked if we could call each other. She said she wasn't ready for that and I accepted that. One day she texted me at work and asked if I could take calls. Then she asked for my number and called me! She sounded very sweet and has been raised with some faith. I have found myself emotionally attracted to someone who I only have a picture of and heard her voice once. This has been going on for months and months. She is like clockwork and texted me every morning and at the end of the evening plus at work alot but can't reply immediately. Have I lost my mind? People ask of she is asking for money and I tell them she sends me money!
Dating modern people is very complicated To many questions Not like the olden days it not so easy for some guya to understand . To many youtube on dating. It is not easy in this world when there is so much competion . The fax some people are not frendly . This is real now some people wount like saying that
Not knowing about being tested, I feel that something is going on, but don't know what it is, other times I know I am being tested and refuse to play, sometimes pointing it out
Oooh. You snuck this in hours early. Under normal circumstances, I probably wouldn't be able to view until late afternoon ET. Your facial energy (expressions) make me think your mind was exceptionally clear whenever you filmed this. On the topic: I hate tests -- not just relationship tests, but all of them. Had to do a certification for work yesterday; like many tests, it didn't really measure much of what I really need to know to do my job. Women's tests, though, at least have a purpose. Maybe they don't really apply to me, but they do apply to her (something from her past which she is trying to avoid, for example). No fun, but in that context, they make sense. Useful topic today. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Mr T is out cold on the sofa. He's not used to having me home mid-day anymore, but I'm on PTO this week for the holiday.
I'm *testing* out a new video release time lol ;) Tests are rarely fun, but passing them does feel satisfying! Hope you do alright on your work tests... Thank you for your prayers, Russ, scratch for Mr. T, enjoy the holiday! :)
So, when I am just starting out hopefully at the start of 2025, how do I say that I have had no relationship experience. Or, since I am Catholic no sexual experience either even though I am going to be 39 years old for most of 2025?
Wait until at least the 3rd date, by then you know she's interested enough to deserve your vulnerability. Then play it off casually when the conversation leans into physical intimacy. Or her actions indicate she wants physical intimacy. You don't have to kiss her on date #1! If it feels right on date 2, if she gives signs, it's ok to kiss her. You'll likely be with someone of faith I assume, so going faster than this is unlikely, anyway. So before you go past kissing, you'll say, "Well, you're in luck, I haven't had much experience so I have no preconceived ideas of what you like but I'm ready to find out." If you're waiting for marriage then just add, "... if that's where we end up." (You'll need to filter for "wait til marriage" before this, if that's what you're looking for.)
Thank you! Yes, yes, yes, yes lol Learned from my own experiences and mistakes, read about 100 books on relationships and psychology (and the Bible), took many courses and workshops, observed and coached others unofficially for years, over-analyzed it all! ;)
@@YourWingmam That was my third time seeing her. That is all I can tell you. I mentioned this before, but all of the women I have been with are single, divorced, and have children somewhere haha. I was never attracted to the little college or high school girls like most men are. I don't go on dates, I have never been to a bar, and I have never been to a club. I lost my "V" in 2016.😉😁
Was in the lunch line Saturday and this woman couldn't stop sneaking a look at me and I noticed her right away. I saw her again yesterday and ended up having lunch with her. I see her all the time and know she's single 🤔🤔🤔
@@YourWingmam Thank you very much. I work 6 am to 7 pm, so the best time for me is between 8 to 10. That is midday to 2 pm your time. Depends what is best for you, and your main audience area. It is extra special that you reply to the comments. Feels great to know you read the comments and give advise. It was 6 pm at my house when you went live with this. I am home because I have Covid now. Sometimes I am home because I am rostered off work.
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Got to section two. And got stuck. Never thought of the positives. Always based friendships on what I do not want.
Probably have to go over session 2 multiple time.
I honestly do not see the timetable set up working for me. Everything I do takes 2-3x longer than specified.
I broke up with my twin flame lover Melinda. I. Being mentored by an older woman who is teaching me how to behave and how to treat a decent classy deserving Lady. She said she will teach me and I can practice with her.
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I am with the love of my life. I appreciate the wisdom you share with men. Keep it goin 🙂
I’ve learned the hard way to avoid talking about exes. Just say this: I’ve been fortunate to have had many wonderful women in my life, but I know when to move on…. And that’s it! Anything else you say WILL be used against you.
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Emotional "attraction" without sexual or physical "attraction" it will 100% inevitably turn into nothing more than a friendship
You need both. :)
@@YourWingmam yes. This is why the majority of men are walking away. The very high majority of women only want tall, hot, rich men with horse d's. Those things will always trump personality
Technically its emotional connection, and attraction is more than just physical. I usually find a smart lady to be highly attractive even if some would say “she’s not a 10” physically 🙄
Will quickly turn into abuseship and manipulationship. Walk awayship.
Jimininy Christmas!!!...she is going to change her mind a thousand times...Give her the big o 3 to 5 times per session and she might stay with you, if you have a big enough bankroll.
Im spending all my money on good food and gifts to myself because the pain to reward ratio is horrible for men in a relationship deal. Glad to get confirmation that i dont miss anything.
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I always find dating is like a job interview. Thank you Anna.
My pleasure ❤️
Yes...without pay when you get the job...
News Flash: because you LET it turn into an interview. Strap your nuts on and just tell them to stop the interview and don't dance around what you like and dislike. Nobody likes to be interviewed, even for a job. It's easy to do it nicely and without coming across as an A-Hole.
And you should view it as a job. Whereby, if you outgrow the job, then give your notice and move on. If she wants you in her life, then she will change to accommodate you.
I can't say that any of the 5 signs were a surprise to me, probably because I have watched enough of your videos and all of these signs make sense! I appreciate your wise guidance that has helped me to be more confident and not fear rejection! You are enjoyable to watch! I had to look extra hard for SC, but found him/her eventually
Excellent! It often takes multiple repetitions to learn something new, especially if not actively applying the info in the real world. Glad you've taken action and are feeling more confident because of it!! SC: check!
Regarding relationship history...
My best girlfriend NEVER wanted to know about my past. She was happy with what she was getting from me and presumably didn't want to carry any manufactured comparisons.
An interesting paradox though was she herself introduced "dread" into the mix, where she sometimes suggested that I had a lot of options.
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Probably her way of attempting self-sabotage or seeing if she could create "distance" between she and you.
@@raularmas317 I don't think so. She was a playful tease (the innocent kind of tease) but also seemed to undervalue herself. Probably more self-deprecation.
@@MrOgynist I think that's what I was trying to get at.
Your "rich" in abundant options compared to me who had fewer options.
That's how I interpreted what you said about her comment.
@@raularmas317 It could be. I never explored it with her and time to do so has passed.
All true...I know I do this when someone has potential, basically getting to know him before I start having emotions, no one wants to get hurt or waste time.
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I chose poorly, lol. Very poorly. Oh so poorly. I watch your videos for my young sons. Great stuff. Thanks
Oh dear, but at least you have your sons! Thank you for watching for them, hopefully there's some value for you, too! :)
I wouldn't be so tough on yourself. When we are young we don't use anything but our little head to make choices. Nature intended it that way. Later when you get burned you make better choices. As they say...youth is wasted on the young. I know cos I made bad choices but learned through the experiences what's goid and whats not.
@@theapocalypsechronicles3 lol. Yeah, you would think. Married in my 30's to a narcissistic woman. Never saw the signs. My boys are 18-25. I don't want them to marry their mother. 😂
Great vlog as always.Anna I love your eye lashes attitude...
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I had some time in between prepping some sides for Thanksgiving , so I watched your video, great tips , I've been out of circulation because of pandemic , it's time to jump back in
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Definitely right on that a woman who sees no future with you is not interested in your past... no matter how well things seem to turn out may I add.
I also can add they don't share their past and tend to guard it.
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These videos have helped me so much in just understanding that the last relationship I was in was not emotionally mature at all. Knew the girl for near 14 years and we used to hook up and hang out back then right before she went off to college. Just had fun. She's extremely smart, beautiful and funny and ticked all my boxes initially, but when she was shown to just have her own agenda, she had to go, as I expressed what I knew and would be lied to to my face. She's a new mom with a man from my area as well, which is why she had to come back to the area. Whatever we got into was very haphazard, but it seemed to have felt right at the start, considering the circumstances. To keep her out of hotels while she figured things out, we cohabitated very well and it would only be until she could find her own spot. Then things got ugly out of nowhere and I was the bad guy for things that didn't make sense. She would behave in contradictory ways and she had to also get her way when it came to her doing toxic things, not only to herself, but to her child and me by proxy. It hurt to let it go, as she had basically disappeared on me to be with someone else, when she still had her things at my place. Made her finally come get things and cut her off. Gave it a few months of pain, as she went no contact and I respected that boundary, despite her not needing it, I needed to keep her away from me, as it was not good for me keeping someone like that around me, for my own mental health. It was already rough enough dealing with the loss and processing what happened and getting lost in my head about it. Though around 3 months later I did get that closure moment that is so rare, as I had predicted and even told her directly she would be back (to an outburst of her laughter as I said it), which sadly was due to abuse from the new guy that I had also figured would happen and would be why she came back, as she told me before she left me that she wanted to be in an abusive relationship... She was basically acting as a 16 year old still in a 30 y/o woman's body scrambling for any bit of her youth still left, but now with a child to take care of... Her new place in life seemed to have contributed to her acting erratic and unhinged, especially when she drank, which was often. As I was getting closure and I think giving that to her in my own way, which I don't even know if she even cared about in seeing the ways she treated me, she showed signs that she's still just trying to use me to get herself to the next place again. I shortly thereafter let her go, again, this time on my terms, stating I was blocking all communication completely, for my own sake.
It's hard not to still care for that person, and I hope she finds herself, as she stated herself that she is lost. I just can't help her do it if I'm going to be her punching bag, though I didn't tolerate it when I was made to be that, while at the same time telling me she didn't need my help, when she wouldn't be where she is without it. I had come to so many conclusions about her... The main take-away was that, despite me not ever really thinking I was ready for a relationship, since it had been 15 years since my last serious one, she was really the one who wasn't ready and needed to grow. I am perfectly capable of a healthy relationship, it is just going to take an emotionally mature woman to do so. I did my growth and observations of humanity and am able to see a lot more of the forest for the trees than ever and know what I deserve, as I've been able to do the internal work to see what I want to change or adjust in myself to make the next relationship that much better.
It's interesting being a photographer that deals with people so closely in so many ways. I bring out people's insecurities like no other and I can see who they are pretty quickly. The coincidence is that it's almost like I have a crystal ball at times, which technically uses crystal glass, and it is scary how eye opening it is and what people reveal to me quickly. It more often than not keeps me away from others. This one just surpassed my security camera to then display all of the insecurities. A rarity, but maybe there was a little idealization there for me to ignore the monitors to see what would happen, which is perfectly human and I don't fault myself for doing so. I just saw it as an experiment... A very emotionally painful experiment... Sadly, I predict the experiment is not over and she will show up again and I will have to handle it with new tools that have been provided to me here and other sources as well.
Thank you for the guidance through your videos! It just shows I'm not alone in dealing with these things and that is some relief!
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you 🙏
@@YourWingmam Thank you so much! Sorry for the rare long winded comment! I guess I'm trauma dumping a bit, but I think this is the next phase of coping for me, as I'm sick of talking to my friends about it and I feel like they're sick of hearing about it, despite finding out something new that digs the rabbit hole ever deeper about once a months since the split. This year has been 15 lonely-to-somewhat lonely years in the making and it's no wonder I'm so focused on it, because it's practically alien to me! I'm trying to learn as much from it as I can, so I don't fall into the same cycles and attract/draw in the same people! I hope this phase is on the cusp of finally letting it go so that I can move toward enacting better practices and more fearlessly re-enter the dating world, with new tools that "channels" like yours guide people to utilize! I didn't realize dating had become so much more complicated over the last decade... Needing to catch up!
@@RedrumVideoProductns Plz thumbs up my comment who read the entire essay writtten by His Excellency Mr Redrum Creattions.😀
@@digit313 How about you take in what experiences others are so openly willing to put out there and learn from them. The more information there is out there about these toxic traits others exhibit, the more can be understood. You don't know me, nor my struggles. People like you drag others down for their own entertainment. You here to learn or just be a comment section stalking, harassing POS? Did the comment feel good to decide you needed make it? Part of my therapy was putting everything out there. If your therapy is mocking other's pain back to them, then I feel sorry for you. You have a sick mind.
Anna, your videos are just getting better and better -congratulations. No other dating coach on TH-cam has addressed this topic. You really stand out from the TH-cam dating pack :)
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Sounds good. Listening on here and feedback may save my up and coming thang, so thank you. I've learned to accept who I am what I want and I believe fate...in other words not forcing it or sabotaging it either.
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"A loving cuddle buddy."Awwww... that's sweet.
For tests I do think there's some that are extreme enough to be dealbreakers, but that's usually if it's as a method of control as opposed to really being a test.
6:31 be very careful if you’ve been with a lot of women in your past. My wife asked me how many women I’ve been with you have to understand I didn’t meter until I was 48 years old and I’ve been married twice. She had been married twice also but she was only 35. I had had over 30 relationship between my first and second wife. She didn’t like that number too well. So she left me.
I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you 🙏
You certainly hit the target in this video. These 6 comparability traits should be just as important to a man to find out and not compromise on.
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Temperament is a really good one! Its all about your skills with negative emotions. Seems not so important but if you fail in this area, you fail in all the other areas.
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Around 15 years ago while cashing out a younger female customer at a pizza restaurant that I still work at now, a younger female coworker of mine said to me that woman is into you. 15 years ago I was 41, but people typically think I’m 5-10 years younger than I am. I had absolutely no clue that the female customer was into me but maybe she was checking me out while I went back to get her food order. She looked like she was in her 20’s.
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Hello Wingmam ;
Wow.. "Beliefs" ,"Values", words you don't often hear these days concerning "relationships".
Such an informative video ! All good points.
Liked the " ice cream flavors" analogy lol, and your info about the "testing"... I'm guilty of "slightly" raising my voice to get my point across ( this does Not work btw). Some women are capable of "testing" so discreetly, it does go unnoticed ! I recently asked a "friend" if she was testing me, she replied :"of Course ! Every woman of value does !" Wow... I never had a clue.. Once again,your video was nicely done and very helpful !!! I hope You and yours' have a nice Thanksgiving" 🍗 So Very Thankful for my Wingmam with the pretty eyes !!!
God Bless !
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Nice presentation.
Love the emojis on the
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Thank you! Cheers!
On the spiritual side, a woman I'm dating wanted to know more about my Gnostic beliefs, after teaching her, I kind of won a second date with her and a house call from her.
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Well hidden cat this time, behind the leg of the table/chair 😂
Useful information, currently visiting a local supermarket because there is a potential date, its fun getting to know someone in odd moments at a checkout!
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so far this new woman in my life has 5/5 of these signs. Silent treatment was testing....very frustrating to deal with but we ended up writing notes to each other. It was seriously funny in the end. Things are moving forward.
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Another good content. I particularly like how you highlighted some of your other previous video content at the end. I hope you do that more often, its a great marketing strategy, especially to folks who are new to your channel. Keep it up and Jah bless always.
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Just that line "Enjoy being single" :D Love it!
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You know sweety pie Wingmam,
I tested my exes out TOO. THEY all were failing my SIMPLE tests. TGhey made harder unneccessary tests, and i PASSED them.
Fun thing is...i tested their tests also on THEM...They failed them TOO besides mine tests!! I tested them directly and they were testing
them INDIRECTLY lol
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Stuffy!!!!
They will also ask you who is your favorite actress.
To see if they fit the type of woman that you like.
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I am in an online dating situation. We have discussed many of the beliefs and questions mentioned here through texts and one of the big ones was kids. She has a son and I don't have any children. The alignment came from my past LTR where the woman had 3 children, and some grandchildren while we were together. BTW the new woman is 12+ years younger than me, where the LTR was 12 years older. Happy Thanksgiving.
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Unless you are willing to deal with family conflict and a potentially difficult biological parent other than your woman and many other issues, I do not recommend dating a woman who already has children. 😲
I think when you have a lot in common your likes and your dislikes, myself I don't like to talk about my past, this is why we have rearview mirrors, I will keep it short and sweet,👍 Anna thanks for the video 🦋
Best never to dwell on your past if you've spent enough time learning from it. Also, some mystery is attractive, but intimate relationships are deepened by sharing intimate details about some of the things that make us feel vulnerable. (Just not too soon!) :)
Just like a previous employer, i feel it's important never poop talk a previous partner. Every experience makes you who you are today
I think this Tuesday video is a test. You released it 6 hours early before I expected it and I'm not even angry. Even I'm impressed with my emotional maturity
Haha! Good for you ;) And yes, great points, I agree!
I always laugh at women's online postings that state, "No Trumpers"! Deal breaker for me. P.S. like the picture of the Travelodge and '66 Chevy in the background picture. Your eye makeup reminds me of Endora on "Bewitched" from the same era.
First rule about understanding women is that its not possible LOL (kidding!...well maybe not completely) I've have resigned and accepted the fact that the majority of women want a provider that will give them safety and security (no matter what they say). If you are willing to do that, then Wingmam has great advice in this video! If you are not willing to do that...learn to enjoy being single! :) There are worst things you could suffer!
Lol true! re: understanding women ;) Nowadays, many women don't need a provider, but they still don't want a man who earns less than them. (Reasons discussed in other videos.) And true, if you don't want to do the work, best to be single ... just choose to also be happy!
@@YourWingmam Wait, a woman doesn't want a man that earns less her? Therefore he has to make more than her? I stand by my statement of being a provider LOL You made my case :)
@@JackFalltrades I would be happy to find a woman pursuing what God/Universe intended for her. Hopefully she would also understand there is more freedom with the right relationship vs being single. That would be quite the unicorn as I am sure wingmam would agree LOL.
Dear Anna:
Is this today's video? Why so early? Either way, Fluffy is on the chair behind you to your right.
Test? Tests? Tests? Once we finished school us men thought we were done. Then came work, license and certification tests, and of course, the hardest tests of all, the Women tests. You ladies also do NOT grade on a curve or give extra credit.
Good video and you are right about those signs. I have encountered all of those and for sure it is a very bad idea to ignore incompatibilities; all that leads to time and resources wasted.
Well Anna, as you know in two days us Americans are going to sit down with our loved ones to celebrate Thanksgiving. I am grateful for many blessings I have and on top of the list are the people in my life, and that includes you. Anna, you are more than a pen pal and I am very grateful for you. I hope God blesses you with health, finances and wonderful people in your life. Thank you for being so awesome, so caring, and so brave with some of your content. Big hug and a giant peck on each cheek. You are gorgeous on the outside and beautiful on the inside. One more kiss on your right cheek. Your GLAWAB!!
Testing out a new time ;) Fluffy: check! Lol re tests, true no extra credits (unless it's with your kids or her parents)! Thank you so much for including me in your giving of thanks, right back at yah! Thank you for the compliments and for being here! 💞
... well, watching | listening to AJ's sanity almostly fuels anticipation for moments that some things might work out in cases - but even that anticipation is cooling off soon after, though.
If you take a cool head with you then your hot loins won't be as likely to delude you about a throwback.. watch for signs and flags! lol
@@YourWingmam cool head for sure, but my heart won't get to warm again, either.
Testing at the beginning(ok) but not continues I’m not going to have to prove myself time and again that gets old really quick!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Oh, well. Just going by the first part, knowing about my family....
There has not been a woman that I know, as a friend or a datr/relatiobship.....that has asked me these question....or the others.
In a long, long time
There is more room for and need of even superficial friendships than intimate relationships. When you meet someone who starts asking some of these, that's a good sign. :)
How did I miss this video ?! Great stuff. It was amusing to hear you giggle🙂
Hope you enjoyed it ❤
Great list.
It seems to me that if she is approaching with this line of questioning, it strikes me as dominant behavior. Qualifications are important, but I should be delivering them, not have them interrogated out of me. If she's leading the dialogue, you're behind.
Yes, there’s a difference between interrogation and a more naturally paced discovery.
Been a while since I watched a Wingmam video..looking gorgeous as ever there, Anna.
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It sure is nice to have a gorgeous wingmam! Enjoy your videos, you’re most appreciated. Thank you for your wonderful insight and advice.
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@YourWingmam excellent video and thank you🙏 sidebar, love your presence and looking exceptionally beautiful! 💫
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This is good, as far as it goes. The concern is that people lie a lot, that's the first thing. The other thing is that people change over time for one reason or another. And the other thing is that folks become bored with their love life and lose interest in their “mate.” I could go on and on. My point is that there needs to be a “relationship calculus" to handle all of the various changes that are bound to occur, as people are constantly refining or redefining themselves everyday. There's a kaleidoscopic mishmash of wants, needs, and desires constantly shifting and swirling around in their heads, and lots of couples simply grow apart in too many cases -- and there seems to be precious little information to help “romantically bonded individuals” keep their relationship on track with peace and happiness. And we know in the real world that people get sick, lose their job, lose their hair or put on too much weight or lose too much weight. So, they may start thinking of calling it quits because a new, hot guy or gal joined your church or got hired to work on your team. Bingo! There's a dizzying array of "what if's" that crop up in a relationship that'll pressure one or both partners to throw in the towel. So, the flaw in trying to come up with “x” number of signs for this or that in a marriages or LTRs weren’t intended to last, happily, from the “get go.” Even the Good Book tells us that there will be strife between husband and wife (boyfriend and girlfriend, same or worse), and that divorce (or a breakup) is sanctioned in that manuscript in certain situations. There is only one way to be happy in a marriage, and that approach is fully explained step-by-step in this highly misunderstood Book, which is truly understood by an infinitesimally small group of people. Too many cults are out there twisting the messages around leading folks astray. And some of the charlatans look and act just like the real deal. Beware! Learn about them so you won’t become a victim.
Relationships are definitely complicated and not for the faint of heart! I'm doing my best to decode them but it'll never be simpler than physics lol Thanks for your impassioned and detailed comment!
@@YourWingmam Please keep at it. You always give us plenty of food for thought and even practical truths that help us figure stuff out.
Hi Anna. Good video, these are 5 very important points. They lay good groundwork for building a solid relationship on. Sure the women love to test us, I don't mind taking tests as long as I've done all the studying first! 😁👍
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I just had a thought. Ladies seem uninterested in me when we first meet, but like me more as they get to know me.
The small amount of ladies I have met through dating sites. Don't like me when we meet.
One even wrote me an email saying she was not attracted to me, but as we got to know each other she wanted to stay with me.
Ladies at work warm up to me after they know me for a while.
A successful relationship is to be worked at, but some jobs are good.
This happens way more frequently than men expect. And men don't expect it because *men know instantly if a woman's looks are acceptable* to them. Women are different! More on this in an upcoming video. I also left a related reply on another comment today. :)
@@YourWingmam When I came to the lady living in England. I told the ladies at work, the problems with the relationship. They told me later, they decided to not make a judgement until they got to know me better.
After several months, they told me I was normal and a lady should be happy to be with me.
You are right, I do decide if a lady is is acceptable, instantly. It is after some time of knowing them, and seeing their true colours, I can decide if they would be a good relationship.
What has the who, where,when, why questions to do with EMOTIONAL CONNECTION???
I take it litteraly (im a men) so emotion is anger, fun, deperate, sad, confused, jealousy etc..
Thats why woman like to say that darn questions OFTEN:
- Why you want to chill with your nephew
- WHen will you do that?
- WHo are joining more you besides your nephew??
- How long will you chill with him?
- Will you call me several times?
It happened to me several times...a men will feel very irritated and like a small BOY being belittled by a 2nd mommy!!
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This is a hard one to gage with women. Thanks for the video Anna!👍🏼
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@@YourWingmam oops I meant "gauge" lol my fault. Awe you're welcome Anna! Thanks for the helpful, insightful video!🙂
In regards to “Testing”, I learned a while ago, that not knowing the material and cramming all night before a test may allow you to pass. Unfortunately, you won’t retain what you crammed for and it will bite you in the ass. Passing a test might be a false sense of hope. If someone is witty, they will probably finesse their way around the test.
Make sure you are testing the tester. Jocko Willink made the comment that “for most guys, if the lady likes you and the Woman is attractive; most guys say “she’s the one!” They fail to do additional assessments.”
If someone is flirting/teasing with someone for the mere purpose to test your reaction; consider this. Isn’t it just as disrespectful to the third party? Do they have insecurity or validation issues? Contrived or not, I’d consider that.
I’ve encountered a lot of “My friend is going through this situation…” and perhaps they wait and listen. Or situations where they provide a story and want your opinion. When I’ve been unable to get specific details, I realize it’s a hypothetical question and know it’s a test.
I feel that if you know yourself. You know your values and try to stay partially objective you are on the right track.
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9:21 I want to try this answer. 😅 I really want to see what happens 😂
Your "translations" are brilliant dear Anna !
❤️ from France
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I do not like the feeling of being interrogated which can happen on first dates, or in the beginning of starting a R-word.
I have come up with a solution to avoid the testing and interrogation phase. Just get to know someone slowly. Get to know her before starting any romance/courting/dating type stuff. Don't ever date someone you have only recently met. If you didn't know her 10 years ago, don't start anything with her. These are rules I made for myself .
An Early Video This Week…Definitely Something to Be Thankful For This Thanksgiving Week!…Thanks Anna
You are so welcome! :))
Great video thanks hun
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Yep only got so much space in-between my ears to get all this I've GOTTA take a break from all this learning...about women (goodness) damm
thanks for the great tips. I hope your eyes recover soon. Cheers!
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Love that cat eye you se>
All 5 are perfect questions! With answers.... go figure..
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I'm so utterly different I cannot comment without writing a fucking book.
I absolutely don't belong in this dimension, but can relate.
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This is very informative information Anna. Wishing you a happy Thanksgiving 🦃 day from the USA 🇺🇲
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@@YourWingmam You're welcome, spicy señorita Anna ❤ 🙏🏻
Hey John, Anna is Canadian. They have already celebrated Thanksgiving in Canada this year. It doesn't correspond with our Thanksgiving here in the USA. Happy Thanksgiving to you, sir. 👍👍👍
Wow. I have been asked none of those questions.
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It seems to me the problem most men have when trying to deal effectively with women in an LTR is that while women instinctively or naturally make use of the psychological technique of partial re-enforcement in many of their relationships men don't seem to pick up on the technique until it's too late and their partner has one foot out the door???
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1Corinthians 7:20-40 has an important message concerning marriage or staying single. It is a mature discussion!! Thanks again Anna Jorgensen and God bless you.😸🙏
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Answer to a threesome: "Of course I've thought about having a threesome. But it's hard enough to satisfy 1 woman let alone two!" Works every time to defuse the question, even makes the ladies giggle a bit. As far as "testing" goes, I bring it straight upfront. I say, in a calm voice especially when it's the same question, "Why are you asking me this again? We have discussed this exact thing before. I do not care to answer it if you cannot remember my answer." Yes, it will tick her off, but, she comes around because I've called her test. And yes, sometimes she takes offense, but if she won't listen and remember what I said then she's not for me. Rock on Anna...
Great replies!! Then she trusts your speaking the truth and have standards and boundaries. *That* is how you handle her tests!
I also got asked the threesome question. My answer was "um, I'm Catholic."
She broke up with me a month later. Turns most people don't like waiting for years until they're married to have sex.
She's putting itt straight. The problem is woman sometimes test u but u don't take it seriously n then u think why she is backing away for no reason.
Now I came to know it was a test, I just didnt give it any importance.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@@YourWingmam Tacks a mycket!
If you are over 40, and especially 50, I would imagine a woman would be comparing your stated life goals against your actual accomplishment toward those goals. It would be a way of confirming both your actual ability and determination versus what is probably so much BS or 'lip service'.
Wink to the West Coast. Good listening skills.
Yes, true. All you can do is what you can do. And if you can show a woman you're taking real action toward goals you both feel are important some women (not all) will value that and take a chance on you. :)
All of the emotional attraction items you mentioned are good and reasonable. None of them surprised me. Do you ever recommend someone perform a covert background investigation on a love interest? 🤔
If you can do so in a stealth way, yes. It's not romantic but in today's world it should be common place. However! I once hired (and un-hired the same day) a PI who said these words I'll never forget, "Usually we find something." In other words, if there are enough red flags to hire a PI, save yourself the $!
@@YourWingmam Thanks for your reply. Isn't it all really like a job interview? They don't check you out until after they've interviewed you. Then they talk to people and search records, a kind of investigation after you've jumped over the first interview hurdle. Some employers even require you to subject yourself to a credit check. There may be some limitations, since someone who is twenty is less likely to have a history compared to someone who is fifty. There's a lot you can find out just through the internet. One must be careful, since internet information can be inaccurate. One should also be aware that something bad on a person's record could be an isolated incident in the distant past. Patterns would be more of a concern. It would be very cool if you could do a video on this question and how to get at the truth of the matter. Anyway, it's an interesting subject.
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Had one flavor of icecream for thirty years. It was great!
Lucky man! Hopefully, you'll find your next favourite flavour! :)
Thanks so much for this..
When you end with "God bless" this adds much value to your content,it gives me a sense of moral uprightness...
So glad you appreciate that! I know it turns some off but I hope the info before it lends itself worthy of watching for those who aren't God types! (And maybe shows some of us God types aren't all that serious and judgey like they often think lol.)
@@YourWingmam Saying "God bless" provides a sense of completeness to your video. Besides, it demonstrates that you really do mean what you say.
Indeed this video is just nice am glued all through.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I prefer to casual dating for now, having all the fun of dating without the drama and compromise
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I really enjoy the way you explain things in relatable and at times humoristic ways❤
Glad you enjoy it!
Sooo...
This girl i was dating started asking questions about my past relationships.
I felt it wasn't very much her business about my past relationship ,other than the fact that i was once married. I was uncomfortable talking about it, so i didn't volunteer much info.
Also i dont want to know about someone's Past relationships. Im moving forward. Js🙂
Women try to gauge your potential in a future relationship by your past relationships. The best way to make a woman feel safe about a potential relationship with you is to tell her what you learned about yourself from that past relationship. In other words she wants to know you can take responsibility for where things went wrong even if it’s simply means you chose the wrong person in the past. She should also be able to take responsibility for where she went wrong in past relationships. And that should be of value to you. :)
I wish I had some of this insight yeah ago. I have felt for a long time that I had enough of the ware and tare of relationships and if life is going well I can enjoy being by myself. Obviously having a great companion can be much better. With that being said I have incidentally met someone online who somehow her presents is helping me to be a better person or at least deal with life in a manner that I used to do. I feel like I have been going through the same process you mentioned. I have never had something like this and am still leery but I feel like I have made a good friend. I tend to think about many things most of the time so I asked if we could call each other. She said she wasn't ready for that and I accepted that. One day she texted me at work and asked if I could take calls. Then she asked for my number and called me! She sounded very sweet and has been raised with some faith. I have found myself emotionally attracted to someone who I only have a picture of and heard her voice once. This has been going on for months and months. She is like clockwork and texted me every morning and at the end of the evening plus at work alot but can't reply immediately. Have I lost my mind? People ask of she is asking for money and I tell them she sends me money!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
So informative and so true.
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Honestly, I’d like to book a two hour session with you. 😀 It would help me get started ( specifically ) 😊
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Love is an emotion.
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Lots of questions. 😳
If all these questions came at me on one dinner date.
“Check please”
I'm 84yoa, the only ones I can find are either in a nursing home or the cemetery
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Thank you Anna another great video
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Dating modern people is very complicated
To many questions
Not like the olden days it not so easy for some guya to understand . To many youtube on dating.
It is not easy in this world when there is so much competion .
The fax some people are not frendly .
This is real now some people wount like saying that
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Looking Beautiful this morning , ❤️
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Feeling especially graced early today
Thanks for giving Anna 😊🙏❤️
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Not knowing about being tested, I feel that something is going on, but don't know what it is, other times I know I am being tested and refuse to play, sometimes pointing it out
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Look up Sean Connery 's interview from a long time ago, with the late Barbara Walter's. That's all I'm gonna say.
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My therapist does these things ….should make a move ? 😆
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Happy Thanksgiving to Wingmam and fellow subscribers!
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Oooh. You snuck this in hours early. Under normal circumstances, I probably wouldn't be able to view until late afternoon ET. Your facial energy (expressions) make me think your mind was exceptionally clear whenever you filmed this. On the topic: I hate tests -- not just relationship tests, but all of them. Had to do a certification for work yesterday; like many tests, it didn't really measure much of what I really need to know to do my job. Women's tests, though, at least have a purpose. Maybe they don't really apply to me, but they do apply to her (something from her past which she is trying to avoid, for example). No fun, but in that context, they make sense. Useful topic today. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Mr T is out cold on the sofa. He's not used to having me home mid-day anymore, but I'm on PTO this week for the holiday.
I'm *testing* out a new video release time lol ;) Tests are rarely fun, but passing them does feel satisfying! Hope you do alright on your work tests... Thank you for your prayers, Russ, scratch for Mr. T, enjoy the holiday! :)
So, when I am just starting out hopefully at the start of 2025, how do I say that I have had no relationship experience. Or, since I am Catholic no sexual experience either even though I am going to be 39 years old for most of 2025?
Wait until at least the 3rd date, by then you know she's interested enough to deserve your vulnerability. Then play it off casually when the conversation leans into physical intimacy. Or her actions indicate she wants physical intimacy. You don't have to kiss her on date #1! If it feels right on date 2, if she gives signs, it's ok to kiss her. You'll likely be with someone of faith I assume, so going faster than this is unlikely, anyway. So before you go past kissing, you'll say, "Well, you're in luck, I haven't had much experience so I have no preconceived ideas of what you like but I'm ready to find out." If you're waiting for marriage then just add, "... if that's where we end up." (You'll need to filter for "wait til marriage" before this, if that's what you're looking for.)
Also, Ana's presentation is in a a witty /naughty way.
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Love your jokes, so funny!
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I agree with most of your advice that I've seen on this channel. Curious though, where did you learn all this? Experience? Religion? Science? Books?
Thank you! Yes, yes, yes, yes lol Learned from my own experiences and mistakes, read about 100 books on relationships and psychology (and the Bible), took many courses and workshops, observed and coached others unofficially for years, over-analyzed it all! ;)
I was with a nice German and Mexican mixed woman on Sunday at her house. I had a blast. Single life is magnificent! ^____^
Interesting... will you be seeing her again? ;)
@@YourWingmam That was my third time seeing her. That is all I can tell you. I mentioned this before, but all of the women I have been with are single, divorced, and have children somewhere haha. I was never attracted to the little college or high school girls like most men are. I don't go on dates, I have never been to a bar, and I have never been to a club. I lost my "V" in 2016.😉😁
Was in the lunch line Saturday and this woman couldn't stop sneaking a look at me and I noticed her right away. I saw her again yesterday and ended up having lunch with her. I see her all the time and know she's single 🤔🤔🤔
You are 5000 miles ahead for having lunch with her! You did something to make that happen, spill it so others can learn! :))
You're in there! :)
... if you ended up just paying another full bill, that success appears stale to me...
Boy these are like breaking some master mind code anna.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Anna, you're good!
Hello. Watching now.
Early today
Trying a new time out, thanks for showing up! Let me know what you think!
@@YourWingmam Thank you very much.
I work 6 am to 7 pm, so the best time for me is between 8 to 10. That is midday to 2 pm your time.
Depends what is best for you, and your main audience area.
It is extra special that you reply to the comments. Feels great to know you read the comments and give advise.
It was 6 pm at my house when you went live with this. I am home because I have Covid now. Sometimes I am home because I am rostered off work.