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All these games , all these requirements the majority of women have is why I don't waste my time. And I love the look they give when you ask them what they bring to the table . Bye Felicia lol
Not only what they bring to the table but also point out issues that you know they may have...but only after you point out some of your own issues! It humanizes them.
I personally believe that, as a man, being content and satisfied with one's own company is what's really needed. A woman is just an added bonus that, even without that "added bonus", that individual will be just fine. It took many misfortunes to finally learn that in recent years.
That is the key to being non-needy but other than what I suggested at the end of the video as a starting point to discover how to get on the path to non-neediness, there's no one-size-fits-all silver bullet. Most men, like you, learn the hard way. Glad you got there though!
Very well said, it's not just women, people come and go in your life. If you can be happy anywhere doing anything you will be happy and satisfied. People that come into your life get to come along for the awesome ride your going on in your life!
No one should ever Need anyone. I don't need a woman in my life. I want a woman in my life. Someone to share the ups and downs with. What's the point of doing a lot of things if there is no one to share it with.
Indeed! It get's easier with age but, my advice? If you find yourself losing control of your heart over a woman, and she's not also falling madly in love with you, then I would hightail it out of there! If your heart is going to get smashed into a million pieces, then do it your damn self! Don't let a woman do that for you, because there's a good chance that you will not recover! Whereas, you are more likely to survive a broken heart if you were the one doing the smashing!
It's such a sad reality 1000% the man can't care more about her than she cares about him I love this video by the way. I love the way you put the message perfectly and yes I've heard it all before but I don't get tired of hearing it. It does make me sad knowing that I can never love a woman unless she loves me more than I love her and............ One has to face just retiring and getting a little dog and enjoy other things besides women
Glad you agree and it is a hard pill to swallow about how men and women love and think differently. You might appreciate my video, Can she love you?: th-cam.com/video/3M1DDmTuPrI/w-d-xo.html
Our entire lives we were sold a lie that serves & benefits women ONLY! Nice life, eh! No wonder so many men wish to walk away from women! Honestly, we should have done this sooner!
I self-identified this a number of years ago. I call it 'Getting in too deep to quick!' The piece I was missing was why and you just nailed it for me Anna, getting emotionally over invested. Thank you for giving me this clarity of understanding! 😄
Accepting that something is not working, is not failure, it is a power move. It is a release of what no longer serves you, and an unlocking of a new beginning. If the lady rejects you, that is an opportunity to be free, or find your keeper.
@@andersnielsen6044 The bit written above is true of a relationship I had. Big hopes of a happy relationship became disappointment. I wanted it to work, but she was mean to me. Then she wanted us to get married! So I had a situation of wanting her, she wanting marriage, that meant I could have her, but the relationship was bad. I am not willing to accept that, so I refused marriage. Long distance relationship, so we are apart now. I have recently found a book called Manifest. I have it on order from Amazon, so have not read it yet, found a few excerpts from it. It is a best seller and gets rave reviews. From the back cover.... MANIFEST is the essential guide for anyone and everyone wanting to feel more empowered in their lives. Self-development coach and 'Queen of Manifesting' Roxie Nafousi will show you how in just seven simple steps you can understand the true art of manifestation and learn how to create the life you have always dreamed of. Whether you want to attract your soulmate, find the perfect job or your dream home, or simply discover more inner-peace and confidence, MANIFEST will teach you exactly how to get there in just 7 steps . .
I've been rejected, you survive, and the best thing to do is walk away when she shows a wrong attitude. The loss is hers, as far as I'm concerned. I don't say that out of arrogance or conceit, but as a fact.
Absolutely, @Strive1324L! Walking away when faced with the wrong attitude is a strong move. Rejections are tough, but they pave the way for better connections. Check out my video 'If a woman rejected you or broke your heart, SHOULD YOU STOP DATING?' for more insights. Watch it here: th-cam.com/video/hm3UhoatSgU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=YourWingmam Stay resilient!
Great vid, Anna. I 100% agree. When I was a single man, I would overcome acting needy by dating multiple women, and moving from relationship to relationship quickly. I would approach at least woman a day. If they didn't show any interest, I would move on without me ever thinking about her again. However, they found my lack of clinginess attractive, and I usually had a decent chance of getting a date.
Great approach, Find em, F##k em, Forget em, !!!!!i lived this way as a young man too, and i was genrally very happy , then i got married for 20yrs, oh god😢😢😢
Hi Anna. As a former needy simp, desperation is VERY unattractive. If I go out with a lady, if she likes our date and I like her, we'll go out again. If she acts rude or gives me putdowns or acts disrespectful, we're done. She can walk. Women are great, but life goes on if she acts rotten on the date. It's her loss if she's too demanding or picky.
They are ALL too demanding & picky. some start showing the signs later than others. My ex seemed like an angel from heaven at first, but once she got around her 'sisters' they reformed her standards and she complied. they were more important than our relationship!
@@inconnu4961 Yeah that's bad, when friends, family have a bad influence. She wasn't dating them but YOU, and you should have had top priority. But she put other opinions at the top, and that means failure.
@@Strive1324L Thank you for this, means a lot! i respected the hell out of her dad. her dad was a good man, but the classice blue piller. her mom, was a nut ( i dont say this lightly either, but the things my ex said were absolutely abusive; i was called abusive for FAR less than her mothered said) it was the girls at our church of all places. this older retired lady in particular got in the ears of a lot of young ladies, and we had a rash of divorces at our small church, all initiated by UNHAPPY WIVES! Hmmmm . . . i did the marriage counseling with pastor, with therapists and we tried Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. Nothing seemed to help!
@Inconnu 49 Sorry to hear that. I've heard that the divorce rate in the church is the same as in society. It should be WAY lower, because as Christians we are to follow scripture in how to have a marriage last, how to love and serve one another, it's very clear. Since there were a lot of divorces, I can speculate that either the young people weren't taught enough or the young people were rebellious and didn't want to accept responsibility and just blame the other person for everything going wrong.
Another Great Informative Video... 😊 👍 "Outcome Dependent"... Yes and that ties in with other issues.. Damaged/Lack of SELF-ESTEEM & Seeking EXTERNAL VALIDATION in life rather than developing a HEALTHY Sense of SELF-WORTH INDEPENDENT of what some others MAY BE thinking about you. These often relate to growing up in an Emotionally Negative parental/family environment... -StayWell Everyone -70Something Guy
Great video! To your point in the video, one of the worst things I have found is to get this vision of what you think the woman is like and imagining the potential relationship. This has happened to me several times in the past and when I finally got with the woman, I had a huge letdown. In almost all cases, she was absolutely nothing like my imaginary version of her was. The best thing I found is play it cool, don't invest much time thinking about any one woman, keep your options open, and most importantly, be the best version of yourself you can. You will have an aura about you that attracts people. Always remember that a woman coming into your life is no guarantee to improve it. You have to be enjoying life on your own first. Get that aura going!
This is called projection. It's not a real person you're thinking of. You're just projecting onto someone the person you wish they were. A lot of people do it. It's a massively unhelpful habit when attempting to build a real connection between two real [flawed] human beings.
Financial safety comes from saving and investing wisely. Ladies spend on anything that gives them a temporary emotional jolt. They do not value security or safety. They value emotional charges
When I was in college I had a really good streak my senior year, this occurred after my girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up, I shifted my attitude to just "not caring", and the more casual I was, the more tail I got...I see some guys just drip with neediness and reek of desperation
In all my naïveté I used to think the more you pour your heart out to a woman the more she would want to be with you. No no no no no no !!! Nothing could be further from the truth !!! It overlooks one important fact.. that beautiful women are saturated with attention from men wanting them, both online and in the real world and the more you express desire for her the more she is repelled. I realized this even before I found your channel but you, especially as a woman, have confirmed what I had already found out. What I am experimenting with right now is showing limited or (“controlled”) amounts of interest in her followed by long periods of ignoring her although I am afraid I may have shown more than just a limited amount to the woman I am talking to right now causing her to go silent. I will just have to fine tune it.
You're getting there! It's less about how much attention you give than the quality of attention and most importantly, the neediness behind it. She will feel that level no matter how you try to use tactics around it. It's actually very sexy to a keeper to know a man unquestionably desires her *as long as he doesn't need her.* The best way to act non-needy when you still are a little needy is to get busy improving your life. The first and best thing to focus on is getting fit. It'll do the most for your confidence and the side benefit is it shows proof of commitment and you look better. :)
Do something about your Oneitis. Always have a plan A & B at least! Women are a dime a dozen, and many arent worth that dime! Do you follow Rollo Tomassi, or The Rational Male podcast? certainly, you must! Rollo Tomassi is the Godfather when it comes to this stuff! everyone else is a distant 2nd!
Excellent advice! I’ve made all of these mistakes with the last woman I was pursuing. Makes sense why I ended up getting ghosted. It stings, but live and learn!
Admiration is always the furthest thing from understanding. This is how I avoid neediness in my life, I try by all means to understand who she is. I see her for who she really is, character flaws and all. It makes me realize what I'm about to get myself into and ultimately provides me with the decision on how much to invest in her.
Anna it’s always good to be out of your comfort zone, in your Apt when you’re doing one of these informational video’s. I can’t believe that the cold wind is not even blowing, no wind gusts 💨 moving where you’re speaking. People who don’t live in Vancouver Canada, 🇨🇦 like to see what it looks like.
The key is to not be so impressed by a woman's beauty. There are a lot of women that are pleasing to the eye. It only takes a moment to establish that she is beautiful on the outside. If her inside is not good enough, she is just a pretty shell to look at. The women I had success with were women I just kept it short and simple with. I talked to her like an old friend and tested the waters to see if there was any interpersonal connection there. Cruella De Vil can make life hell regardless of how pretty she is.
Hey! I’m watching your videos a lot the past few weeks/days. Your ideas and thoughts match what my experience with friendships and relationships showed and taught me. Thanks for it. Just letting you know we enjoy and appreciate your thoughts, revelations, advice, and guidance! ❤️
This is 110% spot on. I learned this the hard way during my teenage years and young adulthood. I can attest that needy does not work! 😁. However, once I got past that stage things turned around pretty quickly. Looking back, it's really funny now, but it wasn't then. Another great video and will hopefully prevent guys enamoured by a radiant beauty from learning the hard way.Thanks for posting.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's so common among younger men even into their 20s, 30s and sometimes beyond depending on their childhood. And so difficult to see within oneself at the time. But (like for you) it can be overcome! :))
Thank you Coach Decoder,lol. Excellent video ,you are so right on. Finding our passions in hobbies, time and life is a must. Make her look for time with you, never chase after her. God bless Coach Anna. Peace n love.
Here is a suggestion for you Anna. You can add the following lines to your intro. … I help men decode modern women through weekly online Just the Tip videos and one on one bespoke coaching session.
I myself made the mistake of telling a girl that I liked her because I thought that we had a connection. I actually hoped that maybe she was the one. She said that I'm not ready for a relationship and we should just have fun being single. I took it as a No , me getting rejected, so I walked away. I have been happy alone since. Now she texted asking for us to go out and hangout together. I politely decline the offer I tell her that I very busy which I really am. But sometimes I do wonder if she's playing games with me.
Thank goodness for the last minute of the video. If I want her making myself better doesn't bring her to me any faster. We have to keep our cool and stay busy and wait for her to come to us.
😆😆 Hi Anna, It's good to see you again. The way I see it is that I am the prize, I am the king. She has to meet my requirements in order to hangout with me!. I never pursue her, she pursues me or I move on. Guys, it's called self love!! I have better things to do than wimp over some girl! Get a life and follow Anna's advice! She's got it goin on!! Love ya Anna!! Doug
I met my dream girl in college after I got out of the Air Force at age 27. I enrolled as a full time student majoring in chemistry. I chased this beautiful blond girl for two whole years before she agreed to go out with me. Like you mentioned - I placed her on a pedestal which eventually led to a very lopsided relationship. In short, I didn't sufficiently challenge her. I failed to set the necessary conditions that would compel her to put forth the time and effort to "snag" me. I was just too "easy", indeed a pushover in her mind. The takeaway I discovered is it's absolutely essential both parties are continuously challenged by their partners. AND absolutely get accustomed to saying "NO" in a firm tone . Never surrender your honor, your soul, or self respect just to appease your vain, snobbish girlfriend. In addition, I learned of a fundamental human trait which is intrinsic to both sexes; i.e., often we desire something OR someone we can't have. With many individuals - after they get what they want - they no longer want it. You begin to take you mate for granted which spells trouble. Tm
Superior video, Wingmam. For once, I'm doing everything right. I might have found her, but I won't know until she catches me! I am so dang busy these days I don't have much time for this, but at least when I do see her things flow so naturally. Thanks for all your solid advice.
In Ancient Rome, a slave would continuously whisper ‘Remember you are mortal’ in the ears of victorious generals as they were paraded through the streets after coming home, triumphant, from battle. Let the slave whisper in your ear, "She is mortal". "And then a hero comes along With the strength to carry on And you cast your fears aside And you know you can survive So when you feel like hope is gone Look inside you and be strong And you'll finally see the truth That a hero lies in you." Written by: Walter Afanasieff
I have to agree because this is my lifelong experience. I’ve had great friendships with women where we were just friends. The problem always came when I wanted to take something passed friendship. Feel attracted to a woman and, unless you’re Chad, she has no interest in you. Times that from day one I knew it would never go passed friendship so don’t even try, we could spend every weekend together having fun, even living with one, and we’d never have a problem. My conclusion, women can be great friends but if you want love, get a dog.
Thank you for sharing your experience! You can't really be just friends with a woman if you're attracted to her. She can feel ulterior motives (desire) and it's a turn off. :( You might want to check out some of the videos in my Friend Zone list: th-cam.com/video/4uy6lexO2bo/w-d-xo.html A lot of guys who end up in the friend zone also have "too nice guy syndrome" if you think that might be you, watch my nice guy videos: th-cam.com/video/Tk3o-ivIbHo/w-d-xo.html
@@shepherdanton I don't try to do that. I was saying that the only women that I've ever had in my life were ones that I didn't try to have a relationship with. The ones that, at first meeting, I knew it was never going to be more than friendship. It was with those women that we could spend time together, whether just hanging out for pizza and a movie, going to a big event on a weekend, going on vacation together or with one, living together. Those were the women I didn't have drama and constant problems with. As long as we were just friends, we got along fine. But let there be a woman that I try to have a relationship with, no, doesn't work. The amount of satisfaction I'd get from a relationship compared to the amount of trauma was like putting a $20 into a change machine to get 4 quarters.
Women & Men can’t be friends because these relationships always most certainly are based on one having low levels of sexual attraction for the other. In this case you where the one with the sexual attraction. One day you will experience the reverse where a woman whom you are not attracted too keeps wanting to hang with you, but your not that interested and you will also realize that she doesn’t want friendship she wants you and try’s. But you will keep her in the friend zone. So she’s not actually your friend, she just wants you to like her and hoping you’ll want the same,so you keep her around as an ego boost. That’s the only reason why that girl let you continue to be her friend, sorry to burst your bubble.
@@shepherdanton Double trouble. Until you know how she’s going to act when the sh*t hits the fan? Good luck! May as well live your life and if she’s interested she’ll get over her shyness or old fashioned attitude. Can’t have it both ways. Hypocrites and people with anger issues or narcissistic’s don’t reveal themselves right away? Leave her at the first minuscule sign? Solitude? Free will or destiny? I don’t know
Many women in North America currently has this idea that they hold all the power in relationships. Over time, it will always be forced back to a mid-point. Men simply are starting to mirror the same games and I know many men that now date at least 5-6 women at any given point. They don’t pay for dates but just have fun. It’s all a game. Then when it’s time for something serious, they find a foreign gf. Generally from Asia …
Anna I love your advice and watch your channel all the time. I recall one video you had shorter hair. That was your best look. The softer lip stick in this video works best for you. No need for lash accents it detracts from your pretty dark eyes.
This was a painful lesson for me to learn. I have never given women tons of attention and I have my own life and hobbies. But what I got wrong was the availability part. Being too fast to reply to texts for example. And when women ask what you did over the weekend, you always need an answer she'll like, even if you didn't do anything. I'm always working on things, but I like to relax. But I never tell a woman I watched movies and played video games for half a Saturday because work has been too tiring. They don't care! Just lie. It indicates that you're busy and moving. She wants to be the one to slow you down. You have to be very good at the balance though because if you're too unavailable they'll find the next guy. You have to play the long game. It's insane.
YEs - cold treatment - if she asks what you did - best is to avoid and say ( and DO) you had really good time last night with bussines partners during dinner and later in night club . but it is not her f. bussiness. It keeps her interested and fascinated and quiet. Works like a charm .
Hey I like that snowy beach!!!! Best advice and spot on! I learned the hard way and all this is the absolute truth. Work on yourself! The rest will come. Thank you, Anna!
Congratulations, you've discovered the secret to success. If you don't mind my suggestion, learning how to play a musical instrument and maybe even sing scores big points with women and it will help you with stress and keeping your mind healthy.
I am happy to stay single. I want a woman to share my life with but I don't need one. Most of them come to me only to get the cold shoulder if I feel there is no connection.
@@YourWingmam The only reason I am like this is to protect myself from a narcissist. They don't know about true love, only material which in the end they end up alone when their mind games backfire. It's a shame as the only ones they hurt in the end is themselves.
Very, very well explained. However, my favorite line from a movie, The Longest Yard, when Burt Reynolds said " I have my sh*t together, I just can't carry it."
Anna, this is the 2nd or 3rd video of yours that I completely 100% agree with so I went ahead and subscribed. You have some great advice and thoughts on dating, relationships and the dynamics between men and women. I'm 36 so while I'm still young I've been around the block enough to experience things with women and develop a rather informed and accurate picture of how women operate and think. I've had my highs and lows including divorce and heartbreak. It's been one big learning experience. With that said I totally agree with your message in this video. It has often seemed to me that the more you like someone the less likely they'll feel the same way. And vice versa. It's hard finding someone who meets you there on a balanced level of interest. In fact out of the many women I've dated and been in relationships with over the years there's only been maybe a handful I've met where we had an equal level of interest in one another. All we can do at the end of the day is be ourselves, be confident and hold true to our standards. Keep it up hun. Really enjoying your content. You're doing a great service.
I recently got back on the dating scene, and one of my first matches online was 100% my type, gorgeous face, curvy blonde. I made the mistake of dusting the rust off with her and she ended up blocking me haha. I'm back in my IDGAF mode and I have ladies lined up for days, and now I don't feel like pursuing any of them because they're portraying these same qualities. One woman has sent me her number 3 times without me even asking for it haha.
@@davidboyd6463 I dunno, man, 37 years is quite an accomplishment! compared to recent trends i would hardly call that a fail! there is WAY too much temptation for women! they are constantly being told how unhappy and dissatisfied they should be. that they deserve MORE & BETTER, no matter how good what they have is! its never enough. soto have her for 37 yrs (unless it was a horror show for you) is an accomplishment most of us will never set in our trophy cases!
Dear Anna, Everything you say is true in a logical world. Sometimes, we fall in love, and when we do, our bodies are flooded with hormones that can prevent us from acting logically; in your terms, we may appear needy. The truth is that rejection happens to the best of us, and it’s simply a part of life that helps us grow. I agree with you on this, but not when our bodies are overwhelmed by hormones. 😉 And yes, working on yourself, your goals, and your dreams is essential, whether or not you are in a relationship.
Great advice. There will never be a time when there is not a need for relationship advisors. The needy point is super important. Guys just don't get it. They fall all over a woman and wonder what they did wrong. For sure, you are totally right about the friends point. Introspective guys like myself get raked over the coals by women because they wrongly assume you've got no friends if you like to read or take walks by yourself and are reflective. It's all good. Getting over rejection without blaming anyone and learning what you can as you move on from the rejection is the best thing to do. I hold no grudges because I'm not perfect either and I figure anyone who rejected me did me a favor because it would not have worked out with them so it's to move forward.
You can love her but NEVER fall in love with her unless/until she's deeply in love with you. When women feel like they conquered you/got you too easily they subconsciously know you're not the best they can do. But remember, unless a man has achieved peak mental & emotional control, he should never want to truly be in love with the women anyway, that type of love means inherent vulnerability, the women having power over him to destroy/hurt him, in other words weakness. The most important thing is for the women to RESPECT HIM, this means the girl gives him passion, submissiveness, kindness, emotional support, love, intimacy, companionship, sex, follows his rules, lets him lead & guide, NEVER cheats on him, is loyal, honest etc etc... perhaps this is just trauma speaking but I feel complete happiness, inner peace, bliss, and I am content with life even without being in that emotional state I was in with past women. I love women, would never be in a serious relationship with women I didn't love, but I am not "In love", women can't handle power & will often cruelly step on guy's balls with zero remorse whatsoever if they feel they have the power to take out that lion. If a girl knows a guy is hopelessly in love with her and will do anything to keep her, has no boundaries, no self respect, lets her disrespect him endlessly because of all that love she will know no bounds to destroying him because women are biologically repulsed by WEAKNESS. The thing men should be seeking out is respect, I'm not saying men have to become assholes or jerks or rude boys or whatever dark triad bs but they should be confident, assertive, dominant, and achieve success in many areas of life TO ACHIEVE THAT RESPECT. That's all there is to it. The other dark fact about female nature, no matter how deeply a women is in love with you, under all the right conditions she could STILL cheat on your & betray you IF she has NO respect for you. On the other hand, I've known girls that had seething hatred & wanted their men dead but still never slept with any other men because all the respect they had for the man, this is the epitome of the "asshole/bad boy" she keeps going back to endless times archetype, though this type of guy isn't healthy or good for the long term & meaningful relationships women can have with men they deeply respect but are great virtuous human being.s This is the biggest issue a lot of men nowadays do not understand about women, yes we all have masculine/feminine energy inside of us so are capable of that "in love" feeling but that's meant to be for women, women were actually the ones meant to simp for men if anything if a relationship between them is healthily & real otherwise there should be mutual simping for each other or just mutual respect and no simping. What we have now with a lot of guys falling love with, simping for women who don't care if they live or die & have endless options with countless men is DANGEROUS. Especially since a man even becoming a simp means he's 1. emotionally unintelligent & unaware 2. can't control his emotions. This is only possible if the balance of things fall out of sync, men become weaker and women become more masculine, stronger & independent to the point they're essentially filling the man's previous role while men fill the feminine role in their desperate need for women.
There is NO such thing as love! Queensryche got it right when they sang " i dont believe in Love'! they are only transactional relationships, nothing more. learn to play 'The Game'! women do it on instinct!
"I'm just the decoder" and "you gotta get your poop in a group" lmao 🤣 you're too funny Anna. Those are good points although to be fair women have also exhibited these with men. The last girl who wanted to date me was doing this she cried and desperately wanted to date me even though she was still close with her ex. We can always improve or try to at least but at the same time I also believe personally nobody's perfect. The issue with dating now days IMO people are way too picky(namely women) and more men are are getting tired of the chase, trying to measure up but not being enough for some chicks and less dating, approaching etc. I've been seeing more and more women channels bring this up. I think it'll get to the point where more men will nearly stop all together women will wonder why and get mad then be forced to be realistic if they want a man. While I feel guys shouldn't come off as needy or desperate and nobody should always settle regardless of man or woman I also think women eed to be more realistic drop down to earth with the standards personally. Just my hot take on the current dating climate.
@@MKF30 Totally agree here! I was that creepy guy until i moved on quickly from them. now, they will give me a 2nd chance! LOL Nope! 1 strike and yer out!
This is the most fundamentally important video you've ever released, could have used this message in the past for sure. Men need distance, a kind of wall & brave face 📚💯👑
Great video Anna one of your best! In today’s world the data is coming in that millions of men are giving up on dating and women are panicking on what is happening to us men! Wow how scary times have becoming! Your video is very important but our economy can have dangerous impact on relationships where roles will be reversed and normal biologically wired ways women are made can make men run away from woman all together and vise versa! Wow what a matrix this will make in the future! What do you think 🤔?
I get what you mean! Surrendering to reality is Step 1. Step 2 is making your life worthwhile regardless of any woman without being bitter about it. :)
@@YourWingmam Being bitter is half the fun, though! How are we ever going to change things for our sons, if we are so stoic? The passport bros wanna leave for the Philippines ! time we sort out our stuff here, and bitterness may be the motivation we need to get us going!
Hi Anna, my name is Scott, I was born with several disabilities cp and hearing impairment. I am single never been married. Lot of people want me to date a lady with cp. I know her since 97, But I am not attracted to her even through she did have crush on me. I told her firmly back in 2010 that I am not interested in her. Yet my family and my friends still think she is one for me based on their desire for identity politics and their comfort zone. I ignore them. It’s more of communication problem, her speech and my hearing issue. There also compatibility issues if I want to marry. I know I don’t bring much to the table anyway. I stopped looking and stopped asking long time ago for majority of women in cities are feminists and or taking advantage of disabled guys for money. Deep down I prefer abled bodied woman. Thank you for letting me share it.
@@Rocks_vs_Uzis Certainly not dismissing a random fuck with any girl who wants it. But in the long run, women are biologically wired to be with the man who can do the most for them. As in earning, and paying for what they want. It's called " hypergamy." And as the popular song went " ....not sayin' she a golddigger, but she won't be with no broke dick ---- "
Its sad that we men have to go from this perfect romantic guy to accepting real female nature and becoming this heartless guy who doesnt romanticise anymore all becuz women dont want it in the first place
Of all the guidance I have collected from you, this is the meatiest. It's all there. I'm currently in a fantastic relationship and your advice helps me see my "reflection." You just helped me, help us. Thanks...
This 9 minute long video has been uploaded 2 minutes ago and I see 'likes' already were given. Giving likes before finish listening to the video is a silly thing to do.
We are the Anna J crowd. Some of us give likes simply out of pleasant surprise to see she uploaded something. It's all good. She never disappoints. She is a welcome, warm face and voice for many reasons.
Personally, I'll throw the like out immediately because I'll forget and if it helps, so much the better. Further, I'll very rarely give dislikes to my subbed channels anyway. Not simping here, but Anna is pretty much guaranteed to never post something that I'd dislike. It's never really controversial.
I can always change it later. I have watched many of her videos and have not needed to change my vote. If you have experience with American women or women who feel privileged compared to the rest of the world. I think you might find her insight helpful. Or at minimum to help you avoid the pain. Just a thought I could be wrong...
You get so much farther being a jerk than being nice to her. One girl, I gave her a rose and she ghosted me never responded to me again. Another girl, we were in a bar I started complementing other girls butts, she gets pissed and walks out, then the next day comes to me and apologizes for walking away from me. get in touch with your inner jerk.
Great video. Great advice. Really informative. I was beginning to wonder whether the background was fake or real. I didn't hear the cold wind blowing into the microphone. Until........ the end of the video when you showed the shoreline, and I heard the noise of the wind and water and such. I'd say your furry coat came into good use for that video. We did not get much of a winter here in North Carolina, and I'm happy with that. I'm looking forward to spring and summer. I like the warm weather.
Unfortunately that is the harsh reality. That’s where us men have to not only read a woman’s body language, but pay attention to her actions. She needs to give you little hints that she likes you rather than you being in a situation where you feel like you have to try and impress her. For instance, let’s say you meet in a gym at a spinning class and you chatted briefly and bantered and she suggests that you come to another gym class. It is a sign she likes you at least and a woman’s body language and little hints is all you will get from her, but the key is to spend less time around her and make her want to see you more and more. She needs to want you more than you want her otherwise you will be friend zoned. Keep focusing on your own priorities such as your ambition, purpose and vision and see women as a bonus gentlemen.
None of these apply to Chads. The rest of us normal men, good luck, you’re going to need a ton of it. And after it all, my question is, was it worth it? 🤔
'Playing romantic music while you think about her'? That's a bit much. I don't feel nearly as sad about myself now. Thank God I'm not THAT bad off. Thank you Anna. This was educational and Really cheered me up!
Glad I quit fiddling with American women. I had enough work already. It was so much better going out with an honest woman instead of all the game playing. Best thing a guy can do is leave American women in the dust. Everyone needs to take out the trash once in a while.
I think what you said is pretty good and true. I will say however that I think a lot of this is why women find themselves in trouble with bad men that cheat on them. Because a bad man that would cheat on them isn't overly emotionally attached to them (They might not be attached to them at all), they aren't needy because they are going with other women, and they don't really care if what they say harms the woman
I found that after after the loss of a girlfriend are significant other that it is less hard for somebody to break my heart or even let them in and the neediness kind of dwindles. Then again it is seems like in society or in certain regions of the world the innate feeling of needing a woman's acceptance or what-have-you especially if your mom didn't accept you very much . In my experience now I can candidly say I can be okay with not having a woman in my life or having a woman in my life partially because I have a female friend that are there if I want someone to talk to or what have you not Blake booty calls or anything like that they are there that I can talk to them or bounce ideas off of . And since I've taken this approach that if a woman walks out on me it's no big deal I have found that they lessen the amount of head games and they know that the door is always there and they can use it and it's not going to bother me one way or the other. Since I've been taking this type of attitude I've noticed I have all of a sudden become more sought after by different women and I can pick and choose who I want to talk to or start something with 🤷 then again I could just be jaded
Thank you for sharing your experience! While you may be jaded or shut off a bit, you’re also a perfect example of what non-neediness can do to attract women. Women are allergic to desperate men. Perhaps you will meet someone one day you feel safe, taking your guard down for. May she deserve you!
I like how you started this video storytelling and at a lower pace with your words. I tend to get outpace with your speed half of some of your videos. I always re watch them though. Good message Anna. Thanks
I am a hand holder and a crash walker, I think almost every women is a little cray cray, while you are helpful the nuances of women make it tough to apply in some cases. The more attractive the more narcissistic signs show up . Attractive and smart seems to be rare. Waiting
Yes, women are pretty much all cray cray lol I think so too but I think like a man so there is that! ;) Nonetheless, the good news is you treat them all the same and the chaff will fall away. :)
I am impressed how well someone such as Anna can understand people. And now explaining why men and women act as they do I see there's nothing difficult about it.
"Get your poop in a group" 🤣 😂 🤣 Waaaaay to visual lol. Good video, though. Hope you had a nice time at the beach. My favorite environment, given the presence of warm sun, setting in particular.
My mind had a silly thought with one of your statements. When you said that you were the decoder, my mind went to the old decoder rings that you would get from the cereal boxes.
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I thought that I would love visiting Canada but that ocean behind you looks frozen.
us women are woke and delusional. Canadian girls any different?
All these games , all these requirements the majority of women have is why I don't waste my time. And I love the look they give when you ask them what they bring to the table . Bye Felicia lol
They bring their booty to the table and the sofa and the floor and the kitchen island and the bed and the foam cannon party and the ...
Wise man speaking right here.
The good news is relationships are not mandatory. Also, healthy women don't play games but they do have standards and there is a difference :))
@@YourWingmam I completely agree , you knew what I meant and didn't mean sassy lass 😉🙏🌹🙏😉
Not only what they bring to the table but also point out issues that you know they may have...but only after you point out some of your own issues! It humanizes them.
I personally believe that, as a man, being content and satisfied with one's own company is what's really needed. A woman is just an added bonus that, even without that "added bonus", that individual will be just fine. It took many misfortunes to finally learn that in recent years.
That is the key to being non-needy but other than what I suggested at the end of the video as a starting point to discover how to get on the path to non-neediness, there's no one-size-fits-all silver bullet. Most men, like you, learn the hard way. Glad you got there though!
@@YourWingmam Agreed! Thank you very much for the kind words of encouragement. Much appreciated. 🙏
Very well said, it's not just women, people come and go in your life. If you can be happy anywhere doing anything you will be happy and satisfied. People that come into your life get to come along for the awesome ride your going on in your life!
No one should ever Need anyone. I don't need a woman in my life. I want a woman in my life. Someone to share the ups and downs with. What's the point of doing a lot of things if there is no one to share it with.
Indeed! It get's easier with age but, my advice? If you find yourself losing control of your heart over a woman, and she's not also falling madly in love with you, then I would hightail it out of there! If your heart is going to get smashed into a million pieces, then do it your damn self! Don't let a woman do that for you, because there's a good chance that you will not recover! Whereas, you are more likely to survive a broken heart if you were the one doing the smashing!
It's such a sad reality
1000% the man can't care more about her than she cares about him
I love this video by the way. I love the way you put the message perfectly and yes I've heard it all before but I don't get tired of hearing it.
It does make me sad knowing that I can never love a woman unless she loves me more than I love her and............
One has to face just retiring and getting a little dog and enjoy other things besides women
Glad you agree and it is a hard pill to swallow about how men and women love and think differently. You might appreciate my video, Can she love you?: th-cam.com/video/3M1DDmTuPrI/w-d-xo.html
Our entire lives we were sold a lie that serves & benefits women ONLY! Nice life, eh! No wonder so many men wish to walk away from women! Honestly, we should have done this sooner!
There's nothing wrong with retiring and getting a dog. It can be an amazing time of life
@@64maxpower At least when a dog tells you it has a problem it wants you to fix it, not just listen and say there, there.
I have two Red Heelers. And said the other day. It’s time for another motorcycle.
I self-identified this a number of years ago. I call it 'Getting in too deep to quick!' The piece I was missing was why and you just nailed it for me Anna, getting emotionally over invested. Thank you for giving me this clarity of understanding! 😄
I’m glad this video helped you! It’s always great to have a clearer understanding 😊
Accepting that something is not working, is not failure, it is a power move.
It is a release of what no longer serves you, and an unlocking of a new beginning.
If the lady rejects you, that is an opportunity to be free, or find your keeper.
You just described the mindset of a winner. ;)
@@andersnielsen6044 The bit written above is true of a relationship I had. Big hopes of a happy relationship became disappointment. I wanted it to work, but she was mean to me. Then she wanted us to get married!
So I had a situation of wanting her, she wanting marriage, that meant I could have her, but the relationship was bad. I am not willing to accept that, so I refused marriage.
Long distance relationship, so we are apart now.
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It is a best seller and gets rave reviews.
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Exactly right. It is a power move in favor of YOUR best interests. You run them off, for YOUR own benefit, and open the next door.
@@x-man5056 Agree X-Man. Tough love on ourselves will save broken hearts and broken finances.
I've been rejected, you survive, and the best thing to do is walk away when she shows a wrong attitude. The loss is hers, as far as I'm concerned. I don't say that out of arrogance or conceit, but as a fact.
Absolutely, @Strive1324L! Walking away when faced with the wrong attitude is a strong move. Rejections are tough, but they pave the way for better connections. Check out my video 'If a woman rejected you or broke your heart, SHOULD YOU STOP DATING?' for more insights. Watch it here: th-cam.com/video/hm3UhoatSgU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=YourWingmam
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Great vid, Anna. I 100% agree.
When I was a single man, I would overcome acting needy by dating multiple women, and moving from relationship to relationship quickly. I would approach at least woman a day. If they didn't show any interest, I would move on without me ever thinking about her again. However, they found my lack of clinginess attractive, and I usually had a decent chance of getting a date.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
abundance of women is key
Great approach, Find em, F##k em, Forget em, !!!!!i lived this way as a young man too, and i was genrally very happy , then i got married for 20yrs, oh god😢😢😢
Hi Anna. As a former needy simp, desperation is VERY unattractive. If I go out with a lady, if she likes our date and I like her, we'll go out again. If she acts rude or gives me putdowns or acts disrespectful, we're done. She can walk. Women are great, but life goes on if she acts rotten on the date. It's her loss if she's too demanding or picky.
Excellent attitude! Anyone struggling with neediness needs to adopt it!
They are ALL too demanding & picky. some start showing the signs later than others. My ex seemed like an angel from heaven at first, but once she got around her 'sisters' they reformed her standards and she complied. they were more important than our relationship!
@@inconnu4961 Yeah that's bad, when friends, family have a bad influence. She wasn't dating them but YOU, and you should have had top priority. But she put other opinions at the top, and that means failure.
@@Strive1324L Thank you for this, means a lot! i respected the hell out of her dad. her dad was a good man, but the classice blue piller. her mom, was a nut ( i dont say this lightly either, but the things my ex said were absolutely abusive; i was called abusive for FAR less than her mothered said) it was the girls at our church of all places. this older retired lady in particular got in the ears of a lot of young ladies, and we had a rash of divorces at our small church, all initiated by UNHAPPY WIVES! Hmmmm . . . i did the marriage counseling with pastor, with therapists and we tried Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. Nothing seemed to help!
@Inconnu 49 Sorry to hear that. I've heard that the divorce rate in the church is the same as in society. It should be WAY lower, because as Christians we are to follow scripture in how to have a marriage last, how to love and serve one another, it's very clear. Since there were a lot of divorces, I can speculate that either the young people weren't taught enough or the young people were rebellious and didn't want to accept responsibility and just blame the other person for everything going wrong.
Another Great Informative Video... 😊 👍 "Outcome Dependent"... Yes and that ties in with other issues.. Damaged/Lack of SELF-ESTEEM & Seeking EXTERNAL VALIDATION in life rather than developing a HEALTHY Sense of SELF-WORTH INDEPENDENT of what some others MAY BE thinking about you. These often relate to growing up in an Emotionally Negative parental/family environment...
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Words of wisdom! Thank you for watching!
Very True!
Great video! To your point in the video, one of the worst things I have found is to get this vision of what you think the woman is like and imagining the potential relationship. This has happened to me several times in the past and when I finally got with the woman, I had a huge letdown. In almost all cases, she was absolutely nothing like my imaginary version of her was. The best thing I found is play it cool, don't invest much time thinking about any one woman, keep your options open, and most importantly, be the best version of yourself you can. You will have an aura about you that attracts people. Always remember that a woman coming into your life is no guarantee to improve it. You have to be enjoying life on your own first. Get that aura going!
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This is called projection. It's not a real person you're thinking of. You're just projecting onto someone the person you wish they were. A lot of people do it. It's a massively unhelpful habit when attempting to build a real connection between two real [flawed] human beings.
@@linneasimchah1621 Exactly! You are making them perfect and no one is perfect.
Financial safety comes from saving and investing wisely. Ladies spend on anything that gives them a temporary emotional jolt. They do not value security or safety. They value emotional charges
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Basically if you dont care about her, she will want you
It's all twisted...
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Treat women like shi* and get ear plugs so you dont have to gear the whinging
When I was in college I had a really good streak my senior year, this occurred after my girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up, I shifted my attitude to just "not caring", and the more casual I was, the more tail I got...I see some guys just drip with neediness and reek of desperation
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Thank you Anna!! This fills in the blanks - and I have been in the situations you described many times - and was guilty on all count.
In all my naïveté I used to think the more you pour your heart out to a woman the more she would want to be with you. No no no no no no !!! Nothing could be further from the truth !!! It overlooks one important fact.. that beautiful women are saturated with attention from men wanting them, both online and in the real world and the more you express desire for her the more she is repelled. I realized this even before I found your channel but you, especially as a woman, have confirmed what I had already found out. What I am experimenting with right now is showing limited or (“controlled”) amounts of interest in her followed by long periods of ignoring her although I am afraid I may have shown more than just a limited amount to the woman I am talking to right now causing her to go silent. I will just have to fine tune it.
You're getting there! It's less about how much attention you give than the quality of attention and most importantly, the neediness behind it. She will feel that level no matter how you try to use tactics around it. It's actually very sexy to a keeper to know a man unquestionably desires her *as long as he doesn't need her.* The best way to act non-needy when you still are a little needy is to get busy improving your life. The first and best thing to focus on is getting fit. It'll do the most for your confidence and the side benefit is it shows proof of commitment and you look better. :)
Do something about your Oneitis. Always have a plan A & B at least! Women are a dime a dozen, and many arent worth that dime! Do you follow Rollo Tomassi, or The Rational Male podcast? certainly, you must! Rollo Tomassi is the Godfather when it comes to this stuff! everyone else is a distant 2nd!
You are so right, Anna. I’ve heard this a million times but it’s finally sinking in lol 🎉
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I really liked that message, just hands down good information without a bunch of sensationalism like so many dating gurus do.
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Excellent advice! I’ve made all of these mistakes with the last woman I was pursuing. Makes sense why I ended up getting ghosted. It stings, but live and learn!
Her loss! Women love crap, and they will practically hurt themselves trying to get it! LOL
@@inconnu4961 Very true!
Same here…live and learn!
@@davidboyd6463 Thats all we can reasonably ask! Keep up the good work!
The blessing is that you learned your lesson, and you’ll be better off at it 😊
Sometimes I crave the silence,observe, it is the same and nuanced with difference, you said vanity insanity, a wise reflection on the idea of time.
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Admiration is always the furthest thing from understanding.
This is how I avoid neediness in my life, I try by all means to understand who she is. I see her for who she really is, character flaws and all. It makes me realize what I'm about to get myself into and ultimately provides me with the decision on how much to invest in her.
That's great advice
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Anna it’s always good to be out of your comfort zone, in your Apt when you’re doing one of these informational video’s. I can’t believe that the cold wind is not even blowing, no wind gusts 💨 moving where you’re speaking. People who don’t live in Vancouver Canada, 🇨🇦 like to see what it looks like.
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Your daily reality check!!! Thank you for the grounding
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The key is to not be so impressed by a woman's beauty. There are a lot of women that are pleasing to the eye. It only takes a moment to establish that she is beautiful on the outside. If her inside is not good enough, she is just a pretty shell to look at. The women I had success with were women I just kept it short and simple with. I talked to her like an old friend and tested the waters to see if there was any interpersonal connection there. Cruella De Vil can make life hell regardless of how pretty she is.
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Hey! I’m watching your videos a lot the past few weeks/days. Your ideas and thoughts match what my experience with friendships and relationships showed and taught me. Thanks for it. Just letting you know we enjoy and appreciate your thoughts, revelations, advice, and guidance! ❤️
Yay! So glad my videos resonate for you and welcome to my channel!! 💞
You are so right. I did everything you said you are so right. She came back with a whole new attitude.!
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This is 110% spot on. I learned this the hard way during my teenage years and young adulthood. I can attest that needy does not work! 😁. However, once I got past that stage things turned around pretty quickly. Looking back, it's really funny now, but it wasn't then. Another great video and will hopefully prevent guys enamoured by a radiant beauty from learning the hard way.Thanks for posting.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's so common among younger men even into their 20s, 30s and sometimes beyond depending on their childhood. And so difficult to see within oneself at the time. But (like for you) it can be overcome! :))
And the hard way can be really dangerous
I like the scenery, especially the singing of birds in the background. I dare say....it's so peaceful just as the speaker in the video!
Glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for your response 🙏
@@YourWingmam You're welcome!
Thank you Coach Decoder,lol. Excellent video ,you are so right on. Finding our passions in hobbies, time and life is a must. Make her look for time with you, never chase after her. God bless Coach Anna. Peace n love.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
@Your Wingmam stay safe Coach. 🙏 peace n love
Here is a suggestion for you Anna. You can add the following lines to your intro. … I help men decode modern women through weekly online Just the Tip videos and one on one bespoke coaching session.
Thanks for the tip!
I myself made the mistake of telling a girl that I liked her because I thought that we had a connection. I actually hoped that maybe she was the one.
She said that I'm not ready for a relationship and we should just have fun being single. I took it as a No , me getting rejected, so I walked away. I have been happy alone since. Now she texted asking for us to go out and hangout together. I politely decline the offer I tell her that I very busy which I really am. But sometimes I do wonder if she's playing games with me.
Once you start "liking" her again, it's back to square one! Move in another direction!
@@rogerheisler2554 Yep , I blocked her number , blocked her from all social media accounts and moved on.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@rogerheisler2554 yup - sxrew her and never say to the bit_ch you like her - you d like to to try her - maybe . but like her ??? - hell no !
It’s bad for the self to tell others what we think and feel.
Thank goodness for the last minute of the video. If I want her making myself better doesn't bring her to me any faster. We have to keep our cool and stay busy and wait for her to come to us.
😆😆 Hi Anna, It's good to see you again. The way I see it is that I am the prize, I am the king. She has to meet my requirements in order to hangout with me!. I never pursue her, she pursues me or I move on. Guys, it's called self love!! I have better things to do than wimp over some girl! Get a life and follow Anna's advice! She's got it goin on!! Love ya Anna!! Doug
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I met my dream girl in college after I got out of the Air Force at age 27. I enrolled as a full time student majoring in chemistry. I chased this beautiful blond girl for two whole years before she agreed to go out with me. Like you mentioned - I placed her on a pedestal which eventually led to a very lopsided relationship. In short, I didn't sufficiently challenge her. I failed to set the necessary conditions that would compel her to put forth the time and effort to "snag" me. I was just too "easy", indeed a pushover in her mind. The takeaway I discovered is it's absolutely essential both parties are continuously challenged by their partners. AND absolutely get accustomed to saying "NO" in a firm tone . Never surrender your honor, your soul, or self respect just to appease your vain, snobbish girlfriend. In addition, I learned of a fundamental human trait which is intrinsic to both sexes; i.e., often we desire something OR someone we can't have. With many individuals - after they get what they want - they no longer want it. You begin to take you mate for granted which spells trouble. Tm
if you are rich, or handsome, none of this applies lol
Superior video, Wingmam. For once, I'm doing everything right. I might have found her, but I won't know until she catches me! I am so dang busy these days I don't have much time for this, but at least when I do see her things flow so naturally. Thanks for all your solid advice.
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In Ancient Rome, a slave would continuously whisper ‘Remember you are mortal’ in the ears of victorious generals as they were paraded through the streets after coming home, triumphant, from battle. Let the slave whisper in your ear, "She is mortal".
"And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you."
Written by: Walter Afanasieff
Another way of saying that: everyone poops. (True, some in a colostomy bag but still.) (No I haven't had coffee, just lost my filter for a sec lol)
@@YourWingmam You're so eloquent. (I'm impressed that you know colostomies.)
Truly enjoyed your content and how it was delivered tonewise. Look forward to future content.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I have to agree because this is my lifelong experience. I’ve had great friendships with women where we were just friends. The problem always came when I wanted to take something passed friendship. Feel attracted to a woman and, unless you’re Chad, she has no interest in you. Times that from day one I knew it would never go passed friendship so don’t even try, we could spend every weekend together having fun, even living with one, and we’d never have a problem.
My conclusion, women can be great friends but if you want love, get a dog.
Thank you for sharing your experience! You can't really be just friends with a woman if you're attracted to her. She can feel ulterior motives (desire) and it's a turn off. :( You might want to check out some of the videos in my Friend Zone list: th-cam.com/video/4uy6lexO2bo/w-d-xo.html
A lot of guys who end up in the friend zone also have "too nice guy syndrome" if you think that might be you, watch my nice guy videos: th-cam.com/video/Tk3o-ivIbHo/w-d-xo.html
@@shepherdanton I don't try to do that. I was saying that the only women that I've ever had in my life were ones that I didn't try to have a relationship with. The ones that, at first meeting, I knew it was never going to be more than friendship. It was with those women that we could spend time together, whether just hanging out for pizza and a movie, going to a big event on a weekend, going on vacation together or with one, living together. Those were the women I didn't have drama and constant problems with. As long as we were just friends, we got along fine.
But let there be a woman that I try to have a relationship with, no, doesn't work. The amount of satisfaction I'd get from a relationship compared to the amount of trauma was like putting a $20 into a change machine to get 4 quarters.
Women & Men can’t be friends because these relationships always most certainly are based on one having low levels of sexual attraction for the other. In this case you where the one with the sexual attraction. One day you will experience the reverse where a woman whom you are not attracted too keeps wanting to hang with you, but your not that interested and you will also realize that she doesn’t want friendship she wants you and try’s. But you will keep her in the friend zone. So she’s not actually your friend, she just wants you to like her and hoping you’ll want the same,so you keep her around as an ego boost. That’s the only reason why that girl let you continue to be her friend, sorry to burst your bubble.
@@shepherdanton Double trouble. Until you know how she’s going to act when the sh*t hits the fan? Good luck! May as well live your life and if she’s interested she’ll get over her shyness or old fashioned attitude. Can’t have it both ways. Hypocrites and people with anger issues or narcissistic’s don’t reveal themselves right away? Leave her at the first minuscule sign? Solitude? Free will or destiny? I don’t know
@@OneMountainNine This is the reason why passport bros are growing everyday
Senorita this is a lovely winter look. More of it thanks.
Glad you like it! I'm planning to do more outdoor filming (weather permitting).. :)
Many women in North America currently has this idea that they hold all the power in relationships. Over time, it will always be forced back to a mid-point. Men simply are starting to mirror the same games and I know many men that now date at least 5-6 women at any given point. They don’t pay for dates but just have fun. It’s all a game.
Then when it’s time for something serious, they find a foreign gf. Generally from Asia …
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Anna I love your advice and watch your channel all the time. I recall one video you had shorter hair. That was your best look. The softer lip stick in this video works best for you. No need for lash accents it detracts from your pretty dark eyes.
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This was a painful lesson for me to learn. I have never given women tons of attention and I have my own life and hobbies. But what I got wrong was the availability part. Being too fast to reply to texts for example. And when women ask what you did over the weekend, you always need an answer she'll like, even if you didn't do anything. I'm always working on things, but I like to relax. But I never tell a woman I watched movies and played video games for half a Saturday because work has been too tiring. They don't care! Just lie. It indicates that you're busy and moving. She wants to be the one to slow you down. You have to be very good at the balance though because if you're too unavailable they'll find the next guy. You have to play the long game. It's insane.
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YEs - cold treatment - if she asks what you did - best is to avoid and say ( and DO) you had really good time last night with bussines partners during dinner and later in night club . but it is not her f. bussiness. It keeps her interested and fascinated and quiet. Works like a charm .
Hey I like that snowy beach!!!! Best advice and spot on! I learned the hard way and all this is the absolute truth. Work on yourself! The rest will come. Thank you, Anna!
Glad you liked the outdoor setting! And thank you for sharing your experience, spot on! :))
Congratulations, you've discovered the secret to success. If you don't mind my suggestion, learning how to play a musical instrument and maybe even sing scores big points with women and it will help you with stress and keeping your mind healthy.
Your advice and thoughts are shockingly true! I love you for what you do! Thanks for opening the world of beings called women ;)
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Oh this is right up my alley, thank you. At 5:45 yeah we need to get off our butts to get some where.
Glad you enjoyed it! Do something today!
I am happy to stay single. I want a woman to share my life with but I don't need one. Most of them come to me only to get the cold shoulder if I feel there is no connection.
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@@YourWingmam The only reason I am like this is to protect myself from a narcissist. They don't know about true love, only material which in the end they end up alone when their mind games backfire. It's a shame as the only ones they hurt in the end is themselves.
Very, very well explained. However, my favorite line from a movie, The Longest Yard, when Burt Reynolds said " I have my sh*t together, I just can't carry it."
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Anna, this is the 2nd or 3rd video of yours that I completely 100% agree with so I went ahead and subscribed. You have some great advice and thoughts on dating, relationships and the dynamics between men and women. I'm 36 so while I'm still young I've been around the block enough to experience things with women and develop a rather informed and accurate picture of how women operate and think. I've had my highs and lows including divorce and heartbreak. It's been one big learning experience. With that said I totally agree with your message in this video. It has often seemed to me that the more you like someone the less likely they'll feel the same way. And vice versa. It's hard finding someone who meets you there on a balanced level of interest. In fact out of the many women I've dated and been in relationships with over the years there's only been maybe a handful I've met where we had an equal level of interest in one another. All we can do at the end of the day is be ourselves, be confident and hold true to our standards.
Keep it up hun. Really enjoying your content. You're doing a great service.
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@@YourWingmam Of course. And I appreciate you. 🙂
This is Waller's principle of least interest. Sociology did research on this a long time ago 1938.
@@linneasimchah1621 Interesting...
well, I thought that was some virtual background you are using. awsome!
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I recently got back on the dating scene, and one of my first matches online was 100% my type, gorgeous face, curvy blonde. I made the mistake of dusting the rust off with her and she ended up blocking me haha. I'm back in my IDGAF mode and I have ladies lined up for days, and now I don't feel like pursuing any of them because they're portraying these same qualities. One woman has sent me her number 3 times without me even asking for it haha.
Way to go champ! They are clueless! Take care of yourself first!
Same here…crash and burn after being married for 37 years. Learned a lesson.
@@davidboyd6463 I dunno, man, 37 years is quite an accomplishment! compared to recent trends i would hardly call that a fail! there is WAY too much temptation for women! they are constantly being told how unhappy and dissatisfied they should be. that they deserve MORE & BETTER, no matter how good what they have is! its never enough. soto have her for 37 yrs (unless it was a horror show for you) is an accomplishment most of us will never set in our trophy cases!
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Dear Anna,
Everything you say is true in a logical world. Sometimes, we fall in love, and when we do, our bodies are flooded with hormones that can prevent us from acting logically; in your terms, we may appear needy. The truth is that rejection happens to the best of us, and it’s simply a part of life that helps us grow. I agree with you on this, but not when our bodies are overwhelmed by hormones. 😉
And yes, working on yourself, your goals, and your dreams is essential, whether or not you are in a relationship.
Great advice. There will never be a time when there is not a need for relationship advisors. The needy point is super important. Guys just don't get it. They fall all over a woman and wonder what they did wrong. For sure, you are totally right about the friends point. Introspective guys like myself get raked over the coals by women because they wrongly assume you've got no friends if you like to read or take walks by yourself and are reflective. It's all good. Getting over rejection without blaming anyone and learning what you can as you move on from the rejection is the best thing to do. I hold no grudges because I'm not perfect either and I figure anyone who rejected me did me a favor because it would not have worked out with them so it's to move forward.
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Mistakes I've made, excellent WingMam!
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You basically say, no matter what, you will never get the girl if you fall in love. You will get random that you don't care for in the first place.
Falling in love is beautiful; falling in love too fast reflects addiction replacing wisdom.
You can love her but NEVER fall in love with her unless/until she's deeply in love with you. When women feel like they conquered you/got you too easily they subconsciously know you're not the best they can do. But remember, unless a man has achieved peak mental & emotional control, he should never want to truly be in love with the women anyway, that type of love means inherent vulnerability, the women having power over him to destroy/hurt him, in other words weakness. The most important thing is for the women to RESPECT HIM, this means the girl gives him passion, submissiveness, kindness, emotional support, love, intimacy, companionship, sex, follows his rules, lets him lead & guide, NEVER cheats on him, is loyal, honest etc etc... perhaps this is just trauma speaking but I feel complete happiness, inner peace, bliss, and I am content with life even without being in that emotional state I was in with past women. I love women, would never be in a serious relationship with women I didn't love, but I am not "In love", women can't handle power & will often cruelly step on guy's balls with zero remorse whatsoever if they feel they have the power to take out that lion. If a girl knows a guy is hopelessly in love with her and will do anything to keep her, has no boundaries, no self respect, lets her disrespect him endlessly because of all that love she will know no bounds to destroying him because women are biologically repulsed by WEAKNESS.
The thing men should be seeking out is respect, I'm not saying men have to become assholes or jerks or rude boys or whatever dark triad bs but they should be confident, assertive, dominant, and achieve success in many areas of life TO ACHIEVE THAT RESPECT. That's all there is to it. The other dark fact about female nature, no matter how deeply a women is in love with you, under all the right conditions she could STILL cheat on your & betray you IF she has NO respect for you. On the other hand, I've known girls that had seething hatred & wanted their men dead but still never slept with any other men because all the respect they had for the man, this is the epitome of the "asshole/bad boy" she keeps going back to endless times archetype, though this type of guy isn't healthy or good for the long term & meaningful relationships women can have with men they deeply respect but are great virtuous human being.s
This is the biggest issue a lot of men nowadays do not understand about women, yes we all have masculine/feminine energy inside of us so are capable of that "in love" feeling but that's meant to be for women, women were actually the ones meant to simp for men if anything if a relationship between them is healthily & real otherwise there should be mutual simping for each other or just mutual respect and no simping.
What we have now with a lot of guys falling love with, simping for women who don't care if they live or die & have endless options with countless men is DANGEROUS. Especially since a man even becoming a simp means he's 1. emotionally unintelligent & unaware 2. can't control his emotions. This is only possible if the balance of things fall out of sync, men become weaker and women become more masculine, stronger & independent to the point they're essentially filling the man's previous role while men fill the feminine role in their desperate need for women.
True! At some point, you can't even get what you don't want!😁
You always make a difference. Love that. We need more love in this world. Ppl suck, life sucks because love is in lack.
Love is the answer! (And chocolate.) 💕
There is NO such thing as love! Queensryche got it right when they sang " i dont believe in Love'! they are only transactional relationships, nothing more. learn to play 'The Game'! women do it on instinct!
"I'm just the decoder" and "you gotta get your poop in a group" lmao 🤣 you're too funny Anna. Those are good points although to be fair women have also exhibited these with men. The last girl who wanted to date me was doing this she cried and desperately wanted to date me even though she was still close with her ex. We can always improve or try to at least but at the same time I also believe personally nobody's perfect. The issue with dating now days IMO people are way too picky(namely women) and more men are are getting tired of the chase, trying to measure up but not being enough for some chicks and less dating, approaching etc. I've been seeing more and more women channels bring this up. I think it'll get to the point where more men will nearly stop all together women will wonder why and get mad then be forced to be realistic if they want a man.
While I feel guys shouldn't come off as needy or desperate and nobody should always settle regardless of man or woman I also think women eed to be more realistic drop down to earth with the standards personally. Just my hot take on the current dating climate.
Well said! woman have astronomical standards for the average guy. the standards are far lower for the Chads, and almost non-existent for herself!
@@inconnu4961 Pretty much also the classic "omg that guy approached me so creepy" unless she gets hot for him then "he's hot" and its ok lol 😆
@@MKF30 Totally agree here! I was that creepy guy until i moved on quickly from them. now, they will give me a 2nd chance! LOL Nope! 1 strike and yer out!
@@inconnu4961 lol yeah true or in some cases if the girl is shallow you can be ugly or average if you've got money then their eyes will light up....
Thank you Anna, I like the background of the ocean.
Glad you like it!
I missed those good old days of dating. Dating becomes so difficult
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Good video Anna. I also noticed the high definition video quality in this one. Thanks.
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The more you chase, the faster they run.
Like a cat! Yes!
@@YourWingmam straight out of the book.
@@YourWingmam remember Peppy le pew ? 🦨 He was fast though
This is the most fundamentally important video you've ever released, could have used this message in the past for sure. Men need distance, a kind of wall & brave face 📚💯👑
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Great video Anna one of your best! In today’s world the data is coming in that millions of men are giving up on dating and women are panicking on what is happening to us men! Wow how scary times have becoming! Your video is very important but our economy can have dangerous impact on relationships where roles will be reversed and normal biologically wired ways women are made can make men run away from woman all together and vise versa! Wow what a matrix this will make in the future! What do you think 🤔?
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Excellent advice and recommendations. (Sorry about the snow. Spring's on it's way). Thank you and God[Bible] Bless you.
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Win by giving up.
I get what you mean! Surrendering to reality is Step 1. Step 2 is making your life worthwhile regardless of any woman without being bitter about it. :)
@@YourWingmam Being bitter is half the fun, though! How are we ever going to change things for our sons, if we are so stoic? The passport bros wanna leave for the Philippines ! time we sort out our stuff here, and bitterness may be the motivation we need to get us going!
Hi Anna, my name is Scott, I was born with several disabilities cp and hearing impairment. I am single never been married. Lot of people want me to date a lady with cp. I know her since 97, But I am not attracted to her even through she did have crush on me. I told her firmly back in 2010 that I am not interested in her. Yet my family and my friends still think she is one for me based on their desire for identity politics and their comfort zone. I ignore them. It’s more of communication problem, her speech and my hearing issue. There also compatibility issues if I want to marry. I know I don’t bring much to the table anyway. I stopped looking and stopped asking long time ago for majority of women in cities are feminists and or taking advantage of disabled guys for money. Deep down I prefer abled bodied woman. Thank you for letting me share it.
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You are top Notch, Anna! A lot of these points really hit home! Bravo!
When she finds out you don't have what she thinks is enough money to spend on her. Your money runs out, her honey dries up.
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Facts😂
Not if your stroke game is on point. If you can scrape her insides she's not going anywhere. That's a fact.
@@Rocks_vs_Uzis Certainly not dismissing a random fuck with any girl who wants it. But in the long run, women are biologically wired to be with the man who can do the most for them. As in earning, and paying for what they want. It's called " hypergamy." And as the popular song went " ....not sayin' she a golddigger, but she won't be with no broke dick ---- "
God bless you too, Anna 🙏 😇
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Its sad that we men have to go from this perfect romantic guy to accepting real female nature and becoming this heartless guy who doesnt romanticise anymore all becuz women dont want it in the first place
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Thanks Anna, 100% on point.
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I’d rather stay single then that’s why they say buy a dog die alone 😂
Or don't be needy but getting a dog is sometimes easier than changing needy behaviour. ;)
Of all the guidance I have collected from you, this is the meatiest. It's all there. I'm currently in a fantastic relationship and your advice helps me see my "reflection." You just helped me, help us. Thanks...
Glad I could help 🙏
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This 9 minute long video has been uploaded 2 minutes ago and I see 'likes' already were given. Giving likes before finish listening to the video is a silly thing to do.
We are the Anna J crowd.
Some of us give likes simply out of pleasant surprise to see she uploaded something.
It's all good.
She never disappoints.
She is a welcome, warm face and voice for many reasons.
Likely from viewers who've been following my channel a long time... though I do prefer they watch the whole video even if they comment right away :))
@@YourWingmam I did
Personally, I'll throw the like out immediately because I'll forget and if it helps, so much the better.
Further, I'll very rarely give dislikes to my subbed channels anyway. Not simping here, but Anna is pretty much guaranteed to never post something that I'd dislike. It's never really controversial.
I can always change it later. I have watched many of her videos and have not needed to change my vote. If you have experience with American women or women who feel privileged compared to the rest of the world. I think you might find her insight helpful. Or at minimum to help you avoid the pain. Just a thought I could be wrong...
The best video yet! Men just don't understand female psychology but unfortunately women have men down to a tee.
You get so much farther being a jerk than being nice to her. One girl, I gave her a rose and she ghosted me never responded to me again. Another girl, we were in a bar I started complementing other girls butts, she gets pissed and walks out, then the next day comes to me and apologizes for walking away from me. get in touch with your inner jerk.
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Great video. Great advice. Really informative. I was beginning to wonder whether the background was fake or real. I didn't hear the cold wind blowing into the microphone. Until........ the end of the video when you showed the shoreline, and I heard the noise of the wind and water and such. I'd say your furry coat came into good use for that video. We did not get much of a winter here in North Carolina, and I'm happy with that. I'm looking forward to spring and summer. I like the warm weather.
Glad you appreciated the video! Filming outside is definitely trickier than it seems lol Cheers for warmer weather soon!
Unfortunately that is the harsh reality. That’s where us men have to not only read a woman’s body language, but pay attention to her actions. She needs to give you little hints that she likes you rather than you being in a situation where you feel like you have to try and impress her. For instance, let’s say you meet in a gym at a spinning class and you chatted briefly and bantered and she suggests that you come to another gym class. It is a sign she likes you at least and a woman’s body language and little hints is all you will get from her, but the key is to spend less time around her and make her want to see you more and more. She needs to want you more than you want her otherwise you will be friend zoned. Keep focusing on your own priorities such as your ambition, purpose and vision and see women as a bonus gentlemen.
Excellent presentation! Rock solid advice for all guys.
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None of these apply to Chads. The rest of us normal men, good luck, you’re going to need a ton of it. And after it all, my question is, was it worth it? 🤔
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'Playing romantic music while you think about her'? That's a bit much. I don't feel nearly as sad about myself now. Thank God I'm not THAT bad off. Thank you Anna. This was educational and Really cheered me up!
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God bless Wingmam, I have learnt a lot from you 😊❤
I'm so glad!
Glad I quit fiddling with American women. I had enough work already. It was so much better going out with an honest woman instead of all the game playing. Best thing a guy can do is leave American women in the dust. Everyone needs to take out the trash once in a while.
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So true, so sad, so sick. Now back to work.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Women are God's gifts to cats
Women are like cats ;)
I think what you said is pretty good and true. I will say however that I think a lot of this is why women find themselves in trouble with bad men that cheat on them. Because a bad man that would cheat on them isn't overly emotionally attached to them (They might not be attached to them at all), they aren't needy because they are going with other women, and they don't really care if what they say harms the woman
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Who’s my favorite superhero? Anna the Decoder of course! I still feel a little cheezy sometimes but I’m a hopeless romantic, I just can’t help it
I found that after after the loss of a girlfriend are significant other that it is less hard for somebody to break my heart or even let them in and the neediness kind of dwindles. Then again it is seems like in society or in certain regions of the world the innate feeling of needing a woman's acceptance or what-have-you especially if your mom didn't accept you very much . In my experience now I can candidly say I can be okay with not having a woman in my life or having a woman in my life partially because I have a female friend that are there if I want someone to talk to or what have you not Blake booty calls or anything like that they are there that I can talk to them or bounce ideas off of . And since I've taken this approach that if a woman walks out on me it's no big deal I have found that they lessen the amount of head games and they know that the door is always there and they can use it and it's not going to bother me one way or the other. Since I've been taking this type of attitude I've noticed I have all of a sudden become more sought after by different women and I can pick and choose who I want to talk to or start something with 🤷 then again I could just be jaded
Thank you for sharing your experience! While you may be jaded or shut off a bit, you’re also a perfect example of what non-neediness can do to attract women. Women are allergic to desperate men. Perhaps you will meet someone one day you feel safe, taking your guard down for. May she deserve you!
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I like how you started this video storytelling and at a lower pace with your words. I tend to get outpace with your speed half of some of your videos. I always re watch them though. Good message Anna. Thanks
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I really needed to hear this. Thank you
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It's these games that make me hate non platonic relationships /dating altogether.
That aside, i 100% agree with this - > 5:58
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I am a hand holder and a crash walker, I think almost every women is a little cray cray, while you are helpful the nuances of women make it tough to apply in some cases. The more attractive the more narcissistic signs show up . Attractive and smart seems to be rare. Waiting
Yes, women are pretty much all cray cray lol I think so too but I think like a man so there is that! ;) Nonetheless, the good news is you treat them all the same and the chaff will fall away. :)
Your last lines , most practical sermons for everything in life , hundreds of books in a nutshell , you are the wisest 💐
Thank you so much for watching to the end!
I am impressed how well someone such as Anna can understand people. And now explaining why men and women act as they do I see there's nothing difficult about it.
Very accurate video. Used to be guilty of this
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"Get your poop in a group" 🤣 😂 🤣
Waaaaay to visual lol.
Good video, though.
Hope you had a nice time at the beach.
My favorite environment, given the presence of warm sun, setting in particular.
Always a good idea to get your sh!t together regardless of any woman.. ;) We could use some warm sunshine up here in Canada!
@Your Wingmam I'm all of 2 hrs south of you and it's SUPPOSED to get up to a balmy 49°f, oops, sorry-9.4444°c .
It rains slush down here constantly.
I still watch your videos, it's helped me so much.
I'm Socializing more at work and at school! I'll have a girlfriend in no time!
Once you can get a girlfriend, you may not want just one. You might want 2 or three, or a different one every month.
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My mind had a silly thought with one of your statements. When you said that you were the decoder, my mind went to the old decoder rings that you would get from the cereal boxes.
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Really great content Anna. I have definitely done this in the past and worth reminding myself of. I have 3 girls chasing me at present 😜
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You are soooo right Anna. Wish I had known this 10 years ago
It is very common for younger men! A painful part of the learning journey. Glad you learned something though!
Yes focus on yourself and test her too put women through tests too to see if she measures up to what you want.
Bingo! if women LOVE tests they should endure a few themselves! You are the catch, not her. She NEEDS you; you dont NEED her!
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